I always say that when a married man "hits on you" it is NOT flattering, a compliment, or anything positive. Because what he is really saying to you is, "I can only offer you a piece of me and I think you are (broken, weak, damaged.....etc) enough to accept it."
And when I think about how we sang all these songs back in the day from Guy and other groups, talking about "you can have a piece of my love... I'm not totally free..." We were speaking into existence things we didn't really even understand!
Laterrias, I never comment but I have to applaud Danai for her transparency. A man telling you that you’re good enough to have his babies but not good enough to be his wife is a slap in the face. As you said, that’s just confusion and the God we serve does not operate in confusion. Praying that Danai is blessed with a Godly man that is worthy of her heart 💕
Another amazing episode! So much of Danai’s story resonated with me. When you have followed all of the rules, had pure intentions, consulted God, checked off all of the boxes and you still get hurt!!!! It’s devastating. I’m still learning how to guard my heart without shutting potential partners down completely. It’s so hard to trust out here in these dating streets because everyone does not have the same heart as you, everyone’s intentions are not pure. Thank u Danai. I feel u.
@@alishia4433 Man … your ENTIRE COMMENT … sums up how I felt and the sadness and discouragement from feeling that way and not having any answers. I just wanted to get as far away from that time as possible and never think about it or talk about it again. And then Laterras asked me a question about “Guarding my heart….” And it all came out 😩😩😩🤣🤣🤣… I am so grateful that what I went through is connecting with so many people who are going through similar struggles in their walk and can hear a woman speak from the heart and be open and vulnerable .. and HOPEFULLY offer some wisdom on what not to do… I feel you too ❤️❤️❤️
I’m 32 min into this, and all I hear is manipulation and games from the male this beautiful woman encountered. When I tell you, it is critical for us to know our value and discern the mess when it approaches us. I applaud her for sharing this with the masses.
Wow wow!!! She is telling the TRUTH!!!!!!!!!! Listen ladies and gentlemen guard your heart!!! I had to listen to the podcast twice. There are so many nuggets in her message. Thank you for sharing your journey with us❤️
D, she is one of the goats on relationships coaching and counseling. I love to glean from her, such a well of wisdom and insight. Another great episode bro.
This wasn't just for women. She came on here to speak to me as well. God is so good. Always sends you what you need right when you need it. And let me just say this.....bro..that letter you read at the end...woooooo buddy. That touched my heart! I want a connection with my wife like that. Absolutely beautifly spoken my brother 💯🙏🏽
I think this was a great reminder that it's important to pay attention to what's actually happening versus the prophecy you may believe is falling on alignment with what "God is telling you". Sometimes we(women) can feel or think we feel something and it's really not God's will no matter how good our discernment might be. I really appreciate the transparency because we get hurt or put in harm's way even when we're trying to do right as she mentioned. People are human and will make mistakes, but guarding our hearts will prevent so much heartache. ♥️
Totally agree...I thought I got a sign from God that a guy was the 1......he turned out to be far from the one let's just say that. I appreciate her transparency because no 1 really talks about this type of false discernment that weakens us spiritually.....I like the story of the Shunamite she used to highlight her point
Yes! I refuse to believe that God is a liar or a malicious trickster, but that we may not always get what He is saying (or isn't saying) right instead.
@@SkegeeAce So True God can NEVER fail us and is not a liar... it's us who misinterprets what we think God said or is saying. HELP us Lord to get out of your way ,so you can do what ONLY you can do.
I’ve never heard of her before but when I say I love her personality, transparency and the fact that she puts God first is key. Thank you both for this message. Blessings
This was one of the best interviews! The therapists was transparent in sharing her pain, but I know she helped a lot of people. God bless you both for making this content available.
The main take away I am getting from this and I really hope everyone get it too is this. Guard your heart. Going back to the title of this episode. Guard it! Let's dig a little deeper about the heart. Really understand where you are. If you're vulnerable, desperate, horny...etc. Those are the issues you will be dealing with. We always connect guarding your heart with external things. Never the things with in us. This is where the issues dwell. "The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?" Jeremiah 17:9
"Guard your heart," such an informal episode... Danai was so raw and transparent. I pray that God blesses her with her Kingdom spouse, what a ministry that will be!!!
This episode took a turn I did not expect! I thought this was going to be the typical “Guard your heart cuz folks out here are playing games and you don’t wanna get got”, but to address this in the scenario of being in love with someone who is in love with you but is unavailable/unhealthy is SO important! I thank you SO much for your transparency! This is exactly what I needed because I went through something highly similar with someone who just became my ex, so many nuggets and while I will always appreciate and cherish the fact that we were in love, it also is a testament to show that you can’t just be in love, you have to be healthy and whole enough to make good despite and stand on them. Without that, love will not last-it cannot last. Being in love doesn’t mean you’re with someone who will know how to be a healthy partner for the long haul. I had to learn that guarding your heart also means not allowing your feelings to get in the way of doing what’s right by others and yourself. Thank you Danai! ♥️
The tears I cried watching this episode…wow, that’s how you know Holy Spirit all over this! Her transparency, wisdom, and openness is literally a conduit of the healing of God and I’m so grateful I stumbled upon this episode. Thank you both for the grace and strength displayed in this conversation - God bless you!!
Girl, you dooooodged a bullet!!! I believe God was showing you this guy's character: he was not who wanted him to be. He actually was a cheater among other flaws. That was a huge testimony 🙌🏿 I pray that God blesses you 10 fold 🙏🏿
I can totally relate to all that you have shared! I'm asking the same questions and still waiting for the answers. It can be quite heartbreaking and confusing when you believe you're doing the right things and the floor drops from underneath you.
