WEANING COLD TURKEY! | Stopping Breastfeeding | What to Expect

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  • Опубликовано: 17 окт 2024

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  • @Grassyhopper21
    @Grassyhopper21 3 года назад +42

    I’m happy to read through all these stories of moms who are so done with breastfeeding their toddler. I stopped breastfeeding at 15 months and honestly it’s been more emotionally painful than physically. I kept going back and forth about whether or not I made the right decision and feeling guilty. But now I’m also remembering just how gruelling and frustrating it can feel, and I’m sure stopping when she turns two would be even harder.

  • @trismama1290
    @trismama1290 4 года назад +40

    Mamas that stop cold turkey, dont be afraid to pump a little pressure off or express. It wont stimulate you too much, just take the edge off

  • @infinityproductions2596
    @infinityproductions2596 5 лет назад +7

    Thank you so much, I'm on day 4 now... still engorged and painful, I massage with warm water for about 3-5mins to ease pain and also take some painkillers... but no cabbage leave will get it today...and I feel much better and encouraged after watching this video. baby is 15months. We mothers are great.

    • @nidaorange31
      @nidaorange31 5 лет назад

      Infinity Productions I am also experiencing the worst pain. 😭😭

    • @nazeerahhussain2062
      @nazeerahhussain2062 2 года назад

      Hi. Are you supposed to express out the milk after taking the tablet to stop the milk

  • @franiameza7738
    @franiameza7738 2 года назад +4

    I haven’t breastfed my almost 14 month old since this morning. Not looking forward to tonight but looking forward to just be done. His pediatrician had told me to wean cold turkey but I needed a video to know what to expect. Thank you for the encouragement and sharing your experience with us! 🤍

    • @carocove
      @carocove 2 года назад +1

      Day one ☝️ I’m doing it on my own but my pediatrician said the same thing!

  • @godswinningwomen9721
    @godswinningwomen9721 6 лет назад +50

    Thank you so much for making this video. I will try it this way. My son is 18 months and I would like my breasts back. 😊

    • @PjazYT
      @PjazYT 3 года назад

      Dude if you don't wanna breastfeed then you won't even need your breasts

  • @DianaGallo
    @DianaGallo 5 лет назад +70

    Going hard turkey starting tomorrow
    Pray for me

    • @SuchAeFFinDoll
      @SuchAeFFinDoll 5 лет назад

      Diana Marie how did it go? My kid is 21 months.

    • @washukabeatrice
      @washukabeatrice 5 лет назад +6

      started yesterday, day 2 today, praying for my myself ..

    • @niecy3854
      @niecy3854 4 года назад +5

      On day 1 and I’m holding back tears. How will I get through Day 2 & 3?!!!

    • @cryptogf
      @cryptogf 4 года назад

      niecy3854 whats the worst part?

    • @palomaaguirre86
      @palomaaguirre86 4 года назад +1

      @@cryptogf currently going through this. I'm on day 6 and worse part is not giving my baby his milk 😭😭 and my boobs are so engorged right now, they hurt a lot. I did buy a teas that's supposed to help, it's called "no flow" lets see how it works

  • @Shamiflo
    @Shamiflo 2 года назад +2

    Day 4 of Cold turkey....oh this video and comments are really comforting.
    #2 time doing Cold turkey...the slow way for me seems to be more emotional than this!!!
    Thank you so much

  • @tsakaniramadi4227
    @tsakaniramadi4227 4 года назад +3

    You my Darling encouraged me to stop breastfeeding cold turkey. And yup, it was beautifully painful but we survived it

  • @joleenmasha
    @joleenmasha 6 лет назад +23

    I‘m on day 1 my baby she is 1yr old i hope i will not cry

  • @canderenee4483
    @canderenee4483 6 лет назад +7

    I been ready to wean! My son will be 18months Feb 1st. He nurses multiple times throughout the day and night along with milk and juice. I'm actually going away for 4 days 3 nights and hoping that jump starts our cold turkey weaning process. He co-sleeps with us also, so hopefully we can get through this successfully.

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад +2

      candesha Wright Hey Candesha 😁 well done for bfeeding so long! I stopped before I went on holiday as I wanted to have a relaxing time. You could consider stopping before as you may be uncomfortable the first few days! Good luck and hope all goes well x

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      @Rageteddy 2 года назад

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  • @shizoku9708
    @shizoku9708 10 месяцев назад

    Did you express milk with your hands 3 times for the entire week and half? Or only for the first 5 days?

  • @thirtysomething4532
    @thirtysomething4532 5 лет назад +8

    I'm starting today. I'm nervous my son will be 3 in September. I'm ready to be done. I've tried to slowly wean him but it seems when I do that he just wants to nurse more. Time to just cut it off. It's bitter sweet because I worked soo hard to actually get him to latch that I pumped exclusively for the first 2 months while working on his latch.

  • @javonnadunham4393
    @javonnadunham4393 Год назад +2

    Very helpful. Im on day 2 cold turkey. I feel so bad for my Gigi. She wants mommy's milk sooo bad.

