Helping others makes us happier -- but it matters how we do it | Elizabeth Dunn

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  • @muhammadaftabalam7412
    @muhammadaftabalam7412 5 лет назад +242

    I came here to learn English and ended up learning a life long lesson.

    • @ooseven4696
      @ooseven4696 3 года назад +7

      I came here to procrastinate and ended up learning something too, and still continued to procrastinate doing that

    • @Justin-sc4lz
      @Justin-sc4lz 2 года назад

      me too

  • @lina.lecompte
    @lina.lecompte 5 лет назад +125

    She was my professor at UBC and I would honestly look forward to every single lecture, she's so well spoken, and intelligent. This is the sort of information that needs to be spread :)

    • @patrickdapaah
      @patrickdapaah 11 месяцев назад

      That must have bee amazing having a professor who is a TEDxtalks speaker as well.😍

  • @HumansOfVR
    @HumansOfVR 5 лет назад +80

    *_We feel so good when we give because we get what researchers call a “helpers high”_*

    • @pianosenzanima1
      @pianosenzanima1 5 лет назад +2

      Free Julian Assange!

    • @mylenmondigo7223
      @mylenmondigo7223 5 лет назад +5

      But in Philippines Canada gives us disrespect by dumping their garbages to us. Yet, for almost 5 years now we do give them patience, humility and self-control for their inhuman deeds to us!
      How could she herald her country who dumps their garbages to us for almost 5 years now?!?!?! And without taking an action of responsibility out of it?!?!?! 💔😢💔😢💔

  • @rebeccam732
    @rebeccam732 5 лет назад +90

    This is the type of information people of this generation need to hear. 💕 Thank you RUclips algorithm for this recommendation I really needed it . 😂😩🙋‍♀️

    • @suhasv1680
      @suhasv1680 5 лет назад +1

      RUclips's happy on giving you the right recommendation.

  • @khalidsafir
    @khalidsafir 5 лет назад +111

    Just watching the talk I felt this sense of deep happiness... beautiful, thank you.

  • @sophiadavenport3959
    @sophiadavenport3959 5 лет назад +253

    Adults need just as much help and guidance as children do.

    • @TheAleksandros
      @TheAleksandros 5 лет назад +17

      I'd.say even more than children. 😚

    • @PeteS_1994
      @PeteS_1994 3 года назад +9

      @@TheAleksandros Yeah it's ironic, as children we are broken by broken adults that we end up with more problems in adulthood.

    • @realaurorien
      @realaurorien 2 года назад +2

      Depending on the person to be fair

    • @junkyard3924
      @junkyard3924 2 года назад +3

      It's people. People need as much help and guidance as possible.

    • @issavibez394
      @issavibez394 Год назад +1

      And adults always bash the young ones for everything and thinking we are nothing and worthless knowing damn well they need help

  • @SonGoku31213
    @SonGoku31213 8 месяцев назад +4

    Sharing is caring~ Canada should be proud of themselves for this. My country could learn a lot from you in that aspect. I am grateful for this lady. Thanks for showin us the video of the kid learning to bike. It's moments like these that remind us that we all arent so different from one another and should learn from each other. I recently was in a dark place. I am tired of feelin frustrated with this world. Tired of losin myself to politics cuz all our leaders do is divide us into "us vs them". I am tired of watchin the world hate each other and havin to yell at them. And the only thought that recently filled my heart with peace was "I wanna make others happy". I dont know how. But i know i am too dead inside to get hurt by words anymore. So i wanna jump over my pride and try be there for others instead of feelin miserable any further. It doesn't matter we dont get that same understanding back. I am used to it anyway lol. So there is technically nothing standing in my way aside pride. I am not rich tho... so gotta find a different way to make folks happy. I am glad tho. Lately that thought is what managed to put my heart to peace. I am sure many of us feel the same way. In an "eat or get eaten" world, it's not easy to give all the time. But it's the only thing that will make personal happiness for oneself and others feel easier. Hope everyone has a nice day and good food at home 🍕

  • @titlespree
    @titlespree 5 лет назад +115

    *The more valuable someone becomes to their fellow human beings, the more closer that person is to self realization!*

    • @BawsMode
      @BawsMode 5 лет назад +1

      such generic BS

    • @landonny
      @landonny 5 лет назад +4

      @@BawsMode You can say that when everyone starts living that everyday

    • @twn5858
      @twn5858 5 лет назад +4

      I don't know if I buy that. There are a lot of people who love using people also and they'llll just see you as a resource to be used and abused then discarded.

