I'm a 51 year old father of 14 year old twin girls and I can happily say I have never hit them ever, nor has their mother ever hit them. I feel sorry for you, if that's the kind of environment you have grown up in. Also, never forget that everything you love is there because of "Boomers".
Burning the kid's cards is such a fucked up thing to do. My mom would sometimes break or throw away my toys when we had a disagreement. What I learned from it was to avoid conflict at all cost... I'm in my 30s and still can't argue without bursting into tears. Don't punish children by destroying what they are emotionally attached to.
@@L1v1ngCart00n The money surely can be an aspect, but it isn't what scars you emotionally. Having something dear to you being broken right in front of your eyes makes you feel utterly helpless... I can't even recall the things that were broken back then, but the feeling itself keeps coming back with each argument.
as a transmasculine person who is not straight as well as being tested for autism, I consider myself incredibly lucky to have a mother who genuinely wants the best for me and does so much to help me get through life. not once has she pressured me to be anything but authentic to myself, and not once has she claimed I'm attention seeking or trying to feel special. my heart goes out to anyone who has to deal with this.
I have a friend in a very similar situation (transmasc, not straight, and looking for an autism diagnosis), but their family is not supportive at all, so I'm very glad that someone with the same unique traits that get them in trouble is supported and happy
Like you two, I’m also pretty similar. I’m trans-masculine, and not straight as well. I have been diagnosed with autism. My family is kinda supportive but not really.
I just feel grateful that my parents aren’t those tinfoil hat “vaxx causes autism”. They didn’t want the covid vaccine and told us we (my sister and I) weren’t getting it either because the vaccine hasn’t actially been tested and it by law needs to be before you can give it to the public. But I was and am still a child, so I couldn’t and still can’t do anything about it. My parents chose for me. Also, I am also trans ftm and not straight, and now going through an autism assessment
I love how he tackles serious subjects such as child abuse and trauma. As a 14 y.o. I can confirm that click has actually helped me feel better about myself and my situation. Edit: Wow, I can't believe there are so many people who are going through the same thing as me that The Click has helped. I am so grateful for how much support the people in the comments have given me and I am also glad to hear about all of the people who have made it out of my situation. Keep on going and keep your heads high. Godspeed.
I hope things will work out for you. Be strong and know that there are adults out there who care and believe in you even though it may not seem like it now. Take care and please keep healthy. The world needs you.
Mom: calls her daughter a “dirty little mongrel” and gross Also Mom: “I don’t wanna wash her face, and it might be because of medicine I’m giving her instead of her actually being dirty”
I was around 11, when my parents was chocked to hear that I didn't wash my own face. I have no memory if my parents doing it on me, and no one told me I needed to. I had only been told to wash my hair and my body. I felt like a nasty freak for a long time, but really, I think my parents just gave up in an early age because my autism probably made me upset when attempted. I just wished my parents didn't acted so weird about. Doing it now, ofcurse.
Imagine what they do behind closed doors these kinds of parents disgust me good thing we are being more progressive and making the world a better place like compare 40 years ago to now
I'm primarily disappointed the "mother" didn't stop to think "Acne usually isn't itchy and generally doesn't affect 6-year-olds". To me, it sounds more like a rash, especially since she made it sound centralized to just her forehead (with the exception of a spot on her nose) One way or the other, I hope she takes the kid to a doctor.
God, that mother burning the Pokémon cards is likely giving her kid anorexia. Anorexia often starts as a method of control. In a living situation without any control, people will control their eating as the only thing they can.
Also some of them have this thing where they go 'I made you, I _know_ you/when you're lying' and it's like no ? No you don't ? You literally only know the carefully crafted version of myself that I specifically utilize because I _fear_ you too much to let you get to know me ??
A funny thing about the whole "I identify as vaccinated lol" thing is that a lot of actual trans people then undergo medical procedures to align their biology with their psychology. So if you really do "identify as vaccinated" then go get the procedure to align body to mind, Karen. Go get your shots!
@@freepalestine1673 Transsexual is literally the older word for transgender (that ppl usually don't use anymore) and they definatelly did get medical gender-affirming procedures. A while ago people even proposed that this word was to be used by trans people that decided to go through any medical intervention(s). So you are pretty much 100% wrong
About zombie apocalypse, I agree with The Click because: "After seeing half a country actively reject wearing a mask during a pandemic, I would like to apologize to the filmmakers of every horror movie ever made for calling their characters unbelievably dumb for going into the murder basement." - Matthew Federman Jun 19, 2020 + You are going to love Episode 6 My Big Flat Earth Wedding.
I think America being fucked is more accurate than the entire world. Most countries have functioning social systems. Most anti-vax and Karens are in the US.
The Click, as cursed as he is, is literally my favorite RUclipsr. His videos have this amazing balance of sillyness about serious topics and he's just super fun and charismatic. I strive to be as cursed as him one day lol
Sometimes, I vaguely talk about RUclipsrs with my parents. I meant mentioned “a certain RUclipsr” that sometimes has a mustache and sometimes doesn’t. My dad suggested that the click should have half of a mustache, so whenever he wants a mustache he just needs to spin around REALLY fast. This idea now lives in my head rent-free.
I can't imagine being a parent and calling my child a "filthy mongrel" or "disgusting", let alone not taking them to the doctor if they're ill or straight up abusing them. Some people should not reproduce.
@@krysal1489 I agree wholeheartedly. Kudos to you for trying to get to a better place financially to care for them! They'll be lucky to have you as a parent when they arrive 💜
About the rabies kid: If the body part that was bitten is far away from the brain (the organ that is attacked by rabies mainly) rabies slowly moves up to the brain with no symptoms. If the kid was bitten on the leg (wich is possible, as the insane parent said cats and dogs), the kid is probably infected and will have symptoms in the close future. Rabies can be symptomless for half a decade in cases like this. Some peopls are just insane. We literally have a vaccine for a disease that turns your loved ones into a mindless, agressive shadows of themselves, literal zombies and these people refuse to save their kids...
Cool thing I learned about rabies, some people have actually survived it without the vaccine and after symptoms have shown. By putting people in a coma so the symptoms stop destroying the brain as quickly the body fights off the virus.
@@zamonolita in a techincal sense: there are some parazites that turn their victims into zombies. Rabies only ruins them, and there is no repair if something is damaged by it. But rabies: technically not, but if a rabid wild dog is walking towards you in the night, slowly and mechanically, and the feeling of dread and everything just being really, really wrong gets to you; that's something almost supernatural and scary.
@@sinifexxephinis4310 yes, but if it reaches the brain before the coma, the damage starts and it's almost impossible to fix that. I say almost, because even with the coma, minimal damage can happen and it might can be fixed after, so there is some kind of healing after all, but without medical help, it's sadly not enough. The coma might work, but it is dangerous and used only as a last resort, the person put into a coma might not wake up ever again.
What I learned from both The Click and One Topic: - Family isn't always blood, and blood doesn't always equal family - An explanation tho the cliche phrase "it gets better". Whenever people told me that i always got outraged. I won't magically wake up without severe chronic depression, and life can get horrible in an instant, but it's less likely to happen the other way around. To have a logical reason to why it gets better definitely stoped me from doing things very much incompatible with the alive thing. - That I'm non binary, and also encouraged me to figure myself out, come to terms with who i am (i realized just how bisexual I was, and it didn't even register for so long it's ridiculous) - It's ok to tell people they are hurting you. - Ask for help to people who will help you. Not everyone will, but that just means you gotta look somewhere else for it - Sometimes people who actually care and love us can be really toxic at times. - It's ok to be mad, it's ok to be an asshole sometimes, you don't owe no one anything. Obviously, common decency it's a thing, but it shouldn't be an excuse to let yourself get stomped over. - There isn't so little time. It's been drilled into my brain how short life will be, and it made me misserable. If I've been suffering for so long, what's the point of trying to see if something better lies ahead, there was so little "ahead" i drowned myself in my family's expectations. - Don't take social media seriously, it's not a personal attack, it's not for you. Calm down. - You should not hold yourself to unrealistic expectations. Even when you do reach them , it might still feel empty. It hurts more when you know you should be proud of yourself but just aren't. (My personal experience/rant: I passed a difficult course against all odds, and the moment i realized it meant nothing was when a lovely teacher i had saw me looking at my grades like if it was blank paper. He congratulated me and asked very nicely if I was finally proud of myself after doing the imposible, after defeating this giant. I without even needing to think i answered "No". I have never seen someone so happy lose that light in their eyes so quickly. There just wasn't a culminating moment, a breath after a long race. That day came like any other, and went just as painfully slow. Even worse was having to lie to my parents. To lie through my teeth: "I am proud of what I've archived". It really messes up with your brain) - Also I'm a furry (i think??) But that's a little less important. A little personal advice for those people struggling with mental health: things don't really need a meaning to be beautiful. Life doesn't have "meaning" per se, but it doesn't really matter. That attitude can change your situation a lot. I still remember the day I told my little evil trauma spawn (Which existence is another fun story for another fun day) that that was enough. That i was sick of it, that i wanted to change. This is my head, my mind, my body and my life, and no one other than me has any say in it. You can live your life day to day. It can be hard to think about the future, can be unbearable to feel your life so out of control by all the factors in your life you don't know yet. You can't really do an operation without all the numbers and get an accurate response. So make the equation smaller. More manageable. I may not be happy now. I may still be severely depressed. I may always be. But that ain't stoping me from figuring it out.
Hope you will get better and better. If you can, find a therapist to help you. I have a friend with similar issues (non binary, bi, with a completely unsupportive family, severely depressed, etc) and seeing a therapist behind their parents back really helped them. They are now two years in the process and got better enough to be out of meds now. Things are never perfect but as you put yourself, they can become better. A little thing after the other and with up and down.
Wow, you learned a lot! Congratulations, fellow enby!!! 😊😊😊 Sending hugs to maybe help you feel better I’m not good at comforting people sorry about that
Your text/comment is so good that it's gonna come into my "lifelessons" folder :) I hope you're doing well and have an absolutely amazing day and an even more amazing life!!!
I find it humourous that The Click *appears* to be wearing "tinfoil headphones" to protect himself from losing his mind to the insanity in the posts he's reading and reacting to.
The Beyerdynamics he has are really good headphones though, got a similar line here (DT 990 Pro). His might be the same, or the 770 Pro, hard to judge.
My nine year old daughter is passionate about math and physics. Mostly this means that we get to do fun stuff like coming up with "impossible math" for her to do and we have a subscription that sends her a box to make an experiment every month. We've made a table top pinball machine, a few different marble runs (she calls them roller coasters), pneumatic hands, and some toy cars that move differently from each other. As a fiber artist, it's been fun explaining the math and physics involved in what I do. Teaching her how to do things around the house has been interesting, lol, teaching her to cook means learning about the chemistry that makes it work
What’s extra sad about the argument at 26:06 is that multiple personality disorder which is medically known as dissociative identity disorder (DID) is an extreme coping mechanism spawned from early childhood trauma. But yes I chose to have a condition which makes my life harder and alienates me from society in order to seem quirky. Not because my dad openly hated me and my mom literally admits that her punishment method was to hit me until she was no longer angry.
@@alyssamay9237 probably because of the idiots on the internet who fake those sorts of things for some reason. but setting aside those awful people, no one would fake something like that.
@@MachiNoShaku i know people who HONESTLY have it, they forget some inmportans sruff because of how it works, Onece it even turned into not remembering a theft but thats probably the extreme side
Me: *has slight chub* My mom: *makes fun of my weight* Me: stress eats and ends up getting bigger My mom: *"jokes" harder* Me: *i leave* My mom: *shocked pikachu face*
It can be hot as hades yet my mom will criticize me until I am too self conscious to wear shorts in my own home. Even spaghetti strap shirts she feels are too revealing "for how fat I am". According to BMI I'm an average weight for my height but I guess that doesn't matter.
@@Kur10usity yea and (sorry i read your comment wrong so this popped in my head) since ive lost weight id tell people i used to be bigger and they always say "no you looked fiiiiine" i didnt say it was a bad thing 🤣 i didnt even say it in a bad way, idk why thats always their go to. I mean i can but like its annoying lol after rethinking about what you said, yea why do people do that? How do they not realize it makes it worse? Sorry for misunderstanding lol
Me at age 14: still has completely normal healthy weight, even if a bit on the upper end My mother: makes fun about me getting fat Me: actually gains 20 kg My mother: makes even more fun of me and blames it on my genes that I will never be able to be thin (genes from my father's side) Me: loses 20 kg again within not even a year My mother the whole time: "Stop that immediately! You're completely scraggy, that isn't healthy!" Also, as a bonus - she sometimes tells me that losing weight isn't good for mental health. Oh, so constantly being called fat is better for mental health?
@@ft_slushie_studio You'd swap 3 choices for a lack of any? Male, female, neutral, there's 3 choices in English. Because English is a messy language so of course it had 3.
@@AngelEmfrbl actually there are many more choices in English for pronouns, but I personally like the idea of having a gender neutral version of speaking about someone else :]
@@labyrinthine444 wait really? That’s awesome oml, I am also not old enough to move there on my own, and along with money problems it’s not possible for me at this time, but I may think about it in the future
I bought my high-functioning autistic husband a shirt that states: "Autistic Pride: You don't need a cure for being yourself." We have yet to come across some random Anti-Vaxxer Karen-type while he's wearing that in public, because I'm absolutely certain that, the moment they say some stupid theory about anything causing autism, he's going to start going into one of his...well, honestly, I think his tirades on the subject are a combination of him knowledge dumping and going into a meltdown, but those Karens don't need to know that it's his way of going into a meltdown.
oo I have a question, I gotta know if I have high functioning autism… is not liking certain sounds a symptom dear god i am so sorry I don’t wanna be mean I should just leave
@@omegadragons321 Having sensory hypersensitivity can be symptom from many different things or can be thing by itself. I would recomend to look up more about autism and check if other things fit. For example do you have difficulties to interact with neurotypical ppl, repetitive/restrictive behaviors etc. If you can you should also talk wit dr or some other professional, but I understand that it is not accessible option for everyone.
I have dyslexia and my brains didn't register op:s first sentence right so I first read that "I bought my high-functioning autistic husband from" and was really conserned until I read it again 🙈 That shirt sounds great tho 🖤
The normalisation of gay isn't the only thing causing kids to "become" gay, seeing other people similar to yourself that you relate to and realising that you might have the same orientation is a big part of growing up. This is not just around sexuality, it is how you develop your interests throughout your life. Being able to relate to people like yourself is one of the greatest gifts of the internet, giving us all access to people that understand how we feel and where we come from.
Also the logic that kids "become gay" by seeing gay couples on TV...by that logic wouldn't adults be changing sexuality more often, since they're more likely to see and understand such things? And couldn't you turn them straight by having them watch a hetero couple kiss? It's so freaking dumb.
