@@LovesGaming37i doubt they’re cutting someone else’s book lmao, you babies need to stop making the most stupid and unrealistic hypothetical excuses to be mad at stuff
Honestly, as long it's a book you purchased for him, I see no issue. Just make sure he knows how to treat public property and borrowed items. I've had my fair share of mishaps with my adhd and library books as a child.
As someone who's AuDHD, my mum had a collection of book mending items for when I would munch on them! Thankfully I don't do that anymore now that I'm a teen lmao
As an illustrator that worked on childrens books before i love to see people attending to their kids needs. Its not ruined if the ittend is to be enjoyed by little ones
You know what, he seemed really happy with it all laid out. Good on you for working to not only understand your child, but to also foster his unique view of the world. Good job mama ❤
Yeah fostering his unique view of the world is so important. Being different doesn't take away from who we are It just makes us that much more. So I love when I see anyone embracing someone's uniqueness
@@We_Are_All_Vultures in alot of kids books, only half the page(as in one side of the two page spread) has a story. And if you really wanted it as an art piece. Buy two
@@fa2521 you'd be surprised how terrible or irresponsible today's parents are... or maybe not... but you can't really expect the pest from parents of this age sadly...
As an autistic person myself... seeing a parent understanding autism acceptance... actually brought tears to my eyes. Please keep sharing the acceptance message.
@magistersolis.3750 mr magistersolis famously known for not letting children be children. Say should we start teaching them about taxes, politics and reproduction too at a young age to prevent "rude awakenings".
@magistersolis.3750 learning at a different pace has nothing to with the world catering to the needs of a child. Once the child is at a certain age, teaching boundaries and how to take care of their own needs is a natural part of parenting.
I mean if you want your child to start screa,ing at the mall because he doesnt get his chips, go ahead and do this. What an awful way to raise a kid xD
Felt this, I actually was diagnosed early and put through immoral therapy for masking… it’s fucked up my life so bad and with a heart disease now it’s only gotten physically life threatening at times
Same. I was diagnosed at a young age with asperger syndrome and I remembered getting yelled at for experimenting with simple things like putting on lip gloss or going through my mom's makeup bag simply because I was curious. It gave me really bad trust issues to the point that I'm still very awkward with strangers and even relatives.
As an autistic kid seeing this made me cry. It is so great to see people understand what autism is and not treat it like a disadvantage, I love Harrison so much and it’s great that I know some people understand autistic kids
I'm an autistic adult and no one in my life seems to understand that I need all the pages in a document spread out around me in order to properly read and use it. I nearly cried seeing this short, you're a beacon for acceptance not just awareness
Meanwhile Im the opposite! I basically can only read comics like this but my books must be in order and can't be double sided. But if I had every document layed out I would have a panic attack. I love google docs for this reason. It goes page my page
As an autistic teen im so happy to see parents of autistic kids actually tend to their wants and needs rather than use them for attention or fully ignore their needs....
The caring aspect I understand, but tearing the book stressed me a bit at first. I consider myself open minded and I understand that he enjoys books that way. Personally, I prefer books bound since the binding keeps all the pages in one place and I don't have to worry about reassembling them, but this is also a children's picture book and I'm not Harrison. It's his book. I am also an autistic adult
@@Cyanide_and_Loneliness low functioning and high functioning aren’t diagnoses, and as a “”””high functioning”””” individual i dislike the labels because they minimize so many people and say they can’t function when in reality they just have more difficulties this comment is very minimizing to the kiddo and underestimating him, be nice
Seeing parents do the smallest things like this for their kids with ASD makes my heart so unbelievably happy (this is coming from someone who works as a behavioral tech, I just love seeing people do things like this for their kiddos) 💜
As soon as I saw this I thought “is he autistic” They experience the world differently and they’re not hurting anyone so yeah let him have his fun and support him ❤
yes seriously, ofc she didnt know i was autistic at the time she was still amazing regardless as she also had undiagnosed autism so she kinda got me like that but when i was little if my mom woulda just did some extra things like this it wouldve made life so much easier for me and when i was more younger i thought well if she did maybe i wouldve been a softie but now that i am older at 18 i realized im always gonna be a “softy” and that the world isnt built for “softys” aka autistics but that doesnt mean i cant still be accommodated to when anyone feels caring enough to. we only make kids and adults even “suck it up and deal with it to be strong” for the other people in society who did that although we don’t necessarily have to continue that cycle and can listen to peoples feelings more as it should be we are humans we run off of feelings and emotions lol all you gotta do is make sure they understand that there are people who dont care about your feelings which is scary but think about whats gonna make you happiest in the end whether its conform to that person or be your own person which can both be acceptable as long as its what makes you happier
@@TheMassOverride to give a bit of context, educators and teachers are oftentimes told of any kind of behaviors (such as that) which would then be noted and they would make accommodations for the kiddo. The parents could either brings books from home that are pre-cut for them or the teacher would allow access to specific books that they’re okay with having taken apart. Teachers and caretakers provide accommodations when they can 😊
It’s okay as long as he doesn’t do it to books he doesn’t fully own (much) later in life. But for now, it’s a great way to understand and accept his autism. Thank you for being a great parent.
@@KhmerRestoration They definitely do, tho I believe as of right now, they don't take him to libraries very often because of the confusions it can bring when you're trying to explain that to an autistic kid. But they educate him on borrowed items :))
I’m not going to lie, this hurt a bit at first. But hearing you explain why you were doing that, plus his happy dance at the end made me smile. Well done, mom!
Same I’ve always loved books and reading i personally like it better than social interaction but after the explanation felt nice to see a kid get help from such a nice parent and the kid not having to struggle honestly we need more parents like this one
@@Scarlet.Octopi Yeah everyone has their own way that they like to read, Watch tv, etc. Personally I like to read in bed and I don’t like too much background noise bc it doesn’t let me get such an immersive experience but it’s different for everyone and for him he just likes to lay it out and look at it, and that’s fine!
@@ericaoulette1369that doesn't excuse nothing. That will create a massive cunt of an person in the future, thinking that he can do anything he wants because he has autism.
@@SlipperySheep100 if they are being a tyrant then stop them. If not then dont... It's not a complicated flow chart, but if you want I can draw it out in crayon.
