3.8k likes and no comments. This just shows the amount of people going through this, afraid to speak out. I want everyone to know many people go through this everyday. You're amazing the way you are. Edit 1: I know what some of you are thinking. "Oh yeah they just mean it cus yadida" But I want you to know I mean it. I've had negative thoughts. I've hated my looks. But you're amazing the way you are. You don't need peoples opinions. Do what YOU want to do.
3.9 likes and 1 comment. Love yourself just the way you are, like someone said just because people call you ugly or a loser it doesn't mean you are one you decide who you are and what you wanna be. Your eyes are gorgeous no matter how small or big❤ Your eyebrows are still pretty even if bushy or thin🧡 Your nose is perfect either big or small💛 Your jaw line is amazing even if you have a overbite 💚 Your lips are symmetrical no matter how small or big💙 Your perfect and beautiful inside and out💜
@@iamaboy163I was abt to say the same thing! She’s probably sad bc she’s thinking that she looks ugly too. Bc if you kid is saying how ugly they look it also affects the parent especially if they look rlly alike.
Im almost an identical copy of my mother, ive always thought i was ugly but then i see her and i think she one of the most beautiful people i have ever seen. I think the difference is is that i love her.
@@TheMrsLunaticExactly, I don’t think you can make it outta this world if the most important person (which is you ) is missing that four lettered word, love.
This can work both ways. My mom has very low self esteem and never accepts compliments or doesn't believe them. Growing up hearing it all that time has become a part of my life too.
same. i grew up being told i look exactly like my mom, but i also grew up hearing her talk about how ugly she is and how she wishes she didn’t look the way she does. it affected me terribly, and still does even in my 20’s.
@@anootnoot7192Ah... My mom worries about a particular thing and I never considered connecting how that makes me feel to how I was always said to look like her. Like, tiny tumblr essays taught me how to become okay with what is or what could be (which is inherently neither "good" nor "wrong"), and I try so hard to share that with others. Maybe partly because it's so stressful to hear my friends n stuff just be cruel to themselves, outright or jokingly deprecating :(
My mum has low self esteem too...her aunts told her that she had masculine features when she was a teenager and now even when I try complimenting her every now and than but she doesn't believe me
Every time some one said I looked like my mum in front of her shed say "I know the poor child" because yeah she's the same she cannot accept compliments and is highly uncomfortable with how she looks, naturally I am quite that way too now. But my daughter (3) thinks, that I think I'm a hottie and I love the way I look 😂
This hit hard 😢 .. I think we've all struggled like this at some point in our lives. I've had this experience from both perspectives.. both as a child and as a mother. It's heart-wrenching.
Yeah. I'm going through it now. Every single day and every single hour trying not to hate myself when my parents screams I should exercise all the time and scream at me for eating
This is also so hard on your parents. You're apart of them, you get some, if not most of your features from them. And they see you as the light of their life (if they're good parents), so if you're talking about yourself like this, they will take it upon themselves. Don't be so hard on yourself, every single soul on this earth has beauty.❤
I have a very noticeable over bite that my classmates usually bully me and call me horse, I'm 4"9 people teases me for it, I have the worst dry hair ever so some calls me witch. But I'm glad that I never hated myself, not even a bit cause I believed God made me perfect the way I am. I'm not saying these things just to make myself better than other people, your feelings are all valid, it's normal, you are growing, but don't let those insecurities make your life sad, who care what other people think, you are perfect.
My daughter just told me that even filters dont make her pretty & my heart is broken,.. i gave her her insecurities, her autism, & her face & i feel like i failed her…😢
@roundsdm no don't ever say that... look here baby girl your the one who brought her into the World and she must be very thankful. She would be hurt if she heard you say that you fisled her when in fact she looks up to you... mama your great and you shouldn't let those thoughts get over you. God created us perfect in every shape cause he is the perfector and the one who knows best about fashion. You are beautiful from the inside and outside
*OW!* Seriously, as someone who grew up with a mom who constantly called herself awful things and then had everyone saying I looked just like her, this cuts to the bone.
Yeah it really made me think. My dad, he gave me all of my worst genes. He's not what people would call handsome, and everything I've hated about myself, has traced to him. I feel awful thinking like this, but I can't help but wonder what it would be like if I actually had a nose that looked feminine instead of Manly. Or that my skin wasn't excessively oily. Sure, for a man it is dismissed as "boyish" and natural. But when your a girl, all people see is hideous. I feel bad for my father, he knows I hate the features he gave me, but I can't help but hate them, which is what hurts even more. I truly do think I am the reason our relationship is so distant. I really am a horrible daughter. I've heard people call it a "phase"- just me being a teen. But I always regret every time my thoughts of saying "I missed you" end up coming out as "go away."
"Would you say all those ugly things to your friend? No, you wouldn't. So don't say it to yourself. Be your own friend." is something i think about everytime i feel like this. it helps
When ever Im falling down the "I'm too ugly for anyone to ever love me" whole, I just think about mantis and how Drax told her it was a blessing, cause WHEN someone did love her, it could only be for who she is and nothing else.
