when i was maybe seven or something, my homophobic father tried to imitate gay men by acting super feminine. he just walked around the apartment like a diva talking with a high pitched voice (he kinda slayed actually). he asked me "would you want a dad like that???", i answered "id prefer a dad like that over you". imagine a 7 year old kid having to listen and watch that. i still think my response was amazing. growing up in this kind of enviroment, i became homophobic and transphobic myself. now im 15 nonbinary and queer, living with just my mom and cat, who accept me no matter who i am❤❤❤.
I'm so glad you're not in that toxic environment anymore, also that response to your father's question made me laugh. Reply from a fellow non-binary person. 🖐😄
@@AdeshMahabir1985 cant believe you just said a dad having a temper tantrum infront of their 7 year old kid sounds cool 💀,, anyways, glad ur in a much situation now and feel comfortable being you (: (the og commenter)
For a massive chunk of my life I managed all of my mannerisms to not appear feminine. From how I spoke, how I stood, even how I used my hands while in a conversation. And every time I stifled myself, I would feel uneasy because it wasn't natural for me. It became such a habit that after transitioning I still suffer from it, though I've gotten better at allowing myself to be all of who I am.
I’m with you on that. I came out and then recloseted for 15 years. That’s a lot of practice to overcome. But it’s like the saying goes, “transitioning doesn’t fix your problems, but it doesn’t make them worth fixing.” We’ve got this!
I think the craziest "is it gay" stories are the ones, where for guys sleeping with women (people don't think women can be doms) and marrying their wife (in that case it was crying at the wedding) was gay.
@@crab-hr7zm My comment was literally a polite FYI and a compliment. Yours, on the other hand, was an insult and a dig. Go intercourse yourself, crabby.
Back in 2011, I had a math teacher that was told that he was gay because he let his daughters paint his nails. Granted he didn't care because it made his daughters happy and they were just high-school students. I thought that he was a pretty cool dad.
I have an ex boyfriend and I wanted him to hold my bag and he wouldn't because he thought it would make him look gay. I told him that wasstupid because my bag looked morelike abag than a purse. It was a big brown cloth bag with short white straps. I also said that since he was wth me, his girlfriend, it would look like he was helping me. Dude was so fragile.
@nevakear4834 My god. It wouldn't even occur to me to not want to be seen holding my girlfriend's bag. In fact I really like sharing burdens... helping others and receiving help. Team work. I'm way past my 20's now, but I've felt that way since I was 19 or earlier. I'd even buy tampons or maxipads for a girlfriend or family member. Caring, helpful, mature men aren't scared of feminine hygiene products.
Also I don't think you said it but this trend of calling people zesty, sus, girlypop etc is mainly done by straight women and is now shifting into hate criming queer people on a daily...I've seen straight women calling gay men and trans women/gnc people names. Straight women are starting to get wild honestly, we need to take them accountable because most don't even understand it's homophobia...
You know what's homophobic? Telling a straight person they're transphobic for not wanting to date someone of the same biological sex even though they ID as the opposite gender.
I wouldn’t say “most” don’t understand that it’s homophobic, I simply think they don’t care. If anything, a lot of them are proud of being homophobic. They think they’re doing society a favor..
@@doppleganger683 obviously there’s going to be a handful of bad people in every community. You’re right, that thought process is flawed and toxic. That doesn’t make it any less inappropriate to bring up now. No one said anything about that.
my dad suspected I was gay because he saw me warping a present for my friend for his birthday. my sister told me that once I left the house he turned to her and said "who the fuck wraps their presents unless theyre GAY?!!" and I mean tbf he came to the right conclusion with the wrong equation so... but it was fun seeing him tin-foil-hatting over this for the next month and a half
im pan (just came out last year in February) and i still have moments like last week i bought some lighters and the only ones they had were a pink and purple design. my favorite color is purple. even still, immediately in my head im anxious that they look gay, like i cant help it. thats how drilled into our heads it is growing up straight cis male. hell i even force myself out of crying like im back in middleschool again sometimes...
I'm so sorry for this terrible world that makes it difficult for people to be themselves. It really sucks. I can only say try not to be self-conscious (i can't spell that) but it's hard. This world currently has messed up and continues to mess up our minds and peace. I can really hope one day the world stops being so homophobic/transphobic. Anyway, try your best to be yourself. ❤
Damn, this was so entertaining 😂😂😂 You know, in all that playful, silly, witty banter Samantha really is laying out some sound advice. There’s people (mainly straight men) who drive themselves crazy trying to convince themselves that they’re not gay, like seriously. I remember, my uncle used to clock me so closely that whenever I rested my wrist in a limp way, he’d always wanna scream out that I’m gay and that he always knew it, it used to drive me crazy because I wouldn’t even be aware that I’m doing it. He definitely was being silly and ridiculous, and the older I got I started suspecting that he might be a (closeted) gay given that I never once saw him with a girl, and he caught all my pornos because of how close he liked watching me. I’m sure I disappointed him when he saw that I like bbws (tmi sorry 😅)
A friend of mine got a chronic breast inflammation because a guy she was with didn't wash his hands. Taking a shower every two days was enough for him. Only after other men explained to him, that that was indeed nasty, did he change his ways. And the number of people getting yeast infections or BVs after getting fingered by this kind of guys is astounding. Please guys, wash up before you feel up
So happy that I'm working in an inclusive company. Some of my male straight cis co workers who eventually became good friends outside of work would ask me skin care advice and what products to buy on a budget ❤ To the guys who are reading this, skin care doesn't make you gay or any part of the LGBTQIA+. Its just one of the many things you can do to take care of yourself
Lol I used to have that same pickle lighter. I got it because I thought it was just so random and funny. It never once crossed my mind about it being perceived as gay. Also I remember my alcoholic uncle once saying that only gays go to Paris on vacation.
