People spend one to two hours a day... man ... I’ve been spending 4 hours every night before bed scrolling my social media and watching videos I don’t even care about... plus all the hours I spend during the day. It’s frightening how you can become addicted to the feeling social media gives you. In a way, it makes you feel less alone. I like to listen to videos all day long, so it feels as if I had a friend over speaking words of wisdom. Ugh, I’m such a mess with the social media addiction !!!! 😠
Oh my gosh, I was also thinking, "2 hours?? That's the version of me who has their shit together!!!" I sympathize. I'm in a true rut myself because I've been around the "social side" of the internet for 16 years now, since I was a teen. It was forums and MSN at first, now it's Twitter and the like... I hardly know any different other than the short-lived periods of me trying really hard, so breaking such built-in habits takes so much willpower. Good luck to you!!
I feel you. I've also got a problem with that. The more time I spend watching videos, the lonelier I feel. And after hours of scrolling through the internet, I just feel so drained, tired and unhappy. I need to change but don't know how to start :'(
I think that if you utilize media in your benefit there is nothing wrong with having more than a few or more hoursof it per day. I listen to a lot of encouraging, educational and instructional videos while i do chores. Some other times i listen to audio books. Its helped find and try new things like minimalism and introduction to zero waste life style and frugal living
Very true!! It’s so easy to fall for the trap of “staying up to date”. We definitely have to try more to not stay hook on it. Am definitely guilty of this.. currently working on it. 💕
I have been off social media since the beginning off this month (besides youtube obviously). People say they can't but you can. So many people live with out it, why can't you? The first week I would pick up my phone to scroll through Facebook, realize I didn't have it, and went and did something productive. I also have had more improved self esteem, since now I am not constantly comparing myself to insta models and everyone who Im not. I understand some people use it as a platform to help their careers, and that it may be different for them.
for the “always being busy” habit, i feel like i am the polar opposite and want to be busy. i pretty much just go to school, go home, sleep, and the cycle continues. i want to be busy, or at least not sit at home scrolling through my phone all the time because it is so, SO bad for my mental health, but i feel like there’s nothing else to do :( i need a hobby or someTHINg to kick this
I was in the same cycle as you when I was at school and still the first two years of college, and it was like that because I didn't know what to do with my time and how to manage it .You need to find an activity or activities that you feel passionate for. Anything that makes YOU happy and adds VALUE to your life.
Is there a sport or a hobby that you could be interested in taking up? If you’re looking for something “softer”, yoga does wonders for both body and mind!
@@beatrizviula actually i recently stopped playing soccer after 14 years, partially why i have so much free time now haha. but i actually just tried yoga for the first time this week and i loved it!! i think i might try being a regular, it's amazing! thanks for the tips :)
I am so over the bar scene. Totally agree with you. If I go out on the weekend, it's only 1 day out of the weekend. It not only saves money but also prevents me from feeling exhausted.
Not saying sorry quite so much/just generally being conscious of the words I use is something I have been working towards for the last year. It changes your entire perspective on things and your mindset. Words are very powerful. So it stands to reason you change others perspective of you by the words you choose as well. And the resentment is real- I feel you, dude.
I’m getting super into habits rn (I’m reading The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg and it’s changing my life!) The habit I’m working on first is waking up at 5am and already I’m feeling so much better - doing maths questions as soon as you wake up is a game changer :). The whole idea of changing your habits to better yourself and your life intrigues me and I can definitely resonate with a lot the bad habits in this video. One habit at a time though, baby steps ☺️✨
*1.* Self-deprecating and negative thoughts. *2.* Talking about yourself instead of listening to the other person. *3.* Making snap judgments about other people before you really know them. *4.* Social media. *5.* Porn. *6.* Excessive gaming and mobile games. *7.* Excessive drinking. *8.* Excessive weed smoking. *9.* Eating fast food and junk food. *10.* Excessive shopping and spending on frivolous items. That's *_MY_* List ☺
LYFElyne If you don’t mind me asking, why do you consider too much weed smoking to be a bad habit? I’m not disagreeing with you, I’m just curious because a lot of people who smoke tend to defend it quite a bit
@@stephaniesmith3544 Sure! There's nothing wrong with smoking. Smoking to excess is the problem. When it becomes an addiction rather than recreational or medicinal
I love the idea of saying thank-you instead of apologising! I used to constantly apologise if someone moved out of my way or if I was correcting something, now I've replaced "I'm sorry" with "thank-you for moving out of my way" or "thank-you for letting me speak" and it's changed so much for me :))
Watching this so many months later, but well said! I've adopted the "don't apologize, appreciate" habit in my life where, especially if I am sharing something with someone or venting about a bad day, I express appreciation for their listening ear or their patience rather than apologizing and invalidating my feelings and their time spent. Great video M!
