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Kid- “I’m not a writer”
Musician- “what do you mean?”
Kid- “I’ve been struggling to write a piece and i can’t”
Musician- “i see”
Kid- “I’m no writer, I can’t get past this writer’s block. I give up”
Musician- “do you know what writer’s block mean?”
Kid- “what?”
Musician- “it means you’re a writer”
10:50 "Being a perfectionist is another excuse for not finishing." -Mary Spender, Songwriter
That's the quote I need on my studio wall.
Story of my life.
Gotta wrap some things up, damn the torpedoes...
You nailed it.
Always see the end at the beginning, even if you only can get a glimpse of it. At the end you'll be able to see how you did for yourself.
I think these "rules" can be applied to anything productive in life, not just music. Thanks Mary!
"Done is better than perfect" ... hit a chord with me. ( no pun intended)
I need that as a tattoo on the back of my right hand. Gaaaaah! Perfection paralysis sucks!
Maybe Tool should hear that remark🤔jk jk
Oh come on, it was a little intended wasn't it,,,,, just a little bit?
Also, "Perfect is the enemy of good enough" :D
Songwriting is like fishing in a stream; you put in your line and hope to catch something. And I don't think anyone downstream from Bob Dylan ever caught anything.
-Arlo Guthrie
ha, fuck dylan
what about McLean
LOL
Mary giving us all the keys to the Lamborghini, completely free.
Yep, except no one wants to buy or pay for music anymore so you'll have to make do with a beat up old banger.
@doobiewah357 well I don't know Mary's story personally, kids can be cruel and sometimes they go after kids that they think are better than themselves, because they want to bring them down.
Not the Lambo, probably more like an E-Type Jag. Simple and elegant, not brash and ridiculous. :)
doobiewah357 how do you know she’s bi? I saw on another video you commented she was gay? I’m not hating just wondering
doobiewah357 ah I see. If Mary hasn’t said anything perhaps she doesn’t want it to be public knowledge. As you said tho, it’s not a big deal and she still has a great RUclips channel 👍
"Done is better than perfect" That hit harder than a sledgehammer to the face, because it is true and I'm guilty of being a perfectionist. Excellent advice and it is something that I'll try to work hard to do in practice.
"Done is better than perfect" - wise words, that apply to more than just music - thanks!
Mary, you are inspirational. The best book I’ve read on songwriting was “On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft” by Stephen King, which wasn’t really about songwriting, but
about writing in general. Many aspects are parallel. Stephen King is an avid guitarist who rewards himself by playing guitar after finishing hours of writing. You nailed the basic principles of both - tell a story; practice your craft; read to be a good writer (or listen and learn songs to be a good songwriter); and, keep at it for yourself because only you can create whatever you’re capable of creating.
On Writing... a fav book of mine!
That was some of the most informative 12 minutes I've ever listened to.
Great words of advice. I once heard the quote - Don't let best get in the way of better - ties right into your perfectionist statement and I wholeheartedly agree with it!
The fast pace of this video is spot on. Your enthusiasm for the subject is infectious. I experienced a universal connection with the creative urge of mankind in all times and places. Creativity is how, we as beings, express our true nature. Beautiful.
Wow...I um, haven’t written in a very long time. Your quick, no nonsense, concise, and absolutely heartfelt video just kicked me in the pants...thank you!
You're point about finishing before perfection is on point with me. Hate deadlines ... but then I'm finished. It's what it is.
I love this slightly more cinematic-storytelling kind of vibe in this video! Keep it up, you did a great job!
It always makes me smile how you are yourself, your passion "fills the room". I hope to one day meet you but until then I, as well as I believe most others do, feel like your someone we know / are a good friend with. Keep being true and I am sure we will be seeing a LOT of you in the future.
Experience is priceless... experience this rich, shared here... is even... more. This is Brilliant!
That I loved. "Done is better than Perfect". Goes along with Practice until it is not wrong.