This reminds me of a conversation I had with a straight man after he found out I was Pan. You probably know how this goes. Dude - "I love lesbians, That's hot. But I can't stand gay guys." Me- "Why?" Dude - "I don't want men hitting on." Me - "Does that happen often." Dude - "Well, no. Never." Then, I decided not to continue speaking to that person. But if I had a nickel for every time I've heard this or some variation of this conversation, I could buy a Tesla.
As a trans man once I figured out I was trans (even before I came out) I did everything I could to be as stereotypically masculine as possible from my outfits to my tone of voice to my hair style to my mannerisms to my hygiene products *everything* throughout my teen years and I'm so glad I grew out of that and don't feel the need to prove myself to cis people anymore I mean granted I've been on T for a while now but on the rare occasion I get misgendered or "clocked" I've been working really hard in therapy to not let that keep me from being my true "zesty" self ✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧ 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
Same! I’m a feminine trans man all the way, and I’ve never been happier. If wearing a skirt occasionally or wearing perfume makes me less of a man in the eyes of cis people, that’s fine by me, I’m not here to please them
In the early '00s, when I was in high school, I frequently got called gay for having long hair. I prefer wearing my hair long as the whole front of my head is cowlicks, and it's easier to take care of. Incidentally, I've frequently had women tell me my hair is "pretty" and express jealousy over how straight and shiny it is.
Loved this video. Love your funny random self, Sam. 😂 One of the things I've loved about coming into my own as gay man over the years is just not giving a damn about whatever gender expectations people may have for me. That is their problem, not mine. It's so freeing to let go of that homophobic anxiety.
I was once told by a "straight" man that standing with my weight on one leg and my hips at an angle made me "gay" and "put a target on my back" well im trans so HAHA
I am so attracted to men who are or do things that are considered "feminine." Most of the women I have met feel the same way lmfao 🤣 idk where straight men get this idea that they can't do things that are "gay."
A lot of this comes down from stereotypes, also stigmatizing men. I wish my dad was more open minded to me dancing, because he didn't have a problem with me dancing before.
Companies tend to hand out cotton shoulderbags as promotion material, usually filled with some flyers and some goodies. One time, when I was in high school, one of my classmates refused to take the bag "because shoulder bags are gay". It led to a few other boys also returning the bag they just received...
i used to be friends with a straight male “ally” who always used the term “zesty” to describe other guys. it genuinely confuses me how some people claim to be allies but continue to use blatantly homophobic phrases.
Explain it. Sometimes, we as allies are just ignorant. I cringe at things I've said because I seriously didn't know. I realize it's not your job to educate us, but please help us!
My dad thought holding a baby doll was ”gay" when I was younger. I went through a phase where I suddenly wanted to take my Baby Born everywhere, like she was a real baby and couldn't be left alone, which included strapping her into a little car seat and then carrying her on my back when we went shopping. I remember asking him to hold her (in the seat/carrier) once while I went to the bathroom, and he freaked out. He legit thought people would think he was gay and not, you know, a parent of a small(-ish) child. 😂
Wow. But for real, the taking care of a baby doll thing is so sweet. I used to play this princess dress-up game with my sister when we were little, and it was so fun!
Really im dont know what funny part of this video im just feel like skeleton that watching youtube in my phones at 03:00AM with my mouth open and thinking "what other mental illness is this?"
I got called gay all the time growing up because I started identifying as bi at the age of 15 but I can remember that there was someone else that also was called that just because he looked to good 😂. Also man that paint their nails 💅 are very hot. Looking at short, dirty nails that are not taken care for isn’t something that most girls like.
Pickles aren't gay, but there is a commercial where a ninja turtle goes into a lockeroom and takes off his towel- then it cuts to a jar of pickles. No joke, its a real ad. 😂
It's also worth it to mention the short film from 1989 made by the late Tom Rubnitz called "Pickle Surprise" that has a lot of famous Drag Queens in it, including a young RuPaul and Lady Bunny.
actually experienced this back when I still identified as a man: I was drinking with some of my friends and some friends of theirs who I never met before. At one point my drink was empty and one of the guys I didn't know offered to get me a beer but I declined and told that I don't like beer. This guy stared me blank in the face and asked if I was gay and his sole reason to think that according to himself is that I don't like beer
I'm just thinking about a screenshot I saw of someones snapchat of a sunset with "I'm not gay but this is amazing" or something written on it, like as if we'd assume only gay men would think sunsets were cool lmao. It's also really weird when men expressing love for their wives/girlfriends and being romantic is considered gay by their friends. I really feel for the men who don't feel able to express themselves freely in whatever way because of being teased for it, or even having people be hostile towards them if they think they're gay. Also, I'm totally with you that men who embrace feminine aspects of themselves are hot, it shows confidence and strength.
because Samantha exclusively referred to gayness/queerness as being defined by sex, this is just a little aroace reminder that sex isn't the only thing that defines your sexuality!
I deal with this crap all the time. I live in a "male only" environment (I don't identify as one but there's no trans/non-binary accommodating place here) and I'm constantly teased and bullied and called gay for wearing colorful clothes and painting my nails. I'm tired of people drawing imaginary connections between unrelated subjects and using it as an excuse for cruelty
More people need to just not give a shit what other people think it makes life a lot easier and simpler just do what you want and what makes you happy and don't give a fuck what anybody else thinks. It's a way simpler way to live and way less stress involved
The dude freaking out about the pink lighter doesn't understand that it's the best color.. I'm a cis dude who exclusively rocked a pink lighter.. it's the only lighter that no one stole from me because it was "g*y".... "yeah mf!!! Give me my lighter back"...
My brother makes fun of guys who get so insecure over seeming gay. My brother loves cute stuff, is sensitive and very kind, yet he's a straight heterosexual, cisgender male.
