Can’t say not in Germany i know some girls who do that just because the dudes have less to complain when you leave after you pay yourself or split the bill
In S. Korea if the girl pays the bill of the date, she wants nothing to do with you(rejected, finito, ended, se acabó). If she let you pay, then there will be a second date.
Thanks for sharing the video and my funny realisation! I should add though, that all my dates were in Korean. So not only did I get a free lunch with a pretty lady, I also got free Korean practice! That's a good deal even if there was no interest in romance 😁
I do that too, I once bought a man a ice cream just because I didn't want to feel like I wasted his time and efforts. We didn't even get to have diner. Worst date I ever had.
I'm not from Korea, I'm from Europe, but I insist on paying all the time, even though I'm a girl. I don't think it's considered normal in my country either, but no matter if I like the guy or if I don't, I really really don't want to feel guilty or like I owe him something, so it's easier to pay, at least for my share, and although I'm poor I just always get a coffee which is around 1.50€, so it's not too expensive. I don't think that would change even if my boyfriend was super rich, but I never dated a guy who's got money as well, none of my boyfriends even had a car, but I'm not interested in that. Most of my boyfriends were not conventionally attractive, and most of them were usually homeless and/or addicts at one point, so I can't say that I date for looks or money either lol, I guess I like smart and nerdy guys, who are open minded and caring (they usually don't turn out that way but still). But even if I dated someone rich I wouldn't let them pay for anything, and usually I'm the one who pays for everything, and I feed them and clothe them lol. I know it's dumb and I'm trying to change that a little, but I can't get over the guilt or them paying, even if it's usually their parents' money. I guess I just don't want to be a burden to someone, financially or otherwise, I want to be a good addition to their lives, not a substraction, if I explained that correctly. Hopefully one day I'll find someone who feels the same way about me, and who won't use my way of thinking against me like it usually happens. I mean I'm barely surviving on my own, I think it's more mutually beneficial if we both contribute what we can, without one of us taking too much from the other.
Yes here where I live, as for I know when we hang out with guys if we want to make a statement that we want just to be friends we pay separately but if we expect more we let the men pay but depends if the man refuse to pay we also understood that he just doesn't want more than a friend
If shes paying that means she wont meet you again if she let you pay then she's looking forward to meetig you. And ithink distance at the beginning is the right way. Why would you kiss a guy u met in 3 dates or hold hands
The look from you blew me away, haha. When he told the example of paying in Korea. Your look just said, “well, I always pay on my dates.” 😮😅😂 But I didn't understand the last part correctly. The girls' bill on the dates was therefore paid by them to show that there will be no more dates. Do I understand this in the right manner?
What’s wrong with paying separate bills on first few dates, aka going Dutch or each pay for what they decide to order…I would do that even if I liked that person I was going on a date with..I don’t want to feel like I owe him or that he owes me anything especially when we don’t even know if we really want to commit to one another..
Different cultural situation. I liked getting spoiled but I definitely going to pay my portion if I don't know the guy well. There's a reason for this. To avoid the guy thinking he entitled for sex after since he paid. If things don't go well, some guys will resort to stalking since I owe him.
To me it is quite wrong...if the guy doesnt pay first on the first date it's like not showing sincerity to get to know the girl as a potential partner. The girl then shows sincerity yet protects the man's ego by paying for small things like desserts and whatever aside main meals. If he pays for everything on the first date all day she can pay for most things on the 2nd and they hv this come and go dynamic without being unfair and too calculative. Theres is man/woman out there willing and prefer to pay for everything every single time as well. Just observe the dynamic. Personally I don't like going dutch coz it is such a turn off....ill immediately friendzone that person and never look at them as a potential partner....he does not want to know me sincerely. Its juz a meal and he does not want to pay. I only go dutch with friends. So if we go Dutch then we juz friends and nothing more.
I won't let people pay for me during the first few dates. It'll make me feel uncomfortable, and indebted to them. You don't know me. You don't know if we'll work so don't invest money into a relationship that isn't even set. I never want to take the risk of hearing some creep say 'But I paid so you should do this or that for me' or 'You just wanted a free meal'. Never. My pride cannot take that. If we're officially partners; then, we can take turns spoiling each other.
