Mixed Weight Relationship Q&A and Our Body Acceptance Stories Pt.1 | Plus Size Dating | Alex & Paul
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- TW: Eating Disorders
Love is for all sizes! In today’s video, we’re keeping it real and raw as we share our experience being in a mixed weight relationship while still navigating our own individual journeys with body acceptance! We also answer your dating questions! Our bodies have changed and will continue to change, but the love we have for ourselves and the love we have for each other won’t!
Make sure to check out Part 2!
We're Alex & Paul! Welcome to our channel! Alex is a plus size model. Paul is an actor. And we live in Los Angeles, because of course we do! We have three cats, two dogs, and we somehow want to adopt even more! We make fun, lifestyle videos and we upload every Tuesday and Friday!
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Thank you for this!!! We as plus size women need more conversation on this! Everyone deserves love, regardless of their size. !
We couldn’t agree more!
I definitely appreciate this video. I was a fat kid. It wasn't until I got to college that I became "attractive" and all of a sudden I was thick and like you said sexualized. I'm slowly coming into this new self acceptance. I've fluctuated between a size 16 and an 18 the past two years. I've always had this mindset like "once I'm a size 10 I'll date" and that's so dumb lol but I definitely appreciate this video
We’re so glad it resonates! I think a lot of fat kids grow up to experience something similar! At least, the women. In part 3, we talk about some tangible ways to shift your mindset! 💜
Love from Malaysia! As an African man, this isn't a thing where I come from. In the grand scheme of things, plus size women are looked up to.
Thanks for watching! It’s so interesting how body perceptions change from culture to culture
@@AlexPaulLife You're welcome. Yes, body perceptions are so different, especially in Africa and Asia. I am I'm skinny and a marathon runner but my girl isn't, she's Indian. Being skinny doesn't mean healthier than some who isn't.
Awwww ☺️ this is the best RUclips comment in the whole wide world of RUclips ❤️🇰🇪
Hmm really
Really?then I should move to Malaysia 💃
You're a gorgeous couple, thank you for encouraging me as a plus size woman (who struggles with dating and getting myself out there) just by sharing this part of your journey. More power to y'all 💫
We’re so glad you enjoyed the video and found it helpful! We’re answering more direct questions in part 2 coming out Friday!
I remain astonished by not only the outer beauty but also by the inner beauty from Plus Size Women continually displayed everyday. You not only recognize your own worth and beauty, but also recognize the worth and beauty of others. I know it may be a daily struggle at times to fight off society's ignorance and stigma that comes with being a plus size woman or even your own internal struggle from within, but know this. Beauty does not come with a weight requirement. Nor does society and numbers on a scale dictate beauty. You and YOU alone dictate it. So you give yourselves many labels: BBW, Thick, Fat, Plus Size, Voluptuous, Chunky, Big Boned Etc. Just make sure the recognize the most important Title above them all: Beautiful Queen...
Thank you and thank you for watching!
We are souls inside a body, not necessarily a body with a soul. Society empathizes the wrong thing. Focus on health not a specific body type. Self esteem in yours. You define how you feel about self.
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YOU ARE SO GORGEOUS. And it is quite a shame that men are holding back from expressing that big women can be and are beautiful--simply because the media tells them being big is "wrong" or "inherently bad."
You guys are such a beautiful couple!! Not just on the outside, your challenges in life seems to be made you both more grounded people and being grounded is super attractive!
Wow! It's beautiful to have an open space to have these conversations, especially with your significant other. Thanks for sharing guys! :)
You two are very cute - your friendship and acceptance of each other is obvious. Thanks for sharing honestly - it’s so helpful to adding to visibility and not erasing plus size people from relationship narratives!
I’m so glad I came across this video! I’ve grown up being told I’m pretty, for a fat girl. And whenever a man was attracted to me, it was either they exclusively dated plus size women, or I was the exception. And it was mad wack
Took the words right out of my lips
Facts!!!
Wheww!!...This was Refreshing and Necessary! Thank You!
He looks a lot like Lawrence from Insecure? 😄 You guys are a beautiful couple ❤️
They look so much alike!!!
I like him! He seems pretty grounded and decent!
