10 years I tried so hard to get coworkers to be nicer but they are just NOT NiCE pEOple and it's not a reflection on my value. So I stopped trying so hard and gave myself peace.
Sho’ nuff!! My Dear! These generations of “look at me” social media babes don’t realize yet that with time comes age!!! BRAVO to you Lady!👍🏽😘💜👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@annehedonia156 on the contrary those who are negative are the ones who are fair weather friends. They only want to be your friend when your life is great so they can get you to share in their negativity. If you are going through something and could use a friend , look around and see they will not be found.
@@carolisakallas3054 i have multiple neighbors who are a hassle...it's never been easy here. you have my best wishes, just take care of yourself. the person who walks away and ends it is the one in control !!
My father died when I was twelve, and brother at 65, died in his sleep while they were on vacation. My brother was the one who always ate right, exercised, and did everything right. I'm now 72 and have a lot of issues, because I didn't do right when I was younger. They don't bother me much, as long as I'm on the green side. I can only plan for my luck to hold out. There is always tomorrow, or not. It's not my decision.
So true. I just turned 71 and nobody believes it. I feel & look about 20 years younger. Athlete since high school, grew up eating lots of fruit & veggies, very little junk food. Same for the decades since. Lots of gym time, weight training, cardio, too. It absolutely does pay to treat your body well through the years. I have no real health problems, still. So, if you eat junk food, drink lots of soda, etc. STOP IT! You will thank yourself later.
I was just lucky not to cross paths with a narcissist all these years. Their behavior is just unbelievable! They are vindictive over any tiny slight. Unfortunately, I learned this the hard way ☹️
After my nearest and dearest left me, one by one, I started keeping myself to myself, especially because I had always found the world to be totally misogynistic, to my lasting shock and horror. Gave ample warning and lessons to my daughter so that at least she wouldn't be shocked and question her sanity.
People are not obligated to treat you with respect but you are also NOT OBLIGATED to take disrespect from anyone else either. I have never walked out on anyone to teach them a lesson, I walked out on them because I finally learned MY LESSON! Stay strong and blessed to everyone and anyone who is reading all these comments.🙂
Nah people should treat you with respect. As they should treat any other being with respect, big or small, human or non human. The most vulnerable are the ones that need it the most so they should be treated with respect. It's simple. Don't excuse others for being shitty they need to understand this simple concept. An older person in a nursing home or a stray dog can't defend themselves and just "walk away" they deserve to be treated with respect not just by some who get it, but by everyone.
@@danii1818 thank you! We SHOULD treat one another with respect simply because! Will this always be the case? Of course not! But that is the standard. Thank you for your comment.
I would add "Stop taking other people's problems on board" to that. Because I for one am done with pretending their issues are my own. "Talk to the hand" is what I say.
I don’t understand this comment. I’m not sure why I don’t get it but please someone explain it to me. I’m not being sarcastic. I just need someone to explain it to me.
@@Narrowpath0325 Put simply, it just means that the beliefs and habits of the people closest to us rub off on us whether good or bad; and those beliefs and habits that we adopt into our own mindset affect how we approach our lives. There's a saying that goes, "we are equal to the sum of the 5 people we spend the most time with." Hope that helps 🙂
@@Narrowpath0325 I’ll give you a real life example. I have two children. I thoroughly enjoy being their mother. They are my cosmic gifts. Nothing could make me mistreat them. HOWEVER, their father is a narcissistic selfish immature person, he masked his true self for so long, and then after my second child was born, he showed me his true self. I thought he was just having a hard time going thru something, I tolerated alcoholism and bad treatment of myself bc I thought the man I loved would return whenever his hardship was over. I didn’t understand he was acting for years prior. Idk why someone would do that. But it DID affect how good of a mother I was. I was more tired, I was faking smiles and enthusiasm, I was distracted. I wasn’t the mother I was born to be when he was around hurting me badly and betraying me in repeated despicable behaviors. So he kicked rocks and now things are wonderful and I wish I had not worked harder to fix him and just focused on myself and my children and our happiness bc it never got better until he was forced to leave. They are happier, we have solid routines instead of him needing the attention to be all on him at all costs. A terrible father. He still has rights to them but they have refuge in me. And they always will. His toxicity affected the way I showed up for my kids, bc he wore me down. I hope that helps, that is only one example but I thought it might be relatable to some, unfortunately.
@@Narrowpath0325 also what people say or do makes us react,positively or negatively,it’s hard for people to be cautious about how they react to situations people put us in.
My ex told me he was when I first met him , why didn't I listen, I felt sorry for him. He turned out to be an alcoholic amongst other things . A frenemy my best friend & worst enemy rolled up in one.
My 20s were miserable, I started living by a lot of these around 29. I’m turning 37 this year and I have never loved life as much as I do now. There is NEVER a perfect time. Do it ASAP and watch your world change for the better ❤️
Me too 20s were miserable. My family treated me so bad and with minimum of everything so that i can’t feel my value ever … but today i am 29 and i lost loving them just some respect and distance
Nine times out of 10. The people you have conflict with have already told you who they are, that hit home! So you can teach an old dog new tricks. I'm 67.
💯% Agreed : My GrandMothers Told Me 'That Same' & I've 💯% Complied With My GrandMothers Since Both Of My GrandMothers Have Proven To Be 💯% Accurate About EveryThing AnyWays❣️❣️
76 yr old guy here, prostate cancer survivor. Sage advice, remove the nay sayers from your life, complaining won't help because they aren't listening. Ladies, get after the guys in your life to get tested, it saves lives, it did mine.