Wow!!! Whew!!! This was a power episode!!! Laterras, this episode was "LIT"...Woman we have to be intentional in dating and allowing men to pursue us. She said "Men assign roles we haven't auditioned for". BUT, when we find out what that role is we first have an obligation to God to protect our relationship with God to walk away, no matter how hard it may be. I have to share this with my sisters! I'm with the therapist, we have to modify our questionnaire with men. I totally appreciate her transparency and willingness to share! Healing and being free from bondage is going to come out of this episode for so many people! Laterras your podcast just keeps getting better with each episode. I'm having a spiritual feast! My spirit is being well fed. Powerful episode!! The word of God is alive and exerts power!
Thank you, Danai, for being real with your experience. The enemy of our souls will use people that we love to lure us away from the purposes of God. And God will use experiences like yours to clean out the things that are hindering us as we walk with Him! May we all listen, learn, and gain understanding that we are in a war for our souls and for the purposes of God to be manifested in our lives. Bravo to this message!
Wow! I cannot believe how much this story mirrors my own! Almost every detail was the same, including being ghosted only to find out later he married someone else. The pain of that heart break was devastating. God brought me through it, and at the same time revealed so many areas of my life that were broken and needed healing. I'm still hopeful that God will bring love to me again. This time I will be ready. I will guard my heart, but I'm also willing to share it with the right man. Great episode!!
I was out here at one time thinking, "Well, I wouldn't do folks dirty, surely they will treat me the same." Oh, I had to learn that lesson...was in remedial classes a few times too.🤦🏽♀️😢🤣.
I have been following these Dear Future Wifey Podcasts for almost four months now and each time I watch, it's like getting free Relationship Counseling. EVERY Podcasts I've watched thus far, there has been something said by both Laterras and his guests that has impacted me and ministered to me on a personal level. And 90% of the Guests I'd never even heard of before until I started watching these Podcasts. So glad I started watching! I loved listening to this conversation and was so impressed by this lady because she was reading my mail in describing the personal experiences she'd had. Loved this!
It’s the transparency for me; she definitely understood the assignment! Powerful truth all through this video…whewwwwww! I’ve been following BlackMarriageMovement page for a while and it makes me happy and sad at the same time!
Guard our heart & mind, as the mind can create a whole illusion of false reality based on what we believe to be true. Much respect for the openness & transparency your guest Danai shared as there is always value in a person's experiences. The wisdom is always found in the lesson. "Give what you are hoping to receive", great message & that takes faith. I pray your guest finds the one God has equally yoked for her as she walks in her purpose. The letter was poetic & so well versed. May you both find the desires of your heart. Another great podcast. It was so important you mentioned what is the woman's role in partaking in an affair, as the accountability is on both parties. Well said. Also, emotional affairs happen in the mind before the physical act itself. Our thoughts create our reality.
This was so good!!! I’ve had an experience where I was believing God and ended up with someone who was horrible. It made me also doubt my ability to hear God. It shook my hope. This podcast blessed my heart. Thank you for sharing!
The whole part about sin’s consequences and how whatever we’re capable of we put in people is SO true!!! That is truth! I’ve seen that before and it makes perfect sense now.
By far one of THE BEST people you've had on your podcast. I can so relate to everything this woman said. Her truth and honesty and her transparency is truly truly appreciated. God bless this woman God has so much great things in store for her and I'm believing for my miracles as well. I so thank you for having a podcast like this it's truly special ❤️
Guard your Heart!! We as women love hard and it’s our nature to give so it’s really upsetting that some of us have had to be heart broken to Guard our Hearts! I was in a situation where I allowed a man in my life that was legally separated and awaiting to be divorced and I trusted him that he was going to following through with his situation well after giving my heart and really letting my guard down divorce didn’t happened!! So now I will guard my heart and pray that I don’t miss out of a blessing from guarding my heart!! Thank you both for this episode i really love gaining all the knowledge on these platforms
That almost happened to me! He lied and said he was divorced, but my spirit couldn't rest so I straight up asked him, "Are you still married?" and then he broke down and said he was just separated. I talked to him for a month after that after initially reading him the riot act and ignoring him for a week, but I just couldn't trust him. I had to cut him off.
The letter to your future wifey , made me cry , I PRAY THAT YOU MEET THE WOMEN THAT GOD HAS FOR YOU , THIS PODCAST HAS BEEN A BLESSING TO ME IN MY Brokenness , I was married to a narcissist for 8 year
all your series are applicable to me. I was heartbroken when I was young and I never entertained anyone offering for a relationship. Then lately, I started to take on the challenge and when I came across your series, I followed deeply because I want to learn from them and take risks with caution.
I came from a broken home with a father who did not know how to teach his children fundamental things such as protecting our hearts , life has been trial and error , I so guard my heart , that I let none get through , I reserve that love, Trust is the no 1 thing and I truly trust none , I allow god to totally guide my footsteps , something I did not do before . A great guest wonderful lady , transparent , wise but with a great sense of humour enjoyed . Laterras #Dearwifey# bless
This episode has got to be my favourite. Wow Danai, thank you so much for being transparent and open and sharing this experience. There is so much that you shared here that was so helpful. The pain and struggle is real. There were so many gems in your story that was so helpful to me. Especially as a God fearing person who wants to do right.
