but when those same women who don't feel beautiful make a man feel unattractive because he's not a 6'2" muscular male model that's perfectly fine right?
Because humans seek out beauty. We're attracted to it. That's been the truth since the beginning of our species. Even birds use beauty to attract mates.
She is an excellent and engaged presenter, but the audience so dry and blah. Why did some of those people choose to be there if they had absolutely no interest in the topic.
One of the most inspiring TEDx talks ever. Thank you Carrie Hammer for such a well-worded presentation with real content. The power of media should be used to emancipate women worldwide and change the image currently sold as "perfection" around the globe. Your cause gives me hope that we're finally onto something and makes me work harder to achieve this vision.
Exactly... Do you know what happens when girls think they aren't beautiful? "Huge impacts. Echoing impacts." All in our society from our mothers, girlfriends, sisters, friends, teachers, etc. "This affects every aspect of our society" -- because when we stop being confident and we stop being our best selves.
OMG I love how she laughs at her own joke. I am a professional model and I can vouch for everything she says! Models I know mostly hate themselves because they're defined by their looks and are given no power. That's why I use it to self fund my own education and enhance my own brain on my own time. Modeling doesn't need to dominate your life, but many models let it.
I remember the first time I heard kids getting their school photos Photoshopped. I thought "photos are meant to capture are story. You can't remember having acne as a teen if Photoshopping it out." My school photo wasn't Photoshopped. My hair was wet on top, so it looked oily. Before hand I had been in the rain.
I have to say I was really distracted with her smiling throughout the entire lecture. Let me explain myself. I loved her lecture and her ideas. She seems like a lovely person. For me, the topic was a bit too dark to warrant constant smiling throughout it. Maybe it’s a defense mechanism for her. I actually do the same thing. I smile when I’m uncomfortable or sad because I don’t like people knowing that I’ve been affected. It was a lovely lecture and I’d highly recommend it to everyone I know. It just reminded me of a scene in the movie The Truth About Cats & Dogs where Uma was practicing for a newscaster position and was reporting on a deadly accident where people died and was smiling throughout it all.
This presentation is very powerful, aspiring, and compassionate. Thank you so much. Please continue empowering the woman that already had destroyed confidence for long long time. Enlighten the life of other people an heal the depressions grounded and place light in them
nicky lin me too it’s said that so few women realize how important education is since once your looks fade it’s all you have and is one of the few things that will get you actual power
I love this video! So true and so meaningful! I wish we all start embarrass positive role models for beauty standards instead of under age girls and Kardashians.
This notion is why i refuse to use filters on pictures. Nor do i cave into the pressure of posting my picture online. Its a slippery slope. Its delusional.
It's not only the beauty industry that exploits people, and I say people because money making is top priority for all big industries. Seek out people's weaknesses and exploit it by whatever means available. If there are none, then create one. There are endless meetings on this very concept. Money is top prioity for not only industries, but for many people. Many of us are so screwed up and unhappy we don't know how to live a simple happy life. The endless circle of ; "work-spent-work some more-spend more" Feel like something is missing but don't know what and won't look inwards to find out what it is. So....go back to work, watch tv, see things to buy that surely will make one feel better and buy it. "The endless circle"
I feel beautiful. Some days I don't look my best, but overall I've pretty much always thought I was beautiful. Not in a conceited way. I don't think I'm MORE beautiful than most other women I know. I don't think the fact that I'm beautiful makes me better than anyone else, and I certainly don't think my beauty is the most important or most interesting thing about me. But I do like the way I look in general, and I'm usually happy when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror or in a store window. I always thought this was pretty normal (especially since, like I said, I think many, many women are at least as beautiful as I am). Now I feel kind of weird about it though...
Great presentation, but I want to actually see the clothes when I watch a fashion show, perhaps it would be best to pair the woman in a wheelchair with another woman in the same dress.
Should I ever have kids, I think I'll put up loads of unedited (I wouldn't know how to edit them anyway) photos of family and friends so that they can see all sorts of people. I really fear these huge things overcoming children so it becomes an obsession. I don't want any daughters I might have to forego sports or answering a question.
Lovely sentiment and I applaud her for the work she's done but she's got a long way to go. All of her role models are of average size or smaller and the one t-shirt she sells on her site would only fit the very smallest of overweight women. No love for the plus-sized here.
Gaussian curve. Beauty is an extremity in the looks department. It is the top of the tops. If we are all beautiful, then the word looses its meaning. Are we all tall? Are we all intelligent? Nope. And we are not all beautiful. 4 in 100 seems actually like a decent evaluation of the actual condition.
She's talking about a 12 year old being portrayed as a 30 year old and you're concerned about her straightened or curled hair...pls. Use your imagination then :)
I'm literally clapping after every sentence she says alone in my room. her audience is so dry and no interested in her talk. why are they there if they are not going to listen. great presentation!
I know, and to think people say "you're only as worthy as your audience!" WTF, were those guys asleep or what? What carrie had to say had me jumping about, they should have been too!!
How about we also encourage neutrality towards our bodies as well. Beauty isn't everything, and it's okay to not feel beautiful. It's okay to not prioritize beauty as important.
