As always, thank you for watching. Get 1 free week and 25% off a premium membership to this video's sponsor, Blinkist: www.blinkist.com/pursuitofwonder
Traditionally, we have been taught since the beginning of time that being happy is the ultimate goal. But rather, the goal is to achieve a state of life where happiness, sorrow, joy, grief, comfort, misery all come together, simultaneously, to paint a bigger picture that thrives on both the highs and the lows... A picture where shadows are admired as much as highlights.
Turning your life into a piece of art is a great way to never feel like yourself, ever. The fact that the story of your life could be considered a beautiful piece of art should only emerge from the authencity of the way you lived it, and not from your efforts trying to turn it into one.
I know this is about to be a banger… I’ve always wondered why I was addicted to the feeling of being sad and miserable all the time. I already know this video is gonna help me understand
@Моriah Elizabeth 🅥 Are you in this video? Is it why you are promoting it? But if so, let me tell you that you won't find that kind of people here, here are more serious and miserable people or saddist or masochist or someone like that.
Those who don't learn to be sad, will eventually unlearn to be happy. Embrace your depressive thoughts and give them air every now and then so that they don't break free by themselves and bite you.
Over the years I have observed why some sad or depressed people refuse to overcome their situation despite being helped. Its like they start getting a little too comfortable in that smol sad bubble of theirs. And i dont blame them. Even I have felt the same way . " sadness and grief ,after a period of time become addicting"
Maybe I'm a dark person, but i find so much beauty in this level of melancholy. I want to feel sadness, i want to feel sorrow. It's a teacher, and a looking glass into what it really means to feel joy. I'm not addicted to sadness, It is in fact the opposite. I seek out joy. At my core i am a happy person, this is why i make myself feel deeply, only to remind myself that happiness is earned. Happiness is a perspective and such i seek to remind myself of what i have.
Sadness leads to change and the more we ignore mundane, almost depressing disciplines for the sake of happiness, the more we take happiness for granted and the cost for that is anxiety. I'm just using your comment to bounce ideas or talk out of my ass, so I can brainstorm why I'm so depressed and anxious.. I guess anxiety also comes from having a lot that you care about that you're afraid of losing, or that you don't feel you're taking care of as well as you should. I care deeply for my family and especially my two young girls(more than anything), but I have so much anxiety about my health and lack of discipline, and situation, weaknesses in general that it makes me feel like I'm trapped and it's all hopeless and I've already failed, but I know I can't give up at the same time, so I try, but I hate my self for falling short. Which it's ironic that I now have the most special thing in my life ever and I feel more negative emotions than ever. It's EXTRA frustrating that despite my so called, "free will" I continue to make dumb decisions that make things worse(relapses, watching RUclips to escape, when I could use my time more effectively). Sorry for laying thing on your comment section, just venting. Also, please excuse my overuse of the word "and" lol.
Since I already typed this much about my self, I may as well add, most of my meaning comes from having two daughters that I love and feeling responsible for their life, but outside of that, everything feels pointless(I know, cliche). I don't know if God exists, but I don't believe he does and if not, I just feel very depressed, knowing that this is it and also makes it very hard to find spirituality or anything to believe in and I'm sure many struggle with this, but I obsess over it. I always feel unmotivated and afraid I'm gonna die anytime(I'm only 32...). I decided my purpose was to face the truth, no matter what it was and I started learning a lot of philosophical and psychological things on hopes that it would fulfill me or lead me to some kind of answer of what I should do, but ultimately the truth, philosophy, and psychology have only led me into deeper pits of anguish, etc. I just try to be a loving person to my family and when it comes to my girls, I worry that all I did was make choices that led to two other people who will suffer life and then die and the way things currently are in society makes it especially foreboding. I sound like i pity the hell out of my self, probably. But my thought I'm response to thinking I pity self, is more guilt and feeling like a fool. Sorry, I'll stfu now. I sound like a little baby or something, idk. Take care.
43 seconds into the video and I've started wondering how the hell can someone write something so dark with such poetic ease. You never fail to surprise me.
Thnx for uploading it- I've always felt like being ungrateful for my desire of melancholy- it's way too much to tolerate, it's hard to be depressed, yet at least it feels real- happiness now just don't even feel real, it seems like I'm deceiving myself
The greater the sadness, the greater the desire for happiness. Sadness, in this sense, is an essential function of hunger and desire for happiness. Sadness, then, should not be denied nor be shaken off when we experience them, but should be accepted and appreciated as a natural process of life that comes for an essential purpose: to initiate and drive us to make changes, to push us to pursue happiness and meaning, to remind us that we need to do better, to give as a sense of dissatisfaction to make us aware of what matters in our life. All the sadness and happiness we experience are the necessary puzzle pieces that complete the picture of the life we will look back on someday and say, "I have lived a wonderful life."
So you rather to not have something to need it and then you can appreciate it????? Humans are natural chasers...yall be having the perfect relationship and mess it up because yall like toxicity and misery. I swear I hate it here
Ok hear me out, while at some time in my life I was in a state such as the one described in the video I am now in a state of neutral or happy most of the time with some faint strokes of sadness in between. Gratitude really does wonders, I feel at peace when I sense that a lot of parts in my life are great and it doesn’t matter that it will all come to an end eventually at the very least I had a chance to experience such wonderful moments in my life. I live in state of making sure I realize and truly engulf the amazing things I have NOW and how I need to appreciate them as they are right now. Does that hinder growth? I don’t believe so. I look back and realize that what I did then was what I deemed to be the best choice with that time’s knowledge and available options, I go forward and do things better acknowledging that they are only better because I improved upon from my past learning experiences NOT my past “failures”. It’s hard to explain but hopefully that was clear.
@@ShiraShyne yeah, ummmm completely hollow (not sad but like everything is so unbelievably meaningless I did nothing because it will be nothing eventually) I guess. Antisocial, locked myself away from everyone in a room only to go out to eat or sometimes not even that. Feeling lost although I realized I had a lot of potential there was no drive to do anything. Idk how I got out of it but a healthy mindset and habits are somewhere to start I guess? After that gratitude towards the smallest things. Socializing. Basically the opposite of what I found myself in because I realized that’s not the life I want to have.
This is my first video I’ve watch on their channel although I agree you can learn alot do things from being sad and can make a lot of beautiful things such as songs and poetry. However I don’t agree to promote and say that living in a sad state is just a theory about how people can live . Nobody can be happy all the time but to make claims saying being sad all the time can basically benefit you is just weird to me. They have so many dark comments mentioning su!c!de, self harm and how they love it. It’s just seem all so satanic to me .
Why I am reading so much meaningful and diverse thoughts throughout the comments. All the good people with nice heart and proactive brain who enjoys their suffering and sadness and also justifying with tremendous wisdom about their melancholy for the saddened world is really appreciable.I think all the philosophers who had gone through lot of chronic mental pain to unlearn what they really understood about this reality but could not do that and now most of the people are also craving for the same that’s why I think sometime that ‘ignorance is a bliss’ because knowing too much about the reality would end up in a pain like a hell.