Hi Samantha. Thank you for what you put out into the world and being your stunning self. Just one thing here though. Being gay doesn’t require “intercourse” and “intercourse” doesn’t make someone gay. Not being physical with another person, whether because you are asexual, don’t feel ready, have trauma, don’t have a access to condoms or a safe space… or a wide range of other reasons, doesn’t mean you have no sexual identity, or are “default straight”. Just like being in a monogamous relationship with someone of the opposite sex, whether “forever” or (just) currently, doesn’t mean you’re not bi or pan (if we’re not going to use gay as a “catch all” term). And for those you have had sex, they could also be bi or pan, or maybe they decide it wasn’t right for them (for a ton of different reasons), or maybe they’re a sex worker, whether working directly with clients or in porn. Gotta love us that nuance. Much love!
I was just having this convo with some friends about how it's beyond ridiculous that there's all these products which are all normal everyday things, but they're marketing them to men now. Like... fcking *"dude wipes"* 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️ They're basically just wet wipes, but because guys think they're feminine or "gay" this is the level of stupidity that apparently is necessary. I just saw that pink loghter video like last week, and i thought it was gonna just be one guy flipping out... nah, it was more than a handful 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️ Straight men are not okay. Hey fellas, is it "gay" to love your kids? 🤔
As someone who is nonbinary and uses they/he pronouns, I've always just done and worn whatever I wanted and not let anyone stop me. In a few days, I'm going with my sister's bridal party to get our nails professioanlly done for the wedding. I'll probably wear my binder when I go. I use all the seasonings for my weird little gender soup and it's perfect because nobody else has to like it because at the end of the day, the only one who is has to deal with that bowl is me 😌🥘
I worked at Claire's in the mall (Bi/Pan gender queer yada yada) in 2005 so I pierced a lot of guys ears and they were always so concerned with looking gay. Whether it was getting the "wrong ear" pierced or simply being seen in a Claire's at all, the thing that dumbfounded me the most was they would always refuse the simple small silver hoop and choose the biggest "diamond" they could get. All I could think was when I was a kid hoops were toughguy earings (bikers/pirates/strongmen/etc) and diamonds were a girl's best friend, but that was the big pimpin era so, ya know. P.S. Don't get me started on the feminine stylings couched in pimp culture.
my tiny town just got a crosswalk. now I'm waiting to see how many days it takes to get vandalized. I hope it will be at least a couple weeks, but I doubt it.
13:03 I think it's actually a phenomenon called "Male Flight". Basically once women started to enjoy the things that made someone "manly", instead of both enjoying something, the men would run away and mark the item or activity as "feminine". this applies everywhere, like how teachers and nurses were men but when women took interest, the men ran away.
My fiance has the same look on his face when I'm shopping with him. I'm pretty sure its not cause he thinks it makes him look gay. I do that (26M). It's cause he'd rather be home playing video games or doing literally anything else not around other people. He's an introvert. lol.
the legs crossing thing made me laugh, because until I was 22ish, i thought it wasn't something men did, it had been drilled into me during my early childhood torture years when my govt had me genocided for being too savage to be raised with my own people, a core memory is that only woman are supposed to sit with their legs crossed like that, now that i've started writing it out, it's because my foster "brother" who was one of the main abusers beat it out of me. then I just asked my friend why he was sitting like that, he said it was comfortable, and that was that and I started sitting like that too, cuz it's kinda comfortable. let's not even get into how if i wasn't so disabled, I'd be seeking full transition surgery, but my worthless ass is barely surviving, aint got time to try and thrive with this kind of pain.
okay, but as a trans guy I can really relate to some of these----(Not for the fear of seeming like a cis gay male, but in fear of looking like a cis woman) Like, the "sitting wrong" thing, and the "too scared to apply chapstick" and "Is there a more masculine version I can buy?" is just, a personal attack tbh Edit: Omg wait no, If I was handed a pink lighter I would have just dropped my head in shame and walked away. Lmao I'd take that so wrong- I'd never show my face in there again lol
Not even to mention those that spray on AXE or even femme people that shower in fragrance. Light vanilla, light coconut. light peaches... think light... NOT soaking yourself. Elevators full of fragrance.... uck. SHOWer, apply a slight little bit... and I can not even stress that a LITTLE should remain that. I pick up on smells a lot though.
To respond to the last question, the most ridiculous time I've been called gay was for listening to Queen. As a straight man who have had many gay friends and spent much of his 20s in bars where the LGBT+ community used to hang, being called gay is only amusing. Been "accused" of being gay at my old job a few times for different things and my reaction is usually simply to smile and flirt as i don't take it as an insult and rather silently laugh at how insecure they are. This one stirred up so many old memories and stories with me and my best friend and things we did, sometimes for a convenience like holding hands in crowds, and other times silly stuff like nude wrestling in a friends dorm hallway (yes we were drunk as fck)
When I make my Bread pudding some people say it's zesty, that means I put too much orange peel into the mix, ''It's Zesty'' ingredients for my bread pudding is. 8 oz mix sultanas and fruit soaked in red wine for a few hours to swell, the more swelling the better girl, 3 eggs, 4 oz melted butter, 10 oz stail bread ripped to little bits then soaked in 8 oz milk, nutmeg, cinnamon and 4 oz soft brown sugar, and 1/2 an orange peel grated into ZEST.'' Its zesty''. mix all together, bake centre of oven for 40 minutes at 180 degrees, take out oven and cover with tin foil until cool. sprinkle some granulated sugar on top for artistic effect.... it's yummy and also ZESTY .... But it's not Gay. 😀
Before I knew I was pan , at 11 I started trying to make my voice sound all deep lol . And I rarely smiled , I always felt like I had to come off intimidating to not get bullied .
