Some sort of divine intervention in viewing your video just now. At 71 I am losing my health and fight every day just to endure the hours. I have gone from an outgoing fun person to a recluse. My mind and spirit cry out to be who I am inside myself but the bod won't cooperate. Thus I live vicariously watching your video thru my tears for some needed solace...😢😢❤
Anxiety is a big problem for seniors. I believe it’s from loneliness. Your kids have their own lives and hardly call you . Sometimes I go days without a phone call. I go to town sometimes just to be around people and it makes me feel better.
I am 75 and I understand what you're feeling... I have family all around me children and grandchildren and they are busy with their lives just as I was at their age.... Sitting here waiting for them to call me or come to see me is really unreasonable.... So I get out a couple of times a week, and I stopped by to see one of my grandchildren, or one of my children.... Maybe I will get a cup of coffee or tea and some light conversation.... After all we love to talk about ourselves so that's how I find out what's going on in their lives.... I feel good and they feel good.... Then once every month or two we all get together for a barbecue or dinner or lunch... You see they don't visit me because they are busy with their, and I'm not busy so I go to see them❤
Mentally preparing myself for the day when my kids are too busy for me! I 🙏 they lead full and happy lives. We live together for a relatively short period, and comes a time to let them live their own lives. I really have no desire for them to ever feel guilty. ❤
@@jayemowrey1416 So very true. I think we forget when we were younger, working and raising our children our lives were very busy and now it's their turn and their lives are very busy. As a mother and grandmother we should be the ones reaching out to spend time with our families and appreciating and enjoying anytime we spend with them. 👪💜
I'm in the position you were in and I'm hoping all goes well and I get my happiness and peace after the divorce. Can't wait to be away from all the anger and toxic vibes. I'm happy for you.
At age 69 I'm still working full-time because I have to, but I work at an elementary school which gives me more than a paycheck. Every day I hear from children who just say hi Miss Judy or ask me to help them with schoolwork. So every day I know how much they value my presence in their school and that brings so much happiness to my life! Thank you Susan for the reminder that even though we may be older in years we are always young at heart and just want to be loved!
Important to remember that a lot of us who are seniors don't have family left. That is grief and sadness in and of itself. As a solo senior it is an extra challenge.
I love to watch your videos. My oldest daughter died 8 years ago at age 42.She had breast cancer. Two years later, my Mother died. My dogs have kept me going. I talk to them just as you talk to Desi.
Barbara you have had such loss. Please know that I am in Michigan thinking of you. I think those of us that follow Susan are sisters of the soul. We just don't get to meet. I too love my furkid/dog. She brings me such joy. Sending you love and keeping you in my heart. -Sue in Michigan
Although I don't know you, I am thinking of you at this minute and how it may feel to lose a child. May your heart heal and be filled with peace and tranquility. Lots of best wishes sent to you from the other side of the world.
Susan, I make a scrap book about my life and I realized that I had a great life; even I lost my husband at the age of 28. I was a widow with 4 kids, but now at 67 if I feel lonely I look at my scrap book and those memories bring me joy and satisfaction. So, I put on my makeup like you show us, put an smile and go shopping. 🙂 A kiss for Desy ❤ Thank you!
Hi Raquel, I am a widow since 2018. Married 41 years. I am 73. I am a therapist for over 35 years. I am a part of my church’s Widow’s ministry. It is filled with widows of all ages. I don’t mean to ask a personal question. You were such a young widow. My heart goes out to young widows with children. That had to be hard. I hope you had a good support system. I was just wondering if you ever married again? I have noticed some widows never marry again.
I'm a retired educator, so I focus on my children's education, I did have a relationship and got pregnant and have another son, but I realized that my children didn't need a negative role model so No I didn't get married, I'm still single and happy. My reward is that all my five children completed collage and they are having a great life. Praise the Lord.
Thank you Susan. I am 69 and have lived alone for years now. I used to look forward to getting out even for a short shopping trip. Now I seem to put these tasks off for as long as I can. I like being home. However I do find that being home too much is depressing no matter how much you love your place. I always feel better after walking the dog or sitting by the lake I live near. But there is something about being around people even strangers that makes us feel part of the community I think. We need contact with others. It doesn't need to be a long or meaningful interaction, just a few words will lift us up.
I too am struggling like many others. I am 71 and filled with grief because my husband has Alzheimers. We only have each other- no children. I'm so lonely while I'm sitting by his side because he isn't who I've known for 50 years. I hope that I will find a way to feel more hope in my life. I miss my family, friends that have now moved away and most of all my husband. Thanks for listening.
So sorry for what you are dealing with. I have learned that "alone" is actually ALL ONE when broken apart or one with God so you are never alone! Prayers for your husband and for you. Sending you a huge hug and so much love! xoxo Debbie
I'm so sorry you are going through this, Iris. I am your age, 71--and live alone. I wish I was your neighbor, and could visit with you and become friends. One day your husband will be restored to fullness, it's a comfort for the future--but I know it doesn't help you now. Stay strong sister...better days are ahead. Blessings to you and your husband. ♥
When you dont have family, friends dont call anymore, you care for an aging husband who is depressed and ill. I haven’t been out for a meal or anything but twice in 3 years. I try and keep my chin up but cleaning and hard work is my life. My husband and I never had a good relationshio. He likes to watch tv, play on the computer and rarely speaks to me. I am very social. Love to laugh. Go places. He never did. Now he has an even better reason than all the others to isolate me. I am stuck in another country and alone. There is no lady at Walmart. I live in a small town on the sea. My life is at a dead end. There is no way to fix it now. I have two little doogies Thank you for a great video. Your channel helps me with my lonliness Susan. Thank you. ❤
My eighty year old mother complains bitterly of being lonely. But she has several friends and is on the phone with all the others every single day. She goes to lunch, to movies, to activities. She is far more social than any woman over fifty that I know. It’s sad that loneliness surrounds her in spite of having all kinds of people in her life. That’s when I knew I couldn’t fix her loneliness. If we visit her twice a week, she says it should be three. If it’s five, it should be six. I say all this because I want people to know other people’s loneliness sometimes is not fixable, and to not feel burdened by it. Some just live in that place mentally and somehow use it to their advantage. Odd but true.
What you stated is very true and I'm glad that you did more people need to understand this...... I am 75 and I know a lot of women that are just like your mother... You see their cup is half empty not half full.... It's the poor me syndrome, and most that have it have had it for many many years.... No you cannot fix it! Just remind her you love her and you're glad to see her... I know her negative comments are an attempt to bring you down but you keep your smile and your sunshine❤
I am wondering if your mom always wanted more time, more attention, so forth when she was young. If so, it’s a personality disorder. I mean no disrespect, but hoping to help you with the feeling of never being able to do or give enough. Praying for you.
Thanks for sharing ❤ I love your style. I have to make people smile. Tools love it. ❤️ yes embrace ❤ Live the moment as your last. ❤ Safe and a warrior. ❤ strong ❤️ Thank you dear one. Never felt strong but I'm starting to do now ❤😊
Ok I am convinced you are looking in my windows! Absolutely relatable. I turn 60 in a month. I used to "own the room" and now I am the worn wallper. So please know that by your content and insight, you are helping many people! I never feel lonely when you are singing my song!✌🏼💛😊
I'm going to be 70 in a few days. The greatest thing I have learned in life is: Find something to be truly thankful for, even if it's the air that you breathe. Being thankful drives away every negative that is possible. It brings positivity and more things to be thankful for.❤❤ Try it.
@@jenniestacy1466 I’ll be 70 on the 12th. So many health issues and immobility past 3 years but will try to be thankful and have a gratitude attitude. Happy Birthday to you.
There will come a time, for me very soon, when all the people who knew me when I was young, will be gone. No one will remember me when I was little. What I was like. How I looked when I was young and pretty. They will only know the old lady who can barely stand before them. I am almost there. It is very sad.
Lovely video, I would love a piece of that cake. My husband died a couple of mths. ago. Often feel lonely, but shake myself out of mood, by gardening. I have a lovely lady next door who comes over with her dog every afternoon at 4pm for an hour. Go shopping, just to be around people. Visit some friends occasionally, don't really like burdening people. I read, go on the computer, ring a friend. I'm 78 and fortunately have my own home & healthy. Life is good, but different.
Hi from NC love your comments. I’m 75 still working taliking to coworkers & mu hubby daily. Very blessed but I have a 51 yr old son that had a stroke right before Christmas last year. I miss the old person he was now he can’t remember the last time I talked to him. Live can be sad at any age. We should all remember to be thankful for each minute! God Bless! Ann Holt
💕Thank you for this, Susan. Can I say, for me, I live alone (divorced after 35 years five years ago) aged 67. First thing I learned - it’s a “couples” world out there. During the divorce my neighbors quit inviting me to functions, and I haven’t been to a movie or out to lunch since moving here to be close to my grandchildren. They have their own lives, and it’s nice when they invite me along, but they aren’t my age. I left my previous home and state and thought I could ‘start over’- but I also learned old people have their “clicks” just like we did in high school!! Do any of your viewers experience the same type of being lonely - being single and excluded from couples’ activities. Makes for a lonely, isolation. God bless you all🦋🌸💗
Oh I feel this so much, the Cliches! It simply never ends. I have now given up on trying to make friends. We attended a pig roast tonight at the resort we live at, we sat at a table, by ourselves. Eventually several people asked to join us and it was nice. Much younger. But as I looked around, it was the usual cliches, all together. Never inviting new folks, never reaching out. I’m so over it.
Yes, I also divorced after 35 years and late sixties a few years ago. Everyone disappeared. I make attempts and reach out yet it is very clear I am not wanted. I accept that now and focus on myself and learning, classes, reading, etc. I feel very alone and isolated , I have no children. It is very difficult. I took care of my elderly mother and enjoyed doing that yet I have no one at this time in my life. 🌺 We will keep moving forward and discover what there is for us now.
@@wildhorses6817 I’m sorry. Your doing a lot of good things to ease the loneliness. I do have children, 5 adults, their partners and 9 grandchildren. It is a real blessing, but and I say this carefully, it dosnt replace what we women seem to need. Adult female companionship. I cannot talk to my children about many things.
Hi, ur right it is a couple's world. I experienced some of these same things. My suggestion is( I mean this in a kind way) you make the first move. Invite a friend or two over for coffee, movie night, play cards, volunteer, take a class, etc. Hope this helps❤
Yes, I agree. It does feel like a "couples" world. It actually upsets me as "couples" are still treated like the "norm" ... yet there are so many people living as a single person. If you're not a couple then somehow you're looked upon as lacking. It's that feeling of experiencing exclusion that can be so hurtful. But I'm determined to make my life special and meaningful!! Although it is challenging, (I live in an "over 50's" housing complex) I try to make the first effort of inviting someone over or out for coffee and then chatting and getting to know them. This can lead to wonderful friendships - it does seem that we, ourselves, have to make the effort to reach out though, but I have found this sometimes so wonderfully surprising as to the lovely, understanding friendships this can lead to. ❤ There is the opportunity to have a few different and special types of friendships at this time of our lives ...if we can just scrape the energy together to do the reaching out! 😊
To paraphrase Carl Jung: Loneliness isn’t the physical absence of other people, it’s the sense that you’re not sharing anything that matters with anyone else. And that’s it for me. I miss being #1 in somebody’s life. I miss being able to run home and share something funny or sad. I miss that connection.
