Being a minimalist with kids is difficult. I started minimalizing first with my belongings throughout the house, explained to my kids why I was doing it, as I cleared my home. After some time of doing it the kids were watching me do it then out of the blue they would start taking stuff out of their room to donate without me even telling them to. Me decluttering rooms in my home motivated them. They started to enjoy the decluttered rooms throughout the house that when they went to their room it seem overwhelming, and almost unbearable, that they started to declutter their own rooms on their own ;)
The kids being overwhelmed by their own stuff after the ease and peace in the rest of the house.....that is wonderful. I can bet it wouldn't always work but I'm glad it did for you.
Thank God i read your articles before having babies so they are growing up with a minimalist attitude and you know what?They do not suffer at all and they prefer playing outside with friends. One day I asked my daughter after her birthday party "what did you like the most?" She answered "playing with friends i love". I was really touched by her wise words. She didn't even mention gifts.
I was feeling a bit overwhelmed today as there are so many things everywhere in our house. Just out of curiosity searched the term minimalist living with kids and this video popped up. I watched it with my 6 year old, who jumped up before the video even ended and said "I can do that! I'm going to choose the wall!". He's just showed me a part of a wall he's chosen and is already collecting toys that he wants to keep. And I haven't event thought of where I would start with my own things. Kids are fast!
I get nearly 100% of my clothing (except socks and undies) from thrift stores. Whenever I find a particular item I needed and really wanted I would tell my kids how thankful I was that someone donated it. I in turn would also donate my own unwanted items and again telling my children how happy someone will be to find our items at the thrift store. They have lived this way there whole lives and never think twice about donating their unwanted/needed stuff.
Something that really helped my kids was putting things in a bin in the garage - that way they weren't as scared to let go because if they decide they NEED it we can just go grab it and then after a few months they realize they don't miss it and it gets donated.
I thought I was doing a good job with decluttering. I am decluttering for about a year now. Started with Mary Condo. But I did not feel that I was doing a good job, I still would buy a lot of new stuff. I have found a lot of other people who declutter and tell you how they do it, but just did not find what I was looking for. I had my big "aha" moment when I found your channel! I get it now, I know what I need to do and how to keep doing it, and not fall back! Having kids, and mostly their stuff, was the biggest struggle for me. And I did not realize it until now. The stores and advertisements tell you that you need all this stuff to make you kids happy. I want to thank you for making these video's , you have been a verry big help for me! You made a difference in my life. Thank you!!
Dana, from a Slob Comes Clean, calls it the "container concept" -- and yes, it definitely works for adults too! In fact, she says to let the container be 'the bad guy' -- so it's not you vs. your kids, but it's you working together vs. the container (whether this is a drawer, a bin, a room, etc.)
Thank you so much for this video! I’m not looking for a tour of a minimalist family’s house, they’re great but there are so many, none go over tips like you do! They typically show what they’ve removed and how simple the room is. Keep up the good work!!!
The best thing that has worked for us is the space rule also. My kids know once their toy tubs get filled that's it, no more toys. Same with arts and crafts supplies and clothes (which seem to multiply very fast in our house)
These tips work for adults as well; especially #2 and #4. I can easily apply them to my own minimalism journey. And of course #5 sums it all - deciding what we want to prioritize in our life. Thank you for the video!
I love this video so much! I started decluttering about four years ago and I think my son seeing me minimize so much and as you said explaining "I'm donating this because I don't use it and now someone else can put it to good use" kind of thing has helped him be good about letting go of things over time. We do a little sweep every few months (or whenever) and I can ask him to see if there are clothes that don't fit or toys he's not playing with much that another kid may want and he's totally into the idea of another kid enjoying his toys and clothes that he's grown out of. Giving them another life so to speak.
My kids are 17 and 14. I have recently begun my journey with minimalism. I have always fought with my kids to get them to clean up. My 17 year old daughter is super messy and is a pack rat. All we do is tell her to clean her room. After fighting 17 years to get her to clean her room, I finally cleaned her room myself and told her “If I have to clean your room up every day, you are slowly going to end up owning a lot less stuff. I’m not dealing with this mess every day.” (When she was little we helped her clean her room every day). She did voluntarily donate an extra coat and a dress she no longer wears, so that is progress. I went through her room with a trash bag and got rid of all of the trash over the weekend. I was horrified by how much trash she had all over her room.
