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I truly believe that there are good people it's hard to find real people personally I don't have true friends but I see some people who have lots of friends always wondered what iam doing wrong it seems like I am in the wrong place
As a lonely man, I rather be lonely than have any friends. Most were trash. Many discouraged me to achieve my goals. Some got jealous and always tried to out do me. Some took advantage of me. No one cared about me and cared more about themselves. I had enough of people. I rather be alone
I understand. You had friends since you were 6 years old. Get back to your school friends. They don't give a damn about your success (or failures). Find them and refresh that friendship. BTW You don't have any real friends at the moment. Ask yourself why. (I have no idea why because I don't know your life).
@user-xd9xy5yl9l Those friends I knew at age 6 are the ones who convinced me to steal things with them at age 11 and I got arrested while they ran away leaving me to rot. Doesn't matter anymore. I'm a multi-millionaire. I used to beg people for them to be my friend and even cry. I wanted to pay them $1000 dollars to go to Las Vegas with me in my 30s. They were all trash in the end. None of them were loyal.
I can relate on all the levels you've pointed out...didn't matter whether they were childhood friends or people you're related to by marriage thinking I'd have a new experience having "sisters,", or people you thought you were having a connection/vibe with. I always say don't go against your instincts or discernment and definitely know when to let go once the mask comes off no matter how difficult, disappointing, or sad it makes you feel because there's never denying the truth no matter how far back the friendship goes and once you begin to reflect on things over the years, you begin to realize that their jealousy/envy or resentment and insecurities had always been there, it's just they were "given a pass" or it was brushed off and overlooked. But sooner or even many years later, the mask comes off and there's the truth staring you in the face. To make it easier to cope with I just slowly began to distance myself until it was easier to cut ties completely.
This isn't a lie and for some reason overbearing people just want to try to implant themselves into your life in some aspect. Like your coworkers all of a sudden think you are this big family and half the time you think they are assholes so no why would I buy you a birthday card amd place money in it. I don't even want to see you while I am here much less hang out with you on the other side of those doors. Also my position only required I be friendly towards you not friends with you amd so as long as I am doing my job properly you shouldn't be a le to hold my life hostage to whatever relationship you believe I should have with you thats obviously not work related.
@@Rowan-mo4ko You've spoken my life experiences... indeed. Sometimes, people just need to learn how to read the room or the person. It doesn't mean the person is in a bad mood, or it doesn't mean something has to be "going wrong" because we're not engaging or being talkative as a group. Sometimes or even most times, people/I simply just don't have anything to say or add to the discussion.
Loss my best friend in car accident in 2008. I grew up with him and the friendship was tested and proven to be genuine. Most will never find a true friend but when you do cherish it. I've tried to find new friends but not everyone understand how to be a friend so I stay to myself just to protect my peace.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's never easy to lose someone close to you. It's true that genuine friendships are hard to come by, but when you find them, they are truly invaluable. It's okay to take your time and protect your peace while navigating new friendships.
The way I relate to this so hard. A real friend is so hard to come by, knowing that you lost your best friend in 2008 and still haven’t found someone else like that makes me sad. I lost my best friend in 2017 and it’s been hard making friends since and I’ve learned to just keep to myself as well. I hope you end up finding a good friend :)
@@TaylorAntia sorry for your loss. It almost feels like yesterday. The way it happened was crazy. I was in military and was about to head back out of state and we end up crossing paths right before I left as if God knew how much he meant to me so he gave that last interaction. Mind you I was a good distance from the neighborhood we lived in visiting my cousin, out of thousands of streets my bestfriend could have turned down it happened to be the street I was on.
It's hard to find a true friend in life. I had friends in primary school and then high school but eventually you lose touch with people. After that I made friends through different jobs but ended up losing touch with them too. I met a like minded brilliant lassie at my work. There's 16/17yrs between us but she has an old head on young shoulders. Our lives were actually quite similar growing up. We get on like a house on fire and I can't imagine not having her as a friend. She just gets me and would never shit on me like so called friends in the past. She's a genuine salt of the earth lassie. Very hard to find in this day and age. Quality over quantity any day.
A smart ass this Seneca - with the emphasis on the "ass". Some people are driven to come up with "words of wisdom" all the time to deflect attention away from the fact that they are pretty stupid.
im still kind, others can't abuse it anymore, as i refuse to give myself up, what others do to me, i won't, cuz this is me, and we are very very few left.
Same for me when asked to do some volunteer work. I just found myself being used and not building real friendships anyway. It never led to anything serious. I was told, it will facilitate your search for a job and so on... It turned out to be just Bs... especially in a country such as Canada that uses newcomers and then dumps them like a used tissue. I no longer trust Canadians now.
I can totally relate! There's something really special about finding peace and happiness in solitude. It's a great opportunity to recharge and focus on ourselves. Keep enjoying those moments of tranquility!
I've come to find that any physical pain I experience around people actually goes away when I'm alone. At first I thought maybe I was on my feet too much or I was straining myself doing too much physical work, but then it would go away when I went home. I've really been wondering about that lately.
I’m the same, but a part of me feels like Im abnormal and I should be doing more stuff with other people. Then I do, but when I get home again I feel like I wasted my day.
When I first left the city and moved to these woods, I found I watched less television and began interacting more with nature. Eventually I moved the tv into an attic loft. Then people started to fall away and I became ok with that. Now I photograph nature and use that as references to paint. I never knew I could paint!! Now when people call me, if they do, its almost a bother. I prefer meeting strangers, making a little friendly chit chat and then scurrying back here to my birds and butterflies. I love my alone time. Well, not alone…just absence of humans❤
Birds and butterflies do not paint or take photographs, why are you? In getting away from other humans, you are, in fact are a nuisance to all those creatures around you, the environment included.
@@sammas2959 im sorry you act like an outsider in your own world. Whatever happened to u in this life, I hope you find peace one day. Blessings on you. 🦋
I have lived the last 10 years mostly alone. I have 2 dog's. There are people in my life now. But it's mostly me. I always like to be alone more than with people. I came here alone, and leave alone. Everything in life will teach me.
Life proliferates all around us, yet all living things are individual units of that life. Sectionality and compartmental existence is all our experience. Some, group into sets and subsets...or even hurds. Others follow spontaneous mobs. And then there are those that depend on themselves. Perhaps a kindred life may be beneficial at times, however...no truer words have been said than we arrive alone, and leave the same way! Don't fear the quiet time spent with yourself....many spent lifetimes trying to reach inner reflection while being embedded into large social groups....they never knew that quiet, solitary passage of time in our own company is the way to find our true inner selves! I wish you good journey on your unique path. I will walk mine as it may be!
I’ve always wanted friends but never really had any. I am now okay with being alone because alone has always been there from a child to an adult. Now as an old woman I can understand why people are okay with their loneliness. It’s nothing to be afraid of embrace it and not let it scare you.
"Want" is a burden. You want friends. I want the moon 🌙. Want/thirst is the source of our sufferings! Most men want beautiful young bubbly women (see all the video clips out there of these women). The men (moon guy included) who want this will never have enough. Want.
If loneliness is all you knew, it's all you will know. If popularity is what you knew, loneliness is a torment you will know. Sadly I'm feeling the latter
@@This_tubliked what you wrote. Guess I’m somewhat in the middle now but have been to both sides. Retired early a few years ago and it was quite the eye opener. Not many stayed in touch and even now I find myself reaching out more than I’m reached for 😢. Makes me believe I don’t and didn’t know how to be a good friend…
@MaxineShaw-de7bh Does it matter? You enjoy your own company. That says a lot about you, your confidence and your ability to just get on with it. Without any drama. I lived with someone for 35 years. The last ten have been the happiest of my life. Drama free. Make my own choices. Do and go where I want. If people are friendly, I'm just as friendly. If people do not fit, I avoid. Find it less stressful. Best of luck to you. Like me, may you be happy in your loneliness. Ohhhhh, sorry for the bud, bad assumption, my apologies.
