And what makes this even more sad, is they actually wanted just her. They went to a foster event to fill the emptiness of their new house and loved her from the start.
See, the problem isn't that she can't see that it's a good home. The issue is she doesn't trust them to be any different than the people who had her before. So, to avoid the pain of rejection again, she's controlling the situation by self sabotaging. Cause then it's on her terms.
My grandpa had 6 kids. Then spent his adult life adopting 6 more, all of them went to college, have productive lives and now a few have kids and a family with loving wives. I miss pops, he was a kind soul and unfortunately he passed away this year. At no point was it easy, the older kids definitely had trauma and trust issues, but it was worth it. I’m glad to have 6 more “cousins” and be able to share my life with them.
After my family was murdered in Northern Ireland when I was in a kid. I was in multiple foster homes. I would have loved a family like this . Ended up not getting on with any of them but I have a family of my own now and am blessed
Movies like this make me pray for these foster kids daily. I raised 14 other peoples son's over a 32 year span. Lord, these arguments bring back memories. We survived through it all.
Maybe you should ask your god why children suffer because of them all the time. Either your imaginary friend has a plan, and you’re telling them you don’t trust that plan, or your god doesn’t exist, and you’re just insane. Either way, if you’re talking about the Abrahamic god, you may want to read your book, because it says you’re a hypocrite, and there is no place for you in heaven. 🤦🏼♀️ You’ve gotten your reward here on earth. 🤷🏼♀️ Have fun with that. I hope those kids made it out of your home without being indoctrinated like you were. I’m sure you did everything in your power to ruin their lives with it, though. Here’s your pat on the back for being such a good person. 🙄
@@noahbuck7550I hope you can read that he raised 14 Foster kids over a 32 Yr span... I think he's done way more with prayer and compassion than you did
I heard this from a friend a long time ago. Imagine you are outside in the cold without shoes, without a coat, and when you finally get inside, the person who found you insists on you getting into a hot tub right away. The effect that would have would physically hurt. The water doesn't feel hot to a person inside the house, but to someone with frostbite, that same water can feel like torture. That's how kids feel who have never known true love. The "warmth of love" doesn't necessarily always endear abandoned and neglected children to their caring caretakers. It stuck with me and I try to remember it, even in fictitious shows like this.
@@amortalbeingthats an easy answer, be slow, be patient. you're going to need to show a little bit of leniency with bad behaviour. 9 times out of 10 'bad kids' are doing it for a reason. you need to be ubderstanding and help them feel like they can trust you or talk to you if theyre in trouble. in this clip they jumped straight to screaming at her and grounding her when she was out without calling. even for a kid who was raised by good parents this could be jarring, but she was in foster care this isn't a standard thing for her. she probably isn't used to people checking on her, worrying about her, having curfew. what could have been a serious and respectful conversation with your child just turns into them feeling attacked and off gaurd. you could instead have a calm conversation about how worried you feel when she doesnt call and how she needs to do it for her saftey and so you don't worry sick about her. if the behaviour continues you can gently raise the stakes. remind them of the boundary you've tried to set with them for another time or two and then if it happens again explain again in detail why they're being punished. but also if this type of behaviour continued you're probably needing to look at therapy because something is probably wrong.
I don't get it, my body has frostbite and I get in a bath with warm water. I step in the bath and my body is instantly coved with warm water. How would the warm water be like torture water? Like I put my cold hands under warm water and then my hands aren't cold anymore and I feel good, I don't get how it'd feel any different if it was: "I put my frostbite hands under warm water and my hands are in pain." What makes it painful?? I'm stupid ik
I wanna know so I can understand what you're saying about the girl. I'm trying to understand wht your ayim about the girl bc I don't understand what you're saying about the frostbite and bath
I'm a foster parent. When we got one of our foster daughters, she didn't speak, and now she is a flower who bloomed so much. We actually just adopted her, our other foster daughter we had her for a couple of years, and the judge made us start overnight visits with the mother starting of the second week. My baby ended up dead 😢😢. I wasn't the one who wanted to be a foster parent. This was my wife and daughters thing, but I fell in love with these kids.
Thank you, I was scrolling through the comments looking for the name. Is it worth a watch? And I'm so sorry for the longer comment with added questions but do you happen to know where it is available to watch?
We experienced this. Some kids are so broken they won’t allow you to love them. We sadly had to give kids back to state since they became violent and had so much anger. Still love them and miss them, but they couldn’t live with us. They were danger to others in house. 😢. This movie is actually great for analysis by prospective foster parents and adoptive parents. Lots of realistic scenarios.
I always get teary eyed when watching this movie. The younger siblings were able to adjust and find happiness because they’d never had parents but the oldest daughter still thought her mom was going to get better and come back for them. She also thought that after a while they would leave her too since everyone that had ever been her parental figure left her to take care of her younger siblings. Movie: Instant family
I’m cracking up reading the comments! They go: See the problem is… or What she really means is…. Then ppl proceed to project whatever mumbo jumbo they went thru 😂 it’s a movie ppl… I mean cmon let’s calm down
@@inappropriatelaughter847 Of course it's a movie? What's your point? Stories are an integral part of human culture for many reasons to obvious to list. If you think movies (a form of storytelling) are just pure entertainment, most people would assume you've not started high school yet.
Me and my little sister got put in foster care when we were 5&6 I’m the oldest I’m 17 now. We got put in 9 different homes within a year. We got pushed around and kicked around. Our bio mom was a drug addict. We struggled so much. We had one more chance to find a home or they was gonna transfer us to an orphanage. We would do anything to survive. The homes we got put in were terrible they didn’t even feed us we would have to fend for ourselves. Then one day the parents we have now took us in. They were unable to have kids of their own. They gave us a home and we’ve been happy ever since😊 god had a plan the whole time and gave me exactly what I asked for.
@Megabot_6000 Ok, first of all, never try to ruin someone's belief! It's EXTREMELY disrespectful! Never ever do that again. Thank you. Also, I'm sorry to hear that! My grandma was almost gonna get adopted just because of her mom. Her mom kicked out her brother just because his legs skin was rotting. I still can't believe how toxic and heartless someone could ever be. I'm so very sorry to hear that, I'm glad you are somewhere safer now! =)
@@Jaz-jf6teNah you should try to tell others about your beliefs. If your beliefs conflict with the beliefs on others then oh well. Just don't be disrespectful about how you express your beliefs.
Right, like why does she keep telling Pete to tell the girl this and that instead of saying it herself??? Like she is grown @ss adult but needs her husband to speak to the teenager for her? 🤔🧐
By the title we can see this TikToker never saw the movie... She does not want to live with anyone , just with her mother that has a drug adiction. The judge took them out of their home because of that.
I am very close to a family that took in a teenager who had a drug addict mother who had threatened to kill him with a large knife in one of her rages. The young man thought he could help his mother and was extremely angry when he was put in a foster home. He punched holes in the wall, shouted expletives, made life miserable for the home. He couldn't understand that he was separated from his mother for his benefit.
So foster parents are just suppose to allow foster kids to be rotten individuals because the kids don't want to listen to an adult. I won5 say their aren't bad foster parents but at the same time avoiding punishment and blaming your past is the very point of not having accountability.
Don't kid yourself, there is no such thing as an instant family. Im 50, male, and due to an injury, sterile. My wife of 16 years going has 2 daughters. When we met and married the girls still resented me for about 5 years after, but then they began to trust me. And my youngest calls me dad now..her choice.
My husband was kicked out at 16 and was homeless. Eventually he called CPS and they put him with a rather old couple. They weren't parental. It was a roof and food but very little interaction. He was greatful.
@@goreandhoodies3626 I get that young people can't see the abuse that takes place in their formative years, but in hindsight, she will see that she is incorrect. And I get teenagers are rebellious, but this is a great situation, the sternness to "ground" is to give punishment for an offense. They didn't overstep as her guardians.
@@goreandhoodies3626 so she gets to leave whenever she wants, comes home whenever to shower, eat, and sleep. Then she gets to go back out for however long without her parents knowing if shes in town or two states away? It's her parents house not a hotel lol. (This is just from the context of the clip, I haven't seen this movie or show.)
@@Hunter-fs2xemovie is Instant Family. This teen and her 2 little siblings grew up on the street to an addict Mom. CPS ended up getting involved and taking the children where this couple agrees to take all 3. It’s based on a true story and isn’t a bad watch. This scene is what trauma looks like.