I'd pay for both parties cuz I'd feel bad for wasting their time because there will be no second date. I consider it a failed meeting and the other party could at least get a nice meal out of it. Like thank you for your time. Please enjoy the refreshments. Close the door when you leave.
For korean girls it's like an unspoken rule to pay if ure not interested on a 2nd date. Sadly the guys will take it as "this girl liked me enough to pay for me??? Instant 2nd date" The mixed communication is crazy. Oh and once the guy pays for the first date, girls will use the line of "I'll buy next time!" Opening a chance to set a 2nd date. So if she throws that line!!!!! Pllllease respond with "really? When? Because I would love a 2nd date with you." (Unless the guy has no interest to the girl) to put a cherry on top. Pay for the girls meal 2nd date and once the girl goes "but it's my turn to pay" be like "hm how about you buy me coffee?" Signaling you want the date to be longer. She will be hooked. Love is in the air. OR she will pretend to lose in who pays for the meal war asians love and be like "I will pay for coffee then!!" Which shows she wants the date to last longer. Either way, have fun :) (Don't forgot korea still has the guy pays more while dating culture so dont come at me)
Ya if I don't think I want to go out with a guy again, I will pay for myself. Because I feel guilty getting a free meal out of someone I won't see again and also I don't want to feel like I owe him anything lol
Upsi, the guy just realised :D If a girl pays, she either have mommy syndrome, and you are assumed as a baby not a man, or she doesnt want to deal with you. If she pays fully for herself on the first date you might just stay friends! If the guy pays or pays most there are the chance to develope further.
that was my suspicion as well. If I want nothing to do with guy, I pay as well. If I like the guy and want to progress to more in the future, I will not mind at all being "indebted" to him.
@@raydead2670 I consider it onest tho, it's better to be clear on your intentions and at least she won't use you for a free meal something that graceful asian cute girls do all the time 🫵🤣🤣
completely true! as a girl we pay so that we dont feel like we are in 'debt' or owe a second date to the person that paid if we dont feel interested or drawn in.
I was right .... I had heard that when Koreans pay for the first date is because they don't want to be indebted to you and don't want to see you again!!!!! 🥶
that makes sense to pay if they dont like you or continue meeting you coz they dont wanna give the chance to the guy to say ohh i paid so much for her bt she didnt value me and blah blah blah lol
I find people in general quite odd when it comes to "love", doesn't matter what sexuality you have. It is all Games and maintaining a Status when it comes to who is paying for the date. For me "love" or finding "love" within this humanity is a waste of time since it doesn't (...) exist! 😵
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The west goes too fast! Why are you kissing after 1 meal. That’s why other cultures think we are easy 🫠🫤and how did the beautiful young brown man in his other video say it’s hard dating in Korea and this guy got a few dates with various people under his belt…hmmm quite intriguing…I wonder what the difference could be? Maybe the other guy doesn’t speak Korean and this one does or maybe it’s his col…collar bone?
It's true. You don't want to feel like you owe him.
We.. poor women 😢 how many problems we have to face
This I don't even let them to pay untill i know them good. I heard too many horror stories.
Yep this is what I do
As soon as I heard that the girl paid, I thought 'yep, they don't want anything or feel that they owe you 'something' after the date"
That'd be woman everywhere though
Really?
Definitely NOT Germany a d definitely not in Tanzania..
really? but how about the girl paid for the drinks and then room? Like she insisted to pay, for several weeks
Can’t say not in Germany i know some girls who do that just because the dudes have less to complain when you leave after you pay yourself or split the bill
Im from Germany and I wouldn’t let a man pay for me when I don’t want to see him again. It’s true you don’t want to owe them!
The shock at the end 🍵☕😂
In S. Korea if the girl pays the bill of the date, she wants nothing to do with you(rejected, finito, ended, se acabó).
If she let you pay, then there will be a second date.
