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  • Опубликовано: 12 дек 2024

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  • @yazzypants6255
    @yazzypants6255 2 года назад +150

    When I feel guilty like you, I remind myself that my parents worked so hard for me to reach this stage and living it is also their goal. They didn’t work so hard for us to end up feeling guilty. Not sure if I make sense!

    • @Self-Duality
      @Self-Duality 2 года назад +5

      Amen!!!!!!!

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад +12

      So true!! I know this in my head but still can't help but feel this way soemtimes 🥲

    • @Phenomenal3021
      @Phenomenal3021 Год назад

      I feel this with my car I want a brand new car but my parents have never gotten a brand new car and I feel like it’s setting me back for what the lord has for me he definitely wants me to treat my self however the enemy has mad it hard for me to feel like I need this or deserve this❤❤

  • @roryroopa
    @roryroopa 2 года назад +23

    I've never heard anyone articulate this kind of guilt so well. I get emotional when I succeed for the same reason: that my parents worked so hard for me to have a corporate job that affords a lifestyle they didn't have at my age. Thank you for sharing this. I think we have to remember that our parents are proud of us. Our achievements are theirs. Congrats on your home 🎇

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад +3

      "Our achievements are theirs" 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @AvaKim123
    @AvaKim123 2 года назад +22

    Hey Sally, I'm a silent viewer but the thoughts you expressed about your parents really resonated with me and so I'm leaving a comment. It's such a blessing to have parents who've sacrificed so much to give you a better life, and the fruits you are seeing now are a result of that so don't feel guilty but be proud! You doing so so well and I'm sure your parents are super proud. Sending virtual hugs ☺️

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад +1

      Wahhh thank you ava 😭😭😭

  • @laurwata
    @laurwata 2 года назад +2

    You are not alone. I, too, experience the same sense of guilt when things go well or I do things for myself. I can't explain it, where it came from or how it even started. You should be proud of all your hard work, long hours, late nights and sleep deprived days from busy season. You should be able to enjoy the rewards from your hard work. I am sure your parents are so proud of you! Congratulations on buying your first home! I wish you both much love and happiness as you start the new chapters in your lives! Hugs!

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад +1

      Thank youuuu laureen 😭

  • @sapna347
    @sapna347 2 года назад +25

    I got so emotional hearing you voice your guilt and thoughts. As the eldest child of immigrants, I also experience this sense of guilt of “doing well” and finding my job “stressful” behind a screen, compared to my parents who have do really strenuous labour work. I don’t think these feelings will ever go away but maybe we’ll learn to be happy for our own achievements regardless!! You work SOO hard and deserve the best future and if it means one of your goals is being a homeowner, then you deserve every right to be able to achieve that and be happy❤️❤️ Bit of a ramble, but I’m always rooting for you! BIGGEST congrats 🎉

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад +2

      Ugh yes you said it so well !!! Also thank youuu sm for the love 😭😭😭

  • @sarah8579
    @sarah8579 2 года назад +10

    Yay congrats!
    I totally understand where you come from with the guilt, but just think about how your home will be a blessing to your family and friends. It's a gift from God!

  • @sabrinahsu9567
    @sabrinahsu9567 2 года назад +26

    Bye brb crying but you should be so so proud of yourself, and I’m so sure your parents are so so proud of you. This is what makes them proud!! That their hard work paid off and your hard work paid off too. I’m not a parent, but I know how it feels when I see the people I love succeed and do well and treat themselves- and I’m sure that feeling is tenfold when it’s your own children…

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад +1

      Very true 😭😭😭🤍

  • @nurafifahj
    @nurafifahj 2 года назад +43

    I have a weird relationship with money too and I always try to give my parents or my closed ones money when I have extra that month. I feel guilty for keeping it all to myself and not sharing. You explained it so well. Also, congrats on your new house!!! ❤

  • @heyitscafe36
    @heyitscafe36 2 года назад +14

    Congratulations! You deserve all the best! I'm sure your parents agree and are more than happy to see you be able to succeed and hit this huge milestone at such a young age. It also shows them that their hard work has paid off!

