Sam Hyde's important advice to socially awkward people
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- Опубликовано: 1 окт 2024
- "Nothing is as unbearable for a man as to be completely at rest, with no passions, no business, no diversion, no work. That’s when he feels his nothingness, his forlornness, his isolation, his dependence, his weakness, his emptiness. Boredom, gloom, sadness, fretfulness, resentment, despair will swell up from the depth of his soul." -- Pascal, Pensées
The secret is to do you're meant to do. When you got this together, everything else clicks.
(I have actually experienced this and knows EXACTLY what he means.)
Become sexually attracted to awkward situtations.
Aka: try masturbating in the McDonald's drive thru and bust while they're giving you your change back.
A beautiful blue eyed white women yelled out "your gay" because I was more attracted to the awkward situation than I was to her identity
I can verify this works, but people tend to get creeped out. Embrace it.
Kinda like Nick Mullen’s advice for small dick guys, just get a humiliation fetish and it’ll all work out.
@@spacemanbill9501 hells yeah that's what's up
Sam speaks the truth here, it took a few years but I started lifting weights, got a career I enjoy, got a girlfriend, and now she pegs me.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
LMFAO!!! That was so not expected at the end.
We're all gonna make it, bros 🙏
Based
Nothing wrong with getting pegged but if you do you’re not a Kang
Sam's secret to confidence and not being socially awkward is to be 6'5.
That's a defeatist mentality to just chop it up to height
Being tall makes it worse bro, if you're short and socially awkward you can blend into a crowd.
If you're tall and socially awkward you stand out like a sore thumb and everyone notices.
@@goblez5900 tall people can get through life much easier than short people unless they’re crippled or something , don’t even try and gaslight otherwise
@@jimmybags6598 Tell that to my chronic back pain bro.
@@goblez5900you're physically weak and your skeleton is folding on you
I just speak over everyone around me and I never let anyone say anything
Julian feels personally attacked.
Based
dude he was telling a story
"IM HAVING AN ATTACK!"
For me, my social awkwardness faded as I got older and got more life under my belt. I think It really comes down to being unsure of yourself. You don't want to go through the process of making mistakes and then learning from them because making social mistakes is often pretty embarrassing. I think people become hyper sensitive to that feeling and want to avoid it at all costs, which in turn only makes you think more inwardly and therefore behave more awkwardly. Coming to the realization that everyone is socially awkward sometimes, and that other people don't care about your social mishaps nearly as much as you do helped me get out of my own head. You have to allow yourself to be human, and even the most charismatic people can be socially awkward sometimes. It's just part of the human experience.
Bro I need you to know, I spend too much time chronically online looking for comments worth reading. I’d say I find about one in a thousand or less.
Excellent insight brother
well said
was never aware of that, nice one man!
I screenshot this comment, printed it out, framed it, and kissing it against the wall because it’s very true advice.
I can completely back you on this, im exactly the same. I'm almost completely different to what I was like 3-4 years ago in terms of being socially awkward. I used to always be quiet and was even called out on it sometimes, which didn't help. I'd say for me it started fading right after highschool when I hit the gym. I realised that I put myself down and had low self esteem because of it. I assumed what people were thinking and automatically thought they disliked or judged me already. The realisation that I wasn't as weak as I thought I was not only physically, but mentally. I gradually gained the ability to be outgoing when I wanted to be, and the socially awkward side of me slowly started to fade. Even if you're fundamentally not extroverted, that doesn't mean you can't be outgoing, it just means you don't like it. You can change yourself, but it takes time. I'm still not the person I want to be yet, but I'm getting there. Push yourself to talk even if you don't want to, the worst thing in my opinion is to just sit there and be quiet, don't be afraid to talk. I'm not saying this in a bad way, I was quiet too and it just led me to be even more insecure and embarrassed in so many situations. Start small even, just try to give input in conversations when you can, try not to let someone completely carry the conversation, start one about something else. Best of luck.
The most extroverted people always tell me they are introverted. That shit annoying as hell.
Maybe you're just fundamentally misunderstanding introversion vs extroversion.
It's about energy. An introvert gets their energy from being alone. They can be social and even very "extroverted." But it's exhausting. It drains them.
An extrovert gets their energy from being around others. They can be alone, but it's exhausting for them.
You don’t understand that you can develop great social skills as an introvert
I think another important thing is trying to surround yourself with people who you enjoy being around. It's even more exhausting trying to socialise with people you don't like, but it's a lot easier if it's with people you do like.
Oh ya just seek comfort the rest of your life that will help you in the long run😂😂😂 don't give advice if your the one who needs it
@@leatherman180 It has nothing to do with comfort it's about seeking companionship from people who are like-minded and who are not tiring to be around.
