The thing that almost ended our relationship (plot twist!)
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- Опубликовано: 23 июл 2023
- Matthew and Paul discuss why their relationship almost ended a few months after it began (and how they ended up making it work).
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I’m dying!
Paul, of course Matthew’s first thought was “contact a lawyer”… he’s American! It’s what we do, right?! 🤣
Hahahaha that's a good point!
Ummm only the ones with money, us lower class have two options, talk it reasonably or go bat shet crazy on each other….the latter I’ll leave it to your imagination
I loooooove our country. Sure, some Things are a mess, like every country in the world, but we don’t suffer the concept of injustice without a fight. Some people are so oppressed that they don’t even know. (NK). But Americans will NEVER EVER not fight for individual freedom, the greatest minority of them all; the individual human. GB America 🇺🇸. Keep spreading the love.
Fr America is absurd 😅
Unfortunately, there are people who a drug mules. Some make frequent crossings. The sudden high frequency would have raised eyebrows no matter who you were. I'm not discounting that the border agent had personal issues, but often it is just the banality of bureaucracy. Scanning your passports would have triggered warnings.
From a european perspective, having grown up in the border region of the Netherlands and Germany this is just completely crazy to listen to. I can cross the border ten times a day and nobody would stop me and I dont see why Canada and the US didn‘t make such an agreement. It‘s not like their total enemys?
Anyway I‘m really happy it all worked out for you!
Everything is much cheaper in 'Murrkah. If we were able to make unlimited trips, we'd never spend a dime in Canada.
i used to date a guy in Seattle and spent half my week there every week for 6 months, and i've never heard this before. It is either a very new law, or they were profiled and centered out.
@@FablestoneSeriesThey said it was 2016, which was when Trump came into the picture, idk if that's related in any way though, cuz the timing they describe, Trump wasn't in office yet
@@BlueGlow26 Well my case was 20 years ago. And while it seems probable it is a new law, relationships between people living in the cities of Vancouver and Seattle are pretty common. I couldn't count the number of friends i have who at one time or another dated someone across the border. we're a border town, it happens a lot. So i still find this mind-boggling. I was a good friend with an American border agent and he never once ever said anything to this effect, and he himself was dating someone up here at the time. And what about truck drivers? MANY people cross the border every day. What about school kids living in Point Roberts who cross the border 2 to 4 times a day every week day. This doesn't make any sense.
My hunch is that they were centered out, and they should of or could of fought it, but i'm sure they are both glad they didn't and that it all worked out.
@@FablestoneSeries, I expect there are carve-outs for people who have a job in one area and live in the other because they would that work visas. One of my co-workers had his wife get a job in Vancouver so they moved up there while he was still working here in Seattle and he commuted down a couple times a week. That was definitely no issue. It looks like the law says 180 days for normal Canadian citizens, which feels very generous, so not sure how they managed it if they'd only been taking three months unless Paul had spent extended time in the US previously in the same year. That said, if they suspect you of drug trafficking or working illegally in the United States, they can cause quite a stink and then you do have to jump through extra hoops to prove you are actually there legally.
One of my best friends had a similar experience too. She was dating a guy in the US and was spending a couple months there at a time. They drove back to Canada for Canada day long weekend and then went to go back to the US After the 4th. They got blocked at the border for crossing too many times. So, they spoke to a lawyer who told them to get married. They did a quickie wedding in Ontario. Tried to cross again as a married couple and were blocked again. So they spent the first 2 years of their marriage apart while immigration dug into their entire relationship. She had to stay in Canada until the immigration process was completed. They've been married almost 20 years now.
This is so unfair!
Thats crazy.
Paul became an American for you! Matthew, you cherish the hell out of that man, because that is sacrifice right there.
At this point in history, I would rather be a Canadian then an American. Too much evil Jesus in the USA at the moment.
Agreed!
100% accurate
yeah that's sweet
also *US citizen, he was already American because Canada is an American country. America is a continent, not a country
@@CinnamonOwOgenuine question: do you also refer to South Americans as just Americans for this reason?
My fiancé is Canadian and I’m American and we totally understand this struggle. It’s been a JOURNEY
Your border crossed love story is like the story of ‘The Proposal’. Except you two were in love and didn’t have Betty White as a grandmother.
Haha! That was a cute movie!!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial Love that movie!!!!
We all wanted Betty White as our grandmother. ❤
Having Betty White as a grandmother would be amazing.