This gets better with each new episode. Genuinely, I think all this information should be collated from every episode starting at season one and put into a book or something. Imagine these principles being taught in schools or parents using them to guide their children. There's a lot of wealth here. Praise God and thank you for letting Him use you as His vessels. God bless ❤️
I have fallen in love with this podcast! Every episode I have watched has blessed me! 🙏🏽 This is so much of what I needed for this season of my life! As you always say, “ God is so intentional!”💜
This episode was such a GOD MOVEMENT. The exposed beauty of this content was such a breath of fresh air for me. I am breathing clearer now. Being honest with yourself through a hurt, a process, and a journey while staying the course, even if it takes time, is courageous. She went through this to be a beacon of hope for other women and Men as well. Thank you Laterras for your continued transparency and focus on this mission. I appreciate you!
You are a great and courageous woman ma'am,. I have discovered that the higher we grow in God, the tougher the test, sometimes God wants to see if we are willing to let go of any and everything for his sake. And some times he is preparing us for something greater.
I’m not sure how I missed this amazing episode.😮 OMG! Danai so clearly and articulately described how she felt to believe she had found love God’s way then after falling for this man she discovered that when he disappeared he married someone else! My God!! The part where it felt like the Shulamite woman who said, I’m cool with not having a son so prophet , No thanks and then she has a son who dies. Having love to die or a dream to die when you we’re walking closely with God is so undoing to the spirit, soul and mind! Lord I pray that you bless 10 times, Danai and others who heard this amazing story and felt like we could not go on! Lord give us Victory as you define it, In Jesus Name!!❤❤️🩹🙏🏾
In regards to guarding your heart. I seriously made a quality decision to do so. This was hard to listen to because so many times women commit there love to a man who doesn’t desire this type of loyalty and consideration. My heart went out to her because from the outside looking in I could see the red flags and games being played. This makes me automatically want to keep to myself in these dating streets but I know better, so I can do better now. Thank you for being so transparent Dania❤ You will be chosen by a righteous man of God in these dating streets🥰
OMG this was an amazing story I myself went through something similar about five years ago and I'm hoping one day my heart will heal from it. She's so vulnerable and that takes a lot of strength she's so real and authentic not to mention amazingly gracious. Most people told me in that scenario to Follow my heart, but when I went to church that Sunday during the pastors sermon he actually talked about Sometimes you can't follow your heart, and this is when I knew to walk away.
This is very powerful! She said this was long ago but the way she talks about it means she never got over it and never dealt with it. This story sounds like it just happened a year ago but when she said a long time ago ooouuu y all we need to heal!!!! We need to heal y all 😢. I loved this episode❤❤❤
This was sooooo good!!! My gosh...I even had to fight back the tears....especially when Danai said "give what you want to get"...in all honesty...I stopped doing that because of hurt. So now I ask God to "guard my heart" for safety. My God....this was soo good ..
Danai thank you for your transparency, your truth, and your integrity. I do believe as a woman it is my duty to hold a man responsible and I do understand that a lot of us women did not have anyone to coach us as we were growing up and unfortunately we’ve stub our toes over and maybe over again before getting the lesson. Thanks to Leterras for this platform and for all the life lessons it has provided. ❤️
Love! Love! Love! This episode for so many personal reasons. Your testimony could bring deliverance and healing to so many. Thank you for your transparency.
" You don't have to believe people BUT you have to believe God!" She's so articulate and well versed❤❤ Whewwww, "Guarding your heart is where God lives"❤❤
Shuu. I second that sentence, "Danai, you have a gift". May God continue to use you to bless, mend, heal, love his broken people. I listened to this now and the emotions I felt are out of this world. Honestly downloading this session so that I revisit it every now and again just to remind myself about what you guys spoke about in this episode. Thank you, so much. May God truly bless you.
My 1st tear was when she recited the Shunamite Woman “strength”, I don’t know man of God how you were managing but when you read your “wifey” letter - I put 2 & 2 together, how she just so happened to be in LA as you. I’m sorry but I need you to go through this episode you just did with this woman & watch the amazing, electrifying chemistry between you 2. To God be the Glory😇🙏🏽 I loved her, I love you & my healing can begin. Intentional.
This was HUUUUUGE!!! My goodness. I am digging what she is saying because there is so much I am unpacking and still need to unpack. She is someone who I may need to connect with in order to reflect, unpack and deeply introspect. Thank you!! ❤️
Danai is a beautiful name. Know one could have delivered this message like you. You’re personality and transparency was well received. The older I get ; the more I understand women. Being married is a human experience we only get once. I’m learning so much from this podcast. And my healing has helped me look at women totally different. Thank so much for sharing your journey Danai.
Thank you Kintu. The name “Danai” actually means “to love one another,” or “go ahead and love one another.” It’s a Shona name from the people of Zimbabwe. God bless you on your journey … and bless your marriage. Never stop learning and growing!
@@blackmarriagemovement1812 I am so happy to have bumped into this video today Danai and coming from A Zimbabwean like me. I was asking myself, Ndezverudzi here? You told the same experienceas mine to the T. I had the 4am calls, showing up at my gate at night drunk few days after his wedding telling me he made a mistake. But in our culture you know what we go through till we walk down the aisle.. I called it BS and it took me to recently relocate to another continent for him to get the hint that i am not ineterested in being a side piece. He was persistent for 6 years and by the grace of God i avoided an affair. I am a wife in waiting not a side chick. Thank you so much for sharing and validating to me that there is nothing special there especially when you are still hoping for marriage. I think one day i will write a book lol i have so many stories.
Transparency 📌. This podcast will forever be my favorite. I like how sincere she is. Loved every bit of it. God uses our situations and makes things beautiful. Look at her healing people now.
Wow I love this lesson. I’m single but I hear you loud and clear.. I never trusted men in my youth. So now I am ready for a good, happy and true husband. Great show
Loved, loved this episode, no she did not share to much, she shared just right!! Thanyyou Mighty Wimen of God. I have been challenged and changed!! Keep ministering Latteras, God Bless You.