I live in Canada and I don't fear people here. It's not normal to be anxious around people all the time. Edit: I don't think I was making my point clear enough: my point was that countries like the US create these states of fear by making so much toxic societies.
I love how you talked about your phobia of needles and blood so openly because for my whole life my dad has grounded me for me freaking out when getting vaccines. even when I was like 8 or probably younger and then gilt trips me into thinking that something traumatic had to happen for me to be that scared of needles
Funny thing, I had a trauma kind of cure me from any phobia because my brain decided there was no reason to really fear anything but suffocating in a tomb. (The hours i spent in that lockable toolbox before I could bust the lid probably played a big role with that.)
I'm sorry, i hate needles too. I fear few things but needles, those damned bastards. I hope ye know that being scared of needles is natural. I cried my eyes out after my first shot of the COVID vaccine. Been terrified since I was born and terrified as a fifteen year old who laughs in scary movies. Being scared of needles does not make u weak, you are just one of the few that sees the evil in those needles. Your dad is a fool who is blind to the evil in needles. Only us who fear them, knows how evil they are.
I had an asthma attack yesterday, all the while wearing my mask. I didn't even realise I still had it on until I had to move it to take my inhaler (which I had to search for for several minutes.) The idea that healthy people can't excercise in masks or they'll pass out and die is so laughably absurd.
Hope you’re feeling better now. My asthma is terrible at the moment, but it’s no worse with a mask on. Those perfectly healthy people who claim they can’t breathe with them on are just an embarrassment
I want to say that, if the sport is quite hard and you sweat A LOT (like karate (I have a black belt so I need to give 100%)), the mask is actually making me almost pass out while without a mask, I have more stamina. Again, I'm giving 100% and anything else is fine. Oh and I actually think the mask is not the problem, it's the sweat that stick to the mask that is the problem lmao
@Kathryn Elizabeth ya talking about me? I'm literrally saying what you just said but in a different way, what? I said in the end that it's probably the sweat that stick to the mask that is a problem, the mask on it's own is 100% ok (did you read the second paragraph or not?)
With the pnumonia one, I had pnuemonia when I was younger. My left lung collapsed and I was probably a few days from death. I'm fully vaccinated and we don't know what caused it and I still can't properly breath even nearly three years later. If I wasn't vaccinated I might now be here today. Vaccinations are extremely important and this mother is so lucky she didn't lose her son.
The one about the grandma wanting grandkids kinda hit me, my grandma once started talking to me about how "I should enjoy my life now, because when I have kids, I'm gonna have sleepless nights and won't be able to get much done for myself", I told her (politely) that I don't want kids, and she started yelling at me in the car that "Children are a gift from God, and they are the most amazing little bundles of joy" and how I "shouldn't dare to say such a thing ever again". This was last year, I was not even in college yet
Love how she went from "sleepless nights", "won't be able to do much for myself" to "kids are bundles of joy and a gift" so rapidly, in just one conversation. xD I know this is an old comment but I just wanted to say, stay strong and do what makes you happy. Life is short, make the best of it. Don't take it personal, it's your life and you have all the control to live it however you wish. Sending *hugs* and stay healthy !
@@wolfdarkness2011 Thank you, it means a lot, I just hope she won't ask about kids or relationships when I next see her. Edit: Don't worry, I reply to old comments too XD Edit 2: We had that conversation again yesterday, but she didn't get as mad because my mum backed me up. Her argument this time was "Well what if I said I didn't want grandchildren", which (as I said to her) isn't up to her, my parents had the choice to have me, just as she had the choice not to raise me until I was 5. If she didn't want grandchildren, she could have just told my parents to look after me from the beginning
I personally don't want kids, at least for the moment. My mental disability makes things harder for me, I manage to remain friendly and cheer to people who deserve it. But I get tired to not throw my stress at them and no partner or child deserves that environment. One at a time.
I'm not even that far into high-school, and my grandmother keeps saying things like "when you have kids." I try explaining to her that I don't really want kids of my own, but if that ends up changing, I'm going to adopt instead. Grandmother insisted that "Having an adopted great grandchild would not be enough for her because they weren't our blood" and that I "better not get a little N-word because we are a white pure-blood family:
@@bee_thenonbinarygremlin5399 bro, wtaf. Your grandmother is weird. I'd personally love any child, adopted, mixed, or what. Kids deserve the best life, which is why I don't want any of my own. Not yet at least, and probably none from my own blood.
For the meme at 15:52 - when I started wearing crop tops as a plus size female person (I'm genderqueer, she/they pronouns, moving on), my mom looked at me and she didn't say anything for a second and I was worried about it, right, because everybody is worried about what their mom thinks when they're 15 or 17 or so. My mom looks at me and she says "I wish I had been brave enough to wear what you wear now when I was your age. I'm really proud of you." And I think about that a lot. I wear crop tops almost every day now. No matter what you look like and what you wear, a good parent is supportive. If your parent is not supportive of that kind of thing, it's not a problem with you. It's a problem with them.
@@1vy-h2b You should be able to wear what you want regardless of your weight or gender. I shame your mother for being insensitive. You do what makes you feel good about yourself, bro. I bet you look amazing, and she's just jealous
Though cursed, The Click has empathy, emotional maturity (when serious), and is self-aware. This gives me hope for the human race. Also, the way his logic leaps and jumps like a runaway train careening off a mountain side down into a spinning portal where in an alternate universe there exists multiple versions of one's self is similar to how my brain functions. Or...when my brain does not function.
@@gaygay2264 Too many left turns to be a proper race. I forgot furries! Are furries a race, or are we all just human? Rather, people. Ugh. My apologies. I think my brain is hurt.
yup, I've worked as a teacher/tutor (ESL) and I agree with him wholeheartedly. I think sometimes the most cursed people are the most empathetic if that makes sense...I also have a very morbid sense of humor, I think it is a manifestation of empathy in a way or the ability to look at things from a different perspective
@@roonrune1936 As a furry, we’re just very weird people. I dunno why we all get hate for r34 because almost none of us do it and all fandoms have those people lmao 🫠
Hot Take: Being a parent does not make you a professional in the physical, mental, and emotional well being of children. Listen to doctors and other actual professionals. Edit: This isn't actually a hot take, it's a very cold take. That's the joke.
Fun fact about acne: Allergic reactions can sometimes resemble acne. If your *6-year-old CHILD* has "acne", it's more likely an allergic reaction to something and you should be taking this more seriously. Especially if she already has asthma, which is commonly comorbid with allergies. All my siblings, my mother and I had severe asthmatic symtoms in our childhood due to allergies.
@@animeartist888 Except she’s on steroids, and there is such a thing as steroid-induced acne. Which is why the stupid witch should TALK TO THE PHYSICIAN. It’s possible her daughter could be put on a lower dose, or a different type of steroid. I’ve talked to a GP or two, and they really do consider corticosteroids sometimes as nothing short of a miracle drug. But at the same time, acknowledge that long term use has awful side effects. Fun fact: One of the things corticosteroids are used for is very very severe allergies. But did you know you can be allergic to…..corticosteroids. The human body is weird.
I was diagnosed with celiac disease at 30, and cut out gluten at that point. Funny thing how my acne cleared a lot after years of begging the damn doctors for relief from it.
@@christinamann3640 Just curious. How long do you think you were celiac before you were diagnosed? I’ve talked to people who felt sick for DECADES before they were finally diagnosed. Three days of a gluten free diet and they felt better.
Thank you for the comment on social media and mental health. My wife started having lower self esteem and a self destructive thought process because of filters and how "pretty" people looked. I had to make her stay off the app for a bit while I kept reminding her of how beautiful she was the way she is. I hate the kind of social image that people try to push and I'm glad we are slowly getting away from it.
I honestly didn't know about the dunning Krueger effect before I started watching this channel. As for your r/insaneparents videos...they are singlehandedly keeping me sane in a world where my mum screams at me daily and my dad is emotionally abusive towards the entire family. Everyone out there: stay strong, we got this!!
I know that feeling. And I know how hard it can be to escape sometimes. My dad was bad enough growing up with his physical and verbal bull, but now he's become one of the Trump fanboys and has lost any sanity he might've had before. Somehow not antivax yet, though.
5:06 My elementary school used this system. When you have the context it makes it even more ridiculous. A 3 is basically an A-. It says that you understand the things you are taught well. A 4 is extremely hard to get but is easier is some depending on how lenient your teacher is. A 4 is I understand this perfectly and could teach the class and equates to an A+. Punishing your kid for getting all 3s is horrible. And if it works like how my state does it, this kid is in elementary school.
we also used this scoring system in elementary school and middle school for those big tests you'd only take once in a while. the tests that would tell the school how well the teacher was teaching? they never went on any grades though and assuming they didn't for this person either, i don't see why the parent should care.
This guy is just so genuinely likeable! The way he alternates between sensitive, logical advice and hilarious comedy is just perfect. He was born to be a RUclips presenter.
my parents have told me this and its another reason why I still trust my parents even tho they may be kinda shady some times " as long as we can contact you and know youre safe its fine, we can smell whatever you've been drinking, smoking, eating etc as long as you're willing to call home when you need a ride and stuff like that its fine"
The "Belladonna 30C" is a 'homeopathic remedy'. Which means: The original material got diluted by 1% for 30 times. Or in other words: Dilute the substance until it is pure water, and then dilute the water two more times. So it is just water. Or sugar, if the water was dripped on pills. Unless the mixer messed up and mixes up the vials. Then it's toxic. (Yes, that happened)
I find that odd because my mum has all of those kinda pills and they seem to work. On the other had my sister downed 2 bottles when she was younger and threw up
@@shortentity6853 That's not odd, it's called anecdotal 'evidence' and confirmation bias. If you get well within 12 h after taking it, it probably would have taken half a day without it. The self-healing capabilities of the human body are often underestimated or outright ignored. The only way to affirm the efficacy of drugs is through medical double-blind trials. Not by testing them on yourself like the inventor of homeopathy did over 200 years ago. (Back then, atoms and molecules were still not much known of.)
The things I learned from click, a book summary: •click’s name is actually mark •I should be thankful for the parents I have •life could be a lot worse in my case •I’m pretty sure I’m not straight anymore •click used to be a teacher And last but not least; I’m pretty sure I’m not a furry but not *100%* sure
Oh, speaking of Christmas memories. When I was a teen my step-mom was ALWAYS disappointed in me. Every frikkin year. If i chose to celebrate with her and my dad she said ”Geeez, we can’t even get Christmas off from you, can we?” and if I chose NOT to celebrate with them she said ”Oh, so we’re not good enough for you to hang out with for the Holidays BUT EVERY OTHER DAY OF THE YEAR IS FINE, HUH?!”. Yes, it was lovely. 🙄😑
"MY kid isn't perfect so I'm going to dehumanize them." Some crazy parent The problem with perfection is that everyone's definition of what is perfect is different from everyone else's so true perfection is literally impossible to achieve because there is always something wrong with the person, object, or goal post, so if we stop obsessing over minor imperfections there wouldn't be so much high expectations in the world.
literally my grandma every time i shave says "oh look you look human again" every time it hurts so bad, thankfully today is probally the last day ill have to put up with it as i move out to a far away city
As someone who is a mature follower I have learned that being silly and having fun is something I should never grow out of. Reaching out to others is not a sign of weakness, but one of strength, and mistakes are something everyone learns from no matter how old they are. Thank you for being the amazing, kind, wholesome person that you are, I'm proud that my daughter looks up to you ❤ 😊
“Having a license to have kids, it’s like a tempting thing. It would never work in practice, like it’d be a nightmare in practice.” Well a license to have kids is what’s known as eugenics and yeah, it’s been a real nightmare in practice.
This hurts my heart. As a parent I wish I could just hug all these kiddos. Just know that your parents issues are not yours, keep your head up, and get the fyck out when you are able. We*parents* aren't perfect, but this type of behavior is disturbing.
i learn a bit about what other people's thoughts are like. how and why they see things the way they do. it helps understand people, society and can see how these thought patterns change over time. i get weirdly fascinated by it all. i think this channel promotes such things, and i am all for it.
2:54 Learned that I don’t own anyone anything unless I genuinely wronged them. Helped me accept a pointless falling out with a “close” friend that apparently never even liked me. (It lasted for 11 years.) And made me realize that I don’t need to come out to my parents if I don’t feel comfortable enough to do so.
I really needed this, I love how queer positive The Click is. I am 21 and I want to try out a new name, my mother refuses to even think about it. I am also gender fluid but my mother is very transphobic. I can't be me at home and I can't afford a place of my own... I really miss school, because I got to be myself and most teachers actually encuredged me to try out new names and pronouns.
Hey, I know it’s been awhile but I’m rooting for you stranger! I am a firm believer that things will get better in time. Keep fighting my fellow human!
6:55 This infuriates me. The mom bought each “Card burnt.” for her kid, she’s just wasting money, those are NOT cheap. If you seriously want to discipline your child, don’t trash the stuff you bought for them. Tell them what they need to do without targeting them or talking them down I.e calling them Lazy for not doing chores or telling them they’ll get bullied at school for not washing they’re face enough. Scaring your kids or creating serious insecurities can lead to depression and literal suicide. When I was young I ended up developing severe anxiety because my mom said strangers would tie me to a chair and starve me. When I was 10. Thanks for the Agoraphobia mom.
From my experience, and I have as much experience as anyone (i.e. I have parents and have 5 children), children need both positive AND negative reinforcement. Example, my oldest daughter is 16 and obsessed with anime. When she wont do her chores because she doesn't want to quit watching her shows I have a perfect right to tell quit being lazy and to do her chores, but I also have the responsibility to thank her (either verbally or through actions) when she does the chores without being told to. It has to be a balance, they have to be shown that their actions have consequences AND rewards.
@@arronjerden915 Yeah, Okay, but I’m a Minor. I should probably know how I and other people like me feel about these things, you might think that your daughter wants to keep watching anime to get out of doing chores or to ‘be lazy’, but in many cases tv and the internet is my- and many others- only mental coping mechanism. It’s probably why most teens stay in their rooms all the time. Art is very refreshing and it’s something to get attached to that isn’t a physical object. I’m not defending this lifestyle as it’s very weird and probably not healthy psychologically but maybe don’t mistreat your child… you know, if you were ever going to. I’m really just trying to tell people that fear-mongering isn’t good for children. Negative reinforcement is fine but it’s also far more hurtful to tell a kid that they are lazy and need to get up and do something because even though they seem more grown up they still aren’t fully mature. Psychology in teens in really interesting.
@@Everettalla I was a minor as well, I know what escapism is. For me it was books and video games. I also know the difference between procrastination and lazy. If I thought for a minute that she was watching anime to try to get out of doing chores then her access to them would be taken away until her chores were done. She is being lazy not because she did not do the chores yet but because she did not put forth an effort to keep track of time. She knows that she has a responsibility to help keep our house a clean as it can be kept with 5 children. Also teens don't just "seem more grown up" they are more grown up, maturity is mostly a matter of accepting that you are responsible for yourself and a lot of people are never fully mature in that sense. Age has little to do with it, I have known 2 preteens that were more mature than most adults I know but it was because of what they experienced and lived through not age that made them "grow up" and I would not wish anyone to have to go through what those kids did.