Hi Pursuit of Wonder. I guess no one has ever told you this but your videos are very helpful in learning english as well. I have been listening to you for some years now and I gotta admit that your way of presenting things is very academic and your style can be used to score quite high in English tests like TOEFL. Thank you for existing.
As a university student studying Sociology, they are right. A society cannot function without the sense of dissatisfaction and struggle. It's how we evolve as human beings. It's how we become stronger.
I keep hearing the phrase, "Stress kills." However, I know for a fact that stress does NOT kill...it's not knowing how to deal with stress which kills. Having strees, but knowing how to deal with it actually makes you live longer. It's those people whom WORRY about what's stressing them whom die early. That's, basically, what this whole video is about. People are SEEKING different ways to bring some sort of stress onto themselves; because, a life without stress is a boring life. When people feel bored, they attempt to bring sadness, difficulty and/or misery into their lives; all in an attempt to conquer it. Those whom can NOT conquer their stress end up dying early and unexpectedly. However, those whom DO conquer their stress are the ones whom are able to say, "Tell them I've had a wonderful life." FUN NOT: There's a reason why there are so many "drama queens" in this world. Because, there are SO MANY people these days living a life which is too good, or too easy. So, they make trouble for themselves or others in a way to bring forth stress as a form of entertainment. Stress CAN be a good thing; but, bringing it on yourself or others just for fun can easily be a terrible thing.
have to slightly disagree with the interpretation that the presence of chronic stress can influence the timing of your death by speeding up the dial via how it affects your neurochemistry in the body, but have to wholeheartedly agree that stress can be great. One can also learn in what activities to seek stress. For example, it is stressful to rock climb, learn to drive a car, to be in a new country. In my ideal future, we could determine the source of our stressors.
Happiness and contentment are totally different. Happiness is fleeting. It is not something that can be held onto. It is created often by a set of experiences that can not be forced. Contentment is a long-term sense of well-being. It is something that can be influenced by our decisions. Misery is different to both. It can be fleeting or long-term. It can be out of our control, but is often the result of conscious decisions. I have poor health due to a serious bout of viral cardiomyopathy. It affects my daily life negatively. I could allow it to dominate my life. However, I have chosen to accept my limitations. I make the most of what I can do and do not focus upon what I can not do. I retired early in order to make the most of my years, and, to my surprise, I have been retired longer than I expected. My income is not as great as it might have been, but I live within its limitations. I have a small house, a small second-hand car. I do not go on holiday. I do not have meals out. Most importantly, though, I choose to accept these limitations, to be content with them. Certainly, I have times of misery, but I refuse to let it dominate. I also have times of great happiness, but I accept that it will not last. I focus upon what I have rather than what I have not. Consequently, my life is good. It is good because I have decided it is good. I choose to be contented. Perhaps my attitude has been coloured by the fact that I was given only 48 hours to live following the diagnosis of cardiomyopathy. Looking at Death close-up is a marvellous way to focus the mind. However, it is largely the result of my upbringing. I did not wallow in misery or self-pity because I knew that my parents were coping the best that they could with a very limited income. I realised early on that happiness was here today, gone tomorrow. I did not long for the latest, for the biggest, or for the best because I knew it would not happen. I accepted what I had and was content. Choosing contentment is the key to a good life.
Well, It's often been said that without sadness and suffering we could never appreciate happiness and joy. If everything was good all the time we wouldn't appreciate it. It is because of great sadness and pain that we truly appreciate when things get better and savor every moment, because things wont stay better. We will feel much more pain and sadness again and maybe that's what it means to be alive to be human. We'd have no real desire to better ourselves without sadness, pain, trials and tribulation, failure and loneliness. Those are the things that drive us to do better, To better ourselves physically and mentally, to be productive and keep trying when we fail, We can't truly appreciate one without the other.
At 8:50 Ive never seen a more accurate quote of what I feel then what Nietzsche said right there. It’s calming to think that a man and many others before me went through what I’m going through now, truly a man ahead of his time.
I am always more attracted to the darker side, especially when I was younger, because it's more comforting. Happiness in my life lasted not so long and I'm often in a state where I seek peacefulness, not happiness, which I describe as a state of excitement. But peacefulness is also tricky for me because I have a lot of goals I want to achieve (career, family, travel, etc.) and wanting to achieve all of this makes it a struggle, a long journey of mixed emotions. So I'm glad I watched this video, it really helps understand all feelings and accept them, even enjoy them. ♡
the last 5 months have been the best in my life, after 4-5 years of not knowing what to do, feeling unmotivated and overall sad and depressed, i started to talk my problem whit family and friends and after that i have been way better than never, but somehow even now i that have found motivation to start doing my stuff and getting my life to somewhere, i feel hollow sometimes, i want to cry and even after an amazing day when i lay in bed i feel terrible, its like my mind is obsesed whit feeling bad
These pieces are incredibly well done in every way. The ideas, the writing, the narration and images, they come together in a truly masterful way. Thank you so much.
We put too many requirements to be happy, you have to have more money to be happy, if only I have a better job I would be happy, if only this and that, if you are not happy right now, you wouldn't happy either in the future, for me, just start the day with a coffee and breathe the fresh air in the morning is enough to make me happy
It’s all like fishing. Sitting in the sun, weathering the storms, meeting ppl while fishing, traveling to and from the fishing spots, buying and maintaining gear… it’s quite a journey and process. And you do it all so that you can experience a brief moment of joy when you catch a fish… and then let it go and start over. Happiness is meant to be small bubbles in our journey that burst once we’ve landed on them. It’s what propels us forward and keeps us from becoming stagnant. We keep fishing.
I've come across this reflection sometimes when interacting with the goth community. It really is a beautiful philosophy. I wish more people understood it. I have a deep appreciation for melancholy and loneliness when it comes. I wouldn't say I love all my emotions, but at least I like more than one or two of them.
Wow I’m just half way through the video but just wanted to say how peaceful it is to take in the scenario of passing on and my last moments being that “ tell them I’ve had a wonderful life” Being in a phase of depression has been like living within an Abyss but the insights and perspectives in this video are enlightening. Thank you😌
To be happy, is to understand that not all days will be good. Some will be bad, some even terrible, but those bad and terrible days come together to make up what would be an amazing or close to perfect day. Without the sadness and dissatisfaction, there is no happiness and satisfaction. How would we as people be able to perceive joy or sorrow if without the other. I believe that in some sense, the thing, the idea that makes us the most happy, is the fact that we can experience happiness, sadness, depression, anxiety, joy, love, hate, etc and still be able to live on despite how uncomfortable some of those emotions or even ideas of make us. The true bliss we experience doesn’t derive from perfection at all. It derives from the idea that one day sadness can be all that I feel, and the next could be overwhelmingly happy.
Man, there's very few channels and videos that really makes me think about life and inspires me, but your channel is definitely one of them. Thank you very much!!!
A person whose list so precisely picked and this channel is one among their contents, then I would like to know about other channels on your list. I believe they will be thought provoking and most of us likeminded fill find them amusing. Thank you.
