Activities with each other! Maybe your favorite date nights story time while re-creating the dates at home. 😁 ......I know it’s kinda off topic, but I thought I’d give it a shot.
My husband and I are in our 60s, we have two grown kids, eight beautiful grandchildren. Keep your united front strong, don’t sweat the small stuff, draw a line keep it tight, but most of all pray 🙏🏼
See to how you speak to each other. Children pick on that. They will talk to that parent the way their spouse speaks to them. Respect each other in every way.
I freaking LOVED that you both said to not make the other parent the bad guy and decide to work together as parents and knowing when to handle different situations a different way and respecting that. You all are amazing
Tip for raising teens coming from a 19 year old. Who doesn't have children but has learned from her years of being a teen and observing. -Don't push. If you have put knowledge in them, expect they will use it. When you don't expect and just assume, they will rebel!!! Basically, hold them to high expectations. -if you say somthing MEAN IT! I can't stress that enough. We are know it all and we will throw back technicalities at you and your argument will not hold. - discipline is key. I hated my mother growing up and loved my father because she disciplined and he didn't. Now that I'm older, I have a stronger bond with my mother. I realized that while both my parents love me unconditionally, my mothers discipline was uncondional love and I now respect her for that. - if you have a reasonable request, they must do it. Don't let it slide. They will learn that your a softy that can be walked on and will learn no sense of authority. - do not buy them everything they want. They need to either earn it or get a job and pay for it. -and finally, one of the biggest mistakes my parents consistently apologize for to this day....do not let your child eat whenever and whatever. Not only will they because overweight, but have that sense of discipline will help them develop self discipline. Don't just says "eat this instead of that because I said so" explain to them why this is better than that. "Because I said so" is a phrase many parents will regret.
Love ❤️ that sentence “Make sure your child is a positive addition to the society “ Amin, this is my favorite video of your channel because I’m a mom of 3 teens.
Teens are completely different. Our daughters are 17 and 16. Our son just turned 10. It’s hard but the joy in parenting teens is being able to have real , deep and meaningful conversations with them. In quarantine I have been journaling more of things they share . Keeping God in the center of your marriage when parenting teens so you are able to sit and communicate about any situations that come up is key . Have a blessed day Housely family .
I don't think you guys need to worry so much. Your kids love you so much. As long as you both work together and keep praying. You got this. Be blessed. Enjoy your children. Enjoy your children. Again, enjoy your children. Love yall. 😊🤟🏿🙏🏿😇
My husband and I love hearing different parenting tips as we’d like to have kids one day. We are interracial and I love hearing both of your perspectives because he and I were raised very differently.
Love the old school way of raising children. Raised mine that way. One great thing is that you both agree to do tough love. Your Children will always respect you. Respect first , friends second. Bible says Honor your mother and father for your days will be numbered on earth.Honor is Respect! Happy Mother’s Day!❤️
I love how you guys parent the kids. I totally agree with every single thing you guys do. Im not a mother yet, but i hope to be one one day. God willing if its meant for me and my fiance to be a mommy and daddy. Love you guys!!!😘💕
Amen! The dynamic of parent/child will never change; they are not on our level and as old as they get, it is important for them to realize/remember that so they always maintain respect for you and listen to you and respect house rules and such as they age. Great advice!
I am a child, adolescent and family therapist and I tell parents two main things. 1.) Your teens are your toddlers, so whoever's they were at 2 and 3 is the person you will see at 13 on. They are both ages of independence. 2.) Children are seeking safety. The formula for safety is; consistency + stability + discipline (the learning process not necessarily punishment) = safety.
The best advice to dealing with teenagers, is to remember that you both were teenagers and although times have changed the rules or guidelines will not change ......... it will only means' that a new method of solving teenage issues are to be implemented and how you both mentor them as to know that you both have there best interest at heart.
I just LOVE the way that you guys speak to each other and your children. When Adam said, “Can I play off that ?” And Tam said, “Yes!” It was so sweet and endearing. You 2 are such an awesome couple ! My husband and I are really enjoying these parenting tips !!!
I have son who turns 16 tomorrow and a 10 year old daughter. Ive been raising them alone since she was 3 mos. Its been tough and sometimes exasperating! They ABSOLUTELY get more challenging as they get into the tween/teen years. The babies you romanticized about can test your will to keep going! My best advice is to remember that you have ONE SHOT to get it right, STAY IN PRAYER, remember to breathe, STAY CONSISTENT, discipline and always have patience! Cry it out when they're asleep and be sure you're recharge before they wake up. I've loved watching your videos. Theyve brought a sense of peace and laughter to me personally, during these challenging times.
mommyonthego Thank you for sharing your comment with us! We must continue to support channels that promote healthy communication and healthy relationships with God self and others so we build stronger families 🙏🏾
In my 30s single and child free and watching you guys makes me wish and daydream about future spouse and future family. I trust and believe it will happen one day
To start , I think you two should consider a TV show, I completely enjoy watching you, from this subject of parenting to just being a family. Good , bad and in between. You're always positive , funny and enjoyable to watch. I have told you before you have a beautiful family . keep up the good work.
