I worked a lot out of the home. My daughter is 40 and still angry at me for not being around enough for her. If I had it to do again, I would be a stay at home mom. Good for you.
You are a wonderful mother. No need to defend your decisions to anyone. Don't ever worry about what anyone else thinks. Stay true to yourself and your family.
I believe every family should do what works for them. My mother always told me that if you get use to one paycheck, you'll be able to manage with one. I stayed home with my child, and I'm thankful I was able to do so. We might have had more and sooner, but our needs were always met. You're a very good mother and owe no one an explanation of your circumstances. ❤
The most important job you will ever have is raising your son. The problems we have as a society are caused by children being raised by daycares or passed around. Also broken homes. Your doing the right thing staying home.
Great video! I am a stay-at-home mom in California too! People say it's impossible to do here, but little is much when God is in it. We manage by keeping a very intentional budget, but it is so worth it for me to be home with our son. Stay encouraged! You're doing great!
My mom was a stay at home mom for most of my childhood, it was wonderful to come home from school and her being there. Very thankful she was and still is a very happy loving mom. 💕❤️
I loved being a stay at home mom. Now that my kids are all grown up. I have a part time job. 😁I will soon be watching my granddaughter part time. I can’t wait to do that.
There is absolutely nothing more important than the special time you get to get to spend with your child when they’re young… you’re doing just fine! I was in the same position as you many years ago as a SAHM & never have I ever regretted it! I have a very special bond with all four of my children, it’s all worth it, trust me! ❤
When God said: the woman should raise children and take care of the house, He did not say it for our harm but for our good. But we didn't like it and changed His method, and ended up bad..., and we blame God. I chose to raise my children and now I'm a grandmother, but I've never had a lack of money in my life, on the contrary, I've had to bless others. 🙏🏻❤️
Hi Melinda Very many thanks. Your husband and you have made the right decision for you to be a stay-at-home mum. Keep it up! And may all your dreams come true. God bless. 🙏
It is very expensive to have both parents working. You do not need to justify your choice. Being a homemaker is a tremendously valuable vocation. Hugs and blessings to you and your family.
I stayed at home and looked after my kids, and was made to feel like I should be working outside of the home too. Don’t let people make you feel less worthy, I couldn’t afford daycare and had no family either, you’re doing a great job! 👍
I'm sorry you have to explain this to people. Some people think they have all the answers. Ugh. It hurts my heart there's so much judgment. The three of you be happy. That's all that matters. I hope your channel continues to grow!❤
What helped me when I lived in California, and was poor, is I started going to college. California helps poor people. I ended up getting a nursing degree and now am retired with a house I bought and is paid for. I did stay home with my kids when they were young too, and understand, but back up is important to me. Stuff happens, better to be prepared. Love to you!
Why don't you have a normal job? There was a day when being a homemaker and a mother was highly respected. Why have we all lost that? Why would you work just to have your little boy in day care. Your check would just go to that. I am proud of you and all you do . Close those silly comments out sweet friend and keep doing you.
When we were young and had our son I didn’t work ether but when our son was old enough to go to school that’s when I went to work. I worked at his school in the kitchen. I worked 6 hours a day and at that time I was able to get medical insurance for my family. It has changed now unfortunately. I think it’s much better to be able to be home with our young children. I hate to say this but I don’t trust very many people with my young children. I’m a grandma now and I don’t trust anyone with my grandchildren either. I watched all my grandkids when they were little. You are doing an awesome job! And thank you for sharing your story with us 🙏❤️🇺🇸
Raising your child is more important than being indoctrinated and influenced by some strangers. When we started I had my wife quit because the entire income was thrown out to child care and son being sick and staying out of daycare while still paying and my wife having to take off work because he was sick and caught a bug a daycare. Do what is best for your family I worked 2 jobs and now own my own business and getting started and getting on your feet with zero help is very tough and I applaud you and your husband. I see you utube as a job and Pray it gets traction and you can use this and it is tough with the economy we are in now.
