I still remember every chaotic birthday holiday and anything special we planned! He NEVER failed to fuck up every one of them! If I ONLY had known to ignore him back then.. but thank God that's my past and I ran to heal and live. It was a beautiful day today and thank you for all your wisdom!
this is real talk! people can make things so uncomfortable. I've always done this even with friends. Whatever is going on in the world, leave that at the door and let's enjoy each other !
When you get up and leave take your plate. Why should you have to miss the meal. I brought the Suran wrap with me in my bag in preparation. They started up on me and without saying a word, I whipped it out, wrapped my plate, reached across the table grabbed a roll, and a piece of pie from the kitchen and left. Peace! ✌️ Lol! They were shocked. You know that narc gasp, hand on the chest, opened mouthed, wide eyed, how dare you look. I laughed all the way home and enjoyed my dinner with a movie in peace. And no I did not return the plate. Ya'll can be forever reminded every Thanksgiving why your cherished 40pc Thanksgiving set has one missing plate. And when they have the audacity to ask me about it, I gaslight them like they gaslight me. "Are you insane? That never happened, you probably misplaced it or forgot you broke it etc."
I’m spending Thanksgiving with my narc ex and his third wife, at our daughter’s house and all three daughters have strong narc traits. Haven’t had a decent holiday with normal people in 50 years. I’m doing all the cooking at my daughter’s.She’s already complaining about the water bill, scratches on her microwave,God forbid she finds a stray potato peeling, time I’ll be in the kitchen, she has to bring out the big mixer, BUT she wants the big dinner for her son and everybody gets all dolled up. I do the heavy work to tons of complaints and there’s my Thanksgiving. Meanwhile the malignant narc ex strolls in with his 15 year younger third “wife” that barely speaks English, has a pony tail at 65, doesn’t cook or clean, married him with only the clothes on her back, not even a car! Life with narcs makes NO sense. Everything is all about pleasing themselves and you can NEVER do enough. Complaints, complaints, complaints. I’m SO tired. Since 1975. I’m ready to move away, Live alone , in a log cabin somewhere. Dreading this day. They win…😢
Oh my gosh! Stay strong... you know what kinds of people surround you and you know you deserve better. This is the endgame. ❤ You just have to be ready to take the leap.
Start enjoying your holidays narc free. Create some enjoyable memories. They'll criticize you whether you're there or not. Let them do it without your ears in the room.
If it makes you happy you’re not alone. My Narc daughters sure ruined my thanksgiving and is putting the blame on me. It’s typical. Threats to sign his rights over. He’s miserable because he’s alone this year. Whatever not my problems. Regain your strength sister I stand strong with you. Don’t let those narcs win just be with people who really care for you on this day. Or cook for yourself. They don’t deserve your or your yummy meals. Happy thanksgiving Shalom Shalom
My ex started the holiday ruining back at the beginning of October... because Halloween is my favorite holiday. Now after a month of not hearing anything from him, I'm grateful for the silence. I know wherever he is today, he's complaining about everything... reading your comment made me re-remember how he really is and not the rose colored version. I'm rooting for you today. My best suggestion when the circus is in town, is to enjoy the view. Find a place in your mind where your sense of humor can spark the joy for the day. Like make a count the complaints game where you win a prize after every 50 complaints you count... and pick prizes you actually want.
They don't need to know the reason you went on vacation to Hawaii is because they complained 500 times at Thanksgiving. Or that the new sofa you bought because they complained 700 times at Christmas. Let that be your secret joy.
Mines started two days ago and it falling into today. I prayed for him cause Ik he’s struggling. It’s my daughter’s father but this fool is screaming he’s gonna sign his rights over because our 5 yr old won’t call him😂 she’s 5. It’s not her job to call you, you call her ! Then he blames me and I’m the problem & I refuse to understand the chaos in his mind. He’s blocked again & im keeping it this way. I’m tired of trying to make him comfortable but nothing is enough. Guess what ENOUGH IS ENOUGH for me 😂. Happy Thanksgiving Lee & I❤M Family !