Nail guns need the tip to be pressed in and then the trigger pulled to shoot a nail, not only that though, most importantly it needs air. Though without a hose or without the trigger pull this could still happen, if there was leftover air in the canister since there is no hose connected, and the trigger malfunctioned, totally plausible.
This movie makes me cry EVERY TIME. It came out literally the year my adoptive mom got me, I was 13. Nowadays it just, hits so hard cus it’s been 6 years and I’m STILL building that trust with her. But she saved me from a terrible situation so I’m very grateful for her 💖
Thank you so much 🙏 I watched this movie but I couldn't remember the name and the dude who stole and post this clip can't even put the name, thank god I saw your comment 😂 and I agree it's a really good movie, no sad ending, and it's totally worth to watch
Wasn’t an orphanage, they took them from a placement. And she wasn’t on house arrest, she just couldn’t see why her new foster family put into place rules she’s never had or never have had enforced. It’s called being a foster parents and it’s HARD. I’m 16 with two adopted sisters, one foster sister, and a brother that was taken from us. It takes a large toll on the entire family, but my parents just told me about how hard it was for them at first too. It’s super hard, and it takes extremely emotionally strong people in order to do it. It’s not something anyone can do.
movie name: *instant family* *-spoilers-* i love her but the problem Is that she doesn't see that they love her and that they love the kids, she thinks that they want her for popularity or something! which is really sad , she thinks they don't like her , but what she doesn't know is that they love her so much, when i saw the part where she was hugging her biological mother and hugging her, yes it's something real like yes ur gonna cry and miss ur mom , but why don't u think about what ur biological mom did and why she went to jail? This is really sad.. The story of the movie is: Those 2 parents in the movie wanted to adopted a child and they went to parents learning clubs and went to adoption centers, and then they found 3 kids and Said why won't they give it a shot? they raised them and tried a lot, and they made new rooms, but The girl in the video that is shown she didn't want to live with them and she wanted her real parents and those other 2 children the parents adopted are her Siblings,, her biological mother Drinks and does dru-s, And then she went to jail which got her kids to foster care/adoption center, and then The parents went and told everyone about the Children and how good they are and not many people trusted them,,,,,, ( The parents couldn't have kids there own and that's why they adopted There own, and they didn't even want kids only the mother did but now they want))). And then when there biological mother got out of jail the little children cried cause they didn't want to leave the foster parents and the big sister Wanted her biological mom and hugged her and Got happy then The court said they are gonna live with the biological mother, they began living and the parents got sad, and then when they went to court the real mother didn't want them (that's a plot twist) and then The big girl got sad and then they all lived with the foster parents,,,,,, i love this movie so much!! i really recommend u guys to go watch it , it's sad and a happy ending.
Hey, I appreciate your breakdown. I love spoilers because I don’t have a lot of time to sit and watch movies, or they have interesting plots, but aren’t my type of movie. This seemed like an interesting story and I wanted to know everything you explained. However, I wouldn’t have wanted to actually watch it.
@@kimstout6419- uhm, 🤔… so you insulted someone on behalf of everyone? Seems to me that common sense would tell someone that the longer comments, especially the ones talking about the movie from the start, are probably spoilers. So then you just wouldn’t read the comments, right?
To all of those who say she is right, and to the one that did this video, I'm assuming you've never seen the film. This is no mistreatment or abuse, they are foster parents caring for her and her little siblings, and she just got out without letting them know. So she's the one acting wrong.
well, they are both wrong and this is technically mistreatment but not intentionally. they want her to trust them right away but because she doesnt, they dont trust her and hold onto the control they have over instead of allowing her to come to them. its just mistakes that first time foster parents make.
@@kaijuteethnah wrong is the incorrect term Foster parents by nature of being parents shpuld make efforts to establish the wellbeing and location of their children even when said children get old enough to have more power of movement They didn't care she was at the movies or the mall, just that they didn't know where she was. Parents aren't wrong for wanting to know these things. Teenagers (I speak from experience as one at one point, and previously working with that demographic) tend not to understand that knowledge of location =/= control of location (they are related, but lettingbyour parent know where youre at is a safety thing. Especially if ypur child is female, and in the foster care system. They're at significant risk for human trafficking) I know a lot of foster parents deal with a "runaway" phase, but that doesn't make being proactive and attempting to prevent it is wrong. That's bad logic
@@Sip_Dhit i never said they were in the wrong for asking her to tell them where she was, but that they are in the wrong for trying to rush the process of getting a childs trust and respect and blowing up at her because of it, children do not grasp the concept that knowing where you are isnt to control but to know where you are and yelling and reacting angrily drives the child further away, i never said she wasnt in the wrong either 😭😭 like dawg foster children especially need this understanding and time to establish trust with the guardian and theres otherwise to make sure you do have a childs location here
Trust me a lot of orphans aren’t like this. That’s why this is a movie. Please consider adopting. Literally save a life. There are a lot of American citizens who don’t have parents. Let’s save our own.
The girl in this clip is actually really good, she constantly tries to help her siblings and such; these are just her most "rebellious" moments. It's a sweet movie and she's able to finally feel loved at the end
You can also have that bad luck and get some kid that will ruin your life with 'you're not my parent' attitude. Sometimes avoiding parenthood is like avoiding a bullet, you can spare yourself from a lot of pain.
For everyone commenting incorrectly; foster children are accustomed to being shuffled, overlooked, and neglected by people who say they care. So, we walk into situations expecting this scenario from people, because it is what we have experienced. The feeling of being being abandoned doesn’t ever go away, it is a constant struggle and why so many of us grow up to either be people pleasers or extreme opposites. Don’t judge a book by the cover or after scanning a few pages. Take time to listen and possibly understand the story. 😊
When my brother kids were taking away from him & his wife because they were drug addicts and there were 6 kids. They lived in Foster homes one after another. I finally got a place to have them come and live with me and it took many months of behavioral problems to subside but finally they were happy good kids. Sad part they were under 18 so they had to go back to there parents whom still drank beer every night and the court never checked up on them. Now there Adults they all work good jobs & have families of there own. They don’t forget there pass but live for a happier future.
Funny thing is, in her mind she’s protecting her and her siblings. But if she hadn’t yelled at him to drop it, Juan wouldn’t have injured himself with the nail gun.
What gets me is they were so focused on punishing her that they didn't notice the boy. Then it's the sister that reacts to protect the brother while they still hollering even though the boy hurt his foot it's a lot better than what could have happened
As someone with adopted brother and adopted sister, these problems are very similar to our own. Whenever they get mad they act like it’s all over cuss my mom out, tell her they wish she would die, etc. really it’s because of all the trauma they’ve experienced in their life. If someone is adopted, and were separated from their parents it usually means they had very shitty lives before then, and it’s really hard to change someone like this. I love this movie, I really felt like I could relate to it so much. Especially as my family is American, and we moved to Mexico adopting Mexican children.
I grew up in foster care. Yes we have usually been through a lot. But that is no excuse for being totally stupid. In fact after all we have been through, seen, or experienced. We should be the wisest, Goodist, most well behaved kids in the entire world. Any foster kid who does not respect and show gratitude to good foster or adoptive parents is, simply put, stupid and self centered, and bad. Unfortunately the good ones get abused and neglected and used. While the bad ones get blessed as if they deserved it.
I agree, but you missed a detail. This happens only if they had shtty parents before. Im also adopted but the family im with now (ive been with them since i was 1 yr old) treats me equally and i dont see them any differently. I think its a more difficult situation if the foster kid remembers the previous parents or has had bad experiences with them. Being adopted in itself is just fine, nothing much changes (at least for me)
@@noveliayuki indeed. For example, my adopted siblings grew up with parents who were addicted to drugs, poor, and who often mistreated them. It wasn’t till my brother was 6 that he was allowed to leave that house, and then had even more bad experiences in a corrupt orphanage where we adopted him at 14, my sister having a very similar story. And yes, he’s changed a ton since then and has made a lot of progress. I just think it’s not really possible to become fully normal once you’ve been through something like that.
While it’s sad to see people who go through this trauma, they should at least start appreciating the ones that are kind and adopted them out of pure love
Parenting tip: Be Calm and Rational. Accusations and punishment is usually not the best way to get your point across. They were right to be upset but handled it in a way that confirmed (in her mind) to that troubled teen that they were no different You feel your temper rising takes deep and slow breaths.
