There is NO other show like this on air. I really wish they would of kept the show going! It is like having conversations with your friends and getting real raw advice. These women are wise and have a lot of emotional intelligence. I love the show because they can talk about serious things but also laugh about it. Not only are they good commenters they’re also diverse so we get to hear from everyone’s view point. There’s nothing fake about this show. It’s sucks to see it go 😢 bring it back!
Very much like Garcelle, I'm not gonna share my past with a partner. Especially anything guilt related that a person might want to use against me; that's for me to work through in therapy.
I loved Adrienne's last point about the ex that criticized everything she did. I loved Loni's addition to it too. To Loni's point, not only was the ex being controlling, they were also projecting. They were projecting all of the insecurities they felt within themselves onto their partner. I feel like the phrase "the right person" is just someone who's not only ready to love you correctly, but they are ready to truly love themselves correctly and treat you the way that they would want to be treated.
Jamie really care about Garcelle and that’s so beautiful. I just love the bond they have. Even on the Jamie Foxx show you could obviously tell they had great chemistry even beyond the role.
I've definitely been told "Stop laughing" You laugh too much" " Why are you even smiling? " and those lines would make my heart sink, but it's really because they don't want to see me happy.. life is too short not to be happy or atleast to try to be
At first when my marriage ended I felt defeated like I was a failure. But now I'm grateful for the experience cause it taught me how to quickly see the red flags and to have better discernment in order to protect my heart. And I know some day I will find somebody real
My brother went through the same thing when he was going through his divorce. He's been with his girlfriend for about 8 months now, and she's crazy about him (& vice versa). If I ever saw his ex again, I don't know if I'd go off on her because of the hell that she put him through (especially while they were getting divorced), or if I'd thank her for kicking him out because it turned out to be the best thing that she could've done for him
YES! My first marriage taught me sooo much. I was like you where at first, I felt like a failure for leaving but now, I’m so grateful I made that gut-wrenching decision before we had any children. The red flags were neon signs! They weren’t even red anymore by the time I filed for the divorce. I’ve met an amazing man since that experience but now I have to unlearn all the toxic and controlling things my ex used to do that started to become normal for me. This new man literally loves and appreciates the things my ex didn’t even like about me. It’s been such an eye opening experience!!!
You love, you speak, you have faith, you believe, your trust, you feel, all from your heart! You love God from your heart! And you need your heart to see God. So don’t allow anybody to take or taint your heart.
To that woman ....Her Ex ruined her is far far to familiar story for ladies. But the message in that lie he ruined you, is you have to know who you really are, and no one can ruin you without permission. When you don't know how incredible you are and that you can't be changed by anyone, a loser will step in and try. Unconditional self Love care is a pre requisite to relationship. Gotta know your Truth that no one can make you wobble shake, or doubt yourself ever. No one is worth suffering over, or pulling you away from your own joy, love, peace. You always first. Period.
I love these relationship topics. Loni is right, when you're young you don't know. I also felt like Adrienne in a past relationship where I gradually became a different person just to appease my ex's dark personality smh. Now that I'm in my late 30's, I learned to love myself & embrace every goofy, giddy, and 'always happy' aspect of Me ☺️
It is Night and Day in Contrast when someone is really into you, serious about a relationship, and wants to please and love you long term. You won't have to question, you will know, and it feels stable, you feel understood, and peaceful.
I agree with Adrienne I’m naturally a bubbly person as well and loves to be goofy and yes it takes the right person to appreciate and admire that in a person
It is so funny watching the real for years and we have an in that Ade is probably talking about Lennie . Glad she's in a loving marriage now, makes me hopeful
When I first heard Garcelle was going to be on the show, I didn’t think she was a good fit. But she is such a breath of fresh air, I love her viewpoint. I was not always a fan of the Real maybe because I was at work and couldn’t watch it. But now watching these clips on RUclips has made me appreciate this platform. Although it will be missed I pray that God will lead all these women to beautiful new beginnings 🙏🏽
Adrienne's story about her ex made me cringe. I'm a very nerdy person and I geek out over superheroes and Harry Potter and other nerdy things. I can get very animated and excited talking about my interests. I work in a male dominated industry and I always notice how there are some men in my office whose faces just light up whenever I get passionate talking about my interests, and then there are the other guys who look at me like I'm an idiot or I'm pathetic when I get that way. I will never understand it. Seeing someone be happy to talk about something that makes them happy would only ever put a smile on my face. I made a vow to myself a long time ago to marry a man who finds my personality and my quirks to be endearing instead of a burden to him!! There will be someone who just GETS YOU and is FOR YOU. Don't settle for anything less.
I feel so sad for young Adrienne. She lost out on a lot of opportunities because of Lenny. And had to walk on eggshells. Dating her for 8 years with no commitment. She didn't deserve that. Adrienne you are the sweetest person. I want to hug you. That ex was extremely jealous of you. I'm sure he is somewhere telling his current partner that they are wack. Some people don't appreciate what they have.