I just want you to know how much you blessed me with your testimony. The part of hearing from God but then when it doesn’t happen, others make you start questioning if you’re really hearing Him. I appreciate your honesty and just wanted you to know 2 years later from this episode the Lord is still using you to give revelation to His children. There are times we just may not understand the reasons behind prophecy given and it’s okay because He is Lord and His thoughts are higher than ours.
Ms Danai is telling my story!! Broken, bitter angry with God when my marriage (that started as an affair) fell apart. I remember telling the lord “I’m done with you! I did everything you told me to, I was a great wife to this man that I could never understand why he wouldn’t trust me! I worked extra hard to make sure he never had a reason to question me and this is what I get? “ The lord gently said to me, “what does not believing in Me look like? Where are you going to go?” I could genuinely imagine Him giggling at me while I had my tantrum 😂😂. No matter what happens in life, it has no meaning without God. We were created by Him and for Him!!! ❤
She's providing a lot of insight. Going through something similar, 😪 having no answers and continuously wondering has been nerve wrecking. Thank you for sharing your testimony
OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I feel this woman on so many levels. She is telling MY story! Our stories are quite similar in the fact that I fell in love with a man (who I felt was my best friend) years prior to him getting engaged to someone else, in which I found out through my girl best friend. I completely understand the thoughts, feelings and emotions that she expresses in her testimony. It has been such a relief and validation to me to know that in my experience in the 3 1/2-4 years this situation unfolded, I felt the validation in that I wasn’t crazy after all!! Also like her I wasn’t very vocal at all about my true feelings about him in attempts to guard my heart. I’ll be honest and say I was terrified to tell him but I finally did at the time he was in a relationship with this woman (prior to his engagement). Since then there have been countless “kismet” scenarios , such as unplanned color coordination etc., between he and I that I’ve paid close attention to and am sure he probably hasn’t noticed. He’s no longer engaged and at this time I’ve decided to wait for the man God has ordained for me. I could go on and on… its just crazy… my mind is completely blown!
This woman spoke to me in some of the things she said....When she said I didn't ask for anything, but it showed up anyway and she was disappointed and hurt when it didn't work out. I've been there too many times. Also when she said love softens hearts....
I always say that when a married man "hits on you" it is NOT flattering, a compliment, or anything positive. Because what he is really saying to you is, "I can only offer you a piece of me and I think you are (broken, weak, damaged.....etc) enough to accept it."
Preach!!!!
That is SO GOOD
Wow... that's a WORD!!!! Thank you for that!!
And when I think about how we sang all these songs back in the day from Guy and other groups, talking about "you can have a piece of my love... I'm not totally free..." We were speaking into existence things we didn't really even understand!
Wow
Laterrias, I never comment but I have to applaud Danai for her transparency. A man telling you that you’re good enough to have his babies but not good enough to be his wife is a slap in the face. As you said, that’s just confusion and the God we serve does not operate in confusion. Praying that Danai is blessed with a Godly man that is worthy of her heart 💕
Amen and in Jesus' Name. May the pattern of heartbreak break forever by virtue of what Christ did for us. Amen
Amen
Thank you. This is beautiful. And I receive your prayer
@@MissAbsss Amen
So thankful for her sharing this. A lot of women go through this secretly.
This is proof that our stories, even the painful ones, matter and God uses them to teach us wisdom and set others free! Great, great episode!
Another amazing episode! So much of Danai’s story resonated with me. When you have followed all of the rules, had pure intentions, consulted God, checked off all of the boxes and you still get hurt!!!! It’s devastating. I’m still learning how to guard my heart without shutting potential partners down completely. It’s so hard to trust out here in these dating streets because everyone does not have the same heart as you, everyone’s intentions are not pure. Thank u Danai. I feel u.
Yes indeed
@@alishia4433 Man … your ENTIRE COMMENT … sums up how I felt and the sadness and discouragement from feeling that way and not having any answers. I just wanted to get as far away from that time as possible and never think about it or talk about it again. And then Laterras asked me a question about “Guarding my heart….” And it all came out 😩😩😩🤣🤣🤣… I am so grateful that what I went through is connecting with so many people who are going through similar struggles in their walk and can hear a woman speak from the heart and be open and vulnerable .. and HOPEFULLY offer some wisdom on what not to do… I feel you too ❤️❤️❤️
@@alishia4433 Same here. With a pure heart, and got hurt!
I’m 32 min into this, and all I hear is manipulation and games from the male this beautiful woman encountered. When I tell you, it is critical for us to know our value and discern the mess when it approaches us. I applaud her for sharing this with the masses.
Yes!!!🎯
Absolutely!
Wow you preached an entire message. ( Discern the mess when it approaches you)
Wow wow!!! She is telling the TRUTH!!!!!!!!!! Listen ladies and gentlemen guard your heart!!! I had to listen to the podcast twice. There are so many nuggets in her message. Thank you for sharing your journey with us❤️
Thank you for allowing me to 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Sooo good!!!!
Absolutely she was light for married and the single and the in between
D, she is one of the goats on relationships coaching and counseling. I love to glean from her, such a well of wisdom and insight. Another great episode bro.
@jaybarnett Facts
Thank you Jay .. very kind 🙏🏾
Factsss
This wasn't just for women. She came on here to speak to me as well. God is so good. Always sends you what you need right when you need it. And let me just say this.....bro..that letter you read at the end...woooooo buddy. That touched my heart! I want a connection with my wife like that. Absolutely beautifly spoken my brother 💯🙏🏽
I could not have said it better #dontsettle ‼️
The enemy will fool the very elect in the last days…but stay a fool! #shestillWINS
*DON’T STAY A FOOL*
I love how Latarrius digs really deep and gives light on the type of mate a man needs.
