Not Tonight, Honey
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
- Contrary to popular belief, he's not always in the mood. Would you be offended if your man told you, “No honey, not tonight”? Tamar, Tamera, Loni, Jeannie and Adrienne dish on how they’d react, in this Girl Chat.
"It doesn't matter how far you go, if you say no it means no." YASSS Jeannie preach it! 👏
+Alandra Bradshaw lol way to yank the trophy from poor little Jeannie's hands
Yessss
Yeeeeeeeeeesssss
And they always want to take advantage of that lol. That kind of ish gets you slapped. Like have some damn RESPECT for that woman .. smh
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I don't understand why it's so hard for them to believe that a man may choose to not have sex right away. I agree with Tamera, as usual. There are men out there who practice celibacy and want a meaningful relationship that is not based on sex.
Right!! There are men out there who are celibate. Sad that most women now days don't think it is possible.
I agree, there are more people who r waiting to have sex r practicing celibacy and not just because of their morals or religious reasons and I think that people who r choosing to having sex should put some RESPECK on this decision without making them feel something is wrong with them, if they don't agree with it find someone else but don't label or judge them cause u r choosing to do something different. #I ain't gon say it no moe😜
+Empressive AMEN! It's true, I think Tamar has just met so many duds and not enough good guys, which is probably why she has the attitude she has, but she always acts as if her opinion is the right one, no one else could ever possibly be right. I really truly don't like her, there are very few times when I actually like her, she really angers me most of the time.
+lilly c lol
+Empressive yeah tamera is always on point!!!
It's funny to me that we talk about having men respecting our wishes and no means no, but you turn around and tell guys they might be gay if they want to slow down? that's just awful to me
Exactly. This is the type of mindset that pisses me off. Double standard af.
+Ellen Phetsa exactly
Omg you're right 😱
Right
And then we keep perpetuating the lower standards that this society has about sex and eventually people rethink morals...it's just a bad downward spiral. People taking on that mindset is why celibacy/abstinence is made out to be a crazy and impossible feat when in actuality it ultimately gets you with the right person for life instead of one night and a string of heartbreaks.
No means No. End of discussion
exactly
Come on now. Come on somebody.
Ok when you ask for the bills to be paid; no means no
@@oil1252 just think about what you just said for a second
@@oil1252 I wish I could thumbs up this again, lol
Doesn't matter who says no, the man or the woman, if you are just not feeling the other person or are just not in the moment then YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO!!!!
And another thing IT SURE AS HELL DONT MEAN HES GAY!!! Just...stop with that ok.
+Xk8rsx 👏👏👏 amen
+Xk8rsx preach! 🙌
+Xk8rsx girl you better preach!
Hat's off to you, girl! The last time I checked, consent does not have a gender.
Wait, so Tamar and Loni are trying to say that if a man turns down sex with you, that he's either not into you or gay?? That's total BS and sounds ridiculous.
agree.
+Aja Giselle Yeah they sound crazy!! Yikes
Tamar just likes to hear the sound of her own voice.
+Aja Giselle Yeah also that comes off as sexist to me. You would not automatically accuse a woman of not being straight if she declined.
Helena Exactly!
If a man or woman says no, it should be respected.
Yessss
Plain and simple.
They should teach these things in home and school
That's a frustrating double standard. Both women AND men should be able to wait as long as they want to wait.
+Michaela K Straight up!!
Adrianne had me dying...nahhh it was clean lmao
2:07
😂😂😂
and Tamar gutter mind ass was on my wavelength when she said that
I gotta give Loni and Tamar the side eye this time. I mean, I am so tired of that old tired ass "Men Will Be Men" mentality! Just because a guy doesn't want to have sex right away doesn't mean he's gay or that there's something wrong with him. Not all men want sex right away. Some men value their bodies as well as the relationship they have with you more than getting physical, so much so that they are willing to wait as long as possible to prove that they are about emotional commitment first and foremost. Stop putting people in boxes. We men, as well as women, are NOT monoliths. We are all complex, diverse, and, most of all, unique beings with different perceptions, perspectives and preferences.