Any person who constantly throws digs and makes you feel like you are not enough so you toil for their validation is a manipulative controlng and abusive person.
@@dancinginthepurplereign4126 that's so sweet of you wanting to hug Adrian she does come off like a sweetheart though someone who used to bend over backwards to please other people but she seemed happy with her current husband
It's sad how he treated her. He was older and way more experienced -divorced with kids and for a girl in her 20s Adrienne was way in over her head being with that man. These large age gap relationships where the one partner is still young are usually riddled with problems such as control, the younger partner overly wanting to appease the older one and desperately trying to prove they're mature. The older partner will always take advantage of that.
The way I love this show! Thanks for the timely advice big sisters❤. I feel more encouraged to be myself and the right be people will accept me as I am.
I wish there was a show like this on TV when I was a teenager; it would have made such a difference in my life and prevented so many mistakes. I'm 59 now and honestly am not interested in starting a relationship at this point in my life. I'm tired of all of the games; it's easier being single.
Girl, your better days are yet to come. Your latter days could be better than your former ones IF you allow it. Speak a word over yourself. Encourage yourself. You’re not too old, and it’s not too late. Who knows…you may be that person God will use to be a divine example to others who feel like too much time has past to get what they desire. You’re time is only up when you’re dead! Are you dead yet? Then keep living! Better days are coming. Start preparing by changing the way you think. A changed mind changes the paradigm of possibilities.
I’m so glad that I learned how to be comfortable in my skin and never ever felt like I needed approval of anyone. I’ve always been happy with me. A man could never make me question if who I am and how I am are how I should be. The audacity.
Omg I can relate to Adrienne!! I’m naturally bubbly myself & I’m also a Scorpio born on 11/11 just putting that in there lol. And my ex would always call me fake for being my bubbly self with others! I use to cry about it! But now I’m like ima be me & who ever I date will love me for my bubbly side 😊😊😊🙏🏽
If he makes you lose your family, lose your friends, lose your confidence, lose your self-esteem or lose your happiness, then you truly need to lose him.
All facts!!! Your past experiences can indeed make you feel small or inferior but as A said "what did you learn?" That is the part to stay focused on.👏👏👏
I just started watching the real, and I hate that it’s now ending. I’m mad I didn’t give it a chance sooner. I hope these ladies continue to work together on another project!!
I didn't even watch it all the way through yet.. but i use to think like this.. i had an ex that ruined a lot of things for me.. but then i realized what was going on with me internally that i allowed certain behaviors.. or being so understanding when i should have left. Also it is a learning experience as well and a beautiful one.. walking away is hard but powerful because sometimes that person desperately needs help to fix themselves and you walking away could give them that push maybe.. unless they are those types that jump from person to person and learn absolutely nothing and constantly repeat what they refuse to repair within themselves or past issues.. but all and all honestly.. i use to think this way about my ex.. because my ex messed me up internally alittle but i learned a lot and honestly walking away and ending things empowered me to find me again.. fall back in love with me.. work out.. travel.. try new things.. somehow weirdly i was finding myself again.. and i also had my flaws as well.. but it gave me insight on the things i did wrong and the crazy stuff they did.. and it gave me an example of what i don't want in my life at all.. i wanted accountability but some people's perception are tainted.. but every ex taught me something.. and i was very grateful for lessons some taught me hellll no never again.. or maybe we were better off as friends.. or just powerful lessons like the mistakes they made or mistakes i made.. I've learned not every break up has to be tragic.. it can be very beautiful and a blessing in disguise 😉
That sounds like envy, regarding A's experience. People only criticise you for personality traits they wish they had. He so wished he was like that and was loved as much as A is/was.
I can kinda relate to what adrienne is saying. In my experience, the guy didn't necessarily shame me or make me feel bad about myself, but when we had different opinions (especially on important values/beliefs), i would question how i viewed things and try to see it their way. I didn't fully buy into it or change my views, but i also didn't stand by my opinions firmly enough. I was too open to try and see it their way instead of accepting the fact that we simply disagreed. I think it was bc i liked them so much and wanted us to be on the same page so badly. And i think my own insecurities of not fully trusting myself contributed to it too. Working on knowing learning myself wholly so i can be confident in my convictions. Best of luck to anyone out there on the same journey! 🤗
@6:18-6:35...I have a homegirl like that. She calls me her friend, yet I experience that with her E-V-E-R-Y-T-I-M-E I'm with her. I was with her yesterday and this happened and I cried . I pray that God gives me the strength to know my worth and stand up for myself. Weather it means say something or walk away. Please pray for me if you read this. Thank you and God bless🙏🏽🤍🖤✝️
I’m so heartbroken over finding this show so late….. never saw it on tv but I have been addicted for the last 2 weeks. I have enjoyed every second of binging these ladies and hearing everything they have to share… amazing show, amazing women, amazing energy!! Cable will miss the life out of you girls, I’m sure of it. Started out watching for my favorite cheetah girl, lost my mind over remembering Jeannie from one of my oldest favorite shows “how do I look”, fell in love hard with Lonnie and have found myself in awe of Garcelle. Blessings to everyone showing love in the comments. 🤍
Don’t ever settle for anything less and don’t beg no man to treat you some kind of way if you have to beg for the BARE MINIMUM leave and don’t ignore the red flags 🚩 whatever you over look in the beginning will be the demise in your end
My learning experience, IS....WHENEVER you "HAVE" to move too far from YOURSELF, in order to BE CLOSER to someone else, that is NOT the right situation FOR YOU. When l tell you AALLL that was said, HITT HOHHME!! And yes. ADE.. We WILL BE MAGIC, FOR THE RIGHT ONE.
