Wish I had seen this weeks ago! Ugh! "When someone backs away, give them space." Good mantra, but I still struggle to see how shutting out someone instead of talking things thru in the first place (when there was the initial blowup) is mature in any way. I believe in communication, thru thick and thin. I don't understand these tendencies women have to take flight and shut you out (avoidance...).
So true man. I always value communication, but some people just aren't mature communicators. Sucks, but you can't have a serious relationship with people who can't talk things through
I don’t understand it either but women are the greatest mystery in the universe. Even they don’t understand themselves or each other. You’d think communicating and clarification in a relationship would set their minds at ease but for the majority of them, it puts them in a tailspin of anxiety. Almost like they need something to be wrong for things to feel right.
That exactly some of the reasons why my ex and I fought a lot , every time I wanted to see him he was tired from his job, therefore we didn't do much. I got tired of not getting out because of this, I mentioned this several times.
Coach Craig..you are a plethora of information and a candle in the darkness that I felt before I found your videos. It all makes sense. I was so worried about getting my ex back...now I just want to love myself first then find love after I’m whole. If it’s my ex great, if it’s not, I still win. Thank you!!!
I legit had a girl tell me she was ready to come back to me, but because I started chasing, she lost complete interest. Don't know how true that was but...We were still connected on social media prior, but as soon as I started chasing, she unfollowed me on everything and it was the last time we spoke. Ever since then, I dont chase. Sometimes they reach back out to you and sometimes they dont. Depends on the connection
I was the guy in this video, I even fell asleep at the restaurant when she took us out to have fun. I did not beg or contact her and after 2 weeks she contacted me. It's crazy true how they contact when you REALLY stop thinking about them and try and have fun in your life, it's like they feel that energy. I did not apologize or tell her how much I cared so I was worried my situation no contact would not work but it did. I was reserved because of the way she dumped me but she started to fear I was already moving on. She really loves me because she straight up was open and told me how it was killing her there was no need to mirror her interest. Thanks for the advice coach your vidoes are priceless. Let them miss you and take the space to watch Craigs videos and learn from mistakes.
@@inserter400 She came back 2 weeks later with a late night text. She just broke up with me again 3 days ago after a fight. I realize it's her toxic manipulation that breaks us up everytime I stand up to her. She broke up because I shared her hurtful words to my friend and called it a break of trust. She said the bond is irrepairable and she is moving on. She ignored my apology using the easiest defence that I might share it. If that is what it took for her to leave me alone then it's straight forward. She was not capable of giving me the love and forgiveness I gave her.
I was dumped for 16 years ago and got with her 1 daughter she's 15, and she remarried, and she divoce again In those years, I never saw my daughter And now, I just support my child for financial And she avoids me to talk to me. I don't even think about anything to do with her.
As Craig always says, it’s brutal getting dumped especially when you give 100%. Unfortunately you do need to let them go & give them space. I’m in the same boat and it’s pretty shittie.
@@jmelanierenee Hi Jennifer! I hope you're doing well. No, unfortunately I do not have a positive update since my original post. However, I did run into her in Starbucks on Jan 31 '20 - so about 4 months after our break up. We were off and on during '19, so it was our 3rd break up. She hugged me and we chatted for a little while. She was waiting for her female friend to have coffee w/so we didn't really have much time to talk. We talked about her divorce and she seemed scared or out of sorts about it (i.e. she was married the entire time we dated. 1st year he lived in the basement and 2nd year he moved out). Looking back i'm pretty sure she was cheating on me with him. We also talked about an upcoming work trip I had to Austin We had been there together before. When I returned from Austin, 2 weeks later, I reached out to her to see how she was doing. I referenced our Starbucks conversation and asked if she was doing ok. And the response was cold as ice. She didn't even have the common curtesy or respect to write back. It's been a little over a year now. Its gotten easier with time, but I do miss her and 'us.' I think about the why's.' The pain isn't as bad and i've been dating. The challenging part is to not compare someone you're on a date with or dating w/your ex. I know i'm a good person and didn't mess the relationship up. So that definitely helps. I think I finally realized that, in my case, its a matter of her having to get through her divorce and grieving before she can love herself and be there for anyone else. I am a bit surprised that she hasn't reached out b/c we were so close, but i'm sure there were plenty of signs or red flags that I missed during the way. I have hope that i will meet someone great again and be happy. I've been working on myself. Stay strong and continue to leverage Coach Craig's channel. He's the best of the best! Good luck!
I belaeve you need to reach out after time because you need to move on and if you move on then they come back its not fair on the new partner i done this with my my now ex again im going back to her country in 4 months wish i new she was with some one else it is not fair on the new person
Having a really hard time. We broke up 6 days ago, his decision. He has financial problems, also we started to have problems in our relationship because he was getting more and more closed. His parents have taught him that money is crucial and even my attempts to calm him didn't work. Anxiety kicked in for both of us and after a major fights with lots of things said, I picked my stuff and went back to my country. Watching the videos daily and hoping things will turn around at some point. Coach, I did understand many things about myself for what I thank you with all my heart. Keep up the good work, we need your advices. Hope no contact works, I really love this person and I am more than ready to work for this relationship. God bless you all!
Kristina Shopova Hi kristina Did you get back with your ex? I have been separated a month and two week NC the same money issues and and living like friends not lovers x I miss him deeply but will try this NC x I watch and listen to Craig daily and he keeps me strong 🙏🏽xx
Dont give up i waited for 3 months until i found out she unblock me on messenger but still did not contact her just be patient and just focus on yourself self love you will thank yourself later
@@Wifeyytalks to be honest we have a final conversation with her after i found out that she unblock me and we decide to part ways to be honest its really hard to accept that things will not go on your way but i thinks its part of you growing up no contact help me grow as invidual and for me to accept the reality wether she will come back or not / if she let go / all you need to do is move forward
Craig, what if she left you because of the lack of attention? What if she left you because you didn't value her enough? Is no contact the solution in the contest as well?
i was just dumped for some loser a week ago. i never been dumped before so all this is new to me but i was thinking about my past relationships and i rem i did reach out to 1/2 of them some time in the future.
Craig, I'm from the UK and going through a very messy break up. I did everything I shouldn't have done like beg, email, text and smother her. Now I'm 7 days into no contact and still wish every day for that text from her. I'm not sure what am I going to do at the end of the no contact if still no contact but this is my only option to get her back. I value your videos and compared to other you tubers yours makes sense. Let's hope it works....
