My avoidant ex started pulling away and I did exactly what you suggest. Outcome. She found another man within weeks and wrote me message how good the man is. I gave the calm and cool answer and told to talk a year later. Before the sudden break up I was the best man ever, btw, supported her every way, I cared a lot and gave her a lot of space. I did nothing wrong. Someway I think I am not any exception...
It happens not only with avoidants but with all attachment styles. Your ex seems spiteful for whatever reason. Anyway as tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. You doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. This is something I've mentioned here: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html So it boils down to two options for you, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you. I suggest to disregard your ex's attempt to brag about her new relationship. Focus on yourself. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ruclips.net/video/STLjybyiaBQ/видео.html
@@marguskiis7711 these realtionships just don’t work, these youtube channels give us false hope because that’s how they keep getting views and make money. We need to keep things simple, someone’s action shows they don’t want us we walk away, period.
Isn't that karma at its finest? What do you plan to do next? If you still want to fix your relationship and ready to forgive him, then learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 because this lets you know the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html Good luck!
The first time she did that I dumped her sorry arse. I have zero tolerance for that sort of nonsense. I’m here figuring out how to avoid these emotionally stunted avoidant types, how to recognize them before getting involved because their ability to create an illusion of a healthy relationship by mirroring your love intimacy and affection is really quite amazing.
idk man. broke up 4 months ago and last talked 2 ago when i got my stuff. yesterday was my birthday and even tho she watches every story i post she never reached out. guess its safe to say shes not coming back
Walk away, learn the lessons and stay away from these kinds of people, you’ll be way better off. Think about it, 4 days of no contact is bad enough, 4 months isn’t insanity. You can do better
Well, she could be waiting on you and you could be waiting on her. This is why I never advise to take on a passive approach, if at the back of your head, you want to give things another shot. So moving forward, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
What should i do if my ex first starten to flirt saying she wants me back and all of a sudden she gets mad when i Ask if she is sure about her choice and told me that im calling her horrible or a liar she barely answer me but i wrote gn and she replied fast and Today starts to ignore me what should i do ?
Hi, I got a little problem and may not relate to this. A guy on fb used to text me and showed me kind of interest but that time i was preparing for my final MBBS exam so i didn’t pay much attention. Recently I had feelings for him ( after about 8 months) so I asked him if he’s in the town to meet but his response wasn’t very positive and he doesn’t even text me now like before. I kinda feel hurt and ghosted 😭
A lot of things can happen in 8 months though. Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@@breakupbradbrowning It’s actually not a breakup. He just asked me for a date several times when I didn’t have any interest ( He didn’t show me a genuine interest on me as i felt that time ) …
Hey Brad, quick question please:). I bought the X Factor and did everything just as I was supposed to. IT WORKED and we almost did get back togerher. BUT, then I fked up, I got drunk and told her some bullsh*ts, pushing her away from me. The next day she told me she thought I've changed, but now it looks like I didn't and that it was probably mistake to start talking again. I sincerely apologized and gave her space. What should I do now? Should I reset the whole month of no contact/do like 2 weeks and try again? Or should I just accept the fact I blew up my chances for good and move on? Thanks in advance!
Oh man you're pushing your luck here. For now, back off a bit... and familiarize yourself with the tips from the guide first, yeah? No need to reset but do give her space for about 2 weeks or so. As to your chances, it really depends. Take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Hey brad , my ex bf left me because he still had feelings for his ex and I was used as a rebound and rn he is chasing his ex , do you think I have any chance with him?
Uh oh...that's not good. I really hate to burst your bubble here but let him finish whatever unfinished business he has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if he’s seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with her. Good luck and I hope you find the right guy for you soon!
