Plz mery ly video bnay ap ki videos mujy bht motivation mili ap yakin kary ma na susral ki waja sa apni byti ko itna marthi thi k os k gaal p har waqth nishan rehtha 2 sal sa 4 sal thk or JB nishan hlka hota dubara marthi or logo ko b dikhtathi thi AJ meri byti 8 mi hy or MASHA ALLAH itni pyari itni intelligent but wo ak dar khof os k mind mi hy ap ki yi video dakh k ma bht roi 😢
MashaAllah boht acha vlog tha apka .meri 2 betiyan hain aik 2 and half year ki or dosri 7 month ki mery sath b aisa hota tha jb Ghar me dawatien chalti thien tou bachy neglect hoty thy ya meri apni sehat neglect hoti gai or ghanto. Kitchen me khary rehny se disc buldge ka msla hogya jise left leg me hafton pain rehti ha phir b sural waly khush nhe.
Wow!!! Just wow. You’re a true lioness. Listening to this was a pleasure. Your points were so perfect and well articulated. There were times when i thought I was listening to myself speak!! It’s so hard to find such women in Pakistan that is why I feel like I’m alone in my ways and views, no other women to relate to except people on the internet, like you. I feel like The main reason of this ignorance is less exposure of deen. Once you know what is actually farz on you and what isn’t, it gets so easy to prioritise the right things and no one can shame you or guilt you for not being their massi all the damn time. Jab himmat hui Kia, jab himmat na hui chor dia Kyun k main apna Allah ki traf say dia hua farz nahi kharab krskti sirf kisi dosray insan ko khaish krnay k chakr main Jis nay waisay b jo marzi kar lo khush nahi hona kabhi. I pray many such women listen to your vlog and it gives them the power they need to step up Ameen. Pls try to listen to Sahil adeem, his lectures on parenting and family life are brillant I’m sure you will love them. He ssimply puts it ‘ kamzor maa kamzor bachay hi paida krti hy aur is duniya ko kamzor logon ki mazeed koi zaroorat nahi hy ‘ Apnay bachay k liay aik aurat ko bohat strong hona parta hy aur haq py khara hona parta hy chahy Bilkul akeli hi Kyun na hojaye. Dar war ki koi gunjaish nahi, that is the reason why a mother’s rutba is so high. More power to you beautiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hello Erum aapi. I found one of your videos as I was searching for something else and I really liked it. From there I binged watched alllll your old and new videos including the grooming channel ones. You talk very nicely. I love it. It’s like the elder sister I never had. My own mama gave me the same advices you are always giving but somehow I just love your style. Haven’t commented on any of your content yet…but here I just had to. So I got married into an amazing family. As such no pressure or burden or workload responsibilities on me of any kind. However, just like any other in-laws, certain things done or said just emotionally broke me so bad. I pretended to be so strong in front of them. Kept a smile plastered to my face. Shrugged my shoulders as if it made no difference. People said she’s so dheet issay koi farak nahi parta. But I’m a human!! Boht farak parta tha. Boht ziadaaaa. I would come to my room and cry cry cry. 😢 When my girl was an infant, she would look at my face worried and I would hug her. But as She grew into a toddler, she had her own tantrums/ mess/ other child issues like all normal children do. After al the mental trauma downstairs, I really didn’t have the patience left to be gentle with her. You know what they call ‘respectful parenting’. I was not nice to my toddler. I said mean things and even hit her a few times…just because she made a mess of the tissue box and I had to clean up. That’s how bad my mental health had become. always knew I’m wrong but at that moments it was just not in my control. Alhamdulillah things eventually got better. I watched back to back RUclips videos on mental health/ inner child issues/ everything you can imagine. Too much to mention here. But I learned to be strong on the inside too. How to actually ignore the negativity and be positive. Getting out of the house and rejoining work helped too. Corona came around and I started content writing. Kept my mind occupied. Long story short, I’m in a wayyy better place now mentally. I’m soooo positive always about any situation that people sometimes say to me ‘acha just shut up. Karnay dou humay boss ki buraiyan aram se’. Boss daanti hai tou tab bhi I’m like chalo it’s okay. Khair hogai. Point is: mental health >>> anything.