@@allykatz I'm so sorry for your loss and all the pain and suffering that you and your husband experienced for 20 years. I pray that you and your loved ones will be surrounded by much love and kindness.
I'll be 67 in a couple months, lost my wife to long term disease four years ago. I recently bought some old motorcycles and have been spending time on the road and with family, keeping living life is the joy that's left.
@@ScottPittman-jc7ph I wish I could deny your statement but have to take it seriously. Most of my 36 years of marriage was good, but I can't really expect the same, except I be incredibly fortunate. I've been widowed going on five years and really miss having a real "helpmate". Only my daughter and her husband and their grandkids really make life worth living today. The bikes are a real distraction from the state of our country today. John McClain, GySgt, USMC ret.
I'm 53 and 2 of these I ONLY realized this year. I was never treated so poorly by a group of younger coworkers and I only worked harder to try and please everyone to prove my worth. I was proving my worth when I was already someone who had accomplished more and learned more than all of them put together. My bosses were charmed by the attention they got by this group so as I got blamed for things I never was responsible for and then called in to their office to answer for it it pushed me to a point of seriously doubting my capabilities of doing a good job. Eventually one got fired for the way she treated me in front of others. It was a humiliating experience but I never said a word and I walked away. The only reason the director found out was because a couple other people reported it. One by one the others quit the job. It's a much better place to be now but the words you spoke in this message ring so true.
I know dat feelin all 2 wel...had nothing 2 do wit age for me...but being treated badly at a job in front other ppl is d worst feelin. Especially wen starting a new job. Ppl tend 2 forget they were once new 2d job also. It's not nice. But Karma works in perfect time.❤
You must be happy with self , other people don't make you happy , they distract you from self . Birds of a feather flock together , you learn more from observing . Great video . The multi tasking putting on make-up & conversation at the same time. Impressive .
You said that lady and all of it is so true! I have cut off people I’ve known for many years because I’ve realized this. I am ok with it and will cherish the good memories but life is too short to convince people to treat you right.
“ The people you're surrounding yourself with will always impact how you show up in the world!" I run away from complicated people including family members.
Taking care of your body is so important. I took care of myself when I was young, and now I'm reaping the rewards. My family did not and now they lack original body parts. $$$$$ and unrelenting pain. Booze, drugs and fast food will catch up with you, diet and exercise are not dirty words.
@@Ay-ve6io to be 33 and have no family or friends .... That common denominator is her. means she's the problem..... She's 33 she could still change and have a good life.... Or be stubborn and end up 40 with cats and boxes of wine alone forever
You're right on the money. Accept who you are; you've spent a lifetime accumulating understanding. When you accept and realistically, not egotistically, value yourself, others will also. I'm almost 70 and I teach high school in a very rough part of a violent city. I get a lot of love and respect from my students and enjoy every day with them.
Yes. When they add no value, subtract. Victor consciousness.🌞 Know yourself and your attachment style. Ken Reid has informative podcasts on attachment styles. The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman - for healing The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer - for healing Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix- Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin Boundaries by Henry Cloud Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg I Hear You by Micheal Sorenson 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships. Safe People by Henry Cloud
Wish I knew all these truths in my 20's!!! 54 my son died and I had a huge family that didn't bother to go to his funeral... they had to work? But my entire life I was shown they didn't care about me.... I lived in a fantasy that they did. 2 years now since my world fell apart and not one phone call from any of them. I'd like to tell people that when someone loses their child.... they need hugs, just hold them as often as possible because they need to be held! I thought I knew what abandonment felt like.... but I had no idea.
*virtual hug* - Roni, I am so sorry for your loss. The experts say losing a child is the most traumatic thing we can got through. I am very sorry for your pain
The same society that praise your beauty when you are young is the same one that gonna put you down when you get older. Greetings from Colombia South America!!
You’re beautiful and I feel a lot of relief to see you look so gorgeous and comfortable with who you are. I’m approaching 30 and have been losing sight of what it means to be gifted with another year alive. I appreciate you ❤️
2 years ago when i was in a crisis. I thought that I was already at the final chapter and the last last few pages of my story because I couldn't imagine or see myself in the future or how my story could have continued. I did tried to resign myself to fate but a glimmer of light came through and i found a reason to hold on. Days gone and seasons changed, and i am still here today. And i've never been more proud of myself and for allowing myself to stay and finding the wonderful treasures of being alive. And i think you're damn right about being older, I am very lucky to be this old, right now.
I'm a 53 year old man. Heard today Sting singing:"be yourself, no matter what they say". That's the most important truth of our whole life! That's also what people regret when they are dying, they paid too much attention to reaction of others instead acting their own way.
This is me hoping and wishing he'll treat me better if i'm patient enough... Trying hard to please everyone but myself.... Life's hard and it hurts living like this every day...But thanks for the great advice
At 65 and retired, my wife and I still surf, hike, swim , dive/snorkel and refuse to act old. I know people much younger who seem to make excuses for not doing the things that would make them be exciting about life. Get out and have a blast! If not now, when?! Go do that thing you have always dreamed about. You have one life, live it to the best of your ability!
Well money has a lot to do with living your dreams, I've been through two divorces lost a pile of net worth took on twice that in debt. Will never get to retire but I do what I love.
@@calsurflance5598 just reread my comment. For some reason it is different from what I have in my mind. Lol. It was supposed to read “at 54 years old. My wife and I are are taking our grandson. Scuba diving”. I am 54. She will not be 54 until the end of this month. I want to make sure I get that straight 😂
You hit almost bullseye, what I would say is people and differences get in your way again and again untill you have overcome them, when someone is wrong or wicked shouldn't get any favours, respectful and righteous people suffer more nowadays
Seeing women like you is so important for me. I am estranged from both of my parents. They are in their early 50’s and I am in my early 30’s. My mom still doesn’t know or understand the majority of this information. It all seems like common sense to me. Please keep sharing! For those of us motherless with no one to guide us.
