If You're Single, God Has Not Forgotten You - Tim Conway
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- Опубликовано: 9 авг 2011
- Do you say to yourself, "I'm single and God has forgotten me, He has not given me a spouse yet!" If that is you, may it not be so, for God numbers the very hairs on your head, He has not forgotten you.
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Why?
@@jwow19 It was meant to be 🙂.
@@szilardfineascovasa6144 Comments were turned off at one point but are on now. I don’t like very much when people want to talk at you but don’t want to hear your opinions or issues.
@@johnz4328 I get ya.
On another hand, pastors don't have answers for any question. They struggle just as us. They do as good as they can.
But the crowd vent their frustration on them, since they are "the closest thing".
I see both ends.
It's so hard. I became a Christian when I was 23, and I am 37 now, 14 years of waiting and hoping, still single. Sometimes I have little faith and believe God had prepared one for me, I need to wait a little more time. sometimes I am so sad and cry a lot, thinking that God maybe don't really care about my marriage, or he doesn't really love me as he loves others. All of my unbeliever friends who are around my age, have got married, many of them have a loving relationship. It looks like they live in heaven and I am in some kind of hell.
I am around your age and in a bit of a similar situation.. For some reason all my friends decided to settle down into serious relationships this year. Normally being alone only bothers me a bit but the constant relationship talk from my friends really got to me. Don't get me wrong, they often talk about the fights they have so I know it is not perfect for them all the time but the time fact that never having a companion can really wear one's soul down. God bless and try to keep having faith.
@@lets-allplay Thank you for your comfort. Praise the Lord. I am going up and down all the way till now, sometimes struggling in the worries, sadness, and sometimes have a little faith and still trust HIM.
It's still a good age, don't lose hope. I have a friend who gave up at 39. She thought: "well, that's it. I'm about to reach my 40s, so apparently, I'm staying single and childless for the rest of my life." So she decided to focus on her own joy, and for the first time she forgot about the obsession of finding a husband. Well, that same year she met him. And it was so obvious for them that they were each other's "the one", that they got engaged very soon and got married very soon. She was even blessed with a little girl at 40, and a little boy at 42. It gave me hope when she told me that story when I was 36. Unfortunately, it doesn't give me much hope anymore because I'm 43 now. But I share it with you because it can still be your case.
It hurts but I choose joy. It might not make sense to me but I trust the LORD. God is always good. He is not out to get us or mock us. God loves his children.
🙏🙏🙏
Sarah, I agree it does hurt. I know God has kept me single because of serious emotional trauma I experienced as a child. Sexual and emotional abuse! So as much as it hurts knowing that marriage is not coming to me, I do understand why singleness was necessary for me. I have a friend who married his childhood sweetheart and she was a wonderful, active teenager serving God. Everyone loved her and cheered when my friend proposed. The wedding was beautiful and they set off on their honeymoon to Mexico. The wedding night was a nightmare. Unknown to anyone she had been severely sexually abused, tortured, and raped by relatives as a little girl. She had totally repressed these memories, but when they tried to consummate their marriage she flashed back, freaked out, and became PTSD. My friend has been dealing with her in and out of mental hospitals over the past few decades and has not been able to experience sexual intimacy with his wife!
It's hard to choose joy when you have none left
We need to have intimacy the way those aliens did in the movie Cacoon!
I am almost 44 and still single, but God in His wisdom knows what is best for me. Maybe He has someone for me in my future, maybe not. But this life is short, and when I get to Heaven the only thing that will matter is if I loved and obeyed God.
You’ve never been married before? Are you waiting in purity?
@@nadinegomez8858 why do you assume that sin is involved? Yes it's true that God blesses obedience but I don't know anyone who was sinless before marriage. Christ died for all our sin and extended mercy and forgiveness to all. Your comment made me think of Jobs friends. They were judgy, played the blame game not to mention kicking a fella when he's down. Are you feeling unhappy with something in your own life perhaps? Just sayin
Am 63 and never married
@@MM-re3dn because sin always involved. There is no escaping it.
@@thedrizzlefactory8600yes sin is something we all battle whether single or married..however sometimes there are truly Godly Christians for whom God did not give a spouse to. Perhaps it's was not his will for them ..we just can't assume that an older unmarried Christian is always involved in sin .Couples sin also but God doesn't withhold from them because of it.
My advice to any Christians who are struggling with this: be careful about the kind of advice you may receive from your pastor and other Christians. "Just seek God first!", "Pray harder!", "Is your heart in the right place?" etc only goes so far. Some of these platitudes are so shallow and devoid of meaning, you wouldn't even tell it to young person, let alone a grown adult.
My advice is, you gotta put yourself out there and be willing to take a risk. Of course, you have to find a healthy balance as well. Try to be friendly - or, make it easy for the other person, but you don't want to overwhelm them either. Is it not always easy. But it doesn't happen by staying home and praying all day. Maybe for some it does, but it did not work that way for me.
The devil is a busy matchmaker. He provides an endless supply of counterfeits and heartbreakers.
@@hmmm............... sir or mam, i dont think you know what you’ve typed/said, but that is wrong,it is not to bring you down, but rather to let you know that it is incorrect to think that or want that thing which is not something that would be good.
That rhymed my friend, maybe you should be a song writer
Real talk 💯
3 Years??? Dude. These people have endured decades.
Single my entire life I'm 32
@@hmmm............... Jesus was single for 33 years but was far too busy doing GOD'S will and ministering to OTHERS to notice never mind complain...
@@leenieledejo6849 Did Jesus dismiss people's suffering or did he care that they were suffering? How do we ignore such a serious cause of pain in some people's lives and then say we care about them? It is not complaining when you say something about your hurt in life and reach out to those you expect to help you.
I'm almost 47 and been single all my life
@@lamonthaney3643 I would really like to see a chart showing out of the total adult population how many people have never married.
I will never understand the casual attitude the church has toward remaining single. It’s almost as if some people think there will be no pain hurt or negative consequences if you never fulfill this God given desire. I think that this issue pushes more people away from the church than many care to realize. I want to know what this church and all churches do to help singles? The answer is probably nothing but it has to be asked over and over again!