Melinda, You and your husband know what is best for your family. If you can stick to a budget and have lower rent, you are way ahead of most Americans raising a family. With so much violence and bullying- please stay as a Mom at home! There is just so many women have children and the husbands get violent and abusive because of the financial stress. Women are pushed to get 1,2,3 jobs to help with bills! A stay at home Mom is one of the toughest positions women do! Hope you get a strong following from YT and get a great check! Great job💪❤
My husband and I married very young, and had two children in the late 80's. He had an injury and could no longer do his primary job to support our family. We decided that he would go to nursing school, and I would do licensed daycare in our home, as I would be in the same situation as Melinda, regarding paying for outside childcare for two. I laugh to think the going rate for daycare then was $10/day! 7am to 5pm. I was licensed for 12 children, and it was rough, but, we made it. You do what you have to do. No shame there
What do you mean that you were not allowed to have or hold a job while growing up? Every body has the right to be able to work! Don't let anyone put you down to achieve your goals, or self worth. I started out as a dietary aide in a nursing home, then got my practical nursing degree on my own for years I worked! Then my husband divorced me and I went full time into Environmental Services. I am retired now. Do not think that a man will support you forever. That my dear is a fairy tail. Support yourself first! 💛💫💛
@@sjbutler2330 I was raised as a Mennonite. They're a very conservative group. The men could work but the only kind of jobs women could have were cleaning or babysitting jobs. I left when I turned 21.
Have you guys received any assistance from your state? Sounds like a tough situation but if you go to your local county you could get something I'm sure... money, food, childcare help etc. It's really amazing what is available. I'd also apply for section 8 where you are.
You don't have to explain why you don't work. You're a good mom. I stayed home for years to raise my 3 little ones. Childcare is expensive and it's better that you do stay home with your children.That's how you bond with them as well.
When we got married I became pregnant quickly. After our daughter was born, 13 months to the day later I had twin boys. She was born on May 27th and they were born on June 27th the next year. I really couldn’t work out until they started school. I would not have made enough to pay for childcare. After they started school I went back to work as we needed the money. I would have liked to have had the opportunity to stay home with my kids. You do what you feel you need to do and don’t worry about what others think.❤❤❤
@4:30 I know firsthand there are many options for grants and scholarships for programs like medical billing, computer programming, grant writing, copyediting, quality assurance testing, and others (in case you or your hubby are ever interested in pursuing a different path).
I think staying home and raising your children is wonderful. If you need more income you could open a family daycare and take in some more children and get paid for staying home and caring for your children. I opened my home to other children and I only had four children most days but it gave me a decent income. 😊😊 it’s something worthwhile to consider.
Listen, as long as you two are paying your own bills, it's nobody's business as to whether or not you have a "real job". Which is a ridiculous idea to think that running a household and raising a kid isn't a real job, for those of you who don't think it is, just try it for yourself. Before getting a job and finding daycare for your child, every young family needs to approach the idea logically, at the kitchen table with a pencil and paper. Start with the amount of expected income from the job. Now deduct the following; Cost of daycare Gasoline A second car and insurance Will the job require nice clothes? Realistically, how much will you spend on the occasional fast food dinner because you're too exhausted to cook? All I ever wanted was to stay home with my two kids. But I worked and we didn't realize any better quality of life because of my added salary because of all the things I mentioned above. And when I look back, it's one of my biggest regrets. I still believe it's possible for one person to stay home with the kids, but you have to be willing to budget, cook at home, wear thrifted clothing and make things last. Buy a used car and keep that sucker maintained. Free yourself from others judgement and hurtful remarks. What others say or think should have no power over the way you want to live your life. Take it from an old lady, raise the children you bring into this world and don't hand your babies off to a virtual stranger to care for and just hope everything works out. Stick by your guns girl.
❤Hello Melinda n fam❤ You are doing the right thing for u n ur family!! Love ur vlog!! We need to pray beautiful family 4 Melinda to get more subscribers to help her out!!!❤❤❤
Moms jobs are 24/7....and whatever hours you save money on daycare, you can call your contribution to your childs life and your income. We decided to go to one income to raise our 3 sons. We definitely have gotten remarks from family and "friends " about our choices. You are doing great by your son and husband. If you can manage this lifestyle with your husbands job and youtube income, good for you! People who dont get it may just not know how to budget or get very creative with things! You are doing great 🎉 and you provide a kind, sweet tone to our sometimes sad world. Thank you for being you! ❤
@@melindarocuantvery well said!! Melinda do you actually receive income...as in a check from RUclips or is your income on your platform generated from the monetary gifts you receive directly from your viewers?? I don't know much about RUclips funding but don't you have to have a pretty big viewership to actually Garner money directly from RUclips?? And it seems you always are gifted...❤
@ambergibson1930 yes, I receive money directly deposited from RUclips. Anything from RUclips, whether it's from ads or the Super Thanks feature (as seen in the comment above) is included in the total amount. RUclips doesn't pay out until the total amount reaches $100. So if it's less than $100, I don't receive anything. But most months since my channel was monetized, I have gotten a paycheck directly deposited. I don't use Patreon anymore, that is separate from RUclips.
