Healing Our Distorted “God Filter”
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- Опубликовано: 9 июл 2024
- Our mental health is deeply impacted by how we relate to God. When I sit down and talk with someone about their relationship with God, it doesn't take very long to observe the lens by which they relate to God and how they see Him. How you see God is what I call your "God filter." There are many aspects in how we see God that are healthy, but we also have to recognize aspects of how we see Him that are based on lies, brokenness and distortions. In my own personal journey, I realized that how I related to God was broken, which was deeply hindering my mental health journey. In this broadcast, I want to bring out some distorted God filters that many believers carry and some healing steps/relearning we can embrace in our healing and freedom journey.
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Needed to hear this!! I have anxiety. I see a Christian therapist. I would tell her I don’t feel saved- I’m not doing enough. I questioned my Salvation. I would feel fear reading my Bible!! I have read the Bible through it’s entirety for the last three years. I really felt anxiety this year reading the Book of Jeremiah!! God was angry through that entire book😃I’ve been a Christian for years!! My therapist told me I need to receive God’s love and stop trying to earn it. Christ earned my Salvation not me.
By grace thru faith we are saved… check out onorato diamante he helped me with the Performance salvation part ❤
I’m still a little too performative but not because of salvation fears…
I struggle with similar things. My counselor has told me that I don't need to pay attention to those thoughts and that it's a process, not overnight. Christ has justified us by His blood. That's fixed. God has given us his unequivocal "YES!" Nothing can take that away, not even our sin, because Jesus paid for it. Something that's been helpful for me is praying, "God, your word is true, and what you say about me is true." If you're looking for a good song, check out "How You Love Me" by Patrick Mayberry.
By process I mean that these thoughts aren't going to go away overnight. Just wanted to clarify.
I'm so grateful to read that your therapist led you in the proper direction as to your need to experience the Love of the Father versus your frantic attempts to perform to try & earn his love. ✨
This ministry is awesome and needed. Through personal revelation I realised I had been living with a distorted God filter so much that I resonate with it fully
Spot on!! We mistake "peace" and no fear or discomfort as "being in God's will"... but he has been showing me differently this past week. And this fits right in! Thanks Mark.
This is TRANSFORMATIVE. Brother your ministry is a GIFT FROM GOD to me and all who listen. 🙏🏼
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You know what is wild bro is that what we believe is pretty much correlated to trauma. I have been studying this ever since I had depression, ocd, anxiety, and panic attacks. That trauma can look like anything as well... God is so good, though, because whatever the enemy meant for evil, Abba is using it to turn it around for my good! He is showing me that no matter what I went through, His love never changed for me it was just distorted because of what I went through! What others did to me and put me through... all I can declare is, "BUT GOD and lift my hands up!" Ty my brother for all the wisdom and encouragement you pour into us all! Your labor is not in vain. ❤
I really needed to hear this. Especially 28:20 as OCDers or people with father wounds or bad God filters we always seem to forget that what makes Christianity different from other faiths is that God came down to us rather than we work up to Him. But we still feel like we need to work forgetting His Grace
its because of evil pastors teaching a false God
I can’t describe how grateful I am for this teaching and for the exact timing you delivered it. I saved this video yesterday not knowing that the events that happened last night and this morning would break me. I then remembered I’d saved your video and so I’ve just watched it not knowing what the content would be and low and behold would you believe how everything you said in this has just helped with so much confusion and I feel such a sense of complete relief I can’t tell you how grateful I am. The freeing feeling is heaven itself 🙏🏼 I could cry with the desire of how much I want to thank you!
And my Jesus of course ❤
Literally your channel and your videos seem made for me, i thank God for you, may He bless your ministry and your family, in Jesus Name, amen
You are the b❤st preacher I’ve ever listened to, if I can call you that. So thankful God put you on this.
I've struggled with all the above. I'm so over it!!!! I just want to finally feel at peace with God without feeling like I'm walking on eggshells all the time. My church was birthed out of a Recovery Home ministry so there is a lot of "do this"..."don’t do that" type teaching. 😢
Thank you so much Pastor Mark 🙏🏾
Great work Mark! I believe in Jesus and who he is as our savior but I always had anxiety and fear in church especially when salvation was talked about. Preachers would say that if your heart is racing and feeling anxious that's God calling you which made it even worse lol it's still hard to set through church due to my fear of those doubts and feelings.