This makes me so happy as a person who is neurodivergent it’s refreshing to see parents taking care of their kids without shaming them for not being “normal”
As a special education teacher focusing on literacy with low speaking kids (as you rightfully mention communication isn't just speaking), it's so so important to meet kids where they are and how they learn best, rather than insisting they do it your way or the 'normal' way. I'm sure as the adult in his life *you* can be the one making sure that the books he gets unsupervised access to are ones he can tear up. I work with parents all the time about these sorts of things and there are so many ways to accommodate and support a kid like yours *because* you have learned to celebrate your kid and his brain. You are building a resilient, happy kid. I mean LOOK at those happy wiggles at the end. 🥰
I'm always so confused when people avoid saying nonverbal. I understand if you mean _mostly_ not speaking instead of entirely not speaking here, but this isn't the only time I've seen people seem to avoid the word nonverbal. And usually it is paired with something like what you said, communication is much more than spoken word. But... nonverbal was "verb" in the middle which generally means word, from Latin... so "nonverbal" denotes not speaking words? I personally am autistic and I've always felt perfectly comfortable with the word nonverbal; I believe it describes itself perfectly. If you do avoid using it when it's appropriate, would you mind telling me why?
Non verbal is not always a permanent stage. My eldest son was non verbal until around the age of four, then he gained speech skills in slow stages. He’s now a very verbal man. I, as his mother, am proud of all he has achieved so far, his skills and his knowledge.
@DreamtaleEnjoyer Non verbal and non speaking are considered two separate diagnoses in current special education pedagogy. For example, my kids who use AAC devices have verbal language even if they do not speak, as they still understand and use spoken language even though they do not physically speak. Verbal language is more then the ability to physically speak, and not all non speaking people are non verbal, though all non verbal people are by definition non speaking. It also separates language and communication skills from the act of speaking, which in my experience allows for more individual care, as it's unreasonable to prioritize spoken communication in all cases and for all students.
@LoriCiani There are so many reasons a person may be slow or hesitant to speak. I'm glad your kid was able to grow into it! I have anxiety triggered mutism so I relate to this, both because I've become a chatterbox and because it was hard for me.
"As long as its not ___" or "As long as you bought it" No shit Sherlock, she isn't that damn dumb, she bought the books and owns them. Yall don't need to CONSTANTLY say that, actin like someone is dumb enough to do this to a book she doesn't own
As someone who had to adjust to be verbal, hearing that you let him tell you things non verbally instead of just saying “use your words” has me in tears, bless you 💜🙏
@@picipolo988 Probably, none of our business. If OP wants to cry about developing an important adaptation, let OP cry about it. There is the concept of "survival of the fittest" (most adapted). That's why there's a focus to encourage speaking in autistic people, but I think OP may not have realised that.
The cutting books for him is an awesome thing, but maybe the ripping them himself may turn out to be bad if he rips someone else’s book or a library book. But good job with understanding your child’s feelings you seem like a great parent
Realistically they probably just don't get library books. Also my niece is similar, rips books and loves to look at them like that. I was worried inviting her over to my house because I'm a book fanatic, I gave her one to look at that I didn't care about and said I would be really sad if she ripped by book and she has never ripped my books so that is nice.
or just maybe he doesnt borrow other people's books to read or library books because he have a habbit of ripping books apart, and his parents simply buying books for the boy to read the way he wants to without people judging or criticising or telling him/the family how things should be done...
this can equally teach ownership and sharing, though - teaching distinguishing on where release can be applied (his own books) and when its better to hold back for other people sakes etc. obviously this will depend on the individual childrens' autistic traits, but still!
You’re such a wonderful parent for your son, and really for so many others with autism who like to process books the same way as your son. People seem to forget that most things in the world are set up for those who are neurotypical, so those of us who are neurodivergent have to figure out how we best process our experiences. For your son and books, it’s deconstructing them. And that’s perfectly fine! It’s your book, you do what’s best for your son and your family!
Seriously, sometimes I am amazed at what people get upset about. Seriously, as long as he is not doing it with other people’s books it is fine. Also he is so cute fr 🥰
It's stupid to get angry about too. I'd rather deconstruct it nicely like this than have it be ripped apart, which would have been it's fate otherwise.
That’s the key point. Along with this needs to go teaching about how this is okay *because the book is his*. That’s a potential problem if it isn’t taught well in advance.
As a person with autism. We all have our own needs, my take on this is it’s fine as long as it’s not someone else’s book or a library book. It’s great that he can express what he needs. (Edit) I hate to be that guy but OMG THIS IS THE MOST LIKES IVE EVER GOTTEN THANK YOU ALL.
I agree, but if he does have autism, they need to teach him that he can only take apart certain books and not the ones that belong to his parents or the ones at other people's houses or he library.
That's a want, not a need. People don't NEED to have everything in life exactly the way they prefer. It's probably good if we don't raise children to think wants are needs. Tear away a book you own, but that's not a need.
@@alexdalex3582 calm down, man, it's a toddler. i see where you're coming from, but i disagree. i know nothing about autism, but i know about toddlers, and they get upset if things can't be their way. if kids get upset about things that are easy to fix with some help, then it's fine to give them that help. toddlers are tough, so it's best to just help them with that stuff.
@@alexdalex3582You clearly do not understand autism. Secondly, I have OCD, I need things to be a certain way or it triggers my anxiety. Which could, and most likely will lead to a panic attack. It’s not as simple as going to a dating app, and having a want/preference that someone be a certain height. Or wanting a dog for Christmas. It’s a condition/ability/disability/disorder. Everyone’s different, it’s a not a two sided street that people exist on. Please try harder in the future. 💗
I simultaneously feel sad for the book (I'm a book repair librarian) but also have a cousin on the autism spectrum and am proud that Harrison was able to communicate what he needed.
He can also learn how to put things in order which is an important developmental skill. I love how you adapt to your childs needs. I used to be a early childhood educator and had a few special needs students and so many of those parents expected thier child to adapt to the norm instead of adapting themselves to help thier child. Its just so refreshing to see.
Good idea since do teach that at school where have sort through the story amd find the start, middle and end of the story and label them 1-5. Remember it well 😄
What you are doing is essentially rebinding the book (changing binding in order to preserve or enjoy the book differently). The book is still intact and usable. It’s not ruining to rebind the book. As long as he knows not to do this to library books/books that belong to others, he can do whatever makes him happy with his books!