@@donotsign no they aren’t . And she didn’t do the best she could. She used me as the scapegoat by putting the blame on me for all of her poor life choices. By simply just existing. She abused me and allowed others to abuse me. I will never forgive her because she will never take accountability. Removing her from my life forever is the best decision I have ever made for myself and my peace. She’s the one who failed me. She’s the one who abandoned me. She’s a narcissists. She will never change.
@@jamg8483 I understand. Sending you the light. 🌞 These personal development books may be helpful and empowering. Safe People by Henry Cloud Boundaries by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Toxic Parents by Susan Forward Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood What The Heck Is Self Love Anyways? by Jonathon Aslay Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg I Hear You by Micheal Sorenson The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman -for healing childhood and adult traumas. The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer- for healing. Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-IMAGO Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goldman Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters The Language Of Emotions by Karla McLaren The Myth Of Normal by Gabor Mate Ken Reid, Dr Ramani, Dr Stan Tatkin, David Tian, and Sam Vaknin have podcasts on attachment styles and other topics.
@@jamg8483 I understand. Sometimes no contact is the only way to find peace. These personal development books may be helpful. Toxic Parents by Susan Forward What The Heck Is Self Love Anyways? by Jonathon Aslay Safe People by Henry Cloud Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-IMAGO Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin I Hear You by Micheal Sorenson The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
I believe she's talking about those having cosmetic surgeries, & injecting God knows what under their skin. I know ninety+ years old who wear makeup. They are not hiding their age. They've been doing it since their teens.
She's probably worn make-up her entire adult life, so she's not doing it to look "younger." She has great skin to start with! Plastic surgery and Botox would be more in the category of "trying to hide your age" to me.
Makeup doesn't hide age. Oh, and she's probably been wearing it in one form or another since she was just a girl because it's fun and pretty, is there some magic age when she should stop for some reason??
So true, good advice. My Mum is toxic (half the time), and I've got to the point of nearly cutting her out my life because of how much it affects me. My Dad passed away ages a go, so I'm alone a lot. But now I've just accepted it all, and I love being independent and free to be who i want. I've tried explaining to my Mum to stop being toxic to me, but even though she says stuff like she didn't mean it that way, she still puts me down nearly every time i speak to her. I know a lot of it is issues she has with her own Mum, but I've completely had enough. All i can do now is set boundaries and speak to my Mum less often, as i dont actually want to cut off contact forever.
i went no contact w mine last year. had to she became dangerous. sometimes it’s the only way if they are disordered. best of luck. dont let them ruin your hsppiness❤
People who are not treating you well are not going to treat you any better if you work harder. Yessssss
True! I tried harder and didn't make a difference, still got treated poorly and it only got worse no matter what I did
They treat you better if you work less. Or they disappear.
@@Cgggg6876so true. Quit striving. Once you quit striving it makes room for others to enter your life. Getting older is a gift.
10 years I tried so hard to get coworkers to be nicer but they are just NOT NiCE pEOple and it's not a reflection on my value. So I stopped trying so hard and gave myself peace.
THIS,✅
I would add, as a 58 year old woman… life is too short to surround yourself with negative people. Those people will drag you down !
Agree!!!
So, in other words, be a fair weather friend.
Tf I just watch SMFH.
Sho’ nuff!! My Dear! These generations of “look at me” social media babes don’t realize yet that with time comes age!!! BRAVO to you Lady!👍🏽😘💜👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@annehedonia156 on the contrary those who are negative are the ones who are fair weather friends. They only want to be your friend when your life is great so they can get you to share in their negativity. If you are going through something and could use a friend , look around and see they will not be found.
" When you have conflict with someone, 9x out of 10 that person has already told you who they are." Nailed it! Pay attention.🙏🏾❤️
This statement makes me feel so much better about a recent neighbor conflict.
When they tell you who they are BELIEVE IT
THIS! In the words of Maya Angelou,"When someone shows u who they are, believe them the first time."
@@carolisakallas3054 i have multiple neighbors who are a hassle...it's never been easy here. you have my best wishes, just take care of yourself. the person who walks away and ends it is the one in control !!
This!
From this 54 year old man...well said, my lady.
My advice to the youngers...
In general, people are not against you,
they are merely FOR themselves
Ultimate 🥏
Aka the world doesn't revolve around you.
My dad died when I was 16, and he was 46. I feel extremely lucky to be 63.
My father died when I was twelve, and brother at 65, died in his sleep while they were on vacation. My brother was the one who always ate right, exercised, and did everything right. I'm now 72 and have a lot of issues, because I didn't do right when I was younger. They don't bother me much, as long as I'm on the green side.
I can only plan for my luck to hold out. There is always tomorrow, or not. It's not my decision.
My brother died at 29. I'm 43 and often asked how I feel about getting older. I reply that I'm blessed beyond belief to have made it this far.
My father died at 45 when I was seven. I'm now an age he never got to experience. Everyday is a blessing.
Exactly , age is an achievement that many people didn’t get to experience
@user-vs1tc3kj3z My Step Grandfather died when his daughter (my half Aunt)was 7 and he was 42. So weirdly similar cases.
“Body is definitely going to repay for how you treat it when you are young”
Words to live by
Yeah, I'm 50 and look 30.
😊
It didn't work out that way for me and the fact that keith richards outlived richard simmons is proof of this fallacy.