That means that Matthew IS Sandra Bullock... @@MatthewandPaulOfficial
Thank you for sharing. It touched me personally as I am a Brit and my husband (now sadly deceased) was American with a business in the US. One of the happiest days was when he became a UK citizen and indeed he wanted so much to be British that when he died, I put a copy of his British passport in his pocket for his final journey.
That's so sweet. I'm sorry for your loss
@moonxshakti thank you, he's been gone 13 years and not a day goes by that he isn't a part of my life
How lovely.❤️
So sad to hear about your loss. I lost my beloved boyfriend Raul, Nov 2019. I still cry everytime I talk about him or think. I was so depressed, I didn't feel as though I could go on and then the pandemic started and I was isolated for 18 months as I'm immunocompromised and almost lost my mind. I hope you are okay and moving on with your life. Glad you got to experience love and make wonderful memories. That is what I focus on now after getting grieve counseling.
@garydmercer Thank you and sorry for your loss. Sadly I have not got over my loss because Maurice was an extraordinary person and we shared so much. We had shared health issues which complicates things. I am 60 now and am happy with friendships. I wish you well and hope you find a new love.
I ordered two of the plushies Paul made.. wish you guys had a business email or something but I guess I'll just put this here. Your story is so catching and heartwarming.. I'm a veteran and someone in need of a new liver.. I'm 35 and may not make it to transplant as I have already had a heart scare where I had to be shocked into rhythm.. had many other problems including cancer but somehow I'm still here..
I decided after 4 years of not dating (with my health I didn't want to hurt someone who loved me if I died) that life is too short and precious to not love until the end.. watching you two helped me in finding that.. I now have a wonderful boyfriend and I can only hope some of your love comes through with the plushies ^^
Much love to you
I love this couple. Their story rings true for interabled couples, LGBTQ couples and international couples...so many obstacles overcome! What an inspiration! ❤
Man, if I was Paul's parent's I'd be like, "Did our blind little boy just get human trafficked!?" Seriously though you guys are a cute couple. I'm hoping Paul's parents had already met Matthew at this point haha.
Hahahahaha seriously!!
And yes, they had met him (and absolutely adored him from day one)
I mean yall have been together for 8 years. I'd be surprised if you didn't have any challenges throughout. Paul may be an angel but even they have flaws. Very glad yall are still going strong because I get to live vicariously through your wonderful relationship now 😅
There are always challenges along the way, that's what makes us stronger!
Wow, that's a doozy to have to decide to commit to a relationship after 3 months.
I am glad you two have found a way to make it work and got past the various hurdles in your relationship. As I said previously, even when you're just talking about ordinary, everyday things with each other, it seems as if you're constantly saying I love you. Truly, you both seem incredibly happy and suited to each other even if you have your differences.
And hearing that you fought is actually kind or reassuring to me that you're solid now. Because a solid relationship does take work, and to have fought and gotten over it means that you've figured out how to put in the emotional work you both needed. The fact that it all looks easy and unshakeable right now means you've built a solid foundation by finding and facing your differences, and that should make going forward easier.
Your stories are wonderful, and I truly wish you the best.
Yeah, it was a big turning point for sure!
I'm watching Paul's face when you were talking about sitting in the car and absorbing all this,and I swear I watched a fast replay of the whole course of emotions. A little scared, a little anxious,and then realizing that Matthew wasn't even considering any dropping of the relationship, the joy. Talk about micro expressions. Well. That all turned out well! ❤
Paul showing his Air Sign by wanting to move to an island indefinitely and Matthew showing his Capricorn by being practical and going to an expert first.
Ha-ha!
Paul is an air sign? It makes sense I either think air or Pisces lol 😂
I didn’t stop smiling throughout this entire interview! You both and your lives are such a joy to watch and listen to! You need your own TV show!!!
Their whole channel is such positive vibes, I get a happiness boost when I watch
@@rokukou same!
I'm gonna love this channel. This is so sweet. I'm physically disabled and dating hasn't exactly been easy for me, but it's nice seeing y'all in a healthy relationship. There's hope for me yet.
Not kidding, as soon as Matthew mentioned Paul's website I paused the video to check out the traditional painting. MY JAW DROPPED! Paul, is Waterfalls a vision from your dreams?
Bloody borders! Artificial constructs that cause so many people so much grief over the years. I’m so glad that everything worked out for you. You ’feel’ so right together it’d have been wicked to force you apart.
I played Viola for 6 Years. I walked away in college and to this day I regret it. I would love to hear more of your work Matthew and videos. I am 60 now and retired and there is no hope for me but I am always a violin fan
Amazing!!
My heart fell out of my butt when I read the title.
