The shoes off in the house rule is by no means just an east Asian rule. This is done almost everywhere in the world, and I was shocked to learn that people wear shoes in the house
It's an American thing, for some reason they think their way is the way it's done everywhere. I keep hearing this shoe thing is asian and I keep shaking my head.
I was raised in a Russian household. I've actually never thought of that but yes. Turning your back to someone while/after talking is considered as a bad behavior.
It completely depends on the situation... If you're painting a room with your housemates and chatterboxing in the meanwhile, it's not more than normal to have your back towards them. Otherwise the work would not become finished; Everyone in that situation will understand that. While if you're talking to a stranger then it's obvious you're not going to show them your back. That has nothing to do with nationality but just logic.
I’m Polynesian, and I was gobsmacked when he spoke about us. Because he is 100% on point!!! I never realised it till literally when he explained it. So funny 😂. I have the most loving family too ❤️✊🏾
More and more people do it in Europe too. When I was a kid only one aunt asked to remove our shoes and we thought she was weird. Now it's the other way round.
The shoe one is clever and also mean... Because it's more embarasing to take of youre shoes while standing, or in china theire have just realy good shoes.
My parents had a “no door locking” rule until we were 18. No one barged in anyone’s room while the door was closed, but it was more of a way to have access in case of emergencies such as fire or other issue. It actually saved my brother’s hide once when he stopped breathing in his sleep with the flu.
When I was a kid, my sister and I repeatedly requested a lock for our bedroom door, because our brother and parents barged in whenever they pleased. The "lock for our bedroom door" made every Christmas wish list. Our parents had a lock on their own bedroom door, and both restrooms had locks, but they refused to allow us a lock for our door, and they and our brother continued to barge in at random times, unexpectedly. It was very annoying.
The Spanish thing with eating late and staying up late is also a thing in Southern Italy, Portugal, Greece,... . The reason is that from 1 pm to 6 pm, it's too hot to be active or digest food. When Germans or Swedes travel to Southern Spain, they often need to adapt to the different rythem of the day.
As a Swede that's transitioned to life in America, especially down in Florida, I relate to that quite a bit -- the difficulties transitioning, not only culturally, but geographically speaking.
I lived in a household where anything my mom buys is hers to do what she wants even if it's a gift to us. At one point I stopped having her buy me anything. I started to eat less and less trying to use less of her resources. I started buying my own things and if I didn't share I would get beat.
Some make sense. Others are just plain abuse of power. It's sad that at this day and age, people still believe that children are subhumans that need not be treated with dignity. Humanity is a work in progress, but I wonder what will happen to those who refuse to evolve.
They gonna wallow in misery i just got told I’m out of touch with reality because i believe there’s no way we’re “supposed” to be. This was in reference to the difference in American society now compared to the old days lol as if the way they lived wasn’t entirely different than the way their predecessors lived.
I love this comment so much, I’m 12 and don’t mind some reasonable rules that just causes small annoyance and leaves, but some rules treat children like subhumans, like in schools, we can’t go to the bathroom without permission which is a human need, we can’t speak even though it’s a skill that we need and may force anti-socialism, also why we see introvert memes all over social media, and work that we don’t even need in the rapid evolving world, and I also hate how it’s normalized and even enforced just to have a better future, even though it’s just eating useless data and barfing them out on a test.
I had a French friend in middle school every time I'd visit for dinner I was actually expected to follow their rules. They did make a few allowances because I wasn't used to French cuisine but I was still expected to eat whatever "American" dish they did serve even if I expressly mentioned I did not like it.
@@silllykitten329 Hey, making compromises is what separates us from the animals. I really liked Pierré and I was willing to do whatever it took to preserve our friendship.
Personally in my opinion especially in today's age it's important to teach kids the value of hard work. If I ever have a child I would allow them to have anything they want as long as they work for it. This would teach them not only the value of work but also the value of money, time management, self discipline, and money management. Many of these values I didn't learn growing up and had to develop these skills when I started in the workforce making my life very difficult.
Older siblings watching younger siblings seems pretty normal at least in my life. I was taught to be responsible but being young along with wanting to have fun I gave my lil bros a later bedtime & snacks 24/7.😎
I'm a biological only, but I went to school with someone who had 9 other siblings. My friend had her own older nieces babysit her. While not as extreme as that, I really don't understand how this is weird? Like....you take care of your family because you love them. (and you sound like a cool older sibling!)
I mean, it's an excuse most parents will use so they don't have to responsible and take care of their responsibility and make their older kids watch the younger ones but alright
Entering a house without shoes is not only done in East Asia here in Turkey people instead do the same. It is actually quite hygiene and relaxing. Especially cause of Covid...
Young children, with just a bit of encouragement for it, often show an intense sensitivity about caring for even younger or weaker, and I find it nice to have it cultivated, knowing that parents are there to support. They can transform from reckless about themselves to the most responsible when they have to care for a weaker. This one seems nice to me. But that not-looking-at-the-crying-baby thing is outright injuring abuse at ages of mere months old, deprivation of emotional security. It's not the same as ignoring tantrums from older pre-schoolers and schoolers, it is completely different. I understand the explanation is having to have survival field work done with no one else to care for the baby.
Yeah ignoring a super young baby from birth to like age 1 or 2 actually causes them to be deprived and turns them into socio or psychopaths. Not getting that bond with mom/dad, not feeling or getting love and attentions during those first few vital years destroys a human being and it can not be fixed once that time is passed. No amount of love later from a new parent or a later lover will heal or fix them. They'll have zero empathy, won't understand emotions, makes them extremely dangerous.
@@SariennMusic73 It is a considerable danger. There will be some type and extend of lifelong injury for sure. It is not necessary to lead to this, it may be softened, or manifested only in self-harming behaviours, but it can as well lead to Antisocial Personality Disorder; no need to cause suffering to a months od baby and take these chances!
Even though I was raised in the US, my entire family lives in south america. I've observed how all my cousins sleep and eat late, while us americans sleep and eat early. Once while visiting the country, I saw some kids no older than 10 playing basketball around midnight. Heck, everyone i know in my family - but my parents, sister, and i - sleep at 2 am.
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I work in child care. One family told me they don't watch television during the week. After program, they go home and they eat dinner. Certain days they read, play games or do activities like going swimming. They had access to screen time on weekends depending on how their week went.
The staying up late, eating what everyone else is eating/what you’re given, and the no open door thing are all common for Middle Eastern families. I also didn’t know the shoe thing wasn’t a normal thing people do.
The thing about grandma’s bathroom, my dad and his second wife had a rule like that. Even though my bedroom was between their bedroom and their bathroom, I had to go to the other side of the house to use the other bathroom.
The Polynesian bit is very true. I am specifically from Samoa and it is a way of life we take everywhere regardless if parents are busy or not. It teaches us maturity, responsibility and respect from both perspectives of being the older sibling and younger sibling.
Just my opinion but seems unfair that older siblings basically become little adults laden with childcare responsibilities but youngest gets to grow up free of all that. Just curious and asking respectfully, do there tend to be differences between older and younger siblings as far as lifestyles and personalities?
16:16 There should be a EXCEPTION to that. You can't touch another family members color UNLESS you are getting it for them. Lets say, a sibling left their keys at the house, and the door was locked so they couldn't get in. Would it be fair to keep that basically punish that person for simple human error? No, it wouldn't be. Or perhaps the sibling may be disabled(like prosthetic leg and wheelchair disabled). And may be they can't grab certain things that are theirs because of it. Does that mean that the said disable person can't have the things they want or need, JUST because they got into that car accident 3 or 4 years ago? I don't think that sounds fair.
I “theoretically” had a rule that I couldn’t play video games one day every week. Practical, it didn’t matter because my mother never enforced it and my dad was working a lot of the time.
I'm from a time when plastic on furniture was a common thing. My Mom had white carpeting in her apartment. It was customary to remove shoes and leave them on the tile floor entry way whenever we came over to visit.
The sims money cheat one is actually crazy especially the parents reason why 😂🤦♂️ like that’s the whole point of a game is to do things you can’t/wouldn’t in real life
Same my parents wont let me play pokemon but i cover the logo of the games with marker and keep them hidden in my sonic and shadow plushie. Been 13 years and they still havent found em haha
Well that pretty much says your parent/s are a POS... Do that with my kid (allow something that has been deemed a no-go) and they would never worry about parenting another person's child again, it would be a lesson the parents and children won't likely soon forget.