Not everyone is beautiful, though. And that's the thing-that shouldn't matter. You are worth more than looks. I say this as an average looking and somewhat overweight man, though...probably less pressure on me. But I always feel as though I pale in comparison to other guys looks wise.
I beg to differ. I think everyone is beautiful. Beauty does not have a specific look. The thing is, people are attracted to different things. One girl/guy might be considered more attractive by a group of people than another girl/guy, but that does not mean that either girl/guy is more or less beautiful than the other. It's a matter of beauty vs attraction but attraction is a matter of opinion. What people consider attractive may change over time, does that mean the people who look like what was previously considered attractive are no longer beautiful? No. I agree that we are worth more than our looks but just because you may not fit what you think is the societal standards of beauty (or what the majority think is attractive), it does not mean you are not beautiful.
People are inherently pretty- all of them. I stopped buying magazines when I realized they were nothing but ads that I was paying for and a waste of trees. I began to see makeup as a tool to express and enhance my strengths, not "fix" the "weaknesses." Wear what you like. If it ends up in a magazine, so what.
The message really comes through when delivered by someone wearing makeup, lipstick, nail polish, high heels...etc etc. Fake it til you make it, I guess??
I give her a lot of credit for being unfazed by the audience not responding to her jokes. She remained composed and on message. Forget about her appearance. She did a great job! Props! The Audience was full of dead people.
this talk is absolutely amazing but, I wish more people talked about people having image issues and not just women because everyone has image problems but men just don't talk about it, speaking as a male who is extremely self conscious and wears makeup to make myself feel happy and attractive
Why don't you try to start the conversation? Women know their own self-image as reflected in media from the time they're little girls. They know what boys say about them and to them from the earliest years of school. Even their parents tell them how they should be beautiful and X or Y is what makes beauty. Only men know how they've fallen for the myths of male beauty, so only men can fight it together.
Women are always asked to do all the emotional labour for men, it's exhausting. Do your own damn TED talk instead of crying "but what about the meeeeeeeeen???" when it's a talk about women, by a woman.
You have to teach them both. To treat others with respect it is important to know that beauty is not everything. But to survive in our visual society you have to know about the fact that the more beautiful you are, the higher are your chances to be successful in life. It's sad, but it's true.
Its not only about the parents though, because even if you try to teach that to your child, they can still be easily influenced by society, other people around them, school and friends and stuff
I've seen a lot of TED talks, and this is one of the top 3. Thank you. For all of us who have never fit that magazine, now instagram mode, this should be shown in elementary school, middle school, high school and before going to college. I have boycotted VS before I lost the ability to fit into their male-gazed oriented view. You are a role model Carrie.
Le problème est une vision unique de la beauté où les standards à atteindre sont ceux d'un modèle unique de la beauté. Où est la diversité? 'Variety' Et l'exploitation de jeunes enfants comme modèles pour vendre des produits aux adultes est tout simplement scandaleuse. J'apprécie que des femmes accomplies soient invitées à se proposer comme 'modèles' à suivre, c'est une démarche tellement plus crédible et inspirante à la fois. La beauté est dans l'oeil de celui qui regarde, pas dans les fards ni les chiffons. Ayons un regard plus incluant, sur nous mêmes et les autres. 'Aimons nous les uns les autres' 'Aime ton prochain comme toi même '. De petites phrases toutes simples, des grandes idées à suivre pour faire de ce monde un lieu accueillant. Misons sur notre vrai capital: notre richesse intérieure! PS: Quel public calme!!
I used to want plastic surgery as a teenager and now I've accepted my past insecurities as things I embrace; a small chest, a distinct nose profile. My nose makes me memorable bc it's not the same as we see in magazines, and I'm more recognizable. My chest doesn't weigh me down, giving me back issues, I can go braless and fit into cute tops, things I hadn't appreciated in my teens. I wish I could instil in my friends who worship instagram influencers, that they are so beautiful and those images are SO FAKE. They've bought the message that their looks define their life. But they absolutely do not. I wish they understood and wanted to be happy with how they look so they can focus on more important things.
I love your comment, and couldn't agree more. 25 years ago, I also wanted plastic surgery for my small, almost nonexistent chest. I'm happy that my mom talked me out of it and since then I've been actively working on loving my body. Being teased all through school for being 'skinny' did a number on my self esteem and colored the way that I saw how a woman's body was supposed to look. Fighting against the mainstream idea of what beauty is can be somewhat challenging. I'm happy you have learned to love and fully accept yourself and all of your beauty, profile and all. 💜
This ted talk is amazing, I would love to be a role model for others, it would be so flattering if people looked up to me. Everybody is beautiful in their own unique way.
Chloe Jayde I think you missed the point. Why do people need to be beautiful? What is beautiful? If it is subjective then why can't you be beautiful? When you say their own "unique" way, you are saying there is a normal way to define beauty which therefore means everyone is not beautiful. Beauty is not something to always be desired and we only desire it because we know men do. It sucks to be a woman.
