Oh yeah, as an INTJ mom that was hysterically accurate....especially with letting them wear what they want and lettng their grades be something they learn ownership of...
Keep the INTJ stuff coming, please. What about a video with INTJ bf with INFP gf? Yes? (Or INTJ bf with INF bf - or INTJ gf with INFP gf, gender doesn't really matter)
As an INFJ, this is too relatable. INFJ’s do have that lovey-dovey energy, but we can also be very realistic and judgmental to the point that it’s comical
As an INFJ wife, I've done the "we're having a disagreement, but we can stop the conversation because it's probably something I just need to work on myself" response to my husband many times, lol!
@Flavien I'm an infj and my husband is an intj, and is awesome, thank God when we argue it is something like this, or like a conversation more on detailed about something we are annoyed about, but there is never yelling or making feel the other one bad, just a process of growing for each of us. Making the other see what could need more work in other to be the person God wants him or me be.
I adore you. As an INFJ female, I can say everyone I’ve ever dated has found me to be refreshingly weird. Once I finally embraced my weirdness I became much happier.
'I only have the emotional capacity to watch *insert show/film* for the 3rd time' and skipping over stressful parts is hilariously accurate 😅 I feel so seen 💕
Yessss that was soo relatable it was spooky. 😅 sometimes i watch new shows but look at all the episode descriptions to prepare myself for whats to come if the show is too suspensful/stressful.
literally me if there's too much stress in the movie I'll probably try to distract myself because it just gives me too much anxiety and I can't stay still and that suck for me as a film editor T_T
As an INFJ male, the gf one was pretty similar. That's gotten me in a lot of trouble though. Maybe if I knew I was an INFJ back when I was younger, I could have explained myself better. However, I do like your suggestion. I'm also a dad.
@@FrankJamesthis is the most INFJ response down to the amount of exclamation points so the asker knows we come in friendly lol. (Ps: I’m also an INFJ) hehe 😊
I love INFJs. They all are so self aware and also very caring while standing their ground and not confusing being selfless to sacrificing their own space. Also, they are really like cats lol they feel your sadness or stress and immediately know what is the best for you to do. Best advices by INFJs.
Aww🥰 How sweet! As an INFJ being described as a cat would be so cute. I either get ignored, called silly, screen saver, or weird. My Bosses are irritated by me and my co-workers like me. My family and friends are used to my "quirks".☺
Kinda got the first part wrong…. I am not self-aware and I most of the time think being selfless means the same thing as sacrificing your soul to whoever's around you’s mercy..
Lots of relatable points in here. The most relatable is when the INFJ pivots from sympathy to "now here's what you should do" - I always have a game plan for everyone.
Not the "Im upset but it has more to do with me so let me just process it" and the "I don't have the emotional capability to watch certain movies." That's too accurate 😂
I've NTENTIONALLY told myself to add more colour to my wardrobe in last 5 years, but here I am wearing a navy blue top and black pants . I have to be more intentional next time
I alternate between black and navy blue. But recently I've tried to add a little more colour to my wardrobe while somehow still managing to squeeze in something black or navy blue.
As an INFJ female, I can confirm the 100% accuracy of this video. While we might've dated emotionally unhealthy people, as we progress in life, we're intuitive enough to sift through hours of content on phycology and childhood trauma work so that we end up with healthy partners. 😅 I can also confirm British television is mostly all I can stomach because it's relaxing. Intense or violent stuff is too stressful. 😂
My husband is the normal girlfriend, and I am the infj. This is literally every day when he gets home from work. After 25 years he actually says, "You don't have to fix it, just listen. You can even zone out if you want, but act like you are listening." I do actually have to listen, though, because every so often, he ends with a heavy breath and then says, "Okay, tell me how to fix it the fastest way possible."
As an INFJ I can relate to the antique store. I was in a museum which held ancient dead bodies they dug up on display and while everyone else was enjoying the morbid display all I could think about was how disrespectful it was to put them poor souls on display instead of giving them a respectful buried plot 🤷♀️
As an INTJ I can’t understand why u want the shells of humans buried instead giving up the treasures of discoveries they hold for us now. The human has been gone from that sac of flesh for millennia. They don’t care what u do with it.
@@YeshuaKingMessiah well I guess your more scientific then spiritual. Some people believe the nature of the type of burial that a person has decides on how the soul sleeps. How do you know that the person slaying on that slab is at peace with people staring at them day to day in a museum? You wouldn't know that unless you could speak to their soul
I relate too! When I was a kid I loved the little house on the Prairie book series. Well I found the first one at a thrift store and bought it to re read. Well after finishing it there was a family tree of the linage of the Ingalls family etc. From the 1860s I think, well it hit me how long ago they lived and how they had lived and died so long ago, and how one day I am go to die too... yea it triggered an internal crisis. 😭
I’m an INFJ woman who got engaged to my INFJ fiancé last November. We have the most analytical, logic oriented, pragmatic relationship. Our first conversations were about the biggest things in life and then slowly we began to work our way down to small talk. I was definitely this type of girlfriend 😂
Congrats!! I was lucky enough to find another INFJ friend recently, starting at the secrets of the universe and then working our way down is SUCH a mood 😂
As an INFJ, I can confirm that eliminations and just endings of TV shows make us nervous. We always expect the plot twist and also end up hiding our eyes for half of the show. Edit: thanks for the likes!
I have entire C-dramas (40+ episodes) that I have watched to their entirety with the exception of the last episode because I don’t want it to end or I know the ending will upset me so I put it off for years now… now I have to watch them all over again because I feel ready 😂😂
Yet another INFJ female here, and that "I only have the emotional capacity to watch the Great British Bakeoff" and "can we skip the elimination round" was just the icing on this very relatable cake.
As an INFJ that was so accurate in each part. You showed the struggle very well About forgetting the days of the week That's so true, I constantly have to check what the day is. btw thanks for the effort you put in, I love your content.
I think the people in the drugstore yesterday were 200% more INFJ than me - they said it's already the 6th of April (it was the 4th) :) But maybe it was actually the 1st :)
I don't even have a boyfriend but this is 300% me. The "I'll just work it out in therapy next tuesday" made me wheeze, scream and cry at the same time 🤣🤣🤣
One time I was in my feels, and my husband at the time said why are you mad at me. And I legit said I’m deciding if I need to be mad at you I’ll probably work it out myself so just let me have some space for a minute. 😂😂😂
@@cherieswannhanson1482 😂😂😂 Like... I mean... isn't it just logical? Why would we start an argument when it's probably just a matter of perspective??? 🤣🤣🤣
Most of the time if I'm upset or irritated with my boyfriend, it's a "me" problem. And we usually work things out on our own. He's an ISTJ and I'm an INFJ
I have so many clothes but I stick to my favorites on a cycle but I love colors but choose to wear neutrals have the time because it’s less effort most days
I have been on some radical clothing journeys… I think, really, I am trying to appear normal. I would only wear grey if I could just be left alone and didn’t have to go places.
@Shoshanna omg I go through cycles of years where pink is my thing and then one year it’s blue the next it’s green or purple and then the rest of the year it’s black and gray 😭
Frank! THANK YOU for the best laugh session I have had in years. When you said, "It turns out all my clothes are Navy Blue" I completely lost my sh**t for like 10 minutes. I seriously have not laughed this hard since I can remember, so thanks for that, I needed it. (Here's a clue: I would NOT be the normal girlfriend.)
This is female INFJ,Noone knows how happy an INFJ feels being something relatable to them and so accurate. That stoicism and social media diet is so real. Frank, looking forward for more INFJ stuff Thank you so much...😊
But people are very annoyed by this. And they dont listen and it i have to watch it going vorher Down the road.. how do yall do it that they want your advice?
@@e.j1997 I haven't seen that but even if it's true, it doesn't mean is right representation. I do have seen a lot of stereotypes. Edit: Also I've seen much more "representation" of men, not women
@@sonyastephens7583 Me too, and I feel most INFJs like quality things. But even then I feel like it is not something shallow or frivolous, but rather we have certain motives/deeper reasoning behind it.
Hi, INFJ here! That last part brutally wounded me, cause yes my ex had the same toxic traits as my father, and yes I broke up with him when I came to the realization that the relationship wasn’t going anywhere. Good night, shoutout to all my fellow INFJs’ who went through the same dilemma glad I wasn’t alone!