I think this was a great reminder that it's important to pay attention to what's actually happening versus the prophecy you may believe is falling on alignment with what "God is telling you". Sometimes we(women) can feel or think we feel something and it's really not God's will no matter how good our discernment might be. I really appreciate the transparency because we get hurt or put in harm's way even when we're trying to do right as she mentioned. People are human and will make mistakes, but guarding our hearts will prevent so much heartache. ♥️
So true! Go by what God says directly to you because He can never lie.
Vau've Davis Amen completely. 🙏
Totally agree...I thought I got a sign from God that a guy was the 1......he turned out to be far from the one let's just say that. I appreciate her transparency because no 1 really talks about this type of false discernment that weakens us spiritually.....I like the story of the Shunamite she used to highlight her point
Yes! I refuse to believe that God is a liar or a malicious trickster, but that we may not always get what He is saying (or isn't saying) right instead.
@@SkegeeAce So True God can NEVER fail us and is not a liar... it's us who misinterprets what we think God said or is saying. HELP us Lord to get out of your way ,so you can do what ONLY you can do.
I was not raised to be a side piece!! That part 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
This is why my “block, delete” game is strong. At the first 🚩… don’t pass go, don’t collect $200. Bye bye sir!
Same here👉🏾 ain’t nobody got time for that🤨
Okaaay! Period lol
Me. All day. I also rely heavily on discernment. If something tingles in my spirit, I'm believing it. I no longer need to understand it.
I agree.
@@Ghe608 Wow!! And this is not an isolated occurrence.
I’ve never heard of her before but when I say I love her personality, transparency and the fact that she puts God first is key. Thank you both for this message. Blessings
Bless you ❤️❤️❤️
"I've always tried to give away what I needed!"🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
This is one of the best interviews. It got better and better. She hit SOOO much on all levels of heart issues.
Happy you were encouraged ❤️
This was one of the best interviews! The therapists was transparent in sharing her pain, but I know she helped a lot of people. God bless you both for making this content available.
The main take away I am getting from this and I really hope everyone get it too is this. Guard your heart. Going back to the title of this episode. Guard it! Let's dig a little deeper about the heart. Really understand where you are. If you're vulnerable, desperate, horny...etc. Those are the issues you will be dealing with. We always connect guarding your heart with external things. Never the things with in us. This is where the issues dwell. "The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?" Jeremiah 17:9
Powerful scripture.
"Guard your heart," such an informal episode... Danai was so raw and transparent. I pray that God blesses her with her Kingdom spouse, what a ministry that will be!!!
This episode took a turn I did not expect! I thought this was going to be the typical “Guard your heart cuz folks out here are playing games and you don’t wanna get got”, but to address this in the scenario of being in love with someone who is in love with you but is unavailable/unhealthy is SO important! I thank you SO much for your transparency! This is exactly what I needed because I went through something highly similar with someone who just became my ex, so many nuggets and while I will always appreciate and cherish the fact that we were in love, it also is a testament to show that you can’t just be in love, you have to be healthy and whole enough to make good despite and stand on them. Without that, love will not last-it cannot last. Being in love doesn’t mean you’re with someone who will know how to be a healthy partner for the long haul. I had to learn that guarding your heart also means not allowing your feelings to get in the way of doing what’s right by others and yourself. Thank you Danai! ♥️
The tears I cried watching this episode…wow, that’s how you know Holy Spirit all over this! Her transparency, wisdom, and openness is literally a conduit of the healing of God and I’m so grateful I stumbled upon this episode. Thank you both for the grace and strength displayed in this conversation - God bless you!!
God bless you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🥰🥰
Me too! 😭😭😭😭
Girl, you dooooodged a bullet!!!
I believe God was showing you this guy's character: he was not who wanted him to be. He actually was a cheater among other flaws. That was a huge testimony 🙌🏿
I pray that God blesses you 10 fold 🙏🏿
Thank you ☺️
I can totally relate to all that you have shared! I'm asking the same questions and still waiting for the answers. It can be quite heartbreaking and confusing when you believe you're doing the right things and the floor drops from underneath you.
Ma’am! 😂😂😂 truer words were never spoken
Bring deliverance Lord!
Me too!
GOD literally spoke to her and through her, she didn’t know she was already prepared to speak to so many people in similar situations 🙏❤️😍
I can listen to her speak all day. Her transparency was so needed and appreciated. She's the coach I needed when I had couple's counseling.
Wow!!! Whew!!! This was a power episode!!! Laterras, this episode was "LIT"...Woman we have to be intentional in dating and allowing men to pursue us.
She said "Men assign roles we haven't auditioned for". BUT, when we find out what that role is we first have an obligation to God to protect our relationship with God to walk away, no matter how hard it may be. I have to share this with my sisters! I'm with the therapist, we have to modify our questionnaire with men. I totally appreciate her transparency and willingness to share! Healing and being free from bondage is going to come out of this episode for so many people! Laterras your podcast just keeps getting better with each episode. I'm having a spiritual feast! My spirit is being well fed. Powerful episode!! The word of God is alive and exerts power!
Amen!!
Tears…”I told you I was okay” When people come and unexpectedly disrupt your heart and then disappoint you.
That part 😢
Thank you, Danai, for being real with your experience. The enemy of our souls will use people that we love to lure us away from the purposes of God. And God will use experiences like yours to clean out the things that are hindering us as we walk with Him! May we all listen, learn, and gain understanding that we are in a war for our souls and for the purposes of God to be manifested in our lives. Bravo to this message!