That’s certainly an interesting way to describe your emotions
I THINK I'LL TURN STRIGHT IF YOU TWO SPLIT UP , it would mean the end of my world , you 2 give me so much hope there is someone out there for everyone
Nothing can keep us apart!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficialso beautiful you are such a beautiful couple this is giving me strength. My boyfriend has a vision problem. I have probably glaucome and I really noticed how my vision is getting worser. It' s sometimes pretty scary. My vision has never been perfect I' ve several eye problems. When I hear your story I got hope and I feel so much better.
Omg this is so sweet of Matthew and so brave of Paul to do. Matthew is so thoughtful in doing things thoroughly and thinking of a solution. I can’t believe the fear in a relationship after just a few months that you’re moving in but from another country! You two are meant to be 🥺
You two are a match made in heaven why would you ever think about breaking up???
They have bad attitudes.
@@user-uq9eu5pf5h um, what…?
If you both weren’t so likable with great personalities I’d almost be upset by all the symmetry, perfect hair, and enchanting smiles happening.
I’m blown away by how cute Paul’s art is! I’m thinking of ordering the tigger print with 2 tiggers. For my son and I. I’ve always been obsessed with tigger and tigers in general 😍 the most adorable art!
I thought tigger was a typo for a moment til i got to the end of that. 😂
Awww, Paul would be very honored if your ordered the Tigger!!
Im super happy you didnt let borders stop you two being together! I love your love, its beautiful!
Also Paul your artwork is lovely!!!
Thank you so much!!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial you are very welcome!
This is actually a pretty crazy story. Im glad it worked out for you guys!
Paul is such a honey! Why can’t straight men be so nice, adorable and charismatic as Paul is?
Maybe there is a just God after all. 🏳️🌈💪😅
Masculinity. It's a tragedy honestly.
So glad you guys did not break up!
Y'all mean so much to each other!
You know we all love you guys❣️👍
When I saw the video, I read it as:
Why we broke up
And panicked! Hope you two always stay together! ❤
I wish there were more people like you two. You both just exude positivity energy and kindness
Never change !!
What a crazy yet heartwarming story. I'm glad it all worked out in the end. I'm really enjoying your stories of your relationship with each other & with the guude dog, thanks for sharing these precious moments of your life together. ❤
6:30 almost sounded like Matthew became a sex trafficker but with loving vibes 🤣 🤣 🤣 I'm kidding I'm kidding. Not many people willing to do so this for a partner these days. It's great seeing that love isn't just a word unlike most relationships I've seen. Love you guys and hope for the best future for you 2!!!
Hi Paul. I’ve just came across your channel. I think you two are the most adorable people ever!❤ My mother is “legally blind” but from what I gather from watching your videos, your vision and my mom’s vision is about the same. She was born with vision but lost it when she was almost two years old due to being dropped. The accident completely blinded her for a couple of years but light perception came back to her. Multiple surgeries were performed, but with so much scarring from the surgeries, nothing can be done. My mom is so much like you, she has the best attitude and never complains. She did go to the blind school growing up, and I do not want this coming across as mean because I’m not, but my mom said so many of the kids she grew up with have so much anger on the daily about their vision. Paul, you and my mom are doing it right. Picking up and moving on instead of self pity. I’m going to share your channel this weekend with my mom. She will love y’all!❤❤
Ps, coincidentally, my stepfather has RP as well. All peripheral vision is gone, but center vision is still enough to get around with ease.
❤
You two breaking up? Nah! It's equal to God kicking Jesus out of heaven.
BAHAHAHAHA-
@@phucanhellbruh frr
That’s very extreme.
@@mitrolltvJesus wasn’t an angel
Awww. That's the sweetest! ❤😊🎉
The support you have for each other is so beautiful. I wish I would have found you two sooner.
As european hearing that is so hard to understand. You come from two really wealthy countries, xooperating togateher and still someone counts how many times have you crossed a border? Like at least this border close regions should have freedom to move, i can guess some ppl have families on both sides
No wonder I instantly loved Paul’s energy!!! He’s Canadian and also a Leo!!! Explains everything for me. The Canadians I’ve met are just awesome and the Leo’s in my life have been superb. 🥰🖖💯
Oh you guys almost broke up? I like how you guys are authentic. Because most couples would pretend they would never break up and live happily ever after. Your relationship is real and healthy even with ups and downs
I can’t imagine y’all breaking up 😭 y’all are perfect for each other. Y’all are amazing ❤
You two are so adorable! I am new to your channel and I am really enjoying your content! Your attitude on life, in general, is top notch! Your smiles and laughter, contagious! Thank you! You are a breath of fresh air... Love it! Take care!
