A husband takes care of his disabled wife, but secretly dreams of escaping
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- Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
- Kate is seriously ill and can't do anything on her own. The husband takes care of her, but one day the wife learns his secret...
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Each day you wake up healthy is a blessing.
What about the people who don't? You wake up healthy but many aren't and those don't even get the answer why is it so???
Very true. I never learned to appreciate my health until I was no longer healthy. I pray every day for healing, but I am still greatful and blessed for everything the Lord has given me, whether I am healthy or not. It is good to remember the blessings God has given us and appreciate them, not only just for our health but all of the blessings we have received. God bless 🙏❤️
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True ❤
Health is wealth
This is a proof that friendship is really the greatest love. Even in a marriage.
It really is. My husband and I became best friends before getting serious. 21 years together! Two years ago we found out my husband has MS. I would never ever ever leave and if he needed me to care for him, I would.
Wow it’s crushing to read the comments of people who justify adultery. Marriage vows states “in sickness and health..til death do us part”. If you marry someone to be happy, to have desires fulfilled you don’t understand marriage or love the other person but yourself. Live with integrity and love for others.
Imagine how lonely it must be to be left alone in a time of need.
Unfortunately, as We are in this social media World, this behaviour became normalized for some, no conduct and wisdom...
Most people do want to be happy. You're told to make the other person happy in marriage so sometimes people put their own feelings on the back burner and end up miserable. That or put yourself first, cheat etc. Guess it isn't easy. Sad film, shows the black couple who stayed together during the wife's sickness and the husband who cheated. She let him go because she couldn't sleep with him, hug him, be the wife she used to be. Sad sad
Statistically, a long lasting sickness is one of the major causes of divorce, with men being more likely to leave their wives if they are seriously sick, like in the movie.
@@iamdee2615has nothing to do with social media. It's always been like that (see late John Maccaine). The only thing social media does is amplify and made it know to mote people
Swap the genders and you'd be calling her a hero and a queen and saying that no woman deserves to suffer having to be a slave to a man. You'd also claim that most men do this and nobody should criticize her.
As a person with a chronic illness that started at age 29 and has only gotten worse over time. All i can say is we never realized what health is until we loose it.
Lose*
@@kadzo6614you know what they meant.
Her write up was very sad and all you could do was correct a word you clearly understood.I hope you never make mistakes.
this is frfr i’ve been diagnosed with MS when u was 22 and i lost so many people but im glad i found my man really and im glad he found me
I’m also chronically ill. It started when i was 17. Now I’m 21.
It’s for life, there’s no cure.
But i also find joy in life sometimes.
I wish you all the happiness you can find in this world.
Despite your struggles. Godbless you.
I had a friend that died from ALS. Towards the end she refused visitation at her nursing home. She didn't want anyone to see her dying.
my paternal grandmother passed away from ALS in 2010
she didn't even get a diagnosis until a couple of months before her passing and she was in a care home at the point
@@tinabastarache2674This disease is so cruel. We have patients, who suffer from it. 😔
@soleil7259 I think it's mercury poisoning or something similar.
I can empathize with that. And at the same time, understand how soulcrushingly hard it would be to go through the end alone.
My father is the same. He would rather die than being taken care of by his children. Both his parents passed away alone.
My aunt passed recently, and she wanted to be surrounded by her loving family throughout her last time and to be taken care of by her loved ones. She also got her wish fulfilled.
I am inbetween: when it is my time, only the absolute closest 3 people and ansolutely no more would be with me at the end. But preferably noone.
I was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia on February 23, 2023. I practiced UroGyn medicine for 27 years and retired March 27, 2023. My husband has been wonderful to me! I hate that early death will separate us. We’ve been together 34 years, married 30 years. He let me finish medical school because being married and trying to get the residency I wanted was overwhelming. Yet, he waited patiently. Watching this clip makes me very sad and angry that my prognosis is death within 3-4 years. Early onset dementia is a cruel disease. I hate that he will be the man in this movie. I will tell everyone that when you’re giving your death notice that nothing else will seem to matter except making the best of your time left. It allows your filter to come down and you can finally say what you’ve wanted to say out loud. Many blessings. 💜✝️💟👩🏻🦳
Thank you for sharing your story❤This reminds me to live, not just exist bcuz there are things far more terrible than heartbreak. I wish I could keep in touch.