My mom is 82 and lonely, shes alone. She refuses to move in with her kids so she stays alone at home with no working car. Im driving 900 miles to visit her next weekend. Thank you Susan and Desi for always being there for all of us💕🙏
I think older people are experiencing what I am calling pandemic fallout. The pandemic isolated the entire world but the older people were even more isolated because many of them were dealing with higher risks due to compromised immune systems from other health issues and could not risk going anywhere, having family in their home, go to see family, anything. So the fallout occurs when a habit was formed by the older people themselves, by their family and by their friends. We were all forced into no physical contact and it became a way of life, a habit. This is a habit that needs to be broken because people, specifically for this comment, older people are suffering. And are still afraid, for their health, the isolation, not seeing anybody, not seeing family. We need to break this habit, get over the fear and proceed with our lives as it was before 2020. There are people I know who are ill that do not have these options but time to think outside of the box to help them as well. I would encourage everybody to call your loved ones, call a friend you know is alone, ask if you can stop by and have a cup of coffee. Go see your grandparents if you are lucky enough to still have them. Make PLANS….Break that habit. Thanks Susan! T ✌🏻 💗
We have so much in common ! I too am 68 years old, live alone and just bought an almost tiny house , 8 hours from where I used to live. Where I moved to is not a very pretty town, but I have family here, and it makes all the difference ! When I get lonely, I go thrifting too, read a book, take myself out for lunch or even dinner...smile at the cashier and make THEM smile, because they may be lonely too. Oh and for sure, I watch inspiring videos, and that's how I met you ! You are now my friend, even though you never met me. Take care, and see you again soon 😊❤
I'm 73, and the only time in my life that I've been lonely was from age 24 to 32, when I was married. So many people told me I would be lonely if I didn't remarry, but I only dated a few times after I divorced. My son is 43, so I've lived by myself for 25 years. I love my life. I still teach school.
Susan, your thoughts on loneliness are special as women our age battle it daily. We have lived long lives and realize there are more years behind us than in front of us. I get out of my house every day. I go to the YMCA, Walmart, ladies Bible study, and yes, it’s an effort! It seems to take me a lot longer to make myself “presentable!” And yes- it’s been a long time since I “owned the room” ! But I remember the days when I did- when I was young and beautiful and did not realize it. I wish I could tell that young woman that life is hard and you will have troubles but you will survive. BYW, being around people and smiling and talking to them makes you feel so good! Also, I write notes and letters to my friends. It is almost as good as sharing a cup of tea together! And I know it cheers them up to find a personal note in the mailbox with the bills! Thank you so much for your posts. Keep them coming! We need you!❤😂❤❤🎉
I take a look at all the positive things that come with being alone. Staying in the present and looking forward to the new learning experiences of tomorrow. @@kcampbell867
Today, I finally made a decision that I would go out and walk at craft fair with my daughter and granddaughter. It gave me a break for my sanity. No thinking of terminally ill husband. I understand why people tell me to go shopping or to the library by myself. I learned how to get the oil changed on our car at 63 yrs. old! I’m not helpless, I just never had a chance to learn. Still have not learned how to get car washed, but it’s on my list to learn. All I can say I’m doing the best I can. I was disabled by fibromyalgia at 50 years old. That was heartbreaking losing a job I loved………one day at a time now……
I understand how you feel...I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia at the age of 56. Its not easy but learning the right diet and exercises to do...each year got better. Little trips out can give a person a different outlook. 😊💖
Thank you for addressing this subject. I saw a video on youtube called "Single Creek". It's Christian based. From it I realized that though we are single we can still be a blessing to other's. I think that's key. We sit around wanting the blessings when we should be "Being the Blessing". So, to that end I decided to start a single lady's group at church. Not to find a man but to be a blessing to our community and each other. And I got such great feedback. I was kind of shocked. But very pleased at the same time. You know, when your busy it's kind of hard to be lonely. The other thing is we need physical touch. Part of my group thing is going to be hugs. Why not. Any way just thought I'd put my two cents in...
I'm a 66 year-old, certified shiatsu therapist, & learned through a Q'i Gong master/energy healer that eight hugs a day can help your immune system stay healthy, so when you invite the people in your group to hug, if they will share "hugs-on-both-sides," with four people, then they will have hugged eight times that day! Best wishes with gathering members of your support group. What a great idea! Oh, and -- here's one more thought -- if you live in a locale that offers community education classes, it might be helpful for your group to take a course in self-shiatsu together! There are lots of ways that we each can nurture & balance our energetic bodies, & self-shiatsu, as well as simple shiatsu techniques shared between friends, can be a kind & pleasant gift of time together!
I moved to FL from up North and am always moved by how patient Publix is with seniors. Whether it’s counting money or coupons or walking them to their car with an umbrella and raincoat when a surprise rainstorm happened. I’m a little younger and was usually in a hurry there, but now I see how important the interaction is and am moved to tears sometimes.
Hello, I, too, am in Florida. I also find Publix to be kind. isn't Susan just wonderful! I came upon her video about 4 months ago. And that little Dezi is the cutest with his under bite!.
Hi Susan, I had two good examples of how to age. Both my Grandmothers were widows at an early age and lived into their nineties. One Grandmother lost an eye and was almost blind. She walked and went out every day. Her life was so full. My other Grandmother has arthritis very bad, but did gardening almost every day and canned fruit. I am in my seventies and stay very active. My Grandmothers showed me how to age when I was very young and I live the example they set.
I am a retired cashier at Walmart. I'm handicapped and lonely, probably not as lonely as others, because I do have my husband. Your little story about the cashier brought back so many memories of what I used to call " holy moments". Connecting with my customers with a sometimes very deep conversation fed my soul and theirs too. Thanks for reminding me of those wonderful moments years ago.
I don't think I've left a comment before. I call your channel my "Little Corner Of Joy." You cheer me up. The topic of Loneliness is something I suffer from. I am 68, though everyone thinks I'm maybe 50. That's nice, I suppose, but people don't see the "Inside" of me, which is a very lonely 68 year old woman. I don't have family and though I'm a friendly person, I haven't been able to make friends here. Nevertheless, I always smile at people. I am very polite and kind. I act this way because my motto is: "be the Light you'd like to see in the World." I think that one day I will move to a more charming little town where I can sit in a coffee shop or browse in a cute store (these don't exist here) and on that day I'll be reminded fondly of you and Desi. Warmest regards. Rachel
I'm going through so much of this struggle with loneliness....I keep my current schedule and responsibilities because I fear if I don't, I will be home with nothing to do really alone as my Daughter is so very busy with her family and no time for me... I fear I would go mad....Thank you for discussing this so important topic!!! Many blessings to you and your beautiful doggie..I swear he keeps getting 🥰 cuter!!
This was a beautiful video this week. Your little Desi is so adorable! Loneliness is taking over my life. I recently turned 70 and I have no one my age to relate to. My son and his family live 3 hours away. He only calls 4 times a year. I have no transportation so I am pretty much a recluse. Your weekly videos bring such joy and I love the thrifting you do.Thrifting use to be a passion of mine. Thank you for the joy you bring. I feel like you visit every week just to bring that joy to me.
Please don't lock yourself away in your home. Please check out senior centers, churches or other local organizations for ways to volunteer. Many churches have volunteers that will drive you places or provide outings with transportation. Each city/county is required to have public transportation or have some type of voucher program for taxis. if you truly can't leave the house, then volunteer to be a daily caller to a senior/disabled person. Again, churches are a great resource for finding opportunities without having to be an actual member of the church. It does take some effort to find these programs, but it can be done.
I am 68 now. I retired about 6 months ago. Those I saw daily, I don’t now. I realized I would have to adjust by finding other groups to join, but there still is a lot of time to manage. Then, I lost a very good friend to cancer last month. I lost another girlfriend in the summer of 2022. The knowledge of their loss has changed me. I am a fighter... I decided to be healthier and have lost 40 pounds. I have more to lose. I have joined two church groups, I have renewed interests, began a hobby or two, I am trying to change my hair and make up that is suitable now, and have purged my house. I probably need to purge more items, too. Regardless of moving forward and finding a new way, I get stuck. There will be a day or two that I grieve. Grieve for my friends and coworkers. I will then try to realize it, accept the changes, and then try to find more... a walk, maybe? Or organize a time to go for coffee with a friend. Or start to read a new book. It's up to me. It's in my power.
Dezi is so stinking ute!!!! You are so blessed to have a man in your life as a friend. I guess they give us security. Ya you owned it girl! I owned it. Dancing and winning skate contest in the 70s, disco skating and hip hugger bell bottoms I lived the disco life, and I fed on the craziness. Now though, I have lost all that "party" mania. I'm 65 and I am alone after 48 years, and yes I have that 16 year old within me, Bee Gees Yes.!!!! I love you Susan. Thank you for all you implant in my life.
@cat2ish~oh my gosh ur comment hit so close to my feelings! I was on the dance floor every Saturday night at the clubs when electro music was just getting popular! I felt like “ I owned it” many a night. My “club” is now my home! I dance and have lights that pulse to the music’s beat! I miss the feeling of being on the dance floor having the time of my life! But I have great memories 🎶🎼🎵💃🤗🙏
I don’t isolated myself… I did for a little bit when my husband died in 2014, but I have a huge family and wonderful grandchildren who check in on me to make sure I am ok.. I lost my friend and neighbor of 20 years…she did pass on Wednesday night and I am very sad but as my daughter pointed out to me, I was the first one that she called and the last phone call she made and that did make me feel better.. I had been feeling guilty about missing her phone call that morning she had her massive stroke ..today I spent the day over my granddaughters boyfriends mothers house on the lake. It was wonderful. I never met her before, but she included me which I thought that was great. Long day. I am tired. I had to take Otis out, and there he was waiting on the chair for me❤❤ and tomorrow I have church, and I will be with my extended church family, who treat me like one of their own❤
Hello Susan, you make me feel not so lonely. I am so glad I found your channel, I feel more valued now after your talks about so many topics. It is so hard to feel loved when you don’t love yourself!!!!! I realize that to get love I have to start loving me at 72. I can’t depend on my 2 children to find time to call me or come over to see me even if we live only 20 minutes away. Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel your pain as my son live about 2 minutes away and he don't have time to see us or call. It's the new generation they just have no time . One day they will be old too.
@@anneboucher509 it is so sad, thank goodness I called my parents and later my Mom after Dad passed away and visited once a week. I have all the memories of them that my children will not have.
I guarantee when you walk into a room you have alot of swag. You have a presence that fills the room and you are an exceedingly good looking woman with a great personality. You are a show stopper, YES NOW TODAY AT 68! KEEP ROCKIN IT OUT.
I am finally admitting to myself that I am lonely. I've been living alone for the past 11 years and for the most part have enjoyed being in total control of my own life...making my own decisions, gardening, reading, watching British television and taking care of cats. But all of a sudden...I feel lonely. I find that I don't have as many friends as I used to and I do have anxiety. I'm afraid I have become agoraphobic. I know I need to find a group to join and get out more, but I'm struggling to figure out just which group I would enjoy. Thank you so much for your lovely videos. I look forward to them every week.
