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  • Опубликовано: 29 ноя 2024

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  • @Tuko
    @Tuko  Год назад +118

    What message do you have for George Chacha? You can reach him through his number +254 722 381547.
    To share your story with us, send an email to yvonne.kawira@tuko.co.ke or eucabeth.mukami@tuko.co.ke.

    • @stefigitash3482
      @stefigitash3482 Год назад +10

      Maybe she also has her story to tell

    • @PuppyWorld123
      @PuppyWorld123 Год назад +3

      Extremely selfish. Chose other woman over wife even when they had separated... Your family comes first.. He walked out over 'issues'. In this life you are paid what you 😢 serve....

    • @lilianlemein1427
      @lilianlemein1427 Год назад +2

      Lynn Ngugi kindly do this episode....

    • @wilsonlosike6398
      @wilsonlosike6398 Год назад +1

      Pp

    • @samuelagwotu5074
      @samuelagwotu5074 Год назад +3

      He has to reconcile with the mother of his children

  • @judithpande7292
    @judithpande7292 Год назад +125

    My marriage is more or less the same because we have very many issues that are unresolved for 9years.Personality differences,no affection then my husband giving commands instead of being involving.The marriage isn't working at all despite my husband not being violent.marriage entails alot that men don't understand

    • @chrpmaginaatsyaya3888
      @chrpmaginaatsyaya3888 Год назад +20

      A commanding and a so controlling man is just a psychological torture in marriage even if hes not violent😢

    • @chrpmaginaatsyaya3888
      @chrpmaginaatsyaya3888 Год назад +25

      Men rarely accept when on the wrong. When you raise an issue it worsens as he will even assault you verbally to show you hes right

    • @benardgugu3893
      @benardgugu3893 Год назад +4

      Y don't u teach him since u know his challenge/??

    • @nephatoliech5601
      @nephatoliech5601 Год назад +6

      Marriage is a contract, you get what you put into it. If you feel that with all honesty you put in more than you get, re negotiate the contract or simply find another contract that is suitable. Just don’t destroy your marriage because of stupid ego. Women have ego too, and they want to usurp the roles of men. Haiwezekani😡

    • @dianaclarke6810
      @dianaclarke6810 Год назад

      @@chrpmaginaatsyaya3888 😓

  • @elizabethhowell1876
    @elizabethhowell1876 Год назад +117

    What a gentleman ! To take respect and stand accountable as an African man is very very rare. I salute you sir

    • @tvs9978
      @tvs9978 Год назад +2

      So so rare

    • @Deborahponi
      @Deborahponi Год назад +2

      Wow my condolences to him and the family. I believed through him narrating the story, there were some red flags that was missed due to the cool war which was happening in silence btn him and his wife. The son was fighting in silence whilst needed perhaps their help.
      Hmm African father most don’t build up intimate relationship with their children because of our culture’s perhaps.
      I pray that we all learn from this than regretting later than being there for our children.

    • @Family-roots
      @Family-roots Год назад

      Connecting the two stories, your broken relationship with your wife took a toll on your son.

  • @KDT227
    @KDT227 Год назад +152

    This gentleman is wise - even though he shares his story he was very careful to be balanced in his assessment of the situation. He didn’t paint her black and he took his own responsibility where necessary.

    • @elizabethwathoni5529
      @elizabethwathoni5529 Год назад +6

      Must have put into consideration comments of earlier interview and Manipulated the story. Initially all blame was on wife and the heading was that she threatened to kill him

    • @naigasophiamariam7749
      @naigasophiamariam7749 9 месяцев назад

      That's sth rare to find in men... They will paint you black like you didn't exist...

  • @salamawise
    @salamawise Год назад +66

    Quite a lesson. Wish we would have the wife share her experience...not for us to judge but to learn and strengthen our marriage relationships. May the lord restore your marriage and keep your sons strong

  • @sallywahito
    @sallywahito Год назад +243

    I wish the wife could be available to also give her part of the story. Unresolved issues over the years pushed these couple to a bitter end...but hearing from both parties will give a clear picture of the real issues

  • @maureenmore973
    @maureenmore973 Год назад +182

    It's so saddening to see so much sympathy for this man in the comments. Anyone who knows anything about Covert Narcissists can see all the red flags. The fact that he went into a new relationship that soon after leaving his wife is a major red flag. When a woman goes quite trust me she is in so much pain that putting it into words is impossible. Alot of what I'm hearing is the story of my life and marriage,, I'v been on antidepressants for 23 years. My husband is a saint to everyone out there, very quiet, humble and generous. Only me and my kids know the monster he tirns into behind closed does.

