I have never desired to have a child or a husband. Now in my 40s and am still happy with that choice
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- I have never desired to have a child or a husband. Now in my 40s and am still happy with that choice
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This was such a great episode. I am a 47+ year old lady who decided never to have kids. I am very okey in my life and feel no vacuum. Unfortunately our society spends so much time looking at what they think is "right". Most of the people who have said negative things do so from their own insecurities and projections. We need to normalize different in our society and understand that life is not linear. As a mental health professional one of my main goals is to help women break free from the pressures of societal expectations. Many are struggling with low self esteem, low self worth and a lot of other stresses. Your life, your rules!!!
I have one child and don't wish for another. I don't want to get married because i see no benefits of it to a woman. I'm not lonely and instead I feel inconvenienced by people coming into my life except my child. So i respect this girl 💯
Haiya! That is 💯 me.
@marypollymugomugo4033 tuko wengi. I'm glad women are coming out more and defying society standards that are oppressive towards women
Same here. I feel stifled by relationships.
Life bado....i swear
@@stephenmutunga6691when do you think life begins? Do not forget to live your life now because you are afraid of what the future holds, when you think about it, you cannot predict what will happen to your future, even if you supposedly do all that was expected of you, outcomes vary. She is living her best life, a lot of married people are not able to say that.
Maggie is real to herself. Much better than having kids to please society only for the children to be taken to care or endure toxic families. Others are married with children going to church every Sunday so they can have people to attend their funeral. Great happy woman. In the west, we have many independent women like you who live their lives not like many African women who worship societal norms.
I have learned a lot from this lady.. Thank you, women of God
I don't have maternal instincts also, heading to 40 and with zero child, but again still not ready for marriage but if i were to get married staki kubeba mimba, mimba is not for me...I truly get her 💯 and she's perfectly normal, kuna watu wako hivoo its just that our society sucks it tends to worship marriage more tyan the creator, no wonder it tends to persecute women of her caliber or barren juu ya stupid society mindset...A true and wise christian understands well that marriage is not for everyone...
True,it's sad how society view barren women as a failure 😢
Waaow, this lady is original, have never had such a conversation before
She's teaching a new chapter unknown to many
Kai guthiaga atia😢me there was married at my teenage after 5year I lost my marriage bcz I can't conceive in between I have undergo 3 surgerys trying to open my fallopian tube 😢doc say I can only get pregnant though IVF 😭 now am in Gulf countrys trying Soo hand to get money for IVF cuz siezi taka nikue mzungo kwa mtu tena😢what make me strong is to know my redeemer lives 🙏God my confidence is in you 💯 I trust in you ,,I know and believe I will hold my baby no ngaii wakwa ndukareke njeterere muno 🙏🙏
GOd will do wonders just be hopeful and keep faith
May God remember you and fulfil the desire you have
May God fulfil your heart's desires according to his own will
You'll get what you desire
I am 50 and I have zero desire to have kids. I am a very good auntie to nephews and nieces.
Likewise, and I am comfortable with that, though the society can't understand how.
Waah
I even thought I was abnormal at 53 years. So we are so many. We should form a club.
We have learnt alot from Margaret. Seeing things from the perspective of someone who has no desire to get married or have her own children makes things very clear.
I love this woman honestly.She is normal 100000%.U don’t need children or husbands or wife’s to b complete as a human being
Have never watched as it premiers but this one ,this one,this one ,,this is meeee!i just love the woman in her ,,she is really a gem,,she is fulfilled she is outpouring to others!!.
And the way majority of women are suffering in marriage. Evn majority of singles are the ones who had been married bt left.
People are different aki,am here with high maternal insticts rate ,with 3kids na hata 3yrs sijafikisha,and still yearning for another baby na sitaki kuolewa kabisa,as in ikuwe ni mimi tu na watoto wangu....l like how truthful she is 💯
She is such a happy soul,knowing your purpose under the Sun is paramount ❤
I am geting nuggets after nuggets: Loving oneself and being delivered from what people say is paramount. Thank you.
I love this Woman she's Bold and giving a lot of women hopes .bless you
So tuko wengi ,,aki @25 but weeh Mimi nagonga watoto wawenyewe hurt break huku nje ,,but she the true me ,,😂same skin color yawah,,but wait I can now confirm am normal ,,thanks mama for confirming this ,,she must be an INTJ ,,the rarest woman personality we go girl we are many ,, understanding yourself is the best
Nimelike your comment purposely juu I've seen umequote "INTJ'' .....INTJs are indeed rarest and self awareness Yao ni top notch and they don't regret after making whatever critical decisions they tend to make in life...Hapo Kwa Hana maternal instincts hata mimi pia haijawahi click...One thing with INTJS they're not society pleasers..
@@cikuciku4345😂😂ooh my ,,much love dear there are them then there are us ,,I don't fight to be understood,,lol I get promotions in job yearly 😂😂I love my personality like sometimes no but most of the time yeees
INTJ inamaanisha nn
@@user-om2iy3px8y 𝑷𝒊𝒂 𝒎𝒎 𝒏𝒂𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒂 𝒌𝒖𝒋𝒖𝒂 𝑰𝑵𝑻𝑱 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈
This lady is speaking the truth otherwise majority of women she's helping were once married or are already in marriage bt wishing the life of this lady peaceful an free life. It's easy to serve God when you're single than in marriage.