I liked what the narrator said:" talk not to impress , but to express". I really liked that. Please like my comment so that I can get reminded later on. I dont have a secretary, and no friends either. Lol🐈🎶
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that the words resonated with you. Keep engaging with the content and you'll always have a reminder to come back to.
Well your dog certainly didn't. But considering that Jesus (if there ever was one) died centurys ago then half of what you just said is bollocks. But dogs truly are worth having around.
I'm disabled now and apart from work Its hard for me to get out. I lost all my friends as a result of my disability. I wasn't excting, flexible for going out etc, I learned that they weren't diamond friends after all. I was sad at first . Now I realise they were fake friends and they're loss, but I do miss connections. I have only my pets now. They are always there to love me unconditionally. I'm ok with that ❤. I would say to all of you reading if your able to get out in the world and make connections to do it. You never know when your life will do a 360 flip as in my situation and become disabled. I'm young too. Life is always changing so takes opportunity when it knocks. Blessings to all 🙏
Yes,i empathize with you. I’ve been ignored because I don’t gossip, or talk about mundane things. I love reading, writing,talking about quantum physics and such, gardening etc. most people find that boring, but then again i find those same folks uninteresting…so it’s a win-win.😂
I am also disabled. When I first became disabled, the superficial people fell away. At first I very depressed about tht, I am ok w tht now. I prefer the company of my cats more than most people.
Thank you, As an introvert, I will take those actionable steps to become exceptional at creating meaningful connections meanwhile weaving my life's tapestry a single thread at a time
I appreciate your commitment to personal growth and meaningful connections. Keep taking those actionable steps, and you'll surely become exceptional at creating the connections you desire.
John 15:14 (NKJV) You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. Proverbs 18:24 NKJV A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
I know just what you mean. My husband despairs at my consistent reluctance to not use the phones he buys me (I have never yet bought my own). I often let it go so long that I forget how to use it. Don't care either.
I'm never lonely. I know that's a blessing because so many people are. I wish I could bottle how much I like being alone and give it to those who don't.
It has been awhile since I found your channel and want to say how much I have enjoyed your videos. Over my 70+yrs. I have learned and practiced stoicism before I was aware it was a philosophy. Today's videos had phrases I have used over life. I have always believed life is a tapestry and each person we meet is a small thread, sometimes they become long threads and interwoven in different parts. My personality type is an INFJ, so I love spending time alone. As my life is getting shorter, and I am retired, I have found time to reflect and enjoy looking back at my tapestry to see all the colorful threads and patterns that have been created. Thank you for your work.
John 15:14 (NKJV) You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. Proverbs 18:24 NKJV A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
@@ChosenOne1967 John 15:14 (NKJV) You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. What kind of friendship is that supposed to be? Sounds more like master and slave.
You must have interests which others have, even just talking here suggests a certain value you look for, being a loner is hard. I hope you can make a friend with a meaningful connection, if not I still hope you live a life of value. You can grow and find tolerable people, I hope this helps in some way.
After suffering countless deaths of close family members over the past few years. I was truly shocked how very little people gave a shit... A real eye opener for sure 😕
The dead are rarely honored or thought of...cementaries are wastelands. Everyone's too busy competing w/ egos in their own lives to care about someone else.
I can empathize with your pain and lose. I too have lost so many loved ones. The majority in a very short period of time. It’s an extremely difficult and sad situation to be in. To say that time heals all is irrelevant to me. I think over time it gets easier to deal with life having a certain person not in it anymore. But the pain and reality of losing someone so close to you never goes away. I have tragically lost friends, parents and other loved ones. Each one hurts a little different. But I am a mom who lost her son as well as so many others and that pain is something that no one ever wants to feel. It’s been nearly 10 years but it’s still just as painful as if it just happened. But I can push through it a little easier than before. I’m sorry for your loss of your loved ones. I understand your pain. ❤❤❤
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that you're open to travel companions. It's always nice to have someone to share new experiences with.
About 4 years ago all my friends seemed to just fall away. It seems odd but I am happy to not talk much anymore. That is my 1st thought every morning.....thank goodness I don't have to make conversation. I am very grateful that my spirit brought me to Hawaii 20 years ago so surrounded by beauty that it makes everything just fine.❤
I can understand how it must feel odd for your friends to just fall away, but it's great that you've found contentment in not having to make small talk every morning. It's wonderful that Hawaii has brought you so much beauty and peace for the past 20 years. It sounds like you've found a true sense of happiness and tranquility there.
Me too! Maui.....jungle and quiet.....loud singing birds. Im a therapist, I literally despise small talk. I define friends as those that understand this and can tolerate silence.
Interesting. It was 4 years ago, roughly, that my cleansing happened. Everyone was removed from my life. They attacked, betrayed, abandoned. Whatever... It hurt, but I am actually ok with it. They point figures and say I am at fault, but truthfully I feel more insightful and present in myself than I ever have. I was just drowning in unhealthy people most of my life.
I started and run a women’s group. We hold space to witness each other. We listen with attentiveness and compassion. Listening deeply is a gift to be treasured ❤
Not even my parents were friends to me. They abandoned me every chance they got so I grew up with zero desire for friendship with anyone. I am alone and absolutely happy with no one in my life to take me for granted, take advantage of me, judge, criticize, slander, backstab, disappoint or betray me My family is around 500 people (16 brothers on my mom's side, 14 on my dad's) and I've saved so much time, energy and money not being involved with anyone
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It sounds like you have found contentment in being independent and not relying on others for validation or support. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.
Matthew 10:34-39 NKJV “Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’; and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’ He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
Being alone: no drama when plans are changed, when I decide I don't want to do something, change dinner plans, decide what to watch, no one questions what I buy, bothered by when I go to bed (or not). The pluses are endless.
My Life is finally on the right track and I refuse to let just anyone take my alone time. I treat everyone with kindness, but only 2 or 3 have access to my personal life.
All of my friends went by the wayside. Either due to drug addiction or mental illness. One moved to China and stayed. I tried and could never make connections like the ones I had in my teens and 20s. And I'm OK with that. I know it sounds cliche. But I'm married to my best friend. He's literally my favorite person in this planet and had been since I was 15. I never loved or cared about anyone like I care about him. We both have had friends come and go. And avoid making new connections because people are tied to drama. And we just don't want that. I badly want to make new friends now because I get lonely. But finding and making new friends in this day and age is not easy.
I completely understand where you're coming from. It can be tough to find genuine connections as we get older, especially with the prevalence of drama in social circles. It's great to hear that you have such a strong bond with your husband, and I can relate to the desire for new friendships without the drama. It's a delicate balance to strike, but I hope you find the right connections in due time.
To make friends takes having a real interest in others and taking time ... to desire friends to serve our need for company ...that is what some may consider frirndship. Ugh. Self-centred thinking poisons potential friendships.
John 15:14 (NKJV) You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. Proverbs 18:24 NKJV A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Thank you, I find that I’m an introvert. I’ve always felt that true friendship was rare thing built over time. The friends I have I consider them as my brothers or sisters. Thank you for the lesson today.
A lack of friends can indicate various things about a person's life or personality. It might suggest that they're very introverted, preferring solitary activities or deep introspection over socializing. Alternatively, it could imply they're highly selective in their friendships, valuing quality over quantity. It might also hint at social anxiety or difficulty in forming connections due to past experiences or personal challenges. However, it's essential not to jump to conclusions; everyone's social needs and circumstances are different. Thanks for sharing
As you get older, you will find that even if you do jump to conclusions, you won’t regret it. I would much rather jump to conclusions and make a mistake than not jump to conclusions and regret my mistake.
I have 5 adult children..all are trustworthy and loving. They are my friends beside my wife of 63 years. No drugs in the bunch and no criminals..I am blessed..thank you Lord.