    • @joycengeru6520
      @joycengeru6520 Год назад +11

      This guy is a narcissist. He is remorse now because the wife moved on and the public is aware of him now.

    • @sabinakemto1184
      @sabinakemto1184 Год назад

      Hugs mummy

    • @faithmakena6848
      @faithmakena6848 Год назад +6

      I support this is a fully baked narcissist

    • @BedolaKitoga-pk3nc
      @BedolaKitoga-pk3nc Год назад +8

      Me too I'm in there same situation me n my kids are going through a lot 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

    • @dorothytumusiime3587
      @dorothytumusiime3587 Год назад +2

      I understand that

  • @ayandakhanyile9996
    @ayandakhanyile9996 Год назад +98

    Thank you for sharing your story "Baba", I related to everything you shared. For 2 weeks now, my wife and I sleep in separate rooms. After listening to your story, I am going back to sharing the bed with my wife. My deepest condolences for the loss of your son, may his soul rest in peace.

    • @priscawambui2604
      @priscawambui2604 Год назад +5

      Thanks alot for sharing your experience coz you HV helped me alot and I know many will learn from this,I wish you all the best in life.

    • @MICHAELmbuvi-g9z
      @MICHAELmbuvi-g9z Год назад

      I hv learned smth too,I haven't gone such deeper ...... Bt using Ur advise this must end.

    • @atuheireagnes6829
      @atuheireagnes6829 Год назад +2

      Big lesson concerning my children 😢 i pray I'm more careful in observing their ways, withdraws, critical follow up,loving them and being their for them 🙏

    • @akampurirajanis4290
      @akampurirajanis4290 Год назад

      oh, my goodness! this was so terrible! 😢 so sorry for your family!

    • @seraa7272
      @seraa7272 Год назад

      This has also given a life lesson to cherish the people we love and also tell them is how much we love them. And also to be keen on the behaviors of our kids

  • @donnatrixie1376
    @donnatrixie1376 Год назад +112

    Unresolved conflicts or rather sweeping issues under the carpet killed my marriage the moment it started. One thing beg to disagree with is for a husband to remain neutral in issues pertaining to in_laws. A true husband should protect his wife from the so called in- laws- I can't be more clearer on this

    • @jagenaught
      @jagenaught Год назад +2

      Well he should respect his parents and keep his immediate family from them. However I have the experience of wives involving their people and things they shouldn't be involved in. This killed my marriages but finally I have a woman who understands the importance of us doing our own thing.

    • @pamelaayieta6071
      @pamelaayieta6071 Год назад

      A woman gets what she gives,if you treat in-laws with respect,you will get respect,but some women join their husbands families and disrupt everything.Respect in-laws,you mighty need them one day.

    • @the62922
      @the62922 Год назад +1

      ​@@pamelaayieta6071 You must be a very painful in law to have. This is a rare comment

  • @pheladinare2876
    @pheladinare2876 Год назад +28

    Baba George is very atticulate and also very intelligent. So full of wisdom going forward I have learned a thing or two to practice in my marriage for the healthy outcome. God bless you baba 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

  • @KDT227
    @KDT227 Год назад +93

    Effective communication is very important in marriage! Resolve the issues and FORGIVE!

    • @shalommediahub1639
      @shalommediahub1639 Год назад +4

      What should be done to this quite people? Sometimes people say that quite people are good better those who make noise because you can solve issues together. I don't advocate

    • @joycemutanda9261
      @joycemutanda9261 Год назад

      Very important indeed

    • @buildplanconsult4411
      @buildplanconsult4411 Год назад

      Well said..that's actually why their marriage failed..

    • @destinedwinner1338
      @destinedwinner1338 Год назад

      ​@@shalommediahub1639u nailed it

  • @teresawanjiru3171
    @teresawanjiru3171 Год назад +104

    No communication is the main killer of marriage.