This is exactly what I've been looking for thank you! This past Christmas made something snap in me. I have two kids, 5 and 2, and I'm drowning in toys. Their bookshelves are spilling out into piles on the floor. Instead of organizing I just shuffle stuff around. I recently got rid of two big boxes if my own books and clothes this week. Seeing how other people are so attached to their stuff makes me even more determined. Why have things that just sits in boxes? Now to to tell well meaning families not to buy 20 gifts for each kid for the holidays...
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Thank you so much for this video. I like this method of just keeping the toys that fit in a small space. I spent hours every day moving all the toys from one corner to another. I am going to implement this rule today!
Wellllllll what if my child is 2 and doesn’t show an attachment to most of his items :) I think my hardest part is lookin at his stuff and seeing dollar signs :(
My kids are 17 and 14. My 17 year old daughter is a hoarder. She has been her whole life. Her room is always disgusting. I have spent her entire life helping her clean her room and getting mad when she trashes is literally the next day. So I am totally a fan of getting rid of my kids’ stuff. I have been telling her repeatedly that if I still have to clean her room at age 17, she is going to become minimalist by force. I told her that from here on out, if that room is trashed, I am going to go in with a trash bag and start throwing stuff away. I have gotten rid of so much of her stuff, but she somehow pack rats more stuff into that room. I just did yet another purge. Next I will reduce the amount of clothes that she owns. All of her clothing is always in the floor. She washes more laundry than the rest of us in the house combined. So my daughter is now becoming a minimalist whether she likes it or not. The less stuff she owns, the less stuff the rest of us have to clean up behind her.
My policy for my child is to keep different kind toys separate. This is very important I discover. I see at my friends house they buy a huge container and all the toys go inside and get mixed. Category toys is important because anything comes outside the category can be questioned and confronted. So far my daughter’s collections are legos, barbies, plushies, puzzles, drawing tools and stationeries and books, musical instruments and sport equipments. Anything comes outside the collection should be counted as clutters.
Dear parents! When Your kids are very good behaviour all the time and always taking good care of their things, keeping their rooms very clean, loving their favorite things and want to make nice childhood collections of their things: books, clothes, toys, video games, clothes, DVDs and etc, then donataing is very wrong thing to do. If You have few space then storage boxes and shelves will help You out and Your kids will be very happy and thankful then, if they can keep their favourite things. Childhood things are very valuable and it is very sad, if they won’t see them anymore in their life. Every child should have the right to keep their things, if they can take good care of them all the time!!! Respectfully, Astra Viil 😊🙏
I agree, minimalisn is much more important for families! We gotta teach our kids to not buy into consumerism and to value and take care of what they have :)
You'll have a hard time stopping their gift-giving tendencies. Try to direct their efforts toward other, more appreciated gifts (needs, consumables, experiences, etc.).
My stepson is a hoarder. He had 40 pairs of shoes for no reason and he is obsessed with things and money. I have no idea how to break that mentality, he is 13
Your kids were 5 and 2... Once they are older is REALLY hard to convince them it's ok to get rid of stuff. No matter how much I embrace minimalism, my 8yo is a pack rat 🤦🏻♀️
I have learned a lot from your books, your course and your videos. But I must admit, your hair still distracts at me. You have the best men’s hair (and my husband was a hair model 🤫).
Then I have a cat carrier there which takes up space and I use it once a year. If I get rid of that guaranteed the cat will get sick and I need to take one of them to the vets. Then minimalist will say... well lend a cat basket. No thanks I am not going round asking other people to lend their possessions that they don't want to hand out for other people to use as it's cheeky. These are the daily struggles I have because of the lack of space. I am trying to become a minimalist to be happier in my small home and it is causing me more stress. These videos never show what shit to keep and what to get rid of. I got rid of the cat post to make space and now they started scratching all the wood furniture. It's not good so now I need to buy another cat post AND furniture. 😥
I don't get rid of my pet's toys and stuff- they obviously need , including scratching posts (maybe even 2-3 different ones). They enjoy them so much. I prefer to get rid of my own stuff- that's fair and enough
Animals will take up slightly more space because there are things they need and use. We don't have children so our cat gets her own room. We leave the cat carrier in her room. She's not afraid of the cat carrier when we have to take her to the vet. We have a scratching post in her room, one in our bedroom and one downstairs. Do I like having scratching posts out? No, but I'm glad she doesn't scratch our furniture. There is some give and take on the minimalism. Do the best you can and don't beat yourself up over it. It's your life and you should be happy with what you have. You don't have to go by hard and fast rules if you don't want to.