@@kevinfreeman3098 kinda makes you a monster Kevin. Please seek therapy. They let him play Pokemon, they're not giving him sugar against your wishes. 🙄🤦🏾♂️
It’s wild to me how many of these things my parents had implemented within my upbringing. Because all of these rules with maybe the exception of 1 or 2 we still go by till this day lol 😂
10:48 I remember when I was 7 my aunt didn't let me and my cousins watch the Pokemon TV shows not because it teaches evolution, but because she thought it was "a thing of the Devil" or something like that. I think she said that because Pokemons are...little monsters?
About the spanish kids night routine: if the event is really really late and important, kids usually are made to take a nap (siesta) on the early afternoon so they can be awake till late (like at Christmas eve or new year's). Also yes, most kids go to sleep at 22:00/21:00, but its because here most stores used to close at 20:30 or 20:00. Now a lot of them close at 21:00. So we have dinner later. Same happens for uni students and afternoon classes.
I'm a Vietnamese person. It's actually accurate that parents whistles to train kids. Parents still whistle to kids at older ages but it's more uncommon than for young kids
I actually was surprised to learn about this clever technique. They are teaching their children a conditioned Pavlovian response, similar to the technique Pavlov used with dogs. For as long as we Americans have known about Pavlov's research, we were never clever enough to put it to good use like that.
I'm an Indian who is left handed. It's not just food. When we are giving money to people we are strictly told to give or collect using right hand only. It gets irritating at times but I've grown used to it now
If I accidentally give money to someone with my left hand.....I start to remember the first time when i lend out money and i was scolded, now it just happens automatically....lol
In France, there are strict rules for kids to follow when they're in the presence of adults. But when they move to NYC, the rules go out the window. I went to the apartment of a French family to do repairs, and their teenage son started talking to me in their presence, telling me what they wanted, where to put it, and I was thinking, "In France, there's no way a teenager would speak to me before his parents."
Most Jamaican households dont give children an “allowance”.. we get told “we’re allowed to sleep in the house, and we’re allowed to eat the food..thats your allowance😂😂😂. You don’t get grounded, you get put on “lockdown”. My family had 2 main rules everyone in the house including friends have to abide by… 1. No fizzy drinks before 12 noon 2. No leaving the house without eating breakfast
Man I heard a story of a couple looking to help a child and that's by adoption. Now they already have 1 child at home but felt they earn enough money to raise a 2nd child the same age at the same time. So they fly over to a country in Africa and sure enough, theres no shortage of children needing parents. They had at least 100 babies under 1 big roof. The mother said it's like a warehouse type building and it was hot and muggy in there. Another thing that the couple realized was there wasn't 1 baby crying at all. When the mother thinking about her own child that cries all the time, she asked. How and why are they all so quite? The man that ran this center for small children answered, well babies cry when they want or need. A parent has 2 options at that time. Either they will let the baby cry or give the child what they want. Here we dont have time to tend to every single child, no matter how much we want to. So we are forced to leave the child crying. This might seem harsh and cruel but when there are 100 infants and dont have but 10 workers, they had to do this. The couple asked if they needed anything? The man said money, yes to buy food and help with maintenance. So instead of an adoption, they gave them $50,000 right then and went back home. The husband goes to work and comes home that night. He goes to bed and the wife isnt there. He looks everywhere making sure the car is there and then checks to make sure their baby is ok since momma is nowhere to be found. He looks into the baby bed and his wife had done crawled into bed with their child. This went on for a week and finally the husband asked her, why are you sleeping with our child? She replied sobbing, I dont ever want our child to feel like those we seen in Africa. I want our child to know that she is 100% loved by us. So they took turns sleeping with their baby. Now for me, I can understand and I also know that doing this no matter love or not. That child will be dependent on someone to sleep with her for a very long time. I told my wife when she wanted to put our 2 month old son in bed with us, no way no how. To many things could go wrong too fast. A lot of children die this way. A parent rolls over on top of their child and will have to live out the rest of their lives knowing that they are the reason their baby died. NOT THIS GUY AT ALL!!! SORRY, I know that's a long story but I think I it was worth the time to type it. I left a bunch out but I'm pretty sure that you get the picture. Take care and may your dreams come true.
About the Spanish sleep one, I used to sleep at 9pm as a 5 yr old living in Saudi Arabia, so this doesn’t even seem a little shocking to me. The real shocker was poor western kids forced to sleep at 7 😅 Also the thing about eating with the right hand is extremely prominent here in the KSA.
In Japan and Korea, you can enter the house with shoes but you have to take them off at the genkan or hyeon gwan, a low depression with a step that goes up to the rest of the house.
My wife is Hawaiian so that "rule" us something I'm familiar with but growing up for me I never had a door in my bedroom so I truly feel the door rule lol
@@Gaia_Gaistar *_Mine was originally blue and green, but my dad keep forgetting and using mine (and they stinks)... Forcing me to change my color to what his original color was, orange._*
The eye contact one makes no sense, babies can't understand social subtleties like that so soon. I call bogus on it actually working and fostering independence. Maybe when they're older, but as a baby it probably just makes them feel ignored and sad.
I was for a job in a little town in Argentina. That day they had a end of school year celebration for the primary classes. All kids and parents were there. It started at 10 PM.
I remember that whenever my moronic brother made me cry or whatevs we’d both get locked in our rooms, and I read fantasy series and heaps of other thick books like 12 times over, made me hate reading books after I grew up. Also we would get locked outside a lot because it was good to enjoy the outside when I really wanted to play with my Star Wars Lego back in the day. Be grateful for the childhoods you have guys.
Wait you had fantasy books when you were a child? AND A STAR WARS LEGO SET 😳? Simply talking about Star wars, or reading fantasy books was some of the worst crimes that could be committed in our household according to my parents lol. The only books we could read growing up were the Bible, dictionaries, encyclopedias, and some random other educational books we could find lol
We uphold the no shoes on inside rule because it helps keep hard wood floors clean and keeps them from scuffing, also it keeps unwanted smells out of carpets. Ps from the USA
A family friends parents lived in russia for many years. One thing the older generations is superstitious about is curbs. My friends mom was tired once day and sat down on a curb and some older ladies came over to her and told her to get up. She thought she had something on her pants but they then told her that sitting in a curb will mean she is never fertile. Naturally she went on to have 4 kids. But just one of those things other places will find weird.
One of the most rediculous rules we had was my gramma was the only person allowed to use the front door. We couldn't even open it to air the place out, it was absolutely rediculous!
the "no shoes allowed" rule should be standard. I had to clean up a house with everyone wearing shoes vs. no one wearing shoes. Same house. All adults. Guess which one was easier?
@@Extraction1945 there is a usual exception with that, like when at a party where most didn't take their shoe's so the late commers just follow the first ones
Anyone not allowing Pokemon because it teaches "evolution" is 100% wrong. Pokemon don't actually evolve they metamorphosis. They just use evolve/evolution because it sounds cooler but by definition Pokemon use metamorphosis.
You can have evolution occurring without developing metamorphosis in a species, but in order to have metamorphosis occur, evolution must have happened. I'm concerned about the amount of people who liked this
Taking your shoes off before entering the house and not putting all those nasty stuff you’ve been stepping on all day on your floor, especially on the bed, is just plain “common sense”. 🤦🏻♂️
Most of these would be considered child neglect (not feeding them when they are hungry), abuse, or abandonment (locking the kids out of the house) in the US. My parents did the door thing, I considered it an invasion of my privacy. They even demanded it when I was 17. So I to listen to them scream at each other. They hated each other.
Re: The French food thing. My mom had a rule as we got to preteen / teen age or so. If there's something you don't like, you just have to eat 1 bite. After that bite, if you don't like it, you don't have to eat it. Same mentality, the idea being we would acquire a taste for things we didn't like. It worked in some cases, and there's food that grew on me. It didn't work with others. But I'm 37 now, and I'll still have a bite of something I know I don't like. Each and every time it's available. Maybe one day I'll wake up and like it.