Things I learned from Click: that it's possible to be amazing at languages, good at math, able to explain complicated concepts and understand normal human being things. Thanks for being a decent human being.
6:00 Oh my... You reminded me how I lost all interest and confidence in less than a 5 minutes at school. I don't remember full details, but during geography class I was asked to show on the map some countries in Europe, in front of the class. I don't remember how many of them I was asked to pinpoint, but I remember I failed to point only on Andorra, a small country barely visible on the print of that map, and teacher chewed me for it in front of everyone for couple of minutes, lowering the grade. It hit my confidence, but I remember walking to my sit just fine, grade was still pretty decent. Actual blow happened when the next kid, with best grades in class, was tasked to show some countries as well and they were, I clearly remember, France, Spain, Italy, Greece and Great Britain. After they were pointed, teacher made a snarky comment on how bad I am and how I should learn geography from that ace kid. That open display of bias just immediately killed all my interest in class. It have been like 20 years ago, but still makes my blood pressure rise a bit. Sorry, I had to vent this.
I only know of Andorra because of The Man From Taured Internet myth. Your teacher was horrible. I hope you regained your passion for Geography to spite her.
Geez, I had a chem teacher like that during my A levels. He used to give out points for speaking in class and would constantly bring up that I wasn't very talkative, insinuated that I was antisocial and even said I should be a mechanic (as if that's an insult) IN FRONT OF THE CLASS. They laughed ofc. This continued even after my family told him I'm autistic and need more time to process the information. Even with a tutor and the amount of revision I did, I still got a measly E but at least I did excellent in the other three subjects :) I'll never have to see that miserable git again
@@leilani1246 teacher: mocks and insults the kid for not talking enough, gets the class to laugh with him also teacher: why don't they speak up? A true mystery. /s I'm very glad you never have to see him again!
Yeah, it also hints as to why hadn't done anything wrong and just merely punishes bad people. He reminds me of a character from manga series I've been reading.
Needle Phobia: Every time I have to give blood for a blood test, I pass out. I have begun telling the people taking my blood to lay me down when they stick me. They ask why and I tell them I pass out. Fortunately, they believe me and lay me back in the cardiac patient chair to draw my blood, letting my look in the other direction at a Where's Waldo poster to keep my mind occupied. And, even though I'm not looking, I pass out. But I am safe and they are pre-warned. In my case it is not a fear of needles (I used to be a nurse). It is very low blood pressure. It always freaks doctors out to see my nearly pass out when they lay me down on the exam table, where other people might get dizzy standing up. I'm backwards. My point is to ask for the ability to lie down so you can be safe when you pass out.
I sometimes have spouts of certain things making my blood pressure drop suddenly and almost making me pass out. I got my blood taken recently and got to the point my ears were ringing and I couldn't see great. The worst I ever had was when I got my first testosterone injection, I got so bad, I was sitting on the counter so my mom could help jab me, and I couldn't even get down for like a good 10 minutes because I would've just not been able to stand. I sat there with my hair over my face, panting heavily because I couldn't breathe, but I was cold and sweating profusely, and I basically had such tunnel vision that I couldn't see at all at one point and my ears rang so bad my mom had been trying to talk to me and I had to mumble in between panting that I couldn't hear anything and that I was sorry. Like, I literally was barely getting words out, it was like "I can't...hear...what you're...saying...sorry" kinda stuff with good 5 second pauses on the ellipsis. My face supposedly was ghost white and my lips were the same shade as the rest of my face, which, I'm a very pale person, like, my redheaded step father and I are like at least the same level of paleness, and I'm not a redhead, so me being paler than my natural complexion in general is slightly scary. My mom said she was so scared when she saw me with my head down, and moved my hair enough to see how pale I was and stuff, and ended up helping with getting a wet wash cloth and fanning me to help with the sweating and panting. I've thankfully never had it as bad as that one time, but I've come to recognize the symptoms since then. I was just feeling nauseous for some reason that day and it just peaked when I got my blood taken and I had to tell her I needed to stay seated a second cause I was suddenly not feeling great and she helped fan me, which helped a lot. Only lasted a minute or two, but was still a little startling, since I get my blood taken fairly often and that's the first time I got low blood pressure from it. Recently found out that it's actually a whole like common thing, which is interesting. I also don't have a fear of needles, at all really, I only have issue with seeing needles in my own skin or seeking things piercing skin and like staying there or incisions. It's funny, watching doctor shows or whatever, I can't watch the initial incision, but am not at all queasy watching parts of the operation or cameras into people's bodies or whatever. It's just that slice makes me feel queasy. Egh. Just interesting how even people who don't have an issue with it can have sudden spouts of it if they're having like an off day or something and need a moment or possibly pass out even if they haven't in the past. And like you said, don't be afraid to tell your phlebotomist or a nurse that you need a moment, or that you might not be feeling great, they've seen it all and should be understanding enough to take you seriously.
@@kiralonely Exactly my point. Your trained professionals are trained to deal with it, but can't know it's a problem if they aren't told. Tell them and they can help you.
@@galehale5441 I hadn't heard of or witnessed that in my nursing career, but I can believe it. Again, tell the doctors before hand so they can prepare. I wish you luck. It can't be easy living with an anger you can't control, even if it's only in specific instances.
I learned that my mom was an insane and manipulative parent by watching your videos on the subreddit, really helped my discussion to move in with my dad's side of the family.
@@BarbGordon-bq3gv I am and learned it wasn't my mom but my dad that was the manipulative one, though I only discovered that when I moved in with him after highschool.
27:35 there a quote I think applied to this pretty well I think its something like "yes, I started calling myself asexual because I saw it online, because the word I used before was broken". people arent making up new queer identies or becoming anything they wherent already before, they are just finding a name for it and groups of people who support them and make them feel its okay to be who they are. yet karens will scream "But my child didn't seem queer before the internets!" despite not knowing at all what their child is feeling 🙄
I'm the same. I'm gay, as in I'm very attracted to men, but I also have absolutely no interest in sex or any kind of physical contact. I also wondered what was wrong with me and why I was intensely attracted to certain men, but didn't actually want to do anything with them. Then I found out about asexual and the different ways it manifests and I now understand I'm not actually weird, or broken, or a freak.
Since you guys are ace..can you help me find out if I am too. I'm a straight girl and like men who like more feminine things because I can relate to them. But the thing is..I can't ever imagine myself having sex, whenever I like someone I imagine me and then cuddling, kissing, but never having sex. For some reason gay sex is the only thing that turns me on and I frequently think about it. But between men and women it doesn't work for me like the same way. This made me think I'm ace but I'm kind of scared that I'm fetishizing gay men even though I don't project this onto others. What do you think?
@@candyskull7625 as a ace woman, and a person that haven't gone that deep in the rabit hole of details and more words to specify, there's a wide variarity on what turns you on, for me it's generally not thinking myself as having sex so thinking myself as another person or watching or just detached. Gay sex may be (if you're talking on make only) because it's a barrier in which you detatch your mind and or your body of being in the act.
This exactly, these people really don't understand how these things work-- like I am the terf nightmare, a butch lesbian who thought she might be a trans man when I was a teen... but it was a thought, I tried on the label for a moment and decided it didn't fit and set it aside. Turns out I don't like being perceived as a man, almost like gender identity is something more innate that isn't easily swayed or something u:
17:39 really hit close to home for me. you see, my brother came out as trans a while ago. everyone he told so far has accepted it... except for our dad. he put it as "being something you're not" and (amongst many, many other things) that impacted the way we see him to this very day. your message starting at this time stamp really assures our decision of moving away from our dad. i thank you for that.
Good luck to your brother. I came out as trans in 2015 and don’t regret a day. He is truly living as himself despite what your dad thinks and your brother will be more content and happy for it while your dads shut out a valuable relationship. ❤️🩹❤️
Wow. You’re one of the first RUclipsrs (honestly even the first person) I have heard talk about your blood phobia and fear of human biology while offering tips and techniques to help. I have severe hemophobia (fear of blood in case someone thinks I typed something different 😅) and often get ridiculed for it or told that it straight up doesn’t exist. Having an escape option is something I learned to do as well (frequent “bathroom breaks” during certain parts of health or science class) but asking for the material beforehand is a great trick! Wish I had heard of that sooner! Anyway, awesome video! You’re super funny and I love watching these videos.
When I found condoms in my 17 yr old son’s room (they were in plain sight, on his desk) two things happened: 1. We had the “talk” to make sure he was being respectful (proud he’s being careful). 2. Reiterated that I would always knock before going into his room (if he doesn’t want me going in at all, he needs to take his own laundry to the machine, and clean/dust his own room!)
Something similar happened with my mother when I came out to her as non-binary. She was shocked at first, which is understandable, considering I used to be her only daughter. But, after taking about an hour or two to gather her thoughts, she said that as long as she could still call me by the name she gave me at birth (it's a gender-neutral name, so I'm ok with that), she would support me. She was the first person I told, because, at that point in my life, she was the only one I trusted with that sort of information. She let me wear more masculine clothes, she let me get my hair cut short, and she might not have said anything about it, but I knew that she would be there and ready to kick some @ss at the slightest mention of being bullied because of it, not in an embarrassing way (she promised she wouldn't go all out Karen on anyone), but more in a caring way (of course, it would take her a little bit to get there, but that would also give me a chance to deal with the situation on my own and prepare me for the real world, because that's also a parents' job, on top of protecting and caring for their child). My father, however, has always been a bit of a jerk. I'm not ashamed to admit that he was an alcoholic, probably still is, my mother left him after she had finally realised that he was being toxic, manipulative, and abusive, after giving birth to me and getting pregnant with my brother 2 years later. I was around 1 and a half. I only know this because my mother told me the story. After taking several parenting classes, going through multiple different therapies, and about a dozen other things, about 2 years later, mum finally trusted him enough to let me and my brother go over to his place without her being there. He no longer drinks around me or my brother, but he's still somewhat manipulative and toxic. He's not abusive physically (at least not that I've seen) anymore, more mentally draining. But he IS doing his best. He only has to pay child support. Nothing else. We don't live with him most of the time, because he lives 2-3 hours away, depending on weather and traffic. We only see him about once every 1-2 months, and honestly, I'm ok with that. I haven't told him I'm going by they/them, and I don't plan to. I don't care if he uses the wrong pronouns for me, because he doesn't know. If he doesn't know, he assumes i'm still going by she/her. I'm ok with that. I'd rather he called me "she" than have to have that awkward and potentially dangerous conversation with him. Mum doesn't force us to go to our fathers' house. She's ok with it if we stay at home with her instead. Neither me nor my brother have done that (yet), but we know the option is always there. She will also come and get us if we feel unsafe with him. She doesn't give a flying f@wk if the drive is 1-2 hours long, she will come and get us if we ask her to. Edit: I just realised that you made this comment about a year ago. I apologise.
My mom wanted an "I identify as vaccinated" shirt. I was so upset and explained to her why it was bad. She says she gets it and does definitely care about trans people getting murdered because of the trans panic defense but also still thinks it's funny. I think there's a disconnect in her brain.
@@The_GenderLiquifier She's like a "yer dad" kind of transphobic, she doesn't think trans identities are valid but she doesn't want anyone to be cruel to them for it. She's a very kind person herself so to her this makes sense. She doesn't understand that society not believing trans identities are valid is WHY society is cruel to trans people.
The dad taking away his son's phone, computer etc. for getting 3s instead of 4s: You realize you just took away most if not all of his ability to study effectively. Also would be very interested in seeing what dad's grades were like at the same age... willing to wager money they were worse than his son's.
I wouldn't wager that personally. My parents took my phone for not studying before my therapist chewed them out for it. My dad was top 1% in Canada for maths contests (he has the medal) and has a masters in Biochem, and my mom was the teachers assistant in her classes (rural Philippines so idrk how great that was) from her academic skills. Some parents are just older and think it's normal (both parents mid 50s, I'm 17), or severely misinformed. My parents are overall completely normal, just a bit more strict than average.
@@brandondavis7777 1. My school library was trash. 2. I couldn't just up and go to the public library in middle school. 3. My school work was literally online.
@@brandondavis7777 you know that most school works done online nowadays right? You also know that the library at the school doesn't have all the books you need right?
After watching this video I've noticed the shit my parents did or threatened to do are way more insane than I thought(threatening to remove my door cuz i was spending too much time in my room and eating very little, even thought that was a symptom of my depression they thought that would be a good idea). That went on until I had a severe depressive episode and they noticed what they thought was helping me was just making things much much worse. Although sometimes traces of it still appear they have become better parents in general compared to before at least.
Me before: My parents are terrible! No one understands me! Me after watching r/insaneparents : You know what, my parents are actually fine. Thank you to the Click for making me appreciate my sane parents more.
@@w1nterdays Depending on the situation, my dad is 9 (in terms of good) out of 10 when hes nice, and 2/10 when hes mad. My mom is 6/10 when nice and 1/10 when mad
@Can's Gaming, building and drawing studio my dads probably a 4.5/10 (10 being best) on a good day and a 2/10 on a bad day and my moms probably a 7.5/10 on a good day and a 4/10 on a bad day.
Something I learned from Click: parents not getting me to a professional for depression and just trying to keep checking in and saying are u OK isn't all that great- my automatic response is always yeah doing great so I never get taken seriously even when I correct myself
"Dont take away my snacks" "Those are tampons" "Hey, that they arent properly prepared with juicy filling yet doesnt mean i wont eat them down the line"
7:01 this one makes me really mad. Something as necessary as eating should never be associated with punishment, or anything negative. That’s how eating disorders happen. That’s how my eating disorder happened. She mentions the kid is already underweight too. If the kid clearly isn’t healthy, talk to their doctor, don’t do this bs. You’ll just make them eat less.
I was forces to eat some things at school age 7 to about 10. Ended with me having a massive phobia for alot of food. Even food I used to eat and like prior to school that were remotely associated with the stuff they forced me to eat. Today I'm almost 40 and have tried for almost 20 years to get rid of said phobia but I literally can't. The reactions are engraved so deep in my subconscious. So yeah, I fully agree with you and Clicks assessment of what happens. Not only ending up with eating disorders but social handicaps as well.
My fricking Dad was in the military for 23 years and he never made me or my sibling eat. The most we ever got was "Eat one more green and then you can be excused". Learned later that it was because his mom made him and his siblings eat everything. And I found out because my cousin offered me the rest of her lunch when she was full, and I was still hungry (something my sibling and I still do to this day at 19 and 16), my grandma came in and threw a fit to little 10 year old me and my 8 year old cousin
As an 11 year old at 58-60 pounds, I agree. I've been underweight for my entire life but my body has legitimately adapted to this and I'm still healthy somehow. No matter how much I eat I just don't gain weight.