Tamera, mentioning the amount of summers and the part where you say its blissfuly exhausting i totally understand, and i get it i love my kids and they're so funny and loving but they have their moments that really made me feel good though.
Don’t confuse loving and respect for your child as being their friend. The love and structure of a parent is far more important during those first 10 years than being their friend. When they leave the home, will they hear your voice when they are doing things without you.
Y’all are so cute together! Every time I watch a video, I just smile. PARENTS: I love kids, but I am not a parent. I don’t judge people on how they parent. BUT, it drives me crazy when parents are oblivious to their kid being a terror to others - destroying someone’s house, using foul language aimed at adults, screaming, hitting, throwing things, etc. I’ve had countless airplane rides with kids kicking the back of my seat and mom or dad is off in space. HOW you parent your kid is your is your deal. But, please, please, PLEASE make sure you are aware of how your kid’s behavior is effecting others.
I’m a great mom I love the relationship with my daughter she’s not afraid to talk to me about anything going on in her life. Best relationship ever. She’s 25 and still home I’m living it.
I just love you guys and it's great to see that their are still people in the world who parent with faith, love, intent and structure just like my husband and I strive to do! All is not doomed in the world for our future generations ☺
As a teenager, I was the opposite. I realized I knew nothing about life or the world and it was terrifying! What I wished I’d had from my parents was a safe space to have honest conversations, ask hard questions, and still receive that comfort I might act like I don’t need at times. Also, with fluctuating hormones came my first battles with depression and, going with that safe space element, I think a lot of teens need some validation for their feelings and reassurance that what they’re going through is salient. ❤️
I love you Guys...... I have 6 kids from 24-2 you have two parents each one of them differently and learn as you go and you adapt to what works for you. LOVE THEM KEEP GOD FIRST....... This has worked for us P.S Me and My husband lost or oldest he was murdered in 2016 it just makes us not sweat the Small things and Make everyday every hour every second count... YOU ARE great parents keep the great job
I have three boys - a nine year old and twin seven year olds. But I also have a 16-year old brother... we are 20 years apart! I’ve seen him go through the ups and downs of puberty and the only piece of advice I have is to love, love, love. Pray. Look for common interests or MAKE common interests. And be thankful for the time together because they will grow up and be on their way Lord willing all too soon! ❤️
Even though I am not a mom yet, I will be keeping one big advice from my mom. She said that by keeping an open communication with your kids before puberty, when they enter that stage of life they will come to you. But create a no judgement zone.
I can’t say it enough that I love you guy. I’m a single mom of 2 special needs teens. So it’s still an learning process. My boys have autism and ADHD. And I agree with you guy that works with one kid won’t work with the other. Oh boy did I ever learn that😂 Love you guy
Remember each issue is different and will most likely have a different solution. And keep reminding your children how much you love them and they can always talk to you about anything, even if you don’t have all of the answers. 💜
Love it!! Momma of 4 here, 1, 4, 6 & 9. And I even learned something new! Thank you both for sharing! Parenting...it's certainly is a blissful journey 😊
Thank you for sharing this content with us! We must continue to support channels that promote healthy communication and healthy relationships with God self and others so we build stronger families 🙏🏾
Hello Guys, great opinions/advice. You're so uplifting, inspirational and realistic people. If more parents/people were like you guys, the world would be a better place. Thank you for your positivity.
I would say that allow Jesus to teach you how to parent your children when they get there. The Holy Spirit will reveal to you as parents what may be going on with them and will give you wisdom on how to deal with each scenario. All the best! (I’m not a parent or married by the way 🙈)
Sibongile Sikhakhane Thank you for sharing your comment with us! We must continue to support channels that promote healthy communication and healthy relationships with God self and others so we build stronger families 🙏🏾
Yes I have 3 daughters an almost 2 year old, 7.5 year old, an 8.5 year old. And everyone tells me to enjoy this time now because when they become teenagers it’s going to be rough. As my mom says the older they get, the harder it is to let them go and make their own choices.
Just continue to communicate with them and bond with them. My parents didn’t do that and I resented them for it and disliked them for a long time because of it.
