WORK DAY IN MY LIFE 👩🏽💻 9-5 economist in DC, imposter syndrome & apologizing in the workplace
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- Опубликовано: 23 июл 2024
- it's a work day in my life as an economist & content creator, living in dc! We will have a work chat: imposter syndrome & apologizing in the workplace.
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I'm selena, I'm sharing my journey in my 20's-balancing a 9-5, living alone, self love, health & wellness! I'm a first-generation college-grad, I moved cross-country to washington dc after college to work for the federal government. My channel is all about finding balance and prioritizing the things we love to live a meaningful life! I hope you'll decide to stay, leave a ☕ emoji if you're a real one and you read this!
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happy friday, friends! 🤎 what did you think about the work chat/vent? let me know your thoughts below! You know I love to have discussions.
@selenatrevino What are you wearing? The orange outfit. I love it!
When my anxiety got really bad I was impulsively apologising so much, my mom got me a "sorry jar" like a swear jar. Putting a button in every time i said sorry helped me realise how much I was apologising and I became more aware of thinking if I actually needed to apologise. I now say it a lot less and have stopped apologising for existing. "Thanks for flagging that" is my email go to for when I get anxious.
What! That is so smart! I love that your mom cared enough to be so intentional with this 👏🏽👏🏽 we love supportive family! Yessss, don’t apologize for existing. That’s a great way to put it ☺️
I just found your page today and IM SO THANKFUL! I’ve struggled to find someone who vlogs who has a real life with a traditional job. I’d love the coffee chat☕️! What you said about e-mail etiquette and females IS SO TRUE. Thanks for being my new best friend
Hi Amanda, thanks for being a real one, I’m so happy you’re here, welcome ❤️ glad you enjoyed the coffee chat, definitely bringing these back!
i would LOVE to hear more email etiquette/workplace chats! ☕️✨ as a woman of color, i do find myself overcompensating/apologizing too much, and even making making myself smaller in order to avoid attention and possibly stepping on any toes. Everything that you mentioned about taking up space, impostor syndrome, etc… hit the mark bc it’s what i deal with, especially as someone who is new to corporate. Thank you so much for your wise words,, it was just what i needed to hear! And I hope that we as women can do our best to stand proud in all that we say or do, no matter what anyone thinks :)
Yay! Ok I will def incorporate more of these chats/rants again into future vids ❤️🔥 right? we do tend to over apologize, I’ve definitely noticed that from my colleagues as well! You’re so welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed the chat 👏🏽
I notice that for my new job, the mentor I’m shadowing uses “thank you for your patience.” In a lot of emails that he may have taken a while to respond to and it’s seriously a game changer in my mind. Definitely something good to think about. ☕️
Yes! I love that 👏🏽👏🏽 sounds like your mentor has got it down!!
Hi Selena! I love how you are managing your response in the workplace as a minority. I don't think I could handle it, I work in the educational field and always wondering if I'm good enough in my current position (but that's a talk for my therapist...lol). Thank you for sharing your experience and encouraging us to do the same! ☕️🧋 Have a great weekend!
Wow miss TJ thank you for sharing Bc I often feel the same way (like I’m not good enough or I don’t belong) and honestly I think a lot of Women of Color feel that way in professional settings, and it’s something we should have safe spaces to talk about openly! ❤️
@@SelenaTrevino thank you for creating that safe place on your channel!
I love that you brought up apologizing in the workplace. It was honestly something that I’ve always done and didn’t even really see as a problem (I have a tendency to be a people pleaser), but your idea about it really resonated with me. Sorry implies a form of guilt or fault. I love this! Thank you for bringing it to my attention!!
I love your “thank you for your patience”. There are times where I haven’t gotten to a task quick enough so that’s a great way of acknowledging that it took a bit of time yet not saying that I did something wrong.
Email etiquette is so important at jobs especially now more than ever with a lot of people currently working from home. Words can be misconstrued and cause people to feel like they were insulted/disrespected.
1000%, I agree 👏🏽👏🏽
I love what you said about apologizing in emails! Thinking about it more, so many women in my workplace do this, including myself. I'm going to try to catch this before sending it so I can reword those emails. Thank you!!