I know someone whose partner is treating her the way Adrienne was treated. She is an extrovert, she is bubbly, she smiles alot and her partner is constantly telling her to tone it down, to stop smiling, blah blah.....wow !!!!!
If he doesn't like you at your best, he doesn't like YOU. If he doesn't like you at your worst, He doesn't LOVE you. Ladies, you all are all the feels these days!!!!! Goosebumps!
I saw Jamie and Garcelle in a past snap and gasped, 'My !They look so Cool together...' They actually looked so Safe and full of Trust with each other. I was like why couldn't they make it a Project once and for all?? The advice Gar remembers from him should be building their life together right now. In fact,l turned Dull when she said he's like a Brother to her. I snapped,'No way girl, you don' need this one for a bro.unless he's a Brother in Christ !' May be Garcelle can shed some light on this some day... Am happy for Andrienne that the demeaning she went thr' with her Cold guy is now water under the bridge,coz now she has somebody that treats her the way she deserves to be treated. Equally true for Loni Loveyou. Am sure if Loni was also with this 'Don't Laugh' guy,she'd not be in that sweet rainbow outfit. 'Don't Laugh' 'd 've also controlled that 🤣🤣
When I was a little boy my mom took my siblings and I to the park...it was a very popular park with a lot of kids...she relaxed in the shade with her picnic blanket and watched us play...I was having so much fun with the other kids...I got a little tired, saw my mother there by herself and decided to run up to her and hang out...she then gently told me: "you know it's not good to act feminine like a girl..." This shocked me as a little boy as I quietly sat listening to her. She went on: "when you're a man you should act like a man..." And I remember just sitting there shocked and quiet...it's like she took the joy out of me and I didn't want to play anymore... I could never be my true self around her growing up ...or any of my siblings... So this conversation sort of struck a nerve...if someone doesn't appreciate you for you...they're not supposed to be in your life...I haven't seen or spoken to my mother in close to a decade... according to my siblings she does inquire about me from time to time but deep down she knows and understands that unless it's God's will, she's probably never gonna see me again.
I AM THAT WOMAN ADRIENNE!!!! this was facts most of all my relationships have been abusive and toxic and I now realize that it was MY insecurities that allowed me to tolerate bullshit behaviors...I spent 15 years going thru this..I have been alone for a year now but I realize he stole my joy..my womanhood..took away from wanting to taking care of myself...I regret so much and not knowing my worth and now I'm left to pick up the pieces of my life
My ex- brother in- law used to constantly tell my sister she laughed too much, showed too much teeth when she smiled, needed to lose weight, etc., etc., etc. She has always been an outgoing, fun, friendly person who loved to laugh. She was like that when he met her, including being what is called “ plus size”. So what was his problem? Evidently he didn’t really love her when they got married. It was just convenient for him to marry her, especially with his mother informing him of all the good things about her and how he couldn’t find a better woman than her. Even when she lost weight, he found other ways to make her feel bad about herself. They are no longer together, but it’s pretty sad when the person who claims to love you is jealous of you and tries to bring you down so that you will be just as miserable as they are. It’s just not worth it to waste your life that way.
I can relate to what Adrienne and Loni just said. I had an ex over a decade ago that took away my humor & self esteem . He put his own insecurities on me. He was controlling and emotionally abusive. I had to get therapy after that relationship and chose to stay single for a couple years and learn how to love myself again. That self love lead me to my twin flame who loves all my goofiness lol.
This topic doesn't necessarily have to be linked to romantic relationships, but all relationships we have in life. From family to friends etc. The key is to be authentic in who you are and accept the way God made you because the man upstairs makes no mistakes. He’s deliberate with His creation. The people that want you to be someone else aren’t for you. The best thing we can do is accept that and keep the party going by ourselves until God sends the people who won’t dim our shine.
even in just friendships there are individuals who do all those things. we ourselves maybe controlling at times. recognize when unsolicited judgement is being passed.