    • @titlespree
      @titlespree 5 лет назад +5

      @@twn5858 I agree! But there definitely comes a time when you can easily recognize such people from a mile away. Thus you avoid them. Not everyone's worth helping!

  • @nittibit6662
    @nittibit6662 4 года назад +22

    I've learned that if you sow generosity you'll reap it when you least expect it. I'm still speechless 😭🥰 words can't express how I feel

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 5 лет назад +44

    *Virtue and empathy is the only way to salvation, alleviating pain and experiencing life to the fullest.*
    Helping other, the universal consciousness becomes more expanded, creating a positive chain.

  • @eblis921
    @eblis921 4 года назад +13

    One way of making a change is by making connection with others.

  • @nevereverr
    @nevereverr 5 лет назад +54

    this was an amazing TED talk. the speaker sounds like such a fun person to be around and she just sounds like a genuinely good person ❤️

  • @Je.rone_
    @Je.rone_ 5 лет назад +28

    *Helping others feels good but not only that it is also contagious*
    when someone helps me or does something for me or a random act of kindness I feel like giving/doing good for others to give that same feeling.
    I enjoy Doing so with no expectations with anything in return not even a thank you. 💪

    • @Je.rone_
      @Je.rone_ 5 лет назад

      @@Henry-qs5td thanks🙏💪

    • @Je.rone_
      @Je.rone_ 5 лет назад +1

      @@mylenmondigo7223 I'm not qualified to answer that question. Though I'm not qualified for much of anything I do.

    • @mylenmondigo7223
      @mylenmondigo7223 5 лет назад

      But in Philippines Canada gives us disrespect by dumping their garbages to us. Yet, for almost 5 years now we do give them patience, humility and self-control for their inhuman deeds to us!
      How could she herald her country who dumps their garbages to us for almost 5 years now?!?!?! And without taking an action of responsibility out of it?!?!?! 💔😢💔😢💔

    • @liamc1102
      @liamc1102 4 года назад

      @@mylenmondigo7223 Instead of crying or complaining about it, try figure out solutions or actions you could take to help your own country.

  • @MelindaLongoria
    @MelindaLongoria 2 года назад +6

    Love your positivity and message to restore the faith in humanity. When we focus on helping others, we take the focus off of our own self and to understand that others are struggling with more than we are. We can impact others and connect in a human way of giving.

  • @yanaa3857
    @yanaa3857 2 года назад +3

    I really admire that Canadians follow this philosophy of doing good to be happy!

  • @gabbigee4249
    @gabbigee4249 Год назад +2

    I'm so grateful I was able to watch this video that I know will make a real difference in how I help people

  • @chunyuenlau56
    @chunyuenlau56 Год назад +1

    So in short, the more concrete the result of your helping that you can see, the more joy you will derive from it.

  • @learneasyfilipino3731
    @learneasyfilipino3731 2 года назад +4

    She brings me new inspiration to make something different in my life. Thanks to her. God bless her.

  • @issavibez394
    @issavibez394 Год назад +3

    Gotta have limits and boundaries when helping since most are takers

  • @petersampson5202
    @petersampson5202 4 года назад +3

    I am so compelled to give and spread my happiness, joy and gratitude. I cannot thank God enough for my beautiful friends and the incredible blessings.

  • @thepowerofhelpingwithreube4407
    @thepowerofhelpingwithreube4407 4 года назад +4

    Such a great talk! Always love Ted talks and especially ones like this!

