Hey there! Just wanted to drop by and say a big thank you for your awesome videos and the important topics you cover. As a native Russian speaker and a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I've been learning the language through your videos, and I must say, the sound quality and your diction are top-notch. You're doing an amazing job! You are awesome ❤️🔥👍
the more Cammie is talking, the more i find myself in her words. it is very exciting to see that i'm not alone in this. thank you for a great episode! this one will be one of my favorites
it always amazes me how much Cam grew in front of our eyes and with us - not with me tho, i'm 20, but you get the point lol. i'm glad she goes on pods and has her own with Tar, such beautiful and smart thoughts that need to be heard
This is by far the best episode. I can relate to Cammie on everything she has experienced. I am now realizing of what I might be going through. It such a relieve to know that I am not alone on this, that a lot of women are going through this and sometimes is so hard just to externalize our struggles. Thank you for talking about this.
TARYN HERE. CAMDEN ARNOLD SCOTT HAS LIED TO YOU ALL ABOUT THE FREQUENCY OF WHICH I USE TALK TO TEXT. it's like once in a fkn bluuuuue moon. regardless. proud of both of you for talking this out live
I recently discovered i was bi but my environment is very traditional so i can't really come out to anybody , your channel is one of the few places that give me hope and remind me that people who love for who you are unconditionally still exist keep up the good work and I hope your message of acceptance spreads like 🔥🔥🔥
Cammie Scott is indeed one of the OG femme representations on YT! I was weirdly excited for this episode and it did not disappoint. Excellent points on how daughters are made to specifically suppress and minimize their emotions and be the “easy going, responsible child” ugh. Also love her awareness in how she coped with her childhood environment of not being allowed to speak her truth/share her emotions which led to toxic codependent relationships. Brava!
Related so much to this. Always the listener, the comforter, putting others at ease. However if I'm going through something I disappear, I isolate, I don't ever want to burden others w my issues. Anyways, Cammie, you and Shannon's youtube together was so important for lesbians everywhere. Thank you for leading the way and continuing to be the representation we need w your wife Tar! Also thank you Mal for starting this podcast, I caught up on all the episodes this past weekend and it was incredible. Ive been recommending it to others. Also so important for late in life lesbians or bi women just starting to explore things w women, not that that's me because it isnt but know women struggling so have been sharing this w them. Thank you!
@10:10 such a true statement. @16:08 Cammie talking about 'her role' in a friendship after mentioning playing a role in her family. I so relate. Especially with friends growing up, I never wanted to burden them, but best believe I was always the sounding board from them. Which I didn't mind, but realizing after the fact that there should have been a better balance.
Just wanna say thanks to Cammie. Found you and Shan in 2014 on Tumblr when I was figuring it all out and you both helped me SO much. Seeing how happy y’all were made me think, “I can’t not find that person for me.” I met my wife mid 2015 and we’ll be married 4 years this July. I even wrote you both a letter but I never sent it because I was too scared (still trying to work up the courage to send it). Thanks for everything you’ve done for us.
@@CammieScott omg I would love to! 🥹 just lemme know where I can dm it over! Tried to find dms on here but didn’t see an option so my b if I missed it.
OMG CAMMIEEEEEEEE!!!!! I relate to you with the sudden random bouts of sadness and feeling insecure and emotional. I find it's either my time of the month or coz I'm trying to process trauma I've been through, but it is SO exhausting. And I've just got to this part of my life where I'm feeling more settled and like I can allow myself finally the chance to heal and get in touch with my identity. I've been stuck living with my mum and two sisters since the pandemic and it's been HELL, not because I don't love my family and they haven't protected me, but because I just cannot be myself completely when I'm around them and I keep having to hold in emotions and be on guard, especially with my mum who's overly protective. And I always have needed my own space to just declutter my brain. I'm hoping to be able to attract my first healthy relationship with a woman but I know and am grateful for this opportunity to get to know myself by living independently for the first time. I think I know - being quite spiritual myself - why you felt like it wouldn't be bad thing if you died. I've had these thoughts as well, and I don't want to die but I see it as my higher self taking over in that moment and understanding that death isn't the end and that I'd be safe no matter what happens. So I think you could actually see it as a positive realisation instead of a scary one. It's not like you were thinking "how can I off myself"; you were thinking "would it be so bad even if I was going to die?" Perhaps that was your coping mechanism, dealing with the stress of the pandemic. Detaching yourself from fear of death. That's how I would be. I would be like "well, I guess that's the way it is, and death is just another adventure". When you said about noticing lots of different energies inside you instead of just one, I recognised that bit. Basically some of us end up channeling a lot of spiritual entities at once. So you were probably finding at a young age that your own identity was being overwhelmed and taken over by these other identities you had absorbed. Maybe you channel a distant family member who died? Best look into that. I hope you are well, Cammie. You've been that guiding light for me in understanding my sexual identity ever since before I came out in 2015. Thank you.