Karin: "the gay's stole God's rainbow. God's promise. " Gay's: "no we didn't. God promised not to kill all you bigots. He promised to love and tolerate you no matter what. We're just trying to do the same. But we don't have to use the rainbow. Just like we don't have to share our secrets with you. Like the antidote. God bless."
'God' also created floods and killed a bunch of people, taking out any witnesses of the atrocities he did like when he turned a whole city on salt. Maybe the Karens are just following that part lmao.
Lol the first time I heard the 'gays stole the rainbow' thing I actually thought that it was a joke and the person saying is meant it as a meme. *Oh boy was I wrong*
God didn't even make rainbows, its reflection and refraction of light, aka light bending ... people didn't understand what or how one was created so they made up a reason. Its a natural thing, not even a supernatural. Who cares if rainbows are used, its been used on little girls toys and clothing longer then lgbt used it too, rainbows fascinate us because their pretty. Mostly due to cost of pigments in past united things anyway so... traditionally you didn't have much choice until the mid 1900s. Just enjoy rainbows and don't care about who uses them to represent what. Because something that beautiful should be enjoyed by all and fighting will spoil it for everyone.
Harlan Ellison may have said it better, perhaps inspired by an Einsteinian remark -- "The two most common things in the Universe are hydrogen and stupidity," in _Omni_ magazine.
i now feel really happy that i have good parents as in : i can literally do chemistry, as long as it is not an atomic bomb, that is fucking sick, they accept if i have a boyfriend or girlfriend, and just accept me in general. i seriously hope that any of the kids being abused (mentally or physically) can seek help and get a better adulthood and/or childhood because these "adults" have the brain capacity of a piece of paper
You tought me a lot like how to manage my mental health and how to manage my relationships and understanding others. Which has made a big impact on my life and has brought me a lot of positivity thank you Click
I’ve learned, by watching The Click’s videos, that it’s okay to be scared of things. That it’s okay to have phobias, and that it’s normal. I’ve also come to be a lot more comfortable with myself through the little speeches(if i can call them that?) that The Click does occasionally about deeper, more serious topics. And for this i am very, very grateful for their videos. Thank you
18:26 My parents tried doing this, but I made a power play and just started walking around completely in the buff since, "my privacy didn't matter." They gave in the day our neighbors were coming over for a bbq. Moral of the story is when in trouble, strip.
@@herborty8658 i have one word for you... GOOGLE. after that... please....stay out of the gene pool. quote wikipedia: All parts of the plant are toxic, but the sweet, purplish-black berries that are attractive to children pose the greatest danger. Symptoms of poisoning include rapid heart beat, dilated pupils, delirium, vomiting, hallucinations, and death due to respiratory failure
@@amberfredricks3138 Except he's right, it's a homeopathic remedy - it said 30C, which means they took the belladonna, dissolved a little bit in some water, and diluted it 1 part to 100.... 30 times. Giving a total equivalent concentration of roughly... 0.0000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001 There's absolutely no belladonna left in the final solution.
@@amberfredricks3138 because they believe, and this is not a joke, that the water has "memory" of the healing qualities of the plant, but not of the poison (somehow)
I feel for the person who didn’t find out their relative had died until after the fact. I tried to get in touch with my godmother, who lived quite far from me at that point, for two and a half weeks before her phone was disconnected. The first week I thought she was just on holiday, as she still took many small trips despite being in her 90s. The second week I got a little worried and when the phone went (she’d had the same number for my entire life) I freaked. I woke up in the middle of the night shaking and googled. I found ****HER OBITUARY****. Apparently someone told my step-aunt, who said she’d tell me but never did (probably because I hadn’t seen her in 30 years and had no way or reason to contact her) . I know my godmother knew I loved her but I never got to say goodbye or go to her funeral and I later found out a lot of her family thought I was an ungrateful heartless person for not being present. It still hurts to think about.
@@gachakris2924 While I don’t wish hell on anyone, I think the worst was that besides not telling me, the step-aunt specifically told my godmother’s family (Godmother had no children of her own but had a large extended family and a close connection to me as she’d also been my long passed grandmother’s lifelong best friend and promised to ‘watch over me’ when grandmother passed away) that she had told me and then attended the funeral herself. Neither step-aunt and my godmother nor she and I had ever been particularly close, while I talked with my Godmother at least every week and a half. I barely know the woman so I have no idea what her motivation was. It’s not like it could have slipped her mind. It sure hurt though, and still does.
@@Filecabinet0170 No matter how you look at it, if she said she told you, it means she wished to hurt your reputation for whatever reason (imo). Did it at least got cleared up with her relatives?
@@gachakris2924 not really, and I live in another country so I couldn’t just show up and explain or confront the step-aunt. I made a donation “in memory of” to a local organisation Godmother supported, though I didn’t tell them directly of it, but I did directly write a letter of apology and condolence. They never responded so I ended up getting a copy of the funeral programme from the funeral home. In a way it doesn’t matter with them. I always ended every telephone call with my godmother with “I love you” and even still exchanged letters and postcards with her until that point. She knew I loved her more than anything and I try to remember in the end that’s what truly matters, not what they think.
I'm a parent and I find these videos really funny. I can't believe that some people are so insane. It makes my parenting skills seem 1000% better, so thanks for that confidance boost!
I am nervous around needles but the feeling gets overwhelmed by both the fear of embarrassing myself in public and my amazement of watching how much my blood spills into the vial. The “math” says I am fine with needles
Actually, one of the most important things I learnt from click is self confidence: I don't know how, but the wholesome moments always come when I need them
I officially live on my mothers address but no key and she has a hard time grasping my mail is my mail. Oh well, she also knows none of us will take legal action against her regardless of how far she goes. But specifically telling her to not open a specific letter and seeing her manage for a whole 2h says a lot about her.
Confidence in school is so huge! You are absolutely right! When I taught and for tutoring, sometimes I would step a kid back to a level at or below their actual functioning level. That way they are getting so much right they just shine!!🌞
One genuine thing I have learned from you channel is that situations like the ones in r/InsaneParents are, indeed, abusive, and NOT normal, even though I personally grew up surrounded by those situations PS: I love your videos Click, keep up the great work ^-^
Realising when abuse is indeed abuse is half the battle. My outlook on life changed a lot the first time I read a description of gaslighting and manipulative behavior. Helped keep me sane until I could get away from my mother.
The sad part of this subreddit is going through it in these videos and realizing my parents did a lot of these things to me, but the happy part is Click validating my abuse and speaking out against it. Like holy shit yea, there are parents who expect their 7 year old to be in tip top shape like 1% of adults are and I was one of them, thank you Click for ridiculing something I’ve been angry at for years so I can finally laugh at it with someone
3:07 you have moments of seriousness, specially in r/InsaneParents that have made me realise that my family may not be the best, and sometimes i think about it before sleeping, thank you so much for that
I’m gonna be honest with you even though this just proves how bad I am at math, you actually made me really understand something about it that teachers had been trying to make me understand for years! I had never understood it when they explained it to me but sum how the click academy actually made me understand. So ya that’s the most useful thing I learned on the channel and it really helped me in school. So thank you!
The "you didn't ask permission to download a new texting app" one, I don't even make my nine year old ask me permission to download apps. I do have a parent app to see what apps are downloaded if I need to, but she's shown excellent judgment and I told her that I trust her. That one really bugged me just because I had this conversation with my daughter a couple days ago. If you can't trust your kid with something as simple as choosing their own apps, maybe you're insecure about your parenting skills?
when i was growing up, i often had to run apps i wanted on my ipod touch past my stepmum (i was like 10, and it was her apple account). i can’t remember a time she wasn’t like “sure, as long as it’s free!” because i only wanted the shitty mobile games every 10 year old loves - i just had to give the ipod to her when the app store wanted her password.
That's some really good advice at the end of the episode. I'm not phobic of needles, anatomy, or blood, BUT The Click gave some excellent phobia advice. Prepare, and give yourself an exit. You might not need the exit, as long as you have one.
"there is only one answer: organized crime!" Is my favorite thing the click has said out of context
hey wait…. what about arson-
@@omegadragons321 you don’t get MONEY from arson
@A Random Weeb Yeah...That's good. Good for money of course
I have ADHD so soon I can do Arson if I’m told 1 thing…
I SHALL BURN THE WORLD AND GIVE US NO MORE HOPE BECAUSE WE HAVE NO HOPE
Also I will do this for free,
Anyone have ADHD so we can create a mafia of burning death.
Boomer parents sitting there like _"how are we gonna teach kids that violence is not the answer? Hmm yes i think we are going to have to beat them."_
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This is correct
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I'm a 51 year old father of 14 year old twin girls and I can happily say I have never hit them ever, nor has their mother ever hit them. I feel sorry for you, if that's the kind of environment you have grown up in. Also, never forget that everything you love is there because of "Boomers".
@@roguegargoyle914Thank you for being a good dad !! I hope you and your family are having a good day/night :)
Burning the kid's cards is such a fucked up thing to do. My mom would sometimes break or throw away my toys when we had a disagreement. What I learned from it was to avoid conflict at all cost... I'm in my 30s and still can't argue without bursting into tears. Don't punish children by destroying what they are emotionally attached to.
I remember the time my dad tried to delete Minecraft off the Wii U. I can't imagine having a parent threaten to do something like that every day.
Lmao my mom gave my phone away this one time because of my grades
My average was 86.4
Literally though
It’s kinda sad
And not to mention how expensive Pokémon card can get, or just some toys in general.
@@L1v1ngCart00n The money surely can be an aspect, but it isn't what scars you emotionally. Having something dear to you being broken right in front of your eyes makes you feel utterly helpless... I can't even recall the things that were broken back then, but the feeling itself keeps coming back with each argument.
@@raininess which is true
But I have always just put other people before myself so I just couldn’t think about it that way
as a transmasculine person who is not straight as well as being tested for autism, I consider myself incredibly lucky to have a mother who genuinely wants the best for me and does so much to help me get through life. not once has she pressured me to be anything but authentic to myself, and not once has she claimed I'm attention seeking or trying to feel special. my heart goes out to anyone who has to deal with this.
I have a friend in a very similar situation (transmasc, not straight, and looking for an autism diagnosis), but their family is not supportive at all, so I'm very glad that someone with the same unique traits that get them in trouble is supported and happy
gimmie your mom.
Like you two, I’m also pretty similar. I’m trans-masculine, and not straight as well. I have been diagnosed with autism. My family is kinda supportive but not really.
I just feel grateful that my parents aren’t those tinfoil hat “vaxx causes autism”. They didn’t want the covid vaccine and told us we (my sister and I) weren’t getting it either because the vaccine hasn’t actially been tested and it by law needs to be before you can give it to the public. But I was and am still a child, so I couldn’t and still can’t do anything about it. My parents chose for me.
Also, I am also trans ftm and not straight, and now going through an autism assessment
Sounds like me. But not trans
I love how he tackles serious subjects such as child abuse and trauma. As a 14 y.o. I can confirm that click has actually helped me feel better about myself and my situation.
Edit: Wow, I can't believe there are so many people who are going through the same thing as me that The Click has helped. I am so grateful for how much support the people in the comments have given me and I am also glad to hear about all of the people who have made it out of my situation. Keep on going and keep your heads high. Godspeed.
I hope things get better for you
I hope things will work out for you. Be strong and know that there are adults out there who care and believe in you even though it may not seem like it now. Take care and please keep healthy. The world needs you.
Same for me and I’m 15
You know I just don’t understand when we were kids like 4-6 just be kind and adults are doing this it’s crazy
Shoot your ABUSER (dont)
Mom: calls her daughter a “dirty little mongrel” and gross
Also Mom: “I don’t wanna wash her face, and it might be because of medicine I’m giving her instead of her actually being dirty”
It is gross wash the damn kid.
:angryasfuck:
I was around 11, when my parents was chocked to hear that I didn't wash my own face.
I have no memory if my parents doing it on me, and no one told me I needed to. I had only been told to wash my hair and my body.
I felt like a nasty freak for a long time, but really, I think my parents just gave up in an early age because my autism probably made me upset when attempted.
I just wished my parents didn't acted so weird about.
Doing it now, ofcurse.
Imagine what they do behind closed doors these kinds of parents disgust me good thing we are being more progressive and making the world a better place like compare 40 years ago to now
I'm primarily disappointed the "mother" didn't stop to think "Acne usually isn't itchy and generally doesn't affect 6-year-olds". To me, it sounds more like a rash, especially since she made it sound centralized to just her forehead (with the exception of a spot on her nose)
One way or the other, I hope she takes the kid to a doctor.
God, that mother burning the Pokémon cards is likely giving her kid anorexia. Anorexia often starts as a method of control. In a living situation without any control, people will control their eating as the only thing they can.
Yep.
Unfortunately yes.
And self harm too.
Or binge eating disorder like my father caused in me from demanding I finish every bite of food (and then calling me "fat as a house").
Yes that may unfortunately happen if that mom continues
Woman: *has child*
Woman: I have now gained all medical knowledge
Also some of them have this thing where they go 'I made you, I _know_ you/when you're lying' and it's like no ? No you don't ? You literally only know the carefully crafted version of myself that I specifically utilize because I _fear_ you too much to let you get to know me ??
@drownedtrashrat3501 this literally be my mom lmaooo😂😂😂😅😢
@@drownedtrashrat3501me w my dad >
A funny thing about the whole "I identify as vaccinated lol" thing is that a lot of actual trans people then undergo medical procedures to align their biology with their psychology. So if you really do "identify as vaccinated" then go get the procedure to align body to mind, Karen. Go get your shots!
Perfect response! xD
*O O F*
You’re right 👁👄👁
@@freepalestine1673 Transsexual is literally the older word for transgender (that ppl usually don't use anymore) and they definatelly did get medical gender-affirming procedures. A while ago people even proposed that this word was to be used by trans people that decided to go through any medical intervention(s). So you are pretty much 100% wrong
btw not every trans person gets or wants medical procedures
About zombie apocalypse, I agree with The Click because:
"After seeing half a country actively reject wearing a mask during a pandemic, I would like to apologize to the filmmakers of every horror movie ever made for calling their characters unbelievably dumb for going into the murder basement." - Matthew Federman Jun 19, 2020
+ You are going to love Episode 6 My Big Flat Earth Wedding.
Except these same people think they'd be the heroes if a zombie apocalypse. They'd be so happy if they got to shoot people.
@@elaexplorer especially in America
I feel like they’re still a little too stupid still
I think America being fucked is more accurate than the entire world. Most countries have functioning social systems. Most anti-vax and Karens are in the US.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla But remember, not all are in the US.
The Click, as cursed as he is, is literally my favorite RUclipsr. His videos have this amazing balance of sillyness about serious topics and he's just super fun and charismatic.
I strive to be as cursed as him one day lol
Ye
aw
@@TheClick hi
Same
Same.
