Yes, I agree All I here is: this is the right of the wife, but the husband has to make sure the wife don't do this or that or the other. This is really stupid I can't believe I am hearing this garbage. If the husband is an asshole, she has to shut up and let him do it. I saw a man prying over his wife and meanwhile was beating her over her head. Ready??? That's proper??? I can't believe that people are encouraged to treat woman like animals .
The title is misleading. Rights of the husband are beautifully explained by Mufti Menk but this lecture is more about pointers for the husband, so please change the video title.
I agree with what mufti Menk has said about what a husband should do if wife is establishing relationships with someone he does not like or if she is using inappropriate language or is being close to a non mehram. But what if husband is doing all these thing? What should wife do?
Amna Tehreem men are doing it anyway .or would they like to be in slaved in the house naver to be free ? Or have none rights and all thier rights to be given to a women instead. ?????? Would they live as a wisaversa ????????.comment pls ????
Sheik.Pls help my ribs have already been cracked.I get ignored and emotionally abused.I have no other support or financial help to be able to leave.I have become even sickbut, I am trying to get better.Pls advice the men much more.
All the sayings that are said in this video are right and absolutely true u wish that all Muslim men may realize this all what ever this mufti menk is saying
Forgive me, but in the 2 parts of the rights of the husband all is clearly stated, in these 2 parts for the wifes i have a felling it is not clear what are actually her rights :s May Allah guide as all ....the title should be different!
it seems like these rights are centered towards helping the wife get to paradise and helping her avoid hell, have a good marraige, happy and peaceful homes, and ultimately benefiting society, rather than giving her physical things, the wife also helps the husband avoid sinning and hellfire as well
Alright so as everyone seems to agree, this guy who wrote that book has done an even less than rudimentary job at explaining the rights of the wife and after watching the rights bestowed upon the husband (which was explained without ambiguity or seemingly deliberate indirectness), this video is plain offensive. Having watched this video, for all the offended women, the saddened women, the offended men and the egotistic men, here's a list of the actual rights bestowed upon wives by divine law, each of which will have references to the Quran or Hadith. It's worth noting that I may have missed some and some of these mentioned may have been touched upon in the video. If anyone sees a misinterpretation or incorrect reference, please tell. 1. The wife has a right to choose her husband in the first place. Quran 4:19. 2. The wife has a right not to be oppressed and/or mistreated by her husband. Quran 4:19, 2:229, 2:231. 3. The wife has a right to make a settlement (possibly khula) with her husband if he cheats on her or deserts her. Quran 4:128. 4. The wife has rights to protection from her husband. Quran 4:34. 5. A wife has the right to take and keep her all or half of her bridal gifts, even after divorce. Quran 4:4, 4:20, 2:237 6. The wife has right over her husband such that he has to be just with her (especially when dealing with multiple wives). Quran 4:3 7. The wife has right to inherit a quarter of her husband's earnings if he dies. Quran 4:12. 8. For whatever the husband enjoys from the wife, she has a right to be compensated. Quran 4:24. 9. The wife has the right to the money she earns. Quran 4:29, 4:32. 10. The wife has the right to have her husband spend for her specifically when she is pregnant. Quran 64:6. 11. The wife has right to a compensation (or payment) form her husband for breastfeeding the children. Quran 64:6. 12. The wife has right to all the food and clothing she needs from her husband. Quran 4:34, Muslim 1218 (Hadith). 13. The wife has right to stay in the husband's home for a period of time after divorce. Quran 65:1. 14. The wife has a right to a private area for herself in her home. Quran 65:6. There's much more including a woman's right to divorce her husband and seek separation and her right over the custody of her children. Additionally, she has a right not to be "beaten" by her husband and many more rights that people can find the references for online. I hope i've provided some insight into the rights of a wife and I know there are many more rights that I'm not yet aware of. For all women living in abusive marriages, if he oppresses you, takes away your dignity or undermines you such that he's not doing for you as much as you do for him, it's in your own and Allah's best interest that you seek help, advise him or leave him, from my interpretations.