As you mentioned, children are individuals, so what works on one may not work for the other. What I wish I knew when my daughter was younger was that unmet needs are usually the culprit of a lot of the “bad behavior” a child may demonstrate. I think when we care to listen (in a safe, open, and non defensive manner) to our children, and learn who they are (their interests, desires, and values), then we can establish a healthy relationship. And with that foundation, they allow us to lead them, because we have their best interest (based on their values not just ours) at heart. It’s not just us “molding” them into who we want them to be. Parenting is much more heart centered than I ever imagined. Dr. Shefali Tsabary has been an amazing resource in my parenting journey! My daughter and I are polar opposites, and learning about our own needs really beyond improved our parent-child relationship. 🙌🏽💕 The rare tantrum no longer triggers my frustration, because know I instantly think “What need has not been met lately?”, which in turn allows me to respond from a compassionate, kind, and understanding space.
Love this!! I so needed to hear the end about not taking it personally when your kids don’t listen. I literally had that exact convo with my husband two days ago! It’s so good to remember that! Hard at times but absolutely key! You guys are the bomb! Thank you so much for doing this!! 🥰
I grew up in the house with two brothers. I did not have a boyfriend until I was 20 years old. Every time I had a thought of a crush my oldest brother would find out , react and tell on me. 😌 But, I’m thankful because they helped me to guard my own heart. ❤️
My brother is 2 years 9 months older than me and we were raised in what appears to be a very similar family structure. Our relationship has definitely gone through many ups and downs (especially when he would try to act like a parent during my rebellious teenage streak -- I, like Miss Ariah, am quite strong-willed) but I can tell you now that he always watched over me, had my back, and is truly a best friend to me now. (current ages 27 and almost 30). Love your content. Thanks for sharing! Stay well!
I have 4 kids, it's very tough. They all have there own personality, and definitely strong willed, I honestly think were doing the very best we can do. I have a 16,14,8,6. I do have a decent relationship with my 16yr old, anything that bothers her she'll come tell me anything. When my eldest gets out of line, she knows it, I just give her the MOM stare.
Always try and be honest with your children!!! No matter how painful it may seem. And try to be consistent! Don't allow to them to find out anything about yourself from anyone or the internet!
Adam & Tamera something I was told a long time ago when raising kids as soon as they go off to school they forget all the things that they were taught at home! So I would advise you as they get older spy on who they hang around with investigate/screen/ interview all of their friends and find out their friends bad habits & family structure/ Foundation/ Dynamics because that is who will influence your kids around the teenage and preteen years! It will help you keep balance and regulate things much better in helping them become wonderful good biting citizens!!!
I just watched this for the second time. I think allowing them to be themselves and speaking life over your children is the best thing you can do for them. You a guys are doing an Amazing job, just remember don’t say the other one will do something because they are like someone else. Life and death are in the power of the tongue.
Even though teens are frustrating (and they are) sometimes they understand so much more than when they were that that in itself is the sweetest blessing ever. Don't get me wrong - they do have their moments, but the rewards are sometimes soooooooo worth it! It's amazing! (My daugher Tiara is 15)
You are doing it right... I say patience is the only way thru the teen years... but you are embracing a lot of my parenting style... I am a Caribbean Mom... respect is key...
I think these two are great parents. This "hey buddy" trying to be friends with your kids stuff is a problem waiting to happen!! It usually backfires. Also comparing your kids or making differences between the kids can really tear a family apart. Great advice you two!!
Oh, my!! Tam, I did the exact same thing with my Dear grandmother. I mis-spoke to her like a girlfriend one day, and she went silent on me for 3 days. I meant know harm.
You guys are on the right track in raising your kids, so far you are doing a great job especially with the kids today. They have social media and the video games, my children are you guys ages. The video games was just becoming popular but they were more interested in outside physical activities along with their schooling. We had a daily routine in which all three of them had to do their part and if they did not, believe me they did not want anything taken away especially the boys they loved their basketball, baseball and football. I can say they had excellent grades, because if you could not study, you could not play any game.I'm very proud of them today, because they turned out to be very good productive citizens , and now that they have children they are telling me, mom raising children today is a lot different from the way they were raised especially teenagers. One thing I truly believe in is that children must keep that over all respect for their parents and parents should do the same. I love the way you guys are involved with your children. Just keep it up and continue to show them all the love you got to give. Love you and kids!🥰🥰🥰❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I found that you can't guess or imagine what will happen in the future. My daughters are now married and have become parents. I'm extremely proud of them. But getting them to this time of their life was difficult. One was rebellious in her teen years and the other one was a little irresponsible in her twenties. At the time we went through those rough times, I didn't think that I would make it. I did and they did and I'm so grateful that we are all here more than fifty years later. Adam is right. They will always love you and you'll be surprised that they won't remember the bad times as much as you will. Stay happy and know that you two are doing the best that you can.