I’m actually embarrassed how I’ve said or done almost every single one of these, my friends comment on my grey and navy wardrobe, and I skip any game show to the end elimination cause it’s just too much for me 😂 My parents also banned me from antique stores cause I wouldn’t stop commenting on the “dead people’s junk”
Fascinating. You can sense different energies from these old items if you try to feel it after salt cleansing your hands. (Check quareia for more) Not all dead people leave bad energies behind. - enfp
@@heavnxbound Lol, I knew a science sceptic would turn up. You can call it a sensable mystical aura if you prefer that instead of energy. Energy for me means all types of energies, physical, non physical and multi dimensional (interpenetrating emenation of creation source) Cross dimensional is not measurable for the time being, might never be. But its all an aspect of moving(energy) mind. Which does not fit well into the post-modern reductionistic paradigme no. I am well aware.
i don’t know why people want to pass stuff on, i’m missing the reason…my mother saves everything, has journals from her trips….and she’s sent them to us, why would i want to read about someone else’s vacation? yes i relate to dead peoples stuff
Ha ha, I’m like that. If reality tv, movies, etc get too intense I’ll look it up online to find out how it ends. “Oh good! She survives, yah she didn’t die.” Or ,” great I’m glad he won the competition, I’d be upset if that other narcissist guy won.” Or, good I can finish watching the movie because she does end up with him! 😂
I'm an INFJ and I really relate to watching the british bake off for the third time without elimination parts because I love repetitious activities but hate it when people get isolated/cut out of the program 😂
That "its Friday??" Part its totally relatable as an infj....there was a time when i even forgot my marriage anniversary and my husband was very upset at that😂
Oh yeah, definitely forgot a couple anniversaries myself , but my husband was right along side me forgetting too. My mom was amused she remembered before we did. 😅
I forget my own birthday. (And I get really anxious about other people's birthdays, because I forget them too, but they get upset about it, and I hate the upset. WAY too much responsibility for me. 😄)
@@Littlebird11 omg haha 😂 I try to be friends with people who know that I will probably forget birthdays and such, but won’t hold it against me. Oye though I beat myself up for having an entire conversation with a new roommate and not once remembering to ask their name or introduce myself 😅😅😅
I have been obsessed with Food Network ever since high school, at least. It's just so neutral and nice to have on in the background. Plus, I've learned a surprising amount about cooking and baking!
I've seen INFJ skits in social media and usually don't think they're very accurate, but this is spot on in ways I wasn't expecting! 😂 Even though I'm always trying hard, I feel like I never have the thoughts/behavior that people prefer, which can be discouraging. But seeing things portrayed by someone else helps me realize there's nothing actually wrong with the way I work!
Haha I am INFJ I just recently learned- this is pretty hilarious. How nice to read all the comments and realize I’m not alone. I definitely feel like a stranger in a strange land with most of humanity.
Same I finally realised that all the contradiction in my head, not concentrate or lagging behind in conversation, the emotion attachment I have to something even it's small and a lot of stuff I couldn't explain before, I'm not alone
Have you considered taking the Raads-R Test? A lot of INFJ are very very High Functioning Aspies. Myself included. My iNTJ is also Aspie and he’s what led me to get my diagnosis, though a diagnosis is not required ;) He came at me talking about all the BIG things most people would never talk about. We dove very deep from our first conversations, onwards. It still continues 8 years later, endless conversation and theorizing ♥️
As an INFJ female, it is so nice to know there are more people like this. Two years ago I met another INFJ female and being friends with her has been like slowly uncovering we have this type of thing in common 😂 In my case, I only share my weird side with people I trust I guess :)
As an INFJ male, I also think it is nice to know that there are more people like this. Do you often wonder what the world would be like if the whole world was all INFJs? Hang on wait, what day is it?
I would love finally meeting another INFJ , it can get pretty “lonely” sometimes especially bc I am so ridiculously good at being alone but I also want to communicate with like-minded people or people that can bring value into my life and are themselves interesting and “weird” ( in a good authentic way) and yep I relate to the trusting part !
hello! im an INFJ female, age 19. i struggle to make friends and struggle to relate to my peers, although i have a deep need for connection and intimate conversations. i feel empty during small talk but i can't seem to find many people who feel comfortable discussing the topics i ponder on every day of my life. i feel lonely quite often, even when i'm around others. people often tell me i go off on tangents and even make jokes to try to "get me to shut up", i always laugh and quite down but i'm curious what it would be like to have a conversation with someone just like me, someone who isn't just trying to watch the movie but also pause, reflect and talk about the little things that happen in the movie, i know this is a bit weird, like someone reaching out to you through a comment section on youtube weird but if you'd everrrr like to perceive each other's existence and maybe even talk about what it's like, my instagram is @xcybersamx but follow my personal if you'd like to see a closer look at the way i see things (linked in main instagram bio), tiktok is @cybersamm, i would LOVE to follow back so please let me know if you do. again i know this is weird, because even i think it's weird, but i am seriously so desperate for someone to ask "what're you thinking" and not be surprised or dismissive of my actual answer, it would be nice to be honest of what im actually thinking for once, and not always actively trying to simplify it in fear of intimidating or making my peers uncomfortable.
Tell me about it. I once talked with someone giving me advice. He raised a question of how people wear all of these masks. I didn't bother to argue. But, if you're an INFJ, you know that it's less like a mask and more like a mirror. We shine back at people what they shine at us. It's not to be rude, or even to hide. It's more like too much effort to over share. We just stick with what we have in common with the person we are talking with. So, it's efficient. However, if you have to go into a more public sphere, then as an INFJ, you have a dilemma as to how to remain authentic in this bigger, more complex space. I haven't figured that one out yet.
I love your videos about INFJs. I am an INFJ and I have felt misunderstood my entire life. My family has often shamed me or made me apologize for being an introvert (they think I'm rude or aloof because they are all extroverts on steroids). You actually seem to understand what I am thinking, how I feel, and why I am how I am. I know that I'm "weird" compared to other people, but at the same time people gravitate toward me. Strangers will tell me intimate details about their lives, then confess that they have no idea why they told me their secrets. My family calls me a "freak magnet" and belittles me. I cannot help who I am, nor can I change who I am.
Yo. Please consider setting up a little more distance from folks who are judging you in a hurtful way. You don't need that negativity. My suspicion is that you may be young and think you have to take it. You don't. And you don't have to fight either. Just see them less often, for shorter periods. It may help you to stop reciting their judgements. It may help to practice with friends or strangers how to politely correct assumptions, while not engaging about the mean thing that was just said to you. Good luck.
No te sientas mal, yo también me he dado cuenta que atraigo gente que necesita ser escuchada o comprendida (autistas, síndrome down, personas ansiosas, etc).
I totally relate. My family teases me too but mostly for being absent minded bc I am always thinking so sometimes I feel like I do things on auto pilot so I forget where I put things 😂 I finally found the perfect career as a hairdresser bc people don't get as freaked out that they're telling you their entire life story (trauma dumping lol) bc everyone expects their hairdresser to be a counselor as well. And I really don't mind. When I worked at a grocery store however, it would get real awkward when they'd open up like that in the 2 minutes it took to check them out 😂 Also I'm pretty sure most INFJ are neurodivergent (in the best way)
Also, I get that we tend to let our family criticize us and let it "roll off" but INFJ sometimes struggle with healthy boundaries. Sounds like your family would be a great place for you to start practicing setting healthy boundaries for yourself. You are worthy of love and respect and deserve to be treated with such. Practice setting healthy boundaries with them. I promise you won't regret it.
Being an infj female these three things fit me well: - forgetting the "special" dates (my memory is short and is willing to work only with super important stuff) - not paying attention to small things about myself (but I'm quite observant of others) - most on my clothes is neutral colored Because of that, some people think I'm mean to them. I'm really not, I'm just phlegmatic by nature haha
This was scarily accurate! And as an INFJ therapist, "I don't need to listen to you to know exactly what you're feeling. So now here's what you should do..." is embarrassingly close to my approach with clients.
I had to learn to take a seat as a friend to just listen. I know I can feel how they feel, but it's valid to let them say it. I also started asking if they want advice or a story before jumping in. It's hard when all you want to do is stop the bleeding and fix the problem 😂
@@wasnlos2676 it's kinda funny ngl because even when I was a child INFJ you feel people's emotions so much more intensely like your living through it, feels very uncomfortable when you're young. As a therapist though I still just sit and listen an then sometimes I repeat the same things back to people until they themselves realize there issue, after that I wait till they look like they want to change what's happening
The reaction at the antique store is 100% accurate for me. I go to estate sales and get very sad when I see an individual or couple’s belongings laid out for sale, it’s so sad 😞
Although I didn't relate as much for the antique store but i do relate when it comes to abandoned places. Antique store just reminds me of how it used to belong to someone and makes me curious the story behind them. I never really thought of the death part.
@@hanayuuki790Same, as well that I don’t really see that Death as a bad thing, we don’t know what comes after it so i’m just fascinated by the thought as I see antiques where they are now, if that makes sense? And after that thought I go into a spiral how cool it is that it dates back to so many decades and that people from those times actually touched and possessed these things.