Right?! Like now I pay attention to what everyone says and same in my workplace! It’s always women
☕️ love the topic you brought up! This is definitely something I find myself struggling with so much! I almost never use “sorry” or “apologies” anymore, but there are still times where I’ve found myself saying it unnecessarily because I couldn’t think of anything better to say - I think that’s part of it too, we are conditioned to apologize for these minor inconveniences that don’t warrant an apology so I love that you shared your alternative! And while I hate that this even has to be a suggestion, it got me thinking that if this is something anyone is struggling with, maybe keep a folder in onenote, notion or whatever on your desktop with some “alternates” like your “thank you for your patience” until it’s more of a habit to say something like that than I’m sorry.
☕️☕️☕️yes please! I needed to hear your coffee chat. Loved your apology breakdown. Gave me some new things to think about at my workplace. Much love 💕
Yes more coffee chats will come in the future for sure 🤍
I'm on a fitness journey as well so I enjoy seeing yours and drawing more inspiration! I lost a week of workouts also because I didn't have a car and I tell you I could've worked out from home but I didn't. But the minute I got that thing back I was back in the gym. So we may have times or we don't work out but as long as we get back on track I think that's the point! Keep going girlfriend you're the best!!
Watched this during my work day and coming back to comment 😍 I love the vibe of your vlogs lately so much ❤️🔥 and so interesting about apologizing. I guess I tend to over apologize especially if I’m delivering to somebody higher up than me and it’s later than I originally told them or something. It’s just so engrained in me but I so agree; not always necessary
It’s so engrained in all of us, honestly! Especially women. And it’s so hard to change the habit lol but honestly, awareness is the first step! I find it harder to catch myself when speaking over zoom but then later I reflect and try to prepare for next time 😅 and thank you bb ❤️🔥
Loved this video.
Glad to see you getting back into running. I also am getting back into running now that my kidney disease is staying in stage 2 and to inspire myself I signed up to run a 8km, half-marathon, and full-marathon in October of this year. I have been running small 5km runs once a week on my lunch hour and have completed 1 10km Saturday run a couple of weeks ago after not running for almost 3 years. It sure felt great mentally.
Would love to hear more workplace chats☕️.
Sheesh! I stumbled upon your channel and I am hooked😊 You really are quite intelligent and so well versed. Keep up the great work!☺️
Omg thank you Dominique 🥹🫶🏼
☕️☕️ oh girl-this is 100% my life! I have anxiety as a new employee in general but especially now where all of my interviews were via Google Meet and my coworkers are all over the country and I’ve never met them face to face. It’s difficult to read the room with remote positions…your work is mostly what people are crafting their opinions on (vs that plus casual convos in the office). When you’re new there’s just so much you don’t know and you’re trying to get the lay of the land and for me, I want to make sure I’m not stepping on anyones’ toes or being a nuisance so I tend to apologize more than I probably should. This part of your video was motivation for me to relax a bit and stop apologizing for simple things that don’t warrant one. Thank you as always!!
☕️☕️☕️ Omg! I totally agree. I just got a promotion at work and I’m in a new roll now. I catch myself doing this a lot and I find myself burnt out at the end of the week. Thank u for this information. It will really help me out at work and how I respond in my email!
Omg 1st, you’re a real one ☕️ 2nd: congratulations on your promotion, get it deseree 👏🏽👏🏽🎉 and third, work anxiety sucks, I feel you 🥲
☕️ Love the discussion! Very relevant and meaningful.
i 100% agree with the apologies. every situation doesn’t deserve an apology. there are so many times where the ask wasn’t clear, there wasn’t a deadline in place yet someone is looking for it to be done by x date, the ask isn’t a priority etc. i’ll apologize when i feel like i actually effed up but i’m not throwing them around so then i can start feeling like i suck at life 🤷🏽♀️ it’s definitely one of the ways i set boundaries at work. men do tend to get away with so much more and i’m really opposed to making the “accountability” gap larger than it already is. this subject is such an onion lolol 😅 oh so many layers Selena!❤️☕️
Yes 10000% plus it detracts from the power of apologies in general if someone is always throwing around the words “I’m sorry” it makes it less valuable in conflict resolution down the line, idk that’s just something I also think about. You’re so right, it’s definitely an onion haha 😅
Selena, I am so happy to have found your channel! As a woman of an older age I find your content so refreshing, professional and motivating! Especially when it comes to working from home and exercising and everything else. Thank you for all you do! I love the topics you have presented here and they have really made me think about how I can improve myself. Even with my many years of office/professional work there is always room to think and grow. Have a wonderful day!
wow thank you for leaving such a thoughtful comment, suzanna ❤️ appreciate you!!