I've been suffering badly with writer's block over the past few days and this is exactly what I needed to watch. Thanks for this, it's a great video with more than just one or two pieces of great advice. Much appreciated :-)
Writing has been one of the few outlets in my life where I can really truly be myself, without the weight of the worlds expectations falling down on my every act. I think it is because of this that I am able to write dark, gritty or tragic poems so easily. There are times when I want to write something upbeat, am almost exploding with that desire and I cannot find the words. These are the times when my go-to, my darkness, becomes a road to writing the happy piece I want to end up with. I almost always enter my writing in a dark place, but over the course of many lines, sometimes many pages, I can gently guide the theme down a path to something brighter.
In this way the darkness that is always there almost acts like a doorway to other kinds of writing for me. I have found that the key to writing isn't about the place you want your song or poem to end up, it's about accepting where you have to start, the roads you have to take to get there. Writing is largely a journey of discovery, an adventure, a hero's arc if you will. It will take you down many roads you did not expect to travel before you reach the place you intended to go. Accepting that has, for me at least, been the transformative in how I approach the keyboard or notepad.
Beautiful video! Thank you for sharing with us!
Joni, Leonard, and Picasso (Bob as well)
This video is going to be such an awesome tool for so many people, and your selflessness will come back to you tenfold. Cheers Mary, and I can't wait to appreciate the rest of the series 🤘✌⚘
Thank you Mary. I now know why I do the things I do to write a song. It all makes sense now. Cheers!
Thank you so much Mary ... I needed to hear this at this point in my growth as a musician and songwriter. The universe provides!
Mary just incredible, you should be a commencement speaker. So logical!!! Keep doing what you’re doing, so inspirational....
I've played music for over 50 years. And I've only written 3 songs in all that time. You've inspired me to go for it and just keep trying. Thank you.
Thank you for wise, inspiring and motivating words.
inspired. thank you for this, I realize now that my block is from overthinking. I
will take a walk now.
Hey Mary, I really appreciate this type of video from you. I may not be a songwriter, but I feel like this advice is applicable to any kind of creative work. I’m a scientist and am in the process of writing research proposals to start off my independent research career, and your advice really gives me perspective on my own writing and creative process. Love these videos, keep up the awesome work!
What an outstanding video. Have you considered demonstrating the process of honing the guitar arrangement from initial conception through to the state of “done”? I am really looking forward to the rest of this series. Keep up the great work!
This is one of my favorite videos that you have put out. I am excited to see more from the series!
Great advice! Coming from the perspective of a professional writer (print, not songs) the ‘don’t wait for inspiration’ bit is something I tell to young writers all the time. Write every day. If you can’t figure out where to start, start with the alphabet until words start coming out. You’re going to throw most of it out anyway, so let it all come. If you can, write at the same time(s) every day. Your muse isn’t going to come along every day - don’t make yourself hard to find.
Just the piece of motivation I needed for something completely unrelated to music. Thanks.
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I’ve always always felt that I might just have a shot as a guitar player, but nothing more. I didn’t think I could ever have songs in me. Mary Spender, you might’ve just changed that. Thank you.
My favorite part about songwriting, or any art form really, is the storytelling :)
I wish I had preserved much of my songwriting. Writing was cathartic, but I felt that letting go by destroying my creation was equivalent to letting go of the past in a positive way. I feel very differently about that now and regret not saving my works. Although I can remember the gist of a song, the details are lost. The specific turn of phrase that inspires you to to keep going with a song cannot be underestimated. Documenting your journey is invaluable.
You're helping others find THEIR "Path to Expression". Well done.
This was very insightful. I write poetry, play guitar and piano. I've been writing music since I was 13 which happened to be the same age my heart got broken for the first time. Anyway, I still write songs I've never been a singer but music is a big part of me and my life. Thanks for this video I found it inspiring.
