In the original story it didn’t help that when the girlfriend was making improvements OP still had the work friends in his ear. It came across like they were very negative in the support they offered him so whatever improvements she made were moot. She loved OP for instance when he would sleep on couch she would come and sleep on the floor next to him cos she missed on the bed and other sweet things but then he would talk to work friends but then would tell her nothing changed. She was suicidal, violent and didn’t hit OP. Not sure why they twisted the story here. Likes I guess
This story is not the real Reddit story. The original story the girl was not violent, she did not threaten to off herself. He mentioned she’s very sweet but her lack of ambition is what has made him no longer like her. She has no hobbies, doesn’t even cook. She does nothing but sex and conversation. He has tried to motivate her to get a hobby or work and she says no. He gets tired after working long shifts and then having to come home and cook. She grew up poor with her mom not working and her dad working and in order to stay living at home she had to go to school. She dropped out and got kicked out and OP let her move in. She had no ambition and OP was a nurse. The lease end date was not until end of October so there has been no updates.
I feel like she had BPD (borderline personality disorder) she had a lot of trouble regulating her emotions, and when she needs constant reassurance and trying to do anything to please the one she loves or thinks she loves, even if she’s hurt or has horrible mental health
I completely agree. That is exactly what I was thinking when listening to this. If that is correct, and she doesn't know or suspect that she has it, she will continue to have alot of interpersonal issues, and alot of distressing internal struggles.
I was thinking the same thing. The whole situation where she didn't see motivated for anything most likely was depression and the love bombing right whenever they needed to was probably the manic episode. I hope she eventually gets some help with her mood because that's going to help her in the long run.
I think it's a dependent personality disorder case, she is capable of doing but doesn't because she constantly needs approval and is completely mentally dependent on the op.
The instant they threaten it, call for help. Even if the other person refuses to cooperate, at that point you need assistance as well to navigate that trauma
I am pretty sure it is his exhaustion more than trying to give her false hope. I mean, given how he came to Reddit, his support network is lacking too, so he must be in a fight or flight mode.
It took months for his feelings to disappear. How is she expecting his feelings to be back on in literally two weeks. It takes time and effort for results and two weeks is far too less for this
My ex was the same, He is only 16 and already believes that he can't do work because his hands are too shakey. He failed to register for disability, He has no actual disadvantages in life, The doctors told him his hands are normal. He is a drop out, He sits inside all day playing video games. the whole 4 months we were talking, I think i only witnessed him shower 10 times. He was also extremely sexual and always tried to make moves that would be either rejected or I'd feel bad and feel pressured. I'm so glad I broke up with him. (Before anyone says, "Why didn't you just help him get a hobby or talk it out?" I tried. I told him a lot of times to get out of the house or just to go on a walk he always said,'No, that's too awkward because I have no friends.')
I'll tell you that you did all you can and a lot more that you should have. It is no business other than your ex's and a therapist if there will be one to manage finding him a hobby I'm sorry you went through this and forced yourself, take care of yourself ❤️
It’s just something the person who made this ai generated slop inserted to get more clicks smh… edit: this really wasn't in the story as far as I've heard.
Constant swings in mood is a sign of ADHD or neurodivergence. I have ADHD and my mood changes like the wind, from extreme highs to extreme lows. It can impact our ability to be motivated to do things. Although I do have a career goal that I'm working towards in life otherwise I'd just feel... idk... useless? I guess people are different. some people just don't go together as well as others may think (I don't know if that made any sense 😅)
I can totally empathize with others having ADHD, but not for this woman as she actively refuses to deal with it. People who work hard despite it gain my respect, but those who use depression or disorders as an excuse just make it harder for the rest of us.
Listening to these stories really shows how important trust and respect are in a relationship. It’s surprising how a single incident can change everything you thought you knew about someone
Ngl, if OP hadn't have done the silly k-drama/isekai "30 days to win him back" and just broke up with her the relationship wouldn't have ended like that, and if he'd communicated clearer, it might not have even ended in the first place.
This is sad. He tried ro be supportive of her, but ended up just enabling her. By the time he figured out the best approach to take, he had already lost his feelings for her.
So glad OP got out of that abusive situation. Some say he was leading her on, but in reality he told her he was trying, but honestly there was nothing malicious about him trying and had enough and needed to leave for his mental health and that girl needs a lot of help and a few diagnosis in order for her to get better help.
Some people just don't understand the need to be alone. My wife always wants to talk to me and be with me but sometimes I just need to be alone. Being around people, any people, is exhausting to me.
If she's only changing "for you", and not for herself, she will end up resenting you. - It sounds like she's chronically depressed and needs to seek help and make a commitment - to herself - to keep making moves to grow and find interest.
She has undiagnosed depression. Please don't let this slide,I've had this experience before. Get therapy or some couple counseling. It will work out as she wants to make it right
Wow what shit advice! He already said he didn’t wanna be with her and no amount of work changed that. You wouldn’t force someone to stay in a relationship they don’t wanna be in anymore would you?? Unless you’re his ex from the story.
No matter what her condition, she was abusive and using him. He deserves much better. She only wants to use him. Dating her is like dating a princess pig.
Undiagnosed or not, she's had countless opitunities to better herself. All he was asking was that she do something with her time instead of just rotting in bed. IMO, too little too late.