As an African, in my particular culture, you use your right hand when you hand someone something (especially an adult) because that is respectful. And to eat, too. You also aren't to look an adult in the eye. And you shouldn't eat while standing.
@@baspagrey1545 And id bet many things that we do would be thought as inferior or dumb. I cant help but believe that your comment is racially motivated. Its not dumb, its tradition
As a french person the bit about french food wasn't wrong about parents saying good enough for us good enough for you it's just that normally most people I know would have gladly tucked into servings of cheese as an example not having to be forced/pressured
It is always a pleasure to come across a fellow french person on a big and worldwide watched youtube chanel like this one. I love being able to encounter other people by watching this type of content. I've never been forced to eat the same things that my parents did, but because i wanted to act older and try new food, we ate the same dishes. But i remember having stricts eating times and not being authorized to eat between them ( i could eat snacks but not often )
2:55 As a parent you'll see a lot more things your child does which needs to be acted on. The neglecting bit is just a fact with this. Kids aged 14 really don't know or care about things an adult knows, so the 14 yo kid won't teach those things to a 8 yo.
what if i told u i used to have to go to bed at 8:30 before i could go to bed any time i wanted, even when i was like 10, 11, etc yes my parents were insane
Thank goodness my kids weren't much on watching tv or video games. When they were in grammar school, I only allowed them to play on weekends, and as they got older I layed off them about the rules, and it just kind of stuck, then they stopped playing, and were always outside. The only strict rule I had was do not come in my bedroom without knocking and them hearing me say ok. My husband didn't care but I did. That was my room, and I afforded them the same courtesy with their bedroom, I knocked, then waited until they said come in.
My brother is a video game addict, though I am quite the opposite. However, seeing the difference in how we were raised, I think kids internalize parental feedback regarding video games. Many video game addicts report that the video game practice is somehow making them smarter or more skilled, and my brother is no exception. He was my mother's favorite, so though my mother told me to turn off video games "because they are a waste of time", she praised everything my brother did, including video games, claiming his success on the game proved how smart he was. He still believes this, even as an adult, so he still wastes hours playing video games.
The rules you mentioned from France…those were rules in my household as a kid. So I guess that came from my French heritage. We did not get snacks…ever. And there was no substitutions or special orers. YOu either ate what was on your plate or you didn’t eat. I once sat at the table until 9pm (dinner was at 6:30) beause I refused to eat the meatloaf my mother made (trust me, it was nasty…who puts ham in meatloaf?). I sat there stabbing the bits of meatloaf over and over until it was tiny little crumbs all voermy plate. Myf ather finally said I could leave the table, but I knew better than to ask for anything else. It was eat that or don’t eat. My family is Cajun, so that must be the French heritage shining through. Oh, and there was also a rule that you had to eat each new thing at least twice before being allowed to declare you didn’tlike it. You still weren’t off the hook to eat it,b ut you were forbidden from even saying you dind’t like it until it had been served to you twice.
My French ex from Bordeaux used to tell me that his Mum was so strict while they’re dining that he had to stuff his pockets with meat he couldn’t eat otherwise he’s in trouble. He was told to finish everything on the plate. He even mentioned he was strapped to the chair so he won’t slouch while eating. And when I visited their place, I was asked to cover up one dinner time because I was wearing a decent, white racerback. Apparently, she never likes someone who eats while wearing sleeveless on the dining table. Oh, no elbows on the table, too. She’s a lovely woman though. RIP Mme. Jacqueline.
as someone of east asian descent studying in europe myself, i find it weird when i first find out that europeans don't always take off their shoes when visiting other people's household
I think children will learn to handle money by your example too, first and foremost, through reasoning and through general education. The same goes for limitations, which must of course be applied, but this paying for TV thing seems to me that it makes parent - children relationship about and around money, shopping counter type. Don't get me wrong, a non - avarition culture, spending limits and balancing with the needs of others in the family must be exemplified and applied by all means and for all purposes. But this directly buying something from your parents thing seems wrong to me, or even possible to lead to an opposing direction; avarition and making everything in their minds seem about and around money.
Yeah, the bathroom rules was used by someone in the family we often visited, although not as strictly as the grandmother in the video. They had 2 bathrooms, one upstairs and one downstairs. The one upstairs was for parents and visitors, while the one downstairs for for the kids. When I was just visiting for a few hours, I was allowed to used the one upstairs, but on sleepovers I had to use the one downstairs. The same went for what entry to use, as they also had two entrances. As a visitor I could use the main entrance, but as a sleepover I had to use the second entrance. As such, if I was going to sleep over, I would have to carry my shoes and outside clothes downstairs through the house and upstairs to the second entrance, and then back again when I left.
I am of Russian origin. I have NEVER heard my parents tell me “don’t turn your back”. Sorry 🤷♂️. The “no shoes” is a DEFINITE. I was taught that since I can walk.
When I was in preschool I was only allowed to spend 30 minutes playing my Wii a day, sometimes more on the weekends or some special days like around my birthday/Christmas. Things are much different now and I’d say at that age they were fair but I can’t imagine having to deal with that now
I am coming from a Latino household and my parents never really hit when me or my brothers misbehaved we would be in or knees against the wall with her hands up for a long time until they decided it was OK for us to stand up.
The rule of taking your kids money, so they can watch TV that has to be child abuse. Also, where I live the idea of being really strict with no closing your door, or denying your child of privacy is considered to be child-abuse and police can get involved with this. I live somewhere in the world where kids have access to CPS. If your rules of your house are just too strict and too absurd. CPS can get involved and CPS can get police involved and if the police and CPS think that the rules are too strict to the point where they are just abusive, you can lose your child They would be putting a foster home and then quickly adopted. Also too hard for punishment can result in CPS and police getting involved as well
The Polynesian kid situation is messed up. Children are not free babysitting. If you can't handle the children you have, don't have (more) children. Any parent who destroyed their kids collectibles (Pokemon TCG or otherwise) should be liable to pay them the full net value of those items, if they were currently Gem Mint 10, graded, and being sold on eBay at that rate. The grandma with the weird bathroom rule that disowned family for using her bathroom once needs punched right in her mouth.
I’m Spanish and i can say that is not a rule. The day in Spain starts later and so everything moves back in the daily schedule. It becomes a natural rhythm really. But if In a gathering a kid falls a sleep is preferred as adults would be able to speak of different topics.
What the video failed to mention is that Spanish culture includes a mid-afternoon siesta, or nap. Even adults take a few hours off work for this, and then they return to work and work late.
I can confirm one of the items on the list, I live in a middle eastern country and my grandfather forced me to become right handed, as a matter of fact to this day I am right handed and left legged. This video actually helped me shed some light since my grandfather is dead, I wonder how it is with other people, if it happened to you please reply and tell me what happened, I was at great odds with my grandfather when he was alive and this reason is just the start of it. Infact his memorial is next week and I don't plan on going as usual. Sorry for rambling, if you made it so far congratulations and thanks for reading and please comment/reply with what mentioned or another item on the list, I'm very curious as I might implement some of these as a parent and would like to know how others felt going through them.
Most Asian parents didn’t really have to impose the shoes off rules, their kids just do it naturally, it’s not really so much as a rule, more of a habit.
14:50 that part reminded me of me learning to play the guitar an how i was never told to practice never given lessons. My parents never even forced me to learn to play an instrument.
here are 4 facts about me : FACT 1 : when i watched the spanish people bedtime rule and that you told that most kids went to bed at 7pm, i found out i am lucky, as when i was a kid, i ALWAYS went to bed at 9pm even tho i am in france, which is INSANE. i never knew that was so rare. FACT 2 : i myself am french as you might have seen from the first fact, but thanks to that, i can tell you that the french meal rule is midly relatable for me, my mom did not care about what i ate, at ALL. and almost never gave me vegetables. as for my dad, he didnt allow me snack before lunch and dinner (or if very lucky he gave me a VERY small snack to eat) and every now and them gave me a meal with ONLY vegetables, that being the worst type. by luck, each time i taste something, if i hate it, both my mom and dad never give it back to me, which is the best. so once again i have insane luck. FACT 3 : i myself almost never watch TV, which is the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of 90% of kids, instead, i watch things on my LAPTOP. it is just better for me. FACT 4 : i had a lucky bedroom back then, because for some reason, the person who build the house put a BATHROOM DOOR instead of a bedroom door for the entrance of my bedroom, which means it has a LOCK. and by absolute luck, the lock is on my side. which means that if i didnt want my parents to enter, just twist the lock, done. so quite lucky once again.