I love the way your home is decorated ,it reflex your kindness ,your love of beauty Honestly spending time with you is like sitting in Sunshine ,,you can’t help but feel peaceful and refreshed Thank you Susan 🙋♀️🫶🏻💕
Hi Susan and Desi...hey I just wanted to say I was watching your video's and commenting about last Nov. if not before but in Nov. my husband was diagnosed with cancer and is terminal. So we are fighting cancer on the daily. Many times I have watched your videos and wanted to say something but either a sad mood or no energy kept me from that. Just know I watch you when I can, always enjoy you and LOVE that little Desi...take care my friend.~Jodi
Good morning, I am a widow at the age of 58. No grandchildren but 6 children in my blended family. I am in my second year of Widow Hood. Not very many call or visit anymore. I feel very alone at times. I stumbled on Your YT, and I now know God led me to you. You encourage me, and I am going to start talking to people and getting out more. Life is not over, but it is so different. I decorated my house for the fall season yesterday. I have always enjoyed doing this, but for a moment I missed my husband telling me how beautiful it looked. I realized I am doing these things for me now. It looks beautiful, and I am so proud of myself. Thank you for all you do for the lonely. I feel hope again, and it's been a while since I felt that. God bless you and Desi 🙌 . BTW I have 3 dogs, and they love me unconditionally ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been widowed almost 20 years. It's a journey down a new road that no one wants to take. Your Autumn decor must look lovely. Blessings 🙌 to you 🌻🍁🍂🦋
@cherylmarshall6874 Thank you for the kind words. Your response was an answer to prayer this morning. Blessings to you, and I am sorry for your loss 🤲🩵💫
@@beckyeighmy5776 thank you Becky. I think that the second year is very difficult because it's the year of stark reality. Nothing is a shock. Some people expect that you're "ok by now". Have a Blessed Day 🙌 🌻🌻🌻
I’m thinking about the wonderful Walmart cashier and what you shared in regards to her comment. She’s a rare treasure especially with automation replacing so many opportunities for human connection whether it’s in person or on the phone. I have a dear friend in her mid 70’s with her 16 yr old heart still living big in her. She makes a point to compliment women in her age range and older (stranger or friend) on their outfits or hairstyle, etc… She told me she does this because older women get looked past, overlooked or flat out ignored. She helps them “own the room”again even if just for a moment. Thank you for this chat today that has reinforced in me the need to follow in my dear friend’s foot prints and help someone own the room in a small way. ❤
I agree totally with you Susan.. I find myself retreating lately, a bit of lack of confidence as you mentioned. No more! I'm getting back out there and meet some like-minded people. Thanks for your words, just what I needed. 🥰
I am 77,and lost my husband of 56 years,last year,I often feel sad ,I miss him so much,I’m sad for what he is missing out on too,he would have loved to see his precious granddaughter ,looking so proud ,starting high school last week.but I find the very best way to cope with loneliness,is to keep extra busy,I keep in touch with my family,enjoy each other,laugh about little things,show love to each other,help out in any way I can .make cakes ,for family etc.I’ve joined a choir ,and now I do all the gardening,which was my husbands beloved hobby.I keep surprising myself all the time now by what I’m able to achieve.I tell myself I’m lucky to still be here still able to be a little bit..I am more than blessed to be growing older,with reasonable health.I am going to make the most of my good fortune.
Also in addition to your dialogue....there is a division due to the long term effects of the plandemic for people when deciding to socialize or not. Many lonely people abound even more so now. . I would rather be alone than be with toxic individuals. The world has changed. I try to consciously exude kindness and love wherever I am no matter what. Desi is so adorable. I need to get a little doggie ,they are such good company.
Susan, this community here has really grown over the past few years. We women have so much in common! That alone, makes me feel better! Hello 👋 to everyone out there! We aren't crazy, we have so much wisdom from just living a full life of ups, downs and many experiences. Now as a widow, i need this type of a community more and more! Thanks Susan!
I totally agree! You and others make me feel part of something...I am not alone with my feelings and fears...I am so much stronger because we are all together here sharing!!!! Happy new week!!!!
I’m 65 now. I’ve travelled, I’ve gone, I’ve done for years and years. Now I want to stay home. I’m fine as I am. 😊 Hi Susan. 💕 Hi Desi! You sweet boy you never fail to make me smile.
Hi Susan, love it when you take us thrifting with you. I live in So Cal. and can tell you the pickin's are pretty lean! Havent seen anything close to what you can find in your area.. Note: When you are your own best friend, and you love to read, then lonely days are few and far between. The hardest part is having to let your adult children live their own lives.
Aunt Susan you are not alone . All of us need you as spiritual mother , wise friend , monitor. If need to be happy we will be your smiles because you go out of your way to make our lives beautiful. You taught us not to lose hope even when life seems bleak and hopeless so that you are not alone .
I always look forward to your videos on Saturday evening! I am in a season of my life that involves being a caregiver. My husband has lost his vision. It is hard to be so tied down. I have a little dog that I walk and it is so nice just to wave to neighbors and have a quick chat! Dogs are so much company. Love little Desi! So glad he is out of that closet and in the sunshine with someone who loves him!❤️
Wonder if your husband ever goes out on these walks, he must feel depressed at times. Perhaps doing some things together could help you both emotionally. I know it is very rough being a caregiver, God bless you both.
@@karendegraaf1146As nice as that sounds, taking an elderly blind man who has a history of falls for a walk in a neighborhood with no sidewalks is not recommended. We do sit outside when it is cool enough and we enjoy that. He does feel depressed at times, we both do. We are together 24/7, we enjoy our days as best we can. As a caregiver, my only outlet for myself is a 15 minute walk. I don’t think that’s asking too much.
I loved it when you said that aging is a burden and a responsibility to be the voice of those who didn't make it to this age. I think of this all the time. I am a 3-time cancer survivor and every day is a new day to be grateful for my life and for women like you, Susan.
Well Susan thanks for the tears this week. You really hit home. I hate to ask for help. I’ve always been a strong and independent woman but now I’m 70 and recovering from a knee replacement. It’s been horrible not being independent due to knee pain! My husband is still alive but has Alzheimer’s and lives in a home. However, I have booked a cruise at the end of October and another one at the end of January for my birthday. My sister has replaced my husband as my cruise partner. I’m going to go and get dressed up nice and drink a few drinks and talk to anybody that looks lonely. I might limp a bit but I’m going to try to spread some joy to someone lonely looking. Thanks you Susan and Desi.
YOU make me cry! You are beautiful and paying your life forward give me so much inspiration to do better!!! Love to you always, Susan & Desi ( do they allow dogs on a cruise?_
Susan, you are just beautiful inside and out! And Desi is just the most handsome pup! I look so forward to your video every Saturday! You have brought all of us together.
I had subscribed to your channel but I had seen a video from you for a while. I like many others have trouble falling asleep. Something made me get on my phone and I got to see this video on loneliness. You were spot on with everything you talked about. I am not the only one who's gotten older and thought that I was the only one feeling a little lost. Thank you for your channel and for talking about things that happens to most of us. I look forward to your next video.
I agree that you cannot ever kill love. My husband died when he was 48. I have never remarried and not a day goes by that I don't think of him in some way. I also agree I am still that 16 year old girl inside. I'll always be! Susan, you always say things that make me truly think deeply. Thank you and my love to Desi, also. I am in my 70's now and I still see the world thorough those 16 year old eyes a lot of times. I love being my age now, and I am so appreciated for each day! My summer petunias are almost gone now and I am already thinking of Christmas! We have a great big window in our home and we call it our Macey's window. Each year we decorate it so delightfully and fun, and people come by just to look at it. Have a wonderful week!
@deannabollo170 I just took some vit.C Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️ 💙 💜. Wish me luck. Got to finish my yard for winter today. Lots of work for one old lady. But I keep telling myself we can do this...bigggg HUGGGGS!!! Thanks again deannabollo!!!
I'm 43 years old. I'm not lonely. I'm blessed to have a full house of kids and a partner. I do wish for lonely time. I watch your videos and I love them. You such a beautiful woman and entertaining to watch. I kinda like the fact that you live alone with your doggie. This going to sound strange but I fantasize of having my own place, with all of me, in every corner, the way you have it. I'm not saying i'm unhappy because I'm not lonely but I do enjoy that part of your life. I been following you for years and it's my first time commenting lol Much love, Arlene
You reminded me that we who are still here are lucky because like Pasty Cline there are many who don’t have that privilege of growing old. It makes me want to do better and be better❤️
Susan I purchased Patsy Kline book after viewing your video! May we live our best life to the fullest no matter what how age🎉may we shower each other with kindness and comfort every day.
I am grateful now not to make a splash when I enter a room or need to feel seen by others. At 77, I am the tall, reedy, old hippie woman with long gray hair and simple, comfortable, hand made clothes who lives quietly, happily, creatively on my own after many beautiful years partnered. I “content myself” and find great pleasure in simple joys and speak cheerfully, playfully, kindly to every person I meet, happy to wear a smile and extend a greeting. Life is full of stages and phases, embracing them often takes grace and courage but the reward is feeling you have brightened some souls along the way.
I joined a "buddy connect" group. You volunteer to be a phone buddy to those that are lonely. You call once or twice a week. I love it. One of my buddies is 91 and guess what? As a teenager she was voted beauty queen 3 TIMES! In the 1950s she earned her small plane pilots license & owned 2 twin engine planes! She amazes me! Isnt that so cool!! Im glad i signed up.❤
@@robertchance6123 hello there, Sugar. The buddy program is pretty new & Idk where y'all live but maybe call your local church & put a bee in their bonnet. You know, sometimes we dont realize how lonely it is out here for some folks till we're in a similar position, right? So maybe you're just the motivation they need to start a buddy group! ❤❤❤😊 Be blessed 🙏
Really enjoyed the last two videos. Good to hear conversation about loneliness. 73 years old this month, widow 5 years ago this month, and married 50 years ago this year. Lots of time alone, but also a lot of time to count my blessings❤ Thank you for the discussion.
I always get it so much out of your videos when you talk to us. Yep! I related to losing my parents, losing an adult child to suicide, beginning to have real health issues, etc. Thank you for your encouragement and your zest for living. I appreciate your words more than you can know. I am a single 69 year-old woman, and I want to make the last chapters of my life the best. I’m going to give it my best. ❤
I just discovered one of your videos, I must say I have really enjoyed watching you and your encouraging words. I have gone thru many hard times myself, and now that I am retire, my children are all grown, I hope I can make new friends and enjoy new adventures. Something I miss is a group of my age to do things with. I am sure a lot of ladies can relate ... Life is hard and beautiful.
The loneliness hits me particularly after a show... All the excitement...... The energy of singing.... The energy of the audience..... Now I have to get in my car and drive home alone to an emptiness awaiting me. No one to share with me the happiness of the show. Anti climax. It floors me. My home is my shelter and solace, but sometimes, also my challenge.
Such beautiful words and thoughts. When it's 4 am and you can't sleep, look up at the stars in the night sky and know that so many of us women are also looking at that same sky. May we all feel that togetherness and bond at that point!🙂 Blessings to you and Desi.
Hi Susan and Desi. I'm 72 years old and yes, I feel lonely. This year I started gardening, so I wouldn't think about it. Last year I had cancer. Even if I feel lonely, I feel blessed to be here. I love Desi bow tie (I love New York ). Very cute.
Thank you for this video, I watched it in the night because I couldn’t sleep from so much anxiety about my health. I’m lonely also, a good friend betrayal just happened. I feel so lost, sad and lonely. I am going to my therapist tomorrow and the doctor on Thursday, I’m trying to be proactive, but, I feel hopeless. Pls keep helping us. You don’t know how much you help. Thank you.