Asslam o alikum sister min ny Pahli dfa Apka vlog Dekha hy.... ap ny behtreen topic py baat Ki hy . .... Mujhy yaad nhi K phly kisi NY is py baat Ki ho ..... Meri 2 betyaan hin bohat choti hin phli 1.5 Ki hin or dosri 6 month Ki hin or Mera Bhi yhi same hall tha ... Magr Apki video deakh K mujhy bohat himmat or hosla Mila hy or inshallah ❤️ ab Meri life min bohat beautiful change asky Ga .......many apki ya video APNi Frends or family min Bhi share Ki hy inshallah apki ya video sadqa E jarea sabit hogi inshallah
Relatable haii ye topic her Pak o India ke aurton k leay pr her Susral ke situation different hoti hai Thora sa time susral KO dyna parta hai per priortise bachon KO kerein mgr baghr kisi clash k ye asal smartness ho ge kisi bhe aurat ke
AOa....children should always be top priority....its a very important responsibility to raise children....so that they can bloom into good human beings regards
میرا بڑا بیٹا 22سال ماشاءاللہ حافظہ قرآن کریم ۔سوفٹ وئر انجینئرنگ کے 4سمیٹر ۔اس کے ساتھ میں نے اسی طرح کیا تھا ۔اج میں آپ کا ولوگ دیکھ کر بھت روئ ۔میرے بیٹا کی شخصیت بھت مجروح ہو ئ ۔وہ ھمعمر بچوں میں بہت پیچھے رہ گیا ۔کھانا پینا ۔پھنا اوڑھنا ۔چلنا پھرنا ۔لوگوں سے مقابلہ کرنے کے کم ھمت ۔وہ پڑھائی میں بہت مخنت کرتا ھے لیکن نتیجہ درمیان ۔ اسکی وجہ صرف میں اسکی ماں ہوں ۔میں گریجویشن کیا ڈبل میتھ فزکس میں ۔1998 مے رزلٹ کے ساتھ ہی شادی ہوگئی تھی ۔عمر 20 سال تھی ۔میں میں جاب کرسکتی تھی لیکن نہیں کی ۔مین میں نے اپنا اور اپنے بچوں کا نقصان کیا ۔میری بہن جو بچوں پر غصہ نہ کریں ۔ اپنے بچوں کا حیال رکھے ۔اللہ کے واسطے ۔میرے دل میں بہت تکلیف ھوتی ہے اپنے بیٹے کو دیکھ کر ۔😢😢
Is hisaab se i am a strong mother bcz jab meri 2 saal ki beti roti hai main unko seede muh pe bol deti hu mera baby ro raha hai main kaam nahi kar sakti and ye b keh deti hu main kaam tabhi karugi jab mere bache ko sambhaloge
Your every word is true ,I also suffered many years actually in our society there is no grooming and education for marriage counseling,we need to educate our daughters to
Very beautiful good message for all those women who suffering this all. Inlaws k boothay kabi seedhay nhi ho saktay . So dafa kre or mitti dalein UN pe 😅😅😅be happy life is so short .
Apki baton ny dil cho lia Ya hr dosray gher ki Kahani hy mayri shadi ko 20 saal honay walay hain isi sb ki waja sy aj tk main apnay bachon ko unka time unka huq nahi dy saki yha tk k apni Marzi ki hr cheez chor di lipstick tk apni pasand ki nahi lgai kabhi phir bhi apna muqam jb dykhti hoon aik nokrani sy ziada nahi hy myray honay na honay sy koe farq nahi pr na myri baat ki koe ahmiyat hy Lakin Allah ka shuker hy myri bachian bohat achi or samajhdar hain ab wo myra sath dyti hain lakin is adat sy bhi chirti hain k jb apko koe ahmiyat nahi dyta to ap keon in ka itna khial krti hain
Aoa, it is so true. That is why I ran and took my family to London, but still they influence my husband even from far away. But now I only give my priority to my son only. Nothing else
Such an important blog.. My mom never gave time to me.. All her life she was busy in her house work, office work , bsy in catering my dad's needs. I grew up by mostly nanny/masi taking care.. Physically they took care by providing food education facilities but emotionally not available at all. Tdy even when I'm 35 yrs old, my parents don't accept it, they have conservative and regressive thinking. Anyway, I hve accepted the reality
Aap ny to aaj purany zakham taza kr deeya,,, aaj myra byta Masha Allah 23 sal ka hy. Or mn bhi jb kaam kr kr k or sb ko khush rkhny k chakro mn usy time nahi dy pati thee, or myri parents sy ek request hy k apni bytiyo ki shadi apny city ya qareeb k city mn he kryn. Mn Lahore sy yahn Hyderabad i. Is sy bhi boht farq parta hy. Log akyla samjh k nokar he bna lyty hn.
Joint family mai bachy ignore or zulm ka shikar hotay maaa apna frustration bachoo pr nikalti😢😢😢😢same story 😢😢😢and ab mai apnay bachoo ko SORRY krti bht rona ata ha ab mjhy
As salamualequm... India se hu aaj k topic pr jo baat aap ne ki ... mujhe yaad aa gya apna dard ...aansu aa gaye yaad kr k 😢...yes maine bhi bohut Saha bohut jiyada aaj yaad krti hu to bada pain hota ki kuch nalayak logo ki wazha se maine bhi apne bete pr mostly gussa utara h..😔
Assalamalekum me bharat se hun or me aap ke sbhi video dekhti hun mere sural me bhi yhi hota Tha ki me poore Ghar ki jimedari lun Kitna bhi Kam Kiya din rat ek kar diya par me un logo ko kush nhi kar ski or aaj mujhe lgta he ki me imagine tor par theek nhi hu or uska Asar mere bachcho par pad rha he mujhe lagta he me shi barbarism nhi kar pa rhi hun koi motivation video bnayen Allah aap or ham sbko apni Aman me rkhe
Allah apko is naiki ka ajr dy aur apki aulad ko apki ankho ki thandak bnae.ameen Mai khud in sb chezo sy guzr chuki hn mery 4 bachy hain bary 2 bacho k sath mery sy bht ziati hoi Allah mje maaf kre.