As one who loves antiques and estate sales I must say I feel the same. The death doesn’t bother me but I do think about the history of the item and what that person’s life must’ve been like when I go into these places. It also makes me incredibly sad to see photos and other certain things that I would have cherished from my family members but nobody else in this person’s family wanted at all at estate sales. I always thank the deceased person for their treasures if I buy something. Then I smudge before bringing it in my house lol.
I am an INFJ Female and this is 100% spot on. I own 10 of the same shirt in 10 color variations of blue and green. My husband teases that as soon as I find a shirt I like I just buy all of them and wear them for 10 years until they are rags and I need to go find all new ones. I love your videos. I binge watch them int he corner of my screen while I work.
SO relateable! I'm wearing the lavender version of a blouse I bought last april! I've got navy blue, light blue, lavender and just bought the deep purple one! ✨
Mine is all white. I didn't know it was a thing until I came across this video. I just thought I have zero fashion sense. But that's probably also true.
I do the same! I was goth in high school, which I loved, but --ain't gonna lie -- there is a part of me that was just happy all of my outfits matched 🤣
I'm smiling because a lot of these are so accurate 😂 "is this Tuesday...?" Realising that at least half the clothes in my cupboard are navy blue. "I can totally understand where you're coming from. Here's what you should do." Um yes.
As an INFJ: absolutely dead 😂😭😂💀 THE TEN YEAR LONG DRAINING TEXT CONVERSATION OMGGG😂😂😂😂 Also THANK YOU for making it honest and real instead of an "oh they're so mystical and gossamer" thing. I mean, we have our moments, but yeah it's mostly "all my clothes are navy blue" and "I don't have to hear your whole thing, I know what you're feeling, this is what you should do". 😂
I have a 10 year text conversation too. He's nice but, omg..crazy and I feel I need to be his friend. Sometimes I just don't answer the text messages because he bugs me so bad.
Oh - the antique store gave me flashbacks to when I was 10 and driving with a friend's family through Detroit. I started talking about how it made me melancholic looking at all the old ramshackle houses, and thinking about how lovely they must have been once, and picturing the original owners, likely dead now, and how excited they must have once been to purchase those houses, and how sad they would be now to see what became of them - and then I turned my head and looked at the the expressions on the faces of everyone else in the car, realized these were not welcome thoughts - slunk down in my seat and felt even more uncomfortable than usual for the rest of the day!
Detroit is one of the most tragic places for exactly that reason. Anyone who doesn’t think like you did is heartless and cold. That’s why my INFJ dad bought one of those places and they did what they could to revive it in the 70s
I was watching an ad from the 80s earlier on another video and the first thing that came to mind was, I bet these people are really old or dead by now. 😂
I feel this on every level. I do the same. exact. thing. I used to do boring data entry years ago where all I did was enter information from scanned checks. And I'd find myself looking at peoples' names and addresses and endlessly musing on who they must be, what their houses must look like, what are their lives like? The ways our minds work is exhausting at times, lol.
I think these kind of things too. When I was a kid we would pass apartments on the way to my grandparents' and I would make up stories in my head about some of the people i imagined lived in them.
Yeah, I felt called out by that one. 😂 I buy a 6 pack of t-shirts once a year. Same brand, usually all black but some years I have bought a pack of variety of colors 😂
@Raqlew No idea why, but yeah. Lots of navy blue. Sometimes I switch it up, and wear black. I amalso Italian, though, so my accessories are colorful. But they must match, and have a theme.
Omg the cry about the anniversary is hilarious 😂 that infj girl is so me I can’t remember things my friends told me yesterday or at the beginning of a conversation
🙌Thinking about Stoicism while driving! 💀That's hilarious! Also, the 10-year convo with the old friend and "What day is this? Oh, it's Friday?" Love this series already, and we're only two in! 🤣💜
As an INFJ girl, I can confirm based on my experience when I was in a relationship with my ENFJ ex, it's true that most of this things happened, especially the social media and get distracted thing. Sometimes he got frustated to contact me because I disappeared for days
Yes me too!! People think I’m being a bitch because I’m mostly so slow at answering, literally days, but I’m just caught in something else, often meaningless 😂
@@monikap8777 Because he’s extroverted. The dynamic might be very off when the introvert only has the capacity to answer a text a day and barely be social, while the extrovert desires an active social life and ends up being the one constantly waiting for replies. Many have made it work but not everyone, sadly.
The antique shop is sooo accurate .. thinking about all the dead people and their lives .. I actually might remove the teapot lid and put the teapot to my ear maybe I will hear some of the voice were in their houses 😢
Me an infj looking at all my thrifted furniture wandering if I should get rid of it cuz negative spirits might be attached to it even though I saged it😂
I just love the part where I literally cut people off and quit social media for months...I already switched off notifications so I don't get drained from whatsapp meaningless conversations. I socially awkward and get anxious from just visiting the mall two times a week.
I’m an INFJ and this is so funny! 😂😂 It took me about a year to get off of social media but I finally did (with way too many distraction binges in there). And not having the “emotional capacity” for certain media- SO TRUE! It is a hard boundary that I won’t violate for anyone. 🙃 Love your channel! 😊
Haha, you summed up my INFJ life so well, Frank. Most of my clothes are navy blue, I love The Great British Bake Off, but skip the eliminations, dabble in stoicism, and get caught in text conversations with acquaintances I haven't spoken to in about a decade.
As an INFJ, this is all so relatable. Most of my wardrobe is navy and black... That's my preferred color palette. I feel *classic* in it. I've had people tell me over and over that I look good in "color"... It makes me have a deep dive internally into *why* did they *really* say that or they just don't get symbolism ("I'm not depressed... I think I'll incorporate silver into my dark colors and make it pop. Still classic). My functions just take over and I have to tell myself that it was a compliment 😂😂😂 Deep thoughts while driving is an every day day occurrence. The long text chain for years by people who aren't really in my life is a thing. Knowing what's wrong without having to hear the whole thing is spot on (what's irritating is someone who cuts in on my story and doesn't let me finish. I've learned to keep talking with over talkers who always interrupt). British TV is my saving grace in this world. Bring on the affectionate dry sense of humor. We need more of that in the world.
"I give it 3 months" so totally me. I predicted it wasn't gonna work for Ben & Jen's Wedding. I gave it only 6 months, so while I was off on the timeline, I wasn't off on the outcome so it's a win. 😂😂
This explains so much. 😂 I appreciate this because most people just tell me I don't have "that feminine vulnerability" that men supposedly want because I don't like romantic comedies or Lifetime movies and would rather have several root canals where the anesthesia fails than spend years trying to trick and manipulate a man into being someone he has no interest in being.
Oh thank god it's not just me..... one of my exes was a hopeless romantic who loved romance movies and it was HELL!!! Like, I'd rather BE in one of the horror movies that I love than watch a cringy sobby romance. 😂
INFJ, always been called boyish. And funny enough, I had former male friends who liked to stereotype women and vent out about it to me, who is also a woman. Like, no sir, you just hate women and you just don't see me as one. We come in all forms and I love my feminine sisters too!
@@lucy9698~ Boyfriends have complained to me that I'm not romantic, and I'm turned off when they get romantic with me. It just all feels so fake and forced. I'm a realist; be real with me even if it's ugly.
The ordering coffee part is gold. I'm an INFJ and I always order regular drip coffee with cream. (Really, I just make it myself which is even better) I get anxiety when my friend wants me to order some complex over the top item for them, no matter if it's coffee or a drive-thru food place. It makes me nervous. Simple is best! ;)
The coffee had me laughing. Last week the ladies I work with were ordering coffee at Starbucks (Frappuccinos with all the things) and asked what I wanted. I said, " Cold-brew. Black, dark, and cold like my insides" then let out a little a chuckle. 🎉
Oh. My. God. I am like this to a tee!!! That part about watching The Great British Baking Show for the third time because other stuff is too emotionally draining....I literally do that. The exact same show for the exact same reason. That one got me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm an ENFP (self-tested, tested by university, multiple times in different ways, always ENFP)... & a few of these traits resonated with how I'm like. The normal girlfriend? Not so much, lol.
I always get an INFJ personality type, but still beneficial to remember it’s just a helpful category and not a hard science by any means. So of course the personalities will be wide ranging even if there is some commonality. I’m sure someone will also say that’s what an INFJ would say 😅
yeah I get like melancholic about how their life might have been, how it might have ended and how their situation was at the time the piece was made. I thought I was an ENTP though so that's weird I guess
As an INTJ who had an antiques business for 23 years, I actually like imagining the people who owned these things long ago. It gives me a connection through time. Of course, most of the things I handled were well cared for, so it didn't seem tragic. One thing that always gave me pause, however, were old sterling silver trophies and wedding and anniversary gifts, that sort of thing. I always wondered what happened that such heirlooms ended up in the hands of auctioneers and resellers.
