Let's be really, really clear here: it's "not wanting to be sexually assaulted," which is what "touched inappropriately" is. Speaking as a member of the LGBT+ community, "Mike" is being a piece of crap, and trying to play the "gay card" to get out of trouble for his own disgusting behavior. CONSENT MATTERS, MIKE!
Agree. Reverse it a different way: straight guy groping a lesbian. A female of any orientation touching a friend of any orientation in an inappropriate way. If it made the person being touched uncomfortable, it doesn't mean anything other than they were uncomfortable being touched, and not to keep doing it.
I so badly feel the pain of the girlfriend in story 7. My biggest issue was me talking myself out of being excited about "childish" stuff based on prior treatment by family. While it might seem harsh to some people, that was exactly the type of statement my husband told me that caused me to really rethink who I should let influence my happiness. I hope the girlfriend gets some therapy and that op continues to support her.
Story 6: That turkey comment is gold! 😆 Story 14: OP (I can't decide about the AH) sounds like she would not give her children (or anyone else) any privacy in her house.
Story: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, and 14. In these stories the OPs are not the ah. Story 3- OP is doing a lot of work for the family, he need a break before he burn out. Story 10- OP should suggest couple therapy since the husband is not respecting OP boundry and treating her like a kid. Story 12- they got separted the ex is just jealouse someone ask her to dance and no one ask him. Story 8- could be seen as an ESH, but mostly NTA. The parent are more ah then OP. Since the parent did sided with their daughter cheating, OP staying with someone who was betray. Also, the parent saying OP should be the bigger person is bullshit, OP should continue going NC with the sister and LC with the parent and continue spending time with Brandon and his family.
Bringing baby EVERYWHERE story: NTA! And the coworker mother is nuts. Depending on the local laws, the baby may not even be allowed in the bar, you may want to check first. Some places anyone underage is simply not allowed, regardless of circumstance. Watching the baby more story: NAH! Everyone needs a break now and then, but it sounds like OP and his wife may be maxed out. Other than asking family to step in once a week (if available and willing), looking into some kind of childcare arrangement or possibly just switching some of the chores around on days off for a change of pace is about all I can come up with. Inappropriate touch story: NTA! No means no! That doesn't change just because of the sexual orientations of the people involved. Mike was inappropriately touching OP and OP told him to stop. There is nothing homophobic about that, it actually comes under the heading of sexual harassment. But it seems like Mike has lost his sense of boundaries and wants to blame that on "homophobia". Take that break OP, but Mike owes you a big apology. Herd mentality story: NTA! Sorry OP, but your gf is NEVER going to do anything without the approval of what her girlfriends think is right. Until she can grow a backbone, tell off her so-called friends and apologize to you, I'd say cut your losses. Three years is too long and you've been great to put up with her for as long as you have. Besides, a day at an amusement park is not cheap, two adult tickets plus food and NOT counting gas can be in excess of $100 (I'm talking Six Flags or equivalent, not Disney). I've been to steakhouses that are cheaper. And there's nothing wrong with having fun. Thanksgiving dinner story: NTA! Your family made the choice to support your sister when it seems clear she cheated on her husband. You've chosen not to support that and her. What really bothers your parents is that you've called them out on their hypocrisy. Live your life as you see fit OP.
story 14 is the only one where im not siding with OP. wanting to close the door when you're having an emotional moment is completely normal because if you don't feel completely comfortable with the other person, you're not gonna be able to process the emotions properly, you'll feel inhibited. I thought it was super childish of OP to just stand there and then argue about it's her house, like what. I think when it comes down to is that this person is not comfortable with their partner having a female best friend I don't think this would even be a thing if it was a male. but i could be wrong. just sounds like jealousy and insecurity. and if there is a jealousy and insecurity, it makes complete sense that the crime best friend would want to do it privately with their friends and not with their girlfriend. I think we get to choose who we want to cry in front of.
2:39 This is another example of parents needing to realize that once you have kids, sometimes you don’t get to do what other people do if you can’t get a sitter and the kids are young. You shouldn’t expect everyone else to accommodate you because of your choices.
Story 7: You get absolutely NONE of the time back that you spent conforming to other people's expectations of you. Some people need to learn that the hard way.