So true , single and living the Christian life is hard but not spoken about or addressed by the church. Its easy to get a non Christian partner but hard to get a Christian one
ruclips.net/p/PLhdQ1ESE0GdmA55J23DcCdWiuu9-udydf
EXACTLY, you have be heard ❤️❤️❤️
There are degrees of churches caring about single members. Some do really care and try to meet the needs of the single people among the congregation. Most however really don't care and just give platitudes and lip service to hurting single people. And a few actually seek to get rid of those who have been single for a long time. There was a man who was single and 54 years old. The pastor pulled him aside one Sunday and said he was upsetting some of the parents because they feared he might be a pedophile or child molester and would he please leave the church! Totally unacceptable!
@@Anthony-yy3kc How sad certainly not a Christian attitude toward that man
We all need to love God, serve him, and proclaim the gospel message whether we are single or married!
I am 51 and still single. I dont loose hope. I believe God has a great plan for my life, the best for me in my singleness or my future marriage for His glory 😊
Savedina. I don't loose hope either, but I am a realist. I have been single all of my 65 years. I love the Lord although I am going through some depression right now because I am realizing that marriage is not coming to me!
@@Anthony-yy3kc i have been serving the Lord as Sunday school teacher about 20 yrs now. Never loose hope.. God is good 😇
While we cannot know with 100% certainty whether or not we will get married in the future, we can find our hope in the fact that regardless of whether we get married or not, God is able to take us through any situation in our lives. Where he leads, he provides. Christ is enough in any & every situation. Don't loose hope. Both marriage & singleness can be blessings. We should glorify & serve God is all phases of life in our unique circumstances that God has purposefully placed each of us in. It is always true that God is good & gracious & knows what's the best for us even if we don't feel the same way at the moment.
@@sumanthpaul7724 There is often a dismissive and sometimes cold attitude toward people who claim suffering from long term singleness. Growing old as a Christian never having a spouse is much harder than some will ever give it credit for being.
This sermon teaches and waters the seed in the heart that desires to love God as a single person. It's been on my heart for a long time to be married and to date and I got impatient.. I was upset with myself and thought I must be a blight. And when others would tell me Ill meet somebody some day I found it hard just to believe them. But Christ and Paul were single. Tim is right that it DOES give us far more time to spend serving the Lord and getting to know Him more than if I were married years ago.
God allows us to be single for His purposes and I can trust HIS PURPOSES are ALWAYS good and for my good.
I so often forget this or didn't want to believe this but for some reason- today is the day.
It dosnt harden the heart to be aware and accepting of these good truths about God and singleness.
May God help us desire Him more and be more on fire for Christ. If the Father is preparing us to be a boon to the helper He has for us- that's much well and good- if He reveals to us how we can be more devoted to Him and perfectly content- all the better!
I pray that sincerity stays and remains for as long as God wills the moment for us to find our helper.
I need to pray in faith and remain content in the waiting. Whatever the outcome- God is faithful and just. Amen.
3 years single? Try being single your entire life
Yes.. I can't take anyone seriously who hasn't been single for at least 10 years.
Absolutely! I have been single my whole life. I think I am going to be alone forever. Not my will, but his I guess.
@@tammymiles4369 me too
Precisely, 40+ years single carrying the cross of singleness.
@@tammymiles4369 God sure is great isn't he?
Forgotten is too strong a word, more like abandoned and ignored.
Haha, 3 years?? My "season" is almost 36 years and counting. Oh ask Him? Why didn't I think of that!!
I feel your pain I'm a life long single man 33 years and counting, ask and you shall receive.....silence......all I get is silence.
7 years single. I'm tired to be honest. Not self pity just tired. When the desire for a husband is so strong. I've prayed to ask Him to take it away of it's not His will but it's still there. But the seasons have been long
Almost exactly the same situation here. 9 years.
Sick of being alone my whole life. Three years is not 37 year. Try that and you will not like it. Punishment.
I understand Marsha. I will remember you in my prayers. Please look up Pastor Jim Kibler on RUclips..he has powerful miracle ministry.
Try 50 years like me.
I totally agree with you and I’m almost 55
I just cannot understand why there are so many Christians who are single and never married? These things ought not be!
Let me GUESS - he’s married
That was very helpful to hear those lies out loud- and replaced by the truth. Thank you.
I’m single with a high sex drive yet I don’t wanna sin. It’s such a hard place to be I feel like breaking down & crying & I DO from time to time
Same here.
He stops us from getting married, & then wonders why we sin.
Give us the chance to get married, & we'll take it. Problem solved.
That hasn't happened in the 32 years that I've been alive.
@@James_Is_Free because we must learn obedience. If you have a high sex drive and cannot fulfill it righteously then you must put that desire to death by constantly crying out to God! I have a high sex drive too, and I have spent a lifetime learning to surrender it to God. It is possible to not sin sexually as a single person, but it is also difficult! I don't want to sound indifferent but I guess it's ultimately about denying ourselves and taking up Jesus's cross daily!!
@@Anthony-yy3kc "God commands man and woman to leave father and mother and become husband and wife through uniting in a one-flesh act that seals their love, and which can bring forth children."
I will not go against this scripture. God is the one stopping this from happening.
@@James_Is_Free yes ultimately he is! It's his will.
@@Anthony-yy3kc "& become husband and wife through uniting in a one-flesh act that seals their love, and which can bring forth children.""
He didn't want this for me.
Everything God does IS for our good. While I am 42...and a 42 year old virgin, even (hedge of protection around me is good enough to keep the devil's whores away), I have found that is in solitude that I was able to break away from the Catholicism I started in, because I was too detached from what remained of my family to care. It is in my detachment I was able to to listen to decades worth of preaching in a relatively short amount of time. And even that detachment came about due to a whole lot of bullying I experienced while young, and being just slightly autistic. Just that LITTLE bit off. I still struggled with internet sin for a long time, but I learned a trick from this channel in particular...you can ask Jesus for the sake of His own name to help you overcome temptation...and it WORKS. Gotta thank you for that one. I was doing it wrong, trying to will myself to better behavior. Still, turns out it is much easier to reject the world and its pleasures if the world rejects you first. Just as God must call us first before we respond, it is equally helpful if the world rejects us first so we can respond to that.
