Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@mattcole-zd7nh don't get duped by these scam artists fella. Focus on keeping busy. Work out. Self care. Fake it until you make it. It's easy to be predated upon when you are in a position of desperation. This is tough, but the reality is, if she's left, she's likely already got something else lined up. Use that to fuel your growth and determination.
It's refreshing that you acknowledge that confidence is built up over time from getting positive results, because that's spot on. However, the opposite is also true, if you put in the same time and effort, but rather than getting positive results, get consistently negative results, it will eventually shatter your confidence. I spent years getting into great shape, building my confidence and charisma, and went out practicing my social skills until I felt truly confident inside and out. I never took rejection personally, always focused on having a fun interaction when I approached girls, and even when I got shut down, saw it as a learning experience. But after years of going home alone every Friday night, always getting rejected when I approached, and getting nearly 100% negative results, it eventually broke me and shattered my confidence. Turns out you can only maintain a confident, nonchalant attitude for so long if all you get is rejection.
This is very true. It's not about 'not caring' as some people misinterpret it as, it's about being indifferent to the outcome even if you do get the girl....at least not early on, not until a relationship develops between you. Initially, attraction is the name of the game not likeability.
Confidence is key I'm glad I have the time to feed my mind with these videos. I actually watch other videos to do with dating women. It helps alot because I know in the end I have TIME itself 😂❤ Day 1: Breakfast, Headphones On, work at 9am then driving lessons tomorrow
I remember being in a Korean Nightclub and I got completely flat out rejected by 2 Korean Girls...they were like 'No' before I even managed to get a word out. So I just playfully mimed/demonstrated Seppuku on myself. Then I dropped myself to the floor and just lay their 'dead'. They didn't know what to do...but the doorman came and picked me up , but was laughing. He found it funny and then the nightclub singer/dancer started eyeing me up! Shame I did not speak enough Korean at the time.
one of your other videos,you mentioned something that caught my attention. I frequent strip clubs in London. The ones around Shoreditch are my favourites, The Horns, Browns, Metropolis, Rainbow, The Axe (sadly, now gone), Nag's head on whitechapel road, Griffin, Sophisticats and Platinum Lace. More than any, Browns get's my patronage. During chats with the Women in these places, I have said, more than once, that I do not like sunlight.
Very good and detailed advice, Kezia, and incredibly true! I especially love how a lot of it is also applicable to other things in life, such as dealing with pain or challenges, which you mention. I also love how, once again, incredibly fit you look here! Although black suits you best I would say...
Great Video. Confident men, players, and pickup artist don't care if they get rejected. They see there are other women out there. Get over. Accept not every women will find you attractive.
I understand and appreciate the overall msg in the video, but there needs to be some nuance that should be discussed. If you're part of the population where many women already find you attractive, the feelings of rejection would be short term. But if you're not ( say short, non-white etc), this can cause lot of distress and can make those feelings linger long term. When you go through life with hardly any woman giving compliments or taking interest in you, its hard to be outcome independent
@@Ghostrider-ul7xnyeah if you get a positive feedback loop of being successful asking girls out you aren't going to be nervous or scared of doing it whereas if it's always unsuccessful and even if the girls are nice enough when rejecting you it's going to be a lot harder to do
Fear of rejection? None. Single and not interested for more than 20 years. No games, no drama. Y'all wanna know "Where are all the good men"? Hiding in plain sight.
I genuinely do not fear rejection. It's more a combination of having an aversion towards the vagueness women usually display + a shame of bothering someone. The times i have seen women react with disdain to a man approaching them is real. Up to a point of pointing him out as a creep. It certainly happens regularly. Although this almost never happens to me personally ( as a quite good looking man - i'm told- and i am very selective about the occasions i will approach ), it irritates me on behalf of my brethren who do experience this treatment. It does.
This 100%, its not so much the fear of rejection in itself, but more so the social consequences that make most guys not approach women. Its taboo to approach women in most places today, unless you are conventionally attractive and have a way with words. I'm a soft hearted guy, if a woman falsely accuses me for things i never imagined, I'd feel immense guilt and would be on the verge of tears. I have never deliberately hurt any living thing in life, so her allegation that i caused her pain has a huge impact on my emotions, especially since it wasn't intentional. I'm extremely sensitive to others emotions. Maybe this is why narcissists and psychopaths are more successful with women. They have zero concerns on how their actions make other's feel. They don't even care if they get fired from a job due to this. They'll keep doing this because they are born with a certain level of narcissism/self centrism that makes them don't give a shit about others feelings.