Update? Basically that’s what I do. I go to all these videos and asking for updates. Hope you see this. A guy answered to the same question after his original comment made 5 years ago… today! (She never contacted 😢 him)
I wish I'd seen your videos before. My ex bf of almost 2yrs suddenly broke up with me almost 2 months ago. He was standoffish when I'd reach out but friendly when we hung out s few xs. Then I found out he unblocked a girl from fb he had an emotional affair with the beginning of our relationship and I flipped out. I'm not blocked 😭 he told my bro/his friend hes completely done.
You're an Angel Coach Graig , am going to sign up soon for email coaching , am so devastated as well .... You're the only who can make us alive again by watching on your Videos xxx Please keep up the good work to help others , on this entire World ....
After being divorced 5 yrs back i met a guy n dated him 4yrs till 4 mnths ago..he broke up with me n was all over the net looking for help n support n learnt the no contact. .Two mnths into it he tried to told but I did not give him room..i dint want.following week same guy that had been trying me for about 2 yrs came into my life..i attached. Now his so breadcrumbing me n im here again looking to detach😭
I’ve been doing no contact for a few weeks, but I’m pretty sure my ex has some abandonment issues, and no contact has been making her dislike me even more 😔
I've been told many things from friends and I'm listening to coach Craig and it's been over thrity days since we've talked. I'm just giving her the space she needs and wants. Just asking if I'm doing the right thing
Coach Craig -what if the reason he ended the relationship because he felt the girlfriend wasn’t showing enough affection or attention and he felt that she didn’t care about him? Or not invested in the relationship? Still no contact?
what if I already chased the person? is there a way to reverse that? It's been 7 days since I last chased her. i just decided to stop begging and pleading. Will that still work?
Hello Craig my boyfriend broke up with me I did no contact and he is very angry with me because I don't care about him...on his birthday I didn't wish him
right on the money with this-after someone ghosts you check in once maybe twice then leave it that's it-leave it be-and if someone breaks it off w u-never initiate-let them-and take time to reply--chasing is a clear indication of someone who is co dependant insecure and needy-and its not attractive-confidence is sexy-wear it well!
Too bad we all see this a lil too late ha . I chased hard and got ignored hard. Which made me want to contact more. I finally learned and backed off. Hopefully this all still has an positive effect.
lifeaddict I agree I chased hard as well I’m now on the block list. Lol, I have to laugh to keep from crying. However, I’m just going to take his advice an let it be!!
@solidn6 eh so I've been extremely familiar with all these breakup people bc I keep losing girls the same way. I started out doing it right. Played it so chill to the long breakup text. Alright lemme know if your feelings change "". Then a few days went by and I crumbled haha. Sent lots of reasons why we should be together. No response for a few days. After me getting out all feelings like an idiot I finally pulled no contact. Her bday came up a week after that and didn't shoot her a message. At the end of the day I got a long message from her. Played it casual like thanks for the kind words have a good bday byeeeeee . Hmu if you'd ever like to get together. We hung out once and had fun and hooked up a bit. I shoulda been more distant. She went on vacay and called after to say that she needs to be alone for now. Didn't expect that. But what it boils down to is never explain why you should be together or chase. Just deleted her Snapchat bc I was being obsessed if she'd watch or not. Gotta make them miss you. If they don't miss you then they're not worth your time anyway. Been down about it but I'm cheered up by the fact that I deserve better so I'll find someone who appreciates me or she'll come around and she'll have to UP HER GAME to get me back. Be the prize.
@TheCryptoCoinist Thanks for the advice, it really helped. @Angela Barber I don't know the reason for your break up. But if you did nothing wrong and he still left. Then don't feel bad. Don't think his rejection makes you any less lovable, and know that you will find someone who appreciates you. After some time apart from my ex I'm slowly realizing she was an emotionally abusive person and I can and deserve much better. If she ever does try contact me I wouldn't take her back now.
That was one of the downfalls that led towards my breakup, I didn’t really listen to my girlfriend, (about anything and everything) which she had told me so many times and had given me so many chances. I hope she has the heart to forgive me this time, because I now know what to work on and how to fix it after watching Craig’s videos.
@@nosir1440 We’re not back together yet, but it’s only a matter of time, even though it’s been 3 and a half months into the breakup. Right now, I’m just working on myself to be a better person, doing personal growth, etc, so in case she does come back, I’ll be ready. I’m slowly getting back to working out, been out of commission for months since the breakup. I feel that my breakup is temporary, because we’ve been together for over 5 and a half years and our love was super strong! The breakup only occurred because I was acting like an ass and because of my anxiety and high separation anxiety, (due from many losses in my life and my anxious attachment style.
@@nosir1440 Also, getting back to your second question, I was slowly starting to heel within the last month. I’ve been journaling and listening to Craig’s and Margaret’s videos and Podcasts, so that helps. Telling myself that I want to stay single for now so that I can better myself and work on my personal growth and such. Even though some of my family wants me to start dating again, I just want to tell them that I just don’t want to, I want to focus on myself and look back on my mistakes I made.
@@ponokunishima1 I really appreciate you replying man. I’m 22 and my girl just broke up with me a couple days ago. Been together 3.3 years and the last couple months have been the worst. I pushed her away a lot because I fell into a bad depression. I guess she didn’t want to deal with it even tho when she was depressed most of our relationship I’d do nothing but help her the most. I miss her a lot but I need to work on myself for myself. I guess this is a sign I should work on myself. I just need to get her out of my head
@@nosir1440 No problem bro, here whenever you want to talk. It’s hard to get someone out of your head if you’ve been with the person for at least over two years, been intimate with, have deep and meaningful conversations, etc. I’ve been with my ex girlfriend for over 5 and a half years and she was my first everything, I just can’t forget about her. Plus, being with someone for that long, you tend to have reoccurring thoughts and dreams about both of you and what it would be like if you two met up and would get back together, I still do. In the shower, in bed, making breakfast and coffee, etc. just have to focus on myself. I’ve also slowly been getting back to the routine of. T grooming and manscaping, even though I don’t have her around to appreciate it, but it still feels good for myself.