The way l laughed cause he said he signing over his rights because your daughter won’t call him and she’s 5😂😂😂 😂thank God you don’t let it irritate you ❤
@ pahahaha it did irritate me before at first but I had to remember everything Lee has taught us. His ass is miserable and I told him that just as I blocked him. I give him chances to get this relationship right with his daughter but I’m done my daughter said she don’t like him anyway😂😩 it made me laugh even harder at him. He shouldn’t be a pop in & out dad 🤷🏽♀️. I’m glad you enjoyed the laugh 😊Happy thanksgiving 🍁 😊😉
Omg this was so relatable and this doesn’t change. I know he’s struggling but it doesn’t change the damage and destruction he causes. Our daughters are 17 and he expects them to calm him. I told him- you’re their father it’s your job to call and check on them, ensure they are okay, they do/don’t need something. It’s not their job to soothe you- it’s your job to soothe them- you’re their parent. I babied this man for 21 years and enough is enough. I will not lie, the positive aspects of him are dearly missed, but, he’s just too selfish. It’s the first holiday we haven’t spent together. Next is Christmas. I just hate the holidays from childhood through adulthood, they’re always a challenge. You’re really so much stronger than I was when they were that tender age. It’s a fine balance trying to give kids access to their parent and also protecting them from said parent’s foolish decisions. Sending love❤
Today l was the first year in my entire life where it was drama free and my job from 6p-3am. They let me sleep in and started the cooking and when I woke up I made my part. We had a lovely dinner in the way we found comfortable. No judgement or criticism because there wasn’t some big hoopla with a bunch of people around who don’t even like each other. Their dad- spent the day with his brother and his brother’s family. Although I’m sad, I hope he’s realizing how people will protect their families and he’s only at his brothers because he turned his back on his own family. I don’t know if he will ever wake up. You seem so cognizant- Ian’s if nothing changes, so be it. At least no one has to feel pressure to perform.
"I'm respecting myself." ‐‐ I am gonna be honest. I don't know even the first thing about making a boundary much less asserting a boundary... That's going to be my goal for 2025.
I’m 39- I started learning it at 38. It’s pretty rough initially but becomes easier with time. The book that helped me is called, “Boundaries” by Dr. Henry Cloud. I have to revisit the book and several others because I think equally important to consider is that: everything doesn’t have to be a battle. We need to learn to let more things slide then fight for what’s right. Being right is less important than keeping relationships intact l.
Thank you, Lee! The holidays were always stressful before trying to do everything to make someone else happy that wasn’t ever going to be happy! A nap sounds nice 😊 Going to CheesecakeFactory with my son and his girlfriend, then a movie ❤
Thank you for doing it early in the morning to prepare me for his mess. His pretending to be happy. I started therapy and look forward to no longer having any thoughts on him and his games
Right!!! But I got a Email after over a Year No Contact (Yesterday..Day Before Thanksgiving) requesting information (he already has because we are married …Full name, DOB, Address etc) So he can file for Divorce. Silly rabbit!! 😂😂😂 Just to meds up my Thanksgiving
He already was starting….called me at 12:28 this morning … after being with another woman trying to see if I wanted to see him there after like what in the world he neverrrrrr calls me that late ! Way to start off my Thanksgiving!
My narc ex got drunk and was crying in front of my daughter (she’s 16) calling me a B and saying I’m a monster who’s trying to take his kids away….and how much of a bad father he is to his kids. Soooo much projection. I don’t even care.
The getting drunk and doing that infront of your 16 yr old is purely selfish. I’m sure if he showed up differently, your experience and response would have been 100% different. You’re very strong. ❤
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I can't believe I went through the whole window and my screen was froze but the xhat wasn't then it said thanks for watching, I was like wait what happened what did I miss 😂😂😂😂 but I just watched the replay He texted me yesterday about getting my daughter this weekend trying to slide in what he doing with her. As usual manipulative because thise extra details is just his way of trying to pretend he's having a good time without me when I already know how dry his family lives. I was the sunshine in his life and that's not being narcissist or slef absorbed I know it for a fact he is going to go back to being sad-er then he was with me because I brought the light. He no longer has my light to plug in to and copy everything I do, follow everything I do and pretend he already thought of it and even unfortunately my daughter will be bored when she visits him because I had to teach him how to be around kids like a robot that doesn't know how to be human. He like she just sleeps when she comes to my sister's house, he claims it's peaceful. Im like no she's bored. His sister got a bunch of presents for my daughter but kept them at her house it was as if she liked the attention as if she had a baby, she has no children no husband never been married not even sure if she ever dated, so she used my daughter for attention half the stuff she can't fit because she never actually watched her, so the toys she has are just there but she's bored.