I have an ex who was determined to see the worst in me. I’m naturally an inquisitive person, so when we’d go out with friends, I’d ask a lot of probing questions just to better understand a particular point or just to get to know someone better. But as soon as my ex and I were behind closed doors, they’d be like, “You were so shady. You said so-and-so but you really meant this…” or, “Yeah, I can tell you’re crazy deep down” and I’d be like, WHERE ARE YOU COMING UP WITH THIS STUFF??! The problem was never me, but I didn’t fully understand this until a while after we’d broken up.
I see where the woman was going but if you allow yourself to get help/ therapy, you'll quickly turn it around and say "I allowed my ex to...". When that happens, you take the power back, know that you're in control and then ask, now what? (i.e. Adrienne's point; what did you learn from it?).
I have an ex who was determined to see the worst in me. I’m naturally an inquisitive person, so when we’d go out with friends, I’d ask a lot of probing questions just to better understand a particular point or just to get to know someone a little deeper. But as soon as my ex and I were behind closed doors, they’d be like, “You were so shady. You said so-and-so but you really meant this…” or, “Yeah, I can tell you’re ape crazy deep down” and I’d be like, WHERE ARE YOU COMING UP WITH THIS STUFF??! A lot of things they assumed about me I could never even fathom to think or act on. I had a heart of gold and still do! How do you profess love to somebody, but speak negativity over their heart and spirit? The problem wasn’t me!
Not even just right away but just in general! I learned that too. Until y’all have been together for 5-10 years in a healthy relationship and he shares as well. Otherwise just learn your lessons in private. No need to keep rehashing the past anyway.
Isn't he like a forever bachelor? Looks like the kinda guy that enjoys being with a different woman every few months. They've known each other for so long. I think there is something she knows about him that makes her feel like "we're not even going to go there" lol.
Me too. Til this day I don’t understand why they never got together. But it’s good to see them still be close friends 20 plus years later. I love their bond/ friendship
People like that are miserable and literally envious of your joy, your light and ability to show love and connect with others. So they try to justify their negativity and make their insecurities your insecurities too
This show deserves to stay on. It's REAL over here most times. Fun and relatable
Shut up
@Mertella Don't you think they should have a RUclips channel?
@@MaShibe they really should!!
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There is NO other show like this on air. I really wish they would of kept the show going! It is like having conversations with your friends and getting real raw advice. These women are wise and have a lot of emotional intelligence. I love the show because they can talk about serious things but also laugh about it. Not only are they good commenters they’re also diverse so we get to hear from everyone’s view point. There’s nothing fake about this show. It’s sucks to see it go 😢 bring it back!
I agreed
I completely agree, it's sad this is going to end. So much wisdom from their heart. God bless them.
*Mariah Mendoza* So true.
Very much like Garcelle, I'm not gonna share my past with a partner. Especially anything guilt related that a person might want to use against me; that's for me to work through in therapy.
Don’t end this show!!! Nobody wants it to end. Take it to Hulu. We need itttt
I loved Adrienne's last point about the ex that criticized everything she did. I loved Loni's addition to it too. To Loni's point, not only was the ex being controlling, they were also projecting. They were projecting all of the insecurities they felt within themselves onto their partner. I feel like the phrase "the right person" is just someone who's not only ready to love you correctly, but they are ready to truly love themselves correctly and treat you the way that they would want to be treated.
Why do I think it was Lenny. She said he judged for drinking because he didn’t drink alcohol
Jamie really care about Garcelle and that’s so beautiful. I just love the bond they have. Even on the Jamie Foxx show you could obviously tell they had great chemistry even beyond the role.
Yes, I always said that Jamie and Fancy will make a great couple 😉
I've definitely been told "Stop laughing" You laugh too much" " Why are you even smiling? " and those lines would make my heart sink, but it's really because they don't want to see me happy.. life is too short not to be happy or atleast to try to be
I’ve been told, stop laughing so much, people won’t take me seriously 😐 but this is who I am.
@@kathreeauguste9391 don't ever stop laughing, I think it's beautiful & it could be contagious! You could spread joy by laughing
@@kathreeauguste9391 don't stop being yourself(:
I've been told "Can you change your laugh" and I told her "No" I laughed and walked away .
@@vickiechavez8389 change it? People are ridiculous! It's good you laughed again😂
At first when my marriage ended I felt defeated like I was a failure. But now I'm grateful for the experience cause it taught me how to quickly see the red flags and to have better discernment in order to protect my heart. And I know some day I will find somebody real
My brother went through the same thing when he was going through his divorce. He's been with his girlfriend for about 8 months now, and she's crazy about him (& vice versa). If I ever saw his ex again, I don't know if I'd go off on her because of the hell that she put him through (especially while they were getting divorced), or if I'd thank her for kicking him out because it turned out to be the best thing that she could've done for him
Same!