When I discovered lesbian RUclipsrs back in the early 2010s it gave high school me so much hope! There was so much performative bisexuality (specifically the straight girls who kissed other girls for male validation- not actual bisexuals) around me and in the media in the 2000s and it always made me feel like my hopes of being in a monogamous relationship with another femme woman were invalid and could never become a reality. I just kept seeing women end up with men so I dreaded having to marry a man just because it felt like what was expected of me. Seeing that femme lesbians like myself actually existed and that we don’t have to change who we are to conform to societal standards was a revelation. Cammie, thank you for being one of the OGs who pioneered this representation on the internet. You are beautiful inside and out!!
8:19 maybe worries seem to feel heavier as a kids because kids feel more helpless whenever they are faced with a situation they cannot find a solution to because of age limit, but as adults there are more ways and solutions for worries and it feels maybe more in control
I really resonate with this episode. The universe’s timing is incredible. I just asked for help yesterday, and I’m going to start counseling through my university soon.
Omg, i can relate to all of this!! I've never heard someone says these things out loud but they are so true to me too. Thank you so much for this podcast, this is incredible!
@@MadeItOutPodcast It gives me joy watching each episodes of your show and knowing that each individual person you interview,we are here and we relate to their stories.And also it gives support to lot of young people to know that they are not alone.There are thousands of LGBT+ sisters and brothers who went through or still going through the same thing with they family or the community. But watching inspiring show like yours each episode give hope to someone watching from all over the world that if Mal Made it out,I can also Made it out.Being a Rainbow child it not easy but we are Proud of who we are and walking on the road i walk with Pride coz I'm proud of who I am and we are special.So thank you for a lovely show.I like told lot of my friends also to watch this amazing show each episode is with being watched never to miss it funny, hilarious and inspiring. By the way I watch from all the way from 🇿🇦🇿🇦.
Great conversation. Cammie so brave and lovely thank you for being so honest and open. Mal has a HUGE career ahead of her, what a natural, and gifted interviewer. Big talent right there. Thank you ladies x
Okay this has to be my favorite episode so far. I love the fact you'll laugh so much. Got to have a little fun. So much of this episode is me. I can remember from a young age being The peacemaker in my family. And I just realized I still am that person. Holy shit. Also the whole emotion thing. My father would tell me we don't cry. I think I learned in internalized emotion at a very young age. I believe I might need the whole third floor of therapist to fix this shit. 😂. As always thanks for taking us along for the ride.
i’m a little over halfway through the episode and i just wanna say thank you so much for having this. coincidentally, your episodes always aline with what what im going through at the time. it helps more than i can put to words, knowing that someone out there feels or has felt the same way and can make it through. thank you so so much
This podcast and especially this episode with Cammie is making me look into therapy. It was never on my radar, but I'm realizing certain things in my life need to be hashed out. That's why I love the internet, cause this would have never come up in my everyday life. @26:34 Cammie talks about her PMDD. Didn't know what this was until this morning. I'm reading the symptoms and there maybe some things that are making sense to me now. Thank You Made It Out pod/Mal and company. I keep saying this with every episode, but y'all have made such a big impact in such a short time. 👍
It's a struggle to realize that okay, I need something more than a hike or gym time. Realizing that you might need meds to help bring you back from the brink is not easy to admit to yourself. I, as a now 45 yr old woman, have finally decided that I was tired of keeping my head above water just enough to catch a decent breath. I finally got depression meds. And I didn't take them for almost 6 months because I was scared. Finally, I took them because my mental health was a lot scarier than those pills seemed. Best decision, I've made it. It's not a cure, but it has helped me to open that door back up. I have a lot of years to make up for. I wish you both well on your journey .
What a mind-blowing episode, to hear someone explain that the reason they suppressed their emotions as a kid was because their role in the family was to be the good kid / the easy kid, and then carrying that into adulthood. And about being a great friend who supports people through all these really deep moments while guarding my own thoughts and interests like state secrets for NO reason. I don't really feel like it causes me distress, but it is VERY interesting to realize that shutting down my emotions so that even I don't feel them doesn't just trace back to wanting to distance myself from the drama aorund me as a kid, but also this self-image I developed where being the calm at the center of the storm is the expectation I've placed on myself. I can't be the needy friend; I'm the calm friend. I can't be the sibling who needs to borrow money; I'm the responsible one. I can't be the co-worker who asks or help; I'm the one offering help. It's really interesting because I've actually shifted some of these thought patterns over the last year because the culture on my team at work is so good, and I've had an awareness that it's because there is an explicit expectation to speak up, share information, debate options, get second opinions to learn from each other, etc. So now with this context of how I view my role in the world, it makes sense that I am able to form stronger opinions and articulate them, since it's essentially a job requirement. Just like I never drove over the speed limit (it's my job to obey the law!) until I realized that it can be dangerous to go slower than the flow of traffic (it's my job to be a safe driver!). So now that I understand myself better, what will I do with this new self-awareness? (Honestly, probably nothing, but at least now I can laugh to myself when I wonder, "Why are you like this?").