@@Ingrid-sb6mycan’t win ‘em all I guess…
So true. I just turned 71 and nobody believes it. I feel & look about 20 years younger. Athlete since high school, grew up eating lots of fruit & veggies, very little junk food. Same for the decades since. Lots of gym time, weight training, cardio, too. It absolutely does pay to treat your body well through the years. I have no real health problems, still. So, if you eat junk food, drink lots of soda, etc. STOP IT! You will thank yourself later.
All true but that first statement is GOLDEN. Nothing is ever good enough for someone who already decided they don't like you.
Hard truth!
I absolutely agree. It's a shame... those people doesn't even know how toxic they are.
I was just lucky not to cross paths with a narcissist all these years. Their behavior is just unbelievable! They are vindictive over any tiny slight. Unfortunately, I learned this the hard way ☹️
@@metalgrinch yup
Truth!
A 54 year old man here, people don't want you to do better than they are. Getting older is a gift. Own your silver crown and rock that gray beard.
Damn straight. That's earned
I've kept my world small since I was a kid, it's even smaller now that I'm older. I find myself happy all the time!
After my nearest and dearest left me, one by one, I started keeping myself to myself, especially because I had always found the world to be totally misogynistic, to my lasting shock and horror. Gave ample warning and lessons to my daughter so that at least she wouldn't be shocked and question her sanity.
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@@MJ-hl1kk
My wife would make you a great therapist. She knows and plays all the tricks against her husband.
Good for you 👍
That's my wife!!! She says the same thing, and, she is!!
Getting older is a privilege sadly denied many
Yes and thank you! I said the same thing. It really is a privilege and a Blessing. 💜
So true i am 66 and have out lived both my Mom and sister they both died of breast cancer at the age of 63 and 59. Each and every day is a blessing.
My friend died at 17... today, i know how to apreciate getting old, this is a privilege, kids should not die...
It is a blessing. 60 year old here!!! Good video👍
wise beyond you years….
People can be friendly while being your worst enemy..
@user-mn5rn9sv5p "They smile in your face, all the time they wanna take your place, the backstabbers!" I remember that tune from my youth
True
yes indeed so so true
*THIS*
I am 51 and I surround myself with just my wife and kids. Most everyone is fake. I don’t have time for stupidity. Fake friendships are exhausting
Thank you!! 48 years old. Cancer survivor
God bless you Jesus loves you❤
@@StHannah. ❤❤
Consigning as a 52 yr young mom of 5, Nonna of 2!!!
Excellent happy for you wish you good health always
@@Hayleysmith6951 Thank you.❤️
'At 50, everyone has the face he deserves.' ― George Orwell
Ha ha 😆😂👍😁
Exacto. Después de los 40 cada uno es responsable de su propia cara.
Hmm… but who exactly “deserves” dermal fillers and/or plastic surgery?
People are not obligated to treat you with respect but you are also NOT OBLIGATED to take disrespect from anyone else either. I have never walked out on anyone to teach them a lesson, I walked out on them because I finally learned MY LESSON! Stay strong and blessed to everyone and anyone who is reading all these comments.🙂
Love ❤️ it
Wow, this really opened my eyes. Thank you.
Nah people should treat you with respect. As they should treat any other being with respect, big or small, human or non human. The most vulnerable are the ones that need it the most so they should be treated with respect. It's simple. Don't excuse others for being shitty they need to understand this simple concept. An older person in a nursing home or a stray dog can't defend themselves and just "walk away" they deserve to be treated with respect not just by some who get it, but by everyone.
@@danii1818 thank you! We SHOULD treat one another with respect simply because! Will this always be the case? Of course not! But that is the standard. Thank you for your comment.
I always give people the benefit of the doubt and treat them with respect. My continued respect is dependent on their behavior.
Also dont tolerate disrespect and you should not care what others think but well spoken Beautiful ❤
So very true. The harder you work, the more they pile it on.
Don't let them intimidate you into clocking out and then finishing. Work hard when you're on the clock but make sure you are paid correctly.
And the bastards never say thank you, but take your reliability for granted
I know and an insulting raise. 25 cents?!
Never a truer thing said.
I have a small broche, that says ( Dont let the bastards grind you down) it levels me up ❤
That's so true! My grandfather is 75 and feels like he's 40, and that's because he always took care of himself.
Praise Jesus Christ! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!
What’s his daily routine like? In terms of diet supplements exercise? TiA
Amen !!! 60 here next month !! Exercise is the key !!
And vitamins
Agreed, but don't forget about diet. I think it is equally important. I turn 60 in less than three weeks myself
Adequate rest and recovery are also very important.
Eating right is the first key
@@pacifico4268I agree 100%. I turn 60 next month, and diet is the key to my good health.
This woman looks a lot more beautiful. Without any makeup.
No! I have seen her videos where she has make up on and she looks far, far better there. Please don't go against the objective truth.
@robert4you You are a mean, disrespectful, unappreciative individual.
@@robert4you your opinion only
@@sportsfisher9677 Yep, my opinion. And probably many other men's opinion...
No makeup ftw. Literally says stop hiding your age as she covers up her face..then the fake lashes go on😅
"Nothing is as important as any of us are making it, so stop making big issues over small things! " So true. Thanks for sharing
I am also 53 and agree fully with this lady.
And stop being scared! Take your power back!!
I would add "Stop taking other people's problems on board" to that. Because I for one am done with pretending their issues are my own. "Talk to the hand" is what I say.
I love showing my age and I always follow my age
"Take your power back"? What does that even mean?
The one where you said, "The people you're surrounding yourself with will always impact how you show up in the world!" ❤❤❤
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I don’t understand this comment. I’m not sure why I don’t get it but please someone explain it to me. I’m not being sarcastic. I just need someone to explain it to me.