Every mum in evey culture has been there. And sadly this is what more people are thinking these days! But lyanna thankyou so much for an emotional and resolving short xx
No the mom looks sad bc the daughter is basically calling her mom "ugly" too, as she looks like her and the daughter doesn't want to look like her own mother, which ofc her the mom's feeling hearing that her daughter wants to look nothing like her
@@wolffoxcatthing5336 physically? I by no means know your situation but i feel like, you might regret it one day, at least I think would. I would feel so sad if I after my parents passed on and I couldn’t see thier nose in the reflection. If I couldn’t see the face that all the people who’ve ever loved me fought to protect, if i couldn’t see the lines around my mouth, the memories of all the people that have ever made me smile, etched into physicality to stay there. The creases under my eyes from all the nights I stayed up late. To me, what is my face if not the reflection of my life? The good and the bad. I look upon myself and see all the good and bad bits of me. ( I by no means mean to undermine the validity of your experience, I just want to understand why you’d feel like that)
@@wolffoxcatthing5336yo, i havent seen your pics ofc but im 100% sure that you are good looking! Stop listening to those toxic people, stop looking up to botox-face moviestars or (god forbid) instagram people... Every surgical operation or injection of something is very dangerous and stressful to the whole body and wont solve your problem with accepting yourself anyways. So i wish you to find inner peace 🎉
I used to think like that before, but one day during our youth program in church my pastor told us that we are all beautiful cos God who created us makes us beautiful differently so anyone who told us we are ugly we should ask them to look again, cos we beautiful and wonderfully made so they don't know what they are saying
I'm sorry you feel that way, and maybe it doesn't help to hear from a stranger but I think the most wonky flowers are still lovely. The outside is nothing but a wrapping, to feel beautiful you have to forgive and be patient with your inner self. Again might not help but it's worked for me to think like that, hope you feel better and sending virtual hugs ❤
@@carlymaddison1208 That's the spirit... if anyone calls themselves ugly, they indirectly call their parents ugly. It's not just self disrespect. Parents are in it.
Nobody acknowledges how hard it is for a parent to hear their child say that. It's one thing for somebody else to call your child ugly, but when your child themselves interiorises it... It just hits you in the heart. That's YOUR child. They could never be ugly to you.
you are always pretty .beauty lies in the persons eyes looking at you.those who hate u will always call u ugly . every creature of god is beautiful in its own way
Both can be true at once. Here the mom didnt choose to say anything. This skit just shows us the "collateral" effect of such self deprecating thoughts. Not believing in yourself is actually a dishonor to those who believe in you. I'm not saying this to make anyone feel bad, just letting us know that sometimes we dont appreciate the actually precious things in life which we take for granted. The society has successfully brainwashed people into thinking only certain "features" are beautiful so they can make humans sad and into product consumers. Happy people are content people who dont buy products. PS: Just really frustrated by all the beautiful woman in my life who become so self conscious about their looks and get down when some idiot flings random shit at them.
I don't see any comment that addresses it, but I think this short is actually about how you call your own parents ugly by thinking you're ugly (because the mom looked hurt that her daughter thinks like this, and also hurt because she got the face she hates from her; ignoring the fact she is acting both roles lol). That's why the caption is "Who else are you calling ugly?" and I think this is actually a striking message to me, as someone who sees her mom beautiful yet hates herself. I look more like my dad too, with whom I have grown estranged for years, so that was another layer to the self-loathing. EDIT: For those whom pointed out that the mom character tends to call the daughter ugly, there is not always a consistent continuity in-between shorts (especially when most are made for meme purposes while others like this one is to send a message). Also, the mom calling the daughter ugly can be interpreted as "tough love" and also the same as how friends can comfortably call each other "bitch" (which can unfortunately be timed poorly and cause someone to feel hurt when they take it seriously)
I would get insulted when people said I looked like my mom. My mom found out and said, "You'll appreciate looking like me when I'm dead." Perception switched. I'm now proud to look like my mom and my sisters.
I'm a girl but I've always resembled my father. He passed away when I was young and I have very few memories of him, but I love that I resemble him because it feels like he's a part of me, so even if all my memories of him are gone in the future, at least I know that I'll never forget his face 🥹
I look like my mom too and it was really hard to handle how others made a big deal how similar we look when I was younger, but the lion king of all places taught me that same lesson when Simba sees his father in his own reflection. My reflection isn't just my reflection, it is hers too and through that she is always with me. I live in a different country now and when I miss my mom during hours where timezones mean I can't call because she's asleep, I get comfort from my mirror.
This made me cry. So impactful. This was exactly the reason I began to love my insecurities. It's an honor to represent some of my unique ancestry with my features. I love seeing my mom and dad in my face, and my grandparents who are no longer with me, and others whom I haven't even met. Now I hold myself with pride and gratitude. I wish this for all of us ❤ thank you for this reminder
I am one big insecurity in my life that I can't overcome..my deformed rt ear I was born with that left me half deaf...I am in my 20s and still I hide it with my hair....even I am afraid to approach men becuz of that 😭😭😭
@@thelasttimeiwasherewas17 Hey beautiful..... that's okay❤ not everyone is born perfect....and one thing a person who is truly in love with you will never think of your insecurity 💌💟 instead he will love you for your imperfections 🥰🥰 after all we are all human beings beings❤️....Now don't be sad and wait for your Mr. perfect 💟🥰
I’m similar but different. On one hand, I love everything about me that reminds me of the world’s strongest and most loving mother, my stubbornness of the world’s silliest great grandma, and my hair when it curls like the grandmother I love and miss. However I hate being half asian. I hate the slurs and jokes. Mostly, I hate that it reminds me of my dad who I’ll never be close to. Just another reminder of how I’ll never be like my friends.
I lived in College with a girl, she used to called her features ugly, but every caracteristics she didn't have it and hated in her self, she was describing me. Was a hard time for me.
It's so difficult to get out this stage of hating us for our appearance and learning to love ourself.. And this is exactly how I feel every once a while
Thank you- this video definitely helped me as the daughter. I used to hate everything about myself when I was younger but I started to see my beauty as I got a little older- I look exactly like my mom- so much that people can't tell our childhood photos apart. We are both gorgeous and I'll stand on that business!!
I stopped this $hit in my teens by refusing to leave the mirror until I could name something NEW that I liked or was okay with looks-wise. After about a month things I absolutely hated and were insecure about actually became things that I loved about my face! Some things ultimately I couldn’t bring myself to love like the size of my toes lol! But I had improved how I look at myself so much that I started to put more effort into taking care of myself that I was able to accept the things I couldnt change
This helped me too. Sometimes it can help, for people who are at a place where they hate everything, to start with a feature someone else has pointed out to you they like and trying to find the good in it. Btw I love your profile pic, Clem!