Omg! I just met my long-lost twin sister from another mother! Everything you said is sooo me. Am single by choice , no kids by choice, and has no maternal desire either. Am soo happy by myself. People, aka society, tend to judge us or think we got medical issues or can't handle men or whatever else they have in mind but it's about time society understand that it's a choice we have made and we perfectly fine. ..and I don't do sponsors, I am very independent and love it. . I concur with everything she has said.
Looove it. You is me...There should be a society of both Men and Women of like minds.
I love this lady , she’s very honest and authentic. Marriage is a calling , it’s a vocation and that’s why it has vows. That said not everyone is called to be a mother or father . Having worked with the elderly as a nurse , I have a come across men and women who are like this lady . They have lived life to the fullest and have no regrets. We are just vessels used by God to bring his children into this world for His purpose.
😊😊😊very educating😅they should let us be and live our purpose. sio kila saa utaoleka lini😊
This lady is a gem❤❤❤I like your decision
I would like to be like that lady....men's are very heartbreaking
It's inborn..
Am turning 30 but av rlly lost hope in getting married. I hv one kid n i rlly dnt want to get another one. All i pray for sai is financial stability. I dnt hate marriages but av rlly lost trust in men. I dnt thnk there is anyone who rlly love u genuinely wthout dramas.
The bible says children are a BLESSING from God
I thank God i love children deeply ,i thsnk God i have 7 of them and 5 grand children
I long for my great grand children
Yes children are blessings from God but to have them is a choice that's if one does not want to have children it's their choice others want them but can't have any and that's God's will. 1:24:40
The Bible doesn’t say you have to have them because they are a blessing .they are among many other blessing…
So what happens to those who can't be able to have kids?
They are not blessed?
The bible has instructions for everyone both those who want kids and don't, want marriages and don't, want to adopt kids. Pick what you are called to and serve God without making it sound like that's the only way God manifests
@@AnnKimani-ci5cyask louder,yes they are a blessing but not a must
Love yourself first, this is beaituful.
This lady is truthful, with a very high self esteem,Big up my sister 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍imagine nimekuheshimu
Thanks for sharing that but you were born to do what you are doing now. So you need to get one that she/he might be a blessing to another person.
Though we face many dangers and also we may consider many many blessings God has given us.
Thanks Margaret for airing your story. I hope many who will listen to this story will actually understand that it's possible for a woman to live without a child
😂😂😂 God we are soo different. You'er life your choice. Respect 👍
Khai My friend Margaret Wangeci she inspire me alot such a God fearing gal
I wish people will let others be...... don't push someone to be like fulani.....i hate that phrase so very much we are all born differently and have different desires.. ........well understood
This is an awesome interview..an eye opener
My take away: lower your expectations from other people, what you can do, stop bothering other people, do it. Tell yourself the truth so you can live your life irrespective of societal expectations. I have loved every part of this discussion.
A guy in early 30's,,same case..no serious rshp..zero mileage...sijui kaa nko normal
same here, very normal you are your aunthetic self.
𝑺𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒎𝒚 𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒆 20'𝒔
One of the best interviews. Thanks Monica
Am her twin i dread it but God already gave me one, ile siku niliambiwa i was pregnant nililia aki ,the doctors thought i was a weirdo... It was God's will to have him but i wouldn't want to have another or get married either....
God show me my purpose...that has bn my prayer
All I can say about this conversation is WOW!
Life. Does not happen.We make it happen.sio lazima upate watoto and husband ili uiishi.sometimes its good to be single.many of us are married and single.
Some piont has fact mm siwezi kosa kukula na kuvaa nguo coz haziko ready najifanyia ,napasa na pika na kuondokea
I cant stop laughing....😂😂😂she is very firm. Follow your heart siz
I am trying to figure out how much of what she is saying is about denial and rationalization.
@@ndichungechu4390 if she wanted a child ,she would have had one by know.She would have became a regular at bars,pubs and socialized with a few men,and one if them would readily,want to sleep with her,in the process,she would conceive .
Best interview ever ❤❤❤❤
Hey monicah,say hi to that Lady, actually she's from my village.
Na venye naomba Mungu anipe husband aki😢
Marriage is the beginning of miseries.
I can’t judge
Love this topic 👏
Mm ni mwanaume na fikira zangu ni kama zako na mm c chukii wanawake lakini mm napenda kuhishi peke yangu
𝑻𝒖𝒏𝒂𝒇𝒂𝒏𝒂𝒏𝒂 𝒑𝒊𝒂 𝒂𝒎 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒂𝒎 𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒍𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆
I have learnt something. Thank you.
I like her perception on her situation.
Apostle Paul said if you can single like him is more better bt if you burn for sex get your own wife or husband. Apostle Paul lined up the challenges we will face in marriages so he opted singlness. Late the Dr myles munroe said devorce is more painful than death to those who loved their spouses so much otherwise you always see your x.