8 is talking about Mehr. it is telling men and women to go about marriage lawfully. and is telling men to provide a Mehr when they're marrying a woman 11,12 &14 are for women going through divorce. not married women. These verses you have listed are out of context and you fail to look at the verses as a whole.
Instead of resolving a conflict with ur spouse..can v pray Allah to grant us enough patience and endurance and also make the spouse repent and realise (in Allah's ways) for what he / she has done??
I am married to a muslin man, and i have addressed this to him that when we married it is not ok to make friends with female coworkers. calling them and texting them when he's home from work and with his wife. He only got mad because i went into his phone and found this out, now he tries to flip the situation and act like it's my fault. Marriage is sacred in the eyes of ALLAH. I pray that ALLAH will show him the errors of his ways. I know my error and asked ALLAH to forgive me.
Seek Truth, you have no fault in his cheating. Men lie and cheat in all religions but please understand that it is not your fault! Your husband is a cheater! He will lie as long as you allow him to lie! Divorce him and let him do whatever he wants. You will be free of his abuse!
how if the wife spending all needs and everything in house.can u five me advice.cause my husband was busy to his friend watching movie in Internet he have work but his salary was to much low.and I'm working wife also and I'm handling all the expinsis in the house.
Salaams moulin a multi meng I am 53 years old working and married my uncles son who is married. I am being the second wife and live alone. He comes only when it suits him. He does absolutely nothing for me. If I happen to discuss something with him it becomes a problem and ends up with him verbally abusing me. Yesterday said to me don't cook and don't do anything I will buy supper and then message me late and tell me I have visitors. I was very sad I cried so much and he still swore me as it's my fault. Any how just had coffee and biscuits and went to sleep. He has never bought anything for me not even b/fast lunch or supper. Financially does nothing for me. He has asked me to dress in hijab which I am. I don't go against anything that he says only his time. My days only go crying and he still claims to love me. I have fear in Allah to do anything wrong. He will be now leaving this month for has but has never done anything for me.
humsheera shaik mahomed, why are you married to him? This is not a marriage? This is slavery. Marriage is something that 2 people come together to create. You do not have a partner in this situation. You only have an occasional rude visitor. Why do you stay in this situation? Get out of this situation! If you cry it is because you stay and allow him to abuse you. Stop crying and fix your life!
I'm really disappointed with these 2 parts. This isn't rights of the wife, this is how to handle a wife, control her, punish her. I was looking up to many of your lectures when I only started seeing them, but these two videos really set me back harshly. They are not transparent, not clear, not true
Religious people talk of God as if its Google that it will only give you an answer when you ask him! If God knows everything, why do you have to ask him? Why not have faith enough in the Creator to know what he/she is doing is best? The world is full of good words regardless if they are in a holy book or not but Gods creation apparently has no idea who God is. We just make shit up as we go along and blame it all on God when we know that the ONLY God man knows is money. Woe betide thee
Some men like their wives look good and be made up fancy. Doesnt a husband want his wife to reflect well on him. Its good thing to not disrespect wife in front of kids. Than kids dont respect their mom, and she will not be able to teach her children or help them to good.
Men have authority over women because God has made the one superior to the other, and because they spend their wealth to maintain them. Good women are obedient. They guard their unseen parts because God has guarded them. As for those from whom you fear disobedience, admonish them and send them to beds apart and beat them. Then if they obey you, take no further action against them. Surely God is high, supreme." (Dawood's version of the Koran, Quran, 4:34) this is the truth.. Nd that's all. All of u using ur own desire statements because u all don't know
Naver dipend for money on a husband for he will naver support you when you split .Naver leave your family for your husband for he will naver do that for you do not live in your husbands house but always build your own house for your husband will take back the house and leave you homliss and pennyliss and family Liss. So go out and work to support yourself do not ever dipend on your husband .For anything.Be independent of your husband your father or your brother.
it is sad ,actully women has no right according to her idology and whish . all set by her husband that why, now adays divorce will hapand. because husband will not think about your happyness he always think about himself what is easy to him. islam give him the right to control marrage life.without present of both side self respect and right the marrage will not workout.