I have a 17 year old ..... I learnt quickly that he rebelled against authority. It’s best to respect them and and really try to put yourself in their shoes. If giving boundaries the calmer they are given the better xx
I have raised 4 kids and I am 41 I have 3 girls 22yrs, 20yrs, 16yrs, and my son 14yrs. What you said about all of them being different is very true. Even as teens and young adults, they all have different needs and different guidance is needed foreach one. My advice for raising teens is have open and honest communication with them. Validate their feelings and love them. Give them a hug when they need it and if all they need is the hug leave it at that. Enjoy every moment as teens because like you said it only last for a moment. The most important is do not fear the teen years! It is when you get to watch their mind develop into what their hearts really hold. Yes Faith is a big thing in our home. If you place God in the center, everything else will fall into place. I also grew up watching you and my kids enjoy watching you now! 🥰🥰
I know you guys will be great parents even when your children are older because you both bring a balance to the forefront. Having similar but different ways of raising a child has its many benefits. Both can't be leaning on the same side all the time. Having a 12 yr old 14, and 17 yr old, my husband and I are soon to have a household full of teens. Nothing is ever perfect, but its definitely our family discussions that has helped them open up regularly, so definitely keep that open the older they get.
One thing I always said, my son is my son. I'm not his friend. He has his own and so do I. Don't get it confused. T & A, raise your children on your terms, no one else's. Reach back on what your patents taught you and then tweek it to fit your children. ❤
Hey you guys, I think that you guys is bright spot in anybody’s day. I love watching your channel. I am a identical twin and I used to dream of how our lives would be when we grew up. I never really got that chance. Yep she passed away and I’m still in shock and still trying to figure life out.time makes the pain a little bearable and I will live. I’m so grateful for you guys channels for so many reasons. Thank you for sharing . I love you ❤️
I love the advice about realising that we really only have a few years with our children. So just enjoy every moment and spend the most quality time as possible❤️❤️❤️
You two are an extraordinarily wonderful couple. I love the "learn as you go" parenting advice, and I like your parenting style.👍🏾 Just keep taking one experience at a time.
What other topics would you guys like to see a Q&A on??
Juggling work,kids and lifestyle. How do you guys still keep the romance btwn you alive
activities with the kids please. Love seeing Aiden and Ariah. You should do like a competition and maybe get your brothers to judge the winner.
Activities with each other! Maybe your favorite date nights story time while re-creating the dates at home. 😁
......I know it’s kinda off topic, but I thought I’d give it a shot.
I’d love a hair care routine by Tamera, especially through this quarantine! 🌱
The Housley Life finances and money
The best compliment I got was when my 12 year old daughter told me that she told her friends that I knew when to be a mom and when to be a friend.
susan routly love that
That is really sweet and as 39yr old daughter don't lose that because as an adult we still need both.
That's sweet💝
absolutely!
🤍🤍🙏🏼🙏🏼
My husband and I are in our 60s, we have two grown kids, eight beautiful grandchildren. Keep your united front strong, don’t sweat the small stuff, draw a line keep it tight, but most of all pray 🙏🏼
Well said.
See to how you speak to each other. Children pick on that. They will talk to that parent the way their spouse speaks to them. Respect each other in every way.
I freaking LOVED that you both said to not make the other parent the bad guy and decide to work together as parents and knowing when to handle different situations a different way and respecting that. You all are amazing
Tamera your skin is literally glowing!!!
No children nor married however, love the content♥️
same. But I love watching family content. Its very loving and warm
Same 😄
Yeap me too. 😉
Sterling B. Lucky you !
Taking notes for the future. 👌😊
TAMERA LOOKING ALL GLOWY AND BEAUTIFUL 🌸🌸🌸
Adam is such a guy's guy and has such an old school , chill ,real way about him ..love you guys!
A real man.
the way Ariah layed her head on her Tamera’s shoulder🥺🥺🥺 my heart melted. i love their relationship ❤️ she is so beautiful, just like her mama🥰🥰🥰
I’m old school all day long! I’m coming from a black mom from the Caribbean.....enough said!🤣
Haitian👀
Lol #dontplaywithme
Love your comment
Tip for raising teens coming from a 19 year old. Who doesn't have children but has learned from her years of being a teen and observing.
-Don't push. If you have put knowledge in them, expect they will use it. When you don't expect and just assume, they will rebel!!! Basically, hold them to high expectations.
-if you say somthing MEAN IT! I can't stress that enough. We are know it all and we will throw back technicalities at you and your argument will not hold.
- discipline is key. I hated my mother growing up and loved my father because she disciplined and he didn't. Now that I'm older, I have a stronger bond with my mother. I realized that while both my parents love me unconditionally, my mothers discipline was uncondional love and I now respect her for that.
- if you have a reasonable request, they must do it. Don't let it slide. They will learn that your a softy that can be walked on and will learn no sense of authority.
- do not buy them everything they want. They need to either earn it or get a job and pay for it.