Love the fall colors you modeled. ❤ Some people are very lonely even in a crowded room. We all have a story, life's changes, and challenges. Sometimes you don't even know you had a good thing till it's gone. All my friends & family that have passed on wish they could still be here, they fought till the last moment of their life. Have a good cry, yell, be sad, complain, sleep in, write a poem, learn something new, pray, just do the best you can & carry on. Enjoy the beauty of another day to watch the sun rise, the sunset, all the planets creations, and to be the best you can be. Desi is always happy 😊 🌈🌹
One thing I have learned in life it is that it is ok to feel lonely at time. Even if you have someone in your life, it could happen as well. What keeps me going is that it is always tomorrow which it gives me hope and new dreams. I try to find things in my life that makes sense. I have watched a movie called At Home in Mitford at least 15 times because it gives me hope and makes me happy. I take walks in the park and take pictures. It is ok to feel lonely at times.......................many blessings..................hugs to you and Desi....................MINDY
Hi Susan:). Every Saturday night I look forward to ur chat and to see Desi.! Ur videos are so colorful and interesting! I always feel so happy listening to you and seeing Desi snuggled up on the top of the couch. Your home just keeps getting more beautiful each week. I love that tray and it was meant for you:). Have a great week ahead😊🤗💛🙏🎶💃🍂🍁
My kids are grown and married they have their own lives At 63 and working part time to supplement my income. I do feel lonely I try to keep busy or put some music on and dance to it. I still have my mom she’s 98 and I love to listen to her stories I try to videotape them and I usually post them on fb she loves for me to read the comments . It makes her feel special .
I’m 70 years young and I so love your channel. Sometimes I just don’t want to go out and I don’t feel guilty about that. We have to focus on ourselves first before going through the motions of what we don’t feel comfortable doing. I just relocated to KY from a big house to a 2 bedroom apartment. I love it! We have a lot in common and I think we are soul sisters! Lol. Keep up the amazing work and God bless. Marilyn is my name. ❤
Sorry, my comment posted before I finished it. What I was saying was if we get to live a long life, we are blessed. My husband passed away 3 years ago, just before he turned 72. I am now 77 and alone, and the loneliness is so hard. I think the hardest thing now being alone is I feel lost all the time. I try to keep going, one day at a time. Love Pasty Cline's music! Thank you for sharing your time with us!
The comment about taking the time to share a smile and conversation with another older person resonated with me. I recently started working again after being retired, I am now a community librarian. It is a wonderful change from the corporate world of my previous career. The opportunity to talk to people of all ages, but especially retirees and seniors who love to read, has enriched my life and I truly enjoy hearing their book “reviews” and all about their lives. I do hope, that by remembering their names, the stories they’ve shared about their previous careers and families, and taking the time to just chat, helps make their days a little richer too.
Hi Susan and Desi, For me, I keep busy. My neighbor and I are helping another neighbor in need. He’s truly turned his life around. Also, after a month of losing my dog, my friend and I went to shelters, Thursday. I found a dog who needs me,like I need her. I’m excited. I’m trying to teach her to tolerate my cats. But then, she loves cat food. But Maggie is loved.💖I’ve got to go now,as there’s a storm coming. Finally, some rain! See you next week, Susan and Desi.
I’m 55 lost my husband in October we were separated for a few years but remained best friends and saw each other or spoke daily! I miss him so much sometimes the loneliness is overwhelming. This video is very relatable I love that Your Chanel reads like a great magazine with a poetic rhythm. Thank you 🙏 ❤😊
What a lovely thing to say to me about my work here....I know how hard it is to lose a husband...my ex-husband Bill used to say to me " just because we are divorced doesn't mean we are not still married" ...after he died 2 years ago I realized what he meant...my love ot you, Susan
I am alone again now. I can relate to you talking about how you think people perceive you. One of my friends sometimes makes me feel inferior. But, I need to make calls to my friends and meet them for lunch or dinner. Becoming a hermit is very doable when you are older and alone. Thanks Susan.
Susan- how timely this video on loneliness is! I have been wondering why seemingly 'random' people come up to me and start talking; it happens all the time! Then today I stopped at a yard sale on my way back home in hopes that the person might want to take a bedroom dresser mirror that I wasn't able to leave at the donation center; it would have gone to the dump. I was given a Cherokee acknowledgement and drove off in tears pondering what had just taken place. May we always be mindful to show kindness to strangers; because as scripture tells us, we might just be entertaining angels!😇
@@madeleineduxbury9877 It was a right-hand shake with a pull towards the other person's left shoulder. I've never had this happen before, so hopefully this explanation helps. 😀😀😀
Hi Susan and Desi. Thank you for this excellent video. I agree with everything you talked about. I don't feel so lonely when I watch your videos, no matter the topics.
You are a blessing everytime I watch your. Video. Thank you, I can always relate to your message. Did I hear recently that you found love and got married. Desi is a sweetie, sure she is enjoying her new home.
I look forward to your posts every Saturday. I read the responses of others and see how much you have helped them and brightened up their day. What a treasure you are!
Susan:Everything you said today meant so much to me..I can relate to all of it! As I've said before I'm really having trouble dealing with having turned 70! I feel like my life is just getting closer to ending and so many things I wish I had done differently..I keep going over so much of it in my mind..I love to read so I read alot and that helps and I text my friends each day and try to help them if they need me with advice or just an ear to listen! I feel if you have made a difference in just one person's life you have done well. My husband and I just celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary and had a nice day..he's still working and when he came home we had Chinese takeout and we haven't done that for a long time! We also have a wonderful kitty named Joy who right now is meowing at me for attention! Besides how wonderful and happy you loo..Desi looks so happy! The two of you just make me smile!😊 Thank you for your wise words and your videos really make me think and help me alot! Keep them coming! Sending love to you and Desi!
I can't be lonely now. I sleep at night to the sound of Sunny and Tippy (my cats) snoring up a symphony. My days are about providing meals, snacks and caring for my beloved cats, birds and turtles. In the day l go out dressed to the nines to shop often garnering compliments from strangers. Raised as a lonely only with older parents who spoke in Hungarian l knew loneliness. We had no TV. I cried when my radio died. Now l have a TV and a tablet and smart phone. It's great.
You are such a beautiful woman, inside and out. Thank you for all that you share so openly and honestly on your channel. I forwarded this video to my friend just now - we are both 57, recently empty nesters. She lives about 3 hours away now, and called today to tell me she didn't go to a luncheon pool party she'd been invited to by a new woman acquaintance because she felt too self-conscious about her crepey skin, then was beating herself up afterward for not going Aging is a lot harder than either of us thought it would be. When you mentioned the part about in your younger days walking in a room and feeling like you owned it, and now you don't, and how you miss that sensation, it so resonated with me. Not because I'm an attention seeker, but more that it's like a feel invisible now in a way that is painful and not going to end. When we're young, we take it all for granted, without realizing we will choose to isolate ourselves out of pride, especially women, but also men. It's so sad, but it's happening all around us. Your channel and others like you are making a dent in that situation.
I think at a certain age we all have or will have crepey skin. I am 79 and it comes with the territory. I wear shorts and tank tops and one-piece bathing suits all summer. I figure if someone doesn’t like my crepey skin they don’t need to look at it!
Yes I think we all get used to being the “most important person” to either parents or partner/husband. When they all leave our lives we lose the feeling of the safety net and confidence that they provided and they were always on our side. I lost my husband of 47 years 8days ago and this is how I feel. However with the support of good friends and my small family I will get through and hopefully never become a “victim” . Susan has hit the nail on the head xx
I love your statement about it being a blessing and a burden to live a long life. I'm 8 years older than you and some days are diamonds, some days are stones. I moved close to my daughter and her two daughters 5 years ago and as the children grow up, my daughter is so busy with her career, I feel more lonely as time passes. I still do carpool so that is some sense of purpose yet I see the writing on the wall as they girls grow older and their mother's life is moving on with her career and boyfriend. She and I used to be so close but now...not so much. I feel more like one of her employees so I focus on the hugs from my 8 year old granddaughter yet she, too, will grow and move on like her sister. And that's a blessing, I know! I have SO much to be grateful for and I am, yet at the same time, I feel I need more compassion for myself because I am phasing out on so many levels. As you stated, I don't feel relevant. I tell my self that the world will always need my kindness and smile yet somedays... My daddy used to say that old age was not for sissies and I'd laugh with him. It isn't and I'm not laughing as much. SO grateful for the love and support from you and this group.
Thank you for this beautiful video My Mother died this past, August 29. I turned 64 just a few days later. Her memorial is tomorrow.. I really needed this. Much love and respect.
I’m so sorry that your mom has died. It may take a long time to heal, which doesn’t mean you won’t wish you were with you. But I do believe she will be with you forever, and your memory and your heart.
I love your videos! I was just diagnosed with white matter disease, and I’ve been crying for days over it. I’m only 58 years old. It’s so scary because I only have myself to depend on. I still have to work for at least another 10 years. I have a long commute, so I worry about being able to drive with balance issues. I have a daughter who is married and just had my second grandson four days ago. So there’s no time for even a phone call. I try to be understanding that she’s just too busy with her own family. It’s very hard to be this lonely and maybe that’s where the health issues came from. I used to have a little dog like Desi who I miss very much. Sometimes I think about getting another dog but it just wouldn’t be fair for a dog to be home all day alone. I’m gone for at least 10 hours.
Some sort of divine intervention in viewing your video just now. At 71 I am losing my health and fight every day just to endure the hours. I have gone from an outgoing fun person to a recluse. My mind and spirit cry out to be who I am inside myself but the bod won't cooperate. Thus I live vicariously watching your video thru my tears for some needed solace...😢😢❤
Happy weekend end sweet Marlyn! How about a group hug? xxoo sending lots of love and hugs....Susan & Desi
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I totally get it and will be praying for you.
Anxiety is a big problem for seniors. I believe it’s from loneliness. Your kids have their own lives and hardly call you . Sometimes I go days without a phone call. I go to town sometimes just to be around people and it makes me feel better.
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I am 75 and I understand what you're feeling... I have family all around me children and grandchildren and they are busy with their lives just as I was at their age.... Sitting here waiting for them to call me or come to see me is really unreasonable.... So I get out a couple of times a week, and I stopped by to see one of my grandchildren, or one of my children.... Maybe I will get a cup of coffee or tea and some light conversation.... After all we love to talk about ourselves so that's how I find out what's going on in their lives.... I feel good and they feel good.... Then once every month or two we all get together for a barbecue or dinner or lunch... You see they don't visit me because they are busy with their, and I'm not busy so I go to see them❤
Mentally preparing myself for the day when my kids are too busy for me! I 🙏 they lead full and happy lives. We live together for a relatively short period, and comes a time to let them live their own lives. I really have no desire for them to ever feel guilty. ❤
@@jayemowrey1416 So very true. I think we forget when we were younger, working and raising our children our lives were very busy and now it's their turn and their lives are very busy. As a mother and grandmother we should be the ones reaching out to spend time with our families and appreciating and enjoying anytime we spend with them. 👪💜
After a very abusive marriage, I love being alone . I do get lonely but I'm finding my beautiful, fun loving spirit again.
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I wish you the best in your healing. Keep on shining!
That’s amazing -I know this feeling and it’s a feeling of freedom ❤❤
I'm in the position you were in and I'm hoping all goes well and I get my happiness and peace after the divorce. Can't wait to be away from all the anger and toxic vibes. I'm happy for you.
At age 69 I'm still working full-time because I have to, but I work at an elementary school which gives me more than a paycheck. Every day I hear from children who just say hi Miss Judy or ask me to help them with schoolwork. So every day I know how much they value my presence in their school and that brings so much happiness to my life! Thank you Susan for the reminder that even though we may be older in years we are always young at heart and just want to be loved!
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Important to remember that a lot of us who are seniors don't have family left. That is grief and sadness in and of itself. As a solo senior it is an extra challenge.
I love to watch your videos. My oldest daughter died 8 years ago at age 42.She had breast cancer. Two years later, my Mother died. My dogs have kept me going. I talk to them just as you talk to Desi.
