“Even the calmest people can snap under the right conditions…” man that is the truest thing I’ve heard on RUclips in a long time. I’m a pretty calm collected guy, but when I had a change happen to me years ago, let me tell you I snapped. I felt sadness, anger, frustration… I lashed out on my loved ones. I regret it. Anger can change a person in just one scenario. That’s why people have to learn how to control it. Love y’all.
“It’s ok to be imperfect.” I still have to hear this. I’m still hard on myself for not doing things right the first time. My stepmom was very hard on me for things due to my blindness and autism. But she would also lose her temper with pretty much everyone in the house. I think that’s why I expect myself to be perfect, and I limit myself a lot. I was always punished for constantly exploring things, running into things, spilling things, knocking things over, and even doing other things that benefited me due to my blindness and autism. But she was also harsh on everyone else who lived in that house, including our dogs.
Someone told that we get to see further because we stand on giants shoulders.. you had your experience, don't repeat be as loving as you deserved and sometimes maybe you did not receive it.. and forgive others mistakes as long as you determine is a mistake, it's a huge service *to you*. Love from Chile 🇨🇱
Thankyou for putting out this video. As an adult with ASD who suffers from severe depression I needed to hear this. Thankyou also for being your authentic selves.
My 3 yr old son was just diagnosed with autism. I suspected it but when it was confirmed i did cry and blame myself. Im trying to do my best to get him therapies outside of what he gets in school and praying that God will help us along this new journey.
It's a pretty tiring journey sometimes. But I recall a song we sing in my church: "Puedo confiar en el señor, el me va a ayudar, puedo confiar en el señor, no me va a fallar.." Ah, don't forget. It's also a great journey too. A lot of good moments will come if you create the awareness to receive them. Love from Chile 🇨🇱
Hi my son is 3 now and yesterday diagnosed with ASD( language issue and social communication disorder.We can't afford any therapies outside nd only waiting for NHS. We r in England. We r strong moms
I blamed myself for a long time, but then that slowly went away. Just put him in as much therapy as you can and talk to him about everything all day long. When you're driving talk about everything you see, when watching a movie, pause it and ask your son questions about the plot etc. It will get better, I promise. Treat him as normal as possible.
I grew up without help, I pray you get your child some help , if I could gotten help at a young age, I know my life would be much much easier, better, smarter, I could go on n on. I'm 58 in I need help, it's not so easy at my age. I still want it no matter what .
I myself have Autism and I struggle with wanting to be perfect. Especially when I make a mistake and get frustrated. Thank you for sharing this and reminding us that it’s okay to not be perfect and we are allowed to make mistakes.
Your videos have helped me so much. I relate with much of your content, particularly the video about Brittny's grandfather's funeral; my heart ached when you talked about not being permitted to grieve naturally on that occasion. My family has experienced many similar instances in which the conditions of my brother's autism have caused friction between us and the people around us. As you mentioned, I don't blame people for expecting refined behavior in some settings, but it feels isolating when others are unable to be tolerant and understanding. However, when people are kind and patient, it gives me the strength to continue trying to acclimate my brother to society and help give him a good childhood. Thank you for your transparency and insights into being your sons' guide as they grow up and adapt to the world.
Thank you so much for this. Im 15 years old and I have a neurotypical older brother and 2 younger non-verbal little brothers. Sometimes I worry about their future alot and this video reminds me that there is still light. My little brother is so sweet, rarely gets upset/has meltdowns and he loves laughing smiling and interacting/ playing with us. He understands alot of things, responds to his name instantly and can do alot that you ask from him. My other younger brother is also a very happy boy but isn't the best with listening but I hope his behavior improves with age. Thanks for this video!!
Remember no-one is perfect like I still have these occurring meltdowns as such overloads ect and you are still a great family (what I'm trying to say is I'm not perfect either)
Thank you for being genuine. It helps in this difficult journey. I have only one child and I struggle every day. Thanks again for making this kind of videos. 🙏
I really appriciate you all making it known what acctually happens behind the scenes, alot of people seem to make it look like nothing but sunshine and rainbows but everyone has struggles.
I'm sure most of us understand what you're saying. I know what people put online is the content they want to show us. No one should think that is all real life all the time. But I appreciate you putting this up, for the people whom might not understand that. No one is perfect, like you said all you can do is try and not give up.
I just wanted to thank you for making this video. I really struggle with my temper especially with my autistic son. I hate it. I hate how easy it is for me to blow up at him. I hate how I get mad at him for not calming down when I’m guilty of the same things and he’s a kid and I’m an adult….. all that to say thanks for sharing some of your failures with the public (as well as your successes). No one is perfect but sometimes it is nice to hear others admit it and see we’re not alone in our failures or struggles.
I really do hope Ian can be on his own. Seeing his earlier videos to today he's funny and witty. I hope he does get a sports car. I pray one day he can use the awesome skills and talents he brings in this world. Connor is very smart. He I believe can do whatever he sets his mind towards. Some of that preteen stuff he needs to have his own voice and be his own person. He needs to be able to stand up for what he believes in it's tough as a parent but that is how he grows. Allister seeing his speech delay video and a little over a year later look at him now. He is such a star on the channel. You listen to the kids and that is key. Like the mall when Connor wasn't feeling good you didn't keep going. You don't make them push through and mask. You listened when it was hard for them to get their thoughts out to get confidence in speaking.