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад

      🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍

  • @user-bn2vt1pq6y
    @user-bn2vt1pq6y 2 года назад +1

    The imposter syndrome and roller coaster of emotions you felt during your initial home buying journey is definitely valid. I was in the same position as you exactly a year ago when I started my home buying journey with my boyfriend. I was also in the busiest season of my work, and when we kept losing out on offers, both my mom and my boyfriend's parents offered to help. There was an immense guilt for me personally because my mom doesn't own a home and for her to give what she had for me to be happy was...something else. On top of that, I also have this weird relationship with money that I never want to be indebted to anyone and kind of had a "make it on your own" pride I had. Part of me never wanted to even buy a home feeling the guilt I had. But, when we got our offer approved, my mom was so happy for me because this was what she wanted: for me to succeed in life and have the things she couldn't have. It's a weird feeling as a child of an immigrant to do better for yourself but trust me when I say that your parents are probably thrilled for you. Just make sure you don't change your relationship with them as you move :) So happy for you Sally. Being a homeowner is so rewarding (but also makes you feel broke LOL). Congrats!

  • @alisacheung1423
    @alisacheung1423 2 года назад

    Totally normal to have these feelings. Your parents grew up in a different time where they didn’t have as many opportunities as you, but that doesn’t discredit that you also work really hard (just in a different way). It’s still a home that you have worked hard for; you put in those hours working as an accountant, as well as late nights and weekends into your RUclips career where you make a significant difference in thousands of lives. Remember that you will be sharing many experiences with Paul and your parents in it! ❤️❤️❤️ you’re doing your absolute BEST! Congratulations on being a homeowner - you deserve it the most!

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад

      The sweetest 😭😭 thank you sm!!

  • @rachelyang9540
    @rachelyang9540 2 года назад +3

    Yay finally!!! 🤩 congrats to Sally and Paul for going through this process! 👍🏼 truly God provides!

  • @sannn7034
    @sannn7034 2 года назад +3

    Your parents are so so proud of you! They moved to the US for you to have a better life and you did it. It only proves to them that they have made the right choice and all their sacrifice are all worth it. Congratulations!

  • @soffmosele4904
    @soffmosele4904 2 года назад

    I think that you sharing your feelings was a precious thing ❤️ we all struggle with different things and it’s important to acknowledge and process them instead of always saying: “there’s someone who is in a worst situation than me” because that’s unfortunately true, but I’ve learned that it doesn’t help us solve our problems. I felt a deep connection with what you said✨

  • @sdnyleve7377
    @sdnyleve7377 2 года назад +1

    You're such a kind hearted and genuine daughter 💖, I'm sure your parents are proud of what you've achieved. You work so hard to get into this stage, so pleasee don't feel guilty. Seeing their daughter work hard, do well, happy, and becoming independent women is what every parents wish for, I'm pretty sure they feel a huge sense of relief. Your parents really raised you well 💖 congratulations

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад

      🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹

  • @joelleolol
    @joelleolol 2 года назад

    Aw SALLY! So happy for you and Ik your parents must be so proud of you and everything you’ve accomplished and what a wonderful person you are! Excited for your next chapter and all the lovely memories to be made in your new home! 💕

  • @CarlylZimmerman
    @CarlylZimmerman 2 года назад +4

    From a non-American point of view, there are many non-immigrants that will never own a house (all around the world!) you should be proud of your achievements :)

  • @alishachand6330
    @alishachand6330 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for sharing such a vulnerable moment with us. I know it couldn’t have been easy. As someone who also comes from an immigrant parent background, all I can say is that you deserve it. I know what it’s like watching your parents wake up super early and work and then come home after long day but just think of it this way: this is exactly what they worked so hard for. I’m not sure how much your parents were able to help you with your education but I’m sure in their eyes every sacrifice they made was worth it to see their child become so successful. Especially in this inflated economy. As sweet as it that you care so much, there is no stronger love than between parents and their children and I don’t think your parents regretted it one bit if it means that you’ll be doing well

  • @ft_ph
    @ft_ph Год назад

    Made me cry, almost. As Asians, family really is the most important to us, they are our foundation regardless. But eventually, we need to leave our nest and spread our wings because the life we live is ultimately ours. But leaving our family doesn’t mean not caring for them anymore, instead, once we have loved and cared for our own selves, the more we can actually give and share more love to our family and others! ❤😊

  • @carissawong
    @carissawong 2 года назад +1

    SALLYYY I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH!!! EEEKKKK!!!! SO EXCITING!!! CONGRATS!!! YOUR PARENTS ARE VERY VERY PROUD AND HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH TOO!! Moving across the world for a better future for the family and you did it!!!

  • @daisykim3245
    @daisykim3245 2 года назад

    Sally, I usually don’t leave comments but I resonated so much with your guilt. As a Korean American “1.5 gen” and only daughter of immigrants, I struggle so much with the same feelings that you expressed so well. It’s so hard. I never feel completely “happy” when I do things for myself like go on vacations or make big purchases or even think about moving away from my family… and in a way I have resentment towards them for these feelings and the “American childhood” I never had. I have such complex emotions about it. Not sure if this will ever go away, but thank you so much for sharing.