"I just can't help thinking about how everyone who originally bought this stuff is dead."😅😂 This is so spot on, with our hearts and minds, all over the map~ nobody else thinks like this!
watch "Normal Mom vs INTJ Mom" next 👉 ruclips.net/video/b0ZnBbVoT2E/видео.html
You must be covering all the NI doms first? 😁
I'd love to see more INFP stuff.... Not like I'm an INFP or anything. Asking for a friend.....
Oh yeah, as an INTJ mom that was hysterically accurate....especially with letting them wear what they want and lettng their grades be something they learn ownership of...
Keep the INTJ stuff coming, please.
What about a video with INTJ bf with INFP gf? Yes? (Or INTJ bf with INF bf - or INTJ gf with INFP gf, gender doesn't really matter)
Omg this is literally me 😂
My favorite part about being an INFJ is that we’re supposed to be all squishy and touchy-feely - which we are - but we are also brutally analytical. 😂
That’s very true 😂 I sometimes get accused of being INTJ because of that.
Haha! Squishy and touchy-feely + brutally analytical. That’s accurate. 😄
Love it! Exactly! 😂
Factsss! It confuses me sometimes feels like I have two different sides my emotional side and my very analytical side they can definitely clash
Literally a touchy feely psychoanalyst....
As an INFJ, this is too relatable. INFJ’s do have that lovey-dovey energy, but we can also be very realistic and judgmental to the point that it’s comical
Yesssss. Loved how you worded this :)
Yes, yes we do😌
Yes often look back and laugh quietly to myself!
Agreed 😂
My entire life is a joke, so I just have to laugh at it, at this point. INFJ love ❤
As an INFJ wife, I've done the "we're having a disagreement, but we can stop the conversation because it's probably something I just need to work on myself" response to my husband many times, lol!
As an INTJ, I would love to hear that because I would do the same on my side but not telling it. 😁
@Flavien I'm an infj and my husband is an intj, and is awesome, thank God when we argue it is something like this, or like a conversation more on detailed about something we are annoyed about, but there is never yelling or making feel the other one bad, just a process of growing for each of us. Making the other see what could need more work in other to be the person God wants him or me be.
Most accurate 😂😅😂
"It's probably just me. Sorry. Yeah pretty sure it's just me." Said this the other day because I was being genuinely over sensitive.
I’m an INFP, but that one hit!
INFJ girl here. The texting one and not having the heart to tell them the truth is so accurate
As an INFJ, I can confirm that the majority of my closet is navy and dark colors.
I cannot believe how relatable this video is
Especially dark colors😅😂
Mine is brown 😂
Me only owning black or white
Actually, I have a lot of different colors like white, red, yellow, blue, green, orange... but navy is really cool.
ENFP here: mine is black, navy blue, white, electric blue, red. That’s all
I adore you. As an INFJ female, I can say everyone I’ve ever dated has found me to be refreshingly weird. Once I finally embraced my weirdness I became much happier.
Totally relatable, I'm definitely a weirdo myself
oh glad i know now. I'll have to accept 😊😌😅
I am an entp and an infj girlfriend actually seems like... well just perfect. Like damn that thought process..woww
that makes me really happy for you! as a fellow female INFJ i think i’m currently trying to achieve that :)
This is helpful! I will embrace it, too. I've spent so much time trying to tidy the edges of it. But seeing this video makes me proud! Lol.
“Oops I missed the turn, I was distracted.. I was thinking about stoicism”. This one got me, I’ve never felt so understood 😂
Me too that one was great for me
Me too! 🤣🤣🤣
Me too. I laughed so hard but usually I’m thinking of stoicism or how I could transform the roads with better public transport infrastructure.
Right!!!??? 🤣🤣
I laughed OUT LOUD for that one too. I see I am in good company here liking this comment haha!! 😂🎉
😂😂😂😂 “I was distracted because I was thinking about stoicism” So true! INFJ girlfriends are the best girlfriends.
'I only have the emotional capacity to watch *insert show/film* for the 3rd time' and skipping over stressful parts is hilariously accurate 😅 I feel so seen 💕
😅 Same
Yessss that was soo relatable it was spooky. 😅 sometimes i watch new shows but look at all the episode descriptions to prepare myself for whats to come if the show is too suspensful/stressful.
literally me if there's too much stress in the movie I'll probably try to distract myself because it just gives me too much anxiety and I can't stay still and that suck for me as a film editor T_T
Yes! When my partner and I watch anything with violence or too much suspense, I just read Romance Webtoons during stressful scenes 😅
@@isisribeiroaesthetics3667same omg and I wanna be a filmmaker 😭 I had to watch so many stressful films for my film course
As someone who has 90% navy clothing and thinks too much about stoicism, this is accurate
90% blue and 10% black😂
@@merlin8647 Dark blue specifically, and 1% light blue for vareity
My closet looks like a cartoon characters
Same.
I can't do blue. It makes me look like rigor has set in. Otherwise, this sketch is scary accurate. 😅
I’m an INFJ woman and all of this is ridiculously accurate. Except for the all my clothes are navy part. All of my clothes are gray.
😂😂 i was like "mine are black actually" but yes other than that he read me like a book
All mine are black lmaooo
The idea is that all our clothes are a neutral color and we aren't fussy. Mine are all mostly white. 😜
I'm an INFJ male. I get criticised (often tacitly) for liking colours. Men are supposed to wear greys and blues.
Omg !! Best comment on the internet. Your deadpan humor just cracked me up !?
"sorry, i was distracted....i was thinking about stoicism"🤣🤣🤣
he is too accurate
I almost spit out my coffee at “I was thinking about stoicism” 😹 this is gold
Same girl, same.
Literally me but thinking of existentialism instead 😂
Hahaa me too 😂😂
Literally have the Stoics app on my phone so I can mentally roast them each morning. Except Epictetus, he's pretty reasonable.
Golden!
Do an INFJ Dad or INFJ Boyfriend sketch next 😂😂😂 This is so funny!
ok!!!
@@FrankJames Do on maybe ISTJ mum or ISTJ girlfriend? This is so amazing
INFJ dad would be so interesting!!
As an INFJ male, the gf one was pretty similar. That's gotten me in a lot of trouble though. Maybe if I knew I was an INFJ back when I was younger, I could have explained myself better. However, I do like your suggestion. I'm also a dad.
@@FrankJamesthis is the most INFJ response down to the amount of exclamation points so the asker knows we come in friendly lol. (Ps: I’m also an INFJ) hehe 😊
I love INFJs. They all are so self aware and also very caring while standing their ground and not confusing being selfless to sacrificing their own space. Also, they are really like cats lol they feel your sadness or stress and immediately know what is the best for you to do. Best advices by INFJs.
yes, my ex bf used to describe me as like a cat
Aww🥰 How sweet! As an INFJ being described as a cat would be so cute. I either get ignored, called silly, screen saver, or weird. My Bosses are irritated by me and my co-workers like me. My family and friends are used to my "quirks".☺
Ey, I'm not. I'm definitely a golden retriever. Yes, we also exist 😜😊
Bro I feel so appreciated rn 🥺🥺😭
Kinda got the first part wrong…. I am not self-aware and I most of the time think being selfless means the same thing as sacrificing your soul to whoever's around you’s mercy..
Thank you for making me realize i have a normal INFJ behaviour. I always thought i was some kind of weirdo.
That "it turns out all of my clothes are navy blue" stabs me in the heart, I said that to myself almost every time I need to pick clothes.
omggg I am an INFJ who has an entire wardrobe full of pink.
@Paola Valentina haha, pink is the only colour in my wardrobe, the rest is black and grey...
Most of my clothes are navy blue , black ...༎ຶ‿༎ຶ
I busted out laughing at that line
Same, i felt called out😭
Lots of relatable points in here. The most relatable is when the INFJ pivots from sympathy to "now here's what you should do" - I always have a game plan for everyone.
but not for myself :,)
That one made me laugh pretty hard.
Absolutely!
The now what you should do is part actually killed me😂
Right? That's when I knew it really was me.
Not the "Im upset but it has more to do with me so let me just process it" and the "I don't have the emotional capability to watch certain movies." That's too accurate 😂
I'm an ENFP but these 2 traits are spot on for me too.
I’m INFJ and I love fucked up movies like Oldboy so idk if I qualify for that one 😭
Yes . I blame it on me for not being strong enough to not let stuff affect me.
“I only have the emotional capacity to watch the great British bake off of the third time”
Omg lol 😂 I relate so hard.
As an INFJ that has WAY too much black clothing in my wardrobe, I resonate with the “just found out all my clothes are navy blue”
Mine is a maroonish pinkish purple? I don't know the name of it but it's apparently the only color I own now 😂
I've NTENTIONALLY told myself to add more colour to my wardrobe in last 5 years, but here I am wearing a navy blue top and black pants .
I have to be more intentional next time
I alternate between black and navy blue. But recently I've tried to add a little more colour to my wardrobe while somehow still managing to squeeze in something black or navy blue.