Interesting presentation - but I did raise my eyebrows where she said her "curly hair doesnt define her" but yet she has had it straightened for the talk?
qhats the problem with straightening her hair and wearing makeup? As long as she's doing it because she likes it, it's okay, it's also achievable, unlike some photoshop editing
Just want to say that her message isn't written off just because she is wearing makeup and has straightened her hair. You can believe you're beautiful but still dress up and enhance that beauty. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have a skin condition called Rosacea, which makes the skin on my face sensitive and bright red, and I often embrace my natural skin but sometimes I put on a little make up to make it a little less noticeable. There's nothing wrong with that, it doesn't mean I don't think I'm beautiful. And about her comparing her curly hair to her friends disability- She wasn't placing her insecurities about her hair to that model's disability, she was making the point that her wheelchair shouldn't define her or hold her back, just as curly hair or freckles shouldn't either. Everyone has insecurities, some more serious than others, she was just saying that we shouldn't let them define us no matter how big or small they are. I definitely think her talk could've been better, I think she should've went into more depth about natural beauty and she should've showed a more diverse set of models. But at the end of the day, she is still spreading a good message. We are all beautiful in our own ways and we all deserve to feel beautiful.
Kirstin Brown Curly haired people aren’t systematically oppressed. Curly haired people aren’t being denied housing, jobs, medical care for their curliness. Also, she could always straighten her hair, but disabled people can’t stop being disabled. That’s why people got mad at her comparing her hair to being handicapped.
I feel beautiful because I take care of myself.This talk is so cliche. If you don’t try at least a little. It’s called letting yourself go. Can’t wait for all the feminists to come for me now
I always knew about photoshopping but wow, this video explains how deep this goes. That is why I asked my wedding photographer when I renewed my vows last June not to Photoshop my photos too much because I wanted the images to still look like me :)
Why not ask them to be UNTOUCHED, period? Or isn't it missing the point? Change the lighting, then. Most people don't even stay married, so there's always next time.
Great lecture but at the same time, this fashion designer looks like a model or as she is part of a commercial for beauty products. This makes it difficult for less attractive or "favored" women to identify with someone that has it all. Growing as a Baby Boomer (male) we did have less pressure to be like "Charles Atlas", Larry Scott (these were the "Arnold" of the day) but there was some pressure nevertheless. Wearing uniforms or strict school dress codes may have simplified appearances and evened out the field to a certain extent. My concern is for all the young/older women out there (including my children/grand-children), how can they compare to Ms Hammer being so ..."perfectly dressed, prepped, and manicured". Does Ms Hammer really understand the pain of the "other women". I do, to a certain extent as I worked as a therapist (PhD) for any years. Let us all love and accept one another. Incidentally, while serving in combat (Marines), an old lady, very average, crippled, that I could barely understand kept me alive and hid me from the enemy. She was poor, had a scarred face from a difficult life, and held me in her arms trying to reassure me? I do not think that I ever saw a more beautiful face in my life, never to see her again. I learned a lot about humanity especially about "beauty" those days. Peace be with you, Ciao, L
The best Ted talk I've heard in ages. I don't think her jokes are funny, because the underlying message is so sad. All my life I've not felt beautiful enough. I still don't, but I feel a lot better after watching this talk. Thank you ❤
Dove try to portray themselves as if they are trying to break down the present beauty standards and give us the illusion of choice, when in reality they are still the same as any beauty company ...
Her speech was so powerful and she's really inspirational. Honestly, the audience was dry as balls; I would be giving her a standing ovation after that.
However, it is important to recognize that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Embracing diversity and promoting inclusive beauty standards can help individuals feel confident and beautiful in their own unique way.
I can relate so much to this! I've been told I'm to skinny that I'm not like " other girls". My husband loves me for me & I feel comfortable in my own skin at 30. I eat healthy for my health , I take care of my face so I feel healthy I excersize so I feel healthy. I dress like how I want to as a tomboy. Im finally happy in my own skin.
15:40 I'm surprised that Ms Hammer felt that her interaction with Beyoncé Carter was positive. Beyonce is known for photo shopping her own photos before posting on her Instagram.
I think you willfully missed the part where she was specifically talking about people embracing models in wheelchairs a year after her Dr client walked in NYFW. Beyonce was last of a long list of names that could all be blamed for photoshop before posting images. She was giving credit where it was due on a specific thing.
Beauty is strictly visual, there's no such thing as beauty on the inside. In fact, by asserting that, we just reinforce the idea that beauty is the ultimate trait that everyone needs to have. We won't solve the problem by including more people into the 'beautiful' category, we just need to not put so much emphasis on beuty and remind ourselves that not being beautiful is okay too.
What I noticed is every picture everyone has the women with makeup. Makeup most of it is very toxic. Just as bad..it promotes women have to cover and color their faces to be acceptable.💝
These talks and lectures and essays in this topic always are the same: let's change what beauty is so some can feel better. It's never stop focusing on appearance. At the end she talks about how what you do is more important. Yeah right. Then why stage the argument on runways and in fashion magazine covers. Drop the word beauty. Stop obsessing. Stop bellowing your inner self is beautiful too. Do something. That isn't about you. Or about your pet cause that is ultimately related to you and your perception and projection of self. Personally I do loads of animal rescue. And I do it as anonymously as o cam to not get applause. And it's deeply fulfilling. And I started and run a company that employs loads of people. It doesn't even cross my mind to think about beauty or if I'm beautiful and blah blah. I don't respect anyone for whom that (however you define it) is important. Grow up
It's not that many care about being beautiful, it's that they care about the things they think beauty effects. Some people think that to be loved you HAVE to be beautiful. So they care about being beautiful mainly because they care about being loved by the people around them. Also, there are other individuals who think that in order to be successful, you have to be beautiful. So if they care about being successful in their life, they will also care about being beautiful. Of course, love and success don't really depend on how beautiful you are, but in today's word, that is what young girls are taught to believe. So in a lot of cases, its not "i care about being beautiful" it's "I care about something that I perceive as being greatly impacted by how beautiful I am".