No, set boundaries and a precedent. Things like this always reoccur if you don't shut it down the first time. By simply speaking and stuff they showed her that that shit was debatable. What they should have done was let her walk away and when she comes back they tell her to leave her phone on the table and go to her room. More disobedience equals more punishment.
@@Changesooon Her mum didn't want her. She'd come to her senses kids are not stupid. If you set a punishment you tell them to reflect on their actions. If you don't you don't stress that their actions are actually bad
Seeing as the kid has dealt with abuse previously, I don’t think that she’s being bratty. I think she doesn’t believe these people can be better than her last guardians, and she’s self-sabotaging so they don’t get the chance to hurt her. It’s not about the grounding, it’s about escaping before what she thinks happens after the grounding. Besides those parents are acting like they have authority when it seems like they just met the kids, like they’re saints just because they’re not abusive. Edit: Sorry if I implied that trauma excused her behavior, because it doesn’t. It’s an explanation, not an excuse. What I meant was that she is not like some entitled rich white girl throwing a fit for attention, I was just saying this is classic trauma-survivor behavior. It’s still bad behavior.
Of course she's being bratty. You're allowed to feel sympathy for them and also acknowledge that they are being garbage, on purpose, for no legitimate reason. Trauma can be the origin of her behaviors, but it's not an excuse for them. Child are being a shit and doesn't seem to care that she'll bring her siblings down with her. And that's the nastiest part. If it was just you who could lose your home and you are acting out, you know, I respect a certain amount of emotion. She's just being a dick
@@purrrrrrrplethe foster kids are only entitled to be not abused. The foster parents chose to be charitable and welcome the kids into their homes. They are doing the right thing by establishing boundaries. I don’t see why the foster kids deserve extra effort without earning it. Had a tough life is not a get out of jail card. She made her bed now she has to lay in it.
Unless you’ve been separated from your family either through foster or adoption then you have no clue where the teenager is coming from. I was adopted at 3 and despite having a great home and parents and a happy childhood, there is definitely identity issues and abandonment issues and longing for knowing my birth mother more before she passed away - she died pretty young at 45. It’s not always something we can control
Coming from a bad place doesn't give anyone the right to bad behavior. Not everyone has been through a foster home but everyone eventually suffers loss. They were only looking out for her and she would've seen that if she weren't so selfish.
I was adopted as well at the age of 9 and im 24 now and i still believe there is absolutely no reason on gods green earth how someone can even remotely try to justify how acting out or being rebellious is excusable it isnt and nor should any parent put up with it.
@@rubylove8070 one major problem I also found is most people who've been in foster homes BELIEVE they have it worse than everyone else and always want others to pitty them. Majority of people are fighting their own demons everyday, very few people have it smooth. Stop focusing on what you don't have but rather what you have. Don't focus on who you were yesterday, but who you want to be tomorrow and make sure the you today is doing what it takes to get there. Keep pushing.
Their is no good justification acceptable for treating good parents bad like this. If I was as blessed as you or the girl in the movie. I would show a good deal of respect and gratitude. Not hurt them and cause drama. Then again I am not a female.
Prior to this she was with her crackhead mom and was playing mom to her siblings so she's used to being the authority figure having an actual authority figure who actually tries to parent is not something she's used to
She didnt... the kids just trusted her more cause she is their sister and they are strangers. At the end of the day, the girl was still just a dumb teenager (like they all are) acting grown up. Minors need rules. @@jankom.7783
The pain is understandable, but they are obviously a good family and just cause they ground you and don’t allow you to what you want doesnt make them bad. Even if you don’t like them, why risk getting you siblings sent back into a situation you know is way worse just so you can run the streets with a newfound freedom?
Trauma response. They were also not fit to be foster parents yet considering how they handle the situation by yelling and trying to immediately issue consequences while the emotions were still high
Did u even watch the movie? This girl has went through a lot and it’s hard for her to feel like anybody would love her after all that. Her mom was using and would leave home for weeks, causing her to have to babysit for her younger siblings when she was practically a child herself. Her foster parents (the muskies) was also just taking care of them for the money and couldn’t care less abt them. She’s self sabotaging to go back to her birth mom because it was less scary to go back to a crappy but familiar situation than to open up to a couple of strangers you think didn’t actually want you.
@@lunasmissingshoes5372plus, how you gonna go straight to grounding. it’s like they couldn’t wait to have control over someone. you never go straight to grounding especially cause they barely know each other
@@ThatsTheTea111”Straight to grounding” as if that was the worst punishment that could be done. Look consider yourself lucky you never had to deal with anything else.. Grounding is a pretty baseline punishment.
@@MrTypicalPlayerwell, you also have to think that they have not proved themselves to be actual safe people, the kid just sees it as strangers desperate to have some control over her. Just because they have custody legally doesn't mean they automatically just act like parents and the kids view them as such.
I loved this movie. The oldest kid was just like my oldest sister. I was in foster care from ages 5-18. It's a great comedy movie that both calls out issues, and uplifts the people involved in the system. It's called Instant Family, and sadly the kids situation is pretty average.
I really like the part where they reached out to the older couple who adopted a gril who grew up to have drug problems. When she got slapped and told to be there just for their adopted kids like biological kids. (I think? Something like that it was alont time ago 😅) people don't think about that side of adoption. Or they think it's until they're 18 and that's it, which is crazy to me
I was in foster care and it’s really easy to lose trust in people. Some of the kids I watched go in and out of homes would tell me crazy stories abt how people would just take the money for themselves and basically say fuck you to the kids. Sad that some people are like that but there are good people in the system. I was fortunate enough to go to a good family for a bit and they treated me very good despite me treating them like shit. I feel bad and one day I’ll give them a gift of appreciation but this just reminds me that most of the time, foster kids are forming independence and survival skills for themselves and only themselves and when others try to help, they tend to react aggressively.
The good foster parents know this about their kids…you were just trying to survive without great survival skills. I really hope you have been able to make a nice life for yourself.
"Can you deal with her please? " "Hey lizzy, you-" "WE'RE REALLY GOOD PEOPLE" "Really...?" Edit: y'all missed the joke man, the joke was that the mom asked the dad to deal with their daughter but before he could say anything, she cut him off
This reminds me of the foster parents I had before I aged out lol sometimes we have to learn the hard way. But I will say most of us will come back if it’s a good home (I know I did and I still do to this day) this hit home for me 💖
I understand where shes coming from growing up my parents were abusive sometimes i still get scared when my parents fight but yes i agree with everyone i think shes got a good family
If you watched the movie, which i dont think this person did judging by the title, you'd know that the foster parents were actually really nice, bought them nice toys and let them paint their rooms, there were a bunch of sweet moments. It's just that the girl here really wanted to live back with her mother, who wasn't in a good state to take care of her kids. It ended very nice I enjoyed watching it.
I was In foster care from 3months old until the day before I turned 22yrs old. It’s so much shit ppl don’t know about kids and the system of foster care. Went thru hell. But thank god I turned out to be a decent human being in the long run
@@ebonyeverything2751 yes. Called a board extension so at 17-18yrs old you and your case worker have a meeting and see if you want/need the board extension which if you opt into it, they help you finance college if you want to go to school and they also help you with housing. You receiver foster care services until you graduate college or decide to just leave foster care earlier. The day before you turn 22 everything is done
She said she was calling her case worker, which is a social worker. That's not the police. Nor would a case worker come in and take the kids back like the repo man with furniture. Frankly that's the most responsible thing she could have done as the case worker would come in to troubleshoot what was going wrong.
@@damonchen8606 Why'd you ignore the first part of his question? Also, no, threatening to call CPS is NOT responsible. Responsible would be to understand and cooperate with minimal structural rules. They want her to tell them where she's going. How in the Hell is that bad? It's actually IRRESPONSIBLE of her to waste CPS's time and jeopardize her siblings' health and safety because she couldn't handle a few rules. In all honesty, she seems plenty old enough to understand complicated ideas and notions like boundaries. Instead, she makes threats so she can get what she wants. And no amount of trauma allows for her to act like a racist jerk. I'm glad she turns around in the movie, but here, nothing she does is defendable.