Story 3 that woman needs to get her butt in gear. Swaddle the baby put it on your back and get the chores done. Poor OP needs a break and a day to just sleep
Honestly she’s the asshole, I would KILL for that life. Literally. She does NOTHING. Watching your son is not a chore or job, it is mandatory and OP feeds him breakfast everyday, watches him on the weekends etc. She is lazy and demanding more free time?
story 9 - The sister and mother are MVPs. Op needs to get help. Op- how dare you tell me after i refuse to get help. I find it stupid people always go - your loved should have done xyz when they found it before it became severe, in the situations of 1 after get it becomes severe, 2 going into treatment after it get worse. it always the same no one can have supportive family. Op needed a come to jesus talk. That she was being stupid and reckless. When person is having vivid hallucinations multiple times get them help is more important than them feeling embarrassed. It was not some random people on the street. It was to the friends and family that wants the best for op.
Yeah....no. Making a joke out of it ISN'T being "an MVP." I agree OP absolutely needs to see a doctor, but that's NOT going to happen on the basis of someone MOCKING them and refusing to take it seriously THEMSELVES. And frankly, that is just not okay to even DO! That sister doesn't "want the best for OP," that sister wanted to make fun of OP like a bag of tiny Richards.
Shoes off during a flight? If your feet do not stink I do not see the problem when your in your seat and not putting your feet on anyone or things like seats arm rests ext.
The only problem is that some people don’t know that their feet stink. I went to school with a girl who came over for a sleepover. Even after swimming and also taking a shower, her feet were one of the worst smells I’ve ever smelled in my life. It took three days to get rid of the smell.
Last story: nta. Why move from the living room to a bedroom? Why close the door? Why yell? Projecting anger at someone when you're the one crossing a line is narcissistic crazy-making and awful.
25:40 Taking off your shoes on a plane is always bad form. If OP really didn’t want to wear their boots the entire time, they should have at least brought slippers for the plane
story 3: he should give her some sort of break from childcare-specific duties (but she should work with him so that whatever break she gets does NOT cut into their base amount of sleep. Both parents need as much of that as they can get.) in exchange for doing some of “OP’s portion” of the normal chores. Clean a bathroom, throw out expired food, make a meal, do one or two chores that can fit into that break from the kiddo but still leave you with 30-60 mins of relatively free time. I was ready to vote when OP phrased it as “when all she has to do it take care of our Child”, but I checked myself as OP seemed to acknowledge that the primary caregiver position is more nerve-wracking and all-consuming than they were making it sound. it’s not a potentially paralyzing, suffocating, crippling responsibility. Like it’s just a “job.” It’s not. It’s a life, quite literally a new life that feels like 1,000,000% your responsibility, and even those few that feel competent and confident in their ability to raise an infant can begin to buckle under the weight of that. She shouldn’t just give OP a portion of that responsibility for nothing, all of the household chore yes, are work, but they aren’t the same kind of work. She could start a washing machine, put away dishes, veg out with a phone, then throw something simple and frozen into the oven, put clothes in the dryer, and veg some more until the alarm sounds to take out lunch. It’s not a total break, but while I was left as the sole-caregiver of a child (not my own-let’s just say my roommates were awful people) I never had the luxury of feeling like if I made a mistake lunch would be a little crispy, or someone would have to make a last second wardrobe adjustment. The stresses of all of those chores are nothing compared to the stress of “I’m gonna break the baby”.
I'm gay. 100%. I would never touch someone against their own will. That is assault. OP was not being homophobic. Definitely not homophobic. As far as the other story, maybe OP should have handled it better. But I wouldn't want to be at a family event where I was judged that way. I have a partner. Religion has driven wedges in my own family.
story 13: op is definitely the jerk. i wouldnt be comfortable if someone took their shoes off on a flight like that either. doesnt matter if the feet are stinky or not
Footwear story - It's usually recommended to wear shoes during a flight for safety reasons. Also, once you take your shoes off during a flight, your feet tend to swell, making it difficult to put footwear back on.
Interesting. I had some shoes I wore that made my feet completely unbearably painful. They were okay in the terminal but then extremely painful on the plane… so I believe the feet swelling story. I had to untie my shoe and pull them out partially to relieve the pain with some ibuprofen.