Same condition mai b in laws mai bht busy hoti hn unko khush krny k chkr mai unk mood thek krny k liye but mai apny bacho pr apni furstaion nai nikalti unko pkr k pyar kr k sari thakn khtm ho jati ha mery mashallah 3 bety hn
I love this vlog and I agree with u baaji. We women need to stand up for ourselves. Aaj kal logo ko allah ka koi dar hi nahi. Please I hope u don't get too stressed bt u have come forward and talked about this mashallah I love your strong opinions. Keep smiling 😊
When you give attention and first preority to your child other family members get used , starting mai Problem hoti hey because hum nay unay allow kar diya hota Khud pay command karna but when you change ur priorities they will slowly learn phr vo sochnay Han jitna kar dayti hey utna b kafi hey ….but it will take time 😊
Let men appreciate you and also let me admit that your videos helped me a lot to manage my house with work, I have a helper but still things were out of control because I didn't know that doing everything everyday is not practical, no my house is more clean and managed, it's all about you, lot of love dear❤
Sis Alalh pak aap ko salamat rakhy SADA Khush or abaad rahen hansti muskurati rahen ameeeen sis aap ko Alalh pak iski jazza de aap ko pta bhi nhi. Hy but aap ne mujhe depression SE nikal dia Hy main kuch time SE hi aap k vlog dekh rhi Hun seriously main ne jeeny ki aas bhi chor di thi SB khtm hogya aisa lgta tha but alhamdulillah main ab bilkul theak Hun ab koi medicine bhi use nhi kr rhi jazzak Allah sis Alalh pak aap ko or aap ki family ko hameha khush or abaad rkhy ameeeen
I totally agree dear I already taking my kids as my first priority but when I see other ladies to neglect their kids I feel so much pain. Thanks for choosing such a important topic❤
Topic boht important Hy..but Jo AP NY baten ki apki voice mein Jo Kuch tha I feel Pyar wali daant Thora SA gusa mtlb k AP NY boht acha explain kia I hope aisi SB lrkiyo ko smjh AA gae hogi
well said tarbiyat pe foran bat ati hai chahy unky he kam krty apny bchu ko ignore kr rkha ho i think maximum ladies joint family main suffer krti hain at the end hasil kuch bhi nhi hot.
Ap ik new volg banaye k kasy mothers 2 years old baby ko 1 year old baby k sth attention dy q k dono babies ko attention chahiye hoti ha dono babies ki needs k hisab sy kasy dono ko manage krna chahiye
Aap bahut acche hai dii.mein pregnet hu or mere ak beti v hai,husband aklota beta hai or wo fouji hai,maa papa ka care krte hai.sasu maa mere nanand ko sadi krne nhi dete or wo karege v nhi.maa beti milker mujhai badnaam krte hai ki ye ghar ka kaam nhi krte or husband mujhse bahut pyaar krte hai, wo mujhai ghar ko sambhalne k liye money v dete hai.family calana, sabka jarurat ko pura krne k bawjut ye log dusro ko kahte hai bahu kuch deti nhi.husband kahte hai bolne do in logo ko but mein in logo ka care hamesha karunga.mujhai sasural me he rahne ko kahte hai bcz beti ka sachool hota hai,pr mujhai pregnancy me in toxic logo k pass rahne se bahut tension hoti hai.husband v baher he rahte hai job ko leke avi chutti pr aaye hai delivery tak rahenge.soch rhe hu delivery k baad dono baccho ko ke kr yaha se cale jawo.pr husband ko bura lagega.my first cmmt.plz reply dii
Nice topic sis I agree with u hmari society me ye to her dosre gher ki story he hmare yahan aik larki nhi blke aik maid late hen or us per itna burden dal dete hen k vo kia se kia ban jati he khud ko b bhol jati he phir b koi khush nhi hota Allah Pak sub betyon ka naseeb acha kre or in sis k liye b asani Farmae amin
Ab bache bade ho gye h but purani baten yaad aati h to bahut regret hota h bahot kuch tha jo unke liye kar sakte the but nhi kiya doosron ki khidmat karne k liye aur khush koi nhi hota kuc na kuch kami nikaal hi dete hai
Aoa.,...mam I am following you since2020....you r more than a teacher ,a sister for me....I learn a lot from you...keep doing good work..lots of good wishes for u dear❤❤
Agar comments mein voice bhejne ka option hota to mein zarur bol kark batati kitna kitna accha laga "khabardaar" lavz sunke aur uske bad ka har lavz sun ke..
Literally superb lady ..... loving to watch all your privious vlogs bcz I started few days before n U can't imagine how much I love to watch all ur vlogs ... started ti watch ur Ramadan series love love ❤️
Mam aaj ka topic buhat zaroori tha mare sath bhi same yahi hota tha buhat salo baad samajh aaya ab jab kabhi yaad aata hai mai roti hoon aur mam aaj app ki batain sun kar bhi bahat roya
Very nice vlog touched my heart I also go through all these things when my son's are small Pleased each and every member of family but no one is happy with me at the end sab ka muh ban hi jata tha
Api ap ki vedios buhat achi hoti hain please aik special request hy meri. Aik vedio un ladies k lia bnaie jo shadi k bd infertility face kr ri hain. Logo k bury behaviours face kr ri hain. Aur unhy is bt pr ziyada takleef hoti hy jo log unhy apny lgty thy unhi ky faces expose ho ry hain jis sy mazeed dukh hota. Especially jb nears n dears m koi pregnant hota to infertile couple sy un ki good news chupai jati hy. Pregnant women ko infertile larki k samny ni any dia jata to usy kasy cop up krna chahiye. Please a special request Must make a vedio on this topic plzzzzzzz
Ma ya sb face kar chuki hu ...even kar rahi hu..but ab difference ya aya ha k bacho ko time bhi dati hu ..both sons are school going..tu unko parhati bhi khud hu
Erum u touch my heart this is my story but within 10 yrs mujhey samajh agayee thee kay meri responsibility sirf merey bachey hain magar ajj bhi kuch yaad ajayey tou bhot dukh hota hay bachon kay saath ziadti nahin hona chaheay
Salam I don’t understand your language but still watch it . Please can you add subtitles in English , so it will be useful for many around the world. Thank you.