  • @luckycryssxo4132
    @luckycryssxo4132 5 лет назад +5

    My son is 23 months and we are on day 4. He was a constant nurser! He is so devastated, his dad is no help. He tries to slip his little hands in there. I haven’t expressed and I think I’m going to get cabbage because my boobs are killing me. I just squeezed them and there’s so much milk still. Is that normal? I have to stop to take endometriosis medication but omg it’s so hard!

  • @taylornicolerobinson
    @taylornicolerobinson Год назад +3

    Thank you for this!! Weaning my 15 month old starting today and this was very helpful!! ❤

  • @saratrapaga4217
    @saratrapaga4217 3 года назад +4

    When using cabbage leaves it helps to use a roller to roll out the cabbage leaves and then place on your breast. Something in the viens of the leaves helps.

  • @Foreverblessed4LIFE
    @Foreverblessed4LIFE 5 лет назад +19

    I am on day 4 cold turkey. It is so hard. My 10 month old is taking it very well. My boobs on the other hand are not. The cabbage has really helps at night.

  • @ramanjeetbrar4488
    @ramanjeetbrar4488 4 года назад

    Hi dear,when u weaned her ,did u offer her other milk,was ur baby eating solids?i have same situation but my baby won’t eat anything,not sure I should stop breastfeeding coz I don’t want to starve him.

  • @palomaaguirre86
    @palomaaguirre86 4 года назад +19

    I'm currently on day 6 of going cold turkey. My boobs hurt a lot and are super engorged. I bought a tea that's supposed to help it's called "no flow" by pink stork, lets see how that goes. My son is 14 months old and is not doing as bad as I thought he would. First night he woke 4 times crying the first 3 i managed to calm him but the 4th he cried for like 30mi (I know, I cried too) second night- 4th night he woke like 3 times and cried only ine time for like 5 min. The 5th night witch was last night I didn't hear him waking up til like 8am crying but just for a few min and he just woke for the day, had almond milk and breakfast. I co-sleep so i felt it was gonna be harder but the hardest thing is watching him cry and how bad my boobs hurt, I can only sleep on my back and i express some milk in the shower. Next goal is having him sleep in his crib cuz it's been empty since he was born 😂😂 he took over our bed lol anyway, I'll come back for an update on the tea and let u ladies know if it helped at all. Today is September 21st 2020.

    • @chassidylewis3473
      @chassidylewis3473 3 года назад +1

      Hello update. My baby is almost two 😩

    • @palomaaguirre86
      @palomaaguirre86 3 года назад +1

      @@chassidylewis3473 I feel like the tea helped me . I also used cabbage leafs to relieve me from pain on my breasts. I stopped expressing in the shower so my breast wouldn't produce more, so I had to be strong and deal with the pain, I took Advil for the pain. My son did good, after a week he wasn't asking up anymore from milk. Good luck 🤞

    • @chassidylewis3473
      @chassidylewis3473 3 года назад +1

      @@palomaaguirre86 thank you

    • @silvialopez5541
      @silvialopez5541 Год назад +1

      @@palomaaguirre86 i bought the tea maybe a month ago and it didnt help me 🥲 i was upset but again at day 1 weaning

    • @palomaaguirre86
      @palomaaguirre86 Год назад +1

      @@silvialopez5541 sorry. Hope everything is working out for you now 🙏🏻❤️

  • @nimzy100
    @nimzy100 5 лет назад +15

    I'm going cold turkey... it's painful for me i feel like I have golf balls inside my breasts... anything touches it it's so painful I can't hold my baby properly makes me sad.. esp because she's only 2 months. Breastfeeding just wasn't for me

    • @laciehamblin8584
      @laciehamblin8584 5 лет назад

      nimzy100 I’m sorry I’m going through the same thing I have to go back to work and I can’t pump. I have a driving job lol

    • @esmeraldasanchez9746
      @esmeraldasanchez9746 4 года назад

      My baby is 2 months today and I want to do this too I'm just to tiered I want to feel back to normal ... how did it go

    • @ledaleda1088
      @ledaleda1088 3 года назад +2

      Nature give u this body to feed a baby how u think to stop it within 2 months?Why u getting back the right of your little baby to get what is done for this little bunny,to enjoy what is more healthy for him/her? I can not belive that women can not breastfeeding.My baby is 6 months old and I breastfeed every 2 hours all day and night,I clean cook only when he sleeps and never sleeped enough or 4 hours together but when I see what a baby I have so powerful and he enjoys so much it,is like s brigde between us,he feel it like love.Sorry I do not want to ne rude but really..
      ?

    • @living95
      @living95 Месяц назад

      @@ledaleda1088do you want a medal? God, what a stupid comment

    • @3986max
      @3986max 12 дней назад

      @@ledaleda1088why do think you have the right to comment on someone else’s experience. If you had a successful breastfeeding experience well good for you, if anyone is not having a great time breastfeeding and just wants to be done it their choice. Don’t come here to preach about how others should continue solely just on your experience.

  • @britnimay1
    @britnimay1 6 лет назад +25

    I’m on day 2 of weaning my almost 3yr old and my 16mo old. Thank you soooo much for this video. I am following along like yup yup yup that’s me lol there’s not a lot of info or help out there so I really really appreciate this ❤️

    • @britnimay1
      @britnimay1 6 лет назад

      5 or 6 days 😭 ugh. I have a week or more of pain I bet. I’m going to try cold medicine. I heard this helps to dry up the milk.