I think its a great to be able to stay home with your son. I wish your channel would grow, some youtubers I follow really make bank... Its crazy... You're doing a great job!
We chose to have a tight budget for me to stay home with our 3 children because it was more important for us to be there for our children instead of having someone else raise them.
I think it’s great you’re a stay at home mom. What I will ask is have you guys thought of leaving California? The cost of living there is outrageous! You said rent for an RV park can be $1,000 a month, but here in KY we have 3 bedroom apartments with fireplaces, etc. for that. You can rent houses here for a few hundred more with fenced yards, etc. certain states are great to visit, but the cost of living in them are way too high!
Funny how people say staying at home with your kids isn't a real job but paying a babysitter (about $20 an hour in the DMV) is a real job. What they really mean is $$. To be honest, most of the women I know who work do so not out of necessity but for niceties (nicer clothes, car, restaurants, etc.). I have done both and found part time is the best of both worlds once the kids are in school. It is difficult to find part time with professional jobs but I managed to do so a few times. Pay and promotion takes a hit but I didn't care about that, more about their well being.
I can relate. Mine has never been in daycare. Always stays home with me. Yet my husband treats me like a slave instead of his wife/mother of his child.
Because you let him. Im a Texan and most of us don’t tolerate that bs. Be respected and appreciated and accept nothing less than that if you’re truly doing a good job. Period. The end.
@@jenniferm3572 on the contrary.....I clean the house because it needs it. I do the laundry because we have to have clean clothes. I mow the lawn because it needs it. I shovel the snow because it needs to be done. I take my child to school and pick her up because it's just me. My husband works full time and pays the bills. I feed our dog and take her outside to go potty because he won't do it. He believes that woman should clean up after him and just because he pays for carry out I should be the one who goes out to get it. I have to argue with him to take a turn.
@@dssouthern Again, you let him. I can only ask that you learn what healthy boundaries are and set those asap. In addition to that, I would tell him how you feel and ask if he can step up on xyz. Make it a more comfortable and realistic position for both of you. Feeling like a slave and complaining about it is not going to resolve anything and only creates bitterness. Don’t let it get to that point anymore. Problem solve now. If he’s a narcissist, you’ve got a bigger problem. Knowing and asking God for His assistance is the way either way you slice this. Be intentional. Be willing to submit to your husband but not in a weak kind of way. You only need one Lord and shouldn’t be lorded over by anyone else. Marriage does not mean slavery so STOP being a slave. 👍👍🤍
im trying to be more happy at home but i get so bored here alone while hubby works. my kids r older now and dont need me as much.. i really need a hobby but a lack of motivation for me lol.. thx for sharing!
Whatever works best for you and your fam ❤ I work very very part time from home and also wouldn’t trade it for the world. We can’t get these years back.
Stay at home wife and mother is a full time job. And you are ‘on the clock’ 24/7. It’s more difficult than working outside the home You are definitely blessed to be able to stay home. Plus childcare would cost more that you would make at most jobs 😊 22 years ago, when my daughter was little, I was better off not working. As a single mom I would have had to work 2 and 3 jobs for working to be worth it. I can only imagine how much worse it is now When she got older I did work several jobs to make it 😊
Melinda, I think you guys have figured out what works for you. Never think you have to explain that. Liam will never forget these times. My Mom was a stay at home mom. I feel we benefited greatly from it. I love watching your channel ❤.
I sure hope you're not making this video due to someone commenting on you not having a job. You are the BEST one to be with Liam all day if that is YOUR choice. Daycare costs are OUTRAGEOUS!
I stayed home with both of my kids. They are now 22 and 25. It was worth the sacrifice to do so. You need to do what is best for your family. No explanation is necessary.
Why do you need a "normal type of job" if you have a young child? Your boy is way too young to be left alone. Focus on being a great mom and building up your channel. 🥰
This is in no way meant to be rude or disrespectful. I totally understand why you don't work especially living in California. This is the part where some may think I'm being a jerk but every comment helps your channel. So you moved to the highest place to live in the country and you and your husband chose to have a child before being financially stable. I understand raising a child is work I get that but there's other jobs that pay better than minimum wage and with your income you could probably get some type of help with child care. I know you love Liam and your a good mother and a good person but in these days and times it takes 2 incomes unless you're content with barely getting by. Aren't there jobs you can do at home even if it is part time ? You like cooking heck sell cakes maybe cook some hot plates for the local elderly people. Believe it or not I'm just trying to help. I just can't see a family of 3 living in California making it on one income unless your husband is making bank.
