Can’t thank you enough for shinning your light into our dark spots to reveal the truth we hide and run from. Thank you for all the work you’ve done on yourself which allows you to speak wisdom gained from real life experience, thank you for not giving up on yourself because I know there were moments you wanted to, for the darkness can be very strong and seemingly all consuming. Thank you.
The problem for me, I am an attractive young man (from what I am told), alot of people that know me naturally assume that I get alot of girls (including girls). But truth be told I don’t.. due to my crippling social anxiety. I am 22 years old.. and I never had a girlfriend.. I’ve had some sexual experience but for the most part I’ve been celibate for about 3 years now and spent many years of my life alone. My hunger for female attention is really due to the lack of it.. I have beat my meat damn near my whole life but recently it has become a uncontrollable habit to fill that void. But now I am practicing no fap/semen retention.. because I noticed that the addiction I have to social media/porn has made my social anxiety (with girls and in general) much more severe. I am in the prime of my youth and I am afraid that I will eventually waste it like I have in the recent past.. and potentially regret it for the rest of my life. (My bad you had to read all this shit.. you’re really my guy if you really sat and read that.)
..:) I read it and it reminds me of the previous me. I just wanted female attention to make my ego feel good but another part of me wsnt interested in this cheap attention because i wasnt interested in that world that common people like so much. It was boring for me and so i could also say i was anti-social and had social anxiety during that time. But it was also due to the fact that I didn't want to talk about this nonsense that they were talking about. I wanted high level conversations and during high level conversations then i noticed there wasnt much anxiety. And so the diagnosis of this social anxiety label isnt always accurate.
Yes, That is the story of all of us. Will power cant accomplish this. Letting go (which we cant do with our mind either) and being inspired and moved by a greater power is the only way to live such a life. That happens organically on its own though. We cant force it. We just stay open, be as honest as we can, and be conscious of ourselves no matter what we are doing and then at some auspicious point something inside shifts to a higher state of being. There are no techniques for this. But the mind hates hearing that because it doesn't want to feel powerlessness. But it doesn't realize in our powerlessness is where we get the real power (humility lets us access this power). Life is backwards on many levels...
I consider myself a religious person, so I don't look for girl's attention outside. But men! When I went home from work I use social media and it got me connect to online friends, there I just suffer, looking for girl's attention.
Bro I want to share a story of mine with you.. 3 years ago after I was spending 12 years of my life with playing video games, get drunk every weekend, smoking weed doing other drugs, have no real friends and spent the most time alone I realized I have to change something in my life because I don’t want to live like that somewhere deep inside I knew there is more of me and I don’t want to live like that. So I started to read, meditate and eat healthy and stopped smoking weed. At this time I can’t go to work because I had cruciate ligament tear.. I was unable to work for 5 months and in this time I practiced some healthy lifestyle. Doing Sport after wake up, reading, meditate. Go out with friends and try to be present unter Moment, Listen without feeling fear social phobia.. and I also practiced nofap (never did this before). Then I found a book against anxiety attacks and I practiced the exercise 20 minutes right before I fell asleep. After 2 weeks or so practicing that NLP techniques.. I was visualising me in a life were I feel good.. 1. I feel awake and very rested when I wake up 2. I feel good and relaxed with other people and so on.. I had 10 sentences I was visualising before go to bed.. after practiceing it for a while i felt like it will work always a little better and at one night something changed and transformed me… I had a dream… I was lying in my bed and I was awake it was a lucid dream I was 100% conscious.. Freddy Krüger and his gang come into my room I was lying on my bed cannot move… Freddy comes so close to my face and want to kill me with his claws.. I had very panic but at this moment a voice from idk where my higher self or so was telling me „nothing can happen to you“ and „hold on“ so I was okay with that Im gonna die now… Freddys claws come close to my face and then even before he cut me there was this other voice and was telling me now… „you passed the test“ then I was sliding from that dream in my room to another dream.. I was very conscious again… I was in my brain I think and was watching now as pure awareness how my brain was building new synapses all was lightened and pure light I felt so good never felt before idk were I was exactly but something changed… after I woke up I was another person… all negative beliefs didnt exist anymore… It was like I founding myself and cut off this negative shit I was telling me the whole time.. I was very energized, clear I felt so good.. I saw the world in a new light all things were so shiny I was so happy and plessed to be alive.. I felt like I found god and my real self I always was… my brain worked now for me at 100% I think.. I knew things I couldn’t know it was amazing.. my friends and colleagues noticed that was starting compliment me that I looking so good and if I’m taking drugs because I felt so good ^^ I was in this Status for 3 months or so it was amazing… but after 3-4 months negative things happened, I allowed negative thoughts and colleagues and friends because I think they don’t wanna see me shine to influence my well being.. now I quitted all of these.. my job, friends.. I love now with positive people I think the universe was bringing that to me after time of suffering because I never give up to hope for better.. I feel now again a little better but not good still.. I hope with Semen Retention I will come back as a positive human being. My English is not that good and I hope it was clearly written. Thank you for reading.