I have a one-hour limit to playing video games and it used to be a half hour! And sometimes it's a more lenient rule, but my friends say that it's super strict, so maybe I should show them this video!
I'm sorry to say it... But your not doing your kids a favour. Especially if your kids are teenagers. Your kids will just get addicted later if they don't have it now...
Honestly the most stupidest rule that my mom made is that I have to only buy stuff for whatever company she works for (ex: She works at Coke, I can only buy coke products and not Pepsi)
@@Gaia_Gaistar It's basically depends on the upbringing and the parents. If your parents have good morals and character, It's going to be automatically reflected on you.
7:50 as a Chinese tho living in Indonesia, yes we are forbade to walk in with out shoes. However the reason isn't really spiritual or stuff but rather... to keep the floor in the house clean. Literally thats all.
@@JDkn Funnily enough this video was released only 2 days after the film Turning Red was released which also has a strict parent as well I mean good grief you have NO IDEA just how much I HATE Ming Lee.
It’s a native thing in Canada, a lot of poverty n harsh living conditions with no clean water. It is expected for us younger generation to leave home, learn at school, and come back home
When I was younger and still living with my parents, we had to wait until 7:00pm at night to get on any piece of technology whatsoever, and even then we also had to have our rooms clean and all chores done. The devices were then taken away at 9:00pm. Another weird policy we had was doors, but we could close them to go to sleep. One time I left my door closed so I could draw without my loud siblings in the background, and my father literally took the door from its hinges. Needless to say I relate to some of the rules in this video😂😂😂
Being raised in an Asian house hold I had to do the piano thing. It was terrible. So terrible that one day I just said F it all. Threw away the note books, and destroyed the piano bench.(
Oh…a rule in my family home that was strictly enforced. Children were not allowed inthe master bedroom. EVer. We could go up to the door frame, but it didn’tmatter the time of day, we were not allowed in. Once I snuck in my parents’ bedroomjust to see what they were hiding…not really anything. My father had a cool collection of fantasy books and my mother had a sewing box.
Cool video guys, very interesting. I like how you guys can make great and fun videos from strange and sometimes, totally random topics. And you guys upload a lot of videos every week, which is quite impressive, considering how interesting and informative the videos are. Keep up the great work guys.
As a pre-school teacher my kids are so so so sweet. I taught them if their friend is being mean . To grab their friend by the hand and talk to them about being mean. Or if you’re friend is crying give them a hug and tell them it’s okay. I’m preparing them for the real world. I’m teaching them empathy and how to correctly deal with a situation. I love them and they are good listeners
7:20 for middle eastern countries its sunnah for us to eat with the right hand (sunnah means that our beloved prophet saw used to encourage it and do it )
I just moved to Connecticut from Michigan and it’s my second night I’m still in touch with all my friends but one of my my friends parents don’t let him use his phone during the week he can only bring his phone on the bus for two days
Moving from Spain as a kid to the States was wild for me. I never understood why kids would sleep so early and it seemed like a brutal amount of sleeping for me. I still don’t see the need for a child to sleep at anytime before 10-11. If they wake up at 7, that’s still a full nights sleep.
It was always explained to us in later years, that was when Prime Time TV came on, stuff that was considered adult and the kids weren't supposed to watch, so the kids went to bed and the adults had their relaxing and fun time. When adults came to the house in the evenings us kids weren't apart of that, we were sent to our rooms to get out of grown folks way, or if there were other kids, sent to a room to play with those kids. I can't say if this separation is just a US thing.
Young children need more sleep than adults do. That's why babies sleep so much and toddlers fall asleep outside of their beds sometimes. An 8-year-old needs 10 hours of sleep each night.
The shoes off in the house rule is by no means just an east Asian rule. This is done almost everywhere in the world, and I was shocked to learn that people wear shoes in the house
It's an American thing, for some reason they think their way is the way it's done everywhere. I keep hearing this shoe thing is asian and I keep shaking my head.
@@martinbundesen4412I'm an American and I have american friends that don't allow shoes
@@whodat879 I dont wear shoes at home but wear socks when non family members are there
@@axionlightedge6108 I dont dont wear shoes in the house either. But I'm allowed to but I rather be barefoot
This Americans wears clean shoes that are Crocs only inside shoes not for outdoor use because I'm a klutz and stub my toe or feet on everything
I was raised in a Russian household. I've actually never thought of that but yes. Turning your back to someone while/after talking is considered as a bad behavior.
I’ve had a Sunday school teacher that had that rule.
Wow.
correction: *Soviet Russia
I think people normally do it on way to bathroom
It completely depends on the situation... If you're painting a room with your housemates and chatterboxing in the meanwhile, it's not more than normal to have your back towards them. Otherwise the work would not become finished; Everyone in that situation will understand that. While if you're talking to a stranger then it's obvious you're not going to show them your back. That has nothing to do with nationality but just logic.
I’m Polynesian, and I was gobsmacked when he spoke about us. Because he is 100% on point!!! I never realised it till literally when he explained it. So funny 😂. I have the most loving family too ❤️✊🏾
I do have a strong liking for Asian culture and the shoes off rule is really beneficial in part of keeping the floor cleaner.
More and more people do it in Europe too. When I was a kid only one aunt asked to remove our shoes and we thought she was weird. Now it's the other way round.
Preach!
The shoe one is clever and also mean... Because it's more embarasing to take of youre shoes while standing, or in china theire have just realy good shoes.
@@ultraapple3997 Why would that be embarrassing? 🤔 By the way, are you a pre-teen? You sound like a pre-teen...
I don’t mind that rule though if I was a parent I wouldn’t enforce it. I would however advise you do it to keep the floor more clean.
My parents had a “no door locking” rule until we were 18. No one barged in anyone’s room while the door was closed, but it was more of a way to have access in case of emergencies such as fire or other issue. It actually saved my brother’s hide once when he stopped breathing in his sleep with the flu.
When I was a kid, my sister and I repeatedly requested a lock for our bedroom door, because our brother and parents barged in whenever they pleased. The "lock for our bedroom door" made every Christmas wish list. Our parents had a lock on their own bedroom door, and both restrooms had locks, but they refused to allow us a lock for our door, and they and our brother continued to barge in at random times, unexpectedly. It was very annoying.
The Spanish thing with eating late and staying up late is also a thing in Southern Italy, Portugal, Greece,... . The reason is that from 1 pm to 6 pm, it's too hot to be active or digest food. When Germans or Swedes travel to Southern Spain, they often need to adapt to the different rythem of the day.
thats why many people from northern europe think that south europeans are lazy lol ( not saying they are)
As a Swede that's transitioned to life in America, especially down in Florida, I relate to that quite a bit -- the difficulties transitioning, not only culturally, but geographically speaking.
i was surprised when i learned that people actually eat dinner at 19h and earlier
no seriously, how?
They train them to do that because you have stay awake all night to run across the boarder.
@@jonathanharris9269 Not sure what you're on about.
I lived in a household where anything my mom buys is hers to do what she wants even if it's a gift to us. At one point I stopped having her buy me anything. I started to eat less and less trying to use less of her resources. I started buying my own things and if I didn't share I would get beat.
That seems rough but that isn't allowed according to the thing you said where you buy it its yours
Jesus saves
@@waman7024 shut up. If Jesus saves why people suffer.
Your mom is toxic.
I'm sorry to hear that...indeed, Jesus does save
Some make sense. Others are just plain abuse of power. It's sad that at this day and age, people still believe that children are subhumans that need not be treated with dignity. Humanity is a work in progress, but I wonder what will happen to those who refuse to evolve.
Yeah I can agree with you 100%
They gonna wallow in misery i just got told I’m out of touch with reality because i believe there’s no way we’re “supposed” to be. This was in reference to the difference in American society now compared to the old days lol as if the way they lived wasn’t entirely different than the way their predecessors lived.