-and finally, one of the biggest mistakes my parents consistently apologize for to this day....do not let your child eat whenever and whatever. Not only will they because overweight, but have that sense of discipline will help them develop self discipline. Don't just says "eat this instead of that because I said so" explain to them why this is better than that. "Because I said so" is a phrase many parents will regret.
Love ❤️ that sentence “Make sure your child is a positive addition to the society “ Amin, this is my favorite video of your channel because I’m a mom of 3 teens.
Awesome! Yes that is important .
When Tam and Adam were talking about Ariah and Adien's relationship as a teenager sounds like a movie they should make lol!!!!
Teens are completely different. Our daughters are 17 and 16. Our son just turned 10. It’s hard but the joy in parenting teens is being able to have real , deep and meaningful conversations with them. In quarantine I have been journaling more of things they share . Keeping God in the center of your marriage when parenting teens so you are able to sit and communicate about any situations that come up is key . Have a blessed day Housely family .
Love how you talk about your faith in God n raise your kids in God's way n you guys doing a great job .
I don't think you guys need to worry so much. Your kids love you so much. As long as you both work together and keep praying. You got this. Be blessed. Enjoy your children. Enjoy your children. Again, enjoy your children. Love yall. 😊🤟🏿🙏🏿😇
I like their openness and acknowledgement that they don't know it all but are willing to give things a good try.
My husband and I love hearing different parenting tips as we’d like to have kids one day. We are interracial and I love hearing both of your perspectives because he and I were raised very differently.
Im not only in an IR, but intercultural marriage. My husband was opposed to spanking. So we didnt. Now, he regrets it.
@@home4life505 He regrets not being physically abusive to children?
Fizzy Bizzy a pop pop is not abuse. Please calm down
Love the old school way of raising children. Raised mine that way. One great thing is that you both agree to do tough love. Your Children will always respect you. Respect first , friends second. Bible says Honor your mother and father for your days will be numbered on earth.Honor is Respect! Happy Mother’s Day!❤️
Great advice don’t compare your kids and draw the line between parents and friends some of the best advice ever
This was great. Thank you. My biggest takeaway is the thought of only 18 summers (Whoa!). And I really liked the advice of "don't take it personal".
I love how you guys parent the kids. I totally agree with every single thing you guys do. Im not a mother yet, but i hope to be one one day. God willing if its meant for me and my fiance to be a mommy and daddy. Love you guys!!!😘💕
Amen! The dynamic of parent/child will never change; they are not on our level and as old as they get, it is important for them to realize/remember that so they always maintain respect for you and listen to you and respect house rules and such as they age. Great advice!
I am a child, adolescent and family therapist and I tell parents two main things. 1.) Your teens are your toddlers, so whoever's they were at 2 and 3 is the person you will see at 13 on. They are both ages of independence. 2.) Children are seeking safety. The formula for safety is; consistency + stability + discipline (the learning process not necessarily punishment) = safety.
The best advice to dealing with teenagers, is to remember that you both were teenagers and although times have changed the rules or guidelines will not change ......... it will only means' that a new method of solving teenage issues are to be implemented and how you both mentor them as to know that you both have there best interest at heart.
I just LOVE the way that you guys speak to each other and your children. When Adam said, “Can I play off that ?” And Tam said, “Yes!” It was so sweet and endearing. You 2 are such an awesome couple ! My husband and I are really enjoying these parenting tips !!!
I have son who turns 16 tomorrow and a 10 year old daughter. Ive been raising them alone since she was 3 mos. Its been tough and sometimes exasperating! They ABSOLUTELY get more challenging as they get into the tween/teen years. The babies you romanticized about can test your will to keep going! My best advice is to remember that you have ONE SHOT to get it right, STAY IN PRAYER, remember to breathe, STAY CONSISTENT, discipline and always have patience! Cry it out when they're asleep and be sure you're recharge before they wake up.
I've loved watching your videos. Theyve brought a sense of peace and laughter to me personally, during these challenging times.
mommyonthego Thank you for sharing your comment with us! We must continue to support channels that promote healthy communication and healthy relationships with God self and others so we build stronger families 🙏🏾
In my 30s single and child free and watching you guys makes me wish and daydream about future spouse and future family. I trust and believe it will happen one day
"If you noticed I haven't talked over you, Have I?" lmaooo same
I would love to see a video about your walk/relationship with the Lord, how it began, advice for parents, the hardships, etc!! Love you Tam Tam!!
To start , I think you two should consider a TV show, I completely enjoy watching you, from this subject of parenting to just being a family. Good , bad and in between. You're always positive , funny and enjoyable to watch. I have told you before you have a beautiful family . keep up the good work.
gloria shaeffer thank you
Tamera, mentioning the amount of summers and the part where you say its blissfuly exhausting i totally understand, and i get it i love my kids and they're so funny and loving but they have their moments that really made me feel good though.