My dad works at a factory and only keeps pink and purple lighters on him so the other guys won't steal them... he also has an Italian keychain on his truck keys with David from navel to upper thigh (that I got for him) and it causes issues if he takes his truck in to get new tires.... I love it
One time I posted a tiktok basically talking about how it's hard to talk to my crush because of how beautiful she is and someone commented that I should delete the video because I seem gay for admiring a woman LMFAOOOO
Hey chris listen this information im should not tell this but im just gonna telling.....for watchout because may be someone who wear grey clothes coming to your house and bring you to *AUSHWITZ CAMP*
Here's one of my favorites that me and my coworkers at the time thought was hilarious. I was still closeted and in the military at the time. A male coworker of mine was walking out the door of our space to leave and said "Alright, see ya!" to which I said "Okay, bye!" and waved at him. He shook his head, chuckled a little bit and said, "Don't do that, man." My other coworkers and I were confused and I asked "Don't do what?" He responded "Don't wave at me. Just be like 'alright man, see ya later' and do this or somethin'." as he gave a quick two-finger salute My coworkers and I thought it was so hilarious that he was bothered by my waving, so everybody started waving at him and saying "Bye!" while we all laughed at the absurdity. It's absolutely crazy what some men perceive as being fruity or gay. XD
Im pan and I'm awful at remembering to do all my personal hygiene every day due to my adhd and autism. Not all lgbt people are fantastic about their cleanliness.
I'm pretty lucky that my husband never stinks, and the really weird part: he can't smell, so you'd think he'd let himself get a bit stinky without realizing it.
when i was maybe seven or something, my homophobic father tried to imitate gay men by acting super feminine. he just walked around the apartment like a diva talking with a high pitched voice (he kinda slayed actually). he asked me "would you want a dad like that???", i answered "id prefer a dad like that over you". imagine a 7 year old kid having to listen and watch that. i still think my response was amazing. growing up in this kind of enviroment, i became homophobic and transphobic myself. now im 15 nonbinary and queer, living with just my mom and cat, who accept me no matter who i am❤❤❤.
I'm so glad you're not in that toxic environment anymore, also that response to your father's question made me laugh. Reply from a fellow non-binary person. 🖐😄
Your dad sounds cool
@@AdeshMahabir1985
cant believe you just said a dad having a temper tantrum infront of their 7 year old kid sounds cool 💀,,
anyways, glad ur in a much situation now and feel comfortable being you (:
(the og commenter)
@@AdeshMahabir1985 omg yasss we love crazy people who traumatize their kids 😍 (joke)
@@AdeshMahabir1985 cope
I've heard this:
"Real men don't drink strawberry lemonade."
This is my response.
"Real men don't let other men tell them what to do."
They're right. Real men drink raspberry lemonade.
Real shit
Real men get fired first day of their first job for refusing to do what they're told
You sir, will let me enjoy my goddamn lemonade.
I was always told “real men don’t eat quiche” 😂
To be honest i don't really care no more if people think I'm gay because i know I'm not and if i was it is nothing wrong with that
Yep preach
good for you
@Gold_Microphone I don't know wtf u talking about 😂 but I am only talking about me I don't care what other people feel about being called a word
Yes I think it’s weird it’s used as like an insult like so what . if you were but it’s a colour/ accessory / piece of clothing .
I initially misread the title as 'trans men are not alright" and still i, as a trans man, went yeah girl tell us 😂
I read straight women
Lol
@@minionsarebae2434me too
Let’s go with ALL men are not alright! 😂😂😂 Ladies am I right??? 🤣 I kid y’all. I love you all.
real
For a massive chunk of my life I managed all of my mannerisms to not appear feminine. From how I spoke, how I stood, even how I used my hands while in a conversation. And every time I stifled myself, I would feel uneasy because it wasn't natural for me. It became such a habit that after transitioning I still suffer from it, though I've gotten better at allowing myself to be all of who I am.
So true…. I think transwomen spend way too much of our time over compensating. I’ve spent my whole life trying to be manly.
One thing... be you freely, and others will too. Some may leave others *the unexpected* will support.
Anti-LGBT+ environments are the worst.
@@strykerpass600 LMAO because you're a MAN. Please stay out of female only spaces sir.
I’m with you on that. I came out and then recloseted for 15 years.
That’s a lot of practice to overcome.
But it’s like the saying goes, “transitioning doesn’t fix your problems, but it doesn’t make them worth fixing.”
We’ve got this!
I'm older than you by probably 15-20 years and they've said that since i was a teenager. It's so gross that people say that.
i'm a cis, straight dude and I wear a lot of pink dress shirts... and i look handsome as hell in them.
yes you do
I think the craziest "is it gay" stories are the ones, where for guys sleeping with women (people don't think women can be doms) and marrying their wife (in that case it was crying at the wedding) was gay.
Sounds like they're just trans in denial lmao
@@DaveBadger Honestly, if these people can't use the word correctly, I have full right to make fun of them
marrying a woman? thats gay ngl. marriage is so gay fr. (joke)
Intercourse is not required to be gay. It isn't even required for a healthy and active sex life. Otherwise, this episode is really funny 🙂
chill lol it was not a dig
plus asexuals exist
@@crab-hr7zm My comment was literally a polite FYI and a compliment. Yours, on the other hand, was an insult and a dig. Go intercourse yourself, crabby.
me, an asexual gay person: 👁️👄👁️
Me: gay af
Sam: You haven't had sex in how many years?
Me: I know right? I am SOOOOO straight now!
Back in 2011, I had a math teacher that was told that he was gay because he let his daughters paint his nails. Granted he didn't care because it made his daughters happy and they were just high-school students. I thought that he was a pretty cool dad.
I have an ex boyfriend and I wanted him to hold my bag and he wouldn't because he thought it would make him look gay. I told him that wasstupid because my bag looked morelike abag than a purse. It was a big brown cloth bag with short white straps. I also said that since he was wth me, his girlfriend, it would look like he was helping me. Dude was so fragile.
Yeah that is insecure, how old where he?
@@alicelund147 he was 25 at the time.
I'm only a couple of years younger than him.
i love that he's your ex 💅
@nevakear4834
My god.
It wouldn't even occur to me to not want to be seen holding my girlfriend's bag.
In fact I really like sharing burdens... helping others and receiving help. Team work.
I'm way past my 20's now, but I've felt that way since I was 19 or earlier.
I'd even buy tampons or maxipads for a girlfriend or family member.
Caring, helpful, mature men aren't scared of feminine hygiene products.
As a straight guy we DON'T claim those guys
Same
You're GAY 🌈
@@Estela-o6t Proof?