You can be a mother but not a good parent. Let’s know ourselves and not what society expects us to be.
She is beautiful and happy.❤❤
I love this conversation so I'm normal
problems somewhere, am very sure of this😢, children are God given, na you can't change this, you like it or not, & if you're normal, you must miss this
@@njihiapeter8564 your statement reeks of ignorance.
True, children are gifts from God. But it's a choice to activate. A must for who...!??where in the Bible dear Christian that says it's a must...!? Your projecting your desires and wants on someone else.
You are rationalizing.
@@shikokariuki212true it's not a must,,, these are kind of people wenye wanafanya mtu asiende ushago,,,,maswali hayaishi,,,,pata mtoto oooh olewa,,nkt!!
Learnt alot🙏
I really understand her coz even me I've never had that motherly instinct. That's why I looked & got a man who didn't want children as well. Sikutaka pleasure 😮😂
Pressure
Wow nice every person have a heart desires and promises to God what he would want ❤️ 🙏 ♥️ 💙
Is Akothee your siz,"I mean the guest"
This is wonderful❤❤❤
Even some we r married but we r there to take care of children
How I desire to get more kids 😢still waiting on God's promises🙏
May God fulfill the desire of your heart
Wonderful ❤
When you are much older you will know the importance of having people around you .
Wooi I wish you know
Tomorrow falls in the category of " the grace of God is sufficient".
What about the barren women and men?
This is manipulation... nobody is guaranteed to be happy in future because they have people around them
God will take care of her nobody can do it like God
She has people around her.
Please add English translation
I need to see this lady
So true to herself
I m learning alot alot alot❤❤❤
Nowadays ladies don't know what they want i has been heartbroken by ladies who never want to be married but wasting real man who wants to settle am 37 single but no dating until 40😅
𝑺𝒊 𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒊𝒔𝒌 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒎 26 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒂𝒎 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒇 𝒊 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒂 𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒆 𝒊 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒍𝒂𝒔𝒕 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒃𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒌
Congratulations 👏 👏 for 300 subscribers 👏 💖
The lady is hilarious 😂😂😂
Please add English translation,love your show😊
Turn on the cc caption 😊
@@abdullahabunayyan-jv7sj 🙄
@@AdaJanu What 😁
Kila mtu na life yake Maggie namjua ni mtu roho safi
Hii sitasikiza , the way I love kids hata wa wenyewe ❤ is on another level, akipata mmoja tu ndio atajua the real meaning of motherly love haki, wamama mko wapi ?❤
Marriage is not for everyone Ukielewa hii you'll just learn to understand people of her caliber.
Tuko hapa I have two 28 and 22yrs.....I wish I never had children. They are good and respectful bt at 46yrs now i love being alone.
Since your kids are all grown, why are you regretting then?@@kaninijames1291
She looks happy
PLease bring English translations dear
Best decision of my life is being childfee
Me and you same group 😂😂
Wow
Kúganwo ní kúra.
Of Mother Teresa Having Dated( I Don’t Know). For You, You Have At Least Tasted Love.. This “Single” Need Full n Complete Understanding.
Living ki Japan.
Time is coming my dear,solly..
Monica iyo mwahu ingine inaitwa opposition side 😂😂
Waiting
My grand same group
Some things joh zea
Evn conceiving is biological.
In another life I wouldn't want to have children
I can only 😂 coz no comments on this what about the dota I know u have talk the truth it will set u free
Waoh I love her real her u hv really encouraged me accept Ur situation n move on
That not normal my opinion
Team Premiere nimefika
May we be honest with ourselves- do not mislead the Children of God because you are unable to be honest with yourself. 😂
Every human being on earth is responsible to multiply
@@amosnjagi9804 true
No,if one doesn't find a spouse what should they do?
Not true, she is real to herself it’s not a must to have children
I need her contacts
Monica kindly ask the lady to give me her contacts
Contacts za guest hupeanwa always at the end of the show, for anyone who needs to talk to them ,, so watch the show utapata contacts.
Ziko. Watch till the end.
Hello hello
Spiritually, this woman have a very strong spiritual husband in spirit realm who have blocked her earthly marriage and he have destroyed all her desires
Wewe na "spiritual" that's her personal choice....Si vitu zingine tuu watu wafikiriage beyond?
@@cikuciku4345 there is nothing like personal choice
This woman needs deliverance the enemy has stolen all her desires
You can call it "personal choice"
But spiritual people can see beyond the bondage tying down this woman and she is embracing it due to the lack of knowledge
Really?
Is marriage a must biblically?
Stop this your manipulation...
@@timothygichuki9447 life is spiritual.
Depends with childhood..if one was treated as a burden,without love ,always being criticized,and blamed for minor faults,they will see children as burden . Remember,one cannot give what they don't have.
Hi Monica , is this Margaret Ngotho
Yes ni yeye
@@sharonmugo9286 we were with her in the same high school
Yes ni yeye ni my aunt's alikuwa anapenda watoto sana akiwa shule ,I love her so much
Amazing, say hae to her.