Don’t confuse loving and respect for your child as being their friend. The love and structure of a parent is far more important during those first 10 years than being their friend. When they leave the home, will they hear your voice when they are doing things without you.
Y’all are so cute together! Every time I watch a video, I just smile.
PARENTS: I love kids, but I am not a parent. I don’t judge people on how they parent. BUT, it drives me crazy when parents are oblivious to their kid being a terror to others - destroying someone’s house, using foul language aimed at adults, screaming, hitting, throwing things, etc. I’ve had countless airplane rides with kids kicking the back of my seat and mom or dad is off in space. HOW you parent your kid is your is your deal. But, please, please, PLEASE make sure you are aware of how your kid’s behavior is effecting others.
Good good good, yes! Discipline and respect are key! My husband and I are very old school and we’re only 30. Love them
My husband & I have no children and don’t plan to for a few more years but I’m still over here taking notes! My favorite family💗💗
You know what? You both are fine. What you think you don't know, you know. You'll do great as you already are. Nothing is perfect. ❤
I’m a great mom I love the relationship with my daughter she’s not afraid to talk to me about anything going on in her life. Best relationship ever. She’s 25 and still home I’m living it.
I just love you guys and it's great to see that their are still people in the world who parent with faith, love, intent and structure just like my husband and I strive to do! All is not doomed in the world for our future generations ☺
18 summers ...ohhh my! Never looked at it that way. So true!!
I love how you guys are very honest
As a teenager, I was the opposite. I realized I knew nothing about life or the world and it was terrifying! What I wished I’d had from my parents was a safe space to have honest conversations, ask hard questions, and still receive that comfort I might act like I don’t need at times. Also, with fluctuating hormones came my first battles with depression and, going with that safe space element, I think a lot of teens need some validation for their feelings and reassurance that what they’re going through is salient. ❤️
I love you Guys...... I have 6 kids from 24-2 you have two parents each one of them differently and learn as you go and you adapt to what works for you. LOVE THEM KEEP GOD FIRST....... This has worked for us
P.S Me and My husband lost or oldest he was murdered in 2016 it just makes us not sweat the Small things and Make everyday every hour every second count... YOU ARE great parents keep the great job
I have three boys - a nine year old and twin seven year olds. But I also have a 16-year old brother... we are 20 years apart! I’ve seen him go through the ups and downs of puberty and the only piece of advice I have is to love, love, love. Pray. Look for common interests or MAKE common interests. And be thankful for the time together because they will grow up and be on their way Lord willing all too soon! ❤️
I am not a parent but I have been a nanny for the past 14 years and any advice is always greatly appreciated. Love watching your videos!
Even though I am not a mom yet, I will be keeping one big advice from my mom. She said that by keeping an open communication with your kids before puberty, when they enter that stage of life they will come to you. But create a no judgement zone.
oh wow 18 summers is not long when you think of it. Great advice and video
It really flies by!
None of us are there in person to actually see how you handle your kids BUT I can tell you are GREAT parents and you are doing an AMAZING job!!
Great video I’m married 8 years and I have no kids yet but I’ll take these tips and use them when it’s our time . Thanks 😊
I enjoy you two so much. One day at a time. You will be just fine.
Thank you so much!
I can’t say it enough that I love you guy. I’m a single mom of 2 special needs teens. So it’s still an learning process. My boys have autism and ADHD. And I agree with you guy that works with one kid won’t work with the other. Oh boy did I ever learn that😂 Love you guy
B3llet Truth Thank you hun it’s not ma’am but I tries to do the best that I can
Remember each issue is different and will most likely have a different solution. And keep reminding your children how much you love them and they can always talk to you about anything, even if you don’t have all of the answers. 💜
This is such an inspirational channel.Thank you for starting it
Glad you enjoy it!
Love it!! Momma of 4 here, 1, 4, 6 & 9. And I even learned something new! Thank you both for sharing!
Parenting...it's certainly is a blissful journey 😊
Thank you for sharing this content with us! We must continue to support channels that promote healthy communication and healthy relationships with God self and others so we build stronger families 🙏🏾
Hello Guys, great opinions/advice. You're so uplifting, inspirational and realistic people. If more parents/people were like you guys, the world would be a better place. Thank you for your positivity.
I would say that allow Jesus to teach you how to parent your children when they get there. The Holy Spirit will reveal to you as parents what may be going on with them and will give you wisdom on how to deal with each scenario. All the best! (I’m not a parent or married by the way 🙈)
Sibongile Sikhakhane with that advice you’re going be a great mother I love it 💯💯💯
MrsAmayaKobe aah thank you so much ❤️🤍🤍🤍🥺
So so true,
Sibongile Sikhakhane you’re welcome 😇
Sibongile Sikhakhane Thank you for sharing your comment with us! We must continue to support channels that promote healthy communication and healthy relationships with God self and others so we build stronger families 🙏🏾
I so Agree with you both!!! I know of so many grown adults that disrespect their parents. I just shake my head!!! Like that could not be me!!!