Depends on the situation ....as a tax payer over 40 yrs I have no problem with either program..and never have as of now I have a greatgrandaughter only one year and a half battling cancer it's taking both parents to care for her and going to two big strange cities for treatments being far away and hard to keep working they work only two or three days a week ..they use both of the programs.i kmow there are many other families going through this my heart goes out to them." This is only how I feel and not meant to offend anyone ..
To be able to stay home with kid is a big blessing.❤
Being a mom is a real job, that is why other people charge so much to do it. Your job as a mother is very important.
No one would look out for your child as closely as you. He is exactly where he will do the best, at home, where he is loved.❤
I worked a lot out of the home. My daughter is 40 and still angry at me for not being around enough for her. If I had it to do again, I would be a stay at home mom. Good for you.
You are a wonderful mother. No need to defend your decisions to anyone. Don't ever worry about what anyone else thinks. Stay true to yourself and your family.
I believe every family should do what works for them. My mother always told me that if you get use to one paycheck, you'll be able to manage with one. I stayed home with my child, and I'm thankful I was able to do so. We might have had more and sooner, but our needs were always met. You're a very good mother and owe no one an explanation of your circumstances. ❤
The most important job you will ever have is raising your son. The problems we have as a society are caused by children being raised by daycares or passed around. Also broken homes. Your doing the right thing staying home.
The best and hardest "job" ever! 😊
I agree I'm a stay at home mama too. God bless ❤
I didn't go back to work til my kids were in school
❤❤❤❤❤ you have a important job being a mom
Great video! I am a stay-at-home mom in California too! People say it's impossible to do here, but little is much when God is in it. We manage by keeping a very intentional budget, but it is so worth it for me to be home with our son. Stay encouraged! You're doing great!
My mom was a stay at home mom for most of my childhood, it was wonderful to come home from school and her being there. Very thankful she was and still is a very happy loving mom. 💕❤️
I just love you and your family. And I support u with your choices.
I loved being a stay at home mom. Now that my kids are all grown up. I have a part time job. 😁I will soon be watching my granddaughter part time. I can’t wait to do that.
There is absolutely nothing more important than the special time you get to get to spend with your child when they’re young… you’re doing just fine! I was in the same position as you many years ago as a SAHM & never have I ever regretted it! I have a very special bond with all four of my children, it’s all worth it, trust me! ❤
Taking care of a household and a child IS work. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I don’t know why your Chanel isn’t growing I love it!
You are a great Mom on the right track ❤ God Bless. keep it up Mom
When God said: the woman should raise children and take care of the house, He did not say it for our harm but for our good.
But we didn't like it and changed His method, and ended up bad..., and we blame God.
I chose to raise my children and now I'm a grandmother, but I've never had a lack of money in my life, on the contrary, I've had to bless others.
🙏🏻❤️
Hi Melinda
Very many thanks. Your husband and you have made the right decision for you to be a stay-at-home mum. Keep it up! And may all your dreams come true. God bless. 🙏
It is very expensive to have both parents working. You do not need to justify your choice. Being a homemaker is a tremendously valuable vocation. Hugs and blessings to you and your family.
You’re doing the most important job in the world…motherhood! And you’re doing it well. God Bless!
I stayed at home and looked after my kids, and was made to feel like I should be working outside of the home too. Don’t let people make you feel less worthy, I couldn’t afford daycare and had no family either, you’re doing a great job! 👍
You're doing a great job on RUclips!!!! Taking care of your son is top priority 💕😘💕.
My granddaughter chose the same path as you. Good choice of priorities!
I'm sorry you have to explain this to people. Some people think they have all the answers. Ugh. It hurts my heart there's so much judgment. The three of you be happy. That's all that matters. I hope your channel continues to grow!❤
I was blessed to be able to stay home with my kids! I home schooled they and enjoyed them while i could before they grew up n moved out❤
What helped me when I lived in California, and was poor, is I started going to college. California helps poor people. I ended up getting a nursing degree and now am retired with a house I bought and is paid for. I did stay home with my kids when they were young too, and understand, but back up is important to me. Stuff happens, better to be prepared. Love to you!