@@shivaagrawal6565 Sorry for taking quite a few days to answer, but thank you for your words. Some channels that are thought provoking and bring some interesting view and topics in my opinion are: ruclips.net/user/LikeStoriesofOld ruclips.net/user/theschooloflifetv ruclips.net/user/Einzelg%C3%A4nger And there's one that is for weird and fun thoughts experiments, but it's one of the best channels in youtube, every video is a masterpiece: ruclips.net/user/inanutshell Hope you have an amazing week and the channels can help you in some way! 😁
I think it’s important to make a distinction between purposeful creativity(or finding a solution to a problem) and purposeless creativity(a flow state of contentment that arises when satisfaction with what is feeds on itself)
Without the darkness I would never grow, recently I've been seen as a manchild by some family members and this has inspired me to work harder on my RUclips channel, finding a career, gym, stepping out my comfort zone, etc… Also I too make my best art when I'm depressed, this manchild situation resulted in me writing a fictional story and making a short film for that story which is my video "Doomer Hates Himself" if I didn't have this darkness and only had light I wouldn't grow at all and I wouldn't be creative
Keep on moving friend. In time I hope you realize that the idea of some referring to you as a manchild may not be entirely based on your behavior, but in their reaction. They speak to an inner discomfort. You can still find fun and be creative. We are all children at the end of the day. Trying to make sense of it all
@@Tom_Fuckery Exactly, I've been told in a book from behavour expert to see people as facts as opposed to anything else. They will do what they do because of their motivations and past experiences, shaped from early childhood into what they are today. If you can see their point of view you can put a filter on what they are saying and then you can reflect if there is any truth behind what they are saying from your point of view.
I’m not naive enough to think I was the only one who held this view, but I’ve been looking for what this feeling is about for a long long time. Thanks for posting this
Being a visual artist I can very much understanding, once lived in LA driven by my ego, grandiosity, and envy of peers I desired greatly to be an artist yet I was left confused with all the professions, styles and work and left nihilistic to wonder why art my purpose and professional doesn’t make me happy what is happiness and is there any. I realizes mastery of a craft and overcoming emotions are two different practices that we should focus on. And even you abandon art you with out effort come back to it some how. Your ego will fill images of professions that would fill your head with attention and what skill and this often comes from that dissatisfaction. Yet the state of flow and commitment to one thing to creat is the key. The cure to born is challenge and the cure to anxiety is simplicity.
Continual suffering is not necessary. All that matters is the quality of suffering. I have personally discovered this - and found true happiness. I have a deep happiness I never thought I’d find. But my story is a sad one, filled with some of the worst despair and tragedy and injustice a person can endure. But that suffering ended. It didn’t need to continue. Because of the quality of that suffering I am in no danger of ever forgetting it. It continues to shape my life even today, even though it ended long ago. The memory of suffering is just as powerful as the suffering itself - and just as useful.
The mind is like an ocean, many people try, sometimes desperately, to swim towards the light, to live happily on the surface. But often, the most precious treasures, can only be found in the darkness of the depths.
“The degree of how great a creative work is often largely depends on how unhappy the creator was with their work throughout the process, all the way up until the final form of it.”
I like knowing different experiences of different people, it's like observing my own human nature but from outside, also gives a sense of comfort knowing every one is just as confused as you if not more. I hope everyone here finds the real purpose of their lives and not live in a way that becomes regretful in their end.
@PursuitofWonder Don't change a thing on this channel bro. You have been uplifting my soul for years, even in my darkest of moments.... Love this channel please don't change a thing. Thank you.
What is strange and wonderful about this channel is how it has the ability to lift me up when I’m feeling down and yet the subjects cause me to think, therefore, it can bring me down when I’m feeling happy. I often avoid thought provoking subjects when I’m feeling well for this reason. So, for me to agree that misery brings me contentment would also suggest that ignorance brings me contentment as well which is a paradox that I cannot explain. I need knowledge for empowerment, but knowledge makes me anxious. I wouldn’t say I feel like a better person than anyone else, but I often feel like I have a mind that is more attuned to the mechanisms of the world than most people (as in >50%) and so when seeing someone being happy about something benign or mundane or even downright dumb, I often wonder, are they happy because they are stupid or ignorant or just have better control of their own mind? I think this often leads back to the subject of this video. Is it better to be ignorant and happy or knowledgeable and depressed? Can you be both?
I’ve always wondered this. Only the blandest people are happy. I stopped searching for happiness. I now just search for satisfaction. Satisfaction is sustainable. Ironically, I would say I’m happy now. Talk about circular arguments!
3:04 It's the Acceptance mechanism of the life conducted by the person. People accept it in the end because it defines them so well and so that they can also feel better. When you live in a certain way for an enough period of time u become that and u won't feel happy even if you're given a castle to live in.
Right on, Man!! This has been occupying my thoughts over the past couple of weeks. You narration, eloquence, and concepts are a pleasure. All due respect to your awesome channel, Mark Manson got me thinking about the theme of this video - and made me more open-minded about this stuff. Nice job!!
the way i look at it now,happiness feels like beating a boss in a game but in life. Afterwards you might feel like, 'well,what's next' or what could come next. I guess the suffering e go through every day that impacts our lives gives our mind something to be occupied on 24/7 so when those things that made us unhappy go away,the struggle to get through it is over. Im sure people who grew up always anxious in a household or other situation,where worries are expected,finally being free of it feels- wrong in a way. Maybe having a goal is really important in one's life,whether that be getting over something or doing something new to add to the happiness.
Humans are creatures of the moment. Doesn't matter if they feel pain, misery, anguish, the moment they feel pure happiness, it overrides the other bad feelings. It's not that they love misery, pain, it's just when they feel relief, happiness, pleasure, peace at the end of it, it kinda makes them see other things in a different light. Just becaues we don't understand the formula of ideal happiness, peace, doesn't mean we need misery. We can be at peace and still modulate in a way that challenges us, rather than pain and misery.
I would say that for that happiness to hold that same value, misery must be known. That's the point perhaps, such influxes of misery can be overridden with a glimmer of elation. Seemingly, we need another to understand the next, it's like white is misery and black is happiness. To create a shade of gray, you need the other
This was an especially good one, Nietzsche's summary of the necessity of suffering to keep us motivated was simultaneously a sensible conclusion yet a sort of paradox because, as things were unfolding I was thinking "..but nooo, desire is suffering!" and thinking on Buddhism but, there's value in both! I also appreciate the advertising at the end, I already pay YT their ransom.
Happiness is fleeting. It does not remain and the sooner you understand this, the better. All we can hope for is the ability to love and the fortune to be loved in our lives. Without love, there is a well of bitterness cynicism and sorrow.
Very deep content. I have arrived at the age of 45.....and in my opinion, no one really knows what he or she wants, We think we want one thing then we want something else....and the cycle goes on.