Amen 🙌🏿. God bless you brother 🙏🏿
I've been single all of my life (a male now in my mid 30s) and have also struggled with the why I'm not married yet. It can get lonely as you age because most of your family and friends go about in the "usual way of life" by starting their own family. Plus I think the church could do a better job at loving, using, and reaching out to their single siblings in Christ, but that's a topic for another day. Is God fair? Is something wrong with me? Am I cursed? Will I be single forever? I think I'm even serving the Lord more than that other person and yet He hasn't blessed me like that! The questions can go on and on. It can led to bitterness, resentment, and doubt. I get over it of course, but sooner or later it often comes back. But God knows the longings of our hearts, and those that which are good that He put there. The search for marriage at times for me can become an idol if I'm really honest, but my deepest longing must be for Him. In the hardest times are when we grow the most. Plus, being able to go and do the things for Him that I have been able to do, the things I've never dreamed of doing, I wouldn't be able to if I were married. And I've never regretted it. God has purpose in our singleness, that to which I have to embrace again and again. The different seasons in our lives are under His loving rule and He will give us the grace we need for every step of the way- even sexual purity. If I really believe God is sovereign, then if He wants me married He can surely get me married. I'm just hoping it's too far off. But live for His kingdom and glory with an eternal perspective friends. For who we are in our singleness, we will also take into our marriages.
It's so funny I just found this video now without looking for it. I have been searching Christian singleness videos for over a month now and never once saw this one. This is one of the best videos I have seen and it really helped. Just before the new year I was going through a huge pity party and depression because of my desire for a wife. I succumbed to sexual sin with myself and although I felt better for a moment, I felt bad afterward.
I pray to God for all those who struggle with singleness and the desire for a mate. May the God of all things bring us to our mated in this new year! In Jesus's name. Amen!
Amen to this. God bless you brother 🙌🏿🙏🏿
That's curious because I had a very similar experience with looking for this kind of videos and not finding this one until much later.
@@lauryb The devil works hard to hide good advice for God's children.
For the sake of a man's help and provision. It's hard being on your own when life crashes down on you.
I have been single since 2016,and I have been praying ever since,maybe god just wants me to be all alone eventhough I would't want that.
Since 2014 in my case...
Thank you so much for this.... I needed this
. You knew it and thank you for the encouragement. I will choose to believe .
You don't know what you are talking about. You are not 73 years old. Since 1984 when I got saved I have been alone.Years and years. You have no idea what it's like. I will be dead soon!!
I truly sympathize with you I’m in my 50s never married and no children. Needless to say it’s been a very ugly part of my life. I wish the church would step up and help singles but I don’t see it.
The dogma of the church is that all we need is their idol Christ. They don't really give a crap about pain and suffering here because they just tell everyone to submit more to the idol. They do nothing. The church has more in common with Babylon. Sorry for your pain. No one wants to actually get real and talk about this. The church is lost beyond measure.
I feel I should marry a non Christian. I will ask for forgiveness after marriage, but i can't remain single.
@@ajaykumarmallick3080 That's ridiculous and childish. You can't do something purposely and then "ask forgiveness" because it wouldn't be sincere and God isn't mocked.
All I see in these comments are spoiled petulant children and mostly men.
Go walk in the shoes of a poor widow of 5 kids in Africa and you'll be too busy for self-pity!
Self-pity is the most obvious work of the flesh and the flesh ("SARX" in Greek, meaning carnal or human nature, not "soma" meaning "body") is supposed to be "crucified" (Romans 6:6, Galatians 2:20 & 5:24) at conversion.
Jesus came in the "sarx" (1st John 4:2-3) but it was crucified in the wilderness where He spent 40 days (Matthew 4). Similar to Paul who spent years in the wilderness post-conversion.
Read what he says about the "sarx" and the spirit in Romans 8 & Galatians 5 & 6.
Too many people calling themselves "Christian" are walking in the flesh and it's impossible to be a Christian and walk in the flesh (it's actually an oxymoron: Romans 8:9).
Jesus, as well as Paul and the other single apostles never once complained about being single: they were toobusy doing God's will and serving others. And they had JOY because joy is part of the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) and is NOT dependent on circumstances.
Satan the "father of lies" (John 8:44) sure has a lot of people on here convinced of his lies and I suspect it's because you are all listening to the lies and deception of the entertainment industry, social media and the world system instead of being convinced of the truths in Scripture - and Conway points out plenty of verses in this video!
Y'all need to repent of your self-absorption and unbelief: that would be a good start!
@@ajaykumarmallick3080 I've contemplated doing that.
Over 12 years I’ve been single. I rather be married to the Kingdom of God than to be married to heathen worldly women. I’ve been through a lot of heartbreak and disappointments in relationships and I give up finding it all because most of the women I this society are unfaithful in love and within themselves. I gave my life up for God and I know it’s for the best.
i’m tired of being tired
Galatians 6:9 - And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.
@@illbehonest not tired doing good. but of being tired
Don't you know that there are believers who are single for life?
I am single and have a bigger heart. I can go anywhere I want. I do not suffer financially. I have the time to do volunteer work. Yet I have no husband. Yes looking back I would have had a failed marriage because of my unresolved issues. I gave up dating and remained true for 15 years just working on myself and serving the LORD. I finally felt complete so I asked the LORD for a husband. Nothing. I have no regrets, no one to forgive. All clean spiritually and all around but no husband. Each time I get ready to go on a date is is so horrible when we text that it never gets to a date. If I am close actually going on a date and I asked GOD he give me a straight answer that you just cannot deny then boom no bueno. So now my question is am I to continue to serve you alone or will I marry. If I am to be alone please remove the desire. Now I wait for the answer. Regardless I will be true to GOD because he knows better but just remove the desire.
No one gave you an answer... maybe someone finally gotem you're pouring your heart out, being really.. my hat off to you
Don’t let married people convince you that single life is easy a of course you have people to forgive. And you know what - it’s a lot easier to forgive a husband who adores you and provides for you than the people in your life that you have to forgive. Married people pressure us to feel like our relationships don’t require sacrifice but they DO and we have difficulties as well
My only kind of advice to you is to NOT give up dating, especially if some married person told you to even though they married young. Go and GET your husband (if you want to or can or feel God telling you to) - because God didn’t say you HAVE to be passive. I hope you find him because you deserve as husband as much as any married woman does.
Praise the Lord. Thank you brother for that message. 🌿
Very good. This is encouraging.
Thank you i needed to hear this, i just came across your talk, i was searching something that can encourage me during this period, i needed to hear God's himself say he still gonna do it. Holding on is not easy but i believe he has good plans for me to give me hope and a good future that he will meet the desires of heart. Like Abraham as long as i can see it or desire it had its in the alignment of God's will i will have it.. thank you sir.
