the point of labels is that i can say "i'm genderfluid" instead of "so sometimes i feel like a girl and sometimes like a guy and sometimes kind of inbetween and sometimes i'm honestly not sure and it doesn't always correlate with what i want to wear or how i act, and honestly you can use any pronouns and it's not a big deal, it's a whole thing and it's difficult to put these feelings into words so just bear with me on this one ok?"
@@kobeary (also my adhd feels obligated to point out that the flags at 0:51 aren't cut out *exactly* the same, the triangle is slightly off on the demiromantic flag, i'm sorry)
it’s because folks are trying to turn the most insignificant things into a whole-ass identity. Please, for your own mental health, stay away from this content lmao.
Frankly, that’s about the weirdest stigma I’ve ever heard, getting to know a person and taking a relationship slowly is perfectly normal, and I think if everyone did it that way, our world would likely be a much better place, but I’m not here to judge how some people conduct romance and if it works for you, I’m glad, but I do believe dating should be constructed off of shared trust and definitely shouldn’t be due to looks alone.
I always thought the opposite lol, "Why are you dating strangers??". Though, it did take me a very long time to separately understand parts of dating and then dating as a whole. But, huh, people really think dating friends is weird?
I have no clue what I am but I do kinda resonate with demiromantic, like, what do you mean you can love someone from just seeing them??? Sure I can think they're hot, but romantic feelings require me to know more about them
Meanwhile myself: "What do you mean you want to have sex with someone from just seeing them? Sure, I can think they are cool and I want to get to know them better, but sexual attraction requires me to build some connection first."
I can't love someone just from seeing them, but I also can't see myself being with any of my close friends I've known for several years or even virtually my whole life. Someone I just met simply doesn't have enough of a connection, but someone I've known for several years has essentially been established as a really good friend with not really any room for relational development beyond that. So I've found the sweet spot is generally like a few months to around a year (a lot of this is me guessing based on previous experiences, I don't actually know). In this range, we're early enough that the relationship isn't set in stone and there are avenues it can develop, but we've known each other for long enough that we have some level of connection. So I wouldn't call myself demi-romantic, but I do relate in the realm of not understanding how it's possible for someone to "fall in love at first sight". I actually didn't think it was a real thing until in high school English class when the teacher asked if anyone had experienced love at first sight and hands actually went up.
What a way to cap off my own aro realization arc. Despite all the turmoil, i'm glad I learned something new about myself and even if that proves untrue, I'm still happy in the moment. Thank you for introducing me to aromanticism:)
This is so boring in a society where if you don't find love you go towards online dating. I've tried a few times and I'm just "but wdym you love me we started talking a week ago" and I just don't know at all how to speak with people if the main reason we talk is to fall in love. Also, falling in love with your friends is very very very hard especially when you see them everyday, a random day you wake up and you're like "oh shit not again". Also 99% of my friends are straight so sucks
I've had literally the same situation as you. I had 4 internet online relationships and it never ends well. It was never out of my interest to go into something deeper, it was always because the person fell in love when we barely even talked and they didn't even knew me. It bothered me so much and I didn't understand why don't I feel the same when it was so easy for them? Also the situation with falling in love with your friend sucks so much because I know how you feel, this is so stressfull for me and I feel so weird because I know they don't feel the same and what if I do something weird?? I've known them for such a long time and it's so disturbing to mess it up
@@shou15 yeah and like after falling in love with a friend, your relation is never the same because you lose a bit of friendship in fear of it happenning again. I lost many good friends because I randomly had feelings for them, this is so painful. Anyway, sending strength,I hope you'll find the one one day
I can relate strongly to at least two of your experiences you've shared on this channel. Learning empathy & being demi (though in my case - demisexual and aromantic). Labels can hurt and labels can help. I appreciate your take on how not everything needs to be labeled. It truly doesn't, but it can make things easier to explain. Learning to not get caught up in the label and just be myself though? _That_ was a journey and a half for me. Have you ever found yourself acting a certain way to fit in? It sucks.