As I get older,I realized that I’m not happy anymore with the circle of friends I used to have . We all have different interests,while I enjoyed gardening,traveling and outdoor activities they enjoyed partying eating out in the fancy restaurants.I slowly removed myself and now I have peace . Looking forward to find a place where I can volunteer in our local community and hopefully to meet someone with the same interest. Very inspiring to listen to this …Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's great that you've found peace by surrounding yourself with activities and people who align with your interests.
I think that’s how I’ve found it to be, they just have different interests, and even though I’m friends with coworkers, I don’t hang out with them after work, or for that matter before work. There is also quite an age difference. Having different interests isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as it might be something that you might develop an interest in. I’m in a new area for me (I’ve lived where I presently live for about a year and a half), but I’m not too sure about groups or other places I can meet people. I’m probably a lot better in a forum like social media, as I’m an introvert, and a little on the shy side, at least with people I haven’t met before.
I've been dumped and rejected by so many. Now at 50 I only have two friends, I wish it was easier to make new friends in this day and age. I do have a wonderful boyfriend now, who's definitely my best friend. But I do crave a really good girl friend. It's challenging not knowing many people but it has made me look at myself and change somewhat for the better.
I am a sigma male, so I can adapt to things most can not, and stoicism and Christianity help me to be a better me. Both allow me to see things in another light than my own.
@@Mr_Originality why diss this, Mr “Originality”? 🙄 The OP has obviously worked to attain a good measure of personal insight, and recognises sigma male characteristics in himself. The mistake he has made is to share that insight with people like you (As a stoic, @mountainwolf1 should know better: he should keep his self-development to himself.)
@MI6-W amen. The righteous is more excellent than his neighbour: but the way of the wicked seduceth them. The slothful man roasteth not that which he took in hunting: but the substance of a diligent man is precious. In the way of righteousness is life; and in the pathway thereof there is no death. Prov 12:26-28. Thank you for sharing the word with others stay strong and keep faith.
As a child I was alone and remember fondly playing with my imaginary friend. Then I grew up. Being alone is again something Ive worked toward my whole adult life. Now I’m retired with no debt and can finally enjoy my alone time once again. I don’t have to answer to anyone but myself. It’s such a blessing.
thanks for sharing your thoughts. It's totally okay to outgrow friendships and prioritize your own well-being. Quality over quantity, right? Wishing you all the best as you navigate through this new chapter in your 30s.
John 8:12 (NKJV) Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, “I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.”
Perfect video, I felt like I wanted to abondon my friends but deep down I knew that was not the answer, because its people I trust which is rare these days, I listen to them not with intent to reply, but with intent to get a deeper understanding of what they are going through, life is rough but we should know that these are times where we should stick together as one and not leave one another, I love them and I am very hard on them because of this factor, it hurts me seeing them get hurt because I want to protect them, but I know this is not possible, because that's the world we live in, you have to be strong and the only way to achieve this, is to exsperice it for yourself, and add stoicism to your way of living, to aid in identifying future opportunities and build unbreakable bonds with people you trust
I can't even begin to tell you how grateful I am about all your helpful content. I often throughout my life have felt left out, ignored, skipped by or totally and directly mistreated even by my own closed love ones " like my own mom"! I have always tried to be positive and ignored the negative but now and over my 50's I can't help but notice it. I get ignored even at church! Can't help but wonder " what's wrong with me" ?!
There is nothing "wrong" with you - you have merely associated with inconsiderate people, and have been too dependent on other people's opinions. Develop a sense of self, and confidence, and realize that your own sense of self-worth is more important than the petty opinions of shallow people.
I used to count up how many close friends I had. Once, it was 25! Was so proud of myself. I grew up, learned to love being by myself, prayed for self love every am and now “only” have three fabulous best friends. I can give and receive more, with less. I realized I didn’t need a “crowd” to love and be loved. I also married my soul mate for 25 years. I’m good now.
When you said you know, you don't know. When said that you have enough, you don't! 3 friends or indefinite friends is the same when one realizes that we are interconnected.
@@jemezfun9767Repent and know Jesus everyone, God created us in his image,He knew you before you born. He knows your thoughts and intentions of your heart.and wants to have relationship with you through His son ,/ Jesus shed blood atonement for sin.Read the gospel of John, Mathew, .
@@Joel-yi8gbJesus" 17:29 ,I am the way,the Truth and the light,no one comes unto the father but by me." Etrnity with the creator of the universe who loves you.or etrnity in hell that was meant for the devi- the demons, not us , Jesus work on the cross, blood atonement, Free from sin and power in the name of Jesus over the devil and sin, and healing. Jesus/ the Holy Spirit want to enter into your heart and life ( abundantly).
Stoicism ,,many have suicided, while God/ Jesus wants to have relationship with man ,whom he created in His image.,and Loves you , but the devil is a deciever,( hell is real place meant for him & his demons, not us) We make the choice ,for eternity. Read the gospel of John. Mathew , Jesus is Lord of all, Healer, consoler, lover of our souls
I'm an ENFP, ENFP's are the most Introverted of the Extraverts. I'm also a Triple Virgo ♍️ and a Manifesting Genetator. I'm currently more than halfway done writing ✍️ my second Poetry Book, 'Waterslide Time Machine Portals' BOOK OMEGA. At the end of June, I left a huge social group I belonged to for over 29 years and joined another. For the past year, I've been attending both meetings. I finally realized my old group of friends and associates began to stop talking about God/Divinity as the solution. My new group, which is larger and made up of more spiritually healthier and like-minded people, talks about God/Divinity as the solution all the time. When One begins to be directed by the Divinity found within through daily prayer and meditation, One begins to trust The Divine Within and then can recieve the proper direction. Go Within. Discover the Divinity within. Follow the guidance from Divinity on a daily basis. This is what I've been doing for years! 🎉 Great video.
I have come to understand that the lack of social interaction, has a far more important effect, so being alone, increased my need for spiritual growth, and changing old addictive behaviours, which trapped me into thinking I needed these people. Becoming my authentic self, took its toll, by way of losing many acquaintances, friends and long term friends as well as close intimate friends. My main reasons for being abandoned, became obvious when I couldn’t participate in usual outings and activities and home visits, through developing a chronic lung disease, after a heart attack. Sickness sorts out the sheep from the lambs when it comes to honesty and intention.
Growing up, friendships were strongly discouraged by my parents. At thirteen I experienced betrayal at the hands of a best friend. Now at 47, I have no meaningful relationship outside my sister. I interact with those I work with. But no real lasting connection with people I am content No regrets
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you've been through a lot when it comes to friendships. It's understandable that it has made it difficult for you to form meaningful connections with others. I hope that you are able to find a sense of trust and connection with people in the future, at your own pace.
At school i had a few good friends who i lost contact with when went different ways. I worked very very hard having started with nothing and became quite wealthy. Over the years nearly every friend I've had in the end always wanted something from me. I enjoyed you presentation and it made me think about two friends i still have whom i don't keep in regular touch with. They've never asked anything of me. So its time to spend a little more time nurturing those valuable connections. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's great to hear that my presentation resonated with you and prompted you to reflect on your friendships. It's important to recognize and nurture those valuable connections in our lives. Wishing you all the best as you spend more time with your two friends.
The interesting thing is that’s how a lot of people are with their friends in general. I live a modest life, but I’m who friends and family go to in their time of need also. I think it’s just how many humans are. Fortunately , so far,I don’t feel taken advantage of. I imagine if they thought I was wealthy it might be different. Yes, I suggest you foster those friendships…. 🙏🏼❤️
Thank you.That was a great video! I am an introvert, I have a few close friends but I cherish all the people in my life. I often think of how grateful I am to have met such wonderful people who inspire me and motivate me to be better. The special people in my life are close to my heart.❤
It's great to hear that you have a close circle of friends who inspire and motivate you. It's always important to have people in our lives who bring out the best in us. Keep cherishing those special connections!
I love spending time with myself. I never feel lonely or like I miss people. I find it to be very peaceful. The only people that are my true gems are my man and my daughter; they delight me with their creative thoughts, unique perspectives and sense of humour. They bring enriching layers into my life without drama, stress, and fakeness.