STOP pigeonholing people and perceiving them through outdated society-influenced biases and start accepting people for who THEY show and tell you THEY ARE, not who you think, would rather or have been told they are!
💯💯💯
This right here is a sermon. Come through, brother! 👐👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
+Sava Thank you Pastor Sava
Tiya Caemara Thank you!
Intersectionality Haha! Thank you for the support!
I'm really disappointed in Tamar and Loni's reaction to Adrienne's story. I can't stand when people act like that when it comes to men and sex. They act as if men are just these animals who their only duty to have sex with any and everything. We women say we want a man who is about more than just sex but when we get one, we treat him like Tamar and Loni and act as if something is wrong with him. Then we tend to complain about men supposedly having more sexual freedom but I feel like its contradicting because we act as if that's all men are about. I think men deal with plenty of double standards like women do but they aren't broadcasted and this is definitely one of them.
Exactly, making Adrienne feel like it was something wrong with her r him. Like real shade n y'all suppose to b sisters....
+Cakeandsum Rosesplease You said it! Exactly! Double Standards are everywhere. Sometimes Loni & Tamar create a peer pressure environment. I like Jeannie cause she sticks by her opinions and is level headed.
agreed
The funny thing is that out of all of them you just know Loni and Tamar get it the least so its just like sour sour grapes, kinda like that conversation about how long the difference between a quickie and making love is, and Adrienne was talking about how when you make love it can go on for hours and the least time would be about 40 mins or something like that, and Tamar and Loni were just :/ like Loni laughed like it was a ridiculous notion and Tamar was just there with her stank face....I mean like if your men barely last five minutes like some horny teenagers than thats just you and i highly doubt either of you has had as much experience with men as Adrienne so dafuq do you know.
+Cakeandsum Rosesplease But they might be talking from experience they had with men
Im here for Jeanie's genie ponytail 😊
PLW what about Tamar
tamar: "something in the milk ain't clean."
Adrienne: "no it was clean" 😂😂😂
Lmao
Tamar needs to QUIT sometimes!
Not all men are the same Tamar.
okay! like for real!
I so agree
+Ariana Jonhson ... she's messing with boys all her life, and she don't know to react when Gentlemen comes into her life, treats her with respect and his intentions are genuine...
+black4ev3r and that's why she married a millionaire..who's a gentlemen ...your dumb👍👍.
Tamar has a very good husband
The awkward moment when you're watching this, as a virgin, not really giving a crap about this situation.
lol👊
sex is overrated, stay a virgin until your truly in LOVE... men are selfish when it comes to sex
+shashayaway bailey that's the gospel truth!
lol right
Same.
As always I agree with Tamera and I also agree with Jeannie. There are some men who are not obsessed with sex and sometimes they just don't want to have sex. Tamar can sometimes be immature and irrational.
Absolutely
Very
+MsBrooklyn11232 I agree. To say 'something in the milk isn't clean' because a man wants to get to know a woman before sleeping with her is so immature and small-minded.
+Jazzy One *smh* that made me feel exasperated with her. People who don't believe in genuine relationships make me sad.
Tamar always wants to be the best among them eventually turns out be stupid, irritating and annoying 😏
Ridiculous double standards. Anyone can say no and have no questions asked.
Love me some long girl chat!!
yasssssss, 7mins
amen!
+Carpathianpixie195 love even longer than 7 mins
Not all men are the same. Some actually respect the act of having sex and want to wait. Women should know and understand that. He shouldn't automatically want to have sex with you just because he's a man and you're a woman. And you shouldn't feel offended when he turns you down.
Goes both ways, of course guys should be able to say it without offending the girl. If a guy wants to wait because he wants a real relationship with you, well personally I would respect that a lot. No problem with waiting.
Tamar was kinda being childish towards Adrienne.