I had bouts in hs when I thought I looked cute and others when I looked like a man with long hair. Then I thought about it and realized, ir wasn't that looked bad, but that I didn't feel good. Changed everything and I stopped obsessing with mirrors
This is such a good lesson. One I had to learn the hard way. My sisters are bigger girls. I’m short and small. I used to constantly call myself fat. Even around them. Until one day my little sister said, “If you think you’re fat I can’t even imagine what you think of me!” It broke my heart, because I think she’s beautiful! I never called myself fat again. It had never once occurred to me how it might make her feel since I never thought of her as anything but beautiful. I only saw myself in that negative light. It was a hard but good lesson for me.
asian moms have a soft spot for their children even if their strict they show their love with giant amounts of food on the table they want us to aim high so YOU can live the life THEY never had they wants us to be a doctor, surgeon, engineer. No matter what they love you so much but they just dont show it on how they want to so if you see fruit or food on your table after a bad situation or even just everyday its because they actually love you and do anything for you they would say "why are you so useless?!" but in reality they love when you say you love them they love their useless children no matter what thats why they are sad when your moving out.
I used to say this a lot, I would also go over my concerns with my mom too. The thing is, I look just like her. I've never seen my mom as an ugly woman, she was so beautiful, but I felt like I was just an ugly version of her. One day, she said to me, "you look like me, it hurts when you say you're ugly." This video completely reminded me of that time. Only when she passed away did I realize, I REALLY do look like her. Every time I looked in the mirror, I could see her. I wish I never said all those things.
Oh, Bless you, you are so, so creative. I respect you for sharing this. Everyone feels down some time in their lives. I have one of the most beautiful daughter in the World and I remember when she was feeling down and she told me been an only child, she felt bad not having a sis or brother to celebrate Xmas with her. It broke my heart, for she also felt she was too white to be accepted as a mixed race child.
As someone struggling with this recently this made me feel less alone. Thank you. I left this for a few hours on repeat so that it could get the publicity it deserves, please do the same! I believe everyone struggling at this time needs to see this. Remember, you are beautiful, it’s societies expectations that are ugly. 💗
This is deep. You definitely hit with this one Lyanna. We don’t realize that when we call ourselves ugly, we’re indirectly insulting our parents? To be a parent, in your eyes to birth a beautiful creature. Just for your own child to call themselves ugly? That hurts you (the parent) in the end. I’m not a parent, but I can imagine that being heartbreaking.
I really know this feeling. I was literally raised like i was the ugliest child in the world in my family where being called ugly is a normal thing for me and I believed that for so long and it still affects me til this day 😢
To anyone who thinks they're bad looking. Hi there, listen. You're not ugly, you're absolutely beautiful and amazing in your own special way, i know it's hard to be dealing with such something and the URGE to just want to look like the other people around you or celebrities online etc. everyone has a problem, noone is Perfect. Not even celebrities because everybody has flaws. You're absolutely gorgeous, beautiful, sweet and cute. Be yourself, embrace your inner self, don't let the community you live in make you believe that you don't reach the standards of beauty. You're amazing as you are and that's enough. You don't need to change anything about yourself. You don't need Surgery. You don't need to be more beautiful because you already are. Alot of people admire the way you look and love you like you are. Stay safe please. And i know words are much easier than actions, trust me I'd know as I'm currently going through this stage myself and been for a long time. But i chose to help the people with the same issue. ❤
Assalmuakikum As someone who went through this stage many many many times because of insults of my teeth,hijab,clothes,love for my parents,personality and my face shape But I'm starting to learn that I'm me I can love my parents and care for them until they die I have my own personality and I'm proud to wear a hijab everyday my hijab Is a part of me and always will be inshallah I love Allah I love the Quran I love everything allah gave me I'm proud I'm happy and all thanks to Allah he is someone I dont look up to but worship I thank him every day 5 times! I am thankful for Allah protecting me through the night and letting me wake up to another day inshallah allah will make that daily I feel at peace with the Quran I feel proud of taking care of my parents i thank allah for giving me my parents and not a war I feel bad for Palestinians but I help them as much as i can I'm saying this to show my thankfulness dont make fun of me for loving my god or me being me Asalamualkum brothers and sisters hope you have a blessed day
And remember you can always do things that build up your confidence like exercising or just doing what you like in general, you don't need to completely change yourself but sometimes a little change is what you need for a better life ❤
mine is opposite, when i was 7 my mama was so insecure, she always call her self ugly in front of me and compliment other kids idk maybe to humble me or something...
“I just wish I looked like somebody else completely...” girl this is way more than accurate😢but we have to believe that we already look gorgeous in our own way!!
Yes,please don't change your face unless it has something to do with your health,you are beautiful,i love natural person❤ Yes,i have seen so many ugly people but they're ugly for me but for someone else they are not,8 billions people in this world,there might be someone who will love you unconditionally I admire those who look ugly and still feel confidence in their looks instead of those who do surgery and change their face completely because they are taking the fastest route Eat healthy,always wash your face,trust me if you change your habits you will see something more important in yourself than beauty YOU ARE MATTERS❤
This so heart wrenching! I truly can connect to this! I see myself in this years ago when I was young! I regret those thoughts, now that i am an adult! Reassure our kids they are beautiful inside and out! Every chance we get...thanks for this short .
My mom found a notebook where I would write all of the bad things I thought and heard about myself. She broke down in tears and asked me why I would ever speak to her baby that way. I balled my eyes out and held myself in her arms for hours.
This is why im reluctant to have a surgery that majorly changes my features. I guess it sends a message to my parents that they weren't good enough to appreciate what they gave me. If my child spoke about themselves like this, it would sting in more ways than one.
We can all be beautiful on the inside. It's something we can control. But some of us just aren't on the outside. It is what it is. Makeup might make you look beautiful for a bit but you still are who you are underneath it and for some of us who we are is just ugly
This feels like a movie scene but besides that, none is born ugly. Our society is the one that’s ugly. Beauty comes from the inside but the outsides shine and reflect a different kind of beauty.
This is so relatable today my mom called me a mistake and my brother called me ugly😢😔 i really wanna channge bc if i cant follow my dream then it might be the end of me😢
My parents said I couldn't become an actress because I was too ugly. When I look at pictures from then I could cry. I was not ugly at all, I was so pretty. They were lying because they didn't want me to go to theatre school.