First off, you have to want to be a minimalist for YOU. From your comment it doesn’t sound like you ever desired this lifestyle, more that you are doing it for perfection, because of what other people ‘said’ to do, or that you’ve made it into an unhealthy obsession with overwhelming expectations.
No one can tell you what works for you. You have to figure that out by yourself. You know better than anyone what is important to keep and what is not. You are saying it yourself here: you NEED, and can’t get rid of the cat carrier. That’s the #1 reason to keep any item.
I have tried to be a minimalist and honestly I get rid of loads of stuff and my kids stuff and then 3 months later I think omg where is this gone or the kids need this or that and its something that I may only use once or twice a year like hair curlers or the hot water bottle. Then my son has 3 blankets and if I get rid of them and leave 1, he always ends up throwing up or getting it dirty and needs washing at times when it's not suitable to wash. So what do you do... end up going out buying the shit you have thrown away at that time of the year when you need it again. Minimalism is learning to live without shit you need a few times a year. I have the smallest house ever and my son has to sleep with me. I find it funny how the grass is always greener. I NEED a 3 bedroom property and can't get one. There is no room for my son to have a bed. Those who have more want less. Why not those who have more, help those who have less - rather than stop spending and keeping the money in the bank? Minimalists are just as selfish as consumers are by not sharing wealth/money.
Minimalism for everyone looks different, currently for me minimalism is realizing what I already have is enough. It's a journey not always something you get rid of everything to buy it right back. Try setting aside a few items at a time if you miss it/need it (realize cats need post, they are starting clawing at furniture), then pull it out if need it but if after a few weeks you dont use it then get rid of it. I start a donation bin every month I'll go threw a few rooms and find more every time at end of month I drop it off, sometimes it full sometimes not, it's a journey to being intentional.
No one said you have to be a minimalist. If you're using your stuff, don't get rid of it. I like the minimalist idea for me but my husband isn't on board with it so we compromise. We definitely don't buy stuff we don't need or use. I disagree with your last sentence. You don't know that minimalists are selfish or not. You don't know if they don't share or not and that's up to them if they do.
If you use it once or twice a year, then you are still using it! Don’t throw it. Who said that only items you use daily are important? Those things you know you will use at some point (realistically), put them aside in a place that keeps the clutter away (garage, basement, closet, box in laundry room, etc), but focus on tools or seasonal things, like a hammer and nails or a Christmas tree, for example. Things you will ACTUALLY use and are expensive to replace, or are necessary for REAL emergencies. Plan for a whole year before starting to throw things away. Also, you can sell your stuff on eBay and save that money in a special account so if you ever really need any of the things you got rid of, you will have money to replace them. If your item is cheap enough that is not worth to sell on eBay or even donate, then probably is something you can afford to buy again.
Those who earn their money deserve to spend it how they wish, or not. At least 1/3 of their earnings are stolen from the government to provide for social programs - in essence, it's a forced donation. You are not entitled to other people's money just because you feel you don't have enough. By the way, this is coming from a person who is on government assistance because my family can't make ends meet. I don't envy or resent those who make more money - they deserve to keep every penny. It is THEIRS.
Being a minimalist with kids is difficult. I started minimalizing first with my belongings throughout the house, explained to my kids why I was doing it, as I cleared my home. After some time of doing it the kids were watching me do it then out of the blue they would start taking stuff out of their room to donate without me even telling them to. Me decluttering rooms in my home motivated them. They started to enjoy the decluttered rooms throughout the house that when they went to their room it seem overwhelming, and almost unbearable, that they started to declutter their own rooms on their own ;)
The kids being overwhelmed by their own stuff after the ease and peace in the rest of the house.....that is wonderful. I can bet it wouldn't always work but I'm glad it did for you.