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад

      Hey 😁 I’m glad that it can be of some assistance. Give it a few months (like me know) and I have completely forgotten about the experience 😂. It’s worth it power through & good luck 😘😘 thanks for watching! Xx

    • @constancecolburn6447
      @constancecolburn6447 6 лет назад +1

      TheChurchFamily sudafed is the common medicine i know of to help dry you up.

    • @Noni1575
      @Noni1575 6 лет назад +3

      Yep. My son will be 3 next month. Still co sleep. Still breast feed at least 3 times for a few minutes a night and on demand all day. I’m a human binky/sippy cup. I’ve loved most every min of it, except for being used as human teething ring at about 6-9 months old. I have to wean him due to my health and need to start medication:( Neither of us are going to love this process.

  • @hunter4lovelifelearninglon464
    @hunter4lovelifelearninglon464 4 года назад +14

    Anyone experience nausea or any other pregnancy symptoms while weaning but NOT pregnant?!

  • @BibiLilibeth
    @BibiLilibeth 5 лет назад

    How did your baby handle it after this video did it get better for her? I hope she didn’t struggle to much after?

  • @alexusallen338
    @alexusallen338 5 лет назад +54

    I’m on day 4!!! Cold turkey is the way to go. Every time I try to gradually do it it’s like they breastfeed more lol . Second time doing cold turkey. The last time I was pregnant so I didn’t become engorged but this time only her favorite boobie is engorged. I feel off balanced with one big boobie but my 14 month old is taking it well. I’ve just been rocking her to sleep or she just falls asleep now. Didn’t think I’d be able to do it without the hubs but just letting everyone know it’s possible.

    • @iseladelossantos1811
      @iseladelossantos1811 3 года назад

      Omg this is me right now weaning my almost 3 year old and he had a hard time but he's taking it very well now. I'm on day 4, and have one huge boobie and one little one. I get so tempted to pump because I look crazy lol

    • @teaquawilliams3135
      @teaquawilliams3135 3 года назад +1

      I've just ordered some cabbage and im going to see how this plays out. Hopefully the worst should be past before I start my first days work on the 16th

    • @FlourishLorrie
      @FlourishLorrie 2 года назад

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @jamyblaauw7391
    @jamyblaauw7391 3 года назад +3

    I'm on day 2 and omgggg! whole day was fine! but now at night they are huge and feels so bad.. but I'll keep going just pumped 5 minutes every breast because the tension was so bad! little girl is 9 weeks old but because she didn't get enough out of my breast needed to quit giving it to her.. but this is the best way! thanks for the video it helps me a lot!

  • @covinamunoz3162
    @covinamunoz3162 6 лет назад +1

    the video helped alot! Did you self pump every day up until you just stopped producing or just that one day ?

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад +1

      Covina Munoz hey, I did less day by day only about 2 mins after day 1 because I didn’t want it to encourage more milk x

  • @CopelandDecorandmomof4
    @CopelandDecorandmomof4 5 лет назад +1

    I’m on day two. I’m still engorged so I pray it eases up. My 14 month old isn’t doing too bad with no breastfeeding. I just distract her with food and playing with her. How long did the whole process take for you mamas?

    • @CopelandDecorandmomof4
      @CopelandDecorandmomof4 5 лет назад

      Wilber Jackie after 4 days she was completely done. My milk dried up in 10 days. Thank you for checking in ❤️. I did do a little of express milk in the shower which helped but I didn’t do it until I was empty. I just did it until I was comfortable.

    • @CopelandDecorandmomof4
      @CopelandDecorandmomof4 5 лет назад +1

      Wilber Jackie You baby will do fine. It’s easier when your not around as well. That’s a way to jump start this. My biggest tip for you will be to express a little when you need too. Don’t torture yourself by being engorged. I always express a little twice a day. 3 squeeze per boob. I did it in the morning and at night so you can sleep through the night. Keep me updated. You got this mama! If need be, express mid day as well in the beginning. This will tell your baby that your baby doesn’t need so much milk. Use cold compress as well.
      My daughter woke up during the night. Have snacks close by and a cup of water.
      When my daughter reached down my shirt, I would say ouch!

  • @jennagray5588
    @jennagray5588 5 лет назад

    Did you pump a little everyday??? I started yesterday and woke up this morning and boob are so full it’s painful? Many thanks and love this video

  • @star_fruitti
    @star_fruitti 3 года назад +8

    I found this video after getting bit harder than I ever have before by my 17 month old(he drew blood and wouldn’t let go)
    I’m literally crying and never want to breastfeed again 😭

  • @mother_mariah9775
    @mother_mariah9775 5 лет назад +1

    Did you pump at all or just cold turkey like you said? Cause im on my second day without pumping and they are swoll

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  5 лет назад +1

      mother_ mariah I did some hand pumping in the shower not a lot

    • @mother_mariah9775
      @mother_mariah9775 5 лет назад

      Im engorged right now hard as rocks like double ds , am i going to be okay?? or should i go to hospital, i feel fine but they just hurt a bit cause of fullness

    • @gisellebowar1576
      @gisellebowar1576 5 лет назад

      How are you now? My breasts are always engorged I’m nervous to stop!