8:52 Story 5. Not homophobic. I’m gay and I’ve had gay friends touch me inappropriately and unwanted. Some guys are just jerks - straight or guy. I’m guessing (and hoping) that the friend was just really drunk and it’s a one time thing and not something he’d ordinarily do. That’s no excuse by any means, but I think we’ve all done something while drunk that we regret and/or barely remember
As a SAHM, story #3 is disgusting. I would dream of ONLY having to watch the kid! The breadwinner is also the home maker? Maybe if she wanted to hire a babysitter one night a week to spend time with her husband, but no, it's just for her - clearly, that's where her priorities are! Babies sleep most of the time. How much more time could she possibly need for herself? Sorry, that one irks me!
Torn on that last one. On one hand, we only have OP's word that bf is a "boundary stomper" and OP is obvs biased. On the other, we've seen enough of these "opposite gender bf secretly has feelings for the spouse" stories to know how this one ends.
I get it and hey maybe there is something there. But they were obviously crying and sobbing. If op was truly concerned she could have waited outside the door and tried to hear if the sounds changed if you will.
Simply put, seeing your man comfort another woman can bring a tinge of jealousy in every relationship. I don't think she's an AH, but her man needs to recognize the situation and give his wife some attention afterward to reassure her and remove all this doubt.
Cheating story: sounds to me like Storytime supports cheating. How can you say this isn’t the kind of thing that is worth tearing a family over. Anyone that cheats is a horrible, selfish person that thinks only of themselves and their desires in the moment and disregard how their actions could and most likely will destroy the lives of those around them. And then to basically say, oh get over it, it’s not a big deal. That is one of the most ignorant, clueless opinions I’ve ever heard.
3 YTA so strongly. Calling her taking care of the child all day 5% of the household responsibility is so massively disrespectful and oblivious honestly. Having an honest discussion about asking her to pick up more of the chores sometimes is as far as OP can go without being the a-hole. The audacity to not realize how difficult regular childcare is. 7 NTA but her calling him an awful man and him calling her people a bunch of jerks is poor communication and could have been more tactful.
I think the implication in Story 3 was that he does 95% of the OTHER house work, not that the child was 5% of the total work load. That seems to be the general consensus of interpretation, especially since, while working nights, doing the majority of the laundry, dishes and cooking, he still seemed to think that it might be comparable enough to watching a single child all day to wonder if he is the a-hole for not wanting to give up his only time to sleep.
You know what else is massively disrespectful? Expecting someone to interrupt their sleep period and impair their own health just because YOU don't think it matters and "want breaks throughout the day." How grumpy would YOU be if somebody came and woke you up every hour throughout the night? Sleep is VITAL to health. She can suck it up on the childcare and let him get his eight hours of sleep, since he's the one bringing in the paychecks and therefore is being paid by SOMEONE ELSE to stay awake all night. SHE can take naps with the kid. Babies sleep A LOT. Growing is hard work, after all.
"Bugs" story: NTA! But there's a lesson here as well. If you want to keep information confidential, don't tell people you don't want spreading it about, not even family. On the other hand, you may need to talk to a professional to find out what's going on with this and how to cope with it. Talk to your doctor first to eliminate any medical reasons and he/she can suggest further treatment options Not seeing mother story: Absolutely NTA! While OP didn't say so explicitly it's fairly obvious that something happened to have the children taken from their mother (OP's sister) and to lose/give up parental rights. This is not a small thing and the children are in therapy for it. She also hasn't had contact for 4 years. That's a very long period for kids at the age it began at. Talk to the social worker(s) about how you are being pressured and if the kids would be harmed by going no/low contact with the family over this and maybe ask the kids how they feel about that as well. You need to do what's in their best interest. Shoes off on flight story: NTA! But why would you want shoes that are too uncomfortable to wear for a couple of hours? Style? Seems a silly reason to me. Wouldn't the concert be about as long and just as uncomfortable? Dog cancer story: NTA! I have to agree with OP. Why couldn't he give her a shoulder to cry on, on the living room sofa? Why did they NEED the privacy of a bedroom with the door closed and whose idea was it? And with the friend's and her husband's history and how she acts, I'd be more than a little suspicious as well.