This is definitely one of my favorite episodes. It's so relatable. Mental health is an important aspect of our health, whether we all realize it or not. Often, we try to go at it alone, because we think we can handle it ourselves. However, finding support does not need to be as hard as we often make it to be. Thank for this episode, from the bottom of my heart.
This one caught me hard. Even tho Im not in a relationship, I'm in a state of mind and being that I feel secure and happy and whole again.... and I've been dealing with this emotional trauma for a while, that caught me off guard. I was wondering the same things, why now? I feel okay I feel Im on the right track I feel happy with myself and what Im doing and somehow this past trauma of years and years started coming at me all at once. There were some weeks that I just couldn't stop crying, and I've always felt that my little self deserved so much more than what I did for her and I also know that some things are just out of our hands to control and everything made sense, I was kinda "mourning" for my child-self for what she went through and at the same time I was blaming myself so hard, it took my therapist to tell me giving me this reasurance that "we can't control everything that we want to, and even more our past self that went through traumas that isnt our fault no matter how guilty we may feel now about it, it wasnt in our hands to fix something that was out of our personal control. So sometimes it's a good thing to have that pep talk to that version of yours, saying whatever you wanna say, apologizing but reafirm that from now on, the two of us will always go hand in hand because it's still you, and every version of you needs and is worth of that attention and pep talk." And I did. It's still a huge process to not blame me for not protecting better or knowing better of what things could've turned out, but I can garantee that that self talk with my younger self it helped me so so much. So yeah, this pod and this episode hits close to home here. Congrats to an amazing podcast and episode! It's like my second therapy. Thank you for what you're doing not just for me but for a lot of other people! 🧡
You know how great I think you and this podcast, your guests, are Mal...definitely makes my Tuesday! This conversation with you and Cammie is in my Top 3 Made It Out episodes. The topic, and the way you both openly talked about the struggles, and the triumphs too, in mental health, was SO SO relatable...you could have kept that convo going for another hour or more and I gladly would have kept listening!! Thank you for another great episode, Mal. Thanks for coming on, Cammie. You were one I was hoping would be on here 😊
The program is really warm and makes us discover ourselves, which we thought were the only ones who came up with these ideas, but I discovered the opposite, that the majority of lesbians went through the same thing, and this is a very beautiful thing, and the lesbian community is wonderful and they provide you with support, and they are not the conservative community that makes you, for example, if you do such and such, we accept you. But the lesbian community supports whatever your decisions are, and this is something I love. What is also beautiful is that we are all disgusted by men, and this is something Hilarious. I discovered the shock program, but I am grateful that I discovered the most beautiful coincidence by chance. Keep going, we will always support you.❤🎉
STOP making so many of these great episodes! It's so difficult to pick a favourite now! 😂 I always look forward to Tuesdays because I know a new episode will be out by the end of the day, lots of love from Malaysia ❤
I have PMDD and it's the worst. I notice have a slight mania where everything feels so great and I almost forget how bad it can be and then I have a huge drop where I'm super low. Definitely relate to you guys!
Best podcast ever!!! I look forward to every episode....you guys are changing so many lives (more than you know)...your podcast episodes impact me (& so many people) in such a positive way! Thank you Mal :)
My wife suffers from PMDD, and those women out there that also suffer from it you have my full compassion. Partners of those women who have PMDD also suffer greatly and I feel your pain. Full disclosure, Old Straight Guy here. Being diagnosed is the first step and sadly far too few doctors are even aware of PMDD or give it the weight it deserves. I can not stress enough doing online research to see if you have symptoms of PMDD ... annoyingly they vary greatly from woman to woman so, it's not an easy thing ... and if you do feel you may have PMDD, find a Doc who can work with you on it. My wife's PMDD is on a 3-month cycle. The first month is bad for her, the second month is Really bad for her, and the third month is basically Nuke bad for her. BUT, that third month kind of blows off the steam as it were and the next month we're back to just "bad". In her case we know this now and are able to track it on a calendar. She has an Orange week (think Yellow alert) followed by a Red week (think Red Alert). This allows the both of us to track, and be aware of her symptoms. If I recognize something is off (moody, irritable, emotional) I can check the calendar, same for her. KNOWING really helps. My wife is also on anti-depressants, which for her are a great help particularly when PMDD strikes. Everybody has their own thoughts on drugs and all that, but it's what works for her and we support the approach. Prior to being diagnosed, my wife basically lived in Hell. Her hormones and emotions were just all over the place with no rhyme or reason. Suicidal thoughts were prevalent ("Just shoot me now, take me out of this misery"). She was all over the place. Thankfully she never would/could take the suicidal step, but as her partner/husband, it killed me. The PMDD sufferer goes through their own Hell, but their partner also gets to live a Hell. Being diagnosed was a godsend for us, we well as lots and lots of therapy, both individual and couple therapy. For those who suffer, you aren't alone. Find a good doc, find a good therapist who deals with PMDD, find a support group ... Until menopause hits this sucks but you can do it! Your partners are also not alone. Therapy, support groups, all that. I love my wife, I'll suffer through this Hell with her and we both look forward to menopause so she can finally be free. May blessings find all of you this day.