@@moonlightcreator7472 That’s not true for many kids that are traumatized (as a teacher for of students with emotional trauma including foster care) Positive reinforcement is 100% necessary, but won’t in and of itself cut it. And yes, there are some students that can’t be helped in a classroom setting. For some kids, you can only make a dent in their behavior, but they have so much toxicity from their past and their family members, (which doesn’t go away just because they’re in foster care), there’s only so much you can do. And some kids have such destructive behavior, they will make it impossible for a classroom or a family (that contains other children) to function. They need an environment dedicated solely to managing them.
@Catlady-mw4en This^^ As a person who has been in foster care, and know people who foster, everyone has to work together, including the child. I watched a friend in foster care got better placement completely self destruct. He was so confident that this would be his last placement since he was going to age out of the system in a year and change that this wouldn't make a difference. He had his foster parents robbed and on 2 occasions They were assaulted due to trying to protect him.He's now in jail.
I watched this movie and this girl kinda made me mad. I get that she was raised in a bad home as a kid but you can’t get all mad when you get out into an actual good home with rules and boundaries
It is unfortunately it's just extremely difficult,the hard option it's Plato's/some other smart fu kers cave alagory they get close to the light but default to what they/others know asa a protection mechanism everything is decided by choice including addictions you either choose to fight it or you allow it to control you @@kishinumaayumi
@@kishinumaayumias someone with all of the above, I totally agree with this comment. She's old enough to take charge of her own life and actions. You can't blame other people's bad behavior towards you for your entire life.
They should probably do away with foster care and put all their time and energy into adoption. If you pay people to “take care of the kids” bad people are going to take advantage of it
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And what makes this even more sad, is they actually wanted just her. They went to a foster event to fill the emptiness of their new house and loved her from the start.
Also isn't the mom infertile??
@@0_butters_027yep
@0_butters_027 I don't remember. It's been awhile since I seen the movie.
@@0_butters_027she is. She just didn’t feel like giving birth. So they opted for adoption together.☺️
@@miebicouple3519she isn’t or she is? The way you phrased it makes me believe the former.
See, the problem isn't that she can't see that it's a good home. The issue is she doesn't trust them to be any different than the people who had her before. So, to avoid the pain of rejection again, she's controlling the situation by self sabotaging. Cause then it's on her terms.
Nope she was delusional because she wanted to go back to her druggie mother
I think... I think I just realized something about how I've been living lately
I feel as though you just explained my feelings towards relationships in better words than I ever could have…
I feel as though my knees have been dipped in honey mustard
It’s actually a movie with Mark Wallburg
Nail guns have a trigger you have to hold for the tip to activate.
I know but it’s a film you know they just make shit up in movies
@@MJ-420.kinda like Steven Seagal
@@zombadie1025 lmfao yeah kinda 😂😂😂
Movie logic: HEAVY MACHINE GUN
@@MadSkull hahahahahahah the metal slug reference 😂
My grandpa had 6 kids. Then spent his adult life adopting 6 more, all of them went to college, have productive lives and now a few have kids and a family with loving wives. I miss pops, he was a kind soul and unfortunately he passed away this year. At no point was it easy, the older kids definitely had trauma and trust issues, but it was worth it. I’m glad to have 6 more “cousins” and be able to share my life with them.
I can't believe he raised all of them ,in Today I can't even imagine raising more then two for normal middle class 😅
Hey, you copied my old profile picture or did u
Why "cousins" ? That is how you call your adoptive uncles or your uncles'children ?
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After my family was murdered in Northern Ireland when I was in a kid. I was in multiple foster homes. I would have loved a family like this . Ended up not getting on with any of them but I have a family of my own now and am blessed
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@@brownie6430did you seriously have to?
@@brownie6430 naw James was a Brit . I’m Irish 😘
Bro gave us he's/she's whole life story just because of a short😂😂
@@BrendanMurphy-w3v he’s actually half Scottish and half Swiss
Movies like this make me pray for these foster kids daily. I raised 14 other peoples son's over a 32 year span. Lord, these arguments bring back memories. We survived through it all.
Maybe you should ask your god why children suffer because of them all the time. Either your imaginary friend has a plan, and you’re telling them you don’t trust that plan, or your god doesn’t exist, and you’re just insane. Either way, if you’re talking about the Abrahamic god, you may want to read your book, because it says you’re a hypocrite, and there is no place for you in heaven. 🤦🏼♀️ You’ve gotten your reward here on earth. 🤷🏼♀️ Have fun with that.
I hope those kids made it out of your home without being indoctrinated like you were. I’m sure you did everything in your power to ruin their lives with it, though. Here’s your pat on the back for being such a good person. 🙄
@@noahbuck7550I hope you can read that he raised 14 Foster kids over a 32 Yr span... I think he's done way more with prayer and compassion than you did
@@stephanieokoroma6157 And I guarantee you he abuses them.
And their nature is such that most of them are still demons
@@noahbuck7550case and point
I heard this from a friend a long time ago. Imagine you are outside in the cold without shoes, without a coat, and when you finally get inside, the person who found you insists on you getting into a hot tub right away. The effect that would have would physically hurt. The water doesn't feel hot to a person inside the house, but to someone with frostbite, that same water can feel like torture. That's how kids feel who have never known true love. The "warmth of love" doesn't necessarily always endear abandoned and neglected children to their caring caretakers. It stuck with me and I try to remember it, even in fictitious shows like this.
then what should one do ?
Be patient.
@@amortalbeingthats an easy answer, be slow, be patient. you're going to need to show a little bit of leniency with bad behaviour. 9 times out of 10 'bad kids' are doing it for a reason. you need to be ubderstanding and help them feel like they can trust you or talk to you if theyre in trouble.
in this clip they jumped straight to screaming at her and grounding her when she was out without calling. even for a kid who was raised by good parents this could be jarring, but she was in foster care this isn't a standard thing for her. she probably isn't used to people checking on her, worrying about her, having curfew. what could have been a serious and respectful conversation with your child just turns into them feeling attacked and off gaurd. you could instead have a calm conversation about how worried you feel when she doesnt call and how she needs to do it for her saftey and so you don't worry sick about her. if the behaviour continues you can gently raise the stakes. remind them of the boundary you've tried to set with them for another time or two and then if it happens again explain again in detail why they're being punished. but also if this type of behaviour continued you're probably needing to look at therapy because something is probably wrong.
I don't get it, my body has frostbite and I get in a bath with warm water. I step in the bath and my body is instantly coved with warm water. How would the warm water be like torture water? Like I put my cold hands under warm water and then my hands aren't cold anymore and I feel good, I don't get how it'd feel any different if it was: "I put my frostbite hands under warm water and my hands are in pain." What makes it painful?? I'm stupid ik
I wanna know so I can understand what you're saying about the girl. I'm trying to understand wht your ayim about the girl bc I don't understand what you're saying about the frostbite and bath
Lil bro nailed that argument lol
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nah😂
Bros a disgrace to the nail gun 😂😂😂
thats crazy
That’s so wrong but yet so funny
I'm a foster parent. When we got one of our foster daughters, she didn't speak, and now she is a flower who bloomed so much. We actually just adopted her, our other foster daughter we had her for a couple of years, and the judge made us start overnight visits with the mother starting of the second week. My baby ended up dead 😢😢. I wasn't the one who wanted to be a foster parent. This was my wife and daughters thing, but I fell in love with these kids.
My condolences im sorry for the loss of the baby. I hope the hearts of you and your family heal ❤
The foster kid died?
You are a good foster parent. I believe it is very difficult.
sorry to hear that, how did she pass ?
as a former foster dad who finalized adoption 2 years ago. CONGRATULATIONS!!
If anyone was wondering it's called "instant family"
Thanks 🤩 🙏
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Kissess...thanks.
thank you :)
Movie name: Instant Family. Just for anyone wondering😊
Thanx
What’s it on ?
Thank you, I was scrolling through the comments looking for the name. Is it worth a watch? And I'm so sorry for the longer comment with added questions but do you happen to know where it is available to watch?
Netflix or fubo @@ad0ptme._preppy
Ty
We experienced this. Some kids are so broken they won’t allow you to love them. We sadly had to give kids back to state since they became violent and had so much anger. Still love them and miss them, but they couldn’t live with us. They were danger to others in house. 😢. This movie is actually great for analysis by prospective foster parents and adoptive parents. Lots of realistic scenarios.