Mates speaking facts
I love this comment so much, I’m 12 and don’t mind some reasonable rules that just causes small annoyance and leaves, but some rules treat children like subhumans, like in schools, we can’t go to the bathroom without permission which is a human need, we can’t speak even though it’s a skill that we need and may force anti-socialism, also why we see introvert memes all over social media, and work that we don’t even need in the rapid evolving world, and I also hate how it’s normalized and even enforced just to have a better future, even though it’s just eating useless data and barfing them out on a test.
So i am a subhuman?
I had a French friend in middle school every time I'd visit for dinner I was actually expected to follow their rules. They did make a few allowances because I wasn't used to French cuisine but I was still expected to eat whatever "American" dish they did serve even if I expressly mentioned I did not like it.
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I don’t like that cause the parents wouldn’t like it either
Forcing people to eat food when they’re not hungry or if they dislike what’s served is big dumb. Creates issues around food and autonomy.
@@silllykitten329 Hey, making compromises is what separates us from the animals. I really liked Pierré and I was willing to do whatever it took to preserve our friendship.
@@CesarACastillo BUT WE ARE ANIMALS
Personally in my opinion especially in today's age it's important to teach kids the value of hard work. If I ever have a child I would allow them to have anything they want as long as they work for it. This would teach them not only the value of work but also the value of money, time management, self discipline, and money management. Many of these values I didn't learn growing up and had to develop these skills when I started in the workforce making my life very difficult.
In a lot of Latin America countries we as kids didn't had rules... we had "La Chancla", one footwear to rule them all.
😂💯😂
Yes 😂
The punishment shoe!!🤣🤣
i have ptsd of La Chancla
😂👡 I got the belt when I was a kid
Older siblings watching younger siblings seems pretty normal at least in my life. I was taught to be responsible but being young along with wanting to have fun I gave my lil bros a later bedtime & snacks 24/7.😎
I'm a biological only, but I went to school with someone who had 9 other siblings. My friend had her own older nieces babysit her.
While not as extreme as that, I really don't understand how this is weird? Like....you take care of your family because you love them.
(and you sound like a cool older sibling!)
I also watch my siblings, its normal
Youre an epic older bro then, respect
I mean, it's an excuse most parents will use so they don't have to responsible and take care of their responsibility and make their older kids watch the younger ones but alright
24/7 snack is he obese now
Entering a house without shoes is not only done in East Asia here in Turkey people instead do the same. It is actually quite hygiene and relaxing. Especially cause of Covid...
Same here in lithuania
This has nada to do with covid.
I just don't wear shoes at all so I don't have to take them off
@@michaelgallagher3640 aaàaaa⅔3q2qq
@@michaelgallagher3640 heyyyyyyy
Young children, with just a bit of encouragement for it, often show an intense sensitivity about caring for even younger or weaker, and I find it nice to have it cultivated, knowing that parents are there to support. They can transform from reckless about themselves to the most responsible when they have to care for a weaker. This one seems nice to me. But that not-looking-at-the-crying-baby thing is outright injuring abuse at ages of mere months old, deprivation of emotional security. It's not the same as ignoring tantrums from older pre-schoolers and schoolers, it is completely different. I understand the explanation is having to have survival field work done with no one else to care for the baby.
Yeah ignoring a super young baby from birth to like age 1 or 2 actually causes them to be deprived and turns them into socio or psychopaths. Not getting that bond with mom/dad, not feeling or getting love and attentions during those first few vital years destroys a human being and it can not be fixed once that time is passed. No amount of love later from a new parent or a later lover will heal or fix them. They'll have zero empathy, won't understand emotions, makes them extremely dangerous.
@@SariennMusic73 It is a considerable danger. There will be some type and extend of lifelong injury for sure. It is not necessary to lead to this, it may be softened, or manifested only in self-harming behaviours, but it can as well lead to Antisocial Personality Disorder; no need to cause suffering to a months od baby and take these chances!
Even though I was raised in the US, my entire family lives in south america. I've observed how all my cousins sleep and eat late, while us americans sleep and eat early. Once while visiting the country, I saw some kids no older than 10 playing basketball around midnight. Heck, everyone i know in my family - but my parents, sister, and i - sleep at 2 am.
People wonder why the world is as dysfunctional as it is. The reason is simple: people.
Also the reason why its functioning at all.
@@dyztroyax4628 You know, the world can function perfectly without people, like it functioned before apes evolved.
@@opiist1350 With world, he most likely meant human society.
Fax
@@dyztroyax4628 Well, yes, that's kind of self-explanatory. Human society can't function, let alone exist, without people.
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@@estella5952 noticed i think
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@@CoreCorruptorTV well i only choised one of thfde option nothing else
I work in child care. One family told me they don't watch television during the week. After program, they go home and they eat dinner. Certain days they read, play games or do activities like going swimming. They had access to screen time on weekends depending on how their week went.
The staying up late, eating what everyone else is eating/what you’re given, and the no open door thing are all common for Middle Eastern families. I also didn’t know the shoe thing wasn’t a normal thing people do.
French mom: "If I can eat it, you can too"
Kid: "But mom, you're drinking milk, and I'm lactose intolerant"
Mom: "Did I stutter?"
That might be an exception. But there is a law around that in France.
@@coordinator3039 I went to France 🇫🇷 and Monaco 🇲🇨 for a school 🏫 trip ✈️ last summer
@@JesusIsKing9763 no one asked, but cool
@@nOtstrO Not everything needs to be asked, the world doesn't revolve around you.
@@yukkuriwa dude the comment had nothing to do with OP's comment
The thing about grandma’s bathroom, my dad and his second wife had a rule like that. Even though my bedroom was between their bedroom and their bathroom, I had to go to the other side of the house to use the other bathroom.
It was probably bc they need their "privacy" with what they r doing together iykyk
simply protecting you from adult diseases
@@lucidhydra1343 lol
The Polynesian bit is very true. I am specifically from Samoa and it is a way of life we take everywhere regardless if parents are busy or not. It teaches us maturity, responsibility and respect from both perspectives of being the older sibling and younger sibling.
My grandfather is Kanaka Maoli, he was the oldest and took care of the 4 siblings.
Just my opinion but seems unfair that older siblings basically become little adults laden with childcare responsibilities but youngest gets to grow up free of all that. Just curious and asking respectfully, do there tend to be differences between older and younger siblings as far as lifestyles and personalities?
16:16
There should be a EXCEPTION to that.
You can't touch another family members color UNLESS you are getting it for them.
Lets say, a sibling left their keys at the house, and the door was locked so they couldn't get in. Would it be fair to keep that basically punish that person for simple human error? No, it wouldn't be.
Or perhaps the sibling may be disabled(like prosthetic leg and wheelchair disabled). And may be they can't grab certain things that are theirs because of it. Does that mean that the said disable person can't have the things they want or need, JUST because they got into that car accident 3 or 4 years ago? I don't think that sounds fair.
Yeah that makes sense
Really
I “theoretically” had a rule that I couldn’t play video games one day every week. Practical, it didn’t matter because my mother never enforced it and my dad was working a lot of the time.
I'm from a time when plastic on furniture was a common thing.
My Mom had white carpeting in her apartment. It was customary to remove shoes and leave them on the tile floor entry way whenever we came over to visit.
The sims money cheat one is actually crazy especially the parents reason why 😂🤦♂️ like that’s the whole point of a game is to do things you can’t/wouldn’t in real life
I had a friend whose parents wouldn't let him play Pokémon, but my parents let him keep his Pokémon stuff over at our place.
Oof that must hrut
Hurt
Same my parents wont let me play pokemon but i cover the logo of the games with marker and keep them hidden in my sonic and shadow plushie. Been 13 years and they still havent found em haha
Well that pretty much says your parent/s are a POS... Do that with my kid (allow something that has been deemed a no-go) and they would never worry about parenting another person's child again, it would be a lesson the parents and children won't likely soon forget.
@@kevinfreeman3098 kinda makes you a monster Kevin. Please seek therapy.
They let him play Pokemon, they're not giving him sugar against your wishes. 🙄🤦🏾♂️
It’s wild to me how many of these things my parents had implemented within my upbringing. Because all of these rules with maybe the exception of 1 or 2 we still go by till this day lol 😂
10:48 I remember when I was 7 my aunt didn't let me and my cousins watch the Pokemon TV shows not because it teaches evolution, but because she thought it was "a thing of the Devil" or something like that. I think she said that because Pokemons are...little monsters?