Sometimes, I vaguely talk about RUclipsrs with my parents. I meant mentioned “a certain RUclipsr” that sometimes has a mustache and sometimes doesn’t. My dad suggested that the click should have half of a mustache, so whenever he wants a mustache he just needs to spin around REALLY fast. This idea now lives in my head rent-free.
Click could just Pull that off somehow😂
I can't imagine being a parent and calling my child a "filthy mongrel" or "disgusting", let alone not taking them to the doctor if they're ill or straight up abusing them. Some people should not reproduce.
Kids being abused really hurts me as someone that wants my own kids but cannot afford them yet.
@@krysal1489 I hope you reach your goal of being a parent in the future! ^^
@@krysal1489 I agree wholeheartedly. Kudos to you for trying to get to a better place financially to care for them! They'll be lucky to have you as a parent when they arrive 💜
And for having acne no less
@@embertheunusual8036 Right?! One of the single most common things that can happen at any stage of life, even infancy!
About the rabies kid:
If the body part that was bitten is far away from the brain (the organ that is attacked by rabies mainly) rabies slowly moves up to the brain with no symptoms. If the kid was bitten on the leg (wich is possible, as the insane parent said cats and dogs), the kid is probably infected and will have symptoms in the close future. Rabies can be symptomless for half a decade in cases like this.
Some peopls are just insane. We literally have a vaccine for a disease that turns your loved ones into a mindless, agressive shadows of themselves, literal zombies and these people refuse to save their kids...
Ah,so zombies exist
Cool thing I learned about rabies, some people have actually survived it without the vaccine and after symptoms have shown. By putting people in a coma so the symptoms stop destroying the brain as quickly the body fights off the virus.
@@zamonolita in a techincal sense: there are some parazites that turn their victims into zombies. Rabies only ruins them, and there is no repair if something is damaged by it.
But rabies: technically not, but if a rabid wild dog is walking towards you in the night, slowly and mechanically, and the feeling of dread and everything just being really, really wrong gets to you; that's something almost supernatural and scary.
@@sinifexxephinis4310 yes, but if it reaches the brain before the coma, the damage starts and it's almost impossible to fix that. I say almost, because even with the coma, minimal damage can happen and it might can be fixed after, so there is some kind of healing after all, but without medical help, it's sadly not enough.
The coma might work, but it is dangerous and used only as a last resort, the person put into a coma might not wake up ever again.
@@zamonolita at least patients can die.
Someone somewhere: "I wonder what my teacher's doing now?"
He reads reddit for a living now
I can only imagine the students finding his channel, I can on,y imagine how funny it would be
He sounds like that one teacher that everyone wants to have and now he’s famous
Y e s
@@I.do_exist google translated that to "and it is"
@@breakfaith3031 💀
What I learned from both The Click and One Topic:
- Family isn't always blood, and blood doesn't always equal family
- An explanation tho the cliche phrase "it gets better". Whenever people told me that i always got outraged. I won't magically wake up without severe chronic depression, and life can get horrible in an instant, but it's less likely to happen the other way around. To have a logical reason to why it gets better definitely stoped me from doing things very much incompatible with the alive thing.
- That I'm non binary, and also encouraged me to figure myself out, come to terms with who i am (i realized just how bisexual I was, and it didn't even register for so long it's ridiculous)
- It's ok to tell people they are hurting you.
- Ask for help to people who will help you. Not everyone will, but that just means you gotta look somewhere else for it
- Sometimes people who actually care and love us can be really toxic at times.
- It's ok to be mad, it's ok to be an asshole sometimes, you don't owe no one anything. Obviously, common decency it's a thing, but it shouldn't be an excuse to let yourself get stomped over.
- There isn't so little time. It's been drilled into my brain how short life will be, and it made me misserable. If I've been suffering for so long, what's the point of trying to see if something better lies ahead, there was so little "ahead" i drowned myself in my family's expectations.
- Don't take social media seriously, it's not a personal attack, it's not for you. Calm down.
- You should not hold yourself to unrealistic expectations. Even when you do reach them , it might still feel empty. It hurts more when you know you should be proud of yourself but just aren't. (My personal experience/rant: I passed a difficult course against all odds, and the moment i realized it meant nothing was when a lovely teacher i had saw me looking at my grades like if it was blank paper. He congratulated me and asked very nicely if I was finally proud of myself after doing the imposible, after defeating this giant. I without even needing to think i answered "No". I have never seen someone so happy lose that light in their eyes so quickly. There just wasn't a culminating moment, a breath after a long race. That day came like any other, and went just as painfully slow. Even worse was having to lie to my parents. To lie through my teeth: "I am proud of what I've archived". It really messes up with your brain)
- Also I'm a furry (i think??) But that's a little less important.
A little personal advice for those people struggling with mental health: things don't really need a meaning to be beautiful. Life doesn't have "meaning" per se, but it doesn't really matter.
That attitude can change your situation a lot. I still remember the day I told my little evil trauma spawn (Which existence is another fun story for another fun day) that that was enough. That i was sick of it, that i wanted to change. This is my head, my mind, my body and my life, and no one other than me has any say in it.
You can live your life day to day. It can be hard to think about the future, can be unbearable to feel your life so out of control by all the factors in your life you don't know yet. You can't really do an operation without all the numbers and get an accurate response. So make the equation smaller. More manageable.
I may not be happy now. I may still be severely depressed. I may always be. But that ain't stoping me from figuring it out.
Hope you will get better and better. If you can, find a therapist to help you. I have a friend with similar issues (non binary, bi, with a completely unsupportive family, severely depressed, etc) and seeing a therapist behind their parents back really helped them. They are now two years in the process and got better enough to be out of meds now. Things are never perfect but as you put yourself, they can become better. A little thing after the other and with up and down.
This comment made my day
Wow, you learned a lot! Congratulations, fellow enby!!! 😊😊😊
Sending hugs to maybe help you feel better
I’m not good at comforting people sorry about that
I am so inspired by your comment. 🤗
Your text/comment is so good that it's gonna come into my "lifelessons" folder :) I hope you're doing well and have an absolutely amazing day and an even more amazing life!!!
I find it humourous that The Click *appears* to be wearing "tinfoil headphones" to protect himself from losing his mind to the insanity in the posts he's reading and reacting to.
Imma make an SCP off that
^ Yeah, Cassandra. Go for it!
@@randomgoogleaccount4868 pls link when done, im curious now lol
The Beyerdynamics he has are really good headphones though, got a similar line here (DT 990 Pro). His might be the same, or the 770 Pro, hard to judge.
@@DASPRiD it's definitely the 770 Pro, probably the 80 or 32 ohms model. I don't think he has the high empedance model though
Click: idk how people learn from my channel lol
Also Click: I taught math and physics on weekends
Wow! Your older brother is so cool! :0
My nine year old daughter is passionate about math and physics. Mostly this means that we get to do fun stuff like coming up with "impossible math" for her to do and we have a subscription that sends her a box to make an experiment every month. We've made a table top pinball machine, a few different marble runs (she calls them roller coasters), pneumatic hands, and some toy cars that move differently from each other. As a fiber artist, it's been fun explaining the math and physics involved in what I do. Teaching her how to do things around the house has been interesting, lol, teaching her to cook means learning about the chemistry that makes it work
What’s extra sad about the argument at 26:06 is that multiple personality disorder which is medically known as dissociative identity disorder (DID) is an extreme coping mechanism spawned from early childhood trauma. But yes I chose to have a condition which makes my life harder and alienates me from society in order to seem quirky. Not because my dad openly hated me and my mom literally admits that her punishment method was to hit me until she was no longer angry.
I hate that people think DID is a made up thing. Every person I've met with DID looks/sounds so tired all the time. Why would anyone fake that?
@@alyssamay9237 probably because of the idiots on the internet who fake those sorts of things for some reason. but setting aside those awful people, no one would fake something like that.
@@MachiNoShaku i know people who HONESTLY have it, they forget some inmportans sruff because of how it works,
Onece it even turned into not remembering a theft but thats probably the extreme side
*Hugs, and holds out a cookie* You are a strong person.
:0
Me: *has slight chub*
My mom: *makes fun of my weight*
Me: stress eats and ends up getting bigger
My mom: *"jokes" harder*
Me: *i leave*
My mom: *shocked pikachu face*
It can be hot as hades yet my mom will criticize me until I am too self conscious to wear shorts in my own home. Even spaghetti strap shirts she feels are too revealing "for how fat I am". According to BMI I'm an average weight for my height but I guess that doesn't matter.
@@CrystalLynn1988 I am so sorry, I know that I can't do anything to help but If I could I would
There are FAR too many people who believe in "helping" via negative reinforcement. 🙄😑
@@Kur10usity yea and (sorry i read your comment wrong so this popped in my head) since ive lost weight id tell people i used to be bigger and they always say "no you looked fiiiiine" i didnt say it was a bad thing 🤣 i didnt even say it in a bad way, idk why thats always their go to. I mean i can but like its annoying lol after rethinking about what you said, yea why do people do that? How do they not realize it makes it worse? Sorry for misunderstanding lol
Me at age 14: still has completely normal healthy weight, even if a bit on the upper end
My mother: makes fun about me getting fat
Me: actually gains 20 kg
My mother: makes even more fun of me and blames it on my genes that I will never be able to be thin (genes from my father's side)
Me: loses 20 kg again within not even a year
My mother the whole time: "Stop that immediately! You're completely scraggy, that isn't healthy!"
Also, as a bonus - she sometimes tells me that losing weight isn't good for mental health. Oh, so constantly being called fat is better for mental health?
FYI: FIS stands for French international school, I actually went there when I was in Hong Kong!
I can't tell if you're joking or not
@Chomps, nice profile picture.
@@nokitadokuhebi8991 they're set up for French expats living in the area.
The more you know!
@@LexosVr its the beep boop toaster!
A fun fact: We don't really have pronouns in Finland, so we do, infact, call people it. :>
Edit: My mistake, yes, it, is a pronoun. x'D
as a nb person I am now moving to Finland 🏃
@@ft_slushie_studio You'd swap 3 choices for a lack of any? Male, female, neutral, there's 3 choices in English.
Because English is a messy language so of course it had 3.
@@AngelEmfrbl actually there are many more choices in English for pronouns, but I personally like the idea of having a gender neutral version of speaking about someone else :]
@@ft_slushie_studio finland is also one of the happiest countries in the world, too! i’d move there if i was old enough.
@@labyrinthine444 wait really? That’s awesome oml, I am also not old enough to move there on my own, and along with money problems it’s not possible for me at this time, but I may think about it in the future
I bought my high-functioning autistic husband a shirt that states: "Autistic Pride: You don't need a cure for being yourself." We have yet to come across some random Anti-Vaxxer Karen-type while he's wearing that in public, because I'm absolutely certain that, the moment they say some stupid theory about anything causing autism, he's going to start going into one of his...well, honestly, I think his tirades on the subject are a combination of him knowledge dumping and going into a meltdown, but those Karens don't need to know that it's his way of going into a meltdown.
oo I have a question, I gotta know if I have high functioning autism… is not liking certain sounds a symptom
dear god i am so sorry I don’t wanna be mean I should just leave
@@omegadragons321 definitely something to ask your doctor or therapist or a medical professional
@@omegadragons321 not liking certain sounds is called Misophonia, look it up
@@omegadragons321 Having sensory hypersensitivity can be symptom from many different things or can be thing by itself. I would recomend to look up more about autism and check if other things fit. For example do you have difficulties to interact with neurotypical ppl, repetitive/restrictive behaviors etc.
If you can you should also talk wit dr or some other professional, but I understand that it is not accessible option for everyone.
I have dyslexia and my brains didn't register op:s first sentence right so I first read that "I bought my high-functioning autistic husband from" and was really conserned until I read it again 🙈 That shirt sounds great tho 🖤
The normalisation of gay isn't the only thing causing kids to "become" gay, seeing other people similar to yourself that you relate to and realising that you might have the same orientation is a big part of growing up. This is not just around sexuality, it is how you develop your interests throughout your life. Being able to relate to people like yourself is one of the greatest gifts of the internet, giving us all access to people that understand how we feel and where we come from.
Normalize something --> more people accept that they (are) like those things --> :)
Also the logic that kids "become gay" by seeing gay couples on TV...by that logic wouldn't adults be changing sexuality more often, since they're more likely to see and understand such things? And couldn't you turn them straight by having them watch a hetero couple kiss? It's so freaking dumb.
I've learned from Clicky videos that people are dangerously insane and that my anxiety around crowds of people is entirely justified.
This makes me feel better, i hate people and get nervous around crowds as well
It's not paranoia.
*Reject humanity, return to monke*
Heh yeah i can agree with this
I live in Canada and I don't fear people here. It's not normal to be anxious around people all the time.
Edit: I don't think I was making my point clear enough: my point was that countries like the US create these states of fear by making so much toxic societies.
I love how you talked about your phobia of needles and blood so openly because for my whole life my dad has grounded me for me freaking out when getting vaccines. even when I was like 8 or probably younger and then gilt trips me into thinking that something traumatic had to happen for me to be that scared of needles
Funny thing, I had a trauma kind of cure me from any phobia because my brain decided there was no reason to really fear anything but suffocating in a tomb. (The hours i spent in that lockable toolbox before I could bust the lid probably played a big role with that.)
I'm sorry, i hate needles too. I fear few things but needles, those damned bastards. I hope ye know that being scared of needles is natural. I cried my eyes out after my first shot of the COVID vaccine. Been terrified since I was born and terrified as a fifteen year old who laughs in scary movies. Being scared of needles does not make u weak, you are just one of the few that sees the evil in those needles.
Your dad is a fool who is blind to the evil in needles. Only us who fear them, knows how evil they are.
@@holymoly9903 By "the evil in those needles", are you referring to how thin and sharp they are?
@@ChloekabanOfficial Ah yes I am. Sharp evil needles. The vaccine is great, but the needles, may they rest in hell.
@@holymoly9903 If only there were needle-less vaccines...
I had an asthma attack yesterday, all the while wearing my mask. I didn't even realise I still had it on until I had to move it to take my inhaler (which I had to search for for several minutes.)
The idea that healthy people can't excercise in masks or they'll pass out and die is so laughably absurd.
Hope you’re feeling better now. My asthma is terrible at the moment, but it’s no worse with a mask on. Those perfectly healthy people who claim they can’t breathe with them on are just an embarrassment
I want to say that, if the sport is quite hard and you sweat A LOT (like karate (I have a black belt so I need to give 100%)), the mask is actually making me almost pass out while without a mask, I have more stamina. Again, I'm giving 100% and anything else is fine.