Black is my favorite color.
All four seasons of clothing: Black
As an INFJ female, I can confirm the 100% accuracy of this video. While we might've dated emotionally unhealthy people, as we progress in life, we're intuitive enough to sift through hours of content on phycology and childhood trauma work so that we end up with healthy partners. 😅
I can also confirm British television is mostly all I can stomach because it's relaxing. Intense or violent stuff is too stressful. 😂
I relate to all of that, watched a horror movie and got stressed out for 3 days, better chill watching relaxing stuff from now on
I don't relate to the navy blue. I love colour 😂
All I want is to watch Peaky Blinders but I don't want to dedicate days of rhetoric and a month of emotional involvement.
I'm the same; however, I do enjoy a splash of color in my clothing, especially during spring.
I'm so mad that I can't get a degree from all the psych lectures I've covered here and medical journals.
“I don’t need to listen to you to know exactly what you’re feeling, so here’s what you should do.” OMG!!! I’m dying!!! 😂🤣
I had to go apologize to one of my friends LOL 🤣
It’s true though!! I usually do!! 😅😅😅
My husband is the normal girlfriend, and I am the infj. This is literally every day when he gets home from work.
After 25 years he actually says, "You don't have to fix it, just listen. You can even zone out if you want, but act like you are listening."
I do actually have to listen, though, because every so often, he ends with a heavy breath and then says, "Okay, tell me how to fix it the fastest way possible."
Guilty! 🙋🏼♀️
Lol on this. So true. 😂
I didnt know us infjs are so freaking blunt xD
it all makes sense now 😅
As an INFJ I can relate to the antique store. I was in a museum which held ancient dead bodies they dug up on display and while everyone else was enjoying the morbid display all I could think about was how disrespectful it was to put them poor souls on display instead of giving them a respectful buried plot 🤷♀️
As an INTJ I can’t understand why u want the shells of humans buried instead giving up the treasures of discoveries they hold for us now. The human has been gone from that sac of flesh for millennia. They don’t care what u do with it.
@@YeshuaKingMessiah well I guess your more scientific then spiritual. Some people believe the nature of the type of burial that a person has decides on how the soul sleeps. How do you know that the person slaying on that slab is at peace with people staring at them day to day in a museum? You wouldn't know that unless you could speak to their soul
I doubt they will have any issues finding a body in the future but it’s my dream to become the next Lucy
I relate too! When I was a kid I loved the little house on the Prairie book series. Well I found the first one at a thrift store and bought it to re read. Well after finishing it there was a family tree of the linage of the Ingalls family etc. From the 1860s I think, well it hit me how long ago they lived and how they had lived and died so long ago, and how one day I am go to die too... yea it triggered an internal crisis. 😭
@@audrinaparshall3294 stop it. Ur mentioning is reminding my internal issue of that ….lol..
I’m an INFJ woman who got engaged to my INFJ fiancé last November. We have the most analytical, logic oriented, pragmatic relationship. Our first conversations were about the biggest things in life and then slowly we began to work our way down to small talk. I was definitely this type of girlfriend 😂
I'm so happy for you both! 💝🙏💝
@@laurabarber6697 Thank you 🙏☺️
Omg that’s so cool! Im happy you found each other
I just found out my bf is also an INFJ! Very interesting and makes so much sense!
Congrats!! I was lucky enough to find another INFJ friend recently, starting at the secrets of the universe and then working our way down is SUCH a mood 😂
As an INFJ, I can confirm that eliminations and just endings of TV shows make us nervous. We always expect the plot twist and also end up hiding our eyes for half of the show.
Edit: thanks for the likes!
I have entire C-dramas (40+ episodes) that I have watched to their entirety with the exception of the last episode because I don’t want it to end or I know the ending will upset me so I put it off for years now… now I have to watch them all over again because I feel ready 😂😂
I just quit watching TV and movies altogether.
So it's not just me!!!
@@smason3541 BRO same 😂
@@just.callmemack being an infj i can relate, but then my anxiety would never let me sleep peacefully until i finish watching that last episode lol
Yet another INFJ female here, and that "I only have the emotional capacity to watch the Great British Bakeoff" and "can we skip the elimination round" was just the icing on this very relatable cake.
As an INFJ that was so accurate in each part.
You showed the struggle very well
About forgetting the days of the week
That's so true, I constantly have to check what the day is.
btw thanks for the effort you put in, I love your content.
Same
Same!
As an Intj who has an INFJ brother. That is the most accurate thing I watched about infjs
That's more like a human thing than a personality thing, right?
No offense intended. I'm an INFJ-T. So.. just saying...
I think the people in the drugstore yesterday were 200% more INFJ than me - they said it's already the 6th of April (it was the 4th) :) But maybe it was actually the 1st :)
I don't even have a boyfriend but this is 300% me. The "I'll just work it out in therapy next tuesday" made me wheeze, scream and cry at the same time 🤣🤣🤣
One time I was in my feels, and my husband at the time said why are you mad at me. And I legit said I’m deciding if I need to be mad at you I’ll probably work it out myself so just let me have some space for a minute. 😂😂😂
@@cherieswannhanson1482 😂😂😂 Like... I mean... isn't it just logical? Why would we start an argument when it's probably just a matter of perspective??? 🤣🤣🤣
@@michellecruznyan absolutely! Maybe I’m just hungry. Maybe aunt flow gonna come tomorrow. No sense stirring everybody up until I’m sure.
Gotcha love the creative profile picture
Most of the time if I'm upset or irritated with my boyfriend, it's a "me" problem. And we usually work things out on our own. He's an ISTJ and I'm an INFJ
As an INFJ woman this is so accurate 😂
Except for the boring clothes part, I am a part-time fashion stylist
Same 😃! I love fashion and I only wear the "deeper" shades of color in the winter.
Apart from the clothes… more than required
I have so many clothes but I stick to my favorites on a cycle but I love colors but choose to wear neutrals have the time because it’s less effort most days
I have been on some radical clothing journeys… I think, really, I am trying to appear normal. I would only wear grey if I could just be left alone and didn’t have to go places.
@Shoshanna omg I go through cycles of years where pink is my thing and then one year it’s blue the next it’s green or purple and then the rest of the year it’s black and gray 😭
Frank! THANK YOU for the best laugh session I have had in years. When you said, "It turns out all my clothes are Navy Blue" I completely lost my sh**t for like 10 minutes. I seriously have not laughed this hard since I can remember, so thanks for that, I needed it. (Here's a clue: I would NOT be the normal girlfriend.)
This is female INFJ,Noone knows how happy an INFJ feels being something relatable to them and so accurate. That stoicism and social media diet is so real. Frank, looking forward for more INFJ stuff
Thank you so much...😊
right? I was like, oh man how does he know?? xD
"I don't need to listen to you to know EXACTLY what you're feeling..." is my favorite line of all time 😂❤
HAHA right?
Truer words never spoken
Always followed up with "now here's what you should do." Accurate 🏆
It’s so true though. Lol
But people are very annoyed by this. And they dont listen and it i have to watch it going vorher Down the road.. how do yall do it that they want your advice?
This is so painfully accurate. But we INFJ women definitely need more representation.
Thank you!
are u kidding? 90 percent of mbti content is about infjs
@@e.j1997 I haven't seen that but even if it's true, it doesn't mean is right representation. I do have seen a lot of stereotypes.
Edit: Also I've seen much more "representation" of men, not women
@@sonyastephens7583 Me too, and I feel most INFJs like quality things. But even then I feel like it is not something shallow or frivolous, but rather we have certain motives/deeper reasoning behind it.
@@happydaze7386 are we really that few? I don't know the statistics
@@blanqui2040
Third rarest personality type in the world (as of 2018, a lot of places have the 2008 data which says we INFJ’s are the rarest).
This is the funniest thing I've seen in a while. Stop it.
As an INFJ wife, I can say this is accurate.
Oh yes, the 'is it Tuesday? It's FrIdAy???'
Especially 😄
#SaveSoil #ConsciousPlanet
You've really nailed that INFJ perma simultaneously incredulous, sad, unamused, concerned look😆
Yeah, but also why he gotta call us out like that though? 😩😅
Resting INFJ face.
I think he is one! If you search his videos by the oldest, it starts with an INFJ new year depression video. Makes sense why we feel so seen now. 😂❤
Hi, INFJ here! That last part brutally wounded me, cause yes my ex had the same toxic traits as my father, and yes I broke up with him when I came to the realization that the relationship wasn’t going anywhere. Good night, shoutout to all my fellow INFJs’ who went through the same dilemma glad I wasn’t alone!
I spent big part of my adult life, trying hard not to get involved with the guys, who had the same nasty character, as my father did.