+Tiffany-Kelly Fritz She definitely was...and the fact that he was 35 makes sense. When people are younger I could see them rushing and not saying that but as a man gets older and still isn't with anybody they wanna start trying something new. Being 35 and wanting a relationship, I could easily see a man saying something like that. Just cuz Tamar never dealt with that shouldn't mean it's hard to believe especially at that age.
Tany Britt exactly.
Tamar's mind is so enclosed it's not even funny
+Le' Be i was thinking the same thing.
Hola Keila it really irritates me lol
It's obscene.... That is what it is.
Jjek
This happened to my guy coworker,he didn't even know this girl & she called him gay. Because he "turned down this million dollar pussy". so rude & disrespectful. Thank God my coworker is a gentleman
Lol laughed out loud when I saw the "million dollar pussy" 😂 but good for him. She was probably wack anyway
Cant believe Tamar said "something in the milk aint clean!" and Adrienne responded with "it was clean." loooool don't know if anyone caught on to that but talk about getting sexual.
It's a expression.
+annie parker never heard of it before
I caught it n I'm dyinggggg
what does it mean
+Bing Bong When something is not right
Adrienne's little pout/smile is killing me! So on point everytime
Umm.. If you have morals and values and respect your body , then you should not let others or being judged for being a virgin ,, force you into having sex and you are not ready !
Amen pastor, amen. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
+Myronn Coleman I agree completely.Aren't these the men that they say they want?Men with standards and morals."You can tell a tree by it's fruit"
Exactly
tamar is so disrespectful -.- I can't
The woman in the text message was waaaaay out of line. If he doesn't want it he doesn't want it. No need to justify it or pressure it. NONE of that. End of story.
Sooooooooooo,........ Let me get this straight to see if I understand clearly......! If a woman says "no" to a man for having sex is ok and normal, but if u man does it it automatically means that's he's "gay" , I don't get it?🤔🤔🤔🤔
Right....double standards
Literally nobody said that he might be gay though.
+MartianBlues then can u explain to me what was the meaning of the expression of Loni and Tamar then?? Coz that's the feeling that I'm having😗...and that is what they meant...... I'm confused, let me know😉
+MartianBlues Yes they did because although Loni and Tamar didn't say it literally Adrienne picked up on it and said "yea thats what I was thinking, which is people saying he isn't straight" followed by Tamar saying "yea its one of the two.."the two meaning. he is gay or not into you.
+Ama O rights, exactlyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!😏
Jeannie is so cute. She looks like a Disney star.
Brenda Song.
Honestly I agree with Tamera like honestly there are some good men out there who don't wanna have sex right away
Jeanie "MEEE?!" 😂😂
I met a man that wanted to wait, he wanted to take his time and get to know me. He was not running game or sleeping with anyone else he just simply wanted to take it slow and now four years later we're still happily in love.
As a married woman, I like hearing Tamera and Jeanie's perspective on things. Maybe if Tamar could express herself without neck rolling and lip smacking, I would take her more serious.
Absolutely! that must be Adrienne's favorite word!
Tamar: it has ? 👀 watchu mean ? do tell...
💀😭
I usually agree with 95% of what Tamar says, but she's talking so much ish in this segment. And she's rude to people who want to wait
agree ... But didn't bother Jeanie and Tamera both wait before marrying their now husbands? think they've mentioned it before... sounds like Tamar forgot
Tamar at the end "yeah don't play with me like that, that ain't funny" 😂😂😂😂😂 lmfaooo
no Tamar actually there are guys out there that are respectful. if he wasn't clean as she tried to insinuate then his dirty ass would want to sleep with her. mind you there are very few good men out there not many but they are out there. and no doesn't mean they are gay.
why does that broad always think her opinions are the only ones that should be had.
Ikr!! She lives in some fantasy world where men are like sex robots 24/7... Especially weird because she just said a minute ago that she herself is sometimes too tired...Yet she doesn't realize that a guy could be too.. Like ???
tamar that is NOT what you were trying to say!!
1st. I cringe everytime Tamar talks about her and Vince doing it. Ew.. And why she gotta yell like that??