I always get teary eyed when watching this movie. The younger siblings were able to adjust and find happiness because they’d never had parents but the oldest daughter still thought her mom was going to get better and come back for them. She also thought that after a while they would leave her too since everyone that had ever been her parental figure left her to take care of her younger siblings.
Movie: Instant family
I would have given her Popeyes biscuits with no drink
I’m cracking up reading the comments!
They go: See the problem is… or What she really means is….
Then ppl proceed to project whatever mumbo jumbo they went thru 😂 it’s a movie ppl… I mean cmon let’s calm down
@@inappropriatelaughter847 i mean thats literally the whole point of movies and story telling in general but ok
@@inappropriatelaughter847 Of course it's a movie? What's your point? Stories are an integral part of human culture for many reasons to obvious to list. If you think movies (a form of storytelling) are just pure entertainment, most people would assume you've not started high school yet.
I bet you never read a book. 😂@@inappropriatelaughter847
Dora never been the same since boots left
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this is too good
Lmaoo
Wait was she in an actual Dora movie?
@@jclyntoledo i dont think so
Me and my little sister got put in foster care when we were 5&6 I’m the oldest I’m 17 now. We got put in 9 different homes within a year. We got pushed around and kicked around. Our bio mom was a drug addict. We struggled so much. We had one more chance to find a home or they was gonna transfer us to an orphanage. We would do anything to survive. The homes we got put in were terrible they didn’t even feed us we would have to fend for ourselves. Then one day the parents we have now took us in. They were unable to have kids of their own. They gave us a home and we’ve been happy ever since😊 god had a plan the whole time and gave me exactly what I asked for.
That shit never happened
@@Jeanpierreazerot No one asked, buddy.
Don't think God cares, but really happy for you and your family. I was adopted, but with a super toxic mom ...lol but we grow up and move on
@Megabot_6000 Ok, first of all, never try to ruin someone's belief! It's EXTREMELY disrespectful! Never ever do that again. Thank you. Also, I'm sorry to hear that! My grandma was almost gonna get adopted just because of her mom. Her mom kicked out her brother just because his legs skin was rotting. I still can't believe how toxic and heartless someone could ever be. I'm so very sorry to hear that, I'm glad you are somewhere safer now! =)
@@Jaz-jf6teNah you should try to tell others about your beliefs. If your beliefs conflict with the beliefs on others then oh well. Just don't be disrespectful about how you express your beliefs.
I love how she said “Pete, can you deal with this please?” And then when he try’s to she comes back and says “We’re really nice people”
Right, like why does she keep telling Pete to tell the girl this and that instead of saying it herself??? Like she is grown @ss adult but needs her husband to speak to the teenager for her? 🤔🧐
By the title we can see this TikToker never saw the movie... She does not want to live with anyone , just with her mother that has a drug adiction. The judge took them out of their home because of that.
Yea
title
Why did she say tell her my nationality?
@@ghost-bk1fv she might be a weird whyte like latin or something
@@ThatCatDiaz weird white? Really?
I am very close to a family that took in a teenager who had a drug addict mother who had threatened to kill him with a large knife in one of her rages. The young man thought he could help his mother and was extremely angry when he was put in a foster home. He punched holes in the wall, shouted expletives, made life miserable for the home. He couldn't understand that he was separated from his mother for his benefit.
Never adopt . Problem solved.
@@javiercordero9039 cringe
Evil@@javiercordero9039
@@javiercordero9039Seriously
@@javiercordero9039How immature are you ?
"Put them on house arrest" is a great way to phrase it
I am sure that's what the kids wanted. 😢
It's a great way to misrepresent what's actually going on?
So foster parents are just suppose to allow foster kids to be rotten individuals because the kids don't want to listen to an adult. I won5 say their aren't bad foster parents but at the same time avoiding punishment and blaming your past is the very point of not having accountability.
@@emead528 dude shut the hell up.
@@DemonizedBloodand cps is all for letting these kids act that way
movie name: instant family
Mom talking to the girl, Pete talked to her. Then comes back Got me on the floor 😂.
Oh you watched the video too? That's so cool😅
@@Gixxzr 😂😭
@@Gixxzr why do you have to be such a jerk
Just so u aren’t confused at the end the thing was real I believe and it dropped at the end facing upwards, toward his face😢
@@stitch-un7bf i think it was facing up bc the thing pressed on his foot and I don’t think it will come out of that side but I might be mistaken so
"Juan drop it right now, very bad choice of words hehe" Joker
Very poor choice of words
Very poor choice of words for someone who should know she’s in a movie and that shit like nail gun triggers getting held by air happens regularly.
My foot😭😭
Husband material 🥲
She’s a case of that 😃
Movie Title: Instant Family 2018
Edit: Thank to everyone who was uncertain because of the way my original post was worded.
Don't kid yourself, there is no such thing as an instant family. Im 50, male, and due to an injury, sterile. My wife of 16 years going has 2 daughters. When we met and married the girls still resented me for about 5 years after, but then they began to trust me. And my youngest calls me dad now..her choice.
Is that the name???
@@enderblackitaliabrasilebra2578nah he just randomly wrote that 😊
@@abdoulayedarbo5415 Ah dayum
@@abdoulayedarbo5415 do you know the name of the movie
My husband was kicked out at 16 and was homeless. Eventually he called CPS and they put him with a rather old couple. They weren't parental. It was a roof and food but very little interaction. He was greatful.
That girl was such a brat..
Honestly. Just be grateful you got in a foster home with your siblings. Not in separate homes.
No they just over stepped acted like she should worship them because they aren't horrible
@@goreandhoodies3626 I get that young people can't see the abuse that takes place in their formative years, but in hindsight, she will see that she is incorrect.
And I get teenagers are rebellious, but this is a great situation, the sternness to "ground" is to give punishment for an offense. They didn't overstep as her guardians.
@@goreandhoodies3626 so she gets to leave whenever she wants, comes home whenever to shower, eat, and sleep. Then she gets to go back out for however long without her parents knowing if shes in town or two states away? It's her parents house not a hotel lol. (This is just from the context of the clip, I haven't seen this movie or show.)
@@Hunter-fs2xemovie is Instant Family. This teen and her 2 little siblings grew up on the street to an addict Mom. CPS ended up getting involved and taking the children where this couple agrees to take all 3. It’s based on a true story and isn’t a bad watch. This scene is what trauma looks like.
She was scared, for her and her siblings, she’s been in and out of court, in different houses with different people since she as 11
Movie name is Instant Family
Thx
Thanks, Da Chop
Thank you
why'd you give us the name? Looks like the worst thing anyone could watch
@@Stefaneee7Just because you didn’t want to watch the movie doesn’t mean others wouldn’t want to.
Ain’t that dora 💀
What?
yes its the same actor
Nahhh💀💀💀
I knew it looked familiar-
No that’s Isabela Reyes.
Nail guns need the tip to be pressed in and then the trigger pulled to shoot a nail, not only that though, most importantly it needs air. Though without a hose or without the trigger pull this could still happen, if there was leftover air in the canister since there is no hose connected, and the trigger malfunctioned, totally plausible.
If anyone is wondering what movie this is, it’s called “Instant Family”. Please like this so it can be the top comment for people to see.
Game shakers didn't work out I guess 😊
Thank you.
@@jayehum5019 no problem
bro thank you 🙏
Why would we band together to make this top comment when there are a bunch of other comments naming the movie that got here faster than you did 😅
This movie makes me cry EVERY TIME. It came out literally the year my adoptive mom got me, I was 13. Nowadays it just, hits so hard cus it’s been 6 years and I’m STILL building that trust with her. But she saved me from a terrible situation so I’m very grateful for her 💖
Movie’s name?
@@GhazalehSarfi instant family!! It’s really good I’d definitely recommend!!
Thank you so much 🙏 I watched this movie but I couldn't remember the name and the dude who stole and post this clip can't even put the name, thank god I saw your comment 😂 and I agree it's a really good movie, no sad ending, and it's totally worth to watch
@@__Grapefruits__ and it’s very accurate, as an older foster kid.
