Exactly, he seems like a petulant child who can't handle conflict or stress. He's a middle aged father!! Time to grow up!! He should have tried to work it out with Jen Garner!!
He is a drunk and acts like a child no one mentions that all you get is jlo this and Jolo that. I don't want to live with a drunk constantly watching him, he and his wife former is now playing house and everyone acts as if this is normal. Who accepts their husband spending time with his former wife in his house I won't , but no one finds that odd and seems to act as if jlo needs to accept that why?
Nah she ruined this because she over shared & sold their personal life! Like the book he gave her she thought she had to prove to Gadren that he loves her MORE
@@deend7824this was after their marriage, read the comment well, she said she was a diva n Ben knew her lifestyle. But yet he still went out with her n married her.
No exuse! It's like saying "he knew she was controlling, self sentered, want things her way, dominant, attention sick etc". I actually don't think there is a man who can handle her 🤔
💯 percent, Ariel!! He's a grown man. He knew what he was getting into!! Nobody put a gun to his head. If they really want to stay married, both of them need to compromise!!
J Lo loves attention but you have to give her credit for working so hard to get to where she is, And Ben i feel is too difficult , i dont trust his intentions and i dont know what he wants from a wife. He complained about his first wife that he wasnt happy and his drinking was a problem. I think he just needs to live by himself. And maybe he can make his self happy. I dont get him at all.
Exactly jlo never changed her life is the same. He knew that!! He's been w her b4. It's not Jlo fault. It's his fault. He never understands and just a man who waste women time!!
The reason he titled the book he gave her "the Greatest Love Story Never Told" is because it was supposed to never be told. It was a book of their 20+ year *secret* feelings and relationship. Containing his and her personally intimate communications and private secrets about themselves and each other, and their personal private business, left lying around the studio like a magazine for casual reading by anyone. Those secrets were between two people, *two* . Some of what is revealed affects not only Ben and how he feels but also the feelings of their others: their former spouses, their children, etc.. He wasn't trying to stop JLo from being an artist, he was just trying to be romantic and loving in saving it all and making the gift for her but being respectfully discreet about it. Being the muse and inspiring her creativity is one thing, and I bet is all good by Ben, wonderful even, but I agree with Ben that she crossed a line. That's a deal breaker, imho. This is a special level of self-absorbed, imho. She gave zero about how Ben or anyone else would feel, is how it seems to me.
Yea I agree.. im a JLo fan but she should have never put that personal stuff out that was meant to be for just her n Ben.. she could have used the letters to inspire Her music without putting it all out there .. I dont know what possessed her to do that .. Maybe she felt like she needed to prove to everyone that he really loves her cuz he embarassed her back in the day
Truest comment on here. She’s so self absorbed with ZERO self awarenesss and little care to his feelings about anything. Yes he knew she’s media hungry and craved the spotlight and attention but he probably hoped she might compromise a bit on things if she truly loved him. In which turn I believe he would’ve been willing to compromise and be a little more open with the attention she seeks from media and fans. But thennnn…she went and totally destroyed trust by not only not keeping that book private but making it into some big extravagant tell all of their lives. And he tried to get her not to do it. Of course she could care less about his feelings on the matter. So…now she’s got herself another dee-vorce in the works.
But he could have told her, no. In the documentary it feels like they were already starting to write for the album. But that’s one thing, the whole making a movie or documentary was another. And if he wasn’t comfortable with that, he should have spoken up.
@@lfuentes4098 when he realized, then he did. She could have ( should have imho) pulled the plug on it but she brushed it off, ignored it, She did the same with Jane Fonda's advice against continuing
Beautifully said! He’s rather blatant about the fact that he never wanted people just thumbing thru their deep feelings and thoughts of TWENTY YEARS!!! I can’t believe she even has the clip of Ben finding out about that and the “Pen Affleck” yet then has a clip of her boppinglika little HS’er with her gf’s at a sleepover and saying “Yeah I just keep it in the studio and people can go thru it.” Like .. DID YOU NOT hear what YOUR HUSBAND just said??? Yeah, but you just didn’t care …
Ben has been an embarrassment. He doesn't take responsibility. He doesn't accept his wrong. This man has an addiction to gambling. And addiction to medicated drugs. He does drugs. This man is an embarrassment, and the truth is gonna come out and I feel sorry for Jennifer Lopez. Because everybody's putting her as the horrible one. When she's worked very hard for everything she's got and all he wanted was to use. The he used it for his premiere in Paris and Italy. I mean, this guy is an idiot. J lo needs to move on
Agree, she must move on and stay single while figuring out herself. Someday she will meet someone who values her ,and you know, if she never does, that is also okay.
just goes to show that marriage is more than just insatiable attraction for each other. two selfish people who are unwilling to compromise and meet in the middle will never be happy in marriage.
Yep and marriage is all about compromises. It’s also about not changing the person that’s growing together. It’s not about fancy dresses cars huge houses it’s about hospital stays. It’s about being there and fighting to stay together through it off. It’s about kids it’s about if you have kids, it’s all about sacrifice, which Jennifer Lopez could not do either of them could not do it.
@@stacyhunt4783She doesn't want a divorce and she's been putting up with his disgusting smoking habit. Something Jen G was not putting up with. JLo even moved ther kids way across from Miami ti LA, far away from their regular schools. Ben hasn't had to be inconvenienced or lift a finger. He's acting like the spoiled brat that he is.