I’m just so confused we broke up almost 2 months ago and right away he started messaging me mentioning “friendship” even though I wasnt accepting it and wasn’t contacting at all, now the past weekend he flew 4 hours away to my city and reached out coming with the same friendship thing, we met up and he was cold, messaged me 6 times after he dropped me home and I never even opened. I’m sad and tired of this weird game. 😔
Did he flew just to see you or was he attending some seminar in the area or what not? If it's the former, then that's something because that takes time and effort one simply wouldn't do just for the sake of it. Rushing for a label or trying to get a straight answer from him was a mistake, because reconciliation is a process and indeed takes time. So to get an ex back or if you had hopes of rekindling something, you ought to be on friendly terms (not necessarily being friends) at some point (which your ex was trying to do), usually after the first phase. You're more or less starting from scratch at this stage. Here are the basics to help you understand more: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html
She broke up saying that she lost feelings for me , I begged her for like 2 ½ months and then went into the no contact and she randomly watches my insta story now and then should I move on or should I be in no contact, its been 4 months since we broke up
Begging for a couple months lands you in the grey zone where things could go either way. At this point, I suggest you redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Agree with Brad, never beg. That is the complete opposite of what you should do EVER. You have to have respect for yourself, if you don’t she definitely won’t. Dint worry about her coming back, self improve and work on your life to become the best you can and if she comes back you’ll be even better, or you may come to a realization you deserve more. It’s an extremely life changing feeling. Keep striving!
How long do I go no contact for if my avoidant ex and I have broken up 4 times, and I've done the 30 days no contact everytime. Does it increase? For the first time ever he is in a relationship and I've been no contact for 2 months.
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/YVViZmY2x0I and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
It varies and depends on the situation and the ex involved. As a relationship coach, breakups are more common than you think and just because two people broke up doesn't mean it's automatically a toxic relationship or that they were never attracted or love you to begin with. Like I say it depends but oftentimes, life, responsibilities and mood swings, etc. get in the way. This is something which I've discussed here, along with other breakup myths if you're really interested in knowing: ruclips.net/video/_PzJGJWDZU0/видео.html
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My avoidant ex started pulling away and I did exactly what you suggest.
Outcome. She found another man within weeks and wrote me message how good the man is. I gave the calm and cool answer and told to talk a year later.
Before the sudden break up I was the best man ever, btw, supported her every way, I cared a lot and gave her a lot of space. I did nothing wrong.
Someway I think I am not any exception...
It happens not only with avoidants but with all attachment styles. Your ex seems spiteful for whatever reason. Anyway as tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. You doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. This is something I've mentioned here: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html So it boils down to two options for you, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you. I suggest to disregard your ex's attempt to brag about her new relationship. Focus on yourself. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ruclips.net/video/STLjybyiaBQ/видео.html
@@marguskiis7711 these realtionships just don’t work, these youtube channels give us false hope because that’s how they keep getting views and make money. We need to keep things simple, someone’s action shows they don’t want us we walk away, period.
What if I got dumped for someone else and that someone else rejected them?
Isn't that karma at its finest? What do you plan to do next? If you still want to fix your relationship and ready to forgive him, then learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 because this lets you know the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html Good luck!
The first time she did that I dumped her sorry arse. I have zero tolerance for that sort of nonsense. I’m here figuring out how to avoid these emotionally stunted avoidant types, how to recognize them before getting involved because their ability to create an illusion of a healthy relationship by mirroring your love intimacy and affection is really quite amazing.
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idk man. broke up 4 months ago and last talked 2 ago when i got my stuff. yesterday was my birthday and even tho she watches every story i post she never reached out. guess its safe to say shes not coming back
It May Takes 4 months of nc. So its not Safe Maybe more
Walk away, learn the lessons and stay away from these kinds of people, you’ll be way better off. Think about it, 4 days of no contact is bad enough, 4 months isn’t insanity. You can do better
Women never come back.
@@cspace1234nz all women are the same. Its my experience. And I know ca 100 women.
Well, she could be waiting on you and you could be waiting on her. This is why I never advise to take on a passive approach, if at the back of your head, you want to give things another shot. So moving forward, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
What should i do if my ex first starten to flirt saying she wants me back and all of a sudden she gets mad when i Ask if she is sure about her choice and told me that im calling her horrible or a liar she barely answer me but i wrote gn and she replied fast and Today starts to ignore me what should i do ?