im demisex and as a child i always thought relationships were like a level up system [friends ==> best friends ==> girlfriends/boyfriends] like what do you mean you just look at someone and think "aw damn i want to smooch em" what
not sure if this describes me, it might... at least I've always been uncomfortable with the idea of blind dating we're getting to know people for the first time through a romantic setting. I'd rather get to know someone through a normal setting and then switch to a romantic setting once we've known each other for a bit. A lot of that might just be social anxiety and a lack of trust tho
Thanks for the informative video! I always wondered what demisexual or -romantic was supposed to mean and how it is different from standard romantics or sexuality, but noone could explain it in a straightforward way before. So thank you for clearing things up! :D
AS A FELLOW ARO, IM SO GLAD TO SEE THIS VIDEO IN MY RECOMMENDED DURING PRIDE MONTH ✊✊🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 (Even if i do already have a bunch of aro microlabels memorized, im glad to see the representation)
it is the reason why i rarely or seldom disclose that i'm an arospec, and a demiromantic, because my feelings had been downplayed a lot. i have been told that there's no such difference and all people are demiromantic, so i have been insecure about it. and up until now i struggle for romance because i like indulging my immediate attraction actively. for example, i could dare to make out with a stranger i find pretty or flirt with the girl i find cute on dating app for a months. but for the long-run it gets complicated for me and the person that i have attraction to because i treat them special, since i've grown queerplatonic feelings for them. but it would be confusing for them bc i heavily draw the line that it is platonic even tho i have a cute crush on them and i cherish them, i couldn't give far beyond that. i need to feel settled around them first. the romantic feelings haven't risen and that's where the feelings overtake each other. bc we feel differently and they wanted something from me that i couldn't give yet. they would feel frustrated and i'd feel like it's my fault. that i have been too misleading and have been catering them in the wrong way. but i couldn't get myself to be certain for them just yet.
Couldn't possibly have hoped for better repesentation for us ! So glad you made a whole video about this too, I feel like that'll reach more people more easily. Only need to find someone for aegosexuality now, and I'll have the full "me-explaining" video recommendations list ! (Of course I'd have to be some of the more complicated to explain identites,or else it would have been too easy. No regrets though, wouldn't have it any other way !)
I still don’t quite understand why I’ve never been able to develop a crush, despite still being capable of genuine romantic attraction. Is being demiromantic some kind of survival instinct that our ancestors adapted to make sure that we’d be extra careful about picking our partners? Either way, I’m thankful that I have it… my boyfriend and I have been together for quite a while by now….
Seeing this in my reccomended made me so happy because a lot of the aroace spectrum doesnt get enough attention and not many people know or understand it. I am both asexual/greysexual and demiromantic btw :3
Interesting how this showed up in my recommended considering that my best friend and I just started having possibly romantic feelings for each other this past year!
I always thought that the reason why I don't really like anyone and not much into romance is because I was a "cool, unique, and quirky not like other girls", it turns out I'm demiromantic and everything feels like it makes sense. I just found out about that myself last year and I feel better about myself now :D
for a little bit i thought i was demiromantic (turns out i wasn't but i've also kinda given up on the label stuff) and nowdays when i think back on it i just kinda saw it as an offshoot of being pan
I'm not 100% sure what I am because I can have very mild feelings of romantic/sexual attraction towards someone I don't know, but if if I know them well I can develop deeper feelings. Is this a thing or is it too specific/not common enough? Love your art style btw!
Emotional attraction means wanting to get close to someone in a way like, sharing your feelings, your deepest thoughts, etc. Romantic attraction, by definition, means wanting to be in a romantic relationship or sth idk (very helpful definition, woowww, makes perfect sense when you have no clue wtf a romance is, thanks Wikipedia) Now, trust me, ive done like, A LOT of digging around for a proper definition of romance, and ik its different for ppl but i think this is the best one i could fine (took me months to come across this, mind you): *Basically romantic attraction is supposed to be like want to be more than just close to them, you want to MERGE with them, be one with them, everything.* _Idk if this definition works for you_ cuz what if its like "idk i kinda feel that way with alterous attraction or sth" (is alterous Attraction even like that? Idk, but anyways) _But anyways, its the one thats worked the best for me_, and if this doesn't work for you then well,, wish you luck on your long journey of obsessing over every SINGLE description of romance you can find online Take care for the long journey ahead 🧙
@@BIGBUCKS_moneh Yeah that's kinda what I gathered as well, I think of romance as interdependency Now this seems like a step beyond emotional attraction since "you want to be more than just close to them". While is weird since in this video romantic attraction is listed as primary attraction but emotional attraction is listed as secondary attraction?