😟thanks for this reminder and that post that brought me here 😑that's person is me always Grumbling in singleness
Lately I was thinking it was soo easy to get a partner thru worldly ways
But now that am born again it's impossible
I live in a secular ground
The Christian guys I met are more new agers then anyone else
And last night only I was saying God I don't wanna be single but God I don't wanna marry some who looks for Proverbs in new testament that's a BIG NO.
HAHA!
THIS SERMON HELPED 🙏
Stay strong sister. God is faithful. I’m in the same boat
Lovely to hear that there are other sisters like that. Thank you and Praise the Lord 🌿🙌🏻And god bless you sister x
isnt proverbs in the new testament, though?
@@thos1000 proverbs is old testament my guy! Read your Bibles.
Blessed be the name of the most high God.
I needed this. Thank you.
I needed to hear this
One of my favourite.
Thank you 😭❤️
I just watch people and I can pretty much tell who is married . Dating= holding hands , smiling, he holds the door, etc.. married = the woman or the man walks 5 ft behind the spouse , she opened her door, they argue over apples and cinnamon or Maple and brown sugar oatmeal ..marriage is sacred and beautiful and some are blessed to handle it. Most are not . Single is a blessing!
Marriage is a blessing for all not just some.
Easy to say Thais couples argue but they also get love and sex and babies.
Single people have all kinds of problems - statistically less healthy and happy. No one to look after them when they’re old and if they get sick and can’t work guess who’s paying the bills - NO ONE
But married people are the ones who have it hard because they CHOOSE to argue about stupid things. No, maybe they should just work harder at choosing joy the way they expect single people to who have REAL problems and don’t have the luxury of arguing about apples
Well...a bad marriage makes not marriages in general bad.
My grandparents had real hardship in their life, of the magnitude most can't comprehend today (war, Communism, seven mouths to feed, kicked out from their "safe" Baptist church for daring to sincerely ask the whys of a doctrine), yet loved each other like two teenagers til the end.
When Adam and Eve were kicked out of Eden, they left with the clothes on their backs and the marriage. It is, therefore, the only thing out of God's original plan that we still have today 🙂. Happy marriages DO exist, I see them all around me...in the lives of those willing to work to honor what is worthy of honor.
Both singleness and marriage are curses in their own right
@@hmmm............... You meant: "can be" - unless you really think you can speak for all 🙂, which is unlikley.
Maybe people should try singles ministry to get to know one another and going out
I agree, but not every single church has that unfortunately.
Hello! I guess it.s about faith here..but there is free will too.I mean,if you just stay home or idk..and waiting to 'fall from the sky' it will not happen 🤷🏻♂️
I'm alone too,and i've learned people have expectations...mostly material ones 😔
..i am a humble person and girls avoid that (even if i'm honest,pacient,good heart,love animals,open to talk,no drink,no smoke ect)
Still nothing. I’ve prayed over and over and begged him. I will not eat ANYTHING until I find someone. I’m over it. I’m over the lonlieness. I’m completely done.
Sir please don’t think like that,trust in God,believe in Jesus Christ, and be led by him, and remember that we also need to do things that Jesus Christ commanded us to do.Here are some passages from the scriptures.
Mark 11:23-26
King James Version
23 For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.
24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
Matthew 28:19
King James Version
19 Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:
Acts 2:38
King James Version
38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
Romans 8:14
King James Version
14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Acts 23:11-14
King James Version
11 And the night following the Lord stood by him, and said, Be of good cheer, Paul: for as thou hast testified of me in Jerusalem, so must thou bear witness also at Rome.
12 And when it was day, certain of the Jews banded together, and bound themselves under a curse, saying that they would neither eat nor drink till they had killed Paul.
13 And they were more than forty which had made this conspiracy.
14 And they came to the chief priests and elders, and said, We have bound ourselves under a great curse, that we will eat nothing until we have slain Paul.
@@Pedro-of4tn I understand his frustration and hopeless feeling. I used to feel that way to, but after I certain time I simply gave up trying. If he wants to go on a hunger strike he has that right!
Apostle Paul is single too. Dedicating all his life to Jesus. I respect him.
Blah, blah, blah, given from someone who is already married and not having felt the pain of prolonged singleness. It’s easy just to throw a message like this when you haven’t gone through it. Many people end up disappointed with God because of messages promising something and they don’t get it. We need to be extra careful about saying God will do something for someone just because He did it for you. He works with each person differently.
Lowkey true though... I wonder why no pastor can EVER explain the truth which is that there are FAR more godly women than men in the body of Christ now
The truth is that many Christian singles will suffer with singleness alone and no church wants to admit it. They don’t really like to talk about it and they certainly don’t want to do anything about it. It’s a sad situation but reality. I don’t like to have to say this but it’s true. I believe more singles will have to speak out loudly and at every opportunity for things in the church to ever change. I don’t know this pastor but I bet he already forgot he made this video.
@@jwow19 thank you!!!!! Glad someone understands. I was just reading in the comments of a video and the minister quoted something he read that if you want to serve Jesus, stay single.....if you want to be like Jesus, get married. I was surprised when I saw that. We ALL, married and single, have the possibility to BOTH serve and be like Jesus.
Thank you!!
@@jwow19 sometimes even when we speak up for more inclusion of and content for singles in churches they think you're bitter or jealous. I feel as if some married Christian woman are threatened by single women in the church
3 years? How about 8 years? I have not been able to meet anyone suitable in years . I have asked for years. I don’t understand - I am attractive yet have not met anyone or something always went amiss. I don’t even know why I’m writing here anyway. No one will even read it
Pray God will guide you where he wants you to go after all God as his and your best interests.
How about 50 years. Every year of my life, someone female or even male, will tell me I'm handsome, but it does me no good. A good woman I really wanted to be with preferred some big, dumb, goofy looking slug over me. I know god hates me, he proves it all the time.
@@theoneandonly6431 please don't equate God not giving you what you desire as if he hates you! He loves you more than anything! Ok for some reason unknown to you he has not brought you a wife. But when you think about what he endured on the cross to reconcile us back to the Father never say he doesn't love you!
@@Anthony-yy3kc Loves me? Ok, a little less love then.
1. Our lives our not our own. We don't deserve anything. 2. He is right...our life is passing away like the blink of an eye. 3. In my opinion, it is worse to fall into sexual sin. It leads to way more brokenness and hurt than being single. Sorry to be harsh. FYI, single right now. Sometimes I don't want to trust the Lord, like I don't feel it. But it is a choice like love. I wouldn't even be able to love if it wasn't for God's love for me. I would be void and empty. Single or not. I love because He first loved me.