@@user-oj5bw7sl8p and I'm still single because I don't wanna end up with a guy who have same trait as my father
Mine was like my mother 😂😢😅😂
That one makes me cry 😭😭
It’s messed up but we tend to marry the parent (in personality) that you don’t get along with
This is, of course, hilarious. “It’s the rarest type.” And yet here we all are. 🤔 😂❤
"I don't need to listen to you to know exactly what you're feeling." That hit me 😂
I’m actually embarrassed how I’ve said or done almost every single one of these, my friends comment on my grey and navy wardrobe, and I skip any game show to the end elimination cause it’s just too much for me 😂 My parents also banned me from antique stores cause I wouldn’t stop commenting on the “dead people’s junk”
Fascinating. You can sense different energies from these old items if you try to feel it after salt cleansing your hands. (Check quareia for more) Not all dead people leave bad energies behind.
- enfp
@@SomeRandomGuy777x Energy is the capacity to do work, not a mystical aura :)
@@heavnxbound Lol, I knew a science sceptic would turn up.
You can call it a sensable mystical aura if you prefer that instead of energy. Energy for me means all types of energies, physical, non physical and multi dimensional (interpenetrating emenation of creation source)
Cross dimensional is not measurable for the time being, might never be. But its all an aspect of moving(energy) mind. Which does not fit well into the post-modern reductionistic paradigme no. I am well aware.
i don’t know why people want to pass stuff on, i’m missing the reason…my mother saves everything, has journals from her trips….and she’s sent them to us, why would i want to read about someone else’s vacation?
yes i relate to dead peoples stuff
Ha ha, I’m like that. If reality tv, movies, etc get too intense I’ll look it up online to find out how it ends. “Oh good! She survives, yah she didn’t die.” Or ,” great I’m glad he won the competition, I’d be upset if that other narcissist guy won.” Or, good I can finish watching the movie because she does end up with him! 😂
I'm an INFJ and I really relate to watching the british bake off for the third time without elimination parts because I love repetitious activities but hate it when people get isolated/cut out of the program 😂
Yep, I feel you there. That was too real 😅
Lol yeah I am only interested in how the cakes and pastries look 😂. I can't handle my favorites getting the boot 🥾
Same!
Ohhhh so being an INFJ is why I relisten to Harry Potter audiobooks over and over but skip over the brutal endings. Same with movies.
my boi
Every time we need to check what day it is, it’s already another Friday!
Where did the other days go! 😂
That "its Friday??" Part its totally relatable as an infj....there was a time when i even forgot my marriage anniversary and my husband was very upset at that😂
Oh yeah, definitely forgot a couple anniversaries myself , but my husband was right along side me forgetting too. My mom was amused she remembered before we did. 😅
Lmao. Maybe that’s why I got married the day after Christmas, pretty hard to forget that, and no need to feel like we must buy extravagant gifts etc 😂
I went for a year thinking I was 33 years old only to find out that I had been 32 the whole time..
I forget my own birthday. (And I get really anxious about other people's birthdays, because I forget them too, but they get upset about it, and I hate the upset. WAY too much responsibility for me. 😄)
@@Littlebird11 omg haha 😂
I try to be friends with people who know that I will probably forget birthdays and such, but won’t hold it against me.
Oye though I beat myself up for having an entire conversation with a new roommate and not once remembering to ask their name or introduce myself 😅😅😅
The rewatching cooking and baking shows every week because I don’t have the energy to scroll Netflix is so accurate 😂
I have been obsessed with Food Network ever since high school, at least. It's just so neutral and nice to have on in the background. Plus, I've learned a surprising amount about cooking and baking!
I've seen INFJ skits in social media and usually don't think they're very accurate, but this is spot on in ways I wasn't expecting! 😂 Even though I'm always trying hard, I feel like I never have the thoughts/behavior that people prefer, which can be discouraging. But seeing things portrayed by someone else helps me realize there's nothing actually wrong with the way I work!
I think it works so well because Frank is actually an INFJ himself.
Exactly! ❤
I barely open social media even if I do, my fyp is full of panda videos, cat videos and anime and mangas..... I'm mostly on youtube
The Navy Blue got me! 😭
Haha I am INFJ I just recently learned- this is pretty hilarious. How nice to read all the comments and realize I’m not alone. I definitely feel like a stranger in a strange land with most of humanity.
When I started to read the comments section, I also thought "wow, I'm not the only one" 😂
Same I finally realised that all the contradiction in my head, not concentrate or lagging behind in conversation, the emotion attachment I have to something even it's small and a lot of stuff I couldn't explain before, I'm not alone
Have you considered taking the Raads-R Test?
A lot of INFJ are very very High Functioning Aspies.
Myself included. My iNTJ is also Aspie and he’s what led me to get my diagnosis, though a diagnosis is not required ;)
He came at me talking about all the BIG things most people would never talk about.
We dove very deep from our first conversations, onwards.
It still continues 8 years later, endless conversation and theorizing ♥️
There needs to be a support group for all of us INFJ’s out there! LOL
We are the rarest of the types and gotta stick together!
@@nathalywithhsame 😂
As an INFJ female, it is so nice to know there are more people like this. Two years ago I met another INFJ female and being friends with her has been like slowly uncovering we have this type of thing in common 😂 In my case, I only share my weird side with people I trust I guess :)
As an INFJ male, I also think it is nice to know that there are more people like this.
Do you often wonder what the world would be like if the whole world was all INFJs?
Hang on wait, what day is it?
I would love finally meeting another INFJ , it can get pretty “lonely” sometimes especially bc I am so ridiculously good at being alone but I also want to communicate with like-minded people or people that can bring value into my life and are themselves interesting and “weird” ( in a good authentic way) and yep I relate to the trusting part !
hello! im an INFJ female, age 19. i struggle to make friends and struggle to relate to my peers, although i have a deep need for connection and intimate conversations. i feel empty during small talk but i can't seem to find many people who feel comfortable discussing the topics i ponder on every day of my life. i feel lonely quite often, even when i'm around others. people often tell me i go off on tangents and even make jokes to try to "get me to shut up", i always laugh and quite down but i'm curious what it would be like to have a conversation with someone just like me, someone who isn't just trying to watch the movie but also pause, reflect and talk about the little things that happen in the movie, i know this is a bit weird, like someone reaching out to you through a comment section on youtube weird but if you'd everrrr like to perceive each other's existence and maybe even talk about what it's like, my instagram is @xcybersamx but follow my personal if you'd like to see a closer look at the way i see things (linked in main instagram bio), tiktok is @cybersamm, i would LOVE to follow back so please let me know if you do. again i know this is weird, because even i think it's weird, but i am seriously so desperate for someone to ask "what're you thinking" and not be surprised or dismissive of my actual answer, it would be nice to be honest of what im actually thinking for once, and not always actively trying to simplify it in fear of intimidating or making my peers uncomfortable.
yeah same lmao
Tell me about it. I once talked with someone giving me advice. He raised a question of how people wear all of these masks. I didn't bother to argue. But, if you're an INFJ, you know that it's less like a mask and more like a mirror. We shine back at people what they shine at us. It's not to be rude, or even to hide. It's more like too much effort to over share. We just stick with what we have in common with the person we are talking with. So, it's efficient. However, if you have to go into a more public sphere, then as an INFJ, you have a dilemma as to how to remain authentic in this bigger, more complex space. I haven't figured that one out yet.
I love your videos about INFJs. I am an INFJ and I have felt misunderstood my entire life. My family has often shamed me or made me apologize for being an introvert (they think I'm rude or aloof because they are all extroverts on steroids). You actually seem to understand what I am thinking, how I feel, and why I am how I am. I know that I'm "weird" compared to other people, but at the same time people gravitate toward me. Strangers will tell me intimate details about their lives, then confess that they have no idea why they told me their secrets. My family calls me a "freak magnet" and belittles me. I cannot help who I am, nor can I change who I am.
Yo. Please consider setting up a little more distance from folks who are judging you in a hurtful way. You don't need that negativity. My suspicion is that you may be young and think you have to take it. You don't. And you don't have to fight either. Just see them less often, for shorter periods. It may help you to stop reciting their judgements. It may help to practice with friends or strangers how to politely correct assumptions, while not engaging about the mean thing that was just said to you. Good luck.
It's cause y'all have little ears attached to your heart & ppl can sense that.
No te sientas mal, yo también me he dado cuenta que atraigo gente que necesita ser escuchada o comprendida (autistas, síndrome down, personas ansiosas, etc).
I totally relate. My family teases me too but mostly for being absent minded bc I am always thinking so sometimes I feel like I do things on auto pilot so I forget where I put things 😂
I finally found the perfect career as a hairdresser bc people don't get as freaked out that they're telling you their entire life story (trauma dumping lol) bc everyone expects their hairdresser to be a counselor as well. And I really don't mind. When I worked at a grocery store however, it would get real awkward when they'd open up like that in the 2 minutes it took to check them out 😂
Also I'm pretty sure most INFJ are neurodivergent (in the best way)
Also, I get that we tend to let our family criticize us and let it "roll off" but INFJ sometimes struggle with healthy boundaries. Sounds like your family would be a great place for you to start practicing setting healthy boundaries for yourself. You are worthy of love and respect and deserve to be treated with such. Practice setting healthy boundaries with them. I promise you won't regret it.