Oh and I actually think the mask is not the problem, it's the sweat that stick to the mask that is the problem lmao
@Kathryn Elizabeth ya talking about me? I'm literrally saying what you just said but in a different way, what? I said in the end that it's probably the sweat that stick to the mask that is a problem, the mask on it's own is 100% ok (did you read the second paragraph or not?)
indeed my stpdad has copd and only 30% capacity off his lungs left, and he is total fine with masks
With the pnumonia one, I had pnuemonia when I was younger. My left lung collapsed and I was probably a few days from death. I'm fully vaccinated and we don't know what caused it and I still can't properly breath even nearly three years later. If I wasn't vaccinated I might now be here today. Vaccinations are extremely important and this mother is so lucky she didn't lose her son.
The one about the grandma wanting grandkids kinda hit me, my grandma once started talking to me about how "I should enjoy my life now, because when I have kids, I'm gonna have sleepless nights and won't be able to get much done for myself", I told her (politely) that I don't want kids, and she started yelling at me in the car that "Children are a gift from God, and they are the most amazing little bundles of joy" and how I "shouldn't dare to say such a thing ever again".
This was last year, I was not even in college yet
Love how she went from "sleepless nights", "won't be able to do much for myself" to "kids are bundles of joy and a gift" so rapidly, in just one conversation. xD
I know this is an old comment but I just wanted to say, stay strong and do what makes you happy. Life is short, make the best of it.
Don't take it personal, it's your life and you have all the control to live it however you wish.
Sending *hugs* and stay healthy !
@@wolfdarkness2011 Thank you, it means a lot, I just hope she won't ask about kids or relationships when I next see her.
Edit: Don't worry, I reply to old comments too XD
Edit 2: We had that conversation again yesterday, but she didn't get as mad because my mum backed me up. Her argument this time was "Well what if I said I didn't want grandchildren", which (as I said to her) isn't up to her, my parents had the choice to have me, just as she had the choice not to raise me until I was 5. If she didn't want grandchildren, she could have just told my parents to look after me from the beginning
I personally don't want kids, at least for the moment. My mental disability makes things harder for me, I manage to remain friendly and cheer to people who deserve it. But I get tired to not throw my stress at them and no partner or child deserves that environment. One at a time.
I'm not even that far into high-school, and my grandmother keeps saying things like "when you have kids." I try explaining to her that I don't really want kids of my own, but if that ends up changing, I'm going to adopt instead. Grandmother insisted that "Having an adopted great grandchild would not be enough for her because they weren't our blood" and that I "better not get a little N-word because we are a white pure-blood family:
@@bee_thenonbinarygremlin5399 bro, wtaf. Your grandmother is weird. I'd personally love any child, adopted, mixed, or what. Kids deserve the best life, which is why I don't want any of my own. Not yet at least, and probably none from my own blood.
For the meme at 15:52 - when I started wearing crop tops as a plus size female person (I'm genderqueer, she/they pronouns, moving on), my mom looked at me and she didn't say anything for a second and I was worried about it, right, because everybody is worried about what their mom thinks when they're 15 or 17 or so. My mom looks at me and she says "I wish I had been brave enough to wear what you wear now when I was your age. I'm really proud of you." And I think about that a lot. I wear crop tops almost every day now. No matter what you look like and what you wear, a good parent is supportive. If your parent is not supportive of that kind of thing, it's not a problem with you. It's a problem with them.
How to be a true chad of a parent
I wear crop tops as a transmasc who is somewhat plus size and my mom shames me
thats so nice!!
@@1vy-h2b i'm so sorry to hear that, but just know what we support you!
@@1vy-h2b You should be able to wear what you want regardless of your weight or gender. I shame your mother for being insensitive. You do what makes you feel good about yourself, bro. I bet you look amazing, and she's just jealous
Though cursed, The Click has empathy, emotional maturity (when serious), and is self-aware. This gives me hope for the human race. Also, the way his logic leaps and jumps like a runaway train careening off a mountain side down into a spinning portal where in an alternate universe there exists multiple versions of one's self is similar to how my brain functions. Or...when my brain does not function.
Human isn't the only race cuz WHAT ABOUT NASCAR??
I am so sorry for that awful reference. I'll leave now-
@@gaygay2264 Too many left turns to be a proper race.
I forgot furries! Are furries a race, or are we all just human? Rather, people. Ugh. My apologies. I think my brain is hurt.
yup, I've worked as a teacher/tutor (ESL) and I agree with him wholeheartedly. I think sometimes the most cursed people are the most empathetic if that makes sense...I also have a very morbid sense of humor, I think it is a manifestation of empathy in a way or the ability to look at things from a different perspective
@@roonrune1936 As a furry, we’re just very weird people. I dunno why we all get hate for r34 because almost none of us do it and all fandoms have those people lmao 🫠
What I learned from your videos: Apperanty there are a lot of terrible parents in this world. Really sad to know this.
Evil Click be like "I'm not a furry, Toppicy woppicy is cringe"
But that’s regular click
Conclusion: Click is always evil.
The difference is more like:
Evil TheClick: "I'm not a furry."
TheClick: "I'm not a furry OwO"
I think Evil Click wouldn‘t be a furry but says he is
*The MisClick.*
Hot Take: Being a parent does not make you a professional in the physical, mental, and emotional well being of children. Listen to doctors and other actual professionals.
Edit: This isn't actually a hot take, it's a very cold take. That's the joke.
Yeah, you’d think that’s common sense, BUT I GUESS NOT
@@pheonyx5380 people will be people
Hot take?
You ok?
if people srsly think that THIS is a hot take
Get some help
@@rehanmalik5683
This isn't actually a hot take, or at least it shouldn't be. That's the joke -_-
@@randomisonline that's a joke?
Jesus
Fun fact about acne: Allergic reactions can sometimes resemble acne. If your *6-year-old CHILD* has "acne", it's more likely an allergic reaction to something and you should be taking this more seriously. Especially if she already has asthma, which is commonly comorbid with allergies. All my siblings, my mother and I had severe asthmatic symtoms in our childhood due to allergies.
Exactly what I was thinking. It's likely a rash, especially since it's itchy. Poor child.
black people 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯
@@animeartist888 Except she’s on steroids, and there is such a thing as steroid-induced acne. Which is why the stupid witch should TALK TO THE PHYSICIAN. It’s possible her daughter could be put on a lower dose, or a different type of steroid.
I’ve talked to a GP or two, and they really do consider corticosteroids sometimes as nothing short of a miracle drug. But at the same time, acknowledge that long term use has awful side effects.
Fun fact: One of the things corticosteroids are used for is very very severe allergies. But did you know you can be allergic to…..corticosteroids. The human body is weird.
I was diagnosed with celiac disease at 30, and cut out gluten at that point. Funny thing how my acne cleared a lot after years of begging the damn doctors for relief from it.
@@christinamann3640 Just curious. How long do you think you were celiac before you were diagnosed? I’ve talked to people who felt sick for DECADES before they were finally diagnosed. Three days of a gluten free diet and they felt better.
Thank you for the comment on social media and mental health. My wife started having lower self esteem and a self destructive thought process because of filters and how "pretty" people looked. I had to make her stay off the app for a bit while I kept reminding her of how beautiful she was the way she is. I hate the kind of social image that people try to push and I'm glad we are slowly getting away from it.
I honestly didn't know about the dunning Krueger effect before I started watching this channel.
As for your r/insaneparents videos...they are singlehandedly keeping me sane in a world where my mum screams at me daily and my dad is emotionally abusive towards the entire family. Everyone out there: stay strong, we got this!!
Feel sorry for you man. Hope you one day leave that abuse once you move out
It gets better, I promise! Don’t be afraid to cut them out of your life if it ever gets too much!
My own father was insulting my mother after she threw up in front of the bathroom. She was crying.
I just love when my mom tries to emotionally manipulative
I know that feeling. And I know how hard it can be to escape sometimes. My dad was bad enough growing up with his physical and verbal bull, but now he's become one of the Trump fanboys and has lost any sanity he might've had before. Somehow not antivax yet, though.
5:06 My elementary school used this system. When you have the context it makes it even more ridiculous. A 3 is basically an A-. It says that you understand the things you are taught well. A 4 is extremely hard to get but is easier is some depending on how lenient your teacher is. A 4 is I understand this perfectly and could teach the class and equates to an A+. Punishing your kid for getting all 3s is horrible. And if it works like how my state does it, this kid is in elementary school.
Jeez, I thought it would be closer to a B. That makes it even worse.
I remember this grading system
we also used this scoring system in elementary school and middle school for those big tests you'd only take once in a while. the tests that would tell the school how well the teacher was teaching? they never went on any grades though and assuming they didn't for this person either, i don't see why the parent should care.
This guy is just so genuinely likeable! The way he alternates between sensitive, logical advice and hilarious comedy is just perfect. He was born to be a RUclips presenter.
It helps that his charisma is 100. He could start a fourth Reich if he wanted to and millions of people would support it. 😨
@@dannygjk That is the strangest place to go, given the subject at hand. I’d ask why, but I’m not sure I want an answer.
@@Saje3D How about I just say, "His charisma is 100 he could convince almost anyone to follow him."?
my parents have told me this and its another reason why I still trust my parents even tho they may be kinda shady some times " as long as we can contact you and know youre safe its fine, we can smell whatever you've been drinking, smoking, eating etc as long as you're willing to call home when you need a ride and stuff like that its fine"
The "Belladonna 30C" is a 'homeopathic remedy'. Which means: The original material got diluted by 1% for 30 times.
Or in other words: Dilute the substance until it is pure water, and then dilute the water two more times.
So it is just water. Or sugar, if the water was dripped on pills.
Unless the mixer messed up and mixes up the vials. Then it's toxic. (Yes, that happened)
So, basically the la croix of poisons?
Gotta love that placebo effect.
I find that odd because my mum has all of those kinda pills and they seem to work. On the other had my sister downed 2 bottles when she was younger and threw up
@@shortentity6853 That's not odd, it's called anecdotal 'evidence' and confirmation bias.
If you get well within 12 h after taking it, it probably would have taken half a day without it. The self-healing capabilities of the human body are often underestimated or outright ignored.
The only way to affirm the efficacy of drugs is through medical double-blind trials.
Not by testing them on yourself like the inventor of homeopathy did over 200 years ago. (Back then, atoms and molecules were still not much known of.)
@@Cau_No ok that explains alot thankyou.
I am imagining Click fainting and tumbling over a Swedish nurse who's shouting in Swedish, "Oh! Don't fall on me! You'll crush me!"
And the Nurse is One Topic
"Åh! Fall inte på mig! Du kommer att krossa mig!"
Ah how nice i scrolled to this comment just at that part of the vid
The things I learned from click, a book summary:
•click’s name is actually mark
•I should be thankful for the parents I have
•life could be a lot worse in my case
•I’m pretty sure I’m not straight anymore
•click used to be a teacher
And last but not least;
I’m pretty sure I’m not a furry but not *100%* sure
click used to be. a teacher?
Wait what?
*his name is Mark?*
@@2stral he says in the video he used to be a university professor, and I think he taught physics but I'm not 100% sure about that one
Mark? _Mark??_
Tbh this channel taught me more about lgbtq then most mass media campaigns claiming to spread awareness
Oh, speaking of Christmas memories. When I was a teen my step-mom was ALWAYS disappointed in me. Every frikkin year. If i chose to celebrate with her and my dad she said ”Geeez, we can’t even get Christmas off from you, can we?” and if I chose NOT to celebrate with them she said ”Oh, so we’re not good enough for you to hang out with for the Holidays BUT EVERY OTHER DAY OF THE YEAR IS FINE, HUH?!”. Yes, it was lovely. 🙄😑
Sounds just like my step-mom, but instead christmas, she freaked out my every visit 🙄
That sounds really toxic. I hope you went No Contact with your Stepmom
@@rabidfirefox8914 I sure did, thank you! ❤️
"MY kid isn't perfect so I'm going to dehumanize them." Some crazy parent
The problem with perfection is that everyone's definition of what is perfect is different from everyone else's so true perfection is literally impossible to achieve because there is always something wrong with the person, object, or goal post, so if we stop obsessing over minor imperfections there wouldn't be so much high expectations in the world.
Are you related to click?
Sometimes you can mimic someone's way of speaking if listen hard enough
Perfect is the enemy of the good.
literally my grandma every time i shave says "oh look you look human again" every time it hurts so bad, thankfully today is probally the last day ill have to put up with it as i move out to a far away city
To quote the Samurai class from Chivalry: Deadliest Warrior: "When you aim for perfection, you must realize it is a moving target."
As someone who is a mature follower I have learned that being silly and having fun is something I should never grow out of. Reaching out to others is not a sign of weakness, but one of strength, and mistakes are something everyone learns from no matter how old they are. Thank you for being the amazing, kind, wholesome person that you are, I'm proud that my daughter looks up to you ❤ 😊
“Having a license to have kids, it’s like a tempting thing. It would never work in practice, like it’d be a nightmare in practice.”
Well a license to have kids is what’s known as eugenics and yeah, it’s been a real nightmare in practice.
This tbh
This hurts my heart. As a parent I wish I could just hug all these kiddos. Just know that your parents issues are not yours, keep your head up, and get the fyck out when you are able. We*parents* aren't perfect, but this type of behavior is disturbing.
I could use a hug 😥
@@waffles3629 sending all the hugs!!!!!! Never forget how amazing you are!
Thanks, I actually really needed that
Can you be my new biological mom🥺 My step mom and my dad are okay, just not the bio-mom
i learn a bit about what other people's thoughts are like. how and why they see things the way they do. it helps understand people, society and can see how these thought patterns change over time. i get weirdly fascinated by it all. i think this channel promotes such things, and i am all for it.
This
@@ianshurtleff806 That
These AND Those!
@@themaskedmysadaean8885 what? type something that makes sense at least!
I just wanna type. ^^
The most fascinating thing I learned while watching The Click: Swedish sounds like really, really drunk German
Wait, I have alcohol here. Let me quickly put that to the test.
Let's see if my swedish classmate understands what i'm saying.
And German is really really drunk Dutch
deutsch
german
@@nikkialkema1032 and then there's Czech. Czech is weird.
2:54
Learned that I don’t own anyone anything unless I genuinely wronged them. Helped me accept a pointless falling out with a “close” friend that apparently never even liked me. (It lasted for 11 years.) And made me realize that I don’t need to come out to my parents if I don’t feel comfortable enough to do so.
I really needed this, I love how queer positive The Click is. I am 21 and I want to try out a new name, my mother refuses to even think about it. I am also gender fluid but my mother is very transphobic. I can't be me at home and I can't afford a place of my own... I really miss school, because I got to be myself and most teachers actually encuredged me to try out new names and pronouns.
Hey, I know it’s been awhile but I’m rooting for you stranger! I am a firm believer that things will get better in time. Keep fighting my fellow human!
@@kit_kat_snac684 "my fellow humans" why does it sound like a thing that alien could say ?
@@El_chara They know too much
I love that Click commented on the "intimate dress" picture and completely blanked the "girls kidnapped for Hollywood" insanity that preceded it.
6:55
This infuriates me.