Thats nice. Not wasting his money and letting him down politely. They have grace and class.
"rejected, finito, ended, se acabó" killed me 😂
It's true. If I don't like him, I'll pay lol
😂😂😂
Thanks for sharing the video and my funny
realisation! I should add though, that all my
dates were in Korean. So not only did I get a
free lunch with a pretty lady, I also got free
Korean practice! That's a good deal even if
there was no interest in romance 😁
Nothing makes your self-esteem rocket as a date paying to avoid you😂😂 poor guy! That is emotional damage! 😢😂
The end was shocking 😅😂
I'm shock too 😅😅 I didn't know this 🤭🙈🤭🙊
This is 100% true. Basically what people would refer to as "friend zone". Setting the boundary for non romantic relationship
When I want to friend zone a guy I pay for my share. 😊
Bro gave them mini heart attack at the end😂
I do that too, I once bought a man a ice cream just because I didn't want to feel like I wasted his time and efforts. We didn't even get to have diner. Worst date I ever had.
Probably cause you came in with the mentality of not liking him. But atleast you knew how you felt about him and let him down nicely.
@@raydead2670 I mean you dont believe there are trashy dates out there or what?
@maddie6321 im sure they are but seemed like she made up her mind before even dinner. Which is still fine
tbh.
awww, you're nice. "sorry, but it's not gonaa work out. but here is an icecream 🍦" cute☺️
@@raydead2670 I mean you can have low expectations. But I think she made her mind up when the guy didn't put effort to even take her for dinner,
As soon as i heard him say they paid on the dates. I was like awww oh honey~ nooom 😢 .
They're still friends and nothing more. Atleast he wasn't ghosted
I'm not from Korea, I'm from Europe, but I insist on paying all the time, even though I'm a girl. I don't think it's considered normal in my country either, but no matter if I like the guy or if I don't, I really really don't want to feel guilty or like I owe him something, so it's easier to pay, at least for my share, and although I'm poor I just always get a coffee which is around 1.50€, so it's not too expensive. I don't think that would change even if my boyfriend was super rich, but I never dated a guy who's got money as well, none of my boyfriends even had a car, but I'm not interested in that. Most of my boyfriends were not conventionally attractive, and most of them were usually homeless and/or addicts at one point, so I can't say that I date for looks or money either lol, I guess I like smart and nerdy guys, who are open minded and caring (they usually don't turn out that way but still). But even if I dated someone rich I wouldn't let them pay for anything, and usually I'm the one who pays for everything, and I feed them and clothe them lol. I know it's dumb and I'm trying to change that a little, but I can't get over the guilt or them paying, even if it's usually their parents' money. I guess I just don't want to be a burden to someone, financially or otherwise, I want to be a good addition to their lives, not a substraction, if I explained that correctly. Hopefully one day I'll find someone who feels the same way about me, and who won't use my way of thinking against me like it usually happens. I mean I'm barely surviving on my own, I think it's more mutually beneficial if we both contribute what we can, without one of us taking too much from the other.
I'm American born Asian and I do that here in the States too. Mostly on first dates
It’s not just in Korea it’s everywhere even in France if you don’t like the guy the girl pays and leaves quickly lol
The gasp in the end 😂 he got emotional damage 🙈
I love you'r videos interviewing people about this kind of stuff😂
Bro shattered his whole life😂😂😂😂😂
He clutched his imaginary pearls😅
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂The Guy’s pink glasses were shattered
Yes here where I live, as for I know when we hang out with guys if we want to make a statement that we want just to be friends we pay separately but if we expect more we let the men pay but depends if the man refuse to pay we also understood that he just doesn't want more than a friend
If shes paying that means she wont meet you again if she let you pay then she's looking forward to meetig you. And ithink distance at the beginning is the right way. Why would you kiss a guy u met in 3 dates or hold hands
Dude they just didn’t like you 😂
I do that here in the US.
It’s true.