@@Narrowpath0325 Put simply, it just means that the beliefs and habits of the people closest to us rub off on us whether good or bad; and those beliefs and habits that we adopt into our own mindset affect how we approach our lives. There's a saying that goes, "we are equal to the sum of the 5 people we spend the most time with." Hope that helps 🙂
@@Narrowpath0325 I’ll give you a real life example. I have two children. I thoroughly enjoy being their mother. They are my cosmic gifts. Nothing could make me mistreat them. HOWEVER, their father is a narcissistic selfish immature person, he masked his true self for so long, and then after my second child was born, he showed me his true self. I thought he was just having a hard time going thru something, I tolerated alcoholism and bad treatment of myself bc I thought the man I loved would return whenever his hardship was over. I didn’t understand he was acting for years prior. Idk why someone would do that. But it DID affect how good of a mother I was. I was more tired, I was faking smiles and enthusiasm, I was distracted. I wasn’t the mother I was born to be when he was around hurting me badly and betraying me in repeated despicable behaviors. So he kicked rocks and now things are wonderful and I wish I had not worked harder to fix him and just focused on myself and my children and our happiness bc it never got better until he was forced to leave. They are happier, we have solid routines instead of him needing the attention to be all on him at all costs. A terrible father. He still has rights to them but they have refuge in me. And they always will. His toxicity affected the way I showed up for my kids, bc he wore me down. I hope that helps, that is only one example but I thought it might be relatable to some, unfortunately.
@@Narrowpath0325 also what people say or do makes us react,positively or negatively,it’s hard for people to be cautious about how they react to situations people put us in.
My ex told me he was when I first met him , why didn't I listen, I felt sorry for him.
He turned out to be an alcoholic amongst other things . A frenemy my best friend & worst enemy rolled up in one.
My 20s were miserable, I started living by a lot of these around 29. I’m turning 37 this year and I have never loved life as much as I do now. There is NEVER a perfect time. Do it ASAP and watch your world change for the better ❤️
Me too 20s were miserable. My family treated me so bad and with minimum of everything so that i can’t feel my value ever … but today i am 29 and i lost loving them just some respect and distance
WHO is she BullSh**ting ? Her i-phone? Her Go-Pro ? Her mirror while applying make-up?
@@NameyMcNamington Opppsite for me 22-27 and 30s and 40's feel atrocious to me
@@Forgottenworlds777...worse to come...
I’m BLESSED to be *64* and I co-sign this beautiful woman’s message. ✅
Definitely a nice body, but her face looked almost ghostly. She needs more makeup and more vitamin D3.
Is she beautiful? She seems defiant and not gracious nor loving. bleh.
Nine times out of 10. The people you have conflict with have already told you who they are, that hit home! So you can teach an old dog new tricks. I'm 67.
My husband passed at 40, he was 10 years older than me. I’m now 44 and so blessed 😇 praise God for health and life
God bless your husband for leaving you a few million and being responsible so you’re able to have a great second life😮 without him
My grandma always said “you are who you’re with, so choose wisely”
Who you are associated with is a derivative from who you are. Not vice versa. The grandmother confused cause and effect.
@@ninaotan7811 The other expression is " Birds of a feather flock together."
@@SherriFlemming “Sir, I have found you an argument; but I am not obliged to find you an understanding.” Samuel Johnson.
Every man deserves the woman he's with..that goes both ways
💯% Agreed : My GrandMothers Told Me 'That Same' & I've 💯% Complied With My GrandMothers Since Both Of My GrandMothers Have Proven To Be 💯% Accurate About EveryThing AnyWays❣️❣️
Internet maternal figures like you, the moms, the aunties, are so important. I hope you have a good day!
Perfect! I wish someone had told me these things when I was 15, at 61, I can assure you, every word is 100% truth!
Ibagree, she is a hypocrit, puts on make up while sayingmg don't hide your age. 100% liar.
76 yr old guy here, prostate cancer survivor. Sage advice, remove the nay sayers from your life, complaining won't help because they aren't listening.
Ladies, get after the guys in your life to get tested, it saves lives, it did mine.
I'm glad you survived my husband didn't make it.
@@Sunshine-ms8ce, Either did mine. He lived 20+ years treating his prostate cancer and died Saturday morning.
@@allykatzI am so sorry for your loss. May you be surrounded by love and held by the arms of the universe during this time.
@@allykatz I'm so sorry for your loss and all the pain and suffering that you and your husband experienced for 20 years. I pray that you and your loved ones will be surrounded by much love and kindness.
I'll be 67 in a couple months, lost my wife to long term disease four years ago. I recently bought some old motorcycles and have been spending time on the road and with family, keeping living life is the joy that's left.
❤
most important thing is do not get remarried.
@@ScottPittman-jc7ph I wish I could deny your statement but have to take it seriously. Most of my 36 years of marriage was good, but I can't really expect the same, except I be incredibly fortunate. I've been widowed going on five years and really miss having a real "helpmate". Only my daughter and her husband and their grandkids really make life worth living today. The bikes are a real distraction from the state of our country today. John McClain, GySgt, USMC ret.
So sorry for your loss ! I’m sure your wife in Heaven is SO proud of you for taking this brave action of making your days GOOD ones ! Blessings to you
@@lizzabbott Thanks so much for the blessings! I have begun loving life again. Your words are so kind.
❤ I’m 50. That perimenopausal anger is so good for getting rid of those people who drag you down. Enough is enough!
Same here, and I love my friends but some I just don’t miss.
omygosh yes! my circle at 57 is family and a couple girly friends
WRONG!! WRONG!! Doing anything in anger is NOT good. Work on yourself and don't worry about others.
true.. oso happening to me
What age does menopause start?