  • @ha.t3688
    @ha.t3688 5 лет назад +9

    From what I am experiencing now, the best way to stop breastfeeding is reducing the number of times you breast feed. I started from five times a day to two times a day to one times a day. Now I am breast feeding once in two days and the breast milk has really reduced without any pain. Very soon there will be no more milk. I think that is the best way instead of leaving milk in the breast to dry up drastically on its own because it may pose a risk

    • @darias3499
      @darias3499 5 лет назад

      Hi..can I ask how did the baby respond to reduced feeds?

  • @alyshaaryan3991
    @alyshaaryan3991 4 года назад +17

    Unfortunately I’m a single mum 😭 wish I could have a partner to help

  • @HoneyPot624
    @HoneyPot624 Месяц назад

    Thank you so much for this video! Currently on day 3 and it’s sooooo uncomfortable! But this gives me hope.

  • @hiraarashid1336
    @hiraarashid1336 3 года назад

    Does peppermint tea help with reducing milk supply?

  • @veerdz7744
    @veerdz7744 5 лет назад

    Question, while cutting her off other than sleeping in a separate room did you interact with her at all? Or did you just stay away from her completely.

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  5 лет назад +1

      Vee Rdz ofcourse. I was with her everyday. I just slept in a different room as that’s when she fed the most and would prob manage to get milk when I was sleeping which would delete the purpose x

  • @cherokeerohrbough5067
    @cherokeerohrbough5067 5 лет назад +4

    My son is almost 2 and I'm still breastfeeding. I want to stop. And I'm laying here with mastitis for the second time, I'm miserable

  • @briannab5480
    @briannab5480 3 года назад +4

    2020 mother and I swore my baby would sleep in his bed and he has never slept in that thing 😩😭

  • @knockknocklandshark9022
    @knockknocklandshark9022 Год назад

    How much can I actually express to relieve before I actually sabotage my efforts??

  • @Cookie-gr3st
    @Cookie-gr3st 3 года назад +3

    Giiirl u made me laugh because I'm sooo ready to STOP lol and I'm a little excited but also sad. Thank you so much for your video XOXO

  • @Enigmabeing
    @Enigmabeing 5 лет назад +1

    Everyone says to express a 'small amount' of milk to relieve the engorgement. How much is a small amount? Did you express that small amount (like an ounce) everyday?

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  5 лет назад

      Kish Williams so basically I just relieved enough in the shower so it wasn’t agony but it was still uncomfortable. Honestly I didn’t express it into a bottle so I don’t know how much in ounces x

  • @yazzymarr
    @yazzymarr 2 года назад

    Thank you Thank You!! I’ve been looking everywhere for advice 😂 my baby is 19 months and I’m going on a trip in a few weeks.. I stopped yesterday and wanted to know an idea of what to expect

  • @CathyFlo
    @CathyFlo 6 лет назад +17

    I love your accent and you are so beautiful

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад

      cathgerad thank you!

    • @micha3539
      @micha3539 4 года назад +1

      Great info, the midwives help you to breast feed, but no support out there to stop, great video thankyou ❤️

  • @gabrielletrujillo2163
    @gabrielletrujillo2163 Год назад +1

    I've been breastfeeding for almost 4 years straight. This will be day 2 of cold turkey, and it is soooo painful! Seems like day 2 and 3 are the worst of it. Going to buy some cabbage today! Haha

  • @sarahritchens9154
    @sarahritchens9154 5 лет назад +2

    I’m on day 11 stopping cold turkey and I’m STILL engorged! When will it end?! One side is worse than the other and I’m so sore and lumpy! I just want to hand express to relieve it but I know then I’ll be back to square one! 😢 I’ve even been taking sage tablets but yet I’m still engorged

    • @magsclark9697
      @magsclark9697 2 года назад

      @sarah ritchens Sarah did you boob ever get better? I’m wondering how long I should go on with an engorged boob before I need to go to the dr or start back to square one with pumping. Thank you!

    • @sherandom854
      @sherandom854 9 месяцев назад

      Please what did you do cause I'm on day 7 and Im the exact same way you were

  • @ivycervantes6874
    @ivycervantes6874 5 лет назад

    Do you have to pump? Or do you just stop breastfeeding?

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  5 лет назад

      I explain in the video but I hand pumped a little in the shower to ease the situation

  • @NikkiHubYoutube
    @NikkiHubYoutube 2 года назад +1

    I followed the same process as you and it went so well! Thank you for this video! And my experience with engorgement and everything was so so similar

  • @jeanetteperez3687
    @jeanetteperez3687 5 лет назад +1

    What would you feed her through out the day? And what kind of milk would she drink?