God your post hits hard 😢
I am patient of vertigo since 8 years. It got better since two years but 1.5 months back again started and now I am thinking should I learn to live with it? I want to do a job but I can't use laptop or screens much longer. I am helpless.
@@rafatbadar7629While vertigo can admittedly be disabling, I'm not sure why you're lamenting about your plight with it here - and worse still, ending your comment with "I'm helpless." This seems a remarkably tone-deaf response to a woman clearly facing a far more challenging ordeal than you are.
Were you seriously comparing your vertigo to a terminal illness? FTD will ultimately rob the OP of her memories, her sense of identity and finally, her life. Vertigo, on the other hand, tends to be episodic. There are different treatments emerging for it daily, and it can even resolve on its own over time.
I'm not saying you have nothing to complain about - just that you may want to think carefully about whether this is the appropriate place to "commiserate," by sharing your story of "helplessness."
Like you, I am a medical doctor, and if this career has done one thing for me, it's to reinforce just how little we know - not only about most illnesses and the mysterious machinations of the human body, but about the sacred events of birth and death, along with the infinite everyday mysteries that lie between.
No doubt this is a frightening diagnosis to grapple with - especially when the tool we typically use for grappling - our brain! - is the very organ under attack.
Our typical coping strategies, such as analysis and problem-solving, may no long work - and in their place, you may find yourself drawn to a different plane - a more-experiential one that's been idling quietly in parallel to our intellectual one this whole time.
Listening to music, walking barefoot on sand and on grass, communing with an animal, practicing breathwork, tending to a plant - there are countless alternate ways to engage with our world, even when our frontal lobes no longer want to.
In no way do I mean to romanticize a clearly frightening time - though I will say your post sounds remarkably peaceful. I'm simply suggesting that what lies ahead - as well as above, below, and all around us, is, well, unknown!
I'm increasingly hearing about microdosing and the use of natural compounds like ayahuasca to access these planes, and to resolve the fear of death. No matter your approach? You'll no doubt be surprised by what parts of you open, even as other parts close.
I've no doubt you helped many women in your career in UroGyn, and you sound like a generally lovely person who's likely touched many lives beyond medicine.
And you've experienced great love! To help others in whatever way we can, to connect with "family" (whoever we decide they will be), and to then love grandly, and be loved in return? I'm not sure there's much beyond that worth grasping for! How blessed that you achieved all these in just one lifetime.
Wishing you grace and strength for the journey ahead - wherever this new path leads you.
Wow, this had me in tears. Thanks.
Me too.
Same! 😢
Me, three. This movie is a genuine tear jerker.
Same 😔
Good tears indeed.
My grandma died from ALS in Europe, we live in the US. She became bedridden and unable to speak. She refused a feeding tube at the hospice. Eventually they sedated her and she passed away in her sleep. My mom was with her holding her hand.
Sandra Bullock's partner, Bryan Randall, recently passed away from ALS - the same illness that's featured in this movie.
2:41had I not read your comments won't have known about it. Rip Randal
Oh? I had no idea.
Oh, didn't know about it. May I know what is the title of this film?
My aunt has MS and is a month awsy from hospice care. My uncle is best husband and one of the best men I know. He is caring for the love of his life. It is extremely difficult since someone has to babysit her 24/7 every day of the weekcsince shes basically immobilized. My uncle is very stressed and I imagine disheartened by his wife's terrible condition. But he takes care of her. No matter what. Love.
i'm terribly sorry about what you all are going through. it's hard watching your loved ones go through that. 😢
My Uncle worked 80+ hours a week to be able to afford nursing care for my Aunt. She had MS for over 45 years. Her doctors said it was the worst, long-term case of the disease on record. She had been a quadriplegic for 25+ years. Auntie passed away a few years ago, with her whole family at her bedside. Too many people told Uncle he should divorce her and put her in a home. He told each of them to eff off; that he married "til death so us part".
I know a couple when the got married a week later his wife was in a horrible accident. He takes care of her & do whatever she needs to be done. Unfortunately she is so mean to him & I think she takes it out on him for disability even tho he wasn’t in the car with her
My adhd and ocd appreciates this channel so much, you have no idea..I want to watch these movies but I only have attention span of about 15 minutes. Thank you! They have a great sister chemistry!
U just got ur much needed attention, go build a career now.
Right there with you girl!
@@Act4MEN… she’s giving thanks. How do you guys turn things into negativity?