It's so funny that these 2 gay stories were back-to-back. And after the 2nd story you're confused as the why people may be so called what you consider Hom a phobic which is a term that's thrown around way too much. But in the 1st story someone crossed a boundary and touched another person inappropriately despite them saying please don't touch me . Maybe that's why people have a problem with it I'm just saying. As far as religion yes in the Muslim community not in America you'll be thrown off of a rooftop. Christianity there's a lot of sexual immorality that is sinful being gay In itself isn't a sin it's the sexual immorality of homosexual sexual sexual sex that is a sin but so is sex before marriage. I remember when don't ask don't tell got repealed and a guy that I served with Started being so abrasive so forceful and so awkward In the way that he brought his gay sex partners into every single conversation even if we were talking about something completely not related like the sky is blue today. And then call people homophobic when they would be uncomfortable around him. Mentally healthy individuals don't talk about their sex life like this Regardless of what sex the person is that they typically engage in this fact with
What is wrong with you? Straight people talk about sex and their sex lives all the time. They’ll even announce that they’re “trying for a baby” in front of the whole family which is just a nicer way of saying “we’re actively having unprotected sex and looking for results.” Yes there are awful gay people, but they’re not awful because they’re gay. There’s just awful people of all sexual orientations. Get out of here with this homophobic attitude and at least try to be a better person because right now YTA.
I absolutely get what you're saying. I come from a largely religious country culture mostly Christian but with a sizeable Muslim and Hindi community adding to a bit under forty percent of us. The LGBT are hated around these parts and it sometimes feels too much when they're brought up or are around. But remember, if they're talking about their SOs it's just as much bringing up their "sexual partners" as it is when we do it about our husbands and wives. Looking at it that way would help not feel so affronted by them.
@availanila I'm not affronted. I'm pointing out how intentionally offensive someone was. He wasn't casually mentioning his SO. he was intentionally inserting a comment about gat sex. It was misplaced, awkward, and unnecessary.
@@fletcher0411 yeah, that is weird. In my culture it's the height of disrespectful crassness to talk sexually about your SO so not even gay people do things like that (at least not in any mixed groups I've found myself in).
The story about OPs partner wanting more time away from their child, OP is a huge AH, she deserves a break from their child just because she is a SAHM, doesn't mean she doesn't need to have a break from the child, she is home 24/7, and other than when OP watches the child after he comes home she is with the child all the time, where OP gets to leave the house whenever he goes to work, doing chores is something everyone should be doing, it's not his partners fault OP is letting her not do chores that is OPs fault and something they need to talk about
Op does pretty much all the chores, works, and still does some of the child care. When does OP get a break because it sees like the SAHM has it way too easy.
....and you'd be pissy, too, if somebody expected you to wake up in the middle of the night just because they felt like taking a break. It's not reasonable, what the wife is asking for; it's a health hazard. She can take naps with the baby if she's that tired, or hire a sitter once in a while. Otherwise, well, sorry, SHE also chose to have a baby, and that's her ONLY responsibility--and she gets breaks on the weekends, like every other person who works.
Story 8- YTA in so many ways. Good for them. Op has no right to shame them for not disowning thier daughter. They can't a F***ing 27 year old and it's not thier responsibility to. He dose owe her an apology for TRYING TO GET HER DISOWNED BY THEIR PARENTS FOR 2 YEARS. Jesus not only believed in forgiveness. But help sinners to become better people. I.E 1 to paraphrase he was friend to all sinners. also Love the sinner but hate the sin.
Atheist here to say nah. I don't care that Jesus and Gandi would forgive them. I don't mess with cheaters. I have cut off friends and family for this thing. If you don't fit basic human morals. Here's the door 🚪.
nah last op was insecure af & it shows, ofc the best friend of 8 years know them better, they wanted to show dominance in front of her when she was most vulnerable, her husband needs to run run run
Not wanting to be touched by another person, its not homophobia. Its "not wanting to be touched by someone you don't want touching you"
Absolutely. Physical contact needs to be a consensual activity.
I have autism and most days I don’t want to be touched at all except for my wife
Let's be really, really clear here: it's "not wanting to be sexually assaulted," which is what "touched inappropriately" is. Speaking as a member of the LGBT+ community, "Mike" is being a piece of crap, and trying to play the "gay card" to get out of trouble for his own disgusting behavior. CONSENT MATTERS, MIKE!
Agree. Reverse it a different way: straight guy groping a lesbian. A female of any orientation touching a friend of any orientation in an inappropriate way.
If it made the person being touched uncomfortable, it doesn't mean anything other than they were uncomfortable being touched, and not to keep doing it.