    • @kgreer1127
      @kgreer1127 2 года назад

      Would love to know because my 13 month old is refusing whole milk. And I HAVE to quit

  • @isabeljsanchezp
    @isabeljsanchezp Год назад

    Currently in the process of stopping cold turkey. I also stopped in the AM 🙃 his nap time was difficult as he always nurses to fall asleep. & right now I’m just trying to distract him with his favorite movie. Still have to see how the whole night goes. Day 1 😭🥹

  • @yesseniarosales2170
    @yesseniarosales2170 6 лет назад +5

    Thank you fo r'this video currently trying the and needed some more insight such a scary process

  • @thegoodwinsswirl7926
    @thegoodwinsswirl7926 9 месяцев назад

    I’m day 3 in & my 15 month old son is surprisingly doing better than I’d thought. I did buy almond milk vanilla flavored to kind of imitate my milk . He took to it

  • @melenatedleann
    @melenatedleann 3 года назад +2

    My daughter is 16 months and today I'm planning to stop breastfeeding cold turkey. WISH ME LUCK 🤞🏾😭😭

    • @star_fruitti
      @star_fruitti 3 года назад +2

      How’s it going? I want to quit with my 17month old. He’s bitten my tatas for the LAST TIME, I’m so done 😭💔

    • @melenatedleann
      @melenatedleann 3 года назад

      @@star_fruitti it's going good. I'm officially done breastfeeding. She attempted to go for my tatas on several occasions but she learned quick. You can handle this mom! I was engorged for about 3 days but afterwards ur went away. A few days later I started leaking but after about 2 and a half weeks I was fully dry. I promise you can handle it !

    • @star_fruitti
      @star_fruitti 3 года назад

      @@melenatedleann thank you! That gives me lots of hope 😊

  • @amirahkhan2885
    @amirahkhan2885 6 лет назад +5

    Hey all the way from south africa. Thank you so much for this video. Iv been trying to find some sort of comfort by listening to other moms experiances and this video definitely helped especially with what to expect during the cold turkey weaning process as theres almost nothing on the internet about how to do this..im currently on day 2 of weaning and its sooooo intense.. sounds like I just gotta ride it out a few days more..thanks again.. wish me luck xoxo

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад +2

      Amirah Khan hey Amirah, thanks so much it means a lot to hear positive feedback! You can do it - your baby will forgot about b feeding in no time & the intensity will also die down. Xxx

    • @simonegreyling9108
      @simonegreyling9108 6 лет назад +2

      Amirah Khan South Africa here too! Hey girl :)

    • @kieswetterklaskamer9022
      @kieswetterklaskamer9022 6 лет назад +2

      Also from South Africa. I'm on Day 2 of going cold turkey and my breasts are so engorged! Gonna get me some cabbage tomorrow! Breastfed my twins for 29 months! And so relieved to be finished. Hubby is my hero! He is getting up for them all through the night and settling them back to sleep. I'm getting some proper sleep for the first time in years!

    • @nazeerahhussain2062
      @nazeerahhussain2062 2 года назад

      @@VanessaKanbi hey hope u well. Are u supposed to express the milk out after taking the tablet for stopping milk production. Because my breasts feel so heavy. So are you supposed to leave it that way or express

  • @nazleeblows9272
    @nazleeblows9272 6 лет назад +2

    I’m on my first day of weaning my 14 month old, and I just feel so guilty because we cosleep as well, I have the cabbage leaves in and just wanted to know did the smell out off your daughter in anyway? Like does that help them not want to feed?
    Great video❤️👌🏼

  • @kristenmicula9337
    @kristenmicula9337 Месяц назад

    We are on day 2 of cold turkey. Cabbage leaves help but omgosh the engorgement is SO painful. 😭 Can we just say how gross cabbage leaves smell? My husband is repulsed by it. 😅 I don’t blame him lol!

  • @lizzyray97
    @lizzyray97 2 года назад

    This was so helpful thank you so much for sharing your experience!!

  • @nathalienyamabo1158
    @nathalienyamabo1158 3 года назад +9

    I’m on day 2 and it’s hard. My boobs are engorged and I’m struggling to turn right or left and sleep on my side. The headaches are real too 😳!
    My daughter is 9 months going 10. I’ve tried to gradually wean her down but like one other mom said, it made her feeding worse. She is has been feeding min 5 x times at night 😢.I wake up like a zombie 🧟‍♀️ trying to crush it at work and manage my household.
    Emotionally it’s a struggle because she is so young still and honestly acting like a junky at night when rolling about to find her comfort whist my husband the obstacle between her and me to discourage her from coming to me and crying on my boob to drink.
    I just want her to eat better because she favouring the boob over solids. Another reason for going cold turkey is that soon I’ll have to go back to the office regularly and I can’t have her refuse eating until I’ve returned ( yes she has done that in the past ☹️). She is my last and I hate to see her like this but I have no choice it’s what’s best for her. Good luck to all you moms, it’s not easy.

    • @beltellsvlog778
      @beltellsvlog778 2 года назад

      Hi im just wondering how long the engorgement last?

    • @hadast3806
      @hadast3806 Год назад

      Please post an update - was the quitting at 15 months successful?

  • @leahwhite3828
    @leahwhite3828 6 лет назад +4

    Thank you dear for the encouragement. I am on day 1 of weaning my 18months daughter

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад

      Hey Leah, I’m glad that my video has reached you! You can do it. Hope it goes ok xx

  • @joannaeng9133
    @joannaeng9133 2 года назад

    My son will be 11 months when I have to stop nursing due to shoulder surgery. I have freezer stash but I'm so scared about engorgement while in a sling

  • @kianna2530
    @kianna2530 Год назад +1

    My daughter is 14 months and I’m ready to stop but it’s really hard because she’s so emotional! She only feeds for 2-3 minutes and not as often as she used to so it’s so easy to convince myself to carry on but it’s time now

  • @aliciacrosby3285
    @aliciacrosby3285 5 лет назад +5

    My baby is 9 months and I'm ready to stop breastfeeding what should i do?