Thank you for reminding me I shouldn't compromise what I believe in just for the sake of having friends who don't share what I believe, as well as actively chipping away trying to force me to change. So it's better to have zero friends in life than sticking with those who want to force me to change just to be with them.
most people seek only social validation. i used to have perhaps five 'friends' but let them fall by the wayside, and now have two with whom i am in infrequent touch. the other is a stoic, the other crazy, but still authentic and i can be true with them. i miss no one else, but i'd miss them. authentic people are hard to find.
I'm much happier just chatting briefly to someone in a supermarket queue and walking away. I've had friends, when I thought it was terribly important as a kid, dropping them one by one through my trens and twenties. But really, I just like my own company, working in my own garden, no one complimenting it or telling me what best I should do and where, yap-yap-yap, no sound except for the song of birds, the burp of frogs, the buzz of bees, and the odd surprise of a visiting fox or otter. The wild creatures and plants are comfortingly non-judgemental.
I used to feel like something was wrong with me because I was a loner. Now at almost 40, I'm very comfortable and happy with the fact that I'm a shy loner. I'm happy keeping to myself.
I was very social when I was younger. As Marcus writes, life narrows. As I have aged my circle of friends has grown smaller but the three I have left, I cherish. Thank you for this video ❤
@@maryalex1401 i honestly don't know. I just started to notice they were acting differently. I asked them twice but they just kept pointing fingers at each other. nobody really wants to answer. At least let me know so i can correct my mistakes if i had done anything wrong. And if i did you know i don't mean it. so they kept in silence. i just got tired at that point. it's like im begging for friendship. we've been together for years and i can't even get a simple explanation.
@@StoicAbsoluteRealmSAR Hello again, my friend, thank you for your reply. Well, It could most likely all be due to their insecurities, jealousy of you etc. Also take into consideration that there are simply many people out there who do not really value true friendships and are inconsiderate of the implications of their actions. And Even if they do come back in the future, things will never be the same again. The damage now is irreversible and you wont be really able to become close friends again. Try and accept and validate the loss and move on. Seek for deeper connection with things in life. You will be a lot stronger, independent and true to your self. Peace to you, friend. 🙏🏻
You are absolutely right. although i didnt think of that first coz i dont want to be negative about it. but I really think its jealousy and insecurity. Yes, i found meaning to everything now. Thank you! I came across this message yesterday " God reduced my circle because he heard conversations i did not" Peace and Love my friend!@@maryalex1401
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I truly believe that there are good people it's hard to find real people personally I don't have true friends but I see some people who have lots of friends always wondered what iam doing wrong it seems like I am in the wrong place
As a lonely man, I rather be lonely than have any friends. Most were trash. Many discouraged me to achieve my goals. Some got jealous and always tried to out do me. Some took advantage of me. No one cared about me and cared more about themselves. I had enough of people. I rather be alone
I wish you were my neighbor because it sounds like we went to different schools together.
Please let no one steal your joy. You do not have control over what people do, but you have control over how you react to it.
I understand. You had friends since you were 6 years old. Get back to your school friends. They don't give a damn about your success (or failures). Find them and refresh that friendship. BTW You don't have any real friends at the moment. Ask yourself why. (I have no idea why because I don't know your life).
@user-xd9xy5yl9l Those friends I knew at age 6 are the ones who convinced me to steal things with them at age 11 and I got arrested while they ran away leaving me to rot.
Doesn't matter anymore. I'm a multi-millionaire. I used to beg people for them to be my friend and even cry. I wanted to pay them $1000 dollars to go to Las Vegas with me in my 30s. They were all trash in the end. None of them were loyal.
I can relate on all the levels you've pointed out...didn't matter whether they were childhood friends or people you're related to by marriage thinking I'd have a new experience having "sisters,", or people you thought you were having a connection/vibe with. I always say don't go against your instincts or discernment and definitely know when to let go once the mask comes off no matter how difficult, disappointing, or sad it makes you feel because there's never denying the truth no matter how far back the friendship goes and once you begin to reflect on things over the years, you begin to realize that their jealousy/envy or resentment and insecurities had always been there, it's just they were "given a pass" or it was brushed off and overlooked. But sooner or even many years later, the mask comes off and there's the truth staring you in the face. To make it easier to cope with I just slowly began to distance myself until it was easier to cut ties completely.
People who enjoy being alone are never lonely. Great video! 💪
100 percent.
This isn't a lie and for some reason overbearing people just want to try to implant themselves into your life in some aspect.
Like your coworkers all of a sudden think you are this big family and half the time you think they are assholes so no why would I buy you a birthday card amd place money in it.
I don't even want to see you while I am here much less hang out with you on the other side of those doors.
Also my position only required I be friendly towards you not friends with you amd so as long as I am doing my job properly you shouldn't be a le to hold my life hostage to whatever relationship you believe I should have with you thats obviously not work related.
So true
@@Rowan-mo4ko You've spoken my life experiences... indeed. Sometimes, people just need to learn how to read the room or the person. It doesn't mean the person is in a bad mood, or it doesn't mean something has to be "going wrong" because we're not engaging or being talkative as a group. Sometimes or even most times, people/I simply just don't have anything to say or add to the discussion.
Hands up those choosing to live alone 🙌🏻
I have done for 4+ years. Takes a bit getting used to and still have ups and downs like living with some one.
I rarely meet anyone who can listen to more than one or two words before they interupt you and go off on long winded stories about themselves.
Most people are too busy thinking about what they want to say to listen. You are correct. I'm better off talking to my old Bo dog.
People also ignore you and don't listen because they already have a response ready before you even finish your sentence.
😂. SO TRUE!
WOW; a pet peeve of mine!
Blabbermouths are bores, and a waste of one's time. Better to read a good book than to listen to a stupid blabbermouth.
"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." - Marcus Aurelius
Matthew 24:13 (NKJV)
But he who endures to the end shall be saved.
Loss my best friend in car accident in 2008. I grew up with him and the friendship was tested and proven to be genuine. Most will never find a true friend but when you do cherish it. I've tried to find new friends but not everyone understand how to be a friend so I stay to myself just to protect my peace.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's never easy to lose someone close to you. It's true that genuine friendships are hard to come by, but when you find them, they are truly invaluable. It's okay to take your time and protect your peace while navigating new friendships.
The way I relate to this so hard. A real friend is so hard to come by, knowing that you lost your best friend in 2008 and still haven’t found someone else like that makes me sad. I lost my best friend in 2017 and it’s been hard making friends since and I’ve learned to just keep to myself as well. I hope you end up finding a good friend :)
@@TaylorAntia sorry for your loss. It almost feels like yesterday. The way it happened was crazy. I was in military and was about to head back out of state and we end up crossing paths right before I left as if God knew how much he meant to me so he gave that last interaction. Mind you I was a good distance from the neighborhood we lived in visiting my cousin, out of thousands of streets my bestfriend could have turned down it happened to be the street I was on.
I lost my son in a car crash in 2008. At first I thought I might know you but sadly not. I pray you find another true friend.
It's hard to find a true friend in life. I had friends in primary school and then high school but eventually you lose touch with people. After that I made friends through different jobs but ended up losing touch with them too. I met a like minded brilliant lassie at my work. There's 16/17yrs between us but she has an old head on young shoulders. Our lives were actually quite similar growing up. We get on like a house on fire and I can't imagine not having her as a friend. She just gets me and would never shit on me like so called friends in the past. She's a genuine salt of the earth lassie. Very hard to find in this day and age. Quality over quantity any day.
"It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor." - Seneca
Epictetus spoke about this concept well.
So it’s better to not have ambition?
@@deeznutz294yeah stoicism advocates for passivity
A smart ass this Seneca - with the emphasis on the "ass". Some people are driven to come up with "words of wisdom" all the time to deflect attention away from the fact that they are pretty stupid.