Wow! I cannot believe how much this story mirrors my own! Almost every detail was the same, including being ghosted only to find out later he married someone else. The pain of that heart break was devastating. God brought me through it, and at the same time revealed so many areas of my life that were broken and needed healing. I'm still hopeful that God will bring love to me again. This time I will be ready. I will guard my heart, but I'm also willing to share it with the right man. Great episode!!
Amen 🙏
I love her humor, transparency, confidence, and beauty! "You don't get anything"- GEM!! Great episode!
Bless you Love ❤️
I was out here at one time thinking, "Well, I wouldn't do folks dirty, surely they will treat me the same." Oh, I had to learn that lesson...was in remedial classes a few times too.🤦🏽♀️😢🤣.
Tell the truth
Chillld ain’t that the truth.
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I have been following these Dear Future Wifey Podcasts for almost four months now and each time I watch, it's like getting free Relationship Counseling. EVERY Podcasts I've watched thus far, there has been something said by both Laterras and his guests that has impacted me and ministered to me on a personal level. And 90% of the Guests I'd never even heard of before until I started watching these Podcasts. So glad I started watching! I loved listening to this conversation and was so impressed by this lady because she was reading my mail in describing the personal experiences she'd had. Loved this!
Totally agree with her about society being oversexed as to much emphasis is placed on it without fully understanding the dangers it can bring.
Her testimony, sounded like I was speaking out loud in my healing.. Such a blessing to hear this podcast tonight. .... Thank you
I so relate to her story. When you are in a peaceful place and someone steps in to disturb your peace.
I love her voice, energy, and communication style. She is definitely the one to convey this message...very caring and persuasive.
Another incredible episode, showing the importance of being so careful when others come to us for spiritual guidance.
It’s the transparency for me; she definitely understood the assignment! Powerful truth all through this video…whewwwwww! I’ve been following BlackMarriageMovement page for a while and it makes me happy and sad at the same time!
Me too. Happy and sad at the same time 🥰🥰🥰
Loved her transparency!! This is so relatable for so many of us and we don’t talk about it.
Myyyyyyy goodness!!! A lot of what she was talking about resonated so deeply. Guard your heart is hands down one of my favorite episodes so far. 💜🙌🏾
Guard our heart & mind, as the mind can create a whole illusion of false reality based on what we believe to be true. Much respect for the openness & transparency your guest Danai shared as there is always value in a person's experiences. The wisdom is always found in the lesson. "Give what you are hoping to receive", great message & that takes faith. I pray your guest finds the one God has equally yoked for her as she walks in her purpose. The letter was poetic & so well versed. May you both find the desires of your heart. Another great podcast. It was so important you mentioned what is the woman's role in partaking in an affair, as the accountability is on both parties. Well said. Also, emotional affairs happen in the mind before the physical act itself. Our thoughts create our reality.
This was so good!!! I’ve had an experience where I was believing God and ended up with someone who was horrible. It made me also doubt my ability to hear God. It shook my hope. This podcast blessed my heart. Thank you for sharing!
Bless you love ❤️
I’m loving this guard your mind and heart series! My new prayers I pray daily now! Thank you for this Laterras! Always on point!
Thank you, Queen.
The whole part about sin’s consequences and how whatever we’re capable of we put in people is SO true!!! That is truth! I’ve seen that before and it makes perfect sense now.
By far one of THE BEST people you've had on your podcast. I can so relate to everything this woman said. Her truth and honesty and her transparency is truly truly appreciated. God bless this woman God has so much great things in store for her and I'm believing for my miracles as well. I so thank you for having a podcast like this it's truly special ❤️
❤️❤️❤️ bless you love ❤️
I’m blessed by this. Thank you Danai for sharing your experience, strength and hope! Thank you Latteras for holding this space ❤️🩹✨🙏🏽
Guard your Heart!! We as women love hard and it’s our nature to give so it’s really upsetting that some of us have had to be heart broken to Guard our Hearts! I was in a situation where I allowed a man in my life that was legally separated and awaiting to be divorced and I trusted him that he was going to following through with his situation well after giving my heart and really letting my guard down divorce didn’t happened!! So now I will guard my heart and pray that I don’t miss out of a blessing from guarding my heart!! Thank you both for this episode i really love gaining all the knowledge on these platforms
That almost happened to me! He lied and said he was divorced, but my spirit couldn't rest so I straight up asked him, "Are you still married?" and then he broke down and said he was just separated. I talked to him for a month after that after initially reading him the riot act and ignoring him for a week, but I just couldn't trust him. I had to cut him off.
“I’ve always tried to give away what I needed” Definitely can resonate with that statement.
The letter to your future wifey , made me cry , I PRAY THAT YOU MEET THE WOMEN THAT GOD HAS FOR YOU , THIS PODCAST HAS BEEN A BLESSING TO ME IN MY Brokenness , I was married to a narcissist for 8 year
This conversation is giving me chills. I can relate to her testimony. Wow, God I know you led me here.
Wow! Her story is my story as well. So glad that she kept it real and transparent because alot of Christians do not. Loved this episode so much! 🖤
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Yesssss
Guarding your heart is literally guarding where God resides in us. Protecting our relationship with God from the pitfalls ❤❤❤
This episode spoke to my heart. I felt her heartache because it’s similar to mine. I pray that she receive her heart’s desires.
all your series are applicable to me. I was heartbroken when I was young and I never entertained anyone offering for a relationship. Then lately, I started to take on the challenge and when I came across your series, I followed deeply because I want to learn from them and take risks with caution.
This touched me so deeply, thank you for your transparency woman of God.