Lyanna, your acting skills here are a phenomenal piece of work. Your portrayal of both characters is a masterpiece. For a moment, I actually believed it was real. Then, seeing this attractive woman, I realized it was a skit.
I really love these deeper moments between these two characters. Another favorite of mine is when the mom and daughter bond a little after getting pulled over in Life of Kea. You are an amazing actor, and I look forward to seeing even more of your content in the future!
I have been through this self-hating stage, and I still think I am in it right now at random times. I doubt countless times if I’m pretty or not. But, I will always try to be as happy as I can be. No matter what ❤
Didn't expect that turn, was expecting her to burst through door shouting "who you calling ugly LA!??"
No i thought the mom is gonna say "BE A DOCTOR SO YOU CAN GET THE MONEY"💀💔
Same I thought that the caption would be what the mum would sys to her 😭
I was not expecting there to just be a somber moment. I read the caption and thought she would burst in, and when she didn't it actually hit hard...😢
YES
I was expecting her to be like “YOU CAME FROM ME! YOU CANNOT BE UGLY.”
No punchline, no resolution. That really makes this dig in.
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This just shows the amount of people going through this, afraid to speak out.
I want everyone to know many people go through this everyday. You're amazing the way you are.
Edit 1: I know what some of you are thinking. "Oh yeah they just mean it cus yadida"
But I want you to know I mean it. I've had negative thoughts. I've hated my looks. But you're amazing the way you are. You don't need peoples opinions. Do what YOU want to do.
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Love yourself just the way you are, like someone said just because people call you ugly or a loser it doesn't mean you are one you decide who you are and what you wanna be.
Your eyes are gorgeous no matter how small or big❤
Your eyebrows are still pretty even if bushy or thin🧡
Your nose is perfect either big or small💛
Your jaw line is amazing even if you have a overbite 💚
Your lips are symmetrical no matter how small or big💙
Your perfect and beautiful inside and out💜
@@regina.gray-poasa3305 :)
@@regina.gray-poasa3305u are so amazing thanks for making my day
Yea...
"I don't just feel ugly, I am ugly."
-the most beautiful woman on earth
It's insane right?
@ThymeLeaves_ what you mean??
@@EvelynGrief OH MB MY DYSLEXIC SELF THOUGHT IT SAID "you're insane, right?" I'm so sorry omg 😭✋✋
@@ThymeLeaves_ Omg it’s fine. I feel so bad for you and ur dyslexic peeps. I just wanted to know.
@@EvelynGrief it's usually not that bad- except for... that... X_x but thanks for understanding 😭👌👌
STOP I THOUGHT THE MOM WAS GUNNA SAY “ it’s abt time she realized.. “ IM THE BAD GUY 😭😭
You know it's bad when the mom starts feeling bad too
True...😢😢😢
It's also the fact that kids get their faces from their parents they feel guilty also because they can't "provide" the "beauty" you wish you had
@@iamaboy163I was abt to say the same thing! She’s probably sad bc she’s thinking that she looks ugly too. Bc if you kid is saying how ugly they look it also affects the parent especially if they look rlly alike.
Okay but guys, serious question, are they the same person? 😭
Yes @@SmileyFace123Lolz,the same person is acting the roles of both the mother and daughter
Im almost an identical copy of my mother, ive always thought i was ugly but then i see her and i think she one of the most beautiful people i have ever seen. I think the difference is is that i love her.
Hey just so you know, I don't need to know who you are to know that I love you and you deserve as much love as your mother, have an amazing day!! :D
I'm exactly the same...glad to hear abt who are like me ❤
If you're her copy and the difference is that you love her, maybe it's time for you to also love yourself ❤
@@TheMrsLunaticExactly, I don’t think you can make it outta this world if the most important person (which is you ) is missing that four lettered word, love.
@@feelthemelody4762 very nicely said 👏🏻✨
this made me tear up. she's such a beautiful girl. we have such a toxic culture in this country
wow went from funny skits to all this deep stuff this girl has such a good ability to make me cry and laugh
Mom's acting was really hard and u nailed it
It's the subtle expressions that are the hardest
An ✨ACTRESS✨ seriously she’s SO GOOD
They’re the same person ml
@@theyfw_juless Yea but she acts as a mom and daughter in most of her videos
@@theyfw_julessthat's why they said you..
This can work both ways. My mom has very low self esteem and never accepts compliments or doesn't believe them. Growing up hearing it all that time has become a part of my life too.
same. i grew up being told i look exactly like my mom, but i also grew up hearing her talk about how ugly she is and how she wishes she didn’t look the way she does. it affected me terribly, and still does even in my 20’s.
@@anootnoot7192Ah... My mom worries about a particular thing and I never considered connecting how that makes me feel to how I was always said to look like her.
Like, tiny tumblr essays taught me how to become okay with what is or what could be (which is inherently neither "good" nor "wrong"), and I try so hard to share that with others. Maybe partly because it's so stressful to hear my friends n stuff just be cruel to themselves, outright or jokingly deprecating :(
Yep
My mum has low self esteem too...her aunts told her that she had masculine features when she was a teenager and now even when I try complimenting her every now and than but she doesn't believe me
Every time some one said I looked like my mum in front of her shed say "I know the poor child" because yeah she's the same she cannot accept compliments and is highly uncomfortable with how she looks, naturally I am quite that way too now. But my daughter (3) thinks, that I think I'm a hottie and I love the way I look 😂
The mom’s acting is like she really feels her daughter’s pain
This hit hard 😢 .. I think we've all struggled like this at some point in our lives. I've had this experience from both perspectives.. both as a child and as a mother. It's heart-wrenching.
So true. I have 2 daughters. Everyone goes through it, all we can do as moms is help support them
I felt that, as a mother, it hurts a lot when we listen our baby saying it.