Other than seeing Cammie start to tear up which was tough to watch, this whole episode was a journey worth taking. Every time I seem to learn something about myself listening to this podcast. Cammie's early life could have so easily been mine. I'm a trans woman so never going to fully understand what it must be like to have something like PMDD, listening to Cammie's journey is though going to help me understand those around me better which is something I think we all need to get better at. Getting to use to your therapist is a thing I've experienced also. Hormones swings I can unfortunately understand as I am extremely estrogen sensitive but never really understood by how much until after 15 years on HRT I was allowed to take progesterone. I've spent over a year battling mood swings that yes would include suicidal thoughts and like Cammie it didn't seem to be connected to how I was actually doing in my life. It turned out my progesterone was creating varying amounts of estrogen which despite small my sensitivity would turn into a large spike. I've always suffered with anxiety (agoraphobia) and these mood swings would just move it into overdrive. Anyways, I'm waffling, it is now being sorted and despite going through a mood spike only a week ago, just knowing what is happening I think helped me manage it better than before. For reference and in the name of openly sharing, trans women normally take between 4mg to 8mg of estrogen to get us in the range of 300-400 pmol/L. On just 4mg I was between 400-500 pmol/L. The progesterone has had me swing up to 800 to 1000+ pmol/L. The human body is amazing and we really shouldn't be scared of learning more about it. x
I am so happy that i found this channel and i am ALOT like cammie and this is really speaking to me and this podcast channel in general i can relate to so much ❤ im so happy that i just found this page !
Oh wow, i can relate to almost anything Cammie talked about. So much similarity, 😔🙏 Its a lot of work to figure out whats going on inside of you, finding and understanding the causes why you struggle and with what. So its good to hear your very similar story. Great Conversation, thank you Girls 💜💜
I got exactly the same experience with the mirror when I was around 5. I saw a stranger in the mirror it wasn’t me. I believe in reincarnation there’s tons of evidence out there.
Hey there! Just wanted to drop by and say a big thank you for your awesome videos and the important topics you cover. As a native Russian speaker and a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I've been learning the language through your videos, and I must say, the sound quality and your diction are top-notch. You're doing an amazing job! You are awesome ❤️🔥👍
This channel is by far the best thing I’ve found this year!🙌🏾 Thank you to everyone behind it.
this is so sweet 🥹 thank you! so happy youre enjoying it!
I’ve never seen cammie so vulnerable 😢 instant tears when she teared up
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the more Cammie is talking, the more i find myself in her words. it is very exciting to see that i'm not alone in this. thank you for a great episode! this one will be one of my favorites
it always amazes me how much Cam grew in front of our eyes and with us - not with me tho, i'm 20, but you get the point lol. i'm glad she goes on pods and has her own with Tar, such beautiful and smart thoughts that need to be heard
This is by far the best episode. I can relate to Cammie on everything she has experienced. I am now realizing of what I might be going through. It such a relieve to know that I am not alone on this, that a lot of women are going through this and sometimes is so hard just to externalize our struggles. Thank you for talking about this.
one of my favorites too!!
TARYN HERE. CAMDEN ARNOLD SCOTT HAS LIED TO YOU ALL ABOUT THE FREQUENCY OF WHICH I USE TALK TO TEXT.
it's like once in a fkn bluuuuue moon.
regardless.
proud of both of you for talking this out live
it’s okay i’m a speaker phone grocery girl.. we can’t be 100% perfect
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did you write this comment with talk to text?????
@@hiportugalthat's what it looks like
This podcast is the best. Hand down. No competition.
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I'm having ahaa moments listening to Cammie, so relatable
Another good episode! Nice to see you on here, Cam.
we love you deb!!!
Yes now about time to see her on Exes and O‘s
@@MadeItOutPodcastLove you back. Hoping to see you in June!
Debbie you are the best ever 😍💞
I can’t start my tuesdays without this podcast 🤓. Another great one!
happy to be part of your day 🥹
I recently discovered i was bi but my environment is very traditional so i can't really come out to anybody , your channel is one of the few places that give me hope and remind me that people who love for who you are unconditionally still exist keep up the good work and I hope your message of acceptance spreads like 🔥🔥🔥
it feels illegal to be this early
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Cammie Scott is indeed one of the OG femme representations on YT! I was weirdly excited for this episode and it did not disappoint.
Excellent points on how daughters are made to specifically suppress and minimize their emotions and be the “easy going, responsible child” ugh.