Straight up ladies, my advice is to stay away from botox. My forehead produced cyst like bumps and is still uneven, 2 years after quiting injections...you basically liquify the muscle and it does not come back...you get sagging etc, dents etc...just dont do it.
That’s not how good quality Botox works. It’s sounds like you should talk to whoever did that and perhaps be compensated for your suffering. Botox doesn’t liquify muscles, and good quality injections from a licensed doc/aesthetician shouldn’t give you dents or sagging.
I really love the message of how damaging the beauty industry is and how unrealistic beauty standards hurt women, however instead of "here's reasons you're actually beautiful / here's how to still feel beautiful" I'm more of a fan of, why is beauty so important in the first place? Why is it so necessary for me to feel beautiful to feel like a human being who's worthy of respect?" I mean, a man doesn't need to feel beautiful to feel powerful or worthwhile, so why do I? That's why I rock the short hair, bare face, and comfortable and practical clothes because being a woman shouldn't mean having to care about my looks to be worthy and powerful.
Thank you for this!!! Carrie...Thank you for this wonderful topic and speech. It's when you see the beauty in someone because of who they are inside and the good impact in the lives of others.
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YES!! Women not feeling beautiful is a huge issue! thank you for sharing this so perfectly!
but when those same women who don't feel beautiful make a man feel unattractive because he's not a 6'2" muscular male model that's perfectly fine right?
Mingas can have purpose to.
Could it be that you are constantly putting up some glossy walls that make you ashmed to be natural? Gee who knows why
@@KeepinItOneHunnnid you exercise your body by making it healthy, you uptnon makeup to hide and forget that you are human and are not perfect
why do we live in such a beauty-centric and anti-ageist society
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anti-ageist? does that mean expecting everyone to want to look young and deeming looking older as less beautiful? this is new to me
@@monicasaenz141 it was a question 😐
Because humans seek out beauty. We're attracted to it. That's been the truth since the beginning of our species. Even birds use beauty to attract mates.
Because looking nice is good for peoples egos and for people who are looking at the person who is beautiful
She is an excellent and engaged presenter, but the audience so dry and blah. Why did some of those people choose to be there if they had absolutely no interest in the topic.
She wears lots of make-up, her nails are polished, her hair are ironed, maybe what she is contradicts what she says.
LOL, I agree, Britt P. ! She is an awesome speaker.
I totally agreed
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I guess because they were there for other topics that they were more interested in. There were probably many talks. Simple as that.
Why fit in when you're born to stand out.
I believe that its our flaws that make us different.
Wow, great point!
Should we really call them flaws?
@@Lekshmitalks not really!!!!
One of the most inspiring TEDx talks ever. Thank you Carrie Hammer for such a well-worded presentation with real content. The power of media should be used to emancipate women worldwide and change the image currently sold as "perfection" around the globe. Your cause gives me hope that we're finally onto something and makes me work harder to achieve this vision.
I agree.
😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😊
Exactly... Do you know what happens when girls think they aren't beautiful? "Huge impacts. Echoing impacts." All in our society from our mothers, girlfriends, sisters, friends, teachers, etc. "This affects every aspect of our society" -- because when we stop being confident and we stop being our best selves.
Why did no one laugh at her jokes? It was so awkward.
maybe we can't hear
they are there's just no mic out there
Maybe they didn’t think they were funny
"Jokes"
I heard somewhere audience is not allowed to make noise in ted talks or they are filtered and edited before being posted
OMG I love how she laughs at her own joke. I am a professional model and I can vouch for everything she says! Models I know mostly hate themselves because they're defined by their looks and are given no power. That's why I use it to self fund my own education and enhance my own brain on my own time. Modeling doesn't need to dominate your life, but many models let it.
Danielle D hey I'm a model too and I'm currently writing a Ted talk about the industry, would be great to hear your thoughts :)
And you'll be entirely invisible before you know it, too.
I know exactly what you mean. And I did the same. Now I became psychologist. And guess what? I’am specialized in body image 😉
she had a tough crowd smh
I remember the first time I heard kids getting their school photos Photoshopped. I thought "photos are meant to capture are story. You can't remember having acne as a teen if Photoshopping it out."
My school photo wasn't Photoshopped. My hair was wet on top, so it looked oily. Before hand I had been in the rain.
My new favorite Tedtalk!!! Love this, thank you so much for blazing this trail for us, the world desperately needs your Runway Revolution.
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Fabulous message, more people should hear. Thanks for caring to make a difference.
I am beautiful, even when I'm not
This is my favourite talk so far! Also, showing up to a Ted talk in a cape is such a power move
When your heart is beautiful, you are beautiful!
YES!!!!
Word!
I think, that men have created this business, and they will keep their's imagined Beauty Queens alive.