  • @hockeyfan3738
    @hockeyfan3738 Год назад +42

    The host is beautiful and I like how she listens. ❤

    • @YvonneKawiraTuko
      @YvonneKawiraTuko Год назад +2

      ❤ thank you so much for your kind words.

    • @pamelaayieta6071
      @pamelaayieta6071 Год назад +2

      Boys are so sensitive to the well being of there mother but they will rarely confront their dad.Their is a reason as to why his son commited suicide.Mums tears really hurt biko and he decided to just not seeing his mum go through pains.

    • @ayandabaca7545
      @ayandabaca7545 Год назад

      She really is a good listener

  • @RonniCerah7807
    @RonniCerah7807 Год назад +34

    I love this man's strength the Grace he carries,,,most men they die inside out quietly

    • @MarthaThiga
      @MarthaThiga Год назад +3

      😢😢Sad..The worst part is when the son committed suicide..I hope and pray the other children will not be affected by separation of their parents plus the death of their brother..Healing to all of them cause they are going through so much pain..

    • @genniferpaulgomez3028
      @genniferpaulgomez3028 Год назад

      I listened to your storey, & must say mental illness is the deadliest of all illnesses & the sad fact, is noone sees or recognize it, until it's too late. Mèntal illness, rob human beings of living.

  • @buildplanconsult4411
    @buildplanconsult4411 Год назад +32

    Communication, communication & communication. The oxygen of marriage & all relationships!

  • @cynthiaakinyi9829
    @cynthiaakinyi9829 Год назад +41

    I like the fact that he accepts that both of them were victims of each other

    • @missorwa3136
      @missorwa3136 Год назад

      We've got the same name, both names

  • @angatiawycliffe1258
    @angatiawycliffe1258 Год назад +70

    I like the part where Chacha takes responsibility for his own failures and mistakes. Surely when you do, it helps you heal and look at life better than just aportìoning blames. May God guide you through and many others with similar challenges. It happened to me.

  • @joanchemutai8736
    @joanchemutai8736 Год назад +27

    Surely goodness and mercies shall follow you all the days of your life 🙏🙏

  • @lilianwekesa2965
    @lilianwekesa2965 Год назад +17

    Mad respect to you sir! I love the way you have put across your sentiments, not once have you talked bad about your ex-wife. Learnt a lot from this

    • @charitychisete4230
      @charitychisete4230 Год назад

      Coz she is a good person but the thing is ,he failed to be with the virtuous woman from God coz of infidelity and narcissist spirit from devil.
      But the Lord is faithful soon they will be together

  • @bekaogoro7071
    @bekaogoro7071 Год назад +24

    Am sorry for the loss of your son. May God heal your marriage

  • @sherr6813
    @sherr6813 Год назад +145

    I'm in awe of his gentleness and wisdom. I hope he finds his peace soon. That is all he needs right now

  • @mumbistafford2357
    @mumbistafford2357 Год назад +20

    This is an exceptional man! He has spoken about mental health and marriage openly ❤. Deepest condolences to you and your family. You have really inspired many of us. God bless you so much🙏

  • @roslynematofari8992
    @roslynematofari8992 Год назад +22

    So sorry George, for the loss of your dear son and marriage, may God strengthen you as you heal from these painful experiences

  • @malihaa5158
    @malihaa5158 Год назад +16

    There is more to this story than meets the eye 👀 have kuna shida mahali, we need the wife's part of the story. This whole situation caused his son to sink into depression.

  • @teresawanjiru3171
    @teresawanjiru3171 Год назад +35

    Silence is the first killer of marriage.refusing to discuss issues.

    • @banthatiramontsho9540
      @banthatiramontsho9540 Год назад +2

      Very true....it is very important to have communication on all issues... silence is a killer....
      👏👏👏

  • @jacquelinetabbya4835
    @jacquelinetabbya4835 Год назад +179

    The man may have thought he gave the wife everything, yet he may not have given her love. Material things do not replace love. If only we heard the other side of the story.........

    • @homelifenaturally-um6iq
      @homelifenaturally-um6iq Год назад +24

      Military men are like that. Kids and wife suffer a lot

    • @shalommediahub1639
      @shalommediahub1639 Год назад +4

      True

    • @petersonnyoro459
      @petersonnyoro459 Год назад +17

      Marriage is for mature responsible folks not really love love love as we think.