Also love her awareness in how she coped with her childhood environment of not being allowed to speak her truth/share her emotions which led to toxic codependent relationships. Brava!
Related so much to this. Always the listener, the comforter, putting others at ease. However if I'm going through something I disappear, I isolate, I don't ever want to burden others w my issues. Anyways, Cammie, you and Shannon's youtube together was so important for lesbians everywhere. Thank you for leading the way and continuing to be the representation we need w your wife Tar! Also thank you Mal for starting this podcast, I caught up on all the episodes this past weekend and it was incredible. Ive been recommending it to others. Also so important for late in life lesbians or bi women just starting to explore things w women, not that that's me because it isnt but know women struggling so have been sharing this w them. Thank you!
@10:10 such a true statement. @16:08 Cammie talking about 'her role' in a friendship after mentioning playing a role in her family. I so relate. Especially with friends growing up, I never wanted to burden them, but best believe I was always the sounding board from them. Which I didn't mind, but realizing after the fact that there should have been a better balance.
Just wanna say thanks to Cammie. Found you and Shan in 2014 on Tumblr when I was figuring it all out and you both helped me SO much. Seeing how happy y’all were made me think, “I can’t not find that person for me.” I met my wife mid 2015 and we’ll be married 4 years this July. I even wrote you both a letter but I never sent it because I was too scared (still trying to work up the courage to send it). Thanks for everything you’ve done for us.
@@CammieScott omg I would love to! 🥹 just lemme know where I can dm it over! Tried to find dms on here but didn’t see an option so my b if I missed it.
OMG CAMMIEEEEEEEE!!!!! I relate to you with the sudden random bouts of sadness and feeling insecure and emotional. I find it's either my time of the month or coz I'm trying to process trauma I've been through, but it is SO exhausting. And I've just got to this part of my life where I'm feeling more settled and like I can allow myself finally the chance to heal and get in touch with my identity. I've been stuck living with my mum and two sisters since the pandemic and it's been HELL, not because I don't love my family and they haven't protected me, but because I just cannot be myself completely when I'm around them and I keep having to hold in emotions and be on guard, especially with my mum who's overly protective. And I always have needed my own space to just declutter my brain. I'm hoping to be able to attract my first healthy relationship with a woman but I know and am grateful for this opportunity to get to know myself by living independently for the first time.
I think I know - being quite spiritual myself - why you felt like it wouldn't be bad thing if you died. I've had these thoughts as well, and I don't want to die but I see it as my higher self taking over in that moment and understanding that death isn't the end and that I'd be safe no matter what happens. So I think you could actually see it as a positive realisation instead of a scary one. It's not like you were thinking "how can I off myself"; you were thinking "would it be so bad even if I was going to die?" Perhaps that was your coping mechanism, dealing with the stress of the pandemic. Detaching yourself from fear of death. That's how I would be. I would be like "well, I guess that's the way it is, and death is just another adventure".
When you said about noticing lots of different energies inside you instead of just one, I recognised that bit. Basically some of us end up channeling a lot of spiritual entities at once. So you were probably finding at a young age that your own identity was being overwhelmed and taken over by these other identities you had absorbed. Maybe you channel a distant family member who died? Best look into that.
I hope you are well, Cammie. You've been that guiding light for me in understanding my sexual identity ever since before I came out in 2015. Thank you.
When I discovered lesbian RUclipsrs back in the early 2010s it gave high school me so much hope! There was so much performative bisexuality (specifically the straight girls who kissed other girls for male validation- not actual bisexuals) around me and in the media in the 2000s and it always made me feel like my hopes of being in a monogamous relationship with another femme woman were invalid and could never become a reality. I just kept seeing women end up with men so I dreaded having to marry a man just because it felt like what was expected of me. Seeing that femme lesbians like myself actually existed and that we don’t have to change who we are to conform to societal standards was a revelation. Cammie, thank you for being one of the OGs who pioneered this representation on the internet. You are beautiful inside and out!!
8:19 maybe worries seem to feel heavier as a kids because kids feel more helpless whenever they are faced with a situation they cannot find a solution to because of age limit, but as adults there are more ways and solutions for worries and it feels maybe more in control
I really resonate with this episode. The universe’s timing is incredible. I just asked for help yesterday, and I’m going to start counseling through my university soon.
Omg, i can relate to all of this!! I've never heard someone says these things out loud but they are so true to me too. Thank you so much for this podcast, this is incredible!
Thank Mal great episode again,my Tuesday is not complete if i don't watch your podcast.Made it out is my best thanks to everyone who made this happen.
thank YOU for watching every week!
@@MadeItOutPodcast It gives me joy watching each episodes of your show and knowing that each individual person you interview,we are here and we relate to their stories.And also it gives support to lot of young people to know that they are not alone.There are thousands of LGBT+ sisters and brothers who went through or still going through the same thing with they family or the community.