Magdalena P. It’s not just men. Women oppress and keep other women down in business a lot. There’s a few interesting TED talks about it.
Good point.
it’s all about $$$ unfortunately
I have to say I was really distracted with her smiling throughout the entire lecture. Let me explain myself. I loved her lecture and her ideas. She seems like a lovely person. For me, the topic was a bit too dark to warrant constant smiling throughout it. Maybe it’s a defense mechanism for her. I actually do the same thing. I smile when I’m uncomfortable or sad because I don’t like people knowing that I’ve been affected. It was a lovely lecture and I’d highly recommend it to everyone I know. It just reminded me of a scene in the movie The Truth About Cats & Dogs where Uma was practicing for a newscaster position and was reporting on a deadly accident where people died and was smiling throughout it all.
This presentation is very powerful, aspiring, and compassionate. Thank you so much. Please continue empowering the woman that already had destroyed confidence for long long time. Enlighten the life of other people an heal the depressions grounded and place light in them
I can relate to all her stories! Things are different now and beauty is being redefined thankfully.
One of the most important ted talks for every women on earth ❤❤
Im proud to say i fall in the 4% category because for me education is everything. tq for this talk. very uplifting!!!
nicky lin me too it’s said that so few women realize how important education is since once your looks fade it’s all you have and is one of the few things that will get you actual power
@@neigeepierrot4694 absolutely 👌.
I love this video! So true and so meaningful! I wish we all start embarrass positive role models for beauty standards instead of under age girls and Kardashians.
This notion is why i refuse to use filters on pictures. Nor do i cave into the pressure of posting my picture online. Its a slippery slope. Its delusional.
It's not only the beauty industry that exploits people, and I say people because money making is top priority for all big industries. Seek out people's weaknesses and exploit it by whatever means available. If there are none, then create one. There are endless meetings on this very concept. Money is top prioity for not only industries, but for many people. Many of us are so screwed up and unhappy we don't know how to live a simple happy life.
The endless circle of ; "work-spent-work some more-spend more" Feel like something is missing but don't know what and won't look inwards to find out what it is. So....go back to work, watch tv, see things to buy that surely will make one feel better and buy it. "The endless circle"
just an add for her clothing line
that batman cape tho. hella cool
Congratulations on creating a, "Real world on Fire!" Keep it up and keep it going!
I feel beautiful. Some days I don't look my best, but overall I've pretty much always thought I was beautiful. Not in a conceited way. I don't think I'm MORE beautiful than most other women I know. I don't think the fact that I'm beautiful makes me better than anyone else, and I certainly don't think my beauty is the most important or most interesting thing about me. But I do like the way I look in general, and I'm usually happy when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror or in a store window. I always thought this was pretty normal (especially since, like I said, I think many, many women are at least as beautiful as I am). Now I feel kind of weird about it though...
This speech is so empowering!!
So legit!! I love this! Thank you!
The audience must be apart of the beauty industry.
Great presentation, but I want to actually see the clothes when I watch a fashion show, perhaps it would be best to pair the woman in a wheelchair with another woman in the same dress.
Amazing talk!
Thank you for the video.
Kindness makes you beautiful no matter how you look like.
Should I ever have kids, I think I'll put up loads of unedited (I wouldn't know how to edit them anyway) photos of family and friends so that they can see all sorts of people. I really fear these huge things overcoming children so it becomes an obsession. I don't want any daughters I might have to forego sports or answering a question.
!!!!!!!! Such a good talk
I love her voice
True all is true, hard truth
Love this video ❤
What a fabulous ted talk thanks Carrie! you are rogue! ! !
How do I upvote a video 1 000 000 times?
Lovely sentiment and I applaud her for the work she's done but she's got a long way to go. All of her role models are of average size or smaller and the one t-shirt she sells on her site would only fit the very smallest of overweight women. No love for the plus-sized here.
Thought after 5 minutes, "What is she selling?"
Not her , not it, not that, her magazine?
Gaussian curve. Beauty is an extremity in the looks department. It is the top of the tops. If we are all beautiful, then the word looses its meaning. Are we all tall? Are we all intelligent? Nope. And we are not all beautiful. 4 in 100 seems actually like a decent evaluation of the actual condition.
This audience is the worst. I imagine it was very uncomfortable for this woman to stand up there and have them be so uninterested in her talk
wow!!! LOVED THIS
I love this a lot 😄
What is this, 1990? We've moved beyond this subject.
Why not show off the natural curls you have to drive your point home?
She's talking about a 12 year old being portrayed as a 30 year old and you're concerned about her straightened or curled hair...pls. Use your imagination then :)
@@tinaplaninic1437 I'm concerned about her giving off the wrong message... Which in my opinion, she did.
But thanks for your snippy comment.
The speaker looks like a white version of Tiffany Tang. Wow.
The word BEAUTIFUL is way TOO OVERUSED !!!!!!!!
Audience so dry. If I were here I could've been doing back flips.
True....
I don't wanna break my body parts so I will just do fortnite.
I think they are so captivated by her words they are just taking it in silence and awe
😂😂...count me in
This is my favourite talk so far! Also, showing up to a Ted talk in a cape is such a power move
Me too!
I'm literally clapping after every sentence she says alone in my room. her audience is so dry and no interested in her talk. why are they there if they are not going to listen. great presentation!