I was dumped a few days ago. I was both a bit needy, and Also unsecure but we always had a deep love her words. I been watching ur video @coachcraig and after a few the first Day where we havent talked She acturlly wrote to me. I decided to write back to her tomorrow later In the Day no to punish her but to Do what She Also have Said - She need space .. so in-sted of just typing when She wrote i decided to write back after my work so She get the space
Been binge watching your videos for days now. It really consoles me and helps me grow to watch them. I’ve been in no contact for 3 days now after blowing up her phone and writing an apology email. She’s on social media dancing with another guy. She’s trying to make me jealous and has moved on. So I’m moving on too
My boyfriend didn't break up for anything negitive. He thought he was doing what was best for me and my kids. I understand it, and we both don't want to force things. But im afraid that means we both just let it go? Can't I convince him that we can make this work? I got uoset with him when he reached out to me a week after the break up and now I wish I hadn't. Can't I try to reconnect?
I did a grand gesture not meaning too. I was just making sure the gifts I had promised her daughter actually got to her daughter. Instead of waiting for her to redeem a trip to a theme park i just sent the cash knowing she would never redeem it now that her mom and I are not a couple. My ex I think took it as me trying to swoon her daughter for brownie points and it was truly only to make sure that gift didn’t go unclaimed ....
Unless you cheated, you should not bail them out after being broken up with. It's not playing min games, it's respecting yourself and giving them what they ask for. You can't force someone to change their. You have to give them the option to, when that person is ready you'll know. You will hear from them
So she was neglected by her partner, and now it's her job to try harder to patch things up? She literally told him what was wrong. He didnt listen - he broke the relationship. It's his job to fix it.
I was doing really well in NC but had a dream that I texted her last night. It sucks, but I guess it’s better than if I really texted her. Blame it on Mercury Retrograde I guess 😂 Still hurts, but these videos are a beacon of hope for both getting her and, way more importantly, myself back. Thanks Coach Craig Kenneth and Coach Margaret.
I wish I watched this before I got dumped. I feel like such a fool. And it did make the situation worse to the point he told me he doesn't want to speak to me ever again. So yeah.. we're in no contact now.
Mine dumped me out of no place nothing I never felt so used and so sad but I realize that life is short and I need to push on into heal myself one day at a time some men are so cruel
What if you already did a lot of pleading ,breaking no contact after 1 month and say to work things out again after 2 months and rejected once again, am I starting over zero ? Did I ruined my chances?
I tried to talk things out after a 3 year relationship and I begged twice in the span of a week. Since then she contacted me once a week asking to be her friend since she left me for someone else. I had to block her since then, no way I can become healthy knowing someone will use me if I allow it.
Lonely Guy I blocked a week after her and I broke up. July 10th 2019. She said things like “I need a friend” or “forgot about love” so I went no contact for my heartbreak and myself. I blocked her after a month or so and a week later she contacted me on social media telling me even know she knows not to talk to me, she still cares. Lol.
Lonely Guy remember that whatever happens says more about HER than it does about you. You have to realize that you’re having some time to heal and she has taken no alternative to reach out or heal HERSELF. Yes my ex reached out but she ain’t doing with her life. She has no plans, life or anything going on. Just waiting for love even though she through it away. Understand that, you need to heal so the next amazing woman that comes in your life will deserve your love and everything in between. Your ex has shown her colors, once her relationship ends with this guy you will realize she will contact you. But do you really want her back? After she put another man’s jewels in her mouth? You deserve better, you ARE better.
Lonely Guy you have to understand that if she reaches out, you and her are not ready. She betrayed and moved on to some one else. She doesn’t know what it’s like to be alone. She doesn’t know what it’s like to lose someone or be independent. Which means in you will have the upper hand in which you will be in the process of healing and fixing yourself as human being. I understand and sympathize with you about missing your ex. But know this, why would you want to be with someone that left you to be intimate with another man? She’s a immature and selfish person and it’s time for you to be selfish and know your worth. She left you for some bullshit, she doesn’t deserve you.
I've been chasing.... 9byrs later....same place as I was in 8 yrs ago...... got her back 3 times. These rules work....BUT if it doesn't work the first time.....it's nothing but a heartbreak after that....word of advice....find a new clean person to chase verse the old one that is bringing I plast events......
craig kenneth sir thank you i follow your no contact her im now in 3weeks and i never had any txt and call to her. while im in the no contact her. im starting to improve my self like go to gym..and hang out with my friends and still im wait for her... i think she is very mad at me. thats why she never txt me or call.. i remember that she told me she want to have a job and now she have it.. im afraid that she will forget me. but ill still got your advice that dont contact her i miss her so much. thats why im keep fighting to no contact her.. and wait ill and see what she finds. :(( ill always pray that she will be back ...
I’ve tried to talk to her one time after she broke up with me and when I realised she won’t talk to me I sad to her that I’m not gonna beg and and then conversation by saying that she wanna talk like a mature person I’m willing to clear things up. Benn two weeks of NC since do you think she is gonna reach out?
You're funny. :) This is very good advise. I've learned to apply these techiques in my current situation. It's going on 8 weeks now without any contact of any kind to gf since we last got together. Nothing yet so far. I'm working on myself everday though. I've been hitting the gym really hard, lost almost 20 lbs, dropped down to a 34 inch waist, got my teeth cleaned and taking care of myself spiritually. I'm already happier. Still I would another shot at this. Time will tell. Working on patience too. :) Thanks Craig.
@@diabetoobs Everything's still the same. I've gotten on with my life and meeting new people all the time. I'm just chocking this up to the 'one that won't be coming back'. I'm in a more secure place, 'mentally'. She really doesn't fit my needs even though it did in part, in the beginning. :)
I’m confused, we had a fight - she kicked me out with all my stuff (i guessed this is her ending it) i sent one message after apologising and saying i’ll respect her decision. She replied that it all sounded repetitive, and that there’s no moving forward. I didn’t reply to that last message and went into NC - did i do the right thing? It’s been 2 months NC not a single word man. Shit hurts. Please coach can you reply, be happy to send you a tip?!