I actually empathize way more with the girl in this story. I have severe depression and have been led on too and it is the fucking worst. I've also experienced the absolute helplessness that happens when someone you love has decided their going their own path and that path does not involve you. What happened to me is actually way more fucked than what happened in this story, the internet is not the place to share it, I spent a couple years in therapy afterwards. Anyway, I will never understand people that make an emotional ultimatum and will stick to that ultimatum no matter how hard the other person tries to mend things. I'm not saying I could fix her, but if I was in OP's situation I would have given her a second shot on the condition she sees a psychologist. I know OP tried to get her to see a psychologist, but I don't think he really tried that hard, at a minimum I would have suggested a joint therapy session if she didn't want to go alone, I'd also sign her up for some dance classes or something so she gets some damn girlfriends. The reason OP is so exhausted is he is his girlfriend's only emotional outlet and connection.
I don’t really think that’s what’s going on, I think she was suffering from a mental health disorder and even started to better herself for him to try to get him to stay, she was a bad person 100% manipulating your partner with suicide is never okay, I don’t think she was being a parasite on purpose
He would be unsatisfied until the girlfriend finds a decent paying job. It doesn't matter if she cooked and keep the house cleaned. But always watch out for a SO who suddenly dropped everything and don't do anything. The person may be going through a mental issue.
Helping the girlfriend get a job and a hobby, communicating his problems calmly and clearly and leaving an entire house for her is the OPOSITE of being an asshole. He would've just dumped her on the park and never looked back if he was an ACTUAL asshole don't you think?
He was so wrong for leading her on. The moment she threatened to unalive herself he should’ve called 911. He handled it so poorly and drove her into being twice as crazy. He was getting some sick satisfaction out of her extreme dependency, despite claiming how it supposedly drained him. As if. feel like I was reading some weird psychological revenge plot
It was obviously a lot more than that. A gold digger wouldn’t be this desperate to fix things. She was probably depressed or had undiagnosed ADHD. Regardless, mentally, she was not okay. And OP was the person she depended completely on. For both financial and emotional needs.
@punsarethelowestformofcome352 he was like a emotional support pet to her, someone she didn't have to worry about or care about.. he just gave her everything while she did nothing..
@@Ullabulladullathat’s very obviously not what it was, she was very desperate to try to fix their relationship, a gold digger or a leech wouldn’t have tried as hard as she did, she appeared to have been not very mentally stable during that time period
@dustinjohnson6278 That's the insidiousness of depression in lives where those affected are surviving rather than thriving. Regardless of education or intellect, contemplation of one's own true state, much less one's loved ones, is not high on the priority list nor part of what one manages in their daily cognitive and mental load.
“You see the roud and back to my souls” - travis scott the song name: my eyes listen to it a little You really looked inside of her soul and noticed her lie. You are a good man 🔥
@10:30 under pressure she is making promises she won’t keep because she is afraid of losing her comfort zone, she don’t care about changing or you. Once the pressure is off she will go right back to how she was. People need to change for themselves and need to want to.
@@Panda_Perfect Not the whole vid is yapping but most of it is just them talking about their day like « oh ye we are and we slept and then we ate again oh its so annoying she again sleep on the floor. » So this wasted my time when it was just : Bed rotter girlfriend Stressed boyfriend She becomes a manipulative hypocrite They break up Hes relieved
The original story does not contain any violence or threats of suicide. The man once loved the girl for her sweetness, but gradually lost his feelings when he realized that she lacked desire and ambition. She had no hobbies, did not cook, and spent her time only on love and conversation. He tried to encourage her to pursue her interests or find a job, but she always refused. He had to work long shifts and felt tired when he had to come home to cook after a long day. She grew up in a poor family, with her mother not working and her father being the main breadwinner. When she was still at home, she had to go to school to be allowed to stay, but eventually dropped out and was asked to leave by her family. He agreed to let her move in with him. Although he was a hard-working nurse, he gradually felt that life was becoming a burden because she had no ambition. The lease doesn't expire until the end of October, so there's no new information about their relationship yet.
Like, she sounds depressed and she’s right when she said he should have told her his feelings were waning. You communicate that to a partner, otherwise you’re not in a relationship, you’re in a situation. Also, just break up with someone, don’t lead them on. I understand dealing with mental health issues of a partner can be hard but that’s why you talk. Then you act. Grow up, children.
Yikes, both OP and his now ex gf are abusive. But I feel his ex gf was reactively abusive to his abuse. I really hope OP changes his ways. You should never EVER give a deadline to a partner that you know you will not be able to go through with. He made her believe they could fix it, giving her false hope when she's clearly depressed and possibly autistic. He neglected their relationship, didn't give support to his clearly neurodivergent gf and didnt communicate his feelings and boundaries at all until it was too late, and then gave her a deadline to an impossible accomplishment. That is psychological abuse. OP was a shitty, abusive bf. I hope both OP and his ex heal, take accountability for their abuse and I hope they both learn to be better partners to their future S/Os.
@@Luvvrtu. She was warned too late. An ultimatum comes when the person still has a chance of redemption. But OP was already checked out of the relationship by the time he gave an ultimatum. That's cruel.