Oh my word!!! My experience is the same!!! I lived in fear for 32 years in the Independent Fundamental Baptist church. Every time the altar call/invitation was given, I would almost freak completely out. I would have panic attacks and have to get up and go to the bathroom. I had gone down to the altar, afraid I wasn't saved thousands of times. But I finally learned that I didn't have to do all that because Christ had completely paid my sin debt and accomplished my salvation on the cross and by his resurrection. I believe it. I can now rest in that truth, but I still get triggered sometimes; like PTSD!!! We are not saved because we have some fearful experience where we are white, knuckling the back of a pew, then walk an aisle. We are saved by hearing the truth of the gospel message and believing it (resting in it)! Praise God! It is finished!
@leighastjohn8612 YES! The altar calls are tough every single time. I'm just now to where I'm alot better cause I know it's my ocd tendencies just seeing that so many others are dealing with this is good to know we aren't alone. God never speaks with uncomfortable anxiety that's our own minds and the enemy. Unbelievers don't constantly doubt their salvation. God bless and much love ❤️
Man, that was so good. I saw myself in most of those distorted filters. You've given us a lot to ponder and new ways to think about God, be renewed in our thinking. Thank you!
Good thing watching your videos because I just realized I am an OCD.
Third time listening to this!! Each time I learn something new! Thank you Mark! This is helping me move forward and away from my Spiritual anxiety!!
Just started watching but must comment on how I love the warm lighting!
Thank you again Mark! You’re a healthy/good guide amongst some of the junk preached online
I was thinking about this exact issue this morning. I’m looking forward to listening. 🙏🏼
To all my fellow ocd friends. Please check out Psalm 77 for the marinating in need a peace of mind. You will Not regret reading or listening to Psalm 77. ❤😊❤❤
I hear it and it makes sense but I still struggle to trust or feel safe in GOD partly because of all the fear-conditioning and religious abuses I experienced
Religious abuse is difficult to work through and heal from. It may not happen all at once. But it is possible, and God wills that kind of healing for us. So don't lose hope. Keep trying, keep learning, and keep praying. Not because we're trying to get Him to notice us, but because he has already noticed us, called us to be His beloved children, and put His Spirit in us, so that wherever we would be, He would be with us in the realest sense of the phrase.
May you have a great rest of your day. The grace of God and of the Lord Jesus be with you. 💙💚💛
Jeremiah 29:11 (the portion that says, “not for our harm but for our good”). A good one to meditate on.
Hebrews 11:6, another good one.
I’m having a hard time to receive God our Fathers love and grace. My husband and I just came out of a church where it was law based teaching all the time. We were always doing something wrong in the pastors eyes and he called us a lot to “ tell us all the wrong things we did or say “. We were so exhausted and spent all our time looking inward if we did something wrong all the time. I got so depressed and we both nearly left God after this experience 😢 The pastor cursed us with these three words when we left “ You guys are the must lying, deceived, and false people we have met in our life’s “ He even preached about us in his sermon and put it out on RUclips. We were so broken 😢
@tinakarinaful OH my word how horrible. I am so so sorry you went through that!!! That is damage to the sheep of God and completely unbiblical! Jesus came into the world, not to condemn it but to save the world! He loves you so much and completely and utterly for all eternity already accomplished your salvation and you are NOT condemned! All he wants us to do is believe that! My heart aches for your abuse!
@@tinakarinaful This might be helpful, it's called "Healing Spiritual Abuse Livestream Q&A" by Kyle Spears of TruthTraumaTheology ruclips.net/video/LEL8GjZnXqU/видео.html
I was telling a friend from my old church yesterday that I had been learning just how much God actually loves me and that I'm learning to rest in that. And when I mean God's love, I mean the work of Christ on my behalf, which is God's love manifested to me. She told me to be careful because Jesus loved even Judas, and he was an unbeliever. It made me feel like she was accusing me of being like Judas and that my faith wasn't even real. Like it's not enough to simply rest in the love and grace of Christ, like I've got to have some kind of special faith. I spun out!
I think that’s a bit silly if someone brings up God also loving Judas so to be careful because the issue is how are we receiving and leaning into God’s love. God loves everyone but is there evidence of Judas resting in and taking in the love of Christ?
It feels like this message was made just for me. Thank you Brother. The Santa Claus analogy made me laugh for the first time in a long time.
thank you God , thank you Mark😇
In my battle to learn receive unconditional love from God, a speaker a few Sunday mornings back said people always thinking God is loving and forget He is an a as angry God, and recommend people in our church listen to a RUclips video on the sinners and a angry God. I won’t be watching it, it would just trigger me, at present I am learning His love and loving reading your books.
Someone in my life constantly comes back to this kind of mentality with me. I was recently told women should not be allowed to Praise the Lord on stage, that they are in 'emotions ' and its 'demonic'.
He then said he could Prove it and wanted me to watch videos on 'this type' of women.