The man needs to control the entire home. If he does not the whole house will fall apart. He is talking about the right of the wife. Very clearly. The woman is under control of the man. He didnt cover everything. Read the Quran, Surah 'The Women' It is very complex, but it is the law of God.
Iluv islam, the man has no rights to control the wife. These rules are not from any God, these are from man. A man wrote these "rules" to benefit men. No God would ever want a anyone to hurt anyone. God would never tell man to mutilate a woman and to treat her like a slave!
I am married to a muslin man, and i have addressed this to him that when we married it is not ok to make friends with female coworkers. calling them and texting them when he's home from work and with his wife. He only got mad because i went into his phone and found this out, now he tries to flip the situation and act like it's my fault. Marriage is sacred in the eyes of ALLAH. I pray that ALLAH will show him the errors of his ways. I know my error and asked ALLAH to forgive me.
This is music to my ears...Ya Allah grant me a husband who understands how he should conduct himself as a Muslim man towards me. Ameen!
Cherry G. Insha’allah Ameen
Masya Allah. Drop my tears hear Mufti Menk
Jazakallah for the reminder
For the wife
Very beneficial as a reminder
In Islam
This still sounds like the rights of the husband.
How does this lift up the wife from the husbands neglect and disrespect this does nothing to give the husband advice on his acts
Yes, I agree
All I here is: this is the right of the wife, but the husband has to make sure the wife don't do this or that or the other.
This is really stupid
I can't believe I am hearing this garbage.
If the husband is an asshole, she has to shut up and let him do it.
I saw a man prying over his wife and meanwhile was beating her over her head. Ready??? That's proper???
I can't believe that people are encouraged to treat woman like animals .
Rights of wife over the husband
The title is misleading. Rights of the husband are beautifully explained by Mufti Menk but this lecture is more about pointers for the husband, so please change the video title.
true
Are these the rights of a wife? or are these the rules how a wife should b ''handled''!!!
I agree with what mufti Menk has said about what a husband should do if wife is establishing relationships with someone he does not like or if she is using inappropriate language or is being close to a non mehram. But what if husband is doing all these thing? What should wife do?
Amna Tehreem men are doing it anyway .or would they like to be in slaved in the house naver to be free ? Or have none rights and all thier rights to be given to a women instead. ?????? Would they live as a wisaversa ????????.comment pls ????
Sheik.Pls help my ribs have already been cracked.I get ignored and emotionally abused.I have no other support or financial help to be able to leave.I have become even sickbut, I am trying to get better.Pls advice the men much more.
Volunteer to help the helpless . In this you will learn what you need to learn .
Caroline, have you freed yourself from him yet? Is he still beating you?
To begin with I'm totally confused with the title ... this still sounds like the rights of the husband ... so what are the rights of the wife ??
All the sayings that are said in this video are right and absolutely true u wish that all Muslim men may realize this all what ever this mufti menk is saying
Forgive me, but in the 2 parts of the rights of the husband all is clearly stated, in these 2 parts for the wifes i have a felling it is not clear what are actually her rights :s May Allah guide as all ....the title should be different!
duties of a husband rather than the rights of a wife
In return they are getting benefits to the woman theta why it is titled her rights
Masha Allah. alhamdulillah. all these mentioned are what some men do always. May Allah help the men and women of these generation.
it seems like these rights are centered towards helping the wife get to paradise and helping her avoid hell, have a good marraige, happy and peaceful homes, and ultimately benefiting society, rather than giving her physical things, the wife also helps the husband avoid sinning and hellfire as well
Alright so as everyone seems to agree, this guy who wrote that book has done an even less than rudimentary job at explaining the rights of the wife and after watching the rights bestowed upon the husband (which was explained without ambiguity or seemingly deliberate indirectness), this video is plain offensive. Having watched this video, for all the offended women, the saddened women, the offended men and the egotistic men, here's a list of the actual rights bestowed upon wives by divine law, each of which will have references to the Quran or Hadith. It's worth noting that I may have missed some and some of these mentioned may have been touched upon in the video. If anyone sees a misinterpretation or incorrect reference, please tell.