A person who knows how to live alone is a person with a strong inner spirit......
Thank you for sharing your insight. Living alone definitely requires a strong inner spirit. It's a journey of self-discovery and independence.
@@thestoiccommunity Yeah and you can knock one off whenever you feel like it.
@@nelsonhibbert5267 That's right
@@MeaningofStoicism I did one yesterday it was a right laugh.
@@nelsonhibbert5267 It must be a wonderful thing, I can reveal it?
Being kind thinking I had friends got me betrayed. Now I am
Ok with being alone and pushing and finding myself.
''Being kind thinking I had friends got me betrayed''
Me too!
''Now I am
Ok with being alone and pushing and finding myself.''
Me too!
@@tonyadams8812 💯🙏🏽
Yes you are right
@@dianeamaral8151 ❤️💯Yes indeed.
im still kind, others can't abuse it anymore, as i refuse to give myself up, what others do to me, i won't, cuz this is me, and we are very very few left.
When someone I know says the word "networking", I usually stay away from that person.
It's totally understandable that the word "networking" might not be everyone's cup of tea. It can feel a bit overwhelming or even insincere at times.
Same for me when asked to do some volunteer work. I just found myself being used and not building real friendships anyway. It never led to anything serious. I was told, it will facilitate your search for a job and so on... It turned out to be just Bs... especially in a country such as Canada that uses newcomers and then dumps them like a used tissue. I no longer trust Canadians now.
aah, blind still, you get better.
you need to know that 'network' is a tool, no more no less, start seeing as it, specialy if you own a bussnines.
Omg such a fact
that's a problematic trope educate yourself to be more equitable when dealing with peoples feelings
Im most happy and at peace when im alone..
I can totally relate! There's something really special about finding peace and happiness in solitude. It's a great opportunity to recharge and focus on ourselves. Keep enjoying those moments of tranquility!
Facts
I've come to find that any physical pain I experience around people actually goes away when I'm alone. At first I thought maybe I was on my feet too much or I was straining myself doing too much physical work, but then it would go away when I went home. I've really been wondering about that lately.
I’m the same, but a part of me feels like Im abnormal and I should be doing more stuff with other people. Then I do, but when I get home again I feel like I wasted my day.
In my silence I talk to god who is my inner voice.
When I first left the city and moved to these woods, I found I watched less television and began interacting more with nature. Eventually I moved the tv into an attic loft. Then people started to fall away and I became ok with that. Now I photograph nature and use that as references to paint. I never knew I could paint!! Now when people call me, if they do, its almost a bother. I prefer meeting strangers, making a little friendly chit chat and then scurrying back here to my birds and butterflies. I love my alone time. Well, not alone…just absence of humans❤
One might even say closer to God. Imho
Birds and butterflies do not paint or take photographs, why are you? In getting away from other humans, you are, in fact are a nuisance to all those creatures around you, the environment included.
@@sammas2959 im sorry you act like an outsider in your own world. Whatever happened to u in this life, I hope you find peace one day. Blessings on you. 🦋
@@sammas2959 troll
@@sammas2959 .....or maybe you are the nuisance 🤔
I have lived the last 10 years mostly alone. I have 2 dog's. There are people in my life now. But it's mostly me. I always like to be alone more than with people. I came here alone, and leave alone. Everything in life will teach me.
I like you.
Life proliferates all around us, yet all living things are individual units of that life. Sectionality and compartmental existence is all our experience. Some, group into sets and subsets...or even hurds. Others follow spontaneous mobs. And then there are those that depend on themselves. Perhaps a kindred life may be beneficial at times, however...no truer words have been said than we arrive alone, and leave the same way! Don't fear the quiet time spent with yourself....many spent lifetimes trying to reach inner reflection while being embedded into large social groups....they never knew that quiet, solitary passage of time in our own company is the way to find our true inner selves! I wish you good journey on your unique path. I will walk mine as it may be!
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
I’ve always wanted friends but never really had any. I am now okay with being alone because alone has always been there from a child to an adult. Now as an old woman I can understand why people are okay with their loneliness. It’s nothing to be afraid of embrace it and not let it scare you.
"Want" is a burden. You want friends. I want the moon 🌙. Want/thirst is the source of our sufferings!
Most men want beautiful young bubbly women (see all the video clips out there of these women). The men (moon guy included) who want this will never have enough. Want.
If loneliness is all you knew, it's all you will know. If popularity is what you knew, loneliness is a torment you will know. Sadly I'm feeling the latter
@@This_tubliked what you wrote. Guess I’m somewhat in the middle now but have been to both sides. Retired early a few years ago and it was quite the eye opener.
Not many stayed in touch and even now I find myself reaching out more than I’m reached for 😢. Makes me believe I don’t and didn’t know how to be a good friend…
@@sammas2959 Bad analogy.
God is always with us. Take heart ❤
Being alone and enjoying your own company is the best thing you can do for yourself. It works for me and my life is drama free.
Me too bud
@@glasgowG53 Lol true yet I'm a lady that wrote this comment.
@MaxineShaw-de7bh Does it matter? You enjoy your own company. That says a lot about you, your confidence and your ability to just get on with it. Without any drama. I lived with someone for 35 years. The last ten have been the happiest of my life. Drama free. Make my own choices. Do and go where I want. If people are friendly, I'm just as friendly. If people do not fit, I avoid. Find it less stressful.
Best of luck to you. Like me, may you be happy in your loneliness.
Ohhhhh, sorry for the bud, bad assumption, my apologies.
@@glasgowG53 Did anyone ask your opinion. Lmao I think not. Now carry on 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Exit stage right 👉👉👉👉👉
That makes two of us.
I learned to enjoy my own company. ❤
I liked what the narrator said:" talk not to impress , but to express". I really liked that. Please like my comment so that I can get reminded later on. I dont have a secretary, and no friends either. Lol🐈🎶
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that the words resonated with you. Keep engaging with the content and you'll always have a reminder to come back to.
@@thestoiccommunity9:33 9:35
I also had to jot that down as a reminder, it hit home.
❤❤
You have God!
When the business took a hit only Jesus and the Dog didn't abandoned me.
Well your dog certainly didn't. But considering that Jesus (if there ever was one) died centurys ago then half of what you just said is bollocks. But dogs truly are worth having around.
@nelsonhibbert5267 don't worry, you'll find out one day. Until then, I pray you change your mind.
@@jeffreybaier5312 Do you believe virgins get pregnant?
Ark of the covenant was found with blood of Jesus on it blood tests shows he only had one parent
You really don’t need anybody else do you? Although a nice lady would be OK. God help us.
I'm disabled now and apart from work Its hard for me to get out. I lost all my friends as a result of my disability. I wasn't excting, flexible for going out etc, I learned that they weren't diamond friends after all. I was sad at first . Now I realise they were fake friends and they're loss, but I do miss connections. I have only my pets now. They are always there to love me unconditionally. I'm ok with that ❤. I would say to all of you reading if your able to get out in the world and make connections to do it. You never know when your life will do a 360 flip as in my situation and become disabled. I'm young too. Life is always changing so takes opportunity when it knocks. Blessings to all 🙏
Yes,i empathize with you. I’ve been ignored because I don’t gossip, or talk about mundane things. I love reading, writing,talking about quantum physics and such, gardening etc. most people find that boring, but then again i find those same folks uninteresting…so it’s a win-win.😂
everyone ditched me when my health went and i cant forgive so now i just dont even try to make friends
🤗. 🕊️. 💘. 4; u! ☺️
@@freespirit-111me also
I am also disabled. When I first became disabled, the superficial people fell away. At first I very depressed about tht, I am ok w tht now. I prefer the company of my cats more than most people.
Thank you, As an introvert, I will take those actionable steps to become exceptional at creating meaningful connections meanwhile weaving my life's tapestry a single thread at a time
I appreciate your commitment to personal growth and meaningful connections. Keep taking those actionable steps, and you'll surely become exceptional at creating the connections you desire.