Being an infj female these three things fit me well:
- forgetting the "special" dates (my memory is short and is willing to work only with super important stuff)
- not paying attention to small things about myself (but I'm quite observant of others)
- most on my clothes is neutral colored
Because of that, some people think I'm mean to them. I'm really not, I'm just phlegmatic by nature haha
Infj are just most realistic and honest than normal people
This was scarily accurate! And as an INFJ therapist, "I don't need to listen to you to know exactly what you're feeling. So now here's what you should do..." is embarrassingly close to my approach with clients.
How is it to be an INFJ Therapist? Is it very stressful or overstimulating sometimes?
That does not sound like a good approach at all.
I had to learn to take a seat as a friend to just listen. I know I can feel how they feel, but it's valid to let them say it. I also started asking if they want advice or a story before jumping in. It's hard when all you want to do is stop the bleeding and fix the problem 😂
I literally came across your comment when he said it
@@wasnlos2676 it's kinda funny ngl because even when I was a child INFJ you feel people's emotions so much more intensely like your living through it, feels very uncomfortable when you're young. As a therapist though I still just sit and listen an then sometimes I repeat the same things back to people until they themselves realize there issue, after that I wait till they look like they want to change what's happening
Oh my god the great british bakeoff part was too real
The reaction at the antique store is 100% accurate for me. I go to estate sales and get very sad when I see an individual or couple’s belongings laid out for sale, it’s so sad 😞
Although I didn't relate as much for the antique store but i do relate when it comes to abandoned places. Antique store just reminds me of how it used to belong to someone and makes me curious the story behind them. I never really thought of the death part.
It is sad. I wonder who in the family passed and then I wonder if they would care that their things were being sold.
@@hanayuuki790Same, as well that I don’t really see that Death as a bad thing, we don’t know what comes after it so i’m just fascinated by the thought as I see antiques where they are now, if that makes sense? And after that thought I go into a spiral how cool it is that it dates back to so many decades and that people from those times actually touched and possessed these things.
As one who loves antiques and estate sales I must say I feel the same. The death doesn’t bother me but I do think about the history of the item and what that person’s life must’ve been like when I go into these places. It also makes me incredibly sad to see photos and other certain things that I would have cherished from my family members but nobody else in this person’s family wanted at all at estate sales. I always thank the deceased person for their treasures if I buy something. Then I smudge before bringing it in my house lol.
@@hanayuuki790 Same
I'm sending this to my boyfriend and all my friends so they can deeply understand me without having to actually talk to them. Thanks FJ! 😊👍🏽
Hahaha could have been a good meta scenario in this video
“It turns out all of my clothes are navy blue.” I ugly laughed so hard. 😂😂
Currently, all my clothes are out of giveaway bins…so they are whatever. Which I’m pretty sure is the same as them all being navy blue. 😂
Mom to me: Susan, why can’t you dress nicer.
1:16 why I don’t have social media 😅😅😅😅
“While it’s icky, I can’t say it’s surprising!” Ha. Dead! Best for last for sure.
It’s hard being so self aware some times haha
Hilarious because I have this specific thought on a regular basis. 😂
I am an INFJ Female and this is 100% spot on. I own 10 of the same shirt in 10 color variations of blue and green. My husband teases that as soon as I find a shirt I like I just buy all of them and wear them for 10 years until they are rags and I need to go find all new ones. I love your videos. I binge watch them int he corner of my screen while I work.
SO relateable! I'm wearing the lavender version of a blouse I bought last april! I've got navy blue, light blue, lavender and just bought the deep purple one! ✨
I am the same way!!!!
Mine is all white. I didn't know it was a thing until I came across this video. I just thought I have zero fashion sense. But that's probably also true.
OMG. I'm an INFJ woman and I do the exact same thing!
I do the same! I was goth in high school, which I loved, but --ain't gonna lie -- there is a part of me that was just happy all of my outfits matched 🤣
I'm smiling because a lot of these are so accurate 😂 "is this Tuesday...?" Realising that at least half the clothes in my cupboard are navy blue. "I can totally understand where you're coming from. Here's what you should do." Um yes.
I also have so many generally blue clothes. Never thought that just an INFJ trait lol
Mine too! Is there some logic behind the blue clothing?
r we the same ppl bc I also have sm blue but never my favorite colors ?? we must start a theoretical investigation
Blue is generally calming, maybe that’s why?
OMG I just took that test and I am INFJ and that was spot on. I was literally thinking about stoicism right before I clicked on this video.
I didn't realize skipping the emotionally heavy parts of programs was an INFJ trait 😂😂 lmao I feel very represented
So true.
So so freaking true! I like rewatching Outlander but the rape scenes you gotta be a psycho to watch those again 🤣🤣
As an INFJ: absolutely dead 😂😭😂💀
THE TEN YEAR LONG DRAINING TEXT CONVERSATION OMGGG😂😂😂😂
Also THANK YOU for making it honest and real instead of an "oh they're so mystical and gossamer" thing. I mean, we have our moments, but yeah it's mostly "all my clothes are navy blue" and "I don't have to hear your whole thing, I know what you're feeling, this is what you should do". 😂
the 10 year long conversation part is so depressing lol, you can just imagine that guy thinks she likes him or something :( ::: XD
That last part is so true for me. I would never wear navy but black? That’s my jam.
I have a 10 year text conversation too. He's nice but, omg..crazy and I feel I need to be his friend. Sometimes I just don't answer the text messages because he bugs me so bad.
“I don’t have to listen to you to know exactly how you’re feeling. Okay, so here’s what you should do.”
👌🤣
My soul snorted on that one, I swear 😂😂😂😂
"So now here's what u should do" is so accurate 🤣🤣
Oh - the antique store gave me flashbacks to when I was 10 and driving with a friend's family through Detroit.
I started talking about how it made me melancholic looking at all the old ramshackle houses, and thinking about how lovely they must have been once, and picturing the original owners, likely dead now, and how excited they must have once been to purchase those houses, and how sad they would be now to see what became of them -
and then I turned my head and looked at the the expressions on the faces of everyone else in the car, realized these were not welcome thoughts - slunk down in my seat and felt even more uncomfortable than usual for the rest of the day!
Detroit is one of the most tragic places for exactly that reason. Anyone who doesn’t think like you did is heartless and cold. That’s why my INFJ dad bought one of those places and they did what they could to revive it in the 70s
I have this thought all the time!
I was watching an ad from the 80s earlier on another video and the first thing that came to mind was, I bet these people are really old or dead by now. 😂
I feel this on every level. I do the same. exact. thing. I used to do boring data entry years ago where all I did was enter information from scanned checks. And I'd find myself looking at peoples' names and addresses and endlessly musing on who they must be, what their houses must look like, what are their lives like? The ways our minds work is exhausting at times, lol.
I think these kind of things too. When I was a kid we would pass apartments on the way to my grandparents' and I would make up stories in my head about some of the people i imagined lived in them.
"it turns out all my clothes are navy blue" is so true!!! 🤣🤣🤣 Got me laugh out loud!
Yeah, I felt called out by that one. 😂 I buy a 6 pack of t-shirts once a year. Same brand, usually all black but some years I have bought a pack of variety of colors 😂
Omg same! What is the correlation to infj? I’m curious. I don’t own anything in color 🤣
😂 I gasped when I heard him say that! So true!
@Raqlew No idea why, but yeah. Lots of navy blue. Sometimes I switch it up, and wear black. I amalso Italian, though, so my accessories are colorful. But they must match, and have a theme.
My wardrobe is mostly jeans and plain t-shirts. I got a few floral shirts for summer and I don't like them.
Omg the cry about the anniversary is hilarious 😂 that infj girl is so me I can’t remember things my friends told me yesterday or at the beginning of a conversation
I'm an INTJ, can't help myself but adore this INFJ persona.
As an INFJ that's never been in a relationship, why is this so accurate?
🙌Thinking about Stoicism while driving! 💀That's hilarious! Also, the 10-year convo with the old friend and "What day is this? Oh, it's Friday?" Love this series already, and we're only two in! 🤣💜
thanks, glad you like the series!!
Next up: normal boss vs ESTJ boss
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@@sayusayme7729 hey! I like your name! Love that song!😊
@@FrankJamesthis is AMAZING. YOU COULD DO A CHILD SPOOF. WHEN I WAS LITTLE, I THOUGHT I WAS AN ALIEN!