I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter and mother ❤sending you love. xoxo Fur-babies are amazing.
Barbara you have had such loss. Please know that I am in Michigan thinking of you. I think those of us that follow Susan are sisters of the soul. We just don't get to meet. I too love my furkid/dog. She brings me such joy. Sending you love and keeping you in my heart. -Sue in Michigan
Love my puppies. Bought an rv to travel and glamp with them.
Although I don't know you, I am thinking of you at this minute and how it may feel to lose a child. May your heart heal and be filled with peace and tranquility. Lots of best wishes sent to you from the other side of the world.
my sincere condolances for your loss and yes pets can bring so much love.❤❤❤😊
Susan, I make a scrap book about my life and I realized that I had a great life; even I lost my husband at the age of 28. I was a widow with 4 kids, but now at 67 if I feel lonely I look at my scrap book and those memories bring me joy and satisfaction. So, I put on my makeup like you show us, put an smile and go shopping. 🙂 A kiss for Desy ❤ Thank you!
Hi Raquel, I am a widow since 2018. Married 41 years. I am 73. I am a therapist for over 35 years. I am a part of my church’s Widow’s ministry. It is filled with widows of all ages. I don’t mean to ask a personal question. You were such a young widow. My heart goes out to young widows with children. That had to be hard. I hope you had a good support system. I was just wondering if you ever married again? I have noticed some widows never marry again.
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I'm a retired educator, so I focus on my children's education, I did have a relationship and got pregnant and have another son, but I realized that my children didn't need a negative role model so No I didn't get married, I'm still single and happy. My reward is that all my five children completed collage and they are having a great life. Praise the Lord.
Thank you Susan. I am 69 and have lived alone for years now. I used to look forward to getting out even for a short shopping trip. Now I seem to put these tasks off for as long as I can. I like being home. However I do find that being home too much is depressing no matter how much you love your place. I always feel better after walking the dog or sitting by the lake I live near. But there is something about being around people even strangers that makes us feel part of the community I think. We need contact with others. It doesn't need to be a long or meaningful interaction, just a few words will lift us up.
I too am struggling like many others. I am 71 and filled with grief because my husband has Alzheimers. We only have each other- no children. I'm so lonely while I'm sitting by his side because he isn't who I've known for 50 years. I hope that I will find a way to feel more hope in my life. I miss my family, friends that have now moved away and most of all my husband. Thanks for listening.
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So sorry for what you are dealing with. I have learned that "alone" is actually ALL ONE when broken apart or one with God so you are never alone! Prayers for your husband and for you. Sending you a huge hug and so much love! xoxo Debbie
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I'm so sorry you are going through this, Iris. I am your age, 71--and live alone. I wish I was your neighbor, and could visit with you and become friends. One day your husband will be restored to fullness, it's a comfort for the future--but I know it doesn't help you now. Stay strong sister...better days are ahead. Blessings to you and your husband. ♥
When you dont have family, friends dont call anymore, you care for an aging husband who is depressed and ill. I haven’t been out for a meal or anything but twice in 3 years. I try and keep my chin up but cleaning and hard work is my life. My husband and I never had a good relationshio. He likes to watch tv, play on the computer and rarely speaks to me. I am very social. Love to laugh. Go places. He never did. Now he has an even better reason than all the others to isolate me. I am stuck in another country and alone. There is no lady at Walmart. I live in a small town on the sea. My life is at a dead end. There is no way to fix it now. I have two little doogies
Thank you for a great video. Your channel helps me with my lonliness Susan. Thank you. ❤
I so wish there was something i could do to ease your burden.....where are you from? Could you just hop on a plane and get away???
My eighty year old mother complains bitterly of being lonely. But she has several friends and is on the phone with all the others every single day. She goes to lunch, to movies, to activities. She is far more social than any woman over fifty that I know. It’s sad that loneliness surrounds her in spite of having all kinds of people in her life. That’s when I knew I couldn’t fix her loneliness. If we visit her twice a week, she says it should be three. If it’s five, it should be six. I say all this because I want people to know other people’s loneliness sometimes is not fixable, and to not feel burdened by it. Some just live in that place mentally and somehow use it to their advantage. Odd but true.
I’m guessing she just misses her old self. She may have a lot of friends, but I think she probably just wants to be needed.
What you stated is very true and I'm glad that you did more people need to understand this...... I am 75 and I know a lot of women that are just like your mother... You see their cup is half empty not half full.... It's the poor me syndrome, and most that have it have had it for many many years.... No you cannot fix it! Just remind her you love her and you're glad to see her... I know her negative comments are an attempt to bring you down but you keep your smile and your sunshine❤
I am wondering if your mom always wanted more time, more attention, so forth when she was young. If so, it’s a personality disorder. I mean no disrespect, but hoping to help you with the feeling of never being able to do or give enough. Praying for you.
Thanks for sharing ❤ I love your style. I have to make people smile.
Tools love it. ❤️ yes embrace ❤
Live the moment as your last. ❤
Safe and a warrior. ❤ strong ❤️
Thank you dear one. Never felt strong but I'm starting to do now ❤😊
She's lonely for you.
Ok I am convinced you are looking in my windows! Absolutely relatable. I turn 60 in a month. I used to "own the room" and now I am the worn wallper. So please know that by your content and insight, you are helping many people! I never feel lonely when you are singing my song!✌🏼💛😊
I'm going to be 70 in a few days. The greatest thing I have learned in life is: Find something to be truly thankful for, even if it's the air that you breathe. Being thankful drives away every negative that is possible. It brings positivity and more things to be thankful for.❤❤ Try it.
@@jenniestacy1466 I live in gratitude.
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@@jenniestacy1466 I’ll be 70 on the 12th. So many health issues and immobility past 3 years but will try to be thankful and have a gratitude attitude. Happy Birthday to you.
I agree. I turn 70 in less than two wks. Today was more than ever hearing a dear friend speak to each of us with love. Thank you Susan.
There will come a time, for me very soon, when all the people who knew me when I was young, will be gone. No one will remember me when I was little. What I was like. How I looked when I was young and pretty. They will only know the old lady who can barely stand before them. I am almost there. It is very sad.
Lovely video, I would love a piece of that cake. My husband died a couple of mths. ago.
Often feel lonely, but shake myself out of mood, by gardening. I have a lovely lady next
door who comes over with her dog every afternoon at 4pm for an hour. Go shopping,
just to be around people. Visit some friends occasionally, don't really like burdening people.
I read, go on the computer, ring a friend. I'm 78 and fortunately have my own home & healthy. Life is good, but different.
Hi from NC love your comments. I’m 75 still working taliking to coworkers & mu hubby daily. Very blessed but I have a 51 yr old son that had a stroke right before Christmas last year. I miss the old person he was now he can’t remember the last time I talked to him. Live can be sad at any age. We should all remember to be thankful for each minute! God Bless!
Ann Holt
💕Thank you for this, Susan. Can I say, for me, I live alone (divorced after 35 years five years ago) aged 67. First thing I learned - it’s a “couples” world out there. During the divorce my neighbors quit inviting me to functions, and I haven’t been to a movie or out to lunch since moving here to be close to my grandchildren. They have their own lives, and it’s nice when they invite me along, but they aren’t my age. I left my previous home and state and thought I could ‘start over’- but I also learned old people have their “clicks” just like we did in high school!! Do any of your viewers experience the same type of being lonely - being single and excluded from couples’ activities. Makes for a lonely, isolation. God bless you all🦋🌸💗
Oh I feel this so much, the Cliches! It simply never ends. I have now given up on trying to make friends. We attended a pig roast tonight at the resort we live at, we sat at a table, by ourselves. Eventually several people asked to join us and it was nice. Much younger. But as I looked around, it was the usual cliches, all together. Never inviting new folks, never reaching out. I’m so over it.
Yes, I also divorced after 35 years and late sixties a few years ago. Everyone disappeared. I make attempts and reach out yet it is very clear I am not wanted. I accept that now and focus on myself and learning, classes, reading, etc. I feel very alone and isolated , I have no children. It is very difficult. I took care of my elderly mother and enjoyed doing that yet I have no one at this time in my life. 🌺 We will keep moving forward and discover what there is for us now.
@@wildhorses6817 I’m sorry. Your doing a lot of good things to ease the loneliness. I do have children, 5 adults, their partners and 9 grandchildren. It is a real blessing, but and I say this carefully, it dosnt replace what we women seem to need. Adult female companionship. I cannot talk to my children about many things.
Hi, ur right it is a couple's world. I experienced some of these same things. My suggestion is( I mean this in a kind way) you make the first move. Invite a friend or two over for coffee, movie night, play cards, volunteer, take a class, etc. Hope this helps❤
Yes, I agree. It does feel like a "couples" world. It actually upsets me as "couples" are still treated like the "norm" ... yet there are so many people living as a single person. If you're not a couple then somehow you're looked upon as lacking. It's that feeling of experiencing exclusion that can be so hurtful. But I'm determined to make my life special and meaningful!!
Although it is challenging, (I live in an "over 50's" housing complex) I try to make the first effort of inviting someone over or out for coffee and then chatting and getting to know them. This can lead to wonderful friendships - it does seem that we, ourselves, have to make the effort to reach out though, but I have found this sometimes so wonderfully surprising as to the lovely, understanding friendships this can lead to. ❤ There is the opportunity to have a few different and special types of friendships at this time of our lives ...if we can just scrape the energy together to do the reaching out! 😊
To paraphrase Carl Jung: Loneliness isn’t the physical absence of other people, it’s the sense that you’re not sharing anything that matters with anyone else. And that’s it for me. I miss being #1 in somebody’s life. I miss being able to run home and share something funny or sad. I miss that connection.
Love and light to you, helenricotta. 💗
Exactly right xxxx
someone said we all need a witness to our lives, without it we are just existing
My mom is 82 and lonely, shes alone. She refuses to move in with her kids so she stays alone at home with no working car. Im driving 900 miles to visit her next weekend. Thank you Susan and Desi for always being there for all of us💕🙏
I think older people are experiencing what I am calling pandemic fallout. The pandemic isolated the entire world but the older people were even more isolated because many of them were dealing with higher risks due to compromised immune systems from other health issues and could not risk going anywhere, having family in their home, go to see family, anything. So the fallout occurs when a habit was formed by the older people themselves, by their family and by their friends. We were all forced into no physical contact and it became a way of life, a habit. This is a habit that needs to be broken because people, specifically for this comment, older people are suffering. And are still afraid, for their health, the isolation, not seeing anybody, not seeing family. We need to break this habit, get over the fear and proceed with our lives as it was before 2020. There are people I know who are ill that do not have these options but time to think outside of the box to help them as well. I would encourage everybody to call your loved ones, call a friend you know is alone, ask if you can stop by and have a cup of coffee. Go see your grandparents if you are lucky enough to still have them. Make PLANS….Break that habit. Thanks Susan!
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I totally agree with you!!
Well said!! ❤
We have so much in common ! I too am 68 years old, live alone and just bought an almost tiny house , 8 hours from where I used to live. Where I moved to is not a very pretty town, but I have family here, and it makes all the difference !
When I get lonely, I go thrifting too, read a book, take myself out for lunch or even dinner...smile at the cashier and make THEM smile, because they may be lonely too. Oh and for sure, I watch inspiring videos, and that's how I met you ! You are now my friend, even though you never met me. Take care, and see you again soon 😊❤
Sounds like you are living a fulfilled life.
I'm 73, and the only time in my life that I've been lonely was from age 24 to 32, when I was married. So many people told me I would be lonely if I didn't remarry, but I only dated a few times after I divorced. My son is 43, so I've lived by myself for 25 years. I love my life. I still teach school.