Not only are you an introvert like me, but also a writer like me 😊
@@Joel-yi8gb Thanks much appreciated brother
I love being alone. Everyone pretty much betrayed me due to jealousy. But I have found inner peace being alone.
sometimes the biggest challenge is being at peace with yourself , once you reach that inner peace you can be helpful to others
Pra'bhu 🙏 you have almost reached enlightenment, nirvana (the act of breathing).
We help others because others are us!!
True
John 15:14 (NKJV)
You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
There are only a few gems in my life..don't need baggage of negativity❤
I don't even like my phone to ring just to talk to people that cannot stand being alone...ugh so draining
😢 this hit me different than your name 😅
Phones do have an on and off button. ughh - that difficult to get it?
I hear ya!
Serve others. One day you may be that person phoning. No one knows what the future holds
I know just what you mean. My husband despairs at my consistent reluctance to not use the phones he buys me (I have never yet bought my own). I often let it go so long that I forget how to use it. Don't care either.
I'm never lonely. I know that's a blessing because so many people are. I wish I could bottle how much I like being alone and give it to those who don't.
Having friends is dangerous as most friends don’t have good intentions
I second that 💯%
Two-faced friends are worse than none.
I am never lonely and i thank God fo the grace he give me. I enjoy myself and am giving, cheerful and optimistic. To God be all the GLORY. AMEN 🙏
It has been awhile since I found your channel and want to say how much I have enjoyed your videos. Over my 70+yrs. I have learned and practiced stoicism before I was aware it was a philosophy. Today's videos had phrases I have used over life. I have always believed life is a tapestry and each person we meet is a small thread, sometimes they become long threads and interwoven in different parts. My personality type is an INFJ, so I love spending time alone. As my life is getting shorter, and I am retired, I have found time to reflect and enjoy looking back at my tapestry to see all the colorful threads and patterns that have been created. Thank you for your work.
Also an infj. Don't we love our time alone.
Thank you for sharing your experience and insights! I'm glad my videos have resonated with you, and I appreciate your support.
I am also an INFJ and crave solitude.
Being lonely is nothing like being alone. It's ok to be alone, peaceful and make what you do experience valuable.
Bingo, I'm alone, but not lonely.
I noticed that the deeper and more conscious the inner life of an individual is, the lower the number of superficial people that surrounds them.
Agreed
True.
They have learned not to waste their time on shallow people.
I am an INFJ Personality. I appreciate the Stoic philosophy immensely
Me TOO! INFJ ROCKS!
Me too. But I love and get along well with ENFs and ENTP , as well as xSFJ. Hard to find. @@rebeccaholt8965
I have zero friends, and I am better for it. People are trouble that I won't tolerate.
Can I be your friend?
You must of had some bad experiences
John 15:14 (NKJV)
You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
@@ChosenOne1967
John 15:14 (NKJV)
You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
What kind of friendship is that supposed to be? Sounds more like master and slave.
You must have interests which others have, even just talking here suggests a certain value you look for, being a loner is hard. I hope you can make a friend with a meaningful connection, if not I still hope you live a life of value. You can grow and find tolerable people, I hope this helps in some way.
After suffering countless deaths of close family members over the past few years.
I was truly shocked how very little people gave a shit... A real eye opener for sure 😕
The dead are rarely honored or thought of...cementaries are wastelands. Everyone's too busy competing w/ egos in their own lives to care about someone else.
I can empathize with your pain and lose. I too have lost so many loved ones. The majority in a very short period of time. It’s an extremely difficult and sad situation to be in. To say that time heals all is irrelevant to me. I think over time it gets easier to deal with life having a certain person not in it anymore. But the pain and reality of losing someone so close to you never goes away. I have tragically lost friends, parents and other loved ones. Each one hurts a little different. But I am a mom who lost her son as well as so many others and that pain is something that no one ever wants to feel. It’s been nearly 10 years but it’s still just as painful as if it just happened. But I can push through it a little easier than before. I’m sorry for your loss of your loved ones. I understand your pain. ❤❤❤
I literally have one friend that I grew up with who I consider to be my brother. That is it, everyone else I just know.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that you're open to travel companions. It's always nice to have someone to share new experiences with.
Well, you have one more than most.
@@Ac_Adapter😂 I thought the same thing, I thought I missed the message.
@@themacocko6311and for that reason, I have gratitude for our friendship (brotherhood).
About 4 years ago all my friends seemed to just fall away. It seems odd but I am happy to not talk much anymore. That is my 1st thought every morning.....thank goodness I don't have to make conversation. I am very grateful that my spirit brought me to Hawaii 20 years ago so surrounded by beauty that it makes everything just fine.❤
I can understand how it must feel odd for your friends to just fall away, but it's great that you've found contentment in not having to make small talk every morning. It's wonderful that Hawaii has brought you so much beauty and peace for the past 20 years. It sounds like you've found a true sense of happiness and tranquility there.
Me too! Maui.....jungle and quiet.....loud singing birds.
Im a therapist, I literally despise small talk. I define friends as those that understand this and can tolerate silence.
Interesting. It was 4 years ago, roughly, that my cleansing happened.
Everyone was removed from my life.
They attacked, betrayed, abandoned.
Whatever...
It hurt, but I am actually ok with it. They point figures and say I am at fault, but truthfully I feel more insightful and present in myself than I ever have.
I was just drowning in unhealthy people most of my life.
Right,how much can ppl continue to talk about without being repetitive.
@@4everu984 what if it is deep talk but they just talk a lot
At 60 years old, I can count my true friends on one hand. Without using my thumb. And I still have two fingers left over.
At age of 28 i have friend less than 5 and have NONE of any Best Friend
I have 1 more finger over you
Most form friendships with the world, as relates to Jas.4:4
@@Thesilentwatchers17 Yes.
Thank you. I feel quite lonely from time to time. Seems I am not.
I have half a pinky of a friend and I'm 34
I started and run a women’s group. We hold space to witness each other. We listen with attentiveness and compassion. Listening deeply is a gift to be treasured ❤
Sounds interesting
I wish there was something like that around here. Do you Zoom by any chance?
Speak to express, not impress, wise, know your true self worth. I love stoicism, lost wisdom rediscovered. Thank you for this.💞💞💞
Not even my parents were friends to me. They abandoned me every chance they got so I grew up with zero desire for friendship with anyone. I am alone and absolutely happy with no one in my life to take me for granted, take advantage of me, judge, criticize, slander, backstab, disappoint or betray me
My family is around 500 people (16 brothers on my mom's side, 14 on my dad's) and I've saved so much time, energy and money not being involved with anyone
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It sounds like you have found contentment in being independent and not relying on others for validation or support. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.
Looks like you a busy family 😊
Matthew 10:34-39 NKJV
“Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’; and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’ He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
Your most valuable friend is yourself.
True.
Being alone: no drama when plans are changed, when I decide I don't want to do something, change dinner plans, decide what to watch, no one questions what I buy, bothered by when I go to bed (or not). The pluses are endless.
My Life is finally on the right track and I refuse to let just anyone take my alone time. I treat everyone with kindness, but only 2 or 3 have access to my personal life.
All of my friends went by the wayside. Either due to drug addiction or mental illness. One moved to China and stayed. I tried and could never make connections like the ones I had in my teens and 20s. And I'm OK with that. I know it sounds cliche. But I'm married to my best friend. He's literally my favorite person in this planet and had been since I was 15. I never loved or cared about anyone like I care about him. We both have had friends come and go. And avoid making new connections because people are tied to drama. And we just don't want that. I badly want to make new friends now because I get lonely. But finding and making new friends in this day and age is not easy.
I completely understand where you're coming from. It can be tough to find genuine connections as we get older, especially with the prevalence of drama in social circles. It's great to hear that you have such a strong bond with your husband, and I can relate to the desire for new friendships without the drama. It's a delicate balance to strike, but I hope you find the right connections in due time.
I have the same experience.