Reminds me of the prophet: ‘Your pain is the breaking of the shell of your understanding’ ‘The deeper the sorrow carved into your being, the more joy you can contain’
My favorite quote by Kurt Cobain was always "I miss the comfort in being sad", I never knew why but I always related to this quote because whenever I'm happy I'm confused as to why I have or deserve happiness or contentness, when I'm happy I feel a lot less connected to art, specifically music and lyrics. Being sad is more of a feeling I'm used to, it reminds you that you're human. Melancholy may just be the most oddly beautiful thing in the universe
i live my life by the idea of been better than yesterday, that help me to stop been "miserable" n/or "depresed" trying to search for some greatnest in thee soo distance future, that by the time i wake up pf the bed i know, "this day is special" this is the day i am better than yesterday, its not necesarry for something to change, what its really going on is that i am on a, positive mental note, constantly
we humans are wired to seek comfort. and sadness indeed, very addictive because it is the one of the most natural tools for us to seek comfort and release.
Is it just me, or do some of you watch these videos to hear this narrator’s voice? I remember when this channel used to have other narrators, but I’m glad that this particular guy was chosen to narrate most/all these videos. There’s something that strikes a deeper chord, hearing a guy who sounds quite young (around my age) talking about these topics that explain and discuss the issues many of us face, but seems to be worse in young adults around our age.
I remember seeing similar stuff on this type of "dont be, be" philosophy and honestly i thought it was cool at first considering i was already not happy with many things so all i had to do was be interesting. What i noticed is that people who try to follow this mindset or way of thinking is that they go throughout their days trying to be interesting without the factor of happiness. they completely disregard the benefit that happiness gives, at the end of the day its just dopamine spikes or crashes that becomes a problem, the whole goal is to find the balance.
If I could never be sad again, I couldn’t connect with people. If a family member died, for example, I couldn’t mourn with the rest of my family. I’d be isolated. I wouldn’t be able to feel empathy for people around me who are sad. I couldn’t comfort them if I didn’t understand their sadness.
You truly do make me wonder and thank you from the bottom of my heart for bringing me hours of entertainment. You are bringing us a lot of awesome ideas which help develop a wider perspective on life.
Idk if I'm going to say this right, but I was always taught to strive to be content, not happy. Happiness is a feeling that comes and goes. But the lows can be just as beautiful as the highs. And when your content, you can better handle the good and the bad. Idk if I explained it the best. But hopefully I did and hopefully it helps someone.
We simply desire a life of real or at least perceived meaning. Personal happiness is far too small a thing to live for and we all know it somewhere in ourselves.
If we're always happy it would be a boring world. When we go through a sad situation, and eventually work it out and find a solution. It feels more rewarding, like you had to work through that in order to feel the joy of overcoming that situation. As someone who is going through a tough situation, I can say I see the bigger picture at the end. Deep down I know I have to keep going. Stop when you're dead, right?
Life is journey to learn wisdom via understanding from pain and pleasure. When you are at peace in any situation then you learn all wisdom because you don't expect but do efforts toward right. Don't try to control but flow with efforts.
We crave things that are pleasurable because they feel good but you can’t experience pleasure without knowing it’s contrast pain. Happily ever after and everlasting love are myths. Emotions are neither good or bad. They are states of being that pass. Living in the moment means experiencing what you are feeling, if it’s joy you savor each moment if it’s sadness you explore what needs to happen to affect change. And you let it pass like weather. Seeking contentment is like looking for emotional homeostasis. You can still feel drives and passions but the trick is to enjoy your happiness and not fear when it ends or explore your sadness and know things get better. Living in the comfort of the past or the expectations of the future numbs us to our present .
"Desire is the contract that you make with yourself to stay unhappy until you get what you want" - naval ravikant And therefore, as long as one seeks any desire, he will be unhappy.
I always wanted to feel happy and there was one time i felt blissful for a few weeks .At first it was all i hoped, I lost my inner critic,I didn't care about what I said or what people thought of me , my anxiety was gone. It was a pleasant experience but after a while felt like something was missing,i had no sense of content,i still felt empty only this time with a smile on my face,ironically I started looking for things that could make me melancholy .now I think If you want to be happy and satisfied you should be able to move between bliss and misery at will.
As always, thank you for watching.
Get 1 free week and 25% off a premium membership to this video's sponsor, Blinkist: www.blinkist.com/pursuitofwonder
..wut?
Traditionally, we have been taught since the beginning of time that being happy is the ultimate goal. But rather, the goal is to achieve a state of life where happiness, sorrow, joy, grief, comfort, misery all come together, simultaneously, to paint a bigger picture that thrives on both the highs and the lows... A picture where shadows are admired as much as highlights.
Very well stated!
@@margaretdonovan1649 Thank you so much! :)
thats beautiful
The secret to a happy life isn't happiness its acceptance.
@@chickendumpling5662 Thank you!
“Babe wake up, new pursuit of wonder video dropped”
Plot twist, there is no babe
Guess what,your babe was never sleeping,
Just questioning everything with closed eyes after watching the lastest persuit of wonder video
But babe is discontent with waking up in the middle of the night.
Babe isn't sleeping they are dead because of cringe
Of the many amazing comments, this one tops em.
This has been something I’ve wondered for months. This video is making me cry because of the relief that others know what I’m going through.
me to
Ive seen booties so big it made me cry.
You’re not alone at all
@@tsubastard thanks bro
I’m feeling that right now too. You’re not alone. This video came right on time
Turning your life into a piece of art is a great way to never feel like yourself, ever. The fact that the story of your life could be considered a beautiful piece of art should only emerge from the authencity of the way you lived it, and not from your efforts trying to turn it into one.
very important nuance
Well yeah
Great man, I hope you must have read existential philosophers like Camus, Sartre and all. Would love to discuss.
EXACTLY
I really like thsi thinking. Thank you for putting into words what I have not been able to 🙏
I know this is about to be a banger… I’ve always wondered why I was addicted to the feeling of being sad and miserable all the time. I already know this video is gonna help me understand
Yess.I saw the name and jumped right in and I was not 'dissatisfied' lol:)
@Моriah Elizabeth 🅥 Are you in this video? Is it why you are promoting it? But if so, let me tell you that you won't find that kind of people here, here are more serious and miserable people or saddist or masochist or someone like that.
Perhaps this explains why depressed people have a better understanding of reality.
@@carolmiller5090 They dont. Thats a myth
@@danielp4528 aw thanks 😍 i never thought about getting help before lol I’ll try that!
Those who don't learn to be sad, will eventually unlearn to be happy.
Embrace your depressive thoughts and give them air every now and then so that they don't break free by themselves and bite you.
But don't let them take control of you ^ just hear them out. But know that what they say is usually less important than why it is there.
In layman's terms take the outlook of depression as constructive criticism or an ultimatum for evaluation.
@@kennethwilliams543 This doesn’t make sense if you take into consideration the factors involved in causing depression.
@@m00se40 That's what I meant by "evaluation" identifying the problem is the first step in addressing whatever issue is causing it.
@@kennethwilliams543 How does one address societal structures?