hard to define normal because what's normal changes over time. what the creator describes of picking someone to have a crush on when you're younger and pretending you like them to seem "normal" is extremely relatable for me. besides, this experience clearly isn't normal for a lot of people. ive never in my life met somebody who has to get so close to someone as i do in order to date them. nobody's forcing you to use this label or make it "abnormal", it's just a helpful label.
The shortest way to describe demiromantic I know of is this: Demiromantic people don't have crushes. Ever. Unless they suddenly do crush on their best friend. If you think that's the norm and everybody just pretends to have crushes, well... you might be onto something there. You'll figure it out. ;)
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This is just... how people work through. What you are describing is DATING. You DATE someone to get to know them better and form a connection. Why is there even a term for this?
No but then a lot of ppl might get crushes or sth out of nowhere without even knowing the person. (Like for example, celebrity crushes) Demiromantic ppl don't. They dont even get crushes or anything until they're close to person. I mean, sure, you may get a deeper connection after dating, but the initial attraction when you DONT know the person isnt rlly there for demi folks. I hope that explains the difference, and that im not dealing with someone who wont listen no matter how many points are brought forward, and will proceed to repeat the same empty point over and over again desite that fact that its been debunked multiple times. Im sorry if this coming off as harsh btw😅, but honestly you never know. Im writing this in case someone's simply curious, and if you're just gonna spam nerd emoji and "who asked", then stfu, i dont wanna hear it.
we're not even talking about dating, we're talking about *basic attraction* !! as far as i know, most other people have the ability to be somewhat attracted (basically, crush) on someone before they even talk to them, and maybe even date to get to know them better one the other hand, demiromantic/sexuals dont do that!! it can take months, or even years of bonding with someone for demis to have just the slightest bit of romantic attraction, and even then they dont always end up dating them hope this helps
Do you just want me to say "oh I'm someone who can only experience romantic attraction when I'm very close to someone emotionally" every single time or some shit. Because I'm not saying that every single time 💀
@@Oct0javi No, I don’t want you to say you’re “demiromantic” OR that long-ass paragraph. You don’t have to make every single damn preference into an identity lmao.
ive described the way i fall in love 110 times to people and they never understand, saying that im too picky and slow and weird about it. demiromantic is a necessary label for some. it's normal, sure but everyone's experience is different and everyone's understanding of their own experience is also different. some people just wanna have a community or a name for their feelings.
Here is the thing: Let's just accept that being demiromantic is a thing for a moment. That doesn't mean that all other people instantly fall in love all the time. It just means that sometimes, they are intrigued by another person and maybe think of them as a potential romantic partner, even if they haven't had much interaction with them before. Romantic attraction is the *desire* to be romantically involved with a specific person, not the actual romanticism. And the wide majority of people are able to experience this. I'd say I am pretty familiar with that dynamic. My partner is demiromantic. I was trying to flirt with them for two months in the absolute most obvious ways possible (and no, not in the "omg just read the subtle signs" kind of way, I was getting extremely blunt near the end) and they just... didn't react at all. They didn't reject me, they just didn't get it. It felt like I had better chances dating my appartement wall. Until over the course of a week or so they did a 180 and reciprocated in the most warm and heartfelt, but also a very confused way. At that point we had known each other for about two years. They told me they had never felt attracted to anyone, sexually or romantic. A month later they came out as demiromantic asexual. Demiromantic people never or only extremely rarely see another person as a potential romantic partner. Until they suddenly have a crush on their best friend. If you think that's the norm because you cannot fathom things being any other way, then... oh, do I have news for you.