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You are good. Thank you for the great video. I’m not a parent (yet), but diagnosed with autism after 30 something years old, so I’m learning a lot from you guys. Your videos are very supportive. I wish all of you the best of luck.
Thankyou for making this video and sharing ur honesty and being humble. All us parents with a kid or kids with autism all have our struggles and dark moments so it’s great that we can all each our experiences and share tips that have worked for us that may be of help to others
Care Bears is one of the cartoons I remember from my early childhood since I was born during the early 1980's. And the character from Care Bears which I relate to the most is "Noble Heart Horse", since I have blue eyes just like Noble Heart, and I have long hair similar to how noble heart has a horses mane, and I am a noble person or at least try to be a noble person, and I am strong since I lift weights a few days a week most weeks of the year, and horse's are also strong. Those are all the different reasons why I relate to Noble Heart Horse the most out of all the different cartoon characters from the Care Bears. Noble Heart Horse has the same shaped body as a care bear, even though he has a horse's head and tail.
I do my best to let myself know im not perfect, even when I feel like I make too many mistakes, or when i overthink from my anxiety, but I do also know theres also hope, But even with my stuff with competitive esports, music, and my internship at project search sometimes I feel like its not enough, but, I do also know that I do know that to grow, you must fall, because if someone is perfect, they havent learned anything, and possibly is like just the easy way, and its not human, which is why I also have therapy to help too. Love your videos autism family, ian, connor, and allistar are the best and even with the mistakes I know it will turn into success, love to you all and amen❤️
I am single mom with high function autistic child his name Alyster. It is sooo hard to be a parent! I found this book by Ross Greene Lost at school. And I said,, wow that’s my kid,, I will recommend everyone that book. Still working on following the book. It is amazing!
I was such a brat a lot of the time when I was like 7-11, looking back it was because I was so irritable and overwhelmed all the time but neither me or my parents knew what was going on, so they couldn't help with that - it makes me feel better to know there was a reason now because I felt awful about it for years
I just want to say that your voice is actually very calming for me. I don't know, but the slow-paced videos help me wind down in the evening, even if it's a stretched-out story about the family that force their kids on stuff because they're worried about society. I don't know if this makes sense but I really like these videos :)
2022, for me, was the year of selfishness. I mean, when I had to pay the check of emotional depletion. I recognized that only infinite love for my boi does not serves as a shield against friendly fire (one of the most damaging things comes from your inner circle), sleep deprivation, excessive noise (I got my noise blocking earbuds for being in.. my living room).. and the so. In my experience talking to other parents, sometimes just knowing that someone it's going the same as you, and is not like "your fault" means a lot. So, your words come on point to me and I think a lot of us. Thanks for your sharing. Fernando desde Chile 🇨🇱 ps: excuse my English grammar's mistakes 😅
Thanks for your honesty! Jesus is the only foundation for loving our kids unconditionally! He gives us the strength and wisdom to raise them up. And He encourages us every day to do this difficult job!
Love this video, no one is perfect and we all have ‘messy’ lives and get things wrong. I too am a Christian, my faith is very important, it’s the one thing that has helped me deal with my Autism and physical disability. Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly.
Great video! Being the best version of yourself- I really like that statement. And we all come without a manual- so true. Sometimes I wish there was one for understanding other people better, but there never will be. We have to write our own book of life. Keep going!
Thank you for sharing this message, it really helps me a lot. Currently I'm studying GED(I'm focusing on Math rn), the GED test could be harder than I expected, but I hope I can get the diploma, then I can get SAT and go to college someday
My parents were really hard on us as kids. Even now that my siblings and I are adults, my parents are very negative and have been causing even more issues with my son and I. My son is on an IEP, has gotten early intervention starting when he was 2. My parents are always telling me that my son has problems and that I’m not doing anything about it. He is on a wait list for ASD. He’s been struggling with several things including sensory issues. Going to his grandparents house is a big trigger for him as far as meltdowns. We have stopped going over there and really just trying to do what I need to do just to help my son to overcome his struggles, and just trying to get through each day. He’s had OT, PT, and Speech in preschool, he had OT in kindergarten. He has just started another OT program this summer. How does your family stay positive, and being positive for your kids when your ready to give up with all the negativity when you really are doing what your child needs?