@@mx.brightside he stayed DESPITE the fact that she threatened her own life. he begged AND pleaded with her to do something at least a tiny bit productive and she chose not to do it. she was warned MULTIPLE times too and he had every right to treat her the way he did
This is just a sad story. Men always complain about women not communicating, but yet he never did when things started. She was offering nothing in the relationship, but yet couldn’t understand his distance. Waste of time from 2 people.
Okay, I am not an expert or something, buuut here are my thoughts on why is actually OP the ass here. 1 - It seems The story was manipulated. I read that she never tried to kill herself, she was just lazy and had 0 motivation, only wanting to have sex and a easy life (Think, in one of the updates he said to cut the sex out, but previously he said things that make us think that they didn't had time to do it, since he was sleeping on the couch, the "cut the sex" part had nothing to do with the story without the "she wanted only to have sex and do nothing more" and the same with her "Trying to off herself" because... So... You have someone who tried to kill herself for a mid argument but she never tried when the things got waaaay worse? Nuh uh, I don't buy it) so... OP had the right to be angry, but not to treat her like he did. 2 - He did NOTHING to fix the relationship and wanted her to just know why he was losing interest, he never said what was the problem. If we got angry at girls for that, we must say The same here. 3 - An ultimatum only can be made if you ACTUALLY want to change something. He never intended to change, never. That's an a**hole move. 4 - She put effort in the thing she tried even selling her stuff. He said to meet her efforts matching her efforts. He LIED. He was bored, annoyed, quiet... He actually was an hypocrite, if he needed to rest, he should say it. Even went out without telling her nothing until late while she was depressed and they were in a relationahip. 5 - EVEN WHEN HE ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP she cared for him, tried to be there for him, helped him, paying with her now owned money... But he said "Nah f*ck it" and then yapped like a baby for a f*cking slap? What he expect? A hug? Look... The girl clearly needs therapy, she tried, she did everything she could but with depression it's obvious she needs to fix things and I actually hate Leechs because my father is one too, but he was a total fucking a**hole, and he maybe had the right to be angry at first, but he indeed made her do things for him when he never intended in giving her a second chance. That is not nice. She tried to change. He never cared. Edit: Some things in the story actually make me think that this was even more manipulated. He going to The hospital for a single slap does not make any sense, if she was a normal girl and not a sports expert or a gym girl, it's weird for a guy to go to The hospital for a slap... YEAH, I KNOW IT SOUND SEXIST AS HELL but think for a second. A slap. She was a lazy, not trained girl, not a sports expert or something. Sure, it May hurt and Sting for a few hours but... Go to be checked for a slap? Even The doctors probably would've laugh. It makes much more sense for a girl to go to The hospital if a guy slaps her at full force.
Agreed. He sounds like a bad partner. His ex does sound like she has depression, I know from experience the feeling of not having the mental energy to brush ones teeth or shower. This poor girl needs help and OP somehow didn't see it.
It could be Anhedonia caused by: Depression, Schizophrenia, Bipolar disorder, Substance use disorder, Parkinson’s disease, Post-traumatic stress disorder, or Traumatic brain injury. Sounds like she definitely needs to go to therapy to fund what's going on with her
OP sucks ass and doesn't deserve love... drove that poor girl to madness. I hope she is able to get help. I would be her friend. Here is my reason. He allowed his resentment to build. She had to magically know that her depression was eating at him. Said he didn't want her when she needed him the most and that she had deal with her depression alone. Then she works on herself and tries what he wanted all along, then doesn't match the effort. Still won't communicate how suffocated he felt Lead her on. Then when he got sick, she actually cared for him and used that, despite so call not wanting it. Drove this girl to madness thinking that she was getting the relationship back on track. I am so glad you are happy and free.... at her expense. F you OP, seriously... I do not feel sorry for you.
Well I feel like the OP is to forgiving not to the point he doesn’t deserve love but not to the point he can move on quickly and his GF is the same with constant mood swings and clingyness
I just think she's emotionally fucked up probably from her past and you need to get her help obviously no one else has she's a genuinely loving person It seems just needs help.
I think he should've just left before it got this far. OP pretty much described her as a bum so from what I've heard, I'm assuming she's mentally ill and not ready for the level of commitment it takes to keep the relationship stable and OP also seems like a very work focused person. Also very trusting of his colleagues. He needs to leave her and focus on work and trying to better himself. Both of them need some therapy to work through their issues and they really need to stay away from each other.
This woman would definitely be very frustrating to be in a relationship with And I would 100% percent break up with her as well if I was in those shoes. But holy shit Op was a dick! This guy did a terrible job communicating, It was constantly from one extreme to the next either I hang out with you all day or I don't talk to you at all. He was depriving her of sex like it was some carrot on a stick he's able to dangle above her head. Finally he's constantly airing his dirty laundry about his relationship to his female co-workers. (Who I will admit their advice was pretty spot on for most of it) But then he's ignoring his woman to go out eating and drinking with these people. Never do any of this from either side if you're in a long-term commitive relationship.
All she needed to do was take care of the home though...When I was between jobs, my fiance picked UP. and I cooked and cleaned. That was the only rule. You just need to do SOMETHING if you're not contributing to mortgage/Rent
When I listen to Reddit stories, I feel it's important to consider the other side of the situation as well. By the way, my recent video had a similar dilemma.