@@Estela-o6t Yeah, totally. Because straight people who support the LGBT community don't exist. /sarcasm
What a clown.
@@Estela-o6tYou’re gay? Thank you for coming out to us. It was very brave of you
Also I don't think you said it but this trend of calling people zesty, sus, girlypop etc is mainly done by straight women and is now shifting into hate criming queer people on a daily...I've seen straight women calling gay men and trans women/gnc people names. Straight women are starting to get wild honestly, we need to take them accountable because most don't even understand it's homophobia...
And btw it's homophobia either way, whether you do it to a straight man or a queer person...
You know what's homophobic? Telling a straight person they're transphobic for not wanting to date someone of the same biological sex even though they ID as the opposite gender.
I wouldn’t say “most” don’t understand that it’s homophobic, I simply think they don’t care. If anything, a lot of them are proud of being homophobic. They think they’re doing society a favor..
@@doppleganger683 obviously there’s going to be a handful of bad people in every community. You’re right, that thought process is flawed and toxic. That doesn’t make it any less inappropriate to bring up now. No one said anything about that.
@@GMMcomps2015 exactly 👏🏾
i remember i once saw a straight woman tweet abt how a man celebrating his birthday was 'gay' 💀
We live in the dumbest fcking timeline.
fellas is it gay to be born?
I read that one from another youtuber.
@@josiea.3855bahahahahaha based comment
my dad suspected I was gay because he saw me warping a present for my friend for his birthday. my sister told me that once I left the house he turned to her and said "who the fuck wraps their presents unless theyre GAY?!!"
and I mean tbf he came to the right conclusion with the wrong equation so...
but it was fun seeing him tin-foil-hatting over this for the next month and a half
im pan (just came out last year in February) and i still have moments like last week i bought some lighters and the only ones they had were a pink and purple design. my favorite color is purple. even still, immediately in my head im anxious that they look gay, like i cant help it.
thats how drilled into our heads it is growing up straight cis male. hell i even force myself out of crying like im back in middleschool again sometimes...
I'm so sorry for this terrible world that makes it difficult for people to be themselves. It really sucks. I can only say try not to be self-conscious (i can't spell that) but it's hard. This world currently has messed up and continues to mess up our minds and peace. I can really hope one day the world stops being so homophobic/transphobic. Anyway, try your best to be yourself. ❤
Beta males are so cringe
Damn, this was so entertaining 😂😂😂
You know, in all that playful, silly, witty banter Samantha really is laying out some sound advice. There’s people (mainly straight men) who drive themselves crazy trying to convince themselves that they’re not gay, like seriously.
I remember, my uncle used to clock me so closely that whenever I rested my wrist in a limp way, he’d always wanna scream out that I’m gay and that he always knew it, it used to drive me crazy because I wouldn’t even be aware that I’m doing it. He definitely was being silly and ridiculous, and the older I got I started suspecting that he might be a (closeted) gay given that I never once saw him with a girl, and he caught all my pornos because of how close he liked watching me. I’m sure I disappointed him when he saw that I like bbws (tmi sorry 😅)
So... He saw you watch porn or you're an actor? And if so what's your stage name🌚
@@mpumelelokhumalo7107 of course, I’m not an actor 😄
I just said it the way I heard it in Deja Vu, an Eminem song
A friend of mine got a chronic breast inflammation because a guy she was with didn't wash his hands. Taking a shower every two days was enough for him. Only after other men explained to him, that that was indeed nasty, did he change his ways. And the number of people getting yeast infections or BVs after getting fingered by this kind of guys is astounding. Please guys, wash up before you feel up
So happy that I'm working in an inclusive company. Some of my male straight cis co workers who eventually became good friends outside of work would ask me skin care advice and what products to buy on a budget ❤
To the guys who are reading this, skin care doesn't make you gay or any part of the LGBTQIA+. Its just one of the many things you can do to take care of yourself
What’s the “I and A” mean
@@helloall7232 Intersex and Asexual
Intersex and Asexual/Aromantic/Agender @@helloall7232
@@helloall7232 I is intersex. People that are born with a biology that is not completely male or female
@@helloall7232 Intersex and Asexual!
Let's take a moment to remember that our sexuality isn't only defined by our activities.
Lol I used to have that same pickle lighter. I got it because I thought it was just so random and funny. It never once crossed my mind about it being perceived as gay. Also I remember my alcoholic uncle once saying that only gays go to Paris on vacation.
Skin care and hygiene were considered gay for me than 40 years. Probably why I had the worst hygiene as a kid, I didn’t want to give myself away 😊.
This reminds me of a conversation I had with a straight man after he found out I was Pan. You probably know how this goes.
Dude - "I love lesbians, That's hot. But I can't stand gay guys."
Me- "Why?"
Dude - "I don't want men hitting on."
Me - "Does that happen often."
Dude - "Well, no. Never."
Then, I decided not to continue speaking to that person. But if I had a nickel for every time I've heard this or some variation of this conversation, I could buy a Tesla.
As a trans man once I figured out I was trans (even before I came out) I did everything I could to be as stereotypically masculine as possible from my outfits to my tone of voice to my hair style to my mannerisms to my hygiene products *everything* throughout my teen years and I'm so glad I grew out of that and don't feel the need to prove myself to cis people anymore I mean granted I've been on T for a while now but on the rare occasion I get misgendered or "clocked" I've been working really hard in therapy to not let that keep me from being my true "zesty" self ✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧ 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
@maroonguy it’s zesty mean
Same! I’m a feminine trans man all the way, and I’ve never been happier. If wearing a skirt occasionally or wearing perfume makes me less of a man in the eyes of cis people, that’s fine by me, I’m not here to please them
i relate as a trans ftm femboy
@@metallica2500transphobes there's the door for y'all 🖕🚪
@@metallica2500please go away and stay in your lane cissy str8
Samantha that blonde hair looks SO GOOD on you!!!! You're fr one of the most beautiful women EVER
Barbie girl arc 💅
Samantha Lux is a MAN ❗
@@Estela-o6twhen you look at Samantha, do you see a man? If you do, you fail the test
@@Estela-o6tif you didn't know she was trans you wouldn't say that
@@Estela-o6t babes, calm down. It doesn't affect you ❤
In the early '00s, when I was in high school, I frequently got called gay for having long hair. I prefer wearing my hair long as the whole front of my head is cowlicks, and it's easier to take care of. Incidentally, I've frequently had women tell me my hair is "pretty" and express jealousy over how straight and shiny it is.