But watching inspiring show like yours each episode give hope to someone watching from all over the world that if Mal Made it out,I can also Made it out.Being a Rainbow child it not easy but we are Proud of who we are and walking on the road i walk with Pride coz I'm proud of who I am and we are special.So thank you for a lovely show.I like told lot of my friends also to watch this amazing show each episode is with being watched never to miss it funny, hilarious and inspiring.
By the way I watch from all the way from 🇿🇦🇿🇦.
Great conversation. Cammie so brave and lovely thank you for being so honest and open. Mal has a HUGE career ahead of her, what a natural, and gifted interviewer. Big talent right there. Thank you ladies x
wow thank you so much 🥹
Okay this has to be my favorite episode so far. I love the fact you'll laugh so much. Got to have a little fun. So much of this episode is me. I can remember from a young age being The peacemaker in my family. And I just realized I still am that person. Holy shit. Also the whole emotion thing. My father would tell me we don't cry. I think I learned in internalized emotion at a very young age. I believe I might need the whole third floor of therapist to fix this shit. 😂. As always thanks for taking us along for the ride.
This was fabulous and Cammie's podcast with her wife is fantastic as well!
yes, they have a great dynamic and Taryn is lovely
i’m a little over halfway through the episode and i just wanna say thank you so much for having this. coincidentally, your episodes always aline with what what im going through at the time. it helps more than i can put to words, knowing that someone out there feels or has felt the same way and can make it through. thank you so so much
This podcast and especially this episode with Cammie is making me look into therapy. It was never on my radar, but I'm realizing certain things in my life need to be hashed out. That's why I love the internet, cause this would have never come up in my everyday life. @26:34 Cammie talks about her PMDD. Didn't know what this was until this morning. I'm reading the symptoms and there maybe some things that are making sense to me now. Thank You Made It Out pod/Mal and company. I keep saying this with every episode, but y'all have made such a big impact in such a short time. 👍
Mal laugher is just darling to hear .
Absolutely LOVED this conversation. I could relate to almost everything you all discussed. Thanks so much for sharing!! ❤
I related to Cammie so hard ❤, loved this episode ☺️. This definitely gave Pisces aha…Thank you for your vulnerability Cam ❤
I was waiting the ep ❤ 😅
It's a struggle to realize that okay, I need something more than a hike or gym time. Realizing that you might need meds to help bring you back from the brink is not easy to admit to yourself. I, as a now 45 yr old woman, have finally decided that I was tired of keeping my head above water just enough to catch a decent breath. I finally got depression meds. And I didn't take them for almost 6 months because I was scared. Finally, I took them because my mental health was a lot scarier than those pills seemed. Best decision, I've made it. It's not a cure, but it has helped me to open that door back up. I have a lot of years to make up for. I wish you both well on your journey .
What a mind-blowing episode, to hear someone explain that the reason they suppressed their emotions as a kid was because their role in the family was to be the good kid / the easy kid, and then carrying that into adulthood. And about being a great friend who supports people through all these really deep moments while guarding my own thoughts and interests like state secrets for NO reason. I don't really feel like it causes me distress, but it is VERY interesting to realize that shutting down my emotions so that even I don't feel them doesn't just trace back to wanting to distance myself from the drama aorund me as a kid, but also this self-image I developed where being the calm at the center of the storm is the expectation I've placed on myself. I can't be the needy friend; I'm the calm friend. I can't be the sibling who needs to borrow money; I'm the responsible one. I can't be the co-worker who asks or help; I'm the one offering help.
It's really interesting because I've actually shifted some of these thought patterns over the last year because the culture on my team at work is so good, and I've had an awareness that it's because there is an explicit expectation to speak up, share information, debate options, get second opinions to learn from each other, etc. So now with this context of how I view my role in the world, it makes sense that I am able to form stronger opinions and articulate them, since it's essentially a job requirement. Just like I never drove over the speed limit (it's my job to obey the law!) until I realized that it can be dangerous to go slower than the flow of traffic (it's my job to be a safe driver!).
So now that I understand myself better, what will I do with this new self-awareness? (Honestly, probably nothing, but at least now I can laugh to myself when I wonder, "Why are you like this?").
Cammie is a pro, thanks Mal you did a great job
The guest we all had been waiting for! Love Cammie
This conversation is so important. Thank you
This is definitely one of my favorite episodes. It's so relatable. Mental health is an important aspect of our health, whether we all realize it or not. Often, we try to go at it alone, because we think we can handle it ourselves. However, finding support does not need to be as hard as we often make it to be. Thank for this episode, from the bottom of my heart.
This is my all time Favorite episode!! I feel so seen watching this and hearing what Cammie went through. I’m so glad I watched this episode❤❤
This was so refreshing. Thank you for speak so openly about mental health. I think we all feel a little less lonely after this
Love this convo! Cammie is the best!