YES! My first marriage taught me sooo much. I was like you where at first, I felt like a failure for leaving but now, I’m so grateful I made that gut-wrenching decision before we had any children. The red flags were neon signs! They weren’t even red anymore by the time I filed for the divorce.
I’ve met an amazing man since that experience but now I have to unlearn all the toxic and controlling things my ex used to do that started to become normal for me. This new man literally loves and appreciates the things my ex didn’t even like about me. It’s been such an eye opening experience!!!
You love, you speak, you have faith, you believe, your trust, you feel, all from your heart!
You love God from your heart! And you need your heart to see God. So don’t allow anybody to take or taint your heart.
@@ellandecampbell6279 Steve Harvey says sometimes the breakup is a blessing.
To that woman ....Her Ex ruined her is far far to familiar story for ladies.
But the message in that lie he ruined you, is you have to know who you really are, and no one can ruin you without permission. When you don't know how incredible you are and that you can't be changed by anyone, a loser will step in and try. Unconditional self Love care is a pre requisite to relationship. Gotta know your Truth that no one can make you wobble shake, or doubt yourself ever. No one is worth suffering over, or pulling you away from your own joy, love, peace. You always first.
Period.
Adrienne sounds sick. Feel better hun!
I said the same thing. We’re almost there. Shows almost over and she can have time to rest
I think this is
An old episode, I believe they’ve already recorded all episodes.
@@neeshespieces these are pre-recorded
@@britbritnicole thanks guys for letting me know they’re pre recorded. 😁Who knows how early in advance these were shot.
Right when I first watched this live I was like is she ok like her voice was raspier than usual😕
I love these relationship topics. Loni is right, when you're young you don't know. I also felt like Adrienne in a past relationship where I gradually became a different person just to appease my ex's dark personality smh. Now that I'm in my late 30's, I learned to love myself & embrace every goofy, giddy, and 'always happy' aspect of Me ☺️
It is Night and Day in Contrast when someone is really into you, serious about a relationship, and wants to please and love you long term. You won't have to question, you will know, and it feels stable, you feel understood, and peaceful.
I went through this when I was younger. It wasn’t until I learned who I was and stood firm in it that I stopped allowing people to take my power.
I agree with Adrienne I’m naturally a bubbly person as well and loves to be goofy and yes it takes the right person to appreciate and admire that in a person
It is so funny watching the real for years and we have an in that Ade is probably talking about Lennie . Glad she's in a loving marriage now, makes me hopeful
Definitely
Yuppp!! He was the same one that didn’t like the PDA and would tell her stuff is corny
right!!! really didn’t appreciate how his opinions also reflected on adrienne‘s opinions on the real a few years back
@@apolloangel4754 and now she's the one always telling people stuff is corny😂
Wait! Loni's one suit story was hilarious! 🤣
When I first heard Garcelle was going to be on the show, I didn’t think she was a good fit. But she is such a breath of fresh air, I love her viewpoint. I was not always a fan of the Real maybe because I was at work and couldn’t watch it. But now watching these clips on RUclips has made me appreciate this platform. Although it will be missed I pray that God will lead all these women to beautiful new beginnings 🙏🏽
Adrienne's story about her ex made me cringe. I'm a very nerdy person and I geek out over superheroes and Harry Potter and other nerdy things. I can get very animated and excited talking about my interests. I work in a male dominated industry and I always notice how there are some men in my office whose faces just light up whenever I get passionate talking about my interests, and then there are the other guys who look at me like I'm an idiot or I'm pathetic when I get that way. I will never understand it. Seeing someone be happy to talk about something that makes them happy would only ever put a smile on my face. I made a vow to myself a long time ago to marry a man who finds my personality and my quirks to be endearing instead of a burden to him!! There will be someone who just GETS YOU and is FOR YOU. Don't settle for anything less.
I feel so sad for young Adrienne. She lost out on a lot of opportunities because of Lenny. And had to walk on eggshells.
Dating her for 8 years with no commitment. She didn't deserve that.
Adrienne you are the sweetest person. I want to hug you.
That ex was extremely jealous of you. I'm sure he is somewhere telling his current partner that they are wack. Some people don't appreciate what they have.
Any person who constantly throws digs and makes you feel like you are not enough so you toil for their validation is a manipulative controlng and abusive person.
@@dancinginthepurplereign4126 that's so sweet of you wanting to hug Adrian she does come off like a sweetheart though someone who used to bend over backwards to please other people but she seemed happy with her current husband
It's sad how he treated her. He was older and way more experienced -divorced with kids and for a girl in her 20s Adrienne was way in over her head being with that man. These large age gap relationships where the one partner is still young are usually riddled with problems such as control, the younger partner overly wanting to appease the older one and desperately trying to prove they're mature. The older partner will always take advantage of that.
Most importantly he probably didn't love himself and therefore needed to put her down to have the illusion of superiority
Damn, Adrienne is really preaching lately.