(I preface that being Autistic, I have a strong propensity to long narratives and comments, it is just who I am, for which am frequently criticized.) Your almost apologetic video is in reality, describing why your channel is so critical. I hope your following grows very large. I am known for being very hard on the majority of sites and channels run by Autistic people. I find most have decided that because of their diagnosis, they have the answers for EVERYONE. Most are so filled with the belief they know everything; it is at times to a point of arrogance. They feed into their commentors statements of just how "broken" they are, with expectations when they toss out their spins and diatribe, they will win eternal followers/subscribers. From the start, I have always commented why the "Autism Family" channel is so desperately needed. You are reality. There is not glitter. You do not "diagnose" or pretend what works for you will work for anybody. The window into your family shows clearly that families with autistic members can work. It is not a perfect World for anyone. Knowing of and understanding Autism allows one to understand certain parts or types of behavior. But here is where MOST Autism channels/sites go wrong: "AUTISM SHOULD NEVER BE USED AS AN EXCUSE!" Despite popular depiction, Autism only affects certain aspects of a person. True, we each are impacted in our own very varied ways. HOWEVER, there is a large part of each Autistic person that is no different than Neurotypicals. The depiction that Autism is "all encompassing" is a myth that is causing so many of the people complaining about their lives to forget no matter what, they cannot dodge personal responsibility, accountability, and the amount of effort they put towards bettering themselves. The channel needs to exist without apology! Your family is not broken. Your family is not dysfunctional. Your family is not special. Your family is not the image of perfection. You family is simply a family dealing with daily challenges no different than any other family. You have your simple goal of "making it", providing a positive environment, and ultimately providing a happy family life and future. EVERY family, even Neurotypical families have this same need or goal. EVERY family has their own unique set of challenges. So, Autism should never be an "Excuse." A household that has Autism in their environment has the potential to be a happy and positive place. Your family routinely demonstrates that. Some things work, somethings don't. Sometimes you have to try and try. Like any family, frustrations can build. It is a measure of the maturity and a test of the family bond/trust that will in the end, hold a family together through tough times. To bulletize: This video in part is really not necessary. You need not apologize for presenting what everyone needs to see. For anyone to try and carbon copy how you and your family function is a failure on THEIR part, for not understanding you are finding what works for you, not establishing the model all others must live by. PLEASE, continue as you are, be who you are. You are an island of the rational and the real that is so desperately needed by the Autism community!
Thank you, and to clarify this wasn’t intended to be so much of an apology but a reminder to our viewers that while they may see us as some shining beacon for autism families, we are in fact, just like them…same struggles, same failings, same successes. I wanted them to feel like we are all human and trying to help each other out…maybe giving them permission to catch their breath and take a break, if that makes sense 😉👍
I love this message, I’m not religious (one reason is my own asd diagnosis and the other is the harassment i used to face, and still face to a degree, when I was religious 😕) but I completely agree with your religious message in this video also. Just such an amazing message. Thank you for posting. :) Sort of an irrelevant question, but do any of your children suffer with ARFID or any sensory related problems around food?
Hi! Ill try explain this the best way I can lol. So I have a mild kind of autism, and pretty much fit the “sheldon cooper” stereotype of autism, having appeared “gifted” in school and loving all things academic and studying wise. Another thing with my ASD is that I think extremely “logically”. I always debate in my head about things and theorise about why or how things work. I went to a Christian school, and until the hate I started receiving in my teens from the Christian community (not saying they are a hateful community, for the most part I think they are incredible loving people) I never questioned the if buts and whys about God. Since then, whenever I think about it my conclusion always ends up the same “There’s more proof against than for, so I cannot be sure as of now”. So I dont say God is 100% not real, but don’t say hes 100% false, does that make sense? Sorry this is very long lol
Great video 👍. I am glad that we are ALL not perfect. If everyone was perfect then we would be cheating ourselves out of important life challenges that we have to overcome in order to; learn, mature and develop into the human beings we are today. 16:09 basically, learning how to find those resources, advocating for oneself and asking for support. Life is to challenging to go through on your own. Everyone needs help.
With my Autism, I don’t care about being perfect. I see myself having different abilities and that’s ok. I will find my mark. “I may be lost and not know where I am going, I do know I can’t go backwards only fowards.” ~Someone When I make mistakes, I dust myself off and get back on the trail. Don’t beat yourself up, your only human.
My now 4 yr old daughter she turned 4 Monday Jan 23 got diagnosed with severe autism level 3 back in September 2022. I always knew she had it but didn't know the level. I'm new and learning to this . I get frustrated at times but I've accepted her and what she has. My 14 yr old doesn't have autism butshe has type 1 diabetes. She got diagnosed at 11 yrs old 3 yrs ago right when pandemic shut everything down 3 16 2020. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed . She's on 6 shots a day and gotta worry about highs and lows and her going into coma again . All kinds of work into t1.
I loved your witness to Jesus Christ. He truly is our rock and should be the center of our lives. We all have our faults and no one is perfect for sure. Thank you for that truth. A video or series of videos I would love to see is each of your kids journeys to diagnosis and what over the years has been the therapy that has helped them the most come to be the best version of themselves. I see especially a great change in Ian over the years. I'd love to hear more about how the early years were before your channel and the progression that he (and the other boys) have taken. I do really appreciate your channel. My son is just about to turn 3 and some things do seem so tough. I know as he gets older some things will get easier. It's nice to see the progression and the light at the end of the tunnel, or so to say.