    • @nabbaalesumayah8894
      @nabbaalesumayah8894 Год назад +1

      This is so emotional 😢 no wonder its all God's plan

    • @MyJOSE2013
      @MyJOSE2013 Год назад +8

      meanwhile some men sleep on sofa all day waiting to be provided for

  • @MsEMccray
    @MsEMccray Год назад +39

    I appreciate his willingness to share this story, it could not be easy. I also appreciate his humility. People, unfortunately, don't speak about these things and live miserable for years. This happens in the diaspora all the time. I hope he and his ex-wife both find happiness.

  • @lilychepkirui9947
    @lilychepkirui9947 Год назад +14

    There's nothing hard before God may he touch the heart of this woman this man is really hurting

  • @thayu2821
    @thayu2821 Год назад +13

    I always say, no one belongs to anybody. Marriage is 2 people who want and choose everyday to be together. They are both grieving 2 deaths. Marriage and son

  • @mubizz80
    @mubizz80 Год назад +22

    It's such a painful touching story. Sorry for having gone through such trauma and thanks for sharing your story with the world.

  • @luciakabui3151
    @luciakabui3151 Год назад +14

    This man's story has too many gaps. Why would a sane wife n mother say she would rather be a widow than live with her husband? I think kuna tabia/vitendo unbearable alitendewa. Then, as an African man, how can anyone bar you from entering your house/compound, visiting your son's grave? In whose compound is your son buried?

  • @irenekoikai349
    @irenekoikai349 Год назад +12

    I like the way he expressed himself, May the Lord give you strength and you'll heal and your wife will also heal and God will make your marriage work it's not too late.

    • @leahmwihaki5797
      @leahmwihaki5797 Год назад +1

      May the Lord give you strength and answer your prayers.

  • @WhatsinterestigToday
    @WhatsinterestigToday 11 месяцев назад +3

    I believe Mr Chacha’s sincerity. I wish him and his family healing

  • @oguta_254
    @oguta_254 Год назад +60

    It's better a broken engagement than a broken marriage

    • @joyceatieno6446
      @joyceatieno6446 Год назад +6

      I need to hear the other side, he's not saying the wrongs on his side

    • @robertouko9871
      @robertouko9871 Год назад +1

      It doesn't matter the fact remains both sides are no longer together

    • @MyJOSE2013
      @MyJOSE2013 Год назад +4

      its better a broken marriage than couples killing one another

    • @faithkamanthe3286
      @faithkamanthe3286 Год назад +1

      Sure

    • @faithkamanthe3286
      @faithkamanthe3286 Год назад

      ​@@MyJOSE2013 sure better

  • @IntimacywithGod252
    @IntimacywithGod252 Год назад +18

    Soo sorry for loosing your baby may God give you peace which surpasses human understanding.

  • @ritahnanteza3128
    @ritahnanteza3128 Год назад +8

    Thanks for sharing with us. Am not yet married but I have learnt a lot on what happened to you sir. Only God knows your pain 🙏.

  • @mamaj3539
    @mamaj3539 Год назад +11

    This man is hurting 😢. May God lead your ways sir

  • @Gatsiga
    @Gatsiga 8 месяцев назад

    Very informative ... through this the man became marriage counselor.
    This guy is full of wisdom may God give him a successful second chance 🙏🙏

  • @gracedavis1908
    @gracedavis1908 Год назад +7

    Lack of communication, and leaving your matrimonial bed will ruin a marriage. Thank you for man’s perspective. I m living it now and i have lost hope in any reconciliation. Praying for God to heal our marriage.

  • @DeeDee-lc5et
    @DeeDee-lc5et Год назад +15

    If only we could hear from the wife...life is not easy better a separation than being in a coffin

  • @homelifenaturally-um6iq
    @homelifenaturally-um6iq Год назад +16

    Military men have made their wives to go crazy and their children to have mentle issues. George is not the first military man to do that. They potray to be very good men in the public. I am married to one and i know this from others military homes too

    • @salomemuasya2331
      @salomemuasya2331 Год назад +1

      yes,millitary men it's true they pretend alot.discuss their marriage issue kwa mess.dictactors and rude people.i have the experience.
      it's hard.gumu sana.