Sadness like joy can become a source of pleasure. And because of how easy it is to access misery, it can become addictive
Yes but for long time it is dangerous
Indeed
@@UmarFarooq-ni2tlyes
Over the years I have observed why some sad or depressed people refuse to overcome their situation despite being helped. Its like they start getting a little too comfortable in that smol sad bubble of theirs. And i dont blame them. Even I have felt the same way . " sadness and grief ,after a period of time become addicting"
Man life gives me zero reasons and in fact makes it extremely hard to be happy. So yeah being sad is comfortable. I'm tired of fighting.
Yes
@@heyyou1911yeh why not
Maybe I'm a dark person, but i find so much beauty in this level of melancholy. I want to feel sadness, i want to feel sorrow. It's a teacher, and a looking glass into what it really means to feel joy.
I'm not addicted to sadness, It is in fact the opposite. I seek out joy. At my core i am a happy person, this is why i make myself feel deeply, only to remind myself that happiness is earned. Happiness is a perspective and such i seek to remind myself of what i have.
Well for me i enjoy happiness
But sadness , often makes me relax and feel content as if it's joyful
Sadness leads to change and the more we ignore mundane, almost depressing disciplines for the sake of happiness, the more we take happiness for granted and the cost for that is anxiety.
I'm just using your comment to bounce ideas or talk out of my ass, so I can brainstorm why I'm so depressed and anxious.. I guess anxiety also comes from having a lot that you care about that you're afraid of losing, or that you don't feel you're taking care of as well as you should. I care deeply for my family and especially my two young girls(more than anything), but I have so much anxiety about my health and lack of discipline, and situation, weaknesses in general that it makes me feel like I'm trapped and it's all hopeless and I've already failed, but I know I can't give up at the same time, so I try, but I hate my self for falling short. Which it's ironic that I now have the most special thing in my life ever and I feel more negative emotions than ever. It's EXTRA frustrating that despite my so called, "free will" I continue to make dumb decisions that make things worse(relapses, watching RUclips to escape, when I could use my time more effectively). Sorry for laying thing on your comment section, just venting. Also, please excuse my overuse of the word "and" lol.
Since I already typed this much about my self, I may as well add, most of my meaning comes from having two daughters that I love and feeling responsible for their life, but outside of that, everything feels pointless(I know, cliche). I don't know if God exists, but I don't believe he does and if not, I just feel very depressed, knowing that this is it and also makes it very hard to find spirituality or anything to believe in and I'm sure many struggle with this, but I obsess over it. I always feel unmotivated and afraid I'm gonna die anytime(I'm only 32...). I decided my purpose was to face the truth, no matter what it was and I started learning a lot of philosophical and psychological things on hopes that it would fulfill me or lead me to some kind of answer of what I should do, but ultimately the truth, philosophy, and psychology have only led me into deeper pits of anguish, etc. I just try to be a loving person to my family and when it comes to my girls, I worry that all I did was make choices that led to two other people who will suffer life and then die and the way things currently are in society makes it especially foreboding. I sound like i pity the hell out of my self, probably. But my thought I'm response to thinking I pity self, is more guilt and feeling like a fool. Sorry, I'll stfu now. I sound like a little baby or something, idk. Take care.
@@cognitivestate9512 stay strong man ✊
I had three boys with zero pain killers. I wanted to feel the pain.
"Tell them, I've had a wonderful life."
This echoes into the distance.
You don't, put a comma there.
Your comment, reads like a cheesy, line from a, gay movie.
😆
43 seconds into the video and I've started wondering how the hell can someone write something so dark with such poetic ease. You never fail to surprise me.
Thnx for uploading it- I've always felt like being ungrateful for my desire of melancholy- it's way too much to tolerate, it's hard to be depressed, yet at least it feels real- happiness now just don't even feel real, it seems like I'm deceiving myself
The greater the sadness, the greater the desire for happiness. Sadness, in this sense, is an essential function of hunger and desire for happiness. Sadness, then, should not be denied nor be shaken off when we experience them, but should be accepted and appreciated as a natural process of life that comes for an essential purpose: to initiate and drive us to make changes, to push us to pursue happiness and meaning, to remind us that we need to do better, to give as a sense of dissatisfaction to make us aware of what matters in our life. All the sadness and happiness we experience are the necessary puzzle pieces that complete the picture of the life we will look back on someday and say, "I have lived a wonderful life."
So you rather to not have something to need it and then you can appreciate it????? Humans are natural chasers...yall be having the perfect relationship and mess it up because yall like toxicity and misery. I swear I hate it here
Ok hear me out, while at some time in my life I was in a state such as the one described in the video I am now in a state of neutral or happy most of the time with some faint strokes of sadness in between. Gratitude really does wonders, I feel at peace when I sense that a lot of parts in my life are great and it doesn’t matter that it will all come to an end eventually at the very least I had a chance to experience such wonderful moments in my life. I live in state of making sure I realize and truly engulf the amazing things I have NOW and how I need to appreciate them as they are right now. Does that hinder growth? I don’t believe so. I look back and realize that what I did then was what I deemed to be the best choice with that time’s knowledge and available options, I go forward and do things better acknowledging that they are only better because I improved upon from my past learning experiences NOT my past “failures”. It’s hard to explain but hopefully that was clear.
Have you been through existential depression? Just wondering to what extent did u feel before and how you got out of it
i completely resonate with this
@@ShiraShyne yeah, ummmm completely hollow (not sad but like everything is so unbelievably meaningless I did nothing because it will be nothing eventually) I guess. Antisocial, locked myself away from everyone in a room only to go out to eat or sometimes not even that. Feeling lost although I realized I had a lot of potential there was no drive to do anything. Idk how I got out of it but a healthy mindset and habits are somewhere to start I guess? After that gratitude towards the smallest things. Socializing. Basically the opposite of what I found myself in because I realized that’s not the life I want to have.
How do you feel now (when you Read this)?
This is my first video I’ve watch on their channel although I agree you can learn alot do things from being sad and can make a lot of beautiful things such as songs and poetry. However I don’t agree to promote and say that living in a sad state is just a theory about how people can live . Nobody can be happy all the time but to make claims saying being sad all the time can basically benefit you is just weird to me. They have so many dark comments mentioning su!c!de, self harm and how they love it. It’s just seem all so satanic to me .
How you think about a problem is more important than the problem itself. So always think positively.
Always think realistically and embrace the negativity in order to take value in the positivity.
Why I am reading so much meaningful and diverse thoughts throughout the comments. All the good people with nice heart and proactive brain who enjoys their suffering and sadness and also justifying with tremendous wisdom about their melancholy for the saddened world is really appreciable.I think all the philosophers who had gone through lot of chronic mental pain to unlearn what they really understood about this reality but could not do that and now most of the people are also craving for the same that’s why I think sometime that ‘ignorance is a bliss’ because knowing too much about the reality would end up in a pain like a hell.
Wow! It’s great to see I’m not the only one thinking like this. It makes me feel good. Pain is the engine for growth
Hi Pursuit of Wonder. I guess no one has ever told you this but your videos are very helpful in learning english as well. I have been listening to you for some years now and I gotta admit that your way of presenting things is very academic and your style can be used to score quite high in English tests like TOEFL. Thank you for existing.