I'm not trying to be a hater. This video is important, I'm glad you made it and your whole channel is a priceless resource. Thank you. And at the same time, turning RUclips into your career and operating your channel slightly more like a business-I wonder if you already know that you'll need to tone down the God stuff? I guess what audience are you trying to reach? All of them? I'm surprised on a few things from past videos related to this topic ever since you took this channel more mainstream... probably the most surprising thing is how you didn't edit out the last few seconds of this one
God doesn’t edit me out and I won’t edit him out. He’s always been there for me. Does it run the risk of hurting our bottom line? Maybe, so be it. I believe everything I have comes from Him anyways so I’m okay with that 😉👍
@@AutismFamilyChannel Got it. Just remember your channel is about autism and I'd love for more people to see these and decide to watch your content consistently. Thanks for the reply.
In my opinion, although i am not Religious, social media is a very flexible job. This video is clearly a more personal one about their reality and lives and clearly God is a big part of that. I’ve watched this channel for a while and they don’t talk about God in every video (I’d argue its hardly ever) so I dont see an issue with it :)
*@Autism Family* great video I'm not a parent but I am autistic and I'm Christian and I also have physical disability and I have faith in God and truly I feel like God has helped me with my physical disability and for those that are going to assume that I'm in a wheelchair, I'm not In a wheelchair I can walk.
I can't be imperfect. I'm just 16 but I can't be imperfect. If I'm ever not perfect my dad laughs at me. Mocks me. Says I'm a brat and blame everything on autism. If I have a meltdown he'll push me or drag me and yell. I have to constantly mask and it's exhausting. Thank you for this video I needed to hear it
I’m just happy that I know your family it doesn’t make me feel alone with autistic child, I believe God is very important to instil and Jesus loves me. I have those same worries if he’s going to be taken advantage of bulllied . Yes every child is different. I feel my son is going to be very co independent for the rest of my life.
It's really hard not to be hard on oneself because it's a living hell most of the time can't go nowhere can't do anything half the time both of the children give us about an hour to go out in public before they start getting triggered the oldest one has destroyed two of our bedrooms. I'm currently about to move him into a giant room with a climbing wall and all kinds of things to do praying that he won't destroy most of that room and Destroy another nice flat screen TV this time I'm going to have a Plexiglas barrier in front of it
👏🏼thank👏🏼you👏🏼for 👏🏼saying👏🏼your👏🏼ASD👏🏼kids👏🏼can👏🏼be👏🏼brats👏🏼 They have ASD but still they’re kids with emotions and try to push buttons. All kids push button. My kids can be big brats and I snap. It happens we’re human!!
Yes autism isn’t a license for bad behavior, it’s just important to know when it’s autistic related and when it’s not, which can be challenging to the untrained eye 👍
Britny is the only Girl in the house 🤣🌹 Leave her please her Hobby 🥰🎻⛱️🎈 You are an amazing Rolemodel gave, give & will give me as a single Mom much strength ❤️ thank you 🌹🎈
I have a problem my son does not believe in God cuz its not visual so for him then id you cant see it it doesnr exsist tried to explain but he is not having it,😥
@@AutismFamilyChannel oh ok! It's comforting to know about the resurrection!! Very comforting! I have a son on the spectrum and your channel has been very helpful to us; very practical, addressing how we feel and how to deal with such feelings. It's comforting to know we not alone. Thank you!
why do you present your children on the internet? Do you think they really want that? Do you think that the possible partners accept that? you can't earn your own money with your own strength?
“Even the calmest people can snap under the right conditions…” man that is the truest thing I’ve heard on RUclips in a long time. I’m a pretty calm collected guy, but when I had a change happen to me years ago, let me tell you I snapped. I felt sadness, anger, frustration… I lashed out on my loved ones. I regret it. Anger can change a person in just one scenario. That’s why people have to learn how to control it. Love y’all.
“It’s ok to be imperfect.” I still have to hear this. I’m still hard on myself for not doing things right the first time. My stepmom was very hard on me for things due to my blindness and autism. But she would also lose her temper with pretty much everyone in the house. I think that’s why I expect myself to be perfect, and I limit myself a lot. I was always punished for constantly exploring things, running into things, spilling things, knocking things over, and even doing other things that benefited me due to my blindness and autism. But she was also harsh on everyone else who lived in that house, including our dogs.
Someone told that we get to see further because we stand on giants shoulders.. you had your experience, don't repeat be as loving as you deserved and sometimes maybe you did not receive it.. and forgive others mistakes as long as you determine is a mistake, it's a huge service *to you*.
Love from Chile 🇨🇱
Thankyou for putting out this video. As an adult with ASD who suffers from severe depression I needed to hear this. Thankyou also for being your authentic selves.
My 3 yr old son was just diagnosed with autism. I suspected it but when it was confirmed i did cry and blame myself. Im trying to do my best to get him therapies outside of what he gets in school and praying that God will help us along this new journey.
It's a pretty tiring journey sometimes. But I recall a song we sing in my church:
"Puedo confiar en el señor, el me va a ayudar, puedo confiar en el señor, no me va a fallar.."
Ah, don't forget. It's also a great journey too. A lot of good moments will come if you create the awareness to receive them.
Love from Chile 🇨🇱
Hi my son is 3 now and yesterday diagnosed with ASD( language issue and social communication disorder.We can't afford any therapies outside nd only waiting for NHS. We r in England.
We r strong moms
I blamed myself for a long time, but then that slowly went away. Just put him in as much therapy as you can and talk to him about everything all day long. When you're driving talk about everything you see, when watching a movie, pause it and ask your son questions about the plot etc. It will get better, I promise. Treat him as normal as possible.