I purged my instagram a few months ago, I now have a strict criteria of who I follow and it felt liberating! No more people who make me feel negative about myself clogging up my feed! Love your videos. You're down to earth and inspiring 💪
I followed all your videos for a life reset and got my boyfriend into it as well! He's started a goal jounral and our flat looks beautiful and we have a year plan individually and as a couple. Ready to slay 2019 ;)
One thing that helped me stop saying sorry is that I told everyone that I talk to regularly that I’m trying to stop saying sorry so much and have them ask me, what are you sorry for? And after that happened a few times it really helped changed my mindset about saying sorry and taking on that responsibility you spoke about. So now I feel like my sorry’s are so much more genuine because I don’t say it two hundred times a day!
I needed this desperately!! I've been feeling way overwhelmed lately, & this kinda brought me back to an awareness that it all stems from habits. when I let my good habits slip, I feel so much worse. this video helped me refocus on building more positive habits. thanks, muchelle!! 💓
You’re lighting is so on point!! And I’m very appreciative of how REAL you are in your videos but also the content. It is helping me so much and I can’t thank you enough 🙏🏽
To anyone who's looking for a good alarm clock app for their phone, I would recommend alarmy. It doesn't have a snooze function, which can be frustrating at first but is beneficial to your health in the long run. It lets you choose whatever music or sound you like for the alarm and also lets you set a a specific task that you need to do to turn the alarm off in the morning. For example, there's an option to choose a specific number of maths problems in order to turn off the alarm (you can choose the difficulty) which will improve mental maths skills. There's another option to scan a qr code or barcode in order to turn the alarm off- you could put a recipt with a barcode on it at the opposite side of your room so you have to get up straight away rather than lying in bed procrastinating or going back to sleep. There's also a lot of other options; I've been using it for a few months and it's a complete game changer.
GREAT TIPS! I definitely relate to saying “im sorry” or “my apologies” TOO MUCH! This video made me think about the vocabulary shifts I need to make to adjust the energy in my life👌🖤
Bless you ♥, I literally just googled a few hours ago "bad habits to forget" because I listed a lot of good habits and felt like I needed both sides. Nice timing ! Love your content.
I love the new colors and fonts you've used for the text on screen :) i specifically try to stop saying sorry. i always tell other people they don't have to say sorry though to spread the love
This is a really great list, thank you. I've got quite a few of these on my 'stop' list this year too. I've ordered a sunlight alarm, it gradually gets brighter over 30 mins before the alarm goes off to wake you up slowly rather than the terrifying jolt of a noisy alarm which you quickly shut off and makes you feel like crap. My Occupational Therapist recommended it and said it's really useful for people with sleep problems.
I use the screen time to limit my social media to only 2 hours a day. I mostly use it when I'm bored at work between customers, but the limits have definitely helped me in my goal of spending less time mindlessly scrolling through feeds. I also use the feature to shut down all of those unnecessary apps from 10p to 10a. My productivity and focus in other things has definitely been affected in a positive way! Now the snooze thing....I'm definitely a work in progress there. I really want to overcome it so I'm glad you mentioned it.
This video really hit home for me! I’ve been practicing getting rid of many of these habits and even feeling guilty about others. It’s amazing to know that there are people going through that same journey and I feel so much less alone. You inspire me so much! Keep up the fire 🔥 content! Much Love 💕
I totally related to the "stop apologizing" one. That is me, in a nutshell. And it's sad because most often than not I really have no reason to apologize. I think growing more comfortable with myself and confident has already made a big change on this but I still have a long way to go. By the way, just a note, I really like that you're making longer videos Muchelle! You've always been very concise with your points which I liked but because, frankly, everything you say is so interesting and relevant I couldn't be happier that your videos are now slowly growing bigger. Nice job regardless! You're inspiring :)
@@fernandogomezdelatorre3296 I'm glad it helped. I've consumed a lot of content about it, this year I set a couple of goals tied with habits, along with another set of habits, I'm not gonna lie, I fail some days, but seeing a chart with check marks of the days I succeed really inspire me to go on. You can do it!
Such a good video! I loved your point about always being busy - my poor boyfriend is always busy an therefore always under some level of stress. Thanks for the book recommendations, I’ll give them a read and see if I can help him out.