Why don't you have a normal job? There was a day when being a homemaker and a mother was highly respected. Why have we all lost that? Why would you work just to have your little boy in day care. Your check would just go to that. I am proud of you and all you do . Close those silly comments out sweet friend and keep doing you.
💯💯💯
Agree!!!
When we were young and had our son I didn’t work ether but when our son was old enough to go to school that’s when I went to work. I worked at his school in the kitchen. I worked 6 hours a day and at that time I was able to get medical insurance for my family. It has changed now unfortunately. I think it’s much better to be able to be home with our young children. I hate to say this but I don’t trust very many people with my young children. I’m a grandma now and I don’t trust anyone with my grandchildren either. I watched all my grandkids when they were little. You are doing an awesome job! And thank you for sharing your story with us 🙏❤️🇺🇸
Raising your child is more important than being indoctrinated and influenced by some strangers. When we started I had my wife quit because the entire income was thrown out to child care and son being sick and staying out of daycare while still paying and my wife having to take off work because he was sick and caught a bug a daycare. Do what is best for your family I worked 2 jobs and now own my own business and getting started and getting on your feet with zero help is very tough and I applaud you and your husband. I see you utube as a job and Pray it gets traction and you can use this and it is tough with the economy we are in now.
You're doing everything right ❤
Thank you!
Melinda, You and your husband know what is best for your family.
If you can stick to a budget and have lower rent, you are way ahead of most Americans raising a family. With so much violence and bullying- please stay as a Mom at home! There is just so many women have children and the husbands get violent and abusive because of the financial stress. Women are pushed to get 1,2,3 jobs to help with bills!
A stay at home Mom is one of the toughest positions women do!
Hope you get a strong following from YT and get a great check!
Great job💪❤
I worked in the daycare when my kids were young, they were either a reduced rate or free.
My husband and I married very young, and had two children in the late 80's. He had an injury and could no longer do his primary job to support our family. We decided that he would go to nursing school, and I would do licensed daycare in our home, as I would be in the same situation as Melinda, regarding paying for outside childcare for two. I laugh to think the going rate for daycare then was $10/day! 7am to 5pm. I was licensed for 12 children, and it was rough, but, we made it. You do what you have to do. No shame there
May God bless and your family!
I wouldn't trade my years staying home with my precious children we lived a simple life in an old tiny house and very happy. X
I was an at home mom for my daughter's first five years.
Your son will benefit immensely from you staying home and spending time with him as he grows up!
What do you mean that you were not allowed to have or hold a job while growing up? Every body has the right to be able to work! Don't let anyone put you down to achieve your goals, or self worth. I started out as a dietary aide in a nursing home, then got my practical nursing degree on my own for years I worked! Then my husband divorced me and I went full time into Environmental Services. I am retired now. Do not think that a man will support you forever. That my dear is a fairy tail. Support yourself first! 💛💫💛
@@sjbutler2330 I was raised as a Mennonite. They're a very conservative group. The men could work but the only kind of jobs women could have were cleaning or babysitting jobs. I left when I turned 21.
Have you guys received any assistance from your state? Sounds like a tough situation but if you go to your local county you could get something I'm sure... money, food, childcare help etc. It's really amazing what is available. I'd also apply for section 8 where you are.
DOESN'T CALI HAVE SECTION 8 & THEY WILL HELPS PAYS THE RENT? I'M JUST ASKING?
I totally agree with everything you just said. 👍
You don't have to explain why you don't work. You're a good mom. I stayed home for years to raise my 3 little ones. Childcare is expensive and it's better that you do stay home with your children.That's how you bond with them as well.
Ive never been able to stay home and now Im just looking forward to retirement in a few years!
When we got married I became pregnant quickly. After our daughter was born, 13 months to the day later I had twin boys. She was born on May 27th and they were born on June 27th the next year. I really couldn’t work out until they started school. I would not have made enough to pay for childcare. After they started school I went back to work as we needed the money. I would have liked to have had the opportunity to stay home with my kids. You do what you feel you need to do and don’t worry about what others think.❤❤❤
@4:30 I know firsthand there are many options for grants and scholarships for programs like medical billing, computer programming, grant writing, copyediting, quality assurance testing, and others (in case you or your hubby are ever interested in pursuing a different path).