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My mom would hide the fact that it hurts and would barge into my room and blame me that I’m ungrateful and nag non stop
even worse when it’s your parent themselves that makes you feel that way
My father bought me an epilator and cellulite creams when i was still in high school. My mom taught me to skip meals, starve myself to lose weight
@@dracolipop Did you cut ties with them now?
@AgnesLumbera mom passed away from cancer and i've gone no contact with dad ever since.
Exactly
Yeah. I'm going through it now. Every single day and every single hour trying not to hate myself when my parents screams I should exercise all the time and scream at me for eating
I honestly was waiting for the mother to burst in saying “WHO YOU CALLING UGLY LA?!?”
This is also so hard on your parents. You're apart of them, you get some, if not most of your features from them. And they see you as the light of their life (if they're good parents), so if you're talking about yourself like this, they will take it upon themselves. Don't be so hard on yourself, every single soul on this earth has beauty.❤
As someone who's been thru this 'self-hate' stage, hits too hard 😔
I have a very noticeable over bite that my classmates usually bully me and call me horse, I'm 4"9 people teases me for it, I have the worst dry hair ever so some calls me witch. But I'm glad that I never hated myself, not even a bit cause I believed God made me perfect the way I am. I'm not saying these things just to make myself better than other people, your feelings are all valid, it's normal, you are growing, but don't let those insecurities make your life sad, who care what other people think, you are perfect.
My gosh this hits so hard 😭
me....
@@ericelestineyorfrylle1525 I bet $1000 dollars you are actually pretty. 4'9"? That is a perfect height!
And my mom is a kinda of a perfectionist so when i get bad grades I hate on myself more
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This really made me cry, the way the mom just stood there and looked so sad
My daughter just told me that even filters dont make her pretty & my heart is broken,.. i gave her her insecurities, her autism, & her face & i feel like i failed her…😢
You really couldn’t have given her her insecurities, I bet you are a great mom🫶
@roundsdm no don't ever say that... look here baby girl your the one who brought her into the World and she must be very thankful. She would be hurt if she heard you say that you fisled her when in fact she looks up to you... mama your great and you shouldn't let those thoughts get over you. God created us perfect in every shape cause he is the perfector and the one who knows best about fashion. You are beautiful from the inside and outside
She was hurt because the daughter looks like her. She was saying she wanted to look like a different person, aka not her mother
@@micadonker9929❤
I'm sorry, WHAT?! You are one of the most gorgeous people I've seen. Seriously.
*OW!*
Seriously, as someone who grew up with a mom who constantly called herself awful things and then had everyone saying I looked just like her, this cuts to the bone.
The mom's reactions tho 😢
Yeah plus she maybe thinking shes saying shes ashamed of her heritage and her parents looks as well as her own
@@tobecontinued3717 Yess and also she maybe feeling guilty that self love is not taught generally in Asian households and it's impacting her daughter
I was just thinking same thing 😢
Well... considering ALL the other videos she is the biggest problem.
Yeah it really made me think. My dad, he gave me all of my worst genes. He's not what people would call handsome, and everything I've hated about myself, has traced to him. I feel awful thinking like this, but I can't help but wonder what it would be like if I actually had a nose that looked feminine instead of Manly. Or that my skin wasn't excessively oily. Sure, for a man it is dismissed as "boyish" and natural. But when your a girl, all people see is hideous. I feel bad for my father, he knows I hate the features he gave me, but I can't help but hate them, which is what hurts even more. I truly do think I am the reason our relationship is so distant. I really am a horrible daughter. I've heard people call it a "phase"- just me being a teen. But I always regret every time my thoughts of saying "I missed you" end up coming out as "go away."
"Would you say all those ugly things to your friend? No, you wouldn't. So don't say it to yourself. Be your own friend." is something i think about everytime i feel like this. it helps
I hope to come back here and say that this comment made me feel better about myself.
That’s amazing advise 🌹🗣️
I’m not my own friend, so erm
I love this ❤
This is amazing but o joke with my friends😭
When ever Im falling down the "I'm too ugly for anyone to ever love me" whole, I just think about mantis and how Drax told her it was a blessing, cause WHEN someone did love her, it could only be for who she is and nothing else.
I thought y said the lorax 😂
Every mum in evey culture has been there. And sadly this is what more people are thinking these days! But lyanna thankyou so much for an emotional and resolving short xx
Why do I think that the mom has been thru this too? (from the looks on her face)
Our if you look like your mom and are saying your ugly you are saying she is ugly
@@erikat.9870I was thinking the same thing
No the mom looks sad bc the daughter is basically calling her mom "ugly" too, as she looks like her and the daughter doesn't want to look like her own mother, which ofc her the mom's feeling hearing that her daughter wants to look nothing like her
Because she looks like her mom...*I wish I looked like somebody else completely*
Yes that too but the point of the video was like she’s also calling her mom ugly bc she looks like her mom in many ways
I started tearing up after she said “If I had the money, I’d change everything about me.”😢
Honestly, it's the same way for me, if I got the chance, I would change myself
Valid.
I'd be a transitioned alt femboy if I had the money.
@@wolffoxcatthing5336 physically? I by no means know your situation but i feel like, you might regret it one day, at least I think would. I would feel so sad if I after my parents passed on and I couldn’t see thier nose in the reflection. If I couldn’t see the face that all the people who’ve ever loved me fought to protect, if i couldn’t see the lines around my mouth, the memories of all the people that have ever made me smile, etched into physicality to stay there. The creases under my eyes from all the nights I stayed up late. To me, what is my face if not the reflection of my life? The good and the bad. I look upon myself and see all the good and bad bits of me. ( I by no means mean to undermine the validity of your experience, I just want to understand why you’d feel like that)
@@wolffoxcatthing5336yo, i havent seen your pics ofc but im 100% sure that you are good looking! Stop listening to those toxic people, stop looking up to botox-face moviestars or (god forbid) instagram people... Every surgical operation or injection of something is very dangerous and stressful to the whole body and wont solve your problem with accepting yourself anyways. So i wish you to find inner peace 🎉
@@AmySkribblefirst world problems
I feel the same way sis, but I realized that every girl has flaws. No one is perfect. We are all beautiful.