Here's the rub: this guy is married. It is very easy and quite insensitive for a man living in a lush rainforest to tell the man dying of thirst in the desert that water is overrated..you life is not your own....you don't deserve anything. If he was dying of thirst I could almost respect it, but he is well watered. Get outta here.
@@bella50008 It is not a fair comparison. A Godly marriage is hard. And to look at him and say the grass is greener is wrong. Jesus is the living water. You have to hate your life to follow Him. That’s it.
@@bella50008 we are all dying of thirst. Marriage is not the end pr the answer. Jesus is. You have to want Him more because only he can satisfy.
It’s amazing how heartless married people are to singles!
Been single since 2006! Lol
Ohh!! Three years LOL!! 22 years and counting.
Does anyone know of any ministries that take the hardships of long term singleness seriously? Just curious if someone could mention one.
Apply Gods Word is a good one for singles and covers the many topics related to being single
Also RC Blakes
Pastor Jim Kibler here on RUclips. He specifically prays for people to find a mate
Yes. Apostle Joshua selman Nigeria
FOCUS ON GOD'S WILL AND SERVING OTHERS, just as Jesus and Paul did: both single.
My goodness, it's not as if there aren't examples for Christians: just the entire New Testament 🤦🏻♀️
I'm getting really angry because I'm single
No this is me too.. I'm sick of this stupid season.
It's okay to be angry .. it's a natural response .. but we must PRAY FOR HELP TO KEEP OUR EYES ON JESUS
@@Lia_872 After 32 years of lifelong singleness poverty And disability I can honestly say that praying does not help
@@hmmm............... oh… I’m sorry
@@Lia_872 I have been single most of my life. I know celibacy is possible because I have done it. If everytime one gets an "urge" surrender it to the Lord and ask him to remove it. He may not take away the desire for marriage, but he will take away our trials in this regard one at a time!
So true
If you are not satified when you are single with God, marriage wont neither satisfy your soul. In matter of fact, it would be an idolatry.Maybe that's why God is not giving you a spouse. He will do his work until God is only thing you crave and satisfied for.
Don't forget that we are created for his Glory. If God give us a spouse, its good thing and something we give thank to God. But even if God gives us nothing it is his will. We can't blame God. We just have to give him glory and rejoice in him.
You are so right. 😢 Actually, I've even seen evidence of what you say over and over again. A lot of stories of believers who got their spouses when they stopped making an idol of marriage. When they really really started "to delight themselves in the Lord." But it's not easy. ☹️
There's some real need to boldly minister to single people based on the comments I'm reading. There seems to be a real need to do inventory and ask themselves if Christ means anything to them. If you're saying you can't follow Christ in your singleness what makes you think you'll survive marriage where you're promised tribulation in it? I'm NOT saying singleness doesn't have trials and pitfalls to avoid, namely sexual, but if you're not actively putting yourself out there, living a godly life, going to church regularly, refraining from sexual immorality and porn use, and being the kind of person someone desires to be with, I doubt very seriously you'll be happy with marriage.
If you live like a schlob, don't take care of your body, act like an emotional needy bucket (guy or girl), and take care to follow Christ even in the trenches, you WILL be a burden rather than a gift to someone else. Why should someone else lower their standards for you when you won't live by the standards you put on others? I know these sound really harsh, but its truths I wish someone told me when I was in college. I've had to unlearn so many bad habits, egalitarian beliefs, deal with various sins, and flaws/weaknesses in my own personality and I don't want anyone to suffer like I have trying to find a spouse.
There is so much bitterness I'm reading in the comments makes me think a lot of people need God putting them in their place. Learn humility and be the kind of person another person desires to be with. Guys shouldn't be "nice guys" but men resolved and not controlled by their emotions, ready to be sacrificial and loving - not pandering and weepy. Women need to be respectful, feminine, dress modestly, and learn to be submissive to God and respect the authority the men are given in her life (father, grandfather, pastor, elders, etc.).
I encourage everyone to go to Canon Press and watch Douglas Wilson's series on singleness, dating/courting, and marriage. It is poignant and insightful!👍🏻
wow, amen..!
Bro, you nailed it! To anyone reading, I would also recommend Tim Keller's sermons on this topic, Sean McDowell's YT channel, and Alex Wilson's YT channel and Amen Podcast.
Just FYI from 40+ years life & ministry experience - a person can do ALL of the above their whole life and it’s no guarantee. You can’t “earn” a life partner with good behavior. Certainly, poor behavior doesn’t help, but one can be talented, well-educated, domestic, humble, Godly, chaste, fit, and handsome and still remain single.
For those who want to help:
1. Stop with the formulas already.
2. Don’t think your 5 years of singleness during high school and college gives you authority to address people who have been single for 25 years.
3. Don’t automatically assume that their singleness is their fault- that they’re missing something that if they would just fix that thing then, boom, God is going to give them a partner. Their singleness may, indeed, be a very challenging work of grace in their heart. Only God really knows.
For my fellow Christian singles- all I can say is, throw yourself into the arms of God’s faithful love and, even when it hurts so bad you’d rather not go on, never let go.
@Birds of Accord What about men being masculine and men being respectful?? And dressing modestly (vain or slobbish isn't modest)?
And if you read Scripture, men are actually called to be submissive too: to God.
Too many aren't submissive to God but still expect their wives to be submissive to them...
This is worldly advice. Hate to break it to you, but Jesus Christ was the ultimate nice guy. In fact, men are by nature prone to being kind to women because they were created in the image of God (Jesus Christ)-who loves unconditionally. And please spare me the “hit the gym bro” nonsense. All this shows me is how poisoned your Gen Z mind has been by social media and instagram culture-as this ridiculous expectation that a man must have the body of an Ancient Greek god in order to be worthy of romantic love did not exist 20 years ago.
Amen
I watched this video when it was new over a decade ago and I'm still single. I had to get on full disability my mom and dad both died 6 months apart. You say God has not forgotten me but I see no evidence that he cares.
Due to your above comment, I'm aware you are in a time of struggle, so I share what I'm about to share in the hope that it can truly be an encouragement to you.
You may be able to see the goodness of God in the fact that you still trust him and strive to know Him by faith. Although God has not given a spouse, faith is still being given, to trust in the Lord. All in all, our marriage to Christ is the one that matters most, since married believers will not be married to their spouses in heaven (Matthew 22:30). Remember, we walk by faith and not by sight...so I realize what you see your eyes may be discourage you--but keep believing the Lord in your heart.
