i think there should be *some* expectations and that those should be communicated with the therapist. hash out the reasonable ones, like "i would like to feel less anxious around strangers, and i have a goal to join a volunteer org/club/society by the end of x year". something like that so 1) you have something to look forward to, and 2) you can set milestones and pat yourself on the back for achieving them along the way to your big goal, it keeps the momentum of progress going.
If I have a personal trainer teach me some exercises, they can be the best in the world. But if I don't deploy the things I've learned, or let them know about an injury I have, or I just don't go to the gym on the days I don't have a session, I can't blame the trainer or the practice for my lack of input.
I would like to take issue with the very last sentence. You say that the client may not be approaching it in the right way. This sounds awfully like blaming the victim. When I started seeing my current therapist I was in such a bad place that I was not able to take charge of what I wanted to accomplish in therapy. Basically I was in crisis mode, and let my therapist take charge. We are doing a trauma protocol called OEI and I am doing much better now. Like you said, it is a process. But please don’t blame the client for not approaching therapy in the right way. If it is their first time in therapy, or if they are in as bad a state as I was back in January, they may not know how to approach therapy and may need you to say, “It sounds like you are struggling with xyz, and there are a few ways we can go about working through these issues.” Then give your client the choice for how to approach treatment.
is it victim blaming when we're asking the victim to accept some responsibility for themselves so that they are empowered with their healing? like the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make it drink. you sought therapy because you were keen on making changes for yourself; you just weren't clear on which direction you needed to go so your therapist helped you on that. that's great, you were empowered with knowledge and direction and you achieved progress for yourself. unfortunately there are other people out there who want to change, can visualise the end goal they want to achieve, but do not want to endure the discomfort of having to do things they do not feel motivated about in order to get there. it's a mental obstacle that they have to take power and responsibility for. no one else can walk their healing journey for them.
Nah it's not me and my expectations but the therapists massive underperformance if I am not a confident, mentally healthy, ultra-happy self-made billionaire with a gorgeous girlfriend after lets say no more than 10 therapy sessions. Right?
You said more variety of words in this one video clip than 13 mental have said to me in the last years. Is expecting more than "that's no fun what else is new that's great what else is new" really to much to expect.
No didn't you hear they went through years of schooling so they could do nothing more than sit there and have the client hold their hand walking them through how to do their own job. At this point I think therapy is a scam I can't work so maybe I should become a therapist so that I can sit around doing nothing. It sounds wrong but if they're getting paid to do nothing anyway I wouldn't be helping anyone but no one's going to be helping them anyway. I wouldn't do any good but is it wrong if I'm not doing any actual harm.
because in order to be Christian, you have to have a brain-type that is susceptible to placebo. It's like, when you believe in God, you can generate the "Feeling of Being Loved" out of thin air. It's a special brain-type that can do that. I can't do that. I need other humans to show me that I'm loved in order for me to feel it. But a Christian can just "Believe" and their brain gives the "Feel Good" chemicals.
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It's too expensive for such slow results
yeah :( it takes me over a year to trust a person. So it all feels wasted at first. Sucks
I had depression due to extreme poverty.....spending $500 a month WITH insurance didnt help me.
yes - therapy is a journey and there should be no expectations just flow and effort and an open mind.💯👏🏼
i think there should be *some* expectations and that those should be communicated with the therapist. hash out the reasonable ones, like "i would like to feel less anxious around strangers, and i have a goal to join a volunteer org/club/society by the end of x year". something like that so 1) you have something to look forward to, and 2) you can set milestones and pat yourself on the back for achieving them along the way to your big goal, it keeps the momentum of progress going.
I think I sometimes expect myself to "recover" much more quickly than what is truly needed, if that makes sense.
If I have a personal trainer teach me some exercises, they can be the best in the world. But if I don't deploy the things I've learned, or let them know about an injury I have, or I just don't go to the gym on the days I don't have a session, I can't blame the trainer or the practice for my lack of input.
But no one ever explains what kind of effort I’m supposed to be doing
I would like to take issue with the very last sentence. You say that the client may not be approaching it in the right way. This sounds awfully like blaming the victim. When I started seeing my current therapist I was in such a bad place that I was not able to take charge of what I wanted to accomplish in therapy. Basically I was in crisis mode, and let my therapist take charge. We are doing a trauma protocol called OEI and I am doing much better now. Like you said, it is a process. But please don’t blame the client for not approaching therapy in the right way. If it is their first time in therapy, or if they are in as bad a state as I was back in January, they may not know how to approach therapy and may need you to say, “It sounds like you are struggling with xyz, and there are a few ways we can go about working through these issues.” Then give your client the choice for how to approach treatment.
is it victim blaming when we're asking the victim to accept some responsibility for themselves so that they are empowered with their healing? like the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make it drink. you sought therapy because you were keen on making changes for yourself; you just weren't clear on which direction you needed to go so your therapist helped you on that. that's great, you were empowered with knowledge and direction and you achieved progress for yourself. unfortunately there are other people out there who want to change, can visualise the end goal they want to achieve, but do not want to endure the discomfort of having to do things they do not feel motivated about in order to get there. it's a mental obstacle that they have to take power and responsibility for. no one else can walk their healing journey for them.
Nah it's not me and my expectations but the therapists massive underperformance if I am not a confident, mentally healthy, ultra-happy self-made billionaire with a gorgeous girlfriend after lets say no more than 10 therapy sessions. Right?
You said more variety of words in this one video clip than 13 mental have said to me in the last years. Is expecting more than "that's no fun what else is new that's great what else is new" really to much to expect.
Therapy is hard work and often uncomfortable
Katie’s the kind of therapist you’d crush on. Is crushing on your therapist a kind of therapy?
No, it’s you failing to see women as better than you and being delusional
Yes, yes yes!!!!!!!🎉
Six years of it, and the needle didn’t move one millimeter
No didn't you hear they went through years of schooling so they could do nothing more than sit there and have the client hold their hand walking them through how to do their own job. At this point I think therapy is a scam
I can't work so maybe I should become a therapist so that I can sit around doing nothing. It sounds wrong but if they're getting paid to do nothing anyway I wouldn't be helping anyone but no one's going to be helping them anyway. I wouldn't do any good but is it wrong if I'm not doing any actual harm.
No, therapy doesn’t work for everyone! Speak for yourself 😂
It does in Christian Therapist
because in order to be Christian, you have to have a brain-type that is susceptible to placebo. It's like, when you believe in God, you can generate the "Feeling of Being Loved" out of thin air. It's a special brain-type that can do that. I can't do that. I need other humans to show me that I'm loved in order for me to feel it. But a Christian can just "Believe" and their brain gives the "Feel Good" chemicals.