I grew up without help, I pray you get your child some help , if I could gotten help at a young age, I know my life would be much much easier, better, smarter, I could go on n on. I'm 58 in I need help, it's not so easy at my age. I still want it no matter what .
I myself have Autism and I struggle with wanting to be perfect. Especially when I make a mistake and get frustrated. Thank you for sharing this and reminding us that it’s okay to not be perfect and we are allowed to make mistakes.
Your videos have helped me so much. I relate with much of your content, particularly the video about Brittny's grandfather's funeral; my heart ached when you talked about not being permitted to grieve naturally on that occasion. My family has experienced many similar instances in which the conditions of my brother's autism have caused friction between us and the people around us. As you mentioned, I don't blame people for expecting refined behavior in some settings, but it feels isolating when others are unable to be tolerant and understanding. However, when people are kind and patient, it gives me the strength to continue trying to acclimate my brother to society and help give him a good childhood. Thank you for your transparency and insights into being your sons' guide as they grow up and adapt to the world.
There are those kinds of days where it's just not "perfect" but you still love your kids dearly.
Thank you so much for this. Im 15 years old and I have a neurotypical older brother and 2 younger non-verbal little brothers. Sometimes I worry about their future alot and this video reminds me that there is still light. My little brother is so sweet, rarely gets upset/has meltdowns and he loves laughing smiling and interacting/ playing with us. He understands alot of things, responds to his name instantly and can do alot that you ask from him. My other younger brother is also a very happy boy but isn't the best with listening but I hope his behavior improves with age. Thanks for this video!!
Remember no-one is perfect like I still have these occurring meltdowns as such overloads ect and you are still a great family (what I'm trying to say is I'm not perfect either)
Thank you for being genuine. It helps in this difficult journey. I have only one child and I struggle every day. Thanks again for making this kind of videos. 🙏
I really appriciate you all making it known what acctually happens behind the scenes, alot of people seem to make it look like nothing but sunshine and rainbows but everyone has struggles.
I'm sure most of us understand what you're saying. I know what people put online is the content they want to show us. No one should think that is all real life all the time. But I appreciate you putting this up, for the people whom might not understand that. No one is perfect, like you said all you can do is try and not give up.
I just wanted to thank you for making this video. I really struggle with my temper especially with my autistic son. I hate it. I hate how easy it is for me to blow up at him. I hate how I get mad at him for not calming down when I’m guilty of the same things and he’s a kid and I’m an adult….. all that to say thanks for sharing some of your failures with the public (as well as your successes). No one is perfect but sometimes it is nice to hear others admit it and see we’re not alone in our failures or struggles.
I really do hope Ian can be on his own. Seeing his earlier videos to today he's funny and witty. I hope he does get a sports car. I pray one day he can use the awesome skills and talents he brings in this world.
Connor is very smart. He I believe can do whatever he sets his mind towards. Some of that preteen stuff he needs to have his own voice and be his own person. He needs to be able to stand up for what he believes in it's tough as a parent but that is how he grows.
Allister seeing his speech delay video and a little over a year later look at him now. He is such a star on the channel.
You listen to the kids and that is key. Like the mall when Connor wasn't feeling good you didn't keep going. You don't make them push through and mask. You listened when it was hard for them to get their thoughts out to get confidence in speaking.
You are good. Thank you for the great video. I’m not a parent (yet), but diagnosed with autism after 30 something years old, so I’m learning a lot from you guys. Your videos are very supportive. I wish all of you the best of luck.
Thankyou for making this video and sharing ur honesty and being humble. All us parents with a kid or kids with autism all have our struggles and dark moments so it’s great that we can all each our experiences and share tips that have worked for us that may be of help to others
I also wanted to say congratulations on 150k subscribers. I honestly believe you deserve much more than that tho
Thank you. That was so beautifully put. You spoke Truth, Wisdom, and Gods words. Thank you for sharing this love with us. 🥰
I can totally relate to this with our 7 yr old. This autism journey can feel lonely at times. Thank you for sharing!
Care Bears is one of the cartoons I remember from my early childhood since I was born during the early 1980's. And the character from Care Bears which I relate to the most is "Noble Heart Horse", since I have blue eyes just like Noble Heart, and I have long hair similar to how noble heart has a horses mane, and I am a noble person or at least try to be a noble person, and I am strong since I lift weights a few days a week most weeks of the year, and horse's are also strong. Those are all the different reasons why I relate to Noble Heart Horse the most out of all the different cartoon characters from the Care Bears. Noble Heart Horse has the same shaped body as a care bear, even though he has a horse's head and tail.
I do my best to let myself know im not perfect, even when I feel like I make too many mistakes, or when i overthink from my anxiety, but I do also know theres also hope, But even with my stuff with competitive esports, music, and my internship at project search sometimes I feel like its not enough, but, I do also know that I do know that to grow, you must fall, because if someone is perfect, they havent learned anything, and possibly is like just the easy way, and its not human, which is why I also have therapy to help too.