I couldn’t agree more! - Alex
I have dealt with most of this but am now 65 yes old. What a struggle. You guys are great
Thank you both so much for talking about this! I too have always been plus sized and have experienced being ignored and then sexualized. Not much in between. I’ve been on a journey the past few years to really love myself and make myself happy. I am still open to love of course and know I’m closer to having it ♥️
I have really loved your instagram for so long but I never knew you made videos! I loved this thank you so much this is something that I struggle with trying to date and feeling weird being bigger than guys I’ll go out with and I have never had anyone to talk to about it or had examples of other people dealing with the same things. I really look up to and admire you and appreciate everything you do it has made such an impact on me and how I feel about myself and my body. Sending lots of love ❤️ thank you
We just started making RUclips videos last month, so you’re not late to the game at all! We’re so glad you loved the video! And that you could relate! It’s tough out here but we definitely believe that successful romantic love requires self love!
This was so sweet! I appreciate your transparency!❤
Thank you!! We will always keep it 100% real with ya!
Hey, new to the Channel. Your hair is beautiful and I can relate to a lot of your points on body shape! I am my worse critic as well! I love y’all video lighting. My and my husband’s body’s as changed since being married and having kids but, we are both at the point we want body changes do to better health and strength and being happy with ourselves! Great topic and video guys!
Thank you for these sweet words and for watching! I’m so glad you and and your husband our on the same page!
Appreciate you sharing this! Our stories are very similar! Glad to feel I’m not alone! ❤️❤️
We appreciate you for watching! And you’re def not alone in this!
🥰🥰awe I love this! I'm always nervous to date opposite weight men(Skinny)! I'm normal date big guys & they approached me more often than smaller guys so when a smaller guy tries to engage in conversation I never take him serious because that's not my normal type but I'm glad you are doing this video on opposite weight relationships it's open my eyes to new possibilities! Such a beautiful couple! 💜💚🧡
We definitely get that! Remember that you are worthy of love regardless of size and whoever you end up dating (big or small) will know that too!
@@AlexPaulLife awe thanks love! I'm going to be open to dating outside my normal type..great guys come in different sizes..so Thank ya'll for this eye opening conversation!
You are truly radiant Alex, like I was in awe of your beauty and glow upon discovering this video! You make a beautiful couple as well. I am trying to warm back up to dating as I haven't in years, but I am nervous as I have never dated since becoming plus size myself. Thank you for your transparency. I am now a subscriber! ❤
OMG Thank you so much for doing this video. Very interesting to hear a male side of body image issues.
We’re so happy you enjoyed it!! Thanks for watching!
Wow so glad I stumbled upon this video. I struggle a lot with my body and confidence as a plus size girl, and it was so nice to hear both of your experiences and perspectives, especially from Paul since I don’t hear men talk a lot about body positivity. Alex you’re absolutely beautiful I can’t stop staring at your curls lol, I’m definitely subscribing, awesome content!
such a lovely couple, love their energy together. great video 😊
Thank you so much!
This Gentleman has such a pleasing personality, excellent
I just love the vibe and the way you talked about the topic. I'm new here and I definitely agree with loving yourself regardless of your body size.
Thanks so much for watching!
Absolutely love everything about this 🤍🤍🤍
We’re so happy to hear that! Thank you for watching!
I'm happy for you two you're down to earth you're simple true-hearted couple and you're showing this nation about what you love is God bless you two
When I was dating I never thought anyone would be attracted to me, the pressure to look a certain way is awful. That was until I stopped comparing myself to other woman 🙂
omg!! i hated the nutty professor movies and big mama movies from the 90s. everyone was laughing and I just wanted to cry.
Yeah there were so many fatphobic jokes in the 90s and 2000s!
Great vlog, beautiful couple!
i love plus size women
Charlie hello my queen
I love this and you guys are amazing together ♥️
Thank you so much for watching!!
Really appreciate this ya'll!! ❤❤
We are so glad you love it! We’re answering questions in the next video! Coming Friday!
Amazing yall thank you for putting yourself out there with all your videos 🤩
you are such a beautiful couple, wish you all the best :)
You two are the cutest couple!!! I love your videos.