Ye hr maa ki kahani he mam.. mere sath b yahi hota he.. meri 5 sal ki or 2 sal ki betiya he.. un pr hi mera gussa nikal jata he.. bahot kosis karti hu ki gussa na karu but nahi ho pata... bahot muskil he bahot taklif hoti he.. mere gusse ki wajah se meri betiyo ko mujse dur hote huye dekh rahi hu.. fir b kuch nahi kar pa rahi hu.. chhod diya mene ghar k kamo ko importance dena fir b kuch thik nahi he.. any help? 🙄
Yesss ..hr bandi ye glti krti h..thats true sentence ..i also waste my time many years for susral as a "masi "..i also mis behaved wth my daughter in frestrition n preesure of work..mgr jb uksi trbiat ki wqt hota tb bhi m n puri aeemandari s use wqt dia in education n basic tarbiat ...bawjud bht si bkwas sunne k m achi maa ni q k m bht strict hu bchi ki prhai k matter m ..m maa kehlane k laiq ni ,hitler ,zalim ..aur pta ni kia kia 😢shdeed tkleef hoti thi mjhe jb meri beti bhi mjhe yhi bolti un sb ka sun k..mgr m n himmt ni hari ..aur jo taleem m use dena chahti thi m n sb ki mukhalift k bawjud di..aj meri beti 9 sal ki h..aur hafiza bn ri h ...behtreen manners aur khush ikhlaq .aur aj wahi log meri beti bete ki misal dete h..ap ki life jitni tough ho ap k bche is k zimmedar ni ..unko mt avoid kre🙏..so apne bcho ko pehli tarjeeh de plzzzzz ...unhe is mulk ka behtreen citizen ,aur 1 behtreen muslaman aur sb s brk k behtreen insan bna🙏e ..
Me India se hu me aap ki video hemesa dakhti hu mujhe aap ki baate acha lagta he mere saaat vhi aysa hota hai mere sasural me mere ijjat kabhi nahin milati main jitna kam kar lun mujhe hamesha tone karte Hain main bhi bahut depression mein Hun ki main log se alag hokar bhi Khush nahin hun fir bhi mujhe log jeene nahin dete😂😂
Yehi galtia main b 12 Saal ki hn apny susraal ko hush kr k apni olaad ko neglect kia pr phir b kbi koi hush nhi hua ab 12 Saal bad jab main apny lie stand Lia to sari dunya main duhai di k main kitni buri hu. But stood strong k nhi ab bass bht ho gya ab nhi abi b things r not perfect but pehly se kafi thek hn
Plz mery ly video bnay ap ki videos mujy bht motivation mili ap yakin kary ma na susral ki waja sa apni byti ko itna marthi thi k os k gaal p har waqth nishan rehtha 2 sal sa 4 sal thk or JB nishan hlka hota dubara marthi or logo ko b dikhtathi thi AJ meri byti 8 mi hy or MASHA ALLAH itni pyari itni intelligent but wo ak dar khof os k mind mi hy ap ki yi video dakh k ma bht roi 😢
Bacche hazrat Muhammad saw ko buhat pyaraaa thy ❤
Ap ny bilkul sahi baty ki hn .sab k lie bht bari seekh di ha ap ny yehi reality ha
Bht hi zabrdast vlog , heart touching for me
MashaAllah boht acha vlog tha apka .meri 2 betiyan hain aik 2 and half year ki or dosri 7 month ki mery sath b aisa hota tha jb Ghar me dawatien chalti thien tou bachy neglect hoty thy ya meri apni sehat neglect hoti gai or ghanto. Kitchen me khary rehny se disc buldge ka msla hogya jise left leg me hafton pain rehti ha phir b sural waly khush nhe.
Today's vlog touched my heart....... Very important topic..... Loved it.... Voice of most of the women
Wow!!! Just wow. You’re a true lioness. Listening to this was a pleasure. Your points were so perfect and well articulated. There were times when i thought I was listening to myself speak!! It’s so hard to find such women in Pakistan that is why I feel like I’m alone in my ways and views, no other women to relate to except people on the internet, like you.
I feel like The main reason of this ignorance is less exposure of deen. Once you know what is actually farz on you and what isn’t, it gets so easy to prioritise the right things and no one can shame you or guilt you for not being their massi all the damn time. Jab himmat hui Kia, jab himmat na hui chor dia Kyun k main apna Allah ki traf say dia hua farz nahi kharab krskti sirf kisi dosray insan ko khaish krnay k chakr main Jis nay waisay b jo marzi kar lo khush nahi hona kabhi.
I pray many such women listen to your vlog and it gives them the power they need to step up Ameen.
Pls try to listen to Sahil adeem, his lectures on parenting and family life are brillant I’m sure you will love them. He ssimply puts it ‘ kamzor maa kamzor bachay hi paida krti hy aur is duniya ko kamzor logon ki mazeed koi zaroorat nahi hy ‘
Apnay bachay k liay aik aurat ko bohat strong hona parta hy aur haq py khara hona parta hy chahy Bilkul akeli hi Kyun na hojaye. Dar war ki koi gunjaish nahi, that is the reason why a mother’s rutba is so high.
More power to you beautiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
True,it is very important message to mothers who are really suffering such problems.thankyou
Allah pak ka bht shukr hai mje ap k channel mila js sy mje bht motivation milti hai apki vlog sun k mai apne ap ko strong feel krti hn
Hello Erum aapi. I found one of your videos as I was searching for something else and I really liked it. From there I binged watched alllll your old and new videos including the grooming channel ones.
You talk very nicely. I love it. It’s like the elder sister I never had. My own mama gave me the same advices you are always giving but somehow I just love your style.
Haven’t commented on any of your content yet…but here I just had to.