She's upset you're questioning her decision. So what's your plan? Do you not want to get back together with her?
Hi, I got a little problem and may not relate to this. A guy on fb used to text me and showed me kind of interest but that time i was preparing for my final MBBS exam so i didn’t pay much attention. Recently I had feelings for him ( after about 8 months) so I asked him if he’s in the town to meet but his response wasn’t very positive and he doesn’t even text me now like before. I kinda feel hurt and ghosted 😭
A lot of things can happen in 8 months though. Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@@breakupbradbrowning It’s actually not a breakup. He just asked me for a date several times when I didn’t have any interest ( He didn’t show me a genuine interest on me as i felt that time ) …
Hey Brad, quick question please:).
I bought the X Factor and did everything just as I was supposed to. IT WORKED and we almost did get back togerher. BUT, then I fked up, I got drunk and told her some bullsh*ts, pushing her away from me.
The next day she told me she thought I've changed, but now it looks like I didn't and that it was probably mistake to start talking again. I sincerely apologized and gave her space. What should I do now? Should I reset the whole month of no contact/do like 2 weeks and try again? Or should I just accept the fact I blew up my chances for good and move on?
Thanks in advance!
Oh man you're pushing your luck here. For now, back off a bit... and familiarize yourself with the tips from the guide first, yeah? No need to reset but do give her space for about 2 weeks or so. As to your chances, it really depends. Take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Hey brad , my ex bf left me because he still had feelings for his ex and I was used as a rebound and rn he is chasing his ex , do you think I have any chance with him?
Uh oh...that's not good. I really hate to burst your bubble here but let him finish whatever unfinished business he has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if he’s seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with her. Good luck and I hope you find the right guy for you soon!
I’m just so confused we broke up almost 2 months ago and right away he started messaging me mentioning “friendship” even though I wasnt accepting it and wasn’t contacting at all, now the past weekend he flew 4 hours away to my city and reached out coming with the same friendship thing, we met up and he was cold, messaged me 6 times after he dropped me home and I never even opened. I’m sad and tired of this weird game. 😔
Did he flew just to see you or was he attending some seminar in the area or what not? If it's the former, then that's something because that takes time and effort one simply wouldn't do just for the sake of it. Rushing for a label or trying to get a straight answer from him was a mistake, because reconciliation is a process and indeed takes time. So to get an ex back or if you had hopes of rekindling something, you ought to be on friendly terms (not necessarily being friends) at some point (which your ex was trying to do), usually after the first phase. You're more or less starting from scratch at this stage. Here are the basics to help you understand more: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html
She broke up saying that she lost feelings for me , I begged her for like 2 ½ months and then went into the no contact and she randomly watches my insta story now and then should I move on or should I be in no contact, its been 4 months since we broke up
Begging for a couple months lands you in the grey zone where things could go either way. At this point, I suggest you redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Agree with Brad, never beg. That is the complete opposite of what you should do EVER. You have to have respect for yourself, if you don’t she definitely won’t. Dint worry about her coming back, self improve and work on your life to become the best you can and if she comes back you’ll be even better, or you may come to a realization you deserve more. It’s an extremely life changing feeling. Keep striving!
How long do I go no contact for if my avoidant ex and I have broken up 4 times, and I've done the 30 days no contact everytime. Does it increase? For the first time ever he is in a relationship and I've been no contact for 2 months.
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/YVViZmY2x0I and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
When it’s your ex? Then move on. He is an ex for a reason
It varies and depends on the situation and the ex involved. As a relationship coach, breakups are more common than you think and just because two people broke up doesn't mean it's automatically a toxic relationship or that they were never attracted or love you to begin with. Like I say it depends but oftentimes, life, responsibilities and mood swings, etc. get in the way. This is something which I've discussed here, along with other breakup myths if you're really interested in knowing: ruclips.net/video/_PzJGJWDZU0/видео.html