That woman is depressed. She has insecurity. The OP could have communicated with her during the whole process.Her condition majes me so sad. This man will spend his old life alone. His co workers wont cone to help him.
I'm pretty sure he was probably already sleeping with at least one of them tbh. He said "grounded and goal oriented" way too much for me. I love my friends but none of my platonic relationships require so much gushing. And NONE of their (the friends) advice said anything about counseling, just that she's a parasite and he needs to stay away from her (at their place) so he won't get tricked into trying to work things out with her. If u ever really love a person, u care about making sure they are well and you communicate with THEM not other women. He'd already moved on emotionally.
don’t expect OP to stay but has he never been depressed or gone through a bad time , like he expects everyone to do what he does both parties majorly suck
Where is the part in these story showing feminism? Just because there is a woman involved doesnt means it contains feminism. This story is focusing on mental health. Ps. I just saw your among us pfp. Oh well. You are probably just a child or a teenager.
Both in the wrong, one she shouldn't have threatened herself, and should have been morw of a push. But when she finally did try to be active your dismiss it, and even dont put as much effort like promised.
She is bad but it honestly sounds like she's dealing with some mental health issues op is also partly to blame he should have communicated better regardless if you felt like something shouldn't need to be said you need to have a conversation before it gets this bad
It sounds like if she picked up painting or knitting as a hobby he wouldn't mind working. If she spent her time cooking and learning a language. Hell, she could have been binging on chemistry videos and talking excitedly to him about them when he got home and probably would have enjoyed that better. The being at home part wasn't the issue, it was the lack of willingness to do anything meaningful or challenging.
She is right most of time i my opinion. If you really love your girlfriend then you wouldn't mind does she have something to do besides to be with you and spend time togehter
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I feel like they both need therapy, especially before any of them attempt another relationship
Totally agree, therapy seems like the best option before any new relationship can even begin.
Sounds like she has BPD and he should get therapy to process his relationship and move on
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In the original story it didn’t help that when the girlfriend was making improvements OP still had the work friends in his ear. It came across like they were very negative in the support they offered him so whatever improvements she made were moot. She loved OP for instance when he would sleep on couch she would come and sleep on the floor next to him cos she missed on the bed and other sweet things but then he would talk to work friends but then would tell her nothing changed. She was suicidal, violent and didn’t hit OP. Not sure why they twisted the story here. Likes I guess
This story is not the real Reddit story. The original story the girl was not violent, she did not threaten to off herself. He mentioned she’s very sweet but her lack of ambition is what has made him no longer like her. She has no hobbies, doesn’t even cook. She does nothing but sex and conversation. He has tried to motivate her to get a hobby or work and she says no. He gets tired after working long shifts and then having to come home and cook. She grew up poor with her mom not working and her dad working and in order to stay living at home she had to go to school. She dropped out and got kicked out and OP let her move in. She had no ambition and OP was a nurse. The lease end date was not until end of October so there has been no updates.
I think she has dependent personality disorder, from what I understand
Have a link to the original post?
Sounds like severe extreme depression
Then why change the story into this crazy mess
@@UndeadSlayer5 For likes.
Neither party here is in the right, both of these people need some therapy.
I feel like she had BPD (borderline personality disorder) she had a lot of trouble regulating her emotions, and when she needs constant reassurance and trying to do anything to please the one she loves or thinks she loves, even if she’s hurt or has horrible mental health
I completely agree. That is exactly what I was thinking when listening to this. If that is correct, and she doesn't know or suspect that she has it, she will continue to have alot of interpersonal issues, and alot of distressing internal struggles.
I was thinking the same thing. The whole situation where she didn't see motivated for anything most likely was depression and the love bombing right whenever they needed to was probably the manic episode. I hope she eventually gets some help with her mood because that's going to help her in the long run.
Exactly, it's a tough situation, but both parties clearly need therapy to move forward.
Yes
I think it's a dependent personality disorder case, she is capable of doing but doesn't because she constantly needs approval and is completely mentally dependent on the op.
If you ever have a relationship where the person says stay with me or I’ll off myself then you need to get out. Immediately. They need help.
Emotional blackmail at its finest!
@@saltwatertaffy7020 not to be that guy but *finest
@Tots_lol Ty, for the correction; I hadn't realized I made a typo.🙂
Absolutely! When someone uses threats like that, it's time to leave and get them the help they need.
The instant they threaten it, call for help. Even if the other person refuses to cooperate, at that point you need assistance as well to navigate that trauma
Said it was a "deadline". To him it was, he was just leading her on that point. It can only get worse if you give someone false hope.
YES at this point he was like I don't think I am going to stay with her but let's just stay with her until the lease is up
I am pretty sure it is his exhaustion more than trying to give her false hope. I mean, given how he came to Reddit, his support network is lacking too, so he must be in a fight or flight mode.
@@Maninawig also, he isnt the lazy bum, why would he be the one to be forzed to move out?
You're right, giving false hope never helps anyone. It just makes things worse in the long run.
@@cototototorra7106 because of societal pressures.
As bad as she is, OP is just leading her on the whole time. Both need help
How ?