@@Ghostrider-ul7xn Indeed. Although Kezia teaches some very valuable skills and is very nuanced about how and when to apply them ( social awareness ) , what we say here is also a sad reality nowadays. Having been raised in a ( good ) female environment , i like women and am socially good with them. Enough of them like me romantically as well. However , that doesn't prevent me from seeing reality as it is : a lot of females show some very undesirable traits when interacting with males they deem unworthy and/or unattractive. ( even with sweet , sensitive guys )
I have a question, when going with the freeze-out method you gave as an example. Let's say the girl said she only sees me as a friend, or nice guy, or whatever, and I say the things you said. That I agree and that, based on past experiences of sleeping with girls that were buddies, it would change the way I saw her, and I would stop seeing her as a dorky friend, because I would see our relationship as hot or sexy or whatever. After I state this, it wouldn't make sense to ever hit on her again or make a move, because it would be incongruent with what I just said. So what would be the point? Do I then expect her to make the move? Or is it just one of those "let her go and find someone else" kinda cop-outs?
I think you're quite the smartest dating and relationship advisor who is female here on RUclips, when it comes to this "crappy snakes & ladders game". The equally famous Professor Jordan Peterson has pointed out that to have your very genetic material rejected will create the deepest of wounds, but you've just given me the tip to tippy-toe out of it.
You can’t fear rejection if you don’t have much confidence. The problem people face is lack of confidence. I’ve seen your older videos on how to increase confidence, would be cool to get some updated information on it
Huh? That doesn't even make sense. If you're outcome independent, which is what confident people are, then you don't fear rejection. They don't fear rejection because they know there's plenty of fish in the sea who'd be into them. This knowledge is what makes them outcome independent and not fear rejection
If you only feel a connection with a girl once in a blue moon like me then of course you are going to feel more disappointed than some guy that just sees all women as sex objects
I think im.a natural, im older pre pua . This seems natural to me or i figured it out with trial and error. Iv done this but other things. Snd this helps in other areas. Like job interviews or something Often i dont try i just talk to women and react to signals. I can be into her , and things evolve into sex. Or she will suggest it before i do , and i might turn her down , or ask for a raincheck. Like img im tempted but i need to get up really early. How about Friday night i live woman but sex isn't the dominant drive . Obviously puberty and teenager was hard. Ibwas dared to approach a girl/ woman she was older i was 16 but looked older. Sge was with her parents and family.. I did it and in a way that wasn't rude or her parents didn't kill me lol . She was a bit of a bitch. I was like a bird with a cat playing with her prey she has fun . Was very amused. It was fun but i did it and got a lot of credit with. These guys( work friends) And a couple of first attempts but i managed to make friends of thise girls . Listening to woman helps , that doesn't mean its gospel but Listening helps . Its the same muscle as public speaking or singing job interviews or dealing with strangers in a public setting. I suggest practice. Make it a habit. Talking to strangers. Anyone. Social skills are perishable. I meet a woman on Friday, was talking for a couple of hours. I sort of read her , explained what she was not saying or trying to express, she didn't say much she said your very interesting. Best thing a woman can say to you imo .
Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
find your natural talent, get training, turn it into skill, lead your life purpose. you'll be whole and complete, the right woman will show up.
@mattcole-zd7nh don't get duped by these scam artists fella.
Focus on keeping busy. Work out. Self care. Fake it until you make it.
It's easy to be predated upon when you are in a position of desperation.
This is tough, but the reality is, if she's left, she's likely already got something else lined up.
Use that to fuel your growth and determination.
@LindaD.Rowland🤮
More sage wisdom from Cleavage Noble
Idiots are full of confidence.
While nerds are full of self doubt.
It's refreshing that you acknowledge that confidence is built up over time from getting positive results, because that's spot on. However, the opposite is also true, if you put in the same time and effort, but rather than getting positive results, get consistently negative results, it will eventually shatter your confidence.
I spent years getting into great shape, building my confidence and charisma, and went out practicing my social skills until I felt truly confident inside and out. I never took rejection personally, always focused on having a fun interaction when I approached girls, and even when I got shut down, saw it as a learning experience.
But after years of going home alone every Friday night, always getting rejected when I approached, and getting nearly 100% negative results, it eventually broke me and shattered my confidence. Turns out you can only maintain a confident, nonchalant attitude for so long if all you get is rejection.
Kezia Noble: improving my game since 2016!
This is very true. It's not about 'not caring' as some people misinterpret it as, it's about being indifferent to the outcome even if you do get the girl....at least not early on, not until a relationship develops between you. Initially, attraction is the name of the game not likeability.