@@SelenaTrevino You’re welcome Selena, my pleasure!
I really enjoyed the coffee chat! I’m glad you noticed and took the opportunity to rephrase and everything turned out to be just fine. Also now I really wanna try Celsius 😅
Yay I’m so glad ❤️ and omg yes it’s so good ❤️🔥
☕️❤️ This is such a great discussion. I think being unable to read the room is a huge factor!
that is so very true!!
I have been binge watching your videos and applying for positions similar to yours!
☕ great conversation.. gonna have to remember that too!!! And borrow your response style 👌
I’m so glad you liked it! Yes and someone else mentioned another great response “thank you for flagging this for me”
You make so much for bringing up this topic!
Bring back the coffee time chats! ☺️☕️
And yes, I’m so use to apologizing but through out last year I stopped apologizing if it wasn’t my fault. I had a coworker who was always late to work and I was apologizing for things because of this but once I realized I shouldn’t be doing that since it wasn’t my fault I stopped. I began to ask myself if something was my fault and if it isn’t I don’t apologize but like what you did I try to reword what I want to say. I hope that helps others as well. 💛
Ooh yes they’re def coming back ❤️🎉 I love that you’ve worked on and improved your tendency to apologize often! It’s something many of us struggle with, but it can be improved
Great advice regarding apologizing in the work place 😄
Honestly I gotta remind my self weekly Hahha
I'm excited to see more content from you !! 😍 Support from France
Merci, Thank you! 🤪💗 Wow from France?! So cool!
I think it's great how you actively try to take up more space, well done!
yes, that is the goal 👏🏽
loved your chat about email etiquette. I try to always replace I'm sorry with thank you for your patience/understanding... makes a huge different
It really does!
Hi, Selena. Thank you for the great reminder on the "apologizing" part. It hit me. Hope you can create another video about it. Thank you.
yesss, I feel you. and of course ❤️
Sooo true on the “I am sorry” topic. Sometimes I just don’t feel like I even need to apologize in certain situations..what am I apologizing for? Like it had become so automatic to apologize to everything when I don’t even need to and could rephrase my sentences
Exactly! It’s definitely ingrained in us and it’s so frustrating! But now when we’re self aware we can work to unlearn if, thankfully!🤍
I completely agree I try to no longer say I’m sorry if it’s not needed. I rarely hear this in the office from my colleagues as well. 😅
I just love the way you make coffee
i love this video and your channel! your workout shoes are so cute!
Yay I’m so glad! And thank you ❤️ omg yes they’re the hoka one one Clifton edges, they’re amazing!!
☕ i would love that! Also, I struggle with over apologizing all the time in times that it isn't necessary. I am working on that.
I’ve never met/ seen someone who actually likes black licorice lol i’m so happy you indulge in your cravings! I love how realistic and relatable you are!
Peach vibes celcius is my #1 out of all the flavors! it’s so good! I definitely catch myself apologizing more at work and have tried to work on it. I have the worst anxiety at work whenever people email me and it sucks 🙃
Hahaha no way?? Yes I love most chewy candies 🤪 not a bug fan of skittles tho or starbursts, too sweet. Or any candy that’s too sweet lol. Omg i had a peach vibes one today, sooo good 🍑
100,000,000% agree with women (over)apologizing in the workplace‼I noticed this about myself (I'm a woman of color) and how different it was for my male colleagues (mostly White) yeaaarrrrssss ago; and though I'm conscious of it, I still do it. Often. My boss has even said "stop apologizing" but it comes so naturally. Not only do the men I've worked with not apologize, they don't seem to think twice about moving on , and that's after a legitimate reason they SHOULD be apologizing. Thank you for validating our experiences and actively working to make change.