I can't take her lately. And that opinion of hers is BULL!!! A guy CAN take it slowly... Just because they didn't do it with you, doesn't me they won't take it slow with others..
2nd.. These girl need to stop kissing Tamar's ass!! They always agree with her! Especially Adrienne
+Baby Girl I feel like they have bad sex! She's just trynna play it off.. Like when Lonni likes to yell about loving the single life
+Baby Girl 😩😩😩 You said Ming Lee! Wrong for that! Lmao
+Ms Me her name is Jeannie ;)
Adrienne does agree with her all the Time and that's why Tamar always cuts her off and shuts down her opinion.
No surprise that I agree with Tamera. Tamar, it is not a game. It is a different albeit unpopular perspective. Some guys are more interested in getting to know someone than hopping into bed with them. I know this because I'm one of them, and made that clear to my wife when I started dating her 10 years ago.
Thank you! Can you please inform the youth of today pleaseee! Cause what they're saying here is pure bs. The only two that are right here Tamera and Jeanie. Idk what Loni ia talkin about that women have labels. Yes we have labels but so do men as well. They have labels just as much as women do and she makes it seem like its only for women theres labels when its not even like that.
Hats off to you! 👏👏 Thank you for setting this straight. We need more like you in the world.
It is kind of sad how women are quick to label men as gay when they are not in a rush to have sex. Like how there is pressure for women, there is pressure for men as well. Tamar didn't know what that man went through in his past relationship. Maybe he took things too quickly in his past relationships and wanted to go a different path with Adrienne because he liked her a lot. Nethertheless, i enjoyed this discussion. SN: Tamar kind of reminds me of Vivica Fox in the face today.
The word “No” is a statement on its own. You don’t ever need to give an explanation as to why you said “No” to something.
From the comments it's safe to say nearly everyone was annoyed by Tamar in this segment😂She gives her opinion as if it's law or the only logical explanation. 🙄it's so annoying. And I actually like Tamar overall but I hate when she does that.
I swear. This time I was like, damn. Usually I'm team Tamar, but it's a no from me boo.
Okayy so i think i figured it out;
Tamar has wack reasoning
Tamera is the rational one
Loni just dont make sense...shell say things and ill be like...whaaat?
Jeannie is real
Adrienne is the cute one
Basically Loni and Tamar gots to go lol
+Carolanne Tomsine I think Loni pointed out a realistic fact, Tamar speaks for herself.
Yes Tamar yes 😡 it absolutely drives me crazy, when I say I'm tired my husband gives me an attitude but when I'm willing and ready and he says he's tired I'm supposed to be caring and understanding. Double standards are too real😬
Tamar can never let anyone have their opinion... unless they're agreeing with her
Yes! I kid you not, I said the exact same thing so long ago!
Okay here's the deal. *takes a deep breath* Now, on this subject whether you are a man or a woman, If your a virgin or not a virgin, If someone is feeling like they want to slow down and not rush into having sex and they tell you no, you have to respect that PERIOD. I am definitely agreeing with Tamera and Jeannie right now. Tamar not so much because opinions like hers, is the reason why good men are always getting a bad name. Women are always used to men wanting to go the fast route and then when they deal with a man that wants to slow things down, they quickly assume that he could be seeing someone else or he might be gay. Come on ladies be honest with yourselves how would you feel if you started dating a guy and you wanted to take things slow and he started to think that you were with another man or that you might be a lesbian but deep down you just really wanted to take things slow and you try to convince him but he just doesn't believe you. You would feel hurt right? Well how do you think those men that are really ready to settle down and not just have sex with you feel because all you doing is just assuming??? Give the good ones a chance and stop blowing them all away cause you could be blowing away your future husband.
Jeannie looks so pretty here
the audience was so quiet when tamar was like "men don't ever want to just take it slow" lol
ok so we're all agreed jeannies our favourite? da fun were tamar and loni talking about...
Jeannie's serving up Wilma Flintstone realness! Hair stylist did a great job.