Songs are simply short, short stories. Lyrics or music first? It happens both ways. Also, using different guitars can lead to different types of songs. "The creative adult is the child who survived." -- Ursula Leguin... "The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul." -- Dieter F. Uchtdorf
But there are good songs with stupid lyrics
Jimmy Buffet went from songwriter to novelist, he said songwriting was considerably more difficult.
"Done is better than perfect" Absolutely correct and inspirational at the same time. Thanks for your insight into this creative process. I look forward to the next installment.
Thank you so much for the video. Just started watching and as someone who is learning the guitar but has been spending his life trying to write music,this is awesome. Thanks once again.
You are awesome!
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
Good stuff! These pieces you do are so thought provoking and encouraging. Keep being awesome!
BRILLIANT video Mary...thank you so very much. Much respect from OKC, OK
From Enid, OK. Mary fans in OK represent!!!
Wow! What a great video, Mary! Thanks!
I don’t write songs or play guitar, but the message in this video can be applied to anything. And I needed this today. Thanks so much for everything you do.
great video i'm listening . being able to share my music and lyrics instantly with the world is the best part for me as a songwriter musician . and to hear it being created is amazing
I remember having a rough time when I thought that I should write lyrics in english to have a bigger audience over the internet. I did some stuff in english, but it just didn't feel like me. Now I'm back to writing stuff with my own language though only around 5 million people understand it. No one is stopping me from expressing myself the way I feel is the best.
The subject, the content, the delivery … pure gold!
Once again, wonderful words of advice. I recently banned myself from buying more plastic models until I actually finish some. Perfection is my nemesis, but I have to remember that "done is better than perfect." Thank you, Mary!
Really powerful stuff here *wipes away man-tear*
Mary, Hi from Brazil!
I didn't know you until 30 minutes ago, but I have to say that I just loved all of your videos content, I first saw the one of Lava me , then i whatched a few others videos, and now I've seen this one and I have to say that it helped me a lot, because I've been thinking a lot to try to put out the music I do at home alone, but you know, the shyness and the insecurity has prevented me until now, but you just inspired me to at least try. Thank you so much and God bless you!
I wish this video had come out earlier. I might have 4 albums out but there are so many good pieces of advice in this and it’s hit home so much. Defo going to help for the future! Thank you.
Actually needed this today thanks Mary!
Thank you, Mary! You’ve given me lots to think about here!
I am a college/university trained musician with tons of gigs on my resume. I’ve always wanted to write songs but I feel like my ideas are almost too personal, unrelatable, and sometimes to convoluted for an audience.
I get inside my own head and I feel like any chord progression or melody I write sounds too much like one of the many other artists I’m influenced by. When it gets to that point, I tend to give up on the idea/song all together.
Thank you again for the inspiration here. It makes me want to keep trying and write songs without judgement.
I'm piggybacking on this comment of yours, because everything you've said about yourself applies to me too, except for the tons of gigs. (Does a $50 wedding gig in the early '80s count?) In a world where it seems like everybody can write a potential hit song, I always get an insurmountable case of blank-canvas syndrome whenever I even THINK about trying to write one, so I just sort of live vicariously through people who can do it. {shrug}
Mary. Thank you. That was a fantastically concise overview. Great job.
Arundel!!!! I love that place!
Not a song writer but a huge fan of music. You did a great job on this!!!! I have huge respect for you!
Thanks sooooo much for the advice! I’ll send you a copy of my album when it’s done!
Very well choreographed video. I’ve recently started following your channel due to a rabbit hole of Videos based off of John Mayer and you’ve quickly become one of my favorite artists/content creators to listen to. You’re just “real” it makes what you do more inviting and not intimidating. From one aspiring musician to another, good luck and thank you for what you do. Cheers
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Truly great video, Mary. Might be my favorite one of yours to date. It's great to be reminded of the writers block and not get down about it and just keep going. Doing it your way and getting out of your own way that works for you. Thank you.