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад

      You put it in words so well!! I feel you 100000%

  • @lori2208
    @lori2208 2 года назад +1

    Aww sweet Sally 🥺 I hope you're enjoying your new home, and I know your parents are so proud of you and love you!! 🤍🤍

  • @allysonmojica4194
    @allysonmojica4194 2 года назад +1

    I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH!! CANT WAIT FOR THE FUTURE VLOGS!!

  • @raihyah
    @raihyah 2 года назад

    i just found your channel today and i am invested! congratulations, i am so happy for you 🥹 i’ve never heard the perspective of being guilty with immigrant parents so that was a learning/eye opening moment. thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. i’ve had a struggle with my relationship to money as well and it’s something i’m working on. excited to watch more of your videos 💕

  • @nurdianaellysha
    @nurdianaellysha 2 года назад +1

    OMG SOO SOO HAPPY FOR YOU AND PAUL! CAN’T WAIT FOR YOUR NEXT VLOGSSSS

  • @philiploh114
    @philiploh114 2 года назад

    Just realised this video's title should be 'WOW' & 'OMG' with the same words as the thumbnail and then this would be an immense surprise to all of us! So happy for you!

  • @Self-Duality
    @Self-Duality 2 года назад +11

    You both deserve this beautiful beginning 😇☘️⭐️💎🌺 Bless you both!!!!

  • @brian6622
    @brian6622 2 года назад

    Congratulations. Some questions I hope you could share your insight on your home buying experience during these times. How did you weigh the risk? 1) What were your thoughts about buying a house during the peak of the housing bubble (today is 5/17/2022)? 2) Any thoughts about negative house equity if the market decides to take a nose dive in the near future? How did that factor into your decision? 3)Did you decide to go with a Adjustable Rate Mortgage or Fixed? Again, congratulations to you both for purchasing a home in these times.

  • @moodu
    @moodu 2 года назад

    wow.. buying a house, especially the first one, is very exciting. it is really an achievement that we could not feel until the moment it was going to happen... Congratulations.. It is indeed a moment in the life cant miss.

  • @amberrryang
    @amberrryang 2 года назад

    Couldn’t stop crying seeing this video

  • @maryamahmxd
    @maryamahmxd 2 года назад +1

    yayyy omg congrats i'm so happy for you guys

  • @Pinkweirdo00
    @Pinkweirdo00 2 года назад

    congrats Sally and hussband! Cant wait to see your new journey in your new home!!

  • @tragedyrushh
    @tragedyrushh 2 года назад +2

    Congratulations Sally!!! So excited to see how you decorate your first home together! It's crazy how small the world is because my fiancé and I also had Dan help us with buying our first home last year 😂

  • @imfelyn
    @imfelyn 2 года назад

    I feel so so emotional watching this entire video!!! Kinda teared abit but HAPPY TEARS FOR YOU AND PAUL!! CONGRATSSS ❤️❤️❤️🥳🥳 u guys deserve every nice thing in life!! You go girl~

  • @karengallegoscastruita8133
    @karengallegoscastruita8133 2 года назад

    Congratulations Sally, you worked so hard! You deserve it! So Happy for you!

  • @jessicauok
    @jessicauok 2 года назад +1

    congrats sally!! you deserve it 💓

  • @anamercedes1014
    @anamercedes1014 2 года назад +1

    congrats!! you guys deserve the best 💛

  • @karentorralba3584
    @karentorralba3584 2 года назад +1

    Congratulations Sally we need a full house tour🤩

  • @graciewaciie
    @graciewaciie 2 года назад +1

    Congratulations! SO excited for youuuuu!!

  • @cla6347
    @cla6347 2 года назад +1

    sally thanks for motivate me . much love for you .

  • @donnazhang5226
    @donnazhang5226 2 года назад

    omg this video made me so happy for u! it was so nice to see u accomplishing this big goal but i also appreciate how u kept it real and showed us the issues that u go thru as well!!! congrats on being a home owner and i cant wait to watch more of ur content!!!

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад

      Tyty donna ❤️❤️

  • @mangocaramelz
    @mangocaramelz 2 года назад

    Congratulations !! Soooo happy for you. The view looks sooo beautiful

  • @deborah_obeng
    @deborah_obeng 2 года назад

    Congratulations so happy for you 🥳👏🏾 you deserve it so much 🤗🥰

  • @christinethemillennialcpa4893
    @christinethemillennialcpa4893 2 года назад +3

    OMG Sally!!!!! Congratulations on your new house!!! I love seeing a fellow accountant being successful in life!! 🤩 Now those busy season hours all seem worth it right? 😝

  • @sabrinajong4144
    @sabrinajong4144 2 года назад

    yayyyy so happy for you!!!!