Mannn....Your right, but Ben dated so many people during rehab and after. He's been on a ball since his first divorce from Garner. It was never going to end well from things I saw, like that time when she was promoting her brand alcohol and drinking like it's not a thing in front of a recovering addict. It's a thing even when they say it's not a problem, and it's ok if you drink, but knowing on the inside it's a vice that's your downfall. Nope, I don't see it working. However, I wish no marriage to fail. He needs to be with someone who also practices sobriety, and he likes living a normal life. That's why he married the other Jen in the first place. He doesn't like her lifestyle. He doesn't want to go to loud BET concerts. Lol Both of them need to take time out to be single.
@@detrafranks9325she's worth 3 times what he has! And him blaming her for some type of mental abuse (insanity) might be a plot to prove this against her. He needs to support 3 kids through college..lots of money going to Garner. Yea..at his age he better be working his ass off the next 10 years to pay for all this. I wouldn't put it past him to try to sue her for something. I don't know if Cali is a no fault state when it comes to dissolving a marriage?
Why is everyone blaming her for being herself? At least she has worked hard and has stayed true to herself; however, Ben has been a damn mess his whole life!!! He is all over the place, screwed up his 1st marriage and cheated with a nanny. He’s a raging alcoholic and a chain smoker! I have noticed a pattern with him and that he’s a complete jerk. The first time they broke up he compared it to the feeling of vomit …he said, at first it feels terrible but then you feel better once you throw up and now he’s kind of using the same analogy when it comes to his relationship with JLo and it’s bunch of BS. He knew exactly what he was getting into. I feel like he just played with her emotions and completely destroyed her. She has never looked this fragile and so skinny. I don’t even recognize her anymore..I just see sadness. She used to be full of life and now it’s like looking at an empty soul..a sad sad soul….and that’s what narcissists do, they suck the life out of you!!!! I truly feel bad for her and I’m praying that she heals from this 🙏💕
She's skinny because she's doing Ozempic or some other form of weight loss drug. She can't handle getting old. Also she's the real narcissist. Keep it real.
Jlo destroyed? I dont know her but she doesn't seem to be a sadybetty crying over a man. She probably just wanted a little hot mess drama, lol. Omg thank God that man is talented and hot . He seems to be the hot blonde bimbo in a man version.
Go figure! He was tired of his boring life with Jen Garner. He actually said in an interview that thats the reason he turned to alcohol. Shame on him, especially when he's the one who cheated on her with their childrens nanny. I suspect he always has to blame whichever woman he's with, after he's grown bored of them. Smh. Ben Affleck is one hot mess! He needs to grow up and learn that life is NOT a fairytale!
Hay por favor, este hombre simplemente no ssbe lo que es valorar a una mujer, a su primera esposa la traiciona con la niñera, luego sale con la de Armas y decía lo mismo x que ella estaba en el tope de su carrera y él no podia soportar que ella llamara la atencion más que él, JLo nunca fue ni sará una mujer fácil, pero este hombre definitivamente es un ser infeliz, manipulador y egocéntrico que luego se quiere hacer la victima en lugar de madurar de una buena vez
Ben Affleck, Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp all realized too late, that the grass isn't greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it, where you nurture it.
I hate that he talks bad about the women in his life after a break up. He did it to Gardner, now he is doing it to JLo. Real men dont kiss and tell. Gross. I am team JLo.
You two women should be women advocates . It is so sickening to hear you disrespect JLO. How could you criticize a woman who works so hard to get where she is now while this man has been nothing but a train wreck. Stop blaming & putting down women, period!
Jennifer is an egotistical narcissistic diva. common knowledge. but he is selfish and always seems unhappy. neither one of them should get married again.
Ben is incapable of maintaining marriage with his drinking and bachelor lifestyle. And JLo can’t be babysitting and playing mother to him forever. So this partnership is doomed.
She has a beautiful body and is rich, the man is not worth it, he cheated on Garner with the nanny, the children's nanny. Now he's divorcing Lopez, the man is not a man of commitment, the sad thing is he's older and it's not good for any man to be alone, Jen is latina and warm, could have taken good care of him, he wants another young nanny and freedom, so be it. Jen will keep trying, bless her...
he has anger issues, alcohol addiction issues adultery issues and is miserable and feverish regardless cause no matter where you are Ben there you are God is love +
He was having a midlife crisis for years and was in limerence with JLo. So yeah I believe that quote 💯. He woke up and is now smelling the coffee, hence why he's moved closer to his ex Jen Garner. She was true love. The grass is not greener 💯
Neverfall for a guy that had recently divorced.He is now definitely looking for another divorced since j.Garner still around for Ben...JLo you need a man better than him find someone who will love you more than you love him and you will be happy🙏
@@carmenpowell9728amen!!! The woman definitely has self-esteem issues, which is made obvious by the fact that she needs constant attention from the paparazzi/public & has to stay relevant!!! I’m pretty sure her biggest fear in life besides aging is no longer getting all the attention that her stardom has brought her for sooo many years!!! She needs therapy & has for a while now - to truly learn to love herself!!! And prepare herself for when the spotlight on her begins to lessen, being she in her mid 50’s now!!!!
Oh, yes, because being around an addict who is always in a bad mood must be a walk in the park. He seems like an absolute NIGHTMARE to be around. Who knows which Ben is gonna show up at any given moment. Happy Ben, angry Ben, annoyed Ben, narcissistic, gaslighting Ben, or all of the above.
Another man that waste women's time!!! He knew Jlo before all of this!! He married her for money not love in my opinion. Ain't nothing changed about Jlo!! She's the same person minus the children. I feel sorry for her!! I know she's been married more than once. At moment in time. It's all the men fault not hers! I thought it might be her a little 🤔 but maybe. But she still remained the same. Ben Ain't happy with anyone. He should b alone!! N leave us sane women alone!! Don't drive us insane and crazy like he have done! He's a sad man if he divorce her or causes her to divorce him.