I used to think like that before, but one day during our youth program in church my pastor told us that we are all beautiful cos God who created us makes us beautiful differently so anyone who told us we are ugly we should ask them to look again, cos we beautiful and wonderfully made so they don't know what they are saying
„I don‘t just feel ugly, i am ugly“ sadly, thats exactly what i was thinking the other day 😢💔
I'm sorry you feel that way, and maybe it doesn't help to hear from a stranger but I think the most wonky flowers are still lovely. The outside is nothing but a wrapping, to feel beautiful you have to forgive and be patient with your inner self. Again might not help but it's worked for me to think like that, hope you feel better and sending virtual hugs ❤
omg I could never… im beautiful
On the plus side, you are strong enough to be honest with yourself. That makes you stronger than most.
Same with me
@@carlymaddison1208 That's the spirit... if anyone calls themselves ugly, they indirectly call their parents ugly. It's not just self disrespect. Parents are in it.
Nobody acknowledges how hard it is for a parent to hear their child say that. It's one thing for somebody else to call your child ugly, but when your child themselves interiorises it... It just hits you in the heart. That's YOUR child. They could never be ugly to you.
I hate the way i look BECAUSE i look like her . . .
The caption is “who else are you calling ugly” when u say u hate the way you look remember who passed those features to you to begin with.
@@2FadedBlunts4YV3TT3too long of a title
That and it might hurt your parent’s feelings too cuz you probably look like them and got those features from them
I HAVE THE POWER TO BREAK THE ANGLE NUMBER TO 1K
Without any reassurance, it made this feel so real. I felt this.
Lyanna really is in her relatable era❤
Wen she said "i just wish i looked like somebody else completely ..."
I felt so bad for the mother who hear that every day😢😢
Hey y'all. Stop liking BOT COMMENTS!!!!
I know it feels bad for the mom 😢 and @cherrychai69. Don't say it's a bot comment 😢
The Mother Told her Again and again that she is ugly....
I didn't expect this to make me cry 😢 so deep. Truly resonates with me
Huge hugs to you. I hope you find compassion within, for yourself and your feelings. You've been through a lot.
you are always pretty .beauty lies in the persons eyes looking at you.those who hate u will always call u ugly . every creature of god is beautiful in its own way
This is so deep! Now days people are so hard on themselves😭😢
the way that this made me cry…
no cuz i expect her mom to burst in like "WHO YOU CALLING UGLY LAH YOU KNOW YOU CAME OUT OF ME?" 😭
HELPPPPP ME TOOOOOZBNEBXJJDJED
SAME THO- 😭🖐️
SAME-
I love this message. When you call yourself ugly, your sling family ugly. Your mom, your dad, your ancestors
Exactly , it's like she's calling her mom and her race/culture ugly
I think it's bad to put that on people because clearly they already feel terrible why make them feel worse for having feelings?
Both can be true at once. Here the mom didnt choose to say anything. This skit just shows us the "collateral" effect of such self deprecating thoughts. Not believing in yourself is actually a dishonor to those who believe in you. I'm not saying this to make anyone feel bad, just letting us know that sometimes we dont appreciate the actually precious things in life which we take for granted. The society has successfully brainwashed people into thinking only certain "features" are beautiful so they can make humans sad and into product consumers. Happy people are content people who dont buy products.
PS: Just really frustrated by all the beautiful woman in my life who become so self conscious about their looks and get down when some idiot flings random shit at them.
But what if they actually are ugly though
@@altairpearlI agreeee
Bro you literally made me cry! I’m actually crying right now😭
Bro I’m tearing up 😭
Lyanna, you have NO RIGHT to make me cry like this.
God that was powerful
1.5k likes under 21 hours and no comment? Lemme fix that
I don't see any comment that addresses it, but I think this short is actually about how you call your own parents ugly by thinking you're ugly (because the mom looked hurt that her daughter thinks like this, and also hurt because she got the face she hates from her; ignoring the fact she is acting both roles lol). That's why the caption is "Who else are you calling ugly?" and I think this is actually a striking message to me, as someone who sees her mom beautiful yet hates herself. I look more like my dad too, with whom I have grown estranged for years, so that was another layer to the self-loathing.
EDIT: For those whom pointed out that the mom character tends to call the daughter ugly, there is not always a consistent continuity in-between shorts (especially when most are made for meme purposes while others like this one is to send a message). Also, the mom calling the daughter ugly can be interpreted as "tough love" and also the same as how friends can comfortably call each other "bitch" (which can unfortunately be timed poorly and cause someone to feel hurt when they take it seriously)
One hundred percent correct
You deserve more than 111 likes..
Exactly!! A lot of people didn’t get the message despite the caption 😭
She should pin this comment
I was looking for this comment
That almost made me cry knowing I used to be like that but I started loving my imperfections
I would get insulted when people said I looked like my mom.
My mom found out and said, "You'll appreciate looking like me when I'm dead."
Perception switched.
I'm now proud to look like my mom and my sisters.
I'm a girl but I've always resembled my father. He passed away when I was young and I have very few memories of him, but I love that I resemble him because it feels like he's a part of me, so even if all my memories of him are gone in the future, at least I know that I'll never forget his face 🥹
I look like my mom too and it was really hard to handle how others made a big deal how similar we look when I was younger, but the lion king of all places taught me that same lesson when Simba sees his father in his own reflection. My reflection isn't just my reflection, it is hers too and through that she is always with me. I live in a different country now and when I miss my mom during hours where timezones mean I can't call because she's asleep, I get comfort from my mirror.