I just started waking up early again and was debating whether or not to get back in bed, but decided to watch this first. I’m glad I did! Your videos are always so helpful!! Def trying to break a lot of the habits you mentioned
This video really resonated with me! Saying sorry and resenting it sometimes is definitely relatable! I hadn't thought of it as letting other people take responsibility but you're totally right; I think it also takes away some of your power by putting yourself in a submissive position.I love the positivity about people we compare ourselves to and your analysis of that objectifying process we do to try and disregard them. Also, your eyes are radiant and your hair is always perfect ;)
Yup. Same here. Can't stop apologizing...Theres a book by Rachel Hollis coming out called "Girl, Stop Apologising" and also has a podcast called Rise which is amazing
I love all of these tips! Especially the one where you compliment/befriend people your starting to envy! I actually started to do that a while ago and it really alleviated any jealous feelings I would have felt otherwise. I'm now friends with 2 girls I used to be envious of and it feels so good! Also I love your channel so much! When I need motivating I just let all your videos auto play in the background ahha xx
I like your last point about commenting on people's instagrams or profiles. I think this helps us to take them off of that pedestal we create for them in our minds! Thank you for the great video, I'm a new subscriber and have been loving your content!
Great video, some really useful actionable ways to stop doing these habits - thought the stop comparing one was really helpful!!! Would never of thought to start complementing instead! Also side note.....your close to 300k subscribers and you SO deserve it
Speaking of sharing admiration: you have the most awesome ability to transport your ideas and also extract and summarize thoughts! Drawing a LOT of inspiration from you for my work.😊 You'll get really far in life! Love you, looking forward to each and every one of your videos 😊❤❤
Having a social media free phone (almost) is amazing! Last year I ran out of storage and deleted instagram and facebook with the intention to redownload them when I transferred photos/videos to my laptop. It felt so liberating that I actually haven't downloaded them again. Its been 3 months!!
It is so interesting with the busyness trap. How have your days changed to make you more productive and less busy? Always keen to get more tips! I have started to focus more on passion projects in 2018 and being happy instead of feeling pressured to be busy and work, and somehow I'm making a lot more money now. And I love how you always add recommendations to books!
I always need your videos when you post & it’s crazy how you know that 👀👏🏾- always keeping me motivated & on the go . Constantly have your videos on replay ❤️
I can really attest to the comparison habit! There's a girl on my uni course that I compared myself to a lot when we first started. I'm on a music course and we're both singers and one of the first performances we were in had me questioning why I was there because I kept looking at her and thinking I'm never gonna be as great as she is. However, at the end of the performance I told her what a good job she did and that we should get together for practices etc. and she's now one of my best friends and we constantly play off each other now and I'm all the better singer/performer for it! You also realise when you stop comparing yourself to someone that they have just as many insecurities and flaws as you do just maybe in different ways.
OMG!! sorry my most used word. I completely resinate with you on this. I have tried to not say sorry as much, but have no idea how to tell someone something. Thank you for sharing this. I absolutely LOVE your vids never stop creating ♡ Yaz.
Yes I say sorry too much too! I realized I was taking responsibility for things gone wrong when I should just step back and let the people who actually caused the problem take care of it. That way I’m less frustrated and they learn to accept responsibility. I think I’m doing better now, but it’s a tough mindset to get out of! I agree that it’s a culture thing (although I’ve never been to Australia but seems like a lot of the culture is similar to the US 😁)
Great video Michelle! Just wanted to point out re the drinking on weekends topic- you don't have to ditch your friends who drink in favour of making new friends who don't (unless the friends who drink are actually toxic for you in other ways). Just don't order alcoholic beverages when you're with them. You can still spend time with people you love who might like a tipple, you just have to responsible for your own choices. Thanks for the great content, love your channel!
I think thats true depending on the kind of friends you have - I know lots of people with friends who literally live for binge drinking on weekends and they wouldn’t be able to just not drink without a generally painful / peer pressurey night! Also it’s a whole lot easier when you have people around you who aren’t cultured to default to drinking - but a drink limit or just not drinking is a good option depending on the situation!
muchelleb that is true. It such an ingrained part of our culture here in Oz that you have to drink if you want to have a good time. And that's simply not true. People who are inebriated are no fun to be around. Good call to choose your friends wisely.
As a Canadian, “sorry” is so engrained in our culture and what we are “known for”. But I like that challenge! I’m going to try to minimize the use of that work! #sorrynotsorry 😜🧡 keep up the great content!
You don’t have to uninstall and reinstall Instagram! If you have an iPhone you can set App Limit times by going into Settings > Screen Time > App Limits. I used this to set limits for Social Media apps and it’s really helped!