She seemed pretty mad to remove your stuff. I hope you've found some peace in your self improvement. I believe she'll know if she mistakenly acted dramatically, and will reach out to try to fix it. But only the 2 of you know if you did something she can't/won't get past. If you didn't do something most people would say is bad- then she probably didn't see a future with you, she found someone else and was looking for a reason to leave, or she's actively trying to hurt you. Those are 4 reasons reestablishing contact would be very low priority, especially relative to self-development
Your videos and advice are very great that iam done watching Corey Wayne and Chris seiter and all of them because your advice are better than theirs and also because their advice are trash or garbage
I would ask that if you don't make more of an effort to make another date with her after the first date she might feel that you not interested and she might move on
What do I do when somebody keeps erasing photos on social networks of us together. She pushed away back in the beginning October for good. I just want to text her ..... thinking about you, miss you
My situation! Except 6 years and also 2 kids. But she left me and started dating a new guy after 1 month. Looks like they totally in love with each other! I did all of the mistakes possible (begging, crying and nagging too :( They bees together 2 weeks now. Do I have a chance with her? I'm crashed :(
on the 19th I left my girlfriend for the reason I felt like I was being ignored.... I know she was in pain I know she was missing her brother... she send me a text this is what she said ((I truly don't understand what happened this morning. .. 1. I'm worried about my stomach 2. I miss my bro., & I'm worried about him too... I don't necessarily have to or want to talk about everything. I can tell by your reaction that you clearly were waiting for a chance to walk away & that's fine... Seems as though you were the one keeping something. Also... I can't believe you left everything I've given you behind....that truly tells me where your heart was when you walked out that door.... Goodbye Wayne, I hope your happy with your choice and whoever you're with. Please don't bother bringing those stupid pictures of me back....just burn them, just like you burned what we had today. God Bless you.))) what I need to know is relationship completely over or do I have a chance it's been a week.... I don't want to sound like a weak man,, I do miss her I do love the hell out of her how do I go by apologizing for my actions???? thanks for reading
"Guy is not giving her attention anymore and because he is ignoring her she gives up = welp, better leave her alone, she's feeling smothered right now." .... Wa, huh, what??
Awesome Videos!!! The thing that I have noticed is the words on thumbnail "New Videos Every Week day" font is not so good. May be u should change the font and I think it will be even more attractive.
Thanks, Mr. Kenneth... I really did need to hear this one. I've been disassembling myself metaphorically using your videos and trying to build myself back up into someone I like again. It hurts but I'm now totally committed (which I should've been the whole time), so the changes are not going unnoticed. We eparated just before our son's 2nd birthday (six weeks ago) and things just got clear enough that she invited me out to dinner as a family... it went great but I almost *completely* messed it up at the end running back to her car to steal a hug & kiss! Did NOT go for the smootch, so thankfully I caught myself halfway. But she made a comment. (ugh) I played aloof as I could all night and she dropped a few L-bombs & gave me two great kisses (unlike the tightly pursed one when I would go in)! I got gassed up and nerded-out, running back. I suppose I'll see the effect marriage counseling in a few more weeks.
Hi Coach Craig, I appreciate your videos, your help is invaluable! My bf broke up with me 2 months ago and he wanted to keep in touch but I refused and told him it would be hurtful for me to keep in touch with him. He told me to contact him when I feel ok. I had been in NC after the breakup. I think he would not text me, because I told him it would hurt me. He is a very kind, considerate and patient person. So I believe he would just not reach out to me, even though he wants to. And I want to reach out. What do you think? Thanks for all the insight and brilliant ideas, Best.
Didi Roman you shouldve said something like "i prefer not to talk right now as i am trying to focus on myself, but contact me if you change your mind about the break up." im unsure if you should break NC to reach out to him bc he is the one who broke up with you
Listen to this man he knows what hes talking about! Coach craig is genuine and truly wants to see you grow and succeed
Wish I had seen this weeks ago! Ugh! "When someone backs away, give them space." Good mantra, but I still struggle to see how shutting out someone instead of talking things thru in the first place (when there was the initial blowup) is mature in any way. I believe in communication, thru thick and thin. I don't understand these tendencies women have to take flight and shut you out (avoidance...).
Alain Patry I agree
So true man. I always value communication, but some people just aren't mature communicators. Sucks, but you can't have a serious relationship with people who can't talk things through
I don’t understand it either but women are the greatest mystery in the universe. Even they don’t understand themselves or each other. You’d think communicating and clarification in a relationship would set their minds at ease but for the majority of them, it puts them in a tailspin of anxiety. Almost like they need something to be wrong for things to feel right.
My ex too. I value communication, good communication but he prefers to leave and shut me out. :( I guess I'll just have to let go and let God.
Same here but it’s men who shut down and don’t want to have adult communication
That exactly some of the reasons why my ex and I fought a lot , every time I wanted to see him he was tired from his job, therefore we didn't do much. I got tired of not getting out because of this, I mentioned this several times.
Coach Craig..you are a plethora of information and a candle in the darkness that I felt before I found your videos. It all makes sense. I was so worried about getting my ex back...now I just want to love myself first then find love after I’m whole. If it’s my ex great, if it’s not, I still win. Thank you!!!
I legit had a girl tell me she was ready to come back to me, but because I started chasing, she lost complete interest. Don't know how true that was but...We were still connected on social media prior, but as soon as I started chasing, she unfollowed me on everything and it was the last time we spoke. Ever since then, I dont chase. Sometimes they reach back out to you and sometimes they dont. Depends on the connection
What's the point of having a relationship with someone who leaves when you desire them... ?
I was the guy in this video, I even fell asleep at the restaurant when she took us out to have fun. I did not beg or contact her and after 2 weeks she contacted me. It's crazy true how they contact when you REALLY stop thinking about them and try and have fun in your life, it's like they feel that energy. I did not apologize or tell her how much I cared so I was worried my situation no contact would not work but it did. I was reserved because of the way she dumped me but she started to fear I was already moving on. She really loves me because she straight up was open and told me how it was killing her there was no need to mirror her interest. Thanks for the advice coach your vidoes are priceless. Let them miss you and take the space to watch Craigs videos and learn from mistakes.
Hi do you have any updates on your situation ?
I am in a similar situation. Thanks for sharing your situation and all the best in the future.
@@inserter400 She came back 2 weeks later with a late night text. She just broke up with me again 3 days ago after a fight. I realize it's her toxic manipulation that breaks us up everytime I stand up to her. She broke up because I shared her hurtful words to my friend and called it a break of trust. She said the bond is irrepairable and she is moving on. She ignored my apology using the easiest defence that I might share it. If that is what it took for her to leave me alone then it's straight forward. She was not capable of giving me the love and forgiveness I gave her.