This made me cry. So impactful. This was exactly the reason I began to love my insecurities. It's an honor to represent some of my unique ancestry with my features. I love seeing my mom and dad in my face, and my grandparents who are no longer with me, and others whom I haven't even met. Now I hold myself with pride and gratitude. I wish this for all of us ❤ thank you for this reminder
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! This comment will help me change the way I think about myself. I hope you have a great rest of your day. 💜
I am one big insecurity in my life that I can't overcome..my deformed rt ear I was born with that left me half deaf...I am in my 20s and still I hide it with my hair....even I am afraid to approach men becuz of that 😭😭😭
@@thelasttimeiwasherewas17 Hey beautiful..... that's okay❤ not everyone is born perfect....and one thing a person who is truly in love with you will never think of your insecurity 💌💟 instead he will love you for your imperfections 🥰🥰 after all we are all human beings beings❤️....Now don't be sad and wait for your Mr. perfect 💟🥰
@satavisha thanks sis...😭❤️....you definitely helped me ease my heart a bit...God bless....and have a great day !💌 hugs
I’m similar but different. On one hand, I love everything about me that reminds me of the world’s strongest and most loving mother, my stubbornness of the world’s silliest great grandma, and my hair when it curls like the grandmother I love and miss.
However I hate being half asian. I hate the slurs and jokes. Mostly, I hate that it reminds me of my dad who I’ll never be close to. Just another reminder of how I’ll never be like my friends.
glad i only had those conversations with myself at 2am when i made sure everyone was asleep
sometimes the punchline is just making us cry??
I lived in College with a girl, she used to called her features ugly, but every caracteristics she didn't have it and hated in her self, she was describing me. Was a hard time for me.
Girl why do people do that😭😭
Wait... isn't that a 🚩? I had a friend like that too who actually ended up betraying me in the end...
It's so difficult to get out this stage of hating us for our appearance and learning to love ourself.. And this is exactly how I feel every once a while
for reall
Love yourself! Be comfortable in your own skin. It's yours and no one else's so they don't get to have an opinion on how you should look and be! ❤
Thank you- this video definitely helped me as the daughter. I used to hate everything about myself when I was younger but I started to see my beauty as I got a little older- I look exactly like my mom- so much that people can't tell our childhood photos apart. We are both gorgeous and I'll stand on that business!!
I really felt that, I just said to myself the same thing 5 minutes before this video popped up in my feed
I stopped this $hit in my teens by refusing to leave the mirror until I could name something NEW that I liked or was okay with looks-wise. After about a month things I absolutely hated and were insecure about actually became things that I loved about my face! Some things ultimately I couldn’t bring myself to love like the size of my toes lol! But I had improved how I look at myself so much that I started to put more effort into taking care of myself that I was able to accept the things I couldnt change
This helped me too. Sometimes it can help, for people who are at a place where they hate everything, to start with a feature someone else has pointed out to you they like and trying to find the good in it. Btw I love your profile pic, Clem!
I did this unconsciously and man I'm happy.
I had bouts in hs when I thought I looked cute and others when I looked like a man with long hair. Then I thought about it and realized, ir wasn't that looked bad, but that I didn't feel good. Changed everything and I stopped obsessing with mirrors
This is such a good lesson. One I had to learn the hard way. My sisters are bigger girls. I’m short and small. I used to constantly call myself fat. Even around them. Until one day my little sister said, “If you think you’re fat I can’t even imagine what you think of me!” It broke my heart, because I think she’s beautiful! I never called myself fat again. It had never once occurred to me how it might make her feel since I never thought of her as anything but beautiful. I only saw myself in that negative light. It was a hard but good lesson for me.
I feel your channel has suddenly leaped forward in the depth of content...this is really cool to witness❤
asian moms have a soft spot for their children even if their strict they show their love with giant amounts of food on the table they want us to aim high so YOU can live the life THEY never had they wants us to be a doctor, surgeon, engineer.
No matter what they love you so much but they just dont show it on how they want to so if you see fruit or food on your table after a bad situation or even just everyday its because they actually love you and do anything for you they would say "why are you so useless?!"
but in reality they love when you say you love them they love their useless children no matter what thats why they are sad when your moving out.
Why did I expect her to go like: " YOU CALLING ME UGLY LA?! "
Self acceptance is hard. But I always remember my true look is what I leave people feeling
You literally explained my life.. That's exactly how i feel..
I used to say this a lot, I would also go over my concerns with my mom too. The thing is, I look just like her. I've never seen my mom as an ugly woman, she was so beautiful, but I felt like I was just an ugly version of her. One day, she said to me,
"you look like me, it hurts when you say you're ugly."
This video completely reminded me of that time. Only when she passed away did I realize, I REALLY do look like her. Every time I looked in the mirror, I could see her. I wish I never said all those things.
Shit, this hurt-
Frrr
It hurts a million times more when a parent does that to you.
This hits deep.
it hurts when some funny influencer made this kind of video...love u
This made me cry😢😢
No one was borned ugly, you all are so beautiful❤❤
woah....this made me teary eyed..i never thought stuff like this would touch me so deep 😢
Oh, Bless you, you are so, so creative. I respect you for sharing this. Everyone feels down some time in their lives. I have one of the most beautiful daughter in the World and I remember when she was feeling down and she told me been an only child, she felt bad not having a sis or brother to celebrate Xmas with her. It broke my heart, for she also felt she was too white to be accepted as a mixed race child.
The worst thing is, I find this relatable.
As someone struggling with this recently this made me feel less alone. Thank you. I left this for a few hours on repeat so that it could get the publicity it deserves, please do the same! I believe everyone struggling at this time needs to see this. Remember, you are beautiful, it’s societies expectations that are ugly. 💗
me and my mom both talk bad about ourselves, and we both go "thanks a lot" to each other 😭
This is deep. You definitely hit with this one Lyanna. We don’t realize that when we call ourselves ugly, we’re indirectly insulting our parents? To be a parent, in your eyes to birth a beautiful creature. Just for your own child to call themselves ugly? That hurts you (the parent) in the end. I’m not a parent, but I can imagine that being heartbreaking.
I really know this feeling. I was literally raised like i was the ugliest child in the world in my family where being called ugly is a normal thing for me and I believed that for so long and it still affects me til this day 😢
To anyone who thinks they're bad looking. Hi there, listen. You're not ugly, you're absolutely beautiful and amazing in your own special way, i know it's hard to be dealing with such something and the URGE to just want to look like the other people around you or celebrities online etc. everyone has a problem, noone is Perfect. Not even celebrities because everybody has flaws.