Hi! Just got into your channel and loving it! If you ever made a whole video with just the comparison part that would be so helpful for me. Easiest the one thing I'm struggling with the most right now. Have you any tips on books on that? :)
Omg the saying sorry thing- literally everyone in Canada does it! I really wanna stop but I feel impolite not saying sorry even if it’s not my fault at all (e.g. someone bumping into me), it’s just so ingrained into the culture here
I have also uninstalled Instagram because I’m trying to reduce my social media daily “consumption” and thought that I would have to install it back every time I wanted to answer to DM’s or post. There’s this great desktop app called Flume that let’s you do it 😊 I use it once a week and I’m quite happy about it. You make a lot of my days better ones with your inspiring videos and I feel so motivated to align my actions with my beliefs 💕
Omg I'm so happy you mentioned Mel Robbins! I just started listening to her Audible Original called Kick Ass with Mel Robbins and it is wrecking me!! In a good way of course. I love the simplicitity of the 5 second rule for getting off one's ass haha!
tbh i've been busy since starting my journey on RUclips but i guess it's familiarising with the whole routine and how i'm still in school and doing YT concurrently... ALSO i enjoyed this video!
1. Drinking too much caffeine and/or alcohol 2. Comparing myself to others 3. Consuming content disproportionally to creating content 4. Overthinking about the past and future 5. Not spending at least 30 minutes every day working towards my lifelong dreams Those are the habits that I'm trying to stop this year. So for so good on the first 3! A little more work is needed on 4 and 5 :-)
People spend one to two hours a day... man ... I’ve been spending 4 hours every night before bed scrolling my social media and watching videos I don’t even care about... plus all the hours I spend during the day. It’s frightening how you can become addicted to the feeling social media gives you. In a way, it makes you feel less alone. I like to listen to videos all day long, so it feels as if I had a friend over speaking words of wisdom. Ugh, I’m such a mess with the social media addiction !!!! 😠
Oh my gosh, I was also thinking, "2 hours?? That's the version of me who has their shit together!!!"
I sympathize. I'm in a true rut myself because I've been around the "social side" of the internet for 16 years now, since I was a teen. It was forums and MSN at first, now it's Twitter and the like... I hardly know any different other than the short-lived periods of me trying really hard, so breaking such built-in habits takes so much willpower. Good luck to you!!
I feel you. I've also got a problem with that. The more time I spend watching videos, the lonelier I feel. And after hours of scrolling through the internet, I just feel so drained, tired and unhappy. I need to change but don't know how to start :'(
I think that if you utilize media in your benefit there is nothing wrong with having more than a few or more hoursof it per day. I listen to a lot of encouraging, educational and instructional videos while i do chores. Some other times i listen to audio books. Its helped find and try new things like minimalism and introduction to zero waste life style and frugal living
Very true!! It’s so easy to fall for the trap of “staying up to date”. We definitely have to try more to not stay hook on it. Am definitely guilty of this.. currently working on it. 💕
Realising and quantifying the time is a great step 👍. I try multi tasking, watching RUclips videos while cooking etc
Waaah can't believe Michelle mentioned me in her video! I'm screamingggg
Kristen Leo you are awesomeeee
N TM agreed 😘
Your channel is awesome! :)
Whaaat, I love your channel girl ❤️❤️❤️
Kristen Leo so cute when I see this happen with some of my favorite youtubers
I have been off social media since the beginning off this month (besides youtube obviously). People say they can't but you can. So many people live with out it, why can't you? The first week I would pick up my phone to scroll through Facebook, realize I didn't have it, and went and did something productive. I also have had more improved self esteem, since now I am not constantly comparing myself to insta models and everyone who Im not. I understand some people use it as a platform to help their careers, and that it may be different for them.
for the “always being busy” habit, i feel like i am the polar opposite and want to be busy. i pretty much just go to school, go home, sleep, and the cycle continues. i want to be busy, or at least not sit at home scrolling through my phone all the time because it is so, SO bad for my mental health, but i feel like there’s nothing else to do :( i need a hobby or someTHINg to kick this
I was in the same cycle as you when I was at school and still the first two years of college, and it was like that because I didn't know what to do with my time and how to manage it .You need to find an activity or activities that you feel passionate for. Anything that makes YOU happy and adds VALUE to your life.
Is there a sport or a hobby that you could be interested in taking up? If you’re looking for something “softer”, yoga does wonders for both body and mind!
@@beatrizviula actually i recently stopped playing soccer after 14 years, partially why i have so much free time now haha. but i actually just tried yoga for the first time this week and i loved it!! i think i might try being a regular, it's amazing! thanks for the tips :)
Ava Elisabeth doesnt school make u busy?
Your body probably misses all that activity now 😊 I’m glad you liked yoga!! I’m also trying to practice it more consistently
I am so over the bar scene. Totally agree with you. If I go out on the weekend, it's only 1 day out of the weekend. It not only saves money but also prevents me from feeling exhausted.