Welcome to our channel and THANK YOU!
Your fear unfortunately came true for my Canadian friend, whose relationship with her American girlfriend ended when COVID shut down the border. They tried to keep it going long-distance for a while, but eventually broke up a few months later.
Tell them you love each other too much! I adore your channel! 💜
Thanks for sharing storytime, Matthew and Paul.
Im so so happy it all worked out ,i can tell you both love each other so much and we love yall ..All that hard work payed off and look at y'all now ,Taking on the world with your books ,which i love and nothing in life is easy right ,but love always win if its meant too be..I love you both and you brighten up my day✨💜🥰✨
Awww, Michael your father was so supportive and had a fabulous idea to consult a lawyer. But could anyone else imagine having to do that just to be with the person you love?? I'm glad to see that love prevailed! You two, and Mr Maple, always bring a smile to my face😊❤
What a great story you guys!! Yall OBVIOUSLY made the right decision!!! ❤
My goodness because same thing with my partner. He’s American and I’m Canadian and we had the same thing happen and we’re worried as well!!
Finally we did figure it out and thankfully it all worked out. So glad you two figured it all out. You’re love for each other is so beautiful and heart warming
I will be waiting I know you guys are so loving to each other.
Wow, this is so inspiring. Thanks for sharing your stories
You guys just keep getting more inspirational.:)
Aww thank you
I'm So glad that you guys didn't break up like yall made for each other ❤
Wow !! What a story, and what a difficult situation you two found yourselves in ! I'm so glad things have worked out well ...
I just found your channel recently and I already love you both!! You're both so wholesome and I love the way you support eachother ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
LOVE YOU GUYS!!...from Alabama. I look forward to your videos... I’ve done long distance and know how hard it is. Congrats to you both. Already ordered my copy of “ The Pengrooms”.
Thank you!! I hope you enjoy the book!!
I haven't painted for three years, I lost all faith in myself, you have made me want to paint again, thank you so much. You are such beautiful people.
Sometimes problem turn into good things ! So happy for you both ! Before I retired going across the border multiple times a year I understand how it can be and that was part of my job ! Happy it all worked out for the best ! ❤️
Yep, it all worked out in the end!!
Ooo can’t wait for this! Even though I know it’s going to be an happy ending. Obviously! 😅💞
Hello. You guys make me smile, cry, laugh, move me greatly and thank you from all my heart. Hello from Australia
I just came from your video with Molly and subbed right away!! I cant wait to binge your videos and get to know the three of you!!
What a crazy ride and how the border agent played the 'card' dealt to the 2 of you to make a decision in such a short time! Universe was working with you not against you and you both step up! Wonderful that you both were ready to hear and accept the next steps of your life together! I am sincerely routing for you Paul to discover what's next for your natural creative talents. Your blindness is allowing you to find yet another way to express your artistry. ❤ No doubt with Matthew by your side and with you both supporting each other the world is your oyster!
Just came across you guys on my feed. Really enjoying your stories and personalities. Y’all are too cute.
Thank you so much 🤗
But you guys "make a great team" ❤❤
I got my book yesterday and my boys love it, we all love it!! So beautiful ❤❤
Glad you enjoy it!
Wohoooooooo...another video...but you guys are gonna make us wait for a longer period....but love you guyssss❤
I’m so so depressed and I’m at a point in my life I feel like I will never find that person, but somehow this makes me feel super happy. Seeing how different you guys are, but gel well and seeing that there are still couples who will take that leap for each other when it calls for it.
You will find someone when u least expect it ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I was 43 when I met my female partner. We have now been happily together for 26 years.
@bejoybenice Same here
@@nicky8385 unfortunately It's not always like that (above all if you're a woman, you're 49.....and 7 years ago have been diagnosed with MS)
You may never meet anyone. That's okay too. Not everyone does.
I love your videos! Thank you for sharing 💕
I think you guys are an amazing couple, and I have watched every video ❤
THANK YOU
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial and by the way, my name is Mattthew, which makes Paul’s MATTHEW that much more funny!
@@msorn3you could use it as a ringtone
I love you guys and Mr Maple. I would love to meet you guys. Y'all brighten my heart everytime I see your videos. May the New Year bring plenty happiness and blessings💜💜💜
To be forced to move in with each other was a major test that you were meant to be. You are perfect together.