@I'll Be Honest Thank you for that encouragement. Even though I know that our marriage to Christ in this life is the most important, this life is still very lonely sometimes too lonely.
Can anyone here think of any scripture to back up "pleading with God" as was stated by Tim here? I'm not arguing against him, but he did go on to talk about asking God and to "show Him you mean it". Yes, Jesus did give the story about the unjust judge (Luke 18), but He also said, "And when you pray, do not use vain repetitions as the heathen do. For they think that they will be heard for their many words."
Mt 6:6-7.
So is it fine to just lay a request to God and then leave it there with Him?
The parable about the unjust judge seems to be a different context than asking for simple things. In the story she was asking for justice, which is a bit deeper.
It's especially challenging for me to see how many atheists are happily married and have happy children. I even know a case of a woman who was a very promiscuous young woman and cruel with her partners, so she was all the time breaking their hearts with her infidelities. Once, she got pregnant, and had an intentional abortion. Well, at some point, even she got married, and has two or three kids now (and she didn't turn into a believer, I think she was still agnostic). I really struggle to trust there's a good, fair reason for things like that to happen, but it's not easy.
Reminders for myself: 1:55, 3:44, 4:05, 5:57, 7:42, 8:47
I disagree with somethings in this video. Everyone has time to spend with God in prayer & studying the word. Doesn’t matter whether you have a wife & children you can always find time for God.
Fasting has never made sense to me. As a single man feeling frustrated with no place to put your energy, now you add hunger to the equation. Your horny, now add hunger to the problem.
You might be helped by this overview on Biblical fasting: ruclips.net/video/S-a2f14tb08/видео.html
Sexual sin is carnal and summed up in James 1:12-16 (KJV).
Covetousness (greed) is at the root of all abandonment to carnality.
Covetousness is selfish desire. It's feeling a "need" and is expressed in everything from lust to excess food or alcohol intake to even lack of self control eg. anger and "lashing out".
Read and study Galatians 5:22-23.
Fasting seriously for the first time (while feasting on the Bible), just after I came to Christ actually changed my life and I believe I was born of the Spirit (born again/born anew) as Jesus says we "must" be in John 3:5-10.
A Christian is defined in John 1:12-13 as someone born of God.
Jesus fasted in the wilderness (in the wilderness because there are no distractions and temptations) before He began His ministry for 40 days as we see in Matthew 4.
A Christian MUST "walk in the Spirit so that we don't fulfill the desires of the flesh" (ref: Galatians 5 & 6) every day because we are walking witnesses and Satan throws everything he can at us.
Walking in the flesh means we react in the flesh to unexpected happenings.
And we cannot do that because it dishonors God and isn't good for us.
But it's not meant to be a struggle or a miserable battle. It wasn't for Jesus or Paul and that was because they had "mortified the flesh".
That's the phrase Paul uses in Romans 8:13 and Romans 8 is a JOYFUL chapter about VICTORY!
(Remember "flesh" is SARX in Greek. It's not "soma", which is body. The "flesh" is the carnal or "human" nature. ENVY is a work of the flesh: Galatians 5:19-21).
Fasting is part of mortifying the flesh. Living a peaceful, selfless, joyful life in the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) necessitates FEEDING the spirit and starving the flesh.
OF COURSE initially it's hard and seems impossible to deny our flesh and that's because it is "spoiled": it has gotten used to being fed since we were born, especially in the relative comfort of the West.
Initially, it seems so improbable that prayer, singing praise and reading Scripture will satisfy us not just more than entertainment but more than anything.
But gradually, as long as we genuinely desire to live as Jesus did and walk in the Spirit and we're humble enough to be guided by the Holy Spirit, He WILL give us supernatural help.
I had all my life been a slave to my flesh (carnal nature) but in hindsight it was an awful way to live and yep, like death just as Romans 8 says.
One way it manifested was that I was convinced I HAD to eat something in the morning or else I would be in an incontrollable rage or depression. Obviously Satan the LIAR was playing with me and controlling me as much as any addict.
So when I first decided to fast 3 days with only water (in my room and a little bit outside at a retreat in summer time with no phone or computer or TV and only my Bible for literature), I knew that the first morning would be tough.
It was. I literally wanted to eat the furniture.
But I dived into Scripture like my life depended on it (and I understood the verse from Deuteronomy - quoted by Jesus to Satan in the wilderness, Matthew 4 - "man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God").
Human beings are SPIRIT but sin kills it (Ephesians 2:1-2) and it lays so dormant that drastic action is required to revive it. Yes, it's God who does it but He will never override our will and He prefers our participation, especially so we can help others.
The second day was easier and by the third, I was almost enjoying it.
I felt so much stronger spiritually.
Going up against Satan and his demons is impossible in the flesh ("sarx": an essential New Testament word study).
It's only possible in the spirit and we need strengthening in the spirit.
Since these three days several years ago, I have done similar fasts and they are relatively easy now.
It's amazing how encouraging they are.
Just think about it: my obsession (neuroses) about "having to" eat in the morning disappeared. It meant, for example, that when I was a guest at someone's house and they delayed serving food, my peace remained.
It also meant that I knew the spiritual power of prayer, praise and Scripture that I couldn't have discovered otherwise.
It meant too that I got insight into temptation: that it comes in waves. The hunger pangs when fasting similarly come in waves and you KNOW they don't last.
And it taught me that eating (when not necessary) can be used as a "balm" to comfort us, just as sex or drugs or anything else can.
But God KNOWS these comforts are not lasting and do not fill us or satisfy us.
He wants us to know and to experience that HE satisfies. Knowing this is what LIFE is and the TRUE Comforter is the Holy Spirit, not Satan's bubblegum counterfeits...
"And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever;
Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you.
I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you" (John 14:16-18)
"Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit" (Galatians 5:19-25)
"That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.
For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.
So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.
But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his" (Romans 8:5-9)
@@leenieledejo6849 You are aware this is the comments section of a RUclips video and not a library right? If we want to read paragraph after paragraph after paragraph we'll just open The Bible short and sweet that's what the comment sections for.
Im 33 and Ive been single all my life haha
Same here I'm 33 and single my whole life
I’m 33, too and still single
Same here
32 & I've been single my whole entire life.
I'm 33. Was engaged last year but then he got cold feet and left. It's like I almost had it but God is saying no every year. He is good so I know it's for good reasons but it hurts everyday. I am called to suffer like my savior who had it the worst!