Wasn’t an orphanage, they took them from a placement. And she wasn’t on house arrest, she just couldn’t see why her new foster family put into place rules she’s never had or never have had enforced. It’s called being a foster parents and it’s HARD. I’m 16 with two adopted sisters, one foster sister, and a brother that was taken from us. It takes a large toll on the entire family, but my parents just told me about how hard it was for them at first too. It’s super hard, and it takes extremely emotionally strong people in order to do it. It’s not something anyone can do.
Whats it called?
@@makakachaput Instant Family
As a kid who’s been in a foster house and then adopted makes me extremely greatful for being put into hands of loving parents, blood or not.
movie name: *instant family* *-spoilers-*
i love her but the problem Is that she doesn't see that they love her and that they love the kids, she thinks that they want her for popularity or something! which is really sad , she thinks they don't like her , but what she doesn't know is that they love her so much, when i saw the part where she was hugging her biological mother and hugging her, yes it's something real like yes ur gonna cry and miss ur mom , but why don't u think about what ur biological mom did and why she went to jail? This is really sad..
The story of the movie is:
Those 2 parents in the movie wanted to adopted a child and they went to parents learning clubs and went to adoption centers, and then they found 3 kids and Said why won't they give it a shot? they raised them and tried a lot, and they made new rooms, but The girl in the video that is shown she didn't want to live with them and she wanted her real parents and those other 2 children the parents adopted are her Siblings,, her biological mother Drinks and does dru-s, And then she went to jail which got her kids to foster care/adoption center, and then The parents went and told everyone about the Children and how good they are and not many people trusted them,,,,,, ( The parents couldn't have kids there own and that's why they adopted There own, and they didn't even want kids only the mother did but now they want))).
And then when there biological mother got out of jail the little children cried cause they didn't want to leave the foster parents and the big sister Wanted her biological mom and hugged her and Got happy then The court said they are gonna live with the biological mother, they began living and the parents got sad, and then when they went to court the real mother didn't want them (that's a plot twist) and then The big girl got sad and then they all lived with the foster parents,,,,,,
i love this movie so much!! i really recommend u guys to go watch it , it's sad and a happy ending.
And why do we need to go watch it given that you just told the entire storyline. Good lord, use your brain.
I love the way you explained it! It seriously helped me ^w^ I have a really hard time sitting through movies so thank you!!
@@kimstout6419still watching it. Now more because he didn’t leave any cliffhangers. Use your brain Kim! No one except for you cares.
Hey, I appreciate your breakdown. I love spoilers because I don’t have a lot of time to sit and watch movies, or they have interesting plots, but aren’t my type of movie. This seemed like an interesting story and I wanted to know everything you explained. However, I wouldn’t have wanted to actually watch it.
@@kimstout6419- uhm, 🤔… so you insulted someone on behalf of everyone? Seems to me that common sense would tell someone that the longer comments, especially the ones talking about the movie from the start, are probably spoilers. So then you just wouldn’t read the comments, right?
To all of those who say she is right, and to the one that did this video, I'm assuming you've never seen the film. This is no mistreatment or abuse, they are foster parents caring for her and her little siblings, and she just got out without letting them know. So she's the one acting wrong.
well, they are both wrong and this is technically mistreatment but not intentionally. they want her to trust them right away but because she doesnt, they dont trust her and hold onto the control they have over instead of allowing her to come to them. its just mistakes that first time foster parents make.
@@kaijuteeth idk, searching for your kids and not finding them, even if foster is kinda *scary*.
@@isymbolchess well yeah, thats why i said they are both wrong.
@@kaijuteethnah wrong is the incorrect term
Foster parents by nature of being parents shpuld make efforts to establish the wellbeing and location of their children even when said children get old enough to have more power of movement
They didn't care she was at the movies or the mall, just that they didn't know where she was. Parents aren't wrong for wanting to know these things. Teenagers (I speak from experience as one at one point, and previously working with that demographic) tend not to understand that knowledge of location =/= control of location (they are related, but lettingbyour parent know where youre at is a safety thing. Especially if ypur child is female, and in the foster care system. They're at significant risk for human trafficking)
I know a lot of foster parents deal with a "runaway" phase, but that doesn't make being proactive and attempting to prevent it is wrong. That's bad logic
@@Sip_Dhit i never said they were in the wrong for asking her to tell them where she was, but that they are in the wrong for trying to rush the process of getting a childs trust and respect and blowing up at her because of it, children do not grasp the concept that knowing where you are isnt to control but to know where you are and yelling and reacting angrily drives the child further away, i never said she wasnt in the wrong either 😭😭 like dawg foster children especially need this understanding and time to establish trust with the guardian and theres otherwise to make sure you do have a childs location here
Trust me a lot of orphans aren’t like this. That’s why this is a movie. Please consider adopting. Literally save a life. There are a lot of American citizens who don’t have parents. Let’s save our own.
The girl in this clip is actually really good, she constantly tries to help her siblings and such; these are just her most "rebellious" moments. It's a sweet movie and she's able to finally feel loved at the end
I want to one day, but from what I understand, it's insanely expensive. Kinda crazy that it costs money to adopt unwanted kids...
@@TheNumberOrTheDessertyeah, yelling at your brother making him injury himself is so much help😂
You can also have that bad luck and get some kid that will ruin your life with 'you're not my parent' attitude.
Sometimes avoiding parenthood is like avoiding a bullet, you can spare yourself from a lot of pain.
@@Endev_Prime you know you dont have to keep them lol. Where did you hear this? Please stop listening to drama and think that’s the reality
This was an amazing movie
For everyone commenting incorrectly; foster children are accustomed to being shuffled, overlooked, and neglected by people who say they care. So, we walk into situations expecting this scenario from people, because it is what we have experienced. The feeling of being being abandoned doesn’t ever go away, it is a constant struggle and why so many of us grow up to either be people pleasers or extreme opposites. Don’t judge a book by the cover or after scanning a few pages. Take time to listen and possibly understand the story. 😊
When my brother kids were taking away from him & his wife because they were drug addicts and there were 6 kids. They lived in Foster homes one after another. I finally got a place to have them come and live with me and it took many months of behavioral problems to subside but finally they were happy good kids. Sad part they were under 18 so they had to go back to there parents whom still drank beer every night and the court never checked up on them. Now there Adults they all work good jobs & have families of there own. They don’t forget there pass but live for a happier future.
She's being a brat period lol excuses
im a foster kid and this movie made me cry so much because it was the first one i watched where it really was what i went through
0 comments?
“Can you deal with her?”
*jumps right back into the argument*
Funny thing is, in her mind she’s protecting her and her siblings. But if she hadn’t yelled at him to drop it, Juan wouldn’t have injured himself with the nail gun.
What gets me is they were so focused on punishing her that they didn't notice the boy. Then it's the sister that reacts to protect the brother while they still hollering even though the boy hurt his foot it's a lot better than what could have happened
As someone with adopted brother and adopted sister, these problems are very similar to our own. Whenever they get mad they act like it’s all over cuss my mom out, tell her they wish she would die, etc. really it’s because of all the trauma they’ve experienced in their life. If someone is adopted, and were separated from their parents it usually means they had very shitty lives before then, and it’s really hard to change someone like this. I love this movie, I really felt like I could relate to it so much. Especially as my family is American, and we moved to Mexico adopting Mexican children.
I grew up in foster care. Yes we have usually been through a lot. But that is no excuse for being totally stupid. In fact after all we have been through, seen, or experienced. We should be the wisest, Goodist, most well behaved kids in the entire world. Any foster kid who does not respect and show gratitude to good foster or adoptive parents is, simply put, stupid and self centered, and bad. Unfortunately the good ones get abused and neglected and used. While the bad ones get blessed as if they deserved it.
I agree, but you missed a detail. This happens only if they had shtty parents before. Im also adopted but the family im with now (ive been with them since i was 1 yr old) treats me equally and i dont see them any differently.
I think its a more difficult situation if the foster kid remembers the previous parents or has had bad experiences with them. Being adopted in itself is just fine, nothing much changes (at least for me)
@@noveliayuki indeed. For example, my adopted siblings grew up with parents who were addicted to drugs, poor, and who often mistreated them. It wasn’t till my brother was 6 that he was allowed to leave that house, and then had even more bad experiences in a corrupt orphanage where we adopted him at 14, my sister having a very similar story. And yes, he’s changed a ton since then and has made a lot of progress. I just think it’s not really possible to become fully normal once you’ve been through something like that.