This one caught me hard. Even tho Im not in a relationship, I'm in a state of mind and being that I feel secure and happy and whole again.... and I've been dealing with this emotional trauma for a while, that caught me off guard. I was wondering the same things, why now? I feel okay I feel Im on the right track I feel happy with myself and what Im doing and somehow this past trauma of years and years started coming at me all at once. There were some weeks that I just couldn't stop crying, and I've always felt that my little self deserved so much more than what I did for her and I also know that some things are just out of our hands to control and everything made sense, I was kinda "mourning" for my child-self for what she went through and at the same time I was blaming myself so hard, it took my therapist to tell me giving me this reasurance that "we can't control everything that we want to, and even more our past self that went through traumas that isnt our fault no matter how guilty we may feel now about it, it wasnt in our hands to fix something that was out of our personal control. So sometimes it's a good thing to have that pep talk to that version of yours, saying whatever you wanna say, apologizing but reafirm that from now on, the two of us will always go hand in hand because it's still you, and every version of you needs and is worth of that attention and pep talk." And I did. It's still a huge process to not blame me for not protecting better or knowing better of what things could've turned out, but I can garantee that that self talk with my younger self it helped me so so much.
So yeah, this pod and this episode hits close to home here.
Congrats to an amazing podcast and episode! It's like my second therapy. Thank you for what you're doing not just for me but for a lot of other people! 🧡
Cammie and Shannon helped a lot of lgbt youth
So happy to hear someone with a platform talking about PMDD!
I like the way host interacts with guests 🥰🥰
So glad I found this. This really resonated with me.
Wow. Such an important topic and exploration of sadness. Thank you both for sharing, I related so much to this and it's nice to not feel alone.
Absolutely love this and cammie been following her for years love u both thank you love this podcast its one ofy favorites ❤❤❤
Thank you, interesting conversation
Loved this, “Maybe just cry for a minute” ❤
Love this pod. Known forever…deep down but finally made it out at 25. It’s so nice to feel like I have internet support
You know how great I think you and this podcast, your guests, are Mal...definitely makes my Tuesday! This conversation with you and Cammie is in my Top 3 Made It Out episodes. The topic, and the way you both openly talked about the struggles, and the triumphs too, in mental health, was SO SO relatable...you could have kept that convo going for another hour or more and I gladly would have kept listening!! Thank you for another great episode, Mal. Thanks for coming on, Cammie. You were one I was hoping would be on here 😊
The program is really warm and makes us discover ourselves, which we thought were the only ones who came up with these ideas, but I discovered the opposite, that the majority of lesbians went through the same thing, and this is a very beautiful thing, and the lesbian community is wonderful and they provide you with support, and they are not the conservative community that makes you, for example, if you do such and such, we accept you. But the lesbian community supports whatever your decisions are, and this is something I love. What is also beautiful is that we are all disgusted by men, and this is something Hilarious. I discovered the shock program, but I am grateful that I discovered the most beautiful coincidence by chance. Keep going, we will always support you.❤🎉
Therapy is so important .. it’s the best decision I’ve made in my life. Nice work Mal you are just brilliant as well as stunning
I needed this, thank you 💛
I'm 6min in and I'm relating to Cammie's childhood so much it's scary. wow.
STOP making so many of these great episodes! It's so difficult to pick a favourite now! 😂 I always look forward to Tuesdays because I know a new episode will be out by the end of the day, lots of love from Malaysia ❤
I have PMDD and it's the worst. I notice have a slight mania where everything feels so great and I almost forget how bad it can be and then I have a huge drop where I'm super low. Definitely relate to you guys!
Best podcast ever!!! I look forward to every episode....you guys are changing so many lives (more than you know)...your podcast episodes impact me (& so many people) in such a positive way! Thank you Mal :)
Really felt this one. Thank you. ❤
This just made me see a whole new side of cam and I’m all here for it. ❤
Cammie you made me cry 😢
Awww i loved this! such deep conversations and funny moments. So iconic seeing you two together. I forgot how much i love Cammie
ugh this is my comfort podcast
Shannon and Cammie paved the way for representation in the tumblr days. Both deserve to be on the Mount Rushmore of Internet Lesbians
Hands down you guys are killing it with this podcast. 👏🏿 🎉❤😊🎉❤🎉👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿😊
I think I might be in love with Cammie Scott 💗😭
My wife suffers from PMDD, and those women out there that also suffer from it you have my full compassion. Partners of those women who have PMDD also suffer greatly and I feel your pain. Full disclosure, Old Straight Guy here. Being diagnosed is the first step and sadly far too few doctors are even aware of PMDD or give it the weight it deserves. I can not stress enough doing online research to see if you have symptoms of PMDD ... annoyingly they vary greatly from woman to woman so, it's not an easy thing ... and if you do feel you may have PMDD, find a Doc who can work with you on it.