Bro what
Agreed
@@krystalfontenot9508 by saying Let’s try and work it out in 2 month with 0 intension of trying or building a relationship
True
Literally my last relationship
Damn I’m sorry
Oh no bro
Dude same here, just that it was a boy who also used me. Tbh i feel better I’m not the only one who Went through such things
At least it's in the Past
You made it into a relationship?
It took months for his feelings to disappear. How is she expecting his feelings to be back on in literally two weeks. It takes time and effort for results and two weeks is far too less for this
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My ex was the same, He is only 16 and already believes that he can't do work because his hands are too shakey. He failed to register for disability, He has no actual disadvantages in life, The doctors told him his hands are normal. He is a drop out, He sits inside all day playing video games. the whole 4 months we were talking, I think i only witnessed him shower 10 times. He was also extremely sexual and always tried to make moves that would be either rejected or I'd feel bad and feel pressured. I'm so glad I broke up with him.
(Before anyone says, "Why didn't you just help him get a hobby or talk it out?" I tried. I told him a lot of times to get out of the house or just to go on a walk he always said,'No, that's too awkward because I have no friends.')
Perfect Definition of my brother .
this sounds like my ex, hope you’re better op
I got some shakey ass hands and that doesn't stop anyone from working 🤣
I'll tell you that you did all you can and a lot more that you should have. It is no business other than your ex's and a therapist if there will be one to manage finding him a hobby
I'm sorry you went through this and forced yourself, take care of yourself ❤️
Wait how old are you
Did people genuinely forget the part of her manipulating him with suicide ? Idc what problem you have, you got no excuses to do this bs.
She probably was going to do it I don’t think it was a threat
It’s just something the person who made this ai generated slop inserted to get more clicks smh…
edit: this really wasn't in the story as far as I've heard.
As rare as it is, she was 100% going to kill herself. You haven't the slightest idea how serious people can be about that kind of thing.
That isn't part of the actual Reddit post, that was added for drama
Constant swings in mood is a sign of ADHD or neurodivergence. I have ADHD and my mood changes like the wind, from extreme highs to extreme lows. It can impact our ability to be motivated to do things. Although I do have a career goal that I'm working towards in life otherwise I'd just feel... idk... useless? I guess people are different. some people just don't go together as well as others may think (I don't know if that made any sense 😅)
nah cuz i swear thats bipolar and depression not adhd
u made perfect sence, dont worry
I also got ADHD, but at the end of the day; it’s her job to get her life under control. Hopefully with help!
@@fanumtaxing_fourteenadhd and bipolar have symptomatic overlap
I can totally empathize with others having ADHD, but not for this woman as she actively refuses to deal with it. People who work hard despite it gain my respect, but those who use depression or disorders as an excuse just make it harder for the rest of us.
Listening to these stories really shows how important trust and respect are in a relationship. It’s surprising how a single incident can change everything you thought you knew about someone
Ngl, if OP hadn't have done the silly k-drama/isekai "30 days to win him back" and just broke up with her the relationship wouldn't have ended like that, and if he'd communicated clearer, it might not have even ended in the first place.
This is sad. He tried ro be supportive of her, but ended up just enabling her. By the time he figured out the best approach to take, he had already lost his feelings for her.
So glad OP got out of that abusive situation. Some say he was leading her on, but in reality he told her he was trying, but honestly there was nothing malicious about him trying and had enough and needed to leave for his mental health and that girl needs a lot of help and a few diagnosis in order for her to get better help.
Some people just don't understand the need to be alone. My wife always wants to talk to me and be with me but sometimes I just need to be alone. Being around people, any people, is exhausting to me.
If she's only changing "for you", and not for herself, she will end up resenting you. - It sounds like she's chronically depressed and needs to seek help and make a commitment - to herself - to keep making moves to grow and find interest.
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Your the goat
I’m glad I have fiancée who helps my mental health!!! It’s gotten so much better since he’s in my life!!!
She has undiagnosed depression. Please don't let this slide,I've had this experience before. Get therapy or some couple counseling. It will work out as she wants to make it right
This is trash advise, she is not his issue anymore, she should do the work herself to get better.
Wow what shit advice! He already said he didn’t wanna be with her and no amount of work changed that.
You wouldn’t force someone to stay in a relationship they don’t wanna be in anymore would you??
Unless you’re his ex from the story.
No matter what her condition, she was abusive and using him. He deserves much better. She only wants to use him. Dating her is like dating a princess pig.
@@Ullabulladulla mental health isn’t an excuse to be a dick, you’re so right.
Undiagnosed or not, she's had countless opitunities to better herself. All he was asking was that she do something with her time instead of just rotting in bed. IMO, too little too late.
I actually empathize way more with the girl in this story. I have severe depression and have been led on too and it is the fucking worst. I've also experienced the absolute helplessness that happens when someone you love has decided their going their own path and that path does not involve you. What happened to me is actually way more fucked than what happened in this story, the internet is not the place to share it, I spent a couple years in therapy afterwards.