Thank you for your kind words
I came from a broken home with a father who did not know how to teach his children fundamental things such as protecting our hearts , life has been trial and error , I so guard my heart , that I let none get through , I reserve that love,
Trust is the no 1 thing and I truly trust none , I allow god to totally guide my footsteps , something I did not do before .
A great guest wonderful lady , transparent , wise but with a great sense of humour enjoyed .
Laterras #Dearwifey# bless
This is real talk!!!! Gratitude for being vulnerable and open enough to share.
Thank you for listening and providing a safe space to share 🙏🏾
This episode has got to be my favourite. Wow Danai, thank you so much for being transparent and open and sharing this experience. There is so much that you shared here that was so helpful. The pain and struggle is real. There were so many gems in your story that was so helpful to me. Especially as a God fearing person who wants to do right.
So much truth, transparency, and "me too" moments in this episode. Very appreciated. 💜
This gets better with each new episode.
Genuinely, I think all this information should be collated from every episode starting at season one and put into a book or something. Imagine these principles being taught in schools or parents using them to guide their children. There's a lot of wealth here. Praise God and thank you for letting Him use you as His vessels.
God bless ❤️
I have fallen in love with this podcast! Every episode I have watched has blessed me! 🙏🏽 This is so much of what I needed for this season of my life! As you always say, “ God is so intentional!”💜
I needed this message more than I thought I did!! Thank you Danai, your word has changed my life, my mind, and my heart!
This episode was such a GOD MOVEMENT. The exposed beauty of this content was such a breath of fresh air for me. I am breathing clearer now. Being honest with yourself through a hurt, a process, and a journey while staying the course, even if it takes time, is courageous. She went through this to be a beacon of hope for other women and Men as well. Thank you Laterras for your continued transparency and focus on this mission. I appreciate you!
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You are a great and courageous woman ma'am,.
I have discovered that the higher we grow in God, the tougher the test, sometimes God wants to see if we are willing to let go of any and everything for his sake. And some times he is preparing us for something greater.
I’m not sure how I missed this amazing episode.😮 OMG! Danai so clearly and articulately described how she felt to believe she had found love God’s way then after falling for this man she discovered that when he disappeared he married someone else! My God!! The part where it felt like the Shulamite woman who said, I’m cool with not having a son so prophet , No thanks and then she has a son who dies. Having love to die or a dream to die when you we’re walking closely with God is so undoing to the spirit, soul and mind! Lord I pray that you bless 10 times, Danai and others who heard this amazing story and felt like we could not go on! Lord give us Victory as you define it, In Jesus Name!!❤❤️🩹🙏🏾
In regards to guarding your heart. I seriously made a quality decision to do so. This was hard to listen to because so many times women commit there love to a man who doesn’t desire this type of loyalty and consideration. My heart went out to her because from the outside looking in I could see the red flags and games being played.
This makes me automatically want to keep to myself in these dating streets but I know better, so I can do better now. Thank you for being so transparent Dania❤
You will be chosen by a righteous man of God in these dating streets🥰
OMG this was an amazing story I myself went through something similar about five years ago and I'm hoping one day my heart will heal from it. She's so vulnerable and that takes a lot of strength she's so real and authentic not to mention amazingly gracious. Most people told me in that scenario to Follow my heart, but when I went to church that Sunday during the pastors sermon he actually talked about Sometimes you can't follow your heart, and this is when I knew to walk away.
This is very powerful! She said this was long ago but the way she talks about it means she never got over it and never dealt with it. This story sounds like it just happened a year ago but when she said a long time ago ooouuu y all we need to heal!!!! We need to heal y all 😢. I loved this episode❤❤❤
This was sooooo good!!! My gosh...I even had to fight back the tears....especially when Danai said "give what you want to get"...in all honesty...I stopped doing that because of hurt. So now I ask God to "guard my heart" for safety. My God....this was soo good ..
Danai thank you for your transparency, your truth, and your integrity. I do believe as a woman it is my duty to hold a man responsible and I do understand that a lot of us women did not have anyone to coach us as we were growing up and unfortunately we’ve stub our toes over and maybe over again before getting the lesson. Thanks to Leterras for this platform and for all the life lessons it has provided. ❤️
I'm binge-watching on this Labor Day and I'm hooked on your podcast, Laterras. Every episode is just plain dope. 👏🏾
I love the transparency! These are the testimonies and humanity that are needed to help people get free. 🙌🏾♥️
That's exactly what I told her.
Thank you both 🙏🏾
Love! Love! Love! This episode for so many personal reasons. Your testimony could bring deliverance and healing to so many. Thank you for your transparency.
" You don't have to believe people BUT you have to believe God!" She's so articulate and well versed❤❤
Whewwww, "Guarding your heart is where God lives"❤❤
Shuu. I second that sentence, "Danai, you have a gift". May God continue to use you to bless, mend, heal, love his broken people. I listened to this now and the emotions I felt are out of this world. Honestly downloading this session so that I revisit it every now and again just to remind myself about what you guys spoke about in this episode. Thank you, so much. May God truly bless you.
Bless you love ❤️
My 1st tear was when she recited the Shunamite Woman “strength”, I don’t know man of God how you were managing but when you read your “wifey” letter - I put 2 & 2 together, how she just so happened to be in LA as you. I’m sorry but I need you to go through this episode you just did with this woman & watch the amazing, electrifying chemistry between you 2.
To God be the Glory😇🙏🏽
I loved her, I love you & my healing can begin. Intentional.