100% it’s still a real problem and honestly I have to remind myself constantly. The struggle is finding balance between not over apologizing but still remembering to take accountabilty. And hold ourselves responsible whenever we do actually need to.
love the conversation about work emails, I spend way too much time over analyzing what I say
Yessss, let’s spend less time over analyzing, and more time questioning our instinct to apologize!
I am so guilty of apologizing too much, especially when I interrupt someone on a zoom meeting or we go to talk at the same time. Thank you for bringing this up because I honestly never thought to examine it, I just assumed it was my manners that my upbringing taught me but yea I apologize for way too much.
Yes, over-apologizing is actually super common, I'm so glad you enjoyed the chat!
Here for the premiere! 🙋🏻♀️
yay, I’m so glad you made it Jess!!🤪💗
I have not tried too many flavors but I really love the orange flavor. Kind of bizarre but it's yummy. Alani is still my go to !! Enjoy
I need to try Celsius now. Also imposter syndrome is real esp when working from home at times my anxiety gets so bad from over thinking or just rushing to get a report out. We are our biggest critics forsure
Omg yes it’s so good!!😍 yes we are our biggest critics and it’s easy to get in your head more when you literally don’t have any coworkers to go through your work life with.
Such a great point as a African American in corporate America I used to find myself apologizing. Meanwhile when others would make mistakes they wouldn't even own up to them.
THIS!! While I think taking ownership, is of course, super important; it’s even more important to ensure we communicate in a way that is assertive & similar to those around us.
It would be totally different for those who work at a job profit or in education,etc. because often times those spaces provide a safe time to discuss these things. But I’m the corporate world and standard 9-5 professions, I think this is the case.
I just found you through Kyra Ann. Love your vibe!
love her!! So happy you’re here! 🤍
I am glad I ran into your channel
I’m so glad you did too! Welcome :)
You have to try the kiwi guava celsius it's the best 😍 Also yes the work chat 👏🏻 I feel like I say sorry all the time when it's not necessary!
That sounds amazing, I need to try it
Hi, I relate to what you said happened with a reminder. It happened to me last week and I became so defensive and felt so embarrassed. I don’t know where it comes from but it’s something to definitely talk about.
Yesss for me it’s definitely related to my anxiety and honestly just having less experience socializing in a work setting, in general! Since the whole pan-dulce 😅
Hey! Selena I really enjoyed watching your vlogs so so much and your vlogs are so amazing and relaxing and you inspired me so so much and I wish you reach 20K Subscribers very very soon!♥️✨😘💖🙈😍
thank you so much! we’re so close, I can’t believe it 🥺❤️
My ocd loves these videos
I love that 🤍🤍
I jsut finished reading this book called Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell which talks about how there are so many different thing sthat contribute to success. One chapter he pointed out a true story about a plane crash that happened (don't remember the exact details) but the pilots were coming from a Latin American country to the US and they analyzed the conversation and basically the pilots were very apologetic and downplayed things because culturally they're not as direct. I'm overly simplifying the story because I honestly cannot remember everything lol But being a Latina woman, that combo alone made me apologize for everything and sometimes it wasn't anything bad but I always felt like I had to be extra on top of my game and just comply. It's exhausting and trying to learn not to take everything super defensively. Thanks for these chats though! There was another older video of yours I saw where I can agree with you on all your points and it's nice to see someone on the same boat becuase it's nice to not feel alone!
Your videos are so interesting.
Me and my son love gummy candy too, the cola gummies have been our favorite lately.
Omg yes gummy candies for life 🤪
Not sure if this tracks with what you’re saying, but “Thank you for your patience” to replace “Sorry for the delay/being late” or similar is great. You acknowledge the delay, but show appreciation instead of being apologetic. This is something I’ve learned and have been doing. Ps. Love your vlogs! :)
I personally drink Gfuel, The flavors are so fun 💛
Really? Ive never tried, where do you get them? Or is that Gatorade? Lol idk
Omg love the orange set! Where’s it from?
It was a birthday gift, I’m not sure where from 😅
I love drinking Celsius! I was drinking then almost every day and then came across and article with how it’s damaging lovers due to the ingredients in it :/ try Alani Nu’s!!
No way!? Why!? Can you link the article!?