I so badly feel the pain of the girlfriend in story 7. My biggest issue was me talking myself out of being excited about "childish" stuff based on prior treatment by family. While it might seem harsh to some people, that was exactly the type of statement my husband told me that caused me to really rethink who I should let influence my happiness. I hope the girlfriend gets some therapy and that op continues to support her.
Story 6: That turkey comment is gold! 😆
Story 14: OP (I can't decide about the AH) sounds like she would not give her children (or anyone else) any privacy in her house.
Story 9: NTA, but OP *really* needs to see a doctor. That sounds like the textbook beginnings of schizophrenia.
10:43 I actually love how OP reacted. Now the sister in law, that’s being homophobic
Story: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, and 14. In these stories the OPs are not the ah. Story 3- OP is doing a lot of work for the family, he need a break before he burn out. Story 10- OP should suggest couple therapy since the husband is not respecting OP boundry and treating her like a kid. Story 12- they got separted the ex is just jealouse someone ask her to dance and no one ask him.
Story 8- could be seen as an ESH, but mostly NTA. The parent are more ah then OP. Since the parent did sided with their daughter cheating, OP staying with someone who was betray. Also, the parent saying OP should be the bigger person is bullshit, OP should continue going NC with the sister and LC with the parent and continue spending time with Brandon and his family.
Bringing baby EVERYWHERE story: NTA! And the coworker mother is nuts. Depending on the local laws, the baby may not even be allowed in the bar, you may want to check first. Some places anyone underage is simply not allowed, regardless of circumstance.
Watching the baby more story: NAH! Everyone needs a break now and then, but it sounds like OP and his wife may be maxed out. Other than asking family to step in once a week (if available and willing), looking into some kind of childcare arrangement or possibly just switching some of the chores around on days off for a change of pace is about all I can come up with.
Inappropriate touch story: NTA! No means no! That doesn't change just because of the sexual orientations of the people involved. Mike was inappropriately touching OP and OP told him to stop. There is nothing homophobic about that, it actually comes under the heading of sexual harassment. But it seems like Mike has lost his sense of boundaries and wants to blame that on "homophobia". Take that break OP, but Mike owes you a big apology.
Herd mentality story: NTA! Sorry OP, but your gf is NEVER going to do anything without the approval of what her girlfriends think is right. Until she can grow a backbone, tell off her so-called friends and apologize to you, I'd say cut your losses. Three years is too long and you've been great to put up with her for as long as you have. Besides, a day at an amusement park is not cheap, two adult tickets plus food and NOT counting gas can be in excess of $100 (I'm talking Six Flags or equivalent, not Disney). I've been to steakhouses that are cheaper. And there's nothing wrong with having fun.
Thanksgiving dinner story: NTA! Your family made the choice to support your sister when it seems clear she cheated on her husband. You've chosen not to support that and her. What really bothers your parents is that you've called them out on their hypocrisy. Live your life as you see fit OP.
story 14 is the only one where im not siding with OP. wanting to close the door when you're having an emotional moment is completely normal because if you don't feel completely comfortable with the other person, you're not gonna be able to process the emotions properly, you'll feel inhibited.
I thought it was super childish of OP to just stand there and then argue about it's her house, like what.
I think when it comes down to is that this person is not comfortable with their partner having a female best friend I don't think this would even be a thing if it was a male. but i could be wrong. just sounds like jealousy and insecurity.
and if there is a jealousy and insecurity, it makes complete sense that the crime best friend would want to do it privately with their friends and not with their girlfriend. I think we get to choose who we want to cry in front of.
2:39 This is another example of parents needing to realize that once you have kids, sometimes you don’t get to do what other people do if you can’t get a sitter and the kids are young. You shouldn’t expect everyone else to accommodate you because of your choices.
Girl that sees bugs. It's a sleep disorder. The same thing happens to me bugs and all.
Story 7: You get absolutely NONE of the time back that you spent conforming to other people's expectations of you. Some people need to learn that the hard way.
Story 3 that woman needs to get her butt in gear. Swaddle the baby put it on your back and get the chores done.