So I got married into an amazing family. As such no pressure or burden or workload responsibilities on me of any kind. However, just like any other in-laws, certain things done or said just emotionally broke me so bad.
I pretended to be so strong in front of them. Kept a smile plastered to my face. Shrugged my shoulders as if it made no difference. People said she’s so dheet issay koi farak nahi parta.
But I’m a human!! Boht farak parta tha. Boht ziadaaaa. I would come to my room and cry cry cry. 😢 When my girl was an infant, she would look at my face worried and I would hug her.
But as She grew into a toddler, she had her own tantrums/ mess/ other child issues like all normal children do. After al the mental trauma downstairs, I really didn’t have the patience left to be gentle with her. You know what they call ‘respectful parenting’. I was not nice to my toddler. I said mean things and even hit her a few times…just because she made a mess of the tissue box and I had to clean up. That’s how bad my mental health had become. always knew I’m wrong but at that moments it was just not in my control.
Alhamdulillah things eventually got better. I watched back to back RUclips videos on mental health/ inner child issues/ everything you can imagine. Too much to mention here.
But I learned to be strong on the inside too. How to actually ignore the negativity and be positive. Getting out of the house and rejoining work helped too. Corona came around and I started content writing. Kept my mind occupied.
Long story short, I’m in a wayyy better place now mentally. I’m soooo positive always about any situation that people sometimes say to me ‘acha just shut up. Karnay dou humay boss ki buraiyan aram se’. Boss daanti hai tou tab bhi I’m like chalo it’s okay. Khair hogai.
Point is: mental health >>> anything.
Asslam o alikum sister min ny Pahli dfa Apka vlog Dekha hy.... ap ny behtreen topic py baat Ki hy . .... Mujhy yaad nhi K phly kisi NY is py baat Ki ho .....
Meri 2 betyaan hin bohat choti hin phli 1.5 Ki hin or dosri 6 month Ki hin or Mera Bhi yhi same hall tha ... Magr Apki video deakh K mujhy bohat himmat or hosla Mila hy or inshallah ❤️ ab Meri life min bohat beautiful change asky Ga .......many apki ya video APNi Frends or family min Bhi share Ki hy inshallah apki ya video sadqa E jarea sabit hogi inshallah
Relatable haii ye topic her Pak o India ke aurton k leay pr her Susral ke situation different hoti hai Thora sa time susral KO dyna parta hai per priortise bachon KO kerein mgr baghr kisi clash k ye asal smartness ho ge kisi bhe aurat ke
AOa....children should always be top priority....its a very important responsibility to raise children....so that they can bloom into good human beings regards
میرا بڑا بیٹا 22سال ماشاءاللہ حافظہ قرآن کریم ۔سوفٹ وئر انجینئرنگ کے 4سمیٹر ۔اس کے ساتھ میں نے اسی طرح کیا تھا ۔اج میں آپ کا ولوگ دیکھ کر بھت روئ ۔میرے بیٹا کی شخصیت بھت مجروح ہو ئ ۔وہ ھمعمر بچوں میں بہت پیچھے رہ گیا ۔کھانا پینا ۔پھنا اوڑھنا ۔چلنا پھرنا ۔لوگوں سے مقابلہ کرنے کے کم ھمت ۔وہ پڑھائی میں بہت مخنت کرتا ھے لیکن نتیجہ درمیان ۔ اسکی وجہ صرف میں اسکی ماں ہوں ۔میں گریجویشن کیا ڈبل میتھ فزکس میں ۔1998 مے رزلٹ کے ساتھ ہی شادی ہوگئی تھی ۔عمر 20 سال تھی ۔میں میں جاب کرسکتی تھی لیکن نہیں کی ۔مین میں نے اپنا اور اپنے بچوں کا نقصان کیا ۔میری بہن جو بچوں پر غصہ نہ کریں ۔ اپنے بچوں کا حیال رکھے ۔اللہ کے واسطے ۔میرے دل میں بہت تکلیف ھوتی ہے اپنے بیٹے کو دیکھ کر ۔😢😢
Is hisaab se i am a strong mother bcz jab meri 2 saal ki beti roti hai main unko seede muh pe bol deti hu mera baby ro raha hai main kaam nahi kar sakti and ye b keh deti hu main kaam tabhi karugi jab mere bache ko sambhaloge
وعلــــیکم اســـلام ورحمـتہ اللہ وبرکاتہ ماشاءاللہ ہمیشہ خوش رہیں ڈئیر سس اللہ پاک ہم سب کے لیے آسانیاں پیدا کریں آمین ثم آمین
Yes mam me bhi ese hi Karti thi but I promise AJ k baad nai thank for this video I appreciate you you are my very exelent guid
My pleasure 😊
Your every word is true ,I also suffered many years actually in our society there is no grooming and education for marriage counseling,we need to educate our daughters to
اسلام علیکم
اس ٹاپک پر میں پوری بک لکھ سکتی ہوں
میرے ساتھ بھی ایسا ہی تھا
لیکن اب پچھتاوا ہوتا ہے
اللہ تعالٰی اس لڑکی پر رحم کرے اور اسے ہمت دے ۔
Very beautiful good message for all those women who suffering this all. Inlaws k boothay kabi seedhay nhi ho saktay . So dafa kre or mitti dalein UN pe 😅😅😅be happy life is so short .