This is just so beautiful to see, and hear my friend. I love this. He looks so happy, and who said he has to read them like everyone else. What a smart, loving, and understanding parent. This is wonderful... Love AMY
As an autistic child (6-8)reading grade 6 books, i wish i was able to do that for myself. I was never able to, because they were library books and no one really would even accept someone of my age doing that. People wouldve told me to "act how smart i am." That boy is so lucky to have a parent like you. You seem like the type to defend him from people who discriminate, thank you for treating this child right!!
Kid!! Get off RUclips!.. also, yeah.. actually, should not be allowed to do that with library books, they're for the public. They need to be in proper condition. You can do that with books you own though.
It might be nice to punch a hole through the top corner of each page so you could bind them together with like string or something, so you could still just take it apart but also store it easily
This is an amazing way to help him enjoy his books without accidentally destroying them. I can imagine he might accidentally ruin pages sometimes while pulling them apart. Doing it a little more carefully gets him what he needs. He looked so happy in the last part of the video. 😊
This is actually really sweet! It's good that you're accomodating what your child wants. Ripping apart a book isn't particularly harmful, so there's no need to discourage the behaviour.
Destroying stuff isn't harmful??? What's to stop that kid from destroying books in school or libraries? Would you be ok with having to replace what your kid destroyed????
@@rhondasherrill8788clearly theyre gonna teach their fucking kid to not rip up library books. Just you were a little hellion as a child doesnt mean he'll be lol
@@rhondasherrill8788 let me show you what I said "particularly harmful" Did you note that first word there? It's better the kid teqrs apart a book than breaks something else or hurts themself. Breaking it might be something that helps the kid regulate there emotions. Whenever I get stressed, I break pencils, would you rather I lash out at others and get angry? Hit myself?
@@doodleplayer4014 did I say anything about hitting yourself or anyone else??? No I did not. I said what's to stop that kid from thinking he can destroy ANY book he sees because he has autism and that's how he regulates..... Using autism and destructive behavior as a crutch to not have to actually parent your kid is really sad. If you can't handle kids... DONT HAVE THEM
I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! As a teacher, I can see so much value in this! He is learning sequencing as well as truly appreciating the artwork in the book by displaying it! Most importantly, he is just experiencing pure joy! I have taken apart books before and let each students work in partners with a page and write what was happening in the story at that point. You are amazing! Love how you are so tuned in to him and he is so comfortable expressing to you what he wants/needs!
Hi! I came across your videos of deconstructing the books a while back, and didn't think much of it. In fact, I was a bit agitated (for some odd reason) that you were cutting up a perfectly fine book. But when I heard your explanation about how it helps your son, it gave me a really interesting realization. I've always enjoyed things messy, or what others who don't know me might call "unconventional". Not only did this pique my interest to keep on watching, it made me want to do it for myself. I'm working on a research paper. While I won't be taking apart an academic book, I have been ripping apart papers and stapling them. I've also been using glue and masking tape just to give it some "messy" look. It's oddly calming, and I'm now more motivated to actually work! Thank you for this, it really shows how it's different strokes for different folks.
That is wonderful. Both that he can communicate what he needs, and you accept. Seeing him joyfully running along his book, it’s obvious you did the right thing. 💖
This makes me so incredibly happy to see as someone on the spectrum. Keep doing an amazing job, mom, you're doing a great service to your son and the rest of the community with videos like this one.
Keep doing what you're doing. Listening to your child and encouraging learning, no matter whether it's conventional or not, is what matters. I love a parent that truly hears their children.
Thank you so much. My 4 year old who's on the spectrum does the same thing and it's extremely stressful trying to get my family to be any form of understanding. This was like watching a hug, thank you ❤
It’s also really cool that he can kinda write his own version of the book over and over again. It’s also just amazing in general that you let Harrison do Harrison’s way. That’s so validating
As someone with autism who's been told "act normal", "you're overreacting", "don't be a drama queen" all my life, thank you Thank you for all you do for this child This makes me happy in a way I've never been before You restored my faith in humanity
I am so grateful to see you so something for your son as I am also autistic it is so heartwarming to see and hear someone talking openly about autism. Thank you for having such a pure heart❤❤❤❤❤
As someone who is high functioning on the autism scale, I respect your ability and willingness to see thing how your child does. My mother didn't, in fact she actively hid from everyone including myself that I was autistic. In the end I was abused by people who thought I was just looking for attention whenever I had issues. I would go to school and be beaten on at least a weekly basis because I was different. I didn't have friends, and struggled to read and talk. I still struggle to read, but my talking has gotten better. My family used to ostracize for "not being man enough" and nothing I've ever done has been good enough for them. I didn't find out about being on the scale until 8 months ago. It was like realizing my whole life was a lie. That I wasn't struggling because I was stupid, I just needed help. Help that not one person in my whole life ever even thought of offering me.
I applaud u for letting ur child express himself how he does. I have a nephew that has Asperger's Syndrome. So i totally understand that they learn and explore different than other children. Ur a loving caring devoted Mother keep doing what u think is right and ignore the ignorant ppl. 😊
Just so you know aspergers is no longer a recognized diagnosis, the name actually come from hans asperger, a literal nazi scientist. Instead often when people say 'aspergers' they mean an autistic person who is some combination of high masking and having low support needs
hey just letting you know that asperger's does not exist anymore and is not a good term to use, asperger's actually is autism but obviously was removed as a diagnosis, and now patients are diagnosed with autism. it's not a good word to use for many reasons, the main one being it was a term created by a nazi doctor that ultimately separated and decided which autistic people were "better" and would not be killed. i'm a diagnosed autistic myself btw so no hate to you ❤️
Hey, I'm not trying to be rude, but aspergers is no longer a diagnostic term, and even if it was, it isn't a syndrome. The term in recent years has been called Autism Spectrum Disorder. Thank you - an autistic person who was belittled using misdiagnosed terms
It would be even better if you had 2 copies for some books so he can line the whole book all up at once. It's awesome to see you accepting him the way he wants to see things, and Im glad you listen to what he's requesting even without words.❤
As some who grew up mentally challenged and in a strict household I love it when parent accept their child is not a normal person and they adapt and let them thrive
I raised 2 autistic kids and have an autistic grandson. I want to tell you what an amazing job you're doing❤️ This obviously happy child will be a happy adult cuz of you😊❤
I like how you making these videos about your autism son because I also have autism people really don't understand me and it makes it difficult to communicate sometimes 😭 and when I was an in-person school I got bullied a lot for my autism but now I'm homeschooled everyone thinks it's cool and they hang out with me and they're starting to understand me more thank you so much for making these videos❤🎉😊
I am so happy that there are people that understand that everyone is different even autistic people. I am a autistic teen and it is so hard to get people to understand what I need we need more people like you
He might not be able to see the full story, but if this makes him happy, then theres not a damn thing wrong with it. Its much more important that hes enjoying the book! Love and respect all.