I was dumped for 16 years ago and got with her 1 daughter she's 15, and she remarried, and she divoce again
In those years, I never saw my daughter
And now, I just support my child for financial
And she avoids me to talk to me. I don't even think about anything to do with her.
As Craig always says, it’s brutal getting dumped especially when you give 100%. Unfortunately you do need to let them go & give them space. I’m in the same boat and it’s pretty shittie.
Any update?
@@jmelanierenee Hi Jennifer! I hope you're doing well. No, unfortunately I do not have a positive update since my original post. However, I did run into her in Starbucks on Jan 31 '20 - so about 4 months after our break up. We were off and on during '19, so it was our 3rd break up. She hugged me and we chatted for a little while. She was waiting for her female friend to have coffee w/so we didn't really have much time to talk. We talked about her divorce and she seemed scared or out of sorts about it (i.e. she was married the entire time we dated. 1st year he lived in the basement and 2nd year he moved out). Looking back i'm pretty sure she was cheating on me with him. We also talked about an upcoming work trip I had to Austin We had been there together before. When I returned from Austin, 2 weeks later, I reached out to her to see how she was doing. I referenced our Starbucks conversation and asked if she was doing ok. And the response was cold as ice. She didn't even have the common curtesy or respect to write back. It's been a little over a year now. Its gotten easier with time, but I do miss her and 'us.' I think about the why's.' The pain isn't as bad and i've been dating. The challenging part is to not compare someone you're on a date with or dating w/your ex. I know i'm a good person and didn't mess the relationship up. So that definitely helps. I think I finally realized that, in my case, its a matter of her having to get through her divorce and grieving before she can love herself and be there for anyone else. I am a bit surprised that she hasn't reached out b/c we were so close, but i'm sure there were plenty of signs or red flags that I missed during the way. I have hope that i will meet someone great again and be happy. I've been working on myself. Stay strong and continue to leverage Coach Craig's channel. He's the best of the best! Good luck!
I reached out to my ex and we started talking and we are planning of seeing, life is too short to play games. Talk things out, break up or make up.
What was the outcome?
Exactly!
Hope everything worked out with your ex but it doesnt always work reaching out, specially if theyre stubborn
I belaeve you need to reach out after time because you need to move on and if you move on then they come back its not fair on the new partner i done this with my my now ex again im going back to her country in 4 months wish i new she was with some one else it is not fair on the new person
I wish I had seen this early! But doing NC for almost a month now. 7yrs relationship! Isn't easy 😭
Lai Sanchez same! Doing no contact after a 6 yr relationship! Its not easy but we got this🙏🏼❤️
We are all doing well🤗
Michelle N update? I’m going through no contact also. And I’m actually kind of enjoying it and working on myself.
@Ho Sniper Update, what's happened so far?
I have 4yrs relationship, yes i dumped but i can endure it. Just do something that makes u busy
seriously coach Craig is the best I've seen by far
Thanks!
+Coach Craig Kenneth I need your help man dying out here
Having a really hard time. We broke up 6 days ago, his decision. He has financial problems, also we started to have problems in our relationship because he was getting more and more closed. His parents have taught him that money is crucial and even my attempts to calm him didn't work. Anxiety kicked in for both of us and after a major fights with lots of things said, I picked my stuff and went back to my country. Watching the videos daily and hoping things will turn around at some point. Coach, I did understand many things about myself for what I thank you with all my heart. Keep up the good work, we need your advices. Hope no contact works, I really love this person and I am more than ready to work for this relationship. God bless you all!
Kristina Shopova
Hi kristina
Did you get back with your ex?
I have been separated a month and two week NC the same money issues and and living like friends not lovers x I miss him deeply but will try this NC x I watch and listen to Craig daily and he keeps me strong 🙏🏽xx
I was going through the same thing but I just gave up and leave him alone fuckem to be honest
OMG CRAIG! I've binged watched all your videos this week and you crack me up all the time!!!
This video is great, wish I had seen the "what you needed to do at the time" bit about 8 months ago.
I'm in 10 weeks of NC, he didn't reach out, I lost hope,I better move on
Same... what happened?
Why don't you reach out to him?
Dont give up i waited for 3 months until i found out she unblock me on messenger but still did not contact her just be patient and just focus on yourself self love you will thank yourself later
@@MrPatricklucero did she cm bk?
@@Wifeyytalks to be honest we have a final conversation with her after i found out that she unblock me and we decide to part ways to be honest its really hard to accept that things will not go on your way but i thinks its part of you growing up no contact help me grow as invidual and for me to accept the reality wether she will come back or not / if she let go / all you need to do is move forward
"Tonight was kinda fun..."
- "BABY, I LOVE YOU I MISS YOU I CAN'T BE WITHOUT YOU!" 😂
一二三四android四三二一 my own ended up calling cops for me
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Craig, what if she left you because of the lack of attention? What if she left you because you didn't value her enough? Is no contact the solution in the contest as well?
nice straightforward steps. I always support getting in the best shape of your life so you don't even worry about what they think or do on the date
this channel is by far the best an out relationships
Thanks!
definitely
And still. Pound for pound best!
i was just dumped for some loser a week ago. i never been dumped before so all this is new to me but i was thinking about my past relationships and i rem i did reach out to 1/2 of them some time in the future.
Craig, I'm from the UK and going through a very messy break up. I did everything I shouldn't have done like beg, email, text and smother her. Now I'm 7 days into no contact and still wish every day for that text from her. I'm not sure what am I going to do at the end of the no contact if still no contact but this is my only option to get her back. I value your videos and compared to other you tubers yours makes sense. Let's hope it works....
Update? Basically that’s what I do. I go to all these videos and asking for updates. Hope you see this. A guy answered to the same question after his original comment made 5 years ago… today! (She never contacted 😢 him)
I wish I'd seen your videos before. My ex bf of almost 2yrs suddenly broke up with me almost 2 months ago. He was standoffish when I'd reach out but friendly when we hung out s few xs. Then I found out he unblocked a girl from fb he had an emotional affair with the beginning of our relationship and I flipped out. I'm not blocked 😭 he told my bro/his friend hes completely done.
You're an Angel Coach Graig , am going to sign up soon for email coaching , am so devastated as well .... You're the only who can make us alive again by watching on your Videos xxx Please keep up the good work to help others , on this entire World ....