I love her presentation
YES.
I think is because in this video they only used her the audio track.
I know, and to think people say "you're only as worthy as your audience!" WTF, were those guys asleep or what? What carrie had to say had me jumping about, they should have been too!!
How about we also encourage neutrality towards our bodies as well. Beauty isn't everything, and it's okay to not feel beautiful. It's okay to not prioritize beauty as important.
Thats what i say too!
Emma Cat yesss
I wish everyone could read this comment!
I would love this woman's clients & models to be mainstream. We don't want models, we NEED role models
Take Marie Curie as role model! Or Elise Meitner.
Be your own role model. People will try to sell you junk all the time
Not everyone is beautiful, though. And that's the thing-that shouldn't matter. You are worth more than looks. I say this as an average looking and somewhat overweight man, though...probably less pressure on me. But I always feel as though I pale in comparison to other guys looks wise.
I beg to differ. I think everyone is beautiful. Beauty does not have a specific look. The thing is, people are attracted to different things. One girl/guy might be considered more attractive by a group of people than another girl/guy, but that does not mean that either girl/guy is more or less beautiful than the other. It's a matter of beauty vs attraction but attraction is a matter of opinion. What people consider attractive may change over time, does that mean the people who look like what was previously considered attractive are no longer beautiful? No. I agree that we are worth more than our looks but just because you may not fit what you think is the societal standards of beauty (or what the majority think is attractive), it does not mean you are not beautiful.
Beauty is not pretty.
Pretty might be the standard of 'beauty' in industries but beauty is what makes your heart say thanks for a chance to encounter that.
The thing is, beauty is more than looks, so everyone has beauty in them
I saw on a Reddit post once that instead of saying everyone is beautiful, we should be spreading the message that it's fine to NOT be beautiful.
She sounds very nervous. The audience isn’t making a peep either... which probably isn’t helping
It's probably that rasp in her voice.
People are inherently pretty- all of them. I stopped buying magazines when I realized they were nothing but ads that I was paying for and a waste of trees. I began to see makeup as a tool to express and enhance my strengths, not "fix" the "weaknesses." Wear what you like. If it ends up in a magazine, so what.
The message really comes through when delivered by someone wearing makeup, lipstick, nail polish, high heels...etc etc.
Fake it til you make it, I guess??
the whole world is crazy
true
yes. isn't that beautiful? just remember though, that we're all in it together, and working it out, together.
I give her a lot of credit for being unfazed by the audience not responding to her jokes. She remained composed and on message. Forget about her appearance. She did a great job! Props! The Audience was full of dead people.
"Not feeling beautiful means not feeling powerful"
"Be a role model for someone in your life and show what individualistic beauty looks like".
Her speech is mind-blowing! THANK YOU
this talk is absolutely amazing but, I wish more people talked about people having image issues and not just women because everyone has image problems but men just don't talk about it, speaking as a male who is extremely self conscious and wears makeup to make myself feel happy and attractive
Why don't you try to start the conversation? Women know their own self-image as reflected in media from the time they're little girls. They know what boys say about them and to them from the earliest years of school. Even their parents tell them how they should be beautiful and X or Y is what makes beauty. Only men know how they've fallen for the myths of male beauty, so only men can fight it together.
Hafwai Officially u are male u don't need it
Hafwai Officially this is for WOMEN
Women are always asked to do all the emotional labour for men, it's exhausting. Do your own damn TED talk instead of crying "but what about the meeeeeeeeen???" when it's a talk about women, by a woman.
@@ninninin656 ^ this. 100 times yes!!
how about teaching your child to see validation within and not through someone else or cover?
You have to teach them both. To treat others with respect it is important to know that beauty is not everything. But to survive in our visual society you have to know about the fact that the more beautiful you are, the higher are your chances to be successful in life. It's sad, but it's true.
Its not only about the parents though, because even if you try to teach that to your child, they can still be easily influenced by society, other people around them, school and friends and stuff
I've seen a lot of TED talks, and this is one of the top 3. Thank you. For all of us who have never fit that magazine, now instagram mode, this should be shown in elementary school, middle school, high school and before going to college. I have boycotted VS before I lost the ability to fit into their male-gazed oriented view. You are a role model Carrie.
Spend more on ourselves, less on our selfies
Loved that she had a chuckle about that joke 😁
Did she say all that while she has that "hokus-pokus" on her face ?
Le problème est une vision unique de la beauté où les standards à atteindre sont ceux d'un modèle unique de la beauté. Où est la diversité? 'Variety' Et l'exploitation de jeunes enfants comme modèles pour vendre des produits aux adultes est tout simplement scandaleuse. J'apprécie que des femmes accomplies soient invitées à se proposer comme 'modèles' à suivre, c'est une démarche tellement plus crédible et inspirante à la fois. La beauté est dans l'oeil de celui qui regarde, pas dans les fards ni les chiffons. Ayons un regard plus incluant, sur nous mêmes et les autres. 'Aimons nous les uns les autres' 'Aime ton prochain comme toi même '. De petites phrases toutes simples, des grandes idées à suivre pour faire de ce monde un lieu accueillant. Misons sur notre vrai capital: notre richesse intérieure! PS: Quel public calme!!