As a university student studying Sociology, they are right. A society cannot function without the sense of dissatisfaction and struggle. It's how we evolve as human beings. It's how we become stronger.
I wish I could be happy all the time. I suffered with depression and bipolar my whole life.
I keep hearing the phrase, "Stress kills." However, I know for a fact that stress does NOT kill...it's not knowing how to deal with stress which kills. Having strees, but knowing how to deal with it actually makes you live longer. It's those people whom WORRY about what's stressing them whom die early.
That's, basically, what this whole video is about. People are SEEKING different ways to bring some sort of stress onto themselves; because, a life without stress is a boring life. When people feel bored, they attempt to bring sadness, difficulty and/or misery into their lives; all in an attempt to conquer it. Those whom can NOT conquer their stress end up dying early and unexpectedly. However, those whom DO conquer their stress are the ones whom are able to say, "Tell them I've had a wonderful life."
FUN NOT: There's a reason why there are so many "drama queens" in this world. Because, there are SO MANY people these days living a life which is too good, or too easy. So, they make trouble for themselves or others in a way to bring forth stress as a form of entertainment. Stress CAN be a good thing; but, bringing it on yourself or others just for fun can easily be a terrible thing.
!!!
@@JustinMetanoia Totally explained everything!
@@JustinMetanoia 😂😂😂
@@JustinMetanoia i just subscribed u.. thanks for that quick message!
that's what i needed to listen. "execute now"
!!!
have to slightly disagree with the interpretation that the presence of chronic stress can influence the timing of your death by speeding up the dial via how it affects your neurochemistry in the body, but have to wholeheartedly agree that stress can be great. One can also learn in what activities to seek stress. For example, it is stressful to rock climb, learn to drive a car, to be in a new country. In my ideal future, we could determine the source of our stressors.
Happiness and contentment are totally different. Happiness is fleeting. It is not something that can be held onto. It is created often by a set of experiences that can not be forced. Contentment is a long-term sense of well-being. It is something that can be influenced by our decisions. Misery is different to both. It can be fleeting or long-term. It can be out of our control, but is often the result of conscious decisions.
I have poor health due to a serious bout of viral cardiomyopathy. It affects my daily life negatively. I could allow it to dominate my life. However, I have chosen to accept my limitations. I make the most of what I can do and do not focus upon what I can not do. I retired early in order to make the most of my years, and, to my surprise, I have been retired longer than I expected. My income is not as great as it might have been, but I live within its limitations. I have a small house, a small second-hand car. I do not go on holiday. I do not have meals out. Most importantly, though, I choose to accept these limitations, to be content with them.
Certainly, I have times of misery, but I refuse to let it dominate. I also have times of great happiness, but I accept that it will not last. I focus upon what I have rather than what I have not. Consequently, my life is good. It is good because I have decided it is good. I choose to be contented.
Perhaps my attitude has been coloured by the fact that I was given only 48 hours to live following the diagnosis of cardiomyopathy. Looking at Death close-up is a marvellous way to focus the mind. However, it is largely the result of my upbringing. I did not wallow in misery or self-pity because I knew that my parents were coping the best that they could with a very limited income. I realised early on that happiness was here today, gone tomorrow. I did not long for the latest, for the biggest, or for the best because I knew it would not happen. I accepted what I had and was content.
Choosing contentment is the key to a good life.
Well, It's often been said that without sadness and suffering we could never appreciate happiness and joy. If everything was good all the time we wouldn't appreciate it. It is because of great sadness and pain that we truly appreciate when things get better and savor every moment, because things wont stay better. We will feel much more pain and sadness again and maybe that's what it means to be alive to be human. We'd have no real desire to better ourselves without sadness, pain, trials and tribulation, failure and loneliness. Those are the things that drive us to do better, To better ourselves physically and mentally, to be productive and keep trying when we fail, We can't truly appreciate one without the other.
Beautifully explained. I wonder why people don't argue and reason on such comments where you can have a real discussion with sought out people.
At 8:50 Ive never seen a more accurate quote of what I feel then what Nietzsche said right there. It’s calming to think that a man and many others before me went through what I’m going through now, truly a man ahead of his time.
I am always more attracted to the darker side, especially when I was younger, because it's more comforting. Happiness in my life lasted not so long and I'm often in a state where I seek peacefulness, not happiness, which I describe as a state of excitement. But peacefulness is also tricky for me because I have a lot of goals I want to achieve (career, family, travel, etc.) and wanting to achieve all of this makes it a struggle, a long journey of mixed emotions. So I'm glad I watched this video, it really helps understand all feelings and accept them, even enjoy them. ♡
the last 5 months have been the best in my life, after 4-5 years of not knowing what to do, feeling unmotivated and overall sad and depressed, i started to talk my problem whit family and friends and after that i have been way better than never, but somehow even now i that have found motivation to start doing my stuff and getting my life to somewhere, i feel hollow sometimes, i want to cry and even after an amazing day when i lay in bed i feel terrible, its like my mind is obsesed whit feeling bad
These pieces are incredibly well done in every way. The ideas, the writing, the narration and images, they come together in a truly masterful way. Thank you so much.
We put too many requirements to be happy, you have to have more money to be happy, if only I have a better job I would be happy, if only this and that, if you are not happy right now, you wouldn't happy either in the future, for me, just start the day with a coffee and breathe the fresh air in the morning is enough to make me happy
YES!
Yes indeed 🎉🎉🎉🎉😊
It’s all like fishing.
Sitting in the sun, weathering the storms, meeting ppl while fishing, traveling to and from the fishing spots, buying and maintaining gear… it’s quite a journey and process. And you do it all so that you can experience a brief moment of joy when you catch a fish… and then let it go and start over.
Happiness is meant to be small bubbles in our journey that burst once we’ve landed on them. It’s what propels us forward and keeps us from becoming stagnant. We keep fishing.
I've come across this reflection sometimes when interacting with the goth community. It really is a beautiful philosophy. I wish more people understood it. I have a deep appreciation for melancholy and loneliness when it comes. I wouldn't say I love all my emotions, but at least I like more than one or two of them.
Wow I’m just half way through the video but just wanted to say how peaceful it is to take in the scenario of passing on and my last moments being that “ tell them I’ve had a wonderful life”
Being in a phase of depression has been like living within an Abyss but the insights and perspectives in this video are enlightening. Thank you😌
you really inspire me man. thank you, pursuit of wonder.
Same dude I agree 👍🏻
I don't know how you do this but your videos always have the perfect title for the situation I'm in and release at the perfect time
To be happy, is to understand that not all days will be good. Some will be bad, some even terrible, but those bad and terrible days come together to make up what would be an amazing or close to perfect day. Without the sadness and dissatisfaction, there is no happiness and satisfaction. How would we as people be able to perceive joy or sorrow if without the other. I believe that in some sense, the thing, the idea that makes us the most happy, is the fact that we can experience happiness, sadness, depression, anxiety, joy, love, hate, etc and still be able to live on despite how uncomfortable some of those emotions or even ideas of make us. The true bliss we experience doesn’t derive from perfection at all. It derives from the idea that one day sadness can be all that I feel, and the next could be overwhelmingly happy.