You're absolutely gorgeous, beautiful, sweet and cute. Be yourself, embrace your inner self, don't let the community you live in make you believe that you don't reach the standards of beauty. You're amazing as you are and that's enough. You don't need to change anything about yourself. You don't need Surgery. You don't need to be more beautiful because you already are. Alot of people admire the way you look and love you like you are. Stay safe please.
And i know words are much easier than actions, trust me I'd know as I'm currently going through this stage myself and been for a long time. But i chose to help the people with the same issue. ❤
This is so heart-felt and only 5 LIKES!? Thank you, thus made my day... : )
This!!!
Assalmuakikum As someone who went through this stage many many many times because of insults of my teeth,hijab,clothes,love for my parents,personality and my face shape
But I'm starting to learn that I'm me I can love my parents and care for them until they die I have my own personality and I'm proud to wear a hijab everyday my hijab Is a part of me and always will be inshallah I love Allah I love the Quran I love everything allah gave me I'm proud I'm happy and all thanks to Allah he is someone I dont look up to but worship I thank him every day 5 times! I am thankful for Allah protecting me through the night and letting me wake up to another day inshallah allah will make that daily I feel at peace with the Quran I feel proud of taking care of my parents i thank allah for giving me my parents and not a war I feel bad for Palestinians but I help them as much as i can
I'm saying this to show my thankfulness dont make fun of me for loving my god or me being me Asalamualkum brothers and sisters hope you have a blessed day
i love you ❤
And remember you can always do things that build up your confidence like exercising or just doing what you like in general, you don't need to completely change yourself but sometimes a little change is what you need for a better life ❤
It really breaks a parents heart to hear that your child does not appreciate the beauty that she gave you. 😢 Take care.
I'm so scared because I grew up thinking i was ugly and my friend even said she hated her mum for making her ugly. So scared for my daughter 😢
but what if a parent makes you feel that way?
mine is opposite, when i was 7 my mama was so insecure, she always call her self ugly in front of me and compliment other kids idk maybe to humble me or something...
Your acting is actually incredible at the end ❤
“I just wish I looked like somebody else completely...” girl this is way more than accurate😢but we have to believe that we already look gorgeous in our own way!!
Yes,please don't change your face unless it has something to do with your health,you are beautiful,i love natural person❤
Yes,i have seen so many ugly people but they're ugly for me but for someone else they are not,8 billions people in this world,there might be someone who will love you unconditionally
I admire those who look ugly and still feel confidence in their looks instead of those who do surgery and change their face completely because they are taking the fastest route
Eat healthy,always wash your face,trust me if you change your habits you will see something more important in yourself than beauty
YOU ARE MATTERS❤
This so heart wrenching! I truly can connect to this! I see myself in this years ago when I was young! I regret those thoughts, now that i am an adult! Reassure our kids they are beautiful inside and out! Every chance we get...thanks for this short .
I'm crying i was laughing in advance thinking she would barge in and yell "who are you calling ugly?!?" 😭
Girlll you know your drop dead gorgeous 😍
My mom found a notebook where I would write all of the bad things I thought and heard about myself. She broke down in tears and asked me why I would ever speak to her baby that way. I balled my eyes out and held myself in her arms for hours.
GIRL YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING IN A GIRL IS HER SOUL,HER KINDNESS,AND HER BRAVERY
What hurts more is hearing your siblings say stuff like this not knowing how they feel cs they're always so confident
I love how she NAILED the asian mom look😂❤
This is why im reluctant to have a surgery that majorly changes my features. I guess it sends a message to my parents that they weren't good enough to appreciate what they gave me.
If my child spoke about themselves like this, it would sting in more ways than one.
To anyone going through this, I relate to you. I promise you, things will get better. Your beautiful. You are. I'm here for you ❤🙏
We can all be beautiful on the inside. It's something we can control. But some of us just aren't on the outside. It is what it is. Makeup might make you look beautiful for a bit but you still are who you are underneath it and for some of us who we are is just ugly
I've had this conversation with myself soo many times.
This is so powerful… thank you ❤
This is actually sad. Ngl almost made me cry there ❤
This feels like a movie scene but besides that, none is born ugly. Our society is the one that’s ugly. Beauty comes from the inside but the outsides shine and reflect a different kind of beauty.
Omg your voice is so amazing, I could listen to it for hours
Ur mother face is the greatest gift ever be grateful
Ly is so undeniably gorgeous in all her different get ups 😍
This is so relatable today my mom called me a mistake and my brother called me ugly😢😔 i really wanna channge bc if i cant follow my dream then it might be the end of me😢
Thats cruel. You deserve better than your family
My parents said I couldn't become an actress because I was too ugly. When I look at pictures from then I could cry. I was not ugly at all, I was so pretty. They were lying because they didn't want me to go to theatre school.
That's narcissistic abuse from your mother.
Wait how did i get so much likes for that you did not mean to but thank you so much may god bless you 🙏
Hey you’ve got this young person 🥹🙏🏾🙌🏾….pull through! Gods got you!
The fact that i realised that this is me every single day 😞😔
For some reason i expected this to take a twist and turn into humor-
Lyanna, your acting skills here are a phenomenal piece of work. Your portrayal of both characters is a masterpiece. For a moment, I actually believed it was real. Then, seeing this attractive woman, I realized it was a skit.
I really love these deeper moments between these two characters. Another favorite of mine is when the mom and daughter bond a little after getting pulled over in Life of Kea. You are an amazing actor, and I look forward to seeing even more of your content in the future!
This one got me in tears "If I had the money, I would have Changed EVERYTHING about me" 😢💔
I fully expected the mom to burst in saying "You have my face are you calling me ugly!?"
I have been through this self-hating stage, and I still think I am in it right now at random times. I doubt countless times if I’m pretty or not.
But, I will always try to be as happy as I can be. No matter what ❤