Chopin! -- wonderful music for this beautiful, classy, & insightful woman
Thanks For Sharing Fighting stage 3 Breast Cancer 🎀 49yrs old & your words are Wisdom ❤
God Bless you
Fight! My mom did and lasted til
Old age
@CA-lf7jt Thank You I am every single Day..
@helenesiedlarz2434 Thank You God Bless You Also 🙏 💖
Day by day sweetheart .... you got this ❤❤
These are gold nuggets, sis. My gray is a symbol of experience, wisdom, and beauty. As a 50 year old, I approve this message. ❤❤❤
I'm 53 and 2 of these I ONLY realized this year. I was never treated so poorly by a group of younger coworkers and I only worked harder to try and please everyone to prove my worth. I was proving my worth when I was already someone who had accomplished more and learned more than all of them put together. My bosses were charmed by the attention they got by this group so as I got blamed for things I never was responsible for and then called in to their office to answer for it it pushed me to a point of seriously doubting my capabilities of doing a good job. Eventually one got fired for the way she treated me in front of others. It was a humiliating experience but I never said a word and I walked away. The only reason the director found out was because a couple other people reported it. One by one the others quit the job. It's a much better place to be now but the words you spoke in this message ring so true.
Yes. Karma always has an address.
I Hear You by Micheal Sorenson
Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
@@AmerieMarina What matters is that you love and respect yourself first.
Stand in your power. Standards boundaries a backbone and a BS detector.
I'm old and I'm a slacker...but they still keep me...the younger ones get fired regularly....the company I work for has very poor judgement.
I know dat feelin all 2 wel...had nothing 2 do wit age for me...but being treated badly at a job in front other ppl is d worst feelin. Especially wen starting a new job. Ppl tend 2 forget they were once new 2d job also. It's not nice. But Karma works in perfect time.❤
@@AmerieMarina Yes, respect your elders.
You must be happy with self , other people don't make you happy , they distract you from self . Birds of a feather flock together , you learn more from observing . Great video . The multi tasking putting on make-up & conversation at the same time. Impressive .
I am 50, and yes. All true. That's why I stopped caring and having expectations. Life run's smoothly this way. And yes. I am proud to be 50😊
From a 65 year old. Everything she says is correct ❤
I don't agree.
Everytime she puts makeup on, she is indeed trying to hide her age.
@@keepitreal1547 Nope
@@BaseballNBacon
OK, what's the reason of women putting makeup on then?
If guys don't & are told by women they look better in age, why can't women?
Thank you for being on youtube and giving us people some advice! Need more gen x and older people on here!
You said that lady and all of it is so true! I have cut off people I’ve known for many years because I’ve realized this. I am ok with it and will cherish the good memories but life is too short to convince people to treat you right.
Loved this, after three years of daily meditation and not touching a drop of alcohol for over two and a half years, I'm now fifty going on thirty.
Proud of you 👏🏽
@@sunnyflower1979 🙏❤️
🫡👍 KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK !!
.....IT'S EASY !
😁👍
@@nscottrussell5784 🙏❤️
Hey, that's wonderful! Good job ❤
“ The people you're surrounding yourself with will always impact how you show up in the world!" I run away from complicated people including family members.
I always thought people were just complicated by nature...
At 62 I am so glad that I was good to my body. Non smoker to start. Outlived a lot of my classmates.
Taking care of your body is so important. I took care of myself when I was young, and now I'm reaping the rewards. My family did not and now they lack original body parts. $$$$$ and unrelenting pain.
Booze, drugs and fast food will catch up with you, diet and exercise are not dirty words.
Praise Jesus Christ! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!
My god, I’m 33 and have no family or friends, and needed to hear everything you just said. THANK YOU!!!
Sounds like your the problem
Your friends are all around you...
You just can't see us yet...
@@adams1802 She's not the problem, you are troll.
@@Ay-ve6io to be 33 and have no family or friends ....
That common denominator is her. means she's the problem.....
She's 33 she could still change and have a good life....
Or be stubborn and end up 40 with cats and boxes of wine alone forever
Wise words from a beautiful woman! ❤
I'd love to meet her, or her twin...?
Take it from a 51 year old former skateboarder. When she says treat your body well while still young. Wow! So feeling that now.👍
You're right on the money. Accept who you are; you've spent a lifetime accumulating understanding. When you accept and realistically, not egotistically, value yourself, others will also. I'm almost 70 and I teach high school in a very rough part of a violent city. I get a lot of love and respect from my students and enjoy every day with them.
I'm a teacher too. How do you get a lot of love from students who are apparently rough and violent?
@@naimasophieAs a former teacher, I say, tutor!! Much more rewarding!!! Peace to you and thank you for hanging in where many of us couldn't. ❤💪🙏✝️
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These troubled kids need a solid mentor for guidance. A teacher can make a definite difference in their lives.
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker.
@@naimasophie Tough love, and teaching them life skills.
Great advice for anyone at any age.
"People who aren't treating you well won't treat you any better if you work harder." Girl, I wish I knew this truth earlier.
Yes. When they add no value, subtract. Victor consciousness.🌞
Know yourself and your attachment style.
Ken Reid has informative podcasts on attachment styles.
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman - for healing
The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer - for healing
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-
Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
I Hear You by Micheal Sorenson
8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships.
Safe People by Henry Cloud
That's the truth..great advice
I wasted 18 years!
Thank you. I needed to hear this.
@@jestem2023 We are lucky to be the age we are and survive. Everyday is a gift and a blessing.