Apki baton ny dil cho lia
Ya hr dosray gher ki Kahani hy mayri shadi ko 20 saal honay walay hain isi sb ki waja sy aj tk main apnay bachon ko unka time unka huq nahi dy saki yha tk k apni Marzi ki hr cheez chor di lipstick tk apni pasand ki nahi lgai kabhi phir bhi apna muqam jb dykhti hoon aik nokrani sy ziada nahi hy myray honay na honay sy koe farq nahi pr na myri baat ki koe ahmiyat hy
Lakin Allah ka shuker hy myri bachian bohat achi or samajhdar hain ab wo myra sath dyti hain lakin is adat sy bhi chirti hain k jb apko koe ahmiyat nahi dyta to ap keon in ka itna khial krti hain
Unfortuately its story of every mother . i can understand pain because i also suffered this situation . thank you for teaching us.
Assalamu alaikum dear ❤️.
It's most important message to mother's who are suffering from these problems.
Thanks for sharing.
Aoa, it is so true. That is why I ran and took my family to London, but still they influence my husband even from far away. But now I only give my priority to my son only. Nothing else
Thanks for sharing
Ye hi mera b masla hy
Such an important blog.. My mom never gave time to me.. All her life she was busy in her house work, office work , bsy in catering my dad's needs. I grew up by mostly nanny/masi taking care.. Physically they took care by providing food education facilities but emotionally not available at all. Tdy even when I'm 35 yrs old, my parents don't accept it, they have conservative and regressive thinking. Anyway, I hve accepted the reality
Not all parents can be perfect but what u have faced never return it ur children the best u can do for ur child is to give them love and time
Aesa lagta hy yea ap nh me hun shuker Allah ka ap mjhe mili you are my inspiration still am facing same situation
Exactly ya bht hi important topic h discuss krna lazmi tha...thank you so much
Thank you 😊
Aap ny to aaj purany zakham taza kr deeya,,, aaj myra byta Masha Allah 23 sal ka hy. Or mn bhi jb kaam kr kr k or sb ko khush rkhny k chakro mn usy time nahi dy pati thee, or myri parents sy ek request hy k apni bytiyo ki shadi apny city ya qareeb k city mn he kryn. Mn Lahore sy yahn Hyderabad i. Is sy bhi boht farq parta hy. Log akyla samjh k nokar he bna lyty hn.
Nhi ji ye naslii log nhi htay bhly ap kareeb hi rahty hn ghr walay kareeb hn mgr susraal acha hona chahye
Sistr ap bht achi baten krti hain... bht c problm solve hoti hain.
Joint family mai bachy ignore or zulm ka shikar hotay maaa apna frustration bachoo pr nikalti😢😢😢😢same story 😢😢😢and ab mai apnay bachoo ko SORRY krti bht rona ata ha ab mjhy
ا ب وقت گزرنے کے بعد اپنے آپ پر بہت زیادہ غصے آتا ہے یہ غلطی میں بھی کی ہے ۔
As salamualequm... India se hu aaj k topic pr jo baat aap ne ki ... mujhe yaad aa gya apna dard ...aansu aa gaye yaad kr k 😢...yes maine bhi bohut Saha bohut jiyada aaj yaad krti hu to bada pain hota ki kuch nalayak logo ki wazha se maine bhi apne bete pr mostly gussa utara h..😔
Hmaisha khush rho behna
@@AhmadReactions3070 Bohut shukriya 💐
Bhut acchi lagti h aapki sari bate ak positivity milti h aapki video dekh ker
Thank you 😊
Very nice..yes it is a most needed video for mothers...gud job
Assalamalekum me bharat se hun or me aap ke sbhi video dekhti hun mere sural me bhi yhi hota Tha ki me poore Ghar ki jimedari lun Kitna bhi Kam Kiya din rat ek kar diya par me un logo ko kush nhi kar ski or aaj mujhe lgta he ki me imagine tor par theek nhi hu or uska Asar mere bachcho par pad rha he mujhe lagta he me shi barbarism nhi kar pa rhi hun koi motivation video bnayen Allah aap or ham sbko apni Aman me rkhe
Allah apko is naiki ka ajr dy aur apki aulad ko apki ankho ki thandak bnae.ameen
Mai khud in sb chezo sy guzr chuki hn mery 4 bachy hain bary 2 bacho k sath mery sy bht ziati hoi Allah mje maaf kre.
Same condition mai b in laws mai bht busy hoti hn unko khush krny k chkr mai unk mood thek krny k liye but mai apny bacho pr apni furstaion nai nikalti unko pkr k pyar kr k sari thakn khtm ho jati ha mery mashallah 3 bety hn
apke vlogs dekh k bht himmat ati hai
I love this vlog and I agree with u baaji. We women need to stand up for ourselves. Aaj kal logo ko allah ka koi dar hi nahi. Please I hope u don't get too stressed bt u have come forward and talked about this mashallah I love your strong opinions. Keep smiling 😊
When you give attention and first preority to your child other family members get used , starting mai Problem hoti hey because hum nay unay allow kar diya hota Khud pay command karna but when you change ur priorities they will slowly learn phr vo sochnay Han jitna kar dayti hey utna b kafi hey ….but it will take time 😊
Bilkul sahi
Thank you so much for this wonderful topic , my mom always said these lines , I have 14 months baby
salaam,have been watching you for more then a year now but today you won my heart,kush rahain jeeti rahian
Thank you 😊
Ameen
Excellent vlog.... Litterly I want to cry.... Kash ke ye batain mujhy pehly pta Hoti....