My sons narc dad woke him up last night and tried to make him do 50 suicides my son refused and his dad blew a lid threw him over the couch threw the couch and him and choked him out took all his stuff his tv clipped his phone line knowing he is prone to injury . My son just recovered from a football injury 12 weeks of sports medicine . All for him to say he was just playing and that he doesn’t like to be alone . He is only 15 . He is trying to break my son’s spirit and living through him vicariously when it comes to football . I’m just over it 😞
That’s definitely abuse and you have to let your son know it is. Your husband needs a real man to show up and make him do all of those things. Your son sounds precious and it’s a shame his dad is an idiot, who is destroying the likelihood his son will be around later on. I hope you all stay safe. Sending love❤
I still remember every chaotic birthday holiday and anything special we planned! He NEVER failed to fuck up every one of them! If I ONLY had known to ignore him back then.. but thank God that's my past and I ran to heal and live. It was a beautiful day today and thank you for all your wisdom!
Gosh, I love to read testimonies like this but I also wish I felt this way with his absence.
this is real talk! people can make things so uncomfortable. I've always done this even with friends. Whatever is going on in the world, leave that at the door and let's enjoy each other !
Exactly. We all just need connection at the end of the day. And all of that stuff is a distraction.
When you get up and leave take your plate. Why should you have to miss the meal. I brought the Suran wrap with me in my bag in preparation. They started up on me and without saying a word, I whipped it out, wrapped my plate, reached across the table grabbed a roll, and a piece of pie from the kitchen and left. Peace! ✌️ Lol! They were shocked. You know that narc gasp, hand on the chest, opened mouthed, wide eyed, how dare you look. I laughed all the way home and enjoyed my dinner with a movie in peace. And no I did not return the plate. Ya'll can be forever reminded every Thanksgiving why your cherished 40pc Thanksgiving set has one missing plate. And when they have the audacity to ask me about it, I gaslight them like they gaslight me. "Are you insane? That never happened, you probably misplaced it or forgot you broke it etc."
😂😂😂😂❤
😂😂😂. YES!!!!!!
I’m spending Thanksgiving with my narc ex and his third wife, at our daughter’s house and all three daughters have strong narc traits. Haven’t had a decent holiday with normal people in 50 years. I’m doing all the cooking at my daughter’s.She’s already complaining about the water bill, scratches on her microwave,God forbid she finds a stray potato peeling, time I’ll be in the kitchen, she has to bring out the big mixer, BUT she wants the big dinner for her son and everybody gets all dolled up. I do the heavy work to tons of complaints and there’s my Thanksgiving. Meanwhile the malignant narc ex strolls in with his 15 year younger third “wife” that barely speaks English, has a pony tail at 65, doesn’t cook or clean, married him with only the clothes on her back, not even a car! Life with narcs makes NO sense. Everything is all about pleasing themselves and you can NEVER do enough. Complaints, complaints, complaints. I’m SO tired. Since 1975. I’m ready to move away, Live alone , in a log cabin somewhere. Dreading this day. They win…😢
Oh my gosh! Stay strong... you know what kinds of people surround you and you know you deserve better. This is the endgame. ❤ You just have to be ready to take the leap.
Start enjoying your holidays narc free. Create some enjoyable memories. They'll criticize you whether you're there or not. Let them do it without your ears in the room.