I LOVE thinking of my life as a great art piece, full of constant contentment and discontentment
For me, happiness has always been fleeting moments, temporary islands of contentment in what is otherwise a sea of tears and bewilderment.
"The end of desire is the end of sarrow"
That is some deep shit..
For me. Happiness is obtained every time I find myself not involved in trying not to control that which I cannot control.
Purpose, respect, kindness, laughter, wonder, nature, friendship, family, plenty
Man, there's very few channels and videos that really makes me think about life and inspires me, but your channel is definitely one of them. Thank you very much!!!
A person whose list so precisely picked and this channel is one among their contents, then I would like to know about other channels on your list. I believe they will be thought provoking and most of us likeminded fill find them amusing. Thank you.
@@shivaagrawal6565 Sorry for taking quite a few days to answer, but thank you for your words.
Some channels that are thought provoking and bring some interesting view and topics in my opinion are:
ruclips.net/user/LikeStoriesofOld
ruclips.net/user/theschooloflifetv
ruclips.net/user/Einzelg%C3%A4nger
And there's one that is for weird and fun thoughts experiments, but it's one of the best channels in youtube, every video is a masterpiece: ruclips.net/user/inanutshell
Hope you have an amazing week and the channels can help you in some way!
😁
I think it’s important to make a distinction between purposeful creativity(or finding a solution to a problem) and purposeless creativity(a flow state of contentment that arises when satisfaction with what is feeds on itself)
Without the darkness I would never grow, recently I've been seen as a manchild by some family members and this has inspired me to work harder on my RUclips channel, finding a career, gym, stepping out my comfort zone, etc…
Also I too make my best art when I'm depressed, this manchild situation resulted in me writing a fictional story and making a short film for that story which is my video "Doomer Hates Himself" if I didn't have this darkness and only had light I wouldn't grow at all and I wouldn't be creative
Exactly we need the dark
Don't let the darkness consume you, go get em tiger
HOLY AUTISM
Keep on moving friend. In time I hope you realize that the idea of some referring to you as a manchild may not be entirely based on your behavior, but in their reaction. They speak to an inner discomfort. You can still find fun and be creative. We are all children at the end of the day. Trying to make sense of it all
@@Tom_Fuckery Exactly, I've been told in a book from behavour expert to see people as facts as opposed to anything else. They will do what they do because of their motivations and past experiences, shaped from early childhood into what they are today. If you can see their point of view you can put a filter on what they are saying and then you can reflect if there is any truth behind what they are saying from your point of view.
I want to give credit to the author of the quote, "What is life if not merely the greatest art piece we will all create?" It's too good!
nietzsche
I’m not naive enough to think I was the only one who held this view, but I’ve been looking for what this feeling is about for a long long time. Thanks for posting this
Being a visual artist I can very much understanding, once lived in LA driven by my ego, grandiosity, and envy of peers I desired greatly to be an artist yet I was left confused with all the professions, styles and work and left nihilistic to wonder why art my purpose and professional doesn’t make me happy what is happiness and is there any. I realizes mastery of a craft and overcoming emotions are two different practices that we should focus on. And even you abandon art you with out effort come back to it some how. Your ego will fill images of professions that would fill your head with attention and what skill and this often comes from that dissatisfaction. Yet the state of flow and commitment to one thing to creat is the key. The cure to born is challenge and the cure to anxiety is simplicity.
The cure to anxiety is simplicity. Thank you.
No kidding, I was just a sec ago thinking of watching some Pursuit of Wonder videos, and I got a notification 😂😂. Great timing.
Dont know why the algorithm recommended it. I dont want to be fascinating, I want to be happy.
Continual suffering is not necessary. All that matters is the quality of suffering. I have personally discovered this - and found true happiness. I have a deep happiness I never thought I’d find. But my story is a sad one, filled with some of the worst despair and tragedy and injustice a person can endure.
But that suffering ended. It didn’t need to continue.
Because of the quality of that suffering I am in no danger of ever forgetting it. It continues to shape my life even today, even though it ended long ago.
The memory of suffering is just as powerful as the suffering itself - and just as useful.
Wonderfull... to be full of wonder doesn't mean you are full of happiness... but to be full of wonder is, in itself, worthwhile to explore ...
The mind is like an ocean, many people try, sometimes desperately, to swim towards the light, to live happily on the surface. But often, the most precious treasures, can only be found in the darkness of the depths.
One day I woke up and decided I want to feel happy and since then I am happy regardless of my problems and situations . I didn't know it was that easy
“The degree of how great a creative work is often largely depends on how unhappy the creator was with their work throughout the process, all the way up until the final form of it.”
I like knowing different experiences of different people, it's like observing my own human nature but from outside, also gives a sense of comfort knowing every one is just as confused as you if not more. I hope everyone here finds the real purpose of their lives and not live in a way that becomes regretful in their end.
@PursuitofWonder Don't change a thing on this channel bro. You have been uplifting my soul for years, even in my darkest of moments.... Love this channel please don't change a thing. Thank you.
What is strange and wonderful about this channel is how it has the ability to lift me up when I’m feeling down and yet the subjects cause me to think, therefore, it can bring me down when I’m feeling happy. I often avoid thought provoking subjects when I’m feeling well for this reason. So, for me to agree that misery brings me contentment would also suggest that ignorance brings me contentment as well which is a paradox that I cannot explain. I need knowledge for empowerment, but knowledge makes me anxious.
I wouldn’t say I feel like a better person than anyone else, but I often feel like I have a mind that is more attuned to the mechanisms of the world than most people (as in >50%) and so when seeing someone being happy about something benign or mundane or even downright dumb, I often wonder, are they happy because they are stupid or ignorant or just have better control of their own mind? I think this often leads back to the subject of this video.
Is it better to be ignorant and happy or knowledgeable and depressed? Can you be both?
I’ve always wondered this. Only the blandest people are happy. I stopped searching for happiness. I now just search for satisfaction. Satisfaction is sustainable. Ironically, I would say I’m happy now. Talk about circular arguments!
3:04 It's the Acceptance mechanism of the life conducted by the person. People accept it in the end because it defines them so well and so that they can also feel better.
When you live in a certain way for an enough period of time u become that and u won't feel happy even if you're given a castle to live in.
YES I’d push the dang button!
i used to watch you guys so much back when I was depressed
This is my favorite video you've done so far. Thank you.
Right on, Man!! This has been occupying my thoughts over the past couple of weeks. You narration, eloquence, and concepts are a pleasure. All due respect to your awesome channel, Mark Manson got me thinking about the theme of this video - and made me more open-minded about this stuff. Nice job!!
the way i look at it now,happiness feels like beating a boss in a game but in life. Afterwards you might feel like, 'well,what's next' or what could come next. I guess the suffering e go through every day that impacts our lives gives our mind something to be occupied on 24/7 so when those things that made us unhappy go away,the struggle to get through it is over. Im sure people who grew up always anxious in a household or other situation,where worries are expected,finally being free of it feels- wrong in a way. Maybe having a goal is really important in one's life,whether that be getting over something or doing something new to add to the happiness.
