Thank you so much for this video. I recently graduated as a psychotherapist, and it's safe to say that self-doubt is real. This video was so helpful, and I really love that you added those examples of what it would look like.
Great list! Some others I like to use are asking, “What happens after that.” I do this a lot with couples who tell the story of a recurring conflict, but the story ends with the thing that causes them to withdraw from one another. It gives them a chance to see each other after the fact, when their sadness, hurt, attachment wounds, and trauma show up. These are all so much easier to empathize with than their partner’s anger, which is usually all they see in regard to the conflict. Another go-to is, “Something changed when you said xyz.” I usually say this when someone’s body language, facial expression, or way of speaking changes, because it gets past the content to the underlying emotions going on. Usually when something like this changes, what they are saying is emotionally important. I also sometimes just call out the specific body language like, “Your throat closed up when you said that, like you couldn’t even get it out,” or, “You really sat up straight and started speaking a lot more loudly when you said that.” I also like, “What’s happening now.” This is good at keeping people in the present moment of their emotional experience if they tend to jump to the past or future, and bypass their emotions. I also like to ask this after long, reflective silence, and especially if we have done somatic work, the client can use it as a cue to pay attention to the felt sense in their body.
I got so excited when you mentioned IFS! It's been SO healing in my own journey that it really is just the lens that I see so much of the world from now, so I use parts language A LOT. I also love a lot of the ACT defusion tools from ACT Made Simple. Projecting a thought and changing the font or just the simple "I'm having a thought" are such great go-to tools.
Wise mind from DBT is a good go to, as well as the concept of Time Traveling to refer to getting stuck in the future trying to predict and control what we cannot predict or control (anxiety), or stuck in the past wondering what if, or why, etc (depression) and then teaching the antidote of this is returning to the present- and teach this through grounding skills. It’s so relatable and helpful for so many!
Excellent! I use psychoeducation and radical acceptance too. I've wanted some IFS tools but need to take classes to develop those well. I also like Polyvagal (again, this is educational) tools to help clients learn about their vagus nerve and how it impacts their reactivity to certain situations. This is especially true for my trauma clients. And my GA clients!
Those go-to's are pretty much spot on to my choices. To my mind they are some of the most efficient ways for me really get the clients to be part of identifying what is going on from their view rather than me just telling them. So many clients come in doubting their ability so being a meaningful part of discovery is so important.
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Thank you so much for this video. I recently graduated as a psychotherapist, and it's safe to say that self-doubt is real. This video was so helpful, and I really love that you added those examples of what it would look like.
Great list! Some others I like to use are asking, “What happens after that.” I do this a lot with couples who tell the story of a recurring conflict, but the story ends with the thing that causes them to withdraw from one another. It gives them a chance to see each other after the fact, when their sadness, hurt, attachment wounds, and trauma show up. These are all so much easier to empathize with than their partner’s anger, which is usually all they see in regard to the conflict.
Another go-to is, “Something changed when you said xyz.” I usually say this when someone’s body language, facial expression, or way of speaking changes, because it gets past the content to the underlying emotions going on. Usually when something like this changes, what they are saying is emotionally important. I also sometimes just call out the specific body language like, “Your throat closed up when you said that, like you couldn’t even get it out,” or, “You really sat up straight and started speaking a lot more loudly when you said that.”
I also like, “What’s happening now.” This is good at keeping people in the present moment of their emotional experience if they tend to jump to the past or future, and bypass their emotions. I also like to ask this after long, reflective silence, and especially if we have done somatic work, the client can use it as a cue to pay attention to the felt sense in their body.
Your videos are incredible! Keep up the amazing work. Thank you!
So helpful! Love hearing how other therapists phrase concepts! Please do more like this!
This was so helpful for us who are new to the profession. I would love to see more of these videos. Thank you!
Content like this is so practical and helpful for newbie’s, thank you!
I got so excited when you mentioned IFS! It's been SO healing in my own journey that it really is just the lens that I see so much of the world from now, so I use parts language A LOT. I also love a lot of the ACT defusion tools from ACT Made Simple. Projecting a thought and changing the font or just the simple "I'm having a thought" are such great go-to tools.
Wise mind from DBT is a good go to, as well as the concept of Time Traveling to refer to getting stuck in the future trying to predict and control what we cannot predict or control (anxiety), or stuck in the past wondering what if, or why, etc (depression) and then teaching the antidote of this is returning to the present- and teach this through grounding skills. It’s so relatable and helpful for so many!
This was so cool! Hugely helpful. I don't anything this specific or practical in my program. Thank you!
Ooh I love this one! Thanks so much for this, Marie!
Love this video. Original idea and just reassuring to watch!
Absolutely awesome, thanks!
Excellent! I use psychoeducation and radical acceptance too. I've wanted some IFS tools but need to take classes to develop those well. I also like Polyvagal (again, this is educational) tools to help clients learn about their vagus nerve and how it impacts their reactivity to certain situations. This is especially true for my trauma clients. And my GA clients!
Do you have any lite recommendations for me to look into learning about polyvagal content?
@ Justin Sunseri has a great RUclips channel and a polyvagal podcast and many downloads to offer. He’s an LMFT and this is his jam.
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This was soo helpful. Thank you for sharing your insight!
Well, even *I* needed that parenting tip so thank you. 😂 Great video, thank you for sharing!
So helpful! Thank you
Those go-to's are pretty much spot on to my choices. To my mind they are some of the most efficient ways for me really get the clients to be part of identifying what is going on from their view rather than me just telling them. So many clients come in doubting their ability so being a meaningful part of discovery is so important.
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Stop apologizing for your acting :P It's good