  • @FlowersGrowInTheValley
    @FlowersGrowInTheValley 6 лет назад

    Just wondering if you know if I can do cold turkey after I got mastitis I’m exclusive pumping but idk if I can just stop 🤔

    • @sambrown7262
      @sambrown7262 5 лет назад

      The Montz Adventures I’m in the same boat except I had to get my left breast surgically drained and I’m not able to pump or feed in that breast so I’m on day 4 without doing anything to the breast and I’m scared cuz idk what will happen if I leave the milk inside, I had an abscess on my clogged duct and I’m afraid the infection is gonna come back or get worse! Can you leave milk in your breast?

  • @sarahwaugh890
    @sarahwaugh890 5 лет назад

    I'm want to start cold turkey but wondering how long you pumped for and for how many times a day. So like first day it was 5 minutes but how many times? Then you dropped down to 2 minutes the next day and how many times a day? Did you drop down again after that? I really want to avoid mastitis but tried the cut down gradually but son isnt having any of it

  • @rubysuzie709
    @rubysuzie709 6 лет назад

    I’m going away in three months and my 8 month old is very Stubborn!! Would not take bottle at all.. I’ve tried using a nipple shield to trick him into getting used of that plastic-y feeling but no he would not. Help!!!

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад

      Ruby Suzie my daughter wouldn’t really take the bottle/ milk so she just never had milk / the bottle again when I stopped breastfeeding although this was later at 14 months. I would suggest trying a normal cup and miss out the bottle stage. Do you give water? Maybe in the same cup ? X

    • @mom_2girls100
      @mom_2girls100 6 лет назад

      Vanessa Kanbi Hi! I just saw your comment. I am going to do this cold turkey weaning with my DD who does not take milk with bottle, cup or sippy cup (but drink juice and water)So anxious to start this process, afraid that my baby will lose a lot of weight. Did your LO manage to drink milk and eat more solid food post breastfeeding? My LO is not eating much solid maybe because she still nurses multiple times a day and night.

  • @badmusoyenike6152
    @badmusoyenike6152 4 года назад +3

    I am on my third day now.. this is so painful couldn’t sleep all night 😭

  • @yuvilujan9087
    @yuvilujan9087 2 года назад +1

    2022 mom here , going into my 4th day and it’s extremely hard , the pain to to cold turkey I can handle but having to remove Breastmilk from my 15month old instantly is sooo hard. I’m pregnant with my second baby and have HG which is why I was force to stop breastfeeding from one day to another 😩 and my baby doesn’t like any other milk this is endless of cryings 😭 anyone went thru this ?

    • @asiaoshita1944
      @asiaoshita1944 2 года назад

      How did it go, my baby is picky with milk also and it’s hard because I do stay at home with him

  • @MotherlyEssence
    @MotherlyEssence 4 года назад

    What formula do you use?

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  4 года назад

      Motherly Essence I actually went straight to giving her no milk. She wasn’t interested in formula.

  • @doryg44
    @doryg44 5 лет назад +1

    did you experience chills and fever when you cold Turkey? I am a new mom and I only breastfed up til day 4 after birth. day 4 was when i noticed the milk becoming more watery. after breastfeeding on day 4, I woke up 2 hours later with really bad chills and fever. I cold Turkey after day 4 and have been experiencing the bad chills and fever the following night (24 hours later) and then 12 hours later...

    • @Yassmiinn.
      @Yassmiinn. Год назад

      Oh no, why did you only breastfeed for 3 days ? That's sad.

  • @lyndabryan4696
    @lyndabryan4696 5 лет назад +2

    Restricting your water intake severely for a day or two will stop the milk.That will remove your physical discomfort at least.

  • @aishab8022
    @aishab8022 5 лет назад +1

    This is my 2nd baby and what has worked and is working for me for my 2nd baby is i applied a paste of turmeric powder and water on my boobs,it works wonders,the baby stops wanting it on his own,.

  • @ibukunblessing7377
    @ibukunblessing7377 5 лет назад

    Am in day 8 please how long will it take for breast milk to dry

  • @mahadewiiii
    @mahadewiiii 3 года назад +2

    Love your accent! ❤️

  • @CARELIA16
    @CARELIA16 5 лет назад +3

    It’s been almost 3 weeks and my breast are still engorged and leaking 😩 I’m in pain I’m so jealous

    • @sarahritchens9154
      @sarahritchens9154 5 лет назад

      CARELIA16 when did it get better for you? I’m on day 11 and still engorged 😢

  • @Regalchipmunk
    @Regalchipmunk 3 года назад +1

    After breastfeeding for 18 months I've not breastfed since 5 am on 21 May. Five days and one boob is so engorged and unhappy the other is chill. One side of my sirt is soaking because of the not chill side.