If this is true, let's let them both heal. Remember both have feelings & family. Which one of us hasn't had challenges, hurts & pain whether caused or naturally. Godspeed to all.
Ben seems to show signs of a Gemini....split personality and changes on a dime. He had a more passive life with Jennifer and he was miserable there too!
Didn't Jennifer Garner (ex wife) help Ben through sobriety?!? Why would he leave her, and i don't understand why she's involved in trying to help them heal. JG seems to be the one he should have stayed with and never had looked back when it didn't qork the first time. If they comw back doesn't always mean, it's meant to be.
TBH I don't even know how he ended up marrying Jennifer Gardner because She is an arrogant, obnoxious Entitled unworldly racist with Artificial-fake-"Nice-girl personality/persona where Ben regardless of his shortcomings is a genuinely a nice person with many personal problems yet Humanitarian fights against hatred and ignorance in this world and well educated unlike both uneducated Jennifers but Gardner is the worst! Typical Karen. And I'm so glad his children took after him so at least he is good dad like his brother too.
Ben cheated on Jennifer G with their kids' nanny and was also drunk all the time. It wouldn't surprise me if Garner kicked Ben out after putting her through all that. I certainly wouldn't want him back.
I believe Ben is concerned about his children. He is a good father, but Jennifer is exploiting their marriage. So much falsehoods on Jennifer's side. Give the man a break.
He's so toxic. Been married to an alcoholic before, and it was sooo hard. People with that kind of issues usually are so selfish. Irritable, and volatile. Jen, gurl, run ASAP. You don't need a king to be the queen you already are❤
Yes he did! And he even said that's what he admired about her..her hard work..her continued efforts in face of racial adversities..not to give up! He knew exactly what he was getting when he asked her back into his life!!!!
Agree with your statement. Ben pursued Jlo to then leave her after two years. That is wrong. She was trusting him on not to do this to her. However, I do also believe she over exposed her marriage.
Ya know, not all famous people’s spouses have to be in the spotlight. Look at Dolly Pardon. Nobody would recognize her husband anywhere. They don’t do things together in public. Ben should have known what he was getting into. Jen seems to think that he IS her true love. Kinda sad that they can’t work it out for both to live in whatever professional role they want to, and have a VERY private life to enjoy as well.
Lopaz got dumped 20 years ago and it killed her pride and ego!!! That's why this time he married her was a huge ego trip telling the world " Look world I'm very desirable after all. I got my prize after 20 years; ain't I ms wonderful ??? That's why in all the pics ya see them slobbering on each other!! It was to show YOU" hahaha. I got my man after all be cause I'm soooo sexy and desirable!;" She felt if she tried her best to control Ben and insist he love their fake life he could learn to be happy with her way!!! He finally woke up; he's fed up playing the role.
Is that why he was sending her emails & love letters the past 20 years they were apart & with other partners?? No this is on HIM..not HER! HE USED HER 2ND TIME AROUND. HE'S A LOSER!!! F... you like she said!
She was given the chance , she didnt work to hard for it. Her family has/had money when she grew up despite her saying different. She went to private school and parents paid for her to get auditions and favors for her......, she is not and has never been just "jen from the block".
He is the same as her, both narcissistic, totally different to Jennifer Garner according to people. He treated that woman like 💩 for years, cheated, yelled at her, had to put up with his drug abuse and gambling problems, etc... had to intervene even when they were divorced to get him help at a mental health facility.
People forget how Matt Damon responded when these two got married.Ben cant go to parties because he has a drinking problem.J Lo lives for parties and attention.
I feel that JLo "needs" the media attention for self-validation and a man as an escape from looking within herself. Ben "avoids" the media because it calls attention to his many demons and "needs" a woman as escape from looking within himself. They have their flaws, like every human. I hope they both get the help they need to find genuine peace, love and happiness within themselves. Perhaps that will lead them to making better choices going forward. Sending them both love.❤🙏
So Jennifer worked hard for it huh. 9 Jennifer stole people's voices. So that made Jenny from the block. She stole people's dance moves now that helps. Bang ladies you're right she worked really hard she's the best thief I think I've ever met
Ben needs to be very careful to protect his peace. I feel like this would be a big part of him maintaining his sobriety. JLo needs to work very hard to protect her brand and as you say, she's worked super hard for that too. Neither is wrong. It's just conflicting agendas. JLo does do things I find odd. Like the whole DeLola thing. That was an unusual thing to be plugging relentlessly and drawing attention to constantly when your partner is a recovering alcoholic. And the "look at our perfect love story" narrative is a fantasy. Even Ben knew that. She's idolising a fantasy, not the reality of what (and whom) is in front of her. Jen Garner understands that reality. She's the one that sat with him at it's muckiest and then got told that marriage to her made Ben feel trapped. Maybe Ben just shouldn't be married. Full stop. But I agree with what someone else said below. JLo will. Again. Because she's still chasing that fantasy. Unless she gets some serious therapy, and does the internal work she always will be.