God has been nothing but lip service I’m 54 never had a girlfriend in my life. The last two who said they’re interested in me used me to make their lovers jealous including a lesbian. Second he has taken everyone and everything I cared about. And what does he do him and his son are up there laughing their ass off at my misery
if I have to keep watching other couples get engaged before me Im going to stop being so polite
Paul didnt care he was single
This blessed me
Don't get me wrong I'm glad you felt blessed because of this video but you're probably the only person who has viewed this video that feels blessed after watching it Assuming you're also single like the majority of us.
Pastor, How about same sex attraction ? I longing for relationship, intimacy, not sexual (maybe affection).
Regardless of how much i pray to heal me, to take away my sexual disorientation. It looks like God never answer my prayers. I have no joy anymore every second in my life, i feel like i am in Hell on earth. And God against me, against something that out of my control. Being "me" is sin.
Keep praying and bring it all to him, try not to stress but don't give in to temptation. The culture and Satan is trying to convince you that it is you that's wrong, but that's not true. Read Romans 7:13-25. If you are a believer, you disagree with your own sin, including these temptations and any time you give in, then it isn't you! It's your flesh. That doesn't mean you can give up, and if you are a real born again believer then you won't, so trust in God for that also.
Remember he loves you, and for his children his love is unconditional, it is not dependant minute to minute or day to day on how you are going in your struggle. He is producing endurance and dependence on him.
God is not against you. I understand how it feels like God is against you, I have been through my own rough times during the last 2 years and been in some bad places. But just keep sticking with him, he'll lead you out of it. It's important not to let your flesh determine what you believe about God, like that he hates you, because that is the same as an unbeliever.
Something that was freeing for me recently was this, when I was struggling in my own ongoing sin and hatred towards God. I was reflecting on him and the situation, and I thought "how can you rebel against unconditional love?" Then I realised it is impossible, and so sin has lost a lot of its strength.
Bless you brother in Christ
Andre bro dont go into that path, pray without doubting neither with sadness nor questioning whether God will answer or not, strive also in trying to live a Godly life..may the grace of God be with you
Read the book Gay girl Good God.
@@hey-gz8gp thank you bro.
@@katimahchildofgod1000 thank you sister
Pretty sure he has
I believe God will give me a wife whenever I can afford one, which will probably be never. But I’m okay with that cause our time is not long at all now.
Read James 1
@@Randompancakes12345 interesting that single people are painted as the ones with more money but clearly that’s not the case
@@Randompancakes12345 You can read James 1 until your eyes fall out It won't change your circumstance.
Brethren need to read 1 Cor 7. Over and over
Very good for pointing people to that scripture. May God guide all his sons and daughters in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.
We can read until our eyes fall out it won't change anything.
Most people are still single because they're looking for "the one" that fits their desires. When you learn what biblical marriage truly is, you start to see the true blessings that God meant it for and for himself (not you). It's a sanctifying work. Everything in this life is including singleness. We haven't arrived on this side of Heaven and we never will! It's when we see Jesus finally for the first time. Then we will see how He satisfies us completely. Singles, let's believe this now!! Repent of self-pity. Let's move forward and love others for the Kingdom. He can use us if we let him.
Just a small correction dude. He does understand wanting to take edge off and engaging in sexing sexual sin. How could he not, he’s omniscient . It’s still not okay and it is a sin, but he does understand. If he lacked understanding on anything, he wouldn’t be god.
this married man in his thirties has no idea what he is talking about, sorry
This video isnt for all singles. Its many people's own fault that they are single. Many people sit around waiting for God to make a spouse fall into their lap but the word says "He who FINDETH a wife findeth a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."
Second, as many people wait for a spouse they are not doing anything to put themselves in a situation to be married. Being married takes finances and maturity. You cant raise a family working at the dollar tree. No woman wants to struggle with you all her life. You cant raise a family when you dont even have the character to show up to work on time or to he able to take constructive criticism from others. These are just a few basic elements that keep many people from getting married. You can pray 3 times a day but God is not going to bless you with something that you dont have the character to maintain. Hes not going to give you a car when you dont even have a license. And by the way im single but im intentionally putting myselfnin a situation financially and socially that if i meet the right person ill be ready..
I had a thought not too long ago,that there are people that are single because that is what God wills for them,but that there might be people who are not married yet, not because God chose that for them, but by their own hand, they have not yet gotten married or found a potential spouse. So i think that you are right and that there are people not yet married because there are actions that they have not taken or refrained from doing(bad actions).
@@Pedro-of4tn yes sir. Not only that but I feel that people fail to realize that just because they believe in God doesn't mean that God is going to give them everything that they want in life. God can and often times does bless us but if we look at the lives of all the New testament believers, their lives were marked by persecution, hardship, death, imprisonment and unfair treatment. Yet despite all of this the lesson that we are supposed to learn from them is that they ultimately found their true joy and hope in the Lord Jesus Christ. Life ultimately is not fair and as Solomon says in the book of Ecclesiastes 9:11 NLT
"I have observed something else under the sun. The fastest runner doesn’t always win the race, and the strongest warrior doesn’t always win the battle. The wise sometimes go hungry, and the skillful are not necessarily wealthy. And those who are educated don’t always lead successful lives. It is all decided by chance, by being in the right place at the right time."
In my opinion I feel that there are certain things that God won't give to us in order to be a type of a lifelong test to see will we still worship Him in love if we don't get our way.. the apostle Paul had a thorn in his flesh that he asked God to remove, and God refused to remove it and basically told him to deal with it. There is a Reddit post of thousands of people complaining about how God did not bless them with a spouse. Many of these people poured out their heart on pages and pages of their life experiences of failed relationship after failed relationship, abuse, being tricked into ungodly relationships...ect.. it's very touching and at times would bring me to tears, but at the end of the day the whole thread was dedicated to slandering, cursing, and forsaking God. These people have become so embittered over the fact that they had never found a soulmate that they eventually walked away from God and cultivated a warped view of his character. This really let me to reflect and to ask myself, what would it take for me not to follow God anymore? If I never got anything that I desired what I still serve God out of love and not be bitter and angry towards him? If I feel ill with the terminal disease, and everything was taken away from me, would I still have the ability to keep the faith?