Victor consciousness 🌞
Wish I knew all these truths in my 20's!!! 54 my son died and I had a huge family that didn't bother to go to his funeral... they had to work? But my entire life I was shown they didn't care about me.... I lived in a fantasy that they did. 2 years now since my world fell apart and not one phone call from any of them. I'd like to tell people that when someone loses their child.... they need hugs, just hold them as often as possible because they need to be held! I thought I knew what abandonment felt like.... but I had no idea.
*virtual hug* - Roni, I am so sorry for your loss. The experts say losing a child is the most traumatic thing we can got through. I am very sorry for your pain
That's sad to hear. At least one of them turn up.
So sorry for your pain prayers going up 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hug from me to you 🌹❤️
So sorry for your loss.
Air hugs 🫂 and prayers 🙏 for you
The same society that praise your beauty when you are young is the same one that gonna put you down when you get older. Greetings from Colombia South America!!
55 stomach cancer survivor (no stomach) to get preoccupied… no physical stomach slows me not to digest the small stuff. … thanks for your wisdom.
God bless you 🙏
She looked perfectly fine without makeup.
And perfectly awful after the fake up application.
"please don't hide your age"
*Wears makeup.
@@abel4776*As she applies makeup 😂😂😂
THIS IS THE COMMENT I WAS LOOKING FOR!!
@@abel4776EXACTLY. The hypocrisy is real with this post.
You’re beautiful and I feel a lot of relief to see you look so gorgeous and comfortable with who you are. I’m approaching 30 and have been losing sight of what it means to be gifted with another year alive. I appreciate you ❤️
Great wisdom from an experienced woman! You’re awesome 🙏 As a man, I’m very fortunate to have taken heed when I did!
2 years ago when i was in a crisis. I thought that I was already at the final chapter and the last last few pages of my story because I couldn't imagine or see myself in the future or how my story could have continued. I did tried to resign myself to fate but a glimmer of light came through and i found a reason to hold on. Days gone and seasons changed, and i am still here today. And i've never been more proud of myself and for allowing myself to stay and finding the wonderful treasures of being alive. And i think you're damn right about being older, I am very lucky to be this old, right now.
@@DarkBlueMemories96
No one will ever want you or want to bed you 🤮
Im 60 and i can definitely confirm what she has stated! ⚠️100% truth
“…9 times out of 10, that person’s already told you who they are.” Truth.
Well said madam. Your a decent lady
I'm 52yrs old and I'm still looking for good advice to live a happier, wisor life. Thank you I'm always listening
"ENJOY MOTHER NATURE AND WHAT SHE HAS TO OFFER; ALL OF US" !!! 🫡
@nscottrussell5784 this right here !!
Start with having a relationship with a Higher Power and go from there.
Good advice...make sure that you're putting away to subsidize your SS for retirement. And be 100 percent debt free.
don't forget to listen to advice from men. balance the scales if you will.
That first one hit hard!!!! I keep thinking if I just try harder to make them happy then it’ll come back to me!
SAME HERE ! 🤷♂️
Time to live your life and get the toxic people away from you. This sometimes is family. There's still really good people around.
People who bully you are insecure in their own skin. They are just passing their own frustrations and rage onto you.
@@dhart28 Yes, but that doesn't stop the billshut effect...
And so often they are rewarded and promoted for it because they hide it from management who are highly paid to recognize it but don’t or won’t.
I love all of your wisdom! However the fact you can so easily put those eyelashes on is what impressed me the most! 😂❤
From a 54 year old, keep trucking your beautiful and don't worry about what other think.
I say that if they are talking about me, they are leaving someone else alone😊. I agree with her. I just turned 60.
5/10
You are sooo right! Stop making issues into big issues. Thank you for these reminders.. I needed to hear this.
I like how she shows you how to do makeup without piling it on and..... give a motivation speech. ! love it !
😂
I used to pile the make-up on too. Not so much now. I go make-up free most days.
Are you serious😅. It’s ironic that she speaks about age while putting a crapload on. None of my female family members use that much makeup in a year!
But.... she's hiding her age with the makeup. The hypocrisy is real with this post.
@@MatthewPeters-v1lEXACTLY. The hypocrisy is real with this post.
People who are not treating you well can treat you better if you have a good reasonable conversation with them and set your firm standards
Great advice! I appreciate your natural, bare-faced look!
😂
I actually showed this to my 9 year old daughter because everything you said is what I wish I would have heard when I was younger. ❤
I'm a 53 year old man. Heard today Sting singing:"be yourself, no matter what they say". That's the most important truth of our whole life! That's also what people regret when they are dying, they paid too much attention to reaction of others instead acting their own way.
😍 beautiful and smart thank I needed tht
Hard but good to hear. Thanks for sharing 👍🏻
This is me hoping and wishing he'll treat me better if i'm patient enough... Trying hard to please everyone but myself.... Life's hard and it hurts living like this every day...But thanks for the great advice
You are the only person who you will always live with. Respect yourself first.
I’m 53. I love my Jesus. He is the way, the truth and the life.
Amen 🙏 Jesus is the reason
Amen
Amen!
Me too
Me too Amen xx🇮🇪☘💪🙏🙏
Great presentation! Great speech! Congrats! ❤
I love the wisdom. This energy is refreshing ✨️ ❤🎉
Thank you!
@@TamsenFadalTV thank you! 🙌💪✨️💓
At 65 and retired, my wife and I still surf, hike, swim , dive/snorkel and refuse to act old.
I know people much younger who seem to make excuses for not doing the things that would make them be exciting about life.
Get out and have a blast!
If not now, when?! Go do that thing you have always dreamed about.
You have one life, live it to the best of your ability!