Not saying sorry quite so much/just generally being conscious of the words I use is something I have been working towards for the last year. It changes your entire perspective on things and your mindset. Words are very powerful. So it stands to reason you change others perspective of you by the words you choose as well.
And the resentment is real- I feel you, dude.
A really cool thing i heard somewhere...instead of saying 'sorry for being late' say 'thank you for waiting' :)
thanks for the shout out! I’m so happy you’re shopping more ethically and promoting this idea, loved this whole video you’re always so inspiring! 🖤
Thanks girl - always love your content and your vibe ❤️
I’m getting super into habits rn (I’m reading The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg and it’s changing my life!) The habit I’m working on first is waking up at 5am and already I’m feeling so much better - doing maths questions as soon as you wake up is a game changer :). The whole idea of changing your habits to better yourself and your life intrigues me and I can definitely resonate with a lot the bad habits in this video. One habit at a time though, baby steps ☺️✨
I'm currently reading that book too!
@@emmawestwood3809 It's a really good book to help you understand how habits work :)
*1.* Self-deprecating and negative thoughts.
*2.* Talking about yourself instead of listening to the other person.
*3.* Making snap judgments about other people before you really know them.
*4.* Social media.
*5.* Porn.
*6.* Excessive gaming and mobile games.
*7.* Excessive drinking.
*8.* Excessive weed smoking.
*9.* Eating fast food and junk food.
*10.* Excessive shopping and spending on frivolous items.
That's *_MY_* List ☺
LYFElyne If you don’t mind me asking, why do you consider too much weed smoking to be a bad habit?
I’m not disagreeing with you, I’m just curious because a lot of people who smoke tend to defend it quite a bit
Wow..
@@stephaniesmith3544 Sure! There's nothing wrong with smoking. Smoking to excess is the problem. When it becomes an addiction rather than recreational or medicinal
LYFElyne Ah I see, thanks for the response
@@stephaniesmith3544 you're welcome. What are your thoughts?
I’m allllll about breaking and building habits rn 🙌🏻
Michelle Crossan Me too.. this makes such a huge difference in our lives, hopefully for the better. 💕
Same!
I love the idea of saying thank-you instead of apologising! I used to constantly apologise if someone moved out of my way or if I was correcting something, now I've replaced "I'm sorry" with "thank-you for moving out of my way" or "thank-you for letting me speak" and it's changed so much for me :))
Watching this so many months later, but well said! I've adopted the "don't apologize, appreciate" habit in my life where, especially if I am sharing something with someone or venting about a bad day, I express appreciation for their listening ear or their patience rather than apologizing and invalidating my feelings and their time spent.
Great video M!
I purged my instagram a few months ago, I now have a strict criteria of who I follow and it felt liberating! No more people who make me feel negative about myself clogging up my feed! Love your videos. You're down to earth and inspiring 💪
anyone else spend 5+ hours on their phone?! 💁🏻♀️😅 and you were so horrified by your 1 hour.... 😂 oops
10 hours oops....
sphln yeah like 7.. and I’m in school hahah
I think she meant social media specifically, not total screen time! That threw me off too at first lol
One hour is possible on your phone in total...I haven’t been able to do it very day but I’ve been getting closer and closer
" comparison is the thief of joy" WOW, SO FLIPPING TRUE!
I followed all your videos for a life reset and got my boyfriend into it as well! He's started a goal jounral and our flat looks beautiful and we have a year plan individually and as a couple. Ready to slay 2019 ;)
One thing that helped me stop saying sorry is that I told everyone that I talk to regularly that I’m trying to stop saying sorry so much and have them ask me, what are you sorry for? And after that happened a few times it really helped changed my mindset about saying sorry and taking on that responsibility you spoke about. So now I feel like my sorry’s are so much more genuine because I don’t say it two hundred times a day!
Working in customer service I say sorry so much and I can relate so bad. SO much resentment towards basically everyone
I thought I was the only person who always says sorry for everything, so much more reassuring to know that it’s not just me xx
You videos are honestly so uplifting. I love how authentic and honest they are. Keep it up Boss Lady
I needed this desperately!! I've been feeling way overwhelmed lately, & this kinda brought me back to an awareness that it all stems from habits. when I let my good habits slip, I feel so much worse. this video helped me refocus on building more positive habits. thanks, muchelle!! 💓
I clicked so fast! Your videos are always so helpful and informative
You’re lighting is so on point!! And I’m very appreciative of how REAL you are in your videos but also the content. It is helping me so much and I can’t thank you enough 🙏🏽
The always busy portion to the end totally spoke to me. It's things I know, but it's so refreshing to hear someone else say it! Thank you!