You will be fine. Grace is with you and giving you good and advanced experiences to dismantle the ego. It takes awhile for that to stabilize. Trust the process. Its not an accident-- those experiences u shared.
I'm an unattractive guy and because I'm so obsessed with female attention because I need to know I can be loved, I can't focus on myself and improve my life. Feeling very lost at the moment
On my journey I'm grateful to be at a level where I rarely give out compliments, I dont care for flirting. I rather not stroke mfs egos at all🤷🏾♂️ most times I get females checkin me out alot but I keep walking. You gotta realize they're getting compliments almost every day, social media messages, at work, mall etc. While most of us guys get literally no compliments and not even a HEY how u doin 2day? Lol shhi is hilarious how society is set up mane
Does being on retention give urges to go and speak or be with women??? I can't handle this anymore. My masculine ego is literally bullying me and wants me to go and speak with women. To a certain point, it's fine. But, everyday???. Dude, I can't handle this. Seriously
Why , The Problem is Men are Broken, I lost my husband a year ago and the whole 48 years of our marriage,he was never Happy, i treated him like a King ,I loved him so much ,it was a loveless marriage,but i stayed, because i thought i could help him, but his Soul was gone. I Loved him till the End 🕊️💔
My problem is i talk to much and ruin everything before i even get close to the girl. :( I lost my wife a year ago and its like im overly wanting a woman in my life. I thought i was ready but i ruined it again.
it depends on the music. It can activate negative feelings or energy in us or positive and can be healing and inspiring. It has dualistic potential like everything in life.
Yash, i just want to be free from the pmo addiction. I cannot use my mind power to overcome this. I still have some desire for women but i know that nothing can satisfy me. I just want to be free so that i can save my life. My ego is very strong, i cannot do anything. I easily give in to those urges. I don't know how to stop this habit. I am now in a place where quitting this habit will give me energy and motivation to study. Due to this habit i lost all my energy i cannot attend college because i don't have any energy. I am now in a position that only leaving this pmo addiction will only save my life. But my ego is strong i cannot do anything against it with my own willpower. Will i ever get the blessings of the higher power or grace to remove this addiction? I know i cannot control the process, but i still need the power of grace to overcome this addiction. I cannot bear the pain anymore, this addiction has simply destroyed my entire life. I don't know how to surrender, how to access god's grace by surrendering?
@ Kailash Kerthick: At this stage that you are in, you need to go to meetings. If you suffer long enough then you will go and you won’t make any excuses.