the point of labels is that i can say
"i'm genderfluid"
instead of
"so sometimes i feel like a girl and sometimes like a guy and sometimes kind of inbetween and sometimes i'm honestly not sure and it doesn't always correlate with what i want to wear or how i act, and honestly you can use any pronouns and it's not a big deal, it's a whole thing and it's difficult to put these feelings into words so just bear with me on this one ok?"
yeah i agree, it can make things a lot easier to digest for the other person too :):)
@@kobeary (also my adhd feels obligated to point out that the flags at 0:51 aren't cut out *exactly* the same, the triangle is slightly off on the demiromantic flag, i'm sorry)
ur right 🥲🥲 it’s my bad 😭😭😭
to despise taxonomy, but love nomy
Or just say I am gay
I honestly didn't realize this wasn't the norm until earlier this year, i was hella confused when people said dating your friends is weird
I know, right? It's like, "I'm supposed to be romantically interested in someone I barely even know that well? What?"
Same 😂
it’s because folks are trying to turn the most insignificant things into a whole-ass identity. Please, for your own mental health, stay away from this content lmao.
Frankly, that’s about the weirdest stigma I’ve ever heard, getting to know a person and taking a relationship slowly is perfectly normal, and I think if everyone did it that way, our world would likely be a much better place, but I’m not here to judge how some people conduct romance and if it works for you, I’m glad, but I do believe dating should be constructed off of shared trust and definitely shouldn’t be due to looks alone.
I always thought the opposite lol, "Why are you dating strangers??".
Though, it did take me a very long time to separately understand parts of dating and then dating as a whole.
But, huh, people really think dating friends is weird?
I have no clue what I am but I do kinda resonate with demiromantic, like, what do you mean you can love someone from just seeing them??? Sure I can think they're hot, but romantic feelings require me to know more about them
Meanwhile myself:
"What do you mean you want to have sex with someone from just seeing them? Sure, I can think they are cool and I want to get to know them better, but sexual attraction requires me to build some connection first."
I can't love someone just from seeing them, but I also can't see myself being with any of my close friends I've known for several years or even virtually my whole life. Someone I just met simply doesn't have enough of a connection, but someone I've known for several years has essentially been established as a really good friend with not really any room for relational development beyond that.
So I've found the sweet spot is generally like a few months to around a year (a lot of this is me guessing based on previous experiences, I don't actually know). In this range, we're early enough that the relationship isn't set in stone and there are avenues it can develop, but we've known each other for long enough that we have some level of connection.
So I wouldn't call myself demi-romantic, but I do relate in the realm of not understanding how it's possible for someone to "fall in love at first sight". I actually didn't think it was a real thing until in high school English class when the teacher asked if anyone had experienced love at first sight and hands actually went up.
What a way to cap off my own aro realization arc. Despite all the turmoil, i'm glad I learned something new about myself and even if that proves untrue, I'm still happy in the moment. Thank you for introducing me to aromanticism:)
i’m glad you’ve figured it out even if it doesn’t end up being true forever, and thank you for having a watch, glad i could help out :D:D
I was scrolling through my recommended and I saw this and literally gasped because no one ever talks about us demiromantics
This is so boring in a society where if you don't find love you go towards online dating. I've tried a few times and I'm just "but wdym you love me we started talking a week ago" and I just don't know at all how to speak with people if the main reason we talk is to fall in love. Also, falling in love with your friends is very very very hard especially when you see them everyday, a random day you wake up and you're like "oh shit not again". Also 99% of my friends are straight so sucks
I've had literally the same situation as you. I had 4 internet online relationships and it never ends well. It was never out of my interest to go into something deeper, it was always because the person fell in love when we barely even talked and they didn't even knew me. It bothered me so much and I didn't understand why don't I feel the same when it was so easy for them? Also the situation with falling in love with your friend sucks so much because I know how you feel, this is so stressfull for me and I feel so weird because I know they don't feel the same and what if I do something weird?? I've known them for such a long time and it's so disturbing to mess it up
@@shou15 yeah and like after falling in love with a friend, your relation is never the same because you lose a bit of friendship in fear of it happenning again. I lost many good friends because I randomly had feelings for them, this is so painful. Anyway, sending strength,I hope you'll find the one one day
I can relate strongly to at least two of your experiences you've shared on this channel.