After being divorced 5 yrs back i met a guy n dated him 4yrs till 4 mnths ago..he broke up with me n was all over the net looking for help n support n learnt the no contact. .Two mnths into it he tried to told but I did not give him room..i dint want.following week same guy that had been trying me for about 2 yrs came into my life..i attached. Now his so breadcrumbing me n im here again looking to detach😭
I’ve been doing no contact for a few weeks, but I’m pretty sure my ex has some abandonment issues, and no contact has been making her dislike me even more 😔
By far the besrt advice on break ups!
By far one of the best videos I have seen Craig!!!!
Coach CK is a national treasure 💎
I've been told many things from friends and I'm listening to coach Craig and it's been over thrity days since we've talked. I'm just giving her the space she needs and wants. Just asking if I'm doing the right thing
If she was the one who broke up with you then yes you are doing the right thing
Coach Craig -what if the reason he ended the relationship because he felt the girlfriend wasn’t showing enough affection or attention and he felt that she didn’t care about him? Or not invested in the relationship? Still no contact?
what if I already chased the person? is there a way to reverse that? It's been 7 days since I last chased her. i just decided to stop begging and pleading. Will that still work?
Update?
reverse it by not initiating and be curt with your replies-
Woman in this century makes life difficult such that even love needs a coach. This thing used to be so natural and nice 100 years ago.
Do you even know what was like 100 years ago? Were u even alive
Hello Craig my boyfriend broke up with me I did no contact and he is very angry with me because I don't care about him...on his birthday I didn't wish him
right on the money with this-after someone ghosts you check in once maybe twice then leave it that's it-leave it be-and if someone breaks it off w u-never initiate-let them-and take time to reply--chasing is a clear indication of someone who is co dependant insecure and needy-and its not attractive-confidence is sexy-wear it well!
Too bad we all see this a lil too late ha . I chased hard and got ignored hard. Which made me want to contact more. I finally learned and backed off. Hopefully this all still has an positive effect.
lifeaddict I agree I chased hard as well I’m now on the block list. Lol, I have to laugh to keep from crying. However, I’m just going to take his advice an let it be!!
@lifeaddict
Did she try contact you back?
@solidn6 eh so I've been extremely familiar with all these breakup people bc I keep losing girls the same way. I started out doing it right. Played it so chill to the long breakup text. Alright lemme know if your feelings change "". Then a few days went by and I crumbled haha. Sent lots of reasons why we should be together. No response for a few days. After me getting out all feelings like an idiot I finally pulled no contact. Her bday came up a week after that and didn't shoot her a message. At the end of the day I got a long message from her. Played it casual like thanks for the kind words have a good bday byeeeeee . Hmu if you'd ever like to get together. We hung out once and had fun and hooked up a bit. I shoulda been more distant. She went on vacay and called after to say that she needs to be alone for now. Didn't expect that. But what it boils down to is never explain why you should be together or chase. Just deleted her Snapchat bc I was being obsessed if she'd watch or not. Gotta make them miss you. If they don't miss you then they're not worth your time anyway. Been down about it but I'm cheered up by the fact that I deserve better so I'll find someone who appreciates me or she'll come around and she'll have to UP HER GAME to get me back. Be the prize.
TheCryptoCoinist thanks. If they don't miss you, they don't deserve you. I needed that.
@TheCryptoCoinist
Thanks for the advice, it really helped.
@Angela Barber
I don't know the reason for your break up. But if you did nothing wrong and he still left. Then don't feel bad. Don't think his rejection makes you any less lovable, and know that you will find someone who appreciates you. After some time apart from my ex I'm slowly realizing she was an emotionally abusive person and I can and deserve much better. If she ever does try contact me I wouldn't take her back now.
My situation is almost the same but the difference is when I became frustrated he dumped me. How am I suppose to take that?
That was one of the downfalls that led towards my breakup, I didn’t really listen to my girlfriend, (about anything and everything) which she had told me so many times and had given me so many chances. I hope she has the heart to forgive me this time, because I now know what to work on and how to fix it after watching Craig’s videos.
How’s it going now bud? Y’all together again or not? If so how long did it take to feel better again? Going through something similar
@@nosir1440 We’re not back together yet, but it’s only a matter of time, even though it’s been 3 and a half months into the breakup. Right now, I’m just working on myself to be a better person, doing personal growth, etc, so in case she does come back, I’ll be ready. I’m slowly getting back to working out, been out of commission for months since the breakup. I feel that my breakup is temporary, because we’ve been together for over 5 and a half years and our love was super strong! The breakup only occurred because I was acting like an ass and because of my anxiety and high separation anxiety, (due from many losses in my life and my anxious attachment style.
@@nosir1440 Also, getting back to your second question, I was slowly starting to heel within the last month. I’ve been journaling and listening to Craig’s and Margaret’s videos and Podcasts, so that helps. Telling myself that I want to stay single for now so that I can better myself and work on my personal growth and such. Even though some of my family wants me to start dating again, I just want to tell them that I just don’t want to, I want to focus on myself and look back on my mistakes I made.
@@ponokunishima1 I really appreciate you replying man. I’m 22 and my girl just broke up with me a couple days ago. Been together 3.3 years and the last couple months have been the worst. I pushed her away a lot because I fell into a bad depression. I guess she didn’t want to deal with it even tho when she was depressed most of our relationship I’d do nothing but help her the most. I miss her a lot but I need to work on myself for myself. I guess this is a sign I should work on myself. I just need to get her out of my head
@@nosir1440 No problem bro, here whenever you want to talk.
It’s hard to get someone out of your head if you’ve been with the person for at least over two years, been intimate with, have deep and meaningful conversations, etc. I’ve been with my ex girlfriend for over 5 and a half years and she was my first everything, I just can’t forget about her. Plus, being with someone for that long, you tend to have reoccurring thoughts and dreams about both of you and what it would be like if you two met up and would get back together, I still do. In the shower, in bed, making breakfast and coffee, etc. just have to focus on myself. I’ve also slowly been getting back to the routine of. T grooming and manscaping, even though I don’t have her around to appreciate it, but it still feels good for myself.
Great video by the way....Love your humor!!!!!
I was dumped a few days ago.