@@Aqremstop taking charity cases then O white savior. No one wants it.
While it’s sad to see people who go through this trauma, they should at least start appreciating the ones that are kind and adopted them out of pure love
For anyone wondering, the movie is called Instant Family. I've seen it and its pretty good, would definitely recommend 👍
where is ellie from? like what nationality
Thank you!!🎉❤
American/ Peruvian @@sophroniel
Thanks. I was looking for this comment. 👌🏻
Oh my bad I thought it was Mary Kate and Ashley’s Double Trouble (1996)
Parenting tip: Be Calm and Rational. Accusations and punishment is usually not the best way to get your point across.
They were right to be upset but handled it in a way that confirmed (in her mind) to that troubled teen that they were no different
You feel your temper rising takes deep and slow breaths.
No, set boundaries and a precedent. Things like this always reoccur if you don't shut it down the first time. By simply speaking and stuff they showed her that that shit was debatable. What they should have done was let her walk away and when she comes back they tell her to leave her phone on the table and go to her room. More disobedience equals more punishment.
@@I_hv_no_brains...shes a foster child away from her parents more discipline and she wouldve ran away for here REAL mom
@@Changesooon Her mum didn't want her. She'd come to her senses kids are not stupid. If you set a punishment you tell them to reflect on their actions. If you don't you don't stress that their actions are actually bad
I saw this before a few long!I like it!
Seeing as the kid has dealt with abuse previously, I don’t think that she’s being bratty. I think she doesn’t believe these people can be better than her last guardians, and she’s self-sabotaging so they don’t get the chance to hurt her.
It’s not about the grounding, it’s about escaping before what she thinks happens after the grounding. Besides those parents are acting like they have authority when it seems like they just met the kids, like they’re saints just because they’re not abusive.
Edit: Sorry if I implied that trauma excused her behavior, because it doesn’t. It’s an explanation, not an excuse. What I meant was that she is not like some entitled rich white girl throwing a fit for attention, I was just saying this is classic trauma-survivor behavior. It’s still bad behavior.
Of course she's being bratty. You're allowed to feel sympathy for them and also acknowledge that they are being garbage, on purpose, for no legitimate reason. Trauma can be the origin of her behaviors, but it's not an excuse for them. Child are being a shit and doesn't seem to care that she'll bring her siblings down with her. And that's the nastiest part. If it was just you who could lose your home and you are acting out, you know, I respect a certain amount of emotion. She's just being a dick
But also these are not well-prepared Foster parents, any multi sibling foster home is a big commitment
Yeah they didn't need the grounding and the yelling, but making her feel seen. Chill w her grab a coffee go to the cinema w her, ofc she needs support
@@purrrrrrrplethe foster kids are only entitled to be not abused. The foster parents chose to be charitable and welcome the kids into their homes. They are doing the right thing by establishing boundaries. I don’t see why the foster kids deserve extra effort without earning it. Had a tough life is not a get out of jail card. She made her bed now she has to lay in it.
She’s very selfish tho, she can’t swallow her pride and let her siblings live a good life, she just wanted to be able to do what whatever.
I understand that shes dealing with this because her last guardians were horrible and stuff but those poor dang parents😭
Please don't say that, it's the same as cursing
Unless you’ve been separated from your family either through foster or adoption then you have no clue where the teenager is coming from. I was adopted at 3 and despite having a great home and parents and a happy childhood, there is definitely identity issues and abandonment issues and longing for knowing my birth mother more before she passed away - she died pretty young at 45. It’s not always something we can control
Coming from a bad place doesn't give anyone the right to bad behavior. Not everyone has been through a foster home but everyone eventually suffers loss. They were only looking out for her and she would've seen that if she weren't so selfish.
I was adopted as well at the age of 9 and im 24 now and i still believe there is absolutely no reason on gods green earth how someone can even remotely try to justify how acting out or being rebellious is excusable it isnt and nor should any parent put up with it.
@@rubylove8070 one major problem I also found is most people who've been in foster homes BELIEVE they have it worse than everyone else and always want others to pitty them. Majority of people are fighting their own demons everyday, very few people have it smooth. Stop focusing on what you don't have but rather what you have. Don't focus on who you were yesterday, but who you want to be tomorrow and make sure the you today is doing what it takes to get there. Keep pushing.
Their is no good justification acceptable for treating good parents bad like this. If I was as blessed as you or the girl in the movie. I would show a good deal of respect and gratitude. Not hurt them and cause drama. Then again I am not a female.
@@zikondenyirenda no one said it was an excuse. But it seems you don’t understand psychology.
so usefull thank u so much
She may have been in loosely run homes prior to this. A home with actual rules may be a new thing to her.
Prior to this she was with her crackhead mom and was playing mom to her siblings so she's used to being the authority figure having an actual authority figure who actually tries to parent is not something she's used to
She acts more like a parent that those two adults. No wonder she doesn't respects their attempts at controlling her
@@jankom.7783 control? Lol its normal. This is why 10 years olds can walk all over adults in US. You let them act like animals with no concequence
She didnt... the kids just trusted her more cause she is their sister and they are strangers. At the end of the day, the girl was still just a dumb teenager (like they all are) acting grown up.
Minors need rules. @@jankom.7783
@@jankom.7783they are putting simple rules in place, not controlling her
The pain is understandable, but they are obviously a good family and just cause they ground you and don’t allow you to what you want doesnt make them bad. Even if you don’t like them, why risk getting you siblings sent back into a situation you know is way worse just so you can run the streets with a newfound freedom?
Trauma response. They were also not fit to be foster parents yet considering how they handle the situation by yelling and trying to immediately issue consequences while the emotions were still high
Did u even watch the movie? This girl has went through a lot and it’s hard for her to feel like anybody would love her after all that. Her mom was using and would leave home for weeks, causing her to have to babysit for her younger siblings when she was practically a child herself. Her foster parents (the muskies) was also just taking care of them for the money and couldn’t care less abt them. She’s self sabotaging to go back to her birth mom because it was less scary to go back to a crappy but familiar situation than to open up to a couple of strangers you think didn’t actually want you.
@@lunasmissingshoes5372plus, how you gonna go straight to grounding. it’s like they couldn’t wait to have control over someone. you never go straight to grounding especially cause they barely know each other
@@ThatsTheTea111”Straight to grounding” as if that was the worst punishment that could be done. Look consider yourself lucky you never had to deal with anything else.. Grounding is a pretty baseline punishment.
@@MrTypicalPlayerwell, you also have to think that they have not proved themselves to be actual safe people, the kid just sees it as strangers desperate to have some control over her. Just because they have custody legally doesn't mean they automatically just act like parents and the kids view them as such.
that ‘can you deal with her Pete?!’ before immediately being not allowed to deal with her is so real …
She doesn't see how lucky and privileged she is 😢❤
I loved this movie. The oldest kid was just like my oldest sister. I was in foster care from ages 5-18. It's a great comedy movie that both calls out issues, and uplifts the people involved in the system. It's called Instant Family, and sadly the kids situation is pretty average.
I really like the part where they reached out to the older couple who adopted a gril who grew up to have drug problems. When she got slapped and told to be there just for their adopted kids like biological kids. (I think? Something like that it was alont time ago 😅) people don't think about that side of adoption. Or they think it's until they're 18 and that's it, which is crazy to me
@@I_love_ur_dadwhats the movie called
@@trxpbubblezit says in the original comment 💀 it's called instant family
I was in foster care and it’s really easy to lose trust in people. Some of the kids I watched go in and out of homes would tell me crazy stories abt how people would just take the money for themselves and basically say fuck you to the kids. Sad that some people are like that but there are good people in the system. I was fortunate enough to go to a good family for a bit and they treated me very good despite me treating them like shit. I feel bad and one day I’ll give them a gift of appreciation but this just reminds me that most of the time, foster kids are forming independence and survival skills for themselves and only themselves and when others try to help, they tend to react aggressively.
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I really can't even imagine the feeling of regretting your own behaviours young. You are amazing
The good foster parents know this about their kids…you were just trying to survive without great survival skills. I really hope you have been able to make a nice life for yourself.
I love this movie so much it makes me cry every time. A fathers love is something special
This movie is underrated and deserves to be called a classic
"Can you deal with her please? "
"Hey lizzy, you-"
"WE'RE REALLY GOOD PEOPLE"
"Really...?"