  • @luannstiegelmeier4544
    @luannstiegelmeier4544 8 месяцев назад +1

    This is literally the BEST TEDX I've ever watch and I've seen ALOT of em and they're all inspiring but this one takes the cake and gets my vote for the most heart touching story so thank u and many blessings to those who give and receive spreading love and joy in this world, wut the world was created for!! So Awesome!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @tbh.t8593
    @tbh.t8593 2 года назад +2

    really kindness and generosity work out and I hope with watching this video people around the world put it as their priority to help each other and make the world a better place to live

  • @Noukz37
    @Noukz37 5 лет назад +10

    Seemed like another, "I have the most interesting job ever" speech, but ended up being deeply profound. Thanks TED for a proper title!

  • @davidsl17
    @davidsl17 2 года назад +2

    Amazing talk, valuable lessons!
    This phrase resumes everything "We have evolved to find joy helping others"
    Just do it!

  • @brightlucmedia
    @brightlucmedia 2 года назад +1

    The Group of Five Program sounds like a wonderful program. I love Canada! Giving gives us a sense of purpose. Thank you so much!

  • @abriljohnsonnieves4632
    @abriljohnsonnieves4632 3 года назад +2

    This made me cry. It was wonderful!

  • @FAuT-xj1ly
    @FAuT-xj1ly 5 лет назад +3

    This small difference in the way of perceiving helps much more than one can expect

  • @sheilablake4858
    @sheilablake4858 5 лет назад +2

    This is Beautiful. I’m proud to live in the U.K. & proud we will be helping refugees in a similar way without the negative mindset that is often paired with receiving refugees.

  • @janineashcraft8339
    @janineashcraft8339 5 лет назад +5

    I don't give money to "charity". I put it right in the hands of those who need it. I've given rides, to those who have no cars. Blankets, pillows to those who have nothing to sleep on. Food to those who are hungry. I see them face to face. This gives me immense Joy. I don't trust these big "charities", but I KNOW what I personally do. I learned it from my Mother. NEVER pass a person in need without trying to help. My 74 year old Mom just did it again this morning, gave someone a ride an hour out of her way so they could catch a bus six hours sooner. Her only regret !?! She had no cash on her. He was limping she told me as she cried, dragging a huge canvas bag full of his belongings. 😢

  • @noxperpetuo4001
    @noxperpetuo4001 5 лет назад +11

    I've been telling friends and family for years that volunteer work can give them temporary or even long-lasting relief from various mental issues like anxiety and depression. When I suffered a loss years ago, one of my first real steps to recovery after that loss was my volunteer work with Habitat for Humanity. It wasn't volunteering for that specific organization that helped me to begin my recovery, but the real human connections I created during my time working with them. I hope you manage to get the data from your happiness related research out there for more people. My personal experience tells me that helping others can increase one's short term and long term personal well-being whilst and at the same time improving the well-being of the world. :)

  • @minhyuksssmile
    @minhyuksssmile 9 месяцев назад +1

    I realize i have no more hope in thsi world but i want to give to others to make them happy and myself happy again

    • @SonGoku31213
      @SonGoku31213 8 месяцев назад

      Same buddy... it's the one thing that managed to give me peace recently. I just want everyone to be happy. You too. Ya deserve it. Hope ya have a nice day🙏

    • @geonew3808
      @geonew3808 Месяц назад

      Were are those good people

  • @carmenhan6698
    @carmenhan6698 5 лет назад +3

    I was almost moved to tears.

  • @sinabayat3654
    @sinabayat3654 5 лет назад +1

    Just listening to her makes you happy!

  • @yunitawizardang8796
    @yunitawizardang8796 5 лет назад +8

    Giving is the best comunication....

  • @joshuaa.kennedy8837
    @joshuaa.kennedy8837 5 лет назад +1

    Giving is not just money but time and wisdom is another thing that will give you the same feeling. But your right you have to see the reaction.

  • @theo_yu
    @theo_yu Год назад

    I am watchign this as my Psyc 308 lecture from Dr. Dunn and this is the best lecture i have heard!