Confidence is key I'm glad I have the time to feed my mind with these videos. I actually watch other videos to do with dating women. It helps alot because I know in the end I have TIME itself 😂❤
Day 1: Breakfast, Headphones On, work at 9am then driving lessons tomorrow
I remember being in a Korean Nightclub and I got completely flat out rejected by 2 Korean Girls...they were like 'No' before I even managed to get a word out. So I just playfully mimed/demonstrated Seppuku on myself. Then I dropped myself to the floor and just lay their 'dead'. They didn't know what to do...but the doorman came and picked me up , but was laughing. He found it funny and then the nightclub singer/dancer started eyeing me up! Shame I did not speak enough Korean at the time.
It isn't just "approach anxiety" which defeats a lot of men, it's also "what do I say to a woman/girl I like the look of when I don't know her?"
ask questions and respond to her answers.
Excellent video..and looking good Miss Noble
one of your other videos,you mentioned something that caught my attention. I frequent strip clubs in London. The ones around Shoreditch are my favourites, The Horns, Browns, Metropolis, Rainbow, The Axe (sadly, now gone), Nag's head on whitechapel road, Griffin, Sophisticats and Platinum Lace. More than any, Browns get's my patronage. During chats with the Women in these places, I have said, more than once, that I do not like sunlight.
lol
The equivalent of telling some to stop being poor by making themselves rich.
Happy Sunday from New York Kezia! ♥️🇺🇸
I started watching this video feeling like Clark Kent. I’m now feeling like Superman!! ❤️❤️❤️👍
Cheers kezia.
You're welcome xx
Very good and detailed advice, Kezia, and incredibly true! I especially love how a lot of it is also applicable to other things in life, such as dealing with pain or challenges, which you mention. I also love how, once again, incredibly fit you look here! Although black suits you best I would say...
Kezia! 😍
Great Video. Confident men, players, and pickup artist don't care if they get rejected. They see there are other women out there. Get over. Accept not every women will find you attractive.
Thank you xx
I understand and appreciate the overall msg in the video, but there needs to be some nuance that should be discussed. If you're part of the population where many women already find you attractive, the feelings of rejection would be short term. But if you're not ( say short, non-white etc), this can cause lot of distress and can make those feelings linger long term. When you go through life with hardly any woman giving compliments or taking interest in you, its hard to be outcome independent
@@Ghostrider-ul7xnyeah if you get a positive feedback loop of being successful asking girls out you aren't going to be nervous or scared of doing it whereas if it's always unsuccessful and even if the girls are nice enough when rejecting you it's going to be a lot harder to do
every woman finds me attractive, including Kezia Noble if she met me
Fear of rejection? None. Single and not interested for more than 20 years. No games, no drama. Y'all wanna know "Where are all the good men"?
Hiding in plain sight.
Exactly
damn that's sad and pathetic way of living
If you get what you want as a result of no longer caring, does't that kind of defeat the purpose?
I genuinely do not fear rejection. It's more a combination of having an aversion towards the vagueness women usually display + a shame of bothering someone. The times i have seen women react with disdain to a man approaching them is real. Up to a point of pointing him out as a creep. It certainly happens regularly. Although this almost never happens to me personally ( as a quite good looking man - i'm told- and i am very selective about the occasions i will approach ), it irritates me on behalf of my brethren who do experience this treatment. It does.
This 100%, its not so much the fear of rejection in itself, but more so the social consequences that make most guys not approach women. Its taboo to approach women in most places today, unless you are conventionally attractive and have a way with words. I'm a soft hearted guy, if a woman falsely accuses me for things i never imagined, I'd feel immense guilt and would be on the verge of tears. I have never deliberately hurt any living thing in life, so her allegation that i caused her pain has a huge impact on my emotions, especially since it wasn't intentional. I'm extremely sensitive to others emotions. Maybe this is why narcissists and psychopaths are more successful with women. They have zero concerns on how their actions make other's feel. They don't even care if they get fired from a job due to this. They'll keep doing this because they are born with a certain level of narcissism/self centrism that makes them don't give a shit about others feelings.
@@Ghostrider-ul7xn Indeed. Although Kezia teaches some very valuable skills and is very nuanced about how and when to apply them ( social awareness ) , what we say here is also a sad reality nowadays. Having been raised in a ( good ) female environment , i like women and am socially good with them. Enough of them like me romantically as well. However , that doesn't prevent me from seeing reality as it is : a lot of females show some very undesirable traits when interacting with males they deem unworthy and/or unattractive. ( even with sweet , sensitive guys )
I'm not afraid of her saying "no." I'm afraid of her saying "yes."