Ha mujhe bhi 😥😢
Thanks sis ye boht bari problem hai
Let men appreciate you and also let me admit that your videos helped me a lot to manage my house with work, I have a helper but still things were out of control because I didn't know that doing everything everyday is not practical, no my house is more clean and managed, it's all about you, lot of love dear❤
Glad to help
Excellent job done by you .May Allah bless you for these regular noble deed of training
Many many thanks
Ap jb kharian ka name leti hain mje bht acha lgta hai
Kharian cantt mai mery 22 years guzary hain
I love kharian cantt❤
Sis Alalh pak aap ko salamat rakhy SADA Khush or abaad rahen hansti muskurati rahen ameeeen sis aap ko Alalh pak iski jazza de aap ko pta bhi nhi. Hy but aap ne mujhe depression SE nikal dia Hy main kuch time SE hi aap k vlog dekh rhi Hun seriously main ne jeeny ki aas bhi chor di thi SB khtm hogya aisa lgta tha but alhamdulillah main ab bilkul theak Hun ab koi medicine bhi use nhi kr rhi jazzak Allah sis Alalh pak aap ko or aap ki family ko hameha khush or abaad rkhy ameeeen
I totally agree dear I already taking my kids as my first priority but when I see other ladies to neglect their kids I feel so much pain. Thanks for choosing such a important topic❤
Thank you 😊
Ye sochen ye baten ye amal ye life to mree amii ny jee thee to ye channel blessing hai ,,,ami 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 ka channel hai yeto love u api❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you 😊
Topic boht important Hy..but Jo AP NY baten ki apki voice mein Jo Kuch tha I feel Pyar wali daant Thora SA gusa mtlb k AP NY boht acha explain kia I hope aisi SB lrkiyo ko smjh AA gae hogi
Allah kre apki yeh video millions khawateen dekhen or jo suffer krhi hain in laws mein allah unky shoharon ko aqal den ameen
Aameen
Important topic. Allah pak bless you
well said tarbiyat pe foran bat ati hai chahy unky he kam krty apny bchu ko ignore kr rkha ho i think maximum ladies joint family main suffer krti hain at the end hasil kuch bhi nhi hot.
Ap ik new volg banaye k kasy mothers 2 years old baby ko 1 year old baby k sth attention dy q k dono babies ko attention chahiye hoti ha dono babies ki needs k hisab sy kasy dono ko manage krna chahiye
Very good sister aapne to sabki aakhen kholdi ha very very nice video thankyou so much
Thank you 😊
ALLAH Paak aise logon ko hidayat dai Jo apna stress Bache pe ya Kisi kamzor pe nikaalta ho Ameen 😢
Aap bahut acche hai dii.mein pregnet hu or mere ak beti v hai,husband aklota beta hai or wo fouji hai,maa papa ka care krte hai.sasu maa mere nanand ko sadi krne nhi dete or wo karege v nhi.maa beti milker mujhai badnaam krte hai ki ye ghar ka kaam nhi krte or husband mujhse bahut pyaar krte hai, wo mujhai ghar ko sambhalne k liye money v dete hai.family calana, sabka jarurat ko pura krne k bawjut ye log dusro ko kahte hai bahu kuch deti nhi.husband kahte hai bolne do in logo ko but mein in logo ka care hamesha karunga.mujhai sasural me he rahne ko kahte hai bcz beti ka sachool hota hai,pr mujhai pregnancy me in toxic logo k pass rahne se bahut tension hoti hai.husband v baher he rahte hai job ko leke avi chutti pr aaye hai delivery tak rahenge.soch rhe hu delivery k baad dono baccho ko ke kr yaha se cale jawo.pr husband ko bura lagega.my first cmmt.plz reply dii
Nice topic sis I agree with u hmari society me ye to her dosre gher ki story he hmare yahan aik larki nhi blke aik maid late hen or us per itna burden dal dete hen k vo kia se kia ban jati he khud ko b bhol jati he phir b koi khush nhi hota Allah Pak sub betyon ka naseeb acha kre or in sis k liye b asani Farmae amin
Aajkal zyadatar gharo m yahi sab chal raha h pata nahi log kyu nahi samjhte kisi ki takleef ko kyu nahi samajhte
Just one word thank you so much
Ma Sha ALLAH nice vlog
This is true your right.
Excellent vlog good explanation stay blessed ❤
Thank you! You too!
Bilkul sahi kaha ❤❤💯I agree with you ❤️❤️❤️.
Zabardast.
Ab bache bade ho gye h but purani baten yaad aati h to bahut regret hota h bahot kuch tha jo unke liye kar sakte the but nhi kiya doosron ki khidmat karne k liye aur khush koi nhi hota kuc na kuch kami nikaal hi dete hai
Yesss ye to ghar ghar ki kahaniii .same with me
Api bht axha topic tha AJ AP ka good 👍 Allah pak or kamiyabi dai AmEEn
It is tru esa hi ha ye sab ham ny bi feace ki hin magr dear and durst aid❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Aoa.,...mam I am following you since2020....you r more than a teacher ,a sister for me....I learn a lot from you...keep doing good work..lots of good wishes for u dear❤❤
It's my pleasure
Iram Allah pak ap ko buhut khush rakhy .buhut sport millti hi ap sy thank u so much .
Thank you 😊
Agar comments mein voice bhejne ka option hota to mein zarur bol kark batati kitna kitna accha laga "khabardaar" lavz sunke aur uske bad ka har lavz sun ke..