Tamar is tripping I can so see vince telling her no especially the way she be getting on his nerves on Tamar and Vince girl if you don't!
When me and my boyfriend started dating he literally did not touch only if I did he would show some love and I liked it cuz I felt comfortable like nothing was rushing me
"I ain't never had that problem." Lies you tell, Mrs. Braxton-Herbert! 🙄🙄😅😅
i love girl chat ,you get to know each and individual personality
Tamar must've had a terrible experience with men, because she's always assuming the worst. It's like she has no faith in men what so ever.
+797sexii That's exactly I'm saying!
+797sexii Yes if you watched some of her old interviews she talks about how she was abused and mistreated by different guys in the past
+Allyson Messina it's always an ulterior motive like... girl who hurt you.
Her man either that's she do protective of Vince, checking his phone, not wanting him away from her, she's very insecure
+Kedra Trimble she's extremely! If you watch Tamar and Vince you can tell.
the way tamera says "shaved her legs for nothing" gets me everytime 00:29
A guy told me he didn't want us to go deep in the relationship when we kissed and it made me
Love him even more .
Jeannie think she slick. She know she was about to say car instead of couch. Lol high school days 😏
lol, agreed! she said "getting out of the...couch and slamming the door"
+Kevin Johnson I thought she was going to say bed,lol
I love Jeannie's reaction! Lol
I'm 100% sure that text is fake.
😂
+h Bag lmfao i know right, people just photoshop text convos now to get attention
Right
Me too.
Not because men can't be uninterested in a woman or anything like that, but just the way "her" response was to him seemed very conveniently unreasonable and out of nowhere.
OMG when jeannie said..MEEEEEE? hahahahahaha
The shade is so real I caaaaaant
“If you say no, it means NO!!”
Jeannie is the BEST
what happened with me. lol and now 5 years later we are together and because of that respect he have me my trust for him is great :)
+Laura Duran yay im so happy 4 u ^_^
I refused my husband on the first time he tried. I was livid that he tried. I asked him later what would he have thought of me if I had given in. . .he said, he would've have taken me seriously. I would be perceived as loose. I've been married for 24 years. Get over it! We gets tired. . . Husbands AND Wives
Raquel Rene' so HE propositions you for sex, and if you agreed YOU would be loose?🤔
SparklingJuice247 Exactly! Where's the logic in that?
Well since he propositioned you he probably did the same to other women. Shows his views on women as a whole
Nice husband. Admitting he asks women for stuff then judges them as "sluts" if they agree to the same thing he himself asked for. Sorry but he sounds backwards.
first time I disagreed with y'all (well maybe not Tamera) but y'all are acting a little sexist. DOUBLE STANDARDS AF
I give Adrienne props for keeping that smile pasted on her face the entire time during that exchange with Tamar. You could actually see the point when she caught on to what Tamar was insinuating.
Yaaaaas to the longer girl chat and the amount of times Adrienne said absolutely as everyone predicted haha 😹🙌
I’m so glad Tamar isn’t present anymore in the current shows
They don't even realize that they just proved the double standard. If a guy doesn't want sex it doesn't mean he's gay. Chill. SMH ... you can say no buy he can't? Not ok.
Tamar sometimes has a very one sided view and can only see things based on her experiences rather opening her mind to another point of view. It is possible for a man to be respectful and not want to go there so early.
+Dara Dray AMEN! YES!
I know! She's lives in a very black and white world
Thank youuuu! She so closed minded. Like not everybody has the same experience as her and she needs to open her mind and understand that
She likes to be right.
+Kedra Trimble But it doesn't mean she's always right.
Attention: There are a lot of men, no matter their age, who are virgins and/or choose to wait until marriage.
Most men want a real and serious marriage. And not all women and men play these dating and conversational games. Men and women need to respect when either gender says No. Respect boundaries.
Jeez Tamar! Give Adrienne a BREAKKK!! There are still STRAIGHT HIGH VALUE MEN in the world with respectable moral compasses.