Thank God i read your articles before having babies so they are growing up with a minimalist attitude and you know what?They do not suffer at all and they prefer playing outside with friends. One day I asked my daughter after her birthday party "what did you like the most?" She answered "playing with friends i love". I was really touched by her wise words. She didn't even mention gifts.
I was feeling a bit overwhelmed today as there are so many things everywhere in our house. Just out of curiosity searched the term minimalist living with kids and this video popped up. I watched it with my 6 year old, who jumped up before the video even ended and said "I can do that! I'm going to choose the wall!". He's just showed me a part of a wall he's chosen and is already collecting toys that he wants to keep. And I haven't event thought of where I would start with my own things. Kids are fast!
I get nearly 100% of my clothing (except socks and undies) from thrift stores. Whenever I find a particular item I needed and really wanted I would tell my kids how thankful I was that someone donated it. I in turn would also donate my own unwanted items and again telling my children how happy someone will be to find our items at the thrift store. They have lived this way there whole lives and never think twice about donating their unwanted/needed stuff.
Something that really helped my kids was putting things in a bin in the garage - that way they weren't as scared to let go because if they decide they NEED it we can just go grab it and then after a few months they realize they don't miss it and it gets donated.
I thought I was doing a good job with decluttering. I am decluttering for about a year now. Started with Mary Condo. But I did not feel that I was doing a good job, I still would buy a lot of new stuff. I have found a lot of other people who declutter and tell you how they do it, but just did not find what I was looking for. I had my big "aha" moment when I found your channel! I get it now, I know what I need to do and how to keep doing it, and not fall back! Having kids, and mostly their stuff, was the biggest struggle for me. And I did not realize it until now. The stores and advertisements tell you that you need all this stuff to make you kids happy. I want to thank you for making these video's , you have been a verry big help for me! You made a difference in my life. Thank you!!
Wow, thanks for sharing your journey. Impressive. Thanks for the kind words. So glad to hear you find the videos useful.
I think the space limit rule would work for me, as an adult! Excellent ideas.
Dana, from a Slob Comes Clean, calls it the "container concept" -- and yes, it definitely works for adults too! In fact, she says to let the container be 'the bad guy' -- so it's not you vs. your kids, but it's you working together vs. the container (whether this is a drawer, a bin, a room, etc.)
Thank you so much for this video! I’m not looking for a tour of a minimalist family’s house, they’re great but there are so many, none go over tips like you do! They typically show what they’ve removed and how simple the room is. Keep up the good work!!!
The best thing that has worked for us is the space rule also. My kids know once their toy tubs get filled that's it, no more toys. Same with arts and crafts supplies and clothes (which seem to multiply very fast in our house)
My kids love getting involved 😊
These tips work for adults as well; especially #2 and #4. I can easily apply them to my own minimalism journey. And of course #5 sums it all - deciding what we want to prioritize in our life. Thank you for the video!
The physical limits has helped immensely not only for my child’s toys/belongings but for myself as well. It makes the decision making much simpler!
I also strongly recommend using Montessori at home. Ashley's videos on the hapa family channel are great
I love this video so much! I started decluttering about four years ago and I think my son seeing me minimize so much and as you said explaining "I'm donating this because I don't use it and now someone else can put it to good use" kind of thing has helped him be good about letting go of things over time. We do a little sweep every few months (or whenever) and I can ask him to see if there are clothes that don't fit or toys he's not playing with much that another kid may want and he's totally into the idea of another kid enjoying his toys and clothes that he's grown out of. Giving them another life so to speak.
I enjoyed the points you made in this video. Thanks for sharing your time and thoughts with us.
My kids are 17 and 14. I have recently begun my journey with minimalism. I have always fought with my kids to get them to clean up. My 17 year old daughter is super messy and is a pack rat. All we do is tell her to clean her room. After fighting 17 years to get her to clean her room, I finally cleaned her room myself and told her “If I have to clean your room up every day, you are slowly going to end up owning a lot less stuff. I’m not dealing with this mess every day.” (When she was little we helped her clean her room every day). She did voluntarily donate an extra coat and a dress she no longer wears, so that is progress. I went through her room with a trash bag and got rid of all of the trash over the weekend. I was horrified by how much trash she had all over her room.
Thank you for your tips. I need these. I always struggle with the process to get rid of my kids' stuffs.