Gusa nonliving thing py nikal liya kary avoid kry child animal or plant ko b gusa karny sy 😊
Literally superb lady ..... loving to watch all your privious vlogs bcz I started few days before n U can't imagine how much I love to watch all ur vlogs ... started ti watch ur Ramadan series love love ❤️
Thanks a ton
Mam aaj ka topic buhat zaroori tha mare sath bhi same yahi hota tha buhat salo baad samajh aaya ab jab kabhi yaad aata hai mai roti hoon aur mam aaj app ki batain sun kar bhi bahat roya
Ap ka vlog daikh kar merae zakham taza ho gaie hae.... Can't say anything 😭
Bilkul theek
Very nice vlog touched my heart
I also go through all these things when my son's are small
Pleased each and every member of family but no one is happy with me at the end sab ka muh ban hi jata tha
So sad yr 😞
Beautiful sharing dear sister❤from Bangladesh 😊
Api ap ki vedios buhat achi hoti hain please aik special request hy meri. Aik vedio un ladies k lia bnaie jo shadi k bd infertility face kr ri hain. Logo k bury behaviours face kr ri hain. Aur unhy is bt pr ziyada takleef hoti hy jo log unhy apny lgty thy unhi ky faces expose ho ry hain jis sy mazeed dukh hota. Especially jb nears n dears m koi pregnant hota to infertile couple sy un ki good news chupai jati hy. Pregnant women ko infertile larki k samny ni any dia jata to usy kasy cop up krna chahiye. Please a special request
Must make a vedio on this topic plzzzzzzz
Ma ya sb face kar chuki hu ...even kar rahi hu..but ab difference ya aya ha k bacho ko time bhi dati hu ..both sons are school going..tu unko parhati bhi khud hu
Oh sis mujhe bhi ye Sab bohut zamane baad samajh aya apna aap khtam Karne ke baad😭
😥
Erum u touch my heart this is my story but within 10 yrs mujhey samajh agayee thee kay meri responsibility sirf merey bachey hain magar ajj bhi kuch yaad ajayey tou bhot dukh hota hay bachon kay saath ziadti nahin hona chaheay
Salam
I don’t understand your language but still watch it . Please can you add subtitles in English , so it will be useful for many around the world. Thank you.
w salam ll try
Apki aik aik baat sahi
یہ تو ہر دوسرے گھر کی کہانی ہے اور خاص طور پر ہم مڈل کلاس میں اور یہ سب ہینڈل کرنا بہت مشکل بہت مشکل اور پتہ اسی کو ہوتا ہے جس پر گزر رہی ہوتی ہے
Ye hr maa ki kahani he mam.. mere sath b yahi hota he.. meri 5 sal ki or 2 sal ki betiya he.. un pr hi mera gussa nikal jata he.. bahot kosis karti hu ki gussa na karu but nahi ho pata... bahot muskil he bahot taklif hoti he.. mere gusse ki wajah se meri betiyo ko mujse dur hote huye dekh rahi hu.. fir b kuch nahi kar pa rahi hu.. chhod diya mene ghar k kamo ko importance dena fir b kuch thik nahi he.. any help? 🙄
@@bjs6394mary sath b yahi hy bacho pay gussa nikal jata hy or phr b susral waly khush nhi hy bahu se
@@bjs6394 aapki betian apk grr Mehmaan hyn.
@@bjs6394ho jaye ga sub thk ahista ahista sub ko Adat ho jaye ge
@@bjs6394Allha ap rehm krein dear
Bilkul mena bhi asa kiya mera Bacha bhi ase 2year ka tha me use marti thi bhut zyda 😢guse me
Yesss ..hr bandi ye glti krti h..thats true sentence ..i also waste my time many years for susral as a "masi "..i also mis behaved wth my daughter in frestrition n preesure of work..mgr jb uksi trbiat ki wqt hota tb bhi m n puri aeemandari s use wqt dia in education n basic tarbiat ...bawjud bht si bkwas sunne k m achi maa ni q k m bht strict hu bchi ki prhai k matter m ..m maa kehlane k laiq ni ,hitler ,zalim ..aur pta ni kia kia 😢shdeed tkleef hoti thi mjhe jb meri beti bhi mjhe yhi bolti un sb ka sun k..mgr m n himmt ni hari ..aur jo taleem m use dena chahti thi m n sb ki mukhalift k bawjud di..aj meri beti 9 sal ki h..aur hafiza bn ri h ...behtreen manners aur khush ikhlaq .aur aj wahi log meri beti bete ki misal dete h..ap ki life jitni tough ho ap k bche is k zimmedar ni ..unko mt avoid kre🙏..so apne bcho ko pehli tarjeeh de plzzzzz ...unhe is mulk ka behtreen citizen ,aur 1 behtreen muslaman aur sb s brk k behtreen insan bna🙏e ..
This topic iz much needed
Bitter and sad 😭 reality of joint family system 😭
Dil khuch ho gaya app ki bataain sun ke
Yes very good for every woman this topic 👏
Erum ap ke sb vlog bohat ache hote han .boht achi tarha hr baat samjhati han ap ❤
Api ap bilkul thk kh ri hen time guzr jata hy phr smjh ati sirf apny bacho ko time dena chahy
Me India se hu me aap ki video hemesa dakhti hu mujhe aap ki baate acha lagta he mere saaat vhi aysa hota hai mere sasural me mere ijjat kabhi nahin milati main jitna kam kar lun mujhe hamesha tone karte Hain main bhi bahut depression mein Hun ki main log se alag hokar bhi Khush nahin hun fir bhi mujhe log jeene nahin dete😂😂
V.nice vlog
Plz share more of your experiences regarding children or babies
Sure 😊
Yehi galtia main b 12 Saal ki hn apny susraal ko hush kr k apni olaad ko neglect kia pr phir b kbi koi hush nhi hua ab 12 Saal bad jab main apny lie stand Lia to sari dunya main duhai di k main kitni buri hu.
But stood strong k nhi ab bass bht ho gya ab nhi abi b things r not perfect but pehly se kafi thek hn
Kahani ghar ghar ki...