I don't see how comfort relates or even if it does that it's a bad thing. If your main take away was "having relatable friends is comfortable and that's bad" then you're a fucking idiot my friend. Drop ultra-macho bit you just look r*tarded.
@@leatherman180 You want to hang around with toxic dopes you go right ahead lol don't give advice if your the one who needs it
Taking social advice from Sam is like asking a woman for directions.
You might think this... You might also think about his working class background and the fact that he made this whole thing pretty much by himself. He's not some rich kid who took off from his parents' prestige, he's an hardcore dude who made it on his own. I'd rather take "life advice" from a guy like Sam than from most any Hollywood actor around these days. He had to do the whole thing.
@pantsmonsterv6are you saying Sam is a pedo?
@pantsmonsterv6 Got any links?
@@hyperTorless his family was very wealthy
@Pantsmonster v6 i heard he also shot up a school
Even if you do embarrass yourself in public one thing you should know is that every passerby will forget you as quick as you forget them, so the only person razzing you is yourself.
This took me way too long to figure out as a teenager lmao
Everybody is the main character in their own mind.
people can record anything now
I really do think as you live and get out, social anxiety does fade. Everyone is different but at 26 I really couldn’t give a piss what the other smelly people in Walmart at 2PM on a day off think of me. We’re all just getting by.
its almost as if 90% of humans have no goals in life and the other 10 takes advantage of that
Using filler words similar to “umm”, “nom sayin’” and “like” is something everyone should move away from. It’s okay to have blips of silence when you speak. Your words carry more weight. It takes practice, but really think before you speak and you’ll be more articulate.
Im like Sam. Im a bit of both an introvert and extrovert but when I have to be "on" in social situations, it takes me days to recover.
Just remember that everyone around you has that sane potential to feel awkward at any time & we’re all just moving through the same world.
Julian taking every opportunity available to mention "i"M RiCh."
You need to have some source of self esteem that isn’t other people. So you can tell yourself something like, regardless if these people like me at least I can fix cars and those skills make me valuable. Something like that.
Another thing that really helped me was turning 30. For some reason I was just like, it doesn’t matter if I’m cool anymore and I’m too old to be shy.
What skill/career do you do when you're not interested in anything and have basically given up for the past 3-4 years? I'm 22 and it already is starting to feel late. Before I know it, I'll be doomed. I just don't know what to do with my life. Try to get a tech job? A trade? Self deletion?
@@m1r197 Definitely not the last one. I don’t have all the answers but I’ll tell you what I’d tell my younger self if he asked.
First start working out if you’re not already. I know this is common advice but ppl feel better through out the day when they’re exercising regularly. In my experience it works better than antidepressants or therapy or any of that stuff. Also, start drinking creatine.
Next get a job. It doesn’t matter what it is really. Most ppl don’t feel passionately about their job anyway. If you have the skill set for a tech job I’d say do that. When I was your age I worked as a waiter, I was around girls (like waitresses and hostesses) I took home tip money everyday and I knew I could quit whenever I wanted and it wouldn’t be a big deal. I didn’t start the job I work now until I was 28.
Last, keep in mind that your brain is the last organ to fully develop and it takes until you’re 25. You’re still becoming the person you’re going to be so don’t stress about not having it all figured out yet
There’s a tendency around your age to put off taking action because ppl want to have more certainty before making decisions. But I think ppl would benefit from starting something, whatever it is, and just kinda learning as they go. Gaining life experience is better than waiting
Hope this didn’t come off too preachy man, best of luck to you
you might be autistic as far as the eye contact, it's a sort of sensory overload, like looking at a million pieces of info that are conveyed in a humans face and eyes every second and the autistic brain is not wired for that. all sam's advice is way to go but if need therapy, find IFS by Richard Shwarz because it's free, (don't need a therapist), if you understand it properly and it's better than almost any clinical therapeutic relationship because most models are dogshit/ineffective because they are pathologizing
It definitely makes sense that Sam is introverted and why most people don't like him.
i still think theres a difference between introverted comic career plus videos and sketch. vs. someone who throws up before going to the grocery store...Introverted...
@@HowsYourFaceFeel No doubt. Some level of social awareness is important, but the world is mostly extroverted and they all think introverts are weird (even if they aren't tool bags about it) and still keep us a distance regardless.
taking the complexities into account does make all the difference.
Two things drive social awkwardness: anxiety and insecurity. Deal with those and you'll be a normal human in no time
facts, but i still dont know how to properly address those
@@SuperSaiyanScandinavian throw yourself into uncomfortable situation.
