Every relationship experiences challenges, but there is always a way to progress. My marriage was tested by significant problems, but with appropriate help, my wife and I worked through them and strengthened our bond. Solutions are available if you’re ready to put in the effort and work together. Stay hopeful-there’s always a way.
Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Nope. Once she takes her clothes off for another man she is no longer any good to me. She is damaged goods. I don't her to ever be close to me again. And never to grace my bed again.
The question, "what should I do when cheated on" is so easy to answer from one's armchair. But when it actually happens to you, you discover yourself in a complicated cost-benefit analysis. For some people, it makes sense to decide that the costs of leaving are higher than the costs of staying. For me, though, leaving worked out so much better than I feared. I rediscovered self-respect I hadn't even realized I had lost.
Wow. You seem to make the issue a lot more complicated than it really is. There are just so few terms in this "cost-benefit analysis". "Having to live the rest of your life with the fact of betrayal" is on the cost side and from my perspective it is made entirely of neutron star material. NOTHING will balance it. Imagine everything you ever valued in life now had, and forever would have, 1/4 inch thick layer of dog pooh on it. And no amount of effort on your part would ever wash it off and even every new thing you ever got or experienced had this layer on it. It ruins and contaminates EVERYTHING. Forever. That's betrayal for you. For the rest of your life you could never go through a day without thinking about it a handful of times. Getting away from a history of betrayal, to me, feels like a thing that is worth any price you pay to get rid of. To be able to move forward with a new love that has never betrayed you. Cost-benefit analysis THAT. Life is so short. Living a life in any other way seems like such a waste. Such an easy cost-benefit analysis to make.
So the cheater won, her affairs didn't cost her anything, whored till she got herself a good simp and now happy ever after. What a waste of time on this shit story.
Yep i hope the op goes to ask him again in a few years. She surely got herself a simp but her ex was a real man and stood up for himself. She had unleashed her inner 304 and would never be faithful to anyone every again. She showed no remorse for how she destroyed their marriage and tried to old blame shift bull shit. The new husband is either going to be fine with sloppy seconds or give up half his shit but at least she told who abd what she was before he married her.
Sorry but this is reality in many instances and portrays the effect on the husband. They have to deal with it and he is not doing a good job. Thats life. It happened to a friend of mine. His ex was beautiful and used him and the other two men after him till she reached the top which for her was a respected man in a top country club who took care of her like a queen. Its not fair but it happens.
@@shepardsmith3235 No, the VAST majority of women who cheat in their mid 40's end up cat ladies, and men in their mid 40's with a thriving business have many options. Real life bears this out. This story is a female fantasy piece written by a delusional woman
By the way, I think he did the right thing not to reconcile. At least without some kind of revenge (affair). Simply because she was incredibly arrogant, showed no remorse, and indeed had every opportunity to talk with him BEFORE the affair. I'm a little annoyed that his idea that she was forced by circumstance to come clean was not worked out, that didn't seem wrong at all.
With my 1st wife I realized that eventually I was going to demand divorce because of her actions.. But she wasn't going to get the house. I sold the house telling her that we would just rent and take our time finding the right house. I had no intention of ever owning a house with her. I was just taking my time because we had small kids. Finally I threw her out. She was a beautiful woman that turned heads everywhere she went.. She was used to men falling all over her. She was astounded when I told her to get out. I did all I could to lessen the damage in 1976 era times. She turned out to be a nymphomaniac ( just my opinion). Her answer for anything was the bed. I viewed her actions as leg problems. She just could not keep her legs closed. She had to go.
@@maddmaestro1 My 1st wife went semi public with her boyfriend. My youngest was just barely out of diapers. She had to go. The best way to aggravate a soon to be ex is to qualify simply replace her. The ex wants you to sit at home and pine over her loss. Screw that crap. I replaced her within 2 weeks. From the 2nd week on I was ALWAYS seen with a pretty woman by my side. Not always the same woman but always a pretty woman. Most ex's get off on her soon to be ex sitting home crying. My take was I didn't have time to sit around feeling sorry for myself. Quickly replacing her is sort of giving her the finger and moving on .
Draw up a financial statement, show her how much her HALF will be then leave. Start again don't cry it's done find a new life that's the best revenge living a good life
I am guessing this story is the fantasy of a cheater, where she gets everything she wants and ends with the husband she cheated on, wishing he had accepted her cheating and remained married to her.
When she brings a disease home, the new husband may think twice about an open marriage. This story was obviously written by a woman who was unfaithful in her marriage. Promiscuity on a grand scale will bring down a nation. The Roman empire is a good example of that.
Not telling the true reason of the divorce was a mistake. Saying thay you grew apart usually means the man is to blame. Though the family did not take sides you can bet your self-respect that they were secretly pointing fingers at you. I bet the family and even your daughter was so happy and supportive everytine your cheating wife introduced an new boyfriend.
I don't buy the "we'll just let a person we hired tell us what to do. The problem is I already knew how I felt and why. She takes her clothes off for another man,,, game over.