  • @jamescozzo3914
    @jamescozzo3914 5 лет назад +53

    *Puts money in tip jar*
    Person doesn’t see it so you don’t get a “Thanks!”
    *Puts money in again so they see it*
    Finally happy

    • @saralind2032
      @saralind2032 5 лет назад +3

      Fiesty Banana thanks for the summary

    • @MikaelHeed
      @MikaelHeed 5 лет назад +2

      I see what you did there... but the point is that they all end up actually happy.

    • @jlsmith7917
      @jlsmith7917 3 года назад

      Dude.. impressed, youpressed me. Apologies for being too bananas about this

    • @brightlucmedia
      @brightlucmedia 2 года назад +1

      James, what a great idea putting money in a tip jar. You can also collect coins at home and donate it when it's full.

  • @ultramarinewaters9325
    @ultramarinewaters9325 5 лет назад +7

    This story is beautiful!

  • @dharmendrasingh2020
    @dharmendrasingh2020 5 лет назад +1

    Amazing job being done by people around the world which goes unknown however even it makes difference in once life, that’s better than any publicity

  • @blancheng6284
    @blancheng6284 4 года назад +3

    Thanks so much for your sharing and your speech are very well said which has taught me a lifelong lesson in it. One way of making a change is by making connections with others.

  • @rodelajoseph8446
    @rodelajoseph8446 6 месяцев назад

    I do believe that every township should pull in all of their citizens to be triumphant against any kind of hardship, mental, physical, acceptance, and confidence in your people.
    This would knock down many criticism, or would you like the government to do it for you.( China?). And so many others, it'll be only a matter of time.
    Unless you are ready to strip off all of your hate, and instead use the opposite, Love.
    Under One. ❤

  • @tracydominic
    @tracydominic Год назад +1

    I absolutely love this TED talk

  • @randqasm2191
    @randqasm2191 4 года назад +1

    Best talk ever ..God bless you ❤

  • @khanhthien9738
    @khanhthien9738 5 лет назад +3

    She is amazing!!!

  • @erindrawsabit804
    @erindrawsabit804 5 лет назад +25

    Canada keeping up the reputation of being awesome, I see.

    • @brightlucmedia
      @brightlucmedia 2 года назад

      I totally agree. Canada is such a welcoming country to immigrants! Giving makes us happier!

  • @kingnur6329
    @kingnur6329 5 лет назад +7

    Outstanding

  • @kingaloush
    @kingaloush 5 лет назад +1

    giving is blessing

  • @abdullahelmi7876
    @abdullahelmi7876 5 лет назад +4

    Well done thank you for this amazing show and wonderful ideas about helping people alot of our brothers are struggling in Africa as a refugeea and maybe we' could help them . That's how we can make big different for them ane make change to the world

  • @waldemarlewin2324
    @waldemarlewin2324 2 года назад +1

    thank you very much, that's what the world needs more of

  • @HishamAltwal
    @HishamAltwal 3 года назад +3

    This is what we should live for: helping others and making a difference. Thanks for sharing.

  • @deepsaha6676
    @deepsaha6676 5 лет назад +3

    Probably the best ted video I'd ever seen :D

  • @donaldesposito2715
    @donaldesposito2715 5 лет назад +21

    It doesn't have to be money, nor should giving be perpetuated towards organizations rather than individuals.

    • @brightlucmedia
      @brightlucmedia 2 года назад

      Definitely, you can give your time and your energy, doesn't have to be money. An organization or an individual you care deeply about.

  • @lisafarler5025
    @lisafarler5025 5 лет назад +10

    She reminds me of Sue Heck from The Middle

  • @daniel0carrasco
    @daniel0carrasco 5 лет назад

    Awesome Canadian program! Congratulations.

  • @adamalpha7881
    @adamalpha7881 5 лет назад +1

    amazing speech ,

  • @sandro-nigris
    @sandro-nigris 3 года назад

    Awesome. Professional advice based on data, from a great psychologist.

  • @Inglesconbobesponja
    @Inglesconbobesponja 8 месяцев назад

    This video changed my life

  • @milkcandlejuice892
    @milkcandlejuice892 2 года назад +1

    THIS NEEDS MORE VIEWS!