The look from you blew me away, haha. When he told the example of paying in Korea. Your look just said, “well, I always pay on my dates.” 😮😅😂
But I didn't understand the last part correctly. The girls' bill on the dates was therefore paid by them to show that there will be no more dates. Do I understand this in the right manner?
...yes, that's correct.👍
What’s wrong with paying separate bills on first few dates, aka going Dutch or each pay for what they decide to order…I would do that even if I liked that person I was going on a date with..I don’t want to feel like I owe him or that he owes me anything especially when we don’t even know if we really want to commit to one another..
Different cultural situation. I liked getting spoiled but I definitely going to pay my portion if I don't know the guy well. There's a reason for this.
To avoid the guy thinking he entitled for sex after since he paid. If things don't go well, some guys will resort to stalking since I owe him.
To me it is quite wrong...if the guy doesnt pay first on the first date it's like not showing sincerity to get to know the girl as a potential partner. The girl then shows sincerity yet protects the man's ego by paying for small things like desserts and whatever aside main meals. If he pays for everything on the first date all day she can pay for most things on the 2nd and they hv this come and go dynamic without being unfair and too calculative. Theres is man/woman out there willing and prefer to pay for everything every single time as well. Just observe the dynamic.
Personally I don't like going dutch coz it is such a turn off....ill immediately friendzone that person and never look at them as a potential partner....he does not want to know me sincerely. Its juz a meal and he does not want to pay. I only go dutch with friends. So if we go Dutch then we juz friends and nothing more.
I won't let people pay for me during the first few dates. It'll make me feel uncomfortable, and indebted to them. You don't know me. You don't know if we'll work so don't invest money into a relationship that isn't even set. I never want to take the risk of hearing some creep say 'But I paid so you should do this or that for me' or 'You just wanted a free meal'. Never. My pride cannot take that.
If we're officially partners; then, we can take turns spoiling each other.
Yeah it’s like a “I did this for u so ur not losing out by not getting anything more” type situation
Lol the first thing that I thought when he said the girls paid on the first date was "she wasn't interested"
Their reaction in the end😂
That's shocking , i thought we split the bill if we don't owe u something 😂😂😂😂
I'd pay for both parties cuz I'd feel bad for wasting their time because there will be no second date. I consider it a failed meeting and the other party could at least get a nice meal out of it.
Like thank you for your time. Please enjoy the refreshments. Close the door when you leave.
@@twinoferos ahaaaaaa 😮♥️ thank you for explaining
@@twinoferosbut havent you also waste your time?
Koreans are very slim and hot looking. Be is not matching Korean standards I think.
*GASP* lmaoooo
Yes, I always offer to pay for myself but if I don’t like the guy I will try to absolutely pay at least for myself so I don’t feel like I owe him
They said:👁️ 👄 👁️
I actually like it that way.
For korean girls it's like an unspoken rule to pay if ure not interested on a 2nd date. Sadly the guys will take it as "this girl liked me enough to pay for me??? Instant 2nd date" The mixed communication is crazy.
Oh and once the guy pays for the first date, girls will use the line of "I'll buy next time!" Opening a chance to set a 2nd date. So if she throws that line!!!!! Pllllease respond with "really? When? Because I would love a 2nd date with you." (Unless the guy has no interest to the girl) to put a cherry on top. Pay for the girls meal 2nd date and once the girl goes "but it's my turn to pay" be like "hm how about you buy me coffee?" Signaling you want the date to be longer. She will be hooked. Love is in the air.
OR she will pretend to lose in who pays for the meal war asians love and be like "I will pay for coffee then!!" Which shows she wants the date to last longer.
Either way, have fun :)
(Don't forgot korea still has the guy pays more while dating culture so dont come at me)
Oh wow. Nice
I am a Korean woman I spend money on a man I like This is a lie I don't know why this man is saying this...
That's interesting and it could used to be around the world, BUT for KOREA... I'm also surprised
I don’t understand kissing on the first date anywhere.
Ya if I don't think I want to go out with a guy again, I will pay for myself. Because I feel guilty getting a free meal out of someone I won't see again and also I don't want to feel like I owe him anything lol
EMOOOTIONAL DAMAAAGE 😂
Upsi, the guy just realised :D
If a girl pays, she either have mommy syndrome, and you are assumed as a baby not a man, or she doesnt want to deal with you.