Anyway, I will never understand people that make an emotional ultimatum and will stick to that ultimatum no matter how hard the other person tries to mend things. I'm not saying I could fix her, but if I was in OP's situation I would have given her a second shot on the condition she sees a psychologist. I know OP tried to get her to see a psychologist, but I don't think he really tried that hard, at a minimum I would have suggested a joint therapy session if she didn't want to go alone, I'd also sign her up for some dance classes or something so she gets some damn girlfriends. The reason OP is so exhausted is he is his girlfriend's only emotional outlet and connection.
The entitlement is absolutely insane in this one. She's mad he's not okey with her being an absolute parasite.
I don’t really think that’s what’s going on, I think she was suffering from a mental health disorder and even started to better herself for him to try to get him to stay, she was a bad person 100% manipulating your partner with suicide is never okay, I don’t think she was being a parasite on purpose
Just a sad codependent relationship.
She sounded like she was going through shit herself... Maybe depression..
I agree
He would be unsatisfied until the girlfriend finds a decent paying job. It doesn't matter if she cooked and keep the house cleaned.
But always watch out for a SO who suddenly dropped everything and don't do anything. The person may be going through a mental issue.
Instead of this crap just dump her and move on!!!
Anyone else got baited by the shorts 😭 also op was right but was kind of an asshole about it
Helping the girlfriend get a job and a hobby, communicating his problems calmly and clearly and leaving an entire house for her is the OPOSITE of being an asshole.
He would've just dumped her on the park and never looked back if he was an ACTUAL asshole don't you think?
@@OneSpicyLoafI mean it can always be worse, I just meant that op could have handled it slightly better
@@hydrotherat5181 i think you forgot to emphasize the "slightly" here
He was so wrong for leading her on. The moment she threatened to unalive herself he should’ve called 911. He handled it so poorly and drove her into being twice as crazy. He was getting some sick satisfaction out of her extreme dependency, despite claiming how it supposedly drained him. As if. feel like I was reading some weird psychological revenge plot
She didn’t want to lose that good money flow
It was obviously a lot more than that. A gold digger wouldn’t be this desperate to fix things.
She was probably depressed or had undiagnosed ADHD. Regardless, mentally, she was not okay. And OP was the person she depended completely on. For both financial and emotional needs.
@punsarethelowestformofcome352 he was like a emotional support pet to her, someone she didn't have to worry about or care about.. he just gave her everything while she did nothing..
@@Ullabulladullathat’s very obviously not what it was, she was very desperate to try to fix their relationship, a gold digger or a leech wouldn’t have tried as hard as she did, she appeared to have been not very mentally stable during that time period
I miss these long story’s 😭
Bro you don't get blood test for ADHD testing
If you listened you'll hear he told her that but still refused. He said it wasn't like a regular doctor's visit, she wasn't taking any of that
Bro is a moron for slow walking a breakup.
Dude how did neither of them realize she was depressed?
(Until years into the relationship)
Maybe because they both were depressed, and sadness wasn't one of the prevalent symptoms for either of them.
@@orisatalabi Still though, it seems like they both studied in medical fields, so they should know there is more to depression than saddness.
@dustinjohnson6278 That's the insidiousness of depression in lives where those affected are surviving rather than thriving. Regardless of education or intellect, contemplation of one's own true state, much less one's loved ones, is not high on the priority list nor part of what one manages in their daily cognitive and mental load.
@@orisatalabi ok yeah that makes sense
“You see the roud and back to my souls” - travis scott
the song name: my eyes listen to it a little
You really looked inside of her soul and noticed her lie. You are a good man 🔥
@10:30 under pressure she is making promises she won’t keep because she is afraid of losing her comfort zone, she don’t care about changing or you. Once the pressure is off she will go right back to how she was. People need to change for themselves and need to want to.
The moment a threat of self harm is expressed is the moment that you absolutely call that bluff.
25 minutes of total yapping
Why you watching then or even bothering to comment
@@Panda_Perfect Not the whole vid is yapping but most of it is just them talking about their day like « oh ye we are and we slept and then we ate again oh its so annoying she again sleep on the floor. »
So this wasted my time when it was just :
Bed rotter girlfriend
Stressed boyfriend
She becomes a manipulative hypocrite
They break up
Hes relieved
@@Lisa.IlikefnafOk. fair enough and I kinda agree 👍
@@Panda_Perfect Ok thx for agreeing
It's exhausting when someone won't let you move on. Stay strong!
9:06 I’ve been tested for ADHD, and they just ask you questions and stuff, there’s no needles
What I find amazing in this story is the fact that you felt the need to go to the hospital because your gf slapped you.
The original story does not contain any violence or threats of suicide. The man once loved the girl for her sweetness, but gradually lost his feelings when he realized that she lacked desire and ambition. She had no hobbies, did not cook, and spent her time only on love and conversation. He tried to encourage her to pursue her interests or find a job, but she always refused. He had to work long shifts and felt tired when he had to come home to cook after a long day. She grew up in a poor family, with her mother not working and her father being the main breadwinner. When she was still at home, she had to go to school to be allowed to stay, but eventually dropped out and was asked to leave by her family. He agreed to let her move in with him. Although he was a hard-working nurse, he gradually felt that life was becoming a burden because she had no ambition. The lease doesn't expire until the end of October, so there's no new information about their relationship yet.