I went to high school in the 70s. At least half the guys had long hair.
@donpietruk1517 unfortunately it wasn't "cool" in '04-'07 when I was in high school.
Loved this video. Love your funny random self, Sam. 😂 One of the things I've loved about coming into my own as gay man over the years is just not giving a damn about whatever gender expectations people may have for me. That is their problem, not mine. It's so freeing to let go of that homophobic anxiety.
And gay is beautiful in all its forms ☺️
I wish you all the strength and love that you deserve ❤️💜
I was once told by a "straight" man that standing with my weight on one leg and my hips at an angle made me "gay" and "put a target on my back" well im trans so HAHA
Blonde is definitely your color. You look like such a Disney Princess 😍
She definitely does give of Disney princess vibes, or even princess peach 😊💛
@@metallica2500you really don't have a life,do you? 😂😂 transphobic manchild
@@metallica2500keep weeping cisgender cuz she's a PRINCESS 💅
I am so attracted to men who are or do things that are considered "feminine." Most of the women I have met feel the same way lmfao 🤣 idk where straight men get this idea that they can't do things that are "gay."
A lot of this comes down from stereotypes, also stigmatizing men. I wish my dad was more open minded to me dancing, because he didn't have a problem with me dancing before.
Beautifully blonde! Keep killing it and callin’ out the straight silliness!
It's scary the amount of things people perceive as gay.
Also absolutely loving this look. It's like Sabrina and Buffy had a glorious lovechild.
What's also scary is the amount of people who think they're another gender because they ✨f e e l l i k e i t ✨
I once got called the F slur for wearing red shoes. Me and my friends who were with me laughed about how stupid that was for YEARS!
YOU HAVE SHOES??? THATS GAY NGLLL
Companies tend to hand out cotton shoulderbags as promotion material, usually filled with some flyers and some goodies. One time, when I was in high school, one of my classmates refused to take the bag "because shoulder bags are gay". It led to a few other boys also returning the bag they just received...
one time classmate didn’t want to borrow my pen ‘cause it was “too girly”. It was an ordinary blue coloured pen and i’m still confused
i used to be friends with a straight male “ally” who always used the term “zesty” to describe other guys. it genuinely confuses me how some people claim to be allies but continue to use blatantly homophobic phrases.
Explain it. Sometimes, we as allies are just ignorant. I cringe at things I've said because I seriously didn't know. I realize it's not your job to educate us, but please help us!
@@Bildgesmythe 100%. i always try to educate my straight friends! (but that one guy really would not listen)
My dad thought holding a baby doll was ”gay" when I was younger. I went through a phase where I suddenly wanted to take my Baby Born everywhere, like she was a real baby and couldn't be left alone, which included strapping her into a little car seat and then carrying her on my back when we went shopping. I remember asking him to hold her (in the seat/carrier) once while I went to the bathroom, and he freaked out. He legit thought people would think he was gay and not, you know, a parent of a small(-ish) child. 😂
its gay to have a baby ig 💀
Wow. But for real, the taking care of a baby doll thing is so sweet. I used to play this princess dress-up game with my sister when we were little, and it was so fun!
Samantha, thank you for the laughs as always. We need more Samantha Lux. ❤
Definitely 💛
Really im dont know what funny part of this video im just feel like skeleton that watching youtube in my phones at 03:00AM with my mouth open and thinking "what other mental illness is this?"
@@player_1759 what
@@player_1759are you speaking in alien or English?
@@ini9558 Are you seriously talking about my grammar? you even have below average English scores
I got called gay all the time growing up because I started identifying as bi at the age of 15 but I can remember that there was someone else that also was called that just because he looked to good 😂.
Also man that paint their nails 💅 are very hot. Looking at short, dirty nails that are not taken care for isn’t something that most girls like.
"men, if you want to impress a girl with your nails, you have to barehanded wipe your ass and wash your hands with concrete and motor oil"
The popular dudes usually got called gay but they were popular because they looked good and actually showered
“Maybe he hates soft blankets!” 😂😂
Pickles aren't gay, but there is a commercial where a ninja turtle goes into a lockeroom and takes off his towel- then it cuts to a jar of pickles. No joke, its a real ad. 😂
I remember that lol
It's also worth it to mention the short film from 1989 made by the late Tom Rubnitz called "Pickle Surprise" that has a lot of famous Drag Queens in it, including a young RuPaul and Lady Bunny.
My straight male friends love that I can go shopping with their significant others for the things that they don't enjoy shopping for.
actually experienced this back when I still identified as a man:
I was drinking with some of my friends and some friends of theirs who I never met before. At one point my drink was empty and one of the guys I didn't know offered to get me a beer but I declined and told that I don't like beer. This guy stared me blank in the face and asked if I was gay and his sole reason to think that according to himself is that I don't like beer
I'm just thinking about a screenshot I saw of someones snapchat of a sunset with "I'm not gay but this is amazing" or something written on it, like as if we'd assume only gay men would think sunsets were cool lmao. It's also really weird when men expressing love for their wives/girlfriends and being romantic is considered gay by their friends. I really feel for the men who don't feel able to express themselves freely in whatever way because of being teased for it, or even having people be hostile towards them if they think they're gay. Also, I'm totally with you that men who embrace feminine aspects of themselves are hot, it shows confidence and strength.