Great story. So Karma does not exist. This is the truth. Ive heard stories like this before. When the women are beautiful they move on and in most cases move up leaving their ex husbands in a lurch. This is real life and Im glad he made this video about reality. Its not pretty but this is how it is in many instances. So this poor guy now has to deal with it all and is not doing well.Again this is reality. We need more of these kinds of stories to set everyone straight.
no the writing of this story when they discussed was absolute bullshit. How come the cheater ex-wife kept repeating the same bullshit 'we could become stronger than ever' when the husband didn't even know how to shut her up when she said 'I told you, it's over'. Like the husband is dumb as fuck. It's so simple to retort to that statement from the cheater by saying' and how can I trust just your words now when you already betrayed my trust before.' Like it was so simple to shut her up but somehow it led into the whole 'male pride ego' bs. Sometimes I wonder if fictional stories like this really projects what the author thinks about infildeity in general.
The part that cracks me up is the people here in the comments. Normally everyone says that if you are not happy with the marriage, then let your partner know so you can work on it. According to this story, she did. He seemed to ignore everything, and admitted to all of her perceived issues. Now, i dont agree with the cheating part, but it seems that it took this drastic action for him to realize his shortcomings. Unfortunately gentlemen, if you ignore your woman, she will find the attention she craves from someone else. If your sex game is trash, she will find some sex that is not. All I'm saying is, we men need to be that king she desires and craves. Never let your game diminish to the point of non-existence. If you do, you will end up hurting like this dude.
One of the reasons partners split is 44:38 this notion that we have separate anything. The two become ONE. This internal separation gives space for unspoken irrigations, doubts and other damaging thoughts
Every relationship experiences challenges, but there is always a way to progress. My marriage was tested by significant problems, but with appropriate help, my wife and I worked through them and strengthened our bond. Solutions are available if you’re ready to put in the effort and work together. Stay hopeful-there’s always a way.
Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
You should.
Nope.
Once she takes her clothes off for another man she is no longer any good to me.
She is damaged goods.
I don't her to ever be close to me again.
And never to grace my bed again.
And sometimes letting go is best.
Fuck this story
This story was very disappointing, no consequences for betrayal, nothing but a happy ending for the cheater. Might skip this channel from now on.
Thanks for saving me an hour
Unfortunately this outcome is probably more common than not.
The question, "what should I do when cheated on" is so easy to answer from one's armchair. But when it actually happens to you, you discover yourself in a complicated cost-benefit analysis. For some people, it makes sense to decide that the costs of leaving are higher than the costs of staying. For me, though, leaving worked out so much better than I feared. I rediscovered self-respect I hadn't even realized I had lost.
Wow. You seem to make the issue a lot more complicated than it really is.
There are just so few terms in this "cost-benefit analysis".
"Having to live the rest of your life with the fact of betrayal" is on the cost side and from my perspective it is made entirely of neutron star material. NOTHING will balance it.
Imagine everything you ever valued in life now had, and forever would have, 1/4 inch thick layer of dog pooh on it. And no amount of effort on your part would ever wash it off and even every new thing you ever got or experienced had this layer on it. It ruins and contaminates EVERYTHING. Forever.
That's betrayal for you. For the rest of your life you could never go through a day without thinking about it a handful of times.
Getting away from a history of betrayal, to me, feels like a thing that is worth any price you pay to get rid of. To be able to move forward with a new love that has never betrayed you. Cost-benefit analysis THAT.
Life is so short. Living a life in any other way seems like such a waste.
Such an easy cost-benefit analysis to make.
Crappy story. What was the point? If you don't forgive your cheating spouse, she will be successful and you will be miserable.
So the cheater won, her affairs didn't cost her anything, whored till she got herself a good simp and now happy ever after. What a waste of time on this shit story.
Karma always comes around ...she won in the shoet-term BUT what happens when Trevor decides to cheat later ?
Once a cheater, always a cheater ?
Yep i hope the op goes to ask him again in a few years. She surely got herself a simp but her ex was a real man and stood up for himself.
She had unleashed her inner 304 and would never be faithful to anyone every again. She showed no remorse for how she destroyed their marriage and tried to old blame shift bull shit. The new husband is either going to be fine with sloppy seconds or give up half his shit but at least she told who abd what she was before he married her.
Sorry but this is reality in many instances and portrays the effect on the husband. They have to deal with it and he is not doing a good job. Thats life. It happened to a friend of mine. His ex was beautiful and used him and the other two men after him till she reached the top which for her was a respected man in a top country club who took care of her like a queen. Its not fair but it happens.
@@shepardsmith3235 No, the VAST majority of women who cheat in their mid 40's end up cat ladies, and men in their mid 40's with a thriving business have many options. Real life bears this out. This story is a female fantasy piece written by a delusional woman
TLDR: Cheating wife wins in the end. Her husband is revealed as the ultimate loser for insisting on their marriage vows and his 'silly male pride.'