I'm Sure She's Very Hard to Live With..She Has To Be #1 Without Paparazzi !! Whatever Ben Wants Is His Right Also ! Don't put him Down..You Dont Know Everything... Dealing With all That Is Insane, I'm Sure..Do You Ben ! Your Fabulous ! 😊⚘️
She shouldn’t have done essentially a press tour after they got married answering all kinds of questions about him and she should’ve stopped posting videos and photos of them after she posted abt their wedding to commemorate it. The first time they dated, they went through excessive press that they claim gave them PTSD. But Jennifer went and still talked openly about them rather than keeping stuff private when they got back together like what? You don’t see Eva Mendes and Ryan doing that. You gotta protect what you have from the vultures that are the media and bitter femcels and incels in the public that wanna see you fail. I mean they would’ve gotten rumors and press whether she answered questions abt them and posted abt him or not but to this extent? We might not be seeing it to this level had she not brought him to every single event and kept things more private. She values the attention seemingly more than peace. And Ben definitely doesn’t like the attention so she should’ve compromised. Who knows if this is true or not bc the reality is he is also filming the sequel to The Accountant and he could be living elsewhere to “get into character,” who knows.
He looked so miserable from day 1. He should have stopped it from moving forward. He should be a single dude and she will just bounce from man to man. Maybe she will realize it is ok to be alone for 2 minutes.
I have no respect for Ben or jlo. I hope she won't let him go and that he is miserable every day. He was married to a precious wonderful woman and had beautiful children. Now he has screwed everybody, his kids included.
He needs therapy he’s never happy constantly searching outside himself for peace and he went back to JLo like the media was crazy the first time they were together smh 🤦🏽♀️
He was normal with Jennifer Gardner and he wasn’t happy there either. He doesn’t know what he wants ….
Exactly, he seems like a petulant child who can't handle conflict or stress. He's a middle aged father!! Time to grow up!! He should have tried to work it out with Jen Garner!!
He needs to figure himself out and probably isn’t good in relationships.
They divorced way before JLO, how have we forgotten his substance abuse?
@@micherylgaines9930he's a child, she's a 🐝
He has not been normal for years ,,,,
How awful that everyone always blame the woman. He's such a basketcase he's always in pain no matter what. Why hate on her?
True
Thank you ❤♥️🌹😍🥰
EXACTLY!! HE'S A ALCOHOLIC! JENNIFER GARNER DIVORCED HIM BECAUSE SHE COULDN'T TAKE IT NO MORE!! (GET HELP BEN)
They will blame her she is not white , he is a total loser that falls off the wagon and hear them oh poor Ben 😂😂😂
He is a drunk and acts like a child no one mentions that all you get is jlo this and Jolo that. I don't want to live with a drunk constantly watching him, he and his wife former is now playing house and everyone acts as if this is normal. Who accepts their husband spending time with his former wife in his house I won't , but no one finds that odd and seems to act as if jlo needs to accept that why?
He is such a terrible husband to both Jennifer's. He knew she was a diva when he married her.
Nah she ruined this because she over shared & sold their personal life! Like the book he gave her she thought she had to prove to Gadren that he loves her MORE
@@deend7824this was after their marriage, read the comment well, she said she was a diva n Ben knew her lifestyle. But yet he still went out with her n married her.
No exuse! It's like saying "he knew she was controlling, self sentered, want things her way, dominant, attention sick etc". I actually don't think there is a man who can handle her 🤔
Neither one of them should marry again. Some people just shouldn’t and can’t be married
Are you crazy? This is JLo's entire career, her ever evolving love life. She will absolutely get married again.
😂😂😂😂😂. You lost hope and I understand your pain.
Everybody hates her but forgets he is a grown man and he knew her lifestyle, so he shouldn't 've married her.
💯 percent, Ariel!! He's a grown man. He knew what he was getting into!! Nobody put a gun to his head. If they really want to stay married, both of them need to compromise!!
Absolutely
He followed the wrong head 😂
Exactly
That's why he said it was "Temporary Insanity"
Every one forgets that Ben was once an abuser
I didn’t know that!😮
and alcoholic
Gambling addiction @@jveschi5875
J Lo loves attention but you have to give her credit for working so hard to get to where she is, And Ben i feel is too difficult , i dont trust his intentions and i dont know what he wants from a wife. He complained about his first wife that he wasnt happy and his drinking was a problem. I think he just needs to live by himself. And maybe he can make his self happy. I dont get him at all.
Bang on
Agree
I mean she did work hard on her knees to get her acting and music careers. Lol if you like that kind work to get ahead
Some men are just never satisfied and is always self sabotaging
Exactly jlo never changed her life is the same. He knew that!! He's been w her b4. It's not Jlo fault. It's his fault. He never understands and just a man who waste women time!!
The reason he titled the book he gave her "the Greatest Love Story Never Told" is because it was supposed to never be told. It was a book of their 20+ year *secret* feelings and relationship. Containing his and her personally intimate communications and private secrets about themselves and each other, and their personal private business, left lying around the studio like a magazine for casual reading by anyone. Those secrets were between two people, *two* . Some of what is revealed affects not only Ben and how he feels but also the feelings of their others: their former spouses, their children, etc..
He wasn't trying to stop JLo from being an artist, he was just trying to be romantic and loving in saving it all and making the gift for her but being respectfully discreet about it. Being the muse and inspiring her creativity is one thing, and I bet is all good by Ben, wonderful even, but I agree with Ben that she crossed a line. That's a deal breaker, imho. This is a special level of self-absorbed, imho. She gave zero about how Ben or anyone else would feel, is how it seems to me.
Yea I agree.. im a JLo fan but she should have never put that personal stuff out that was meant to be for just her n Ben.. she could have used the letters to inspire Her music without putting it all out there .. I dont know what possessed her to do that .. Maybe she felt like she needed to prove to everyone that he really loves her cuz he embarassed her back in the day
Truest comment on here. She’s so self absorbed with ZERO self awarenesss and little care to his feelings about anything. Yes he knew she’s media hungry and craved the spotlight and attention but he probably hoped she might compromise a bit on things if she truly loved him. In which turn I believe he would’ve been willing to compromise and be a little more open with the attention she seeks from media and fans. But thennnn…she went and totally destroyed trust by not only not keeping that book private but making it into some big extravagant tell all of their lives. And he tried to get her not to do it. Of course she could care less about his feelings on the matter. So…now she’s got herself another dee-vorce in the works.