The person is family member.
Frankly I just feel tired of the majority of the Christian population. I don't go to church anymore, and I don't relate to what most of them say.
7:35 All I ever hear is read your Bible more etc… like Lord I’m giving it 110% 😂 also I do a lot of AA and that’s all about Gods Will for us and it can get nutty but hey I’m sober.
I DO SEE His love more but I don’t feel it all the time then they say it’s not a feeling it’s a knowing but that then OCD kicks in I don’t feel it am I doing something “wrong”
Thank you
Great video Mark
Amen ❤
The lens I see him through is the lens of being expendable. Repeatedly he allows people to be abusive to me with no repercussion to them. Lots of very big things. They live a better life and I'm left with the chores of picking up the pieces. Like the chore of trying to forgive so I don't go to hell. Its alot tougher for people who are not naturally socially needy. He has his favorites, he says it himself. Him reinforcing the fact that what I love will always be back burner. It is a double little jagged pill to know that he has used me to save the lives of others but my heart is expendable.
You’re not expendable to God! God loves everybody. God loves everybody individually! You’re so special to Him and He wants you to know that, no matter what is going on in your life. Remember, the pain that you’ve been feeling can’t compare to the Joy that’s Coming in Heaven!
This is SO MEATY. Definitely have to listen multiple times with a notebook. Thank you Mark!!!!!
I’m listening to you on Spotify and you have a brilliant way of highlinging dysfunction in a comical way. It cracks me right up. Listening to one now and you were saying about relating to God and do you hear crickets when you pray and relaying the way we relate to God the same as the santa clause song and it’s just spot on. It’s not condemning, thank you 🙏
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Thank you!!
Very good subject.
thank you so much for this video!!
That’s a good word Mark. I’m getting full…bleghhhh
Excellent, thank you so much 😅
Really liked and needed this Mark
So appreciate this, vey timely.
Thank you ☝🏼🎶
My performance- mindset Christianity looks a bit different. With my anxiety, I recognize I can’t possibly do it all/do enough, so I just freeze and feel hopeless and ashamed. Instead of the typical person who works themselves silly trying to do it all, I just sort of become catatonic about it. But inside I’m a mess. Im always worried that God considers me a Lukewarm Christian and that I’ll miss the rapture and He will say the dreaded “Depart from Me, I never knew you!” So I’m scared to just “rest in Him” bc what if my interpretation of that ends up to my shock being Lukewarm to God??
I kind of am going through a similar thing. I feel like I am living wrong even tho I know the reasons I think that are ridiculous. There is nothing wrong with watching Dancing With the Stars or secular music. It’s all my own conscience but I can’t seem to rest in that and take too much stock in what other people may think or interpret instead of what I think or interpret.
Right there with you.
Exactly!!!
@@amayabaker5809 hi! I will say to yes allow yourself to relax, but to still use wisdom and discernment when listening to secular music. There are several artists who have demonic agendas. So just be careful and be aware of the words and thr lifestyle of those you are listening to!
I havent watched the whole thing, so foegive me if I am asking something that is answered... but how can you know if youre resting in Gods love in TRUTH and not being spiritually complacent and bound and deceiving yourself that God is pleased with you? (Many will say unto me, Lord, Lord....)
I’m typing this before reaching the end of this video, so forgive me if you’ve mentioned it during the video, but how to I join your group/community? I have the book, The OCD Healing Journey, and would love to connect with other individuals experiencing the same issues.
Bingo!!
Hello, I’m interested in joining the community but funds are not available at this time. Do you have a volunteer mentor option?🙏🏾
@holla. I encourage you not to give up.
Mark & all,
I’m in the middle of not knowing if I should “take all thoughts captive & make obey Christ” or not? Do I do that or just tell myself I’m loved in the midst of the fear? Asking for help.
I believe both. Rest in His finished work. Trust Him in all things (Prov 3:5-6); Abide in Him and His love (John 15). Out warfare is in our minds so we must learn to take our thoughts captive meaning, “Is this thought aligning with Who I am in Christ or a distorted lie from the enemy or from brokenness?” Taking the thought captive is asking God to help you to not dwell on that thought. Not agreeing with it. Example: Thoughts that accuse are from the enemy or self.
Holy Spirit has been teaching me to notice when a thought is the voice of accusation. That isn’t the voice of God. As our mind is being renewed and as we learn to receive His love and learn to believe who we are in Him, we can more easily recognize the lies and distortions.
It is definitely a journey and a process and I am in this process myself.
He is faithful! Amen. ❤
I hope that helps some.
@@oilinmylamp Thank you sister! God bless you.