Well money has a lot to do with living your dreams, I've been through two divorces lost a pile of net worth took on twice that in debt. Will never get to retire but I do what I love.
My 54 year old wife and I are taking our teenage grandson scuba diving in 2 weeks
@@gone2bch
Awesome!
Make the memories that will last.
Doesn’t have to be expensive as long as
your living your best life. 👌
@@calsurflance5598 absolutely!!
@@calsurflance5598 just reread my comment. For some reason it is different from what I have in my mind. Lol. It was supposed to read “at 54 years old. My wife and I are are taking our grandson. Scuba diving”. I am 54. She will not be 54 until the end of this month. I want to make sure I get that straight 😂
You hit almost bullseye, what I would say is people and differences get in your way again and again untill you have overcome them, when someone is wrong or wicked shouldn't get any favours, respectful and righteous people suffer more nowadays
Youth is the gift of nature but age is a work of art
The older I get, the more all of this makes sense.
Thank you, I needed to hear that with my 32. Especially with the conflict and people I surround myself with
Seeing women like you is so important for me. I am estranged from both of my parents. They are in their early 50’s and I am in my early 30’s. My mom still doesn’t know or understand the majority of this information. It all seems like common sense to me. Please keep sharing! For those of us motherless with no one to guide us.
Have mercy on them and give them the example with your actions. Blessings
Our parents are not perfect, they do the best they can. Don't judge them, just forgive and move on with your life.
@@donotsign no they aren’t . And she didn’t do the best she could. She used me as the scapegoat by putting the blame on me for all of her poor life choices. By simply just existing. She abused me and allowed others to abuse me. I will never forgive her because she will never take accountability. Removing her from my life forever is the best decision I have ever made for myself and my peace. She’s the one who failed me. She’s the one who abandoned me. She’s a narcissists. She will never change.
@@jamg8483 I understand.
Sending you the light. 🌞
These personal development books may be helpful and empowering.
Safe People by Henry Cloud
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood
What The Heck Is Self Love Anyways? by Jonathon Aslay
Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
I Hear You by Micheal Sorenson
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman -for healing childhood and adult traumas.
The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer- for healing.
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-IMAGO
Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goldman
Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters
The Language Of Emotions by Karla McLaren
The Myth Of Normal by Gabor Mate
Ken Reid, Dr Ramani, Dr Stan Tatkin, David Tian, and Sam Vaknin have podcasts on attachment styles and other topics.
@@jamg8483
I understand. Sometimes no contact is the only way to find peace.
These personal development books may be helpful.
Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
What The Heck Is Self Love Anyways? by Jonathon Aslay
Safe People by Henry Cloud
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix-IMAGO
Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin
I Hear You by Micheal Sorenson
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
Beautiful with and without makeup. Thank you for your wisdom 🙏🏽
Simple, applicable and straight to the point. Thank you 🥰 /22 y/o
It’s nice to see a beautiful woman who’s also smart
Nothing like having a relationship with a cosmetic factory
Every thing you said is TRUTH..and your BEAUTIFUL. 😊
Thank you
At 59 I really needed to hear that
You have just lifted me
Thanks ❤
I like how she says please stop hiding your age.....as she's applying makeup and fake eye lashes. 🤔🤨🙄
She says ... Stop hiding your age !!
Then puts on tons of makeup to hide her age... Geez People... Duhhhh
And dyed hair…
Complete phony!
She is a Godes we are all supposed to follow her!
I've a trowel that could borrow
Lol glad I wasn't the only one that caught that 😂😂😂
A good message, but when she said,"Please stop hiding your age....", as she's applying make-up, I had a good laugh.
I believe she's talking about those having cosmetic surgeries, & injecting God knows what under their skin.
I know ninety+ years old who wear makeup. They are not hiding their age. They've been doing it since their teens.
She's probably worn make-up her entire adult life, so she's not doing it to look "younger." She has great skin to start with! Plastic surgery and Botox would be more in the category of "trying to hide your age" to me.
Makeup doesn't hide age. Oh, and she's probably been wearing it in one form or another since she was just a girl because it's fun and pretty, is there some magic age when she should stop for some reason??
She's not doing it to hide her age, she's doing it to rock her age. Any more dumb remarks about things you know nothing about? 😂
@@flowerinherhair8195not hiding your age means natural hair, no make up, no spanx, no botox. If you are hiding yourself, you are hiding your age too.
Just my first time seeing and listening to you, you seem as beautiful inside as outside, and so much wisdom !!!
Thank you! Love that 'lucky to be getting older'. !😊❤️🌹From a 74 year old granny.
Embrace aging. Every day is a blessing. It's a gift.🙏
So true, good advice. My Mum is toxic (half the time), and I've got to the point of nearly cutting her out my life because of how much it affects me. My Dad passed away ages a go, so I'm alone a lot. But now I've just accepted it all, and I love being independent and free to be who i want. I've tried explaining to my Mum to stop being toxic to me, but even though she says stuff like she didn't mean it that way, she still puts me down nearly every time i speak to her. I know a lot of it is issues she has with her own Mum, but I've completely had enough. All i can do now is set boundaries and speak to my Mum less often, as i dont actually want to cut off contact forever.
You sound like me. Same story.
I threatened my mom that I would cut off contact and she had a tantrum but fell into line. Only works if you mean it though
i went no contact w mine last year. had to she became dangerous. sometimes it’s the only way if they are disordered. best of luck. dont let them ruin your hsppiness❤
@@MovingMeditationWithRani know what you mean!! What kind of things did your Mum do? (If you don't mind me asking) x
Same same 😢
Thank you! I really needed this today🤗
Amen amen amen! You tell perfect truths woman 🙏🏼❤️🥰