😊👍💯
I watch recaps because I Dont have time to watch whole movie
My mom had als, i had to become her full time care giver at the age of 17, i took care of her, took myself to school, took care of my baby, took care of the house, took care of my little brother, took care of the pets. This movie doesnt show the actual pain, how hard it truly is, the lack of help unless you are extremely rich..
Hope u are well now... Thanks for being a good human being...
Wow you are extremely strong❤
You added a baby to the mix? Good for you with all the responsibility you already had!! I applaud 👏🏽 you!
@@blairariavanderkamp3405she didn’t “ add a baby to the mix” she just had a baby and managed to care for them too. What type of degenerate thought process lead you to post this fake encouraging comment? That was so backhanded 😕
U FINDS OUT WHO'S UR REAL FRIENDS R WHEN U R DOWN!!!
Yes
When you down they all stear clear...
That when you realize you don't need no1 the school of rejection/pain is d best teacher.
@@mhlengimbokazi4106 LORD JESUS. IS ALWAYS THERE FOR U. NO MATTER WHAT HAPPEN TO U!!!
VERY TRUE! I learnt this the hard way just recently.
Absolutely true....probably the lowest points in one's life are a sort of blessing in disguise.
@@wamboieverlynewanjiru240 IT'S THE BEST WAY TO LEARN. IN THIS WORLD...
This made me cry sooo many times
He only came back because he couldn’t live with the guilt. Pathetic
Love his wife by having an affair...at least talk to your wife man and just let her go or wait until she dies...
I worked when I was young as a prostitution. Many sick woman bought me for their husband. So this could be prevented.
Lol
Nice to see Fiona caring for others
She’s always done that but near the end it broke her mentally so she had to leave
Thank God I'm not the only one who noticed that. I thought I was tripping 😅😅
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Fiona spent her entire life caring for others. By the time she snapped and fell apart, she had been the primary caretaker for her siblings and shitty druggie parents for 20 years.
lol Fiona cared a bit too much actually
Wow Did Not expect a recap to have me in tears 😢
Yea. It's sad how Ungrateful the disabled wife was to her Husband
As an old lady who was born with both developmental and physical disabilities i I simply refuse to be any able bodied guy's reason to settle which is why i refuse to date anyone ever (whether they able- bodied or disabled like myself)
There are many people who would love to spend time with you and care for you❤
I was in love with a blind girl but she broke up with me beacuse of same reasons she thought she would be a burden for me she knew I wanted to pursue Master's in Engineering so she let me go but I will never forget about her. I would rather be single my entire life than move on.
I’m in love with this film. So glad I found it.
this story made me cry..
Why do people always ask for the name of the movie? It’s literally written on screen (including the year it was released) at the beginning of every video.
Because the majority are dmb dmbs
Where? I can't find it
I know right. I hate that
@@bonbonvegabonrude
cry about it@@alexandramoyer8785
Damn this was the best movie ever i kept crying the last scene😢
Great! Spotted Hillary Swank in the lead role here as Kate and John Ritter's son as Will! I can identify with this film as my late husband was a quadriplegic. I met and married him like that.
And Emmy Rossum (Shameless, great series), as Beck, was a good choice.
I have muscular dystrophy that is getting worse. I can relate. Am in a wheelchair atm with one leg amputated, but plan on trying to make the world a better place by random acts of kindness. Will need to watch this movie, it looks really good and it's relatable.
Why m i in tears...it's just a story
I’m sorry, but that husband is a bastard for cheating on her & this is coming from a man. If I’m truly in love with a woman I swear on everything idc if she’s in a wheelchair, that’s my girl. We riding till the wheels fall off, no pun intended.
Wow, whoever ends up with you is a lucky girl because men like you are hard to find.
Your last comment on this channel was that you cheated on your girlfriend!! 😂😂 nevermind a sick & dying wife. One of the first things doctors/nurses warn women about when they’re terminally ill, is to be prepared for their husband/boyfriend to cheat and/or leave.
@@XactlyCeSe1 yeah I mean I was under the assumption during this human experience we make mistakes & learn from them. I’m a recovering alcoholic and made a dumb decision. Today I’m 3+ months sober and stand on what I said. Good day, kid.
In bad times no one wants u ... In your hard time ur parents, frnds, love once everyone lives u ... If anyone stays with u don't ever hurt that person
It’s sad her husband hurt her like that
My tears were rolling through out the video....i can relate
This made me to tears.
damn this left me in tears
Good Lawd! I'm crying like a baby! I can't imagine watching the whole/ real movie!!!!!