I was both a bit needy, and Also unsecure but we always had a deep love her words. I been watching ur video @coachcraig and after a few the first Day where we havent talked She acturlly wrote to me.
I decided to write back to her tomorrow later In the Day no to punish her but to Do what She Also have Said - She need space .. so in-sted of just typing when She wrote i decided to write back after my work so She get the space
Been binge watching your videos for days now. It really consoles me and helps me grow to watch them. I’ve been in no contact for 3 days now after blowing up her phone and writing an apology email. She’s on social media dancing with another guy. She’s trying to make me jealous and has moved on. So I’m moving on too
My boyfriend didn't break up for anything negitive. He thought he was doing what was best for me and my kids. I understand it, and we both don't want to force things. But im afraid that means we both just let it go? Can't I convince him that we can make this work? I got uoset with him when he reached out to me a week after the break up and now I wish I hadn't. Can't I try to reconnect?
I did a grand gesture not meaning too. I was just making sure the gifts I had promised her daughter actually got to her daughter. Instead of waiting for her to redeem a trip to a theme park i just sent the cash knowing she would never redeem it now that her mom and I are not a couple. My ex I think took it as me trying to swoon her daughter for brownie points and it was truly only to make sure that gift didn’t go unclaimed ....
Thank you for your support be blessed
Unless you cheated, you should not bail them out after being broken up with. It's not playing min games, it's respecting yourself and giving them what they ask for.
You can't force someone to change their. You have to give them the option to, when that person is ready you'll know. You will hear from them
Such an inspiration ❤️
So she was neglected by her partner, and now it's her job to try harder to patch things up? She literally told him what was wrong.
He didnt listen - he broke the relationship. It's his job to fix it.
I chased him and he told through text and I quote “leave me alone please.” So I did.
I was doing really well in NC but had a dream that I texted her last night. It sucks, but I guess it’s better than if I really texted her. Blame it on Mercury Retrograde I guess 😂 Still hurts, but these videos are a beacon of hope for both getting her and, way more importantly, myself back. Thanks Coach Craig Kenneth and Coach Margaret.
I wish I watched this before I got dumped. I feel like such a fool. And it did make the situation worse to the point he told me he doesn't want to speak to me ever again. So yeah.. we're in no contact now.
At what point do you give up hoping they will come back? My ex walked out 2 months ago n we havent really spoken about it since i want him back :(
Mine dumped me out of no place nothing I never felt so used and so sad but I realize that life is short and I need to push on into heal myself one day at a time some men are so cruel
Oh boy. I've seen this too late.
What's the thing that no one should ever chase after being dumped?
Your a life saver
You're*
What if you already did a lot of pleading ,breaking no contact after 1 month and say to work things out again after 2 months and rejected once again, am I starting over zero ? Did I ruined my chances?
Update
I tried to talk things out after a 3 year relationship and I begged twice in the span of a week. Since then she contacted me once a week asking to be her friend since she left me for someone else. I had to block her since then, no way I can become healthy knowing someone will use me if I allow it.
Lonely Guy I blocked a week after her and I broke up. July 10th 2019. She said things like “I need a friend” or “forgot about love” so I went no contact for my heartbreak and myself. I blocked her after a month or so and a week later she contacted me on social media telling me even know she knows not to talk to me, she still cares. Lol.
Lonely Guy remember that whatever happens says more about HER than it does about you. You have to realize that you’re having some time to heal and she has taken no alternative to reach out or heal HERSELF. Yes my ex reached out but she ain’t doing with her life. She has no plans, life or anything going on. Just waiting for love even though she through it away. Understand that, you need to heal so the next amazing woman that comes in your life will deserve your love and everything in between. Your ex has shown her colors, once her relationship ends with this guy you will realize she will contact you. But do you really want her back? After she put another man’s jewels in her mouth? You deserve better, you ARE better.
Lonely Guy you have to understand that if she reaches out, you and her are not ready. She betrayed and moved on to some one else. She doesn’t know what it’s like to be alone. She doesn’t know what it’s like to lose someone or be independent. Which means in you will have the upper hand in which you will be in the process of healing and fixing yourself as human being.
I understand and sympathize with you about missing your ex. But know this, why would you want to be with someone that left you to be intimate with another man? She’s a immature and selfish person and it’s time for you to be selfish and know your worth. She left you for some bullshit, she doesn’t deserve you.
Him laughing is funny as hell!
Can we get some advice for women who have lost their man?
Omygod i hope i see this videos before. This i what i did wrong . Crying now !
I've been chasing.... 9byrs later....same place as I was in 8 yrs ago...... got her back 3 times. These rules work....BUT if it doesn't work the first time.....it's nothing but a heartbreak after that....word of advice....find a new clean person to chase verse the old one that is bringing I plast events......
I really needed to see this today! Thank you:-)
craig kenneth sir thank you
i follow your no contact her im now in 3weeks and i never had any txt and call to her. while im in the no contact her. im starting to improve my self like go to gym..and hang out with my friends and still im wait for her... i think she is very mad at me. thats why she never txt me or call.. i remember that she told me she want to have a job and now she have it.. im afraid that she will forget me. but ill still got your advice that dont contact her i miss her so much. thats why im keep fighting to no contact her.. and wait ill and see what she finds. :(( ill always pray that she will be back ...
Marchael Padua how did it go ?
Marchael Padua did she come back ?
Are you alive bro....
I’ve tried to talk to her one time after she broke up with me and when I realised she won’t talk to me I sad to her that I’m not gonna beg and and then conversation by saying that she wanna talk like a mature person I’m willing to clear things up.
Benn two weeks of NC since do you think she is gonna reach out?
She probably will dont mess up like some of us. Keep going strong
Update me please
Corey Wayne take notes.
Well he is really using coach Corey Wayne's presentation methods.
Craig's advice is a million times better! Corey acts like an ass. Craig's a really awesome guy
Lol i know right!
They can both be good at diff things....corey is def.more cocky whereas craig seems a bit.more confident (less arrogant)
Different backgrounds create different person. Bussinessman vs therapist
I am here to be open. What I have done has not worked and I need advice!!
You're funny. :) This is very good advise. I've learned to apply these techiques in my current situation. It's going on 8 weeks now without any contact of any kind to gf since we last got together. Nothing yet so far. I'm working on myself everday though. I've been hitting the gym really hard, lost almost 20 lbs, dropped down to a 34 inch waist, got my teeth cleaned and taking care of myself spiritually. I'm already happier. Still I would another shot at this. Time will tell. Working on patience too. :) Thanks Craig.
update??