Love your videos autism family, ian, connor, and allistar are the best and even with the mistakes I know it will turn into success, love to you all and amen❤️
I am single mom with high function autistic child his name Alyster. It is sooo hard to be a parent! I found this book by Ross Greene Lost at school. And I said,, wow that’s my kid,, I will recommend everyone that book. Still working on following the book. It is amazing!
I was such a brat a lot of the time when I was like 7-11, looking back it was because I was so irritable and overwhelmed all the time but neither me or my parents knew what was going on, so they couldn't help with that - it makes me feel better to know there was a reason now because I felt awful about it for years
I just want to say that your voice is actually very calming for me. I don't know, but the slow-paced videos help me wind down in the evening, even if it's a stretched-out story about the family that force their kids on stuff because they're worried about society. I don't know if this makes sense but I really like these videos :)
Fantastic messages. We are all doing the best we can, which ought to be good enough.
2022, for me, was the year of selfishness. I mean, when I had to pay the check of emotional depletion. I recognized that only infinite love for my boi does not serves as a shield against friendly fire (one of the most damaging things comes from your inner circle), sleep deprivation, excessive noise (I got my noise blocking earbuds for being in.. my living room).. and the so.
In my experience talking to other parents, sometimes just knowing that someone it's going the same as you, and is not like "your fault" means a lot. So, your words come on point to me and I think a lot of us.
Thanks for your sharing.
Fernando desde Chile 🇨🇱
ps: excuse my English grammar's mistakes 😅
Thank you so much for this uplifting message. I’m very moved. God bless you❤️
Thanks for your honesty! Jesus is the only foundation for loving our kids unconditionally! He gives us the strength and wisdom to raise them up. And He encourages us every day to do this difficult job!
Love this video, no one is perfect and we all have ‘messy’ lives and get things wrong. I too am a Christian, my faith is very important, it’s the one thing that has helped me deal with my Autism and physical disability. Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly.
Great video! Being the best version of yourself- I really like that statement. And we all come without a manual- so true. Sometimes I wish there was one for understanding other people better, but there never will be. We have to write our own book of life. Keep going!
Don’t worry, nobody is perfect. Your all great regardless of your setup
Thank you for sharing this message, it really helps me a lot. Currently I'm studying GED(I'm focusing on Math rn), the GED test could be harder than I expected, but I hope I can get the diploma, then I can get SAT and go to college someday
My parents were really hard on us as kids. Even now that my siblings and I are adults, my parents are very negative and have been causing even more issues with my son and I. My son is on an IEP, has gotten early intervention starting when he was 2. My parents are always telling me that my son has problems and that I’m not doing anything about it. He is on a wait list for ASD. He’s been struggling with several things including sensory issues. Going to his grandparents house is a big trigger for him as far as meltdowns. We have stopped going over there and really just trying to do what I need to do just to help my son to overcome his struggles, and just trying to get through each day. He’s had OT, PT, and Speech in preschool, he had OT in kindergarten. He has just started another OT program this summer.
How does your family stay positive, and being positive for your kids when your ready to give up with all the negativity when you really are doing what your child needs?
The bad thing about internet is that I can not go beyond the screen to meet you and your family ,I just live too far.
Anyway nice video as always.
lol no one has it together. Always great to see the real side of life. It's hard to keep up with life some days and that's okay.
Very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story and journey as a family. Blessings.
What a beautiful testimony.
(I preface that being Autistic, I have a strong propensity to long narratives and comments, it is just who I am, for which am frequently criticized.)
Your almost apologetic video is in reality, describing why your channel is so critical. I hope your following grows very large.
I am known for being very hard on the majority of sites and channels run by Autistic people. I find most have decided that because of their diagnosis, they have the answers for EVERYONE. Most are so filled with the belief they know everything; it is at times to a point of arrogance. They feed into their commentors statements of just how "broken" they are, with expectations when they toss out their spins and diatribe, they will win eternal followers/subscribers.
From the start, I have always commented why the "Autism Family" channel is so desperately needed. You are reality. There is not glitter. You do not "diagnose" or pretend what works for you will work for anybody. The window into your family shows clearly that families with autistic members can work. It is not a perfect World for anyone.
Knowing of and understanding Autism allows one to understand certain parts or types of behavior. But here is where MOST Autism channels/sites go wrong: "AUTISM SHOULD NEVER BE USED AS AN EXCUSE!" Despite popular depiction, Autism only affects certain aspects of a person. True, we each are impacted in our own very varied ways. HOWEVER, there is a large part of each Autistic person that is no different than Neurotypicals. The depiction that Autism is "all encompassing" is a myth that is causing so many of the people complaining about their lives to forget no matter what, they cannot dodge personal responsibility, accountability, and the amount of effort they put towards bettering themselves.
The channel needs to exist without apology! Your family is not broken. Your family is not dysfunctional. Your family is not special. Your family is not the image of perfection. You family is simply a family dealing with daily challenges no different than any other family. You have your simple goal of "making it", providing a positive environment, and ultimately providing a happy family life and future. EVERY family, even Neurotypical families have this same need or goal. EVERY family has their own unique set of challenges. So, Autism should never be an "Excuse."