☕️☕️☕️ I’m a Data Analyst, wfh since the pandemic (with Covid data no less), but starting a new job next week as a DA for my local LGBT Life Center here in Norfolk, Va. I would love to watch coffee chats about professionalism, email etiquette, etc. (and maybe I’ll see some as I watch through your videos since this one is a little older 😂). Also every time you talk about your busy seasons, I understand 😫😫😫
Omg hello, thanks for being a real one!! 💗 I’m an economist, but technically a data analyst hahah omg that job sounds so cool!! Did you need a specific type of certification or background in programming to land that job? Thank you for watching the older vlogs hahah
No certification or anything required. I actually have a degree in early childhood development and I worked as a restaurant GM for most of my career before the pandemic. Once I started working data, it all came really intuitively, my mind likes puzzles lol. I don’t do any coding really and I mainly work in tableau, access, and excel outside of the specific systems we use at our agency. I’d love to hear more details about your work! I’m a nerd for data.
Where did you get this work from home outfit? I love this on you, the color is amazing.
My friend gifted it to me 🥹
“Girl, stop apologizing” by Rachel Hollis. It’s a game changer. I am a serial apologizer.
Kyra Ann brought me here 😊
aw, I love her ❤️ welcome Rosario!
Can you share where your desk is from? I'm moving and need to get a new white desk.
Yes it’s linked in the description under “wfh essentials” 💗
Workplace chats please!:)
coming soon ❤️
I used to be the worst at apologizing for everything & tbh, I still do a lot in life but I think I've gotten better about it at work after the fiasco that was my last job. Last job (working with almost all men) everything was always on me, even if it was something my team lead blatantly told me to do and he turned out to be wrong. He was always insisting he knew best, even over what the directors wanted us to do...and often was wrong. And no, he never ever apologized and always let me take the blame and always made me feel like I had to apologize. If I tried to stick up for myself even politely and professionally, with evidence to back me up, I was being "confrontrational". Now I only work with women and it's much more of a professional vibe, I don't think there's been anything I've even felt like I would be expected to openly apologize for. Your advice was so spot on, you handled that perfectly!
Wow I’m so sorry to hear about your precious experience, but I’m so glad you’re out of that toxic environment! I definitely and thankful I’ve had more good experiences than bad, so far, in the workplace! But that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for improvement 🤍
My safe place❤️❤️❤️
I love that 🥲❤️
What income tracker program do you use?
I linked it on my March monthly reset! I used someone else’s and then customized it to my needs ☺️
OHHH hello keyboard :) what keyboard model is that? I love mechanical keyboards :D
RK 100!! It’s linked in the description 🤩
@@SelenaTrevino by the way excellent message. Being in upper management and woman of color I would agree with what you shared in it is as simple of tweaking your responses in the way that you did that effective. Great video ❤️
I appreciated your chat at the end! I think as women of colour we feel we have to prove that we deserve to be there which often leads to the kind of apologising our white or even male colleagues would never resort to for small mistakes or even things that aren’t our fault. Will be doing less of that for sure! Thanks Selena!
100% i agree! It seems to be the case for many women and women of color. I will also work to do that less as well, we got this!
I am still a student,and in my life I just appologize all the time unconsciously,like when I'm going downstairs and a man with his phone is coming up,and then i will just appologize even though i dont know why ((
It’s honestly taught to us, I swear! It’s literally instinct! But I know we can unlearn it🤍👏🏽
Miss you beautiful ❤️ hope everything is well 😘😘😘
Omg hello, I miss you! 🥹
I tried using the Nike running app but I ended up uninstalling it because the coaches talk too damn much. I'm trying to listen to music, or even worse if I'm listening to Audible and they keep cutting in and interrupting my book with some rah rah sis boom bah motivational bullshit. Last time I used it I literally yelled at the air "TELL ME WHEN TO WALK AND TELL ME WHEN TO RUN THEN SHUT THE FUCK UUUUPPPPPPPP-AH!".. I uninstalled the app immediately after finishing that run in a fit of rage. I mean I was also PMS'ing that day so.. I may have overreacted a bit lol
Also, I'm editing this comment because I posted the above before finishing the video and omfg I have been asking myself that same question you mentioned "is this something a white man would apologize for" for the past 3-4 years because I read the same articles you did and I am DONE apologizing for basically existing. Also, I'm DONE wasting time making sure my "tone" doesn't come off as bitchy when I'm sending emails to my colleagues. I literally would waste soooo much freakin' time editing my words and trying to make my speech less assertive and more flowery so I don't come off as bitchy. Well, you know what? I'm fucking busy. I don't have time to waste being concerned about how someone may or may not interpret my tone, tf? I'm professional, courteous, and to the point, just like every other man in my office. They're not sending emails like "oh hey guys, not to be a pain but.." fuck outta here.