    • @nurugizani3075
      @nurugizani3075 Год назад +1

      So I have heard

    • @mambaholdings4370
      @mambaholdings4370 Год назад +1

      Yes and no. No , even other persons in other professions go through the same. It's phenomena in mariage(s) where discussions are less.

    • @winnmarywachira9132
      @winnmarywachira9132 Год назад

      Very true

  • @janetthompson8429
    @janetthompson8429 Год назад +2

    This man is a good person, may God give you strength to carry on. My brother I Love you with the Love of the Lord. I feel your pain and God will see you Through. One Love

  • @maureenawour8922
    @maureenawour8922 Год назад +273

    As a woman I know for a fact that that lady was seriously hurt and she was dead inside, it's not easy

    • @cecilemagabe
      @cecilemagabe Год назад +5

      My neighbour and tribemate sorry for what happened. Challenges are there to make us strong.

    • @mariabaemedi3326
      @mariabaemedi3326 Год назад +3

      Agree

    • @mpume131
      @mpume131 Год назад +22

      @Maureen I can attest because I've experienced it when I reached that stage of stopping to talk to my husband

    • @maureenawour8922
      @maureenawour8922 Год назад +2

      If only I can tell you my story, it's almost the same with yours

    • @ruthpartridge6314
      @ruthpartridge6314 Год назад +5

      ​@@mpume131 when you have emotionally checked out

  • @josephineodiwuor6487
    @josephineodiwuor6487 Год назад +66

    I love the composure of this man.he loved his family and has alot of respect for his family.

  • @roselynewabuyabo1019
    @roselynewabuyabo1019 Год назад +30

    From the way this guy is talking, he is actually a humble guy with wisdom. Very few will still talk good about their broken marriages. I walked out after 19 years of marriage. It still pains me. But i know God will give me a man whom we can start a new life. My hopes are high.

    • @disebolekhu6098
      @disebolekhu6098 Год назад +2

      May God heal you and give you what your heart desires all the best❤❤❤

  • @pheladinare2876
    @pheladinare2876 Год назад +33

    May God bless you baba George and I pray for healing in your marriage and if ever it can not be restored may the both of you learn from the mistakes and move forward to greatness and be friends for the sake of yourself and your children.

  • @harrietmulobolebafumba7841
    @harrietmulobolebafumba7841 Год назад +24

    It would be great to hear from the wife too. Untold pain is real.

  • @adelen9937
    @adelen9937 Год назад +4

    I agreed with him that the one thing you can’t do it to leave your bedroom,and resolve the issue before bedtime.I relate to this story.thanks for sharing your story.

  • @innocentkaramuta8200
    @innocentkaramuta8200 Год назад +10

    Life is spiritual, the devil is attacking in many dimensions like octopus,we should do everything possible to fight the enemy spiritually.

  • @lifewithTeeDiks
    @lifewithTeeDiks Год назад +11

    My understanding is that due to your issues with his mother, he became depressed, and it affected his mental health and u did not have ur eyes to the ground to notice that. Let us watch how we behave in front of our kids because they are watching

  • @survivorthriving4455
    @survivorthriving4455 Год назад +28

    Abuser's do not have time for self analysis, as they lack empathy and compassion.

  • @watiray-Cat
    @watiray-Cat Год назад +52

    The fact that you tried to be neutral with inlaws tells that you failled to protect her from your family. You did not let your inlaws that she was your wife and ofcourse these are the results. When a man fails to state his stand and exposes wives to brothers and sisters, yoi fail terribly.

    • @patriciahjoseph7687
      @patriciahjoseph7687 Год назад +2

      I support you dear this is what happened to me but I thank God I didn't get married bcz the conflict started when we were still dating but he didn't quite his family

    • @hannahmwaka9933
      @hannahmwaka9933 Год назад +9

      I am thinking this way too, he didn't protect her from his family. And I think with the way the wife refused to resolve issues at the end, it's because she was exhausted and was hurt, many women behave that way when they are over someone. I think he just started to realize his mistakes when it was too late.