Travelling help 🖒
but why are those 2 a thing in the first place
"You are fat and gay because youre fat and gay. Deal with being fat and gay and itll be fixed"
@@beganitdidnt6535
They are good protection mechanisms that keep you safe from social and physical danger at a basic level, but they can get out of hand and take over your life.
Insecurity is the result of childhood issues like bullying or neglect, and anxiety is the method by which your body tries to help you avoid the situations that might trigger the insecurity, which eventually becomes almost everything.
No one can hurt you if you turn into a recluse who never interacts with anyone and feels no emotion. You will be completely miserable, but the protection mechanisms will be doing their job in keeping you safe.
For me they stemmed from being bullied, being overweight and going through a bit of a fucked childhood, so I just cut off everyone emotionally and physically.
Once I figured out that insecurity was running my life totally, it became much easier to deal with it.
It was counselling that really made the penny drop about what the source of my problems stemmed from and allowed me to go and do the work on myself to get over the extreme anxiety and insecurities I had all my life.
Being consumed by something is actually big advice. There’s a saying “idle hands are the devils playground” and it’s true. When I have a project or goal to work towards you’ll have more time to care less about it
glad someone else enjoys Jippy. reminded me of what my father growing up used to say way back. that the key to overcoming that barrier, like most things in life, is to take it with an enthusiastic start, but Only after a restful mind has given it consideration. that you should prioritize, ""not getting stuck in your head so often", and having an actionable plan while always giving such thoughts a night's rest before acting upon them. says it got him through awkward stages and meeting folks like nothing else. In other words, to just basically " think it, dream it, and do it" , as he'd like to put it
When you realize everyone around you is just insecure who wants to fit in. You will realize it’s pointless. My anxiety went down, and confidence went way up after figuring this out.
yep, i remember being like 14 thinking to myself “how does everyone have everything figured out” then the more people i talked to i realized i had my shit together more than i thought.
100% facts
Barefoot dude keeps interrupting good advice and literally brings nothing to the conversation 😂
This is what weed does to your brain.
Who are these jokers next talking too much? They arent adding anything to what sam is is saying and have 0 real insight to offer.
we have all been a lvl 1 thug
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We are ALL the SAME PERSON experiencing life in a BUNCH OF DIFFERENT BODIES!!! which means that EVERY PERSON that you meet, is really just YOU...LIVING IN ANOTHER BODY!! you see..you are INTERACTING with YOURSELF at ALL TIMES!!! & once you understand this, you can achieve unity!
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what the fuck are you talking about
Hey viewers, as someone who is socially awkward myself and an introvert you are not going to want to hear this but the best thing to do is to just throw yourself in there. I know you are thinking "yeah but I got the anxiety and I am socially awkward, and it is easy to just say throw yourself in there but.." I hear you. I agree especially, I thought the same thing for years but you just need to find something you gel with or someone you like hanging out with and tag along with them or find things to do socially on the subject matter you like. Are you going to be socially awkward and weird? Yes of course. Are others around you also socially awkward and weird? YES! No one is perfect but you will slowly get more comfortable interacting with folks and not spilling your spaghetti over time, you will develop relationships and then become one of the people in these groups who is a mainstay in time. And then the energy of interaction will deplete less because you will need to act less "extroverted" in time.
I still have the same problem as Sam, if you are introverted by nature you probably always will have that problem, and that is okay! You don't have to go and do everything every time and all at once. Take some time to recharge and then get back out. You sometimes have to force yourself and just decide that today is the day you are going to try something new, or experience something different and JUST DO IT.
Best advice. I’m still a little shy, but it used to be way worse. It only got better when I started tagging along with friends to parties and other social situations filled with complete strangers. Now I’m at the point where I can go out and accidentally disappear from the group I was with because I’m talking to random people. It’s pretty much exposure therapy.
thanks for this
Julian should form more coherent thoughts before speaking and interrupting, right now he just comes off as annoying and spotlight-seeking.
I love the random 17khz droning sounds in the earlier pgl episodes
Sam’s secret to confidence is having rich parents.
Fail. I didn’t have rich parents, did exactly this and turned my entire situation around. Worst thing you can do to yourself is rob your life of accountability for your own actions and being
No person on the right, that is not at all literally what you said 🤣
Yeah what the weed smoker said had absolutely nothing to do with what Sam was talking about
My advice for anyone with social issues from someone who has had a lot of issues in the past is that if you ever find yourself in a situation where you are being called out for being awkward or just in general being picked on to just start fucking shit up. It's not fun to pick on someone when they start making your life a nightmare or physical threats.