Imposter syndrome can kiss my ass lol, I belong here too (this is what I tell myself lol)
I apologize to people outside of the workplace pretty much everyday. My boyfriend catches me on it all the time but I find it terribly hard to not apologize whether I did/said something offensive or not. It's become a bad habit for me.
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How do you like DC? do you recommend it ?
I love it! I def recommend, but depends what you’re moving for i guess
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I was going to bite my tongue bc I love your Channel but I feel I need to say this. Your videos are about body positivity and respect in the workplace but you make a comment about “white men” in the workplace. That comment came across racist but not in a purposeful way. I think a lot of people of color don’t realize racism goes both ways and when you make comments about “white people” you are being a bigot. Think of it the other way. What if a white woman said something about the “black men” at her job….if racism is ever going to end we need to stop calling out people by their race and realize we are a human race.
Hello, I appreciate you commenting instead of biting your tongue because I would rather have an open discussion about these things. Racism shouldn’t be a divisive topic, it should be an opportunity for learning, an exchange of experiences. With that being said, I have to disagree. I don’t believe “reverse racism” exists. Additionally, merely saying “white men” or “white women” is not inherently racist. It’s no more racist that calling a black woman black. It’s a descriptive trait, an adjective. However, I think your argument is more so rooted in white fragility. I encourage you to read this article, or look up more information about this topic on your own:
www.vice.com/en/article/kwzjvz/dear-white-people-please-stop-pretending-reverse-racism-is-real
(More articles I really recommend, and are more recent):
momentum.medium.com/why-reverse-racism-is-a-myth-c2374b8837af
berkeleybeacon.com/solved-the-myth-of-reverse-racism/
And a quote from the article that particularly stands out:
"When you're so deeply invested in your privilege, and in this case white privilege, racial equality feels like oppression," said Anthony Morgan, a Toronto-based civil and human rights lawyer.
Simply put, Morgan said reverse racism doesn't exist and a person who claims otherwise is "outing themselves as someone who has little to no experience or knowledge of what racism is." At most my comment was an over generalization, but it definitely was not, and cannot be racist. Racism is based on power dynamics and oppression. White men have historically held power over minorities, and they still do. Therefore me saying “if a white man wouldn’t apologize for it in the workplace, you shouldnt either”, or alluding to that, is not a racist comment.
Another quote from the article that alluded to the point I’m trying to clarify:
Racism is based on a couple of things-historical, systemic oppression and power, Morgan explained. And as far as history goes, white people have never been persecuted for the colour of their skin-so there's no point comparing their experiences to those of black, brown, and Indigenous folks.
"It's slavery, colonialism, theft all kinds of violations on systemic proportions… versus feelings being hurt."
There's a difference, he noted, when white people who are in a position of power espouse a hatred of minorities than when it's done the other way around.” And that “difference” is power: institutionally, systemically, and historically given.
I also don’t agree that we should stop “calling people out” especially when it means holding the people in power accountable for their actions or for their inaction and their role in a systemically racist society. This idea that we should just realize we are rhe “human race” is a great and noble sentiment but it’s not realistic. Not only that, it erases the culture, lived oppression/experience that minorities have had to suffer through, and are still living through.
Oh hell nah. White people DO NOT experience racism. You can experience prejudice but not all prejudice is racism. What you’re doing, by trying to play victim here, it’s called white fragility. Don’t do that shit.
I would love an email etiquette and "being professional" at work video! 🤎🤎🤎 Thank you for the lovely content beautiful!
Love it! Will def discuss it in a future vlog!!🥰
It’s a really great topic to discuss ☕️ I too feel that women often saying sorry makes us look weak or inefficient rather than humble. Please make some more content on this, it will be really helpful 😊
yeah the way we are perceived in the workplace is truly unfair, but unfortunately we have to be more conscientious about how we present ourselves and show up
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