This is exactly what I've been looking for thank you! This past Christmas made something snap in me. I have two kids, 5 and 2, and I'm drowning in toys. Their bookshelves are spilling out into piles on the floor. Instead of organizing I just shuffle stuff around. I recently got rid of two big boxes if my own books and clothes this week.
Seeing how other people are so attached to their stuff makes me even more determined. Why have things that just sits in boxes?
Now to to tell well meaning families not to buy 20 gifts for each kid for the holidays...
Hey guys! Just wanted to let you know that my new book, Things That Matter, is finally here. I put my heart into it, and I can’t wait to share it with you. You can pick up a copy at www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676394/things-that-matter-by-joshua-becker/
Thank you so much for this video. I like this method of just keeping the toys that fit in a small space. I spent hours every day moving all the toys from one corner to another. I am going to implement this rule today!
Wellllllll what if my child is 2 and doesn’t show an attachment to most of his items :) I think my hardest part is lookin at his stuff and seeing dollar signs :(
Great video! Thank you!
My kids are 17 and 14. My 17 year old daughter is a hoarder. She has been her whole life. Her room is always disgusting. I have spent her entire life helping her clean her room and getting mad when she trashes is literally the next day. So I am totally a fan of getting rid of my kids’ stuff. I have been telling her repeatedly that if I still have to clean her room at age 17, she is going to become minimalist by force. I told her that from here on out, if that room is trashed, I am going to go in with a trash bag and start throwing stuff away. I have gotten rid of so much of her stuff, but she somehow pack rats more stuff into that room. I just did yet another purge. Next I will reduce the amount of clothes that she owns. All of her clothing is always in the floor. She washes more laundry than the rest of us in the house combined. So my daughter is now becoming a minimalist whether she likes it or not. The less stuff she owns, the less stuff the rest of us have to clean up behind her.
My policy for my child is to keep different kind toys separate. This is very important I discover. I see at my friends house they buy a huge container and all the toys go inside and get mixed. Category toys is important because anything comes outside the category can be questioned and confronted. So far my daughter’s collections are legos, barbies, plushies, puzzles, drawing tools and stationeries and books, musical instruments and sport equipments. Anything comes outside the collection should be counted as clutters.
Dear parents!
When Your kids are very good behaviour all the time and always taking good care of their things, keeping their rooms very clean, loving their favorite things and want to make nice childhood collections of their things: books, clothes, toys, video games, clothes, DVDs and etc, then donataing is very wrong thing to do. If You have few space then storage boxes and shelves will help You out and Your kids will be very happy and thankful then, if they can keep their favourite things. Childhood things are very valuable and it is very sad, if they won’t see them anymore in their life. Every child should have the right to keep their things, if they can take good care of them all the time!!!
Respectfully,
Astra Viil
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I loved the b roll with your family. Super cute n_n thanks for the great advice
Absolutly agree about kids!
I think the music is unnecessary. It clutters the message.
nina blanco
Agreed- very stressful sounds!! 😅
Yes its distracting me!
Pure gold.
I agree, minimalisn is much more important for families! We gotta teach our kids to not buy into consumerism and to value and take care of what they have :)
What about when family members keep giving them things? We asked them to stop or at least ask us first but they don’t seem to understand.
You'll have a hard time stopping their gift-giving tendencies. Try to direct their efforts toward other, more appreciated gifts (needs, consumables, experiences, etc.).
My stepson is a hoarder. He had 40 pairs of shoes for no reason and he is obsessed with things and money. I have no idea how to break that mentality, he is 13
The time with my kids is way more valuable. you will never get that time back
Your kids were 5 and 2... Once they are older is REALLY hard to convince them it's ok to get rid of stuff. No matter how much I embrace minimalism, my 8yo is a pack rat 🤦🏻♀️
You have air forces on??? 😎
I have learned a lot from your books, your course and your videos. But I must admit, your hair still distracts at me. You have the best men’s hair (and my husband was a hair model 🤫).