Edit: y'all missed the joke man, the joke was that the mom asked the dad to deal with their daughter but before he could say anything, she cut him off
Says a person who has never parented teenagers
@@almccue7176 wtf is you saying? That shit has nothing to do with my comment
@@almccue7176
Are you the person that doesn't remember being a reasonable teenager with unreasonable parents? They exist.
@@elizebeths.8880 I think you got that flipped. You must have meant reasonable parents and unreasonable teenager.
Yeah, if you have to tell the person that then I question that too.
Blud did not hear a single word she said😢
All I heard from her were irresponsible brat noises
He did put it down tho 😆
Do you think we're gonna win the Euros?
For anyone who doesn't know what the movie is called it's called instant family
Thanks👍
This is a movie right? If it is can you tell me the name thank you
-gets grounded
-calls cps
This reminds me of the foster parents I had before I aged out lol sometimes we have to learn the hard way. But I will say most of us will come back if it’s a good home (I know I did and I still do to this day) this hit home for me 💖
We got Dora arguing with this one
Ive seen this movie, and i want to watch it again, can someone remind of the name of it
The nail gun going off like that is such a movie thing..😂😂
I understand where shes coming from growing up my parents were abusive sometimes i still get scared when my parents fight but yes i agree with everyone i think shes got a good family
If you watched the movie, which i dont think this person did judging by the title, you'd know that the foster parents were actually really nice, bought them nice toys and let them paint their rooms, there were a bunch of sweet moments. It's just that the girl here really wanted to live back with her mother, who wasn't in a good state to take care of her kids. It ended very nice I enjoyed watching it.
The movie is instant family btw
@@xK4R4xomg ily
This is such a great movie. As an adoptive mom, it hits on a lot of issues that kids who have been through a lot have.
movie name??!?!?!??!
There is a nice kid out there who would be actually grateful
You clearly have no idea about how trauma works lol
@@leeknowswhatleeknows0 there is a kid out there who have less trauma
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I was In foster care from 3months old until the day before I turned 22yrs old. It’s so much shit ppl don’t know about kids and the system of foster care. Went thru hell. But thank god I turned out to be a decent human being in the long run
22??
@@ebonyeverything2751 yes. Called a board extension so at 17-18yrs old you and your case worker have a meeting and see if you want/need the board extension which if you opt into it, they help you finance college if you want to go to school and they also help you with housing. You receiver foster care services until you graduate college or decide to just leave foster care earlier. The day before you turn 22 everything is done
The name of the movie is Instant Family
I love this movie so much! I feel so bad for Lizzy but at the same time she needed to learn that she isn't an adult
this is my comfort movie. it gives me everything i have ever wanted from my own family. see the movie before making assumptions.
What is it called & what can I watch it on?
Fr?
@@kamyra8160 its called instant family. its on netflix.
@Paislayluvsyou instant family
@@kamyra8160 instant family and im pretty sure ull find it in netflix
Optimus Prime : I had the same thing with Bumblebee
I knew I'd find this 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is easily one of the best movies I've seen in recent times. I havent felt like that in a long time.
What’s the name ?
Why is nobody talking about what the boy was holding in his hand and then he let it drop off his hands
Why she made it about race just because they grounded her for not doing the responsible thing
And tried to get them arrested too fuckin hell
Brown people are jealous of whites
A lot of white ppl have a white savior complex which is why they adopt children of color
She said she was calling her case worker, which is a social worker. That's not the police. Nor would a case worker come in and take the kids back like the repo man with furniture. Frankly that's the most responsible thing she could have done as the case worker would come in to troubleshoot what was going wrong.
@@damonchen8606 Why'd you ignore the first part of his question? Also, no, threatening to call CPS is NOT responsible. Responsible would be to understand and cooperate with minimal structural rules. They want her to tell them where she's going. How in the Hell is that bad? It's actually IRRESPONSIBLE of her to waste CPS's time and jeopardize her siblings' health and safety because she couldn't handle a few rules. In all honesty, she seems plenty old enough to understand complicated ideas and notions like boundaries. Instead, she makes threats so she can get what she wants. And no amount of trauma allows for her to act like a racist jerk. I'm glad she turns around in the movie, but here, nothing she does is defendable.
@@DaxOrien babe reading comprehension 😭 calling her personal caseworker is not the same as calling CPS and making a report.
My foster mum told me once if the kids aren’t willing to work with you, you can’t help them
As a teacher I think that you can make children want to work with you using positive reinforcement. I have done that before.
@@moonlightcreator7472 That’s not true for many kids that are traumatized (as a teacher for of students with emotional trauma including foster care) Positive reinforcement is 100% necessary, but won’t in and of itself cut it. And yes, there are some students that can’t be helped in a classroom setting. For some kids, you can only make a dent in their behavior, but they have so much toxicity from their past and their family members, (which doesn’t go away just because they’re in foster care), there’s only so much you can do. And some kids have such destructive behavior, they will make it impossible for a classroom or a family (that contains other children) to function. They need an environment dedicated solely to managing them.
@Catlady-mw4en This^^ As a person who has been in foster care, and know people who foster, everyone has to work together, including the child.
I watched a friend in foster care got better placement completely self destruct. He was so confident that this would be his last placement since he was going to age out of the system in a year and change that this wouldn't make a difference. He had his foster parents robbed and on 2 occasions They were assaulted due to trying to protect him.He's now in jail.
I remember watching this movie when I was younger! I don't remember the first scene tho but I have bad memory
What movie is this
@@Fr13ndly_gh0stzit’s called instant family
Instant family @@Fr13ndly_gh0stz
@@Fr13ndly_gh0stz it's called instant family
@@Fr13ndly_gh0stzinstant family
What is this from?
she mad she not a power ranger anymore
I think it was becky g in power rangers not her
No, that's Becky G. This one is Isabela Merced she plays Dora in the Live Action.
Movie or show name pls
Instant family .. movie
@@Weworkingnetworkty
If anyone is wondering the movie is called instant family on prime video
For any one wondering what the movie is called it’s called instant family hope this helped
Dude. This movie was actually pretty good. And really wholesome
Whats the name
@@yahboipa_ontopInstant Family
Instant Family
her demons aren’t allowing her to settle down and that’s exactly what she needs, a good home with loving parents. great acting
I would love to have caring parents like that...!!!
What is this show/movie called
whenever i see mark wahlberg in movies i think "oh that's Kade Yeager" lol
Movie name: Instant Family
Juan got Juan in the foot rip
Face
The trigger hit his foot
Film name?
Let me guess, the nail gun somehow triggered
Probably lol😭…
Wonder if it hurt
It did indeed
Yes
There are or were automatic nail guns, when lock off it would trigger when pressed against something. I guess his foot has nail i. It
I watched this movie and this girl kinda made me mad. I get that she was raised in a bad home as a kid but you can’t get all mad when you get out into an actual good home with rules and boundaries
That's just not how trauma, trust issues and self preservation works.
It is unfortunately it's just extremely difficult,the hard option it's Plato's/some other smart fu kers cave alagory they get close to the light but default to what they/others know asa a protection mechanism everything is decided by choice including addictions you either choose to fight it or you allow it to control you @@kishinumaayumi
@@kishinumaayumias someone with all of the above, I totally agree with this comment. She's old enough to take charge of her own life and actions. You can't blame other people's bad behavior towards you for your entire life.
@@kishinumaayumi Same here. Had a very very shitty childhood and many terrible things happend. But i would never be rude to someone who is kind
What's the name of this,movie
Such an amazing movie! My favorite! It’s funny, heartwarming and accurate!
Name???
“Can you talk to her Pete”
“Lizzy we-“
*interrupts*
Cade Yeager from transformers 4 and 5
Just saying
I grew up in foster care and i absolutely hated it them people didn't care about me well some of them
In the Movie it was the kids that were horrible and not the parents the were just done with their bs
They should probably do away with foster care and put all their time and energy into adoption. If you pay people to “take care of the kids” bad people are going to take advantage of it
I hope you’re doing ok now
Seems they did care, you are alive, are not you?
@@USAads2023this comment shows a level of ignorance that tells me you don’t deserve kids
I don’t trust anyone who SAYS “we’re really good people” tbh. Like if you have to SAY you’re a good person then your actions probably don’t
Instant family, such a good movie