1. The wife has a right to choose her husband in the first place. Quran 4:19.
2. The wife has a right not to be oppressed and/or mistreated by her husband. Quran 4:19, 2:229, 2:231.
3. The wife has a right to make a settlement (possibly khula) with her husband if he cheats on her or deserts her. Quran 4:128.
4. The wife has rights to protection from her husband. Quran 4:34.
5. A wife has the right to take and keep her all or half of her bridal gifts, even after divorce. Quran 4:4, 4:20, 2:237
6. The wife has right over her husband such that he has to be just with her (especially when dealing with multiple wives). Quran 4:3
7. The wife has right to inherit a quarter of her husband's earnings if he dies. Quran 4:12.
8. For whatever the husband enjoys from the wife, she has a right to be compensated. Quran 4:24.
9. The wife has the right to the money she earns. Quran 4:29, 4:32.
10. The wife has the right to have her husband spend for her specifically when she is pregnant. Quran 64:6.
11. The wife has right to a compensation (or payment) form her husband for breastfeeding the children. Quran 64:6.
12. The wife has right to all the food and clothing she needs from her husband. Quran 4:34, Muslim 1218 (Hadith).
13. The wife has right to stay in the husband's home for a period of time after divorce. Quran 65:1.
14. The wife has a right to a private area for herself in her home. Quran 65:6.
There's much more including a woman's right to divorce her husband and seek separation and her right over the custody of her children. Additionally, she has a right not to be "beaten" by her husband and many more rights that people can find the references for online. I hope i've provided some insight into the rights of a wife and I know there are many more rights that I'm not yet aware of. For all women living in abusive marriages, if he oppresses you, takes away your dignity or undermines you such that he's not doing for you as much as you do for him, it's in your own and Allah's best interest that you seek help, advise him or leave him, from my interpretations.
8 is talking about Mehr. it is telling men and women to go about marriage lawfully. and is telling men to provide a Mehr when they're marrying a woman
11,12 &14 are for women going through divorce. not married women.
These verses you have listed are out of context and you fail to look at the verses as a whole.
Instead of resolving a conflict with ur spouse..can v pray Allah to grant us enough patience and endurance and also make the spouse repent and realise (in Allah's ways) for what he / she has done??
I am married to a muslin man, and i have addressed this to him that when we married it is not ok to make friends with female coworkers. calling them and texting them when he's home from work and with his wife. He only got mad because i went into his phone and found this out, now he tries to flip the situation and act like it's my fault. Marriage is sacred in the eyes of ALLAH. I pray that ALLAH will show him the errors of his ways. I know my error and asked ALLAH to forgive me.
Seek Truth, you have no fault in his cheating. Men lie and cheat in all religions but please understand that it is not your fault! Your husband is a cheater! He will lie as long as you allow him to lie! Divorce him and let him do whatever he wants. You will be free of his abuse!
how if the wife spending all needs and everything in house.can u five me advice.cause my husband was busy to his friend watching movie in Internet he have work but his salary was to much low.and I'm working wife also and I'm handling all the expinsis in the house.
Are those rights of women over men or men over women
Thier more worried about thier mother then his children's mother.
This whole lecture is about the rights of a husband i think this is titled wrong. Please Mufti Menk tell us about the RIGHTS OF A WIFE?????
bz ragh pple upload this i think they might make a mistake uploading or makin a mistake
that aren't rights of a wife
Salaams moulin a multi meng
I am 53 years old working and married my uncles son who is married. I am being the second wife and live alone. He comes only when it suits him. He does absolutely nothing for me. If I happen to discuss something with him it becomes a problem and ends up with him verbally abusing me. Yesterday said to me don't cook and don't do anything I will buy supper and then message me late and tell me I have visitors. I was very sad I cried so much and he still swore me as it's my fault. Any how just had coffee and biscuits and went to sleep. He has never bought anything for me not even b/fast lunch or supper. Financially does nothing for me. He has asked me to dress in hijab which I am. I don't go against anything that he says only his time. My days only go crying and he still claims to love me. I have fear in Allah to do anything wrong. He will be now leaving this month for has but has never done anything for me.
humsheera shaik mahomed, why are you married to him? This is not a marriage? This is slavery. Marriage is something that 2 people come together to create. You do not have a partner in this situation. You only have an occasional rude visitor. Why do you stay in this situation? Get out of this situation! If you cry it is because you stay and allow him to abuse you. Stop crying and fix your life!