Damn this has me dropping tears
This was a very emotional and sad movie...💔🥺
Memories... I used to want to rip my spine out because of the constant pain day & night, on that bathroom floor. Thank goodness Kate at least had someone. 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
I hope your pain lessens , i too have a disability and I feel you .
I just wish you become better each day ❤
This stroy made me cry so many times 😭😭😭
The scene with the piano at the end. 😭
The movie is titled You Are Not You - absolutely loved it.
That was a heartbreaking yet beautiful movie
It's one of my fears, too. Having my loved ones see me dying or suffering..
I remember watching Hilary Swank when I was ten. I'm thirty nine now and there is no way I would ever believe she is thirty six and a half years old😂😂😂
Me too but yet again she’s always had an older face lol
movie was like 10 year old..she woulda been in 39 or 40..not a far fletch
@@MsTinkerbelle87 this movie came out 10 years ago
That did not feel like an ending
Marriage is in sickness and in health. Nobody wants to do sickness. In good times and bad. Nobody wants to do bad.
I'm glad I was sick (no cure, indefinite chemo) when I met my now husband again.
Only a real OG jumps into the trench with you in a losing battle.
wow beth told kate that no one deserves to be betraited yet she is fooling with her married prof
THATS your takeaway??! Do you blame the professor at all for his aggression and pushiness even after she said no several times?
@@muskangupta404I mean she entertained it she ain’t all that innocent but it’s not her problem
She didn’t know until she saw him at a bar the narrator said.
U ARE GETTING THIS WRONG. I DIDN'T MENTION THE SHITTY PROF CAUSE HE DIDN'T SPEAK ABOUT MORALS 'BETH' DID. SO I AM POINTING TO HER STATEMENT ONLY.@@muskangupta404
@@hunter.5625doesn't matter. No is no and what she did is not comparable to what her husband did
I have MS and I told my husband that if and when the day comes that I can no longer care for myself, I do not expect him to nor do I want him to take care of me. He understands and agrees.
It’s important to us that we remember the days that we shared together as a happy married couple. It’s a heartbreaking thing when your spouse turns into your caregiver, instead of your lover. Having to bathe you…changing your diapers etc is no way to go.
I’ll go to a nursing home before I let that happen. Unless you’ve been in this type of situation, it’s very easy to judge others. I want my husband to still have a life outside of my depressing health issues. I want him to be able to let go, find love again, and not resent having to spend the rest of his life being my nurse/caregiver.
Hello, if it were him and you were capable/healthy ,would you desire to take care of your husband?
@@somethingspecial1415 respect your opinion
@@somethingspecial1415 yes, I would. But I also know how exhausting it can become for a loved one; it doesn’t matter if they are a spouse or a family member or a friend. It can become so incredibly overwhelming for most people.
I worked as a nurse in a long term care facility. I took care of the elderly. I worked on a dementia unit. I also worked in skilled nursing units, taking care of those who were no longer able to care for themselves, or give themselves adequate nursing care-sometimes it was because the family or spouse couldn’t afford the cost of a 24 hour home care nurse. The reasons were unique in every situation.
I witnessed many times over, the extreme guilt, pain, and sorrow family members and loved one’s experienced as they weren’t able to continue caring for their beloved family members and spouses. The profound range of emotions that spouses, adult children of elderly parents, and what they went through when dropping their loved ones off at the various facilities I worked at was difficult witness and hard to explain. They came to the unit I worked on, and they would be sobbing and filled with so much guilt and grief because they knew they were in over their head when it came to 24 hour care of their loved ones who were grown adults, and
completely dependent upon another person to care for them. They were helpless in taking care of themselves due to their long term progressive and chronic diseases. Such situations include but are not limited to neurological diseases, dementia, Alzheimer’s, ALS, MS, Parkinson’s disease…the list of scenarios can seem endless bc it’s different for every person and their caregivers.
With that being said, I would take the pressure off my spouse and make the decision for him, and when it comes to my husband and him needing full time care I would absolutely do everything I could to take care of him at home. I hope I’m not coming across with a smug attitude, but I have worked in and have experience with long term care patients, and I know what to expect. This kind of situation isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay.
But if he insisted that he wanted to go to a facility, it would break my heart, and I would do everything I could to try to change his mind, but if he was inexorable on his position, I would have to respect his decision.