I love to hear people who really know spiritual Truth about the heart. They see it beyond the physical vessel! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This was HUUUUUGE!!! My goodness. I am digging what she is saying because there is so much I am unpacking and still need to unpack. She is someone who I may need to connect with in order to reflect, unpack and deeply introspect. Thank you!! ❤️
Danai is a beautiful name. Know one could have delivered this message like you. You’re personality and transparency was well received. The older I get ; the more I understand women. Being married is a human experience we only get once. I’m learning so much from this podcast. And my healing has helped me look at women totally different. Thank so much for sharing your journey Danai.
Thank you Kintu. The name “Danai” actually means “to love one another,” or “go ahead and love one another.” It’s a Shona name from the people of Zimbabwe. God bless you on your journey … and bless your marriage. Never stop learning and growing!
@@blackmarriagemovement1812 I am so happy to have bumped into this video today Danai and coming from A Zimbabwean like me. I was asking myself, Ndezverudzi here? You told the same experienceas mine to the T. I had the 4am calls, showing up at my gate at night drunk few days after his wedding telling me he made a mistake. But in our culture you know what we go through till we walk down the aisle.. I called it BS and it took me to recently relocate to another continent for him to get the hint that i am not ineterested in being a side piece. He was persistent for 6 years and by the grace of God i avoided an affair. I am a wife in waiting not a side chick. Thank you so much for sharing and validating to me that there is nothing special there especially when you are still hoping for marriage. I think one day i will write a book lol i have so many stories.
I just want to say “THANK YOUUUUU”, to you both for this interview!
Transparency 📌. This podcast will forever be my favorite. I like how sincere she is. Loved every bit of it. God uses our situations and makes things beautiful. Look at her healing people now.
Wow I love this lesson.
I’m single but I hear you loud and clear..
I never trusted men in my youth.
So now I am ready for a good, happy and true husband.
Great show
OMG, this was it!!! There were so many things that I could relate to and that resonated with me. Whew thank you Lateras and Danai❣️
This interview was so good. It was so transparent.... She was too genuine.💕
Loved, loved this episode, no she did not share to much, she shared just right!! Thanyyou Mighty Wimen of God. I have been challenged and changed!!
Keep ministering Latteras, God Bless You.
I really love her ability to be transparent, express her true story, and such painful experiences.❤❤❤ God is using her!!
WOW!!! That’s all I can say. I felt every word she said. ❤️🙏🏽
I just want you to know how much you blessed me with your testimony. The part of hearing from God but then when it doesn’t happen, others make you start questioning if you’re really hearing Him. I appreciate your honesty and just wanted you to know 2 years later from this episode the Lord is still using you to give revelation to His children. There are times we just may not understand the reasons behind prophecy given and it’s okay because He is Lord and His thoughts are higher than ours.
I love her personality and this interview was so freeing
Whew...This hit home. Thank you Lord for healing and your redemptive love. You are soo good!
Thank you Danai and Laterras. More blessings over you.
Thank you for your transparency Danai I so understand your story. I wish I had women like you in my life.
Absolutely wonderful transparent and encouraging episode. Thanks for letting the Lord use you both 💛
Yes, the gift needed a way to ride in on, in order to share and be an influencer for the help of healing others. Thank God for you!
Yes, another GREAT podcast. I admire how open and "real" your guest was....thank you! Many blessings to you both & everyone in the comments.
Ms. Danai, thank you for your transparency and vulnerability while sharing this wisdom! Laterras, thank you for another revelatory episode ❤️
Thank you for your truth and vulnerability, Danai! You have no idea how your testimony just blessed me with a sense of peace 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing that with me 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Ms Danai is telling my story!! Broken, bitter angry with God when my marriage (that started as an affair) fell apart. I remember telling the lord “I’m done with you! I did everything you told me to, I was a great wife to this man that I could never understand why he wouldn’t trust me! I worked extra hard to make sure he never had a reason to question me and this is what I get? “ The lord gently said to me, “what does not believing in Me look like? Where are you going to go?” I could genuinely imagine Him giggling at me while I had my tantrum 😂😂. No matter what happens in life, it has no meaning without God. We were created by Him and for Him!!! ❤
She's providing a lot of insight. Going through something similar, 😪 having no answers and continuously wondering has been nerve wrecking. Thank you for sharing your testimony
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B encouraged love ❤️
OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I feel this woman on so many levels. She is telling MY story! Our stories are quite similar in the fact that I fell in love with a man (who I felt was my best friend) years prior to him getting engaged to someone else, in which I found out through my girl best friend. I completely understand the thoughts, feelings and emotions that she expresses in her testimony. It has been such a relief and validation to me to know that in my experience in the 3 1/2-4 years this situation unfolded, I felt the validation in that I wasn’t crazy after all!! Also like her I wasn’t very vocal at all about my true feelings about him in attempts to guard my heart. I’ll be honest and say I was terrified to tell him but I finally did at the time he was in a relationship with this woman (prior to his engagement). Since then there have been countless “kismet” scenarios , such as unplanned color coordination etc., between he and I that I’ve paid close attention to and am sure he probably hasn’t noticed. He’s no longer engaged and at this time I’ve decided to wait for the man God has ordained for me. I could go on and on… its just crazy… my mind is completely blown!
Hey Stephanie … I feel you. Keep praying for your husband and remember to guard your heart against all counterfeits
Same here...
Thank God for continuously protecting us even if it hurts
The truth is that your discernment is sharpened as you continue to guard your heart. Thank you Danai and Laterras
Love this!!! Guard your heart in all aspects of life.
Real talk. Best interview ever.
This woman spoke to me in some of the things she said....When she said I didn't ask for anything, but it showed up anyway and she was disappointed and hurt when it didn't work out. I've been there too many times. Also when she said love softens hearts....
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Wow! I love Danai's message and wisdom. It really helped me.