But he could have told her, no. In the documentary it feels like they were already starting to write for the album. But that’s one thing, the whole making a movie or documentary was another. And if he wasn’t comfortable with that, he should have spoken up.
@@lfuentes4098 when he realized, then he did. She could have ( should have imho) pulled the plug on it but she brushed it off, ignored it, She did the same with Jane Fonda's advice against continuing
Beautifully said! He’s rather blatant about the fact that he never wanted people just thumbing thru their deep feelings and thoughts of TWENTY YEARS!!! I can’t believe she even has the clip of Ben finding out about that and the “Pen Affleck” yet then has a clip of her boppinglika little HS’er with her gf’s at a sleepover and saying “Yeah I just keep it in the studio and people can go thru it.” Like .. DID YOU NOT hear what YOUR HUSBAND just said??? Yeah, but you just didn’t care …
Ben has been an embarrassment. He doesn't take responsibility. He doesn't accept his wrong. This man has an addiction to gambling. And addiction to medicated drugs. He does drugs. This man is an embarrassment, and the truth is gonna come out and I feel sorry for Jennifer Lopez. Because everybody's putting her as the horrible one. When she's worked very hard for everything she's got and all he wanted was to use. The he used it for his premiere in Paris and Italy. I mean, this guy is an idiot. J lo needs to move on
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Agree, she must move on and stay single while figuring out herself. Someday she will meet someone who values her ,and you know, if she never does, that is also okay.
I agree too, she needs to just let it go n be alone for a while
just goes to show that marriage is more than just insatiable attraction for each other. two selfish people who are unwilling to compromise and meet in the middle will never be happy in marriage.
This is the best comment I've read
Yep and marriage is all about compromises. It’s also about not changing the person that’s growing together. It’s not about fancy dresses cars huge houses it’s about hospital stays. It’s about being there and fighting to stay together through it off. It’s about kids it’s about if you have kids, it’s all about sacrifice, which Jennifer Lopez could not do either of them could not do it.
She doesn't want a divorce
@@stacyhunt4783She doesn't want a divorce and she's been putting up with his disgusting smoking habit. Something Jen G was not putting up with. JLo even moved ther kids way across from Miami ti LA, far away from their regular schools. Ben hasn't had to be inconvenienced or lift a finger. He's acting like the spoiled brat that he is.
He woke up from a "Fever Dream". That would be a great name for a movie.
He’s full of 💩
WTF is a Fever Dream sounds stupid. 🙄 lol
He is gross for saying that.
She is a hard working woman.
Never fall for a guy that has recently divorced. He will be looking for a.rebpund and that will soon fade.
Gardner erkek arkadaşı ile evlenerek gölge karakter olmaktan çıkarsa iyi olur .Ben mutlu olacağı onun ruhunu iyileştirecek biri ile olmalı.
Or a man that cheated on his wife with the nanny!! Jen Garner is practically a saint!!
Mannn....Your right, but Ben dated so many people during rehab and after. He's been on a ball since his first divorce from Garner. It was never going to end well from things I saw, like that time when she was promoting her brand alcohol and drinking like it's not a thing in front of a recovering addict. It's a thing even when they say it's not a problem, and it's ok if you drink, but knowing on the inside it's a vice that's your downfall. Nope, I don't see it working. However, I wish no marriage to fail. He needs to be with someone who also practices sobriety, and he likes living a normal life. That's why he married the other Jen in the first place. He doesn't like her lifestyle. He doesn't want to go to loud BET concerts. Lol
Both of them need to take time out to be single.
I hope he doesn't try to take her money either
He doesn’t need her money. He’s got plenty of his own. Jus sayin…
@@detrafranks9325she's worth 3 times what he has! And him blaming her for some type of mental abuse (insanity) might be a plot to prove this against her. He needs to support 3 kids through college..lots of money going to Garner. Yea..at his age he better be working his ass off the next 10 years to pay for all this. I wouldn't put it past him to try to sue her for something. I don't know if Cali is a no fault state when it comes to dissolving a marriage?
He had tons of paparazzi and media attention while dating Ana de Armas.. Maybe Ben is the problem himself, not his ladies 😅
Why is everyone blaming her for being herself? At least she has worked hard and has stayed true to herself; however, Ben has been a damn mess his whole life!!! He is all over the place, screwed up his 1st marriage and cheated with a nanny. He’s a raging alcoholic and a chain smoker! I have noticed a pattern with him and that he’s a complete jerk. The first time they broke up he compared it to the feeling of vomit …he said, at first it feels terrible but then you feel better once you throw up and now he’s kind of using the same analogy when it comes to his relationship with JLo and it’s bunch of BS. He knew exactly what he was getting into. I feel like he just played with her emotions and completely destroyed her. She has never looked this fragile and so skinny. I don’t even recognize her anymore..I just see sadness. She used to be full of life and now it’s like looking at an empty soul..a sad sad soul….and that’s what narcissists do, they suck the life out of you!!!! I truly feel bad for her and I’m praying that she heals from this 🙏💕
She's skinny because she's doing Ozempic or some other form of weight loss drug. She can't handle getting old. Also she's the real narcissist. Keep it real.
She's skinny for the new movie Axel I think is the name.
Isn't he a big gambler too?