A household that has Autism in their environment has the potential to be a happy and positive place. Your family routinely demonstrates that. Some things work, somethings don't. Sometimes you have to try and try. Like any family, frustrations can build. It is a measure of the maturity and a test of the family bond/trust that will in the end, hold a family together through tough times.
To bulletize: This video in part is really not necessary. You need not apologize for presenting what everyone needs to see. For anyone to try and carbon copy how you and your family function is a failure on THEIR part, for not understanding you are finding what works for you, not establishing the model all others must live by.
PLEASE, continue as you are, be who you are. You are an island of the rational and the real that is so desperately needed by the Autism community!
Thank you, and to clarify this wasn’t intended to be so much of an apology but a reminder to our viewers that while they may see us as some shining beacon for autism families, we are in fact, just like them…same struggles, same failings, same successes. I wanted them to feel like we are all human and trying to help each other out…maybe giving them permission to catch their breath and take a break, if that makes sense 😉👍
No one is perfect but we all try to be and it’s impossible 🙌
I’m getting tested for autism in 2 weeks. I do some of the stuff the boys do. I am 20 years old and scared to go the appointment
I love this message, I’m not religious (one reason is my own asd diagnosis and the other is the harassment i used to face, and still face to a degree, when I was religious 😕) but I completely agree with your religious message in this video also. Just such an amazing message. Thank you for posting. :)
Sort of an irrelevant question, but do any of your children suffer with ARFID or any sensory related problems around food?
I don't get it, what has your asd diagnosis to do with you not being religious? 🤔 Just curious
Hi! Ill try explain this the best way I can lol. So I have a mild kind of autism, and pretty much fit the “sheldon cooper” stereotype of autism, having appeared “gifted” in school and loving all things academic and studying wise. Another thing with my ASD is that I think extremely “logically”. I always debate in my head about things and theorise about why or how things work. I went to a Christian school, and until the hate I started receiving in my teens from the Christian community (not saying they are a hateful community, for the most part I think they are incredible loving people) I never questioned the if buts and whys about God. Since then, whenever I think about it my conclusion always ends up the same “There’s more proof against than for, so I cannot be sure as of now”. So I dont say God is 100% not real, but don’t say hes 100% false, does that make sense? Sorry this is very long lol
100% true*, I believe that theres no way to know for certain for now, if that makes sense
Great video 👍. I am glad that we are ALL not perfect. If everyone was perfect then we would be cheating ourselves out of important life challenges that we have to overcome in order to; learn, mature and develop into the human beings we are today.
16:09 basically, learning how to find those resources, advocating for oneself and asking for support. Life is to challenging to go through on your own. Everyone needs help.
With my Autism, I don’t care about being perfect. I see myself having different abilities and that’s ok. I will find my mark.
“I may be lost and not know where I am going, I do know I can’t go backwards only fowards.” ~Someone
When I make mistakes, I dust myself off and get back on the trail.
Don’t beat yourself up, your only human.
“You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take.” ~Wayne Gretzky
My now 4 yr old daughter she turned 4 Monday Jan 23 got diagnosed with severe autism level 3 back in September 2022. I always knew she had it but didn't know the level. I'm new and learning to this . I get frustrated at times but I've accepted her and what she has. My 14 yr old doesn't have autism butshe has type 1 diabetes. She got diagnosed at 11 yrs old 3 yrs ago right when pandemic shut everything down 3 16 2020. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed . She's on 6 shots a day and gotta worry about highs and lows and her going into coma again . All kinds of work into t1.
I loved your witness to Jesus Christ. He truly is our rock and should be the center of our lives. We all have our faults and no one is perfect for sure. Thank you for that truth. A video or series of videos I would love to see is each of your kids journeys to diagnosis and what over the years has been the therapy that has helped them the most come to be the best version of themselves. I see especially a great change in Ian over the years. I'd love to hear more about how the early years were before your channel and the progression that he (and the other boys) have taken. I do really appreciate your channel. My son is just about to turn 3 and some things do seem so tough. I know as he gets older some things will get easier. It's nice to see the progression and the light at the end of the tunnel, or so to say.
Love this video are you feeling better 😊 I hope so have a good day
Awesome video! Very informative.
I'm not trying to be a hater. This video is important, I'm glad you made it and your whole channel is a priceless resource. Thank you. And at the same time, turning RUclips into your career and operating your channel slightly more like a business-I wonder if you already know that you'll need to tone down the God stuff? I guess what audience are you trying to reach? All of them? I'm surprised on a few things from past videos related to this topic ever since you took this channel more mainstream... probably the most surprising thing is how you didn't edit out the last few seconds of this one
God doesn’t edit me out and I won’t edit him out. He’s always been there for me. Does it run the risk of hurting our bottom line? Maybe, so be it. I believe everything I have comes from Him anyways so I’m okay with that 😉👍
@@AutismFamilyChannel Got it. Just remember your channel is about autism and I'd love for more people to see these and decide to watch your content consistently. Thanks for the reply.
In my opinion, although i am not Religious, social media is a very flexible job. This video is clearly a more personal one about their reality and lives and clearly God is a big part of that. I’ve watched this channel for a while and they don’t talk about God in every video (I’d argue its hardly ever) so I dont see an issue with it :)
@@natelovesc thanks for the contribution 👍
What wow is the van ok! Yes the well being of your child comes first. It just takes a whole different to make this world go around it’s nuts lol
Love this video❤ Thanks for sharing.