To make friends takes having a real interest in others and taking time ... to desire friends to serve our need for company ...that is what some may consider frirndship. Ugh. Self-centred thinking poisons potential friendships.
Proverbs 31:12 (NKJV)
She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
I don't have friends because
I'm not interested in people.
Who you are, where you're from, what you like, what you want,
I couldn't care less.
😅
You are like a person who meditate by thing to sleep!!
John 15:14 (NKJV)
You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Thank you, I find that I’m an introvert. I’ve always felt that true friendship was rare thing built over time. The friends I have I consider them as my brothers or sisters. Thank you for the lesson today.
A lack of friends can indicate various things about a person's life or personality. It might suggest that they're very introverted, preferring solitary activities or deep introspection over socializing. Alternatively, it could imply they're highly selective in their friendships, valuing quality over quantity. It might also hint at social anxiety or difficulty in forming connections due to past experiences or personal challenges. However, it's essential not to jump to conclusions; everyone's social needs and circumstances are different. Thanks for sharing
As you get older, you will find that even if you do jump to conclusions, you won’t regret it. I would much rather jump to conclusions and make a mistake than not jump to conclusions and regret my mistake.
I'm quiet selective in who I keep close to me, I have 2 friends but I still keep my private life, Private
Highly selective in my friendships, valuing quality over quantity 💯
didnt this guy just say all that? hmmm....
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely.
“One who seeks friendship for favourable occasions, strips it of all its nobility.”
- Seneca
Your voice is mesmerizing
What a profound video! Thank you!
Much respect to the creators from a shy introvert
Thanks for the kind words! I appreciate your support.
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
I have 5 adult children..all are trustworthy and loving. They are my friends beside my wife of 63 years. No drugs in the bunch and no criminals..I am blessed..thank you Lord.
You are a good person who raised your children in a loving home, and treated them well. You are reaping what you sowed.
As I get older,I realized that I’m not happy anymore with the circle of friends I used to have . We all have different interests,while I enjoyed gardening,traveling and outdoor activities they enjoyed partying eating out in the fancy restaurants.I slowly removed myself and now I have peace . Looking forward to find a place where I can volunteer in our local community and hopefully to meet someone with the same interest. Very inspiring to listen to this …Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's great that you've found peace by surrounding yourself with activities and people who align with your interests.
Same.
I think that’s how I’ve found it to be, they just have different interests, and even though I’m friends with coworkers, I don’t hang out with them after work, or for that matter before work. There is also quite an age difference. Having different interests isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as it might be something that you might develop an interest in. I’m in a new area for me (I’ve lived where I presently live for about a year and a half), but I’m not too sure about groups or other places I can meet people. I’m probably a lot better in a forum like social media, as I’m an introvert, and a little on the shy side, at least with people I haven’t met before.
I've been dumped and rejected by so many. Now at 50 I only have two friends, I wish it was easier to make new friends in this day and age. I do have a wonderful boyfriend now, who's definitely my best friend. But I do crave a really good girl friend. It's challenging not knowing many people but it has made me look at myself and change somewhat for the better.
I have an annoyance with men and women just suck at socialising. No girl clubs.🎉
It does seem to be harder to find friends the older you get
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
You're feeding my brain & + all good stuff + truth ! Knowledge rocks !
This is one of the best videos on Stoicism I've watched. Thank You.
I am a sigma male, so I can adapt to things most can not, and stoicism and Christianity help me to be a better me. Both allow me to see things in another light than my own.
This guy really called himself a sigma male. 🤦🏾♂️
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@@Mr_Originality why diss this, Mr “Originality”? 🙄 The OP has obviously worked to attain a good measure of personal insight, and recognises sigma male characteristics in himself. The mistake he has made is to share that insight with people like you (As a stoic, @mountainwolf1 should know better: he should keep his self-development to himself.)
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
@MI6-W amen. The righteous is more excellent than his neighbour: but the way of the wicked seduceth them.
The slothful man roasteth not that which he took in hunting: but the substance of a diligent man is precious.
In the way of righteousness is life; and in the pathway thereof there is no death. Prov 12:26-28. Thank you for sharing the word with others stay strong and keep faith.
I like being alone - I’m more creative and productive when I’m alone. ♥️
I choose quality friends over quantity.
I do resonate with the principles of stoicism. I have been a hermit since 1995, Just by opening your channel, I know I have a friend like you.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
As a child I was alone and remember fondly playing with my imaginary friend.
Then I grew up.
Being alone is again something Ive worked toward my whole adult life.
Now I’m retired with no debt and can finally enjoy my alone time once again.
I don’t have to answer to anyone but myself.
It’s such a blessing.
Never abandon who you are.
Finally in my 30s and I am in fact alone. Not sure how to put it but if i had the chance to save any of those "friendships" ... I wouldn't.. 😊 👍🏾
thanks for sharing your thoughts. It's totally okay to outgrow friendships and prioritize your own well-being. Quality over quantity, right? Wishing you all the best as you navigate through this new chapter in your 30s.
Good for you!👍😊
"Life is neither good nor evil, but only a place for good and evil." Marcus Aurelius
John 8:12 (NKJV)
Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, “I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.”
I’m mine own Best Friend 👌🥂
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on my channel. Keep being your own best friend
Perfect video, I felt like I wanted to abondon my friends but deep down I knew that was not the answer, because its people I trust which is rare these days, I listen to them not with intent to reply, but with intent to get a deeper understanding of what they are going through, life is rough but we should know that these are times where we should stick together as one and not leave one another, I love them and I am very hard on them because of this factor, it hurts me seeing them get hurt because I want to protect them, but I know this is not possible, because that's the world we live in, you have to be strong and the only way to achieve this, is to exsperice it for yourself, and add stoicism to your way of living, to aid in identifying future opportunities and build unbreakable bonds with people you trust
Thank you for your video. I'm an introvert, and find it a challenge to find lasting friendships.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
I can't even begin to tell you how grateful I am about all your helpful content. I often throughout my life have felt left out, ignored, skipped by or totally and directly mistreated even by my own closed love ones " like my own mom"! I have always tried to be positive and ignored the negative but now and over my 50's I can't help but notice it. I get ignored even at church! Can't help but wonder " what's wrong with me" ?!
There is nothing "wrong" with you - you have merely associated with inconsiderate people, and have been too dependent on other people's opinions. Develop a sense of self, and confidence, and realize that your own sense of self-worth is more important than the petty opinions of shallow people.
My best friend died over a month ago 😢! She was a 💎 gem!
Sorry for your loss .
My thoughts are with you in this difficult time. Lost mine now 20 years ago and still find my mind wondering what they would say, do and be like.
I'm sorry for your loss. May your friend rest in peace.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
I used to count up how many close friends I had. Once, it was 25! Was so proud of myself. I grew up, learned to love being by myself, prayed for self love every am and now “only” have three fabulous best friends. I can give and receive more, with less. I realized I didn’t need a “crowd” to love and be loved. I also married my soul mate for 25 years. I’m good now.
When you said you know, you don't know. When said that you have enough, you don't!
3 friends or indefinite friends is the same when one realizes that we are interconnected.
Proverbs 18:1
An unfriendly person pursues selfish ends and against all sound judgment starts quarrels.
Thanks
I enjoy my own company. Thanks to my childhood trauma I find it hard to belong.
Never made that connection. I have to think about this. Thanks
@@jemezfun9767Repent and know Jesus everyone, God created us in his image,He knew you before you born. He knows your thoughts and intentions of your heart.and wants to have relationship with you through His son ,/ Jesus shed blood atonement for sin.Read the gospel of John, Mathew, .
@@Joel-yi8gbJesus" 17:29 ,I am the way,the Truth and the light,no one comes unto the father but by me." Etrnity with the creator of the universe who loves you.or etrnity in hell that was meant for the devi- the demons, not us , Jesus work on the cross, blood atonement, Free from sin and power in the name of Jesus over the devil and sin, and healing. Jesus/ the Holy Spirit want to enter into your heart and life ( abundantly).