This world is built on the slaver sweat struggles and sacrifices of women and the wonrables.
Misleading title..
There is no men born that will ever give you equal rights same as himself (NAVER).
Falah Yaseen you are an idiot. my wife is my queen. ill kiss her feet.
DONE
I'm really disappointed with these 2 parts. This isn't rights of the wife, this is how to handle a wife, control her, punish her. I was looking up to many of your lectures when I only started seeing them, but these two videos really set me back harshly. They are not transparent, not clear, not true
what else do you want?? your getting everything for free!!
@@bullseye9723 don't speak if you have nothing useful to say
@@ang5798 i am asking you!! not saying
Religious people talk of God as if its Google that it will only give you an answer when you ask him! If God knows everything, why do you have to ask him? Why not have faith enough in the Creator to know what he/she is doing is best? The world is full of good words regardless if they are in a holy book or not but Gods creation apparently has no idea who God is. We just make shit up as we go along and blame it all on God when we know that the ONLY God man knows is money. Woe betide thee
Men would naver marry if the shoe was on the other foot .right ?
Women loose everthing in marriedge. It's an emosstional blackmail.
Falah Yaseen did someone do something to you?
Some men like their wives look good and be made up fancy. Doesnt a husband want his wife to reflect well on him. Its good thing to not disrespect wife in front of kids. Than kids dont respect their mom, and she will not be able to teach her children or help them to good.
Men have authority over women because God has made the one superior to the other, and because they spend their wealth to maintain them. Good women are obedient. They guard their unseen parts because God has guarded them. As for those from whom you fear disobedience, admonish them and send them to beds apart and beat them. Then if they obey you, take no further action against them. Surely God is high, supreme." (Dawood's version of the Koran, Quran, 4:34) this is the truth.. Nd that's all. All of u using ur own desire statements because u all don't know
These are not rights of wife, instead husband!
Naver dipend for money on a husband for he will naver support you when you split .Naver leave your family for your husband for he will naver do that for you do not live in your husbands house but always build your own house for your husband will take back the house and leave you homliss and pennyliss and family Liss. So go out and work to support yourself do not ever dipend on your husband .For anything.Be independent of your husband your father or your brother.
it is sad ,actully women has no right according to her idology and whish . all set by her husband that why, now adays divorce will hapand.
because husband will not think about your happyness he always think about himself what is easy to him. islam give him the right to control marrage life.without present of both side self respect and right the marrage will not workout.
Take care of your children becouse (HE) won't. When he leaves you.
I hope they delete this video lol, cuz it's dead all abt how men should control wife.
The man needs to control the entire home.
If he does not the whole house will fall apart. He is talking about the right of the wife. Very clearly.
The woman is under control of the man.
He didnt cover everything. Read the Quran, Surah 'The Women'
It is very complex, but it is the law of God.
Hannah Hurst..how if wife spending for all needs in everything in the house.can u give me advice.
Iluv islam, the man has no rights to control the wife. These rules are not from any God, these are from man. A man wrote these "rules" to benefit men. No God would ever want a anyone to hurt anyone. God would never tell man to mutilate a woman and to treat her like a slave!
I am married to a muslin man, and i have addressed this to him that when we married it is not ok to make friends with female coworkers. calling them and texting them when he's home from work and with his wife. He only got mad because i went into his phone and found this out, now he tries to flip the situation and act like it's my fault. Marriage is sacred in the eyes of ALLAH. I pray that ALLAH will show him the errors of his ways. I know my error and asked ALLAH to forgive me.
Seek Truth may Allah make it easy for u