That's why you teach them "our property and their property" and if he does get to someone else's book for some reason. Then it's her job to buy new ones
As long as it’s not a library book I’m fine with this
What if it's someone else's book? Still fine with it?
@@LovesGaming37i doubt they’re cutting someone else’s book lmao, you babies need to stop making the most stupid and unrealistic hypothetical excuses to be mad at stuff
@@LovesGaming37No, obviously not, stop putting words in other people's mouths just to get drama.
@@LovesGaming37what is this question trying to accomplish 😭 do you think we’re gonna be like “YES TEAR THEM APART” ????
@phunguyen858 you are a menace/lh
It’s so cute to see him so happy enjoying his book his way at the end ❤☺️
Agreed
Honestly, as long it's a book you purchased for him, I see no issue. Just make sure he knows how to treat public property and borrowed items. I've had my fair share of mishaps with my adhd and library books as a child.
I have had my fair share of guilty slinks into the library with "so the puppy got this one" and I pay up. I've had two paper eaters.
As someone who's AuDHD, my mum had a collection of book mending items for when I would munch on them! Thankfully I don't do that anymore now that I'm a teen lmao
that was my thought too. if its his book they can do whatever they want to it. its the same with anything anyone owns really.
Same thought.
@@redfailhawkwe have to get my little brother the indestructible ones cuz he’s a paper eater too
As an illustrator that worked on childrens books before i love to see people attending to their kids needs. Its not ruined if the ittend is to be enjoyed by little ones
Id say its not ruined if thats how someone of any age would rather preffer it! And obviously its purchased and not borrowed!
Hi is your son death??
@@jsaucedo1989uhhhhh what?
@@SandreyTooniezwas it necessary to repeat the the original comment said in different words?
@@ashley2310 yes, if you make the scientific calculations kf my comments butterfly effect due to my comment the aliens didnt enslave us on june 13th
You know what, he seemed really happy with it all laid out. Good on you for working to not only understand your child, but to also foster his unique view of the world. Good job mama ❤
Yeah fostering his unique view of the world is so important. Being different doesn't take away from who we are It just makes us that much more. So I love when I see anyone embracing someone's uniqueness
Yeah he really did, and I bet it won't be long before he experiments with seeing if he can rearrange it in a new way! :D AWESOME SAUCE!
@@MrWelcker91💀💀
I’m one of those redirect it guy and I wouldn’t let them destroy anything but this is just my opinion❤
Bro, how does he use body language? I have ADHD and I don’t do that. Well at least I don’t know how you can do that.
As an author, I would want my books to be read anyway a kid or adult would want. I love the Harrison method!!!
What's your name? Not to seem weird but I know alot of authors and I want to know if I know you! 😊
This made me think of creating a Velcro or snap bind book for people who enjoy reading this way!
@jmstudee6995 Or a magnetized hard back children's book like in the video. If you make one and get filthy rich over it please remember me😅
I like reading my books when their on fire adrenaline rush and the aroma of a burning book makes reading so much better
@@jmstudee6995that’s smart
Taking a picture book apart is such a cool idea. Setting them all side by side like that and seeing the whole story at once like a mural
Except half of the story is facing the wall.
@@We_Are_All_Vultures *you* should go face the wall 🖕🏼
@@We_Are_All_Vultures in alot of kids books, only half the page(as in one side of the two page spread) has a story. And if you really wanted it as an art piece. Buy two
@@kiarakeeper2154You'd be missing half the pictures lol
@@kiarakeeper2154 I'm talking about this book. I don't want it as anything, im just being realistic. You can't see it all at once.
As long as you own the book it is great that you accept his unique needs😊
Yeah if he tore other people's books up they'd be mad
Why would she tear up another kids book? Y'all need to think before sending theses comments
@@fa2521 you'd be surprised how terrible or irresponsible today's parents are... or maybe not... but you can't really expect the pest from parents of this age sadly...
@fa2521 people suck and arent respectful with other people's property, its not that shocking
no fucking shit
As an autistic person myself... seeing a parent understanding autism acceptance... actually brought tears to my eyes. Please keep sharing the acceptance message.
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This is so heartwarming! We need more parents who help their children experience the world in the best way for them
@magistersolis.3750why are you trying to start drama and who's treating him like an alien it's a god damn book
@magistersolis.3750 mr magistersolis famously known for not letting children be children. Say should we start teaching them about taxes, politics and reproduction too at a young age to prevent "rude awakenings".
@magistersolis.3750 learning at a different pace has nothing to with the world catering to the needs of a child. Once the child is at a certain age, teaching boundaries and how to take care of their own needs is a natural part of parenting.
@magistersolis.3750lords I’m sorry for assuming but you must be a really boring person to be around huh?
I mean if you want your child to start screa,ing at the mall because he doesnt get his chips, go ahead and do this. What an awful way to raise a kid xD
Man youre such a accepting and understanding mother. If only my parents were like that. Instead they taught me trust issues, trauma and masking.
I feel the same way, i hope everything gets (or is) better for you
Same bestie
Felt this, I actually was diagnosed early and put through immoral therapy for masking… it’s fucked up my life so bad and with a heart disease now it’s only gotten physically life threatening at times
Same. I was diagnosed at a young age with asperger syndrome and I remembered getting yelled at for experimenting with simple things like putting on lip gloss or going through my mom's makeup bag simply because I was curious. It gave me really bad trust issues to the point that I'm still very awkward with strangers and even relatives.
Same, I was diagnosed with ADHD and was never taught what it was or how to deal with it, just to pop a pill and be normal.