My ex used to tell me to stop smiling at people so much 🤣 thank god I left that miserable soul
The way I love this show! Thanks for the timely advice big sisters❤. I feel more encouraged to be myself and the right be people will accept me as I am.
I wish there was a show like this on TV when I was a teenager; it would have made such a difference in my life and prevented so many mistakes. I'm 59 now and honestly am not interested in starting a relationship at this point in my life. I'm tired of all of the games; it's easier being single.
Girl, your better days are yet to come. Your latter days could be better than your former ones IF you allow it. Speak a word over yourself. Encourage yourself. You’re not too old, and it’s not too late. Who knows…you may be that person God will use to be a divine example to others who feel like too much time has past to get what they desire. You’re time is only up when you’re dead! Are you dead yet? Then keep living! Better days are coming. Start preparing by changing the way you think. A changed mind changes the paradigm of possibilities.
Wasn't Oprah on?
Oprah’s topics we’re not really for teenagers and young adults🤣
@@kpwg1107 they were topics like this tho. Dating mistakes and such...
Adrienne’s ex was a jerk and I’m so glad she did not marry him
I’m so glad that I learned how to be comfortable in my skin and never ever felt like I needed approval of anyone. I’ve always been happy with me. A man could never make me question if who I am and how I am are how I should be. The audacity.
I relate to Adrienne sooo much here!! I’m the same way and I’ve dated people That have made me feel like I’m too much.
Omg I can relate to
Adrienne!! I’m naturally bubbly myself & I’m also a Scorpio born on 11/11 just putting that in there lol. And my ex would always call me fake for being my bubbly self with others! I use to cry about it! But now I’m like ima be me & who ever I date will love me for my bubbly side 😊😊😊🙏🏽
From my past relationships I learned to look at the Red flags more better and won't share everything ❤️🤗🙌🏾
Lenny was such a lame. I’m so happy for Adrienne, she & Isreal seem to fit so well ❤️
If he makes you lose your family, lose your friends, lose your confidence, lose your self-esteem or lose your happiness, then you truly need to lose him.
The way I needed to hear this... i never want you guys to stop there is so much I have learnt from you since season 1
All facts!!! Your past experiences can indeed make you feel small or inferior but as A said "what did you learn?" That is the part to stay focused on.👏👏👏
I just started watching the real, and I hate that it’s now ending. I’m mad I didn’t give it a chance sooner. I hope these ladies continue to work together on another project!!
I like how Adrienne's voice sounds in this video.
I'm here for all of Adrienne's commentary. I love it. Now I pay attention to those red flags. I will 👻 in a heart beat.
powerful words from garcelle ❤
I didn't even watch it all the way through yet.. but i use to think like this.. i had an ex that ruined a lot of things for me.. but then i realized what was going on with me internally that i allowed certain behaviors.. or being so understanding when i should have left. Also it is a learning experience as well and a beautiful one.. walking away is hard but powerful because sometimes that person desperately needs help to fix themselves and you walking away could give them that push maybe.. unless they are those types that jump from person to person and learn absolutely nothing and constantly repeat what they refuse to repair within themselves or past issues.. but all and all honestly.. i use to think this way about my ex.. because my ex messed me up internally alittle but i learned a lot and honestly walking away and ending things empowered me to find me again.. fall back in love with me.. work out.. travel.. try new things.. somehow weirdly i was finding myself again.. and i also had my flaws as well.. but it gave me insight on the things i did wrong and the crazy stuff they did.. and it gave me an example of what i don't want in my life at all.. i wanted accountability but some people's perception are tainted.. but every ex taught me something.. and i was very grateful for lessons some taught me hellll no never again.. or maybe we were better off as friends.. or just powerful lessons like the mistakes they made or mistakes i made.. I've learned not every break up has to be tragic.. it can be very beautiful and a blessing in disguise 😉
BEST DAYTIME TALK SHOW!!! I feel the same way. Their RUclips channel would soar high.
That sounds like envy, regarding A's experience. People only criticise you for personality traits they wish they had. He so wished he was like that and was loved as much as A is/was.
I can kinda relate to what adrienne is saying. In my experience, the guy didn't necessarily shame me or make me feel bad about myself, but when we had different opinions (especially on important values/beliefs), i would question how i viewed things and try to see it their way. I didn't fully buy into it or change my views, but i also didn't stand by my opinions firmly enough. I was too open to try and see it their way instead of accepting the fact that we simply disagreed. I think it was bc i liked them so much and wanted us to be on the same page so badly. And i think my own insecurities of not fully trusting myself contributed to it too. Working on knowing learning myself wholly so i can be confident in my convictions. Best of luck to anyone out there on the same journey! 🤗
Thank you for sharing Adrienne, Loni, Garcelle
Why is this ending 😭 y’all are so needed!
Garcelle’s “oh” took me OWT! 🤣
I can relate. Therapy helps. Yes she was in my brain with that statement.