Poor OP needs a break and a day to just sleep
Honestly she’s the asshole, I would KILL for that life. Literally. She does NOTHING. Watching your son is not a chore or job, it is mandatory and OP feeds him breakfast everyday, watches him on the weekends etc. She is lazy and demanding more free time?
story 9 - The sister and mother are MVPs. Op needs to get help. Op- how dare you tell me after i refuse to get help. I find it stupid people always go - your loved should have done xyz when they found it before it became severe, in the situations of 1 after get it becomes severe, 2 going into treatment after it get worse. it always the same no one can have supportive family. Op needed a come to jesus talk. That she was being stupid and reckless. When person is having vivid hallucinations multiple times get them help is more important than them feeling embarrassed. It was not some random people on the street. It was to the friends and family that wants the best for op.
Yeah....no. Making a joke out of it ISN'T being "an MVP." I agree OP absolutely needs to see a doctor, but that's NOT going to happen on the basis of someone MOCKING them and refusing to take it seriously THEMSELVES. And frankly, that is just not okay to even DO! That sister doesn't "want the best for OP," that sister wanted to make fun of OP like a bag of tiny Richards.
@@BullerSmithWedding2024 That's called we are getting tried of your crap. Op was mad her attention seeking and excuses got annoying.
Shoes off during a flight? If your feet do not stink I do not see the problem when your in your seat and not putting your feet on anyone or things like seats arm rests ext.
The only problem is that some people don’t know that their feet stink.
I went to school with a girl who came over for a sleepover. Even after swimming and also taking a shower, her feet were one of the worst smells I’ve ever smelled in my life. It took three days to get rid of the smell.
Last story: nta. Why move from the living room to a bedroom? Why close the door? Why yell? Projecting anger at someone when you're the one crossing a line is narcissistic crazy-making and awful.
25:40 Taking off your shoes on a plane is always bad form. If OP really didn’t want to wear their boots the entire time, they should have at least brought slippers for the plane
story 3: he should give her some sort of break from childcare-specific duties (but she should work with him so that whatever break she gets does NOT cut into their base amount of sleep. Both parents need as much of that as they can get.) in exchange for doing some of “OP’s portion” of the normal chores. Clean a bathroom, throw out expired food, make a meal, do one or two chores that can fit into that break from the kiddo but still leave you with 30-60 mins of relatively free time.
I was ready to vote when OP phrased it as “when all she has to do it take care of our Child”, but I checked myself as OP seemed to acknowledge that the primary caregiver position is more nerve-wracking and all-consuming than they were making it sound.
it’s not a potentially paralyzing, suffocating, crippling responsibility. Like it’s just a “job.”
It’s not. It’s a life, quite literally a new life that feels like 1,000,000% your responsibility, and even those few that feel competent and confident in their ability to raise an infant can begin to buckle under the weight of that. She shouldn’t just give OP a portion of that responsibility for nothing, all of the household chore yes, are work, but they aren’t the same kind of work. She could start a washing machine, put away dishes, veg out with a phone, then throw something simple and frozen into the oven, put clothes in the dryer, and veg some more until the alarm sounds to take out lunch. It’s not a total break, but while I was left as the sole-caregiver of a child (not my own-let’s just say my roommates were awful people) I never had the luxury of feeling like if I made a mistake lunch would be a little crispy, or someone would have to make a last second wardrobe adjustment. The stresses of all of those chores are nothing compared to the stress of “I’m gonna break the baby”.
I'm gay. 100%. I would never touch someone against their own will. That is assault. OP was not being homophobic. Definitely not homophobic.
As far as the other story, maybe OP should have handled it better. But I wouldn't want to be at a family event where I was judged that way. I have a partner. Religion has driven wedges in my own family.
Story 13: I take my shoes off during flights, as long as they don't smell I don't see a problem.
story 13: op is definitely the jerk. i wouldnt be comfortable if someone took their shoes off on a flight like that either. doesnt matter if the feet are stinky or not
Footwear story - It's usually recommended to wear shoes during a flight for safety reasons. Also, once you take your shoes off during a flight, your feet tend to swell, making it difficult to put footwear back on.
Interesting. I had some shoes I wore that made my feet completely unbearably painful. They were okay in the terminal but then extremely painful on the plane… so I believe the feet swelling story. I had to untie my shoe and pull them out partially to relieve the pain with some ibuprofen.