If she pays fully for herself on the first date you might just stay friends!
If the guy pays or pays most there are the chance to develope further.
I'm from the us and I do this too lol
that was my suspicion as well. If I want nothing to do with guy, I pay as well.
If I like the guy and want to progress to more in the future, I will not mind at all being "indebted" to him.
Omg before he clarified it I was like, if my date looked like this I’d pay too and get out of there 😂😂😂 don’t want to owe him anything
I think they paid BC they weren't interested and so they didn't feel weird about declining another date or feeling like they owed him something 😊
Totally commented before I heard the end. Guys take notes lol
a culture shocked
LOL😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 he found out why they've all paid lol
If a woman pays for dinner she is not considering it as a date, never!!!!!!
Only if western women followed the ways of the graceful Koreans.
@@raydead2670 I consider it onest tho, it's better to be clear on your intentions and at least she won't use you for a free meal something that graceful asian cute girls do all the time 🫵🤣🤣
@Mary-zk4ry meh not Koreans as much. But yeah honesty and integrity go a long way.
@Mary-zk4ry also I usually have girls pay for me, its nice to switch up standards cause most men are getting wrecked.
If my husband dies and I have to start dating again I'm doing this😂
lol the gasp
I pay too when I don’t want to date them😂
Im in texas and i pay when i don't want to feel obligated to the guy or know im not going to date him but i paid for myself lol
Its because if he paid they'd feel like they owe him so they'd have to go on another date that's why they paid
And I oop 😂😂😂
Ok I will use this trick 😅
completely true! as a girl we pay so that we dont feel like we are in 'debt' or owe a second date to the person that paid if we dont feel interested or drawn in.
I think he got friend zoned when they paid for him 😅
I don't understand.. Did they pay for him?
Your body though 💪🏻
I was right .... I had heard that when Koreans pay for the first date is because they don't want to be indebted to you and don't want to see you again!!!!! 🥶
So does that mean all the girls were maintaining distance...poor guy...
The guy: shocked that they didn’t actually like him
The girl: shocked the girl didn’t take a free meal
It's true. If the girl paid...
that makes sense to pay if they dont like you or continue meeting you coz they dont wanna give the chance to the guy to say ohh i paid so much for her bt she didnt value me and blah blah blah lol
Eeemotional Damage!
I have same mentality with Korean girls if i pay on our first date he won't see me ever again
I'm in usa I'd do the same so I don't feel guilty
It'd have to legit be love at first sight for me to pay for both of us on the first date 🌹 lmaoo
당신의 티셔츠에 "I'm shy"라고 적혀 있기 때문에 당신과 이야기 할 것입니다.
😊
That is an interesting custom. If a girl pays, then it is a clear sign
Well, that was unexpected
I wouldn't even have a chance. 😐
Don't forget"noona, who buys me food" stereotype. It's a different story, right!?
omg benny lewis???
I find people in general quite odd when it comes to "love", doesn't matter what sexuality you have. It is all Games and maintaining a Status when it comes to who is paying for the date. For me "love" or finding "love" within this humanity is a waste of time since it doesn't (...) exist! 😵
Ooo.. I see...
Why did i assume that dude was gay?
Wait this changed everything?!
I knew that was coming but still.....so brutal
I don’t get men who need to be paid for
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You've been rejected. Hahaha
Irish boys 🙄
Selbst ist die Frau
He got confused he prolly thought he said have u ever ate a Korean?
I dont get this at all...
The west goes too fast! Why are you kissing after 1 meal. That’s why other cultures think we are easy 🫠🫤and how did the beautiful young brown man in his other video say it’s hard dating in Korea and this guy got a few dates with various people under his belt…hmmm quite intriguing…I wonder what the difference could be? Maybe the other guy doesn’t speak Korean and this one does or maybe it’s his col…collar bone?
What's his Instagram? The guy he is interviewing