The NY came out when Adrienne said “I peep everything” lol
Wow!...such an important and meaningful conversation right there. Going to miss The Real.💛
This was amazing. True talk 👏🏾
@6:18-6:35...I have a homegirl like that. She calls me her friend, yet I experience that with her E-V-E-R-Y-T-I-M-E I'm with her. I was with her yesterday and this happened and I cried . I pray that God gives me the strength to know my worth and stand up for myself.
Weather it means say something or walk away.
Please pray for me if you read this. Thank you and God bless🙏🏽🤍🖤✝️
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What would happen if you stop being her friend. Will there be repercussions will she turn against you and try to make your life miserable
@@2sense110 No she won't. I actually mentioned it to her and she has taken action to be better.
My sisters I’m going to miss this so much 😭
This was good!!!!
Preach!!! This is why we need this SHOW! 🙏
I’m so heartbroken over finding this show so late….. never saw it on tv but I have been addicted for the last 2 weeks. I have enjoyed every second of binging these ladies and hearing everything they have to share… amazing show, amazing women, amazing energy!! Cable will miss the life out of you girls, I’m sure of it. Started out watching for my favorite cheetah girl, lost my mind over remembering Jeannie from one of my oldest favorite shows “how do I look”, fell in love hard with Lonnie and have found myself in awe of Garcelle. Blessings to everyone showing love in the comments. 🤍
BRING BACK THE REAL !
Don't let anyone dim your star keep shining 💥💥💥
Don’t ever settle for anything less and don’t beg no man to treat you some kind of way if you have to beg for the BARE MINIMUM leave and don’t ignore the red flags 🚩 whatever you over look in the beginning will be the demise in your end
My learning experience, IS....WHENEVER you "HAVE" to move too far from YOURSELF, in order to BE CLOSER to someone else, that is NOT the right situation FOR YOU.
When l tell you AALLL that was said, HITT HOHHME!!
And yes. ADE..
We WILL BE MAGIC, FOR THE RIGHT ONE.
I know someone whose partner is treating her the way Adrienne was treated. She is an extrovert, she is bubbly, she smiles alot and her partner is constantly telling her to tone it down, to stop smiling, blah blah.....wow !!!!!
If he doesn't like you at your best, he doesn't like YOU. If he doesn't like you at your worst, He doesn't LOVE you. Ladies, you all are all the feels these days!!!!! Goosebumps!
Love the realness 😊
I learn to love myself
Preach Adrienne
Great conversations
I’m gonna miss you ladies 😭😭 so REAL
This show deserves a couple more seasons
I saw Jamie and Garcelle in a past snap and gasped,
'My !They look so Cool together...'
They actually looked so Safe and full of Trust with each other.
I was like why couldn't they make it a Project once and for all??
The advice Gar remembers from him should be building their life together right now.
In fact,l turned Dull when she said he's like a Brother to her.
I snapped,'No way girl,
you don' need this one for a bro.unless he's a Brother in Christ !'
May be Garcelle can shed some light on this some day...
Am happy for Andrienne that the demeaning she went thr' with her Cold guy is now water under the bridge,coz now she has somebody that treats her the way she deserves to be treated.
Equally true for Loni Loveyou.
Am sure if Loni was also with this 'Don't Laugh' guy,she'd not be in that sweet rainbow outfit.
'Don't Laugh' 'd 've also controlled that 🤣🤣
Yes Garcelle preach
When I was a little boy my mom took my siblings and I to the park...it was a very popular park with a lot of kids...she relaxed in the shade with her picnic blanket and watched us play...I was having so much fun with the other kids...I got a little tired, saw my mother there by herself and decided to run up to her and hang out...she then gently told me: "you know it's not good to act feminine like a girl..." This shocked me as a little boy as I quietly sat listening to her. She went on: "when you're a man you should act like a man..." And I remember just sitting there shocked and quiet...it's like she took the joy out of me and I didn't want to play anymore... I could never be my true self around her growing up ...or any of my siblings... So this conversation sort of struck a nerve...if someone doesn't appreciate you for you...they're not supposed to be in your life...I haven't seen or spoken to my mother in close to a decade... according to my siblings she does inquire about me from time to time but deep down she knows and understands that unless it's God's will, she's probably never gonna see me again.
"There's someone outthere who's looking for exacly you"
I AM THAT WOMAN ADRIENNE!!!! this was facts most of all my relationships have been abusive and toxic and I now realize that it was MY insecurities that allowed me to tolerate bullshit behaviors...I spent 15 years going thru this..I have been alone for a year now but I realize he stole my joy..my womanhood..took away from wanting to taking care of myself...I regret so much and not knowing my worth and now I'm left to pick up the pieces of my life
My ex- brother in- law used to constantly tell my sister she laughed too much, showed too much teeth when she smiled, needed to lose weight, etc., etc., etc. She has always been an outgoing, fun, friendly person who loved to laugh. She was like that when he met her, including being what is called “ plus size”. So what was his problem? Evidently he didn’t really love her when they got married. It was just convenient for him to marry her, especially with his mother informing him of all the good things about her and how he couldn’t find a better woman than her. Even when she lost weight, he found other ways to make her feel bad about herself. They are no longer together, but it’s pretty sad when the person who claims to love you is jealous of you and tries to bring you down so that you will be just as miserable as they are. It’s just not worth it to waste your life that way.