@@diabetoobs Everything's still the same. I've gotten on with my life and meeting new people all the time.
I'm just chocking this up to the 'one that won't be coming back'. I'm in a more secure place, 'mentally'. She really doesn't fit my needs even though it did in part, in the beginning. :)
I will learn this video word by word
I’m confused, we had a fight - she kicked me out with all my stuff (i guessed this is her ending it) i sent one message after apologising and saying i’ll respect her decision. She replied that it all sounded repetitive, and that there’s no moving forward. I didn’t reply to that last message and went into NC - did i do the right thing? It’s been 2 months NC not a single word man. Shit hurts. Please coach can you reply, be happy to send you a tip?!
She seemed pretty mad to remove your stuff. I hope you've found some peace in your self improvement. I believe she'll know if she mistakenly acted dramatically, and will reach out to try to fix it.
But only the 2 of you know if you did something she can't/won't get past.
If you didn't do something most people would say is bad- then she probably didn't see a future with you, she found someone else and was looking for a reason to leave, or she's actively trying to hurt you. Those are 4 reasons reestablishing contact would be very low priority, especially relative to self-development
Love this..im in same predicament
Thanks for the tip on this ill take note of it
Your videos and advice are very great that iam done watching Corey Wayne and Chris seiter and all of them because your advice are better than theirs and also because their advice are trash or garbage
Too late 😔😔and he never responded at all
I would ask that if you don't make more of an effort to make another date with her after the first date she might feel that you not interested and she might move on
What do I do when somebody keeps erasing photos on social networks of us together. She pushed away back in the beginning October for good. I just want to text her ..... thinking about you, miss you
My situation! Except 6 years and also 2 kids. But she left me and started dating a new guy after 1 month. Looks like they totally in love with each other! I did all of the mistakes possible (begging, crying and nagging too :( They bees together 2 weeks now. Do I have a chance with her? I'm crashed :(
Roma Lio If you love someone you don't dump them. That's reality. All you can do is move on and not beat yourself up over the past.
Roma Lio it's called, "rebound." she doesn't love that guy and it won't last. she fked up by dating someone else.
Roma Lio did you ever get your wife back?
Roma Lio just be cool. Think of ur kids. Let her go.
Roma Lio jbhans
The more I learn about women and relationships the less I want to be In one!
I needed to hear this
Excellent advice, do you have a discussion when she talks bad about you all over town and on facebook?
on the 19th I left my girlfriend for the reason I felt like I was being ignored.... I know she was in pain I know she was missing her brother... she send me a text this is what she said ((I truly don't understand what happened this morning. ..
1. I'm worried about my stomach
2. I miss my bro., & I'm worried about him too... I don't necessarily have to or want to talk about everything.
I can tell by your reaction that you clearly were waiting for a chance to walk away & that's fine...
Seems as though you were the one keeping something.
Also... I can't believe you left everything I've given you behind....that truly tells me where your heart was when you walked out that door.... Goodbye Wayne, I hope your happy with your choice and whoever you're with.
Please don't bother bringing those stupid pictures of me back....just burn them, just like you burned what we had today.
God Bless you.))) what I need to know is relationship completely over or do I have a chance it's been a week.... I don't want to sound like a weak man,, I do miss her I do love the hell out of her how do I go by apologizing for my actions????
thanks for reading
Top Man you really gave good advice god bless you
"Guy is not giving her attention anymore and because he is ignoring her she gives up = welp, better leave her alone, she's feeling smothered right now." .... Wa, huh, what??
Coach Craig did you given advice for just man or everyone
Awesome Videos!!! The thing that I have noticed is the words on thumbnail "New Videos Every Week day" font is not so good. May be u should change the font and I think it will be even more attractive.
Thanks for the feedback. Any suggestions?
www.dafont.com/ . Awesome fonts there. I use font suggestions from that website for my Web Development Projects.
Thakur karki
Love it. Great channel
20 dys nc still didn't hear from him
Solid advice throughout, but hits a high point at 7:42. Thanks Craig!
My ex needs to watch this. Smh.
This dude in the email is going through the exact same issue as me. Haha
CK what happened with this couple ?
Thanks, Mr. Kenneth... I really did need to hear this one. I've been disassembling myself metaphorically using your videos and trying to build myself back up into someone I like again. It hurts but I'm now totally committed (which I should've been the whole time), so the changes are not going unnoticed.
We eparated just before our son's 2nd birthday (six weeks ago) and things just got clear enough that she invited me out to dinner as a family... it went great but I almost *completely* messed it up at the end running back to her car to steal a hug & kiss! Did NOT go for the smootch, so thankfully I caught myself halfway. But she made a comment. (ugh)
I played aloof as I could all night and she dropped a few L-bombs & gave me two great kisses (unlike the tightly pursed one when I would go in)! I got gassed up and nerded-out, running back. I suppose I'll see the effect marriage counseling in a few more weeks.
How's it going now?
Can u do a video on narcassism?
8:40 mark 🤣
Yo these are all about a guy trying to re-attract a girl. The females KNOW what's up.
Nice
Don’t chase ever j
No contact isn’t for every one my advise is contact the guy in the video get professional help some times there’s no need to do no contact
8:43 I lost myself :)
Almost 2 months no contact... he prolly moved on. I suppose...
Same here... and it sucks!! :(
Lol what if your the one that cheated and now you had a chance of heart
Chase? Im doing the opposite, im divorcing him, i'd rather be on my own than continue being with a narcisist 😁
Hi Coach Craig, I appreciate your videos, your help is invaluable!
My bf broke up with me 2 months ago and he wanted to keep in touch but I refused and told him it would be hurtful for me to keep in touch with him. He told me to contact him when I feel ok. I had been in NC after the breakup. I think he would not text me, because I told him it would hurt me. He is a very kind, considerate and patient person. So I believe he would just not reach out to me, even though he wants to. And I want to reach out. What do you think? Thanks for all the insight and brilliant ideas, Best.
Didi Roman you shouldve said something like "i prefer not to talk right now as i am trying to focus on myself, but contact me if you change your mind about the break up." im unsure if you should break NC to reach out to him bc he is the one who broke up with you
Didi Roman h