@@meeks4004 I've been bitter towards God recently because I believe the Lord illuminated my future wife to me but after a plan of meeting up that failed, we haven't been in contact for almost 8 months. What a question to ask yourself on what it would take to not follow Him anymore.. of course true born again believers will never trade anything in the place of knowing Him. I'm encouraged by your exhortation.. it's just I don't want to "waste effort" in preparing when I don't know if it will happen or not but I know that's a wrong way of thinking. Perhaps that way of thinking already proves I'm not ready yet haha.
@@bAdA37 Wow man. I can totally relate. Its funny as humans we tend to blame God for our misfortunes due to the fact that we know everything is under his control.
And yes I agree with you that you don't have the right mindset. Failing to prepare because it might not happen is not Faith at all. But more than that, if you get angry at God because your desire for a relationship didn't come into fruition, then what is your existence truly rooted in? Who or what do you really serve?
Let me tell you a short story.
I love old school cars. I used to have a very nice luxury old school car a few years ago. Recently I got a really good job and I make a ton of money so I became inspired to save up and buy another old school car. As I was saving up for the car, I even prayed and asked God was it all right if I bought the car. To be completely honest with you I didn't really expect God to say anything or answer my prayer, but I only prayed it because it seemed like the proper thing for a Christian to do. One day after work I took a nap and God gave me a dream. In the dream he showed me the old school car that I was saving up for, and a voice from heaven said three times to me, "A carnal mind is enmity towards God." (This is a verse from Romans chapter 8) When I awoke I understood exactly what God was trying to tell me. God was trying to tell me that I had my mind focused on the wrong things, and he warned me not to buy the car. I had an overwhelming feeling that if I bought the car then it would somehow lead me away from The Lord or away from what I was supposed to be focused on, which would eventually lead me into spiritual danger. This all made me very angry. You literally have no idea how much I feel i have sacrificed for God. I gave up my passion of body building at his command, i gave up my endeavors to be married for the ministry. I decided to be celibate. I left the comfort of my home and the ease of my former life. I gave up mamy forms of pride at his command. I felt like i died 3 times for the Lord and that it still wasnt enough for Him. I hardly ever ask God for anything physical or material All i wanted was was the pleasure of listening to my jazz music alone in my old school car, while driving through country roads. It wasn't like I was asking God to bless me. I have the means to bless myself with this car. But now just Add this car to the list of all my other dreams and desires that will never be fulfilled due to God. I often feel like God blesses everyone else around me with marriage, kids, and possessions but doesnt let me have anything. Ever. After God told me that I couldn't buy the car I quit being responsible with my money. I frivolously spent almost everything that I would make. I quit being diligent and wise, and thought to myself "Who cares, its not like ill ever have anything anyways" i even cultivated an attitude of purposefully not desiring anything out of life bkus God always takes away anything that I enjoy or find interest in, so theres no point. Thats when God revealed to me that even though I thought I was doing all these things for him in ministry, my true drive and purpose in life wasn't based on him but was based on the pursuit of all of my desires. When God took away or hindered me from having all the things i desired, i realized i didnt even have a will to live anymore. My purpose in life was gone. I shriveled up and died mentally. I checked out and was only present in body but not in mind. I quit praying, and reading the Bible. I began treating God like he was the school bully who punked me out of my lunch money. I would metaphorically empty my pockets in order to "appease him" so that after he was done beating me up, he could go on about his business and leave me alone.
The whole experience showed me that my whole existence and drive in life was based on my own lusts and desires..this all provoked me to question did I even really love God for who he was and what he did for me.?.., or was i just tolerating God while i sought my own good?
The same drive and excitement for life that I have while I saved up for the old school car should have been the way that I conducted myself towards God. I should be excited to save my money so that I have greater means by which God can use me. I should be saving money with the same vigor as the car for the furthering of the kingdom and the gospel.. There are billions of people dying and going to hell for eternity while i obssess myself with impressing others with an old car. There are people around me desperate to hear the gospel, but all i can think about is having a wife so i can fulfill my lust without going to hell. I have close family members that need prayer and intercession for their eternal souls, but im too concerned about God not giving me what i want in life.
Matthew 6:19-21
"Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:
20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:
21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also."
@@meeks4004 What a testimony.. the Lord spoke to you so clearly in that dream that it makes me think how far you would have fell if you ended up buying that car.
I'm encouraged to hear what you went through and still running the race.. While I do have bursts of moments where the Spirit leads me to do radical things like going out and praying for homeless people, intercession, fasting, etc., it's not possible to always be excited about doing His will.. but I'm sure one day very soon we will rejoice together having endured the race that was set before us.
A lot of what he said was really good, but his example of Jesus and Paul doesn't really fit. Jesus has a bride, it is us. We are the bride of Christ. And second, Paul had the gift if celibacy, so that doesn't really fit what was talking about before...
Actually Paul had a wife. As a Pharisee he was a member of the Sanhedrin and as a requirement to be in the Sanhedrin you had to have a wife.. so people speculate that she possibly died
@@meeks4004 yes I have heard that teaching before. I suppose it doesn't matter though because once he was saved he used his widowed state to become the single Apostle that he was.
Being single is not a blessing. Its not even God. Its mostly being unattractive or withdrawn.
I am angry at God. I am a 40 year old man and never had a real relationship with a woman. God does not give a damn about my singleness. He does not care about your singleness either. Think about it. If He cares, wouldn't He given you someone before you even wonder? He does NOT give a damn!
I dont blame him..i wouldnt give you anything either with that attitude ..your words prove that you dont care about God anyways, all you care about is your dick and how lonely you are. There are millions of people dying and going to hell, and instead if being concerned about your father's businuess your focused on yourself...how would you feel if you had a wife that all she cared about was having a house..everyday you worked hard to take care of her and bkus you didnt give her one she layed around complaining and slandering your name to her friends and anyone who would listen about how your nothing and how you dont care about her bkus you wont buy her a house... would you believe she even genuinely loved you?...i know you dont care though so ill shut up...
God cares about you very much and loves you too.
If you base your idea of God not caring about you because he didn't bring you a wife then you need to look closely at the character of God and what he did to reconcile us to himself!
I believe there is a much rarer thing than having a wife for the rest of your life. The Lord Jesus offers us the forgiveness of our sins and eternal life, He is Eternal Life. He offers us eternal life with Him.
Then again the very horrible and evil women that God created these days does add to the problem for many of us single guys too. Especially the ones that will Curse at us for no reason at all when we will just try to start a conversation with them by just saying good morning or hello. And i know other single friends that had the very same thing happened to them as well. What in the world is that all about anyway?