I can relate to what Adrienne and Loni just said. I had an ex over a decade ago that took away my humor & self esteem . He put his own insecurities on me. He was controlling and emotionally abusive. I had to get therapy after that relationship and chose to stay single for a couple years and learn how to love myself again. That self love lead me to my twin flame who loves all my goofiness lol.
Omg I love Garcelle
This topic doesn't necessarily have to be linked to romantic relationships, but all relationships we have in life. From family to friends etc. The key is to be authentic in who you are and accept the way God made you because the man upstairs makes no mistakes. He’s deliberate with His creation.
The people that want you to be someone else aren’t for you. The best thing we can do is accept that and keep the party going by ourselves until God sends the people who won’t dim our shine.
I gave the same advice Jamie gave to my 24 year old brother when I was 15. He disagreed I kinda still agree with it.
even in just friendships there are individuals who do all those things. we ourselves maybe controlling at times. recognize when unsolicited judgement is being passed.
Loni always goes of tangent🤣
Love this conversation ❤️ !
Garcelle speaking facts. Like yes things have been used against me and thrown it up in my face when it was convenient for them.
I’ll miss these ladies on THIS show ❤
Exactly what Andrienne
Gems 🙏🏾
Yessss I completely relate to Adrienne and Garcelle experiences 😖😭 but I see now they were insecure as men and we as women own our confidence
Loni and Garcelle were talking about a whole different topic Adrianne question was something else lol but all Love ladies
I agree with Garcelle
I have an ex who was determined to see the worst in me. I’m naturally an inquisitive person, so when we’d go out with friends, I’d ask a lot of probing questions just to better understand a particular point or just to get to know someone better. But as soon as my ex and I were behind closed doors, they’d be like, “You were so shady. You said so-and-so but you really meant this…” or, “Yeah, I can tell you’re crazy deep down” and I’d be like, WHERE ARE YOU COMING UP WITH THIS STUFF??! The problem was never me, but I didn’t fully understand this until a while after we’d broken up.
I'm soo with Garcell I will not share my past so soon
Adrienne u look stunning that blue is very nice on you 💙
Love the show can’t believe they r done
Adrienne 💯
I can't deal with Loni. 😂🤣😂🤣
I literally passed out.
I see where the woman was going but if you allow yourself to get help/ therapy, you'll quickly turn it around and say "I allowed my ex to...". When that happens, you take the power back, know that you're in control and then ask, now what? (i.e. Adrienne's point; what did you learn from it?).
These ladies look great! I loved this topic we can all relate.
not aww .. this is y ppl need to deal with their trauma & heal from their childhood wounds
It is called a duby you roller set it then wrap it the rollers makes it stay bouncy
I have an ex who was determined to see the worst in me. I’m naturally an inquisitive person, so when we’d go out with friends, I’d ask a lot of probing questions just to better understand a particular point or just to get to know someone a little deeper. But as soon as my ex and I were behind closed doors, they’d be like, “You were so shady. You said so-and-so but you really meant this…” or, “Yeah, I can tell you’re ape crazy deep down” and I’d be like, WHERE ARE YOU COMING UP WITH THIS STUFF??! A lot of things they assumed about me I could never even fathom to think or act on. I had a heart of gold and still do! How do you profess love to somebody, but speak negativity over their heart and spirit? The problem wasn’t me!
Aww me and Adrienne sick rn hope u feel better ❤️🩹
Not even just right away but just in general! I learned that too. Until y’all have been together for 5-10 years in a healthy relationship and he shares as well. Otherwise just learn your lessons in private. No need to keep rehashing the past anyway.
I think Jamie Foxx & Garcelle would be so good together. Their personalities just click to me & the chemistry is obvious.
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Isn't he like a forever bachelor? Looks like the kinda guy that enjoys being with a different woman every few months. They've known each other for so long. I think there is something she knows about him that makes her feel like "we're not even going to go there" lol.
@@omphilemoerane2569 that's true now that I think about it. Lol she said they had chemistry but were always with someone.
Me too. Til this day I don’t understand why they never got together. But it’s good to see them still be close friends 20 plus years later. I love their bond/ friendship
Ladies, always remember love is not torture. You get to have love without the mess.
People like that are miserable and literally envious of your joy, your light and ability to show love and connect with others. So they try to justify their negativity and make their insecurities your insecurities too