Susan, your thoughts on loneliness are special as women our age battle it daily. We have lived long lives and realize there are more years behind us than in front of us. I get out of my house every day. I go to the YMCA, Walmart, ladies Bible study, and yes, it’s an effort! It seems to take me a lot longer to make myself “presentable!” And yes- it’s been a long time since I “owned the room” ! But I remember the days when I did- when I was young and beautiful and did not realize it. I wish I could tell that young woman that life is hard and you will have troubles but you will survive. BYW, being around people and smiling and talking to them makes you feel so good! Also, I write notes and letters to my friends. It is almost as good as sharing a cup of tea together! And I know it cheers them up to find a personal note in the mailbox with the bills! Thank you so much for your posts. Keep them coming! We need you!❤😂❤❤🎉
"It is both a blessing and a burden to live a long life"... sooo true! ❤
Hi Little Poet. I have learned to embrace my quiet life. It is a blessing from God. I was impressed with the lady from Walmart.
Thank you for helping me see that being alone “quiet time” can be a blessing after a more hectic life.
How did you learn to embrace it?
I take a look at all the positive things that come with being alone. Staying in the present and looking forward to the new learning experiences of tomorrow. @@kcampbell867
Today, I finally made a decision that I would go out and walk at craft fair with my daughter and granddaughter. It gave me a break for my sanity. No thinking of terminally ill husband. I understand why people tell me to go shopping or to the library by myself. I learned how to get the oil changed on our car at 63 yrs. old! I’m not helpless, I just never had a chance to learn. Still have not learned how to get car washed, but it’s on my list to learn. All I can say I’m doing the best I can. I was disabled by fibromyalgia at 50 years old. That was heartbreaking losing a job I loved………one day at a time now……
I understand how you feel...I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia at the age of 56. Its not easy but learning the right diet and exercises to do...each year got better. Little trips out can give a person a different outlook. 😊💖
I can also relate. Diet and supplements help and meditation. 🌺
Thank you for addressing this subject. I saw a video on youtube called "Single Creek". It's Christian based. From it I realized that though we are single we can still be a blessing to other's. I think that's key. We sit around wanting the blessings when we should be "Being the Blessing". So, to that end I decided to start a single lady's group at church. Not to find a man but to be a blessing to our community and each other. And I got such great feedback. I was kind of shocked. But very pleased at the same time. You know, when your busy it's kind of hard to be lonely. The other thing is we need physical touch. Part of my group thing is going to be hugs. Why not. Any way just thought I'd put my two cents in...
I'm a 66 year-old, certified shiatsu therapist, & learned through a Q'i Gong master/energy healer that eight hugs a day can help your immune system stay healthy, so when you invite the people in your group to hug, if they will share "hugs-on-both-sides," with four people, then they will have hugged eight times that day! Best wishes with gathering members of your support group. What a great idea!
Oh, and -- here's one more thought -- if you live in a locale that offers community education classes, it might be helpful for your group to take a course in self-shiatsu together! There are lots of ways that we each can nurture & balance our energetic bodies, & self-shiatsu, as well as simple shiatsu techniques shared between friends, can be a kind & pleasant gift of time together!
That's a great initiative ! 👏
I am 73 and have been a widow for 15 years. I have learned some of the same lessons as you. My prayer is “ let me be God’s grace to someone today.”
I moved to FL from up North and am always moved by how patient Publix is with seniors. Whether it’s counting money or coupons or walking them to their car with an umbrella and raincoat when a surprise rainstorm happened. I’m a little younger and was usually in a hurry there, but now I see how important the interaction is and am moved to tears sometimes.
Hello, I, too, am in Florida. I also find Publix to be kind. isn't Susan just wonderful! I came upon her video about 4 months ago. And that little Dezi is the cutest with his under bite!.
Hi Susan, I had two good examples of how to age. Both my Grandmothers were widows at an early age and lived into their nineties. One Grandmother lost an eye and was almost blind. She walked and went out every day. Her life was so full. My other Grandmother has arthritis very bad, but did gardening almost every day and canned fruit. I am in my seventies and stay very active. My Grandmothers showed me how to age when I was very young and I live the example they set.
Wonderful!
I am a retired cashier at Walmart. I'm handicapped and lonely, probably not as lonely as others, because I do have my husband. Your little story about the cashier brought back so many memories of what I used to call " holy moments". Connecting with my customers with a sometimes very deep conversation fed my soul and theirs too. Thanks for reminding me of those wonderful moments years ago.
you are an angle!!!
Love the lady who is extra nice to seniors . She is an angel
I don't think I've left a comment before. I call your channel my "Little Corner Of Joy." You cheer me up. The topic of Loneliness is something I suffer from. I am 68, though everyone thinks I'm maybe 50. That's nice, I suppose, but people don't see the "Inside" of me, which is a very lonely 68 year old woman. I don't have family and though I'm a friendly person, I haven't been able to make friends here. Nevertheless, I always smile at people. I am very polite and kind. I act this way because my motto is: "be the Light you'd like to see in the World." I think that one day I will move to a more charming little town where I can sit in a coffee shop or browse in a cute store (these don't exist here) and on that day I'll be reminded fondly of you and Desi. Warmest regards. Rachel
I'm going through so much of this struggle with loneliness....I keep my current schedule and responsibilities because I fear if I don't, I will be home with nothing to do really alone as my Daughter is so very busy with her family and no time for me... I fear I would go mad....Thank you for discussing this so important topic!!! Many blessings to you and your beautiful doggie..I swear he keeps getting 🥰 cuter!!
Love and light to you, janetp. 💗
This was a beautiful video this week. Your little Desi is so adorable! Loneliness is taking over my life. I recently turned 70 and I have no one my age to relate to. My son and his family live 3 hours away. He only calls 4 times a year. I have no transportation so I am pretty much a recluse. Your weekly videos bring such joy and I love the thrifting you do.Thrifting use to be a passion of mine. Thank you for the joy you bring. I feel like you visit every week just to bring that joy to me.
Hugs and prayers, dear one.
Please don't lock yourself away in your home. Please check out senior centers, churches or other local organizations for ways to volunteer. Many churches have volunteers that will drive you places or provide outings with transportation. Each city/county is required to have public transportation or have some type of voucher program for taxis.
if you truly can't leave the house, then volunteer to be a daily caller to a senior/disabled person. Again, churches are a great resource for finding opportunities without having to be an actual member of the church.
It does take some effort to find these programs, but it can be done.
I am 68 now. I retired about 6 months ago. Those I saw daily, I don’t now. I realized I would have to adjust by finding other groups to join, but there still is a lot of time to manage. Then, I lost a very good friend to cancer last month. I lost another girlfriend in the summer of 2022. The knowledge of their loss has changed me. I am a fighter... I decided to be healthier and have lost 40 pounds. I have more to lose. I have joined two church groups, I have renewed interests, began a hobby or two, I am trying to change my hair and make up that is suitable now, and have purged my house. I probably need to purge more items, too. Regardless of moving forward and finding a new way, I get stuck. There will be a day or two that I grieve. Grieve for my friends and coworkers. I will then try to realize it, accept the changes, and then try to find more... a walk, maybe? Or organize a time to go for coffee with a friend. Or start to read a new book. It's up to me. It's in my power.
I so relate to your journey! And a journey it is!! 😊 Good luck with continuing with building your new "retirement" life!! ❤
Dezi is so stinking ute!!!!
You are so blessed to have a man in your life as a friend. I guess they give us security. Ya you owned it girl! I owned it. Dancing and winning skate contest in the 70s, disco skating and hip hugger bell bottoms
I lived the disco life, and I fed on the craziness. Now though, I have lost all that "party" mania.
I'm 65 and I am alone after 48 years, and yes I have that 16 year old within me, Bee Gees Yes.!!!! I love you Susan. Thank you for all you implant in my life.
@cat2ish~oh my gosh ur comment hit so close to my feelings! I was on the dance floor every Saturday night at the clubs when electro music was just getting popular! I felt like “ I owned it” many a night. My “club” is now my home! I dance and have lights that pulse to the music’s beat! I miss the feeling of being on the dance floor having the time of my life! But I have great memories 🎶🎼🎵💃🤗🙏
I am loving being almost 84 ,sit outside and enjoy my flowers,fresh air,clouds,sunshine,you are so nice to listen to. Thank you for your videos.🥰
Great attitude !
I don’t isolated myself… I did for a little bit when my husband died in 2014, but I have a huge family and wonderful grandchildren who check in on me to make sure I am ok.. I lost my friend and neighbor of 20 years…she did pass on Wednesday night and I am very sad but as my daughter pointed out to me, I was the first one that she called and the last phone call she made and that did make me feel better.. I had been feeling guilty about missing her phone call that morning she had her massive stroke ..today I spent the day over my granddaughters boyfriends mothers house on the lake. It was wonderful. I never met her before, but she included me which I thought that was great. Long day. I am tired. I had to take Otis out, and there he was waiting on the chair for me❤❤ and tomorrow I have church, and I will be with my extended church family, who treat me like one of their own❤
@@lindafrazier8092 thank you Linda. Have a blessed day.
Hello Susan, you make me feel not so lonely. I am so glad I found your channel, I feel more valued now after your talks about so many topics. It is so hard to feel loved when you don’t love yourself!!!!! I realize that to get love I have to start loving me at 72. I can’t depend on my 2 children to find time to call me or come over to see me even if we live only 20 minutes away. Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I feel your pain as my son live about 2 minutes away and he don't have time to see us or call. It's the new generation they just have no time . One day they will be old too.
@@anneboucher509 it is so sad, thank goodness I called my parents and later my Mom after Dad passed away and visited once a week. I have all the memories of them that my children will not have.
I have such a hard time loving myself
I guarantee when you walk into a room you have alot of swag. You have a presence that fills the room and you are an exceedingly good looking woman with a great personality. You are a show stopper, YES NOW TODAY AT 68! KEEP ROCKIN IT OUT.
Oh dear, you made me cry!!! Happy weekend my sweet friend!!! xo Susan
Every word is true, lot of love Carmella x@@LittlePoet
I am finally admitting to myself that I am lonely. I've been living alone for the past 11 years and for the most part have enjoyed being in total control of my own life...making my own decisions, gardening, reading, watching British television and taking care of cats. But all of a sudden...I feel lonely. I find that I don't have as many friends as I used to and I do have anxiety. I'm afraid I have become agoraphobic. I know I need to find a group to join and get out more, but I'm struggling to figure out just which group I would enjoy. Thank you so much for your lovely videos. I look forward to them every week.
I love the way your home is decorated ,it reflex your kindness ,your love of beauty
Honestly spending time with you is like sitting in Sunshine ,,you can’t help but feel peaceful and refreshed
Thank you Susan 🙋♀️🫶🏻💕
Hi Susan and Desi...hey I just wanted to say I was watching your video's and commenting about last Nov. if not before but in Nov. my husband was diagnosed with cancer and is terminal. So we are fighting cancer on the daily. Many times I have watched your videos and wanted to say something but either a sad mood or no energy kept me from that. Just know I watch you when I can, always enjoy you and LOVE that little Desi...take care my friend.~Jodi
So sorry to hear that, Jodi. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts. ❤
@@susannovak8263 Thank you soo much!!
🙏🏻 for you and your husband.
Sending love from UK. Sue xxx
@@sueprice4082 Tysm!
The way Desi gave you his little paw just about broke my heart. Such a sweet and tender moment.