Learning empathy & being demi (though in my case - demisexual and aromantic).
Labels can hurt and labels can help. I appreciate your take on how not everything needs to be labeled. It truly doesn't, but it can make things easier to explain. Learning to not get caught up in the label and just be myself though? _That_ was a journey and a half for me. Have you ever found yourself acting a certain way to fit in? It sucks.
Twinning 🧍🧍
And yeah it’s a struggle but i’m glad you found yourself 🫵🫵🫵:):)
im demisex and as a child i always thought relationships were like a level up system [friends ==> best friends ==> girlfriends/boyfriends] like what do you mean you just look at someone and think "aw damn i want to smooch em" what
ME TOOOO
i think that way! i want to smooch them but i don't want to get to know them until i'm familiar with them and i'm willing to
omg wait this might actually be me, omg thanks for the realization! /gen
omg i’m glad you relate and thank you for watching 😈😈
not sure if this describes me, it might... at least I've always been uncomfortable with the idea of blind dating we're getting to know people for the first time through a romantic setting. I'd rather get to know someone through a normal setting and then switch to a romantic setting once we've known each other for a bit.
A lot of that might just be social anxiety and a lack of trust tho
This was actually really helpful. Thanks for making this!
Also, video was super good, as usual. You’re doing ✨AMAZING✨
YOU CAME RIGHT ON TIME IN MY FEED (I've been wondering for a bit) also your sona is adorable!!)
Happy Pride Month
happy pride 💪💪💪
Thank you, ROB red alt from Super Smash Bros. for Wii U and 3DS
Thanks for the informative video! I always wondered what demisexual or -romantic was supposed to mean and how it is different from standard romantics or sexuality, but noone could explain it in a straightforward way before. So thank you for clearing things up! :D
hey thanks for watching, glad you found it informative >:D
AS A FELLOW ARO, IM SO GLAD TO SEE THIS VIDEO IN MY RECOMMENDED DURING PRIDE MONTH ✊✊🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
(Even if i do already have a bunch of aro microlabels memorized, im glad to see the representation)
when ur first and only crush was your close friend
it is the reason why i rarely or seldom disclose that i'm an arospec, and a demiromantic, because my feelings had been downplayed a lot. i have been told that there's no such difference and all people are demiromantic, so i have been insecure about it. and up until now i struggle for romance because i like indulging my immediate attraction actively. for example, i could dare to make out with a stranger i find pretty or flirt with the girl i find cute on dating app for a months.
but for the long-run it gets complicated for me and the person that i have attraction to because i treat them special, since i've grown queerplatonic feelings for them. but it would be confusing for them bc i heavily draw the line that it is platonic even tho i have a cute crush on them and i cherish them, i couldn't give far beyond that. i need to feel settled around them first. the romantic feelings haven't risen and that's where the feelings overtake each other. bc we feel differently and they wanted something from me that i couldn't give yet. they would feel frustrated and i'd feel like it's my fault. that i have been too misleading and have been catering them in the wrong way. but i couldn't get myself to be certain for them just yet.
This is just what would be considered normal behaviour in a society that hasn't reduced love to a soulless commodity
just choose whoever was popular, now no one even questions why
i’ve known i was demiromantic for a while, but this video is still really neat! thanks for making it! :D
fellow demi!! :) happy pride
Couldn't possibly have hoped for better repesentation for us ! So glad you made a whole video about this too, I feel like that'll reach more people more easily.
Only need to find someone for aegosexuality now, and I'll have the full "me-explaining" video recommendations list !
(Of course I'd have to be some of the more complicated to explain identites,or else it would have been too easy. No regrets though, wouldn't have it any other way !)
I’m glad you thought my video represented us well :D
Hope you get your full you explaining videos soon 🫵🫵😈
I still don’t quite understand why I’ve never been able to develop a crush, despite still being capable of genuine romantic attraction. Is being demiromantic some kind of survival instinct that our ancestors adapted to make sure that we’d be extra careful about picking our partners? Either way, I’m thankful that I have it… my boyfriend and I have been together for quite a while by now….