Even the most empathetic, loving, and nurturing individuals believe and really want to handle these types of scenarios on their
own-especially in the beginning. But the heartbreaking reality is they begin to realize how stressful, draining, exhausting, overwhelming, relentless, and extremely expensive it is to care for their loved one in with these types of conditions. It can seem to go on and on, with their loved one’s disease progressing slowly; and often spanning over a decade and even longer. At least that is what I’ve gathered when speaking with loved ones over the years of working in LTC.
These kinds of conditions are not terminal. It’s not like terminal cancer that is incurable, and caring for a loved one with a terminal condition is often over a much shorter amount of time.
Even the kindest and most loving spouse can become bitter and resentful because it takes a such an emotional toll on them over the years The person with the long term progressive disease begins to feel like a burden, and this can completely strip them of their dignity and self worth. It’s really hard to imagine that this can happen, but I can tell you with first hand experience, it occurs more often than not, and I don’t want that to happen to me and my husband.
@@s.hicks7213 I appreciate you taking your time in explaining fully to me so I can have a better understanding .
Thank you. 😭
This makes me cry so hard 😭😭😭💔
The fucking recap had me crying.
So this is where Fiona went
After reading some of the comments, it's nice to know that I'm not the only one crying 😭.... Now time for a horror recap to balance me out.
You made me cry 😢
I knew someone with ALS. I completely despised this person because they were extremely nasty but still managed to feel some compassion for him.
This is heartbreaking.
I kinda feel selfish for complaining abt the pain im in physically and mentally, im still thankful i can move, even if its painful.
This is exactly what my mom went through but it was worse that this🥹 we had to watch her suffer until her last days she passed on💔
The way i cried through out this recap,i cannot imagine watching the whole movie
That ending? Did I miss something? Glad I did sit through the whole movie!
Omg cant believe im crying so hard
Evan was thinking of the care of Kate *medically*
Kate was thinking of her care *personally*
Big difference when dealing with anyone disabled…speaking as one with hereditary Multiple Sclerosis. I’m caring for my 70 year old Mum with MS.
And I let go of a love, pushed him away, so he’d have a “normal” life.
"They never had wall Malaysians" 😂
This movie destroyed me.
I cried a lot wow
Hey, this looks like the chic from shameless 😅😅😅
Also cool movie and awesome recaps
It is.
Good story sad story a very abrupt ending to the recap
It had me in tears toooo😢
This movie is so so good but so sad
What the name of the movie? been trying to find it.
@@nanyummyify the movie is called “you’re not you” it’s a must watch for sure! Keep tissues close lol
Wow what a random video RUclips recommended to me😢
Oh, I love to have found this short film, it makes you understand things and accept even how hard it is. It's sad situation but true in any way. For me it's a wonderful story.
What is the title of this film?
This movie had me bawling. 😭
Such a good movie.
I really liked the movie
What is the name of this movie?
this made me cry
This just made me so sad🙁
😢💔 this recap was enough to teach me a lesson. I couldn't watch the film though.
Hilary Swank really wants to be the female Sean Bean.
What’s the name of the movie ?
You're not you
❤Movie Title : You're not You❤
Yep, been unwell for a couple of years, can see my husband doing exactly the same…men are usually selfish individuals, can only think of themselves!
I read the comments and I'm kinda concerned I didn't cry😐
I would help someone in this situation even tho people say she won't get better we can at least try anything can happen
What is this movie called
You're Not You
Robot voice strikes again! The woman is a professional peenist!
Wow, rosa diaz has such a strange varied life before Brooklyn 99
Its always the secretary.
Sad.
😭so sad and so complex
All I saw was the channel name because they have the same name as the John Locke character from the lost series
Is this a movie?
this feels like the side plot of Coyote ugly.
This sounds like Motor Neurone Disease which took my mother's life. 💔
Really wish you would say what movie it was
It's called "You're Not You". :)
Thank you very much! 😄😄😄
I'm going to go search now. I love the girl from Shameless, Emma...Thanks again. I really appreciate it
@@Abby-yc7tt - I really like Emmy Rossum too. Her and Hillary Swank are very good actresses!
This movie reminds me of Cartagena 2009 ( L'homme de chevet)
This is so sad...
What’s the title of this movie?
The Lion King
Myasthenia Gravis, worst autoimmune disorder ever
Huntington’s Disease? Lou Gehrig’s Disease?
Right. ALS, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis -- Lou Gehrig's Disease.
i blocked this movie out 😢 it was super sad, more than the recap lets on
the way the narration ended was so anticlimatic
Awesome