  • @thomasthach5978
    @thomasthach5978 5 лет назад

    This is awsome!!!

  • @deepamminda9557
    @deepamminda9557 5 лет назад

    Amazing🙌🙌

  • @merudansorawillhelpyou168
    @merudansorawillhelpyou168 3 года назад

    thank you

  • @user-cu1llildy
    @user-cu1llildy 5 лет назад

    I just came here to see an english presentation for study but now I found the today's To do list -Find the worthwhile donation group for the first time in my life. -

  • @April-sf1vm
    @April-sf1vm 5 лет назад +2

    This is me :) # Same Story # really nice talk # Looking forward 4 d new videos # Love ❤ from India ❤

  • @unzahid
    @unzahid 5 лет назад

    amazing.

  • @tanmoyeebhattacharjee
    @tanmoyeebhattacharjee 5 лет назад

    Indeed. 😊💓

  • @victorrosas4944
    @victorrosas4944 5 лет назад +2

    Personality is a big key also

  • @mdarnell514
    @mdarnell514 5 лет назад +13

    I don’t understand... there’s so many homeless people in San Diego and Kia Angeles... innocent people in jail and prison....

    • @rachelmarie8011
      @rachelmarie8011 5 лет назад +3

      But it doesnt look as good as helping refugees...duh. help a white homeless family...how ya gonna get them likes??

  • @Maco777111
    @Maco777111 4 месяца назад

    This is brilliant

  • @vectoranvil
    @vectoranvil 6 месяцев назад

    I was an altruist once. It is my experience that the ones that truly deserve help don't truly need it and vice versa. 90% of people in the world don't have the mental capacity to utilize their opportunities, they would much rather engage in low activities than use the internet to teach themselves useful skills they can monetize. And they would much rather listen to other fools than to the wise. No use helping them! Help yourself first, and then the few others in your support network (notice I didn't necessarily write "family"). I can't tell you how often I've seen people that were constantly out of cash, and the week after that they have gotten money from somewhere and immediately they spend how many grand on a powerful car.

    • @youknowkbbaby
      @youknowkbbaby 6 месяцев назад

      I suppose the market can change rapidly, and certain skills are needed today and others are not.

    • @vectoranvil
      @vectoranvil 5 месяцев назад

      @youknowkbbaby Absolutely. I have skills and experience as both a visual artist and a translator, but AI has changed many industries significantly. I'm constantly learning new skills.

  • @abasmoh5959
    @abasmoh5959 5 лет назад

    You are the best

  • @TheKatrinaRuthShow
    @TheKatrinaRuthShow 4 года назад

    Great video on how to help others!

  • @mylenmondigo7223
    @mylenmondigo7223 5 лет назад +5

    But in Philippines Canada gives us disrespect by dumping their garbages to us. Yet, for almost 5 years now we do give them patience, humility and self-control for their inhuman deeds to us!
    How could she herald her country who dumps their garbages to us for almost 5 years now?!?!?! And without taking an action of responsibility out of it?!?!?! 💔😢💔😢💔

  • @mba2ceo
    @mba2ceo 5 лет назад +4

    SO WHO WANTS TO HELP ME ?

  • @nathandarval1
    @nathandarval1 5 лет назад

    Great video

  • @Krush0-0
    @Krush0-0 Год назад

    I finaaly found the source for happiness after watching this.

  • @huyentrinh4434
    @huyentrinh4434 3 года назад

    I wish Japan (the country im living) have this kind of program..

  • @poles4960
    @poles4960 5 лет назад +2

    If the world had no wars and no negative energy and everyone stared actually loving and respecting one another as humans we could actually live in peace, no one likes bad things you just gotta turn that bad energy into something positive, anyone can actually do anything if you put energy into it, it might take time and we have a lot of time and sadly some don't. Everyone worrys about money because the government had made it the most important thing in this world except peoples love.