As an INFJ girl, I can confirm based on my experience when I was in a relationship with my ENFJ ex, it's true that most of this things happened, especially the social media and get distracted thing. Sometimes he got frustated to contact me because I disappeared for days
Yes me too!! People think I’m being a bitch because I’m mostly so slow at answering, literally days, but I’m just caught in something else, often meaningless 😂
Why would infj and enfj break up? Sounds like a great duo!
You didn't like him that much
@@justbrilliant9560 most of the time I see the messages but I find them annoying and I act like I don't see them.
@@monikap8777 Because he’s extroverted. The dynamic might be very off when the introvert only has the capacity to answer a text a day and barely be social, while the extrovert desires an active social life and ends up being the one constantly waiting for replies. Many have made it work but not everyone, sadly.
Well, looking at it THIS way, I'm a dang GIFT! 🎉 Thanks for the perspective shift.
As an INFJ I've never felt so called out in my life. LMAO!
INTJ here married to an INFJ. Today I learned that having an INFJ girlfriend is exactly like having an INFJ husband.
The antique shop is sooo accurate .. thinking about all the dead people and their lives .. I actually might remove the teapot lid and put the teapot to my ear maybe I will hear some of the voice were in their houses 😢
Me an infj looking at all my thrifted furniture wandering if I should get rid of it cuz negative spirits might be attached to it even though I saged it😂
Loved that 😄
I thought I was the only weirdo
I was in an antique store and saw a wonderful old mirror and literally said "Wow - think of all the things it's reflected in its lifetime!"
My people I thought I was a freak. Perhaps I am.
I just love the part where I literally cut people off and quit social media for months...I already switched off notifications so I don't get drained from whatsapp meaningless conversations. I socially awkward and get anxious from just visiting the mall two times a week.
I would only change all blue clothes to all black, but the rest is so on point that it made me laugh and be scared, at the same level XD
Same
I feel so related to right now lol
Gotta love the black. My mom wouldn’t let me wear black when I was younger, she always bought extremely bright colors, it was painful….
Lol as an INFJ this made my boyfriend laugh and say, "Girl, you've been exposed"😭🤣
I’m an INFJ and this is so funny! 😂😂 It took me about a year to get off of social media but I finally did (with way too many distraction binges in there). And not having the “emotional capacity” for certain media- SO TRUE! It is a hard boundary that I won’t violate for anyone. 🙃
Love your channel! 😊
Same. Except the social media somehow got replaced by RUclips videos and comments 😅
@@Nathan_Bookwurm Haha! That’s true for me too! I listen to SO MANY podcasts, books, and yep- RUclips videos. 😅
Watching these clips I wondered if I was INFJ, but this clip confirms it. I've actually said or thought most of that before.
Haha, you summed up my INFJ life so well, Frank. Most of my clothes are navy blue, I love The Great British Bake Off, but skip the eliminations, dabble in stoicism, and get caught in text conversations with acquaintances I haven't spoken to in about a decade.
contacting somebody from the past and being upfront about why I haven't cut them off yet is so real 😭
Hey, some of us crave closure and many times the only way to get it is to give it. So once you've said your piece, you can move forward
As an INFJ, this is all so relatable. Most of my wardrobe is navy and black... That's my preferred color palette. I feel *classic* in it. I've had people tell me over and over that I look good in "color"... It makes me have a deep dive internally into *why* did they *really* say that or they just don't get symbolism ("I'm not depressed... I think I'll incorporate silver into my dark colors and make it pop. Still classic). My functions just take over and I have to tell myself that it was a compliment 😂😂😂
Deep thoughts while driving is an every day day occurrence. The long text chain for years by people who aren't really in my life is a thing. Knowing what's wrong without having to hear the whole thing is spot on (what's irritating is someone who cuts in on my story and doesn't let me finish. I've learned to keep talking with over talkers who always interrupt).
British TV is my saving grace in this world. Bring on the affectionate dry sense of humor. We need more of that in the world.
Black and grey here. This is literally the only photo of me in color in the last 10 years. Lol
Omg yes! I've been wondering all these years why British TV is the only TV I enjoy anymore. 😅 I guess it's the INFJ !
@@RogueMamaStitcher1 what shows do you watch?
@@Blessyourheart. it looks great but wearing black/grey would be equally great. 🖤 The world needs more black & grey 🩶
I am both the overtalker and the interruptor but not to be rude I just already solved the issue
"I give it 3 months" so totally me. I predicted it wasn't gonna work for Ben & Jen's Wedding. I gave it only 6 months, so while I was off on the timeline, I wasn't off on the outcome so it's a win. 😂😂
This explains so much. 😂 I appreciate this because most people just tell me I don't have "that feminine vulnerability" that men supposedly want because I don't like romantic comedies or Lifetime movies and would rather have several root canals where the anesthesia fails than spend years trying to trick and manipulate a man into being someone he has no interest in being.
Oh thank god it's not just me..... one of my exes was a hopeless romantic who loved romance movies and it was HELL!!! Like, I'd rather BE in one of the horror movies that I love than watch a cringy sobby romance. 😂
Unless you are 133 Lbs or less, I can't pick you up and spind you around!!!
INFJ here. I HATE "chick flicks" and romantic comedies, too. Just no.
INFJ, always been called boyish. And funny enough, I had former male friends who liked to stereotype women and vent out about it to me, who is also a woman. Like, no sir, you just hate women and you just don't see me as one. We come in all forms and I love my feminine sisters too!
@@lucy9698~ Boyfriends have complained to me that I'm not romantic, and I'm turned off when they get romantic with me. It just all feels so fake and forced. I'm a realist; be real with me even if it's ugly.
As someone who walks the line between INTJ/INFJ I have to say these last two videos have been exceptionally relatable.
YES!
Same
im glad im not alone feeling like im right inbetween infj and intj :'D
I'm an intj tested for so many timesbut I also wonder why do I find this video so relatable?
Same. T/J right on the line.
I'm INFJ-T and 90% of these not only were so accurate but incredibly funny. Nailed it😅😅😅
“i was thinking about stoicism” 😂😅
"I give it 3 months" painfully accurate 🎉
The ordering coffee part is gold. I'm an INFJ and I always order regular drip coffee with cream. (Really, I just make it myself which is even better) I get anxiety when my friend wants me to order some complex over the top item for them, no matter if it's coffee or a drive-thru food place. It makes me nervous. Simple is best! ;)
(Decaff) Expresso.
Edit to add: no sugar, no milk. Decaff only in the afternoon.
when I got the Starbucks app it reduced my coffee-ordering anxiety by miles!! LOL
The coffee had me laughing. Last week the ladies I work with were ordering coffee at Starbucks (Frappuccinos with all the things) and asked what I wanted. I said, " Cold-brew. Black, dark, and cold like my insides" then let out a little a chuckle. 🎉
Are you sure you aren't an INFP? I understand that INFJs have self-doubt, but to be cold and dark inside?
LoL!😄 And yes I also prefer Black, but hot.
To be fair, if it's at home it's hot. I just can't set myself up for disappointment 😂
r/thathappened
" Cold brew, black dark and cold like my 🖤... lol."
Salud.
Oh. My. God. I am like this to a tee!!! That part about watching The Great British Baking Show for the third time because other stuff is too emotionally draining....I literally do that. The exact same show for the exact same reason. That one got me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Man, I’m a strong INFJ and only a couple of these resonated with me. We’re still different even among our similar personality types!
Same
EXACTLY
I'm an ENFP (self-tested, tested by university, multiple times in different ways, always ENFP)... & a few of these traits resonated with how I'm like. The normal girlfriend? Not so much, lol.
Ditto
I always get an INFJ personality type, but still beneficial to remember it’s just a helpful category and not a hard science by any means. So of course the personalities will be wide ranging even if there is some commonality. I’m sure someone will also say that’s what an INFJ would say 😅
I noticed the normal girlfriend having her meltdown in a Wendy's 😂 clever detail there
0:19 Even though I’m not an INFJ. I’ve had those same creepy thoughts about antique stores! Everyone who bought these stuff originally are dead xD
I get the same feeling watching old (really old!) movies.
Or like listening to 50s songs. All those people who are singing are dead
yeah I get like melancholic about how their life might have been, how it might have ended and how their situation was at the time the piece was made. I thought I was an ENTP though so that's weird I guess
@@je4a301 I think the same. INFJ
As an INTJ who had an antiques business for 23 years, I actually like imagining the people who owned these things long ago. It gives me a connection through time. Of course, most of the things I handled were well cared for, so it didn't seem tragic. One thing that always gave me pause, however, were old sterling silver trophies and wedding and anniversary gifts, that sort of thing. I always wondered what happened that such heirlooms ended up in the hands of auctioneers and resellers.
"I just can't help thinking about how everyone who originally bought this stuff is dead."😅😂 This is so spot on, with our hearts and minds, all over the map~ nobody else thinks like this!