To anyone who's looking for a good alarm clock app for their phone, I would recommend alarmy. It doesn't have a snooze function, which can be frustrating at first but is beneficial to your health in the long run. It lets you choose whatever music or sound you like for the alarm and also lets you set a a specific task that you need to do to turn the alarm off in the morning. For example, there's an option to choose a specific number of maths problems in order to turn off the alarm (you can choose the difficulty) which will improve mental maths skills. There's another option to scan a qr code or barcode in order to turn the alarm off- you could put a recipt with a barcode on it at the opposite side of your room so you have to get up straight away rather than lying in bed procrastinating or going back to sleep. There's also a lot of other options; I've been using it for a few months and it's a complete game changer.
GREAT TIPS! I definitely relate to saying “im sorry” or “my apologies” TOO MUCH! This video made me think about the vocabulary shifts I need to make to adjust the energy in my life👌🖤
Bless you ♥, I literally just googled a few hours ago "bad habits to forget" because I listed a lot of good habits and felt like I needed both sides.
Nice timing ! Love your content.
I love all your videos, I am literally obsessed with watching them
I love the new colors and fonts you've used for the text on screen :) i specifically try to stop saying sorry. i always tell other people they don't have to say sorry though to spread the love
appie I agree, it’s so easy to get carried away with apologizing. When more often than not there are other words that can replace the apology.
I love it when you include resources in your videos to go more in-depth with certain ideas or concepts. Seriously so helpful and inspiring!
This is a really great list, thank you. I've got quite a few of these on my 'stop' list this year too. I've ordered a sunlight alarm, it gradually gets brighter over 30 mins before the alarm goes off to wake you up slowly rather than the terrifying jolt of a noisy alarm which you quickly shut off and makes you feel like crap. My Occupational Therapist recommended it and said it's really useful for people with sleep problems.
Nenemaria, I've been wanting a light alarm. Definitely one of my next intentional purchases.
I have one of these and couldn't live without it now, helps so much!
@@DianeJohnsonStroud Mine's just arrived today so I'll be trying it out in the morning. Hoping it's going to be a useful purchase :)
I use the screen time to limit my social media to only 2 hours a day. I mostly use it when I'm bored at work between customers, but the limits have definitely helped me in my goal of spending less time mindlessly scrolling through feeds. I also use the feature to shut down all of those unnecessary apps from 10p to 10a. My productivity and focus in other things has definitely been affected in a positive way!
Now the snooze thing....I'm definitely a work in progress there. I really want to overcome it so I'm glad you mentioned it.
This video really hit home for me! I’ve been practicing getting rid of many of these habits and even feeling guilty about others. It’s amazing to know that there are people going through that same journey and I feel so much less alone. You inspire me so much! Keep up the fire 🔥 content! Much Love 💕
I so agree with the saying sorry too much habit. Something I need to be more aware of myself for sure!
I totally related to the "stop apologizing" one. That is me, in a nutshell. And it's sad because most often than not I really have no reason to apologize. I think growing more comfortable with myself and confident has already made a big change on this but I still have a long way to go.
By the way, just a note, I really like that you're making longer videos Muchelle! You've always been very concise with your points which I liked but because, frankly, everything you say is so interesting and relevant I couldn't be happier that your videos are now slowly growing bigger. Nice job regardless! You're inspiring :)
It's harder for to stop doing old bad habits than implementing new ones, who's in the same position? 🤔 Still, going to make it 💪
I think the key is to replace the bad ones, one at the time, keep tracking of the progress and set positive triggers.
@@CrisOnTheInternet that's very interesting, have heard of that before, I'll try it :)
@@fernandogomezdelatorre3296 I'm glad it helped.
I've consumed a lot of content about it, this year I set a couple of goals tied with habits, along with another set of habits, I'm not gonna lie, I fail some days, but seeing a chart with check marks of the days I succeed really inspire me to go on. You can do it!
My list:
1. Bingeing junk or fast food.
2. Not going to bed on time/snoozing my alarm.
Such a good video! I loved your point about always being busy - my poor boyfriend is always busy an therefore always under some level of stress. Thanks for the book recommendations, I’ll give them a read and see if I can help him out.
I just started waking up early again and was debating whether or not to get back in bed, but decided to watch this first. I’m glad I did! Your videos are always so helpful!! Def trying to break a lot of the habits you mentioned
This video really resonated with me! Saying sorry and resenting it sometimes is definitely relatable! I hadn't thought of it as letting other people take responsibility but you're totally right; I think it also takes away some of your power by putting yourself in a submissive position.I love the positivity about people we compare ourselves to and your analysis of that objectifying process we do to try and disregard them. Also, your eyes are radiant and your hair is always perfect ;)
I love your channel. You are so encouraging and make improving areas in my life seem manageable. Thank you for being awesome!