I used to want plastic surgery as a teenager and now I've accepted my past insecurities as things I embrace; a small chest, a distinct nose profile. My nose makes me memorable bc it's not the same as we see in magazines, and I'm more recognizable. My chest doesn't weigh me down, giving me back issues, I can go braless and fit into cute tops, things I hadn't appreciated in my teens.
I wish I could instil in my friends who worship instagram influencers, that they are so beautiful and those images are SO FAKE. They've bought the message that their looks define their life. But they absolutely do not. I wish they understood and wanted to be happy with how they look so they can focus on more important things.
I love your comment, and couldn't agree more. 25 years ago, I also wanted plastic surgery for my small, almost nonexistent chest. I'm happy that my mom talked me out of it and since then I've been actively working on loving my body. Being teased all through school for being 'skinny' did a number on my self esteem and colored the way that I saw how a woman's body was supposed to look. Fighting against the mainstream idea of what beauty is can be somewhat challenging. I'm happy you have learned to love and fully accept yourself and all of your beauty, profile and all. 💜
OMG Carrie Hammer......consider my mind altered!!!! I am speechless..
Why is it that most women who talk about how terrible the beauty industry is and how harmful it is for women are beautiful and thin? Lol.
This ted talk is amazing, I would love to be a role model for others, it would be so flattering if people looked up to me. Everybody is beautiful in their own unique way.
Chloe Jayde I think you missed the point. Why do people need to be beautiful? What is beautiful? If it is subjective then why can't you be beautiful? When you say their own "unique" way, you are saying there is a normal way to define beauty which therefore means everyone is not beautiful. Beauty is not something to always be desired and we only desire it because we know men do. It sucks to be a woman.
Chloe Jayde you are beautiful!
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That's very true; science has proven there is objective beauty.
It's quite clear.
Additionally: her comment was wonderful.
I think the audience was planted there by the beauty industry
HAHAHAHA!
I adore the girl I am in love with natural curly hair, big bright eyes and freckles.. wtf
Interesting presentation - but I did raise my eyebrows where she said her "curly hair doesnt define her" but yet she has had it straightened for the talk?
qhats the problem with straightening her hair and wearing makeup? As long as she's doing it because she likes it, it's okay, it's also achievable, unlike some photoshop editing
Just want to say that her message isn't written off just because she is wearing makeup and has straightened her hair. You can believe you're beautiful but still dress up and enhance that beauty. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have a skin condition called Rosacea, which makes the skin on my face sensitive and bright red, and I often embrace my natural skin but sometimes I put on a little make up to make it a little less noticeable. There's nothing wrong with that, it doesn't mean I don't think I'm beautiful.
And about her comparing her curly hair to her friends disability- She wasn't placing her insecurities about her hair to that model's disability, she was making the point that her wheelchair shouldn't define her or hold her back, just as curly hair or freckles shouldn't either. Everyone has insecurities, some more serious than others, she was just saying that we shouldn't let them define us no matter how big or small they are.
I definitely think her talk could've been better, I think she should've went into more depth about natural beauty and she should've showed a more diverse set of models. But at the end of the day, she is still spreading a good message. We are all beautiful in our own ways and we all deserve to feel beautiful.
Kirstin Brown Curly haired people aren’t systematically oppressed. Curly haired people aren’t being denied housing, jobs, medical care for their curliness.
Also, she could always straighten her hair, but disabled people can’t stop being disabled. That’s why people got mad at her comparing her hair to being handicapped.
I mean over 80% of my income goes towards fashion, makeup, and beauty so that makes sense. Btw I’m 15 and I live at home and have a pretty basic job
zucc for v buck That percentage will change when you have rent and bills and car payments etc ;)
I feel beautiful because I take care of myself.This talk is so cliche. If you don’t try at least a little. It’s called letting yourself go. Can’t wait for all the feminists to come for me now
yea but there is balance between striving for something ridiculous and self acceptance
Let it go! Let it goooo! 😂
I always knew about photoshopping but wow, this video explains how deep this goes. That is why I asked my wedding photographer when I renewed my vows last June not to Photoshop my photos too much because I wanted the images to still look like me :)
Why not ask them to be UNTOUCHED, period? Or isn't it missing the point? Change the lighting, then.
Most people don't even stay married, so there's always next time.
Great lecture but at the same time, this fashion designer looks like a model or as she is part of a commercial for beauty products. This makes it difficult for less attractive or "favored" women to identify with someone that has it all. Growing as a Baby Boomer (male) we did have less pressure to be like "Charles Atlas", Larry Scott (these were the "Arnold" of the day) but there was some pressure nevertheless. Wearing uniforms or strict school dress codes may have simplified appearances and evened out the field to a certain extent. My concern is for all the young/older women out there (including my children/grand-children), how can they compare to Ms Hammer being so ..."perfectly dressed, prepped, and manicured". Does Ms Hammer really understand the pain of the "other women". I do, to a certain extent as I worked as a therapist (PhD) for any years. Let us all love and accept one another.
Incidentally, while serving in combat (Marines), an old lady, very average, crippled, that I could barely understand kept me alive and hid me from the enemy. She was poor, had a scarred face from a difficult life, and held me in her arms trying to reassure me? I do not think that I ever saw a more beautiful face in my life, never to see her again. I learned a lot about humanity especially about "beauty" those days. Peace be with you, Ciao, L
FaceTune and the Snapchat filters shouldn’t even exist.