    • @margaretodonkor4747
      @margaretodonkor4747 Год назад +1

      True

    • @TKKMI-f4s
      @TKKMI-f4s Год назад +4

      I agree with this assessment, he should have stood up for his wife and protect her visibly against his family .

    • @giftfromabove2107
      @giftfromabove2107 Год назад +5

      When a husband can't protect his wife or reassure her that he is loyal to her, it causes resentment.

  • @mercyomulela6832
    @mercyomulela6832 Год назад +11

    Marriage is hard work. We learn as we go. May God give us strength & wisdom as spouses & parents.

  • @rose.wanjalachoni
    @rose.wanjalachoni Год назад +10

    The story is touching but I fear. Narcissists are normally so eloquent and always presenting to be smart,wise and calm when they know the world is watching! I fear!👀. Sorry about your son.😭

    • @anniegitau4491
      @anniegitau4491 Год назад

      I think the wife was a dismissive avoidant attachment personality

  • @roselynehumphreys7704
    @roselynehumphreys7704 Год назад +3

    Thank you. "Onge matek" nothing is too difficult. U hv A beautiful family, I pray that ur family find inner peace and love. I love you all.

  • @estherkieyakinyanjui7220
    @estherkieyakinyanjui7220 Год назад +4

    My marriage is heading here and I always pray it does not affect my kids, my hubby is a contributor, I am heading for the door, I believe there is some story from the wife too

  • @EsterMaupa
    @EsterMaupa Год назад +10

    You should have simply loved their mom...the best gift any man can give his kids, the rest will fall into place..Can anyone really make us be what they want though,..just wondering? Those kids😢😢

  • @faithwndr8
    @faithwndr8 Год назад +56

    I'm so sorry for what happened in this family. I pray that there is still room for rekindling this marriage. Could we find Mrs. Chacha and ask her what really happened? Mr. Goerge sounds like a very legit husband, it would be nice to get to hear what mrs. Chacha went through as well.

    • @dennisomare3610
      @dennisomare3610 Год назад +2

      I thougth so

    • @zaitunisagwa2082
      @zaitunisagwa2082 Год назад +17

      Usikute ni kiboko ndio ilifukuza huyu mwanamke, juu wa Kuria huwanga wakali na kuchapa wife ndio zao... adding that he is also a military.

    • @carolyneogutu6489
      @carolyneogutu6489 Год назад +1

      ​@@zaitunisagwa2082 😳😳😳💃💃💃

    • @bonaogada1
      @bonaogada1 Год назад +2

      ​@@zaitunisagwa2082 eti kiboko😢😢

    • @elizabethwathoni5529
      @elizabethwathoni5529 Год назад +7

      In the previous interview he said he has another family, happily married even him and his new wife share the same password on their phones. I am surprised he has left out some very important details he gave in earlier interview.

  • @boitumelogundu5414
    @boitumelogundu5414 Год назад +49

    This woman was hurting and I do understand her pain😢

  • @milkawambu9698
    @milkawambu9698 Год назад +7

    This type as a hubby is pure red flag....😎

  • @jackiemumo9578
    @jackiemumo9578 Год назад +7

    Thanks for sharing your story sir. You have saved someone's marriage and life.

  • @halimahhajarah972
    @halimahhajarah972 Год назад +13

    My dears let us learn and embrace family meetings be it on monthly or even after 3/4 months, in that ways we get to know each others problems and how to go about

    • @Stargate234
      @Stargate234 Год назад +1

      some family gathering are the reasons of some marriages shattering down. If see someone not involving family and relatives in their marriages dont blame them they have reasons as to why

  • @munehjd9118
    @munehjd9118 Год назад +4

    Without communication there is no relationship, without trust their is basis , without respect there is no need to continue

  • @rizikiawadh9489
    @rizikiawadh9489 Год назад +12

    Imagine when there was this silent war between the parents, the most responsible son Got silently affected mentally. And no body was there for him. This is so unfortunate. LET US SPEAK OUT.

  • @aishalubega1381
    @aishalubega1381 Год назад +5

    The boys are grown ups now, they should look up their father and try to appreciate him, he is also hurting .

  • @janemorongemarwa9289
    @janemorongemarwa9289 Год назад +10

    I have learnt a lot. Family life is hard. Lets invite God into all that we are. God bind us with one accord. Love is the key to all.