By the way, I think he did the right thing not to reconcile. At least without some kind of revenge (affair).
Simply because she was incredibly arrogant, showed no remorse, and indeed had every opportunity to talk with him BEFORE the affair.
I'm a little annoyed that his idea that she was forced by circumstance to come clean was not worked out, that didn't seem wrong at all.
With my 1st wife I realized that eventually I was going to demand divorce because of her actions..
But she wasn't going to get the house.
I sold the house telling her that we would just rent and take our time finding the right house.
I had no intention of ever owning a house with her.
I was just taking my time because we had small kids.
Finally I threw her out.
She was a beautiful woman that turned heads everywhere she went..
She was used to men falling all over her.
She was astounded when I told her to get out.
I did all I could to lessen the damage in 1976 era times.
She turned out to be a nymphomaniac ( just my opinion).
Her answer for anything was the bed.
I viewed her actions as leg problems.
She just could not keep her legs closed.
She had to go.
Take your time to heal and remember that you deserve love and respect in a relationship. You are not alone in this
Cheater prospered. But the worst is her flaunting it in her ex-husband's face. He was too nice. Everyone should have known her true face.
@@maddmaestro1 My 1st wife went semi public with her boyfriend.
My youngest was just barely out of diapers.
She had to go.
The best way to aggravate a soon to be ex is to qualify simply replace her.
The ex wants you to sit at home and pine over her loss.
Screw that crap.
I replaced her within 2 weeks.
From the 2nd week on I was ALWAYS seen with a pretty woman by my side.
Not always the same woman but always a pretty woman.
Most ex's get off on her soon to be ex sitting home crying.
My take was I didn't have time to sit around feeling sorry for myself.
Quickly replacing her is sort of giving her the finger and moving on .
If you can't talk to your spouse about something - then maybe it's a YOU problem, not a relationship problem.
dang this burnt my soul i felt it for the guy he really shouldve kept his distance and rebuild his life especially since shes clearly living well
Draw up a financial statement, show her how much her HALF will be then leave. Start again don't cry it's done find a new life that's the best revenge living a good life
I am guessing this story is the fantasy of a cheater, where she gets everything she wants and ends with the husband she cheated on, wishing he had accepted her cheating and remained married to her.
When she brings a disease home, the new husband may think twice about an open marriage. This story was obviously written by a woman who was unfaithful in her marriage. Promiscuity on a grand scale will bring down a nation. The Roman empire is a good example of that.
Not telling the true reason of the divorce was a mistake. Saying thay you grew apart usually means the man is to blame. Though the family did not take sides you can bet your self-respect that they were secretly pointing fingers at you. I bet the family and even your daughter was so happy and supportive everytine your cheating wife introduced an new boyfriend.
Wow this guy was pathetic. He'll just wallow in his own misery,feeling sorry for himself.
I don't buy the "we'll just let a person we hired tell us what to do.
The problem is I already knew how I felt and why.
She takes her clothes off for another man,,, game over.
Sal…. You definitely dodged a bullet
Great story. So Karma does not exist. This is the truth. Ive heard stories like this before. When the women are beautiful they move on and in most cases move up leaving their ex husbands in a lurch. This is real life and Im glad he made this video about reality. Its not pretty but this is how it is in many instances. So this poor guy now has to deal with it all and is not doing well.Again this is reality. We need more of these kinds of stories to set everyone straight.
Appreciate the comments. Moving on
no the writing of this story when they discussed was absolute bullshit. How come the cheater ex-wife kept repeating the same bullshit 'we could become stronger than ever' when the husband didn't even know how to shut her up when she said 'I told you, it's over'. Like the husband is dumb as fuck. It's so simple to retort to that statement from the cheater by saying' and how can I trust just your words now when you already betrayed my trust before.' Like it was so simple to shut her up but somehow it led into the whole 'male pride ego' bs. Sometimes I wonder if fictional stories like this really projects what the author thinks about infildeity in general.
It gets to boring if all the stories end the same.
Kind of enjoyed something different. 😊
Good Story You can walk away But you must be realistic you will have notting Its a Story Butt
Wrong direction.
Horrible ending
Another dislike
The stories in this channel are terrible! Time to unsubscribe
The part that cracks me up is the people here in the comments. Normally everyone says that if you are not happy with the marriage, then let your partner know so you can work on it. According to this story, she did. He seemed to ignore everything, and admitted to all of her perceived issues. Now, i dont agree with the cheating part, but it seems that it took this drastic action for him to realize his shortcomings. Unfortunately gentlemen, if you ignore your woman, she will find the attention she craves from someone else. If your sex game is trash, she will find some sex that is not. All I'm saying is, we men need to be that king she desires and craves. Never let your game diminish to the point of non-existence. If you do, you will end up hurting like this dude.
One of the reasons partners split is 44:38 this notion that we have separate anything. The two become ONE. This internal separation gives space for unspoken irrigations, doubts and other damaging thoughts