I like your detailed videos like this one. 10/10
What happened Kazia?! You can tell me about it if you want, I can always lend an ear to your woes, as a friend that is!!! 😅
I have a question, when going with the freeze-out method you gave as an example. Let's say the girl said she only sees me as a friend, or nice guy, or whatever, and I say the things you said. That I agree and that, based on past experiences of sleeping with girls that were buddies, it would change the way I saw her, and I would stop seeing her as a dorky friend, because I would see our relationship as hot or sexy or whatever. After I state this, it wouldn't make sense to ever hit on her again or make a move, because it would be incongruent with what I just said. So what would be the point? Do I then expect her to make the move? Or is it just one of those "let her go and find someone else" kinda cop-outs?
The fog is me, don't really approach women because I have no confidence (and a natural shyness) and assume that no woman will ever be interested.
picture times when you were being powerful, do that every day, make a list, you'll change your self image.
Thank you very much Kezia
You're welcome xx
I think you're quite the smartest dating and relationship advisor who is female here on RUclips, when it comes to this "crappy snakes & ladders game". The equally famous Professor Jordan Peterson has pointed out that to have your very genetic material rejected will create the deepest of wounds, but you've just given me the tip to tippy-toe out of it.
While I agree with all that on one level my preferred game plan is to have fun, flirt, and tease at will and did I say, have fun.
What if you just see a random girl in gym or coffee shop and you ask her out and she says..Sorry I’ve got a boyfriend??
Thanks.
Play with a plan B in mind. Ergo convey to her that there are other immediate things to do.
Kezia ages freakishly well. Kezia what age do men think you are?
Thanks so much. I think most men guess my age around 34?
I'm the 'supreme gentleman' why can't people recognise it
You can’t fear rejection if you don’t have much confidence. The problem people face is lack of confidence. I’ve seen your older videos on how to increase confidence, would be cool to get some updated information on it
Huh? That doesn't even make sense. If you're outcome independent, which is what confident people are, then you don't fear rejection. They don't fear rejection because they know there's plenty of fish in the sea who'd be into them. This knowledge is what makes them outcome independent and not fear rejection
Every man has a different way of approaching what works for him might not work for you. And what works for you might not work for him.
Cuter every day ❤
More and more makeup lol xx
@@Kezianobledatingexpert 😘😘😘
Obviously bored or not being challenged enough.... Oh no it's me and even worse: having time watching and commenting .... Smirking laughter
What time is it in the UK right now?
Google it. Jezz
That's a bit too indirect
Thanks to you I overcame my fear of reaction and didn’t take her first no for an answer… I am now in jail. Thanks Kezia.
If you only feel a connection with a girl once in a blue moon like me then of course you are going to feel more disappointed than some guy that just sees all women as sex objects
Nice video, but your eyebrows are quite higher than natural 🙂
Love you dear❤Come to kerala( India)
Stay away from the psychos.
I’m terrible at marketing myself. I tend to keep my light under a bushel.
I think im.a natural, im older pre pua . This seems natural to me or i figured it out with trial and error.
Iv done this but other things.
Snd this helps in other areas. Like job interviews or something
Often i dont try i just talk to women and react to signals.
I can be into her , and things evolve into sex. Or she will suggest it before i do , and i might turn her down , or ask for a raincheck. Like img im tempted but i need to get up really early. How about Friday night i live woman but sex isn't the dominant drive .
Obviously puberty and teenager was hard.
Ibwas dared to approach a girl/ woman she was older i was 16 but looked older. Sge was with her parents and family..
I did it and in a way that wasn't rude or her parents didn't kill me lol .
She was a bit of a bitch. I was like a bird with a cat playing with her prey she has fun . Was very amused. It was fun but i did it and got a lot of credit with. These guys( work friends)
And a couple of first attempts but i managed to make friends of thise girls . Listening to woman helps , that doesn't mean its gospel but Listening helps . Its the same muscle as public speaking or singing job interviews or dealing with strangers in a public setting.
I suggest practice. Make it a habit. Talking to strangers. Anyone. Social skills are perishable.
I meet a woman on Friday, was talking for a couple of hours.
I sort of read her , explained what she was not saying or trying to express, she didn't say much she said your very interesting. Best thing a woman can say to you imo .
Got the girls on display again I see 👀
Psychopath eyebrows?
kezia can u not use white men asian women in your video, its just not fair to asian men
SO VERY HOT KEZIA! 😱😱🔥🔥🔥🌷🌷
Thank you so much xx
Love view of your table 😅mountains ⛰️