Jlo destroyed? I dont know her but she doesn't seem to be a sadybetty crying over a man. She probably just wanted a little hot mess drama, lol. Omg thank God that man is talented and hot . He seems to be the hot blonde bimbo in a man version.
Well she should have proceeded with caution! They are both narcissists. Now she knows how it feels considering she ended her last three marriages
He looks miserable. I just think he’s one of those guys who is happier alone.
He will get his wish
That’s so disrespectful to publicly humiliate her like that
He also made disparaging comments about his previous marriage
No one loves jlo like jlo
Exaaaaactly!!!!!
Good for her!!
Yes you are right….that is self love ❤️
Don't put your marriage on the media it's that simple she should have known better
Is not about her marriage being on social media. Is just something beyond we the viewers.
Ben was just like a teenage boy with hormones all over the place. He knew what he was getting into.she is a star what did u expect??
Go figure! He was tired of his boring life with Jen Garner. He actually said in an interview that thats the reason he turned to alcohol. Shame on him, especially when he's the one who cheated on her with their childrens nanny. I suspect he always has to blame whichever woman he's with, after he's grown bored of them. Smh. Ben Affleck is one hot mess! He needs to grow up and learn that life is NOT a fairytale!
Hay por favor, este hombre simplemente no ssbe lo que es valorar a una mujer, a su primera esposa la traiciona con la niñera, luego sale con la de Armas y decía lo mismo x que ella estaba en el tope de su carrera y él no podia soportar que ella llamara la atencion más que él, JLo nunca fue ni sará una mujer fácil, pero este hombre definitivamente es un ser infeliz, manipulador y egocéntrico que luego se quiere hacer la victima en lugar de madurar de una buena vez
Maybe A Time Out On Both Sides Would Be Good.People Divorce Too Easily These Days.
Ben Affleck, Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp all realized too late, that the grass isn't greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it, where you nurture it.
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These 2 are idiots for getting married again. He should have stayed with jennifer Garner and not cheated on her.
It may be a double standard, but women have to be wiser when they have custody of their kids.
I hate that he talks bad about the women in his life after a break up. He did it to Gardner, now he is doing it to JLo. Real men dont kiss and tell. Gross. I am team JLo.
It's self preservation propelled by fight or flight mentality.
Team jL
Ben didn’t get therapy about his problem with the media?
Um I'm sorry, is Affleck not wildly more famous than Jennifer Lopez has....ever been? This show sucks
No, he’s not. Lol. Lopez is way more global.
Only in his dreams. Oh, and by the way, she’s also worth three times as much as he is. She’s the famous one.
This show does not suck.
What ??? Jlo has hit movies and hit songs...
I actually didn't know who Ben was until he started dating Jlo. Both of them suck though.
Ben is a miserable drunk, who does not need to be cause he has so many great qualities
You two women should be women advocates . It is so sickening to hear you disrespect JLO. How could you criticize a woman who works so hard to get where she is now while this man has been nothing but a train wreck. Stop blaming & putting down women, period!
It's unbearable to watch Lopez.
I never thought she should have married him. He does not ah e good character. But I am STILL rooting for them. ❤
They were engaged long ago but never married. He didn’t remarry anyone
Jennifer is an egotistical narcissistic diva. common knowledge. but he is selfish and always seems unhappy. neither one of them should get married again.
BUT unless he’s slow, he knew what he was getting into. It’s just history repeating itself 🤷🏼♀️
Ben is incapable of maintaining marriage with his drinking and bachelor lifestyle. And JLo can’t be babysitting and playing mother to him forever. So this partnership is doomed.
Ben can marry his alcohol, cigarettes, gambling and player ways
If he actually leaves her…I genuinely hope people realize what a POS he really is.
She has a beautiful body and is rich, the man is not worth it, he cheated on Garner with the nanny, the children's nanny. Now he's divorcing Lopez, the man is not a man of commitment, the sad thing is he's older and it's not good for any man to be alone, Jen is latina and warm, could have taken good care of him, he wants another young nanny and freedom, so be it. Jen will keep trying, bless her...
Jen is older than Ben.
She’s not my favorite person but Ben, WHAT A DOUCHE!
What horrible people you all are, Ben is a hopeless person, selfish cruel and again he's let her down
he has anger issues, alcohol addiction issues adultery issues and is miserable and feverish regardless cause no matter where you are Ben there you are God is love +
That was kinda mean to do this twice...
He was having a midlife crisis for years and was in limerence with JLo. So yeah I believe that quote 💯. He woke up and is now smelling the coffee, hence why he's moved closer to his ex Jen Garner. She was true love. The grass is not greener 💯
O gerçek aşk mı bilmem ,ben için gardner ikinci anne figürü sanırım. Bu adamın oidipus kompleksini atlatması,ne istediğini bulması gerek .
She’s moved on & won’t be taking him back & is worried if he & Jlo divorce he’ll go back to drinking & she’ll have to pick up the pieces again!
Nah...that man's true love is himself.
He cheated on Jennifer Garner with the nanny. So he didn't want her either. He has a problem.
Neverfall for a guy that had recently divorced.He is now definitely looking for another divorced since j.Garner still around for Ben...JLo you need a man better than him find someone who will love you more than you love him and you will be happy🙏
Before loving someone else, how about taking the time to really love yourself first? She should try it. It wouldn’t hurt.
@@carmenpowell9728amen!!! The woman definitely has self-esteem issues, which is made obvious by the fact that she needs constant attention from the paparazzi/public & has to stay relevant!!! I’m pretty sure her biggest fear in life besides aging is no longer getting all the attention that her stardom has brought her for sooo many years!!! She needs therapy & has for a while now - to truly learn to love herself!!! And prepare herself for when the spotlight on her begins to lessen, being she in her mid 50’s now!!!!