  • @EdieSOliva
    @EdieSOliva 4 года назад +2

    esto me encanta

  • @mhtinla
    @mhtinla 5 лет назад +4

    If I find a $10 dollar bill in street corner I feel happy. But if someone donates $10 to me I don't feel as happy. Instead I'll ask why.

    • @mhtinla
      @mhtinla 5 лет назад +2

      If I donate $10 helping a refugee I don't feel happy, knowing there's still 1 million starving refugees out there. But if I see refugees working to make their own lives, their own societies, and their own countries successful, I'll feel tremendous happiness.

  • @invox9490
    @invox9490 5 лет назад +7

    I have a problem with people that are ALWAYS happy.
    I mean, they DO live on planet Earth, right?

  • @NoExitLoveNow
    @NoExitLoveNow 5 лет назад +1

    I'm happy just cutting a check.

  • @wedontlikenoneofyou
    @wedontlikenoneofyou 2 года назад +2

    I love giving money and sharing what I got with everyone, I've given tens of thousands in food gas entertainment and filled up gas tanks but I stopped because these people don't even say thank you and hide when they get money, how is that fair to me? I'm never petty or stingy I love being able to give if I was rich id give cars and houses but these so call friends won't even give me a dollar. I do favor after favor and don't want nothing but at least a thank you. I'm done because I've learned that people are so ungrateful. I don't deserve this. So I'm done for good reason. People will burrows tools and get offended when I ask for them back so I let them keep it I do as much as I can and get disrespected. I'm done.

  • @silverlining7298
    @silverlining7298 5 лет назад +6

    I have recently been through a breakup so helping others gives value to my life and makes me feel happier knowing I have helped someone in a similar or worse situation than me. Its making a bad situation good again :) I made my first video today

  • @jupiterle3583
    @jupiterle3583 5 лет назад

    a queen ugh

  • @DharmendraMaanMotivational
    @DharmendraMaanMotivational Год назад

    Well Covered Contant

  • @Seekthetruth3000
    @Seekthetruth3000 5 лет назад

    She is so bubbly.😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @the_awe
    @the_awe Год назад

    WOW, CANADA IS AN AMAZING COUNTRY!!

  • @Samgruszewski
    @Samgruszewski 4 года назад +2

    Who else is watching this for school

  • @vorpheuss
    @vorpheuss 3 года назад

    my god I saw this video last year when it first came out and now she's my professor. Weeeeeeiird, but awesome

  • @GiangTuyetNhung
    @GiangTuyetNhung 5 лет назад +1

    giọng hay quá ạ

  • @bradhouston4734
    @bradhouston4734 4 года назад +1

    Great speech/story!! I loved it.
    😀🕺🏻🎥🏖🇦🇺

  • @TheRealBobLazar
    @TheRealBobLazar 5 лет назад +4

    1.25x speed gives me joy

  • @SP-rx4tb
    @SP-rx4tb 2 года назад

    I can’t help but feel bad for the homeless citizens within her own country

  • @natasha83196
    @natasha83196 5 лет назад +3

    Giving should not be motivated by the belief that it will make YOU feel good. You give so that OTHERS can experience that good. As Jesus taught: It is better to give, than to receive.

  • @dhannamangroo3865
    @dhannamangroo3865 Год назад +1

  • @CoffeeGirl25
    @CoffeeGirl25 5 лет назад +2

    UBC Prof!!

  • @ipodgamer99
    @ipodgamer99 5 лет назад +5

    Good talk, and the thesis may be true. But when it came to the data was dissapointed. Just 6 and seven datapoints respectively doesnt justify making this big of A claim

  • @dedreova4928
    @dedreova4928 4 года назад

    The title of the video is so right. Yes being able to help others brings joy to your life
    But what about people who only feel happiness by doing bad things to others?
    Can we conclude that those individuals have a mental disorder?

    • @wesleytyler9599
      @wesleytyler9599 2 года назад

      Good Orderly Direction 👏 ask 4 help , u might get it .

  • @pianosenzanima1
    @pianosenzanima1 5 лет назад +79

    This is what Jesus teach 2000 years ago.
    It is better to give than to receive.