@@EvrySingleTime still i struggle with semen retention but i have learnt many things and the wisdom i got was beyond words to describe. I feel grateful for being in this journey 🙏
This is what we can infer directly from the Quran and the authentic traditions of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). Allah says, {O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from torments of Hell, whose fuel is humankind and stones.} (At-Tahrim 66:6) We Can not let somebody do things that are bad for him in this lifetime ( hé has just one lifetime ). Afcourse he needs to make mistakes to know that certain thing is not of any good. Allah puts him to this test , trick is to repent sincerly. Because we human beings are all sinners , but as a father you are held responsible for your child up to a certain age. so it is not wise to send your child into the world without guidance. (and I myself would not open the way for my child to evil with the risk of dying from evil). of course I protect him, but afterwards I know that he will experience certain mistakes / addictions. That is between him and his maker ( Allah ). But it is not recommended to encourage your child to follow those certain temporary things.. maybe because you know this and by gods grace you were saved. ( because you had Sincerity and by the Will of God you where saved. Maybe your child is not gonna recover ( who’ s fault is that if you opend the doers for him ). Then you are gonna be held Accountable too . And allahu alem May Allah guides us all
Please check these playlists below to see which videos most appeal to you and which can benefit your present situation: A PRACTICAL GUIDE TO SEMEN RETENTION AND FAQ- ht[tps://ruclips.net/video/4M3FbENUhhs/видео.html ADVANCED SEMEN RETENTION- ht[tps://ruclips.net/video/AgnnHQE7Pt8/видео.html
hey yash, ive been edging on my phone lately, i wonder whats wrong with me, and i feel i couldnt stop, do you have any tips for me to get back on track?
it can be difficult to transform such deep conditioning and biological programming (lust). You just use whichever tools you intuitively feel to use in that moment to help you.
Can’t thank you enough for shinning your light into our dark spots to reveal the truth we hide and run from. Thank you for all the work you’ve done on yourself which allows you to speak wisdom gained from real life experience, thank you for not giving up on yourself because I know there were moments you wanted to, for the darkness can be very strong and seemingly all consuming. Thank you.
The problem for me, I am an attractive young man (from what I am told), alot of people that know me naturally assume that I get alot of girls (including girls). But truth be told I don’t.. due to my crippling social anxiety. I am 22 years old.. and I never had a girlfriend.. I’ve had some sexual experience but for the most part I’ve been celibate for about 3 years now and spent many years of my life alone. My hunger for female attention is really due to the lack of it.. I have beat my meat damn near my whole life but recently it has become a uncontrollable habit to fill that void. But now I am practicing no fap/semen retention.. because I noticed that the addiction I have to social media/porn has made my social anxiety (with girls and in general) much more severe. I am in the prime of my youth and I am afraid that I will eventually waste it like I have in the recent past.. and potentially regret it for the rest of my life. (My bad you had to read all this shit.. you’re really my guy if you really sat and read that.)
..:) I read it and it reminds me of the previous me. I just wanted female attention to make my ego feel good but another part of me wsnt interested in this cheap attention because i wasnt interested in that world that common people like so much. It was boring for me and so i could also say i was anti-social and had social anxiety during that time. But it was also due to the fact that I didn't want to talk about this nonsense that they were talking about. I wanted high level conversations and during high level conversations then i noticed there wasnt much anxiety. And so the diagnosis of this social anxiety label isnt always accurate.
Can’t live with them can’t live without them what a catch 22
Everytime before I go out I tell myself I’m not gonna look for attraction but then when I’m actually out I’m always looking for it
Yes, That is the story of all of us. Will power cant accomplish this. Letting go (which we cant do with our mind either) and being inspired and moved by a greater power is the only way to live such a life. That happens organically on its own though. We cant force it. We just stay open, be as honest as we can, and be conscious of ourselves no matter what we are doing and then at some auspicious point something inside shifts to a higher state of being. There are no techniques for this. But the mind hates hearing that because it doesn't want to feel powerlessness. But it doesn't realize in our powerlessness is where we get the real power (humility lets us access this power). Life is backwards on many levels...
@@BeyondTheAlchemy I really appreciate these words. Screenshotted it so I can look back at it periodically.
I just like your effort to be candid.
I'm living now six months in the Philippines and I'm from New York.
Bless you, my brother, I'm so grateful to have you talking!
I’m finally free from their attention I’m focused on my self finally I don’t care for women anymore
in a dark place right now - can’t tell you how much this helped, thank you
You gotta get dirty before you can grow. Man I relate to this. Thanks for the video mentor. Have a good day. God bless you.
I LOVE THIS GUY...❤
I consider myself a religious person, so I don't look for girl's attention outside. But men! When I went home from work I use social media and it got me connect to online friends, there I just suffer, looking for girl's attention.