If it makes you happy you’re not alone. My Narc daughters sure ruined my thanksgiving and is putting the blame on me. It’s typical. Threats to sign his rights over. He’s miserable because he’s alone this year. Whatever not my problems. Regain your strength sister I stand strong with you. Don’t let those narcs win just be with people who really care for you on this day. Or cook for yourself. They don’t deserve your or your yummy meals. Happy thanksgiving Shalom Shalom
My ex started the holiday ruining back at the beginning of October... because Halloween is my favorite holiday. Now after a month of not hearing anything from him, I'm grateful for the silence. I know wherever he is today, he's complaining about everything... reading your comment made me re-remember how he really is and not the rose colored version. I'm rooting for you today. My best suggestion when the circus is in town, is to enjoy the view. Find a place in your mind where your sense of humor can spark the joy for the day. Like make a count the complaints game where you win a prize after every 50 complaints you count... and pick prizes you actually want.
They don't need to know the reason you went on vacation to Hawaii is because they complained 500 times at Thanksgiving. Or that the new sofa you bought because they complained 700 times at Christmas. Let that be your secret joy.
Some people go away over Christmas, to be away from the inlaws and (outlaws).
Thank you for all your wisdom! So needed & appreciated. Happy Thanksgiving to you & your family.
😂😂😂 they are wild and childish and u have a great sense of humor lmao 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you so much for this!
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone on here. We'll he didn't come home last night he comes and goes when he want to
He was already trying it!
Mines started two days ago and it falling into today. I prayed for him cause Ik he’s struggling. It’s my daughter’s father but this fool is screaming he’s gonna sign his rights over because our 5 yr old won’t call him😂 she’s 5. It’s not her job to call you, you call her ! Then he blames me and I’m the problem & I refuse to understand the chaos in his mind. He’s blocked again & im keeping it this way. I’m tired of trying to make him comfortable but nothing is enough. Guess what ENOUGH IS ENOUGH for me 😂. Happy Thanksgiving Lee & I❤M Family !
The way l laughed cause he said he signing over his rights because your daughter won’t call him and she’s 5😂😂😂 😂thank God you don’t let it irritate you ❤
@ pahahaha it did irritate me before at first but I had to remember everything Lee has taught us. His ass is miserable and I told him that just as I blocked him. I give him chances to get this relationship right with his daughter but I’m done my daughter said she don’t like him anyway😂😩 it made me laugh even harder at him. He shouldn’t be a pop in & out dad 🤷🏽♀️. I’m glad you enjoyed the laugh 😊Happy thanksgiving 🍁 😊😉
Omg this was so relatable and this doesn’t change. I know he’s struggling but it doesn’t change the damage and destruction he causes. Our daughters are 17 and he expects them to calm him. I told him- you’re their father it’s your job to call and check on them, ensure they are okay, they do/don’t need something. It’s not their job to soothe you- it’s your job to soothe them- you’re their parent.
I babied this man for 21 years and enough is enough.
I will not lie, the positive aspects of him are dearly missed, but, he’s just too selfish.
It’s the first holiday we haven’t spent together. Next is Christmas.
I just hate the holidays from childhood through adulthood, they’re always a challenge.
You’re really so much stronger than I was when they were that tender age. It’s a fine balance trying to give kids access to their parent and also protecting them from said parent’s foolish decisions.
Sending love❤
😂😂😂😂Lee you are hilarious!!! Facts great video!❤🎉
Thank you Lee for the information!
Today l was the first year in my entire life where it was drama free and my job from 6p-3am. They let me sleep in and started the cooking and when I woke up I made my part.
We had a lovely dinner in the way we found comfortable. No judgement or criticism because there wasn’t some big hoopla with a bunch of people around who don’t even like each other.
Their dad- spent the day with his brother and his brother’s family. Although I’m sad, I hope he’s realizing how people will protect their families and he’s only at his brothers because he turned his back on his own family.
I don’t know if he will ever wake up. You seem so cognizant- Ian’s if nothing changes, so be it. At least no one has to feel pressure to perform.
Thank you and bless you, Lee! 💯🙏❤️
"I'm respecting myself." ‐‐ I am gonna be honest. I don't know even the first thing about making a boundary much less asserting a boundary... That's going to be my goal for 2025.
I’m 39- I started learning it at 38. It’s pretty rough initially but becomes easier with time. The book that helped me is called, “Boundaries” by Dr. Henry Cloud.
I have to revisit the book and several others because I think equally important to consider is that: everything doesn’t have to be a battle. We need to learn to let more things slide then fight for what’s right.