They separated in 2015 & divorced 2018. I don't call that recent!! He was with Ana de Armas before Jlo.
He knew how J Lo was with the press and all before he married her people try to change people, and you cannot
I don't know her says Mariah Carey
Who cares what miss PIGGY, has to say.
@@aureliaperaza1659 😆😆😆
Jennifer just seems so insufferable.
Jlo is probably a nightmare to be around. Ben just wants to be normal but unfortunately unless he becomes a recluse that won’t happen.
Oh, yes, because being around an addict who is always in a bad mood must be a walk in the park. He seems like an absolute NIGHTMARE to be around. Who knows which Ben is gonna show up at any given moment. Happy Ben, angry Ben, annoyed Ben, narcissistic, gaslighting Ben, or all of the above.
He's an alcoholic. You can be certain that he's a 'nightmare to be around' too.
Exactly@@lostwoods5687
@@lostwoods5687 yeah he’s moodier than a woman on a bad period, but all the time not just once a month!
You don't live with them to say that it must be a nightmare living with her.
Another man that waste women's time!!! He knew Jlo before all of this!! He married her for money not love in my opinion. Ain't nothing changed about Jlo!! She's the same person minus the children. I feel sorry for her!! I know she's been married more than once. At moment in time. It's all the men fault not hers! I thought it might be her a little 🤔 but maybe. But she still remained the same. Ben Ain't happy with anyone. He should b alone!! N leave us sane women alone!! Don't drive us insane and crazy like he have done! He's a sad man if he divorce her or causes her to divorce him.
The man is confused
If this is true, let's let them both heal. Remember both have feelings & family. Which one of us hasn't had challenges, hurts & pain whether caused or naturally. Godspeed to all.
Ben seems to show signs of a Gemini....split personality and changes on a dime. He had a more passive life with Jennifer and he was miserable there too!
Didn't Jennifer Garner (ex wife) help Ben through sobriety?!?
Why would he leave her, and i don't understand why she's involved in trying to help them heal.
JG seems to be the one he should have stayed with and never had looked back when it didn't qork the first time.
If they comw back doesn't always mean, it's meant to be.
TBH I don't even know how he ended up marrying Jennifer Gardner because She is an arrogant, obnoxious Entitled unworldly racist with Artificial-fake-"Nice-girl personality/persona where Ben regardless of his shortcomings is a genuinely a nice person with many personal problems yet Humanitarian fights against hatred and ignorance in this world and well educated unlike both uneducated Jennifers but Gardner is the worst! Typical Karen.
And I'm so glad his children took after him so at least he is good dad like his brother too.
Ben cheated on Jennifer G with their kids' nanny and was also drunk all the time. It wouldn't surprise me if Garner kicked Ben out after putting her through all that. I certainly wouldn't want him back.
I believe Ben is concerned about his children. He is a good father, but Jennifer is exploiting their marriage. So much falsehoods on Jennifer's side. Give the man a break.
Jlo sis ain’t nothing out here Pooh 🤝🏾✌🏽
He sounds so stupid and immature
He's so toxic. Been married to an alcoholic before, and it was sooo hard. People with that kind of issues usually are so selfish. Irritable, and volatile. Jen, gurl, run ASAP. You don't need a king to be the queen you already are❤
But he knew who he married!🤷♀️
Yes he did! And he even said that's what he admired about her..her hard work..her continued efforts in face of racial adversities..not to give up! He knew exactly what he was getting when he asked her back into his life!!!!
SAD. that this. Marriage could not be. WORKED. OUT
❤ I loved them. TOGETHER.
Happy for the wonderful Jennifer Garner! Free from this shiteshow!
Is that why she keeps visiting him at his rental home without her kids??🤔😳🤣😂
These two girls have beautiful skin 😊
Why did he contact her as soon as she left A-Rod?: He hasn't treated any of his wives righ6. It's all about him.
Agree with your statement. Ben pursued Jlo to then leave her after two years. That is wrong. She was trusting him on not to do this to her. However, I do also believe she over exposed her marriage.
YOU PEOPLE NEED TO SHUT UP AND MIND YOUR OWN DAM BUSINESS
Ya know, not all famous people’s spouses have to be in the spotlight. Look at Dolly Pardon. Nobody would recognize her husband anywhere. They don’t do things together in public. Ben should have known what he was getting into. Jen seems to think that he IS her true love. Kinda sad that they can’t work it out for both to live in whatever professional role they want to, and have a VERY private life to enjoy as well.
Lopaz got dumped 20 years ago and it killed her pride and ego!!! That's why this time he married her was a huge ego trip telling the world " Look world I'm very desirable after all. I got my prize after 20 years; ain't I ms wonderful ??? That's why in all the pics ya see them slobbering on each other!! It was to show YOU" hahaha. I got my man after all be cause I'm soooo sexy and desirable!;" She felt if she tried her best to control Ben and insist he love their fake life he could learn to be happy with her way!!! He finally woke up; he's fed up playing the role.
Good take on things
Is that why he was sending her emails & love letters the past 20 years they were apart & with other partners?? No this is on HIM..not HER! HE USED HER 2ND TIME AROUND. HE'S A LOSER!!! F... you like she said!
Jenny needs to get off the block for a while! Sit down gurrrrl.
She was given the chance , she didnt work to hard for it. Her family has/had money when she grew up despite her saying different. She went to private school and parents paid for her to get auditions and favors for her......, she is not and has never been just "jen from the block".