YES
Bro I want to share a story of mine with you.. 3 years ago after I was spending 12 years of my life with playing video games, get drunk every weekend, smoking weed doing other drugs, have no real friends and spent the most time alone I realized I have to change something in my life because I don’t want to live like that somewhere deep inside I knew there is more of me and I don’t want to live like that. So I started to read, meditate and eat healthy and stopped smoking weed. At this time I can’t go to work because I had cruciate ligament tear.. I was unable to work for 5 months and in this time I practiced some healthy lifestyle. Doing Sport after wake up, reading, meditate. Go out with friends and try to be present unter Moment, Listen without feeling fear social phobia.. and I also practiced nofap (never did this before). Then I found a book against anxiety attacks and I practiced the exercise 20 minutes right before I fell asleep. After 2 weeks or so practicing that NLP techniques.. I was visualising me in a life were I feel good.. 1. I feel awake and very rested when I wake up 2. I feel good and relaxed with other people and so on.. I had 10 sentences I was visualising before go to bed.. after practiceing it for a while i felt like it will work always a little better and at one night something changed and transformed me… I had a dream… I was lying in my bed and I was awake it was a lucid dream I was 100% conscious.. Freddy Krüger and his gang come into my room I was lying on my bed cannot move… Freddy comes so close to my face and want to kill me with his claws.. I had very panic but at this moment a voice from idk where my higher self or so was telling me „nothing can happen to you“ and „hold on“ so I was okay with that Im gonna die now… Freddys claws come close to my face and then even before he cut me there was this other voice and was telling me now… „you passed the test“ then I was sliding from that dream in my room to another dream.. I was very conscious again… I was in my brain I think and was watching now as pure awareness how my brain was building new synapses all was lightened and pure light I felt so good never felt before idk were I was exactly but something changed… after I woke up I was another person… all negative beliefs didnt exist anymore… It was like I founding myself and cut off this negative shit I was telling me the whole time.. I was very energized, clear I felt so good.. I saw the world in a new light all things were so shiny I was so happy and plessed to be alive.. I felt like I found god and my real self I always was… my brain worked now for me at 100% I think.. I knew things I couldn’t know it was amazing.. my friends and colleagues noticed that was starting compliment me that I looking so good and if I’m taking drugs because I felt so good ^^ I was in this Status for 3 months or so it was amazing… but after 3-4 months negative things happened, I allowed negative thoughts and colleagues and friends because I think they don’t wanna see me shine to influence my well being.. now I quitted all of these.. my job, friends.. I love now with positive people I think the universe was bringing that to me after time of suffering because I never give up to hope for better.. I feel now again a little better but not good still.. I hope with Semen Retention I will come back as a positive human being. My English is not that good and I hope it was clearly written. Thank you for reading.
You will be fine. Grace is with you and giving you good and advanced experiences to dismantle the ego. It takes awhile for that to stabilize. Trust the process. Its not an accident-- those experiences u shared.
@@BeyondTheAlchemy thank you
Watching you all the way from Ghana 🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭
Very very helpful ⭐️👍🙌thank you 🎉
I'm an unattractive guy and because I'm so obsessed with female attention because I need to know I can be loved, I can't focus on myself and improve my life. Feeling very lost at the moment
This is the truth for literally almost anyone that walked the plant but almost nobody ever admits it. So you’ll be fine. Just wait...
On my journey I'm grateful to be at a level where I rarely give out compliments, I dont care for flirting. I rather not stroke mfs egos at all🤷🏾♂️ most times I get females checkin me out alot but I keep walking. You gotta realize they're getting compliments almost every day, social media messages, at work, mall etc. While most of us guys get literally no compliments and not even a HEY how u doin 2day? Lol shhi is hilarious how society is set up mane
Does being on retention give urges to go and speak or be with women??? I can't handle this anymore. My masculine ego is literally bullying me and wants me to go and speak with women. To a certain point, it's fine. But, everyday???. Dude, I can't handle this. Seriously
Understood
Why , The Problem is Men are Broken, I lost my husband a year ago and the whole 48 years of our marriage,he was never Happy, i treated him like a King ,I loved him so much ,it was a loveless marriage,but i stayed, because i thought i could help him, but his Soul was gone.