As an autistic kid seeing this made me cry. It is so great to see people understand what autism is and not treat it like a disadvantage, I love Harrison so much and it’s great that I know some people understand autistic kids
I'm an autistic adult and no one in my life seems to understand that I need all the pages in a document spread out around me in order to properly read and use it. I nearly cried seeing this short, you're a beacon for acceptance not just awareness
maybe youre the one who hates pdf's more than i, i just cant read more than few pages of pdf's, i can read 3 books in a day
Meanwhile Im the opposite! I basically can only read comics like this but my books must be in order and can't be double sided. But if I had every document layed out I would have a panic attack. I love google docs for this reason. It goes page my page
@rascal6112 My brother has autism, and seeing this short made me feel so touched ❤
It's awesome that you have such insight and self understanding. You have no issues at all expressing just what you are feeling and what you need.
I do this a lot with documents, I had to convert to digital note taking just so it was easier for me and I didn’t have to flip through pages.
You're such a beautiful mum for thinking out the box and putting his needs first.
If he runs fast enough its practically a movie
Just gonna flip over the pages-
@@Hazels_Dreamno its not its not the books made out of paper
LMAO
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technically tho...
As an autistic teen im so happy to see parents of autistic kids actually tend to their wants and needs rather than use them for attention or fully ignore their needs....
The man's an animator, he's gotta see the pictures in rapid succession 😆❤️
That’s what I thoughtttt
Yeees
I was coming to say that’s a storyboard that kid is making!
Yes i feel he wants see the story 😊
Yeah maybe
As an atustic adult this melted my heart. The word needs more people like you.
The caring aspect I understand, but tearing the book stressed me a bit at first. I consider myself open minded and I understand that he enjoys books that way. Personally, I prefer books bound since the binding keeps all the pages in one place and I don't have to worry about reassembling them, but this is also a children's picture book and I'm not Harrison. It's his book. I am also an autistic adult
REAL
@@meowwaffles6040as an autistic teenager this is the same for me
If he enjoys the books like that then It’s okay
as another autistic almost-adult i upvote this
@@Cyanide_and_Loneliness low functioning and high functioning aren’t diagnoses, and as a “”””high functioning”””” individual i dislike the labels because they minimize so many people and say they can’t function when in reality they just have more difficulties
this comment is very minimizing to the kiddo and underestimating him, be nice
Seeing parents do the smallest things like this for their kids with ASD makes my heart so unbelievably happy (this is coming from someone who works as a behavioral tech, I just love seeing people do things like this for their kiddos) 💜
Yeah, it's so heartwarming dude. 💙💜💛💗
As soon as I saw this I thought “is he autistic”
They experience the world differently and they’re not hurting anyone so yeah let him have his fun and support him ❤
yes seriously, ofc she didnt know i was autistic at the time she was still amazing regardless as she also had undiagnosed autism so she kinda got me like that but when i was little if my mom woulda just did some extra things like this it wouldve made life so much easier for me and when i was more younger i thought well if she did maybe i wouldve been a softie but now that i am older at 18 i realized im always gonna be a “softy” and that the world isnt built for “softys” aka autistics but that doesnt mean i cant still be accommodated to when anyone feels caring enough to. we only make kids and adults even “suck it up and deal with it to be strong” for the other people in society who did that although we don’t necessarily have to continue that cycle and can listen to peoples feelings more as it should be we are humans we run off of feelings and emotions lol all you gotta do is make sure they understand that there are people who dont care about your feelings which is scary but think about whats gonna make you happiest in the end whether its conform to that person or be your own person which can both be acceptable as long as its what makes you happier
K but if he goes to school and starts ripping up books then you're liable
@@TheMassOverride to give a bit of context, educators and teachers are oftentimes told of any kind of behaviors (such as that) which would then be noted and they would make accommodations for the kiddo. The parents could either brings books from home that are pre-cut for them or the teacher would allow access to specific books that they’re okay with having taken apart. Teachers and caretakers provide accommodations when they can 😊
It’s okay as long as he doesn’t do it to books he doesn’t fully own (much) later in life. But for now, it’s a great way to understand and accept his autism. Thank you for being a great parent.
Nice temmie Pfp! Much wowz!
yayayaya!!@@Platina_Leaf
I hope they teach him that when he gets old enough to visit the library in school/public library.
@@KhmerRestoration I trust she will
@@KhmerRestoration They definitely do, tho I believe as of right now, they don't take him to libraries very often because of the confusions it can bring when you're trying to explain that to an autistic kid. But they educate him on borrowed items :))
I’m not going to lie, this hurt a bit at first. But hearing you explain why you were doing that, plus his happy dance at the end made me smile. Well done, mom!
Same because I love books so this hurt me at first, but then her explanation made it better :)
Same my books are my babies💀
I was like wtf till she explained why
Same I’ve always loved books and reading i personally like it better than social interaction but after the explanation felt nice to see a kid get help from such a nice parent and the kid not having to struggle honestly we need more parents like this one
@@Scarlet.Octopi Yeah everyone has their own way that they like to read, Watch tv, etc. Personally I like to read in bed and I don’t like too much background noise bc it doesn’t let me get such an immersive experience but it’s different for everyone and for him he just likes to lay it out and look at it, and that’s fine!
What you're doing for your son is amazing we need more people like this
It is going to create a person who thinks this is ok 100% of the time. Sometimes you need to stand up to the tyrant todler.
@@mongolifepawn842the child isn't a tyrant toddler. He has autism.
@@mongolifepawn842wtf are you talking about😨…he is autistic
@@ericaoulette1369that doesn't excuse nothing. That will create a massive cunt of an person in the future, thinking that he can do anything he wants because he has autism.
@@SlipperySheep100 if they are being a tyrant then stop them. If not then dont...
It's not a complicated flow chart, but if you want I can draw it out in crayon.
"Hes gonna enjoy for years to come, *his* way" AWW MY HEART
Im calling 911
What ?
@@costinelacorcoveanu3786why?
@@costinelacorcoveanu3786 What 😭😭
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This makes me so happy as a person who is neurodivergent it’s refreshing to see parents taking care of their kids without shaming them for not being “normal”
Love the fact that you are attentive enough and focused on your son's specific view! 🥰
If you own it, it's yours... If it's yours, you can do with it what you want! As simple as that!