  • @rowena6872
    @rowena6872 4 года назад +3

    A week and a half.....
    That's a long time when you're in pain 😩😢

  • @noemizubia204
    @noemizubia204 5 лет назад +2

    Thank you for this I felt much better God bless❤️

  • @TheMatthewGT
    @TheMatthewGT 5 лет назад +1

    so our daughter, who's name is also Maya, is turning two in literally 4 days and we are on Day 2 of this cold turkey thing. Sheesh this process is hard hey, last night walking up and down with her for hours with no chance of her falling asleep was a battle. For the dads out there what can we do while we're in the ring during this process? Any suggestions to keep her tears (my babies tears) at bay? Super random seeing this video.. but thanks its good to know we're not alone.

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  5 лет назад

      Matthew Greentree hey! Ah another Mya/Maya that’s so nice. Yes it’s difficult for a week then it’s over! My hubby just tried rocking her etc but I found that I made it worse if I was there cos she could smell the milk so I stayed out of the room at night. Hope it goes okay!

    • @TheMatthewGT
      @TheMatthewGT 5 лет назад

      @@VanessaKanbi Sheesh quick response, hoping and praying this process is over sooner than later. =-O

  • @collettecollettec
    @collettecollettec 6 лет назад +2

    Good to see you back

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад

      C20 thank you!! It’s good to be back! X

  • @pelc2821
    @pelc2821 6 лет назад

    Glad you’re back! Was wondering if you were okay😊

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад +1

      pelagia chitehwe I’m glad to be back! I caught a bug at the end of the year and then went to Ghana 🇬🇭 I will be uploading the Ghana vlogs soon as well. Thanks for watching xx

  • @ibukunblessing7377
    @ibukunblessing7377 5 лет назад

    What are the normal things to happen when weening

  • @JessicaHernandez-vb4zl
    @JessicaHernandez-vb4zl 5 лет назад +1

    Day #2 of stopping cold turkey! Thanks for the video! I will be making a video of my experience as well! ❤️

    • @DoseOfSucculents
      @DoseOfSucculents 5 лет назад

      Jessica Hernandez how did it go? I need some tips for my daughter

    • @DoseOfSucculents
      @DoseOfSucculents 5 лет назад +1

      Wilber Jackie I did it about a month ago. After day 3 it gets easier ! It’s hard but she has completely forgotten about it now

    • @candicep4038
      @candicep4038 4 года назад

      What age was your daughter when you began cold turkey? Mine is 9 months .

  • @patriciatandrachen5788
    @patriciatandrachen5788 4 года назад +1

    Going cold turkey today *fingercrossed
    Thank you for this video!

  • @adrinacande1993
    @adrinacande1993 5 лет назад +6

    Loved this video. Thanks for the tips. I'm on day 3 with my 18 month old. And my boobs are in pain. I hope they feel better in a week. Can't wait for my milk to dry up

    • @BakerneshaTV
      @BakerneshaTV 3 года назад +1

      I know this is an old comment. But how many days did it take for your to dry up.

    • @adrinacande1993
      @adrinacande1993 3 года назад +1

      @@BakerneshaTV it took over a week less then two weeks and it was so painful

    • @BakerneshaTV
      @BakerneshaTV 3 года назад +1

      @@adrinacande1993 I’m on day 2 😩 and this pain is wild on top of trying to distract my LO

    • @adrinacande1993
      @adrinacande1993 3 года назад +1

      @@BakerneshaTV I know I know but you know what works the best thing ever, buy some cabbage make sure you put it in the fridge and it’s going to save your life!!!! It soothes the boobies. It works amazing. No one ever does it.

    • @adrinacande1993
      @adrinacande1993 3 года назад +1

      @@BakerneshaTV you will get thru this, I know it’s hard. I stopped breastfeeding my first born when he was 18 months and I was 4 months pregnant and then I took that 5 month break and I’m breastfeeding my 2 year old. So I pretty much have been breastfeeding since my first born lmao and it’s hard to take him off it. Haha

  • @Nadiahope7
    @Nadiahope7 6 лет назад +5

    Im prepping to do this... Im on my own so dreading it 😣

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад +2

      Nile and Moon Heyy!! Have you thought of a doula if your worried about being alone ? You will have a midwife there if you will be in a hospital. You can do it 😘

    • @Nadiahope7
      @Nadiahope7 6 лет назад

      @@VanessaKanbi hey, i unfortunately couldnt afford a doula i dont think. I need to just be strong. I'll go half a day then give in because its easier 😆 my lo is 15months now so i just feel ready.

  • @ash12317
    @ash12317 5 лет назад +1

    I'm on day two of weaning my two year old and it's so painful. I don't want anything to touch me

    • @ladyMillionGroup
      @ladyMillionGroup 5 лет назад +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣 my 2 year old came running and went straight for my boobs. I felt heaven, I was sure I was going to die

  • @jssfrk161
    @jssfrk161 2 года назад +1

    Thanks!

  • @jshvillagran
    @jshvillagran 5 лет назад

    Omg I'm so lost my daughter is almost 15 month old and I dont know what to do, I need to take my medication,I have tried everything and it's not working:'(

    • @beautyyjackkson736
      @beautyyjackkson736 5 лет назад

      Cold cabbage in your bra and tight sports bra and im sooo srry for your lost

  • @jadzaoliveiracanning7818
    @jadzaoliveiracanning7818 4 года назад +3

    Day 1 ... it’s a shit show.