8:52 Story 5. Not homophobic. I’m gay and I’ve had gay friends touch me inappropriately and unwanted. Some guys are just jerks - straight or guy. I’m guessing (and hoping) that the friend was just really drunk and it’s a one time thing and not something he’d ordinarily do. That’s no excuse by any means, but I think we’ve all done something while drunk that we regret and/or barely remember
12:34 This chick can’t even think for herself. She needs therapy, not a boyfriend
As a SAHM, story #3 is disgusting. I would dream of ONLY having to watch the kid! The breadwinner is also the home maker? Maybe if she wanted to hire a babysitter one night a week to spend time with her husband, but no, it's just for her - clearly, that's where her priorities are! Babies sleep most of the time. How much more time could she possibly need for herself? Sorry, that one irks me!
Torn on that last one. On one hand, we only have OP's word that bf is a "boundary stomper" and OP is obvs biased. On the other, we've seen enough of these "opposite gender bf secretly has feelings for the spouse" stories to know how this one ends.
I get it and hey maybe there is something there. But they were obviously crying and sobbing. If op was truly concerned she could have waited outside the door and tried to hear if the sounds changed if you will.
I wish I could find someone who would love to take me to an amusement park I would love doing that as a date
Story 7 I dumped a friend for treating me like that. I'd abandon a gf that treated me like that.
Last story your man may have had a thing with sead fd in the past and was going to try to hook up again with her that day.
They were in a room, hugging and crying. You really think anyone’s dumb enough to hookup with a close friend while their wife is in the house?
Simply put, seeing your man comfort another woman can bring a tinge of jealousy in every relationship.
I don't think she's an AH, but her man needs to recognize the situation and give his wife some attention afterward to reassure her and remove all this doubt.
@@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Catit happens 🤷🏼♀️
28:05 Would OP have done the same had it been a guy friend?
Cheating story: sounds to me like Storytime supports cheating. How can you say this isn’t the kind of thing that is worth tearing a family over. Anyone that cheats is a horrible, selfish person that thinks only of themselves and their desires in the moment and disregard how their actions could and most likely will destroy the lives of those around them. And then to basically say, oh get over it, it’s not a big deal. That is one of the most ignorant, clueless opinions I’ve ever heard.
Marriages don't always last. OP wanting parents to choose him or sister is childish and should seek therapy.
3 YTA so strongly. Calling her taking care of the child all day 5% of the household responsibility is so massively disrespectful and oblivious honestly. Having an honest discussion about asking her to pick up more of the chores sometimes is as far as OP can go without being the a-hole. The audacity to not realize how difficult regular childcare is.
7 NTA but her calling him an awful man and him calling her people a bunch of jerks is poor communication and could have been more tactful.
I think the implication in Story 3 was that he does 95% of the OTHER house work, not that the child was 5% of the total work load.
That seems to be the general consensus of interpretation, especially since, while working nights, doing the majority of the laundry, dishes and cooking, he still seemed to think that it might be comparable enough to watching a single child all day to wonder if he is the a-hole for not wanting to give up his only time to sleep.
You know what else is massively disrespectful? Expecting someone to interrupt their sleep period and impair their own health just because YOU don't think it matters and "want breaks throughout the day." How grumpy would YOU be if somebody came and woke you up every hour throughout the night? Sleep is VITAL to health. She can suck it up on the childcare and let him get his eight hours of sleep, since he's the one bringing in the paychecks and therefore is being paid by SOMEONE ELSE to stay awake all night. SHE can take naps with the kid. Babies sleep A LOT. Growing is hard work, after all.
for the story 8, i think he is the jerk, he sounds so childish!
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"Bugs" story: NTA! But there's a lesson here as well. If you want to keep information confidential, don't tell people you don't want spreading it about, not even family. On the other hand, you may need to talk to a professional to find out what's going on with this and how to cope with it. Talk to your doctor first to eliminate any medical reasons and he/she can suggest further treatment options
Not seeing mother story: Absolutely NTA! While OP didn't say so explicitly it's fairly obvious that something happened to have the children taken from their mother (OP's sister) and to lose/give up parental rights. This is not a small thing and the children are in therapy for it. She also hasn't had contact for 4 years. That's a very long period for kids at the age it began at. Talk to the social worker(s) about how you are being pressured and if the kids would be harmed by going no/low contact with the family over this and maybe ask the kids how they feel about that as well. You need to do what's in their best interest.
Shoes off on flight story: NTA! But why would you want shoes that are too uncomfortable to wear for a couple of hours? Style? Seems a silly reason to me. Wouldn't the concert be about as long and just as uncomfortable?