I think staying home and raising your children is wonderful. If you need more income you could open a family daycare and take in some more children and get paid for staying home and caring for your children. I opened my home to other children and I only had four children most days but it gave me a decent income. 😊😊 it’s something worthwhile to consider.
Listen, as long as you two are paying your own bills, it's nobody's business as to whether or not you have a "real job". Which is a ridiculous idea to think that running a household and raising a kid isn't a real job, for those of you who don't think it is, just try it for yourself.
Before getting a job and finding daycare for your child, every young family needs to approach the idea logically, at the kitchen table with a pencil and paper.
Start with the amount of expected income from the job.
Now deduct the following;
Cost of daycare
Gasoline
A second car and insurance
Will the job require nice clothes?
Realistically, how much will you spend on the occasional fast food dinner because you're too exhausted to cook?
All I ever wanted was to stay home with my two kids. But I worked and we didn't realize any better quality of life because of my added salary because of all the things I mentioned above. And when I look back, it's one of my biggest regrets.
I still believe it's possible for one person to stay home with the kids, but you have to be willing to budget, cook at home, wear thrifted clothing and make things last. Buy a used car and keep that sucker maintained.
Free yourself from others judgement and hurtful remarks. What others say or think should have no power over the way you want to live your life.
Take it from an old lady, raise the children you bring into this world and don't hand your babies off to a virtual stranger to care for and just hope everything works out.
Stick by your guns girl.
You not only make RUclips videos but you're a writer, by the way how are the sales of your book?
RV parks in Ohio are much less. Move. California is insane
❤Hello Melinda n fam❤ You are doing the right thing for u n ur family!! Love ur vlog!! We need to pray beautiful family 4 Melinda to get more subscribers to help her out!!!❤❤❤
Moms jobs are 24/7....and whatever hours you save money on daycare, you can call your contribution to your childs life and your income. We decided to go to one income to raise our 3 sons. We definitely have gotten remarks from family and "friends " about our choices. You are doing great by your son and husband. If you can manage this lifestyle with your husbands job and youtube income, good for you! People who dont get it may just not know how to budget or get very creative with things! You are doing great 🎉 and you provide a kind, sweet tone to our sometimes sad world. Thank you for being you! ❤
Thank you so much!
@@melindarocuantvery well said!! Melinda do you actually receive income...as in a check from RUclips or is your income on your platform generated from the monetary gifts you receive directly from your viewers?? I don't know much about RUclips funding but don't you have to have a pretty big viewership to actually Garner money directly from RUclips?? And it seems you always are gifted...❤
What an awesome comment...yes indeed😁
@ambergibson1930 yes, I receive money directly deposited from RUclips. Anything from RUclips, whether it's from ads or the Super Thanks feature (as seen in the comment above) is included in the total amount. RUclips doesn't pay out until the total amount reaches $100. So if it's less than $100, I don't receive anything. But most months since my channel was monetized, I have gotten a paycheck directly deposited. I don't use Patreon anymore, that is separate from RUclips.
I think its a great to be able to stay home with your son. I wish your channel would grow, some youtubers I follow really make bank... Its crazy...
You're doing a great job!
We chose to have a tight budget for me to stay home with our 3 children because it was more important for us to be there for our children instead of having someone else raise them.
I stayed home for many years raising my kids before I got a job. How are you going to manage in the winter time
love that yellow shirt..❤
I think it’s great you’re a stay at home mom. What I will ask is have you guys thought of leaving California? The cost of living there is outrageous! You said rent for an RV park can be $1,000 a month, but here in KY we have 3 bedroom apartments with fireplaces, etc. for that. You can rent houses here for a few hundred more with fenced yards, etc. certain states are great to visit, but the cost of living in them are way too high!
Funny how people say staying at home with your kids isn't a real job but paying a babysitter (about $20 an hour in the DMV) is a real job. What they really mean is $$. To be honest, most of the women I know who work do so not out of necessity but for niceties (nicer clothes, car, restaurants, etc.). I have done both and found part time is the best of both worlds once the kids are in school. It is difficult to find part time with professional jobs but I managed to do so a few times. Pay and promotion takes a hit but I didn't care about that, more about their well being.
CAN'T YOU GO THROUGH THE STATE FOR CHILD CARE AND WIC ECT? SOME KIND OF WELFARE
I can relate. Mine has never been in daycare. Always stays home with me. Yet my husband treats me like a slave instead of his wife/mother of his child.