Adrienne is so beautiful!
It’s the double standards for me they feel like they should be able to do whatever they wanna do but when it comes to a man setting boundaries in the relationship now it’s a problem
THIS WAS SO AKWARD!
I catch those little faces Adrian be making hahaha
I disagree with Tamar's comments. Every guy is not playing a game. The "players" seem to overshadow and cloud the mind of women that begin to believe that there are no good men. There are REAL MEN that don't wanna think of the woman beyond appropriateness because they genuinely want get to know the woman for who she really is. Every guy isn't gay. Every guy isn't a cheater.
#BlackWomanThatDoesntThinkAllMenAreDogs 😊🙏🏾
media makes women think all men want is sex. that's not true.sometimes I get offended when I get ready all for my husband to be intimate with me and he says I'm tired or I'm not feeling it. but I take a breath in and out and ask him if he's okay. sometimes men are tired, or stressed out. and it has nothing to do with you. instead of freaking out if your husband doesn't want to be intimate with you, comfort him and see what's really causing him not to feel it. maybe he had a long day at work or someone pissed him off or he's facing something.
+Tanya Paulino Can't a person just not be in the mood?? Dag.
+Tanya Paulino I honestly thought men always want it.
+Cassandra Muzik yea me too. I realized that when you grow in a deeper relationship then you and your man don't have to be intimate every night or everytime. some days my man will be exhausted from a long day at work so all he wants to do his take a shower and relax. and as a wife you got to understand it's not all about you. and the same goes for men when they want to have sex. we women can be the same in not being in the mood because of a long day or time of the month and etc. he got to understand it's all about him.
+Tanya Paulino it's not all about him. that's what's it's supposed to say in the very end
Lonnie knows Adrienne was being rejected with that face 🤣🤣🤣
Or it could be that a man has a spiritual preference and would like to have sex as what it is created for... MARRIAGE. There are still guys out there like that :)
Jeannie so cute! I would love to be friends with her and Tamera, and Adrienne.
"Dont play with me like that, that aint funny - Tamar ... classic
My now husband was the same way with me. He turned me down for sex and explained that he wanted things to be in a deeper level. We took things slow and ended up together for life!! Slow down ladies it’s not a blow to your ego. Some mature men just want more.
Adrienne looks so hot here.
“I believe he said it” 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Tamar and Loni just cause you've had bad experiences doesn't mean everyone else has the same problems you do.
Can't they just listen to Adrienne's story and not make her look like she's dumb with the awkward silences and subtle shady looks.
PS. those are the vibes I'm getting...maybe I'm misreading the situation...anyway great segment 😊😊
The ladies look really pretty...I miss them & this panel of conversations. I'll be glad when they get back in the studio!
Loni... You didn't make any sense. You're talking about labels and yet you/Tamar are saying something in the water isn't clean because a guy chooses to move slowly when it comes to dealing with a woman and/or being intimate. I'm definitely gonna have to agree with Tamera here and even Adrienne.
There's some gentlemen out there. Just have to look for them.
i would really love to hear Tamera talk about what it was like to explain to guys that she was going out with the she was saving herself. like how do you have that conversation and not make them offended at all?
I feel like they should have addressed the double standard with men not wanting sex a little more instead of flipping it to cater to their female audience. I am first and foremost for humanity and if we are to truly move forward and have "equality"(if that can really even be explained or legislated ) then we can not brush over the issues that affect both WOMEN AND MEN( I put the word women first to be "politically correct" and sensitive to all the misinformed and misguided feminist and/or "activist" reading this). Other than that I really like The Real, and I glad that they brought this topic up.
It definitely could be because a man wants to slow down and take the relationship more serious he doesn't have to be gay or not into her. That's such an ignorant statement Tamar. I love you but no ma'am.
adrienne and tamera are right on this one. just cos you havent met a guy like that doesnt mean they are not there!! also, the girl sending these text was wrong, though it was understandable,it was still out of order
"yeah don't play with me like that, that ain't funny" 😂