My first thought when you said they were warning you at the border was. "Why not ask an immigration lawyer? Many lawyers will do a free consultation and/or there are free/low-cost clinics if it's a money thing..."
Well well well hi there Paul! Long time no see. 🙈 Imagine my surprise when a video of you popped up in my feed. It's so refreshing to watch how vibrant and alive you still are and how you're thriving. Stay cool 😎 --your old friend Ethan
Hey Ethan! Send me an email paulcastlestudio@gmail.com
Hahaha. This is very interesting story time. I love it. Thank you for sharing with us ❤
Enjoyed every bit of this❤❤❤❤
Nice to see you both in front of the camera most of the time Matthew is behind the camera love your videos thank you for sharing your story
This may be the most uplifting and adorable video about almost ending a relationship 🤣
It's cold now here due to tropical depresseion and my toes got tickled watching you narrated Paul about having decided to stay and be with Matthew. A brave heart and decisiveness to leave your stuff as they were because you coildn't go back anymore to get them yourself. Oh! What love can do. Will put everything to nil just to follow what one's heart beats for! So romantic! ❤❤ but there's nothing comparable than being with the one you love 🥰
If this had happened to me, my first thought would have been "SECRET TUNNEL"
I randomly got one of your shorts where Mathew was hiding against the wall with art work. Fell in love with your content from there.
Oh my gosh! I LOVE your story!! ❤❤❤❤
My question is about Paul's website. Did you create all those pictures? They are ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL!! I am filled with such happiness & joy, almost to tears over admiring them. Just wonderful! Thank you for sharing!!
I'm so glad that I found you guys!!👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍❤❤
You two are adorable. Thank you for sharing your positivity with the world.
One question, was Mr Maple having a well-earned rest?
If you guys separate then it will bring tear down to me coz sometimes I go to RUclips just to watch you guys videos ..! I pray that you guys will solve without separate 🙏🙏 . Love you guys ❤❤❤ ..!
I had no idea there was a limit to how many days you can spend in the other person’s country. Love you guys! 💕
“Painting paintings”
That's so Mattewwww😂
The personalities of you two are like the opposite, best in the best and complimentary way 💙
I truly hate those bastards at the border. You are not doing anything illicit. I am so glad everything worked for you guys! Much, much love ❤️
Why are they bastards for doing their jobs?
Yeah blame politicians for bad imigration and visa laws.
Too much border crossing. They were obviously trafficking drugs. 😂
Imagine being so hateful towards folks, doing their job. Save your anger for those who deserve it. Unless you enjoy it.
@@StrawberryWyldeflowerit’s more the fact that it feels targeted. Someone else in the comments talked about doing something similar and they never experienced this. Idk if it was targeted, but it made me raise an eye brown.
Even their almost-break-up story is wholesome
So glad you two worked it out. You're adorable together. Such a great couple
Omg! I sooooo ❤ both of you! Where can I find your podcast? ❤
Your story proved love conquer anything and everything. Love always win!! ❤
Canada's loss, is our gain...good for us/US! This video sounds like a plot for a romance movie!❤
Now that we're married we are thinking about getting Matthew Canadian citizenship!
Paul your artwork is incredible!
Completely adorable story notwithstanding, I loved the irony that Paul looked all over the whole time and Matthew stared straight ahead for most of it! haha You guys are adorable though.
I had no clue this was a problem. Crazy. So glad it worked out for you. You two were meant to be together. ❤❤
I appreciate the relationship the two of you have without knowing about your fighting ❤
THANK YOU
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial Thank you. You two are great
My partner and me have a similar story ! We met in Sweden during our studies and I had to come back to France to do my masters there, but he is Turkish so there was NO WAY he could enter the country more or less permanently without us getting married, which seemed like a pretty big commitment at the time (we didn't plan on getting married ever tbh haha). We spent 6 month going back and forth between Sweden and France, and then we got married and moved in together right away !! It was a pretty big commitment and we had our ups and down for sure, but as you said in your video about knowing he was "the one", we established great communication tools from the get go and we are living so happily now ! Every time he goes on a trip for more than one week, he is counting the days until coming home to me 🥲Anyways, so happy it worked out for you in the end, sending much love from France 😘
Wow that's crazy I thought it would be easy to move to the states or Canada 😮thx for the information ❤
Hi Matthew and Paul. All the way from Australia here. I just want to say that I love your videos and you guys are adorable.....Not going to lie though, I originally clicked for Maple hahaha. keep up the awesome videos and thank you for sharing your life with us like you do.
Thanks so much!!
Enjoyed your story!❤
Glad you enjoyed it!