Thank you Mary Spender.
So much content there, Mary. Thanks 🙏
Great video Mary. Thank you!
Thank you Mary!!
This advice was so useful Mary- Thank you!
Very well done! I like your style.
Great advice that we can all use! Thanks!
Dear Mary, You are really someone special. Thanks for your honesty. Don't stop being you. Good ideas and advice.
Beautifully simple, simply inspiring and simply BRILLIANT Mary, thank you.
Enjoyed the vlog thanks for sharing.
Very true. Something we all learn eventually. It just takes some of us, myself included, longer than others to realize. Great video Mary.
Thank you...
Great video Mary thanks for uploading
Really really great stuff Mary, and not just for songwriters or singers. I love the way you said something I've heard repeatedly about discomfort or not liking something - "Come to terms with it". I can't put my finger on why, but that just sounds much more doable than "accept it", "live with it" or "that's how it is". Literally a head-turning moment, since I had to turn my head to look at the screen where this video was playing.
Looking forward to the rest of the series!
Your stuff is just so on point! 👍
Very well done! Seems like solid advice and I look forward to the series.
It has been a real pleasure watching you develop as a videographer and musician. I can't wait to see what you do next.
Thank you for you efforts to stay true to documenting your journey and sharing your experience.
Great advice Mary, thank you
great video i been stuck the last while trying to write new stuff thanks for the video helped alot
Man I could listen to you talk all day.
Lovely advice Mary, you're a gem.
Being a perfectionist is just another excuse...! - gold!!!
Great job. Thank you!
Good video. Lots of good advice. The one thing thats worked the best for me over the years is to record everything. Even if it's with your phone.
I find myself in the unique position to be given subject matter to write to. It's a bit like writing to picture for OST composers. If I run out of ideas, I pick a subject I don't know anything about and try and look into it. Then I imagine what it would be like for me. Then I pick a style and absorb all the examples I can find. A long walk or two with those 'inspirations' and then into my work space to see what happens. My other ethos is to keep writing; anything. Most songs are scrapped, but ideas and sequences can lead to bigger and better results. Great video. Looking forward to this series.
It’s true what Joni Mitchell says , and excellent advice Mary . I have a bunch of songs that I just sing into the iPhone with no instruments . I just sing what ever comes to mind without thinking about it . I find it easier to have a chorus , hook without finding what the chords are till later
Damn, I just saw a commercial for `Masterclass' and now I'm thinking maybe this series is your masterclass. I know I'll be there. :)
Thank you Mary.
thanks mary this was very helpful.
This is probably one of the most inspiring videos I've watched on creativity and getting out of writer's block or avoiding it altogether. Thank you so much. I write a journal and yes, done is better than . perfect!
Thanks Mary Spender.
Really digging these videos, thanks for sharing
Very inspirational!
Excellent video & editing & advice. Done is better than perfect. Thanks :)
SO looking forward to this series!!! Thank you!
Thank you, Mary :)
Thank you Mary, thank you. You've been putting out amazing content lately, songs, videos, all. Looking forward for the rest of this series, and this video really helped me rethink my approach to songwriting.
At the risk of sounding clichéd, this really resonates with me. As a somewhat perfectionist, it is far too easy to put off finishing any project, and not just in creating music.
Well, except for maybe doing the dishes, but still.
"Being a perfectionist is another excuse for not finishing". A transcendent life lesson.
Our daughter was the design editor of her university's student newspaper, and she had three or four graphic artists working for her. She learned to compromise on her perfectionism due to daily deadlines involved in getting a newspaper printed on time. When her artists wanted to spend more time perfecting their work, she, knowing the press deadlines were imminent, would look at them and repeat, "Good enough! Good enough!" to emphasize that getting finished (on time, in their situation) was more important than perfection.
There is always gratification in completion, even if it isn't perfect.
Thanks for the inspiration, Mary!