  • @magnam6807
    @magnam6807 Год назад +6

    I watched an interview of the Kagia couple whose daughter became an alcoholic but later was transformed. They learnt about their different temperaments and how to communicate better. Mr. Kagia in particular did a strling job to hold the rocking ship.
    Love triumphs against all odds

  • @shirugaks7464
    @shirugaks7464 Год назад +7

    What a wonderful message to families from a personal story of pain and tragedy. Indeed this gentleman has taken full responsibility on his part which is a rare gesture today.

  • @pastorabiodun62
    @pastorabiodun62 Год назад +3

    I pray that this will be a message to so many couples going through uphills in their marriage. it is really heartfelt

  • @africanmamamrembo
    @africanmamamrembo Год назад +4

    Very well articulated. Sorry for what life has dealt you. Perhaps you could turn the poems into a book in your son's memory?

  • @gracekariuki6688
    @gracekariuki6688 Год назад +4

    Marriage is about communication, once it breaks then you are done. May God heal your hearts for the loss. I hope you can sit down and reconcile as we also wait for the lady's right of reply.

  • @BridgetMcheke
    @BridgetMcheke Год назад

    George, God has given you wisdom to handle every situation, may God continue to strengthen you more it's my prayer one day you will write a book that many generations will pass through and it will be useful.

  • @annemwadime6289
    @annemwadime6289 Год назад +30

    This was a case of two narcissists living under one roof.

  • @barbiekizito5356
    @barbiekizito5356 Год назад +2

    Even Ugandan s we're watching our lovely God is dea for u sir

  • @carolsolomon6367
    @carolsolomon6367 Год назад +9

    Sometimes people get married but because of habits that we bring in the marriage that habit pull them apart

  • @CeciliaNjeni
    @CeciliaNjeni 8 месяцев назад

    There is so much emotion in this video, you can sense how emotional this things has affected this man from his voice. I sincerely appreciate him for sharing his stories.
    God heal him and grant him strength.

  • @Jenny20005
    @Jenny20005 Год назад +20

    So painfull story that only God can give strength, I had the same problem 'silence" it killed my marriage too, I don't believe in love and marriage

    • @nurugizani3075
      @nurugizani3075 Год назад +2

      My silence has saved mine
      I play dumb

    • @eufraziah1
      @eufraziah1 Год назад

      ​@@nurugizani3075 you're being abused

  • @user-nk3ue2cs4k
    @user-nk3ue2cs4k Год назад +2

    This man is real . He recognises his mistakes and very couregous to talk about his life ...while waiting to hearing from the wife thank u Sir.

  • @Penny_lindsey
    @Penny_lindsey Год назад +74

    Marriage is very hard to keep especially if one partner isn't ready to address the issues and keep the issues piled up, eventually they break leaving a very big whole

  • @VictoriaNdudim
    @VictoriaNdudim Год назад +1

    Wow, what an experience!! He is a gentle man. A lot of lessons learnt. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • @dorothyrobinson4674
    @dorothyrobinson4674 Год назад +13

    Very wise intelligent man, it's a pity he could not fix is marriage.

  • @PhunyezwaGomomo
    @PhunyezwaGomomo Год назад

    Yhooo what a polished or refined gentleman. Unfortunately life is not always a red carpet. You such a gallant with wisdom. Mind opening!

  • @victoriamali5249
    @victoriamali5249 Год назад +9

    I am in my early marriage years and I have learned a lot.may God heal them

  • @mamasolomon5949
    @mamasolomon5949 Год назад +1

    You're a great man
    And u did ur best
    She too is a very good woman
    And a lovely mother, i hv learnt
    A lot 4rm ur story u. May God bless you
    And ur family

  • @ruthdan2789
    @ruthdan2789 Год назад +6

    It would be fair if we heard Mrs Chacha's side of the story... However I like the fact that Mr Chacha's has acknowledged his role in the breakup.

  • @MaisieSkeete
    @MaisieSkeete Год назад +1

    Councelling and therapy is very important for you and the sons and your wife also to help with the healing process. Best wishes.

  • @rosemwiti6295
    @rosemwiti6295 Год назад +6

    Men can go through hell in marriages too... May God give him strength and his family.