I Loved him till the End 🕊️💔
This whole human race is broken for the most part..:)
My problem is i talk to much and ruin everything before i even get close to the girl. :( I lost my wife a year ago and its like im overly wanting a woman in my life. I thought i was ready but i ruined it again.
How many days does it take for the body of the seed to reabsorb?
Hallo yash what about music is that a Dopamin Hit too ?
it depends on the music. It can activate negative feelings or energy in us or positive and can be healing and inspiring. It has dualistic potential like everything in life.
ty man
Why do i feel like im craving female attention more while on sr streak
What city in Brazil did you visit?
Hi,
Goiania, Sao paulo, Maceio
I emailed you to talk about a one on one. I’m not sure if that’s the best way of contacting you
Yes, i wrote u back.
Yash, i just want to be free from the pmo addiction. I cannot use my mind power to overcome this. I still have some desire for women but i know that nothing can satisfy me. I just want to be free so that i can save my life. My ego is very strong, i cannot do anything. I easily give in to those urges. I don't know how to stop this habit. I am now in a place where quitting this habit will give me energy and motivation to study. Due to this habit i lost all my energy i cannot attend college because i don't have any energy. I am now in a position that only leaving this pmo addiction will only save my life. But my ego is strong i cannot do anything against it with my own willpower. Will i ever get the blessings of the higher power or grace to remove this addiction? I know i cannot control the process, but i still need the power of grace to overcome this addiction. I cannot bear the pain anymore, this addiction has simply destroyed my entire life. I don't know how to surrender, how to access god's grace by surrendering?
I had the same problem… today I am on day 123 of NOFAP.
@ Kailash Kerthick: At this stage that you are in, you need to go to meetings. If you suffer long enough then you will go and you won’t make any excuses.
@@BeyondTheAlchemy thank you yash ❤️💯
2 years later Fren, how are you this day?
How has the struggle you were feeling before progressed?
@@EvrySingleTime still i struggle with semen retention but i have learnt many things and the wisdom i got was beyond words to describe. I feel grateful for being in this journey 🙏
It’s all the retaining that made your hair thick😂
how to trancendence this need of female attention thing if you still want but dont get it?
Time... It is an individual journey-- no short cuts or techniques.
it’s to strong. Shameful I kno but where else g
its all good. It is what it is for a little while.
This is what we can infer directly from the Quran and the authentic traditions of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). Allah says, {O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from torments of Hell, whose fuel is humankind and stones.} (At-Tahrim 66:6)
We Can not let somebody do things that are bad for him in this lifetime ( hé has just one lifetime ).
Afcourse he needs to make mistakes to know that certain thing is not of any good. Allah puts him to this test , trick is to repent sincerly.
Because we human beings are all sinners ,
but as a father you are held responsible for your child up to a certain age.
so it is not wise to send your child into the world without guidance. (and I myself would not open the way for my child to evil with the risk of dying from evil).
of course I protect him, but afterwards I know that he will experience certain mistakes / addictions. That is between him and his maker ( Allah ).
But it is not recommended to encourage your child to follow those certain temporary things.. maybe because you know this and by gods grace you were saved. ( because you had Sincerity and by the Will of God you where saved.
Maybe your child is not gonna recover ( who’ s fault is that if you opend the doers for him ). Then you are gonna be held Accountable too .
And allahu alem
May Allah guides us all
Please check these playlists below to see which videos most appeal to you and which can benefit your present situation:
A PRACTICAL GUIDE TO SEMEN RETENTION AND FAQ- ht[tps://ruclips.net/video/4M3FbENUhhs/видео.html
ADVANCED SEMEN RETENTION- ht[tps://ruclips.net/video/AgnnHQE7Pt8/видео.html
hey yash, ive been edging on my phone lately, i wonder whats wrong with me, and i feel i couldnt stop, do you have any tips for me to get back on track?
it can be difficult to transform such deep conditioning and biological programming (lust). You just use whichever tools you intuitively feel to use in that moment to help you.