Yup. Same here. Can't stop apologizing...Theres a book by Rachel Hollis coming out called "Girl, Stop Apologising" and also has a podcast called Rise which is amazing
My Green Closet is also a really amazing source for learning about conscious and ethical fashion!!
Beautiful video, Michelle. very realistic and with a true and sincere message.
I am binge watching muchelleb rn
I love all of these tips! Especially the one where you compliment/befriend people your starting to envy! I actually started to do that a while ago and it really alleviated any jealous feelings I would have felt otherwise. I'm now friends with 2 girls I used to be envious of and it feels so good! Also I love your channel so much! When I need motivating I just let all your videos auto play in the background ahha xx
I like your last point about commenting on people's instagrams or profiles. I think this helps us to take them off of that pedestal we create for them in our minds! Thank you for the great video, I'm a new subscriber and have been loving your content!
You're such a realistically positive person! Your videos are making me reconsider how I go through life. Thanks so much!
I used to apologize way too much. I’m now working hard to unlearn this.
You are so inspiring! Thank you for posting videos and sharing helpful and positive messages! I appreciate you so much!
Great video, some really useful actionable ways to stop doing these habits - thought the stop comparing one was really helpful!!! Would never of thought to start complementing instead!
Also side note.....your close to 300k subscribers and you SO deserve it
This video definitely gave me a different perspective on my life; I’m going to use this video to help get my life back on track. Thank you ^^
Speaking of sharing admiration: you have the most awesome ability to transport your ideas and also extract and summarize thoughts! Drawing a LOT of inspiration from you for my work.😊 You'll get really far in life! Love you, looking forward to each and every one of your videos 😊❤❤
You're videos are so inspiring! I love how genuine and honest your channel is!
I agree with the over apologizing and I’m working on this. it became a habit from working in the food industry
Yes can’t agree more on the ‘sorry’ situation 😓 i get annoyed at myself every time when it’s not even my fault 😅
Having a social media free phone (almost) is amazing! Last year I ran out of storage and deleted instagram and facebook with the intention to redownload them when I transferred photos/videos to my laptop. It felt so liberating that I actually haven't downloaded them again. Its been 3 months!!
I recently unfollowed all Instagram accounts that were specific to shopping/fashion. This has helped me cut back on my online shopping.
I love how you always have that hint of dusty purple or dusty pink love those colors!!! These are so good!
It is so interesting with the busyness trap. How have your days changed to make you more productive and less busy? Always keen to get more tips! I have started to focus more on passion projects in 2018 and being happy instead of feeling pressured to be busy and work, and somehow I'm making a lot more money now. And I love how you always add recommendations to books!
I always need your videos when you post & it’s crazy how you know that 👀👏🏾- always keeping me motivated & on the go . Constantly have your videos on replay ❤️
I can really attest to the comparison habit! There's a girl on my uni course that I compared myself to a lot when we first started. I'm on a music course and we're both singers and one of the first performances we were in had me questioning why I was there because I kept looking at her and thinking I'm never gonna be as great as she is. However, at the end of the performance I told her what a good job she did and that we should get together for practices etc. and she's now one of my best friends and we constantly play off each other now and I'm all the better singer/performer for it! You also realise when you stop comparing yourself to someone that they have just as many insecurities and flaws as you do just maybe in different ways.
Getting up early on cold winter mornings...sooo tempting to hit that snooze button :) thank you, great video!
OMG!! sorry my most used word. I completely resinate with you on this. I have tried to not say sorry as much, but have no idea how to tell someone something. Thank you for sharing this. I absolutely LOVE your vids never stop creating ♡ Yaz.
Pleease do a video on how you managed not to be THAT busy but actually got more done! As always, thanks for the amazing tips and editing :)
Yes I say sorry too much too! I realized I was taking responsibility for things gone wrong when I should just step back and let the people who actually caused the problem take care of it. That way I’m less frustrated and they learn to accept responsibility. I think I’m doing better now, but it’s a tough mindset to get out of! I agree that it’s a culture thing (although I’ve never been to Australia but seems like a lot of the culture is similar to the US 😁)
Great video Michelle! Just wanted to point out re the drinking on weekends topic- you don't have to ditch your friends who drink in favour of making new friends who don't (unless the friends who drink are actually toxic for you in other ways). Just don't order alcoholic beverages when you're with them. You can still spend time with people you love who might like a tipple, you just have to responsible for your own choices. Thanks for the great content, love your channel!