Yes I have 3 daughters an almost 2 year old, 7.5 year old, an 8.5 year old. And everyone tells me to enjoy this time now because when they become teenagers it’s going to be rough. As my mom says the older they get, the harder it is to let them go and make their own choices.
Just continue to communicate with them and bond with them. My parents didn’t do that and I resented them for it and disliked them for a long time because of it.
As you mentioned, children are individuals, so what works on one may not work for the other. What I wish I knew when my daughter was younger was that unmet needs are usually the culprit of a lot of the “bad behavior” a child may demonstrate. I think when we care to listen (in a safe, open, and non defensive manner) to our children, and learn who they are (their interests, desires, and values), then we can establish a healthy relationship. And with that foundation, they allow us to lead them, because we have their best interest (based on their values not just ours) at heart. It’s not just us “molding” them into who we want them to be. Parenting is much more heart centered than I ever imagined. Dr. Shefali Tsabary has been an amazing resource in my parenting journey! My daughter and I are polar opposites, and learning about our own needs really beyond improved our parent-child relationship. 🙌🏽💕 The rare tantrum no longer triggers my frustration, because know I instantly think “What need has not been met lately?”, which in turn allows me to respond from a compassionate, kind, and understanding space.
We need 2-3 videos a week!! We love the storytelling sit-downs. Cooking episodes. Children! All the content🙌🏾just keep it coming🤗
Love the feedback, thank you!! More cooking and story time coming up!
Love this!! I so needed to hear the end about not taking it personally when your kids don’t listen. I literally had that exact convo with my husband two days ago! It’s so good to remember that! Hard at times but absolutely key! You guys are the bomb! Thank you so much for doing this!! 🥰
I grew up in the house with two brothers. I did not have a boyfriend until I was 20 years old. Every time I had a thought of a crush my oldest brother would find out , react and tell on me. 😌 But, I’m thankful because they helped me to guard my own heart. ❤️
My brother is 2 years 9 months older than me and we were raised in what appears to be a very similar family structure. Our relationship has definitely gone through many ups and downs (especially when he would try to act like a parent during my rebellious teenage streak -- I, like Miss Ariah, am quite strong-willed) but I can tell you now that he always watched over me, had my back, and is truly a best friend to me now. (current ages 27 and almost 30). Love your content. Thanks for sharing! Stay well!
I have appreciated Adam more in these parenting videos. Well done guys
I have 4 kids, it's very tough. They all have there own personality, and definitely strong willed, I honestly think were doing the very best we can do. I have a 16,14,8,6. I do have a decent relationship with my 16yr old, anything that bothers her she'll come tell me anything. When my eldest gets out of line, she knows it, I just give her the MOM stare.
Always try and be honest with your children!!! No matter how painful it may seem. And try to be consistent! Don't allow to them to find out anything about yourself from anyone or the internet!
That is great advice!
I couldn't help but smile all through this video. You two are so sweet
😊 thank you
I love you guys because of how honest you are and how you seem to accept everyone and own up to who you both are its incredible !
Adam & Tamera something I was told a long time ago when raising kids as soon as they go off to school they forget all the things that they were
taught at home! So I would advise you as they get older spy on who they hang around with investigate/screen/ interview all of their friends and find out their friends bad habits & family structure/ Foundation/ Dynamics because that is who will influence your kids around the teenage and preteen years! It will help you keep balance and regulate things much better in helping them become wonderful good biting citizens!!!
I just watched this for the second time. I think allowing them to be themselves and speaking life over your children is the best thing you can do for them. You a guys are doing an Amazing job, just remember don’t say the other one will do something because they are like someone else. Life and death are in the power of the tongue.
Even though teens are frustrating (and they are) sometimes they understand so much more than when they were that that in itself is the sweetest blessing ever. Don't get me wrong - they do have their moments, but the rewards are sometimes soooooooo worth it! It's amazing! (My daugher Tiara is 15)
You are doing it right... I say patience is the only way thru the teen years... but you are embracing a lot of my parenting style... I am a Caribbean Mom... respect is key...
This was so encouraging. Parenting is hard. I have 3.
I think these two are great parents. This "hey buddy" trying to be friends with your kids stuff is a problem waiting to happen!! It usually backfires. Also comparing your kids or making differences between the kids can really tear a family apart. Great advice you two!!
Oh, my!! Tam, I did the exact same thing with my Dear grandmother. I mis-spoke to her like a girlfriend one day, and she went silent on me for 3 days. I meant know harm.