  • @shairataj
    @shairataj 2 года назад

    Congratulations homeowners!! 🥳 Omg I like the view in your house 😍

  • @salliesalayh
    @salliesalayh 2 года назад

    congratulations sally! you both deserve it 😍

  • @slingshady5224
    @slingshady5224 2 года назад

    So happy for you guys!! Congrats!!

  • @nikitavishwakarma1801
    @nikitavishwakarma1801 2 года назад

    Congratulations sallyyy, sooo happyyy for yaa 🤧❤️❤️

  • @dariustang9670
    @dariustang9670 2 года назад

    Congratulations Sally!!

  • @johnacefernandez6064
    @johnacefernandez6064 2 года назад

    So proud of you guys!!

  • @angelicrulona5373
    @angelicrulona5373 2 года назад

    you guys are so cutteeee omg. congratulations!

  • @PriscillaYoshida
    @PriscillaYoshida 2 года назад

    Sally I am so happy for you!!!🥹❤️

  • @junwhaatt
    @junwhaatt 2 года назад

    Thank you for sharing. I feel the same way, and I feel like I have been struggling with that feeling ever since working in the "corporate" world. Its a very difficult feeling and hard thing to get over, because no matter what, I feel like they have sacrificed so much more than i ever will. (ugly crying as I try to write anything coherent to describe this feeling)

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад +1

      Stop you're going to make me ugly cry with you

  • @kod-ee-wom-pl
    @kod-ee-wom-pl 2 года назад

    Congratulations 🎉 Thank you for the lovely vlog 😃👏🏻👏🏻 Enjoyed watching. Wish you a new beautiful chapter! Have a good day 😊

  • @pammyy.04
    @pammyy.04 2 года назад

    I am sooo so happy for both of you guys!! Exciting times ahead. 🥺🥂✨

  • @britneyxbelle
    @britneyxbelle 2 года назад

    Congratulations what a beautiful start to a new chapter ❤️❤️

  • @jasmineteo8057
    @jasmineteo8057 2 года назад

    SOOO HAPPY FOR YOUUU, SALLY!!! 😭😭🥰

  • @gracehk0827
    @gracehk0827 2 года назад

    Ahhh omg!! Congrats 언니 on being a home owner!! Many blessings to you and Paul in your new home!!!~~~ so happy for y'all~~ much love 언니!! ❤❤❤

  • @karinamak7368
    @karinamak7368 2 года назад

    so excited to watch your milestones! Thanks for sharing life with us 🤗

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад

      Thanks for following along the journey 🤧

  • @shrutianand9004
    @shrutianand9004 2 года назад

    Congratulations on the house Sally ❤️

  • @yopperz88
    @yopperz88 2 года назад

    Congrats! I am looking into starting the home buying process. Do you think you can do a walkthrough of the process including applying for loans, escrow, inspections, and any tips?!

  • @yourgigi7388
    @yourgigi7388 2 года назад

    Omg so happy for you!!!!🤍

  • @yoaisafong7938
    @yoaisafong7938 2 года назад

    Congratulations!! you deserve it so much I’m so happy for u!! 🥺💓

  • @7grootleg
    @7grootleg 2 года назад

    really happy for both of you, stay blessed.

  • @umoggie
    @umoggie 2 года назад

    OMG SO HAPPY FOR YOU!

  • @cafeconjams
    @cafeconjams 2 года назад

    Sally Kim is the life goal!!!

  • @Korea_Mania_
    @Korea_Mania_ 2 года назад +2

    Omg finally I get time to watch this 😆
    It’s a late congrats but… CONGRATS!!!! I wish, that in the future I’ll lead a happy life like you, find a good partner, but a house get married and live beautifully. Keep on thriving Sally, and stay beautiful and true to yourself. CONGRATS AGAIN
    Also, when I speak to my parents I mix Korean and English together too 😭

  • @Jeniv9820
    @Jeniv9820 2 года назад +1

    Congrats ❤️100% feel you on feeling guilty!

  • @janeqin6704
    @janeqin6704 2 года назад

    Yayyyyy congratulations!