I didn’t judge when he was drinking the milk shake or food! I understand. Makes sense they are together!
Haha thank you!
Am a plus size but working on my self my boyfriend is slim but taller than me a little
I feel wired
Gentleman I love ❤️ that.. my next relationship going to be lit 🔥 almost ready just working behind the scene so it can be right..no rush just happy 😊 being single and peaceful 🌻
Mildred hello. How are you
He looks just like jay Ellis!!!!😉
More light skin European looking big women are able to get an in shape black man more so than a regular dark skin woman that same size. She has long wavy/curly hair pretty face, light skin, let that be a dark skin woman her size, shorter hair 4c hair, and he wouldn't pay her any attention.
Facts!
fACTS. Them not ackowleding this is disingenuous.
It's all about features. Ugly women with nice bodies (butter heads), get picked all the time. Big girl with beautiful face, get picked up all the time too. You add a good attitude to both of these and it's a boost. Skin tone isn't as huge as a deciding factor as y'all women make it to be.
Carolinagirl 1986 You are just showing off your insecurities that is why you are on here complaining about light skin Black women
@@nemavenus9156 shut up. I have to have insecurities because I'm not light skin??
Beautiful I love ❤️ how y’all met in New York that’s where I’m trying to move soon 🔜
Mildred l travel in November to New York we can meet would ve an honor for me
He’s your soul mate ❤️
Someday l want to say that you are mine
wow. this video came up after my most recent video & I just let it play.. and I want to thank you both for THIS! it resonates with my current place in life! thank ❤️❤️
We’re so glad it resonates!! We thought it was an important convo to have!
Thank you guys for sharing this..❤
Of course! Thank you for watching!
cuuuuuuuuuute :)))) all the feel good feelings
Awww love that our vids make you feel that way!
Try being me. Boyfriend is literally IG famous for his 300 pound weight loss and I’m plus size.. I refuse to have him post me or have me on his stories I’m just so self conscious of it always think people are thinking “damn can’t he help her lose the weight” or wow he’s so fit now why he dating such a big girl. Just a nightmare
I love Paul transparency, about men's issues with having to look like a body builder or an action movie star. In modern times men are having more issues with body image. And I am glad he is opening up about his body issues to let other men know that they are not alone about having body desmorphia.
Thank you for this
Love this.
So glad you do!
Huku kwetu Alex na Paul yote ni majina ya kiume jamani..nice video guys❤️
Dada unatafuta nini huku ughaibuni? 😂😂😂
Beautiful couple!!
From Paris, j’adore vos vidéos 🥰🥰🥰
Merci!!
Very relatable 😀
I’m so glad!
Omg God I love you guys
you guys are beautiful!
Thank you so much!! And thank you for watching!
Love y’all you cute together
You guys are so beautiful🤩
Thank you so much and thank you for watching!!
You’re gorgeous
Are yall serious with this? A mixed weight relationship? So a regular relationship. What about a mixed hair relationship? One of us is natural, how do we do it? Mixed diet? He doesn't eat pork: how we navigate. 🙃
You shouldn't have a bf at 12 anyway
That's too early.
Alex your are so gorgeous
She’s light skinned with pretty hair. Her fatness can be overlooked.
Alex, how do l meet a plus- size lady? They always calle my attention
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Thanks for watching!
I could be really honest right now and tell you young lady you get a pass because you're a fair skin black woman and you got a specific type of hair that regular black women don't have so that black man will forgive that one flaw that you have because he sees all the other benefits of you he's looking at his offspring and seeing all the other benefits if I was just to be a fat black woman with my regular hair and my dark skin there's no way that man that same man sitting next to you will be anywhere near me so we got to look at reality black men do tend to forget all of these caveats when it comes to other race or biracial women.
i feel like being big only works for light-skin/white women...like all plus-size models r light skin... normal to fat dark-skin girls are told they r ugly but dark skin thin models r dominating the modelling industry...like adut akech is very dark and is sudanese...she's skinny she's beautiful
Why is it the man is always suppose to be slim and the girl is huge.....
I have gained 90lb just to be with a plus sized woman who is only attracted to plus size guys.