Being right is less important than keeping relationships intact l.
Thank you Lee. Happy Thanksgiving. 🙏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you, Lee!
The holidays were always stressful before trying to do everything to make someone else happy that wasn’t ever going to be happy!
A nap sounds nice 😊 Going to CheesecakeFactory with my son and his girlfriend, then a movie ❤
Thank you for doing it early in the morning to prepare me for his mess. His pretending to be happy. I started therapy and look forward to no longer having any thoughts on him and his games
you’re welcome
Im so fn happy I haven't heard the maga shit in my house for almost a year....
Im thankful for that❤❤❤❤
Right!!! But I got a Email after over a Year No Contact (Yesterday..Day Before Thanksgiving) requesting information (he already has because we are married …Full name, DOB, Address etc) So he can file for Divorce. Silly rabbit!! 😂😂😂 Just to meds up my Thanksgiving
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Thanksgiving blessings to you all.
Me, myself & I with my vegan dinner
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He already was starting….called me at 12:28 this morning … after being with another woman trying to see if I wanted to see him there after like what in the world he neverrrrrr calls me that late ! Way to start off my Thanksgiving!
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I’m working and making money for Christmas….Im so happy to be out of all that shit….being alone today is so much better than being with him ❤
Yes. He acting like he loves the holidays. But says i know you are going to your parents so you dont care about me. Causes arguments on day or before.
My narc ex got drunk and was crying in front of my daughter (she’s 16) calling me a B and saying I’m a monster who’s trying to take his kids away….and how much of a bad father he is to his kids.
Soooo much projection.
I don’t even care.
The getting drunk and doing that infront of your 16 yr old is purely selfish.
I’m sure if he showed up differently, your experience and response would have been 100% different.
You’re very strong. ❤
She can find a nursing home that she can take the food to the workers…being in health care we don’t get anything…and they would be appreciate of it ❤
Great content, as always! A bit off-topic, but I wanted to ask: I have a SafePal wallet with USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (alarm fetch churn bridge exercise tape speak race clerk couch crater letter). How should I go about transferring them to Binance?
I can't believe I went through the whole window and my screen was froze but the xhat wasn't then it said thanks for watching, I was like wait what happened what did I miss 😂😂😂😂 but I just watched the replay
He texted me yesterday about getting my daughter this weekend trying to slide in what he doing with her. As usual manipulative because thise extra details is just his way of trying to pretend he's having a good time without me when I already know how dry his family lives. I was the sunshine in his life and that's not being narcissist or slef absorbed I know it for a fact he is going to go back to being sad-er then he was with me because I brought the light. He no longer has my light to plug in to and copy everything I do, follow everything I do and pretend he already thought of it and even unfortunately my daughter will be bored when she visits him because I had to teach him how to be around kids like a robot that doesn't know how to be human.
He like she just sleeps when she comes to my sister's house, he claims it's peaceful. Im like no she's bored. His sister got a bunch of presents for my daughter but kept them at her house it was as if she liked the attention as if she had a baby, she has no children no husband never been married not even sure if she ever dated, so she used my daughter for attention half the stuff she can't fit because she never actually watched her, so the toys she has are just there but she's bored.
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My sons narc dad woke him up last night and tried to make him do 50 suicides my son refused and his dad blew a lid threw him over the couch threw the couch and him and choked him out took all his stuff his tv clipped his phone line knowing he is prone to injury . My son just recovered from a football injury 12 weeks of sports medicine . All for him to say he was just playing and that he doesn’t like to be alone . He is only 15 . He is trying to break my son’s spirit and living through him vicariously when it comes to football . I’m just over it 😞
Sorry to hear this is happening. I hope you can encourage your son to try being his own man when he is 18, so he can focus on healing.
That’s definitely abuse and you have to let your son know it is.
Your husband needs a real man to show up and make him do all of those things.
Your son sounds precious and it’s a shame his dad is an idiot, who is destroying the likelihood his son will be around later on.
I hope you all stay safe. Sending love❤
Heeeeeeeey
The MAGA hat story 😂😂😂😂😂. I hate it cause I can see this 😂😂😂
No offense but why are you not guarding your peace and not spending your holiday with them?