The mom bought each “Card burnt.” for her kid, she’s just wasting money, those are NOT cheap. If you seriously want to discipline your child, don’t trash the stuff you bought for them. Tell them what they need to do without targeting them or talking them down I.e calling them Lazy for not doing chores or telling them they’ll get bullied at school for not washing they’re face enough. Scaring your kids or creating serious insecurities can lead to depression and literal suicide. When I was young I ended up developing severe anxiety because my mom said strangers would tie me to a chair and starve me. When I was 10. Thanks for the Agoraphobia mom.
Thanks exactly this.
R u ok? I hope ur egg donor gets punished.
From my experience, and I have as much experience as anyone (i.e. I have parents and have 5 children), children need both positive AND negative reinforcement. Example, my oldest daughter is 16 and obsessed with anime. When she wont do her chores because she doesn't want to quit watching her shows I have a perfect right to tell quit being lazy and to do her chores, but I also have the responsibility to thank her (either verbally or through actions) when she does the chores without being told to. It has to be a balance, they have to be shown that their actions have consequences AND rewards.
@@arronjerden915 Yeah, Okay, but I’m a Minor. I should probably know how I and other people like me feel about these things, you might think that your daughter wants to keep watching anime to get out of doing chores or to ‘be lazy’, but in many cases tv and the internet is my- and many others- only mental coping mechanism. It’s probably why most teens stay in their rooms all the time. Art is very refreshing and it’s something to get attached to that isn’t a physical object. I’m not defending this lifestyle as it’s very weird and probably not healthy psychologically but maybe don’t mistreat your child… you know, if you were ever going to. I’m really just trying to tell people that fear-mongering isn’t good for children. Negative reinforcement is fine but it’s also far more hurtful to tell a kid that they are lazy and need to get up and do something because even though they seem more grown up they still aren’t fully mature. Psychology in teens in really interesting.
@@Everettalla I was a minor as well, I know what escapism is. For me it was books and video games. I also know the difference between procrastination and lazy. If I thought for a minute that she was watching anime to try to get out of doing chores then her access to them would be taken away until her chores were done. She is being lazy not because she did not do the chores yet but because she did not put forth an effort to keep track of time. She knows that she has a responsibility to help keep our house a clean as it can be kept with 5 children. Also teens don't just "seem more grown up" they are more grown up, maturity is mostly a matter of accepting that you are responsible for yourself and a lot of people are never fully mature in that sense. Age has little to do with it, I have known 2 preteens that were more mature than most adults I know but it was because of what they experienced and lived through not age that made them "grow up" and I would not wish anyone to have to go through what those kids did.
Things I learned from Click: that it's possible to be amazing at languages, good at math, able to explain complicated concepts and understand normal human being things. Thanks for being a decent human being.
6:00
Oh my... You reminded me how I lost all interest and confidence in less than a 5 minutes at school.
I don't remember full details, but during geography class I was asked to show on the map some countries in Europe, in front of the class. I don't remember how many of them I was asked to pinpoint, but I remember I failed to point only on Andorra, a small country barely visible on the print of that map, and teacher chewed me for it in front of everyone for couple of minutes, lowering the grade. It hit my confidence, but I remember walking to my sit just fine, grade was still pretty decent.
Actual blow happened when the next kid, with best grades in class, was tasked to show some countries as well and they were, I clearly remember, France, Spain, Italy, Greece and Great Britain. After they were pointed, teacher made a snarky comment on how bad I am and how I should learn geography from that ace kid. That open display of bias just immediately killed all my interest in class.
It have been like 20 years ago, but still makes my blood pressure rise a bit. Sorry, I had to vent this.
I only know of Andorra because of The Man From Taured Internet myth. Your teacher was horrible. I hope you regained your passion for Geography to spite her.
R u ok? I hope ur fake-teacher gets fired, at least.
Geez, I had a chem teacher like that during my A levels. He used to give out points for speaking in class and would constantly bring up that I wasn't very talkative, insinuated that I was antisocial and even said I should be a mechanic (as if that's an insult) IN FRONT OF THE CLASS. They laughed ofc. This continued even after my family told him I'm autistic and need more time to process the information. Even with a tutor and the amount of revision I did, I still got a measly E but at least I did excellent in the other three subjects :) I'll never have to see that miserable git again
@@leilani1246 teacher: mocks and insults the kid for not talking enough, gets the class to laugh with him
also teacher: why don't they speak up?
A true mystery. /s
I'm very glad you never have to see him again!
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to my favorite series, “Wow some people really just don’t like certain people, huh?”
"Well I suppose even Satan was an angel at some point, wasn't he"
I almost choked on my drink XDDDD
23:00 for anyone who didn't catch it
Satan technically did nothing wrong. God just didn't want someone else to have control over his meat puppets
And for anyone that doesn’t know, Satan is also called Lucifer and was formerly an angel of his before he became a Fallen Angel
I mean ...its true ....he must be hot
Yeah, it also hints as to why hadn't done anything wrong and just merely punishes bad people. He reminds me of a character from manga series I've been reading.
Needle Phobia: Every time I have to give blood for a blood test, I pass out. I have begun telling the people taking my blood to lay me down when they stick me. They ask why and I tell them I pass out. Fortunately, they believe me and lay me back in the cardiac patient chair to draw my blood, letting my look in the other direction at a Where's Waldo poster to keep my mind occupied. And, even though I'm not looking, I pass out. But I am safe and they are pre-warned.
In my case it is not a fear of needles (I used to be a nurse). It is very low blood pressure. It always freaks doctors out to see my nearly pass out when they lay me down on the exam table, where other people might get dizzy standing up. I'm backwards.
My point is to ask for the ability to lie down so you can be safe when you pass out.
I sometimes have spouts of certain things making my blood pressure drop suddenly and almost making me pass out. I got my blood taken recently and got to the point my ears were ringing and I couldn't see great. The worst I ever had was when I got my first testosterone injection, I got so bad, I was sitting on the counter so my mom could help jab me, and I couldn't even get down for like a good 10 minutes because I would've just not been able to stand. I sat there with my hair over my face, panting heavily because I couldn't breathe, but I was cold and sweating profusely, and I basically had such tunnel vision that I couldn't see at all at one point and my ears rang so bad my mom had been trying to talk to me and I had to mumble in between panting that I couldn't hear anything and that I was sorry. Like, I literally was barely getting words out, it was like "I can't...hear...what you're...saying...sorry" kinda stuff with good 5 second pauses on the ellipsis. My face supposedly was ghost white and my lips were the same shade as the rest of my face, which, I'm a very pale person, like, my redheaded step father and I are like at least the same level of paleness, and I'm not a redhead, so me being paler than my natural complexion in general is slightly scary. My mom said she was so scared when she saw me with my head down, and moved my hair enough to see how pale I was and stuff, and ended up helping with getting a wet wash cloth and fanning me to help with the sweating and panting.
I've thankfully never had it as bad as that one time, but I've come to recognize the symptoms since then. I was just feeling nauseous for some reason that day and it just peaked when I got my blood taken and I had to tell her I needed to stay seated a second cause I was suddenly not feeling great and she helped fan me, which helped a lot. Only lasted a minute or two, but was still a little startling, since I get my blood taken fairly often and that's the first time I got low blood pressure from it.
Recently found out that it's actually a whole like common thing, which is interesting. I also don't have a fear of needles, at all really, I only have issue with seeing needles in my own skin or seeking things piercing skin and like staying there or incisions. It's funny, watching doctor shows or whatever, I can't watch the initial incision, but am not at all queasy watching parts of the operation or cameras into people's bodies or whatever. It's just that slice makes me feel queasy. Egh.
Just interesting how even people who don't have an issue with it can have sudden spouts of it if they're having like an off day or something and need a moment or possibly pass out even if they haven't in the past. And like you said, don't be afraid to tell your phlebotomist or a nurse that you need a moment, or that you might not be feeling great, they've seen it all and should be understanding enough to take you seriously.
Oooh I get Needle rage. I go crazy and hit my doctor's 😔. Been strapped so many times for shots
@@kiralonely Exactly my point. Your trained professionals are trained to deal with it, but can't know it's a problem if they aren't told. Tell them and they can help you.
@@galehale5441 I hadn't heard of or witnessed that in my nursing career, but I can believe it. Again, tell the doctors before hand so they can prepare. I wish you luck. It can't be easy living with an anger you can't control, even if it's only in specific instances.
@@oougahersharr thanks but I rarely have to get shots because I have the immune system of an ox 😏.
I learned that my mom was an insane and manipulative parent by watching your videos on the subreddit, really helped my discussion to move in with my dad's side of the family.
hope ur doing better now :)
@@BarbGordon-bq3gv I am and learned it wasn't my mom but my dad that was the manipulative one, though I only discovered that when I moved in with him after highschool.
27:35 there a quote I think applied to this pretty well I think its something like "yes, I started calling myself asexual because I saw it online, because the word I used before was broken". people arent making up new queer identies or becoming anything they wherent already before, they are just finding a name for it and groups of people who support them and make them feel its okay to be who they are.
yet karens will scream "But my child didn't seem queer before the internets!" despite not knowing at all what their child is feeling 🙄
I'm the same. I'm gay, as in I'm very attracted to men, but I also have absolutely no interest in sex or any kind of physical contact. I also wondered what was wrong with me and why I was intensely attracted to certain men, but didn't actually want to do anything with them. Then I found out about asexual and the different ways it manifests and I now understand I'm not actually weird, or broken, or a freak.
Y’all wanna start a “I learned about a sexuality from the internet and it vastly improved my happiness” group?
Since you guys are ace..can you help me find out if I am too. I'm a straight girl and like men who like more feminine things because I can relate to them. But the thing is..I can't ever imagine myself having sex, whenever I like someone I imagine me and then cuddling, kissing, but never having sex. For some reason gay sex is the only thing that turns me on and I frequently think about it. But between men and women it doesn't work for me like the same way. This made me think I'm ace but I'm kind of scared that I'm fetishizing gay men even though I don't project this onto others. What do you think?
@@candyskull7625 as a ace woman, and a person that haven't gone that deep in the rabit hole of details and more words to specify, there's a wide variarity on what turns you on, for me it's generally not thinking myself as having sex so thinking myself as another person or watching or just detached. Gay sex may be (if you're talking on make only) because it's a barrier in which you detatch your mind and or your body of being in the act.
This exactly, these people really don't understand how these things work-- like I am the terf nightmare, a butch lesbian who thought she might be a trans man when I was a teen... but it was a thought, I tried on the label for a moment and decided it didn't fit and set it aside. Turns out I don't like being perceived as a man, almost like gender identity is something more innate that isn't easily swayed or something u:
What I learned from The Click: It ain't gay if the socks are on.
Me not wearing socks: 0_0
**steps back into closet**
17:39 really hit close to home for me. you see, my brother came out as trans a while ago. everyone he told so far has accepted it... except for our dad. he put it as "being something you're not" and (amongst many, many other things) that impacted the way we see him to this very day. your message starting at this time stamp really assures our decision of moving away from our dad. i thank you for that.
Good luck to your brother. I came out as trans in 2015 and don’t regret a day. He is truly living as himself despite what your dad thinks and your brother will be more content and happy for it while your dads shut out a valuable relationship. ❤️🩹❤️
Wow. You’re one of the first RUclipsrs (honestly even the first person) I have heard talk about your blood phobia and fear of human biology while offering tips and techniques to help. I have severe hemophobia (fear of blood in case someone thinks I typed something different 😅) and often get ridiculed for it or told that it straight up doesn’t exist. Having an escape option is something I learned to do as well (frequent “bathroom breaks” during certain parts of health or science class) but asking for the material beforehand is a great trick! Wish I had heard of that sooner! Anyway, awesome video! You’re super funny and I love watching these videos.
When I found condoms in my 17 yr old son’s room (they were in plain sight, on his desk) two things happened:
1. We had the “talk” to make sure he was being respectful (proud he’s being careful).
2. Reiterated that I would always knock before going into his room (if he doesn’t want me going in at all, he needs to take his own laundry to the machine, and clean/dust his own room!)
And the fact that it wasnt even hidden may prove that he wasnt afraid of your reaction, that's a really good thing. Thanks to being a good parent ! 🌟
Something similar happened with my mother when I came out to her as non-binary. She was shocked at first, which is understandable, considering I used to be her only daughter. But, after taking about an hour or two to gather her thoughts, she said that as long as she could still call me by the name she gave me at birth (it's a gender-neutral name, so I'm ok with that), she would support me. She was the first person I told, because, at that point in my life, she was the only one I trusted with that sort of information. She let me wear more masculine clothes, she let me get my hair cut short, and she might not have said anything about it, but I knew that she would be there and ready to kick some @ss at the slightest mention of being bullied because of it, not in an embarrassing way (she promised she wouldn't go all out Karen on anyone), but more in a caring way (of course, it would take her a little bit to get there, but that would also give me a chance to deal with the situation on my own and prepare me for the real world, because that's also a parents' job, on top of protecting and caring for their child).
My father, however, has always been a bit of a jerk. I'm not ashamed to admit that he was an alcoholic, probably still is, my mother left him after she had finally realised that he was being toxic, manipulative, and abusive, after giving birth to me and getting pregnant with my brother 2 years later. I was around 1 and a half. I only know this because my mother told me the story.
After taking several parenting classes, going through multiple different therapies, and about a dozen other things, about 2 years later, mum finally trusted him enough to let me and my brother go over to his place without her being there. He no longer drinks around me or my brother, but he's still somewhat manipulative and toxic. He's not abusive physically (at least not that I've seen) anymore, more mentally draining. But he IS doing his best. He only has to pay child support. Nothing else. We don't live with him most of the time, because he lives 2-3 hours away, depending on weather and traffic. We only see him about once every 1-2 months, and honestly, I'm ok with that. I haven't told him I'm going by they/them, and I don't plan to. I don't care if he uses the wrong pronouns for me, because he doesn't know. If he doesn't know, he assumes i'm still going by she/her. I'm ok with that. I'd rather he called me "she" than have to have that awkward and potentially dangerous conversation with him.
Mum doesn't force us to go to our fathers' house. She's ok with it if we stay at home with her instead. Neither me nor my brother have done that (yet), but we know the option is always there. She will also come and get us if we feel unsafe with him. She doesn't give a flying f@wk if the drive is 1-2 hours long, she will come and get us if we ask her to.
Edit: I just realised that you made this comment about a year ago. I apologise.
Good on you! Being a parent your kid can trust is definitely something to be proud of ❤
My mom wanted an "I identify as vaccinated" shirt. I was so upset and explained to her why it was bad. She says she gets it and does definitely care about trans people getting murdered because of the trans panic defense but also still thinks it's funny. I think there's a disconnect in her brain.
There probably is a disconnect, or she's transphobic
@@The_GenderLiquifier She's like a "yer dad" kind of transphobic, she doesn't think trans identities are valid but she doesn't want anyone to be cruel to them for it. She's a very kind person herself so to her this makes sense. She doesn't understand that society not believing trans identities are valid is WHY society is cruel to trans people.