The best Ted talk I've heard in ages. I don't think her jokes are funny, because the underlying message is so sad. All my life I've not felt beautiful enough. I still don't, but I feel a lot better after watching this talk. Thank you ❤
Dove try to portray themselves as if they are trying to break down the present beauty standards and give us the illusion of choice, when in reality they are still the same as any beauty company ...
Her speech was so powerful and she's really inspirational. Honestly, the audience was dry as balls; I would be giving her a standing ovation after that.
The harmful chemicals on cosmetic and their plastic containers - Cosmetic pollution is real.
What crazy curly hair, what freckles?
His girlfriend
However, it is important to recognize that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Embracing diversity and promoting inclusive beauty standards can help individuals feel confident and beautiful in their own unique way.
I can relate so much to this! I've been told I'm to skinny that I'm not like " other girls". My husband loves me for me & I feel comfortable in my own skin at 30. I eat healthy for my health , I take care of my face so I feel healthy I excersize so I feel healthy. I dress like how I want to as a tomboy. Im finally happy in my own skin.
Happy for you
15:40 I'm surprised that Ms Hammer felt that her interaction with Beyoncé Carter was positive. Beyonce is known for photo shopping her own photos before posting on her Instagram.
Totally agree with you on this issue
I think you willfully missed the part where she was specifically talking about people embracing models in wheelchairs a year after her Dr client walked in NYFW. Beyonce was last of a long list of names that could all be blamed for photoshop before posting images. She was giving credit where it was due on a specific thing.
You don't need to feel beautiful on the outside as long as you are beautiful on the inside.
Beauty is strictly visual, there's no such thing as beauty on the inside. In fact, by asserting that, we just reinforce the idea that beauty is the ultimate trait that everyone needs to have. We won't solve the problem by including more people into the 'beautiful' category, we just need to not put so much emphasis on beuty and remind ourselves that not being beautiful is okay too.
@@vitbrichnac9405 totally
agree
I also opt out of social functions often. Bcz i don't like putting on make up N people think I'm a weirdo for not wearing any makeup
what would it look like if our culture contorted men via physical demands as women are
I guess body building but women aren't as visual as men we are more forgiving of different types of looks
What an awesome person she is! So authentic, good-hearted and strong!
What I noticed is every picture everyone has the women with makeup. Makeup most of it is very toxic. Just as bad..it promotes women have to cover and color their faces to be acceptable.💝
They all make silly unrealistic beauty standard ...hate it
These talks and lectures and essays in this topic always are the same: let's change what beauty is so some can feel better. It's never stop focusing on appearance. At the end she talks about how what you do is more important. Yeah right. Then why stage the argument on runways and in fashion magazine covers. Drop the word beauty. Stop obsessing. Stop bellowing your inner self is beautiful too. Do something. That isn't about you. Or about your pet cause that is ultimately related to you and your perception and projection of self. Personally I do loads of animal rescue. And I do it as anonymously as o cam to not get applause. And it's deeply fulfilling. And I started and run a company that employs loads of people. It doesn't even cross my mind to think about beauty or if I'm beautiful and blah blah. I don't respect anyone for whom that (however you define it) is important. Grow up
It's not that many care about being beautiful, it's that they care about the things they think beauty effects. Some people think that to be loved you HAVE to be beautiful. So they care about being beautiful mainly because they care about being loved by the people around them. Also, there are other individuals who think that in order to be successful, you have to be beautiful. So if they care about being successful in their life, they will also care about being beautiful. Of course, love and success don't really depend on how beautiful you are, but in today's word, that is what young girls are taught to believe. So in a lot of cases, its not "i care about being beautiful" it's "I care about something that I perceive as being greatly impacted by how beautiful I am".
I agree with you 100%, you made it very clear and I some how struggle to understand why so many people in the comment section are not getting it.
Straight up ladies, my advice is to stay away from botox. My forehead produced cyst like bumps and is still uneven, 2 years after quiting injections...you basically liquify the muscle and it does not come back...you get sagging etc, dents etc...just dont do it.
Sounds like you had a bad injector, Botox when used correctly can produce fantastic results.
That’s not how good quality Botox works. It’s sounds like you should talk to whoever did that and perhaps be compensated for your suffering. Botox doesn’t liquify muscles, and good quality injections from a licensed doc/aesthetician shouldn’t give you dents or sagging.
I really love the message of how damaging the beauty industry is and how unrealistic beauty standards hurt women, however instead of "here's reasons you're actually beautiful / here's how to still feel beautiful" I'm more of a fan of, why is beauty so important in the first place? Why is it so necessary for me to feel beautiful to feel like a human being who's worthy of respect?" I mean, a man doesn't need to feel beautiful to feel powerful or worthwhile, so why do I? That's why I rock the short hair, bare face, and comfortable and practical clothes because being a woman shouldn't mean having to care about my looks to be worthy and powerful.
Thank you for this!!! Carrie...Thank you for this wonderful topic and speech. It's when you see the beauty in someone because of who they are inside and the good impact in the lives of others.
I would be more convinced if she came out with no make up.