Nice you're nice man 👍
Then I have a cat carrier there which takes up space and I use it once a year. If I get rid of that guaranteed the cat will get sick and I need to take one of them to the vets. Then minimalist will say... well lend a cat basket. No thanks I am not going round asking other people to lend their possessions that they don't want to hand out for other people to use as it's cheeky. These are the daily struggles I have because of the lack of space. I am trying to become a minimalist to be happier in my small home and it is causing me more stress. These videos never show what shit to keep and what to get rid of. I got rid of the cat post to make space and now they started scratching all the wood furniture. It's not good so now I need to buy another cat post AND furniture. 😥
I don't get rid of my pet's toys and stuff- they obviously need , including scratching posts (maybe even 2-3 different ones). They enjoy them so much. I prefer to get rid of my own stuff- that's fair and enough
Mandy Lee : Stuff you or your animals use is not clutter. Clutter is unused or unwanted stuff.
Animals will take up slightly more space because there are things they need and use. We don't have children so our cat gets her own room. We leave the cat carrier in her room. She's not afraid of the cat carrier when we have to take her to the vet. We have a scratching post in her room, one in our bedroom and one downstairs. Do I like having scratching posts out? No, but I'm glad she doesn't scratch our furniture. There is some give and take on the minimalism. Do the best you can and don't beat yourself up over it. It's your life and you should be happy with what you have. You don't have to go by hard and fast rules if you don't want to.
First off, you have to want to be a minimalist for YOU. From your comment it doesn’t sound like you ever desired this lifestyle, more that you are doing it for perfection, because of what other people ‘said’ to do, or that you’ve made it into an unhealthy obsession with overwhelming expectations.
No one can tell you what works for you. You have to figure that out by yourself. You know better than anyone what is important to keep and what is not. You are saying it yourself here: you NEED, and can’t get rid of the cat carrier. That’s the #1 reason to keep any item.
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I have tried to be a minimalist and honestly I get rid of loads of stuff and my kids stuff and then 3 months later I think omg where is this gone or the kids need this or that and its something that I may only use once or twice a year like hair curlers or the hot water bottle. Then my son has 3 blankets and if I get rid of them and leave 1, he always ends up throwing up or getting it dirty and needs washing at times when it's not suitable to wash. So what do you do... end up going out buying the shit you have thrown away at that time of the year when you need it again. Minimalism is learning to live without shit you need a few times a year. I have the smallest house ever and my son has to sleep with me. I find it funny how the grass is always greener. I NEED a 3 bedroom property and can't get one. There is no room for my son to have a bed. Those who have more want less. Why not those who have more, help those who have less - rather than stop spending and keeping the money in the bank? Minimalists are just as selfish as consumers are by not sharing wealth/money.
Minimalism for everyone looks different, currently for me minimalism is realizing what I already have is enough. It's a journey not always something you get rid of everything to buy it right back. Try setting aside a few items at a time if you miss it/need it (realize cats need post, they are starting clawing at furniture), then pull it out if need it but if after a few weeks you dont use it then get rid of it. I start a donation bin every month I'll go threw a few rooms and find more every time at end of month I drop it off, sometimes it full sometimes not, it's a journey to being intentional.
No one said you have to be a minimalist. If you're using your stuff, don't get rid of it. I like the minimalist idea for me but my husband isn't on board with it so we compromise. We definitely don't buy stuff we don't need or use. I disagree with your last sentence. You don't know that minimalists are selfish or not. You don't know if they don't share or not and that's up to them if they do.
If you use it once or twice a year, then you are still using it! Don’t throw it. Who said that only items you use daily are important? Those things you know you will use at some point (realistically), put them aside in a place that keeps the clutter away (garage, basement, closet, box in laundry room, etc), but focus on tools or seasonal things, like a hammer and nails or a Christmas tree, for example. Things you will ACTUALLY use and are expensive to replace, or are necessary for REAL emergencies. Plan for a whole year before starting to throw things away.
Also, you can sell your stuff on eBay and save that money in a special account so if you ever really need any of the things you got rid of, you will have money to replace them. If your item is cheap enough that is not worth to sell on eBay or even donate, then probably is something you can afford to buy again.
I recommend you watch the TED Talk “How many towels do you need?”
Those who earn their money deserve to spend it how they wish, or not. At least 1/3 of their earnings are stolen from the government to provide for social programs - in essence, it's a forced donation. You are not entitled to other people's money just because you feel you don't have enough. By the way, this is coming from a person who is on government assistance because my family can't make ends meet. I don't envy or resent those who make more money - they deserve to keep every penny. It is THEIRS.
Woww lol ok ok my things 1st, thanks