I think thats true depending on the kind of friends you have - I know lots of people with friends who literally live for binge drinking on weekends and they wouldn’t be able to just not drink without a generally painful / peer pressurey night! Also it’s a whole lot easier when you have people around you who aren’t cultured to default to drinking - but a drink limit or just not drinking is a good option depending on the situation!
muchelleb that is true. It such an ingrained part of our culture here in Oz that you have to drink if you want to have a good time. And that's simply not true. People who are inebriated are no fun to be around. Good call to choose your friends wisely.
I soooo agree on your opinion on drinking! It is so liberating to feel good and be productive with everybody else being hungover :)
As a Canadian, “sorry” is so engrained in our culture and what we are “known for”. But I like that challenge! I’m going to try to minimize the use of that work! #sorrynotsorry 😜🧡 keep up the great content!
Good stuff, thank you dear, I resonated with a few of these so I appreciate your tips!
I spend more than two hours on social media, definitely needed this!
You don’t have to uninstall and reinstall Instagram! If you have an iPhone you can set App Limit times by going into Settings > Screen Time > App Limits. I used this to set limits for Social Media apps and it’s really helped!
Hi! Just got into your channel and loving it! If you ever made a whole video with just the comparison part that would be so helpful for me. Easiest the one thing I'm struggling with the most right now. Have you any tips on books on that? :)
My phone told me I spent 7 hours a day on average ... lol
Omg the saying sorry thing- literally everyone in Canada does it! I really wanna stop but I feel impolite not saying sorry even if it’s not my fault at all (e.g. someone bumping into me), it’s just so ingrained into the culture here
I deleted Reddit off my phone so I stop looking at it before bed. Now I read a book in its place. :) Great tips!
I have also uninstalled Instagram because I’m trying to reduce my social media daily “consumption” and thought that I would have to install it back every time I wanted to answer to DM’s or post. There’s this great desktop app called Flume that let’s you do it 😊 I use it once a week and I’m quite happy about it. You make a lot of my days better ones with your inspiring videos and I feel so motivated to align my actions with my beliefs 💕
Oh what! Okay I’m definitely getting a hold of flume! Thank you so much for this.
muchelleb 🤗 let me know what are your first impressions!
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I love your videos so much!
Just wondering what lighting you use? x
Everything you said about over-apologizing.. Yes!!!
I am almost one full year without social media and I’m so happy I can’t imagine going back
I stopped what I was doing I clicked over ASAP it’s 4:11am here!
I genuinely read the time as four layam there... what a time.
i looooove love your content you challenge me to be a better person. you're so relatable and so beautiful
I love your videos Michelle. You always inspire me. So, thank you! :)
I do EVERY single one of these!! Thank you for making this
Lovely video Muchelle! I always love how you do your videos. Have a lovely, positive day :D
I am so glad i came across your channel :) evry video of yours.. resonates with me and my mindset
Great content as always! I need to reduce time spent on the phone. My week report is about 3 hours but I can still cut down.
Completely relate to the excessive apologising- I do it all the time- and it drives me crazy that I do it. Great video:-)
Cranberrycat I started keeping a list of things I apologized for that didn’t make sense for me to apologize for. Super eye opening and helped me stop!
I love this idea- thanks! @@lesleym4000
Yes! Love when you upload! its a good day :) xx
I love your channel. It’s changed my life! 🙌🏽👌🏽
Wow. Love your videos always 🥰😘and please do a what's on your iPhone?
Great tips ! I will reformer be using some of these! X
So incredibly helpful, as always. Thank you. ❤
Omg I'm so happy you mentioned Mel Robbins! I just started listening to her Audible Original called Kick Ass with Mel Robbins and it is wrecking me!! In a good way of course. I love the simplicitity of the 5 second rule for getting off one's ass haha!
Love your videos, I'm double you're age but I'm young at heart and find your videos inspiring and motivating. 😊😘
tbh i've been busy since starting my journey on RUclips but i guess it's familiarising with the whole routine and how i'm still in school and doing YT concurrently... ALSO i enjoyed this video!
I say sorry too much too! Can definitely relate 😭
Love your videos I find them so helpful!
1. Drinking too much caffeine and/or alcohol
2. Comparing myself to others
3. Consuming content disproportionally to creating content
4. Overthinking about the past and future
5. Not spending at least 30 minutes every day working towards my lifelong dreams
Those are the habits that I'm trying to stop this year. So for so good on the first 3! A little more work is needed on 4 and 5 :-)
Stop saying sorry is definitely my thing... I say sorry for everything! So Totally related