Like, she sounds depressed and she’s right when she said he should have told her his feelings were waning. You communicate that to a partner, otherwise you’re not in a relationship, you’re in a situation. Also, just break up with someone, don’t lead them on. I understand dealing with mental health issues of a partner can be hard but that’s why you talk. Then you act. Grow up, children.
i feel like the nurses are a bit sus
She was bad, but she was being lead on. It was to the point where I thought they was gonna get back together
Yikes, both OP and his now ex gf are abusive. But I feel his ex gf was reactively abusive to his abuse. I really hope OP changes his ways. You should never EVER give a deadline to a partner that you know you will not be able to go through with. He made her believe they could fix it, giving her false hope when she's clearly depressed and possibly autistic. He neglected their relationship, didn't give support to his clearly neurodivergent gf and didnt communicate his feelings and boundaries at all until it was too late, and then gave her a deadline to an impossible accomplishment. That is psychological abuse. OP was a shitty, abusive bf. I hope both OP and his ex heal, take accountability for their abuse and I hope they both learn to be better partners to their future S/Os.
i see how OP did nun wrong.. he gave her an ultimatum and she was warned 🤷🏻♀️
Depression and autism is NOT an excuse to blackmail your partner with suicide, hope this helps 👍
@@SillyBilly334 I never said it was. Thats why I called the ex abusive. That, and because she hit him.
@@Luvvrtu. She was warned too late. An ultimatum comes when the person still has a chance of redemption. But OP was already checked out of the relationship by the time he gave an ultimatum. That's cruel.
@@mx.brightside he stayed DESPITE the fact that she threatened her own life. he begged AND pleaded with her to do something at least a tiny bit productive and she chose not to do it. she was warned MULTIPLE times too and he had every right to treat her the way he did
That pink balloon had me for a moment there.
Damn this uploaded and hour ago?
This is just a sad story. Men always complain about women not communicating, but yet he never did when things started. She was offering nothing in the relationship, but yet couldn’t understand his distance. Waste of time from 2 people.
This might be the longest story requestedreads has ever posted😧
Okay, I am not an expert or something, buuut here are my thoughts on why is actually OP the ass here.
1 - It seems The story was manipulated. I read that she never tried to kill herself, she was just lazy and had 0 motivation, only wanting to have sex and a easy life (Think, in one of the updates he said to cut the sex out, but previously he said things that make us think that they didn't had time to do it, since he was sleeping on the couch, the "cut the sex" part had nothing to do with the story without the "she wanted only to have sex and do nothing more" and the same with her "Trying to off herself" because... So... You have someone who tried to kill herself for a mid argument but she never tried when the things got waaaay worse? Nuh uh, I don't buy it) so... OP had the right to be angry, but not to treat her like he did.
2 - He did NOTHING to fix the relationship and wanted her to just know why he was losing interest, he never said what was the problem. If we got angry at girls for that, we must say The same here.
3 - An ultimatum only can be made if you ACTUALLY want to change something. He never intended to change, never. That's an a**hole move.
4 - She put effort in the thing she tried even selling her stuff. He said to meet her efforts matching her efforts. He LIED. He was bored, annoyed, quiet... He actually was an hypocrite, if he needed to rest, he should say it. Even went out without telling her nothing until late while she was depressed and they were in a relationahip.
5 - EVEN WHEN HE ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP she cared for him, tried to be there for him, helped him, paying with her now owned money... But he said "Nah f*ck it" and then yapped like a baby for a f*cking slap? What he expect? A hug?
Look... The girl clearly needs therapy, she tried, she did everything she could but with depression it's obvious she needs to fix things and I actually hate Leechs because my father is one too, but he was a total fucking a**hole, and he maybe had the right to be angry at first, but he indeed made her do things for him when he never intended in giving her a second chance. That is not nice. She tried to change. He never cared.
Edit: Some things in the story actually make me think that this was even more manipulated. He going to The hospital for a single slap does not make any sense, if she was a normal girl and not a sports expert or a gym girl, it's weird for a guy to go to The hospital for a slap... YEAH, I KNOW IT SOUND SEXIST AS HELL but think for a second. A slap. She was a lazy, not trained girl, not a sports expert or something. Sure, it May hurt and Sting for a few hours but... Go to be checked for a slap? Even The doctors probably would've laugh. It makes much more sense for a girl to go to The hospital if a guy slaps her at full force.
Agreed. He sounds like a bad partner. His ex does sound like she has depression, I know from experience the feeling of not having the mental energy to brush ones teeth or shower. This poor girl needs help and OP somehow didn't see it.
It could be Anhedonia caused by: Depression, Schizophrenia, Bipolar disorder, Substance use disorder, Parkinson’s disease, Post-traumatic stress disorder, or Traumatic brain injury. Sounds like she definitely needs to go to therapy to fund what's going on with her
OP sucks ass and doesn't deserve love... drove that poor girl to madness. I hope she is able to get help. I would be her friend. Here is my reason. He allowed his resentment to build. She had to magically know that her depression was eating at him. Said he didn't want her when she needed him the most and that she had deal with her depression alone. Then she works on herself and tries what he wanted all along, then doesn't match the effort. Still won't communicate how suffocated he felt Lead her on. Then when he got sick, she actually cared for him and used that, despite so call not wanting it. Drove this girl to madness thinking that she was getting the relationship back on track. I am so glad you are happy and free.... at her expense. F you OP, seriously... I do not feel sorry for you.