Ayyyy thank you for making the video!(im cishet but wanna learn about stuff like that so I can portray characters correctly)
OMG HAPPY PRIDE
happy pride 😈😈😈
im ace so i usally just say I'm allergic to love
allergic is crazy but that’s a good way of putting it 🫵🫵
Seeing this in my reccomended made me so happy because a lot of the aroace spectrum doesnt get enough attention and not many people know or understand it.
I am both asexual/greysexual and demiromantic btw :3
Thank you random person on the internet for teaching me something new
Interesting how this showed up in my recommended considering that my best friend and I just started having possibly romantic feelings for each other this past year!
I always thought that the reason why I don't really like anyone and not much into romance is because I was a "cool, unique, and quirky not like other girls", it turns out I'm demiromantic and everything feels like it makes sense. I just found out about that myself last year and I feel better about myself now :D
for a little bit i thought i was demiromantic (turns out i wasn't but i've also kinda given up on the label stuff) and nowdays when i think back on it i just kinda saw it as an offshoot of being pan
I love labels. More labels means more stickers 😛 heeheehee
ur videos are so cool omg
thank you sm!! :D
The new norm is the same as the old one111!!!1
You have grown you channel so much thats awsome
Happy pride month ko!
Didn't know this one but I like the colours of the flag
happy pride to you too!!
the green in the flag is my favorite 😈😈
when youre staring at a demigod ahh gender
Yo this sounds relatable
I'm not 100% sure what I am because I can have very mild feelings of romantic/sexual attraction towards someone I don't know, but if if I know them well I can develop deeper feelings. Is this a thing or is it too specific/not common enough? Love your art style btw!
It might be some form of demi, maybe theres a micro label for it, WITHIN the "demi" category..
Happy pridemonth ^^
Imma share this with my lgbtq+ buddies for ya ;)
thank youu, i appreciate it 🫵💕 and happy pride!!
What's the difference between romantic attraction and emotional attraction? How would one even describe romance?
Emotional attraction means wanting to get close to someone in a way like, sharing your feelings, your deepest thoughts, etc.
Romantic attraction, by definition, means wanting to be in a romantic relationship or sth idk (very helpful definition, woowww, makes perfect sense when you have no clue wtf a romance is, thanks Wikipedia)
Now, trust me, ive done like, A LOT of digging around for a proper definition of romance, and ik its different for ppl but i think this is the best one i could fine (took me months to come across this, mind you):
*Basically romantic attraction is supposed to be like want to be more than just close to them, you want to MERGE with them, be one with them, everything.*
_Idk if this definition works for you_ cuz what if its like "idk i kinda feel that way with alterous attraction or sth" (is alterous Attraction even like that? Idk, but anyways)
_But anyways, its the one thats worked the best for me_, and if this doesn't work for you then well,, wish you luck on your long journey of obsessing over every SINGLE description of romance you can find online
Take care for the long journey ahead 🧙
@@BIGBUCKS_moneh Yeah that's kinda what I gathered as well, I think of romance as interdependency
Now this seems like a step beyond emotional attraction since "you want to be more than just close to them". While is weird since in this video romantic attraction is listed as primary attraction but emotional attraction is listed as secondary attraction?
OMGG i thought you stopped posting videos im so happy you didnt 😭😭😭!!!!!
hehe glad to be back 💪💪
Hello Fellow Romance Unenjoyer
Is there a name for when you only get aesthetic attraction towards people?
I don't think so, but it sounds very aroace to me.
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me!! im demiaroace and it's probably bc of autism hehe but it's a label i rly care about.
teef lady teach me stuff :3
nom nom 😈😈
Never heard of it, but im glad im being told of it (since im apart of LGBT, specifically Bi)
that’s awesome, glad you got something from the video :):)
I feel like it would be way easier to understand if it were a branch of Asexual or something.