*@Autism Family* great video I'm not a parent but I am autistic and I'm Christian and I also have physical disability and I have faith in God and truly I feel like God has helped me with my physical disability and for those that are going to assume that I'm in a wheelchair, I'm not In a wheelchair I can walk.
I can't be imperfect. I'm just 16 but I can't be imperfect. If I'm ever not perfect my dad laughs at me. Mocks me. Says I'm a brat and blame everything on autism. If I have a meltdown he'll push me or drag me and yell. I have to constantly mask and it's exhausting. Thank you for this video I needed to hear it
If your dad is abusing you physically you need to get help, reach out to an abuse hotline or something please.
Thank you so much
The day I got diagnosed with autism my momma cried . She blamed her self . She gets teary eyes when she talks about it .
Your diagnosis is not your mom's fault. And it's not your fault either. It's just something that is beyond anyone's control.
@@melissacooper8724 😊
Hi am lisa i have a learning disabilities and epilepsy but i now live on my own with family support from swansea wales UK
We all strangling we all issues but somehow we go forward sometimes by just momentum. We hope it will gets better?
You guys have a nice family
Thank u for posting this.
We learn so much by your videos . I have two autism boys ages 11-5 yrs old. My 5 ur old is a lot like alistor but a little worse.
I’m crying every day
I’m just happy that I know your family it doesn’t make me feel alone with autistic child, I believe God is very important to instil and Jesus loves me. I have those same worries if he’s going to be taken advantage of bulllied . Yes every child is different. I feel my son is going to be very co independent for the rest of my life.
All human beings are imperfect.
How would ian like to have his own room and Connor and aleister can share a room
He has his own room
It's really hard not to be hard on oneself because it's a living hell most of the time can't go nowhere can't do anything half the time both of the children give us about an hour to go out in public before they start getting triggered the oldest one has destroyed two of our bedrooms. I'm currently about to move him into a giant room with a climbing wall and all kinds of things to do praying that he won't destroy most of that room and Destroy another nice flat screen TV this time I'm going to have a Plexiglas barrier in front of it
Great video! You should have a podcast
Thanks for sharing 😊
Your not alone.
👏🏼thank👏🏼you👏🏼for 👏🏼saying👏🏼your👏🏼ASD👏🏼kids👏🏼can👏🏼be👏🏼brats👏🏼
They have ASD but still they’re kids with emotions and try to push buttons. All kids push button. My kids can be big brats and I snap. It happens we’re human!!
Yes autism isn’t a license for bad behavior, it’s just important to know when it’s autistic related and when it’s not, which can be challenging to the untrained eye 👍
💜💜💜 Loved this video
Can you please do a video on your religion? I have heard quite a lot about the LDS religion and I am very curious to hear your beliefs.
that’s right if everyone was perfect we wouldbt be on the plabet we are on now 😊❤❤❤
No one is perfect. That doesn't mean we can't be perfected.
God bless your family 💙🌈🙏🌈🙏🙌🙏🙏
This was a great video. ❤❤
Would disagree😢 The Three of Them are Perfect in almost every way😊
I was just wondering if you treat your son with cbd oil?
Used to. Cost too much and only helped a little. We may pick it up again once costs are even further down.
Britny is the only Girl in the house 🤣🌹
Leave her please her Hobby 🥰🎻⛱️🎈
You are an amazing Rolemodel gave, give & will give me as a single Mom much strength ❤️ thank you 🌹🎈
Are you planning to do a video about special intrests in the future?
Yes, very soon about visiting a space museum
Amen
God bless 🙏🙏🙏
Awesome 👍 Btw I have a video idea it's about
Autism and Independence
I would really appreciate the video
Love ur channel ❣️❣️❣️❣️
I don't believe it, you guys are perfect. 😜
😁
Think into the future. In 10 years you're NOTHING unless you've broken your sons, tied to you.
How do you find the time to pray and study the bible
Like anything else we make it a priority. We aren’t perfect at it, though. And by the way, thanks for the reminder 😉
That is my real questions i keeps following you more than 2 years you gave me hope my questions you maintioned how Jesus gave us this kids?
I have a problem my son does not believe in God cuz its not visual so for him then id you cant see it it doesnr exsist tried to explain but he is not having it,😥
sounds to me as unmasking for neurotypicals :p
hi
Hello
please You mention resurrection, are you a witness? Please?
I’m a Christian, Latter-day Saint 👍
@@AutismFamilyChannel oh ok! It's comforting to know about the resurrection!! Very comforting! I have a son on the spectrum and your channel has been very helpful to us; very practical, addressing how we feel and how to deal with such feelings. It's comforting to know we not alone. Thank you!
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Am I wired for having autism and adhd 🤣😂
No
Thank you I still won't a good job
I love weather but its to hard the math its caucus ⛅❄
AF
why do you present your children on the internet?
Do you think they really want that?
Do you think that the possible partners accept that?
you can't earn your own money with your own strength?
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