Oh that Desi!!!!! He is very very dramatic!!! I have no idea where the got it from!!! LOL....he is a great pup!!! ( GANGSTA!!!)
@@LittlePoet💜
Good morning, I am a widow at the age of 58. No grandchildren but 6 children in my blended family. I am in my second year of Widow Hood. Not very many call or visit anymore. I feel very alone at times. I stumbled on Your YT, and I now know God led me to you. You encourage me, and I am going to start talking to people and getting out more. Life is not over, but it is so different. I decorated my house for the fall season yesterday. I have always enjoyed doing this, but for a moment I missed my husband telling me how beautiful it looked. I realized I am doing these things for me now. It looks beautiful, and I am so proud of myself. Thank you for all you do for the lonely. I feel hope again, and it's been a while since I felt that. God bless you and Desi 🙌 . BTW I have 3 dogs, and they love me unconditionally ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been widowed almost 20 years. It's a journey down a new road that no one wants to take. Your Autumn decor must look lovely. Blessings 🙌 to you 🌻🍁🍂🦋
@cherylmarshall6874 Thank you for the kind words. Your response was an answer to prayer this morning. Blessings to you, and I am sorry for your loss 🤲🩵💫
@@beckyeighmy5776 thank you Becky. I think that the second year is very difficult because it's the year of stark reality. Nothing is a shock. Some people expect that you're "ok by now". Have a Blessed Day 🙌 🌻🌻🌻
I’m thinking about the wonderful Walmart cashier and what you shared in regards to her comment. She’s a rare treasure especially with automation replacing so many opportunities for human connection whether it’s in person or on the phone. I have a dear friend in her mid 70’s with her 16 yr old heart still living big in her. She makes a point to compliment women in her age range and older (stranger or friend) on their outfits or hairstyle, etc… She told me she does this because older women get looked past, overlooked or flat out ignored. She helps them “own the room”again even if just for a moment. Thank you for this chat today that has reinforced in me the need to follow in my dear friend’s foot prints and help someone own the room in a small way. ❤
And of Course, Susan and Desi, would be included in the Prayers too! 😇 💜
I agree totally with you Susan.. I find myself retreating lately, a bit of lack of confidence as you mentioned. No more! I'm getting back out there and meet some like-minded people. Thanks for your words, just what I needed. 🥰
Little Poet, you have a God given gift in reaching people. Great therapy!!
I am 77,and lost my husband of 56 years,last year,I often feel sad ,I miss him so much,I’m sad for what he is missing out on too,he would have loved to see his precious granddaughter ,looking so proud ,starting high school last week.but I find the very best way to cope with loneliness,is to keep extra busy,I keep in touch with my family,enjoy each other,laugh about little things,show love to each other,help out in any way I can .make cakes ,for family etc.I’ve joined a choir ,and now I do all the gardening,which was my husbands beloved hobby.I keep surprising myself all the time now by what I’m able to achieve.I tell myself I’m lucky to still be here still able to be a little bit..I am more than blessed to be growing older,with reasonable health.I am going to make the most of my good fortune.
Susan you are the only one I love to go to on RUclips. Because you bring us up when the world is a crazy place. So I thank you for that.
Also in addition to your dialogue....there is a division due to the long term effects of the plandemic for people when deciding to socialize or not. Many lonely people abound even more so now. . I would rather be alone than be with toxic individuals. The world has changed. I try to consciously exude kindness and love wherever I am no matter what. Desi is so adorable. I need to get a little doggie ,they are such good company.
Susan, this community here has really grown over the past few years. We women have so much in common! That alone, makes me feel better! Hello 👋 to everyone out there! We aren't crazy, we have so much wisdom from just living a full life of ups, downs and many experiences. Now as a widow, i need this type of a community more and more! Thanks Susan!
I totally agree! You and others make me feel part of something...I am not alone with my feelings and fears...I am so much stronger because we are all together here sharing!!!! Happy new week!!!!
Yes , yes and yes!❤️
I’m 65 now. I’ve travelled, I’ve gone, I’ve done for years and years. Now I want to stay home. I’m fine as I am. 😊
Hi Susan. 💕
Hi Desi! You sweet boy you never fail to make me smile.
Hi Susan, love it when you take us thrifting with you. I live in So Cal. and can tell you the pickin's are pretty lean! Havent seen anything close to what you can find in your area..
Note: When you are your own best friend, and you love to read, then lonely days are few and far between. The hardest part is having to let your adult children live their own lives.
Aunt Susan you are not alone . All of us need you as spiritual mother , wise friend , monitor. If need to be happy we will be your smiles because you go out of your way to make our lives beautiful. You taught us not to lose hope even when life seems bleak and hopeless so that you are not alone .
You make womanhood feel special and empowering, Susan. Don’t worry, you still have your swag 😊
I always look forward to your videos on Saturday evening! I am in a season of my life that involves being a caregiver. My husband has lost his vision. It is hard to be so tied down. I have a little dog that I walk and it is so nice just to wave to neighbors and have a quick chat! Dogs are so much company. Love little Desi! So glad he is out of that closet and in the sunshine with someone who loves him!❤️
Wonder if your husband ever goes out on these walks, he must feel depressed at times. Perhaps doing some things together could help you both emotionally. I know it is very rough being a caregiver, God bless you both.
@@karendegraaf1146As nice as that sounds, taking an elderly blind man who has a history of falls for a walk in a neighborhood with no sidewalks is not recommended. We do sit outside when it is cool enough and we enjoy that. He does feel depressed at times, we both do. We are together 24/7, we enjoy our days as best we can. As a caregiver, my only outlet for myself is a 15 minute walk. I don’t think that’s asking too much.
I loved it when you said that aging is a burden and a responsibility to be the voice of those who didn't make it to this age. I think of this all the time. I am a 3-time cancer survivor and every day is a new day to be grateful for my life and for women like you, Susan.
Well Susan thanks for the tears this week. You really hit home. I hate to ask for help. I’ve always been a strong and independent woman but now I’m 70 and recovering from a knee replacement. It’s been horrible not being independent due to knee pain! My husband is still alive but has Alzheimer’s and lives in a home. However, I have booked a cruise at the end of October and another one at the end of January for my birthday. My sister has replaced my husband as my cruise partner. I’m going to go and get dressed up nice and drink a few drinks and talk to anybody that looks lonely. I might limp a bit but I’m going to try to spread some joy to someone lonely looking. Thanks you Susan and Desi.
YOU make me cry! You are beautiful and paying your life forward give me so much inspiration to do better!!! Love to you always, Susan & Desi ( do they allow dogs on a cruise?_
I think that , although your world is different now, your sister and you will have a grand old time! ❤
So cute the way Desi shook hands..paws..so intentional.
Susan, you are just beautiful inside and out! And Desi is just the most handsome pup! I look so forward to your video every Saturday! You have brought all of us together.
I had subscribed to your channel but I had seen a video from you for a while. I like many others have trouble falling asleep. Something made me get on my phone and I got to see this video on loneliness. You were spot on with everything you talked about. I am not the only one who's gotten older and thought that I was the only one feeling a little lost. Thank you for your channel and for talking about things that happens to most of us. I look forward to your next video.
I agree that you cannot ever kill love. My husband died when he was 48. I have never remarried and not a day goes by that I don't think of him in some way. I also agree I am still that 16 year old girl inside. I'll always be! Susan, you always say things that make me truly think deeply. Thank you and my love to Desi, also. I am in my 70's now and I still see the world thorough those 16 year old eyes a lot of times. I love being my age now, and I am so appreciated for each day! My summer petunias are almost gone now and I am already thinking of Christmas! We have a great big window in our home and we call it our Macey's
window. Each year we decorate it so delightfully and fun, and people come by just to look at it. Have a wonderful week!
I would like to know how you deal with inflammation.
I have it bad.??????????
@@ireneturner2944 Did you try Vitamin C once daily? Great also for the brain. It makes a big difference. Pain is a bummer.
Good luck xx
@deannabollo170
I just took some vit.C Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️ 💙 💜. Wish me luck.
Got to finish my yard for winter today.
Lots of work for one old lady.
But I keep telling myself we can do this...bigggg HUGGGGS!!!
Thanks again deannabollo!!!
I'm 43 years old. I'm not lonely. I'm blessed to have a full house of kids and a partner. I do wish for lonely time. I watch your videos and I love them. You such a beautiful woman and entertaining to watch. I kinda like the fact that you live alone with your doggie. This going to sound strange but I fantasize of having my own place, with all of me, in every corner, the way you have it. I'm not saying i'm unhappy because I'm not lonely but I do enjoy that part of your life. I been following you for years and it's my first time commenting lol Much love, Arlene
You reminded me that we who are still here are lucky because like Pasty Cline there are many who don’t have that privilege of growing old. It makes me want to do better and be better❤️
Susan I purchased Patsy Kline book after viewing your video! May we live our best life to the fullest no matter what how age🎉may we shower each other with kindness and comfort every day.
Oh great Linda! If you get time will you let me know what you thought of the book?! Her life was short but so amazing!!
I am grateful now not to make a splash when I enter a room or need to feel seen by others. At 77, I am the tall, reedy, old hippie woman with long gray hair and simple, comfortable, hand made clothes who lives quietly, happily, creatively on my own after many beautiful years partnered. I “content myself” and find great pleasure in simple joys and speak cheerfully, playfully, kindly to every person I meet, happy to wear a smile and extend a greeting. Life is full of stages and phases, embracing them often takes grace and courage but the reward is feeling you have brightened some souls along the way.
Oh my goodness, kaitlinmeadows, what a wise, kind and inspiring comment! 💗
I joined a "buddy connect" group. You volunteer to be a phone buddy to those that are lonely. You call once or twice a week. I love it. One of my buddies is 91 and guess what? As a teenager she was voted beauty queen 3 TIMES! In the 1950s she earned her small plane pilots license & owned 2 twin engine planes! She amazes me! Isnt that so cool!! Im glad i signed up.❤
Can we join your buddy connect group? Ty . Regards, Deb chance
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hello there, Sugar. The buddy program is pretty new & Idk where y'all live but maybe call your local church & put a bee in their bonnet. You know, sometimes we dont realize how lonely it is out here for some folks till we're in a similar position, right? So maybe you're just the motivation they need to start a buddy group! ❤❤❤😊 Be blessed 🙏
Start a group of over 60’s ladies that get together once a month to go out and try different restaurants in your area. I did and it’s fun !
Really enjoyed the last two videos. Good to hear conversation about loneliness. 73 years old this month, widow 5 years ago this month, and married 50 years ago this year. Lots of time alone, but also a lot of time to count my blessings❤
Thank you for the discussion.
I always get it so much out of your videos when you talk to us. Yep! I related to losing my parents, losing an adult child to suicide, beginning to have real health issues, etc. Thank you for your encouragement and your zest for living. I appreciate your words more than you can know. I am a single 69 year-old woman, and I want to make the last chapters of my life the best. I’m going to give it my best. ❤
Well said. Go for it
I've been thinking the same thing
I just discovered one of your videos, I must say I have really enjoyed watching you and your encouraging words. I have gone thru many hard times myself, and now that I am retire, my children are all grown, I hope I can make new friends and enjoy new adventures. Something I miss is a group of my age to do things with. I am sure a lot of ladies can relate ...
Life is hard and beautiful.
The loneliness hits me particularly after a show... All the excitement...... The energy of singing.... The energy of the audience.....
Now I have to get in my car and drive home alone to an emptiness awaiting me. No one to share with me the happiness of the show. Anti climax. It floors me. My home is my shelter and solace, but sometimes, also my challenge.
Oh you have to tell me! Are you a singer?