Thank you I’m glad that not only three people in the deep part of the common section actually agreed to this way
As a special education teacher focusing on literacy with low speaking kids (as you rightfully mention communication isn't just speaking), it's so so important to meet kids where they are and how they learn best, rather than insisting they do it your way or the 'normal' way. I'm sure as the adult in his life *you* can be the one making sure that the books he gets unsupervised access to are ones he can tear up. I work with parents all the time about these sorts of things and there are so many ways to accommodate and support a kid like yours *because* you have learned to celebrate your kid and his brain. You are building a resilient, happy kid. I mean LOOK at those happy wiggles at the end. 🥰
I'm always so confused when people avoid saying nonverbal. I understand if you mean _mostly_ not speaking instead of entirely not speaking here, but this isn't the only time I've seen people seem to avoid the word nonverbal. And usually it is paired with something like what you said, communication is much more than spoken word.
But... nonverbal was "verb" in the middle which generally means word, from Latin... so "nonverbal" denotes not speaking words? I personally am autistic and I've always felt perfectly comfortable with the word nonverbal; I believe it describes itself perfectly. If you do avoid using it when it's appropriate, would you mind telling me why?
Non verbal is not always a permanent stage. My eldest son was non verbal until around the age of four, then he gained speech skills in slow stages. He’s now a very verbal man. I, as his mother, am proud of all he has achieved so far, his skills and his knowledge.
@DreamtaleEnjoyer Non verbal and non speaking are considered two separate diagnoses in current special education pedagogy. For example, my kids who use AAC devices have verbal language even if they do not speak, as they still understand and use spoken language even though they do not physically speak. Verbal language is more then the ability to physically speak, and not all non speaking people are non verbal, though all non verbal people are by definition non speaking. It also separates language and communication skills from the act of speaking, which in my experience allows for more individual care, as it's unreasonable to prioritize spoken communication in all cases and for all students.
@LoriCiani There are so many reasons a person may be slow or hesitant to speak. I'm glad your kid was able to grow into it!
I have anxiety triggered mutism so I relate to this, both because I've become a chatterbox and because it was hard for me.
@@ziizification Ohhh okay gotcha! That makes sense. Thank you for taking the time to explain ^^
I love reading myself and this makes me so happy. You are letting him enjoy it his own way when so many other people would not. ❤
This is the kind of amazing, and if it’s how he wants to read that’s amazing and the fact that you helped him take the book apart is so sweet
This makes so much sense and is a big reason why kids need to be able to own books. ❤
we need more people like you in this world
We ourselve should be people like her😊. I mean we shouldn't just wait for others to change but start that process from ourselves ❤
@paisleysullivan8702yes. Z
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Me who has adhd and autism
Wtf why do we such people rather we should revive Thanos and snap these kind of people
"As long as its not ___" or "As long as you bought it"
No shit Sherlock, she isn't that damn dumb, she bought the books and owns them. Yall don't need to CONSTANTLY say that, actin like someone is dumb enough to do this to a book she doesn't own
My exact thoughts. Its more than obvious that she does this with HIS books.
They really think they did something by saying it too. It's just so they can still feel like they're criticizing someone.
Literally‼️‼️‼️
As long its not vintage and its still getting sold
was honestly surprised when i checked the comments and the top ones were exactly like that
As someone who had to adjust to be verbal, hearing that you let him tell you things non verbally instead of just saying “use your words” has me in tears, bless you 💜🙏
But you are verba, right?
@@picipolo988 Probably, none of our business. If OP wants to cry about developing an important adaptation, let OP cry about it. There is the concept of "survival of the fittest" (most adapted). That's why there's a focus to encourage speaking in autistic people, but I think OP may not have realised that.
@@qwmx this is so backhanded for no reason 😭😭
@@vex7922 If you see it as offensive. ok. That's you. Keep crying about it.
@@qwmxyoure the one crying about a book tbh
The cutting books for him is an awesome thing, but maybe the ripping them himself may turn out to be bad if he rips someone else’s book or a library book. But good job with understanding your child’s feelings you seem like a great parent
Realistically they probably just don't get library books.
Also my niece is similar, rips books and loves to look at them like that. I was worried inviting her over to my house because I'm a book fanatic, I gave her one to look at that I didn't care about and said I would be really sad if she ripped by book and she has never ripped my books so that is nice.
@@Ellie-vc5owthat's amazing
or just maybe he doesnt borrow other people's books to read or library books because he have a habbit of ripping books apart, and his parents simply buying books for the boy to read the way he wants to without people judging or criticising or telling him/the family how things should be done...
this can equally teach ownership and sharing, though - teaching distinguishing on where release can be applied (his own books) and when its better to hold back for other people sakes etc. obviously this will depend on the individual childrens' autistic traits, but still!
I was thinking about this, maybe it's important to redirect or explain somehow about boundaries
A book is a book no matter cut up if it’s got a weird size thick or small it’s still a book
Yes, I liked my own comment
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Lmao
This is the worst channel I've ever seen I am so 😠
@@krystinarushing55660 provides
Aaand what does that have to do with the video?
You’re such a wonderful parent for your son, and really for so many others with autism who like to process books the same way as your son. People seem to forget that most things in the world are set up for those who are neurotypical, so those of us who are neurodivergent have to figure out how we best process our experiences. For your son and books, it’s deconstructing them. And that’s perfectly fine! It’s your book, you do what’s best for your son and your family!
Seriously, sometimes I am amazed at what people get upset about. Seriously, as long as he is not doing it with other people’s books it is fine. Also he is so cute fr 🥰
It's stupid to get angry about too. I'd rather deconstruct it nicely like this than have it be ripped apart, which would have been it's fate otherwise.
That’s the key point. Along with this needs to go teaching about how this is okay *because the book is his*. That’s a potential problem if it isn’t taught well in advance.
Seeing him jog up and down to scan the pages was the most precious thing ive seen all week. What a little lad, he wont miss leg day like that
For real❤❤
This is adorable we need more good parents like you
I mean they is some good parents
@@childrentastegood9?
Shes not a good parent. This should not be encroached
@@felixstone3.14 so children can't learn the way they want to learn I feel bad if you have or will have kids
Books are to be enjoyed and if this is how he enjoys reading books then amazing, keep up the great work and have a wonderful day/night
As a person with autism. We all have our own needs, my take on this is it’s fine as long as it’s not someone else’s book or a library book. It’s great that he can express what he needs.
(Edit) I hate to be that guy but OMG THIS IS THE MOST LIKES IVE EVER GOTTEN THANK YOU ALL.