  • @TabethTawineyi
    @TabethTawineyi Год назад +1

    I respect this man for being honesty for what happened to his marriage..thanks for being an African black man who highlighted the major issues which makes a marriage soar..If couples put God first..all these problems will be solved and continue with a normal health relationship...A teaching to all us ..a powerful testimonial discussion l enjoyed to listen to

  • @priscarnthuli5006
    @priscarnthuli5006 Год назад +19

    The first person to speak in court always seems right until his opponent begins to question him.
    Proverbs 18:17

  • @annewaihenya1917
    @annewaihenya1917 Год назад +2

    Keep strong George.God will make everything beautiful, at His own time.

  • @oliviabamwenda1328
    @oliviabamwenda1328 Год назад +1

    This man is full of wisdom and a nice man i wish the woman wld come out and we hear her side too.

  • @chrpmaginaatsyaya3888
    @chrpmaginaatsyaya3888 Год назад +14

    Your separation might have affected your son. Separation of parents has a negative effect on children😢😢

    • @nyauskobies5522
      @nyauskobies5522 Год назад +3

      Not all, it depends on how you handle it. Separation does not mean you stop communicating to your partner or being friends and taking care of your children together. It's only in Africa where people aren't civilised.

    • @khumbulamangena7889
      @khumbulamangena7889 Год назад

      @@nyauskobies5522 indeed,I broke up with my partner in 1996,we still talk and the kids, when they were still at school were staying with their father(he wouldn't let them stay with me)he won't say why!,later he got married and the kids wanted to stay with me,he begged and pleaded with them to stay and they did but would spend all the school holidays with me.W e still talk with each other up to now.

  • @ezinahkemunto182
    @ezinahkemunto182 Год назад +10

    They used to be my neighbours.
    May they find peace and sorry for the loss of your son.

  • @elizabethbibi1wamaitha167
    @elizabethbibi1wamaitha167 Год назад +34

    I like it when a man admits his mistakes other than blame the wife for his failures. This guy sounds genuine. His advise is also very encouraging. It all comes down to communication even about the little things that most people would think are nothing.
    Sorry about the loss of your son. I have been in that situation so I can understand your pain . Take heart.

    • @gladysmaina2507
      @gladysmaina2507 Год назад

      3

    • @naanaa2775
      @naanaa2775 Год назад +1

      They nomaly admit very late.

    • @healthproductskenya
      @healthproductskenya Год назад

      He blames the wife but i sense that he started all this. Women love genuinely. For the woman to stop sharing the bed, that had to do with infidelity

    • @Simba_tano
      @Simba_tano Год назад +2

      @@healthproductskenyaor she was also sycho. But ofcourse you brought your bias like a kumbafu.

    • @CateKangai
      @CateKangai Год назад

      Thanks for ur love for family.u have educated many and marriage is about giving up and taking up some likes for others sake.
      Pole sana for ur sons lose.
      It shall be well.

  • @ssuunaalex
    @ssuunaalex Год назад +4

    Very educative ,I have learnt grt lessons ...similar cases in Uganda

  • @sharonOB
    @sharonOB Год назад +8

    You can’t change anyone in marriage. After 14 years, I can say that don’t leave any issue unresolved even if the other person is adamant continue to push getting help to break the ice. We can move past anything if both parties are willing to communicate and put our EGOS aside.

  • @hildamavuso1620
    @hildamavuso1620 Год назад +8

    Communication is key in any relationship.

  • @fridahmurithi3916
    @fridahmurithi3916 Год назад +8

    I would want to hear the other side of the story

  • @justinejolly3396
    @justinejolly3396 Год назад

    If God allows & I get married,I promise to apply his knowledge into it coz his.a great speaker.
    Be blessed George am Justine Jolly from Ug

  • @safina1253
    @safina1253 Год назад +3

    Mr. Chacha, life's challenges are for all humanbeings. Focus on people who lift you up. Only God knows it all. Sharing your story will help many people. God Bless You Abundantly Always.

    • @safina1253
      @safina1253 Год назад

      MR. CHAHA
      I THINK AND HOPE THAT I KNOW YOUR SISTER IN THE NETBALL TEAM .
      TUONGE BAADAE.