Stoicism ,,many have suicided, while God/ Jesus wants to have relationship with man ,whom he created in His image.,and Loves you , but the devil is a deciever,( hell is real place meant for him & his demons, not us) We make the choice ,for eternity. Read the gospel of John. Mathew , Jesus is Lord of all, Healer, consoler, lover of our souls
It’s a struggle to make friends or being alone if u have CPTSD. I hope my therapy will help to let me feel happy again and love myself.
I'm an ENFP, ENFP's are the most Introverted of the Extraverts.
I'm also a Triple Virgo ♍️ and a Manifesting Genetator.
I'm currently more than halfway done writing ✍️ my second Poetry Book, 'Waterslide Time Machine Portals' BOOK OMEGA.
At the end of June, I left a huge social group I belonged to for over 29 years and joined another. For the past year, I've been attending both meetings. I finally realized my old group of friends and associates began to stop talking about God/Divinity as the solution. My new group, which is larger and made up of more spiritually healthier and like-minded people, talks about God/Divinity as the solution all the time.
When One begins to be directed by the Divinity found within through daily prayer and meditation, One begins to trust The Divine Within and then can recieve the proper direction.
Go Within.
Discover the Divinity within.
Follow the guidance from Divinity on a daily basis.
This is what I've been doing for years! 🎉
Great video.
I have come to understand that the lack of social interaction, has a far more important effect, so being alone, increased my need for spiritual growth, and changing old addictive behaviours, which trapped me into thinking I needed these people. Becoming my authentic self, took its toll, by way of losing many acquaintances, friends and long term friends as well as close intimate friends.
My main reasons for being abandoned, became obvious when I couldn’t participate in usual outings and activities and home visits, through developing a chronic lung disease, after a heart attack.
Sickness sorts out the sheep from the lambs when it comes to honesty and intention.
After covid and seeing how society and people were, I absolutely love being alone.
I have zero friends now. My closest ones stabbed me in the back 💔🗡
It happens as sad as it is....
It happens more than not.
Try Jesus and get a small dog 🐕 and you should be fine
@@jacquelinepenha3135 I have 2 small dogs now 💕
Literally?
Growing up, friendships were strongly discouraged by my parents. At thirteen I experienced betrayal at the hands of a best friend. Now at 47, I have no meaningful relationship outside my sister. I interact with those I work with. But no real lasting connection with people
I am content
No regrets
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you've been through a lot when it comes to friendships. It's understandable that it has made it difficult for you to form meaningful connections with others. I hope that you are able to find a sense of trust and connection with people in the future, at your own pace.
3 steadfast friends are all I need. The rest are just acquaintances.
Thanks!
People come and go like the clouds , detach enjoy what you get .
Absolutely. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! Keep enjoying and stay connected for more content.
I am never alone; always have 3 standbys - me, myself & I
Always remember every storm shall pass just hold on.
Lack of friends indicates that I don't need you telling me anything
Lol
I love being alone and enjoy my own company. The peace and calmness is priceless.
At school i had a few good friends who i lost contact with when went different ways.
I worked very very hard having started with nothing and became quite wealthy. Over the years nearly every friend I've had in the end always wanted something from me.
I enjoyed you presentation and it made me think about two friends i still have whom i don't keep in regular touch with. They've never asked anything of me. So its time to spend a little more time nurturing those valuable connections. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's great to hear that my presentation resonated with you and prompted you to reflect on your friendships. It's important to recognize and nurture those valuable connections in our lives. Wishing you all the best as you spend more time with your two friends.
The interesting thing is that’s how a lot of people are with their friends in general. I live a modest life, but I’m who friends and family go to in their time of need also. I think it’s just how many humans are. Fortunately , so far,I don’t feel taken advantage of. I imagine if they thought I was wealthy it might be different.
Yes, I suggest you foster those friendships…. 🙏🏼❤️
Thank you.That was a great video! I am an introvert, I have a few close friends but I cherish all the people in my life. I often think of how grateful I am to have met such wonderful people who inspire me and motivate me to be better. The special people in my life are close to my heart.❤
It's great to hear that you have a close circle of friends who inspire and motivate you. It's always important to have people in our lives who bring out the best in us. Keep cherishing those special connections!
@@thestoiccommunity ❤️
I love spending time with myself. I never feel lonely or like I miss people. I find it to be very peaceful. The only people that are my true gems are my man and my daughter; they delight me with their creative thoughts, unique perspectives and sense of humour. They bring enriching layers into my life without drama, stress, and fakeness.
Thank you for reminding me I shouldn't compromise what I believe in just for the sake of having friends who don't share what I believe, as well as actively chipping away trying to force me to change. So it's better to have zero friends in life than sticking with those who want to force me to change just to be with them.
Friends are people who haven't used you yet,is my observation
most people seek only social validation. i used to have perhaps five 'friends' but let them fall by the wayside, and now have two with whom i am in infrequent touch. the other is a stoic, the other crazy, but still authentic and i can be true with them. i miss no one else, but i'd miss them. authentic people are hard to find.
I always enjoy my own company. I only need my own family.
I don't even need family!! I am AUTONOMOUS!!
Friends are like a diamond, they are very rare, they are hard to find and the are a lot fake of them.
I except myself the way I am
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
Thanks, Stoic Community.
You are the Community!
I appreciate you guys helping me grow ❤
It is only when you are alone that you can truly be yourself.
I love being alone theirs nothing wrong with that 😅
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
@@ChosenOne1967 that's true
Peace and quiet are a blessing. Better than having a lot of noisy, jabbering people around.
I'm much happier just chatting briefly to someone in a supermarket queue and walking away.
I've had friends, when I thought it was terribly important as a kid, dropping them one by one through my trens and twenties.
But really, I just like my own company, working in my own garden, no one complimenting it or telling me what best I should do and where, yap-yap-yap, no sound except for the song of birds, the burp of frogs, the buzz of bees, and the odd surprise of a visiting fox or otter. The wild creatures and plants are comfortingly non-judgemental.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
I used to feel like something was wrong with me because I was a loner. Now at almost 40, I'm very comfortable and happy with the fact that I'm a shy loner. I'm happy keeping to myself.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
I was very social when I was younger. As Marcus writes, life narrows. As I have aged my circle of friends has grown smaller but the three I have left, I cherish. Thank you for this video ❤
my friends left me without even saying the reason why. i asked them but that they didnt bother to answer. we've been friends for so long.
They didn’t answer you, but do you perhaps know why they left without saying anything?
I had one like that too and I am still wondering why she didn't want to spend time with me anymore. Anyway, it doesn't matter now. She is dead.
@@maryalex1401 i honestly don't know. I just started to notice they were acting differently. I asked them twice but they just kept pointing fingers at each other. nobody really wants to answer. At least let me know so i can correct my mistakes if i had done anything wrong. And if i did you know i don't mean it. so they kept in silence. i just got tired at that point. it's like im begging for friendship. we've been together for years and i can't even get a simple explanation.
@@StoicAbsoluteRealmSAR Hello again, my friend, thank you for your reply.
Well, It could most likely all be due to their insecurities, jealousy of you etc.
Also take into consideration that there are simply many people out there who do not really value true friendships and are inconsiderate of the implications of their actions. And Even if they do come back in the future, things will never be the same again. The damage now is irreversible and you wont be really able to become close friends again.
Try and accept and validate the loss and move on.
Seek for deeper connection with things in life.
You will be a lot stronger, independent and true to your self.
Peace to you, friend. 🙏🏻
You are absolutely right. although i didnt think of that first coz i dont want to be negative about it. but I really think its jealousy and insecurity. Yes, i found meaning to everything now. Thank you! I came across this message yesterday " God reduced my circle because he heard conversations i did not" Peace and Love my friend!@@maryalex1401
I was just thinking about this today. I made a list of friends and wondered why it’s so short. This video answered my question.