11:15 The thought of playing without the money cheat sends chills down my spine
About the spanish kids night routine: if the event is really really late and important, kids usually are made to take a nap (siesta) on the early afternoon so they can be awake till late (like at Christmas eve or new year's).
Also yes, most kids go to sleep at 22:00/21:00, but its because here most stores used to close at 20:30 or 20:00. Now a lot of them close at 21:00. So we have dinner later. Same happens for uni students and afternoon classes.
I'm a Vietnamese person. It's actually accurate that parents whistles to train kids. Parents still whistle to kids at older ages but it's more uncommon than for young kids
I actually was surprised to learn about this clever technique. They are teaching their children a conditioned Pavlovian response, similar to the technique Pavlov used with dogs. For as long as we Americans have known about Pavlov's research, we were never clever enough to put it to good use like that.
I'm an Indian who is left handed. It's not just food. When we are giving money to people we are strictly told to give or collect using right hand only. It gets irritating at times but I've grown used to it now
If I accidentally give money to someone with my left hand.....I start to remember the first time when i lend out money and i was scolded, now it just happens automatically....lol
I am also Indian and I don't follow it
I don't care what people think about me
You do know you can use your left hand right. Your most likely not under your parents rules anymore
@@rblxtutorials1881 That does not work when you have Indian parents. They still exercise control 😂
Is this like a national law or something?
In France, there are strict rules for kids to follow when they're in the presence of adults. But when they move to NYC, the rules go out the window. I went to the apartment of a French family to do repairs, and their teenage son started talking to me in their presence, telling me what they wanted, where to put it, and I was thinking, "In France, there's no way a teenager would speak to me before his parents."
Most Jamaican households dont give children an “allowance”.. we get told “we’re allowed to sleep in the house, and we’re allowed to eat the food..thats your allowance😂😂😂. You don’t get grounded, you get put on “lockdown”. My family had 2 main rules everyone in the house including friends have to abide by…
1. No fizzy drinks before 12 noon
2. No leaving the house without eating breakfast
fr i’m congolese but my mom would REFUSEEEE to let me leave the house without eating first, breakfast especially lol
Man I heard a story of a couple looking to help a child and that's by adoption. Now they already have 1 child at home but felt they earn enough money to raise a 2nd child the same age at the same time.
So they fly over to a country in Africa and sure enough, theres no shortage of children needing parents. They had at least 100 babies under 1 big roof. The mother said it's like a warehouse type building and it was hot and muggy in there.
Another thing that the couple realized was there wasn't 1 baby crying at all. When the mother thinking about her own child that cries all the time, she asked. How and why are they all so quite? The man that ran this center for small children answered, well babies cry when they want or need. A parent has 2 options at that time. Either they will let the baby cry or give the child what they want. Here we dont have time to tend to every single child, no matter how much we want to. So we are forced to leave the child crying. This might seem harsh and cruel but when there are 100 infants and dont have but 10 workers, they had to do this.
The couple asked if they needed anything? The man said money, yes to buy food and help with maintenance. So instead of an adoption, they gave them $50,000 right then and went back home.
The husband goes to work and comes home that night. He goes to bed and the wife isnt there. He looks everywhere making sure the car is there and then checks to make sure their baby is ok since momma is nowhere to be found. He looks into the baby bed and his wife had done crawled into bed with their child. This went on for a week and finally the husband asked her, why are you sleeping with our child? She replied sobbing, I dont ever want our child to feel like those we seen in Africa. I want our child to know that she is 100% loved by us. So they took turns sleeping with their baby.
Now for me, I can understand and I also know that doing this no matter love or not. That child will be dependent on someone to sleep with her for a very long time. I told my wife when she wanted to put our 2 month old son in bed with us, no way no how. To many things could go wrong too fast. A lot of children die this way. A parent rolls over on top of their child and will have to live out the rest of their lives knowing that they are the reason their baby died. NOT THIS GUY AT ALL!!!
SORRY, I know that's a long story but I think I it was worth the time to type it. I left a bunch out but I'm pretty sure that you get the picture. Take care and may your dreams come true.
Parents: "We have the most strict and unforgiving rules in our household."
DPRK Supreme Leader: "Is that a challenge?"
Here in Scotland you cannot hunt Haggis on Mondays, or Nessie on days ending in “Y”
About the Spanish sleep one, I used to sleep at 9pm as a 5 yr old living in Saudi Arabia, so this doesn’t even seem a little shocking to me. The real shocker was poor western kids forced to sleep at 7 😅
Also the thing about eating with the right hand is extremely prominent here in the KSA.
In Japan and Korea, you can enter the house with shoes but you have to take them off at the genkan or hyeon gwan, a low depression with a step that goes up to the rest of the house.
My wife is Hawaiian so that "rule" us something I'm familiar with but growing up for me I never had a door in my bedroom so I truly feel the door rule lol
As a kid my bedroom door was busted down and torn off the hinges so I didn't have one for years.
@@Gaia_Gaistar I didn't have a door until I moved out years later! Felt like a privilege to close my own door
As an asian, even with no siblings, everything of mine would be one color, my dad would be another color and so on.
Mine was green.
@@Gaia_Gaistar *_Mine was originally blue and green, but my dad keep forgetting and using mine (and they stinks)... Forcing me to change my color to what his original color was, orange._*
Lol, I'm thinking the grandmother wouldn't be the only one with issues, dude probably ran for the hills for safety
The eye contact one makes no sense, babies can't understand social subtleties like that so soon. I call bogus on it actually working and fostering independence. Maybe when they're older, but as a baby it probably just makes them feel ignored and sad.
I was for a job in a little town in Argentina. That day they had a end of school year celebration for the primary classes. All kids and parents were there. It started at 10 PM.
Most parents force there kids to be asleep by 9 pm. That's surprising for them to allow kids for 10 pm.
I remember that whenever my moronic brother made me cry or whatevs we’d both get locked in our rooms, and I read fantasy series and heaps of other thick books like 12 times over, made me hate reading books after I grew up. Also we would get locked outside a lot because it was good to enjoy the outside when I really wanted to play with my Star Wars Lego back in the day. Be grateful for the childhoods you have guys.
Wait you had fantasy books when you were a child? AND A STAR WARS LEGO SET 😳? Simply talking about Star wars, or reading fantasy books was some of the worst crimes that could be committed in our household according to my parents lol. The only books we could read growing up were the Bible, dictionaries, encyclopedias, and some random other educational books we could find lol
Yikes
Here in the middle east, we also stay up late due to it usually being veryy hot between 1 PM and 6 PM. Especially in the gulf countries.
We uphold the no shoes on inside rule because it helps keep hard wood floors clean and keeps them from scuffing, also it keeps unwanted smells out of carpets. Ps from the USA
A family friends parents lived in russia for many years. One thing the older generations is superstitious about is curbs. My friends mom was tired once day and sat down on a curb and some older ladies came over to her and told her to get up. She thought she had something on her pants but they then told her that sitting in a curb will mean she is never fertile. Naturally she went on to have 4 kids. But just one of those things other places will find weird.
One of the most rediculous rules we had was my gramma was the only person allowed to use the front door. We couldn't even open it to air the place out, it was absolutely rediculous!
the "no shoes allowed" rule should be standard.
I had to clean up a house with everyone wearing shoes vs. no one wearing shoes. Same house. All adults. Guess which one was easier?
This "no shoes allowed" rule is actually common in the Philippines
@@Extraction1945 I’m Canadian, and I believe it’s common here as well. Or maybe my household does something different.
@@Extraction1945 there is a usual exception with that, like when at a party where most didn't take their shoe's so the late commers just follow the first ones
it is actually quit common in developed countries beside usa
Anyone not allowing Pokemon because it teaches "evolution" is 100% wrong. Pokemon don't actually evolve they metamorphosis. They just use evolve/evolution because it sounds cooler but by definition Pokemon use metamorphosis.
Also evolution is a literal thing
You can have evolution occurring without developing metamorphosis in a species, but in order to have metamorphosis occur, evolution must have happened. I'm concerned about the amount of people who liked this
@@GyeongmiBaeb Its clear you know very little about Pokemon, just stop.