@@LittlePoet yes. I'm an alto in a chamber choir and we perform quite regularly. We practise every week. It keeps me connected...
Such beautiful words and thoughts. When it's 4 am and you can't sleep, look up at the stars in the night sky and know that so many of us women are also looking at that same sky. May we all feel that togetherness and bond at that point!🙂 Blessings to you and Desi.
Hi Susan and Desi. I'm 72 years old and yes, I feel lonely. This year I started gardening, so I wouldn't think about it. Last year I had cancer. Even if I feel lonely, I feel blessed to be here. I love Desi bow tie (I love New York ). Very cute.
Thank you for this video, I watched it in the night because I couldn’t sleep from so much anxiety about my health. I’m lonely also, a good friend betrayal just happened. I feel so lost, sad and lonely. I am going to my therapist tomorrow and the doctor on Thursday, I’m trying to be proactive, but, I feel hopeless. Pls keep helping us. You don’t know how much you help. Thank you.
Love the fall colors you modeled. ❤
Some people are very lonely even in a crowded room.
We all have a story, life's changes, and challenges. Sometimes you don't even know you had a good thing till it's gone. All my friends & family that have passed on wish they could still be here, they fought till the last moment of their life. Have a good cry, yell, be sad, complain, sleep in, write a poem, learn something new, pray, just do the best you can & carry on. Enjoy the beauty of another day to watch the sun rise, the sunset, all the planets creations, and to be the best you can be.
Desi is always happy 😊 🌈🌹
Profound words.
One thing I have learned in life it is that it is ok to feel lonely at time. Even if you have someone in your life, it could happen as well. What keeps me going is that it is always tomorrow which it gives me hope and new dreams. I try to find things in my life that makes sense. I have watched a movie called At Home in Mitford at least 15 times because it gives me hope and makes me happy. I take walks in the park and take pictures. It is ok to feel lonely at times.......................many blessings..................hugs to you and Desi....................MINDY
Hi Susan:). Every Saturday night I look forward to ur chat and to see Desi.! Ur videos are so colorful and interesting! I always feel so happy listening to you and seeing Desi snuggled up on the top of the couch. Your home just keeps getting more beautiful each week. I love that tray and it was meant for you:). Have a great week ahead😊🤗💛🙏🎶💃🍂🍁
Dezi's little paw reaching out to you❤❤❤ love his bow ties...xo
My kids are grown and married they have their own lives
At 63 and working part time to supplement my income. I do feel lonely I try to keep busy or put some music on and dance to it.
I still have my mom she’s 98 and I love to listen to her stories I try to videotape them and I usually post them on fb she loves for me to read the comments . It makes her feel special .
I’m 70 years young and I so love your channel. Sometimes I just don’t want to go out and I don’t feel guilty about that. We have to focus on ourselves first before going through the motions of what we don’t feel comfortable doing. I just relocated to KY from a big house to a 2 bedroom apartment. I love it! We have a lot in common and I think we are soul sisters! Lol. Keep up the amazing work and God bless. Marilyn is my name. ❤
Welcome to Kentucky Marilyn 😊
@@cindyscanlan7826 thank you 🙏!
Oh boy! Yeah, asking for help is extremely hard for me. It's something I have struggled with my entire life.
Sorry, my comment posted before I finished it. What I was saying was if we get to live a long life, we are blessed. My husband passed away 3 years ago, just before he turned 72. I am now 77 and alone, and the loneliness is so hard. I think the hardest thing now being alone is I feel lost all the time. I try to keep going, one day at a time. Love Pasty Cline's music! Thank you for sharing your time with us!
The comment about taking the time to share a smile and conversation with another older person resonated with me. I recently started working again after being retired, I am now a community librarian. It is a wonderful change from the corporate world of my previous career. The opportunity to talk to people of all ages, but especially retirees and seniors who love to read, has enriched my life and I truly enjoy hearing their book “reviews” and all about their lives. I do hope, that by remembering their names, the stories they’ve shared about their previous careers and families, and taking the time to just chat, helps make their days a little richer too.
Hi Susan and Desi, For me, I keep busy. My neighbor and I are helping another neighbor in need. He’s truly turned his life around. Also, after a month of losing my dog, my friend and I went to shelters, Thursday. I found a dog who needs me,like I need her. I’m excited. I’m trying to teach her to tolerate my cats. But then, she loves cat food. But Maggie is loved.💖I’ve got to go now,as there’s a storm coming. Finally, some rain! See you next week, Susan and Desi.
I’m 55 lost my husband in October we were separated for a few years but remained best friends and saw each other or spoke daily! I miss him so much sometimes the loneliness is overwhelming. This video is very relatable I love that Your Chanel reads like a great magazine with a poetic rhythm. Thank you 🙏 ❤😊
What a lovely thing to say to me about my work here....I know how hard it is to lose a husband...my ex-husband Bill used to say to me " just because we are divorced doesn't mean we are not still married" ...after he died 2 years ago I realized what he meant...my love ot you, Susan
@@LittlePoet 🥰 Thank you for such a sweet and lovely response!
I am alone again now. I can relate to you talking about how you think people perceive you. One of my friends sometimes makes me feel inferior. But, I need to make calls to my friends and meet them for lunch or dinner. Becoming a hermit is very doable when you are older and alone. Thanks Susan.
Susan- how timely this video on loneliness is! I have been wondering why seemingly 'random' people come up to me and start talking; it happens all the time! Then today I stopped at a yard sale on my way back home in hopes that the person might want to take a bedroom dresser mirror that I wasn't able to leave at the donation center; it would have gone to the dump. I was given a Cherokee acknowledgement and drove off in tears pondering what had just taken place. May we always be mindful to show kindness to strangers; because as scripture tells us, we might just be entertaining angels!😇
What is a Cherokee acknowledgment?
@@madeleineduxbury9877 It was a right-hand shake with a pull towards the other person's left shoulder. I've never had this happen before, so hopefully this explanation helps. 😀😀😀
Thank You for your heartfelt, compassionate and very positive channel.
Hi Susan and Desi. Thank you for this excellent video. I agree with everything you talked about. I don't feel so lonely when I watch your videos, no matter the topics.
Your warm, sweet voice soothes my heart and soul … every . single . week … ❤️✝️
👐you are so sweet!!
To see the world , even for a few short minutes, while sharing it with your eyes…this is a gift given freely and received greatly. God bless us all.
You are a blessing everytime I watch your. Video. Thank you, I can always relate to your message. Did I hear recently that you found love and got married. Desi is a sweetie, sure she is enjoying her new home.
That was beautiful I agree
I look forward to your posts every Saturday. I read the responses of others and see how much you have helped them and brightened up their day. What a treasure you are!
What treasure you are my sweet friend!!! xo Susan
Susan:Everything you said today meant so much to me..I can relate to all of it! As I've said before I'm really having trouble dealing with having turned 70! I feel like my life is just getting closer to ending and so many things I wish I had done differently..I keep going over so much of it in my mind..I love to read so I read alot and that helps and I text my friends each day and try to help them if they need me with advice or just an ear to listen! I feel if you have made a difference in just one person's life you have done well. My husband and I just celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary and had a nice day..he's still working and when he came home we had Chinese takeout and we haven't done that for a long time! We also have a wonderful kitty named Joy who right now is meowing at me for attention! Besides how wonderful and happy you loo..Desi looks so happy! The two of you just make me smile!😊 Thank you for your wise words and your videos really make me think and help me alot! Keep them coming! Sending love to you and Desi!
I can't be lonely now. I sleep at night to the sound of Sunny and Tippy (my cats) snoring up a symphony. My days are about providing meals, snacks and caring for my beloved cats, birds and turtles. In the day l go out dressed to the nines to shop often garnering compliments from strangers. Raised as a lonely only with older parents who spoke in Hungarian l knew loneliness. We had no TV. I cried when my radio died. Now l have a TV and a tablet and smart phone. It's great.
Hi Sunny & Tippy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow, your story is an inspiration, heidibee. 💗
You are such a beautiful woman, inside and out. Thank you for all that you share so openly and honestly on your channel. I forwarded this video to my friend just now - we are both 57, recently empty nesters. She lives about 3 hours away now, and called today to tell me she didn't go to a luncheon pool party she'd been invited to by a new woman acquaintance because she felt too self-conscious about her crepey skin, then was beating herself up afterward for not going Aging is a lot harder than either of us thought it would be. When you mentioned the part about in your younger days walking in a room and feeling like you owned it, and now you don't, and how you miss that sensation, it so resonated with me. Not because I'm an attention seeker, but more that it's like a feel invisible now in a way that is painful and not going to end. When we're young, we take it all for granted, without realizing we will choose to isolate ourselves out of pride, especially women, but also men. It's so sad, but it's happening all around us. Your channel and others like you are making a dent in that situation.
I think at a certain age we all have or will have crepey skin. I am 79 and it comes with the territory. I wear shorts and tank tops and one-piece bathing suits all summer. I figure if someone doesn’t like my crepey skin they don’t need to look at it!
@@buffycat4641 - So true!
@@buffycat4641yay Buffy me too!
Yes I think we all get used to being the “most important person” to either parents or partner/husband. When they all leave our lives we lose the feeling of the safety net and confidence that they provided and they were always on our side. I lost my husband of 47 years 8days ago and this is how I feel. However with the support of good friends and my small family I will get through and hopefully never become a “victim” . Susan has hit the nail on the head xx
I'm so sorry to hear you lost your husband. May your memories, family and friends bring you comfort and future joys.@@sueprice4082
I love your statement about it being a blessing and a burden to live a long life. I'm 8 years older than you and some days are diamonds, some days are stones. I moved close to my daughter and her two daughters 5 years ago and as the children grow up, my daughter is so busy with her career, I feel more lonely as time passes. I still do carpool so that is some sense of purpose yet I see the writing on the wall as they girls grow older and their mother's life is moving on with her career and boyfriend. She and I used to be so close but now...not so much. I feel more like one of her employees so I focus on the hugs from my 8 year old granddaughter yet she, too, will grow and move on like her sister. And that's a blessing, I know! I have SO much to be grateful for and I am, yet at the same time, I feel I need more compassion for myself because I am phasing out on so many levels. As you stated, I don't feel relevant. I tell my self that the world will always need my kindness and smile yet somedays... My daddy used to say that old age was not for sissies and I'd laugh with him. It isn't and I'm not laughing as much. SO grateful for the love and support from you and this group.
Thank you for this beautiful video
My Mother died this past, August 29. I turned 64 just a few days later. Her memorial is tomorrow..
I really needed this. Much love and respect.
I’m so sorry that your mom has died. It may take a long time to heal, which doesn’t mean you won’t wish you were with you. But I do believe she will be with you forever, and your memory and your heart.
Sending hugs your way...❤
I’m very sorry, losing a mother is so hard.
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I am so deeply sorry for the most recent loss of your mother. Sending prayers and hugs, now, and in the days to come.
I love your videos! I was just diagnosed with white matter disease, and I’ve been crying for days over it. I’m only 58 years old. It’s so scary because I only have myself to depend on. I still have to work for at least another 10 years. I have a long commute, so I worry about being able to drive with balance issues. I have a daughter who is married and just had my second grandson four days ago. So there’s no time for even a phone call. I try to be understanding that she’s just too busy with her own family. It’s very hard to be this lonely and maybe that’s where the health issues came from. I used to have a little dog like Desi who I miss very much. Sometimes I think about getting another dog but it just wouldn’t be fair for a dog to be home all day alone. I’m gone for at least 10 hours.
I'm so sorry for your diagnosis ❤