Dog cancer story: NTA! I have to agree with OP. Why couldn't he give her a shoulder to cry on, on the living room sofa? Why did they NEED the privacy of a bedroom with the door closed and whose idea was it? And with the friend's and her husband's history and how she acts, I'd be more than a little suspicious as well.
Story 5: ruclips.net/video/BijqEg7q6oI/видео.html
It's so funny that these 2 gay stories were back-to-back. And after the 2nd story you're confused as the why people may be so called what you consider Hom a phobic which is a term that's thrown around way too much. But in the 1st story someone crossed a boundary and touched another person inappropriately despite them saying please don't touch me . Maybe that's why people have a problem with it I'm just saying. As far as religion yes in the Muslim community not in America you'll be thrown off of a rooftop. Christianity there's a lot of sexual immorality that is sinful being gay In itself isn't a sin it's the sexual immorality of homosexual sexual sexual sex that is a sin but so is sex before marriage.
I remember when don't ask don't tell got repealed and a guy that I served with Started being so abrasive so forceful and so awkward In the way that he brought his gay sex partners into every single conversation even if we were talking about something completely not related like the sky is blue today. And then call people homophobic when they would be uncomfortable around him. Mentally healthy individuals don't talk about their sex life like this Regardless of what sex the person is that they typically engage in this fact with
What is wrong with you? Straight people talk about sex and their sex lives all the time. They’ll even announce that they’re “trying for a baby” in front of the whole family which is just a nicer way of saying “we’re actively having unprotected sex and looking for results.” Yes there are awful gay people, but they’re not awful because they’re gay. There’s just awful people of all sexual orientations.
Get out of here with this homophobic attitude and at least try to be a better person because right now YTA.
I absolutely get what you're saying. I come from a largely religious country culture mostly Christian but with a sizeable Muslim and Hindi community adding to a bit under forty percent of us.
The LGBT are hated around these parts and it sometimes feels too much when they're brought up or are around. But remember, if they're talking about their SOs it's just as much bringing up their "sexual partners" as it is when we do it about our husbands and wives. Looking at it that way would help not feel so affronted by them.
@availanila I'm not affronted. I'm pointing out how intentionally offensive someone was. He wasn't casually mentioning his SO. he was intentionally inserting a comment about gat sex. It was misplaced, awkward, and unnecessary.
@@fletcher0411 yeah, that is weird. In my culture it's the height of disrespectful crassness to talk sexually about your SO so not even gay people do things like that (at least not in any mixed groups I've found myself in).
@@availanila I agree, I don't care what kind of sexual content it is, I don't want to hear about it
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The story about OPs partner wanting more time away from their child, OP is a huge AH, she deserves a break from their child just because she is a SAHM, doesn't mean she doesn't need to have a break from the child, she is home 24/7, and other than when OP watches the child after he comes home she is with the child all the time, where OP gets to leave the house whenever he goes to work, doing chores is something everyone should be doing, it's not his partners fault OP is letting her not do chores that is OPs fault and something they need to talk about
Op does pretty much all the chores, works, and still does some of the child care. When does OP get a break because it sees like the SAHM has it way too easy.
....and you'd be pissy, too, if somebody expected you to wake up in the middle of the night just because they felt like taking a break. It's not reasonable, what the wife is asking for; it's a health hazard. She can take naps with the baby if she's that tired, or hire a sitter once in a while. Otherwise, well, sorry, SHE also chose to have a baby, and that's her ONLY responsibility--and she gets breaks on the weekends, like every other person who works.
Story 8- YTA in so many ways. Good for them. Op has no right to shame them for not disowning thier daughter. They can't a F***ing 27 year old and it's not thier responsibility to. He dose owe her an apology for TRYING TO GET HER DISOWNED BY THEIR PARENTS FOR 2 YEARS. Jesus not only believed in forgiveness. But help sinners to become better people. I.E 1 to paraphrase he was friend to all sinners. also Love the sinner but hate the sin.
Atheist here to say nah. I don't care that Jesus and Gandi would forgive them. I don't mess with cheaters. I have cut off friends and family for this thing. If you don't fit basic human morals. Here's the door 🚪.
@@Slifer-yq8ep But Op literally tied to use religion to justify his actions.
nah last op was insecure af & it shows, ofc the best friend of 8 years know them better, they wanted to show dominance in front of her when she was most vulnerable, her husband needs to run run run