Taking your shoes off before entering the house and not putting all those nasty stuff you’ve been stepping on all day on your floor, especially on the bed, is just plain “common sense”. 🤦🏻♂️
Most of these would be considered child neglect (not feeding them when they are hungry), abuse, or abandonment (locking the kids out of the house) in the US. My parents did the door thing, I considered it an invasion of my privacy. They even demanded it when I was 17. So I to listen to them scream at each other. They hated each other.
Re: The French food thing. My mom had a rule as we got to preteen / teen age or so. If there's something you don't like, you just have to eat 1 bite. After that bite, if you don't like it, you don't have to eat it.
Same mentality, the idea being we would acquire a taste for things we didn't like.
It worked in some cases, and there's food that grew on me. It didn't work with others.
But I'm 37 now, and I'll still have a bite of something I know I don't like. Each and every time it's available.
Maybe one day I'll wake up and like it.
As an African, in my particular culture, you use your right hand when you hand someone something (especially an adult) because that is respectful. And to eat, too. You also aren't to look an adult in the eye. And you shouldn't eat while standing.
These are very dumb rules and leads me to believe you come from a obsolete culture which is inferior to western culture
@@baspagrey1545 There is no such thing as western culture you looters.
@@baspagrey1545 And id bet many things that we do would be thought as inferior or dumb. I cant help but believe that your comment is racially motivated. Its not dumb, its tradition
@@baspagrey1545 racist comments are not appreciated
@@hydrostar_1056 your existence is not appreciated
As a french person the bit about french food wasn't wrong about parents saying good enough for us good enough for you it's just that normally most people I know would have gladly tucked into servings of cheese as an example not having to be forced/pressured
It is always a pleasure to come across a fellow french person on a big and worldwide watched youtube chanel like this one. I love being able to encounter other people by watching this type of content. I've never been forced to eat the same things that my parents did, but because i wanted to act older and try new food, we ate the same dishes. But i remember having stricts eating times and not being authorized to eat between them ( i could eat snacks but not often )
2:55 As a parent you'll see a lot more things your child does which needs to be acted on. The neglecting bit is just a fact with this. Kids aged 14 really don't know or care about things an adult knows, so the 14 yo kid won't teach those things to a 8 yo.
in greece you are a crazy parent if children go at 9 o clock to sleep. usual bedtime is from 10pm-11:30pm
what if i told u i used to have to go to bed at 8:30 before i could go to bed any time i wanted, even when i was like 10, 11, etc
yes my parents were insane
I have to go to bed At 8, but I sneak my laptop
Thank goodness my kids weren't much on watching tv or video games. When they were in grammar school, I only allowed them to play on weekends, and as they got older I layed off them about the rules, and it just kind of stuck, then they stopped playing, and were always outside. The only strict rule I had was do not come in my bedroom without knocking and them hearing me say ok. My husband didn't care but I did. That was my room, and I afforded them the same courtesy with their bedroom, I knocked, then waited until they said come in.
My brother is a video game addict, though I am quite the opposite. However, seeing the difference in how we were raised, I think kids internalize parental feedback regarding video games. Many video game addicts report that the video game practice is somehow making them smarter or more skilled, and my brother is no exception. He was my mother's favorite, so though my mother told me to turn off video games "because they are a waste of time", she praised everything my brother did, including video games, claiming his success on the game proved how smart he was. He still believes this, even as an adult, so he still wastes hours playing video games.
The rules you mentioned from France…those were rules in my household as a kid. So I guess that came from my French heritage. We did not get snacks…ever. And there was no substitutions or special orers. YOu either ate what was on your plate or you didn’t eat. I once sat at the table until 9pm (dinner was at 6:30) beause I refused to eat the meatloaf my mother made (trust me, it was nasty…who puts ham in meatloaf?). I sat there stabbing the bits of meatloaf over and over until it was tiny little crumbs all voermy plate. Myf ather finally said I could leave the table, but I knew better than to ask for anything else. It was eat that or don’t eat. My family is Cajun, so that must be the French heritage shining through. Oh, and there was also a rule that you had to eat each new thing at least twice before being allowed to declare you didn’tlike it. You still weren’t off the hook to eat it,b ut you were forbidden from even saying you dind’t like it until it had been served to you twice.
My French ex from Bordeaux used to tell me that his Mum was so strict while they’re dining that he had to stuff his pockets with meat he couldn’t eat otherwise he’s in trouble. He was told to finish everything on the plate. He even mentioned he was strapped to the chair so he won’t slouch while eating. And when I visited their place, I was asked to cover up one dinner time because I was wearing a decent, white racerback. Apparently, she never likes someone who eats while wearing sleeveless on the dining table. Oh, no elbows on the table, too. She’s a lovely woman though. RIP Mme. Jacqueline.
Woman who makes guests cover up while eating ✖️= lovely woman
I would have told her where to go.
as someone of east asian descent studying in europe myself, i find it weird when i first find out that europeans don't always take off their shoes when visiting other people's household
Depends on witch european country a bunch do
I'm Irish but I hate shoes inside😭 it just feels wrong. I wasn't raised like that, but still.
@@pikfan-b9r *WHICH
I think children will learn to handle money by your example too, first and foremost, through reasoning and through general education. The same goes for limitations, which must of course be applied, but this paying for TV thing seems to me that it makes parent - children relationship about and around money, shopping counter type. Don't get me wrong, a non - avarition culture, spending limits and balancing with the needs of others in the family must be exemplified and applied by all means and for all purposes. But this directly buying something from your parents thing seems wrong to me, or even possible to lead to an opposing direction; avarition and making everything in their minds seem about and around money.
Yeah, the bathroom rules was used by someone in the family we often visited, although not as strictly as the grandmother in the video.
They had 2 bathrooms, one upstairs and one downstairs. The one upstairs was for parents and visitors, while the one downstairs for for the kids. When I was just visiting for a few hours, I was allowed to used the one upstairs, but on sleepovers I had to use the one downstairs. The same went for what entry to use, as they also had two entrances. As a visitor I could use the main entrance, but as a sleepover I had to use the second entrance. As such, if I was going to sleep over, I would have to carry my shoes and outside clothes downstairs through the house and upstairs to the second entrance, and then back again when I left.
I am of Russian origin. I have NEVER heard my parents tell me “don’t turn your back”. Sorry 🤷♂️. The “no shoes” is a DEFINITE. I was taught that since I can walk.
10pm bed time seems normal to me, give or take 30 mins. Get that energy out and wind down for full night's sleep.
Yeah, just let your kid go to bed when they’re tired. There isn’t a “one bedtime fits all” cause everyone’s different
When I was in preschool I was only allowed to spend 30 minutes playing my Wii a day, sometimes more on the weekends or some special days like around my birthday/Christmas. Things are much different now and I’d say at that age they were fair but I can’t imagine having to deal with that now
I am coming from a Latino household and my parents never really hit when me or my brothers misbehaved we would be in or knees against the wall with her hands up for a long time until they decided it was OK for us to stand up.
"I am coming from a Latino household" is bad grammar. You want "I COME FROM a Latino household" to sound more normal.
The rule of taking your kids money, so they can watch TV that has to be child abuse.
Also, where I live the idea of being really strict with no closing your door, or denying your child of privacy is considered to be child-abuse and police can get involved with this.
I live somewhere in the world where kids have access to CPS. If your rules of your house are just too strict and too absurd. CPS can get involved and CPS can get police involved and if the police and CPS think that the rules are too strict to the point where they are just abusive, you can lose your child They would be putting a foster home and then quickly adopted.
Also too hard for punishment can result in CPS and police getting involved as well
The Polynesian kid situation is messed up. Children are not free babysitting. If you can't handle the children you have, don't have (more) children.
Any parent who destroyed their kids collectibles (Pokemon TCG or otherwise) should be liable to pay them the full net value of those items, if they were currently Gem Mint 10, graded, and being sold on eBay at that rate.
The grandma with the weird bathroom rule that disowned family for using her bathroom once needs punched right in her mouth.
Found the spoiled western baby 🍼 who loves Pokemon!!!!
@@anc5588 uhh shut up plus no one asked you to comment and I’m Asian sooooo r/whooooooosh
I’m Spanish and i can say that is not a rule. The day in Spain starts later and so everything moves back in the daily schedule.