I go through spirals pretty frequently. I feel like an imposter.
7:30 - 8:00 What do you tell someone who not only thinks that this is accountability, but also tells you that this is how God operates with them and that they are better because of it? The way some people say God speaks to them, I sometimes have a hard time believing God is so sardonic in His tone.
I can't find the frequency anymore. I can't even find the radio. What do I do?
Thank you sister. God bless you. ❤❤@@janetholmes
Seriously 😮
Way to bring it Mark
Amen
Hey Mark, 4:10 sorry if this is rambling, but I’ve been wondering about what I suppose is a common feeling amongst the obsessives and that is the suspicion that reframing our mental image of God as a present, loving Father diminishes His holiness somehow. I’m sure you’ve encountered those that are terrified of relating to God to familiarly even if they’ve understood and believe the Gospel. Does any of that make any sense to anyone?
Like you’re afraid being too casual to God? Is that what you mean?
@@AMcDub0708 in part, yes. But perhaps it’s more accurately described as the pernicious doubt that God relates to you as a loving, accepting Father, afraid that the reality is that one is still under God’s wrath for nebulous reasons…. It’s the feeling of, “dear God, yes, I want so badly to just be at rest with you like a child with their Father, but is that your disposition towards me really? What if I only THINK I’m in Christ, elect, etc…”
@@dkert0b05n0 ohhhhhh yes. I struggle with that too 😢 We can pray for each other to find comfort and peace in our relationship with the Lord, rather than constant second guessing.
@@AMcDub0708 thanks, brother… there is grace for the obsessives 🙏
A helpful thing to keep in mind that I heard the other day is that God does not provide unlimited assurances, meaning that God does not salve our distorted feelings and fears ad infinitum.
Having the life of faith and being perplexed with darkness, doubts, and fears is not entirely incompatible.
I’ve been in the Psalms lately, and I’m so relieved and encouraged that God’s people, writing the divinely inspired Scripture, communicate so often about their feelings of pain, guilt, sadness, darkness, pleading, crying and confusion.
It is no wonder then, that we so often are afflicted similarly. God is faithful, He works all these things together for our good as we love Him and are called according to His purposes. 🙏
Would you say any of your books give journaling prompts to do writing therapy?
I want to connect to the Father but no matter how I KNOW He is not my dad, dad's a Malignant Narcissist Authoritarian Chauvinist, I know God is love, I know He loves me 🧠 but I don't know what His love feels like that perfect love that cast out fear.
I want to be rewarded for seeking Him and when I don't feel I connected with Him, I do less of it.
Hey man, i have a question. Is there any way i can contact you personally? Maybe through email?
Wasn't the letter of the law put to death in the cross? Jesus paid in full for our sins, and thus allowing us to be called sons and daughters.❤🙏🙏😊
Most of my life has been viewed through distorted filters. I beat myself up about my sin issues. What makes it worse is the Bible verses that warns us about what not to do. Then it brings on this "karma based thinking" that I will be punished because of my sin. Yes I battle with OCD, anxiety, depression and bad mood swings. It's too much crosses to bare. Jesus says pick up your cross and follow me, but my mind says that is asking too much.....i love your content Mark but im tired....im trying to give up the battle.
Hang in there! Praying for you!
Hang in there! I've been struggling with similar themes too - you're not alone. Just remember God loves you as His child, and he wants you to get through this. Take a break and let him take care of it all, his burden is light and he has already forgiven you.
Matthew 11:28
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 ”
Here are some more verses I feel helped me when I was struggling:
1 Peter 5:7
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
2 Corinthians 12:9
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
Psalm 33:20-22
We put our hope in the Lord. He is our help and our shield. In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name. Let your unfailing love surround us, Lord, for our hope is in you alone.
I pray for you my friend, again hang in there! 🙏I'm here if you need someone to talk to. Good luck!!!
I'm wondering if Mark has an Instagram account?
Religious spirit of the law kills.
💕Love for God out of relationship makes the law a delight.
John 14:15-21 WEBUS
[15] If you love me, keep my commandments. [16] I will pray to the Father, and he will give you another Counselor, that he may be with you forever: [17] the Spirit of truth, whom the world can’t receive, for it doesn’t see him and doesn’t know him. You know him, for he lives with you and will be in you. [18] I will not leave you orphans. I will come to you. [19] Yet a little while, and the world will see me no more; but you will see me. Because I live, you will live also. [20] In that day you will know that I am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you. [21] One who has my commandments and keeps them, that person is one who loves me. One who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him, and will reveal myself to him.”
You call Jesus God don't you? You have no relationship with God at all if you say yes!
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