@@The_GenderLiquifier wanting the shirt and being transphobic are 2 completely different things. Life is not that black and white.
@@VictoriaMarch13the message on the shirt is transphobic
She might being do it ironically
The dad taking away his son's phone, computer etc. for getting 3s instead of 4s: You realize you just took away most if not all of his ability to study effectively. Also would be very interested in seeing what dad's grades were like at the same age... willing to wager money they were worse than his son's.
I wouldn't wager that personally. My parents took my phone for not studying before my therapist chewed them out for it. My dad was top 1% in Canada for maths contests (he has the medal) and has a masters in Biochem, and my mom was the teachers assistant in her classes (rural Philippines so idrk how great that was) from her academic skills.
Some parents are just older and think it's normal (both parents mid 50s, I'm 17), or severely misinformed. My parents are overall completely normal, just a bit more strict than average.
Bruh. You kids know books exist right?
@@brandondavis7777 1. My school library was trash. 2. I couldn't just up and go to the public library in middle school. 3. My school work was literally online.
@@brandondavis7777 you know that most school works done online nowadays right? You also know that the library at the school doesn't have all the books you need right?
@@brandondavis7777 you have to be joking.
After watching this video I've noticed the shit my parents did or threatened to do are way more insane than I thought(threatening to remove my door cuz i was spending too much time in my room and eating very little, even thought that was a symptom of my depression they thought that would be a good idea). That went on until I had a severe depressive episode and they noticed what they thought was helping me was just making things much much worse. Although sometimes traces of it still appear they have become better parents in general compared to before at least.
Me before: My parents are terrible! No one understands me!
Me after watching r/insaneparents :
You know what, my parents are actually fine.
Thank you to the Click for making me appreciate my sane parents more.
me now: my parents are still shit, but not so high on the scale, just a bout a 4.5
@@matheussanthiago9685 my dad is about a 5 and my mom is 7.5-8.5. Really depends on the day
@@w1nterdays Depending on the situation, my dad is 9 (in terms of good) out of 10 when hes nice, and 2/10 when hes mad. My mom is 6/10 when nice and 1/10 when mad
@Can's Gaming, building and drawing studio my dads probably a 4.5/10 (10 being best) on a good day and a 2/10 on a bad day and my moms probably a 7.5/10 on a good day and a 4/10 on a bad day.
No cause same, like I thought my dad was bad but nope not after listening to r/insaneparants
Click looks dandy-fine-alicious
Today indeed
no doubt about it
102 people liked in agreement, nice.
@@S_a_m_ look again
Lol remember the day he wore the tie and tank top?
I fucking ✨ *ascended* ✨
"Or it's just a side effect of being a W A M E N"
Whys is this, a quote from a Click video, the best way I've heard someone refer to a woman's period?
Something I learned from Click: parents not getting me to a professional for depression and just trying to keep checking in and saying are u OK isn't all that great- my automatic response is always yeah doing great so I never get taken seriously even when I correct myself
"Dont take away my snacks"
"Those are tampons"
"Hey, that they arent properly prepared with juicy filling yet doesnt mean i wont eat them down the line"
I wish I could unsee the things you reminded me of
Oh this is cursed
*i cannot inhale*
Lmao
You would think that with all of the time that I spend on cursed comments, that wouldn't turn my stomach. You would think. Take my upvote.
7:01 this one makes me really mad. Something as necessary as eating should never be associated with punishment, or anything negative. That’s how eating disorders happen. That’s how my eating disorder happened.
She mentions the kid is already underweight too. If the kid clearly isn’t healthy, talk to their doctor, don’t do this bs. You’ll just make them eat less.
I was forces to eat some things at school age 7 to about 10. Ended with me having a massive phobia for alot of food. Even food I used to eat and like prior to school that were remotely associated with the stuff they forced me to eat. Today I'm almost 40 and have tried for almost 20 years to get rid of said phobia but I literally can't. The reactions are engraved so deep in my subconscious. So yeah, I fully agree with you and Clicks assessment of what happens. Not only ending up with eating disorders but social handicaps as well.
It makes it even worse that 7 year olds usually weigh 50 pounds so it's not even like they're underweight. That's honestly so damaging for the kid.
My fricking Dad was in the military for 23 years and he never made me or my sibling eat. The most we ever got was "Eat one more green and then you can be excused".
Learned later that it was because his mom made him and his siblings eat everything. And I found out because my cousin offered me the rest of her lunch when she was full, and I was still hungry (something my sibling and I still do to this day at 19 and 16), my grandma came in and threw a fit to little 10 year old me and my 8 year old cousin
As an 11 year old at 58-60 pounds, I agree. I've been underweight for my entire life but my body has legitimately adapted to this and I'm still healthy somehow. No matter how much I eat I just don't gain weight.
Karin: "the gay's stole God's rainbow. God's promise. "
Gay's: "no we didn't. God promised not to kill all you bigots. He promised to love and tolerate you no matter what. We're just trying to do the same. But we don't have to use the rainbow. Just like we don't have to share our secrets with you. Like the antidote. God bless."
Top 10 anime twists that no one saw coming
Karens should know that people can't steal natural events
'God' also created floods and killed a bunch of people, taking out any witnesses of the atrocities he did like when he turned a whole city on salt.
Maybe the Karens are just following that part lmao.
Lol the first time I heard the 'gays stole the rainbow' thing I actually thought that it was a joke and the person saying is meant it as a meme.
*Oh boy was I wrong*
God didn't even make rainbows, its reflection and refraction of light, aka light bending ... people didn't understand what or how one was created so they made up a reason.
Its a natural thing, not even a supernatural.
Who cares if rainbows are used, its been used on little girls toys and clothing longer then lgbt used it too, rainbows fascinate us because their pretty. Mostly due to cost of pigments in past united things anyway so... traditionally you didn't have much choice until the mid 1900s. Just enjoy rainbows and don't care about who uses them to represent what.
Because something that beautiful should be enjoyed by all and fighting will spoil it for everyone.
You were a maths teacher, you are now a life teacher, and you cheer up more than a million people each video
What I've learned from The Click videos: Einstein was right, human's stupidity truly is infinite.
Yeah, it sucks worse when you and the idiot are related in someway
Harlan Ellison may have said it better, perhaps inspired by an Einsteinian remark -- "The two most common things in the Universe are hydrogen and stupidity," in _Omni_ magazine.
i now feel really happy that i have good parents as in : i can literally do chemistry, as long as it is not an atomic bomb, that is fucking sick, they accept if i have a boyfriend or girlfriend, and just accept me in general. i seriously hope that any of the kids being abused (mentally or physically) can seek help and get a better adulthood and/or childhood because these "adults" have the brain capacity of a piece of paper
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I learned that I can speak owo speak without dying inside for 5 seconds because of you
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Congwaduwations, fwiend UwU
OMG CLICK SAW THIS YES! IM SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW! Plus thank you for the likes guys!
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hewwo fwiends, i'm wishing youw habe a good day,
You tought me a lot like how to manage my mental health and how to manage my relationships and understanding others. Which has made a big impact on my life and has brought me a lot of positivity thank you Click
I’ve learned, by watching The Click’s videos, that it’s okay to be scared of things. That it’s okay to have phobias, and that it’s normal. I’ve also come to be a lot more comfortable with myself through the little speeches(if i can call them that?) that The Click does occasionally about deeper, more serious topics.
And for this i am very, very grateful for their videos. Thank you
18:26 My parents tried doing this, but I made a power play and just started walking around completely in the buff since, "my privacy didn't matter." They gave in the day our neighbors were coming over for a bbq. Moral of the story is when in trouble, strip.
I admire your commitment
What a legend
My mom would have run me out of the house 😭
Me: "wait isn't belladonna like very extremely poisonous?"
The click 1 second later:
Surely a homeopathy product they're talking about. So absolutely nothing would happen.
@@herborty8658 i have one word for you... GOOGLE. after that... please....stay out of the gene pool.
quote wikipedia:
All parts of the plant are toxic, but the sweet, purplish-black berries that are attractive to children pose the greatest danger. Symptoms of poisoning include rapid heart beat, dilated pupils, delirium, vomiting, hallucinations, and death due to respiratory failure
@@amberfredricks3138 Except he's right, it's a homeopathic remedy - it said 30C, which means they took the belladonna, dissolved a little bit in some water, and diluted it 1 part to 100.... 30 times. Giving a total equivalent concentration of roughly...
0.0000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001
There's absolutely no belladonna left in the final solution.
@@WombatMan64 fair enough. so why include it at all then if the goal is to then remove it? being poison and all...
@@amberfredricks3138 because they believe, and this is not a joke, that the water has "memory" of the healing qualities of the plant, but not of the poison (somehow)
3:05 something my parents didn't teach me: that I'm valid and loved and it's not a bad thing I'm trans or queer
“Why inject chemicals if they are not needed”
I guess Karen doesn’t like eating food of any kind.
Or drinking water….
Or breathing air…
I feel for the person who didn’t find out their relative had died until after the fact. I tried to get in touch with my godmother, who lived quite far from me at that point, for two and a half weeks before her phone was disconnected. The first week I thought she was just on holiday, as she still took many small trips despite being in her 90s. The second week I got a little worried and when the phone went (she’d had the same number for my entire life) I freaked. I woke up in the middle of the night shaking and googled. I found ****HER OBITUARY****. Apparently someone told my step-aunt, who said she’d tell me but never did (probably because I hadn’t seen her in 30 years and had no way or reason to contact her) . I know my godmother knew I loved her but I never got to say goodbye or go to her funeral and I later found out a lot of her family thought I was an ungrateful heartless person for not being present. It still hurts to think about.
She refused to tell you your godmother died? People blamed you for not knowing? Yea that excuse of a person can burn in hell
@@gachakris2924 While I don’t wish hell on anyone, I think the worst was that besides not telling me, the step-aunt specifically told my godmother’s family (Godmother had no children of her own but had a large extended family and a close connection to me as she’d also been my long passed grandmother’s lifelong best friend and promised to ‘watch over me’ when grandmother passed away) that she had told me and then attended the funeral herself. Neither step-aunt and my godmother nor she and I had ever been particularly close, while I talked with my Godmother at least every week and a half. I barely know the woman so I have no idea what her motivation was. It’s not like it could have slipped her mind. It sure hurt though, and still does.
@@Filecabinet0170 No matter how you look at it, if she said she told you, it means she wished to hurt your reputation for whatever reason (imo). Did it at least got cleared up with her relatives?
@@gachakris2924 not really, and I live in another country so I couldn’t just show up and explain or confront the step-aunt. I made a donation “in memory of” to a local organisation Godmother supported, though I didn’t tell them directly of it, but I did directly write a letter of apology and condolence. They never responded so I ended up getting a copy of the funeral programme from the funeral home. In a way it doesn’t matter with them. I always ended every telephone call with my godmother with “I love you” and even still exchanged letters and postcards with her until that point. She knew I loved her more than anything and I try to remember in the end that’s what truly matters, not what they think.
@@gachakris2924 oh, all that said, I won’t pretend it still doesn’t anger me at times.
I'm a parent and I find these videos really funny. I can't believe that some people are so insane. It makes my parenting skills seem 1000% better, so thanks for that confidance boost!
I am nervous around needles but the feeling gets overwhelmed by both the fear of embarrassing myself in public and my amazement of watching how much my blood spills into the vial. The “math” says I am fine with needles
Actually, one of the most important things I learnt from click is self confidence: I don't know how, but the wholesome moments always come when I need them
I learned that I'm not the only one who had family issues, and I also learned how to comfort my online friend who is suffering from her family abuse 💔
fun fact: opening someone else's mail is a federal crime.
Give your mail to your neighbor you hate and let them open it before jumping on thrm
I officially live on my mothers address but no key and she has a hard time grasping my mail is my mail. Oh well, she also knows none of us will take legal action against her regardless of how far she goes. But specifically telling her to not open a specific letter and seeing her manage for a whole 2h says a lot about her.
Confidence in school is so huge! You are absolutely right! When I taught and for tutoring, sometimes I would step a kid back to a level at or below their actual functioning level. That way they are getting so much right they just shine!!🌞
One genuine thing I have learned from you channel is that situations like the ones in r/InsaneParents are, indeed, abusive, and NOT normal, even though I personally grew up surrounded by those situations
PS: I love your videos Click, keep up the great work ^-^
Realising when abuse is indeed abuse is half the battle. My outlook on life changed a lot the first time I read a description of gaslighting and manipulative behavior. Helped keep me sane until I could get away from my mother.
You taught me that furrys are not bad people, I appreciate that
It makes me really happy to see there is not only hate out there :D
Man, we should zip tie everyone to a chair and make them watch this guy
@@RunOut25 is my content that torturous? if so then it is doing what I intended
Nope, we're just...bad to the bone 😎
Is The Click a furry? Honestly want to know and no judgement whatsoever.
Ik he’s cursed, but Click is seriously such a good person, his videos always make me cheer up
So true
"Dear Satan, may I be lowkey based even when I'm cringe tbh" -Click probably
The sad part of this subreddit is going through it in these videos and realizing my parents did a lot of these things to me, but the happy part is Click validating my abuse and speaking out against it. Like holy shit yea, there are parents who expect their 7 year old to be in tip top shape like 1% of adults are and I was one of them, thank you Click for ridiculing something I’ve been angry at for years so I can finally laugh at it with someone
3:07 you have moments of seriousness, specially in r/InsaneParents that have made me realise that my family may not be the best, and sometimes i think about it before sleeping, thank you so much for that
I’m gonna be honest with you even though this just proves how bad I am at math, you actually made me really understand something about it that teachers had been trying to make me understand for years! I had never understood it when they explained it to me but sum how the click academy actually made me understand. So ya that’s the most useful thing I learned on the channel and it really helped me in school. So thank you!
The "you didn't ask permission to download a new texting app" one, I don't even make my nine year old ask me permission to download apps. I do have a parent app to see what apps are downloaded if I need to, but she's shown excellent judgment and I told her that I trust her. That one really bugged me just because I had this conversation with my daughter a couple days ago. If you can't trust your kid with something as simple as choosing their own apps, maybe you're insecure about your parenting skills?
You sound pike good parent
This is good parenting right here.
when i was growing up, i often had to run apps i wanted on my ipod touch past my stepmum (i was like 10, and it was her apple account). i can’t remember a time she wasn’t like “sure, as long as it’s free!” because i only wanted the shitty mobile games every 10 year old loves - i just had to give the ipod to her when the app store wanted her password.
What I learned with Click is that my parents are quite toxic, things that would seem normal to me are very, very wrong, so, thank you Click.
That's some really good advice at the end of the episode. I'm not phobic of needles, anatomy, or blood, BUT The Click gave some excellent phobia advice. Prepare, and give yourself an exit. You might not need the exit, as long as you have one.