Says the cheater
They are as bad as each other tbh. 😅😂😂
He is the same as her, both narcissistic, totally different to Jennifer Garner according to people. He treated that woman like 💩 for years, cheated, yelled at her, had to put up with his drug abuse and gambling problems, etc... had to intervene even when they were divorced to get him help at a mental health facility.
😢😢😢
People forget how Matt Damon responded when these two got married.Ben cant go to parties because he has a drinking problem.J Lo lives for parties and attention.
Maybe he should move into Matt Damon's house..only person he gets along with. His long lost love buddy!
I feel that JLo "needs" the media attention for self-validation and a man as an escape from looking within herself. Ben "avoids" the media because it calls attention to his many demons and "needs" a woman as escape from looking within himself. They have their flaws, like every human. I hope they both get the help they need to find genuine peace, love and happiness within themselves. Perhaps that will lead them to making better choices going forward. Sending them both love.❤🙏
Maybe he got tired of her wearing fur from animals that were clubbed to death
She doesn't give a 💩. What a narcissist. She also doesn't care about her kids.
Who said he wanted to strip it away from her n btw shes old....old... its time to grow up n stop being an attention W
Damn yall are on it..let-them be
Forreal NON of YALL are married.
So Jennifer worked hard for it huh. 9 Jennifer stole people's voices. So that made Jenny from the block. She stole people's dance moves now that helps. Bang ladies you're right she worked really hard she's the best thief I think I've ever met
They Are Not made for each other..he needs a partner that Is Not a star..and Jen needs the same. Hope the best for both.😊
"Gigli" movie disaster was a warning they wiukd never last.
They need to work on themselves for the rest of their lives and don’t get into anymore marriages.
Ben needs to be very careful to protect his peace. I feel like this would be a big part of him maintaining his sobriety.
JLo needs to work very hard to protect her brand and as you say, she's worked super hard for that too.
Neither is wrong. It's just conflicting agendas.
JLo does do things I find odd.
Like the whole DeLola thing. That was an unusual thing to be plugging relentlessly and drawing attention to constantly when your partner is a recovering alcoholic.
And the "look at our perfect love story" narrative is a fantasy. Even Ben knew that. She's idolising a fantasy, not the reality of what (and whom) is in front of her.
Jen Garner understands that reality. She's the one that sat with him at it's muckiest and then got told that marriage to her made Ben feel trapped.
Maybe Ben just shouldn't be married. Full stop.
But I agree with what someone else said below. JLo will. Again. Because she's still chasing that fantasy. Unless she gets some serious therapy, and does the internal work she always will be.
Maybe they needed to revisit their romance for some and it didn't work.
I'm Sure She's Very Hard to Live With..She Has To Be #1 Without Paparazzi !! Whatever Ben Wants Is His Right Also ! Don't put him Down..You Dont Know Everything... Dealing With all That Is Insane, I'm Sure..Do You Ben ! Your Fabulous ! 😊⚘️
He looks miserable but he shouldn’t have stepped out on his other Jen! Karma is real
Ben isn’t insanity! He’s normal! Look at Justin Bieber and Kanye west! They to just wanted to be left alone. I would be the same way.
She shouldn’t have done essentially a press tour after they got married answering all kinds of questions about him and she should’ve stopped posting videos and photos of them after she posted abt their wedding to commemorate it. The first time they dated, they went through excessive press that they claim gave them PTSD. But Jennifer went and still talked openly about them rather than keeping stuff private when they got back together like what? You don’t see Eva Mendes and Ryan doing that. You gotta protect what you have from the vultures that are the media and bitter femcels and incels in the public that wanna see you fail. I mean they would’ve gotten rumors and press whether she answered questions abt them and posted abt him or not but to this extent? We might not be seeing it to this level had she not brought him to every single event and kept things more private. She values the attention seemingly more than peace. And Ben definitely doesn’t like the attention so she should’ve compromised. Who knows if this is true or not bc the reality is he is also filming the sequel to The Accountant and he could be living elsewhere to “get into character,” who knows.
Two fixed signs (Leo): one has to create a path for compromise, but it won't be Jlo, and it won't be Ben Affleck, so….🤷🏽♀️
Called JLO a singer is an insult to actual singers and borderline diabolical 🙄
He looked so miserable from day 1. He should have stopped it from moving forward. He should be a single dude and she will just bounce from man to man. Maybe she will realize it is ok to be alone for 2 minutes.
He's Jealous! She knew he was a marriage risk. Ben has stuff to hide of course he doesn't want media attention.
relationships aren't for him
Hes a mess Drugs drunk smoke all the time. He don't like attenton from Jlo but cant be normal good person for his Family.
Well, no kids together so they can amicably split. No crime, no foul!
I never saw anyone look miserable geez I’m glad it’s over they both deserve happiness
I have no respect for Ben or jlo. I hope she won't let him go and that he is miserable every day. He was married to a precious wonderful woman and had beautiful children. Now he has screwed everybody, his kids included.
He needs therapy he’s never happy constantly searching outside himself for peace and he went back to JLo like the media was crazy the first time they were together smh 🤦🏽♀️
Jennifer is so self-absorbed that it's funny. All the stories I've been seeing on social wow.... she is a joke.
I think shethe one suffering from temporary insanity. The man wants to live a normal life without being followed everywhere by cameras
He is actor himself😂u stupid or what😂ofcourse paparazzis follow him
@@user-ef2wl8gg1vyeah, he’s normal. So many stars act the same way.
Jennifer garner fit s better
He s not glam orientated
Those two should never be married. Ever.