  • @lilymily8092
    @lilymily8092 2 года назад +1

    Don’t feel guilty. The parents always happy for you when you can live better than them. That’s how I know when I became a mom. 😉

  • @johnnyg1620
    @johnnyg1620 2 года назад +1

    Congratulations 🎊

  • @aluenamme4022
    @aluenamme4022 2 года назад

    OMG OMG congrats you guys. I'm so happy for ya'll 🎉😭❤

  • @samchan1495
    @samchan1495 2 года назад

    I completely understand what you’re saying but trust me for your parents to see you doing well they will be so happy. Just give back to your parents. If you have money treat them to things they could never afford, spend time with them and help them. That will be repayment in itself. X

  • @_sincilantro
    @_sincilantro 2 года назад

    와~~축하드려요🥳👏

  • @sueannephan3802
    @sueannephan3802 2 года назад

    your parents are going to miss you! maybe they can move down to SoCal! :)

  • @JennykTara
    @JennykTara 2 года назад

    And yet again sally proved that she’s my virtual elder sister

  • @ichafication
    @ichafication 2 года назад

    God is good!! Congratulations!!!

  • @victoriat1025
    @victoriat1025 2 года назад

    So cute, congrats!! 🥳

  • @ctrlzoe
    @ctrlzoe 2 года назад

    Congratulations 🥳

  • @tinaaaaw
    @tinaaaaw 2 года назад

    Congrats!!! Sending out the deposit amount was the most nerve-racking part 😅

  • @pocketwalker91
    @pocketwalker91 2 года назад

    awwww so sweet

  • @vivienlee7324
    @vivienlee7324 2 года назад

    congrats!!!! :)

  • @dunkirito8308
    @dunkirito8308 2 года назад +8

    This is giving me hope that big 4 accountants can actually afford a nice place.

    • @sessarie
      @sessarie 2 года назад +1

      dannng… so that mean they usually cant? lol there goes the dream

  • @john.10347
    @john.10347 2 года назад

    Congrats with the house 🎉

  • @umbella
    @umbella 2 года назад

    wow congratulations so happy for you :)))

  • @soeuninseoul
    @soeuninseoul 2 года назад

    OMG 😭❤️🎉

  • @dunkirito8308
    @dunkirito8308 2 года назад +3

    What does Paul do for a living? With prices so high in Cali, it’s super impressive that you guys were able to become homeowners at such a young age.

  • @Korea_Mania_
    @Korea_Mania_ 2 года назад

    Ok second comment
    This is for the first part of the video where u talk about ur parents. Warning, long story coming up:
    When I was five, I came to England from South Korea with my two baby sisters and my parents. I never knew how hard it was then, because I was so young. But know I’m older I can relate so much. So so much. So far my family has never lived in our own house, it’s always been rented. It’s ok, but sometimes I just feel, I wouldn’t call it guilt, but I just feel… basically what u said. I feel I should be sorry to them? That I’m not always thankful even though we moved half across the world they still loved us and just stayed with us. All the time. And I just wanted to say, how I could relate so much. I pick up things that my sisters don’t, which give me a lot of stress, but it makes me shudder to think what my parents went thru. Leaving their whole family to live in a strange country that was on the other side of the world. And all I wanted to say was I really felt u there. Lol I feel like crying now 😭
    That’s a lot longer than expected but if u read thru it all thank you. Sally, even if I don’t always watch or comment on ur vlogs as soon as they come out, I’ll still support u even if I have no idea who I am. Don’t worry I’m not some creepy middle aged man, I’m just a South Korean teen now living in England for years. U r an inspiration, honestly

    • @sallykim7
      @sallykim7  2 года назад +1

      🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍

  • @cloud9ine103
    @cloud9ine103 2 года назад

    AWWWW COGRATS

  • @katrinacruz9344
    @katrinacruz9344 2 года назад +1

    Inception when I’m FaceTiming my Fiancé while watching a video of you on FT with your Fiancé 😅 ALSO CONGRATSSSS

  • @J.0.E.
    @J.0.E. 2 года назад +1

    I bought my hour about the same time lol

  • @won2beme
    @won2beme 2 года назад +1

    What does your fiance do for work

  • @maddmotorz6252
    @maddmotorz6252 2 года назад +2

    Well, you studied economics and accounting in college. You better have money!! Lol otherwise you didnt learn anything.

  • @brandonjoh2648
    @brandonjoh2648 2 года назад

    Treat yo self

  • @blobster91
    @blobster91 2 года назад

    Why do you own a pitbull?

  • @Jay-qd2qu
    @Jay-qd2qu 2 года назад

    Divorce coming soon

  • @arigatotv2261
    @arigatotv2261 2 года назад

    Congratulations Sally,Paul! Yeah!!!!!🎉
    I think the house wanted you to come and chose you.!
    Let's change your name to Houseowener sallykim7!😁