THE HAIRRRRR OMGGGG ATE
ITS EATING 😭
I saw one where it said that if men like muscular women then they’re gay. So liking women is gay now apparently
'omg you like women?? you must be a gay man' lmbooooo 💀 the homophobes are so stupid
😂
because Samantha exclusively referred to gayness/queerness as being defined by sex, this is just a little aroace reminder that sex isn't the only thing that defines your sexuality!
I assume she'll pick up on her mistake later I hope.
People make mistakes with what they say, they can't be perfect 100% of the time.
no one cares, chill
@@crab-hr7zm
Most of the comment section does.
I deal with this crap all the time. I live in a "male only" environment (I don't identify as one but there's no trans/non-binary accommodating place here) and I'm constantly teased and bullied and called gay for wearing colorful clothes and painting my nails. I'm tired of people drawing imaginary connections between unrelated subjects and using it as an excuse for cruelty
My dad used to REFUSE to drink from a straw bc "that's gay"...like 🤨🙄...the amount of spilled sh!t bc of that man 😒
what 💀
That guy yelling “pronouns!!” was giving major Mr. Crocker vibes from Fairly Odd Parents
Laughed and giggled through this whole video. Great job, Sam!
More people need to just not give a shit what other people think it makes life a lot easier and simpler just do what you want and what makes you happy and don't give a fuck what anybody else thinks. It's a way simpler way to live and way less stress involved
The dude freaking out about the pink lighter doesn't understand that it's the best color..
I'm a cis dude who exclusively rocked a pink lighter.. it's the only lighter that no one stole from me because it was "g*y".... "yeah mf!!! Give me my lighter back"...
My brother makes fun of guys who get so insecure over seeming gay.
My brother loves cute stuff, is sensitive and very kind, yet he's a straight heterosexual, cisgender male.
Men of all sexualities should embrace their Kennergy
Hi Samantha. Thank you for what you put out into the world and being your stunning self. Just one thing here though. Being gay doesn’t require “intercourse” and “intercourse” doesn’t make someone gay. Not being physical with another person, whether because you are asexual, don’t feel ready, have trauma, don’t have a access to condoms or a safe space… or a wide range of other reasons, doesn’t mean you have no sexual identity, or are “default straight”. Just like being in a monogamous relationship with someone of the opposite sex, whether “forever” or (just) currently, doesn’t mean you’re not bi or pan (if we’re not going to use gay as a “catch all” term). And for those you have had sex, they could also be bi or pan, or maybe they decide it wasn’t right for them (for a ton of different reasons), or maybe they’re a sex worker, whether working directly with clients or in porn. Gotta love us that nuance. Much love!
So happy to see how in each video you seem more comfortable and happy, content, it's great to see
I was just having this convo with some friends about how it's beyond ridiculous that there's all these products which are all normal everyday things, but they're marketing them to men now. Like... fcking *"dude wipes"*
🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
They're basically just wet wipes, but because guys think they're feminine or "gay" this is the level of stupidity that apparently is necessary.
I just saw that pink loghter video like last week, and i thought it was gonna just be one guy flipping out... nah, it was more than a handful 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Straight men are not okay.
Hey fellas, is it "gay" to love your kids? 🤔
@@darkmaster022003I'm going to go look for it right after this one. Thanks for the intel 👍🏾
whatever cleans the dry river between crack's valley, I suppose
Girl, you are so CRAZY! 😂😂 I'm a straight goth guy so makeup etc . Is no problem.
The hair is giving...strawberry? Its a good look. I love it. 😘
I’ve said it once, but I’ll say it again: blonde hair looks so good on you, Sam.
The blonde hair looks sooo good on you girl 😍
Cishet men genuinely confuse me. Why are you so scared of being gay unless you're homophobic?
Because nobody with an ounce of sanity wants anything to do with the rainbow cult.
As someone who is nonbinary and uses they/he pronouns, I've always just done and worn whatever I wanted and not let anyone stop me. In a few days, I'm going with my sister's bridal party to get our nails professioanlly done for the wedding. I'll probably wear my binder when I go. I use all the seasonings for my weird little gender soup and it's perfect because nobody else has to like it because at the end of the day, the only one who is has to deal with that bowl is me 😌🥘
I am 29 and straight but I wear pink lol 🤣. Like you said it's just a colour. Also my dad told me it takes a real man to wear pink.
Pink was also a boy color before hitler ruined it.
I'm not joking.
I worked at Claire's in the mall (Bi/Pan gender queer yada yada) in 2005 so I pierced a lot of guys ears and they were always so concerned with looking gay. Whether it was getting the "wrong ear" pierced or simply being seen in a Claire's at all, the thing that dumbfounded me the most was they would always refuse the simple small silver hoop and choose the biggest "diamond" they could get.
All I could think was when I was a kid hoops were toughguy earings (bikers/pirates/strongmen/etc) and diamonds were a girl's best friend, but that was the big pimpin era so, ya know.
P.S. Don't get me started on the feminine stylings couched in pimp culture.
I remember when straight men who practiced proper hygiene called themselves metrosexual
my tiny town just got a crosswalk. now I'm waiting to see how many days it takes to get vandalized. I hope it will be at least a couple weeks, but I doubt it.
13:03 I think it's actually a phenomenon called "Male Flight". Basically once women started to enjoy the things that made someone "manly", instead of both enjoying something, the men would run away and mark the item or activity as "feminine". this applies everywhere, like how teachers and nurses were men but when women took interest, the men ran away.
I once saw somebody tweet "Men shouldn't wear glasses. It's gay."
My fiance has the same look on his face when I'm shopping with him. I'm pretty sure its not cause he thinks it makes him look gay. I do that (26M). It's cause he'd rather be home playing video games or doing literally anything else not around other people. He's an introvert. lol.
the legs crossing thing made me laugh, because until I was 22ish, i thought it wasn't something men did, it had been drilled into me during my early childhood torture years when my govt had me genocided for being too savage to be raised with my own people, a core memory is that only woman are supposed to sit with their legs crossed like that, now that i've started writing it out, it's because my foster "brother" who was one of the main abusers beat it out of me. then I just asked my friend why he was sitting like that, he said it was comfortable, and that was that and I started sitting like that too, cuz it's kinda comfortable. let's not even get into how if i wasn't so disabled, I'd be seeking full transition surgery, but my worthless ass is barely surviving, aint got time to try and thrive with this kind of pain.