Humans are creatures of the moment. Doesn't matter if they feel pain, misery, anguish, the moment they feel pure happiness, it overrides the other bad feelings. It's not that they love misery, pain, it's just when they feel relief, happiness, pleasure, peace at the end of it, it kinda makes them see other things in a different light. Just becaues we don't understand the formula of ideal happiness, peace, doesn't mean we need misery. We can be at peace and still modulate in a way that challenges us, rather than pain and misery.
I would say that for that happiness to hold that same value, misery must be known. That's the point perhaps, such influxes of misery can be overridden with a glimmer of elation. Seemingly, we need another to understand the next, it's like white is misery and black is happiness. To create a shade of gray, you need the other
Why are these videos always so damned reassuring and relaxing?
😌
This was an especially good one, Nietzsche's summary of the necessity of suffering to keep us motivated was simultaneously a sensible conclusion yet a sort of paradox because, as things were unfolding I was thinking "..but nooo, desire is suffering!" and thinking on Buddhism but, there's value in both!
I also appreciate the advertising at the end, I already pay YT their ransom.
5am and I haven't watched this channel in 3 years, guess I'm back
Better late than never
Woooow Just incredible like always your videos are more food for thought and more. Thank you for existing and inspiring millions of people !!!!
Happiness is fleeting. It does not remain and the sooner you understand this, the better.
All we can hope for is the ability to love and the fortune to be loved in our lives.
Without love, there is a well of bitterness cynicism and sorrow.
I have never watched a single video of yours that has not been powerfully I thought provoking
Happy to know I'm not alone.... This is so accurate....
Very deep content. I have arrived at the age of 45.....and in my opinion, no one really knows what he or she wants, We think we want one thing then we want something else....and the cycle goes on.
We don’t want happiness, we want peace and safety
Reminds me of the prophet:
‘Your pain is the breaking of the shell of your understanding’
‘The deeper the sorrow carved into your being, the more joy you can contain’
My favorite quote by Kurt Cobain was always "I miss the comfort in being sad", I never knew why but I always related to this quote because whenever I'm happy I'm confused as to why I have or deserve happiness or contentness, when I'm happy I feel a lot less connected to art, specifically music and lyrics. Being sad is more of a feeling I'm used to, it reminds you that you're human. Melancholy may just be the most oddly beautiful thing in the universe
i live my life by the idea of been better than yesterday, that help me to stop been "miserable" n/or "depresed" trying to search for some greatnest in thee soo distance future, that by the time i wake up pf the bed i know, "this day is special" this is the day i am better than yesterday, its not necesarry for something to change, what its really going on is that i am on a, positive mental note, constantly
we humans are wired to seek comfort. and sadness indeed, very addictive because it is the one of the most natural tools for us to seek comfort and release.
Is it just me, or do some of you watch these videos to hear this narrator’s voice? I remember when this channel used to have other narrators, but I’m glad that this particular guy was chosen to narrate most/all these videos. There’s something that strikes a deeper chord, hearing a guy who sounds quite young (around my age) talking about these topics that explain and discuss the issues many of us face, but seems to be worse in young adults around our age.
I was just thinking that too! I really love the sound of this guy's voice it could put me to sleep. In a good way.
Lots of emotions; happiness is just one. Staying curious keeps me going.
there is a thing like a perfect amount of sadness that actually feels good. its weird.
I relate
True!
thank you, it's nice to see that this consept get's another beautiful form
The compassion for despair: The saddening reality of empty desire and void path with maddening echo in each step of the meaningless stride.
Yay! Time to doubt my whole existence again!
Yours, are the only videos i watch in x1 (usually 1.5x) speed to enjoy and process all the great information provided
Bro I would press that bliss button in a heart beat
I remember seeing similar stuff on this type of "dont be, be" philosophy and honestly i thought it was cool at first considering i was already not happy with many things so all i had to do was be interesting. What i noticed is that people who try to follow this mindset or way of thinking is that they go throughout their days trying to be interesting without the factor of happiness. they completely disregard the benefit that happiness gives, at the end of the day its just dopamine spikes or crashes that becomes a problem, the whole goal is to find the balance.
So grateful this channel exists.
i feel this channel is getting into another level
graphically, philosophically, and literally
thanks for your deep thought as always
If I could never be sad again, I couldn’t connect with people. If a family member died, for example, I couldn’t mourn with the rest of my family. I’d be isolated. I wouldn’t be able to feel empathy for people around me who are sad. I couldn’t comfort them if I didn’t understand their sadness.
You truly do make me wonder and thank you from the bottom of my heart for bringing me hours of entertainment.
You are bringing us a lot of awesome ideas which help develop a wider perspective on life.
Appreciate the sadness because it teaches happiness in some sense
Idk if I'm going to say this right, but I was always taught to strive to be content, not happy. Happiness is a feeling that comes and goes. But the lows can be just as beautiful as the highs. And when your content, you can better handle the good and the bad. Idk if I explained it the best. But hopefully I did and hopefully it helps someone.
We simply desire a life of real or at least perceived meaning. Personal happiness is far too small a thing to live for and we all know it somewhere in ourselves.
True brother.
I’ve been loving your new book!
If we're always happy it would be a boring world. When we go through a sad situation, and eventually work it out and find a solution. It feels more rewarding, like you had to work through that in order to feel the joy of overcoming that situation. As someone who is going through a tough situation, I can say I see the bigger picture at the end. Deep down I know I have to keep going. Stop when you're dead, right?
Life is journey to learn wisdom via understanding from pain and pleasure. When you are at peace in any situation then you learn all wisdom because you don't expect but do efforts toward right. Don't try to control but flow with efforts.
This video precisely describes how I'm doing life my whole life. It's just life.
We crave things that are pleasurable because they feel good but you can’t experience pleasure without knowing it’s contrast pain. Happily ever after and everlasting love are myths. Emotions are neither good or bad. They are states of being that pass. Living in the moment means experiencing what you are feeling, if it’s joy you savor each moment if it’s sadness you explore what needs to happen to affect change. And you let it pass like weather. Seeking contentment is like looking for emotional homeostasis. You can still feel drives and passions but the trick is to enjoy your happiness and not fear when it ends or explore your sadness and know things get better. Living in the comfort of the past or the expectations of the future numbs us to our present .
"Desire is the contract that you make with yourself to stay unhappy until you get what you want" - naval ravikant
And therefore, as long as one seeks any desire, he will be unhappy.
best comment
Word! 👏👏👏👏
Fantastic analysis and content. Thank you as always for putting these videos together.
I always wanted to feel happy and there was one time i felt blissful for a few weeks .At first it was all i hoped, I lost my inner critic,I didn't care about what I said or what people thought of me , my anxiety was gone. It was a pleasant experience but after a while felt like something was missing,i had no sense of content,i still felt empty only this time with a smile on my face,ironically I started looking for things that could make me melancholy .now I think
If you want to be happy and satisfied you should be able to move between bliss and misery at will.