Lol it happens. I remember I answered my mom really short and abrupt one time. It hurt her feelings and I felt so bad.
@@Denise-ob8dk it hurts,we should remember not to cross that line for real
Your family is so beautiful! God Bless your family !
my dad worked outside the country for months at a time. so my mom took care of everything . my parents wanted respect. they got it.
You guys are on the right track in raising your kids, so far you are doing a great job especially with the kids today. They have social media and the video games, my children are you guys ages. The video games was just becoming popular but they were more interested in outside physical activities along with their schooling. We had a daily routine in which all three of them had to do their part and if they did not, believe me they did not want anything taken away especially the boys they loved their basketball, baseball and football. I can say they had excellent grades, because if you could not study, you could not play any game.I'm very proud of them today, because they turned out to be very good productive citizens , and now that they have children they are telling me, mom raising children today is a lot different from the way they were raised especially teenagers. One thing I truly believe in is that children must keep that over all respect for their parents and parents should do the same.
I love the way you guys are involved with your children. Just keep it up and continue to show them all the love you got to give.
Love you and kids!🥰🥰🥰❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I found that you can't guess or imagine what will happen in the future. My daughters are now married and have become parents. I'm extremely proud of them. But getting them to this time of their life was difficult. One was rebellious in her teen years and the other one was a little irresponsible in her twenties. At the time we went through those rough times, I didn't think that I would make it. I did and they did and I'm so grateful that we are all here more than fifty years later. Adam is right. They will always love you and you'll be surprised that they won't remember the bad times as much as you will. Stay happy and know that you two are doing the best that you can.
I have a 17 year old ..... I learnt quickly that he rebelled against authority. It’s best to respect them and and really try to put yourself in their shoes. If giving boundaries the calmer they are given the better xx
Great advice! It’s so true, 18 summers will go by fast. It’s great seeing you two work together.
Thankful that my kids have kids of there own I can spoil without feeling guilty but would love to go back! Enjoy this time!
I have raised 4 kids and I am 41 I have 3 girls 22yrs, 20yrs, 16yrs, and my son 14yrs. What you said about all of them being different is very true. Even as teens and young adults, they all have different needs and different guidance is needed foreach one. My advice for raising teens is have open and honest communication with them. Validate their feelings and love them. Give them a hug when they need it and if all they need is the hug leave it at that. Enjoy every moment as teens because like you said it only last for a moment. The most important is do not fear the teen years! It is when you get to watch their mind develop into what their hearts really hold. Yes Faith is a big thing in our home. If you place God in the center, everything else will fall into place. I also grew up watching you and my kids enjoy watching you now! 🥰🥰
Thanks for being so REAL and TRANSPARENT! We need to love and treat each child as their own person. #loveparenthood
I know you guys will be great parents even when your children are older because you both bring a balance to the forefront. Having similar but different ways of raising a child has its many benefits. Both can't be leaning on the same side all the time. Having a 12 yr old 14, and 17 yr old, my husband and I are soon to have a household full of teens. Nothing is ever perfect, but its definitely our family discussions that has helped them open up regularly, so definitely keep that open the older they get.
It's cute watching you two. You both are very smart.Keep up the good job with your kids.
You guys are such a blessing. You’re doing a great job with parenting and your family is lovely.💙
I was a very lenient mom but I was lucky enough to have a daughter who always did what was expected and Who I could trust.
One thing I always said, my son is my son. I'm not his friend. He has his own and so do I. Don't get it confused. T & A, raise your children on your terms, no one else's. Reach back on what your patents taught you and then tweek it to fit your children. ❤
I love that you both mentioned faith and prayer and GOD.
My Son is 16 and O boy! the challenges at 14/15 it gets better . I learned to step back from disciplining all the time be calm and do the best I can .
Love when both parents participate in the questions/answers
Adam, you are so right on the best friend scenario... You are spot on. There must be a boundary between parents and children.
Hey you guys, I think that you guys is bright spot in anybody’s day. I love watching your channel. I am a identical twin and I used to dream of how our lives would be when we grew up. I never really got that chance. Yep she passed away and I’m still in shock and still trying to figure life out.time makes the pain a little bearable and I will live. I’m so grateful for you guys channels for so many reasons. Thank you for sharing . I love you ❤️
I love the advice about realising that we really only have a few years with our children. So just enjoy every moment and spend the most quality time as possible❤️❤️❤️
I’m a first time mom & this helps to guide me if I have future kids. Thank you 🙏🏻 🥰
Carmen Gallardo Congratulations!!!
You two are an extraordinarily wonderful couple. I love the "learn as you go" parenting advice, and I like your parenting style.👍🏾
Just keep taking one experience at a time.