The blonde looks good on you Samantha.
*purely an aside* this blonde hair looks great on you Samantha! :)
okay, but as a trans guy I can really relate to some of these----(Not for the fear of seeming like a cis gay male, but in fear of looking like a cis woman)
Like, the "sitting wrong" thing, and the "too scared to apply chapstick" and "Is there a more masculine version I can buy?" is just, a personal attack tbh
Edit: Omg wait no, If I was handed a pink lighter I would have just dropped my head in shame and walked away. Lmao I'd take that so wrong- I'd never show my face in there again lol
shout out to the straight guy who told me being a waiter was gay. sorry i'm making money ig
I forgot to say we both at Hutchinson antivibration system we make motor mounts all kind of mount's and part's for electrical cars
Not even to mention those that spray on AXE or even femme people that shower in fragrance. Light vanilla, light coconut. light peaches... think light... NOT soaking yourself. Elevators full of fragrance.... uck. SHOWer, apply a slight little bit... and I can not even stress that a LITTLE should remain that. I pick up on smells a lot though.
To respond to the last question, the most ridiculous time I've been called gay was for listening to Queen.
As a straight man who have had many gay friends and spent much of his 20s in bars where the LGBT+ community used to hang, being called gay is only amusing. Been "accused" of being gay at my old job a few times for different things and my reaction is usually simply to smile and flirt as i don't take it as an insult and rather silently laugh at how insecure they are.
This one stirred up so many old memories and stories with me and my best friend and things we did, sometimes for a convenience like holding hands in crowds, and other times silly stuff like nude wrestling in a friends dorm hallway (yes we were drunk as fck)
😂😂 like Tammy in "Kids in the Hall": he just don't like pickles...
I once heard a straight boy say that;
•pillows are fruity
•washing your hair was fruity, etc.
always love watching your vids.
This was absolutely brilliant!!!! I smiled and giggled the whole video...!
When I make my Bread pudding some people say it's zesty, that means I put too much orange peel into the mix, ''It's Zesty'' ingredients for my bread pudding is. 8 oz mix sultanas and fruit soaked in red wine for a few hours to swell, the more swelling the better girl, 3 eggs, 4 oz melted butter, 10 oz stail bread ripped to little bits then soaked in 8 oz milk, nutmeg, cinnamon and 4 oz soft brown sugar, and 1/2 an orange peel grated into ZEST.'' Its zesty''. mix all together, bake centre of oven for 40 minutes at 180 degrees, take out oven and cover with tin foil until cool. sprinkle some granulated sugar on top for artistic effect.... it's yummy and also ZESTY .... But it's not Gay. 😀
Before I knew I was pan , at 11 I started trying to make my voice sound all deep lol .
And I rarely smiled , I always felt like I had to come off intimidating to not get bullied .
Using a straw because "why would you need it? are you trying to keep your lipstick nice or something?"
MY BOYFRIEND HAS THE PICKLE LIGHTER HAHAHAHAG
2:35 “I’ll show you all the pronouns you need to see” lmaooo I died 😂😂 you funny af
This is completely unrelated to the video's topic but Samantha LOOKS SO GOOD WITH BLONDE OMG 🥺❤
My dad works at a factory and only keeps pink and purple lighters on him so the other guys won't steal them... he also has an Italian keychain on his truck keys with David from navel to upper thigh (that I got for him) and it causes issues if he takes his truck in to get new tires.... I love it
Man is so disgusted because pickle cigarette lighter. How's that gay? It doesn't make sense to me.
One time I posted a tiktok basically talking about how it's hard to talk to my crush because of how beautiful she is and someone commented that I should delete the video because I seem gay for admiring a woman LMFAOOOO
Ouch that hurt. Just because im a strait man doesn't mean I can't appreciate all beauty. I meant I enjoy your content. I dont judge. 😅
gaaaayyyy lol
@@TheSeanpatrickobrienprojecting much?
I'm more of an inland waterway man, myself...
Hey chris listen this information im should not tell this but im just gonna telling.....for watchout because may be someone who wear grey clothes coming to your house and bring you to
*AUSHWITZ CAMP*
On these kinds of videos as usually some sort of disclaimer. Don't worry. We know. I support you and all of your beauty enjoying endeavors lol
Here's one of my favorites that me and my coworkers at the time thought was hilarious. I was still closeted and in the military at the time. A male coworker of mine was walking out the door of our space to leave and said "Alright, see ya!" to which I said "Okay, bye!" and waved at him. He shook his head, chuckled a little bit and said, "Don't do that, man." My other coworkers and I were confused and I asked "Don't do what?" He responded "Don't wave at me. Just be like 'alright man, see ya later' and do this or somethin'." as he gave a quick two-finger salute My coworkers and I thought it was so hilarious that he was bothered by my waving, so everybody started waving at him and saying "Bye!" while we all laughed at the absurdity. It's absolutely crazy what some men perceive as being fruity or gay. XD
Im pan and I'm awful at remembering to do all my personal hygiene every day due to my adhd and autism. Not all lgbt people are fantastic about their cleanliness.
And as to colors when I was younger most of the guys used a lot of pastels, including pink. Mainly because we were trying to imitate Miami Vice. Lmao
Wait, what?
Some guys are scared to wash themselves?
Bleeuuaahhhh.
I'm so glad that's not one of my hangups.
its so gay to be clean ig.... it like attracts the gay chemicals... or something 💀
Oh my god this one is so funny!
Hi Samantha! I like your blonde hair!
Craziest one I heard was that brushing your teeth is gay.
I'm pretty lucky that my husband never stinks, and the really weird part: he can't smell, so you'd think he'd let himself get a bit stinky without realizing it.