Absolutely! It might also mitigate the uncertainty of the rest of the book being hidden.
I'm also autistic and I love it.
@@illiengalene2285 that does help and hello fellow autistic person
This comment paired with this video made me cry (in a wholesome way)
I agree, but if he does have autism, they need to teach him that he can only take apart certain books and not the ones that belong to his parents or the ones at other people's houses or he library.
@@jellybeanboy mhm that is a part of growing up with autism
"For years to enjoy, his way" I love that!!
I love how you treat his needs. He needed his book in his way and you make it possible. Big hugs for you and your son from germany ❤
That's a want, not a need. People don't NEED to have everything in life exactly the way they prefer. It's probably good if we don't raise children to think wants are needs. Tear away a book you own, but that's not a need.
@@alexdalex3582 calm down, man, it's a toddler. i see where you're coming from, but i disagree. i know nothing about autism, but i know about toddlers, and they get upset if things can't be their way. if kids get upset about things that are easy to fix with some help, then it's fine to give them that help. toddlers are tough, so it's best to just help them with that stuff.
@@alexdalex3582Who hurt you today,calm down its a child 😐
@@alexdalex3582You clearly do not understand autism.
Secondly, I have OCD, I need things to be a certain way or it triggers my anxiety. Which could, and most likely will lead to a panic attack.
It’s not as simple as going to a dating app, and having a want/preference that someone be a certain height. Or wanting a dog for Christmas.
It’s a condition/ability/disability/disorder.
Everyone’s different, it’s a not a two sided street that people exist on.
Please try harder in the future. 💗
I simultaneously feel sad for the book (I'm a book repair librarian) but also have a cousin on the autism spectrum and am proud that Harrison was able to communicate what he needed.
The little dance was soo cute omg
My favorite part. His little happy dance
He can also learn how to put things in order which is an important developmental skill. I love how you adapt to your childs needs. I used to be a early childhood educator and had a few special needs students and so many of those parents expected thier child to adapt to the norm instead of adapting themselves to help thier child.
Its just so refreshing to see.
I was thinking that too!
that profile pic is a sign that you support child mutilation
Good idea since do teach that at school where have sort through the story amd find the start, middle and end of the story and label them 1-5. Remember it well 😄
"When a flower doesn't bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower." - Alexander Den Heijer
That’s so nice 😭
It’s nice you do these things for your son, some parents just decide to do nothing about it
What you are doing is essentially rebinding the book (changing binding in order to preserve or enjoy the book differently). The book is still intact and usable. It’s not ruining to rebind the book. As long as he knows not to do this to library books/books that belong to others, he can do whatever makes him happy with his books!
This is just so beautiful to see, and hear my friend. I love this. He looks so happy, and who said he has to read them like everyone else. What a smart, loving, and understanding parent. This is wonderful... Love AMY
As an autistic child (6-8)reading grade 6 books, i wish i was able to do that for myself. I was never able to, because they were library books and no one really would even accept someone of my age doing that. People wouldve told me to "act how smart i am." That boy is so lucky to have a parent like you. You seem like the type to defend him from people who discriminate, thank you for treating this child right!!
People not wanting you to tear up public property isn’t discrimination. It’s common decency and respect for others- not just yourself.
@@aoikuma2337exactly! That would be so entitled .
It’s not discriminatory if they were public books
You’re 6-8 years old?
Kid!! Get off RUclips!.. also, yeah.. actually, should not be allowed to do that with library books, they're for the public. They need to be in proper condition. You can do that with books you own though.
It might be nice to punch a hole through the top corner of each page so you could bind them together with like string or something, so you could still just take it apart but also store it easily
Binder rings could work wonders.
This is very helpful for young people who have autism (such as your son) and who need more assistance with such activities (reading, playing, etc)
This is an amazing way to help him enjoy his books without accidentally destroying them. I can imagine he might accidentally ruin pages sometimes while pulling them apart. Doing it a little more carefully gets him what he needs. He looked so happy in the last part of the video. 😊
I love that parents are matching their parenting style to their kids needs and not trying to force their kids to fit into how they parent!!
Yeah :DD
What a great mom giving a child what they need. Much love from Ohio!
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This is real motherly love
This is actually really sweet! It's good that you're accomodating what your child wants. Ripping apart a book isn't particularly harmful, so there's no need to discourage the behaviour.
Destroying stuff isn't harmful??? What's to stop that kid from destroying books in school or libraries? Would you be ok with having to replace what your kid destroyed????
@@rhondasherrill8788clearly theyre gonna teach their fucking kid to not rip up library books. Just you were a little hellion as a child doesnt mean he'll be lol
@rhondasherrill8788 they can teach the kid boundaries,like most children are taught
@@rhondasherrill8788 let me show you what I said
"particularly harmful"
Did you note that first word there? It's better the kid teqrs apart a book than breaks something else or hurts themself. Breaking it might be something that helps the kid regulate there emotions.
Whenever I get stressed, I break pencils, would you rather I lash out at others and get angry? Hit myself?
@@doodleplayer4014 did I say anything about hitting yourself or anyone else??? No I did not. I said what's to stop that kid from thinking he can destroy ANY book he sees because he has autism and that's how he regulates..... Using autism and destructive behavior as a crutch to not have to actually parent your kid is really sad. If you can't handle kids... DONT HAVE THEM
that’s really sweet, i hope he enjoys the book now (:
If one day your kid wants to put the back together, book binding and restoration in itself is such a fun hands on activity too!
I'm glad you support how your child is different, and that he can enjoy things in the way he enjoys them😊
He looked so happy jumping around, adorable ❤❤❤
I’m autistic and we need more people like you in this world ❤️
I'm autistic as well, and I agree. We seriously need more people like you in this world
I’m autistic as well and I’ve seen what this behavior does for higher functioning autistic people, they feel as if they can’t do wrong
@@damonjohns5004 They don't want to hear this.
Im autsitc and disagree
@@felixstone3.14
That’s okay, we all have different opinions 😊
I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! As a teacher, I can see so much value in this! He is learning sequencing as well as truly appreciating the artwork in the book by displaying it! Most importantly, he is just experiencing pure joy! I have taken apart books before and let each students work in partners with a page and write what was happening in the story at that point. You are amazing! Love how you are so tuned in to him and he is so comfortable expressing to you what he wants/needs!