This me!
okay, sorry, why do you have to explain what being normal means?
hard to define normal because what's normal changes over time. what the creator describes of picking someone to have a crush on when you're younger and pretending you like them to seem "normal" is extremely relatable for me.
besides, this experience clearly isn't normal for a lot of people. ive never in my life met somebody who has to get so close to someone as i do in order to date them. nobody's forcing you to use this label or make it "abnormal", it's just a helpful label.
The shortest way to describe demiromantic I know of is this:
Demiromantic people don't have crushes. Ever. Unless they suddenly do crush on their best friend.
If you think that's the norm and everybody just pretends to have crushes, well... you might be onto something there. You'll figure it out. ;)
Because people want to feel “different” so they needa turn every damn thing into an identity lol.
Im demi-aroace!!
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I feel diagnosed with a terminal illness
This is just... how people work through. What you are describing is DATING. You DATE someone to get to know them better and form a connection. Why is there even a term for this?
No but then a lot of ppl might get crushes or sth out of nowhere without even knowing the person. (Like for example, celebrity crushes) Demiromantic ppl don't. They dont even get crushes or anything until they're close to person.
I mean, sure, you may get a deeper connection after dating, but the initial attraction when you DONT know the person isnt rlly there for demi folks.
I hope that explains the difference, and that im not dealing with someone who wont listen no matter how many points are brought forward, and will proceed to repeat the same empty point over and over again desite that fact that its been debunked multiple times.
Im sorry if this coming off as harsh btw😅, but honestly you never know. Im writing this in case someone's simply curious, and if you're just gonna spam nerd emoji and "who asked", then stfu, i dont wanna hear it.
we're not even talking about dating, we're talking about *basic attraction* !! as far as i know, most other people have the ability to be somewhat attracted (basically, crush) on someone before they even talk to them, and maybe even date to get to know them better
one the other hand, demiromantic/sexuals dont do that!! it can take months, or even years of bonding with someone for demis to have just the slightest bit of romantic attraction, and even then they dont always end up dating them
hope this helps
It’s gibberish. Yall already got numbers in your acronym and you’re still adding stuff. Could ya just stop already lmao.
Do you just want me to say "oh I'm someone who can only experience romantic attraction when I'm very close to someone emotionally" every single time or some shit. Because I'm not saying that every single time 💀
@@Oct0javi No, I don’t want you to say you’re “demiromantic” OR that long-ass paragraph. You don’t have to make every single damn preference into an identity lmao.
@@weston06. Dawg it's not a preference I physically can't feel romantic attraction to someone if I don't know then for more than 6 months
That just sounds like a normal experience that most people have. Romcoms aren't reality, people don't just fall in love instantly
ive described the way i fall in love 110 times to people and they never understand, saying that im too picky and slow and weird about it. demiromantic is a necessary label for some. it's normal, sure but everyone's experience is different and everyone's understanding of their own experience is also different. some people just wanna have a community or a name for their feelings.
Here is the thing:
Let's just accept that being demiromantic is a thing for a moment. That doesn't mean that all other people instantly fall in love all the time. It just means that sometimes, they are intrigued by another person and maybe think of them as a potential romantic partner, even if they haven't had much interaction with them before. Romantic attraction is the *desire* to be romantically involved with a specific person, not the actual romanticism. And the wide majority of people are able to experience this.
I'd say I am pretty familiar with that dynamic. My partner is demiromantic. I was trying to flirt with them for two months in the absolute most obvious ways possible (and no, not in the "omg just read the subtle signs" kind of way, I was getting extremely blunt near the end) and they just... didn't react at all. They didn't reject me, they just didn't get it. It felt like I had better chances dating my appartement wall. Until over the course of a week or so they did a 180 and reciprocated in the most warm and heartfelt, but also a very confused way. At that point we had known each other for about two years. They told me they had never felt attracted to anyone, sexually or romantic. A month later they came out as demiromantic asexual.
Demiromantic people never or only extremely rarely see another person as a potential romantic partner. Until they suddenly have a crush on their best friend.
If you think that's the norm because you cannot fathom things being any other way, then... oh, do I have news for you.
Consider renaming this video:
"3 and 1/4 minutes of yapping"
i do like yapping that’s not even a bad idea 🥲