My wife's PMDD is on a 3-month cycle. The first month is bad for her, the second month is Really bad for her, and the third month is basically Nuke bad for her. BUT, that third month kind of blows off the steam as it were and the next month we're back to just "bad". In her case we know this now and are able to track it on a calendar. She has an Orange week (think Yellow alert) followed by a Red week (think Red Alert). This allows the both of us to track, and be aware of her symptoms. If I recognize something is off (moody, irritable, emotional) I can check the calendar, same for her. KNOWING really helps.
My wife is also on anti-depressants, which for her are a great help particularly when PMDD strikes. Everybody has their own thoughts on drugs and all that, but it's what works for her and we support the approach.
Prior to being diagnosed, my wife basically lived in Hell. Her hormones and emotions were just all over the place with no rhyme or reason. Suicidal thoughts were prevalent ("Just shoot me now, take me out of this misery"). She was all over the place. Thankfully she never would/could take the suicidal step, but as her partner/husband, it killed me. The PMDD sufferer goes through their own Hell, but their partner also gets to live a Hell. Being diagnosed was a godsend for us, we well as lots and lots of therapy, both individual and couple therapy.
For those who suffer, you aren't alone. Find a good doc, find a good therapist who deals with PMDD, find a support group ... Until menopause hits this sucks but you can do it! Your partners are also not alone. Therapy, support groups, all that. I love my wife, I'll suffer through this Hell with her and we both look forward to menopause so she can finally be free.
May blessings find all of you this day.
Other than seeing Cammie start to tear up which was tough to watch, this whole episode was a journey worth taking. Every time I seem to learn something about myself listening to this podcast.
Cammie's early life could have so easily been mine. I'm a trans woman so never going to fully understand what it must be like to have something like PMDD, listening to Cammie's journey is though going to help me understand those around me better which is something I think we all need to get better at. Getting to use to your therapist is a thing I've experienced also.
Hormones swings I can unfortunately understand as I am extremely estrogen sensitive but never really understood by how much until after 15 years on HRT I was allowed to take progesterone. I've spent over a year battling mood swings that yes would include suicidal thoughts and like Cammie it didn't seem to be connected to how I was actually doing in my life.
It turned out my progesterone was creating varying amounts of estrogen which despite small my sensitivity would turn into a large spike. I've always suffered with anxiety (agoraphobia) and these mood swings would just move it into overdrive.
Anyways, I'm waffling, it is now being sorted and despite going through a mood spike only a week ago, just knowing what is happening I think helped me manage it better than before. For reference and in the name of openly sharing, trans women normally take between 4mg to 8mg of estrogen to get us in the range of 300-400 pmol/L. On just 4mg I was between 400-500 pmol/L. The progesterone has had me swing up to 800 to 1000+ pmol/L. The human body is amazing and we really shouldn't be scared of learning more about it. x
Cam Taryn ROCK
I am so happy that i found this channel and i am ALOT like cammie and this is really speaking to me and this podcast channel in general i can relate to so much ❤ im so happy that i just found this page !
In love with this podcast
Keep going 👏🏻❤️
This helps me a lot. Thank you both for this insightful conversation
Everyone get the help you need .. You deserve it!!!
This was so amazing oh my god. Love you guys.
I relate to cammie so much 😭 always trying to pretend to be happy and excited in front of people. But I was depressed alone.
I just got my period. After being depressed af for a week lol
I relate with Cammie so much
Resume @39:00
studying till 4am has its rewards lmao- early views
Omg this is the best channel my fav podcast ever
Oh wow, i can relate to almost anything Cammie talked about. So much similarity, 😔🙏 Its a lot of work to figure out whats going on inside of you, finding and understanding the causes why you struggle and with what. So its good to hear your very similar story. Great Conversation, thank you Girls 💜💜
This episode was amazing
Have never heard of PMDD until now!! My mind is blown
One of the most wanted guest of the show, I repeat, one of the most wanted right @Mathilde 😉. You guys are so beautiful #madeitoutpodcast
Good morning @chack4845 love our tuesday catch ups :)
@@hiportugal I am literally coming to see if the video is out and if you saw my comments. Love you Mathilde and the show. ❤
Why do yall look so good together
CAMMIE!!
I got exactly the same experience with the mirror when I was around 5. I saw a stranger in the mirror it wasn’t me. I believe in reincarnation there’s tons of evidence out there.
42:05 it okay and natural not to love all the traits in a person and in your partner, calm down.
I relate to this soo much thank you
I feel like I can relate to some of what she said and it’s scary
“Do yOu HaVe aNy tRuAmA??” That was hilarious 😂
Now you gotta have the wife on
i use incognito on my computer bc I dont want to deal with having to constantly clear cookies later. its for IT thingys 😟 plz dont ghost! 😂
That was great!
Would love to see Crissa Jackson from the Circle!
I wish we had this when I was growing up born too early now too old but thanks
19:11
How old are you?
I literally JUST realized I have anxiety 😬
Camden 🐐
Omg, can you invite Fletcher on the podcast as well??
WOAHHHH i relate to her SOOO much!! Maybe i should do therapy lol