That’s terrible advice. You should just own it and say yeah I am awkward so what
@@MeatCatCheesyBlaster yeah physical assault works much better
what if you're 5'2" and someone can pick you up like a baby
Great advice. Also I'm 4 years old and shit my pants
Lmao yeah just have an autistic meltdown every time someone says anything negative about you, that'll show them.
Sam is the dad y'all zoomies and millennials need. Listen to this man.
Noone should have this man as their dad, thats super cringe
Ew
@@JackieLombardi >anime pfp
I miss bic on pgl
2 klean Kanteen litre bottles on the table??! Unbelievably based Sammy tank
Sams advice was actually 💯
Learn the art of not giving a fuck and you will never have social anxiety again lol
Bic, you seem like a good enough feller and youre intelligent and amusing, and you do bring something to the table apart from your stockinged feet, but by god youre gonna hafta not interrupt Samwise quite so much, ok bro
“If he’s 30 it’s all over.” Man that one hit deep lol
Sam is like the aggro son in the Prodigal Son. There are latebloomers and people who turn things around seemingly over night, but that probably strikes him us unjust.
Still, they are the exception and I think it's good that he's lighting a fire under the ass of zoomers
@@jfair803 - I couldn’t agree more man… I’ve definitely made some mistakes in my life but I truly believe it’s not over for me yet. I’m still a Sam supporter regardless but damn, that statement hit close to home lol
@@ThePinnacle415When you see a 60 year old man or woman, you have to ask yourself , how much are those people gonna change really? even if they put all their effort in to their life.
There is a time where you aren't gonna be able to much to be different. And that starts around 30.
i just go for walks around town and act like frank hassle, this unironically makes me more of a people person and less introverted
Can you tell me please what song is this for intro and outro???????????
Its weird, when I was 20, and had a 6 back shredded body I was EXTREMELY socially awkward, to the point where I couldn't even get a job. Now i'm 30 borderline alcoholic and overweight but more confident than ever and making bank without even trying, you just stop caring at some point. Need to hit the gym though.
Cu your drunk all the time you tend to not care about things, but in moderation it should be healthy
@@SmokeyFuck started going again last week as I have now forced myself to go into the office after working from home for three years, already lost 5lbs just from walking
@@SmokeyFuck what u work as?
none of this works
Embrace the cring you cowards
Yes, my lord
You just have to be a psycho
This is great advice.
Just be yourself bro
I relate to Bic a bit too much here.
Guys!!! I'm glad there are others lol😂
I realize it's just other mes anyway
5:40 this is so true
Good nutrition and exercise.
Works. Every. Time!
Actual solid commentary from Julian this ep
What is Sam smoking is that tobacco or vape?
those first five pgls w bic were under rated
Sam Hyde the truth
JUST DO IT
I have a difficult time CROSSING THE STREET
Therapy.
@@shawnmendrek3544 is for social retards, and wont fix them
Sam's advice is not important.
just BEE yourself 🐝
This is beautiful
I cant stand when when sam’s creepy socially awkward gremlin talks on these vids
he is a fkn gremlin isn't he
You’re right but leave Bic alone
@@SG_88 not after what he did in that garage
@@jakec2229 huh
I don't really care when he talks because I can just ignore it, but it infuriates me when he interrupts
Like
“Be gay.”
WWWW SONG IN THE INTRO
based advice
Real shit.
social skills arent a thing
people either like to be around you or they dont
I'm 29 female and it comes and goes. Theirs time where I dont even want to say hi because I know the conversation will drag and that alone is exhausting. 😅😅 my advice is get with an extrovert. My bf will talk for us both. I love him ❤❤❤❤
Girl, socially awkward men can’t get women lmfao
@@plexxarbiitch 90% true but theres autistic girls that you could land and if you are a 10/10 women will still want you
Getting social confidence in adulthood is easy.
You just need to make sure you have it by the time you turn 15, if you don't, you're fucked.
That ain’t true at all. It’s something you build up, day after day. If you allow yourself to be alone all day and stagnate socially, you will have a hard time. Just gotta get in the habit of interacting and talking to people regularly, everyone from your barista to your coworkers to the dude standing in line in front of you.
I was super confident when I was 15 or 16. Then out of nowhere I became awkward from the age of 17-22, and then my confidence began to rise again. Im 26 now and more confident than ever. So I don't think you need confidence by X age or otherwise your fucked, there are clearly other factors at play
Not true..
Bic flame is the man 🔥 👑
I can talk to anyone, I just suck at eye contact
Bro said he was an extrovert but then said he could only do it for 20 minutes before getting tired. Thats deadass introversion😂
1:37 he literally says he’s an introvert
he literally says he’s an introvert
joeyy always knew he was goated
Martial arts.
sam