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Well I feel like the OP is to forgiving not to the point he doesn’t deserve love but not to the point he can move on quickly and his GF is the same with constant mood swings and clingyness
Agreed 😂@@dumbsounds5659
this should be a book or something. omg this was so different from all the other once
They should make a podcast on Spotify
I just think she's emotionally fucked up probably from her past and you need to get her help obviously no one else has she's a genuinely loving person It seems just needs help.
I think he should've just left before it got this far. OP pretty much described her as a bum so from what I've heard, I'm assuming she's mentally ill and not ready for the level of commitment it takes to keep the relationship stable and OP also seems like a very work focused person. Also very trusting of his colleagues. He needs to leave her and focus on work and trying to better himself. Both of them need some therapy to work through their issues and they really need to stay away from each other.
This woman would definitely be very frustrating to be in a relationship with And I would 100% percent break up with her as well if I was in those shoes.
But holy shit Op was a dick!
This guy did a terrible job communicating, It was constantly from one extreme to the next either I hang out with you all day or I don't talk to you at all. He was depriving her of sex like it was some carrot on a stick he's able to dangle above her head. Finally he's constantly airing his dirty laundry about his relationship to his female co-workers. (Who I will admit their advice was pretty spot on for most of it) But then he's ignoring his woman to go out eating and drinking with these people.
Never do any of this from either side if you're in a long-term commitive relationship.
Bro this sound more like a father daughter relationship than a couple, she’s so childish smh
All she needed to do was take care of the home though...When I was between jobs, my fiance picked UP. and I cooked and cleaned. That was the only rule. You just need to do SOMETHING if you're not contributing to mortgage/Rent
Where is her family? They need to come get her. She needs professional help.
She was straight-
When I listen to Reddit stories, I feel it's important to consider the other side of the situation as well. By the way, my recent video had a similar dilemma.
I feel like a zombie watching those videos in the background
When I heard “in bed” I immediately thought “Oh, another cheating story, pretty sure already know how this goes”
That woman is depressed. She has insecurity. The OP could have communicated with her during the whole process.Her condition majes me so sad. This man will spend his old life alone. His co workers wont cone to help him.
Thank you! I agree!
I'm pretty sure he was probably already sleeping with at least one of them tbh. He said "grounded and goal oriented" way too much for me. I love my friends but none of my platonic relationships require so much gushing. And NONE of their (the friends) advice said anything about counseling, just that she's a parasite and he needs to stay away from her (at their place) so he won't get tricked into trying to work things out with her. If u ever really love a person, u care about making sure they are well and you communicate with THEM not other women. He'd already moved on emotionally.
don’t expect OP to stay but has he never been depressed or gone through a bad time , like he expects everyone to do what he does both parties majorly suck
relationships are like fart... if you need to force it its probably shit.
Idk why but I feel bad for the girl even though I dont think the guy did anything wrong
Sounds like my last marriage that I'm still trying to get a divorce from
Even tho i hate feminism and usually these stories, I think she should get another chance.
Where is the part in these story showing feminism? Just because there is a woman involved doesnt means it contains feminism. This story is focusing on mental health.
Ps. I just saw your among us pfp. Oh well. You are probably just a child or a teenager.
The people saying first second and third finally got it right
I subbed to you you deserve it
@@ashleyferguson904 thanks
@@ashleyferguson904 I subbed to you too
The background 🫠✊
2:48 you are my sun-shine my only sun-shine
a whole week without uploading long form???? unbelievable
WaThe Ching these videos make me realize how easily I can be manipulated
There isn't the usual new video, and I watched them all 😭😭😭
Mate put some music behind the AI talk like telltales does and I'll be hooked
Nurses know nurses!!
I had one with this girl Ariana but then I realized she would never like me after that
someone stole my 2016 ....this is me
2:44 rip lebron 😂😂😂
Both of them are in the wrong
this is why I’m not getting a gf
0:08 the extreme megures gun🗿
Both in the wrong, one she shouldn't have threatened herself, and should have been morw of a push.
But when she finally did try to be active your dismiss it, and even dont put as much effort like promised.
I would’ve just called the cops
She is bad but it honestly sounds like she's dealing with some mental health issues op is also partly to blame he should have communicated better regardless if you felt like something shouldn't need to be said you need to have a conversation before it gets this bad
AMAZING
Please make more interesting videos.
Who’s here from the shorts
for youtube shorts users 1:16
Both party’s are somewhat wrong OPs ex clearly has some mental issues, and have that ‘deadline’ seams very pressuring and giving OPs ex false hope
It sounds like if she picked up painting or knitting as a hobby he wouldn't mind working.
If she spent her time cooking and learning a language. Hell, she could have been binging on chemistry videos and talking excitedly to him about them when he got home and probably would have enjoyed that better.
The being at home part wasn't the issue, it was the lack of willingness to do anything meaningful or challenging.
1:18 for those that came from shorts 😊
Thought she was gonna start of
1:18 for shorts ppl
She is right most of time i my opinion. If you really love your girlfriend then you wouldn't mind does she have something to do besides to be with you and spend time togehter
In the future I now what to do if this happens.