  • @destinyrodriguez7974
    @destinyrodriguez7974 4 года назад +1

    Day 1 for me wish me luck

  • @nickeshaellington3073
    @nickeshaellington3073 4 года назад +2

    You’re sooooo pretty ❤️

  • @naxinns9881
    @naxinns9881 6 лет назад +6

    What are you feeding your baby instead of the breast milk ? My lo is currently 13/14 months and literally doesn’t like much solids or even drinking from a sippy cup for water or anything..Just breast breast breast

    • @kitchrancastello9956
      @kitchrancastello9956 6 лет назад

      Naxinn Soto I have the same issue sighs

    • @sharongilmore5789
      @sharongilmore5789 5 лет назад +3

      This was my problem I’m now on day 3 of cold turkey however my daughter has finally took the bottle (of milk) she would always refuse and also cry very hard when I offered it to her but during this process I didn’t give in ,I just kept holding the bottle out to her singing a song an she reached out for it ,now she’s drinking warm milk in a bottle she’s still crying everytime but he eventually reaches out for it

    • @prettybrown8886
      @prettybrown8886 5 лет назад

      😩😩😩

  • @Lissa2natural
    @Lissa2natural 4 года назад +4

    Currently watching this in 2020 cause I’m going through this now. My son is 16 months and doesn’t seem to be slowing down on the milk thing. So I was like let’s go cold turkey. Now I’m dying! The girls hurt so much!! ☹️

    • @ValenciaJackson2017
      @ValenciaJackson2017 4 года назад +1

      Lissa2Natural how’s it going for you? My boy is 15 months and he isn’t having it. It’s only day 1 but I’m not sure how we’re gonna get through the night! 🥴😓

    • @Lissa2natural
      @Lissa2natural 4 года назад +2

      Well I did the tape thing and that seemed to scare him off. He was still asking for it a lot the first two days. now he might ask and I’ll just tell him no and offer him water or see if he wants a snack. Today makes day 6. I did cabbage and slowly released when the engorgement was unbearable. They’re almost back to normal. Emotionally I cried a lot the first few days cause it just broke my heart having to tell him no and i almost gave in but just stick with it soon he won’t even remember

    • @ValenciaJackson2017
      @ValenciaJackson2017 4 года назад +1

      I have bandaids on mine, he just cries and throws a fit (kicking and screaming). He doesn’t want water or almond milk or a snack 😭😭😭 I’m gonna see how it goes tonight because he’s used to nursing himself to sleep. I really hope tomorrow is better.

  • @exchangeexchange492
    @exchangeexchange492 6 лет назад +1

    Hi venessa!
    How are you
    Thats great video

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад +1

      Exchange Exchange hey 😁! I’m great thanks and you? Thank you!

    • @exchangeexchange492
      @exchangeexchange492 6 лет назад

      Vanessa Kanbi 👍😉 Im fine.
      I have been studying 😁 and watching you 🙋‍♂️🙋‍♂️🙋‍♂️

  • @saniakhan9670
    @saniakhan9670 5 лет назад +2

    I’m doing my turkey and omg 😲
    I’m expecting there’s something here to help 😓

  • @Getitgirl816
    @Getitgirl816 4 года назад +2

    I started 2 days ago after 26 months of nursing and my breast are engorged but this too shall pass...

  • @aprilb1273
    @aprilb1273 5 лет назад +1

    I'm in day 3, yesterday I started putting Vicks on them or this lucky legs lotion. I had leftover from when I was pregnant.

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  5 лет назад

      April B did it help? Xx

    • @aprilb1273
      @aprilb1273 5 лет назад

      @@VanessaKanbi yes, they feel much better when I do that.

  • @LifeOnLahLahLand
    @LifeOnLahLahLand 6 лет назад +1

    Wow 😮 you did well👍🏾

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  6 лет назад

      Love Layefa she’s finally sleeping better as well 🎉 x

  • @tyeeceleste2070
    @tyeeceleste2070 5 лет назад +2

    I’m Day one into this it’s driving me nuts already

    • @VanessaKanbi
      @VanessaKanbi  5 лет назад

      Tyee Celeste 😩 I feel for you - it’s not easy but if it’s what you want/need to do it will be worth it in a weeks time. Xx

  • @allysonhoward2640
    @allysonhoward2640 4 года назад

    I started cold turkey today.

  • @kaylahoward4671
    @kaylahoward4671 5 лет назад +1

    0:40 is where I am 😫

  • @mogaliz2185
    @mogaliz2185 5 лет назад +1

    Went cold turkey yesterday and my breasts hurt soo bad

    • @washukabeatrice
      @washukabeatrice 5 лет назад

      day two,,, so painful.. how are you so far

    • @mogaliz2185
      @mogaliz2185 5 лет назад +1

      @@washukabeatrice day 8 now milk has dried up. And I used band aids to make him stop. And cabbage leaves are a life saver!

    • @washukabeatrice
      @washukabeatrice 5 лет назад

      @@mogaliz2185 great to hear this.. It motivates me a lot. On day 4 today... Sore and heavy. My son is at my mum's and place so no band aids for me. 😆 I have used the cabbage leaves twice now and they work amazingly. Will continue to use them every evening after work until milk dries out completely. Thanks so much