Because you let him. Im a Texan and most of us don’t tolerate that bs. Be respected and appreciated and accept nothing less than that if you’re truly doing a good job. Period. The end.
@@jenniferm3572 on the contrary.....I clean the house because it needs it. I do the laundry because we have to have clean clothes. I mow the lawn because it needs it. I shovel the snow because it needs to be done. I take my child to school and pick her up because it's just me. My husband works full time and pays the bills. I feed our dog and take her outside to go potty because he won't do it.
He believes that woman should clean up after him and just because he pays for carry out I should be the one who goes out to get it. I have to argue with him to take a turn.
@@dssouthern Again, you let him. I can only ask that you learn what healthy boundaries are and set those asap. In addition to that, I would tell him how you feel and ask if he can step up on xyz. Make it a more comfortable and realistic position for both of you.
Feeling like a slave and complaining about it is not going to resolve anything and only creates bitterness. Don’t let it get to that point anymore. Problem solve now. If he’s a narcissist, you’ve got a bigger problem. Knowing and asking God for His assistance is the way either way you slice this.
Be intentional. Be willing to submit to your husband but not in a weak kind of way. You only need one Lord and shouldn’t be lorded over by anyone else. Marriage does not mean slavery so STOP being a slave. 👍👍🤍
im trying to be more happy at home but i get so bored here alone while hubby works. my kids r older now and dont need me as much.. i really need a hobby but a lack of motivation for me lol.. thx for sharing!
Daycare is very expensive it’s like your working to put him in daycare🙆
A mother should stay home with her child period.
Whatever works best for you and your fam ❤ I work very very part time from home and also wouldn’t trade it for the world. We can’t get these years back.
Stay at home wife and mother is a full time job. And you are ‘on the clock’ 24/7. It’s more difficult than working outside the home
You are definitely blessed to be able to stay home. Plus childcare would cost more that you would make at most jobs 😊
22 years ago, when my daughter was little, I was better off not working. As a single mom I would have had to work 2 and 3 jobs for working to be worth it. I can only imagine how much worse it is now
When she got older I did work several jobs to make it 😊
Melinda, I think you guys have figured out what works for you. Never think you have to explain that. Liam will never forget these times. My Mom was a stay at home mom. I feel we benefited greatly from it. I love watching your channel ❤.
Thanks!
Thank you!
I sure hope you're not making this video due to someone commenting on you not having a job. You are the BEST one to be with Liam all day if that is YOUR choice. Daycare costs are OUTRAGEOUS!
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You are blessed to be able to stay home with Liam. You've made sacrifices but look at the quality time you're able to spend with him.
My husband is an HVAC Union Instructor. He just graduated as instructor and can now move out of NJ. California is strongest union but too $$$$.
You know how to do it ???? WORK 2 DIFFERENT SHIFTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Long term that is very bad for your relationship/ marriage
I stayed home with both of my kids. They are now 22 and 25. It was worth the sacrifice to do so. You need to do what is best for your family. No explanation is necessary.
Not an explanation you owed anybody.
Why do you need a "normal type of job" if you have a young child? Your boy is way too young to be left alone. Focus on being a great mom and building up your channel. 🥰
This is in no way meant to be rude or disrespectful. I totally understand why you don't work especially living in California. This is the part where some may think I'm being a jerk but every comment helps your channel. So you moved to the highest place to live in the country and you and your husband chose to have a child before being financially stable. I understand raising a child is work I get that but there's other jobs that pay better than minimum wage and with your income you could probably get some type of help with child care. I know you love Liam and your a good mother and a good person but in these days and times it takes 2 incomes unless you're content with barely getting by. Aren't there jobs you can do at home even if it is part time ? You like cooking heck sell cakes maybe cook some hot plates for the local elderly people. Believe it or not I'm just trying to help. I just can't see a family of 3 living in California making it on one income unless your husband is making bank.
I have no problem with you not working. If your are on wick or food stamps get a job. Do not step on me I'm very hard working person with 2 jobs.
Depends on the situation ....as a tax payer over 40 yrs I have no problem with either program..and never have as of now I have a greatgrandaughter only one year and a half battling cancer it's taking both parents to care for her and going to two big strange cities for treatments being far away and hard to keep working they work only two or three days a week ..they use both of the programs.i kmow there are many other families going through this my heart goes out to them." This is only how I feel and not meant to offend anyone ..
No need to justify your choice to be a stay at home mom. It’s always the best choice for the kids to be home with a parent rather then a stranger.