Hi! I came across your videos of deconstructing the books a while back, and didn't think much of it. In fact, I was a bit agitated (for some odd reason) that you were cutting up a perfectly fine book.
But when I heard your explanation about how it helps your son, it gave me a really interesting realization. I've always enjoyed things messy, or what others who don't know me might call "unconventional".
Not only did this pique my interest to keep on watching, it made me want to do it for myself.
I'm working on a research paper. While I won't be taking apart an academic book, I have been ripping apart papers and stapling them. I've also been using glue and masking tape just to give it some "messy" look.
It's oddly calming, and I'm now more motivated to actually work!
Thank you for this, it really shows how it's different strokes for different folks.
As an autistic person I admire you for being so kind and accepting of your kid. I hope he grows up to be a happy and wonderful person.
That is wonderful. Both that he can communicate what he needs, and you accept. Seeing him joyfully running along his book, it’s obvious you did the right thing. 💖
This makes me so incredibly happy to see as someone on the spectrum. Keep doing an amazing job, mom, you're doing a great service to your son and the rest of the community with videos like this one.
Showing/telling what they need is HUGE.
Keep doing what you're doing. Listening to your child and encouraging learning, no matter whether it's conventional or not, is what matters. I love a parent that truly hears their children.
ik hes having the time of his life reading books that way looks so fun
Thank you so much. My 4 year old who's on the spectrum does the same thing and it's extremely stressful trying to get my family to be any form of understanding. This was like watching a hug, thank you ❤
You’re a great mom. He looked so happy to see it all laid out. Kudos
As long as he can make the difference between his books and those that do not belong to him, i think it's perfectly fine.
It’s also really cool that he can kinda write his own version of the book over and over again. It’s also just amazing in general that you let Harrison do Harrison’s way. That’s so validating
As someone with autism who's been told "act normal", "you're overreacting", "don't be a drama queen" all my life, thank you
Thank you for all you do for this child
This makes me happy in a way I've never been before
You restored my faith in humanity
I am so grateful to see you so something for your son as I am also autistic it is so heartwarming to see and hear someone talking openly about autism. Thank you for having such a pure heart❤❤❤❤❤
As someone who is high functioning on the autism scale, I respect your ability and willingness to see thing how your child does. My mother didn't, in fact she actively hid from everyone including myself that I was autistic. In the end I was abused by people who thought I was just looking for attention whenever I had issues. I would go to school and be beaten on at least a weekly basis because I was different. I didn't have friends, and struggled to read and talk. I still struggle to read, but my talking has gotten better. My family used to ostracize for "not being man enough" and nothing I've ever done has been good enough for them. I didn't find out about being on the scale until 8 months ago. It was like realizing my whole life was a lie. That I wasn't struggling because I was stupid, I just needed help. Help that not one person in my whole life ever even thought of offering me.
As a Bookbinder, I‘m horrified what you did to the book.
But on the other hand it’s really amazing what you did for your child.
Aww he’s so adorable, your a amazing parent. ❤
As sombody who wasn't diagnosed untill 14 I love you and you are a perfect parent and this is amazing
I applaud u for letting ur child express himself how he does. I have a nephew that has Asperger's Syndrome. So i totally understand that they learn and explore different than other children. Ur a loving caring devoted Mother keep doing what u think is right and ignore the ignorant ppl. 😊
Just so you know aspergers is no longer a recognized diagnosis, the name actually come from hans asperger, a literal nazi scientist. Instead often when people say 'aspergers' they mean an autistic person who is some combination of high masking and having low support needs
hey just letting you know that asperger's does not exist anymore and is not a good term to use, asperger's actually is autism but obviously was removed as a diagnosis, and now patients are diagnosed with autism. it's not a good word to use for many reasons, the main one being it was a term created by a nazi doctor that ultimately separated and decided which autistic people were "better" and would not be killed. i'm a diagnosed autistic myself btw so no hate to you ❤️
Hey, I'm not trying to be rude, but aspergers is no longer a diagnostic term, and even if it was, it isn't a syndrome. The term in recent years has been called Autism Spectrum Disorder. Thank you - an autistic person who was belittled using misdiagnosed terms
@@theunofficialaccount7707was just gonna comment this lol.
@@UczuciaTM me too
It would be even better if you had 2 copies for some books so he can line the whole book all up at once. It's awesome to see you accepting him the way he wants to see things, and Im glad you listen to what he's requesting even without words.❤
I love that your doing that and the way he lerns
As some who grew up mentally challenged and in a strict household I love it when parent accept their child is not a normal person and they adapt and let them thrive
i love how you support your child’s needs 😊
I raised 2 autistic kids and have an autistic grandson. I want to tell you what an amazing job you're doing❤️ This obviously happy child will be a happy adult cuz of you😊❤
I like how you making these videos about your autism son because I also have autism people really don't understand me and it makes it difficult to communicate sometimes 😭 and when I was an in-person school I got bullied a lot for my autism but now I'm homeschooled everyone thinks it's cool and they hang out with me and they're starting to understand me more thank you so much for making these videos❤🎉😊
I am so happy that there are people that understand that everyone is different even autistic people. I am a autistic teen and it is so hard to get people to understand what I need we need more people like you
Your a great mom 😊
This is honestly refreshing and beautiful you are such a good mom
As a teen with ASD I wish more parents were like this, thank you stranger on RUclips shorts for being a good parent, I am subscribing
As a person with autism and ADHD I think this is so adorable you would do this for your child which is amazing ❤☺️
This is honestly the sweetest thing! Love this!
He might not be able to see the full story, but if this makes him happy, then theres not a damn thing wrong with it. Its much more important that hes enjoying the book! Love and respect all.
if they get duplicates then he could but yeah
Hellooooooo! I'm autistic too! I like taking apart things to see it's insides, Even books!
I love taking things apart to see how they work even though I'm not autistic
You're a really good mom keep up the good work
You should try adding velcro on the spine and paged so they can they in order until your son wants to read them
bro is reading the floor. respect.
Frr
😂
this is chill until it gets to someone else's books and he destroys them
That's why you teach them "our property and their property" and if he does get to someone else's book for some reason. Then it's her job to buy new ones
We need more people like you. I'm autistic and I've never had this growing up. Thank you wonderful person for informing people about this! ❤