It becomes a natural rhythm really. But if In a gathering a kid falls a sleep is preferred as adults would be able to speak of different topics.
Spanish children: stays up till ten.
American children: aww I wish my parents let me stay up that late.
Me(an American) who *had* a bedtime of 9:30: uh
You guys sleep?
@safety sciedors The Return 😧
What the video failed to mention is that Spanish culture includes a mid-afternoon siesta, or nap. Even adults take a few hours off work for this, and then they return to work and work late.
I’m Kenyan, and I was gobsmacked when he spoke about us. Because he is 100% on point!!! I never realised it till literally when he explained it.
So whose comment was first
@@GyeongmiBaeb huh
I can confirm one of the items on the list, I live in a middle eastern country and my grandfather forced me to become right handed, as a matter of fact to this day I am right handed and left legged.
This video actually helped me shed some light since my grandfather is dead, I wonder how it is with other people, if it happened to you please reply and tell me what happened, I was at great odds with my grandfather when he was alive and this reason is just the start of it.
Infact his memorial is next week and I don't plan on going as usual.
Sorry for rambling, if you made it so far congratulations and thanks for reading and please comment/reply with what mentioned or another item on the list, I'm very curious as I might implement some of these as a parent and would like to know how others felt going through them.
me at 11: "beer is good enough for them so its good enough for me"
Your videos always helps me stop overthinking thank you 🙏
Most Asian parents didn’t really have to impose the shoes off rules, their kids just do it naturally, it’s not really so much as a rule, more of a habit.
14:50 that part reminded me of me learning to play the guitar an how i was never told to practice never given lessons. My parents never even forced me to learn to play an instrument.
here are 4 facts about me :
FACT 1 :
when i watched the spanish people bedtime rule and that you told that most kids went to bed at 7pm, i found out i am lucky, as when i was a kid, i ALWAYS went to bed at 9pm even tho i am in france, which is INSANE. i never knew that was so rare.
FACT 2 :
i myself am french as you might have seen from the first fact, but thanks to that, i can tell you that the french meal rule is midly relatable for me, my mom did not care about what i ate, at ALL. and almost never gave me vegetables. as for my dad, he didnt allow me snack before lunch and dinner (or if very lucky he gave me a VERY small snack to eat) and every now and them gave me a meal with ONLY vegetables, that being the worst type. by luck, each time i taste something, if i hate it, both my mom and dad never give it back to me, which is the best. so once again i have insane luck.
FACT 3 :
i myself almost never watch TV, which is the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of 90% of kids, instead, i watch things on my LAPTOP. it is just better for me.
FACT 4 :
i had a lucky bedroom back then, because for some reason, the person who build the house put a BATHROOM DOOR instead of a bedroom door for the entrance of my bedroom, which means it has a LOCK. and by absolute luck, the lock is on my side. which means that if i didnt want my parents to enter, just twist the lock, done. so quite lucky once again.
I have a one-hour limit to playing video games and it used to be a half hour! And sometimes it's a more lenient rule, but my friends say that it's super strict, so maybe I should show them this video!
Thats hella strict
Back when I was little my mom had a 5 hour timer on my Xbox 360. That’s very strict
I'm sorry to say it... But your not doing your kids a favour. Especially if your kids are teenagers. Your kids will just get addicted later if they don't have it now...
@@tayIorswif I am the kid
That’s actually strict but it will really pay off in the mean time
Honestly the most stupidest rule that my mom made is that I have to only buy stuff for whatever company she works for (ex: She works at Coke, I can only buy coke products and not Pepsi)
I'm glad to have my parents. They were never strict about anything at all.
Same lol
Same here lol
I wish mine had been stricter to be honest.
@@Gaia_Gaistar It's basically depends on the upbringing and the parents. If your parents have good morals and character, It's going to be automatically reflected on you.
My dad resorts to violence and breaking stuff and punching garbage cans outside and punching things if I fail a grade level.
In the US, we would always take are shoes off indoors. No one wants you tracking whatever you stepped.
7:50 as a Chinese tho living in Indonesia, yes we are forbade to walk in with out shoes. However the reason isn't really spiritual or stuff but rather... to keep the floor in the house clean. Literally thats all.
Strict parenting doesn’t work all it does is create better liars besides most are cruel and abusive anyway.
Very true
@@JDkn Funnily enough this video was released only 2 days after the film Turning Red was released which also has a strict parent as well I mean good grief you have NO IDEA just how much I HATE Ming Lee.
@@Mario87456 this applies to gay kids as well. Homophobic parents always get the gay kids.
I was raised that I have to owe my parent back for raising me….. but my dad on the other hand, he left to start his own family 😅
It’s a native thing in Canada, a lot of poverty n harsh living conditions with no clean water. It is expected for us younger generation to leave home, learn at school, and come back home
Your parents have to raise you... That's their responsibility and it's the bare minimum.
When I was younger and still living with my parents, we had to wait until 7:00pm at night to get on any piece of technology whatsoever, and even then we also had to have our rooms clean and all chores done. The devices were then taken away at 9:00pm. Another weird policy we had was doors, but we could close them to go to sleep. One time I left my door closed so I could draw without my loud siblings in the background, and my father literally took the door from its hinges. Needless to say I relate to some of the rules in this video😂😂😂
"7 PM at night" is redundant.
Being raised in an Asian house hold I had to do the piano thing.
It was terrible.
So terrible that one day I just said F it all. Threw away the note books, and destroyed the piano bench.(
No outside shoes allowed inside the house makes sense. It's hygienic.
Oh…a rule in my family home that was strictly enforced. Children were not allowed inthe master bedroom. EVer. We could go up to the door frame, but it didn’tmatter the time of day, we were not allowed in. Once I snuck in my parents’ bedroomjust to see what they were hiding…not really anything. My father had a cool collection of fantasy books and my mother had a sewing box.
Me getting to stay up to 1 to 2 am in the weekends and stay up until 9pm in weekdays:I stay up way more than that
I can’t be in a bad mood, if I am I get my phone taken. Also if I have to eat ALL MY FOOD to leave the table.
Cool video guys, very interesting. I like how you guys can make great and fun videos from strange and sometimes, totally random topics. And you guys upload a lot of videos every week, which is quite impressive, considering how interesting and informative the videos are. Keep up the great work guys.
As a pre-school teacher my kids are so so so sweet. I taught them if their friend is being mean . To grab their friend by the hand and talk to them about being mean. Or if you’re friend is crying give them a hug and tell them it’s okay. I’m preparing them for the real world. I’m teaching them empathy and how to correctly deal with a situation. I love them and they are good listeners
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You should teach yourself not to type in sentence fragments on the Internet.
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7:20 for middle eastern countries its sunnah for us to eat with the right hand (sunnah means that our beloved prophet saw used to encourage it and do it )
Even though it's common knowledge that forcing someone to be wrong-handed causes severe mental issues and actual physical problems like stammering?
Arabia is strange
@@thereisalist-t3b You can guarantee that somewhere there are parents who do enforce it.
@@thereisalist-t3b Google what can happen with forced wrong-handedness.
I was about to say it 👏🏻👏🏻
I just moved to Connecticut from Michigan and it’s my second night I’m still in touch with all my friends but one of my my friends parents don’t let him use his phone during the week he can only bring his phone on the bus for two days
The one with the * diaper and sleep-over * thing caught me, because i'm not even allowed to have sleep-overs in the first place.
Moving from Spain as a kid to the States was wild for me. I never understood why kids would sleep so early and it seemed like a brutal amount of sleeping for me.
I still don’t see the need for a child to sleep at anytime before 10-11. If they wake up at 7, that’s still a full nights sleep.
It was always explained to us in later years, that was when Prime Time TV came on, stuff that was considered adult and the kids weren't supposed to watch, so the kids went to bed and the adults had their relaxing and fun time. When adults came to the house in the evenings us kids weren't apart of that, we were sent to our rooms to get out of grown folks way, or if there were other kids, sent to a room to play with those kids. I can't say if this separation is just a US thing.
Nah we had that in Australia too.
We used to call it the “watershed”‘ when adult TV came on. The kids were supposed to be in bed at that time :)
Young children need more sleep than adults do. That's why babies sleep so much and toddlers fall asleep outside of their beds sometimes. An 8-year-old needs 10 hours of sleep each night.