Yea, not just the social approaches, but the beer taste different too. :) It is interesting to live longer in a totally unusual environment you are used to, but In my opinion its not a bad thing at all, to experience those differences. And its nice to see that you found a japanese friend here!
@@amyfromjapan002 If you dont specifically make content for japanese people, then dont worry about covering any topic. We'd love to see anything from you :)
Yeah I think the question of direct or indirect expression is prolly one of the more noticable differences between Hungarian and Japanese attitudes. Hungarians think "beating around the bush" can be annoying while Japanese prolly think its rude to speak your mind like that. Now one of you mentioned "arrogance". Interestingly Hungarians do sometimes bring up Japanese people as a good example for their modesty(sometimes in contrast to Westerners) so I think there is at least some overlap between our understanding of this concept. As always things are not clear cut and thats especially true for Hungarian culture XD.
Well I would say traditionally you shouldn't be too direct in Hungary too, especially with sensitive topics, but you are expected to clearly state what you want in a polite way. One way for doing this is thinking loudly about the issue and describe it, and maybe ask the other participant about their opinion. I think younger generations are more direct and going with a German style approach (straight to the middle) 🙂
I much prefer the directness in Hungary, because it is more honest. Of course if you are being for example served by a waiter they will always be polite, but not necessarily pretend to be friendly. Unlike for example in America where everyone is encouraged to be fake friendly, in Hungary politeness is much more important and expected. If you don't know the person personally neutral politeness is what you get, an overly friendly staff might even weird people out. (Like the friendly door greeters of Walmart which German customers found creepy). When I was living in countries where being indirect was more common I always felt anxiety, because I could never know if I was doing my job well or if people actually liked me. I always had a bit of paranoia that they pretend to be nice and talk behind my back. In Hungary I don't have to worry, because if there is a problem people tell me directly, I have never to second guess. I always know if someone is angry, frustrated or happy with me. I also absolutely hate smug passive aggressiveness where people hide behind a nice facade while speaking venomous words, I am glad that not many of these people exist in Hungary, as most people here have no patience for people like that. As passive aggressive people are cowards, their toxic behaviour has a hard time surviving in a culture where most people will call them out on it. Sure sometimes it can be hard to deal with angry people who don't hold back and yell at you, if you are not used to it it can be intimidating. On the other hand if someone regards you as a friend or wants to be romantic, they will always openly and proudly show those feeling to you. The Hungarian culture truly embodies the Roman virtue of "Virtus" like no other. (Tho we can still be shy in the beginning when we like someone). PS: I love how easy it is to convert between Forint and Yen, even with inflation the exchange rate has always been 1 Yen = 3 Forint for like the past 10 years.
You either live in a dream world or you are very lucky to not onyl have a social circle of honest people but also people who are not sharing stories about the actual real life. Hungary is full of bitter and envious people who are talking sh.t behind your back any day based on whatever preconceptions they have about you even if that is only from a few words or gossip. We are talking about the country where neighbors reported you to the state police during the communist era and where people report the ambulance that stops to grab a burger to eat to the police in present day. Toxic relationships are everywhere where your 'significant other' checks your phone and social accounts to see who you are interacting with. A lot of people here are ignorant and ill-mannered which may be a more visible in the big city due to more people gathered in one place, but what you describe is tending towards a fairy tale in my opinion.
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Yea, not just the social approaches, but the beer taste different too. :) It is interesting to live longer in a totally unusual environment you are used to, but In my opinion its not a bad thing at all, to experience those differences. And its nice to see that you found a japanese friend here!
Wheat beer is my favourite. If you liked it, try Edelweiss, or 1964 Blanc, they are available in most stores.
Vagy egy kis hoegarden 😁
I’m a big fan of Edelweiss 🍺 I’ll try 1964 Blanc tonight after work 😁😁
@@amyfromjapan002 it's 1664 Blanc, but yes, definitely try it. It tastes even less like a beer, but truly delicious.
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talan hungry bungry?
Thank you for the content. :)
Thank you! I was a bit worried posting this topic tho🥺
@@amyfromjapan002 You have nothing to worry about. You make good and interesting content. It's interesting to see how you discover this country.
@@amyfromjapan002 If you dont specifically make content for japanese people, then dont worry about covering any topic. We'd love to see anything from you :)
Yeah I think the question of direct or indirect expression is prolly one of the more noticable differences between Hungarian and Japanese attitudes.
Hungarians think "beating around the bush" can be annoying while Japanese prolly think its rude to speak your mind like that.
Now one of you mentioned "arrogance". Interestingly Hungarians do sometimes bring up Japanese people as a good example for their modesty(sometimes in contrast to Westerners) so I think there is at least some overlap between our understanding of this concept. As always things are not clear cut and thats especially true for Hungarian culture XD.
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Well I would say traditionally you shouldn't be too direct in Hungary too, especially with sensitive topics, but you are expected to clearly state what you want in a polite way. One way for doing this is thinking loudly about the issue and describe it, and maybe ask the other participant about their opinion.
I think younger generations are more direct and going with a German style approach (straight to the middle) 🙂
I much prefer the directness in Hungary, because it is more honest. Of course if you are being for example served by a waiter they will always be polite, but not necessarily pretend to be friendly. Unlike for example in America where everyone is encouraged to be fake friendly, in Hungary politeness is much more important and expected. If you don't know the person personally neutral politeness is what you get, an overly friendly staff might even weird people out. (Like the friendly door greeters of Walmart which German customers found creepy).
When I was living in countries where being indirect was more common I always felt anxiety, because I could never know if I was doing my job well or if people actually liked me. I always had a bit of paranoia that they pretend to be nice and talk behind my back. In Hungary I don't have to worry, because if there is a problem people tell me directly, I have never to second guess. I always know if someone is angry, frustrated or happy with me.
I also absolutely hate smug passive aggressiveness where people hide behind a nice facade while speaking venomous words, I am glad that not many of these people exist in Hungary, as most people here have no patience for people like that. As passive aggressive people are cowards, their toxic behaviour has a hard time surviving in a culture where most people will call them out on it.
Sure sometimes it can be hard to deal with angry people who don't hold back and yell at you, if you are not used to it it can be intimidating. On the other hand if someone regards you as a friend or wants to be romantic, they will always openly and proudly show those feeling to you. The Hungarian culture truly embodies the Roman virtue of "Virtus" like no other.
(Tho we can still be shy in the beginning when we like someone).
PS: I love how easy it is to convert between Forint and Yen, even with inflation the exchange rate has always been 1 Yen = 3 Forint for like the past 10 years.
You either live in a dream world or you are very lucky to not onyl have a social circle of honest people but also people who are not sharing stories about the actual real life.
Hungary is full of bitter and envious people who are talking sh.t behind your back any day based on whatever preconceptions they have about you even if that is only from a few words or gossip.
We are talking about the country where neighbors reported you to the state police during the communist era and where people report the ambulance that stops to grab a burger to eat to the police in present day.
Toxic relationships are everywhere where your 'significant other' checks your phone and social accounts to see who you are interacting with. A lot of people here are ignorant and ill-mannered which may be a more visible in the big city due to more people gathered in one place, but what you describe is tending towards a fairy tale in my opinion.
You said beer was pretty cheap, but before the inflation you could get a pint for like 600 HUF which is aboul 250-300 yen...
Outside the körút you could find house beer for even less, like 300 HUF back before 2020